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How to deal with a boss who always shouts and yells at most members of his team? How to deal with a boss who always shouts and yells at most members of his team? (Except his favourite employees of course who he is very friendly with). We have become very sure that he enjoys intimidating us, and most of us are trying ...	As he appears to be showing quite deliberate disrespect for you and selected others, approaching him directly is unlikely to be fruitful. You need to go to either HR (the preferable option) or his own boss and make them aware of the unacceptable behaviour.
How to answer what my pay was at previous companies I am currently searching for a job, and one company asks what my pay rates were at previous jobs. I don't remember what my pay was. The jobs were internships, and I was more excited about the opportunity to intern than the exact pay I was receiving. I didn't keep my o...	Don't ever make up a salary - that's lying and not likely to be an attribute a new employer would prefer. The answer to this question is no, I would decline to give this figure. One idea I had, and the one I'm currently planning on doing, is: visiting my old employers in person, asking for the HR department, and asking...
How do I know if my boss is having me do almost all of the work? So I work in a small, two-person company (in America, Seattle if that helps anyone). Just myself and my boss. We are both (web - full stack) software developers. We share office space with a couple other companies, but don't work with them. I'd say at thi...	It's also quite likely that he is doing other work which isn't part of the company and therefore you don't get a look at and keeping all that revenue himself. If you're not afraid to lose this job, then do not be afraid to ask your boss about his contributions. What really matters is the amount of leverage you can brin...
How often I can follow-up over verbal job offer In January 2016, I interviewed with a very large company for which I'd very excited about working. After 3 weeks, they interviewed me again and everything looked good. After another 3 weeks, they called me and told me they preparing the papers and I got the job. Then th...	They want to hire you, but the workload of their normal duties have grown to a point where it is really hard to spare time on your case.
Given 3 options to stay. Later one taken away I have been an intern at a reputable start up since January. I was in the QA section of this company since I joined. My internship was to last for six months, that is, till end of June. I also have an offer from this same company for full time employment in the same positio...	You really should have your next job lined up a month before your internship ends.
What to do when interviewers don't want to interview? I was interviewing at this company (an established startup), and the interviewers appeared to be uninterested in talking at all. I was interviewed by the CEO and another person. The CEO didn't say anything the whole time. The whole interview happened in less than 5 ...	The interviewer thinks you're totally unsuited for the job.
How to react when a recruitment agency lies to a company about salary? I am temping for a company, and a week ago we found out that the recruitment agency has been lying to both me and the company about the salary. They are charging the company X dollars, and have told them that they are paying me %85 of X, but in real...	Unless your contract with the agency prohibits your disclosing the details of your contract/pay with their customers (your current job), you should answer their question honestly, and let the company do what it feels it must do.
Forbidden relationships between subordinates and managers -- is it possible or impossible to handle it without banning it? While drafting the workplace rules of a small business, I got to the part where I have to decide what to do with workplace romance, and I'm indecisive as to what to do with romantic relationships b...	Therefore, it is far simpler and cleaner for the business to simply say that any type of romantic relationship between employees (not just supervisor/supervisee) are off-limits. I would think it better to trust the professionalism of your employees.
Got job offer, counteroffered, asked to prove current salary, can't due to confidentiality, then no reply I received a job offer on 12th May. While I was pretty much 100% ready to accept, I decided to reply with a counteroffer as the offered salary was actually in the lower range for the position and there is only medi...	At the moment there is nothing to worry about, they will be reviewing their information and making up their minds whether to counter offer or not.
How to prevent my boss from forcefully making my team work overtime My boss thinks we are not producing enough work quick enough, the reality is that all of my reporting indicates that we are. My cumulative flow diagram has shown a massive amount of backlog work done. My team are also generally meeting their sprint go...	Even if he pressures the team to take on more that it can possibly manage in a sprint, there is no way he can order overtime. Perhaps it would be better to adjust your own perceptions to be more like those of your boss, it's one way to get ahead. So what you need to do here is explain the consequences and see if they a...
I'm leaving because I didn't get a raise. What should I tell my employer if they ask why I'm leaving? I have been working with my current employer for about two years now. I filled in a specific niche role, which has since expanded to become an important part of our software department. I not only completed all the pro...	You can just say that you found an opportunity that better aligns with your career goals and leave it at that.
Politeness in international contacts I work and live in Scandinavia, and by culture we use a person's first name when speaking to someone, colleagues, clients and so on. In general we use the second-person singular when addressing someone, we are very informal and being formal can be seen as if someone is a bit of a s...	If in doubt, it will almost never be considered rude to ask how people would prefer to be addressed, or how to say or ask something politely. In my experience, it's best to cater to the individual person you are dealing with. Delivery and manner of speech is a lot more important than use of titles in determining whethe...
How can I communicate my need for more challenging work? Is it considered rude or negative to say that I am not challenged by my tasks I am responsible for in my role? I currently work as a database developer (less than a year at this job). I have a good reputation and people are impressed with the work I produce. I ...	You can go through your performance, and if you have been absolutely nailing it so far, suggest that for the year ahead you set objectives and some stretch objectives: deliberately aimed at pushing you beyond your comfort zone. Telling your manager, "my work is not challenging," focuses on the wrong thing.
How important are LinkedIn connections? I do not provide my personal data, including my real name on social media. I don't accept any Facebook friend requests or LinkedIn connection requests, which my friends understand. However, I was wondering, how much it can hurt my future job chances.I am open for job offers, but...	LinkedIn connections are only as important as you make them.
Assigned work that is above my skill level, how should I handle it? I'm still a junior web developer, I have some trouble with Databases, its my weakness, but I still know some things on them. My boss asked me if I knew databases and I said yes, hoping it was something easy, then he added a task for me that includes he...	If you're intelligent enough to be a programmer, you should be intelligent enough to upgrade your skillset quickly. It may be that the task is actually simple for people with the required knowledge -- you could ask your coworkers for help. Get a tutor, take a class if you need to.
I was accused of having said bad things about someone. How to explain to them that I think I did nothing wrong? I went to an event not related to work and met a writer, who is friends with a freelance writer working for us. I told him that the freelance writer submitted an article that is "late". That's what really hap...	Another thing you should do, is tell the writer the name of the person you spoke to, or at least give him a description of the person in question, and assure him that this was the only person you ever spoke to about him. I strongly advise you to swallow your pride and simply say that you are sorry.
How to decline a closed-group internal posting? Someone was recently promoted on another team which left their old position available, and now it's currently up for grabs for a few individuals. On behalf of my previous manager, HR has sent an email to myself and several other coworkers (I don't know who or how many) to...	A polite and professional reply will make it clear that you're not interested, and won't leave your boss wondering what's going on: The argument against replying: he's gonna wonder why you don't want it, so I think you should justify perhaps why you don't, as your highlighting it.
Frustrating response by manager due to mutual misunderstanding. Should I just let it go? Trying to keep this brief: I report to two managers, A and B. I meet infrequently with A (~1x/month) and my day to day work has no impact on her ability to do her job. I work very closely with B and talk to him every day. I asked ...	You may have struck the manager on a bad day, or some other reason, but it's not constructive to conjecture on why's and why nots, put it down to experience and remember what you have learnt about this person. This is a manager either having a leaky brain and taking no notes, or having changed her mind, and what happen...
Is there any way to avoid being terminated after a raise and after turning down other job offers? Let's say Bob is severely underpaid but really loves his job, the short commuting distance, and his coworkers. But sadly none of these things make up for the fact that Bob is at least $15,000 underpaid and, as his family g...	Once you decided to leave and you find a good offer, leave. Yes, don't accept a counter offer, ever Leaving (or threatening to leave explicit or not)
Is it acceptable not to include nationality and the date of birth into CV? I have recently received some criticism that my CV does not include the date of birth and nationality, and I that should add this information in further applications. From the other side, I am not sure if it is moral to use this information as ...	So while it might be acceptable not to include it in other countries, like the US or the UK, in Germany it is definitely not advisable.
What to do at meetings with nothing about your work? Sometimes I'm invited to meetings with other deparments. Even though these meetings are very informative, most of the time I don't have anything relevant to say because those meetings are relevant to the other people more than to my own work.How do I behave so that I...	If someone asks you a question, answer it. Where I've worked, you bring your laptop and do whatever work you need until you're needed in a meeting.
Not happy in my job as software engineer, should I contact another company that previously made me an offer? After my graduation I interviewed with multiple companies for a job as a software engineer. I got two offers that really interested me, accepted one and declined the other. 5 months in my job, the company seems...	Be positive, show that you're willing to change if it needs to be. If they keep pushing then say I would rather work in your domain. Stay away from negative - even quantity over quality might not come off as positive.
Growing from one-person-team to multiple people At my workplace, I used to work alone for quite some time on some projects . Fortunately, now there is money and (hopefully suitable) people to take some from that work off me. I will still be around and do some specific tasks in those projects. The daily routine busin...	What worked for me was to teach my new team what I wanted them to do while also engaging them in evaluating and improving processes.
My company wants everyone to obtain an IT certification in the next few months The situation is as follows: The company I'm currently working at has been providing for a couple years now a "certification reward". Being an IT company it obviously values having certified employees in different fields (web development, ...	You can't do anything like that, lest the company pay for all of it, in advance, without contingencies.
Should you use email tracking with your employer? There are several plugins for email services like Gmail that can track emails you send and notify you when it has been opened/viewed by a recipient. I am tempted to use it with my employer/HR in order to know if delays in response are due to them ignoring me, or simply...	In short, don't do it . Besides the risk that someone could see that you're doing it and see it as a red flag against you (or merely that you're impatient), several email access systems also don't work well with it.
Changing main programming language/lane due to lack of job I'm a junior developer. So far i've been trying to work and stacking up knowledge based on C# used platforms (os, cross platform, game dev, n-tier arch, design patterns, frameworks...).And i'm struggling with lack of job/pro people. Recently I might have had a...	The most important thing you can do for your job prospects and your skills is to get a job developing.
Potential start up project failed, how do I put it on my CV? I have spent the last 2 years working on a social media mobile app with my business partner who is the CTO. Together we've developed an API, backend, and developed a mobile app. I developed the mobile app, he developed the back end and API. After doing two...	A failed project is something that doesn't do what it should be doing, and not a lack of interest in it. You don't want to emphasize things that failed on your CV.
Going back to a potential employer after turning his offer down 45 days ago I have been founding and working on my start-up for a year now. In April (~45 days ago), a potential employer from California approached me with an interesting lead position. We exchanged a few messages, I did express a genuine interest but I...	There is never anything to be lost by reaching back out to the prospective employer and explain that your situation has changed if they still had any positions available.
Is it ok to play games in office pc? I have installed a computer game on my office machine. After the working hours, I am playing games. Is this ethically ok? Or am I misusing my freedom in my workplace? <Q> Your company owns the machine, the software running on it, and has the right to read every file on it. <S> They...	In most workplaces this would be a big no-no, and probably a terminable offense if you were to be found out.
Can I claim my anonymous blog on my resume? I am considering starting an anonymous technical blog. I do not want to use my real name or picture online. If I have such a blog, can I still claim it on my resume when I apply for a job? If yes, how to do it the right way? Note: The primary reason for the blog is not ...	If it's for an IT related career you can easily provide proof with various forms of cryptographic tokens, for example by putting a bcrypt hash of your full name plus a salt on the website. I would not put an anonymous blog on a CV without proof, because if the employer already suspects other entries to be made up for a...
I told a supervisor that I'm seeing a psychologist. What repercussions should I expect and how should I handle them? I've been seeing a psychologist once a week for over a year now and it's only occasionally directly interfered with my ability to get work done. However, there are some days where there will be a non-cri...	As a matter of practice though, I avoid telling employers anything about my health (especially mental health) unless it affects my job.
Can I be sued for leaving with proper notice in the UK? I currently work at a small company but have been very unhappy for a long time. As a result, I have accepted a job offer at another place. I handed my notice in yesterday but my current employer said the company will likely fold if I leave. I felt bad but I've a...	If your contract states that you can leave after a certain notice period, then handing in your resignation and moving on after serving the notice period is entirely legal. Unless you have deliberately tried to destroy the business, there is no reason why you could be sued.
Should I bother to reply to emails from recruiters when I'm already employed? Every now and then I get an email from a recruiter with a position they want to offer me. These emails are normally offering jobs outside my area of expertise and asking for skills I simply don't have. Not just that but I'm already employed i...	However, for recruiters with legitimate interest in you as candidate, it is worth replying in order to open up a potential networking opportunity . I ignore them totally.
How to figure out during the interview whether the company is open to self-learning on the job? For people working in technical fields (statistics, programming, etc.) it's important to devote time towards self-improvement. In theory, a continuously improving work force should also benefit the business, but the reward i...	Or take a "commitment to learning" as given and ask your interviewer directly about his or her last learning experience.
Is it reasonable to ask for a week to consider a job offer? I recently interviewed for a position, and was verbally offered the job. The job involved relocation, and the salary offer wasn't as lucrative as I would have liked, so I asked for them to send through the written contract, and give me a week to crunch the n...	It's quite possible that asking for the written contract, and asking for a week to "crunch the numbers and make a decision" came across as "high maintenance" to the folks you talked with, and helped them decide to move on to the next qualified candidate. Get things done when you say you will and make sure both parties ...
How to react if a coworker pretends to have forgotten about my property but actually didn't? The case is the following. Over 6 months ago, a coworker required a USB stick for work related stuff but we hadn't one ready for use. By coincidence, I had a private one with me which had no data on it, and I intended to keep i...	I would admit I saw the drive and ask for it back .
What can I do about vulgar words at work? My job of 26 years just underwent a change of management. Language has become very vulgar. A month ago a manager called a subordinate person a cunt When addressed, the manager said that he was kidding, laughed at me, and walked away laughing. I said to him that it's not ...	Saying words that you in particular don't like is not something management should take action against.
Should I tell the company voluntary that I wouldn't attend to interview if I had offer already? Suppose I have an offer in company A and company B asked me to interview before. Should I call company B voluntary that I wouldn't come to interview? Is it non ethical that doesn't attending to interview sliently? (I fear I ...	You should definitely tell them if you plan to not attend the interview, not just out of fear from blacklisting, but just out of respect for their time.
How to grow yourself when your task is not specific? I have been working on different tasks chosen by myself as a specific task is not allocated. I am free to choose tasks. Due to lack of a specific job task and needing to work on different tasks I find that I am not growing much or I don't know if I am growing very fa...	Make a list of tasks that you would like to do and that are good for the company and propose them to your employer.
Can I say I've worked with a client's client? Let's say I build software for Company A . Company A then licenses this software out to Company B and Company C . I have no NDAs in place. Companies B and C both know that I built this software. Occasionally, I might send and receive emails from someone working at...	It is not uncommon for support personnel at a company to work with various clients, and it would be deceiving to claim any working knowledge with them in a support role unless your role was dedicated to that client. You could say something like I supported Company B & C through Company A during the implementation and o...
How to quit a job after we agreed to an arrangement I've found similar questions here, but mine is a bit different, if not please correct me. Right now I presented a resignation letter where I stated that because of my university studies schedule I had to resign because time wasn't proper. I didn't talk to my boss or h...	Express yourself clearly, and present it as a decision you've made, so that he doesn't try to find more compromises which don't work out and end up disappointing everyone.
Enforcing your own work hours when joining a new team I work at a large company in London as a software developer. The company doesn't really have work hour expectations than the usual 9-5 and most developers tend to vary how they work. Unfortunately I'm moving to a team where most developers work till late. There ...	You may wish to informally "check in" with the boss before you set your work hours pattern and ask what kind of schedule is expected. You team may well observe that you are working fewer hours than their culture expects. Choose for yourself and don't worry about how others choose. Work my short hours from day 1 and lea...
Avoiding being put on new projects when about to quit? I just recently accepted a job offer from another company and that company is in the process of finishing off a few joining formalities (namely transferring my work visa). As per their legal department, that should take another week or so, post which I plan to give...	Since your primary concern is finalizing the visa process with zero risk, you will have to keep completely silent until it has been resolved.
Should I greet my boss when he is in middle of a conversation? This happens with me many times that I find my boss talking to my colleagues in door ways or in smoking zone and I am also going that way. Situation is that from what I see, he is not noticing me and continuing with his conversation, at this point should I ...	If you make eye contact, do a smile and nod. If he doesn't hear you, at least you won't interrupt him and you won't risk looking impolite.
Recruitment Consultant called me at work, on my company phone. Is this one unprofessional? I'm currently searching for opportunities. One can easily read that out of my XING account. Today a headhunter found me on XING, looked up my company's phone number, called our reception and asked for me. I had to exit that ca...	On the contrary, and to be a bit more generalist, if it is your personal phone , people just expect you not to answer the call (and call back later), or give a short response like "I am currently at work, please call me back later".
My coworkers think I'm over 21 and offered me a beer, I accepted it... What do I do now? So here's the story. I'm 19 and just got a job at a small park in the middle of nowhere. There are less than 20 people working at this place, and I deal with them every day. Since everyone I work with in over 21, they assumed I was...	If the co-workers of yours are mean and all that just say it in a funny-but-polite way like "I've given up drinking ( For now at least)" gives them the feeling that you'll be back at it some other time or just act as if you're not in the mood. You might want to think about how you would explain it yourself, but I think...
How to dissuade my boss from answering questions he doesn't know the answer to? From time to time I'll see an email exchange like the following: Customer : Could we have feature X? Boss : That would be tricky because we use UDP so we don't know if data is lost. When in fact we use TCP, not UDP. My boss does this ...	Or email an apology and outline a solution cc'ing the boss. The boss (assuming he is competent) will change his methods on his own after a few 'heads up'.
Is it okay to ask the notice period of future employer I have a new Job offer and I don't know the notice period of the new compnany, Is it okay to ask the notice period of future employer <Q> You can always ask. <S> Personally, I would not ask. <S> Instead, I would get the job offer, accept it in principle, then revie...	If there is no notice period specified in the contract, the legal standard in your country applies. If you can get the answer without having to ask directly, that's less likely to cause problems. But asking this question will make the interviewer worry about how serious you are about this job application.
Said yes to full time employment but got a better offer I have been working with an IT company for three years now. This was in addition to my studies. For my final exam I had to do an internship. Halfway through my internship, my boss (from my job) asked if I would continue to work there after I finished my internship...	Personally, as someone who does contract/remote work I think snagging current-job as a remote work would be great.
Ask for vacation without lying or revealing unwanted information I found a new job recently and I haven't got any vacation yet that I can take. I talked to my boss already to take some vacation at the end of the month for a very good reason -to pass my Master's degree exams-. However next week I found out that my par...	You may even find that - if your job allows and you're not otherwise missing meetings or other important work events - you don't need to bother saying anything, although I don't recommend assuming that, especially when you're new.
Team is a disorganized mess vaguely resembling Scrum, manager is AWOL, team disagreements about how to implement testing, what should I do? We are an IT company and our team works for one type of products in the company. My manager currently has 9 people onsite and around 15-20 people working offshore under him. He has...	Make a team-wide statement explaining your reasoning (if you haven't already) and address their concerns.
What should I do when a telephone interview is disrupted by bad voice quality? Sometimes I have a hard time hearing everything that is said during a telephone interview. When I interview it is most commonly handled on the phone. I have noticed that I sometimes have trouble hearing the interviewer. In particular I ha...	When you realize your connection is bad, mention it to the other party and ask if you can disconnect and call again. Certain voices on telephone produces problems and it's not entirely dependent upon being foreign but just a certain quality and grade.
Employee died unexpectedly - how should I act towards the deceased's colleague? So, I work in a small company, we mostly do temporary projects for a very big company with many departments. In one of the departments, an employee died unexpectedly some weeks ago. I did not know the deceased, and only know his colleague ...	I don’t think you can go wrong by expressing sympathy for a loss like that:
Why would a company blindside everyone during a layoff? During a "downsizing" why wouldn't a companies give people 1-2 weeks notice beforehand so they have a chance to train other employees about what they were working on, say goodbye, etc? Severance pay is nice for finding a new job, but not for being able to keep in ...	To prevent malicious actions by the departing employees.
How can i get someone to stop repeating themselves? In my workplace there is a specific person who will repeat themselves over, and over.A 2-minute conversation is repeated, without adding anything, multiple times. How can I politely tell them that they literally said that under a minute ago? <Q> I can think of three ...	When they start repeat a point, put your pen on the relevant bullet point and interrupt them saying yep, got that and show them your notes.
How should a teenage girl get ready for a job hunt? I am considering doing a physical job hunt sometime today (Saturday, 6/11/16), and I am wondering if maybe I need to up my game in terms of my looks? And being as I have no real experience or marketable job skills, how should I sell my self? <Q> Relax. <S> 98% of w...	Dress "sensibly" nothing over the top, you don't need lots of make up etc. As long as you are wearing clothes and makeup that would be appropriate for the workplace you are applying for that is what is most important.
How can I seem not sketchy /what's "normal" when sharing code to company without giving them access to my server/github repo? A private company allowed me to use their API to make REST API calls (using Basic Authentication) in my application's server side. They also asked to see my implementation before I can go live. ...	Something that hasn't been covered or discussed is to simply send them an architectural diagram of how your code access these API key and secret. Obviously be sure to read any agreement they provide to make sure it is not one sided, or if your code is sufficiently valuable to you, consult a lawyer to review the agreeme...
New to Company – Potential Overbearing Peer Problem I've recently been recruited into a large organisation in the UK as part of a huge hiring drive the business has engaged in with regards to their development function. I'm a Senior Developer, and my manager is in charge of the whole department. Around 75% of the depa...	Your organization has had a huge flux of new people and you can expect that some folks aren't going to handle the situation smoothly. If anyone's code has issues, I want to make sure to show them how they can improve it in the future and teach them some tricks we might know. Since you don't yet know the lay of the land...
Starting fresh as an "old" new software engineer I'm in school right now, and in a couple of years, I'm going to look for work as a software/systems engineer. The thing is that right now, I'm 32 years old. With age being a potential issue, where is age less of an issue? What type of company/culture should be absolut...	Once you actually get the job your age will be a non-issue. Relevant experience counts for a lot, and you need some age to have amassed experience, which you seem to have.
Arranging drinks with laid off coworkers in close-knit team I work in a close-knit team of about 20 that just suffered layoffs. Some of the surviving employees and laid off employees are friends, and several survivors have suggested arranging drinks with the entire former team. Keep in mind that we were all at the same...	However in the interests of not appearing to be in open rebellion against the company you should probably keep this relatively discreet, by which I mean don't put up posters advertising the meetup, and use company email with discretion. Those let go are going to be understandably angry in the first week or so, no matte...
My manager has read out my Resignation Letter to my work colleagues, what should I do? I handed in my resignation letter due to being ill after getting knocked down by a car. I received two messages from two of my work colleagues stating that my manager had read out my resignation letter to the rest of my work shift, a...	If confidentially is a real concern, try to stay constructive: You can write a message to the people who know, let them know that this was disclosed in error, and ask them politely to keep this to themselves. You need to talk to a lawyer before any interaction with your company. You have the option of just letting this...
As an intern, is it wrong to stay silent? I'm an intern for 6 weeks as programmer (theoretically) - this is my first working experience ever and I'm unsure about a lot of things. The last 4 working days (I started on the 1st of June) were spent without ever contacting anyone, trying to make something that can be u...	By being silent you are depriving both yourself and your team of opportunities. Part of your job as an intern is to learn as much as possible, this cannot be done without communication. If you ever have some issues with the workplace working conditions - never stay silent about them, mention them in the first possible ...
Is a university 'coop' degree title worth the money? My university charges us $500/semester (three times a year) for 'co-op fee.' For this money, all the school does is help you format your resume and give basic tips on how to do well in an interview. They also find jobs related to our program and forward them to us,...	Co-op work experience will give you a leg up when you graduate. All in all, worth it IMO.
No contract extension because pregnancy? My wife, who has been in a contract role for almost a year with several extension, has been told today that her contract may not be extended after end of this month - due to contract extension issues. Her manager told this to her in the same meeting where she let her manager kn...	If your wife is truly a contract worker there is nothing that HR can do. Realistically, I think she is better off to just look for another job.
How to deal with a boss who does not get involved in any social events? Maybe this is common at most workplaces, but I find working hours to be so much longer and less fun because most of the communication between my boss and us are just about work. I have been in the team for almost 2 years. We never had any team lunc...	If you want those sorts of activities then you should start a social club or something similar. It is unrealistic to expect your boss to introduce you to everyone in the company.
Older IT worker, out of market for 2 years: What are some good approaches to get back in the field? What would be the best approach for an experienced IT professional who has been out of the market for two years and close to retirement? Specifically, how can I translate my experience and skill with older technologies ...	For more mature people a management position might be more suitable and easier to get, so look at all your options. Proficiency in SQL is always valuable.
Friend/Co-Worker isn’t a Fan of my Girlfriend Recently I have encountered a problem. I am part of a group in my workplace almost from the time I started working at my firm. We have obviously become close friends and know about not only our professional but personal lives. My problem is with one of my friends/co-group m...	No need to be rude, but definitely make it clear that you're being serious, and be prepared to escalate things, or maybe even cut social (outside-work) contact with him if his attitude persists.
Was I too aggressive with this interview question Several days ago, I interviewed a candidate as part of a team for a Info Sec. analyst position. I myself work in IT Audit. One of the questions I asked was: If management were to express disagreement or reluctance with a concern you raised, tell me how you would handl...	When asking questions in interviews it's best to structure them with a clear goal in mind, not to pose them in order to practice psychoanalysis on the interviewee, because interviews are stressful situations for some, any data you think you gained on them is suspect. I think it is a perfectly reasonable question to ask...
Is it okay to speak openly about the current job when applying to another job? So let's say I work in a company but I am open for applying to other companies. And while updating my resume I wondered if it is okay to mention the name of product that I currently work on or responsible of, or/and what does the application...	So again talk with you manager or HR to determine this. The company might allow certain things to be said like name of products but none of the details about how the product works. There are some things you do not talk about, and that's one of them.
should I continue to sit while my boss is standing & talking I dont want to make any beginner mistakes at my entry level job. I work in the fashion industry (eyewear & optics). They value professionalism. My boss comes to my desk and talks while I am browsing my computer. I read somewhere that when you talk, you shou...	May I offer an alternative: if one is available, offer your visitor a chair. In my experience -- in my culture -- folks who are only visiting your workstation briefly do not expect you to get up and may prefer to remain standing themselves. When in situations that you do not know what the proper etiquette is you look a...
How to react to manager sending me mail on my personal address? A few months ago, I decided to quit my job, resulting in 3 months notice, reduced to 1,5 months through negotiation. Things were going quite terribly as I was completely unmotivated by the work I was assigned. I kept reading my mail, answering it and worki...	What I would have done in your situation is just ignore it.
How can I politely tell a business acquaintance that their behavior is inappropriate? I met someone recently who seemed to share some of my technical interests and we started discussing doing some work together. However, after emailing back and forth a few times they added me to their email blast, which updates their "...	If you don't mind straining your relationship with this person, go to him and tell him flat out that you already are receiving too many email messages and if he could take you out of this distribution list.
I feel that I'm too dumb for my job - what am I supposed to do in this position? I am currently interning at a hardware/software company. Two months ago, I was assigned to a machine learning project that I am extremely interested in. It's relatively math intensive, which is great because I love math. In addition, by th...	It sounds like you're doing great, but it might be useful for reassurance to get your supervisor to confirm that you are meeting expectations - or indeed exceeding them.
Should I leave two short term jobs off of my resume? I have only just graduated University and plan on attending graduate school. In the past I've held part-time positions, and some of them only lasted a few months. Mostly this is because they were not willing to work with my school schedule and I had a major that requ...	There are several advantages to leaving the jobs on your resume at this time, some of which have already been discussed in other answers and comments:
Should I bring my age into account when enquiring about a job? I am a student who is going to move to Melbourne, Australia (from Cairns, Australia), when I am in Melbourne I hope to get a job as a website developer. I have a reasonably large amount of experience in the area (I've been working for a local web developmen...	The best you can do is to know how much the paid someone of your age and show you worth more.
Compensating a recruitment agency for their unreciprocated efforts Currently I am concluding a period of several weeks of going through job offers and interviews in order to find a new job. During this time, I was assisted by several recruitment agencies. All of the agencies did a good job in my view, but one of them ...	I would send them a polite letter (or e-mail) stating that you have accepted another job offer (don't go into more specifics than that) and appreciate their time and effort in trying procure a job for you.
Taking a contractor job just once-off? TL;DR Is it reasonable to do contract work for a single job between full-time jobs when I don't yet know much about what contract work involves, or is it something that requires more time and investment? I'm a software developer, or at least I was until the company I worked for ...	If you're struggling to find a full time permanent position right now, then contract might be the only way you can survive financially. To answer your actual question, I would say it's reasonable, if you are following some simple rules. So get a very clear idea of what is needed to complete the project, make sure both ...
how do I make it clear when applying for a job that I'm willing and able to relocate at very short notice? I've previously mentioned that I was considering looking for new jobs for x and y (not relevant to this question) reasons. I'm applying for jobs in State A since I used to live there, and I can very well move ove...	I suggest you clarify the language in your cover letter that you are willing to relocate to the new location at your own expense (if you haven't).
Should I tell potential future employers I am in love? I am a computer programmer and I live in a mid-sized city. A year ago, I started making plans to find a better job and move out. About 3 months ago, just as my dream job was coming into focus, I met someone and fell in love. I'm not an impulsive person and neither ...	You tell them that you are looking for a position in or very close to your home town for strong personal reasons. I wouldn't say "I'm in love" directly. I can say with confidence that if you let them know the reason for staying is because of a relationship, it will impress them with your honesty and give them confidenc...
Downsides of Unemployment Benefits I was recently laid off from my job as a software developer at startup in California because the startup no longer had funding to pay myself and most other employees. I've managed to find and accept an offer at another company but wont be paid until the 15th of next month. I will be u...	I'm not in California, so your mileage may vary, but here in Michigan, you can file a claim the first day you're unemployed (assuming you were not terminated for cause) and you will receive benefits on schedule.
Should I try for a counter-counter offer? I work for Tech Firm A, and was recently contacted by Tech Firm B. Firm B has made me a fairly nice offer. I was planning to accept it, even though it means moving. My plan had been to accept and make sure everything was settled before informing my manager at Firm A. However, ...	Accept Firm B's offer and leave Firm A ; never play the counter offer game, I would strongly recommend you do If both parties seem quite budget-constrained and your upside is probably only within the single-digit percentages, it seems the downside risks outweigh the upside.
Boss is expressing concern about my happiness at work I work in tech at a medium-sized company. My team is in the middle of a very frustrating project. The project has been emotionally draining and the end keeps slipping further into the future. In the past I argued that this project wasn't a good investment of our te...	To me the basic problem is that you're in a role you don't feel suitable for, or perhaps ready for. The physical act of smiling at problems makes the burden lighter and lessens frustration. Long term though, if you decide to stay with the company, taking the pressure in your stride will give you a huge rep boost.
Asking prospective employer about side job after an offer? I have a side job that takes about 1-2 hours a week, and I enjoy it. I've been offered a full-time position at a company and would like to keep my side job (which does not compete even remotely in the same arena). Do I ask if this is OK during negotiations? Or...	Under no circumstances should you mention your hobby until you have a final employment contract in your hands. Yes, ask about this during the negotiation step after you've received an offer. What you do in your own time, outside of your company industry is entirely up to you.
How bad can be a bad review among a lot of good ones As part of a recruitment process, the recruiter asked me for references after the interview. However, I only have one previous work experience, which is also my current job (first one since I left school). I don't want to publicly advertise that I'm considering leavi...	Consider getting a review from some an employer that had given you a part time job whilst you were in school.
How to deal with variable pay as a developer? I am going to sign a new contract in a start-up. As we discussed the pay, they warned me a part of the pay was variable. They intend to pay it all the time and partly or totally remove it in case of professional fault, to paraphrase their wording. They implemented this afte...	When an employee doesn't perform up to the expected levels, the business can let that person go but in most Western countries, it's not legal to not to pay the salary.
How can I appear more professional/serious at meetings? I do some sales meetings with usually IT people and facility directors in local schools, etc. I usually go with just my boss, who is a older man. The people we meet with tend to address him, though I will chime in and take over at any opportunity I have - I have b...	If you're leading the pitch and providing the information and so on, it's easier to show your stuff. Often, I might have counterpoints or thoughts of missed opportunities/strategies that we could incorporate into future meetings. It also helps if you're talking the clients' language.
I'm quite unprofessional outside job environment. Can it be an issue? My work life and my personal life has huge differences. People I know here seem to be much more calm and both in personality and in their hobbies. Don't get me wrong: I can talk about non-work related things with them - like soccer and such. The t...	But even if you can't find someone with the exact same interests as you, I've found that most friends will show polite interest in anything as long as you can make it interesting to them. You need to assess whether or not you are too unprofessional - and if so what you will do about it. It's best to go with your guts o...
What do I write a goodbye email to a team, when the team is the reason the I'm leaving my job? I've been in my position for only 5 months (4 total years at the company), and I have found new employment. My last day is in a week, and I'm drafting a goodbye email to my team to let them know. (I gave notice to my manager ...	Pick a person you feel close to, maybe one of those millennials that feel the same way you do, once you tell them it will spread to the rest of the team.
How should I change my plan in order to find an entry job, after graduating already? Here's my background: 1) Went to community college for 2 years. Graduated with a high GPA. 2) Transferred to university and earned my BSc in Computer Science. 3) During my 2 years at university, I did unpaid work for a business and ...	Start at the small, crappy tech jobs, and work your way up.
It is rude to ask for a reply only via email when applying to a job? I'm job going to send out some resumes to apply for several software developer position. In my resume there is my mobile phone but I'd rather be reached via email, should I tell them explicitely or just remove my mobile phone from my resume? I am as...	I think you should provide, both email and phone in your resume, and state the preferred mode of communication as email and availability hours for telephonic communication.
Feel like my area is understaffed. What to say to management? My company asks me to do a wide variety of things, across multiple applications and multiple skill sets. For example, they will ask me to do customer support, technical support, design and art assets, business analysis, and programming between three separate...	Ask your manager to prioritize. Bring in the help you need in order to properly support the software.
Resign because company joint venture with other company? Is it a common thing that a company joint venture with other company in certain division will result some of employees under that division to resign? <Q> Most joint ventures I have seen actually employ more staff at both ends because it's extra work. <S> I have s...	Usually the few that would quit are people that are unsuitable anyway. Or if the work was just so different that they feel they can't learn it and the joint venture was at the expense of other jobs they were doing, rather than extra to them. This is a highly variable question. There are very few circumstances I can thi...
Is it common and appropriate to "throttle" an auditor? I know auditing is done to help the company improve. I work at a software company, and I overheard my boss saying that he knows how to handle an auditor by giving extremely long and time consuming answers to any small question the auditor asks. The auditor was doin...	The auditor is there to help your company comply with reasonable rules. It is unethical, and depending on what is being audited for may put the company in serious legal jeopardy, to deliberately make their job more difficult.
Dealing with boss and his request to (male) employees including myself, how to handle this right? I work for a small firm here in Minnesota; only 30 people work there. Well, 27 men, 3 women. I[m a 37 year old guy, married, to my wife, 34, with a 14 year old daughter in highschool. Our boss (a dude in his 50s) sent a c...	There's nothing you can do about his antics, just ignore them.
How can I (being lower on my dept's ladder) respectfully tell a 3rd party salesman to wait? I work for a three-person team, and recently we've undergone a project where we are looking for a certain type of software product. Due to the nature of the product, it's a very expensive and therefore a long-winded search and p...	Get together with your team and decide when you'll have a decision by; it's only fair to the salespeople to have a timescale.
Intentional Suggestion as Warning I just got a new job in a different city in a state with at-will employment at a very small company. My first day at work, a colleague who is close to my boss messages me suggesting a sublet/room that only lasts for two months. I was looking for places for the long run. Is it possibl...	This is just a guess, but I think you're reading way too much into this .
How can I best respond to "reasonable" personal questions from co-workers? I am engaged, but we are not planning to get married for at least a couple years, for our own financial reasons which I don't feel like explaining. I work in a fairly small and close workplace where people are friendly, and the word Fiancee inev...	Another option is to be honest, but limited "when we can afford to". A response to "When are you getting married" of "Meh, we haven't set a date and are happy how we are" is more that sufficient for any casual coworker or boss. Just say neither of you are in a rush, and there's no particular reason. If you want to evad...
How to interview a candidate from a different industry or area of expertise? I haven't found a similar question, but if there is one, my apologies. Let's say I need to interview someone for a role which is not in my area of expertise (not even in the same industry), and there's nobody else in the company who knows abo...	Get someone in to help with the interviews.
How to politely decline a job responsibility? I'm looking for some advice on how to say no to a recent temporary role I've been forced into taking. Recently, I was asked to take the position of 'lead' on a project management position which I politely rejected. Unfortunately, my name was still assigned to this position...	Sometimes the best course of action is to accept the responsibility, and get it over with quickly.
How to negotiate for reduction of travel at new job? I recently moved to a new city with my husband, and we live about 20 minutes outside of town. I was thrilled to get a job offer that had great pay/benefits and has a main office in our new city (they have multiple locations). During my first interview, I was told th...	Convey that you have a strong desire to hold the position, but that you simply cannot do so given the commute and your initial agreement to work in the city.

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