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989 | 1,578.687823 | 7 | 0 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I've had some degree of depression for a long time. Longer than this damn pandemic. I've always been a homebody but not leaving the house at all for almost three months was a lot. A lot has happened over the past year and I'm not sure how to handle it all. I feel alone even when there are people around. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Okay. How are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Trying to be positive about the dumpster fire of 2020 lol, but positivity is kind of hard to maintain wouldn't you say?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It really, really is. Things just pile up, you know?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Totally! It's hard to plan for success when life seems a bit uncertain. Is there anything in particular that's bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's a combination of things. I have no idea what I'm doing most days, just kind of going through the motions. Kind of like Groundhog Day, repeating the same day over and over with slightly different variations. Trying to get things done and taken care of, thinking I'm doing my best and feeling like it's never good enough. Feeling like I'm failing all the time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah yes, the cog in the machine sort of vibe. Boy do I feel that. Well, the good thing is your not alone. The bad thing is societal pressure demands that we be productive or we think we're wasting time. When's the last time you took a day to enjoy something you like to do?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It's been a long time since I did that, I can't even remember when", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't get many opportunities like that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What activity or activities are you thinking about? Anything that you enjoy or makes you smile.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Anything really. I have two kids, neither of which is in school yet so they're with me all the time. It's very rare that I have someone to watch them for me so I can do....anything by myself. One of my good friends got married recently and my parents watched them for me so I could go to her bachelorette party and wedding without them. That was the first time I'd gone anywhere without them in....over a year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah weddings, did you have fun?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I did. I had a really good time. It was weird being out without them, but it was fun", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Nice! Well, two kids is A LOT, especially since they aren't in school yet. You are dealing with the care and growth of the most complex organism on this planet...times two! That's incredible. First of all, give yourself a pat on the back for that. Secondly, is it ok if i ask if you felt guilty for having fun without them? Often times guilt robs us of the ability to take care of ourselves, which happens to me all the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'm working on that but I feel guilty wanting time to myself to do things", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's a systemic problem. Guilt is this powerful check when we do things that are wrong but self love is not wrong. When you constantly take care of others, you might forget to take care of yourself. We are only able to give the best version of ourselves when we feel validated. Perhaps there is a daycare or at home assistance program that will help give you the time to remember how great you are! Do you have some friends or close relatives that can talk with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Not really. They're all dealing with they're own issues", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you asked them? I don't mean to be rude, but I have trouble asking for help and sometimes asking people for help seems like this huge, monumental task. But people can often surprise you. Of course, If you have, then I'd suggest looking up some motivational apps and trying meditation. While it can be hard with two young kids, meditation, even for only a few minutes, will help you relax through your doubt long enough to handle the challenges of the day. When you say you feel like your failing, do you think it is because you hold yourself a standard that is hard to reach?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't and I guess I'm a pleaser. I always wanna make sure everyone around me is okay and has everything they need and I do have trouble asking for help. Not that I don't think I need it, I just feel guilty asking.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "3", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,079 | 1,571.198579 | 7 | 1 | 2 | fear | breakup with partner | My partner left me for another woman and I simply can't get over it | [{"text": "Hi there, I really need someone to talk to right now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My partner ran off with another woman and I simply cannot get over it. Why did he do this to me?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry to hear that, that is really rough. He sounds like a real jerk if you ask me!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know he could be at times and he did have a roving eye but I loved him and I miss him a huge amount, despite everything.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I get that, it's hard to understand why the people close to us do bad things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I think the biggest problem is that I keep wondering what his new girlfriend is like and if she is prettier or cleverer than me. I do not know what I did wrong.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You did nothing wrong. It's something wrong with him, if he did this to you, he'll probably do it again to her. Do you really want to be with someone that disregards your well being like that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "That is a very sensible way to look at things .. I do rationally realise that. Irrationally I just want him to come back to me and say that he made a mistake, though!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, it's easy to get sucked back into the nostalgic good memories of when things were at their best", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's exactly it! I keep thinking of all the good times we had together and the things that we did before her met Her. I just want those times to come around again even though I know they should not.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It really sucks, doesn't it? And it's not a walk in the park to get over someone when you've been so close to them. Breakups are kind of like a bad cut. They really hurt for a bit, but then a scar eventually forms over it and you start to forget about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you - you are really helping me to understand how I am feeling. I think that perhaps the scar never goes away but yes, hopefully it will not hurt anymore one day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have a group of friends, or activities to keep you busy while you're going through this? It helps to keep your mind distracted :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "And you are so welcome! I've been through my share of breakups too, it's never fun!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I do have some good friends but we also had some mutual friends who have been a bit distant with me since the break up. I guess that I really don't need them though, huh?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Friends come and they go, it doesn't have to be a game of choosing sides. Keep in touch with those that keep in touch with you. Or maybe reach out to some other friends you haven't connected with in awhile.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is good advice too. Or maybe I could do something to help me make new friends? Do you have any suggestions?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Totally! It helps to get into group activities, like hiking to going to the gym, or a book club.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do love to read - I think that I will totally look into joining a book club. I would really like to meet new people, not to date specifically but just to be friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you so very much for having talked to me - I do feel a good deal more positive now. I know that there is a long way to go but I think that I can see the light now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome! I hope you feel better and have a great night!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "you too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
787 | 1,571.083239 | 6 | 1 | 3 | sadness | breakup with partner | 7 weeks ago, my lover and I decided to stop having an affair. | [{"text": "Hi, I am having a tough time processing a correct decision today", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good morning. What type of decision is troubling you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "A few weeks ago, my lover and I decided to stop our affair. It is the right choice for him because he feels he should work on his marriage. I admire that, yet It is very lonely for me right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand the feeling lonely would make you feel your decision was wrong but from an outsiders view, it was not a healthy relationship if he was already committed to someone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "You deserve something better. Someone dedicated to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It was a fantastic experience. we were together for 3 years. I am not mad at him, he's a good guy. He was separated when we met. But as all life, it's complicated", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand. I have been in your shoes before. I learned a lot and found out more about myself in the growing experience after the relationship ended. I'm sure there was some positives even with you at the end of the relationship now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Each person is put in our life for a reason or season. This may just be the stepping stone to finding your soul mate. The perfect relationship won't feel so tricky in the long run and will make you feel on top of the world!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, I had my eyes wide open during the process and he and I were very open with our communication. I can see lots of blessings but I am just so sad. Each day is a challenge to focus", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can't imagine a relationship right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like you really but your heart in to this and I'm sure it hurts. No need to rush relationship. Falling back in love with yourself is the key first. Finding your inner happiness will make the next relationship that much better and stronger!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Treat yourself to a few solo dates to find joy in the day to day life you are now building without him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have heard the idea of dating ones self", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I haven't been out to eat for over a year due to the pandemic situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can be fun! No decisons on who wants to go where. It is all about you enjoying the moment and your own company!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No need to go out if you feel uncomfortable. Find a movie you have been wanting to watch and order some take out! Or do some online shopping while enjoying your favorite dessert or adult beverage!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "During this time with the affair, I had the strength to leave a narcissistic spouse that abused me emotionally. I am proud of myself for that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a lot to handle! I am proud of you for that as well! No one ever deserves to be abused. Some solo time to rebuild your independance may do you wonders and give you back your strength and self confidence! Seems like the past year has been emotionally draining.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It has been. You are right about me focusing on solo time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you know yourself better than anyone else and are about to leap in to a new chapter of your life. You received lessons from both the past relationships and can take that forward knowing what you wish for and deserve.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Thank you for letting me talk about this. It is a touchy topic, affairs. My heart was so loved during that time but I always told him that if he needed me to step back, I would. It has been difficult on both of us.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Being a parent, having the families meshed together, homes, work, etc.... I can understand why he feels he should try again.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes talking about why you are feeling is the best way to find closure. Keep the memories of the love and good times but know that in the end you were destined for something so much more. As adults we try so often to find happiness in others. He is a good person for wanting to try to resolve the situation for his family but that does not mean he did not love you or that your relationship was not a bright spot in his life as it was yours. I'm sure he is hurting too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thank you so much for saying that. It really means a lot to me and grounds me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you are correct, that I need to move forward for me. I deserve it. That's a concept I have been learning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You deserve peace through this transition. It will take some time but I think you will come out even stronger and happier on the long run. Journaling may be a great outlet for your emotions as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thank you for that idea. He was my muse in that relationship and I would write beautiful stories and poetry for him. Writing out my journey to the next stage of my life would be beneficail", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think so! It may also let you heal while building your creativity even more! You seem like a very passionate and loving person.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "You made me heart smile... thank you.. !! I am glad that I got to speak with you today!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are so very welcome! You were a pleasure to talk to and I wish you all the best! Let this year be YOUR year!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
678 | 1,568.674522 | 8 | 0 | 2 | sadness | breakup with partner | My boyfriend cheated in me and then broke up with me after I told him that I knew what he did. | [{"text": "I am having a deep sense of sadness after the break up with my boyfriend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like crying all the time and I feel like the sadness will never end.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have sense of overwhelming sadness as if my heart is sinking or like I am on a sinking ship. I wake up in the middle of the night and I am gasping for air, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for sharing that with me. I'm so sorry you've been feeling like that. Breakups are so hard and can cause so much grief.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I feel like I will never meet anyone else and that I wasted so much time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know those feelings of sadness can feel like they will never end- I have felt that way too before.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do you feel like the best part of your life was over? That is how I feel now. Its seem like all of my plans for the future are over and ruined.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But they do pass eventually and become easier to manage- with time and care. Do you have anyone in your life, a friend or family member who you can lean on when you're feeling so sad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have a best friend but she told me that she didn't like my boyfriend from the beginning so she is glad that we broke up. Well, that I got dumped.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like it's hard to have your best friend not be as supportive as you want during this hard time. What has been helping you to pass the time these days- do you have any activities or hobbies that you like to do to relax, have fun, or take your mind of things?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have been wanting to buy a bike and start taking my dog out for little bike rides. I want to get one with a basket and have her sit in the front. I just hate being alone and I feel so sad about doing everything alone now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a great idea. I love taking walks and bike rides outside when I feel down. I also have a little dog and she helps me whenever I'm feeling lonely- dogs are great at providing comfort and unconditional love.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I just bought my puppy and she is super comforting. I think that because she was a recuse dog I feel a greater attachment. It is kind of nice having her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My dog has also helped me meet other people and make friends- sometimes I'll walk my dog with others or go on bike rides with friends. If there is a dog park or local park nearby, maybe you can go and talk to other people there- talking about your dogs is a great icebreaker!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know about a local dog park and think I will visit it today. That is a really good idea. I don't need a bike for that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear that! I hope you have a great time there! Research has also shown that spending time outside everyday is really good for our mental health.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "You are giving me something to think about that isn't related to the break up. I feel like a weight is sort of lifting off of me. I think I needed to talk and get some of my feelings on the table today.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you are still interested in getting a bike, I'd say go for it too! Biking is a great stress relief and form of exercise that often makes me feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I am so glad to hear that and am so happy you are talking to me is making you feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I really want to get one but since I don't have a lot of money right now I will waitr on that and go to the dog park instead. I also heard about yoga iin the park.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Those are both great ideas! Yoga in the park sounds awesome. Yoga is another great stress reliever and form of exercise that is often free or very inexpensive.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I am feeling like life still goes on and things are going on all around me. I am going to start seeing whats out there and trying to join in a little bit more. My dog is opening a door for me and with your encouragement too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am very glad to hear that. Is there anything else I can help you with today? I am here to listen.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I was thinking about reading self help books or journaling but I was so down on myself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Reading and journaling are also great tools to use. Even when you are feeling down it can be helpful to write down your feelings as a form of release.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you for all of your support and understanding today. I am going to journal and then head to the dog park and get some fresh air.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a great plan. Good luck and I hope you continue to feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you again for being a wonderful listener and better friend than my best one.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're very welcome.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
687 | 1,568.137371 | 7 | 0 | 3 | anger | problems with friends | My friend created a separate chat for planning hangouts and did not include me. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Kind of angry and disappointed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm very sorry to hear that, did something not go as planned recently?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My friend created a group chat for planning activities and did not include me. She included people who are closer to me than to her. Almost like she is trying to steal my friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. So when she did this, it gave you the feeling of almost being replaced or abandoned by your own social circle?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "In a way. I was disappointed by the rest of them but mostly angry at her. It almost feels like she wants to be the leader of the group and feels like I am her competition.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's definitely frustrating to feel that your support system could possibly become a source of stress and competition anxiety. Especially since it's where we're supposed to feel safe and unjudged.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Exactly. They are supposed to be the people I can go to with my problems. Now I feel like they all had a secret which I wasn't privy to and it made me feel disconnected and untrusting towards them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds that you're a person who really does care about keeping the relationships they've invested in healthy and open. That care level can definitely cause natural anxiousness in situations like this, when the place you stand with them and what they're thinking suddenly feels uncertain.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am a bit of an idealist. I like for everyone to be in harmony, to be nice, supportive, caring, open and honest. I don't know how to move on from this.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, and there are endless possibilites the mind can create outside of ideal. But funnily enough, the imagination of an idealist that lets them visualize great things can also create equally strong fears before getting answers. And thankfully those fears can be addressed outside of the head where they're made.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Have you tried reaching out to these friends yourself and initiating your own plan with them since this group chat?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I talked about it with one friend. He felt bad but what I couldn't understand why he was secretive about the chat too. If he thought we were close why hide stuff?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, it can seem a bit confusing since you naturally would expect to feel comfortable with so much between each other already.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do you think it is asking too much on my part?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "On the contrary, I think you might not be allowing yourself to ask enough!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Sometimes, the people who are closest to us can actually become even more anxious about how something might affect your feelings. It could be the case with him too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Sometimes I question if it is even worth talking to them about it. People often don't want to say what they really think. Instead they just say whatever to avoid confrontation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Some people express themselves best through their actions. Have you tried suggesting a meeting for something you'd usually do to see if they're willing to hang out just as always?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh I know they would. I don't hang out as much as they all do so that is probably why I wasn't included in the chat. But I didn't see the harm of me being in it even if I couldn't make it to most events. I guess it's the secrecy that bothers me. It makes me a bit paranoid about what else do they all know that I don't.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
867 | 1,567.418206 | 6 | 0 | 4 | sadness | ongoing depression | My mom died almost 2 years ago. Due to anxiety, i have a long term boyfriend but no other friends so i was pretty close with my mom. i miss her desperately | [{"text": "I know she would want me to be happy, but i don't feel joy anymore", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. Sometimes it's hard to find joy. When do you think you starting feeling this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Almost 2 years ago. I'm so lonely without her", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes, finding joy can be difficult. Especially when what we always turned to for joy is gone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But we can find comfort in little things. Is there something you have that gives you comfort? Even the smallest thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "When she was alive I felt like she was keeping me alive because i didn't want to put her through the pain of killing myself", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel good for a few minutes at a time but then it all seems pointless", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I believe we all have purpose in this life. I know that it's hard to live with-out the ones we hold dearly. I think a way we can keep them alive in our hearts is to pass on the good things about they did for us to others.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You hit the nail on the head. I struggle to find purpose for my life. I have no kids & my anxiety keeps me from reaching out to people.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel the same way, I get anxious around others as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Maybe little steps are the best way. Sometimes all someone needs is a smile, even when we can't find our own, we can give one to others.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Everytime I convince myself to seek professional help I fool myself into believing that this will finally be the time I will be able to fix myself. Of course I haven't yet", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I admit it has helped to be online & see that so many other people share my \"symptoms\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's always hard to make that next step, but I believe you're closer than you think.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I hope I hurry up. I feel like i'm wasting precious time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can't imagine ever feeling close enough to someone to call them a friend. I wish i could learn to love my solitude more", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are not alone and you are right, time is precious, but it's okay to take to to grieve. Grief is a part of healing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It would be nice if as humans we could be more evolved to the point that death wouldn't hurt so much as it is a part of life. My mom was an art teacher & I like to be crafty. After she died i started \"A Tribute to Mom: 1000 Acts of Art\" I'm at #544", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And that feels good & hurts at the same time", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}} |
712 | 1,566.04804 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | My daughter was hit by a car and I'm having depression over it. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hi my name is Lisa, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm struggling to make it through the day. My daughter was hit by a car in September and the traumatic experience is weighing heavy on my brain.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it sounds like you are feeling troubled after your daughter's car accident am I right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Troubled would not be the word I would use, but it wasn't a car accident. She was hit by a car in the street outside of my house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She was coming home from school. She is only 5.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that sounds like it would be a very traumatic experience, it's no wonder this is hard for you, it would be hard for anyone in this situation", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How would you use to describe your feelings about this accident?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I would say that I am anxious all the time. She survived, but she had some serious injuries after. I feel like a part of me died that day, the part that thought I could protect her no matter what. I would say that I'm also feeling ashamed because it was out of my control.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are dealing with a lot...it is normal to feel anxious about it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Is that how you would feel?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and it's hard not to blame ourselves, but please remember this was outside your control", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank you for saying that. I quit my job to focus on her healing, and i don't want to go back to work now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have not experienced anything like this to be honest....the closest I can recall is encouraging my daughter to do something, and then she got hurt, and I blamed myself and felt like a bad mother", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "how is your daughter doing now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She is healing well, she has a moderate TBI (traumatic brain injury) so there is still so much uncertainty. It sucks to blame ourselves for things that happen to our kids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "the fact that you felt the need to quit your job shows how deeply this has affected you...do you miss your work?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No. And I'm completely dreading going back to work. I wish I could somehow get paid to exist so that I can just stay home with my daughter all day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it sounds like you need to be with your daughter all day but also need the income that work would afford, am i right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "YES. And if you can figure out how to make that happen I'll give you 10% of the salary lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hehe...0% is all I'd ask for...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "how about part time work would that be possible for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've been looking for a remote part time job that has pay equivalent to a full time job. Apparently, that's not a thing.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i see...I would not know how to find such a job, i've often thought that would be a great thing to do..", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i have a question", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "What's your question.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is there a friend or family member that can spend time with your daughter so it's easier to get back to maybe a part time job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't have a family. Just my daughter, and my boyfriend who lives in Australia that can't come here due to Covid restrictions. She does see her Dad everyday, but the part time hours I would need would have to be flexible and no company is even really hiring part time at the moment from what I can tell.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. I wonder if you have spoken to a doctor about how you feel? Struggling to get through the day must be so difficult. I wonder if it might be helpful to get screened for depression", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have a psychiatrist and a therapist that I have been working with. Their solution is medication which I am extremely against.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
795 | 1,564.845927 | 6 | 0 | 4 | sadness | breakup with partner | My (ex)fiancé and I recently broke up, but we're still spending a great deal of time together, and we both say we're not sure if our relationship is 100% "done" and agreed to tell each other if we start dating other people. He said he doesn't want to see anyone else, but I came over one night to find him with a woman. It was their third date. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well, my fiance and I \"sort of\" broke up recently. I moved out of our place and all, but we continued to see each other at least 3X per week. And we both said we're not 100% sure that we're ok with us being done for good. - We promised to tell each other if we start dating anyone. He said he wasn't interested in dating. Three days after that conversation, I come over unexpectedly to find him making dinner for a woman I've never seen before. Turns out it was his 3rd date with her. He met her on a dating app a week before our conversation about promising to tell each other if we start dating others.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry that happened. Are you mostly hurt because he didn't tell you he was seeing somebody else?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "To be honest, I'd still be hurt if he told me. But now on top of that hurt, I feel disrespected... and everything I thought I knew about him is kind of crushed. We were together 6 years, and I always, ALWAYS believed he was the most honest, kind, \"stand up guy\" I've ever known.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You must feel really torn up about it. I can tell that you care about your relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes, that's true. The worst part is that he doesn't seem to think I have a right to be hurt. How do I even deal with someone who hurt me but doesn't care to take any responsibility whatsoever?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe he didn't intend to hurt you. Its not like he invited you over to tease you. It is true that he didn't keep his promise, and that's his fault.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's true. He didn't invite me over. I expected him to be at work that night. I was coming over to see our cats, which still all lived with him. I still had a key and it didn't occur to me that I could invade his privacy since I had been spending 3X a week with him, and he was fine with me using the key. The whole thing was a shock. I wouldn't have come in had I known what I'd find inside.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That would definitely add to the distress of the situation to have a weird surprise like that. It doesn't really seem like your fault that you were there but it is unfortunate nonetheless. Have you tried talking to h im yet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah. It's a long story to explain here, but at first he told me it was a first date... then he said it was a second date... then finally he said it was a third date. I had to figure out on my own that he met her through a dating app, which makes me feel extra icky because now I kind of feel like a stalker. (Don't worry, I didn't do anything illegal or immoral to figure this out at all. He left an easy breadcrumb trail for me to follow.... but it still feels gross that I felt compelled to research the situation because I could \"feel\" he was lying.)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's ok, you have a vested interest in this person. It is natural to be interested in such things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes. I'm not only invested in him. I have a SUPER close relationship with his two daughters. Some of the reason he wanted to see me after our \"break up\" is because he didn't want to tell his daughters that I might be out of their lives forever. He told me so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And I love those girls so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They're 13 and 16. They were 7 and 11 when I started seeing their dad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There are a lot of therapists out there that might be able to help you navigate this. It's OK to get some outside help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That's a good suggestion. I think individual therapy might benefit me. I could ask him if he's open to couple's counseling--even if it's over, it could help with closure.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Considering how much time you've put in to this relationship, I can tell you have a lot of feelings about all of this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I do. I appreciate your talking the time to listen to me. Sometimes just talking about an issue can help organize one's feelings and thoughts.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Really, it is no problem. It helps to let it out sometimes, I feel that. Make sure you take care of your own needs before starting to smooth things over.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is good advice. I haven't been eating or sleeping as well as I should since this all started. I'll work on that. --- Thank you so much for your time and help and kindness. :) I wish you a great weekend!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks and you too, stay strong!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you!!! Take good care, stranger. I sincerely wish you the very best. <3", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Fare thee well sweetheart, best indeed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
441 | 1,563.619006 | 5 | 1 | 4 | sadness | problems with friends | My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared. | [{"text": "Hi! How are you today/", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Doesn't it? So you understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You can feel so helpless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think it helps him if I do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How did your mom do?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you don't mind my asking.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's just felt like a lot.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes! Definitely.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He's been a lifesaver.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Even though puppies are crazy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Now just need to get through this week.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I really appreciate you saying that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's true! i hope this has been helpful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Crying can be therapeutic so that's good!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I should take a bath and cry now! Thank you so much. You've been a true help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have a nice holiday, if you're here in the States.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too! hAppy thanksgiving!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Take care.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
282 | 1,559.646549 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | ongoing depression | I have to give up my parrot because I am now blind and have to move. I cant take teh parrot with me. | [{"text": "Hi, can I help you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have had my babu for 15 years and have to give him up. He is a parrot and so used to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that. You have probably become very attached after that long, I can imagine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I am worried that he wont be taken care of. I am worried that he wont be happy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I cook for him and take him outside. I grow fruit so he can eat it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can I ask why you have to give him up? Do you have any other pets?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "NO other pets. I have gone leaglly blind, had to give up driving. I have to move to a condo from a single famuly home. He is too loud to live in a condo.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are a very good caretaker for your parrot. You have given him a lot of specialized care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Going blind is bad enough, giving up driving was teh worst. But giving up my parrot is really hard.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I did baby him, he can go outside through the dggie door. He gets fresh fruit, spaghettie, He has his own Alexa.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have been the best you could be for him and it has got to feel really sad to let him go. It can feel like a death sometimes when you lose someone or a pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "If he died it would be OK, I would mourn him and move on. But I have never had to give up a pet before. I just think most people. wont take care of him like I do. Because he is still alive, I will worry about him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand a little bit of how you feel. My dog died recently and it was really hard when the vet had to put him down. I was really sad and would cry when I thought of him ort the things we used to do together.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yes, I was depressed for 6 months after my parrot died, but eventually we move on. I dont know that I can move on after giving him up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Would you ever consider getting a pet that is not as loud? I am not suggesting that you replace him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No, except a seeing dog", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am concerned that if you don't have a pet to care for you may have a more difficult time to recover and thrive. Mourning is a process and it might be easier if you can hare your ;love with another pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "No other pets. I need to move and cannot take him with me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A seeing eye dog is a great idea. You are trying to think of ways to help yourself and that is really important. You are also reaching out and sharing your feelings. Do you have any friends with pets that you can visit with from time to time?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It isn't about a new pet it is about worrying that he will not be taken care of.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I contacted a rescue place to get him a new home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry that makes a lot of sense. I am really thankful that you are sharing your feelings and expressing them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Contacting a rescue place has helped me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Rescue centers usually make people apply to adopt to insure a good home for them. You have made him into a wonderful pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think that will be best for him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for listening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome. You are doing what is right and i am proud of you for listening to your heart and providing the best all these years.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time today and please come back whenever you need to talk. I am happy to listen and do my best.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,144 | 1,559.452152 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | My husband quit his job to stay home with our teenage son who is very difficult and has been in legal trouble. My husband feels like it is important for him to be home more but this is putting a financial strain on us and our son is causing a lot of emotion conflict. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello, I am looking for help in managing some depression.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You've come to a good place to start.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Is there something in particular that is leaving you feeling depressed?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am feeling resentful towards my husband for quitting his job, and my son for being the reason that he quit his job.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My son's behavior is causing a lot of conflict in our house and my husband not working is putting a lot of financial stress on us", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. Feeling resentment for both your husband's loss of work and your son's loss of his job is entirely understandable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I have a hard time not dwelling on the negative things going on. It's hard to see anything positive or feel hopeful for the future.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have an adult son who also lost his job recently, and I understand the added stress that can cause in your household.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That is a really difficult position to be in.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "My son is very defiant and argues with us about everything we try and get him to do, but he expects us to give him money for fun things that he wants to do when he isn't willing to work or even help out around the house", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Regardless of what your husband's actions are and your son's, could you possibly make the time to do things to support yourself, that even momentarily would provide you with some positive feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I try to go for a run every night, that does help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very hard emotionally, so I am sorry you have to deal with your son's behavior.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is hard to keep my emotions separate from what is going on with him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very understandable! Setting boundaries for yourself may help. Even when it's difficult, being clear with your son that you will not be giving him money could help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Sometimes being clear with your own expectations can help him to see what won't be accepted from him as long as he is living in your home.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, I could do better at that. I want him to have fun and do things with friends, but I want him to be willing to work for what he wants, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do struggle with expectations. I want him to be someone that he is not willing to be, I need to let go of that and just let him be himself and not base my emotions on his choices.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand that. Especially when it comes to people we are close to, it can be hard to separate our expectations from theirs.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I feel guilty sometimes taking time to do things that I like and that are away from my family. I can see that I need to do that more, though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've had to learn this lesson many times with my own children. It's difficult, but ultimately will give you some relief from your resentment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thank you, it is helpful to know that other people have felt the same way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely! Being a parent is difficult. Remembering to support yourself helps. Making the time to do things to support your wellbeing doesn't make you selfish at all", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are certainly not alone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Has any of this been helpful? Is there more I can do for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
546 | 1,559.304878 | 7 | 2 | 1 | fear | Issues with Children | I fear my child is in bad company. Recently his behavior has changed to the worst. I don't know how to approach the issue. | [{"text": "Hello my name is Sharon, how are you today? :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi Sharon. Am good just concerned about my son.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I see. What's happening with your son?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I suspect my son is in bad company. His most recent behaviour is so different from what I am used to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that's hard to deal with. My daughter ran with a bad crowd for a while and I remember the deep worry.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What sort of behaviour are you noticing? How old is he?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My son is 15. Recently he's keeping to himself and mostly stays locked in his room. He barely allows anyone in.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And when you try and talk to him about it what does he say?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "He says he's studying online. But I suspect he's doing other stuff online apart from study", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I see. Apart from isolating how is he doing otherwise, like at school? Is he still seeing his friends at all?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It can be scary not knowing what our kids are up to online.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Not really. He just has this one particular friend who comes over sometimes and they lock themselves in the room.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hmm. So a lot of mystery. I can understand you being worried. Is he your only child?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I am so scared I don't want to confront him I have always tried to show him how much I trust him as away to make him feel responsible enough", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes. He is my only child and I am single parent", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats good parenting! Perhaps if you frame it as being about you, e.g. \"I am getting really worried, can you please explain....it's affecting me (affecting my sleep/work/whatever\" .... maybe it will inspire him to be more forthcoming", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Any signs of depression? I have been depresed before, and self-isolating can be a symptom, I've been there...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Never thought of it that way. That could be a possibility. But he always seems happy and we chat a lot onlythat he his behind closed doors in his room for a long time everyday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Am also concerned about the friend who comes over. I don't really know his family or home just that he's from the neighborhood and they go to the same school.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hmm. My other thought is tell him what you just told me, that you have been trying to show him that you trust him....but be honest and tell him you are afraid. Hopefully, he won't want you feeling that way, and will open up a bit.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes I can see that being concerning when you know nothing about the friend. Yet you walk a fine line because he needs the freedom and autonomy to choose his friends without explanation required...it's such a balancing act. I can tell you that I have raised a daughter, and that teen years were tougher than toddlerhood. Lots of worry, but she came through it and is fine now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I wonder if there is a teacher he is close to that you could bring your concerns to, perhaps the teacher may have some insight about yoru son to offer?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I find reassurance from your words. Its been tough for me this far we have come with my son and I want us to be close even as he growing up to become a young man. I have a good relationship with their teacher and will definitely give her a friendly call to know more from her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh good. And it may be just a normal part of his development. Teens pull away from parents, peer group becomes far more important. It may be as simple as that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "It took my daughter about 15 years to \"come back to me\" and now we have a close relationship again....so even if he seems to be drifting away know that it's normal and that will change in the future.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good to know that from an experienced parent. I will try communicate my worries and my intensions to him. I hope he will understand and not pull away.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And in the meantime remember to take extra good care of yourself :) Sometimes as moms we forget to do special things for ourselves. You are doing the hardest and most imporant job in the world so it's important to recognize that and reward yourself for it. I hope that conversation goes well for you, that you will have with him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time and experienced advise.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh you're so welcome, it's been a pleasure speaking with you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "The pleasure was all mine. Bye.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "bye :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
575 | 1,559.197774 | 6 | 2 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | Nothing special just an ongoing thing i've been dealing with since my daughter was born. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've been dealing with a lot of depression lately. not sure how to shake it (1)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im sorry to hear that, has there been anything going to cause the increase?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "My daughter was born about 3 months ago. I guess it's post-partum.(2)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is really rough, though it is good you recognize it. A lot of people do not.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well I figured when I was crying at the Pampers commercial that there might be an issue (3)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried to talk to a professional. It is very prevalent that mothers experiencing this do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've talked to my doctor that delivered my daughter about it. He recommended medication but I'm not so sure I want to take something for the rest of my life (4)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "As long as you recognize that it is a much more common thing that people go through, that is a great start. I experienced it with my second child as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Did they put you on medication (5)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is no harm getting a second opinion. I never did take medication, i found a good therapist to talk too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "A second opinion is probably a good thing. I just know I can't keep laying in bed 1/2 the day with the baby. (6)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah that you cant, and i cant stress how good it is that you realize it. I would definitely go for a second opinion. Or even search for therapists that specialize in it in your area. Never have been a fan of using medicine as the first go unless really needed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I'm not big on the medication. I've talked to several moms that went on it and years later had to stay on it because the withdrawals were so terrible. I'd like to be able to process through it(7)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And whats the worst a little talking can do for you. Has talking to other moms been helpful at all?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well, some of them LOL! Others just scare me to pieces so it really depends on who it is! My husband does not understand at all but he's trying (8)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "At least he is trying, as i said before, even with it being so common, it is a mystery to most.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't think a lot of people talk about it. You have this new healthy child, you should be excited, and yet there is extreme sadness and no idea why so you stay quiet about it (9)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah its a rough cycle, you get down on yourself for feeling down.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Exactly, like it's my fault that I feel this way. My head knows that is not right, my heart another story. (10)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, i am glad you want to do something about it. I hope you do follow up with a second opinion, or maybe even support groups in your area.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I am going to look into some support groups in our area and maybe a therapist as well. Just need to do some research to find some locally", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Great, thats wonderful news. I think you are on the right track to being yourself again.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I certainly hope so. I'd like to enjoy this little bundle of joy instead of just spending all day at home doing nothing", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
600 | 1,557.5029 | 6 | 1 | 3 | sadness | ongoing depression | Self isolation due to the pandemic. Home with the kids alone every day. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm ok, how are you ?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just ok? Is there something bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I'm struggling with depression. I'm a mom at home with my children throughout the day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be a lot to manage, I'm sure you're doing a great job.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "As a mom as well, I know there are many demands and things to juggle. Is there something specific you're struggling with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It is, thank you. I think I need to cope with self isolation better. Being a mom is self isolating by itself without the pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand, the pandemic and having added responsibility definitely has been very isolating and can feel like you're losing your sense of self.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I've joined \"mom groups\" and that does seem to help some. You're right I am losing my sense of self, that is a very good way to put it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely normal to have that sense of guilt for feeling that way as well. This whole situation is not ideal for anyone, which somehow makes it worse. It's hard to talk to someone about these feelings when you know everyone else is in the same or worse situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is very hard to talk to someone about these feelings, when we are all going through it. How have you been able to maintain your sense of self? Any tips?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's taken a while to figure it out and get on the same page with my husband, but I try and practice self-care when possible. It can be something as simple as going for a walk alone or sitting and reading alone. There's no shame in needing some time alone to reset.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for your empathy and understanding. You are so right, self care is so important as a mom, especially right now. My husband doesn't understand that just by going to work he is able to escape for a little while. I will definitely try to practice more self care. Good luck to you and thank you for your advise! You have been very helpful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear it, good luck to you as well. I hope you're able to practice self care and reset. Stay safe!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your kids are lucky to have you, stay safe as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Too kind, thank you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Have a good afternoon:)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well, I'm so glad you're feeling better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
799 | 1,557.271144 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I'm worried about covid and my mom. she is high-risk. Im afraid she may get the virus. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Oh, I'm okay. I'm just tired of everything and it has me down.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see, I've been feeling that way too recently.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Is there anything in particular that has you upset or just life in general?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Just life in general, I guess. I'm tired of covid. I'm tired of worrying about my mom and not going out and everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That makes total sense. Covid's been going on for so long, life is so different now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do you want to talk about what's going on with your mom?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She's high risk, so we have to be careful who we come in contact with. We try to limit time in public and all that. I order groceries for pickup at walmart so i dont have to go in, and my schooling is all online so i dont have to go to class.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She's been fighting cancer. She's in remission now, but her immune system is still compromised and we have to be even more careful than we usually would have to be", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it's really great that you're doing all that for her! It must be extra hard to have to limit public interactions even more than most people.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That sounds so stressful to have to be worried about her on top of everything else. I'm so sorry you're going through that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you been able to keep in contact with friends through video chat? That's something that can sometimes help when feeling isolated.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, we text and have group chats and stuff, and we snapchat a lot. It's been a while since I saw any of them, though. At least we have that, though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And yeah, it's really stressful worrying about her. And she feels so bad because I can't see my friends or go in the store or to school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you don't think the online interactions are a good substitute for in-person things. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Ah, that sounds like kind of a cycle of guilt going on. Where she feels bad about you not being able to go out, and you feel bad about her feeling bad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yeah, it does. I don't need a lot of in-person interaction. I'm an introvert, so this was all just fine when it started. But even introverts need to be around people sometimes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah that makes complete sense. It seems like you have a good idea of who you are and what your needs are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, it does seem like the cycle of guilt.... I try not to let her see how much this is affecting me, but she's my mom and she can tell...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wonder if you could do something like take walks in the park with friends, or see them with masks where you're really socially distanced from everyone", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I'm pretty good at self-analysis lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really hope things get better for you. Covid should be ending soon hopefully with the vaccine, and things will start to go a bit back to normal", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Oh that's a really good idea! That might be something we can do. It won't be quite the same, but it's better than nothing. I'll ask my mom's doctor if that will be okay.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you. Hopefully it will, and hopefully she will be able to get the vaccine soon, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah! I hope that works out for you. I've been finding getting outside and doing things with others has been helpful both for social and exercise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's been really nice chatting with you :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,211 | 1,555.677781 | 7 | 2 | 1 | shame | ongoing depression | I cheated on my boyfriend and I don't want to tell him. I feel really bad because he is a great person. | [{"text": "I am having a really hard time with something that I did to my boyfriend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you want to talk about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, thank you! I was with him since childhood and we are actually still together. I slipped up one night and hate to admit what I did.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're holding onto a lot of guilt about this incident.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Are you comfortable talking about that night?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, it is intense guilt. I can't think of anything else. I hate to tell you but I cheated on him. I am so sorry and can't look at myself in the mirror.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That can really weigh you down, beating yourself up with guilt.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Does he know about the incident?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel like I am worthless and I don't deserve to ever be happy or laugh again. I really do love him and I don't ever want him to find out what I did. Yes, I cant stop beating myself up. He doesn't know what I did but he is little suspicious.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You definitely deserve to laugh and be happy. One mistake doesn't define you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you! A long time ago his sister told me that he cheated on me and I believed her and so I wanted to get him back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It says a lot about your character that you feel badly about this, that you can see and recognize you acted in a way you don't agree with. That's something to build on.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That desire to \"get even\" is definitely understandable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I appreciate that and have been thinking about character a lot lately. I do believe he cheated on me first, if that even matters now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel like you got what you needed from the experience, as in, that you've \"gotten even\"?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I feel very even! I won't do it again. Can I ever give up the guilt that I feel and move on in our relationship or do I have to tell him what I did? I have known couples who don't tell each other and they are happy now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "While it may be true in general that honesty is the best policy, in this case I wouldn't suggest telling him. It is just going to cause angry feelings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "But, the fact you already believed he cheated on you and it motivated you to do the same shows a basic lack of trust in this relationship. That's something you should really look at.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for making me feel heard. I have been alone in my thoughts and needed to be understood. Yes, I agree with you and I feel like I kind of let it go now that I told you about it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am going to be in touch regularly of that's okay? I feel so much better now. I can take a deep breath again and I want to go take a walk with my dog now. Thank you for all of your time and understanding.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad you're feeling better now that you've gotten it out in the open. Of course, you are welcome anytime.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That sounds great because I want to keep this private and I know you won't tell anyone so I feel really safe here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely. This is all in complete confidence.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
619 | 1,555.664361 | 6 | 2 | 2 | fear | ongoing depression | My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it. | [{"text": "Good evening.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you this evening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you someone who has immune issues?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah whenever I try it's like pulling teeth. I know some of it is how he was brought up. I don't think his dad ever showed much emotion/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "so yes I'm sure that has something to do with it. I also feel bad a lot of the time because I have two kids. I feel like I fail them a lot", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "our oldest was born before I got sick. Our youngest was a miracle baby. I was on birth control and he was determained anyway :) He is definatly a gift but I feel bad often", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you been able to talk to your kids about this as well?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My oldest yes, he seems to understand, he is 8.5 years old. Our youngest is only one so he doesn't understand any of this yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He says he understands, but I'm not sure on just what level.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yea, with young kids it is hard to tell sometimes", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I know this is extremely hard, but I know you can make it through this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for the talk! I do feel a bit better right now!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "3", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
830 | 1,555.462143 | 8 | 0 | 2 | shame | breakup with partner | found out my fiance was cheating on me | [{"text": "Hello, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing okay I suppose. I could be much better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you feeling? Is there anything the matter?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am feeling really down today. My fiance was cheating on me and everything has pretty much crumbled all around me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can't completely relate, but my parents are going through something very similar after 25 years of marriage. Tell me more about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm glad you haven't and so sorry to hear about them. We have been together for 13 years and have an 11 year old. He has been dating someone for nearly two years and i had no clue. I am so embarrassed and feel so stupid.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry. Does your child know? I have a 10 year old and she is struggling with my parents, we lived with them for the first 2 years of her life and have always been 15 minutes away since. I completely understand why you feel the way you do that is to be expected. You are not stupid and I'm sure its not you. Have you spoken to your fiance about this since you found out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "He is somewhat aware that something is going on but not quite sure what. One of us will be moving out so it will need to be explained to him soon. We have talked and he just denies everything. He told me I'm crazy and they are just \"friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would love to believe that but unfortunately I know that isn't true. I'm just overwhelmed with so may questions that he is not answering.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry. From personal experience, my best advice is to be as direct as possible. Demand respect and answers that you deserve after 13 years.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "If he will not answer your questions, thats all the answers you need. How did you find out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I can't even imagine how you feel. Clarity and answers are so important right now for you... no matter if it is true or not. That is a long time to be with someone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That is great advice! It's very hard to stand up for yourself sometimes especially when you are emotionally devastated. I visited him unannounced at work one day and they were having lunch together. I had no idea who she was and she got up and ran off. Upon further investigation, I checked phone records, receipts, any other thing I could find and all the evidence was there. two hour conversations, gifts from women's stores that weren't given to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my gosh. There's all the answers you need right there. I'm so sorry. He wont even speak to you about it? No excuses anything? Have you told family?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't told anyone yet. He just denies everything or has the perfect excuse for whatever I bring up. I have confronted her as well via text. She states she doesn't even know who he is. Really? So yeah. I just want to grieve it and be over with it. I think just talking about it had helped a lot.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You must express this in some way to let this out. It's not healthy to let your anger bottle up. I'm sure you're angry, rightfully so... do you have any hobbies to occupy your mind until you get things sorted?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I workout every day so that has helped keep my mind somewhat focused after work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's awesome. Working out can release so much stress. I hope things work out so you can get some sort of closure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you I really appreciate all of your help!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're welcome. I wish you the best of luck. Try to stay positive. It sounds like you are handling this the best you can.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thanks and well wishes you and your family as well!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
305 | 1,555.383231 | 5 | 1 | 4 | anxiety | academic pressure | It is finals week at my college and I am very anxious about it. | [{"text": "It is finals week at my college and I'm beyond anxious about it (1)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Taking finals certainly is tough, there's so much to think about. What's bothering you the most?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Probably my stamina and endurance to finish all the work. I'm still recovering from Covid-19 (2)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you spoken to anyone at the college about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, but they haven't been much help unfortunately. My classes are online and finals are due when finals are due. They are not giving any wiggle room (3)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It must make you feel quite trapped knowing that the college aren't cutting you a bit of slack considering you are still recovering from a serious illness. It sounds like you are trying your best and not giving up already.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "No I cannot give up at all. My scholarship requires me to maintain a certain GPA and I can't afford to lose it (4)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's good to hear that you're not giving up. Sometimes in these situations, you just have to do your best and then at least you know you did what you could. I like to tell myself in these situations that if there are no other avenues to explore, you just have to 'go with the flow' and don't beat yourself up thinking about it over and over - if there's nothing you can do, just do your best to ride it out", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I know, there is just so much riding on these finals. I have great grades so I'm praying that I pass without any issues and that I don't bomb even one of them (5)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you still there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you tried hard previously then you may come out the other end having done very well! When I was at school a long time ago, I had to stay off school for a month, when they were practising the exams. I didn't get chance to do those and I thought 'wow I'm totally screwed here', but guess what? I did okay!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I hope that's what happens, I just don't know how to calm down about it (6)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I'm here", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Do you know any techniques to help me calm down? (7)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's totally understandable. I think even without the COVID situation, you would still be anxious. It's totally natural. Not that that discounts how you feel. Do you agree?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, that is true. I just can't quite seem to quiet my mind. (8)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, I've tried meditating a few times before which doesn;t take it all away, it just takes the edge off! I used a guided meditation app. I also listened to white noise when I went to sleep as I was having trouble sleeping. I find even if you're mind is just taken away from it all for a few minute, it can re-balance you a little", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've tried watching some comedy shows and listening to music to take my mind off of it. It works sometimes (9)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you should do more of that, it sounds like a good idea? Don't feel guilty for doing so either as it acts as a 'medicine'. If the 'medicine' works then take it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I will try to focus more on that when I'm not studying and see if it keeps helping then (10)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like a plan! It's certainly worth giving it a go. We need a break from it all sometimes or we'd all go mad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,181 | 1,554.77133 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anxiety | problems with friends | I have found out that my friends have been socialising behind my back without me. This makes me very sad. | [{"text": "Hi there, are you free to talk? I am feeling rather sad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there. Yes, What is making you sad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel that my friends do not like me very much any more. Apparently they have been engaging in group activities without me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how frustrating that can be to not be part of the group activities.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Do you think that I am over-reacting? I do not want to sound over sensitive but this has been happening for a while.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you talked with your friends on how you feel? When was the last time you all connected?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "We went out for coffee the other day and I thought about saying something cos I know they went to a club without me last weekend but I couldn't bring myself to in the end.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand it is tough to bring up what is bothering you, especially after getting to hang out with all your friend over coffee. I'm sure this was not intentional with not inviting you to the club.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Sometimes in the past I have turned down invitations to go out clubbing, admittedly. Could it be that they just did not think that I wanted to go?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "From what I have experienced personally, I am not a fan of clubs and didnt want to go with my friends. After turning them down a few times, they stopped inviting as well. I think they thought that was not my thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "The thing is though that this is not the only thing - they have been to rock concerts without me too. I just feel I am no longer a part of the group.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel how this is hurting you. The best thing would be to talk to them about feeling disinvited to group activities. Let them know you are still free and really want to spend some time together. Do you think you can open up to them on whats bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't know. I don't want to come across as just being paranoid or whiny. Sometimes I think it would be better to just forget them and not have any friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like this situation is really bothering you. Its hard and overwhelming to feel isolated. The bonds of friendship are worth the confrontation. If they don't know what is bothering you, it will be harder to mend the relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It is making me really depressed and is badly damaging my sense of self worth. I feel as though I am not worth anyone's time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are worth every precious second of time and should not let this diminish your self worth. Find common ground, an activity you all enjoy and invite them to hang with you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you that is helpful. What if I reach out and they all snub me though?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We all have busy hectic lives at time. True friends make time to be with one another. This world is full of beautiful people to bond with. Keeping a closed circle of friends is a blessing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "It's not really so much that my life is hectic. On the contrary, sometimes it feels as though it is rather empty and not having the support of friends does not help with that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Anyway I do appreciate your help - you have given me things to think about.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hear how this is making you sad not feeling supported in the way that you need to be. Know that you are worthy and will find a way to connect with them. I hope this has helped.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It has .. thank you very much and enjoy your day!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,009 | 1,554.385186 | 6 | 1 | 3 | anger | problems with friends | I recently found out that my best friend has lied to me about her whole life, and when I invited to my home she finally told me the truth after staying for a month ad we were fighting for the entire month she stayed. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm sad and angry because I no longer talk to my best friend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you know what might have happened to cause your and your best friend to not talk anymore?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well she was staying at my house for a month and we were constantly fighting so she just stopped talking to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really stressful and I can see how troubling that is for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes it is and then she began avoiding me while we were in the same house, so we started arguing again and I found out she's been lying to me since I've known her and I'm very upset.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's definitely very upsetting. I know how it feels to have that sense of betrayal from a friend I was close to for many years. However, I was able to discuss the issue I had with my parents and other friends. Do you have anyone else close to you that you can talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I don't think so, my parents think I was too harsh by deciding to end the friendship, it as if my own family doesn't understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That can definitely add to frustration. What about your other friends? Do you have anyone who either shares the same opinion as you or does not know your friend that you can talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My other friend believed that it wasn't too harsh to end the friendship as they know I value honesty but it makes me feel angry that I was being used for so long and constantly lied to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have every right to be angry, but the most important thing you can do is find a good support system with your other friend. It will take some time to heal, but I'll tell you a paraphrased version of one of my favorite quotes: \"Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.\" It's important to find support in your other friends and heal properly.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I really love that quote, it's absolutely true; I think I will talk to my friend about the situation some more so I can fully get over it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a wonderful idea. Is there anything else you would like to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yes, I also realized that I wasn't angry with my friend but rather myself", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you elaborate more? Earlier you said you and your friend were arguing while she was living in your house, then she stopped talking to you. Why might you be angry with yourself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Because I basically allowed her to use me for seven years and kept lying to me or gave her space because I thought I was being a good friend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like I was stupid to do that and soft", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If I may, I would argue that your actions don't make you soft and they certainly don't make you stupid. They are certainly not any reason to be angry with yourself. If I may bring up another clich\u00e9: \"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.\" I would say you're in the \"fool me once\" stage and it is your friend's actions that have brought you pain. I think you're unlikely to trust her again.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Also, hindsight is 20/20. What you might see now in ways that your friend might have used you are things that you might not have seen then. We want to think the best of our friends until they prove us wrong. I think you were being the best friend you could be.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you very much, I'll continue to talk about the issue with my other friend, I really appreciate your wisdom.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course. I think you'll be alright and remember the healing process can take a long time after betrayal. Remember to be kind to yourself and keep that support system of your other friend by you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Is there anything else you would like to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No thank you, enjoy the rest of your day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
493 | 1,553.452499 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anger | problems with friends | My friends suck at being friends. They use me, ignore me, and i'm only a benefit for them. | [{"text": "Hey", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How ae you feeling today? Is there anything you need to talk about?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel drained, honestly. I'd love to talk about my current dilemma in my friend circle.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you share the dilemma you are having?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Basically. This has happened for as long as I can remember, even back when I was a little kid. Any friend i've ever had has just used me for SOME gain. Whether that be boredom, money, or an emotional support pillow. I'm so sick of it. They'll literally ignore me for months and randomly text me for money. If i respond theyll read my messages then ignore me until they need money again. Or, they'll use me to throw alllll their problems onto me and never do the same for me. In some way shape or form- every person I become friends with uses me and throws me away when theyre done.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes I feel like it must be me. Maybe i',m annoying? This happens so often the common denominator is ME. But i'm friendly, im assertive, im out spoken, im kind. I don't LET people walk all over me but it seems like that;s all I attract.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel under valued in your relationships because people tend to take advantage of you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Pretty much. it just happens every single time. It's kind of discouraging and just makes me an angry person", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like this is really bothering you. It is good that you are talking about it though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you tried telling them how they make you feel?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Some of them. The others I never even get a chance because they just ignore my existence anytime I try and reach out to talk. I've just been waiting for them to pour their problems onto me or have the nerve to ask for money. Then i'll tell them. I already know they won't respond but atleast ill say my peace", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "After you tell them how you feel do you still give them money or listen to what's going on and try to help them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No. Whenever I do get to say my peace, i'll just cut contact completely. Lately i've been holding it in and just barely responding if at all.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've told one of them that i have no money and she hasn't contacted me since. But if she tries again i'll say something about the issue. I don't like feeling used. Who even has the nerve to blatantly use somebody like that? It's irritating", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's good that you let them know how you feel. By doing that, you are taking the first step in now allowing them to take advantage of you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Agreed. I just hope that one day I can meet people and form actual friendships with them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's really hard to stand up for yourself but it sounds like you are off to a good start.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you taken any steps in trying to form new more meaningful relationships", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I thought I did. My husband and I made a couple friends. Theyre a couple and so are we so we go on double dates but they seem more drawn to him. Me and the other girl got very close and then boom she randomly decided she only wants to talk to me when shes mad or bored", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So feel that this new couple might value the friendship with your husband more then you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yeah it seems that way. Most people like him more than me and it's weird because he sucks at socializing and doesn't even like them that much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It just doens't make sense but that's just the way the ca rds were dealt", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I used to have a hard time forming a meaningful relationship but then I realized it's because I had nothing in common with the people I was trying to form them with. Once I discovered something I was really drawn to I met people that way like volunteering in my community. Have you tried finding people you have more in common with.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That's actually a great idea! I guess i don't know myself well enough or have any distinct hobbies that would draw me to anybody in particular.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's been great talking with you!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
832 | 1,553.306211 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | Appearance Anxiety | I just had a baby and im struggling with my physical appearance and my mental health. | [{"text": "hey", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, my name is Amber, how are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I could be better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's been happening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I just had a baby 2 months ago and I have been struggling with my physical appearance and dealing with my mental health.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is part of that the weight gain from pregnancy? And what sort of mental health challenges are you having? Both of these problems are very common for new mothers.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, it sounds like a very tough time for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I didnt keep much weight from the pregnancy but its the loose skin that makes it very challenging to accept and to love my self.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is understandable. I am a mother, and remember worrying about the same thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "My depression has gotten worse since having my son. I feel a constant feeling that i'm not a good mother. I feel worthless and having a constant feeling that I don't deserve my son", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can tell you from personal experience that loose skin, stretch marks, and loosening of \"other parts\" do all self correct with time. You will feel better about your body again when they do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "How did you cope with post partum?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was fortunate not to experience depresion. But I totally went through self doubt, wondering if I was being a good enough mother, and feeling \"not up to\" the task....it's the hardest job in the world, being a mom, and so exhausting the first while.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Have you spoken to your doctor about how depressed you are feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I mentioned it to them at my 6 week pp check up. I was prescribed to a med to help but I dont think its fully in its works yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Antidepressants can take a couple of weeks to kick in, I am on them too; I hope you will find them helpful. It's hard waiting for them to work!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you have someone helping you with the baby or are you a single mom?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The best advice I can share from my experience as a new mom was find someone to give you breaks. Whether that be a partner, a friend, a family member, or even a baby sitter if that's possible. Its important to take time to rest and recharge an nurture yourself, whether that be a nap, a bubble bath, a walk or whatever has made you feel good in the past.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you, I hope so too. Yes I have my husband helping me. I am a stay at home mom while he goes to work. Im lucky that I am able to stay home with our son but at the same time its hard because because theres a less opportunity to have a break and on top of that he works 12 hour shifts so I rarley get to spend time with my husband.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I took my first break 2 days ago with my husband. We went on a day road trip and it felt really good to have that day to have together away from the baby but at the same time it was hard leaving our baby.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that's a long shift...I'm glad you have someone at home to help when he can. It may seem impossible but you are stronger than you think...you've got this", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "hey that's great that you had a road trip! And yes it's hard to trust someone else with our wee ones...but so necessary both for you and for your marriage too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you, I really appreciate it. Its nice to be able to talk about it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have one other suggestion before I go, have you any mother and baby groups in your area? Something you may want to research. It's been a pleasure speaking with you, you are so welcome. Know that as hard as it is, these feelings can be a normal experience for a new mother, and you will get through it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Ill definitely have to look into it, thank you! I hope you have a great day!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you you too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
159 | 1,552.870338 | 5 | 0 | 5 | anxiety | Issues with Children | my kids wont listen to me | [{"text": "Hi! How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The struggle is real my kids act as if they dont hear me which causes me to become overwhelmed and loud then they dont wanna listen anymore. I am well today and you/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really hard! Does that mean things tend to escalate quickly in your home?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I am loking for ways to communiate better specifically with my 5 year old son. well i always get yelling as a response which is what i cant seem to break as soon as my son gets mad he screams and calls for me no mater where i am or where he is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't wanna yell i wanna get my points across. I also homeschool them all so i am mom teacher and bas guy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "bad guy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really challenging. I grew up in a home with a lot of yelling, and after a few years it just became our default for communicating with each other. I really regret that we didn't do anything to change the pattern sooner.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What have you tried to break the pattern so far?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes i can not have that become the normal. I want to feel proud of their beviors they need to learn manners which i think is someting they really missed out on in public schools. the need to conform wouldve taught them manners without them even noticing. So far i try to keep myslef calm and communicate simply i still get screams back and i just try to make him ty again with a nice voice and tell him i am here to help if he can talk to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have kids? what do you suggest? somedays I feel like I am in a mad house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like you're trying really hard to set a good example.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It also sounds like you think they may have learned that yelling is okay from their schools. Is that right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "i am trying but i was not raised with the best habits so teaching myself and my kids to be good and consotant has been a challenge", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "no i thnk they wouldve learned why not to yell at peopel if they went to public school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "they are homeschooled with me, my daigther went to preschool briefly but that was it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that - I've spent a lot of time trying to teach myself to be better than the home I grew up in", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "darn parents, lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ahaha exactly!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't have kids of my own, but I've been trying to learn from my friends who do have kids", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i do hope they learn to be kind and strive to learn and be smart. games and devices have also become somewhat of the enemy, and savior somedays", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "good plan, learn before you have your own, thats what my plan was, i was supposed to have life figured out before they got here", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "One of my friends who has a really peaceful household maintains a high standard of speaking to her kids like adults and only engaging in conversation when they're speaking respectfully", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "but ya know they have been the best teachers this far in my life", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "good tips i will try to do that more and talk to them like adults", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really like how she does that - only engaging in respectful conversation and not letting the yelling escalate", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I work with kids sometimes, too, and it seems like they all just want to be big kids and be treated that way, too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "i try not to engage in harmful destructive communication yes that is important, i am so emotional it is hard to stay calm when i am not liking what's happening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's so hard! Who can be a full-time parent and best friend and take care of your own life, too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It sounds like you have the best intentions, and you're working really hard on it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "well me hopefully lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can be so hard, so frustrating, and so easy to revert to those habits we both grew up with", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thanks i guess i make it sound ok, i am ok they are good kids at the core thewy kjust need to work on not freaking out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes it can i get loud too much and my mom always yelled i hated it and told myself I hated it growing up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have a co-worker who has kids with special needs, and she has this great phrase for working with her kids", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "what is it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i must know lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "any and all advice taken here", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She says, \"is this a small feeling or a big feeling?\" and then, \"Are you having a big reaction, or a small reaction?\", and it really helps her kids self-soothe", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "interesting is she implying having a big reaction to a small feeling is unnessacary?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She's also taught them that if they're being mean to mom (taking something else out on her), they're allowed to say, \"I'm sorry, I'm not acting or feeling my best right now, and I'm going to take a minute to myself.\" Do you think your kids might relate to that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thats wise i must sit with that for a bit and at least talk about their feelings more i bet if i help my kids to feel more validated they will feel heard better and maybe not yell", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yea, exactly! Trying to teach her kids that it makes more sense for their reactions to be more proportionate to their feelings and to the importance of a situation. It's really helped her address tantrums and help her kids be more self-aware", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "i would fall over if my kids said that to me, lol, that would be an improvement to say the least", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "wow is she a therapist/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ahahahah. I believe in you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Just the mom to a kid with autism. She's had to learn a lot of special skills!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks a lot random stranger, lol, no offense, it is just so random where we find support righ t lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i am thankful for all the advice", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Happy to be a helpful random stranger to you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good luck!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "your two sense has helped thanks alot, i gonna go talk to my son now while this is fresh on my mind have a good day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'll be thinking of you :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks my name is kaleigh", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "whats your stranger", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm Marissa", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "nice to meet you and have a good one", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
762 | 1,550.311834 | 7 | 3 | 0 | depression | ongoing depression | I have dealt with depression around this time of the year since i was 17. I am now 37. My cousin got killed in a car accident on Dec 29th at the age of 14. Then 18 years later on Jan 3rd I lost my boyfriend in a car accident. I struggle around the holidays even worse now than I did before. | [{"text": "Hi there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am doing ok. How are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing well, thanks for asking. What are you seeking support for today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have been struggling for motivation to do anything the past couple weeks. This is a really hard time of year for me. I lost my cousin in a car accident at the age of 14 in a car accident coming up on 20 years this year. We were very close. I was 17 at the time. Her was an alcoholic and my parents raised her a majority of her life. Then 3 years ago 5 days after her death anniversary I lost my boyfriend at the age of 32 in a car accident. I dread the holidays.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for sharing that. It sounds like you are describing a strong association between the holiday season and loss of loved ones. This leads to less of a desire to engage in typical holiday events. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "You are exactly right. The year my cousin got killed her mom was hungover so I went and picked up my cousin and her little brother to take them to our grandparents house for Christmas dinner. She died 4 days later on Dec 29th. And my boyfriend it was his first day back to work after the New Year. He died on Jan 3rd.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I usually go all out for the holidays to try to hide my depression every year. This year I just can't bring myself to enjoy them. I have even bought one christmas present.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see why this time of year is difficult for you. Trying to hide depression can be a challenge. Rather than hiding the sadness or grieving feelings, some people find relief in acknowledging and sharing these feelings with family members who may relate. Do you ever share these feelings with your cousin or grandparents that you mentioned?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My cousin doesn't live around here and we have never been real close. He is alot younger than me. We just never had the connection like his sister and I did. And both my grandparents have passed away. Grandpa has been gone for 12 years and Grandma has been gone for 4 now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My family has always been really good about talking about our loses. Things just will never be the same.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. When losses are experienced it is a great change in many aspects of our lives.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Are there any aspects of the holidays that bring you joy? Maybe holiday music, movies, bright snow (if there is snow where you live), or seeing joy on someone's face when you give them a great gift?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "They say it gets easier. And I agree it does. Things just have changed so much. I miss how life was before I lost them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand - and it is normal to feel that way. When we lose someone who brought us happiness, it is only natural to miss them and their company.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I love giving gifts. And I always put lots of thought into the gifts I give. My nieces and nephews can't wait every year to see what I got them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great! You must have a special talent for personalizing your gift selections. Perhaps focus on that reaction from you nieces and nephews to support your motivation for giving gifts this year.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "This year I am tie dying hooded sweatshirts. I make tshirts for a hobby. And to tell you the truth thats the only gifts I have gotten so far. My oldest daughter turned 18 this year and lives with her boyfriend so its just me and my 15 year old daughter. She struggles with depression/anxiety as well. Her dad has been in jail for some stupid actions since August. She has had to deal with him being an addict pretty much her whole life. I think we are both missing how the holidays were with her sister still living at home. Too much change in our lives in such a little time frame.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow, what a great gift idea! That is a solid start on your gifts for the season, and something to be proud of.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "They will love them. A couple years ago I put their names on fleece blankets when I worked at an embroidery shop. They absolutly loved them!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And I see, it sounds like the changes in your life are potentially impacting your daughter as well. However, I'm glad you have each other for support this season. This year has been crazy for many reasons, and many people tend to find comfort in routines or traditions. Do you and your daughters have any holiday traditions you typically complete?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Awesome gift idea! Personalized gifts are always so heartfelt and appreciated. Good thinking!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Just the normal traditions. My oldest daughter will be here for Christmas morming. Then we go to my parents.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for chatting with me tonight! I hope you have a good rest of your night.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
927 | 1,550.107183 | 6 | 2 | 2 | shame | academic pressure | I failed my Finals and now I am on academic probation. I am afraid I will be expelled. | [{"text": "Hello.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm not doing very well unfortunately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I failed my college finals, and now I'm up for Academic Probation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that, I'd love to understand more about what you are struggling with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm almost near gradution too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. Academic probation does seem very scary. When did you learn you failed your finals?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I learned yesterday. Because of the pandemic the semester is shorter.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And how long do you have until graduation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I should be graduating in June.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. Well it's nice that we matched up! I actually work at a college and now a couple good strategies to get off academic probation, and or avoid it! What is it you are studying?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You're a great resource then! I am majoring in Psychology with a minor in Biology.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is awesome! So when do you find out whether or not you are on probation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Likely in the next week.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I registered for my classes for next semester but I think I should drop my minor. \\", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay gotcha. Well a couple tips I can offer you: If you do end up on probation, most courses offer a probation workshop you can go through. And if you graduate in June, it should finish in time for you! And I was also going to recommend taking fewer units. As much as it sucks, you can't overwhelm yourself with work. You need to be able to have a healthy and happy life that is separate from school in order to preform your best. Dropping your minor may be what is best for not only your grades, but your mental health", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I also recommend making an educational plan. Although it can seem scary and long to see your goals directly laid out in front of you, it really helps with motivation", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's great advice and likely would be my best option.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will definitely do that. I feel better hearing that it's okay to drop my minor. I felt like a failure when I considered it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "From talking with you so far, I can tell that you are stressed about this. But I want to reassure you that your mental health should always come first. It is the most important thing you can do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes I am very stressed. I hate taking online courses and this pandemic is wearing me out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Plus I have a 2 year old son.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are definitely not a failure in the slightest! In fact, I would argue that you are the exact opposite of that. Being able to take such difficult courses in a pandemic, and raise a child shows how strong you are!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for saying that. It is tough, but I just want to finally finish my Bachelor's and do something positive.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you will succeed in that goal. You have the motivation and the care for it, you just need to focus on managing everything at once!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you thought about meeting with an academic advisor and laying out a plan?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I had plans to. I am going to go an make an appointment immediately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I appreciate your time, encouragement, and support.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,171 | 1,549.888204 | 7 | 3 | 0 | depression | ongoing depression | trapped in a house with my brother which i can not afford to get out of. | [{"text": "hi there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! what seems to be bothering you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "currently, i am living in a house with my brother, which i co own and can not afford to move out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is living with your brother a bad thing? What specifically is making you upset?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes it is. he acts like a azz most of the time. he dosent care about anyone but himself. just like his fianc\u00e9. he throws away the bills and expects me to pay to keep the utilities on when they are about to be disconnected. then tells me i dont contribute to the house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It seems like he would be a very difficult person to live with. And that is hard for you obviously. I'm thinking your upset because you can't leave so you're stuck. Is that correct?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yes, felling very stuck.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely normal to feel that way. I'm sure you're handling the situation as best as you can.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What have you done to try and help the situation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "trying to, looking for every way possible to make money and save it up and move out. really dont want to have to partition the property as its the house we grew up in.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would feel the same way if that's a house I grew up in. I'm so sorry!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i tried to talk to him, in his mind its all my fault he cant pay the bills he had before i moved in. i had been living in california for the last few years, but came back with corona virus on the rise there.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If he's in a certain mindset, it would be hard to change that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you have people to talk to about this? It sounds like a lot to handle.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "right? and his fianc\u00e9 is the same way, they are both alcoholics and spend most of their income on their habits. its all i can do right now to keep food in the house, let alone running water.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it would be good for you to talk to someone and get help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Right now, all you can do is keep chugging along and trying your best to stay afloat.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "i have a couple of friends that i have talked to about it, but it just seems like i am screaming at a brick wall and nothing changes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would suggest talking to a therapist if your insurance can handle that!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Talking with them can help you figure out what you should do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "honestly, i think its him that needs the therapist. he is clearly bi polar like my father was, and dosent want to admit to it. several people have tried to talk to him about it but he just denies it and goes to the other room. i know what a the therapist will tell me, that i need to either resolve the conflict or try and move out, hard to do with the epidemic going on and a lack of funds to do it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is it normal to always feel helpless? cause thats how its been. either rip everything to shreds or do nothing.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes it is. Especially now. I just want to encourage to keep pushing. Think about yourself in a year or two from now. Do everything you can right now to get out of the situation. If it gets really bad, don't be afraid to call out for help (like the police). Stay safe and do what's best for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You've got this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "police are a very bad idea where i live. they will not prosecute family violence without also prosecuting me. i live in texas, if i press charges, the state will press charges against me. i have several scars from incidents where they told me as such. its really a loosing battle where the law is concerned here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh wow that's terrible. that must be so stressful for you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thank you for listening tho. it is nice to talk to someone outside of my normal circle about these things. :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes of course! I hope everything works out in the end. You'll be in my thoughts :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank you. i apprecieate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please remember to end the conversation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "ok. ty have a good day. :)", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
288 | 1,549.433273 | 7 | 1 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | Girlfriend has an illness that keeps me guessing all the time | [{"text": "How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm doing alright. Just a little sad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear your sad. Is there anything I can do to help you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah, maybe just make a little sense of this craziness I'm going through.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sure, let's talk it out", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "My girlfriend has this condition where she needs to drink formula everyday just to keep her brain working properly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And she keeps talking about the potential of kids. I freak out thinking that I could have her die and being left with kids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a valid concern and overwhelming to think about I'm sure. What is her prognosis?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Maple Syrup Urine Disease", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Basically she can only have 7 grams of protein a day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If she gets more. That could result in severe brain damage.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And is this something that she will die early because of?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Not exactly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It just means her liver can't metabolize three amino acids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So if she manages it she can live a relatively normal life?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes, for the most part. She still gets very clumsy and can is very prone to sickness getting very bad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So it has it's challenges.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just keep hearing about gene therapy for that I'm just at the point where I'm not I could go on if something horrible happens.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sure, I can see where it would be challenging and pregnancy would be scary. But I'd suggest discuss it with her doctor to see what they suggest.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Her doctor said for her. She has to give blood work all the time...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Which for me is insane.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "As hard as it is to think about, you'd also have a piece of her", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I would probably be a shell of a person if something happens.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just always been terrified of children.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I keep telling her but she wants like 3 kids", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you simply not want kids? Because if she does and you don't, you can't blame it on her condition, that would be making her give up something that wouldn't be fair.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yeah. I try making that clear.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But no one wants her to die.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, you may need to have a hard conversation with her.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't really have an interest for them. Maybe I'll be there and love them the same at the time. But currently. I just don't see me being feeling any sort of way later", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah. I've told her like 20 times.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm starting to think she can't process normally.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you're not right for each other if you have such different views on this subject. Neither one of you should have to give in to something they don't want.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Well it's not like I actively don't want kids", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just don't want her to die.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Or for the kids to die from something I can't control", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I had so many siblings die", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Seen what it did to my father. And he is not the same", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been to so many funerals as a kid for young children in my family. I just don't see kids the same way anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Or allowing her to live the life she wants as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I suppose that helps me cope.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I want her to do what she likes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My mom had me out of the feeling of being lonely. And to be honest. It kind of feels like a worthless existence.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She literally made me stay silent about going to a baby brother's funeral when I was a kid.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you have someone who cares about you and wants a part of you to exist in another living being. I know you're scared and that's valid, but you have an opportunity to do things differently than what your mom did for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah. I guess that is a better way to think. I don't want to extend that sadness to my own flesh and blood. Especially the person who values me so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The doctors trust she can do it and I know medicine is getting better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But having gone through that yourself, you know exactly what NOT to do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Everyone tells me that. Haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then it must be good advice lol", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I really appreciate the advice. I won't make someone else sad off of those experiences. I think people deserve better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You deserve better than thinking your feelings don't count for something. There are people that love you and want to listen and be a part of your life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah. My grand mother and older sister actively support me. I had an uncle that passed sadly but I know that feeling of love and support will never leave me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good, I'm glad you have that support.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Well you have been an excellent support system.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you, I'm glad I was able to chat with you and wish you the best!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Of course, may you have a happy holiday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
788 | 1,549.406589 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | academic pressure | I am trying to complete my Master's degree while having to help my children learn virtually because of the pandemic. Managing my time has not been easy. | [{"text": "Hello?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, I'm sorry I didn't reply faster.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "How can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "How can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's okay. Thank you for replying.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So I have some issues with time management.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. What are you struggling with concerning time management?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have also struggled with time management. I have found that reminders on my phone, and a planner have been most beneficial to me personally. I understand every situation is different. Do you have a deadline you're trying to meet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am trying to manage having my kids's learn virtually at home, while I'm completing my Master's, and working at night. I feel like I have to drop my Master's because it all seems like too much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have used those tools. With the current environment in the world, I feel like dealines are a waste of time. I'm trying to go with the flow and just set daily goals.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see how this would be very overwhelming. I have a child learning virtually as well. Similarly, I am a student. I am not working on my masters degree... I can't even imagine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "So you understand how the virtual learning has affected the day to day goals? I used to work during the day, complete my school work when the kids are in bed, but now everything seems so stressful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is your child old enough to do some of it on their own? I have \"independent\" or \"together\" next to each task. I purchased a large magnetic chalk board for our fridge. If your child is to young to do this I could see how this would be much more challenging for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's a great idea! Two of my kids are old enough to work independently most of the time, they are 11 and 8. However, I also have a 3 year old that requires constant attention. Unfortunately, her daycare is closed. Even more, I had to take on my nephew because his mother could not handle the virtual learning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand how you feel. Virtual learning has affected our daily goals, though we are doing prerecorded lessons. That does make it easier I am sure. I have a 10 and 2 year old at home with me. One thing that has helped me is support groups. There are so many moms going through the same thing we are at this time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I never even thought of support groups. It would help to connect with other moms, just to remind myself that I am not alone in this. Thank you so much. You also have a busy bee on your hands!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are not alone in this. You could take the 3 year old to another room if possible and work on phonics/numbers, then help the older children during naptime. Then maybe they could help entertain the 3 year old while you work on your own schoolwork? This is similar to my daily schedule... but as you know with kids you have to go with the flow most of the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Definitely have to go with the flow. They make life wondefully unpredictable. Thank you and those are fantastic ideas. I'll have to create a naptime, that would be the most helpful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It helps so much to talk to other moms who understand. Being a mom is hard enough without all the added extra stress of 2020. It sounds like you're doing the best you can, and your kids will remember that in the long run. You can do this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. I will be looking into support groups, 2020 has definitely been a shake up for the whole world. I truly appreciate your support! Your kids are blessed to have you.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,140 | 1,549.29892 | 6 | 2 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | Not being able to see family and friends due to Covid. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, how are you feeling today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am not feeling the best. I have been having some depression, because of not being able to see friends and family during this pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh, boy, do I know that feeling! How are you dealing with it? (if I may ask)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I try to message them as much as possible and call them on the phone but it is just not the same as actually getting to give the a hug and see them in person.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know that. I use Zoom, just to see them...do you have a computer?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes. That works for some of my family but I have family in the nursing home that does not have access to computers. I haven't seen them in several months. It just breaks my heart.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh. I can feel it. I have someone who's sick as well. Do you have any one friend with whom you can share your feelings, your depression. I understand you're having issues with depression, right? It sometimes helps me to feel that we're all in this together. And, at the other end of this, we will be able to give the biggest hugs ever!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes. I have some very dear friends that have helped me a lot. I guess the depression is just worse because it is the holidays and this is the first year that I haven't got to spend it with my extended family members.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh....That's so tough...it being the first year!!!! Sometimes, I cry (I cry with my cat), and just to say the feelings out loud makes me feel a bit better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah. I have a little dog that has been my cuddle buddy. I have had him for 13 years so he has seen me ugly cry many times. What are some things you do to deal with depression?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I try to read, watch programs or podcasts that take away my negativity. Anything that will give me a lift, so that my own depression won't get so bad that I can't remember what it felt like to be a bit happy.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That sounds like some good advice. I think I will try to find a good podcast or a good comedy series that I like and spend time doing that. It's hard to be sad when you are watching something funny or listening to something funny. Thank you for the good advice and the listening ear.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wish that I could listen to more....this thing is so slow. Remember, we 're all in this together, and we will come out the other end. Isn't it OK to be happy a bit, even though this takes such a toll on so many people?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That is so true. I guess we tend to feel guilty if we feel happy since there is so much sadness in the world right now. But you are so right about the fact that we will come out on the other side. It helps to remember that bad things don't last forever.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, and are you somewhere where you can walk or exercise a bit? I always feel better if I can move around...dance...something active. What I find helps me the most is to remember that we need to stay safe and be OK, so that we will be here to celebrate when this is over.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I live in the country so I can go for nice walks when the weather is nice. Staying safe is definitely important right now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh...it's fortunate that you live in the country. Can you take some deep breathes and watch the trees, the animals, and nature....they are all here for us???", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes that is exactly what I do. Thank you so much for your help today. You have made me feel better just having someone to vent to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Keep venting, if it makes you feel better. I know I do when I can talk to someone I don't know. Is it nice where you are today, so that you can look at something bigger than the indoors?? That often helps me feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. It the weather is very pretty here today. As a matter of fact, I think I am fixing to go for a nice walk. I hope you have a wonderful day and thank you for listening.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You bet, I hope you feel so much better and can take that with you tomorrow--that you had a good day on the day after Christmas!!!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
852 | 1,549.133753 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | I've always struggled with depression. I just feel hopeless. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm a bit bad honestly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me what's going on to cause you to feel this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've been struggling with depression for a while. It's hard to deal with. I feel hopeless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. I definitely understand how long bouts of depression can make you feel more hopeless. Have you discussed your depression with anyone else before?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I've spoken to a therapist but it didn't help. I tried a help hotline online but they thought I was suicidal so they called the cops to check on me .. never doing that again lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't know what to do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it sounds like you aren't suicidal. Though I do have to check; have you had any thoughts or tendencies of suicide or self-harm?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have in the past. Recently, no.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just feel like I'll never be happy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. Can you provide any more information about your meeting with the therapist? You said talking to one didn't help, do you know why?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think it didn't help because I'm a bit shy. Or because I didn't know where to start. It's hard to know what to talk about.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I guess it also didn't help because she seemed like she was just reading a script. She wasn't the greatest at making me feel cared about", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're doing pretty good though haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That makes sense and is completely natural. It's difficult sometimes to open up to a stranger that you don't completely know or might not trust. It definitely sounds frustrating that she seemed like she was reading from a script.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "And I'm glad to hear you think I'm doing alright lol", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think therapy could work. Actually something happened with my therapist (maybe fired lol) and she's no longer my therapist.. so I need a new one.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's interesting. I know from experience that finding a good therapist is all about trial and error, unfortunately. It's important to find the right fit and I would definitely suggest looking for a new one. Do you know of anyone in your life, maybe a friend or family member, that has been to therapy that you would be comfortable getting a recommendation from?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think my closest friend has been to therapy. I could always ask her for a recommendation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a great idea! Remember to keep your friends close too. I know it can be tough when you feel as low as this, but it's important to have a good support system in addition to any therapy you might be receiving.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "My friends and I look out for eachother. I think they're a good help :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great to hear! It really sounds like you can go to them for support and often being there for someone else can make us feel better too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "This was a nice little chat! You should actually volunteer for a helpline haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Aww that's so good of you to say!! I do want to confirm that you have a game-plan now, though. Remember to keep your friends close and to start looking for a new therapist if you haven't already. If you find one that's not the right fit it doesn't hurt to start over or maybe even ask for a recommendation from that therapist. If they're any good they should understand how important it is for you to find a good fit. Also remember to be kind to yourself. It can be difficult, but I know you can do it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'm ok! I got my friends and family. I made an appointment with my psychiatrist to get different medication so I could ask him for a therapist recommen dation as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's absolutely wonderful to hear! Is there anything else you would like to discuss today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think I'm good. Thank you though! This was nice :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Awesome. You've got this! Have a good rest of your day", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You too! :)", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
576 | 1,548.837416 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | ongoing depression | I am depressed about Covid and being restricted from going places. | [{"text": "Hi! Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi, yes. I am having a really hard time and feeling depressed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to tell me what the problem is?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel like I am very isolated. I can not leave my house because I am at high risk of getting Covid. So I feel so alone and kind of helpless since all this has started.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how that feels - I have not been able to go out for weeks either. Are you able to have visitors?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am not allowed to be around anyone. I know its for my own health but that doesn't help when I am so lonely. It seems like I can not contribute to anyone or lend a hand to people. I am just stuck at home with a feeling of doom.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very rough. Have you considered joining internet communities so you can at least talk with people who are in the same situation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I do not really know how to do that but it seems like a really good idea that I have never thought of before. Do you think it would help my mood?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it really could, yes. Isolation is a very difficult thing to deal with. Just knowing someone else understood could really help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I like that idea. I hate feeling like I am a debbie downer type. I do not want to tell anyone how I feel. I am trapped in a few ways.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is absolutely no problem with feeling bad and confiding in people. Many people are feeling the same right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Sometimes I feel like i am the only one. I have a good life and have my health so I feel guilty for complaining about being sad. I have not been able to eat or clean my house. I just lay around with no energy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel as though life is just passing you by and you are not accomplishing anything during the lockdown?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, exactly. That is precisely how I feel! It seems like I am in a movie with a sad ending and it just keeps repeating over and over.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Try to focus on the fact that it will be a new year soon - it surely can't (fingers crossed!) be worse than this one", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I like your ideas and want to start using them right away. I want to reach out online and find a group to join.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Facebook is a great online site and there are lots of groups there for all interests", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is a really valid point and helping me see the bigger picture in life. I need to know it will not always be this way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please trust me that it will not. Time goes really slowly during a crisis, it seems", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time and help today. I have not felt this good in a long time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel very understood and validated.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It feels great to be able to help people. I really wish you all the best in the coming weeks and months. Enjoy the rest of you day!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you very much! I will go on to Facebook now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope you can find some like minded people there", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "(you need to quit from your end as I can't :))", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
62 | 1,548.343623 | 5 | 1 | 4 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I was recently kicked out of my fathers house. | [{"text": "hello there, how is life treating you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "life is pretty bad latley", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "feels like stress after stress", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that, can you tell me a bit about what is wrong?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "2020 has just been a bad year, i got kicked out of my dads house and also lost my main job because i was working with him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im trying to go back to school now but with a part time job it feels hard to do that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you have been made homeless and have lost touch with one of your closest relatives?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I still ilive with my mother but he was a big part of life", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i feel wrong by the situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how you feel. I am estranged from my mother. Is there any chance you could reconcile?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. I hope it gets better. We are in family therapy but he refuses to apologize", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is a good deal of therapy available for your circumstances. Do you think you should try a different kind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "what other options are there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is free therapy available for people who feel that they cannot get along with one or both parents.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I am already in therapy with him but it doesnt seem to be helping that much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please know that you are not alone in this situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you i appreciate that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you think it might be better to make a totally clean break and move on from your dad then?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "its hard to do that since everyone in my family thinks i should move on and forgive him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i find it hard to forgive someone who is unapologetic", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hear you saying that you feel that you are being unfairly blamed for things, is this true?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes it is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel that perhaps holding onto this relationship is doing harm to you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think if things were to continue as they were then it would be. I am more hurting now knowing that someone who is suppose to be there has been able to drop me so quickly over something very small", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me some more specific details", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "We were having issues at work due to covid and he did not want to help me with any of the work that was required. He had invited me over to his house to which I found my clothes in a trash bag and he wanted to talk to me which i was reluctatnt after that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we ended up having a talk to which I told him that his job is patient care since he is a physician and he took great offense to that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thus truly kicking me out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "To me this sounds like a very toxic relationship. I have been in a similar situation and I really think that it is best that you move on from this. You do not need this level of toxicity in your life", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I know its toxic but the influence from other family members makes it hard since everyone is so accustom to how he acts and they let it slide", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Unfortunately that is often how it works with such people. Would you be able to make a completely new break and move away? I know it's hard.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am trying the therapy to not be the stubborn one and say that i atleast tried but if it does not work then that seems to be the only option unless he makes changes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel that you are trying hard to mend the quarrel but he is not putting in any effort himself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I dont feel like he is. He still thinks I should apologize to him for what I said but I don't think what i said was bad at all or warrented his reaction", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he has not done any of the assignments th e therapist has given either", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do not feel that you are the one in the wrong. Unfortunately, there are some people that you just can't reach", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i believe that is the case as well, thank you for your help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are more than welcome. I do hope that you can break free from this relationship and find some way to be happy though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you very much, I hope your situation is not as bad anymore as well, its a hard situation for anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Things are very much better for me now. I promise that they will be for you soon too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thank you :) I will be ending this session now but i appreciate your time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are most welcome and all the best to you. Happy Holidays!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
408 | 1,547.735918 | 5 | 2 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | stree leads to depression | [{"text": "HI, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i have a lot going on. i am depressed because i am soo stressed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats sucks, what's going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I work full time, do frelance work on the side, i am a single mom of twin 6 year olds and an 8 year old, and i am in college for my masters degree", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "also my lease is up next month and i was notified they are raising it 300 dollars. i cant afford it. im scared and cant find anywhere cheaper to move", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, that is a lot. Add a pandemic to the mix. I can see why you'd feel overwhlemed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "sorry, guess i am venting", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "my boyfriend and i broke up 2 weeks ago. that isnt helping.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Its actually kind of nice to vent on these anonymous things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "ugh i just wish i could get a break", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thanks, :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Boyfriend too. Anybody around to talk to? Family friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "family is about 8 hours away. i dont really have friends. i havent had time to make or keep any. i would love to i just dont even know how to fit in finding time to talk to anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im an army veteran... i have ptsd so i dont do well with crowds. its hard making new friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How about other moms in your kids friend groups? I've found that cna be an easier way to get to knwo people bc you are all doing childcare anyway?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thats not a bad idea, maybe i can find a moms group on facebook", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm interested in your free lance work. What kind of stuff are you doing? Is it a passion thing or a paying hte bills thing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "paying the bills. ugh. i do mturk and then i am on upwork. i write articles and edit papers and books.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Got it. Mturk is always there when you can't sleep!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "lol my day is so packed i wish i had more time to sleep!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm usually up late writing papers for scool", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i graduate in september. i keep telling myself to hang in till then", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What are you studying? Any connections through your program?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "of course then i will need to start delivering food or sometihng as an additiona ljob to pay student loans lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im doing an online college. i am getting my master's in organizational managment", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i really appreciate you talking to me. its actually helping a bit", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it took me forever to get through my loans but bit by bit got there. Sounds like a good program that can lead to a better job (and maybe only one job someday!) Investing in the future is defintely a good thing", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I want to be a good example for my kids :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been to see counselors a few times when going through tough patches (ask me about divorce, job loss and moving to a new countrey in one year) and have found that it helps to be abel to vent to someone who doesn't know you - ha.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "lol very true", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Kids can be positive motivation for sure. But right now you're in the toughest part of parenthood. Threel ittle ones who need your support and you are doing it by yourself. You are fighting the fight for sure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thanks for being here today, i hope the rest of your day goes well!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
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EQ-ESConv-Sifted: Elo-Ranked Emotional Support Conversations
The ESConv dataset (Liu et al., ACL 2021) ranked by empathetic quality via Swiss-style Elo tournament. All 1,300 conversations scored and sorted.
Why this exists
ESConv is a widely-used emotional support dataset but quality varies significantly — some conversations have excellent empathetic support, others are low-effort or off-topic. This dataset adds Elo rankings so you can filter by quality.
For higher-quality synthetic empathetic conversations, see:
- nivvis/eq-convos — 1,774 multi-turn synthetic conversations, Elo-ranked
- nivvis/eq-dpo — 2,880 turn-level DPO preference pairs
This dataset is still useful as:
- Source material for further synthesis
- A benchmark for comparing empathy quality across datasets
- SFT data when filtered to top tiers
Fields
| Field | Description |
|---|---|
id |
Original ESConv index |
elo |
Tournament Elo rating (higher = better empathy) |
wins |
Tournament wins |
losses |
Tournament losses |
draws |
Tournament draws |
emotion_type |
Primary emotion: anxiety, depression, sadness, anger, fear, etc. |
problem_type |
Problem category: breakup, job crisis, ongoing depression, etc. |
situation |
Description of the seeker's situation |
dialog |
Full conversation as JSON array of {text, speaker, strategy} turns |
survey_score |
Original crowdworker survey ratings (empathy, relevance, emotion intensity) |
Quality Tiers
| Tier | Elo | Count |
|---|---|---|
| Top 20% | >= 1530 | ~260 |
| Top 50% | >= 1500 | ~650 |
| Bottom 25% | < 1480 | ~325 |
Tournament Method
- Swiss-style pairing: similar-Elo conversations matched each round
- 10 rounds, ~650 matches per round
- Logit-probe A/B judging: normalized P(A|{A,B}) from single-token output
- Position bias mitigated via randomized A/B presentation order
- Continuous Elo scoring (no binary win/loss, raw probabilities as match scores)
Citation
Original ESConv dataset:
@inproceedings{liu-etal-2021-towards,
title = "Towards Emotional Support Dialog Systems",
author = "Liu, Siyang and others",
booktitle = "ACL 2021",
year = "2021"
}
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