input
stringclasses 32
values | response_a
stringlengths 49
289
| reward_a
sequencelengths 3
3
| response_b
stringlengths 49
335
| reward_b
sequencelengths 3
3
| comparison
float32 0
1
|
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:
|
ex gf wants to stay with her boyfriend after a break, I want to be friends but I feel like a bitch looking for advice. Need help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help.Let me know
|
[
-0.6,
-2.9,
-0.9
] |
ex and I had a night of amazing sex, but she's scared to leave her boyfriend because it's too risky. She's done with her break, and I'm hoping it won't work
|
[
-0.1,
3,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:
|
worried about trust and commitment with BF at party tomorrow, how do I get over it and enjoy my weekend? Any advice appreciated! :)
UPDATE: Thanks for all the advice and suggestions! I'll definitely be
|
[
0.6,
2.5,
-0.6
] |
worried about him partying with the same people at the house where we did some stuff we regret. Wondering how to get over it and enjoy my weekend. am a bit of a hypocrite? Any advice? Thanks so
|
[
0.8,
4.2,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:
|
I teach high school and I want to have a poster in my room with a list of things on it that I can quickly reference when talking about budgeting and personal finance. The cue card is great, but I have two issue
|
[
0,
3.8,
-0.2
] |
talking about Napoleon, leads to talk about personal budgeting, want to have a quick reference poster in my room for students to see, but want to avoid confusion due to two issues - 1) they won't know what many of
|
[
0.6,
2.3,
-0.4
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:
|
girlfriend has never had a successful party or made friends at college. I've never made friends. I gave her a large party invitation and everyone said no. What can I do? I don't know
|
[
-0.8,
-3.6,
-1.1
] |
girlfriend's 21st coming up and no one will party with her. I've tried inviting acquaintances but none will do it. What can I do? Help?!?!?!?
|
[
0.6,
4.6,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:
|
I work on school paper with girlfriend, we broke up, don't feel like seeing her, but don't want to alienate the few friends I have. I don't want to work with her anymore. I
|
[
0.4,
4.9,
-0.3
] |
I don't want to see my ex, but I don't want to be alienated from the others. Should I still quit? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her? What should I do? I
|
[
-0.8,
2.4,
-0.3
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:
|
recently ended fling because he did not want to marginalize his friendships. i am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. am feeling lonely and as if there i
|
[
0.6,
-0.3,
-0.7
] |
recently ended fling due to significant other not wanting to marginalize his friendships. feel strange about relationship expectations. Am I being overbearing? Opinions please! :)!
Am I being unreasonable for
|
[
1.2,
4.7,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:
|
I miss my ex but I know we're not compatible anymore. Is it worth getting back together? Should I try and make it work? What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.3,
1.9,
-0.2
] |
long distance relationship split up due to attitude and hard time getting along. Want to get back with ex but not sure if it's worth it. Wat do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.9,
1.7,
-1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! Help me get over my ex!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.1,
-5.2,
-0.2
] |
I hooked up with a girl and she did not feel the same way back. I ended our friendship but she still comes over a lot and I miss her and want to be with her. I need help getting over her and I need
|
[
0.2,
4.8,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:
|
Should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? Or should i leave it to him to bring up? I know he's avoiding "feelings"
|
[
-0.3,
-1.3,
-0.2
] |
hooked up with ex, should i initiate conversation or wait for him to bring it up? how should i go about it? any ideas are appreciated. Thanks! :) help me reddit! :D :D :D :
|
[
0.1,
1.5,
-0.4
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:
|
How can I be affectionate to a guy without him losing interest? Without seeming like a creep. How can I be more creepy? What do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
-0.4,
-4.8,
-0.2
] |
I'm afraid to be too nice to a guy because I'm afraid he'll bolt, but I want to be nice to him. How can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest
|
[
-1.4,
4.5,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:
|
How do I deal with a mother who hates me? Can I ever have a healthy relationship with her? Should I even try? What's the best way to approach this? Is there any hope for us? What'
|
[
0.2,
-2.7,
-0.5
] |
My boyfriend's mother is a horrible, controlling woman who is a 40-year-old child. She is not only controlling, but also rude and has a history of being a horrible parent.
|
[
-1.3,
0.6,
-0.3
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! How do I get my dog to stop pooping in the house?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
-1.5,
-0.2
] |
My girlfriend's dog used to be housebroken, but now he thinks he can poop in the house and does. He doesn't seem to care that he does it and we don't scold him anymore because
|
[
-0.1,
5.2,
-0.3
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:
|
20 year old bisexual virgin who hates kissing, when do I tell a potential future BF? If ever? Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.9,
4.4,
-0.5
] |
20 something bisexual virgin who hates kissing. Not sure when to bring it up to a future SO.** Help?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.7,
2.5,
-0.9
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:
|
ex boyfriend of a year and 1/2 started talking to me again after I moved, he wont respond to my calls. Should I pretend like it never happened? Should I try and fix things? Or should I just move
|
[
0,
-0.8,
-1
] |
ex boyfriend from about a year and 1/2, we broke up, I saw him friday night, he started talking to me and I missed his calls and haven't heard from him since. Should I pretend like
|
[
-0.2,
1.6,
-0.9
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:
|
long-time friends becoming increasingly negative towards me despite having lots of great times together. Not sure what to do or how to react/stop it. Please help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.5,
2.6,
-1.1
] |
what do you do when your friends are becoming increasingly negative? Should I try to make new friends? What do? Any ideas? Any advice? Any help is appreciated. Thanks! :)
I'm in my early 20
|
[
0.2,
-0.6,
-0.6
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:
|
my best friend moved across country and I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and apologize for things I don't believe warrant an apology. What can I do? Can he
|
[
0.1,
-0.1,
-1
] |
Stressed out by feelings of responsibility around friend, what can I do? Can't make plans without upsetting him. What can I do? Help please!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.5,
2.2,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:
|
I made cookies for my kids and left a note saying I was sorry for having to work late. My daughter was very sad and my wife took a video of my son eating the cookies. She was very happy and my wife sent
|
[
-0.8,
-0.6,
-0.1
] |
I left cookies for my kids, my daughter was very sad and my wife sent me a video of my daughter crying and saying she was so happy. My wife sent me the video and I felt like the best dad in the
|
[
-0.4,
-0.9,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:
|
I've been away from my GF for 5 months, and we've been talking every day. She told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same
|
[
-0.6,
1.3,
-0.4
] |
My girlfriend is coming after a long time apart, and she is afraid of leaving me. Is it normal to be afraid of such a situation? What should I do? Please help!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0,
1.2,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:
|
guy gave me his number, why? What's the deal? Is he not that into me? What's the deal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
-0.6,
-1.7,
-0.9
] |
guy gave me his number, but not that into me, why? What's the deal? Is he just busy? What's up? Any ideas? Any thoughts? Advice? Help please!?!?!?
|
[
-0.3,
1.3,
-0.9
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:
|
started a FWB relationship, developed feelings, agreed to date but only because I don't want to lose the intimacy. He's shown me his feelings, but it's a little irritating/confusing
|
[
-0.1,
-0.5,
-0.7
] |
Mandatory summary/question! Is it possible to start a relationship based on what you WANT instead of what you DON'T?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.1,
-3.5,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:
|
I was making bagels, they turned out really hard and stuck on the pan, I was trying to pry them off, I stabbed the bottom on the pan and cursed aloud, my roommate came in and
|
[
-0.1,
3.1,
-0.2
] |
I was making bagels, they turned out hard and stuck on the pan, I got frustrated and started stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing, my roommate came in and found me yelling and te
|
[
0,
3.2,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:
|
My family won't invite me to events because they don't like my boyfriend. What's the best option? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but
|
[
0.2,
-5.2,
-0.2
] |
my family won't invite me and my boyfriend to family events. My boyfriend thinks it's a cultural issue and it will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what
|
[
0.1,
3.2,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:
|
Is it inappropriate to go out with a friend and go out with two guys? If so, why? What would be the best way to approach this? Is it wrong? Should I? Is it right? Should I?
|
[
0.2,
-3.9,
-0.1
] |
My wife went to a pokemon conference with a friend. She told me she was with two guys. She told me one was gay and the other was ugly and nerdy. I still feel uncomfortable with date type situation
|
[
-0.4,
-0.4,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:
|
My boyfriend doesn't want to communicate, and I don't know how to make him understand that I'm not trying to "force" anything on him. He's afraid of being "forced" into things.
|
[
-1.3,
-1.3,
-0.1
] |
my boyfriend shuts everything out and gets all random with me whenever I try to communicate something important to him. It's making me feel like I'm just some sadistic, argumentative person. Why won't he just
|
[
0.5,
2.2,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:
|
My girlfriend started ignoring me and I don't know what to do. Should I break-up with her or wait till she responds? Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.2,
0.9,
-0.2
] |
Mandatory summary/question! How long should one wait for a response from a girlfriend before breaking up with her?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.7,
-2.2,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:
|
I'm upset and angry with my ex for cheating on me, and now want to get revenge sex with other guys. Why? I don't know. What do I do? Help?!?!?!
|
[
0.1,
5,
-0.1
] |
I dated a guy, he impregnated a girl, and now I'm upset and angry. I want to go out and have revenge sex, but I don't want a relationship. I just want to
|
[
-0.7,
2.1,
-0.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:
|
A collection agency has been trying to contact me about a debt I don't owe, and I've already sent them a debt validation letter. I'm wondering what my next step should be. I don'
|
[
0,
4.9,
-0.5
] |
I have a collection account that says I have a $277 balance, but I don't owe that amount and have no other debts. I've sent a debt validation letter and they haven't responded
|
[
-0.7,
6,
-0.3
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:
|
I want to help a friend who is in a relationship with a man who is unsupportive, but I don't want to make her unhappy. I'm not sure what to do. I'm not looking for advice
|
[
-0.8,
-4.3,
-0.1
] |
I've been hanging out with a friend for the past month. She's been in a relationship with a guy for 3 years. She's been accepting that she wants to leave him, but she can't
|
[
-0.7,
-0.4,
-0.4
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:
|
Fell in love with new girl at school, should I message her again or talk to her in person. What's the best way to go about this? Any advice would be appreciated!
What's the best way to approach
|
[
0.5,
0.2,
-0.3
] |
16 year old girl crazy about new girl at school, not sure how to communicate or when to message her. Don't know if she is shy in person. What do I do? Help!?!?!
|
[
0.8,
0.3,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:
|
I'm ready to have kids, but he doesn't want kids at all. How do I bring it up to him? Or is it too late? I'm ready to have kids, but he doesn'
|
[
-1.4,
-0.5,
-0.3
] |
met a guy, he doesn't want kids, I want kids, how do I bring it up to him, or is it a lost cause? EDIT: I'm not sure if I should have mentioned thi
|
[
-1,
3.3,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:
|
a guy I've never met on the internet has my money, but doesn't have the tickets I paid for. I'm pissed off and I'm not getting my money back. I'm
|
[
-0.7,
1,
-0.5
] |
sold tickets to a show, got the money, tickets never showed up. 3rd party investigating. Bummed I got scammed. 😞 Any advice on how to proceed? Any way to get
|
[
-0.3,
1.8,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:
|
Wondering how often people text their SO when they are out partying and getting drunk. Wondering if it varies if they are local or out of the country/state. Wondering what you guys do!?!?!
|
[
0.6,
1.6,
-0.2
] |
do you text your SO when they are out with their friends or do you leave them alone? Why? How often do you text? Why? What do you text about? What do you say? How often do you text? Why?
|
[
0.2,
1,
-0.5
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:
|
I got with my best friend while she was on a break from her boyfriend. She's now back with him and I'm not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Help!?!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
4.4,
-0.1
] |
She loves me, but she's too afraid to leave her boyfriend because it's too risky. She took a break from me, but now she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much,
|
[
-1.1,
-3.4,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:
|
He's been wild at parties before, we've made a lot of progress, but I'm still a little worried about him and it's making me feel a lot of self loathing. I want to make
|
[
-0.6,
-0.8,
-0.2
] |
my bf is going to a party with the same people who got him wild. Worn he's not ready to commit. Any suggestions on how to cope? I'm a little worried he's going to be
|
[
0.3,
-1.6,
-0.9
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:
|
talking about Napoleon with students, thought it would be cool to have a poster with a quick reference on it, cue card has 2 problems - kids won't know what many of those things are, teach in Canada.
|
[
1.1,
-0.7,
-0.7
] |
I'm a dumb teacher and I want to have a poster in my room with a list of things on it, but I don't want to have to explain to my students what all of those things are. I teach in
|
[
-0.9,
-3.1,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:
|
I'm a loner and my girlfriend is an extrovert. She's been excited about parties for years but hasn't had any. I've invited some people but they didn't show.
|
[
-0.9,
-1.6,
-0.2
] |
How can I tell my girlfriend she's not making friends? What can I do? What can I say? What can I say? What can I say? What can I say? What can I
|
[
-0.9,
-5.3,
-0.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:
|
Broke up with girlfriend who works on school paper with me. Do I quit to avoid seeing her? Or stay and risk alienation? What's the right choice? Any thoughts are appreciated! Thanks! :)
Should I
|
[
1.1,
5.8,
-0.3
] |
I don't want to see my ex, but I don't have many friends. I don't want to be alienated by the others, but I don't want to see her. Do I quit? I
|
[
-1,
-0.1,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:
|
I am a woman who wants a relationship that is completely free of any past sexual or romantic relationships. I am feeling like I am being unreasonable. Am I being overbearing? What do you think? I would really
|
[
-0.2,
3.8,
-0.1
] |
I am a woman who wants a clean slate in a relationship. I am not expecting too much from a person, but I am feeling like I am being overbearing. Am I being overbearing? What do you
|
[
-1.3,
1.3,
-0.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:
|
how do you know if you should get back together with someone or should you just move on? What should I do?! Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.2,
-2,
-0.4
] |
how do I know if I should get back with her or not? Should I even try? What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0,
-4.8,
-0.5
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:
|
have to see ex all the time and cant get over her. need help to get over her. help please. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help.
Need help getting over ex. dating best friends. Berlin w
|
[
-0.9,
-2.5,
-0.6
] |
I need help getting over my ex because I see her everyday. Help me. Help!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
-0.5,
0.4,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:
|
ex and i hooked up last weekend, and we're both avoiding talking about it. He's an awkward person, and i'm not sure if i should wait for exams to be over and see him
|
[
-0.6,
1.9,
-0.7
] |
Mandatory summary/question! How should i approach him about this? Should i wait for exams to be finished? Should i just leave it to him to bring it up? Should i just leave it to him to see where it goe
|
[
-0.2,
-2,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:
|
I'm afraid if I'm nice to a guy he'll run, but I need to be nice. Am I being paranoid? How can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest
|
[
-0.5,
1.7,
-0.2
] |
keeping guy's interest by being nice, afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. How can I be affectionate and kind without being seen as creepy? Any ideas would be great! Thanks. Thanks! :)
|
[
0.4,
0.2,
-0.4
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:
|
my boyfriend's mother is the only problem in our relationship, how do I handle her? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance. Am I overreacting? What should I do?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
0.4,
-1.1
] |
My boyfriend's mom is a horrible person and I'm not sure how to handle her. She's a mother who is a child and I'm not sure how to handle her. I can give examples if need
|
[
-0.8,
0.8,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:
|
Dog poops in house, gets scolded for it, continues to do so despite being housebroken. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help.2
|
[
-0.7,
-2.6,
-0.4
] |
My dog has forgotten that he can't poop in the house and is doing it all the time. He used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help
|
[
-0.4,
3.1,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:
|
I hate kissing, but I'm pretty sure I'll like it when I find someone I like. Am I crazy? What do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0,
-4,
-0.2
] |
I hate kissing, but I want to find someone to settle down with. Am I crazy? How do I bring it up? What do you think? If you like kissing, what do you think about that? If
|
[
0.1,
-3,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:
|
Ex boyfriend is being a dick and I want to pretend like it never happened, but I don't want to be a dick. Should I pretend like it never happened? What should I do? Help please!
|
[
-1.6,
-4.8,
-0.1
] |
Mandatory title and question! Should I pretend like it never happened? Why? Why not? What's the best course of action? What's the worst? What's the most likely? What's the least?
|
[
0.5,
-4.4,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:
|
long-time friends have become increasingly negative towards me and exclude me from most things. I'm tired of it and they're my only friends. I don't know what to do. Am I overreacting? Should
|
[
0.2,
6.2,
-1.1
] |
long-time friends becoming increasingly negative towards me in group settings, not sure what to do to make things better/stop being excluded/etc. Want to keep the friendship. Help please. Please. Advice?!?
|
[
0.8,
5.8,
-1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:
|
very close friend moved across country, starting to feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and give in to his wishes to avoid upset. Am stressed. What can I do? Help please!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
6.4,
-1.1
] |
I'm starting to feel like I have to walk on eggshells around my only friend. What can I do? Can I fix this? Should I break up with him? What should I do? Help please!?!?
|
[
0,
0,
-0.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:
|
left note apologizing for work late, daughter found cookies and cried with unconditional love. Wife captured moment on video and sent to me at work. Never felt more needed and loved than that moment. Want to share with re
|
[
1.4,
6.8,
-1.1
] |
left some cookies for my kids, my daughter was very sad and my wife sent me a video of my son being happy and my daughter crying. My wife sent me the video and I felt like the best dad in the world
|
[
-0.3,
-2.1,
-1.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! Is it possible to get back together? What should I do? What are some tips for getting back together? What are some tips for getting back on track? What are some tips for getting back at it?
|
[
0.3,
-4.8,
-0.2
] |
I've been away for 5 months, my GF is coming after 4 months, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She told me she was afraid that maybe one of us didn
|
[
-0.5,
0.1,
-0.4
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:
|
guy gave me his number, why? Just not that into me? What's the deal? Confusion wrecks my mind. What's the deal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
-0.2,
-1.2,
-0.9
] |
guy gave random guys number to try casual dating, asked for a drink but never responded, why would he give me his number in the first place? Confused. what's the deal? Anyone have any ideas?
|
[
0.8,
0.7,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:
|
Started a FWB relationship, developed feelings, agreed to date but only because I don't want to lose the intimacy. He's shown his feelings now, but I feel like I have been irritated
|
[
0,
-0.6,
-0.3
] |
Mandatory summary/question! How do you know if you are actually dating someone you care about or just someone you are using? Is it possible to be genuine in a relationship? Is it possible to be a good person? I
|
[
0.3,
-4,
-0.4
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:
|
I made bagels, they turned out horribly stuck on the pan, I got frustrated and started stabbing the bottom on the pan, then my roommate walked in and found me yelling and tearing the
|
[
0.2,
4,
-0.2
] |
I was making bagels, they turned out really hard and stuck on the pan, roommate walked in on me eating the leftovers and now I'm roommate-less. What do I do?!
|
[
-0.1,
2.4,
-0.3
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:
|
My family will invite me (and my boyfriend by extension) to family events, my boyfriend feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know
|
[
-0.2,
0.1,
-0.4
] |
What's the best option to avoid family events? Should I speak up? What's the best option to avoid family events? What's the best option to avoid family events? What's the best option to avoid family event
|
[
0.5,
-5.3,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:
|
wife went to dinner with two guys, one gay and one nerdy. Am I immature or in the wrong? What would you guys think?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.4,
1,
-1
] |
Is going out with a friend of the opposite sex in a public place a date? Or is it okay? Is it wrong? What would you do? Why? What would you do? Why? What would you do? Why? What
|
[
0.7,
-5,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:
|
trying to communicate with BF, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe
|
[
0.5,
-0.1,
-0.6
] |
my boyfriend shuts everything out and gets all random when I try to communicate with him. What should I do? I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way.
|
[
0.4,
4.7,
-1.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:
|
I'm in love with a girl, but she's ignoring me and I don't know whether to break-up with her or wait till she responds. Should I wait? What should I do? Help!?
|
[
0.1,
3.4,
-0.1
] |
girlfriend suddenly ignoring me out of the blue, should I break up with her or wait till she responds? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
Should I break up with my girlfriend who suddenly started ignoring me?
|
[
0.6,
2.8,
-0.9
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:
|
broke up with guy, now want revenge sex. Don't know how to handle this. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks! :)
Update: I'm not sure if I should get back with him, but I
|
[
0.3,
-2.8,
-0.5
] |
Mandatory summary/question! Why do I want revenge sex so badly? What should I do? How should I go about it? Help! :/!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.6,
-3,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:
|
I have a debt in collections, but I don't owe it, and I haven't heard from the company in months. I sent them a debt validation letter and they stopped calling, but now they are leaving message
|
[
-1.7,
1.1,
-0.3
] |
a debt collector is listing a $277 balance in collections on my credit report, even though I've sent them a debt validation letter. Am I being scammed? What should I do? Help!?!
|
[
0.2,
6.4,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:
|
girl I've been talking to for a couple months has been in a relationship for 3 years. She's unhappy but can't leave him because his mother has cancer. She's still making time for me but I
|
[
-0.7,
4.7,
-0.9
] |
started developing feelings for friend with bad relationship, cancer hits and she decides to stay with him instead of leaving with me. Not sure what to do. Am I wrong for being upset? Help please!?!?!?!
|
[
1,
6.1,
-1.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:
|
I'm in love with a girl who I've only talked to a little bit, but I know she's shy. She's been at school for a week and I've messaged her on facebook, but
|
[
-1,
-0.6,
-0.2
] |
fell in love with girl at school, need advice on how to contact her or message her again. Any help is appreciated!
Aw man, I'm sorry to hear that. You should message her on facebook again and see if
|
[
0.2,
-2.6,
-0.7
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:
|
I want kids, but my boyfriend doesn't. He has 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it'
|
[
-0.7,
2.5,
-0.4
] |
met ideal guy for dating, but don't know how to bring up children discussion with him, or if we should break up. Wondering if anyone has gone through this before. Any advice would be appreciated!
How do
|
[
0.9,
2,
-1.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:
|
bought tickets from a stranger, he promised to transfer them to me via Ticketmaster, never did. I've been in contact with Amazon and the bank. UPDATE: I've been in contact with the bank and Amazon
|
[
-0.6,
2.2,
-0.4
] |
got scammed out of $300 for tickets, Amazon unable to help, bank investigating. Wondering what my next steps should be. Thanks! Reddit, you've been a lifesaver! :) I'
|
[
0.8,
2.9,
-0.4
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:
|
I'm a big fan of texting my bf when he's out with his friends, but I'm not sure if it's normal to text him that much when he's out. He's away from
|
[
-0.2,
-2.2,
-0.1
] |
I text my bf more when he's out with his friends than when he's out drinking at home. We don't live together and don't text each other on the regular. Is this normal? How often
|
[
0,
-2.2,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:
|
She wants to stay with her boyfriend, but she's too scared to leave the position she's in now. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to
|
[
-1.1,
-2.8,
-0.2
] |
ex and I fooled around a week ago, she's now back with her boyfriend. I want her, but I feel like a horrible person for doing so. Am I wrong? Looking for advice. Help. Help.
|
[
-0.1,
1.1,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! How do I make the most of my weekend knowing my bf is going to be at a party with the same people?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.3,
-3.2,
-0.2
] |
my boyfriend and I had a rough patch, but we're back on track. He's going to a party at the same house and I'm feeling a little self loathing. He's not ready to make
|
[
-0.6,
-2.2,
-0.9
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:
|
talk about personal budgeting to students, want to have a quick reference poster in my room, but want to make it easy for them to understand. Also want to make it clear that I teach in Canada. Also want to make it clear
|
[
0.1,
1.5,
-0.7
] |
talking about Napoleon, talk about personal budgeting, students ask me for a quick reference, I have a cue card, but it has a lot of things on it that they won't know, and I teach in Canada. So
|
[
0.3,
-1,
-0.5
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:
|
girlfriend wants to celebrate birthday with me and I don't have any friends. I gave her invites but nobody is coming. What can I do? Help?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
-0.1,
0.2,
-1
] |
My girlfriend wants to make friends, but I don't have any friends. She's been excited about my party for a while, but no one wants to come. What can I do? I'm not
|
[
-1.3,
1.6,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I go to college and I work on the school paper. I get some money from it, which is why I called it my job, but I don't really need it. I met her while working there, and we're both supposed to go back to the paper next year to work on it for the school year then. The problem is that we just broke up a couple of weeks ago, and I don't feel like seeing her again. She dumped me, and for some strange reason, I really hate her right now, and I don't think I would be able to stand seeing her. The problem is I don't really have many friends outside of the people I know on the school paper. So if I left the newspaper because of her, I feel like I could be alienated by the others for quitting before the school year start. Do you think I should still quit though? Am I being immature for not wanting to see her and work with her for an entire year? We were together for a year, by the way. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! Wheter or not I should quit my job for no reason. Am I being immature for not wanting to see her? Do you think I should still quit though? Should I? Why? What for?
|
[
0.3,
-2,
-0.3
] |
I'm a college student and I work on the school paper. I don't need the money, but I don't want to see my ex. We're both supposed to go back to the paper next year, but
|
[
-1.1,
0.7,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I hope I am posting in the right subreddit for this. Lately I have been feeling....anomalous(?) regarding what I want out of a relationship. Another fling of mine was recently ended because he 21M did not want to "marginalize his friendships." When I am in a relationship, I want a Tabula Rasa -- a complete clean slate. I don't want my significant other to be facebook friends or have any contact whatsoever with previous ex-girlfriends and/or people he has slept with. I provide the same respect. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past. It would make me uncomfortable if they were to hang out independently though, and I would prefer a group setting. It's as if my ideals are from another planet. All of the men I have met seem to think my relationship expectations are absolutely ludicrous. I, on the other hand, do not think it is expecting too much of a person. I am feeling lonely and as if there is something wrong with me. Am I being overbearing? I would really appreciate some objective opinions. ### Response:
|
recently ended fling due to significant others unwillingness to marginalize his friendships. think my relationship expectations are ludicrous and being unrealistic. am feeling lonely and weird. Am I wrong? what do
|
[
1.3,
2.8,
-0.8
] |
I am feeling like I am in a relationship with someone who does not want to be friends with anyone he has slept with. I am accepting of friends of the opposite sex as long as there is not a sexual or romantic past.
|
[
-0.4,
-5.2,
-0.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Towards the end of our relationship it just seemed like she was always mad at me. It got to the point where we would argue about literally everything. Her birthday just passed and I spent close to $400 on it, and yet she still had an attitude and gave me the hardest time and that when I realized that maybe we just are not on the same page anymore. Its been about 2-3 weeks since we split and at first I was okay but now I don't know anymore. The past 2 years of our relationship have been long distance since we both have gone away to college and I'm sure that has some affect on everything. Part of me desperately wants to get back with her but the other part of me knows how she acts and idk...there's more fish in the sea...but i love this fish. ### Response:
|
long distance relationship with girlfriend of 3 years ended due to constant arguing and attitudes, not sure if I want to get back with her or move on. Want advice. Please help!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.9,
4.6,
-0.8
] |
long distance relationship split up due to attitude and hard time getting along. Want to get back with ex but not sure if it will work. Wat do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.8,
0,
-1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I am living with 3 girl roommates and in the summer me and their best friend had sex and hooked up a bunch. I loved her but she did not feel the same way back. I kind of ended our friendship because it was not fair to me. The problem is that they are her best friends and she comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I hate seeing her. It makes me miss her so much and I want to be with her so bad and I know I need to get over her for good. Also me and her are ont he same sports team in university and we see each to her everyday at practice so there is no getting away from her. How do I get over someone who I see everyday and have to be around at practice and even at my home. I need help because I do not want to feel this way anymore. help am miserabl ### Response:
|
I have a crush on a girl and she and her best friends are her best friends. She comes over all the time and I dont want to stop her from seeing her best friends but I miss her and I want to be with her
|
[
-1,
-0.1,
-0.1
] |
I need help getting over my ex and her best friends. I see them everyday and have to see them at practice and even at my home. Help me get over this!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
-0.1,
1.7,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Last weekend, my ex was in town for a party i was at as well. I spent the whole night helping him because he drank too much, and he ended up passing out at my house. We hooked up in the morning, completely sober, and acting like we were dating again. We talked yesterday, but just trivial conversation. I know he's avoiding talking to me because we didn't speak for so long and this is so sudden. I know it brought up old feelings for me, but i'm not sure about him. The way he acted, i figured it was a possibility and that's why he is so awkward. He's a naturally awkward person though, i was thinking, should i wait for exams to be finished and to see him in person to bring it up and see where it goes? There will be a party next month we will both be at. or should i just leave it to him to bring up? i know he avoids "feelings" discussions, so idk what to do. I really do want to continue things with him, but honestly this is driving me insane. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! how should i proceed with this? should i bring it up? should i wait? what should i do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.2,
-4.7,
-0.2
] |
hooked up with ex last weekend, he's been acting weird, and i'm not sure if he's avoiding talking about it because he's uncomfortable with the topic or because he doesn't
|
[
0.1,
1.3,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: The past couple of years have revealed a pattern I'm finding a little concerning - I date a guy for a while and hold myself back from gestures or being too forward, then I get a little relaxed (which can be anything from a few weeks to a few months) and within days of me being nicer (texting him first, planning a date, settling for going round to his apartment if he's feeling tired, etc.) then suddenly he loses interest. I once baked cookies on Valentine's Day when we'd been together a few months and the guy freaked out. So now I have been dating a guy for a month and he's lovely, but I'm just waiting for it to end - and I feel as soon as I relax or, heaven forbid give him a compliment or say I like him, he's going to bolt. The big problem is that he's picking me up from the airport after the Christmas break, and I can't be so ungrateful as to just say thank you, but I'm afraid if I do anything nice he'll run. So how can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest? ### Response:
|
I'm afraid if I show affection to a guy without him losing interest. How can I do this? Is it even possible? Is it even necessary? What should I do? Help!?!?!?!?
|
[
0,
-1.8,
-0.2
] |
Mandatory summary/question! How can I be affectionate and kind to a guy without him losing interest?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
-1.5,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My boyfriend and I are both 19. My boyfriend's mother is the only draw back to my relationship with him and I'm not sure how to handle her. She claims to be fond of me, but I know she's lying. She never even gave me a chance, even after a year of being together. My boyfriend got me a promise ring because we know we want to be together forever. While pretty much everyone else was happy for us, his mom lost her shit and said nasty things about our relationship. She then got her current husband involved. His dad wasn't exactly nice about it either, but regardless, respected the decision. I understand them being concerned since we are young and they married young only to end up unhappy and divorced. However, this woman is one of the biggest hypocrites I have ever met and is essentially a 40-something child. I can't stand her and am not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I have never followed the "respect your elders" thing simply because of you give me no respect and are rude to me, I won't respect you, regardless of age. Any advice on how to handle this monster of a woman? I can give examples if need be, it's just a lot to type out a year's worth of hypocrisy. ### Response:
|
My boyfriend's mother is a horrible person and I don't want to be in a relationship with her. She's a horrible person and I don't want to be in a relationship with her. I have
|
[
-1.4,
-5.9,
-0.2
] |
My boyfriend's mother is a horrible person and I'm not sure how to handle her. She's a lot of work and I'm not prepared to deal with her for the rest of my life. I can
|
[
-0.4,
-1.8,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My girlfriends dog, who I used to love, has seemingly forgotten that he can't poop in the house. He was completely housebroken and then started to have really runny poops in the house so we just figured he was sick (we accidentally bought the wrong food) and didn't yell at or scold him because it wasn't really his fault. After he has gotten better he just thinks he can poop in the house now. For instance, not 20 minutes ago my girlfriend took him for a walk and he did not poop because there was other dogs outside and he gets distracted amazingly easily, then she brought him inside, left him in the bedroom where I was sleeping and he pooped. I noticed about 5 minutes after she left when I rolled out of bed. He was so excited when I got out of bed too; he didn't even act guilty like he knew he did something wrong. This is just frustrating me so much because he used to go to the door and everything when he had to go and now it's just a free for all. Help. Please. ### Response:
|
My girlfriends dog poops in the house and is not trained. He is a good boy. He is not guilty. Am I a bad person? Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help. Help.
|
[
-1.1,
-3.6,
-0.6
] |
My dog has been pooping in the house for the last two months and I have been letting him go because I don't want to yell at him. He is now pooping in the house all the time and I
|
[
-1.2,
-3.4,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Not dating anyone right now, but a hypothetical future person as I'm getting back into the dating game. A little more about me: I'm bisexual and very sexually fluid. Sometimes I even feel asexual. I'm also a virgin, but I'm really ready to not be. My only problem is I reeeeaalllly hate kissing. I hate the way my mouth feels and tastes. I hate the sounds, the smells, everything pretty much. I *might* like kissing someone I'm in love or infatuated with, but I have yet to experience that. (Most people like to kiss to eventually experience those feelings.) I've had some dating experience, and I even really liked a guy once who I was seeing. But once we became intimate and made out, I got really weird and I think I scared him off a bit. (I also divulged that I was a virgin, oh well.) He stopped talking to me after that, obviously he was not someone I would've wanted to be with anyway. So what do I do? When do I bring this up? And don't tell me I'll eventually like it when I find a good kisser, because I've kissed good kissers and I still hated it. ### Response:
|
20 something bisexual virgin who hates kissing and is ready to date again. Need advice on how to bring this up to future potential boyfriends. Also maybe how to make out with them. Am I cra
|
[
1.2,
1.2,
-0.9
] |
20 something bisexual virgin who hates kissing and is ready to date again. Need advice on how to bring it up and possibly get someone to try it with me. Not sure if I'll like it.
|
[
1.1,
1,
-0.9
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short -- We dated for about a year and 1/2 I moved for my job we couldn't handle the distance and we end our relationship. Months go by, I see him Friday night and he is very poliet and nice and after we started drinking he started pouring his heart out to me. The next day he calls me twice in the morning and I missed the calls, try to call him back. Doesnt answer, wait a few days, send him a long message, and it said he read it, and has still said nothing. Should I pretend like it never happen? ### Response:
|
ex of almost 2 years told me he still loves me while drunk, should I pretend like it never happened? How should I respond? Should I respond at all? Any ideas? Any help is appreciated. Thanks!
|
[
0.7,
4.1,
-0.6
] |
ex boyfriend started talking to me after a long drink the night before, and I missed his calls the next day. Should I pretend like it never happen? Or should I try to get some answers? What's the best way
|
[
0.2,
1.1,
-1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm in my early 20s and live in the southern United States. I've had the same friends for forever and have had lots of great experiences with them in the past. In the last 2-3 years though they've become increasingly negative towards me. I'll often see a few of them individually and things will be fine, but in a group setting I'm often excluded, the only one chided, etc. Some of the things they say go out of bounds or they're things that apply to more than just me but I'm the only one who gets shit on for it. In the past I've said things, but I'm told I'm just too sensitive or they're joking. When I decide not to participate when everyone is chatting online or in-person, they'll use that as an excuse to exclude me. When I make fun of someone, I'm either ignored or basically told to shut it. I'm not sure what to do. It's become increasingly stressful and these are my only 'friends'. Other people I know don't have friends like mine. We still have good times, but I feel like everything I do I'm being judged. ### Response:
|
I'm being judged by my friends and it's making me feel like shit. What do I do? I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or if I'm right. I'm not
|
[
-0.9,
1.2,
-0.1
] |
my friends have become increasingly negative towards me in the last few years. I'm excluded from most things and when I'm included I'm the only one who gets shit on. I'm not sure what to
|
[
0.6,
5.4,
-1.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My friend moved across the country 5 months ago for work, leaving his other friends and family, and I'm the only person he knows here. We met on a forum online and have been friends for about 3 years. He's a very sensitive person and very shy, which means he hasn't made new friends here and gets offended when I say I'd rather hang out with other people over him. He is my best friend, but I'm starting to feel suffocated. I feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a thing when I feel like it, but he needs things to be very planned and gets upset if something falls through or doesn't turn out the way he expected. I end up apologizing for things I don't believe warrant an apology, and just give in because I don't like to argue. I really like the guy, but I'm starting to wish he'd move away again so I could stop feeling so responsible for his happiness. Because it's stressing me out very much. Besides friend breaking up with him, what can I do? ### Response:
|
my best friend moved across country and I'm starting to feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him and constantly make excuses and explain myself. I don't like making plans because I'd rather just do a
|
[
-0.3,
-0.3,
-1.1
] |
I'm starting to feel like my friend is a burden, what can I do? Is there any hope for us? Help please!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
-0.2,
-4.9,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Mine is simple, my kids. I will always remember the one day my daughter made me feel like the best dad in the world. I sometimes have to go back to work late at night to attend meetings (I work for a place with offices around the world) and one day I was home before my family was done with school. I decided to make some dinner and leave it for them and while I was making it I spotted some cookie dough in the fridge. I thought it would be nice to leave them cookies. So when my wife picks the kids up from daycare she said my daughter seemed to have a rough day (as rough as a 5 year old can have, I guess) and was very grumpy/sad. When they got home my son smelled the curry I had made and got very excited and then my daughter found the cookies. I had left a little note saying to enjoy the cookies and sorry for having to work late. My daughter started to cry and said she was so happy. My wife took a short video and sent it to me at work. I have never felt more needed and counted upon, then that. I know that these kids will cause me all kinds of worry throughout our lives, but I wouldn't trade that feeling of unconditional love for anything. ### Response:
|
left some cookies for kids, daughter was very sad when I left, wife sent video to me at work, daughter saw the cookies and was happy, my wife took a video and sent it to me. My kids make me feel
|
[
-0.1,
0.2,
-1.1
] |
daughter made me feel like the best dad ever. Wife captured moment on video and sent to me at work. Need unconditional love for nothing. Want to know what you would do if you could have unconditional love
|
[
0.2,
-1.5,
-1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hello redditers, First topic post on Reddit. So, I went to study abroad in the United States for 5 months. My GF is coming after 4 months of us being separated(we met in the same town and spent a lot of time together, before I left). Today I spoke with her over the phone, and she told me she was very excited, but also nervous and afraid. She was afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after such a long time. We haven't had any major fights while we've been apart, and we've talked every day and tried to do everything to let the other one feel loved. Am I overreacting when I think she might leave me? I must admit I'm afraid too. It feels like a vague memory, since I haven't seen her for so long. ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! How do you know if your partner is still in love with you? What are the signs? What are the most common ones? What are the most common ones? What are the most common ones? What are
|
[
0.5,
-3.3,
-0.2
] |
GF of 5 months is coming to visit me after 4 months of separation. She told me she was excited but also nervous and afraid that maybe one of us didn't feel the same after so long. Am I over
|
[
0,
3.7,
-0.9
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I'm the type that usually goes from long-term relationship to long-term relationship without much dating in between. I'm trying out the casual dating thing for a while. I am 26f, above average attractiveness (in my opinion, but i still have pretty low confidence). So, someone told this guy (pretty much a stranger to me, we only met in passing), that i thought he was cute and he gave my friend his phone number to give to me. So the next day I texted him, and we have texted a couple of times for a few days. Seems like we have some things in common. After the 3rd day, I asked him if he wanted to grab a drink sometime...no response. I find it hard to believe that in 24 hours he hadn't used his phone. Why would he give me his number, have good back and forth texts, then leave me hanging when I ask to chat in person? Just not that into me? ### Response:
|
I'm new to this, is this normal behavior for someone who is casually dating? Or am I being used? What's your take? What would you do? Why? What's your opinion? What'
|
[
0,
-2.9,
-0.2
] |
guy gave me his number, but not that into me. Why? What's the deal? Is he playing me? What's the deal?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
-0.6,
0.6,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been FWB for over a year, and we have started to develop feelings. I eventually said this wasn't going to work anymore, because one of us is going to get really hurt (probably me). He agreed, but a week later he said we should "try dating" because he doesn't "want to lose me." My thoughts are this--don't you start a relationship based on what you WANT as opposed to what you DON'T want? Like, I enter a relationship hoping to build a future with someone, not because I am afraid of the alternative (no longer getting to sleep with them/losing the intimacy/seeing them date someone else). I know he cares about me, but the fact that I haven't seen this side of him at all until I said we had to stop is a little irritating/confusing. ### Response:
|
Started a FWB relationship, developed feelings, agreed to "try dating" because he doesn't want to lose me, but a week later he says we should "try dating" because he doesn't want to
|
[
-0.2,
-1.5,
-0.4
] |
started a relationship with a FWB, it didn't work out, he agreed to "try dating" despite not having seen the other side of him until we stopped. Is this a legitimate way to start a relationship?
|
[
0.2,
-2.4,
-0.7
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Today I woke up late and home alone so I decided to make homemade bagels for the upcoming week. They took awhile to make and I was wanting to do something else, but they turned out really hard and horribly stuck on the pan. dammit. So being me I grab a butter knife to pry them off. I spent the next couple minutes stabbing the bottom on the pan and cursing aloud, and eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Then the door leading into my house (which is right next to the kitchen) opens and my roommate comes in and finds me yelling and frantically tearing the leftovers off the pan and shoving them into my mouth. He hasn't come out of his room yet, I don't know what to d ### Response:
|
made bagels, got stuck on pan, roommate found me yelling and tearing pieces off while shoving them into my mouth, don't know what to do. am fucked. What do I do?!
|
[
1,
4.3,
-0.6
] |
roommate walked in on me stabbing the bottom of a pan while eating the leftover bits stuck on the pan. Shame on me. Am I a bad roommate?!?!?!?
|
[
0.7,
4,
-0.8
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Been together 3 years, living together for 1.5 years. I'm Persian, he's white. My family will invite me (and him by extension) to family events such as birthdays, Shabbat, etc. My boyfriend (let's call him Z) has been treated disrespectfully by them in the past. Examples include them speaking in Farsi in front of him, turning away when Z was going to shake their hand, etc. Z feels that it is a cultural issue that will resolve itself if we give it time. I want to take action but don't know what action to take. We could not attend any events in silent protest but it's not guaranteed that anyone will ask why we continuously don't attend (my family seems to not care a lot about what I have to say). We could attend most events so that the issue eventually resolves itself but I don't want Z to feel uncomfortable while at the events. So... What's the best option here? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been attending some events but not all. ### Response:
|
family disrespects boyfriend in front of me, want to take action but don't know what to do. What's the best option? Speak up, do nothing, something else entirely? So far we have been
|
[
0.7,
1.3,
-0.9
] |
family disrespects boyfriend by treating him differently than me when attending family events. Want to take action but don't know what option to take. Advice needed! Help!?!?!?!?
|
[
1,
4.4,
-0.8
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: My wife went to a pokemon conference thing with a friend while I was away for work for a long amount time, about a month. She told me she was out to dinner. I asked later on if she was with her friend. She said she was and with two other guys. I freaked out a little and called her. She said one was gay and the other was ugly, asian, and nerdy. I still said going out like that felt inappropriately. I admit, I was upset and was a little rude to her. She said I blindsided her and she did not expect me to be upset. I told her I felt uncomfortable with date type situations. She says the atmosphere was not like a date at all. I trust everything she is saying. I still think it was inappropriate. I could just be immature and I am open to what you guys' think. ### Response:
|
wife went to a pokemon conference, told me she was out to dinner with two guys. I was upset. She said it was inappropriate. I feel like I am being immature and I am open to what you
|
[
-0.1,
1.5,
-1
] |
wife went to pokemon conference, said she was with two guys, I freaked out. Am I wrong? Should I just get over it? What would you do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0.2,
0.5,
-1.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Every time I try to give a chance at communicating, he shuts everything out and gets all random with me or he will just make it out to be like I "just want to argue" as if it's a hobby of mine. I believe that some arguments are necessary and there's nothing wrong with having them. It's not like I start yelling and get violent or anything crazy...He considers a calm, assertive discussion as "irrational arguing" and immediately goes into avoidance and victim mode and starts ignoring me. I don't know what to do with him anymore. I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :( He makes me out to feel like just some sadistic, argumentative person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through them. A little background on us: He is diagnosed as severe ADHD. I am diagnosed with anxiety and OCD. I know, that doesn't help the situation at all, but it's our quirks that bring us together (after all, isn't that what brings us all together?). :P ### Response:
|
BF shuts everything out and gets all random when I try to communicate with him, what can I do? I'm just trying to make some effort here, but he doesn't seem to look at it that way. :
|
[
0.3,
3.1,
-0.4
] |
my boyfriend shuts everything out and gets all random with me every time I try to communicate something important to him. He makes me out to be some "mean" person when I'm just trying to figure things out and work through
|
[
0.3,
3.4,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, excuse my English, because I'm pretty drunk right now and English is not my native language. Okay, so, I'm originally not from England, but I've lived there for a couple of months and I met a girl there, who is not from my home country, and I totally fell in love with her. I'm now living in Spain and I really thought we could make it work, but for no reason at all she just started ignoring me. She went from all happy, glee and lovely to ignoring me all of a sudden. She didn't give me a response for two days now, which sounds like a short time, but it's killing me on the inside. I like to think that a healthy relationship is about mutual respect and trust and to be honest, I don't really trust her and she doesn't show me any respect as of late. I really liked it with her in England, but now I'm just making myself crazy. Should I break-up with or, or should I wait till she responds? Thank you in advance for the advice. ### Response:
|
I'm in love with a girl, she's not from my home country, she's ignoring me. She's not giving me a response. Should I break up with her? Or should I wait till she respond
|
[
-0.4,
2,
-0.2
] |
girlfriend suddenly ignoring me for no reason, should I break-up with her or wait till she responds? Any advice would be appreciated. Help! :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
|
[
-0.1,
0.6,
-0.7
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: I dated this guy last year. He impregnated a 20f pretty quickly after we broke up and when I found out, I got extremely sad and jealous, because I wish I was on my way to having a family. We broke up because of infidelity. Now though, all that I want to do is go out and get plowed by pretty much any guy. I don't want a relationship, I just want to go out and have revenge sex. Why is that? I think I'm just so upset, and angry. I don't know what to do, or really how to handle this. ### Response:
|
how do I deal with revenge sex after a breakup? What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.6,
-4.2,
-0.8
] |
ex impregnated a girl, I'm jealous because I want to be a mom, but I'm also just super angry. I don't know what to do. Am I being crazy? How do I
|
[
-0.9,
2.1,
-1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Hi, hoping this is the right sub for my question, apologies if not. I was browsing my account on Credit Karma recently and saw the message that "1 account has gone into collections". I thought this couldn't be right, so I looked and it said I had a $277 balance in collections by an agency called "Enhanced Recovery Company". Around the same time my mom let me know that the company had been leaving messages for me on her home phone. I didn't see any way that this could be a legit debt, as my only debts are my car loan and one credit card. Also, I don't know how they got my mom's phone number, as I haven't used that number as my own in well over a decade. Every lease and agreement I've signed has been using my personal cell phone number. About two months ago I sent the company a debt validation letter via certified mail, and once they received it the phone calls stopped and I haven't heard back from them since. I'm just wondering what my next step should be in getting this removed from my credit report. Thanks for any help you can give me! ### Response:
|
a collection agency is claiming I owe them $277 and I don't owe them anything. I've sent them a debt validation letter and they haven't responded. I'm just wondering
|
[
-0.8,
5.7,
-0.7
] |
A collection agency has been trying to contact me about a debt I don't owe. I've already sent them a debt validation letter and they haven't responded. I'm not sure what to do
|
[
-0.1,
7.3,
-0.2
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A couple of months ago a friend and I started developing feelings for each other. She had been in a relationship of 3 years and often told me how unhappy she was with the relationship and how poorly he treats her. Things between us started getting serious and their relationship started falling apart. Being college students on winter break, we began hanging out every day for the past month. I could tell she was finally accepting that she could leave him. We make each other very happy and often discussed our own relationship and the future. Just as I thought she was finally mustering up the strength to end it with him, his mother was diagnosed with cancer. Being together with him for 3 years, she is very close with his family and thinks leaving him would be too much for him to handle. She told me she doesn't want to lose me but can't risk hurting him right now. Obviously it's a difficult situation and I'm understanding, but I can't help being upset knowing that she isn't happy. I want to make her happy and I know I can but I'm not sure what to do at this point. And no, I don't want to hear that I shouldn't have gotten involved with her in the first place. ### Response:
|
started dating friend who is in an unhealthy relationship. she is ready to leave him, but can't because his mother has cancer. she is still making me happy and I want to continue helping her but I don'
|
[
-0.2,
4.4,
-1.1
] |
girl I've been talking to and developing feelings for has a family member with cancer. She's not ready to leave him but I'm ready to make her happy. What do I do?!?!?!?!
|
[
-0.1,
-0.7,
-1.1
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: First of all, I would like to thank everyone who opened it even if they knew it was only a teen with girl problems. This new girl came to school one week ago and I was in love since the first time I saw here. I talked to her for the first time 3 days ago, but I just introduced myself. 2 days ago I messaged her on facebook and we talked for a little while, it was mostly me asking her questions about herself. Then yesterday we said like 2 sentences to each other! That's all we've talked together! What should I do about this now? When should I message her again, or when should I talk to her in person. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated! ### Response:
|
there is a girl I really like but we haven't talked that much, I want to message her again soon but I don't know when. She seems really shy in person so I don't know what to do.
|
[
-0.4,
1.6,
-0.9
] |
just started school, found amazing girl, want to talk to her, she seems really shy, how do I get to know her better? Any advice is appreciated! Thanks!
I'm in love with a girl I just
|
[
0.3,
0,
-0.8
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We met via okcupid (10/10 would recommend), and I didn't even think to look then about his 'children' preferences. Recently I revisited his page and saw that he had put 'doesn't want kids' on his profile summary. I really, really want kids someday, so seeing this, especially since we have both exchanged "I love you"s, was quite discouraging. Now, there's no saying that we'll even be together when the time comes to start having children. I think, though it might be disastrous to avoid talking about this for too long. So how do I bring this up to him? I don't want to scare him off by bringing it up, but it's imperative to me to have kids. If it becomes clear that he doesn't want children under any circumstances, should we break up, or just acknowledge that we have an expiration date? ### Response:
|
Mandatory summary/question! How do I bring up having children to a partner who doesn't want children? Is it even possible?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
0.2,
-0.1,
-0.2
] |
I want to have kids, but my boyfriend doesn't want children. He's not even on the same page as me. How do I bring this up to him? Or should we just break up? I don'
|
[
-1.3,
4.8,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Long story short...u/andyootoo posted a submission, telling people that he has tickets to a show in SF for sale, but he has to sell them online since he's in NY. The tickets for this show are sold out, so I decide to trust him. After a few back and forth exchanges via email, and seeing proof that he does have the tickets, I decide to send him the money via Amazon gift card. The card's been redeemed, but the tickets that he promised to transfer to me via Ticketmaster never came. I had talked to Amazon, and they can't seem to do anything. The bank's investigating in the meantime as well. ### Response:
|
I sent money to a stranger for concert tickets, and he never delivered. I'm getting scammed. What can I do? How can I get my money back? Is there anything I can do? Help please! :( :(
|
[
0.1,
4.3,
-0.1
] |
Bought tickets off of Reddit, didn't get them. What do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
|
[
-0.3,
0.1,
-0.4
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Usually when my bf goes out locally, whether it's drinks after work with colleagues or a night out with the guys, I refrain from blowing up his phone. I think I text about 3 to 4 times that night, just to see how he's doing, if he's having fun, and to wish him a good night (if he's going to be out all night and I'm going to bed). We don't live together and usually see each other on the weekends. He hates texting and so do I, so we don't text each other on the regular anyways. However, when he leaves the country for work I text him way more. I'm curious to know how often you guys text your SO when they are out with their friends partying and getting hammered. Does it vary if they are local or out of the country/state? ### Response:
|
I text my bf more when he's out with his friends, but not when he's out drinking locally. I'm curious if this is normal or if it varies depending on where they are and what they are
|
[
0.3,
-1.7,
-0.3
] |
my bf goes out drinking with his friends and I don't text him as much as I do when he's out of the country. He hates texting and I know why. Is there any benefit to texting
|
[
-0.2,
0.8,
-0.7
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: A little backstory from a post about a month ago So here is what's going on now. About a week ago, she took a break from her boyfriend. She came to my house and we fooled around for about 6 hours. It was amazing, but I feel like a horrible person for doing it. She says she loves me more than anything and wishes we were together, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she's done with her break and she wants to stay with her boyfriend. I love her so much, I just don't know what to do anymore. I told her that it would be difficult being friends because at the end of the day, she'll be going home to her boyfriend and that's going to break my heart. Sorry guys, I feel like a total bitch looking for advice because I usually stray from this kind of drama that I somehow got sucked into. I just don't know what to do anymore. I guess I'm just hoping that thing don't work out for them, and that makes me feel incredibly selfish. Anyways, thanks for anything. ### Response:
|
Ex and I fooled around. She loves me more than anything, but she's too afraid to leave the position she's in now because it's "too risky". Now she wants to stay with her boy
|
[
-0.3,
-1,
-0.7
] |
Mandatory summary/question/help! What should I do?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
|
[
0,
-6.3,
-0.2
] | 1
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: We've been "together" for over a year, and about 6 months ago went through a really rough patch. Both of us did things we regret, and he went a little wild with some girls at parties (nothing beyond nudity). Now we're pretty much back on track, though he's not really ready to make any promises or commitments. Tomorrow night he's going to be at a party at the same house and I think with some of the same people.. it just makes me kinda icky inside and feel a little of the self loathe I did in the past. Any suggestions on how I can enjoy my weekend knowing and trusting he's enjoying his? I really love and care deeply for him, I just have a lot of preservation for my own happiness and health. And I want to make sure these fleeting worries don't get in the way of the immense progress we've made together and individually. ### Response:
|
I'm worried about my boyfriend's partying, and I'm not sure how to handle it. Any advice? Thanks! :)
I'm worried about my boyfriend's partying, and I
|
[
-0.9,
-1.3,
-0.3
] |
I'm worried about my boyfriend's partying and I'm not sure how to handle it. Any advice? Any tips? Any stories? Any help? Any ideas? Any hope? Any help? Any hope?
|
[
-0.4,
-0.2,
-0.1
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: So I was talking about Napoleon with my students and of course this leads to a talk\rant about personal budgeting\etc. I've had a few students talk to me afterwards, them being curious about budgeting and person finance. I saw the post about the cue card and thought... man, I should have a poster or something up in my room as a quick reference or something. But with the cue card there are two issues - 1) they won't know what many of those things are - I do teach some lower stream kids 2) I teach in Canada, so we have different systems and such. ### Response:
|
I want to have a quick reference poster in my room with all the personal finance terms on it so I can quickly look them up when needed. But I want to make sure the terms are appropriate for my students and that they know what
|
[
0.4,
1.2,
-0.2
] |
want to have a quick reference poster for students to look at for personal finance, but not sure what to put on it. Also want to include Canadian systems. Suggestions? Comments? Plz halp. Plz.
|
[
0.5,
4.2,
-0.5
] | 0
|
### Instruction: Generate a one-sentence summary of this post. ### Input: Birthdays have always been hard on my girlfriend. She's had a few parties as a child where no one showed up, and since moving states in the middle of high school she hasn't made close friends. Here at college, she tries hard to make friends. She talks well to people on a superficial basis but doesn't have any real friends. She's never been invited to a college party and has often missed out on many typical activities. We've been together for 3 years, since freshman orientation. I don't have friends but I'm happy that way. I like keeping to myself if I'm not spending time with her. Since she's naturally extroverted, she spends her free time with me, or at club meetings trying to connect to people. She's asked if I could put together a small party so I invited some acquaintances, my roommates, etc. everyone said no. I gave the invites well in advance too. I don't know how to break the news to my girlfriend, she's been so excited. She thought providing free food and drink would be a great way to make friends. But people don't want to come for even that. What can I do? ### Response:
|
girlfriend wants to celebrate birthday with me and I don't have any friends. Acquaintances said no. How do I break the news to her? What can I do? Help?!?
|
[
0.3,
-0.3,
-0.9
] |
My girlfriend wants to celebrate her birthday with a party, but no one wants to come. What can I do? What should I say? Is it my fault? What can I do? Help!
|
[
-0.2,
3.2,
-0.1
] | 0
|
End of preview. Expand
in Data Studio
README.md exists but content is empty.
- Downloads last month
- 3