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989 | 1,578.687823 | 7 | 0 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I've had some degree of depression for a long time. Longer than this damn pandemic. I've always been a homebody but not leaving the house at all for almost three months was a lot. A lot has happened over the past year and I'm not sure how to handle it all. I feel alone even when there are people around. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Okay. How are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Trying to be positive about the dumpster fire of 2020 lol, but positivity is kind of hard to maintain wouldn't you say?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It really, really is. Things just pile up, you know?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Totally! It's hard to plan for success when life seems a bit uncertain. Is there anything in particular that's bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's a combination of things. I have no idea what I'm doing most days, just kind of going through the motions. Kind of like Groundhog Day, repeating the same day over and over with slightly different variations. Trying to get things done and taken care of, thinking I'm doing my best and feeling like it's never good enough. Feeling like I'm failing all the time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah yes, the cog in the machine sort of vibe. Boy do I feel that. Well, the good thing is your not alone. The bad thing is societal pressure demands that we be productive or we think we're wasting time. When's the last time you took a day to enjoy something you like to do?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It's been a long time since I did that, I can't even remember when", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't get many opportunities like that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What activity or activities are you thinking about? Anything that you enjoy or makes you smile.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Anything really. I have two kids, neither of which is in school yet so they're with me all the time. It's very rare that I have someone to watch them for me so I can do....anything by myself. One of my good friends got married recently and my parents watched them for me so I could go to her bachelorette party and wedding without them. That was the first time I'd gone anywhere without them in....over a year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah weddings, did you have fun?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I did. I had a really good time. It was weird being out without them, but it was fun", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Nice! Well, two kids is A LOT, especially since they aren't in school yet. You are dealing with the care and growth of the most complex organism on this planet...times two! That's incredible. First of all, give yourself a pat on the back for that. Secondly, is it ok if i ask if you felt guilty for having fun without them? Often times guilt robs us of the ability to take care of ourselves, which happens to me all the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'm working on that but I feel guilty wanting time to myself to do things", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's a systemic problem. Guilt is this powerful check when we do things that are wrong but self love is not wrong. When you constantly take care of others, you might forget to take care of yourself. We are only able to give the best version of ourselves when we feel validated. Perhaps there is a daycare or at home assistance program that will help give you the time to remember how great you are! Do you have some friends or close relatives that can talk with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Not really. They're all dealing with they're own issues", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you asked them? I don't mean to be rude, but I have trouble asking for help and sometimes asking people for help seems like this huge, monumental task. But people can often surprise you. Of course, If you have, then I'd suggest looking up some motivational apps and trying meditation. While it can be hard with two young kids, meditation, even for only a few minutes, will help you relax through your doubt long enough to handle the challenges of the day. When you say you feel like your failing, do you think it is because you hold yourself a standard that is hard to reach?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't and I guess I'm a pleaser. I always wanna make sure everyone around me is okay and has everything they need and I do have trouble asking for help. Not that I don't think I need it, I just feel guilty asking.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "3", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,079 | 1,571.198579 | 7 | 1 | 2 | fear | breakup with partner | My partner left me for another woman and I simply can't get over it | [{"text": "Hi there, I really need someone to talk to right now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi there! I am here to chat :) What is on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My partner ran off with another woman and I simply cannot get over it. Why did he do this to me?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry to hear that, that is really rough. He sounds like a real jerk if you ask me!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know he could be at times and he did have a roving eye but I loved him and I miss him a huge amount, despite everything.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I get that, it's hard to understand why the people close to us do bad things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I think the biggest problem is that I keep wondering what his new girlfriend is like and if she is prettier or cleverer than me. I do not know what I did wrong.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You did nothing wrong. It's something wrong with him, if he did this to you, he'll probably do it again to her. Do you really want to be with someone that disregards your well being like that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "That is a very sensible way to look at things .. I do rationally realise that. Irrationally I just want him to come back to me and say that he made a mistake, though!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, it's easy to get sucked back into the nostalgic good memories of when things were at their best", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's exactly it! I keep thinking of all the good times we had together and the things that we did before her met Her. I just want those times to come around again even though I know they should not.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It really sucks, doesn't it? And it's not a walk in the park to get over someone when you've been so close to them. Breakups are kind of like a bad cut. They really hurt for a bit, but then a scar eventually forms over it and you start to forget about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you - you are really helping me to understand how I am feeling. I think that perhaps the scar never goes away but yes, hopefully it will not hurt anymore one day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have a group of friends, or activities to keep you busy while you're going through this? It helps to keep your mind distracted :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "And you are so welcome! I've been through my share of breakups too, it's never fun!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I do have some good friends but we also had some mutual friends who have been a bit distant with me since the break up. I guess that I really don't need them though, huh?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Friends come and they go, it doesn't have to be a game of choosing sides. Keep in touch with those that keep in touch with you. Or maybe reach out to some other friends you haven't connected with in awhile.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is good advice too. Or maybe I could do something to help me make new friends? Do you have any suggestions?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Totally! It helps to get into group activities, like hiking to going to the gym, or a book club.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do love to read - I think that I will totally look into joining a book club. I would really like to meet new people, not to date specifically but just to be friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you so very much for having talked to me - I do feel a good deal more positive now. I know that there is a long way to go but I think that I can see the light now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome! I hope you feel better and have a great night!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "you too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
787 | 1,571.083239 | 6 | 1 | 3 | sadness | breakup with partner | 7 weeks ago, my lover and I decided to stop having an affair. | [{"text": "Hi, I am having a tough time processing a correct decision today", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good morning. What type of decision is troubling you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "A few weeks ago, my lover and I decided to stop our affair. It is the right choice for him because he feels he should work on his marriage. I admire that, yet It is very lonely for me right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand the feeling lonely would make you feel your decision was wrong but from an outsiders view, it was not a healthy relationship if he was already committed to someone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "You deserve something better. Someone dedicated to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It was a fantastic experience. we were together for 3 years. I am not mad at him, he's a good guy. He was separated when we met. But as all life, it's complicated", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand. I have been in your shoes before. I learned a lot and found out more about myself in the growing experience after the relationship ended. I'm sure there was some positives even with you at the end of the relationship now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Each person is put in our life for a reason or season. This may just be the stepping stone to finding your soul mate. The perfect relationship won't feel so tricky in the long run and will make you feel on top of the world!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, I had my eyes wide open during the process and he and I were very open with our communication. I can see lots of blessings but I am just so sad. Each day is a challenge to focus", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can't imagine a relationship right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like you really but your heart in to this and I'm sure it hurts. No need to rush relationship. Falling back in love with yourself is the key first. Finding your inner happiness will make the next relationship that much better and stronger!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Treat yourself to a few solo dates to find joy in the day to day life you are now building without him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have heard the idea of dating ones self", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I haven't been out to eat for over a year due to the pandemic situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can be fun! No decisons on who wants to go where. It is all about you enjoying the moment and your own company!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No need to go out if you feel uncomfortable. Find a movie you have been wanting to watch and order some take out! Or do some online shopping while enjoying your favorite dessert or adult beverage!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "During this time with the affair, I had the strength to leave a narcissistic spouse that abused me emotionally. I am proud of myself for that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a lot to handle! I am proud of you for that as well! No one ever deserves to be abused. Some solo time to rebuild your independance may do you wonders and give you back your strength and self confidence! Seems like the past year has been emotionally draining.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It has been. You are right about me focusing on solo time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you know yourself better than anyone else and are about to leap in to a new chapter of your life. You received lessons from both the past relationships and can take that forward knowing what you wish for and deserve.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Thank you for letting me talk about this. It is a touchy topic, affairs. My heart was so loved during that time but I always told him that if he needed me to step back, I would. It has been difficult on both of us.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Being a parent, having the families meshed together, homes, work, etc.... I can understand why he feels he should try again.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes talking about why you are feeling is the best way to find closure. Keep the memories of the love and good times but know that in the end you were destined for something so much more. As adults we try so often to find happiness in others. He is a good person for wanting to try to resolve the situation for his family but that does not mean he did not love you or that your relationship was not a bright spot in his life as it was yours. I'm sure he is hurting too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thank you so much for saying that. It really means a lot to me and grounds me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you are correct, that I need to move forward for me. I deserve it. That's a concept I have been learning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You deserve peace through this transition. It will take some time but I think you will come out even stronger and happier on the long run. Journaling may be a great outlet for your emotions as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thank you for that idea. He was my muse in that relationship and I would write beautiful stories and poetry for him. Writing out my journey to the next stage of my life would be beneficail", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think so! It may also let you heal while building your creativity even more! You seem like a very passionate and loving person.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "You made me heart smile... thank you.. !! I am glad that I got to speak with you today!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are so very welcome! You were a pleasure to talk to and I wish you all the best! Let this year be YOUR year!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
678 | 1,568.674522 | 8 | 0 | 2 | sadness | breakup with partner | My boyfriend cheated in me and then broke up with me after I told him that I knew what he did. | [{"text": "I am having a deep sense of sadness after the break up with my boyfriend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like crying all the time and I feel like the sadness will never end.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have sense of overwhelming sadness as if my heart is sinking or like I am on a sinking ship. I wake up in the middle of the night and I am gasping for air, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for sharing that with me. I'm so sorry you've been feeling like that. Breakups are so hard and can cause so much grief.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I feel like I will never meet anyone else and that I wasted so much time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know those feelings of sadness can feel like they will never end- I have felt that way too before.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do you feel like the best part of your life was over? That is how I feel now. Its seem like all of my plans for the future are over and ruined.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But they do pass eventually and become easier to manage- with time and care. Do you have anyone in your life, a friend or family member who you can lean on when you're feeling so sad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have a best friend but she told me that she didn't like my boyfriend from the beginning so she is glad that we broke up. Well, that I got dumped.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like it's hard to have your best friend not be as supportive as you want during this hard time. What has been helping you to pass the time these days- do you have any activities or hobbies that you like to do to relax, have fun, or take your mind of things?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have been wanting to buy a bike and start taking my dog out for little bike rides. I want to get one with a basket and have her sit in the front. I just hate being alone and I feel so sad about doing everything alone now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a great idea. I love taking walks and bike rides outside when I feel down. I also have a little dog and she helps me whenever I'm feeling lonely- dogs are great at providing comfort and unconditional love.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I just bought my puppy and she is super comforting. I think that because she was a recuse dog I feel a greater attachment. It is kind of nice having her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My dog has also helped me meet other people and make friends- sometimes I'll walk my dog with others or go on bike rides with friends. If there is a dog park or local park nearby, maybe you can go and talk to other people there- talking about your dogs is a great icebreaker!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know about a local dog park and think I will visit it today. That is a really good idea. I don't need a bike for that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear that! I hope you have a great time there! Research has also shown that spending time outside everyday is really good for our mental health.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "You are giving me something to think about that isn't related to the break up. I feel like a weight is sort of lifting off of me. I think I needed to talk and get some of my feelings on the table today.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you are still interested in getting a bike, I'd say go for it too! Biking is a great stress relief and form of exercise that often makes me feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I am so glad to hear that and am so happy you are talking to me is making you feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I really want to get one but since I don't have a lot of money right now I will waitr on that and go to the dog park instead. I also heard about yoga iin the park.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Those are both great ideas! Yoga in the park sounds awesome. Yoga is another great stress reliever and form of exercise that is often free or very inexpensive.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I am feeling like life still goes on and things are going on all around me. I am going to start seeing whats out there and trying to join in a little bit more. My dog is opening a door for me and with your encouragement too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am very glad to hear that. Is there anything else I can help you with today? I am here to listen.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I was thinking about reading self help books or journaling but I was so down on myself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Reading and journaling are also great tools to use. Even when you are feeling down it can be helpful to write down your feelings as a form of release.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you for all of your support and understanding today. I am going to journal and then head to the dog park and get some fresh air.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a great plan. Good luck and I hope you continue to feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you again for being a wonderful listener and better friend than my best one.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're very welcome.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
687 | 1,568.137371 | 7 | 0 | 3 | anger | problems with friends | My friend created a separate chat for planning hangouts and did not include me. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Kind of angry and disappointed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm very sorry to hear that, did something not go as planned recently?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My friend created a group chat for planning activities and did not include me. She included people who are closer to me than to her. Almost like she is trying to steal my friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. So when she did this, it gave you the feeling of almost being replaced or abandoned by your own social circle?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "In a way. I was disappointed by the rest of them but mostly angry at her. It almost feels like she wants to be the leader of the group and feels like I am her competition.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's definitely frustrating to feel that your support system could possibly become a source of stress and competition anxiety. Especially since it's where we're supposed to feel safe and unjudged.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Exactly. They are supposed to be the people I can go to with my problems. Now I feel like they all had a secret which I wasn't privy to and it made me feel disconnected and untrusting towards them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds that you're a person who really does care about keeping the relationships they've invested in healthy and open. That care level can definitely cause natural anxiousness in situations like this, when the place you stand with them and what they're thinking suddenly feels uncertain.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am a bit of an idealist. I like for everyone to be in harmony, to be nice, supportive, caring, open and honest. I don't know how to move on from this.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, and there are endless possibilites the mind can create outside of ideal. But funnily enough, the imagination of an idealist that lets them visualize great things can also create equally strong fears before getting answers. And thankfully those fears can be addressed outside of the head where they're made.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Have you tried reaching out to these friends yourself and initiating your own plan with them since this group chat?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I talked about it with one friend. He felt bad but what I couldn't understand why he was secretive about the chat too. If he thought we were close why hide stuff?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, it can seem a bit confusing since you naturally would expect to feel comfortable with so much between each other already.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do you think it is asking too much on my part?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "On the contrary, I think you might not be allowing yourself to ask enough!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Sometimes, the people who are closest to us can actually become even more anxious about how something might affect your feelings. It could be the case with him too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Sometimes I question if it is even worth talking to them about it. People often don't want to say what they really think. Instead they just say whatever to avoid confrontation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Some people express themselves best through their actions. Have you tried suggesting a meeting for something you'd usually do to see if they're willing to hang out just as always?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh I know they would. I don't hang out as much as they all do so that is probably why I wasn't included in the chat. But I didn't see the harm of me being in it even if I couldn't make it to most events. I guess it's the secrecy that bothers me. It makes me a bit paranoid about what else do they all know that I don't.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
867 | 1,567.418206 | 6 | 0 | 4 | sadness | ongoing depression | My mom died almost 2 years ago. Due to anxiety, i have a long term boyfriend but no other friends so i was pretty close with my mom. i miss her desperately | [{"text": "I know she would want me to be happy, but i don't feel joy anymore", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. Sometimes it's hard to find joy. When do you think you starting feeling this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Almost 2 years ago. I'm so lonely without her", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes, finding joy can be difficult. Especially when what we always turned to for joy is gone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But we can find comfort in little things. Is there something you have that gives you comfort? Even the smallest thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "When she was alive I felt like she was keeping me alive because i didn't want to put her through the pain of killing myself", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel good for a few minutes at a time but then it all seems pointless", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I believe we all have purpose in this life. I know that it's hard to live with-out the ones we hold dearly. I think a way we can keep them alive in our hearts is to pass on the good things about they did for us to others.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You hit the nail on the head. I struggle to find purpose for my life. I have no kids & my anxiety keeps me from reaching out to people.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel the same way, I get anxious around others as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Maybe little steps are the best way. Sometimes all someone needs is a smile, even when we can't find our own, we can give one to others.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Everytime I convince myself to seek professional help I fool myself into believing that this will finally be the time I will be able to fix myself. Of course I haven't yet", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I admit it has helped to be online & see that so many other people share my \"symptoms\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's always hard to make that next step, but I believe you're closer than you think.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I hope I hurry up. I feel like i'm wasting precious time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can't imagine ever feeling close enough to someone to call them a friend. I wish i could learn to love my solitude more", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are not alone and you are right, time is precious, but it's okay to take to to grieve. Grief is a part of healing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It would be nice if as humans we could be more evolved to the point that death wouldn't hurt so much as it is a part of life. My mom was an art teacher & I like to be crafty. After she died i started \"A Tribute to Mom: 1000 Acts of Art\" I'm at #544", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And that feels good & hurts at the same time", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}} |
712 | 1,566.04804 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | My daughter was hit by a car and I'm having depression over it. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hi my name is Lisa, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm struggling to make it through the day. My daughter was hit by a car in September and the traumatic experience is weighing heavy on my brain.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it sounds like you are feeling troubled after your daughter's car accident am I right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Troubled would not be the word I would use, but it wasn't a car accident. She was hit by a car in the street outside of my house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She was coming home from school. She is only 5.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that sounds like it would be a very traumatic experience, it's no wonder this is hard for you, it would be hard for anyone in this situation", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have a hard time getting out of bed in the morning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How would you use to describe your feelings about this accident?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I would say that I am anxious all the time. She survived, but she had some serious injuries after. I feel like a part of me died that day, the part that thought I could protect her no matter what. I would say that I'm also feeling ashamed because it was out of my control.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are dealing with a lot...it is normal to feel anxious about it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Is that how you would feel?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and it's hard not to blame ourselves, but please remember this was outside your control", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank you for saying that. I quit my job to focus on her healing, and i don't want to go back to work now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have not experienced anything like this to be honest....the closest I can recall is encouraging my daughter to do something, and then she got hurt, and I blamed myself and felt like a bad mother", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "how is your daughter doing now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She is healing well, she has a moderate TBI (traumatic brain injury) so there is still so much uncertainty. It sucks to blame ourselves for things that happen to our kids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "the fact that you felt the need to quit your job shows how deeply this has affected you...do you miss your work?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No. And I'm completely dreading going back to work. I wish I could somehow get paid to exist so that I can just stay home with my daughter all day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it sounds like you need to be with your daughter all day but also need the income that work would afford, am i right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "YES. And if you can figure out how to make that happen I'll give you 10% of the salary lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hehe...0% is all I'd ask for...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "how about part time work would that be possible for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've been looking for a remote part time job that has pay equivalent to a full time job. Apparently, that's not a thing.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i see...I would not know how to find such a job, i've often thought that would be a great thing to do..", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i have a question", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "What's your question.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is there a friend or family member that can spend time with your daughter so it's easier to get back to maybe a part time job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't have a family. Just my daughter, and my boyfriend who lives in Australia that can't come here due to Covid restrictions. She does see her Dad everyday, but the part time hours I would need would have to be flexible and no company is even really hiring part time at the moment from what I can tell.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. I wonder if you have spoken to a doctor about how you feel? Struggling to get through the day must be so difficult. I wonder if it might be helpful to get screened for depression", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have a psychiatrist and a therapist that I have been working with. Their solution is medication which I am extremely against.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
795 | 1,564.845927 | 6 | 0 | 4 | sadness | breakup with partner | My (ex)fiancé and I recently broke up, but we're still spending a great deal of time together, and we both say we're not sure if our relationship is 100% "done" and agreed to tell each other if we start dating other people. He said he doesn't want to see anyone else, but I came over one night to find him with a woman. It was their third date. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well, my fiance and I \"sort of\" broke up recently. I moved out of our place and all, but we continued to see each other at least 3X per week. And we both said we're not 100% sure that we're ok with us being done for good. - We promised to tell each other if we start dating anyone. He said he wasn't interested in dating. Three days after that conversation, I come over unexpectedly to find him making dinner for a woman I've never seen before. Turns out it was his 3rd date with her. He met her on a dating app a week before our conversation about promising to tell each other if we start dating others.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry that happened. Are you mostly hurt because he didn't tell you he was seeing somebody else?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "To be honest, I'd still be hurt if he told me. But now on top of that hurt, I feel disrespected... and everything I thought I knew about him is kind of crushed. We were together 6 years, and I always, ALWAYS believed he was the most honest, kind, \"stand up guy\" I've ever known.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You must feel really torn up about it. I can tell that you care about your relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes, that's true. The worst part is that he doesn't seem to think I have a right to be hurt. How do I even deal with someone who hurt me but doesn't care to take any responsibility whatsoever?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe he didn't intend to hurt you. Its not like he invited you over to tease you. It is true that he didn't keep his promise, and that's his fault.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's true. He didn't invite me over. I expected him to be at work that night. I was coming over to see our cats, which still all lived with him. I still had a key and it didn't occur to me that I could invade his privacy since I had been spending 3X a week with him, and he was fine with me using the key. The whole thing was a shock. I wouldn't have come in had I known what I'd find inside.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That would definitely add to the distress of the situation to have a weird surprise like that. It doesn't really seem like your fault that you were there but it is unfortunate nonetheless. Have you tried talking to h im yet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah. It's a long story to explain here, but at first he told me it was a first date... then he said it was a second date... then finally he said it was a third date. I had to figure out on my own that he met her through a dating app, which makes me feel extra icky because now I kind of feel like a stalker. (Don't worry, I didn't do anything illegal or immoral to figure this out at all. He left an easy breadcrumb trail for me to follow.... but it still feels gross that I felt compelled to research the situation because I could \"feel\" he was lying.)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's ok, you have a vested interest in this person. It is natural to be interested in such things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes. I'm not only invested in him. I have a SUPER close relationship with his two daughters. Some of the reason he wanted to see me after our \"break up\" is because he didn't want to tell his daughters that I might be out of their lives forever. He told me so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And I love those girls so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They're 13 and 16. They were 7 and 11 when I started seeing their dad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There are a lot of therapists out there that might be able to help you navigate this. It's OK to get some outside help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That's a good suggestion. I think individual therapy might benefit me. I could ask him if he's open to couple's counseling--even if it's over, it could help with closure.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Considering how much time you've put in to this relationship, I can tell you have a lot of feelings about all of this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I do. I appreciate your talking the time to listen to me. Sometimes just talking about an issue can help organize one's feelings and thoughts.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Really, it is no problem. It helps to let it out sometimes, I feel that. Make sure you take care of your own needs before starting to smooth things over.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is good advice. I haven't been eating or sleeping as well as I should since this all started. I'll work on that. --- Thank you so much for your time and help and kindness. :) I wish you a great weekend!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks and you too, stay strong!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you!!! Take good care, stranger. I sincerely wish you the very best. <3", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Fare thee well sweetheart, best indeed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
441 | 1,563.619006 | 5 | 1 | 4 | sadness | problems with friends | My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared. | [{"text": "Hi! How are you today/", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Doesn't it? So you understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You can feel so helpless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think it helps him if I do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How did your mom do?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you don't mind my asking.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's just felt like a lot.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes! Definitely.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He's been a lifesaver.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Even though puppies are crazy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Now just need to get through this week.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I really appreciate you saying that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's true! i hope this has been helpful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Crying can be therapeutic so that's good!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I should take a bath and cry now! Thank you so much. You've been a true help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have a nice holiday, if you're here in the States.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too! hAppy thanksgiving!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Take care.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
282 | 1,559.646549 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | ongoing depression | I have to give up my parrot because I am now blind and have to move. I cant take teh parrot with me. | [{"text": "Hi, can I help you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have had my babu for 15 years and have to give him up. He is a parrot and so used to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that. You have probably become very attached after that long, I can imagine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I am worried that he wont be taken care of. I am worried that he wont be happy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I cook for him and take him outside. I grow fruit so he can eat it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can I ask why you have to give him up? Do you have any other pets?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "NO other pets. I have gone leaglly blind, had to give up driving. I have to move to a condo from a single famuly home. He is too loud to live in a condo.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are a very good caretaker for your parrot. You have given him a lot of specialized care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Going blind is bad enough, giving up driving was teh worst. But giving up my parrot is really hard.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I did baby him, he can go outside through the dggie door. He gets fresh fruit, spaghettie, He has his own Alexa.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have been the best you could be for him and it has got to feel really sad to let him go. It can feel like a death sometimes when you lose someone or a pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "If he died it would be OK, I would mourn him and move on. But I have never had to give up a pet before. I just think most people. wont take care of him like I do. Because he is still alive, I will worry about him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand a little bit of how you feel. My dog died recently and it was really hard when the vet had to put him down. I was really sad and would cry when I thought of him ort the things we used to do together.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yes, I was depressed for 6 months after my parrot died, but eventually we move on. I dont know that I can move on after giving him up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Would you ever consider getting a pet that is not as loud? I am not suggesting that you replace him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No, except a seeing dog", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am concerned that if you don't have a pet to care for you may have a more difficult time to recover and thrive. Mourning is a process and it might be easier if you can hare your ;love with another pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "No other pets. I need to move and cannot take him with me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A seeing eye dog is a great idea. You are trying to think of ways to help yourself and that is really important. You are also reaching out and sharing your feelings. Do you have any friends with pets that you can visit with from time to time?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It isn't about a new pet it is about worrying that he will not be taken care of.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I contacted a rescue place to get him a new home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry that makes a lot of sense. I am really thankful that you are sharing your feelings and expressing them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Contacting a rescue place has helped me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Rescue centers usually make people apply to adopt to insure a good home for them. You have made him into a wonderful pet.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think that will be best for him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for listening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome. You are doing what is right and i am proud of you for listening to your heart and providing the best all these years.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time today and please come back whenever you need to talk. I am happy to listen and do my best.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,144 | 1,559.452152 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | My husband quit his job to stay home with our teenage son who is very difficult and has been in legal trouble. My husband feels like it is important for him to be home more but this is putting a financial strain on us and our son is causing a lot of emotion conflict. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello, I am looking for help in managing some depression.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You've come to a good place to start.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Is there something in particular that is leaving you feeling depressed?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am feeling resentful towards my husband for quitting his job, and my son for being the reason that he quit his job.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My son's behavior is causing a lot of conflict in our house and my husband not working is putting a lot of financial stress on us", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. Feeling resentment for both your husband's loss of work and your son's loss of his job is entirely understandable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I have a hard time not dwelling on the negative things going on. It's hard to see anything positive or feel hopeful for the future.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have an adult son who also lost his job recently, and I understand the added stress that can cause in your household.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That is a really difficult position to be in.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "My son is very defiant and argues with us about everything we try and get him to do, but he expects us to give him money for fun things that he wants to do when he isn't willing to work or even help out around the house", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Regardless of what your husband's actions are and your son's, could you possibly make the time to do things to support yourself, that even momentarily would provide you with some positive feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I try to go for a run every night, that does help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very hard emotionally, so I am sorry you have to deal with your son's behavior.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is hard to keep my emotions separate from what is going on with him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very understandable! Setting boundaries for yourself may help. Even when it's difficult, being clear with your son that you will not be giving him money could help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Sometimes being clear with your own expectations can help him to see what won't be accepted from him as long as he is living in your home.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, I could do better at that. I want him to have fun and do things with friends, but I want him to be willing to work for what he wants, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do struggle with expectations. I want him to be someone that he is not willing to be, I need to let go of that and just let him be himself and not base my emotions on his choices.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand that. Especially when it comes to people we are close to, it can be hard to separate our expectations from theirs.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I feel guilty sometimes taking time to do things that I like and that are away from my family. I can see that I need to do that more, though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've had to learn this lesson many times with my own children. It's difficult, but ultimately will give you some relief from your resentment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thank you, it is helpful to know that other people have felt the same way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely! Being a parent is difficult. Remembering to support yourself helps. Making the time to do things to support your wellbeing doesn't make you selfish at all", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are certainly not alone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Has any of this been helpful? Is there more I can do for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
546 | 1,559.304878 | 7 | 2 | 1 | fear | Issues with Children | I fear my child is in bad company. Recently his behavior has changed to the worst. I don't know how to approach the issue. | [{"text": "Hello my name is Sharon, how are you today? :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi Sharon. Am good just concerned about my son.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I see. What's happening with your son?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I suspect my son is in bad company. His most recent behaviour is so different from what I am used to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that's hard to deal with. My daughter ran with a bad crowd for a while and I remember the deep worry.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What sort of behaviour are you noticing? How old is he?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My son is 15. Recently he's keeping to himself and mostly stays locked in his room. He barely allows anyone in.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And when you try and talk to him about it what does he say?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "He says he's studying online. But I suspect he's doing other stuff online apart from study", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I see. Apart from isolating how is he doing otherwise, like at school? Is he still seeing his friends at all?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It can be scary not knowing what our kids are up to online.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Not really. He just has this one particular friend who comes over sometimes and they lock themselves in the room.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hmm. So a lot of mystery. I can understand you being worried. Is he your only child?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I am so scared I don't want to confront him I have always tried to show him how much I trust him as away to make him feel responsible enough", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes. He is my only child and I am single parent", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats good parenting! Perhaps if you frame it as being about you, e.g. \"I am getting really worried, can you please explain....it's affecting me (affecting my sleep/work/whatever\" .... maybe it will inspire him to be more forthcoming", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Any signs of depression? I have been depresed before, and self-isolating can be a symptom, I've been there...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Never thought of it that way. That could be a possibility. But he always seems happy and we chat a lot onlythat he his behind closed doors in his room for a long time everyday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Am also concerned about the friend who comes over. I don't really know his family or home just that he's from the neighborhood and they go to the same school.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hmm. My other thought is tell him what you just told me, that you have been trying to show him that you trust him....but be honest and tell him you are afraid. Hopefully, he won't want you feeling that way, and will open up a bit.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes I can see that being concerning when you know nothing about the friend. Yet you walk a fine line because he needs the freedom and autonomy to choose his friends without explanation required...it's such a balancing act. I can tell you that I have raised a daughter, and that teen years were tougher than toddlerhood. Lots of worry, but she came through it and is fine now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I wonder if there is a teacher he is close to that you could bring your concerns to, perhaps the teacher may have some insight about yoru son to offer?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I find reassurance from your words. Its been tough for me this far we have come with my son and I want us to be close even as he growing up to become a young man. I have a good relationship with their teacher and will definitely give her a friendly call to know more from her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh good. And it may be just a normal part of his development. Teens pull away from parents, peer group becomes far more important. It may be as simple as that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "It took my daughter about 15 years to \"come back to me\" and now we have a close relationship again....so even if he seems to be drifting away know that it's normal and that will change in the future.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good to know that from an experienced parent. I will try communicate my worries and my intensions to him. I hope he will understand and not pull away.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And in the meantime remember to take extra good care of yourself :) Sometimes as moms we forget to do special things for ourselves. You are doing the hardest and most imporant job in the world so it's important to recognize that and reward yourself for it. I hope that conversation goes well for you, that you will have with him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time and experienced advise.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh you're so welcome, it's been a pleasure speaking with you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "The pleasure was all mine. Bye.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "bye :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
575 | 1,559.197774 | 6 | 2 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | Nothing special just an ongoing thing i've been dealing with since my daughter was born. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've been dealing with a lot of depression lately. not sure how to shake it (1)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im sorry to hear that, has there been anything going to cause the increase?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "My daughter was born about 3 months ago. I guess it's post-partum.(2)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is really rough, though it is good you recognize it. A lot of people do not.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well I figured when I was crying at the Pampers commercial that there might be an issue (3)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried to talk to a professional. It is very prevalent that mothers experiencing this do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've talked to my doctor that delivered my daughter about it. He recommended medication but I'm not so sure I want to take something for the rest of my life (4)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "As long as you recognize that it is a much more common thing that people go through, that is a great start. I experienced it with my second child as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Did they put you on medication (5)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is no harm getting a second opinion. I never did take medication, i found a good therapist to talk too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "A second opinion is probably a good thing. I just know I can't keep laying in bed 1/2 the day with the baby. (6)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah that you cant, and i cant stress how good it is that you realize it. I would definitely go for a second opinion. Or even search for therapists that specialize in it in your area. Never have been a fan of using medicine as the first go unless really needed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I'm not big on the medication. I've talked to several moms that went on it and years later had to stay on it because the withdrawals were so terrible. I'd like to be able to process through it(7)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And whats the worst a little talking can do for you. Has talking to other moms been helpful at all?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well, some of them LOL! Others just scare me to pieces so it really depends on who it is! My husband does not understand at all but he's trying (8)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "At least he is trying, as i said before, even with it being so common, it is a mystery to most.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't think a lot of people talk about it. You have this new healthy child, you should be excited, and yet there is extreme sadness and no idea why so you stay quiet about it (9)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah its a rough cycle, you get down on yourself for feeling down.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Exactly, like it's my fault that I feel this way. My head knows that is not right, my heart another story. (10)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, i am glad you want to do something about it. I hope you do follow up with a second opinion, or maybe even support groups in your area.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I am going to look into some support groups in our area and maybe a therapist as well. Just need to do some research to find some locally", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Great, thats wonderful news. I think you are on the right track to being yourself again.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I certainly hope so. I'd like to enjoy this little bundle of joy instead of just spending all day at home doing nothing", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
600 | 1,557.5029 | 6 | 1 | 3 | sadness | ongoing depression | Self isolation due to the pandemic. Home with the kids alone every day. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm ok, how are you ?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just ok? Is there something bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I'm struggling with depression. I'm a mom at home with my children throughout the day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be a lot to manage, I'm sure you're doing a great job.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "As a mom as well, I know there are many demands and things to juggle. Is there something specific you're struggling with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It is, thank you. I think I need to cope with self isolation better. Being a mom is self isolating by itself without the pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand, the pandemic and having added responsibility definitely has been very isolating and can feel like you're losing your sense of self.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I've joined \"mom groups\" and that does seem to help some. You're right I am losing my sense of self, that is a very good way to put it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely normal to have that sense of guilt for feeling that way as well. This whole situation is not ideal for anyone, which somehow makes it worse. It's hard to talk to someone about these feelings when you know everyone else is in the same or worse situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is very hard to talk to someone about these feelings, when we are all going through it. How have you been able to maintain your sense of self? Any tips?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's taken a while to figure it out and get on the same page with my husband, but I try and practice self-care when possible. It can be something as simple as going for a walk alone or sitting and reading alone. There's no shame in needing some time alone to reset.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for your empathy and understanding. You are so right, self care is so important as a mom, especially right now. My husband doesn't understand that just by going to work he is able to escape for a little while. I will definitely try to practice more self care. Good luck to you and thank you for your advise! You have been very helpful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear it, good luck to you as well. I hope you're able to practice self care and reset. Stay safe!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your kids are lucky to have you, stay safe as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Too kind, thank you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Have a good afternoon:)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well, I'm so glad you're feeling better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
799 | 1,557.271144 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I'm worried about covid and my mom. she is high-risk. Im afraid she may get the virus. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Oh, I'm okay. I'm just tired of everything and it has me down.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see, I've been feeling that way too recently.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Is there anything in particular that has you upset or just life in general?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Just life in general, I guess. I'm tired of covid. I'm tired of worrying about my mom and not going out and everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That makes total sense. Covid's been going on for so long, life is so different now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do you want to talk about what's going on with your mom?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She's high risk, so we have to be careful who we come in contact with. We try to limit time in public and all that. I order groceries for pickup at walmart so i dont have to go in, and my schooling is all online so i dont have to go to class.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She's been fighting cancer. She's in remission now, but her immune system is still compromised and we have to be even more careful than we usually would have to be", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it's really great that you're doing all that for her! It must be extra hard to have to limit public interactions even more than most people.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That sounds so stressful to have to be worried about her on top of everything else. I'm so sorry you're going through that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you been able to keep in contact with friends through video chat? That's something that can sometimes help when feeling isolated.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, we text and have group chats and stuff, and we snapchat a lot. It's been a while since I saw any of them, though. At least we have that, though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And yeah, it's really stressful worrying about her. And she feels so bad because I can't see my friends or go in the store or to school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you don't think the online interactions are a good substitute for in-person things. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Ah, that sounds like kind of a cycle of guilt going on. Where she feels bad about you not being able to go out, and you feel bad about her feeling bad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yeah, it does. I don't need a lot of in-person interaction. I'm an introvert, so this was all just fine when it started. But even introverts need to be around people sometimes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah that makes complete sense. It seems like you have a good idea of who you are and what your needs are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, it does seem like the cycle of guilt.... I try not to let her see how much this is affecting me, but she's my mom and she can tell...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wonder if you could do something like take walks in the park with friends, or see them with masks where you're really socially distanced from everyone", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I'm pretty good at self-analysis lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really hope things get better for you. Covid should be ending soon hopefully with the vaccine, and things will start to go a bit back to normal", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Oh that's a really good idea! That might be something we can do. It won't be quite the same, but it's better than nothing. I'll ask my mom's doctor if that will be okay.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you. Hopefully it will, and hopefully she will be able to get the vaccine soon, too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah! I hope that works out for you. I've been finding getting outside and doing things with others has been helpful both for social and exercise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's been really nice chatting with you :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,211 | 1,555.677781 | 7 | 2 | 1 | shame | ongoing depression | I cheated on my boyfriend and I don't want to tell him. I feel really bad because he is a great person. | [{"text": "I am having a really hard time with something that I did to my boyfriend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you want to talk about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, thank you! I was with him since childhood and we are actually still together. I slipped up one night and hate to admit what I did.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're holding onto a lot of guilt about this incident.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Are you comfortable talking about that night?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, it is intense guilt. I can't think of anything else. I hate to tell you but I cheated on him. I am so sorry and can't look at myself in the mirror.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That can really weigh you down, beating yourself up with guilt.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Does he know about the incident?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel like I am worthless and I don't deserve to ever be happy or laugh again. I really do love him and I don't ever want him to find out what I did. Yes, I cant stop beating myself up. He doesn't know what I did but he is little suspicious.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You definitely deserve to laugh and be happy. One mistake doesn't define you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you! A long time ago his sister told me that he cheated on me and I believed her and so I wanted to get him back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It says a lot about your character that you feel badly about this, that you can see and recognize you acted in a way you don't agree with. That's something to build on.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That desire to \"get even\" is definitely understandable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I appreciate that and have been thinking about character a lot lately. I do believe he cheated on me first, if that even matters now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel like you got what you needed from the experience, as in, that you've \"gotten even\"?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I feel very even! I won't do it again. Can I ever give up the guilt that I feel and move on in our relationship or do I have to tell him what I did? I have known couples who don't tell each other and they are happy now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "While it may be true in general that honesty is the best policy, in this case I wouldn't suggest telling him. It is just going to cause angry feelings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "But, the fact you already believed he cheated on you and it motivated you to do the same shows a basic lack of trust in this relationship. That's something you should really look at.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you for making me feel heard. I have been alone in my thoughts and needed to be understood. Yes, I agree with you and I feel like I kind of let it go now that I told you about it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am going to be in touch regularly of that's okay? I feel so much better now. I can take a deep breath again and I want to go take a walk with my dog now. Thank you for all of your time and understanding.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad you're feeling better now that you've gotten it out in the open. Of course, you are welcome anytime.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That sounds great because I want to keep this private and I know you won't tell anyone so I feel really safe here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely. This is all in complete confidence.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
619 | 1,555.664361 | 6 | 2 | 2 | fear | ongoing depression | My health is crazy and I may have to face a major surgery. I have a severe auto immune disorder and even though I've had it for 8 years you never get used to it. | [{"text": "Good evening.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you this evening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Things are always crazy, and of course with the pandemic my anxiety is even more through the roof. It's not a good time to have immune issues", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you someone who has immune issues?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am also facing the real possibility of surgery which scares the heck out of me. I am! I have a severe auto immune disease called Ulcerative Colitis, and I am on immuno suppresant meds on top of that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just to clarify, you are extremely anxious about the pandemic and the affect it may have on you because of your weakened immune system.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Well kind of yes. I am going crazy because I've had this for 8 years now and it's forever changing. I've been hospitalized so many times its crazy. This pandemic has made things worse because stress makes it all worse", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just from the few messages we have exchanged, I can tell it makes you very anxious", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Its just really depressing not knowing what to expect next. Its hard to trust the good days sometimes because you can have a wonderful day and wake up really sick the next. Its very unpredictable and I think whats worse is that people really don't understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you reached out to support groups for people with auto-immune issues? it is often helpful to speak with people who are experiencing the same issues you are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes I am part of many on facebook, and yes it does help a lot. I just wish my husband would be able to understand. He says and does some things that make me feel even worse. Almost like he thinks I'm making it up at times. Like, dear goodness no.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you talked to him about the way he reacts to your immune issues? Sometimes people don't realize they are not being helpful and they think they are doing good when they aren't.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have tried to talk to him but he seems very uninterested at times. I even tried going to counseling with him and that didn't work. It's just frustrating. He was with me when the one doctor had said just how bad it was and he didn't seem to really pay attention. He was also there when I had to have an emergancy blood transfusion and it was really hard to read him. He just doesnt say or so much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you asked what his feelings are towards it? Maybe he is afraid and worried about your health and he isn't sure how to express it and sometimes it comes off as uninterested.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah whenever I try it's like pulling teeth. I know some of it is how he was brought up. I don't think his dad ever showed much emotion/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "so yes I'm sure that has something to do with it. I also feel bad a lot of the time because I have two kids. I feel like I fail them a lot", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "our oldest was born before I got sick. Our youngest was a miracle baby. I was on birth control and he was determained anyway :) He is definatly a gift but I feel bad often", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you been able to talk to your kids about this as well?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My oldest yes, he seems to understand, he is 8.5 years old. Our youngest is only one so he doesn't understand any of this yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He says he understands, but I'm not sure on just what level.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yea, with young kids it is hard to tell sometimes", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I know this is extremely hard, but I know you can make it through this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for the talk! I do feel a bit better right now!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "3", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
830 | 1,555.462143 | 8 | 0 | 2 | shame | breakup with partner | found out my fiance was cheating on me | [{"text": "Hello, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing okay I suppose. I could be much better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you feeling? Is there anything the matter?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am feeling really down today. My fiance was cheating on me and everything has pretty much crumbled all around me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can't completely relate, but my parents are going through something very similar after 25 years of marriage. Tell me more about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm glad you haven't and so sorry to hear about them. We have been together for 13 years and have an 11 year old. He has been dating someone for nearly two years and i had no clue. I am so embarrassed and feel so stupid.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry. Does your child know? I have a 10 year old and she is struggling with my parents, we lived with them for the first 2 years of her life and have always been 15 minutes away since. I completely understand why you feel the way you do that is to be expected. You are not stupid and I'm sure its not you. Have you spoken to your fiance about this since you found out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "He is somewhat aware that something is going on but not quite sure what. One of us will be moving out so it will need to be explained to him soon. We have talked and he just denies everything. He told me I'm crazy and they are just \"friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would love to believe that but unfortunately I know that isn't true. I'm just overwhelmed with so may questions that he is not answering.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so sorry. From personal experience, my best advice is to be as direct as possible. Demand respect and answers that you deserve after 13 years.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "If he will not answer your questions, thats all the answers you need. How did you find out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I can't even imagine how you feel. Clarity and answers are so important right now for you... no matter if it is true or not. That is a long time to be with someone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That is great advice! It's very hard to stand up for yourself sometimes especially when you are emotionally devastated. I visited him unannounced at work one day and they were having lunch together. I had no idea who she was and she got up and ran off. Upon further investigation, I checked phone records, receipts, any other thing I could find and all the evidence was there. two hour conversations, gifts from women's stores that weren't given to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my gosh. There's all the answers you need right there. I'm so sorry. He wont even speak to you about it? No excuses anything? Have you told family?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't told anyone yet. He just denies everything or has the perfect excuse for whatever I bring up. I have confronted her as well via text. She states she doesn't even know who he is. Really? So yeah. I just want to grieve it and be over with it. I think just talking about it had helped a lot.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You must express this in some way to let this out. It's not healthy to let your anger bottle up. I'm sure you're angry, rightfully so... do you have any hobbies to occupy your mind until you get things sorted?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I workout every day so that has helped keep my mind somewhat focused after work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's awesome. Working out can release so much stress. I hope things work out so you can get some sort of closure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you I really appreciate all of your help!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're welcome. I wish you the best of luck. Try to stay positive. It sounds like you are handling this the best you can.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thanks and well wishes you and your family as well!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
305 | 1,555.383231 | 5 | 1 | 4 | anxiety | academic pressure | It is finals week at my college and I am very anxious about it. | [{"text": "It is finals week at my college and I'm beyond anxious about it (1)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Taking finals certainly is tough, there's so much to think about. What's bothering you the most?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Probably my stamina and endurance to finish all the work. I'm still recovering from Covid-19 (2)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you spoken to anyone at the college about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, but they haven't been much help unfortunately. My classes are online and finals are due when finals are due. They are not giving any wiggle room (3)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It must make you feel quite trapped knowing that the college aren't cutting you a bit of slack considering you are still recovering from a serious illness. It sounds like you are trying your best and not giving up already.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "No I cannot give up at all. My scholarship requires me to maintain a certain GPA and I can't afford to lose it (4)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's good to hear that you're not giving up. Sometimes in these situations, you just have to do your best and then at least you know you did what you could. I like to tell myself in these situations that if there are no other avenues to explore, you just have to 'go with the flow' and don't beat yourself up thinking about it over and over - if there's nothing you can do, just do your best to ride it out", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I know, there is just so much riding on these finals. I have great grades so I'm praying that I pass without any issues and that I don't bomb even one of them (5)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you still there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you tried hard previously then you may come out the other end having done very well! When I was at school a long time ago, I had to stay off school for a month, when they were practising the exams. I didn't get chance to do those and I thought 'wow I'm totally screwed here', but guess what? I did okay!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I hope that's what happens, I just don't know how to calm down about it (6)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I'm here", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Do you know any techniques to help me calm down? (7)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's totally understandable. I think even without the COVID situation, you would still be anxious. It's totally natural. Not that that discounts how you feel. Do you agree?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, that is true. I just can't quite seem to quiet my mind. (8)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, I've tried meditating a few times before which doesn;t take it all away, it just takes the edge off! I used a guided meditation app. I also listened to white noise when I went to sleep as I was having trouble sleeping. I find even if you're mind is just taken away from it all for a few minute, it can re-balance you a little", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've tried watching some comedy shows and listening to music to take my mind off of it. It works sometimes (9)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you should do more of that, it sounds like a good idea? Don't feel guilty for doing so either as it acts as a 'medicine'. If the 'medicine' works then take it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I will try to focus more on that when I'm not studying and see if it keeps helping then (10)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like a plan! It's certainly worth giving it a go. We need a break from it all sometimes or we'd all go mad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,181 | 1,554.77133 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anxiety | problems with friends | I have found out that my friends have been socialising behind my back without me. This makes me very sad. | [{"text": "Hi there, are you free to talk? I am feeling rather sad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there. Yes, What is making you sad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel that my friends do not like me very much any more. Apparently they have been engaging in group activities without me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how frustrating that can be to not be part of the group activities.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Do you think that I am over-reacting? I do not want to sound over sensitive but this has been happening for a while.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you talked with your friends on how you feel? When was the last time you all connected?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "We went out for coffee the other day and I thought about saying something cos I know they went to a club without me last weekend but I couldn't bring myself to in the end.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand it is tough to bring up what is bothering you, especially after getting to hang out with all your friend over coffee. I'm sure this was not intentional with not inviting you to the club.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Sometimes in the past I have turned down invitations to go out clubbing, admittedly. Could it be that they just did not think that I wanted to go?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "From what I have experienced personally, I am not a fan of clubs and didnt want to go with my friends. After turning them down a few times, they stopped inviting as well. I think they thought that was not my thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "The thing is though that this is not the only thing - they have been to rock concerts without me too. I just feel I am no longer a part of the group.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel how this is hurting you. The best thing would be to talk to them about feeling disinvited to group activities. Let them know you are still free and really want to spend some time together. Do you think you can open up to them on whats bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't know. I don't want to come across as just being paranoid or whiny. Sometimes I think it would be better to just forget them and not have any friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like this situation is really bothering you. Its hard and overwhelming to feel isolated. The bonds of friendship are worth the confrontation. If they don't know what is bothering you, it will be harder to mend the relationship.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It is making me really depressed and is badly damaging my sense of self worth. I feel as though I am not worth anyone's time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are worth every precious second of time and should not let this diminish your self worth. Find common ground, an activity you all enjoy and invite them to hang with you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you that is helpful. What if I reach out and they all snub me though?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We all have busy hectic lives at time. True friends make time to be with one another. This world is full of beautiful people to bond with. Keeping a closed circle of friends is a blessing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "It's not really so much that my life is hectic. On the contrary, sometimes it feels as though it is rather empty and not having the support of friends does not help with that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Anyway I do appreciate your help - you have given me things to think about.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hear how this is making you sad not feeling supported in the way that you need to be. Know that you are worthy and will find a way to connect with them. I hope this has helped.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It has .. thank you very much and enjoy your day!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,009 | 1,554.385186 | 6 | 1 | 3 | anger | problems with friends | I recently found out that my best friend has lied to me about her whole life, and when I invited to my home she finally told me the truth after staying for a month ad we were fighting for the entire month she stayed. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm sad and angry because I no longer talk to my best friend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you know what might have happened to cause your and your best friend to not talk anymore?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well she was staying at my house for a month and we were constantly fighting so she just stopped talking to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really stressful and I can see how troubling that is for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes it is and then she began avoiding me while we were in the same house, so we started arguing again and I found out she's been lying to me since I've known her and I'm very upset.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's definitely very upsetting. I know how it feels to have that sense of betrayal from a friend I was close to for many years. However, I was able to discuss the issue I had with my parents and other friends. Do you have anyone else close to you that you can talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I don't think so, my parents think I was too harsh by deciding to end the friendship, it as if my own family doesn't understand.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That can definitely add to frustration. What about your other friends? Do you have anyone who either shares the same opinion as you or does not know your friend that you can talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My other friend believed that it wasn't too harsh to end the friendship as they know I value honesty but it makes me feel angry that I was being used for so long and constantly lied to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have every right to be angry, but the most important thing you can do is find a good support system with your other friend. It will take some time to heal, but I'll tell you a paraphrased version of one of my favorite quotes: \"Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.\" It's important to find support in your other friends and heal properly.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I really love that quote, it's absolutely true; I think I will talk to my friend about the situation some more so I can fully get over it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a wonderful idea. Is there anything else you would like to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yes, I also realized that I wasn't angry with my friend but rather myself", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you elaborate more? Earlier you said you and your friend were arguing while she was living in your house, then she stopped talking to you. Why might you be angry with yourself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Because I basically allowed her to use me for seven years and kept lying to me or gave her space because I thought I was being a good friend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like I was stupid to do that and soft", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If I may, I would argue that your actions don't make you soft and they certainly don't make you stupid. They are certainly not any reason to be angry with yourself. If I may bring up another clich\u00e9: \"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.\" I would say you're in the \"fool me once\" stage and it is your friend's actions that have brought you pain. I think you're unlikely to trust her again.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Also, hindsight is 20/20. What you might see now in ways that your friend might have used you are things that you might not have seen then. We want to think the best of our friends until they prove us wrong. I think you were being the best friend you could be.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you very much, I'll continue to talk about the issue with my other friend, I really appreciate your wisdom.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course. I think you'll be alright and remember the healing process can take a long time after betrayal. Remember to be kind to yourself and keep that support system of your other friend by you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Is there anything else you would like to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No thank you, enjoy the rest of your day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
493 | 1,553.452499 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anger | problems with friends | My friends suck at being friends. They use me, ignore me, and i'm only a benefit for them. | [{"text": "Hey", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How ae you feeling today? Is there anything you need to talk about?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel drained, honestly. I'd love to talk about my current dilemma in my friend circle.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you share the dilemma you are having?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Basically. This has happened for as long as I can remember, even back when I was a little kid. Any friend i've ever had has just used me for SOME gain. Whether that be boredom, money, or an emotional support pillow. I'm so sick of it. They'll literally ignore me for months and randomly text me for money. If i respond theyll read my messages then ignore me until they need money again. Or, they'll use me to throw alllll their problems onto me and never do the same for me. In some way shape or form- every person I become friends with uses me and throws me away when theyre done.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes I feel like it must be me. Maybe i',m annoying? This happens so often the common denominator is ME. But i'm friendly, im assertive, im out spoken, im kind. I don't LET people walk all over me but it seems like that;s all I attract.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel under valued in your relationships because people tend to take advantage of you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Pretty much. it just happens every single time. It's kind of discouraging and just makes me an angry person", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like this is really bothering you. It is good that you are talking about it though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you tried telling them how they make you feel?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Some of them. The others I never even get a chance because they just ignore my existence anytime I try and reach out to talk. I've just been waiting for them to pour their problems onto me or have the nerve to ask for money. Then i'll tell them. I already know they won't respond but atleast ill say my peace", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "After you tell them how you feel do you still give them money or listen to what's going on and try to help them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No. Whenever I do get to say my peace, i'll just cut contact completely. Lately i've been holding it in and just barely responding if at all.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've told one of them that i have no money and she hasn't contacted me since. But if she tries again i'll say something about the issue. I don't like feeling used. Who even has the nerve to blatantly use somebody like that? It's irritating", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's good that you let them know how you feel. By doing that, you are taking the first step in now allowing them to take advantage of you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Agreed. I just hope that one day I can meet people and form actual friendships with them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's really hard to stand up for yourself but it sounds like you are off to a good start.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you taken any steps in trying to form new more meaningful relationships", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I thought I did. My husband and I made a couple friends. Theyre a couple and so are we so we go on double dates but they seem more drawn to him. Me and the other girl got very close and then boom she randomly decided she only wants to talk to me when shes mad or bored", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So feel that this new couple might value the friendship with your husband more then you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yeah it seems that way. Most people like him more than me and it's weird because he sucks at socializing and doesn't even like them that much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It just doens't make sense but that's just the way the ca rds were dealt", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I used to have a hard time forming a meaningful relationship but then I realized it's because I had nothing in common with the people I was trying to form them with. Once I discovered something I was really drawn to I met people that way like volunteering in my community. Have you tried finding people you have more in common with.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That's actually a great idea! I guess i don't know myself well enough or have any distinct hobbies that would draw me to anybody in particular.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's been great talking with you!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
832 | 1,553.306211 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | Appearance Anxiety | I just had a baby and im struggling with my physical appearance and my mental health. | [{"text": "hey", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, my name is Amber, how are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I could be better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's been happening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I just had a baby 2 months ago and I have been struggling with my physical appearance and dealing with my mental health.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is part of that the weight gain from pregnancy? And what sort of mental health challenges are you having? Both of these problems are very common for new mothers.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, it sounds like a very tough time for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I didnt keep much weight from the pregnancy but its the loose skin that makes it very challenging to accept and to love my self.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is understandable. I am a mother, and remember worrying about the same thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "My depression has gotten worse since having my son. I feel a constant feeling that i'm not a good mother. I feel worthless and having a constant feeling that I don't deserve my son", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can tell you from personal experience that loose skin, stretch marks, and loosening of \"other parts\" do all self correct with time. You will feel better about your body again when they do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "How did you cope with post partum?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was fortunate not to experience depresion. But I totally went through self doubt, wondering if I was being a good enough mother, and feeling \"not up to\" the task....it's the hardest job in the world, being a mom, and so exhausting the first while.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Have you spoken to your doctor about how depressed you are feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I mentioned it to them at my 6 week pp check up. I was prescribed to a med to help but I dont think its fully in its works yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Antidepressants can take a couple of weeks to kick in, I am on them too; I hope you will find them helpful. It's hard waiting for them to work!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you have someone helping you with the baby or are you a single mom?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The best advice I can share from my experience as a new mom was find someone to give you breaks. Whether that be a partner, a friend, a family member, or even a baby sitter if that's possible. Its important to take time to rest and recharge an nurture yourself, whether that be a nap, a bubble bath, a walk or whatever has made you feel good in the past.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you, I hope so too. Yes I have my husband helping me. I am a stay at home mom while he goes to work. Im lucky that I am able to stay home with our son but at the same time its hard because because theres a less opportunity to have a break and on top of that he works 12 hour shifts so I rarley get to spend time with my husband.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I took my first break 2 days ago with my husband. We went on a day road trip and it felt really good to have that day to have together away from the baby but at the same time it was hard leaving our baby.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that's a long shift...I'm glad you have someone at home to help when he can. It may seem impossible but you are stronger than you think...you've got this", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "hey that's great that you had a road trip! And yes it's hard to trust someone else with our wee ones...but so necessary both for you and for your marriage too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you, I really appreciate it. Its nice to be able to talk about it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have one other suggestion before I go, have you any mother and baby groups in your area? Something you may want to research. It's been a pleasure speaking with you, you are so welcome. Know that as hard as it is, these feelings can be a normal experience for a new mother, and you will get through it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Ill definitely have to look into it, thank you! I hope you have a great day!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you you too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
159 | 1,552.870338 | 5 | 0 | 5 | anxiety | Issues with Children | my kids wont listen to me | [{"text": "Hi! How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The struggle is real my kids act as if they dont hear me which causes me to become overwhelmed and loud then they dont wanna listen anymore. I am well today and you/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really hard! Does that mean things tend to escalate quickly in your home?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I am loking for ways to communiate better specifically with my 5 year old son. well i always get yelling as a response which is what i cant seem to break as soon as my son gets mad he screams and calls for me no mater where i am or where he is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't wanna yell i wanna get my points across. I also homeschool them all so i am mom teacher and bas guy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "bad guy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds really challenging. I grew up in a home with a lot of yelling, and after a few years it just became our default for communicating with each other. I really regret that we didn't do anything to change the pattern sooner.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What have you tried to break the pattern so far?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes i can not have that become the normal. I want to feel proud of their beviors they need to learn manners which i think is someting they really missed out on in public schools. the need to conform wouldve taught them manners without them even noticing. So far i try to keep myslef calm and communicate simply i still get screams back and i just try to make him ty again with a nice voice and tell him i am here to help if he can talk to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have kids? what do you suggest? somedays I feel like I am in a mad house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like you're trying really hard to set a good example.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It also sounds like you think they may have learned that yelling is okay from their schools. Is that right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "i am trying but i was not raised with the best habits so teaching myself and my kids to be good and consotant has been a challenge", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "no i thnk they wouldve learned why not to yell at peopel if they went to public school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "they are homeschooled with me, my daigther went to preschool briefly but that was it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that - I've spent a lot of time trying to teach myself to be better than the home I grew up in", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "darn parents, lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ahaha exactly!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't have kids of my own, but I've been trying to learn from my friends who do have kids", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i do hope they learn to be kind and strive to learn and be smart. games and devices have also become somewhat of the enemy, and savior somedays", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "good plan, learn before you have your own, thats what my plan was, i was supposed to have life figured out before they got here", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "One of my friends who has a really peaceful household maintains a high standard of speaking to her kids like adults and only engaging in conversation when they're speaking respectfully", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "but ya know they have been the best teachers this far in my life", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "good tips i will try to do that more and talk to them like adults", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really like how she does that - only engaging in respectful conversation and not letting the yelling escalate", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I work with kids sometimes, too, and it seems like they all just want to be big kids and be treated that way, too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "i try not to engage in harmful destructive communication yes that is important, i am so emotional it is hard to stay calm when i am not liking what's happening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's so hard! Who can be a full-time parent and best friend and take care of your own life, too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It sounds like you have the best intentions, and you're working really hard on it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "well me hopefully lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can be so hard, so frustrating, and so easy to revert to those habits we both grew up with", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thanks i guess i make it sound ok, i am ok they are good kids at the core thewy kjust need to work on not freaking out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes it can i get loud too much and my mom always yelled i hated it and told myself I hated it growing up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have a co-worker who has kids with special needs, and she has this great phrase for working with her kids", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "what is it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i must know lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "any and all advice taken here", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She says, \"is this a small feeling or a big feeling?\" and then, \"Are you having a big reaction, or a small reaction?\", and it really helps her kids self-soothe", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "interesting is she implying having a big reaction to a small feeling is unnessacary?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She's also taught them that if they're being mean to mom (taking something else out on her), they're allowed to say, \"I'm sorry, I'm not acting or feeling my best right now, and I'm going to take a minute to myself.\" Do you think your kids might relate to that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thats wise i must sit with that for a bit and at least talk about their feelings more i bet if i help my kids to feel more validated they will feel heard better and maybe not yell", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yea, exactly! Trying to teach her kids that it makes more sense for their reactions to be more proportionate to their feelings and to the importance of a situation. It's really helped her address tantrums and help her kids be more self-aware", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "i would fall over if my kids said that to me, lol, that would be an improvement to say the least", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "wow is she a therapist/", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ahahahah. I believe in you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Just the mom to a kid with autism. She's had to learn a lot of special skills!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks a lot random stranger, lol, no offense, it is just so random where we find support righ t lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i am thankful for all the advice", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Happy to be a helpful random stranger to you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good luck!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "your two sense has helped thanks alot, i gonna go talk to my son now while this is fresh on my mind have a good day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'll be thinking of you :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks my name is kaleigh", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "whats your stranger", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm Marissa", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "nice to meet you and have a good one", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
762 | 1,550.311834 | 7 | 3 | 0 | depression | ongoing depression | I have dealt with depression around this time of the year since i was 17. I am now 37. My cousin got killed in a car accident on Dec 29th at the age of 14. Then 18 years later on Jan 3rd I lost my boyfriend in a car accident. I struggle around the holidays even worse now than I did before. | [{"text": "Hi there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am doing ok. How are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing well, thanks for asking. What are you seeking support for today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have been struggling for motivation to do anything the past couple weeks. This is a really hard time of year for me. I lost my cousin in a car accident at the age of 14 in a car accident coming up on 20 years this year. We were very close. I was 17 at the time. Her was an alcoholic and my parents raised her a majority of her life. Then 3 years ago 5 days after her death anniversary I lost my boyfriend at the age of 32 in a car accident. I dread the holidays.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for sharing that. It sounds like you are describing a strong association between the holiday season and loss of loved ones. This leads to less of a desire to engage in typical holiday events. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "You are exactly right. The year my cousin got killed her mom was hungover so I went and picked up my cousin and her little brother to take them to our grandparents house for Christmas dinner. She died 4 days later on Dec 29th. And my boyfriend it was his first day back to work after the New Year. He died on Jan 3rd.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I usually go all out for the holidays to try to hide my depression every year. This year I just can't bring myself to enjoy them. I have even bought one christmas present.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see why this time of year is difficult for you. Trying to hide depression can be a challenge. Rather than hiding the sadness or grieving feelings, some people find relief in acknowledging and sharing these feelings with family members who may relate. Do you ever share these feelings with your cousin or grandparents that you mentioned?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "My cousin doesn't live around here and we have never been real close. He is alot younger than me. We just never had the connection like his sister and I did. And both my grandparents have passed away. Grandpa has been gone for 12 years and Grandma has been gone for 4 now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My family has always been really good about talking about our loses. Things just will never be the same.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. When losses are experienced it is a great change in many aspects of our lives.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Are there any aspects of the holidays that bring you joy? Maybe holiday music, movies, bright snow (if there is snow where you live), or seeing joy on someone's face when you give them a great gift?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "They say it gets easier. And I agree it does. Things just have changed so much. I miss how life was before I lost them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand - and it is normal to feel that way. When we lose someone who brought us happiness, it is only natural to miss them and their company.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I love giving gifts. And I always put lots of thought into the gifts I give. My nieces and nephews can't wait every year to see what I got them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great! You must have a special talent for personalizing your gift selections. Perhaps focus on that reaction from you nieces and nephews to support your motivation for giving gifts this year.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "This year I am tie dying hooded sweatshirts. I make tshirts for a hobby. And to tell you the truth thats the only gifts I have gotten so far. My oldest daughter turned 18 this year and lives with her boyfriend so its just me and my 15 year old daughter. She struggles with depression/anxiety as well. Her dad has been in jail for some stupid actions since August. She has had to deal with him being an addict pretty much her whole life. I think we are both missing how the holidays were with her sister still living at home. Too much change in our lives in such a little time frame.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow, what a great gift idea! That is a solid start on your gifts for the season, and something to be proud of.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "They will love them. A couple years ago I put their names on fleece blankets when I worked at an embroidery shop. They absolutly loved them!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And I see, it sounds like the changes in your life are potentially impacting your daughter as well. However, I'm glad you have each other for support this season. This year has been crazy for many reasons, and many people tend to find comfort in routines or traditions. Do you and your daughters have any holiday traditions you typically complete?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Awesome gift idea! Personalized gifts are always so heartfelt and appreciated. Good thinking!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Just the normal traditions. My oldest daughter will be here for Christmas morming. Then we go to my parents.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for chatting with me tonight! I hope you have a good rest of your night.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
927 | 1,550.107183 | 6 | 2 | 2 | shame | academic pressure | I failed my Finals and now I am on academic probation. I am afraid I will be expelled. | [{"text": "Hello.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm not doing very well unfortunately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I failed my college finals, and now I'm up for Academic Probation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that, I'd love to understand more about what you are struggling with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm almost near gradution too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. Academic probation does seem very scary. When did you learn you failed your finals?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I learned yesterday. Because of the pandemic the semester is shorter.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And how long do you have until graduation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I should be graduating in June.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. Well it's nice that we matched up! I actually work at a college and now a couple good strategies to get off academic probation, and or avoid it! What is it you are studying?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You're a great resource then! I am majoring in Psychology with a minor in Biology.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is awesome! So when do you find out whether or not you are on probation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Likely in the next week.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I registered for my classes for next semester but I think I should drop my minor. \\", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay gotcha. Well a couple tips I can offer you: If you do end up on probation, most courses offer a probation workshop you can go through. And if you graduate in June, it should finish in time for you! And I was also going to recommend taking fewer units. As much as it sucks, you can't overwhelm yourself with work. You need to be able to have a healthy and happy life that is separate from school in order to preform your best. Dropping your minor may be what is best for not only your grades, but your mental health", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I also recommend making an educational plan. Although it can seem scary and long to see your goals directly laid out in front of you, it really helps with motivation", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's great advice and likely would be my best option.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will definitely do that. I feel better hearing that it's okay to drop my minor. I felt like a failure when I considered it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "From talking with you so far, I can tell that you are stressed about this. But I want to reassure you that your mental health should always come first. It is the most important thing you can do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes I am very stressed. I hate taking online courses and this pandemic is wearing me out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Plus I have a 2 year old son.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are definitely not a failure in the slightest! In fact, I would argue that you are the exact opposite of that. Being able to take such difficult courses in a pandemic, and raise a child shows how strong you are!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for saying that. It is tough, but I just want to finally finish my Bachelor's and do something positive.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you will succeed in that goal. You have the motivation and the care for it, you just need to focus on managing everything at once!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you thought about meeting with an academic advisor and laying out a plan?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I had plans to. I am going to go an make an appointment immediately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I appreciate your time, encouragement, and support.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,171 | 1,549.888204 | 7 | 3 | 0 | depression | ongoing depression | trapped in a house with my brother which i can not afford to get out of. | [{"text": "hi there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! what seems to be bothering you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "currently, i am living in a house with my brother, which i co own and can not afford to move out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is living with your brother a bad thing? What specifically is making you upset?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "yes it is. he acts like a azz most of the time. he dosent care about anyone but himself. just like his fianc\u00e9. he throws away the bills and expects me to pay to keep the utilities on when they are about to be disconnected. then tells me i dont contribute to the house.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It seems like he would be a very difficult person to live with. And that is hard for you obviously. I'm thinking your upset because you can't leave so you're stuck. Is that correct?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yes, felling very stuck.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely normal to feel that way. I'm sure you're handling the situation as best as you can.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What have you done to try and help the situation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "trying to, looking for every way possible to make money and save it up and move out. really dont want to have to partition the property as its the house we grew up in.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would feel the same way if that's a house I grew up in. I'm so sorry!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i tried to talk to him, in his mind its all my fault he cant pay the bills he had before i moved in. i had been living in california for the last few years, but came back with corona virus on the rise there.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If he's in a certain mindset, it would be hard to change that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you have people to talk to about this? It sounds like a lot to handle.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "right? and his fianc\u00e9 is the same way, they are both alcoholics and spend most of their income on their habits. its all i can do right now to keep food in the house, let alone running water.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it would be good for you to talk to someone and get help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Right now, all you can do is keep chugging along and trying your best to stay afloat.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "i have a couple of friends that i have talked to about it, but it just seems like i am screaming at a brick wall and nothing changes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would suggest talking to a therapist if your insurance can handle that!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Talking with them can help you figure out what you should do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "honestly, i think its him that needs the therapist. he is clearly bi polar like my father was, and dosent want to admit to it. several people have tried to talk to him about it but he just denies it and goes to the other room. i know what a the therapist will tell me, that i need to either resolve the conflict or try and move out, hard to do with the epidemic going on and a lack of funds to do it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is it normal to always feel helpless? cause thats how its been. either rip everything to shreds or do nothing.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes it is. Especially now. I just want to encourage to keep pushing. Think about yourself in a year or two from now. Do everything you can right now to get out of the situation. If it gets really bad, don't be afraid to call out for help (like the police). Stay safe and do what's best for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You've got this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "police are a very bad idea where i live. they will not prosecute family violence without also prosecuting me. i live in texas, if i press charges, the state will press charges against me. i have several scars from incidents where they told me as such. its really a loosing battle where the law is concerned here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh wow that's terrible. that must be so stressful for you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "thank you for listening tho. it is nice to talk to someone outside of my normal circle about these things. :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes of course! I hope everything works out in the end. You'll be in my thoughts :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank you. i apprecieate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please remember to end the conversation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "ok. ty have a good day. :)", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
288 | 1,549.433273 | 7 | 1 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | Girlfriend has an illness that keeps me guessing all the time | [{"text": "How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm doing alright. Just a little sad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear your sad. Is there anything I can do to help you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah, maybe just make a little sense of this craziness I'm going through.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sure, let's talk it out", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "My girlfriend has this condition where she needs to drink formula everyday just to keep her brain working properly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And she keeps talking about the potential of kids. I freak out thinking that I could have her die and being left with kids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a valid concern and overwhelming to think about I'm sure. What is her prognosis?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Maple Syrup Urine Disease", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Basically she can only have 7 grams of protein a day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If she gets more. That could result in severe brain damage.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And is this something that she will die early because of?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Not exactly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It just means her liver can't metabolize three amino acids.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So if she manages it she can live a relatively normal life?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes, for the most part. She still gets very clumsy and can is very prone to sickness getting very bad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So it has it's challenges.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just keep hearing about gene therapy for that I'm just at the point where I'm not I could go on if something horrible happens.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sure, I can see where it would be challenging and pregnancy would be scary. But I'd suggest discuss it with her doctor to see what they suggest.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Her doctor said for her. She has to give blood work all the time...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Which for me is insane.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "As hard as it is to think about, you'd also have a piece of her", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I would probably be a shell of a person if something happens.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just always been terrified of children.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I keep telling her but she wants like 3 kids", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you simply not want kids? Because if she does and you don't, you can't blame it on her condition, that would be making her give up something that wouldn't be fair.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yeah. I try making that clear.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But no one wants her to die.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, you may need to have a hard conversation with her.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't really have an interest for them. Maybe I'll be there and love them the same at the time. But currently. I just don't see me being feeling any sort of way later", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah. I've told her like 20 times.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm starting to think she can't process normally.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you're not right for each other if you have such different views on this subject. Neither one of you should have to give in to something they don't want.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Well it's not like I actively don't want kids", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just don't want her to die.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Or for the kids to die from something I can't control", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I had so many siblings die", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Seen what it did to my father. And he is not the same", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been to so many funerals as a kid for young children in my family. I just don't see kids the same way anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Unfortunately it sounds like you've had a lot of experience with that, and I can understand that. I've been to my fair share as well. But you also can't live your life in fear or you're not really living.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Or allowing her to live the life she wants as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I suppose that helps me cope.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I want her to do what she likes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My mom had me out of the feeling of being lonely. And to be honest. It kind of feels like a worthless existence.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She literally made me stay silent about going to a baby brother's funeral when I was a kid.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you have someone who cares about you and wants a part of you to exist in another living being. I know you're scared and that's valid, but you have an opportunity to do things differently than what your mom did for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah. I guess that is a better way to think. I don't want to extend that sadness to my own flesh and blood. Especially the person who values me so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The doctors trust she can do it and I know medicine is getting better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But having gone through that yourself, you know exactly what NOT to do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Everyone tells me that. Haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then it must be good advice lol", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I really appreciate the advice. I won't make someone else sad off of those experiences. I think people deserve better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You deserve better than thinking your feelings don't count for something. There are people that love you and want to listen and be a part of your life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah. My grand mother and older sister actively support me. I had an uncle that passed sadly but I know that feeling of love and support will never leave me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good, I'm glad you have that support.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Well you have been an excellent support system.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you, I'm glad I was able to chat with you and wish you the best!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Of course, may you have a happy holiday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
788 | 1,549.406589 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | academic pressure | I am trying to complete my Master's degree while having to help my children learn virtually because of the pandemic. Managing my time has not been easy. | [{"text": "Hello?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, I'm sorry I didn't reply faster.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "How can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "How can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's okay. Thank you for replying.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So I have some issues with time management.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. What are you struggling with concerning time management?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have also struggled with time management. I have found that reminders on my phone, and a planner have been most beneficial to me personally. I understand every situation is different. Do you have a deadline you're trying to meet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am trying to manage having my kids's learn virtually at home, while I'm completing my Master's, and working at night. I feel like I have to drop my Master's because it all seems like too much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have used those tools. With the current environment in the world, I feel like dealines are a waste of time. I'm trying to go with the flow and just set daily goals.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see how this would be very overwhelming. I have a child learning virtually as well. Similarly, I am a student. I am not working on my masters degree... I can't even imagine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "So you understand how the virtual learning has affected the day to day goals? I used to work during the day, complete my school work when the kids are in bed, but now everything seems so stressful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is your child old enough to do some of it on their own? I have \"independent\" or \"together\" next to each task. I purchased a large magnetic chalk board for our fridge. If your child is to young to do this I could see how this would be much more challenging for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's a great idea! Two of my kids are old enough to work independently most of the time, they are 11 and 8. However, I also have a 3 year old that requires constant attention. Unfortunately, her daycare is closed. Even more, I had to take on my nephew because his mother could not handle the virtual learning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand how you feel. Virtual learning has affected our daily goals, though we are doing prerecorded lessons. That does make it easier I am sure. I have a 10 and 2 year old at home with me. One thing that has helped me is support groups. There are so many moms going through the same thing we are at this time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I never even thought of support groups. It would help to connect with other moms, just to remind myself that I am not alone in this. Thank you so much. You also have a busy bee on your hands!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are not alone in this. You could take the 3 year old to another room if possible and work on phonics/numbers, then help the older children during naptime. Then maybe they could help entertain the 3 year old while you work on your own schoolwork? This is similar to my daily schedule... but as you know with kids you have to go with the flow most of the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Definitely have to go with the flow. They make life wondefully unpredictable. Thank you and those are fantastic ideas. I'll have to create a naptime, that would be the most helpful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It helps so much to talk to other moms who understand. Being a mom is hard enough without all the added extra stress of 2020. It sounds like you're doing the best you can, and your kids will remember that in the long run. You can do this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you so much for the wonderful advice. I will be looking into support groups, 2020 has definitely been a shake up for the whole world. I truly appreciate your support! Your kids are blessed to have you.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
1,140 | 1,549.29892 | 6 | 2 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | Not being able to see family and friends due to Covid. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, how are you feeling today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am not feeling the best. I have been having some depression, because of not being able to see friends and family during this pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh, boy, do I know that feeling! How are you dealing with it? (if I may ask)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I try to message them as much as possible and call them on the phone but it is just not the same as actually getting to give the a hug and see them in person.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know that. I use Zoom, just to see them...do you have a computer?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes. That works for some of my family but I have family in the nursing home that does not have access to computers. I haven't seen them in several months. It just breaks my heart.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh. I can feel it. I have someone who's sick as well. Do you have any one friend with whom you can share your feelings, your depression. I understand you're having issues with depression, right? It sometimes helps me to feel that we're all in this together. And, at the other end of this, we will be able to give the biggest hugs ever!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes. I have some very dear friends that have helped me a lot. I guess the depression is just worse because it is the holidays and this is the first year that I haven't got to spend it with my extended family members.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh....That's so tough...it being the first year!!!! Sometimes, I cry (I cry with my cat), and just to say the feelings out loud makes me feel a bit better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah. I have a little dog that has been my cuddle buddy. I have had him for 13 years so he has seen me ugly cry many times. What are some things you do to deal with depression?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I try to read, watch programs or podcasts that take away my negativity. Anything that will give me a lift, so that my own depression won't get so bad that I can't remember what it felt like to be a bit happy.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That sounds like some good advice. I think I will try to find a good podcast or a good comedy series that I like and spend time doing that. It's hard to be sad when you are watching something funny or listening to something funny. Thank you for the good advice and the listening ear.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wish that I could listen to more....this thing is so slow. Remember, we 're all in this together, and we will come out the other end. Isn't it OK to be happy a bit, even though this takes such a toll on so many people?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That is so true. I guess we tend to feel guilty if we feel happy since there is so much sadness in the world right now. But you are so right about the fact that we will come out on the other side. It helps to remember that bad things don't last forever.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, and are you somewhere where you can walk or exercise a bit? I always feel better if I can move around...dance...something active. What I find helps me the most is to remember that we need to stay safe and be OK, so that we will be here to celebrate when this is over.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. I live in the country so I can go for nice walks when the weather is nice. Staying safe is definitely important right now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh...it's fortunate that you live in the country. Can you take some deep breathes and watch the trees, the animals, and nature....they are all here for us???", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes that is exactly what I do. Thank you so much for your help today. You have made me feel better just having someone to vent to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Keep venting, if it makes you feel better. I know I do when I can talk to someone I don't know. Is it nice where you are today, so that you can look at something bigger than the indoors?? That often helps me feel better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes. It the weather is very pretty here today. As a matter of fact, I think I am fixing to go for a nice walk. I hope you have a wonderful day and thank you for listening.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You bet, I hope you feel so much better and can take that with you tomorrow--that you had a good day on the day after Christmas!!!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
852 | 1,549.133753 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | ongoing depression | I've always struggled with depression. I just feel hopeless. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm a bit bad honestly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me what's going on to cause you to feel this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've been struggling with depression for a while. It's hard to deal with. I feel hopeless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. I definitely understand how long bouts of depression can make you feel more hopeless. Have you discussed your depression with anyone else before?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I've spoken to a therapist but it didn't help. I tried a help hotline online but they thought I was suicidal so they called the cops to check on me .. never doing that again lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't know what to do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it sounds like you aren't suicidal. Though I do have to check; have you had any thoughts or tendencies of suicide or self-harm?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have in the past. Recently, no.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just feel like I'll never be happy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. Can you provide any more information about your meeting with the therapist? You said talking to one didn't help, do you know why?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think it didn't help because I'm a bit shy. Or because I didn't know where to start. It's hard to know what to talk about.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I guess it also didn't help because she seemed like she was just reading a script. She wasn't the greatest at making me feel cared about", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're doing pretty good though haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That makes sense and is completely natural. It's difficult sometimes to open up to a stranger that you don't completely know or might not trust. It definitely sounds frustrating that she seemed like she was reading from a script.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "And I'm glad to hear you think I'm doing alright lol", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think therapy could work. Actually something happened with my therapist (maybe fired lol) and she's no longer my therapist.. so I need a new one.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's interesting. I know from experience that finding a good therapist is all about trial and error, unfortunately. It's important to find the right fit and I would definitely suggest looking for a new one. Do you know of anyone in your life, maybe a friend or family member, that has been to therapy that you would be comfortable getting a recommendation from?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think my closest friend has been to therapy. I could always ask her for a recommendation.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a great idea! Remember to keep your friends close too. I know it can be tough when you feel as low as this, but it's important to have a good support system in addition to any therapy you might be receiving.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "My friends and I look out for eachother. I think they're a good help :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great to hear! It really sounds like you can go to them for support and often being there for someone else can make us feel better too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "This was a nice little chat! You should actually volunteer for a helpline haha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Aww that's so good of you to say!! I do want to confirm that you have a game-plan now, though. Remember to keep your friends close and to start looking for a new therapist if you haven't already. If you find one that's not the right fit it doesn't hurt to start over or maybe even ask for a recommendation from that therapist. If they're any good they should understand how important it is for you to find a good fit. Also remember to be kind to yourself. It can be difficult, but I know you can do it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'm ok! I got my friends and family. I made an appointment with my psychiatrist to get different medication so I could ask him for a therapist recommen dation as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's absolutely wonderful to hear! Is there anything else you would like to discuss today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think I'm good. Thank you though! This was nice :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Awesome. You've got this! Have a good rest of your day", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You too! :)", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "4"}} |
576 | 1,548.837416 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | ongoing depression | I am depressed about Covid and being restricted from going places. | [{"text": "Hi! Is there anything you'd like to talk to me about today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi, yes. I am having a really hard time and feeling depressed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. Would you like to tell me what the problem is?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel like I am very isolated. I can not leave my house because I am at high risk of getting Covid. So I feel so alone and kind of helpless since all this has started.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how that feels - I have not been able to go out for weeks either. Are you able to have visitors?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am not allowed to be around anyone. I know its for my own health but that doesn't help when I am so lonely. It seems like I can not contribute to anyone or lend a hand to people. I am just stuck at home with a feeling of doom.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very rough. Have you considered joining internet communities so you can at least talk with people who are in the same situation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I do not really know how to do that but it seems like a really good idea that I have never thought of before. Do you think it would help my mood?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it really could, yes. Isolation is a very difficult thing to deal with. Just knowing someone else understood could really help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I like that idea. I hate feeling like I am a debbie downer type. I do not want to tell anyone how I feel. I am trapped in a few ways.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is absolutely no problem with feeling bad and confiding in people. Many people are feeling the same right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Sometimes I feel like i am the only one. I have a good life and have my health so I feel guilty for complaining about being sad. I have not been able to eat or clean my house. I just lay around with no energy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel as though life is just passing you by and you are not accomplishing anything during the lockdown?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, exactly. That is precisely how I feel! It seems like I am in a movie with a sad ending and it just keeps repeating over and over.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Try to focus on the fact that it will be a new year soon - it surely can't (fingers crossed!) be worse than this one", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I like your ideas and want to start using them right away. I want to reach out online and find a group to join.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Facebook is a great online site and there are lots of groups there for all interests", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is a really valid point and helping me see the bigger picture in life. I need to know it will not always be this way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please trust me that it will not. Time goes really slowly during a crisis, it seems", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for your time and help today. I have not felt this good in a long time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel very understood and validated.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It feels great to be able to help people. I really wish you all the best in the coming weeks and months. Enjoy the rest of you day!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you very much! I will go on to Facebook now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope you can find some like minded people there", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "(you need to quit from your end as I can't :))", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
62 | 1,548.343623 | 5 | 1 | 4 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I was recently kicked out of my fathers house. | [{"text": "hello there, how is life treating you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "life is pretty bad latley", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "feels like stress after stress", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that, can you tell me a bit about what is wrong?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "2020 has just been a bad year, i got kicked out of my dads house and also lost my main job because i was working with him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im trying to go back to school now but with a part time job it feels hard to do that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you have been made homeless and have lost touch with one of your closest relatives?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I still ilive with my mother but he was a big part of life", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i feel wrong by the situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how you feel. I am estranged from my mother. Is there any chance you could reconcile?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. I hope it gets better. We are in family therapy but he refuses to apologize", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is a good deal of therapy available for your circumstances. Do you think you should try a different kind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "what other options are there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is free therapy available for people who feel that they cannot get along with one or both parents.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I am already in therapy with him but it doesnt seem to be helping that much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please know that you are not alone in this situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you i appreciate that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you think it might be better to make a totally clean break and move on from your dad then?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "its hard to do that since everyone in my family thinks i should move on and forgive him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i find it hard to forgive someone who is unapologetic", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hear you saying that you feel that you are being unfairly blamed for things, is this true?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes it is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel that perhaps holding onto this relationship is doing harm to you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I think if things were to continue as they were then it would be. I am more hurting now knowing that someone who is suppose to be there has been able to drop me so quickly over something very small", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me some more specific details", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "We were having issues at work due to covid and he did not want to help me with any of the work that was required. He had invited me over to his house to which I found my clothes in a trash bag and he wanted to talk to me which i was reluctatnt after that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we ended up having a talk to which I told him that his job is patient care since he is a physician and he took great offense to that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thus truly kicking me out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "To me this sounds like a very toxic relationship. I have been in a similar situation and I really think that it is best that you move on from this. You do not need this level of toxicity in your life", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I know its toxic but the influence from other family members makes it hard since everyone is so accustom to how he acts and they let it slide", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Unfortunately that is often how it works with such people. Would you be able to make a completely new break and move away? I know it's hard.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am trying the therapy to not be the stubborn one and say that i atleast tried but if it does not work then that seems to be the only option unless he makes changes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel that you are trying hard to mend the quarrel but he is not putting in any effort himself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I dont feel like he is. He still thinks I should apologize to him for what I said but I don't think what i said was bad at all or warrented his reaction", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he has not done any of the assignments th e therapist has given either", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do not feel that you are the one in the wrong. Unfortunately, there are some people that you just can't reach", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i believe that is the case as well, thank you for your help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are more than welcome. I do hope that you can break free from this relationship and find some way to be happy though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you very much, I hope your situation is not as bad anymore as well, its a hard situation for anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Things are very much better for me now. I promise that they will be for you soon too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thank you :) I will be ending this session now but i appreciate your time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are most welcome and all the best to you. Happy Holidays!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
408 | 1,547.735918 | 5 | 2 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | stree leads to depression | [{"text": "HI, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i have a lot going on. i am depressed because i am soo stressed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats sucks, what's going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I work full time, do frelance work on the side, i am a single mom of twin 6 year olds and an 8 year old, and i am in college for my masters degree", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "also my lease is up next month and i was notified they are raising it 300 dollars. i cant afford it. im scared and cant find anywhere cheaper to move", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, that is a lot. Add a pandemic to the mix. I can see why you'd feel overwhlemed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "sorry, guess i am venting", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "my boyfriend and i broke up 2 weeks ago. that isnt helping.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Its actually kind of nice to vent on these anonymous things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "ugh i just wish i could get a break", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thanks, :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Boyfriend too. Anybody around to talk to? Family friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "family is about 8 hours away. i dont really have friends. i havent had time to make or keep any. i would love to i just dont even know how to fit in finding time to talk to anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im an army veteran... i have ptsd so i dont do well with crowds. its hard making new friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How about other moms in your kids friend groups? I've found that cna be an easier way to get to knwo people bc you are all doing childcare anyway?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thats not a bad idea, maybe i can find a moms group on facebook", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm interested in your free lance work. What kind of stuff are you doing? Is it a passion thing or a paying hte bills thing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "paying the bills. ugh. i do mturk and then i am on upwork. i write articles and edit papers and books.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Got it. Mturk is always there when you can't sleep!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "lol my day is so packed i wish i had more time to sleep!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm usually up late writing papers for scool", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i graduate in september. i keep telling myself to hang in till then", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What are you studying? Any connections through your program?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "of course then i will need to start delivering food or sometihng as an additiona ljob to pay student loans lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im doing an online college. i am getting my master's in organizational managment", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i really appreciate you talking to me. its actually helping a bit", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, it took me forever to get through my loans but bit by bit got there. Sounds like a good program that can lead to a better job (and maybe only one job someday!) Investing in the future is defintely a good thing", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I want to be a good example for my kids :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been to see counselors a few times when going through tough patches (ask me about divorce, job loss and moving to a new countrey in one year) and have found that it helps to be abel to vent to someone who doesn't know you - ha.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "lol very true", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Kids can be positive motivation for sure. But right now you're in the toughest part of parenthood. Threel ittle ones who need your support and you are doing it by yourself. You are fighting the fight for sure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thanks for being here today, i hope the rest of your day goes well!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,026 | 1,547.567447 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anxiety | ongoing depression | related to the current pandemic | [{"text": "Hello I am here to discuss my anxiety over the current pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hey there! That's a good topic to talk about. With everything that's been going on, it's normal to feel some anxiety.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What do you think is one thing that is giving you a lot of anxiety?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Thank you very much for your understanding. Yeah it's tough especially with rising cases for the past two weeks or so in my city.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I live in Canada and my city is pretty good so far and really low on numbers but have been seeing new cases every day for the last two weeks or so", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "so that adds anxiety to me when I go out and I am more on guard and paranoid", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. Similar stuff is happening where I am, and I also get anxious hearing about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "And we had a lock-down earlier this year and yet, with the exception of one province, every province remains operational at full speed despite lock-downs earlier, and now a lot of provinces are seeing record cases with the second wave.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yeah I hope you get through this okay also and stay safe and well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What do you feel when you feel on guard and paranoid? Try to say some more about that if you can.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Thanks, I hope the same for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I go out pretty much only when I have a purpose and personal admin/errands. I work about one or two days a week out of my home. So with the rising cases, I just feel anxious having to get out of the safety of my home. I was a lot more anxious earlier this year though. I am much more used to it at this time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And it's hard where everyday is the same for me and staying at home, without a change of pace like even simple walks outside, going to the gym, or going to hike or run etc. I pretty much missed out the whole year after March. My life has been on hold and I am just surprised that it's even november now, because it feels like I am still stuck in March.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, that makes sense. When this was all new, the uncertainty probably made for more anxiety. Now that we know some more about what is safe and what isn't, maybe less so. But it doesn't mean the anxiety is gone, of course. It's still around in our day-to-day lives.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Well said. You feel stuck. The usual things you would do now are just not available to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yeah I have been adjusting to it and the cases were down and even to zero in my city for most of the last few months, but there's definitely the start of a new community spread now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes correct", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Plus there's a loss of routine or motivation. I procrastinate a lot and get lost in thought or lost without thought. I don't work out as much as I used to (inside or outside of home). I don't eat as well and my sleep pattern is not good at all (I sleep a lot later than I should).", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So I am disappointed in myself to say the least.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and also feeling guilty to see myself waste my life and time this way and not being productive", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can rephrase some of this, if you don't mind. In a way, you're talking about activities that you may have used (gym, hikes, etc) to keep yourself in a good mood. Now that those don't seem available, you just don't have those opportunities to boost your mood. It makes sense that you would be feeling this way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "now I am more used to it of course, but this summarizes how I have been feeling for most of this year.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you explained yourself really well. Thanks for sharing how you've been feeling.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yes you're right. That's exactly it. I think it's going to be this way for a long time. I see other people compromising and taking the risk to go out for walks or runs, and even to the gym. I could have done that for the last few months when we had zero cases for awhile, but I didn't want to gamble and compromise. And I still see those people as selfish when I choose to do what I think is right.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yeah no worries. It's good that you understand and thank you for listening.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you think if you went ahead anyway to the gym or out for runs that you would feel guilty for doing them?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "We won't know more about the mental implications and the sociological aspects of the pandemic probably until years to come.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I thought about that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, and that just throws on another layer of why things are difficult right now. No one wants to feel guilty for doing things that could help themselves.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "to the gym, I certainly would. Because it's indoors and I do feel it's unsafe as there are many equipment that others could touch. Running I felt that way because the path that I usually run on is narrow and other people walk through it also. However, I did have second thoughts about that when the case numbers were down. But I finally decided to keep doing it and stick to all outdoor trips for essential business.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but that's just me, and I know we all have different personalities, preferences, and tolerances of risks and acceptances, etc.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you ever heard of the phrase \"black or white thinking?\" As in, thinking that situations or people are completely good or completely bad? Or completely doable or completely impossible?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "so in my opinion, I feel a little indignant at the people that have been going out frivolously like there's nothing going on, to even gamble their safety and their family's. Like I live in an apartment building, and the people around me and below me are always going out, even for the last few months. So I don't feel safe either but also indignant that others are doing what I could have done, but that I had compromised on for my safety and everyone else's safety. So I just didn't feel it was fair for them to do that when I could have done that anytime I wanted.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "black and white thinking...let me think", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "for this pandemic, it's pretty much black and white", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, I think I understand that too. I get really frustrated hearing about people hosting big parties or not wearing masks because they think it's no big deal. They're putting others at risk.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Because I either go out or I don't. I have to compromise my values and everything I worked hard to preserve for the last few months to go out, even if I put on extra protection etc. And I just rigidly refuse to compromise my values because I don't believe it's right. Because if I had done that, I would have done that already, and long ago. And even though it's really hard on me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yeah exactly. Because people are being selfish and are subjecting others to risks even if they don't care about themselves.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but I know I am pretty extreme in my thinking.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really love the outdoors and I go out pretty often before the pandemic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But it's just that my own thinking is rigid and made up about it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But anyhow, that's the situation in a nutshell.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think we all do black-or-white thinking to some extent. We're wired to try and make sense of the world, and maybe our brains don't like to spend time on nuance and grey areas. We all tend to quickly categorize things into good or bad, easy or hard, black or white.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "yeah I understand your thinking with the grey areas as well. I suppose for this case, it's all black and white for me, no grea areas or compromises.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's good analysis by the way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But anyhow I am good to go then. Thank you so very much for understanding and for your valuable inputs.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Does this time have to be a \"waste\" for you? With no productivity? That seems pretty extreme.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "it's a fascinating area though, fascinating thinking. I am also curious on the social and mental implications of this in the long-run", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but only time will tell", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "there will be so much research and books written about our times.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "well I do a lot of \"waste\" at home. So I am quite sluggish and lazy and lost at home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for saying that! I liked talking with you, and we can wrap this up. I guess I'm saying you sound thoughtful and intelligent, I'm confident that you could find ways to get more out of this time if that's what you're wanting to do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I am productive but not as driven or productive as before at home.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "for sure yeah. I am sure we can get through all this in one piece eventually.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was thinking this also that even though this is a very tough time, we will look back on this about years from now, and say wow, we got through all that!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not as productive? Of course! It's a pandemic. We all are. :) Hope you're not too hard on yourself right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "no no I am okay thanks for asking", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am just kind of spelling in out the details of my thinking and how my life has been so far", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am actually okay so no worries", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ha, exactly. Maybe we're not all thriving and getting rich and adding 15 pounds of muscle during this time. But we can get through it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yup. Exactly. Lost time can always be made up later.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "okay then. I am good to go. Thanks again and thank you for your input. It does help to just kind of vent in a way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Before we quit, would you want to say one specific thing you know you can do today to help yourself out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah for sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I worked out a little bit before I started the chat. I am also doing some online courses on my own time. So I will keep working hard on those. And I hope to get back more into the routine of working out. I really do think it helps my mood if I just make more time and motivation for that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you seem intelligent and analytical also and you know what I mean. So I do appreciate your time and input", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Nice! Good job with those things.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thanks. I hope you best of luck then with all your endeavours. I know we can all get through this time. Thank you.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "stay well and stay safe my friend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right on, same to you. It's okay to feel anxious right now. It's okay to feel unproductive right now. It's also okay to keep on doing the things that make you feel okay. Great job keeping up the workouts and the classes.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you and all the best.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Stay well and safe to you too! Take care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
383 | 1,547.366548 | 6 | 1 | 3 | anger | problems with friends | My friend's husband is spreading false rumors about me because my daughter moved up in soccer and his didn't. He is saying I'm having an affair with the coach, who is married! I am NOT and my daughter happens to be a much better soccer player. I do like his wife but this is unforgiveable. | [{"text": "what should I do?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me a little more about your situation so I can better understand?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My friend's husband is spreading false rumors about me because my daughter moved up in soccer and theirs didn't. He's telling people it's because I'm having an affair with the coach - who is married! This is not true! My daughter is a better soccer player.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what do you think I should do?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like your friend's husband might be jealous of your daughter, or embarrassed that his daughter did not get moved up also. Have you spoken to your friend about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I haven't yet. I was deciding whether or not to talk to him directly or just her or both at the same time. I am really upset and don't want to lose her. I know people get all crazy about their kids and sports. I agree that he's jealous but his daughter isn't really that good - didn't make the school team either. Should I talk to my friend alone first?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It depends on the depth of the relationship between the three of you. How long have you all been friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "About 6 years. Our daughters are also friends, too. I am single so I don't care about the husband but also don't want to come in between their marriage.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, that is a difficult situation to know how to handle. It could be in your best interest to leave your friend out of it so she doesn't feel stuck in the middle or forced to take sides. However she could view the opposite as you going behind her back.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "yes that's true. I don't want to go behind her back but also don't want to get her involved. I could have the coach talk to the dad maybe?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, coaches are a great resource for life's dilemmas. Perhaps another option would be to casually mention something to him in passing, like at one your daughters games as to avoid any big blowups or emotional exlosions.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh that's a good idea - in public and not making a big deal about it - and before she moves teams and rumors get worse.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is exactly right. Each person handles and avoids conflict differently and you have the important roll as leader in all of this. There is a chance he is not aware of the strain this has put on you emotionally and he could respond well to not being called out by someone else. Does that make sense?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "it does - but doesn't seem that he cares about my strain on my life since he's the one spreading such lies about me. I just hate him!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how you would feel like he doesn't care about the strain it's placed. Can I ask, are your daughters aware or involved in these rumor's? This could make a difference in how you could respond.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I did tell her because I was so mad when another mom told me. She doesn't care. She still likes the friend but not the dad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like your daughter has a good head on her shoulders. Maybe there's something to be learned from her reaction to all of this. I understand how hard this has been for you so perhaps simply ignoring the rumors will allow you to heal quicker, by simply being the bigger person. Because rumors are just rumors, after all. You and your daughter know the truth and that's all that matters.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yes you're right. I will try to just ignore. And figure out what to do with my anger over all this? Maybe go for a run and also avoid him?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If he knows you know and you rise above with a smile on your face, that could show him that you are more mature than his childish games, and that you mean business. By taking ownership of your own feelings and emotions, you might find that will squash your need to let out any anger towards him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "oh I like that and I am willing to try. I am tired of wasting my energy being so angry at this man who like you said is jealous which is HIS problem and shouldn't be might, right?!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Exactly. Let his problems remain his. You worry about you and your daughter and he can watch from a distance confused at his failed attempt to reflect his own dissatisfaction with life onto you didn't work. I think you will feel freed of any stress this has caused.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I really like that and I hope I'm able to do that!! Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
784 | 1,546.990671 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anxiety | problems with friends | my friend is bipolar and went off his meds, he is sick and won't get help, thinks he is fine. i am worried for his safetly. | [{"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you today.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "i am worried about my friend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he is bipolar, went off his meds, is sick and won't get help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you know how long he has been off his meds? Does he need help getting a refill? It can be hard to no our \"normal\" things when we don't feel; that's for sure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "i am not sure....but he has gone manic, super hyper, and says he doesn't need his mads any more, he just doesn't want them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "so i can't help him get a refull no...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm not sure how to help him, i've told him my concerns but he says he is just fine (he is not)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you are that worried about him, it does sound pretty severe, it may be time to call someone to get him help. Like his doctor or someone from the hospital.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "i don't know who his doctor is...i tried talking to his sister, she said the hospital can't help him unless he goes there, and he does not want to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We definitely don't want him to hurt himself or someone else.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "We definitely don't want him to hurt himself or someone else.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "for sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm not sure how to help someone who doesn't want help, you know? so basically i am just stuck with all this worry, i care about him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Has his sister seen this kind of replace before? And if so how did they address it then?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That is a really hard place to be. His doctors phone number is probably on his prescription bottle.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "she told me she doesn't want anything to do with him, apparently he goes off his meds a lot, and it has been super hard on the family...they can't handle it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hey that's a good idea!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'd have to be sneaky....go visit him and hunt around....but I could try that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "its got me so worried it is affecting my sleep", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The doctor may not be able to get him in the office, but they would have his records and also be able to connect you to a facility to could maybe help him since the hospital can't", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "hmm okay, i can try that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can imagine, I'm worried now too and I don't even know your friend. I really hope you keep me updated on how things go.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i will try to! I think you're right though that the doctors office is the best place to call, thankyou for that suggestion", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "its tricky....with human rights they don't just haul people to hospital any more against their will lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're so welcome. So it sounds like you'll call the doctor office (once you get the number) but please let me know if I can help any other way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "lol, very true they do not. :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "hmm i can't think of anything....but it really helps to get this off my chest and to have a plan of action, thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "its sad his family has given up on him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but i guess everyone has their limits", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you're so welcome. glad I could help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It's really sad, your friend is lucky to have you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "aw thankyou", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i hope you have a good evening, thanks again, bye", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you as well", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {}} |
629 | 1,546.367321 | 6 | 1 | 3 | depression | breakup with partner | Its not even a break up, my girlfriend wants space after 5 years, she wants to rent a room on her own without me, and it feels over. | [{"text": "Hi! How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Could be better, the info i put for my scenario, just happened this morning.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Something unexpected happened today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No actually, in fact today seemed to be starting better than any day this week. I support whatever she wants but right after Christmas is hard", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Holidays can add pressure to our \"normal\" situations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Did you find that your normal coping mechanisms were not as helpful today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah, December has been hard on everyone. I know things will get better but its hard finding positivity when I feel so negative.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like your support is not appreciated.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Usually coping is either eating a ton of food or smoking marijuana, but with the holiday money is tight. I am listening to emo pop music from the 2000's now to help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Music definitely helps!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have a list of songs that I like to sing to. I can't really sing, like, at all. But I love to do it. And it makes me forget about whatever is going on.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Honestly, in the past I have been a lot lower than I am now. I really just hope I am able to stay strong for as long as i can right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Honestly i do the same thing a lot. Songs with a lot of emotion that i can belt out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are certainly self-aware. Better off than most people!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i will have to find somewhere i can properly exercise my awful vocals lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah! I like pop songs from the 60's :-)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Ha! The car is always good!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "honestly its because i have been hospitalized due to my mental state. i try to be as self aware as possible now. i just hate the feeling of being blindsided.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried The Smiths? Band from the 80's. They are my go to for when I am feeling low.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i will give the throwbacks a try today. I do get down with a few of the older bands thats for sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "To be blindsided is a violation of trust.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you spoken to her about it at all, or is that not your jam?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It's ok. A lot of people are non-confrontational. Society tells us we should be able to express our boundaries. Not everyone is comfortable with that and that is ok.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "we literally just talked about it an hour ago. she says she doesnt know what she wants and she doesnt know how long but she doesnt want to be away from me right now. which i feel just isnt fair. i feel like no one can just pick and choose when they want someone around.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But that puts more responsibility on you for your feelings. Sounds like you have coping skills for that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i know. with COVID this is so much harder. i may just take a long walk and try to focus on myself, because it seems like our future is in flux and it seems like it could go either way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're right. That is not fair. You are feeling conflict and abandoned/not-abandoned.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Could you make the decision?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "i feel like what i may do, is just sleep on the couch for now and give her as much space as possible, at least for now i think", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Only you are responsible for you. I was with someone who, although we had great fun together, he couldn't be with me as much as I wanted him to. And it made me feel bad. Because it brought up feelings from when I was growing up and neglected.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It took a long time, and it ...wasn't a clean break. I just got tired of feeling bad, and the relationship just waned.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Take the time you need, but you can take control, if you want to.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Right, it just feels crappy right now. literally yesterday her mom was telling me how happy she is that i take such good care of her daughter. I will have to just prioritize myself and hope it all works out. after 5 years its just hard", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You said it, prioritize yourself. The rest will fall into place. It always does.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "thank you. i really appreciate it. i will do the best i can i promise.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know you will ;-)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
674 | 1,546.249706 | 4 | 1 | 5 | sadness | problems with friends | Since the pandemic started my once strong friendships have become weak. we barely talk. Even my daughters God mother is not as present. I am unsure how to fortified those connections. | [{"text": "Hi. What brings you here today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am having a hard time with the realization that my once strong friendships are no longer as strong. I feel disconnected with them. The limitations the pandemic has set for all of us have been great. I am unsure if I will ever regain those friendships", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that. The pandemic has been very hard to keep connected with everyone. Have you tried talking to your friends about how you are feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes, I have tried to message them daily, but the responses have always been clipped and or the response comes after couple days. I do feel other friendships have formed within each community, feeling a bit left out. I feel silly, like a teenage girl, who wants to be included. Just want to feel as though I am still part of their lives.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely normal to feel like that. I have been in your exact shoes. I would suggest inviting one of them out for lunch or dinner and express face to face how you are feeling right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I was thinking the same thing, but I am unsure I feel awkward now, I feel like I do not them as I thought I did. I am unsure why I feel this way. one of them is my daughters god mother and the text are there but they are not like they use.. I am unsure if I should ask why she has time for others and not us... just saying it makes me feel weird", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "anyone there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She may be going through something at home or having family issues. We truly never know what the other person is going through unless we have that uncomfortable situation. My suggestion would be to rephrase that question slightly to her.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I agree with you, just seems really strange since we were inseparable before the pandemic. I am also aware many are going through this situation just thought my friendships were stronger and distant would not be an issue.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will, never did I think I would hesitate whats going on..", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's completely natural. Instead of texting her, have you tried calling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I have. The conversation have been superficial, like small talk. There is nothing to share, I am guessing. My daughter has had lots of dance functions despite the pandemic and yet I have not felt supported. Perhaps shes not okay with venturing out during the pandemic.. though I do see on social media shes meeting other friends in social settings.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Perhaps I need to be more open and not be so distant? Maybe its me and I am not seeing it?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How long have you been friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "we are both 35 and we met in pre K. we are lifetime friends. shes a sister to me. At some point our parents use to live in the same apartment complex, our parents are great friends as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was there for her babies birth, when she found out what she was having. We have shared grand moments together.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You both have been friends for such a long time. I'm so jealous of friendships like that. I would definitely ask her for lunch. You all have been through so much together. This conversation with her would be a weight off your shoulders.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, shes the serious one and I am the loud and carefree one. So having our roles a bit reverse has me a bit, weirded out. I am an only child, and perhaps that makes me feel extremely unconfident. I am sure if asked, she would respond I am just being needy. eh, I will ask, since the pandemic ive only seen her once.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do not think she would respond that way at all. Once she sees that this has you concerned about your friendship, she will take it serious and open up to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "You are right! thank you for the reinsurance. I hate that I am this way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you have helped me so much today, thank you for helping see things differently.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm an only child as well so I understand how you are feeling :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "you are welcome! Glad I could help!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "AWESOME! then you know the overwhelming need (sometimes) of being included.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think I have a plan, lunch and talk to her about how I am feeling, shes always been so understanding, I miss her babies so much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes! It can be frustrating at times. But it sounds like you have a plan in order. You just need to execute it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I do , thank you! have a wonderful weekend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,203 | 1,546.159659 | 7 | 1 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | My best friend's son died in a car accident. | [{"text": "Hello. How are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello, thank you for signing up to listen to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I could be better but thank you for asking", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am upset about the loss of my best friend's son dying in a car accident", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm really sorry to hear that. When did this happen?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The accident was Thursday February 25th but he held on until Sunday the 28th", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He was only 26 years old", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There's nothing that can prepare you for unexpected tragedies like this. We just have to deal with them as they come.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I understand what you are saying but that's the problem. How to deal with such a terrible unexpected loss", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel helpless because there is nothing I can do to make her feel better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're sticking close to your friend, although it doesn't feel like its helping.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It's my experience that when someone has experienced a traumatic loss like that, making someone feel better, at least right away, isn't always an option.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "The most important thing you can do for her is just to be there for her and allow her to feel however she needs to feel right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "She is inconsolable..... and me also being upset is not helping matters either. You are exactly right...it's impossible to help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is great advice...thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really appreciate you taking the time to listen", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course. These things are tough to face on your own, so you did the right thing by reaching out.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I know you want to be there for your friend as much as possible, and I think that will help you to move through grief at the same time, but just be mindful to not overextend yourself too much. You have to be there for yourself too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I actually feel a little better. I will just sit with her and keep her company and be there to listen. I'm glad I accepted this survey today", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Enjoy the rest of your day and thank you again!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You too, and best wishes.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm not sure why it will not let me end the task?", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
736 | 1,545.686346 | 6 | 2 | 2 | fear | academic pressure | I fear disappointing my parents. | [{"text": "Hello!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "hi, can I discuss an issue with you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes please. What has been bothering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My parents, they expect me to always get straight A's.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh wow. Is that hard for you? Explain what's upsetting you about that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It is upsetting because it is an expectation. I am not perfect and I always try my hardest. I am afraid of not being perfect.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've also struggled with the same thing. My parents put that pressure on me so I understand that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Do you tell your parents you're trying your best? What do they say?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "They tell me it is my only job. They think it will help pay for college if I am the best.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like that expectation is very hard on you and makes you anxious", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That's okay to feel that way!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thanks, I just don't want to disappoint them. They work so hard and want the best for me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Deep down they really just want you to succeed. But that doesn't mean it isn't difficult for you. I'm sure you're doing your best.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you talked to them about the pressure/expectation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am, I told my sister to not get straight a's or they will always expect it. I h ave not talked to them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would suggest talking to them about the expectation. You could say something like, \"I want you guys to realize that I am trying my best but when you put this expectation on me and makes me even more stressed out\"", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Okay, I can try that, it makes me very anxious. Would writing a letter be okay?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a scary conversation to have. I think the letter idea is a great idea!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am better at expressing my feelings that way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm better writing things down too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Writing that should hopefully let them see what is going on. I think it will work.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I hope it will work, maybe I will write it and leave it in the morning for them to find after I go to school. That way they can think about what I said and not just react.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's an even better idea. Great thinking!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks, you have made me feel a lot better.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad. I hope it all works out for you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "me too, bye", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
343 | 1,545.537688 | 5 | 0 | 5 | anxiety | academic pressure | I am at my first semester in a doctoral program and have a lot to do at once and have been feeling very anxious in the past few weeks. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good afternoon! What can I help you with today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I've been feeling a lot of pressure and stress lately due to school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oof, yes, school can be a tough situation. Are you close to the end of the semester?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That can be both a relief and stressful, because a break is near, but all the exams and projects are due.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes, I am a little more than halfway done with the semester", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The thing is that I am in a doctoral program, so even though the semester is close to the end, I always need to continue working", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ahh, I see. That is a great deal of time and work. What are you studying?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It is... I am in psychology", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have to work on my thesis on the side even with all of my classes and I have a hard time managing my time and keeping track", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Time management can be very difficult with a normal class load, that sounds exhausting.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do calendars help you at all? I am a super visual person, so calendars and planners are invaluable to me, as well as different colors of ink and labels so I can visually divide my attention", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Getting a million different colors of pens and highlighters changed my organization for the better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do keep a physical and electronic agenda, but I feel like even if I write down my tasks, I find a way to procrastinate which is what I am having trouble with", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Also, setting clear boundaries for your study/work and relax times may help. I like to set a timer for, say, 45 minutes, and work/write/read/study for that long, then, I get a 10 minute break. I'll go outside, refresh my coffee, grab a snack, dance to some music, stretch, then set another timer for 45 minutes, then another break for 10 minutes. That allows my brain to take a second and refresh from the work.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That is actually very helpful, I'll take note of it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it would help to fix break times so I can actually focus on working", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Or, like, today, I woke up and spent half an hour allowing myself to drink my coffee and scroll through Reddit. Then it was time to work on my group project for 45 minutes, then a break, then I worked again, took a break, went to a class, etc. Scheduling your breaks can be helpful too so your lizard brain doesn't freak out and go \"WE ARE GOING TO BE WORKING FOREVERRRR\"", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I agree!!! That really is helpful, thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "which, for me at least, is where the fatigue sets in. You're very welcome! I hope I was helpful. You seem positive and willing to try new things, and I think you will be successful even if you are tired.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "The pandemic hasn't really helped either", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm always locked in my apartment and staying sitting down in front of my computer all day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Definitely not. Everyone's Maslow hierarchy getting knocked out from under them is extremely disconcerting.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Hahaha, Maslow, i like it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Like how is a person supposed to study, self-actualize, when we literally don't know what will happen next?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I agree! I've also been turning to drugs a lot lately due to the situation. Procrastinating makes me feel guilty, and I end my day too early to smoke and focus my mind on something other than studying....", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are there aspects of your study that you dislike, or are you just ready to be done with school? Little of column A + column b?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hm, I think it has less to do with liking or disliking, and more with starting a very hard and lengthy degree online without any social contact", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah, yes, that makes sense. And working from home is infamously hard, again, for lack of boundaries, so in addition to just not seeing people and getting the casual affirmation and confirmation messages on a daily basis of like \"hey Jim you did a great job on that spreadsheet\" or \"Haha Jessica you're so funny\", we also are writing papers in our pajamas and bedclothes, which makes it seem interminable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Ugh exactly", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Listening to lectures while the doorbell is ringing and it's just so strange and we aren't set up to do it. That's why I'm a big fan of specific spaces in my house since March. I tried to sit in bed with my laptop and do things but 1. I'm old and it hurts my wrists and 2. my headspace is so completely different from being my computer chair and at my desk. I try to be really strict about where I do my work., maybe trying to structure that a bit could help you feel a little more in control of the work load and your day's schedule.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I agree, that makes a lot of sense! Thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have been a big help today and I really feel listened and understood. I really appreciate it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am very glad to hear that! You sound motivated to succeed and I think that you deserve to take care of yourself and stay healthy to complete your studies. It will be hard but it will also be worth it, and you should be proud. Good luck with everything!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Wow, thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have a great day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you! You too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
841 | 1,545.452491 | 5 | 1 | 4 | depression | ongoing depression | feel alone. have no one to talk to about things. feel depressed,sad,hopeless. on top of feeling depressed i am also stressed out about my finances | [{"text": "hi there! how are you feeling today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "i feel depressed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm sorry to hear that. is there a specific reason you are having these feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "i feel alone. i feel like i do not have any one to talk to when it comes to my emotions.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. I have been feeling quite lonely too, I find myself feeling lonely at work and struggling to find someone I trust to talk to about these emotions. Do you have a friend or family member that you trust who might understand some of these feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "i do have a few friends that i think i can talk to about how i am feeling however the thought of them being too busy with their work is what prevents me from reaching out to them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. Correct me if i'm wrong, it sounds like you're nervous to open up to these trusted people because you think they might be distracted by their work to provide the empathy you need and fully understand how you are feeling. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "you know i think that you are right about this. it has always been difficult for me to open to others even with those that have been there for me when i needed someone. i feel like a mix of emotions nervous but at the same time wanting to reaching out for help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand these feelings very well. Sometimes, my fear overshadows my want for help. I find it easier to open up to others through writing rather than face to face. Have you considered putting your feelings in writing and opening up to trusted friends and family in this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "i have been writing for a while but due to my emotions i have stopped writing like i used to. when i did write i did notice a change in my feelings it became more positive and less depressed. now that i stopped writing its like i went back into depression", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like writing your feelings down helped you greatly in the past. May I suggest going back to writing and even letting someone you trust read what you have written down to understand how you are feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yes writing has been a huge help for me. i would take your suggestion and begin writing again to feel better. and i have let others read what i wrote and they have said it has helped them get over their depression and helped them understand me more", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great! I am glad to hear that you will begin writing again. Thank you for opening up to me about your feelings. How do you feel about the solution we have come to today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "now that i was able to talk about how i feel with you and you giving me a useful suggestion i feel less depressed and feel motivated to write again. your help has been really helpful for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's wonderful! I appreciate your honesty about how you are feeling. I am proud of you for seeking help. Is there anything else you would like to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "thank you so much for helping me. and that is all that i would like to discuss. you have been a big help for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am glad I could be here for you! I am hoping you continue to feel better and your writing helps to work out these feelings. Thank you so much for being open with me. I hope you have a fantastic rest of your day! :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thank you. hope you enjoy your day", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}} |
376 | 1,544.674331 | 6 | 4 | 0 | sadness | ongoing depression | I just feel like every one hates me and no one really wants to be my friend. It feels like when someone is nice to me they are just doing it as a favor and they don’t really like me or care about me | [{"text": "Hi, can I help in any way today? Can you tell me about yourself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am a mom of three boys and I work a full time job. I feel like if I didn\u2019t have my kids to take care of I would run away and start a new life somewhere else", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see how you have a lot on your plate. Yo must get very exhausted.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Are you wanting to run away alone or move away on your own? Do you feel trapped when you say you want a new life?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I am. My husband just got laid off at his job, but he didn\u2019t really help with bills anyway. I\u2019m just so depressed and I feel like I\u2019m going to go crazy and no one even cares", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow, that is a lot of pressure that you have to endure. Do you feel like you have anyone in your life who cares and listens?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I could never leave my kids. But sometimes I feel like it would be so much easier to just be dead", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am really thankful that you reached out today and I am happy that you are here with me today. You are making a lot of sense and I appreciate you opening up.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "My mom cares, but she is having a lot of health problems so I don\u2019t feel like I should bother her with my problems", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you been able to tell any friends how you are feeling and how alone you feel?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "No. I have stopped talking to my friends and just kept to myself. I don\u2019t think they even understand how I feel", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how you feel. I live in a new town and dont have any friends here and it can be very lonely and isolating. Do you have any hobbies or do you have any time for yourself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I just want to hide in a hole and not talk to anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have felt that way before and I reached out for help like you are today. I was so depressed that I need to start therapy.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I\u2019ve been listening to a lot of audio books, it\u2019s a nice escape", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wish I could afford a therapist", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you ever write in a journal or are you able to exercise alone? Both of those can begin a path to healing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I was trying to exercise 5 times a week but when I feel depressed I can\u2019t seem to summon the energy to exercise", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate to that. Maybe you can start with journaling and writing out your feelings and thoughts. They may help clear your mind especially in the evenings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I will try writing. Lately I just go to work and as soon as I get home I just lay on the couch the rest of the day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can even be just a few bullets points to start yuor journal. Just think of it as highlighting your day and write a few bullets of what you are thankful for. That can be a five minute task. I will change your head space.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is a really good idea. I think I need to start focusing more on myself and quit trying to please everyone else", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, you deserve some time to be selfish and take care of you and your needs. You can do it in the evenings when hopefully everyone is asleep and you can rest your mind and reset your thinking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Okay I will try tonight", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have already made great progress today by reaching out and explaining out you feel. Thank you for letting me listen today.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,010 | 1,544.500864 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | problems with friends | I have a friend who is struggling with alcoholism. They try to quit and then end up going back. | [{"text": "Good afternoon, what can I help you with today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have a friend who is an alcoholic and just can't seem to quit drinking.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They quit for a couple of weeks but always seem to go back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that, that is a rough situation to be dealing with.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What's very important for you to know is that you cannot control another person's actions.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It is. I care for them a great deal and do not like to see them this way.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just do not know how to help them anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's difficult for those close to an alcoholic to watch them destroy themselves.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I will tell you that you can only take care of yourself. And you can only be honest with them about how their actions affect you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "He is a wonderful person when he isn't drinking, but is argumentative when they drink", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do, we have talked over and over about how this affects both of us. And he cares when he is sober, but it doesn't seem to be enough to keep him from going back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You may need to take some time away from the friendship then. To show him you are serious that you can't tolerate the behavior any longer.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I get that, but I am the person closest to him and he needs my support", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's understandable. But if you continue trying the same solution over and over again, but are getting the same result...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "true, but I do not think that not being here would help. it would only hurt him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "In that case, you should be sure to shore up your defenses and be prepared, because it will be hard. You are a good friend, but don't lose yourself to save him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Consulting some literature for friends and family of alcoholics may be useful as well, Al-Anon or something like that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That is a good idea. I do worry that he would be upset if I shared this with others he might know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He is a really sweet person and worth the effort to help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he had a lot to give.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "has", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You should be able to find online Al-Anon groups, too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm sure he does. Don't forget that you do as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I had not thought of that. I thought you had to go to the meetings and that would be hard for me to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will definitely look into that! I appreciate the suggestion!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It looks like they do offer online chats: http://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "And thank you for saying that I have things to give, I forget about myself in this sometimes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you so much for that information. I had no idea!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So much like this chat here, you wouldn't even have to give your real name, nothing identifying, just support for you. Supporting an alcohol is exhausting, and you will need resources.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "And a place to vent.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "That is sooo true! Sometimes I just cry because I do not know what to do anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Try not to demonize your own frustrations, be easy on yourself when it comes to feeling upset with the situation, and continue trying to let him know that he hurts you when he behaves like that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Having a person to let me know I am not alone and give some support would be very helpful!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is great advice! I am going to look into that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely :-) I hope that it helps. You sound like a very kind-hearted person, and I understand that your situation is complex.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Just remember that you are as deserving of relief as he is. They always tell you on an airplane to put on your oxygen mask first, then others in your group.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "And thank you for reminding me that I matter too! It helps very much! I can't thank you enough!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm happy to hear that, I wish you luck and take care of yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
965 | 1,544.306168 | 7 | 1 | 2 | sadness | breakup with partner | breaking up cause husband cheating | [{"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there. How are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "ok. not great", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "how r u.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. What is going on that makes you not feel great? I am well, thanks for asking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "breaking up with husband. mixed emotions on it. relieved it is out in the open, sad it has to be over.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Going through a break up is never easy, especially when it is with someone you thought you would spend you life with. I understand completely. It is natural to feel sad for a while", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have been divorced myself so I know it is not easy. But I can promise it gets much better", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "yeah. it sucks. wish it was not this way. do not want to move on but without trust there is nothing", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course and it is normal to have mixed feelings", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I just cannot get out of this funk. why me? what did i do to make him want someone else?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you looked into any divorce support groups in your area or online? It can help to discover that you are not alone in how you feel", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, but the only one in my area in person is cancelled. online seems impersonal. I dont mind being on my own, but like companionship. But will not trust again. I am in a no win situation. At least the kids are grown.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "talking does help some, just no way to fix this really. It is internalized with me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand. I went though a lot of feelings myself when I divorced. Blaming myself, blaming him, missing him. It took some time to work through but thankfully today it is all a distant memory. Sometimes time is the best healer. Be kind to yourself and take time for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "yep. i guess it is too soon. 2020 is the suckiest year ever. On so many levels.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hear you on that. It has been a very unusual year in general. I think that with everything going on in the world it is more important than ever that we take me time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "got plenty of me time. lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "this is just the worst year to meet people. most of my friends were mutual marriage friends, and their pity is uncomfortable, and a few have chosen sides.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know how hurtful that can be when people chose sides. It happened in my own divorce. The best thing you can do I think is to remember not to let anyone else's misinformed opinions affect how you ultimately view yourself. None of those people were there and none of them experienced what you did.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "yeah, i am ok with losing certain friends. some have surprised me some not so much. no way to meet new people or get away.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, it is a difficult time to meet new people. Even in normal times a divorce is difficult but even more so with the restrictions we have at the moment. I think everything you are feeling is normal. Have you connected with a therapist to help you process all of your feelings. I know that helped me. Many are doing virtual sessions at the moment", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
843 | 1,544.133462 | 5 | 2 | 3 | sadness | ongoing depression | Every few nights at nighttime, I get severely depressed and I don't know why | [{"text": "Good afternoon, what can I help you with today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi, I'm just wanting to talk about my sadness that happens every now and then. Sometimes at night, (and only at night) I get in these super depressive moods and have almost mental breakdowns about everything in my life. But it doesn't happen all the time... only sometime and I don't know why", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, I'm sorry to hear you're going through that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah it is, and I'm not sure why it happens", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Especially when the sun starts going down sooner, it can seem like we have less time, and as if things are closing in upon us.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah exactly. Where I live, we just had daylight savings so it gets dark around 5:30 PM and it feels like my days are just wasted", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There are a few strategies you could use to combat that. Personally, I try to soak in as much sunlight as possible before it goes down. Sometimes that will mean moving your work space, maybe getting up earlier to have a cup of coffee in the sunrise, maybe it's scheduling breaks into your day where you specifically get some vitamin D.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "As far as the intrusive and repetitive nature of the thoughts, have you ever consulted with a therapist or other mental health professional? Obsessive thoughts are sometimes a sign of anxiety.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah that is good advice. I definitely need to work on getting myself up earlier in the mornings, I've just come so accustomed to my current sleep schedule.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And in all honesty, I haven't tried a therapist yet... I'm scared it will be hard to open up to a stranger", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's an understandable fear.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I challenge you to think about it as not too different from this chat here; An opportunity to get some objective advice and perspective.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Wow yeah I didn't even really think about that... And I'm sure there are ways to get in contact with therapists without having to be face to face? I just like the anonymous aspect of it. I feel like I come across as weak if people see me for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, BetterHelp is one of those I believe", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "TalkSpace is another one", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah that's true I have heard of BetterHelp. Maybe I should reach out on one of those platforms when I feel like I am going into one of my depressive episodes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It may be helpful! As far as I understand it's exceptionally easy to switch between therapists on that service, too. So if the first one is not a good fit, you can try someone else.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "The biggest piece of advice that I can give you is some that I've recently been enacting for myself: When you get into the spiral, and you can't shake the nasty repeated thoughts, even if you \"need\" to sleep, get out of bed and move to a different room. Change the situation up, get some tea, sparkling water, whatever you want, but change what your body is literally doing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh yeah! That's true! I will try it. And also try to incorporate a better sleep schedule. And that is very helpful thank you. I do live in a small apartment, but I have noticed that when I get out of bed and at least move to the couch, it is a different environment even though it wouldn't seem like it. I never thought how that would help me though. I will totally do it more often when I am slumping", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You sound optimistic and like you're open to trying new things to help, I think you're going to start feeling better soon.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "LOL my friend calls that \"vacation bed!\" and sleeps on the couch over the weekend like it's a treat :-D", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah I definitely want to try what I can! And that is awesome haha the vacation bed! Love it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you so much for our conversation!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It really motivated me to try new things to help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Things may take some time, but every time you take action to get better, it will help. You are very welcome!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I hope you have a wonderful evening :-)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you! You as well", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,003 | 1,544.023621 | 6 | 1 | 3 | depression | breakup with partner | He cheated on me and left me alone. He neglected me and stop putting the effort into our relatioship. I wish I left sooner | [{"text": "I feel sad", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. Do you want to tell me more about what is going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "im mad at myself for trusting him again", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What happened?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "he cheated on me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry about that. I would be sad and mad too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "he ghosted and he was trying to get with other girsl on tinder", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i wish he had the balls to actually do a proper break up he promised me he would never do that but ofcourse he lied", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how upset that must be", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "why did he lied", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's an answer we might never know.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "What's something that would make you feel better?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I should of left when he made my white coat ceromony after him after I worked my tail off for 3 yearts for it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im not really sure", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i wish i can forget he exsisted", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That has to be frustrating.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are angry. How long ago did all of this happen?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "a year ago its embarising to still be mad about it still", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but he was my first everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like he meant a lot to you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yeah he really did he threw me away so easily.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i wish he could know if he felt sorry for the things he did", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i wish i could know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you want to talk to him again?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "im not sure I would proably cry and maybe he wont feel anything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thats a really good question", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What if you wrote him an email? Would that help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I doubt he would respond after all he ghosted me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "damn im already crying", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry. What would help you right now in this moment?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "im not sure I tried therapy and im already on anti depressents", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i think im more at myself", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "mad", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "maybe crying is a good thing", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know when I cry it sometimes helps me", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I do feel better after crying", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I dont know how to heal from it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I found out he posted a pic with this girl and in in the past he would say that was stupid to do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It takes time. You're grieving. It's hard. What about disconnecting from what he does?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "thats what ive been trying to do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "each day is differnt", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like every time you find out something he is doing, it's hurting you even more.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yeah", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thats a good way to put it but each day is differnt", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "there are months that go by that I dont think of him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am proud of you for keeping going and moving forward. Day by day you'll get there!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "and sometimes when I think im healed a little thing comes and it feels like i fell apart", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "its not hard for guys to find me atractive but I wish I have the person he is in my head", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but thats not reasonable", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That happens but more importantly you pick yourself back up! You'll find someone eventually!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "but for some reason I have hope that I will feel better", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it taught me a lot like when someone isnt trying that I should leave", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "for that lesson ill be greatful", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i feel a little better now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great to hear! I am so glad you are feeling better!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thank you i think im done for now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Best of luck to you and hang in there!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}} |
798 | 1,543.913434 | 7 | 2 | 1 | sadness | breakup with partner | I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago | [{"text": "how are you feeling today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Not so great. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you have been feeling down since the breakup a couple days ago?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes I have. I just do not know what to do with myself anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate to this heartache as I have gone through similar breakups in my life. The important thing is that we pick ourselves up after something like this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I just do not know where or how to start the process.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It can be really hard sometimes! It appears that you possess the strength and motivation to be able to pick yourself back up. The factthat you are reaching out for help shows you have the motivation and desire to work to get better!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I do not want to feel like this forever!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Studies indicate that emotions felt immidiately after a breakup eventually subside with time. It is important to take care of yourself in the mean time. Do you have any hobbies?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes. I love to read.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you like to read? Have you thought about reading self-help books on perhaps depression?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I do read self help books.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have the books provided you any benefit?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Not really.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I get the sense that you are pretty depressed over you recent breakup that you have taken pretty hard. I also feel your desire to want to feel better. I think this is a step in the right direction for you to get to feeling better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I think so too i just do not know where to go from here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes it helps in working through these feelings when we reach out to a professional mental health provider. Is this something you have considered?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have thought about it before.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What has stopped you from doing this in the past?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am nervouse about it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am hearing that while you have thought about reaching out for professional help in the past in regaurds to your mental health, you have not felt comfortable enough to do this as this makes you feel a bit anxious or nervous is that correct?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes that is correct.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am nervous in situations that are new to me as well so I understand this. Is there something you can do to get past this nervousness so that you fel comfortable seeking out this help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I think that I will always be nervous until I get to know a mental health professional that I trust and am comfortable with.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like the only way for you to gain that confidence in someone to be able to share your feelings with them, that you will likely need to face that fear in order to make progress, is that right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I guess you are right about that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What would be the forst step you could take in working twards getting over this fear so that you may get the professional help that you feel like you have needed in the past as well as the present?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I just need to schedule an appointment with someone and go in and meet them face to face.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is great that you can identify what needs to be done in this situation. It sounds like you are ready and willing to seek out help for yourself! Do you have access to the resources that are in your area?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes I do as I have a list of all mental health providers in my area from the last time I thought about going to see one. Thank you for your time and your help!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
168 | 1,543.818395 | 4 | 1 | 5 | anxiety | ongoing depression | My son is a recovering meth addict and has relapsed again. After two weeks of using he admitted himself back into rehab as he as done many times in the past without a lot of success. I am afraid it will be the same this time, that he will get out of rehab and then start using again. | [{"text": "HI, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am not doing well. I am very worried about my son's chances of recovery after so many relapses and frustrated because I know there is really nothing I can do to change things for him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You must be very frustrated from feeling unable to do something.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I am. He is a different person when he's not on drugs but when he is using he can get really mean and he scares me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I remember when my mother was having end of life mental declining issues. I understand feeling as if the person is changing and having unusual moods and mood swings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Do you have anyone you can talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I try not to think about the situation, because I don't see him since he lives in another state. But I can't get everything out of my mind. And yes I have my husband to talk to, that helps some. It's when I'm trying to sleep or when my husband isn't home that's the worst for me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are feeling the way anybody in your situation would fee like. It must be helpful to have a husband who listens and can be supportive when he is there.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you always had sleep issues?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It does help but he's as frustrated and upset as I am. I can't sleep at night for dwelling on everything and I don't know how to stop the thoughts about all the terrible things that could happen.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When I'm upset about something I cannot sleep but if I'm in a good state of mind I sleep well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Being upset can make someones mind race and make it really difficult to rest or get any sleep at all.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Have you ever gone through anything like this before?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes I've been dealing with my son's addiction and recovery and relapses for the last three years.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate to being close to someone who is addicted. It can feel very sad and lonely at times. I would want to change the person in my life but just has to learn to let go instead. It is a process that takes years to learn.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am realizing that more every day. If it wasn't my son and just a good friend I would probably end the relationship but a mother can't do that to her own children, you know what I mean?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you are so right. I can't change or control him, I can only change and control myself and my responses to him. That is so difficult to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I understand how it can feel like our children are always our babies and we want to fix everything for them. Sometimes it feels like we can change them or re raise them if we just do more for them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you had the chance to speak to a close friend or pastor about this situation?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Not really. Most of my friends haven't dealt with that so they don't really understand what I am going through, or even what my son is going through. But you're right, I have to learn to let go and let him fix his own problems with no intereference from me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very self aware and have good insight. I notice that you are very in touch with your feelings. You can use writing as a way to release emotions and express yourself, as you are now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you, I will try that. Like a journal maybe?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I can recommend a journal on Amazon that I also use. Thank you for sharing with me today.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Please reach back out anytime.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you so much! I appreciate what you do!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
662 | 1,543.475049 | 6 | 3 | 1 | fear | academic pressure | I have been getting low grades lately and am scared I will be thrown out of my University. | [{"text": "Hi there, could you please give me some advice?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, would you like to explain your situation and we can go through it together", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I feel that I am blowing my future because I am just not scoring well on tests these days. I just don't feel motivated to work as hard as I know that I should.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you don't feel motivated and you are not scoring well, have I understood that correctly?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes. I know that the two things are probably related but I just do not know what to do about them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What are you currently studying?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am studying microbiology. I do not know that I have the passion for it that I once did though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your motivation and how you are studying is probably related, you are right. What attracted you to microbiology in the first place?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have always found it fascinating and have an uncle who is a microbiologist. But these days I feel I made the wrong decision. Is it too late to change?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is never too late to change anything. However, i hear that you have always found it fascinating,have you considered talking to your uncle and seeing if you can find what you loved about it again?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes that does sound like good advice. I do not want to turn by back on my studies of the past years. But my grades are really poor and I am not sure what to do about that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Studying can be really difficult , especially when you are half way through. i struggled in my studies and found that talking to my tutors helped and approaching student support. Have you tried anything like that or has your motivation held you back?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "To be honest I have been a little afraid to approach them about the subject because they might accuse me of just slacking. I know it might look like that from the outside.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just from chatting to you, I can sense that you are anxious, however, as many students feel this way, they will have a whole lot of help they can provide.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I do feel that part of my problem is that I am afraid to really open up about it. You are the first person I have really felt able to talk to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am pleased that you have been able to open up to me, it is the first step towards you finding your path. Do you find it easy to write things down?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, it is really much more easy to write my problems down than to actually talk to people about them face to face.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "One suggestion is for you to write down all the reasons that you love microbiology. It can be any format, I love a bubble chart (mind map), it could be in list form or just doodles, would this be something you would find useful?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, that is a fantastic idea! Maybe I can find a renewed interest in the subject. I hope that I can because I really do not want my time studying to have been wasted.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It would be a really good place to start. Then you could be really kind to yourself and take some pressure off. Would you like to talk through some ideas to help with the work itself?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes I really would. I already feel more motivated! Half an hour ago I felt that I had no place left to go and felt defeated.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's really good, sometimes it is about finding a direction and small steps. Often when we are studying the work seems really big, especially essay questions. One thing that helped me was to break it into really small chunks, sometimes physically covering up some of the question. Would that be something that would help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have not really tried it but I ought to. I often feel that I am just overwhelmed. Then I know that I got something wrong for definite and I just want to give up.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It could be something you can try, remember , it is not always about ought to, simply how can I make it easier for myself. It is okay to get things wrong too. If you decide to write your list of reasons why you love microbiology, maybe you could keep it in a place you see every day, a mirror or fridge and keep seeing where you are trying to get to.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have already started making a mental list and feel much more optimistic. Thank you very much for your conversation and your help, it has been very valuable to me!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are more than welcome and it has been lovely chatting to you. Is there anything else you would like to talk through?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No thank you, you have been most helpful! Have a lovely day!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
438 | 1,543.133568 | 6 | 2 | 2 | sadness | breakup with partner | I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working. | [{"text": "Hello! How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "How long have you guys been together?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "she's safe etc", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Staying friends after the fact might take the pressure off of you a little bit. You can still help her out and be there for each other, but as friends instead of partner's.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "To be honest, it's amazing that you have suggested this. It's really hard to balance my needs and feelings without breaking her heart. It's hard for the person that's dumped but actually I think it is equally hard for the dumper!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes exactly! It's so difficult for the dumper as well, because of course you still have strong feelings for this person. They just aren't romantic anymore.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "And that is okay. You don't need to feel guilty for things that you can't control. You can still be there for her without pretending to be in love", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's exactly it. So do you think I should just talk to her and tell her how I feel? The thing is it's not like she can move out immediately. It's going to be a long drawn out experience.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think talking to her and being transparent about your feelings is definitely the right move. In doing this, reassure her you still want to be friends and you aren't just \"kicking her to the curb.\" Things will obviously be awkward for the first little bit, because continuing to live together will bring it's own difficulties. But the beautiful thing about that is, you guys are already used to it. :) So it's only hard if you make it hard", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I think I need to emphasize the friends element of it and potentially support her to move on. I suppose I'm fearful that it will never end but I'll need to face into that and stay strong, and obviously avoid being intimate as this would really hurt her if I continued to sleep with her. I need to be careful about that I think!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes exactly. And from chatting with you, I can tell that you are a very caring person. You don't want to hurt her. I believe that you have the understanding of the situation, and you know what you should and shouldn't do in order to make it work. The hard part is simply getting the courage to finally discuss it. But I think you are going to be able to do that just fine!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I must say, you have been fantastic to talk to about this, we have had a similar experience so I think the advice is coming from experience. Thanks for that!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What I've gathered about you as a person, makes me confident that you probably chose a partner that will be able to have this talk with you and you both will come to an understanding.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes I think it's very great we were able to connect on our issues! It definitely helps. You are welcome! :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you for a great conversation. To continue as is wouldn't be fair on her and I see that now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course! And it wouldn't be fair to her, just as much as it wouldn't be fair to you. Your happiness is just as important!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yeah, I need to put myself first but also be considerate of her feelings. Thanks for that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Take care and enjoy your day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course! I'm glad that you are feeling a bit better about everything! You as well!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
647 | 1,543.029469 | 7 | 0 | 3 | anger | job crisis | my boss cut my pay to save his bonus this year | [{"text": "hey!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hey what's going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm mad! like mad mad!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what are you mad about?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My work is driving me nuts.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what's going on at work that's so frustrating?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I just found out my boss cut my pay and my bonus to secure his own bonus", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "wow, that's super frustrating! I would be pretty upset too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "How did you find out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I overheard a private phone call with his wife. He said that despite the tough year the company is having, he's expecting to get a large bonus because he cut costs so drastically.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I also heard him discuss it with the director of sales. They were strategizing how to shift the costs around to cover the tracks. I heard the words \"good thing we have the power, if others knew we were getting our full bonuses they'd walk out\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "wow... did anyone else hear?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "no", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would be furious too. It puts you in a very strange spot. If you say something, you look bad, and if you don't you feel bad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yeah, tell me about it. I'm pretty bummed. I'm slowly planning my exit strategy. I can't work there anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I absolutely understand. You know. the end of the year is coming up and it's probably not the best time to leave a job without having anything lined up.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I've been applying around a bit.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's good! I think budgets are going to be tight in many industries and you need to make sure you are okay financially and have insurance and unfortuantely both of those are tied to employers.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know... This pandemic is frustrating. I wish I could just walk out but realistically It'd be pretty irresponsible to quit during a global pandemic and not have insurance.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a good point. I suggest continuing to look and see what you can find. There will be people hiring.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yeah thanks. I'm still so mad but maybe I can redirect my energy into finding an new job", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's a good call, you should definitely get out of there though, but make sure you have good enough coverage.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "thanks I get it. I think I just need to put my head down and grind through it.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
289 | 1,542.895392 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | academic pressure | can't focus | [{"text": "Hello. How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I cannot seem to focus on online learn. FU covid", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It must be very difficult to be a student during this time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It is so weird. I am a hands on. teacher talking to me kinda person. what the F", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that completely. It's very helpful to speak with people face to face. However, have you sought other ways, such as through Zoom, to interact with peers having the same difficulties?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "zoom is not the same. I am in a techincal trade and need my hands", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Classes that involve hands-on work must be very challenging to do online. It sounds like this is a real dilemma. What ways have you already sought to overcome it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "trying to stay sane (patient) that the vaccine works and we get back to normal soon. FU lockdown", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel very much the same way. I am also a student taking online classes this semester. I can't wait until we get back to normal classroom settings, and I also hope fervently that the vaccine process is quick, efficient, and effective. I find that making regular online meetings with my professor, while it might not help with the physicality of your work, at least provides mental and motivational boosts. Do you ever meet with them in any capacity?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "honestly its all a shit show right now. Everything is tied up in logistics and stop and starts. this year has been almost a wash", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's been the same way at my school. At least there is some solace in knowing that a large group of students is also struggling right now. Having a source of community support/commiseration is at least emotionally helpful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "true, I guest if the ship goes down we all go down", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If there's only one thing to take from this, it's knowing you aren't alone. I have confidence that you, and this entire country, is going to get through these difficult times.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I believe that too. thanks for the reassurance. I just have a hard time sitting still", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I definitely get that. It's especially hard because we've had to sit still for so long. It's almost been a year since things were normal. It's kind of like we're just waiting for real life to start again.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "imagine when it happens. when everything is the way it was a year ago. a beer. at a bar.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds incredible. Or just to be able to go into a store without a mask and hand sanitizer and constantly monitoring how close you are to people. It's almost impossible to imagine, to be honest. But when that day finally comes, it'll be one of the best days of my life. We can finally start putting all of this behind us.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks fo the chat. i feel better. stay safe.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "im hitting the books", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks! I hope this helped relieve some stress, at least. You stay safe, too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "htiting the books", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "2", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,016 | 1,542.797143 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anger | problems with friends | My friend is a lier and a cheater. I know it. | [{"text": "Hello!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Okay. My friend is cheating on her husband, but the kicker is my husband and him are best friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow. I understand that is a difficult situation. What are your current thoughts and feelings right now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I want to tell her husband, or mine because we tell each other everything, but I dont want to make her mad.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that you want to communicate with your loved ones but are cautious of feelings and boundaries.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Because of her actions I feel like I am not being honest with my husband.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you talked to your friend about your feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, she said its girl code.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that being honest is important. I always feel the need to share with my husband. Do you think this information will do more harm than good if shared?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Both. Her husband is a great guy and no one deserves to be treated like this. Her and I have been friends for more than 20 yrs.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is not easy to be put in a place where you feel you need to choose between two people. Do you think girl code or the husband-wife code is more important? What do you value most, holding a secret or honesty?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Honesty, always.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I agree with you. With that said, you trust your values and where they lie.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "You are right. I just needed someone to confirm it with me. I would want someone to tell me if my husband was stepping out. And I can make new friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think one step I would take if i was you would be to discuss the issue with your friend. I would tell her that as a friend, she should value your values. I would tell her the distress you feel.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "You are right, but I think I will talk to my husband first.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that is okay. I would do the same. I would also maybe explain why you were hesitant as well and the challenge the situation presented fro you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think he will understand. I hope by talking to him we can both talk to her", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is she also friends with your husband?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We all went to school together", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay. Working with your husband as a team and approaching her as a friend, would be how i would take action.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thank you for the help.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
764 | 1,542.721858 | 6 | 1 | 3 | sadness | ongoing depression | school keeps dragging on and it's getting very tough to continue | [{"text": "Hi :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! How are you doing today??", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "pretty good, stressed about finals but not bad otherwise. How about you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that you are going through a stressful time with finishing up finals. Are you doing anything to destress", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah, I'm making sure to spend plenty of time relaxing and dong things I like in between studying. Also making sure to eat enough and get plenty of sleep too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is awesome! Sometimes it is really hard to take time for yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah, it can be difficult to convince myself that being good to myself isn't just me being lazy. I've gotten a lot better at this during the quarantine though!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is tough to take time, I am glad that you are making time for it. This time in quarantine has been helpful for everyone to slow down a little. Making it easier for us to give ourselves more self care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have enjoyed that aspect a lot. It has definitely been tough being isolated from my friends though. I wish America would've just handled this properly :(", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know, in the end we can only control what we do. It has been hard to be away from everyone. Have you been able to use any video chatting to help bridge the gap?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, video chat has been good. A lot of my interactions were like that before anyways, so it has gotten pretty stale though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "At this point in the quarantine it has been hard to keep going with these strange practices. I have found some comfort in returning to the normalcy of a regular phone call. Are you self isolating alone, or are you fortunate to be with others.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It's just me and my small family. I was at college but moved home a few weeks ago. At school we were just as isolated though.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have heard that is the norm among colleges. That has to be really tough. So much of college is in the experience of being with other young people. You are fortunate because you are learning skills like how to be really flexible when it comes to tough times.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yeah, I always try and remember that I've got it pretty good in these times", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is there anything else that is going on aside from the isolation that is stressing you out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Nope Its just really tough to see it keep dragging on with no end in sight", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I totally understand. It has been really tough. What are the things that you miss the most in this time?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {}} |
315 | 1,542.645997 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anger | ongoing depression | I am angry because I think my husband is controlling but he says I dont understand what controlling is | [{"text": "Good evening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hey there! How are you feeling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am very angry and not sure if I should feel that way", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "my husband tells me what to do where to go and when to go but he says", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hold on please got go for a min", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Correct me if i'm wrong, but it sounds like your husband may be controlling you a little and you're expressing reasonable emotions because of it. and Okay!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "he said if he were controlling i would be givign him attention read between the lines", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "than he will say don't touch this like a cheesecake and than tell me week later make it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Why do you think he talks to you this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am going to write stuff to move it up on screen . he might come read this", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "so if isuddently leave i a m very sorry", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My friends say because i allow him to control me and", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay that is perfectly okay. You are fine. If you need me to assist you in any way just send a question mark.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "dont stand up for myself and lalow him to treat me that way", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am angry too because I cant be free and express how I really feel", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he has a disrespect i think for women in general and call them cunts", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "? question", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it wont let me just send aquestion mark", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been in a similar situation. I was with someone who was controlling in a lot of aspects so i can feel your pain and struggle. I can feel your anger too, and I imagine that it is alot. It is not your fault, and you aren't allowing this to happen to you. It is out of your control. Don't ever blame yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "How can I assist you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That makes me feel better. How long were you in relationship", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was in it for two years before I broke away from it. It was so hard but liberating to leave!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "ok I am glad for you..", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I could suggest you see a private doctor to talk about this with, if that is something you are able to do. Or see one with your husband. Maybe he needs a third party to help mediate the problems you guys are having.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "he will not go to therapy nor am i allowed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am lucky to have family friends whom I can talk to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's very hard to deal with. And I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Do you feel safe?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "but he thinks he is always right and blah blah blah", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My real concern is for the boys . they see him treating me this way and will think its ok", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "they even said something disrespectful to me and hubby was like you don't talk to your mom that way", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "or ill knock your teeth out", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he wouldnt but he doesnt see how its his fault", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can tell this situation stresses you out and probably consumes a lot of your day to day energy. I sympathize with you and your children. What happens when you try talking with him about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "he says i m making a mountain out of a mole hill", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and i have no idea what controlling is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I commend you for speaking up for yourself despite his responses. I hope you hold on to that strength for as long as you can. It will empower you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "well boys need to get ready for bed . thanks for listening. You can know I will be safe.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay I will be praying for you and I hope the best outcome for you possible. Please know there are domestic hotlines you can call if need be. I hope you enjoy your night.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "you too keep safe", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
774 | 1,542.511877 | 7 | 2 | 1 | fear | breakup with partner | After breakup with partners I have a fear to meet with my friends | [{"text": "Good afternoon, Would you be able to assist me?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hello, my name is Sue, how can I help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I broke up with my partner 1 month ago and now I don't really want to meet with my friend anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How is the friendship related to the break up can you please explain?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Breakups are such a challenging thing to go through.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "We had friends in common and I feel they liked her better than me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you went through a breakup, and feel that the friends you had in common prefer her to you, so you don't want to see your firends any more, am I understanding correctly?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "I have a fear they laughing at me behind my back, you know what I mean?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "do you have any evidence they are laughing at you or not liking you? or is it a feeling you have?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I know sometimes I think someone feels a certain way about me, but if I ask them, it turns out not to be true, and it clears the air. Sometimes it's just in my own head.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I don't know how to explain. I have a feeling everybody even on the street are laughing because of my breakup with partner.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i see", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "but HAS anyone laughted at you? or told you they don't like you? or not responded when you have talked to them?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, not really. I think it's just my feelings about it. Because you know my ex on a public was so perfect but nobody knows how she acted when we were alone...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i can relate to this. I went through a breakup a couple of years ago, and left town. Part of me is relieved I don't have to see those friends we had in common any more. I didn't want to be jiudged for leaving him. So I have experienced some similar feelings.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Good you understand me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah yes, the public and private can be quite different sometimes for sure", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "have you reached out to any of these friends to test the waters? maybe called or texted just to touch base and have a chat that's not emotionally loaded, about light topics? This might be a non-threatening way to test out how they are feelng about you. You might be pleasantly surprised, and find that goes well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "One friend offered me to go for a drink tonight but I haven't replied yet. And also I don't want to talk about my ex at all, that's what I am afraid he can ask.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "the other thing is these common friends might feel a bit awkard too about the situation. They have to figure out how to relate to you both on your own, it's a change of dynamics, so might take a bit of time to settle out. Can you tell your friend that you'd like to go out for a drink but that you don't feel comfortable talking about your ex at all? Would your friend respect your request if you made one do you think?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes that's true. I believe he might understand me and accept my request. Would be quite challenging if we will meet my ex wth other friends in same pub. I live in a small town.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh I see, yes that could be awkward for sure.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i think it's important you go out with your friend, but can understand your reluctance to run into your ex. Could you go out for coffee or lunch instead?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Well that's would be quite strange as we usually meet only for drinks.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah gotcha. So do you think you will accept or not? Or still need time to think about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I will give it a go and see what happens. I will text you tomorrow to let you know how it went", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i hope if you go that you have an enjoyable time, and that your friend respects your boundaries. And worse case scenario, if your ex is there, you could leave early...if it were me I'd warn my friend that I might have to", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I'm glad you are going! Take care of yourself and have a good time. Was there anything else?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "That's good tip, thanks", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's it for today. have a lovely afternoon", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you're very welcome. and you as well! Bye.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
527 | 1,542.088878 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anger | problems with friends | I am angry because my friend judged me for not buying my nephew a birthday gift. | [{"text": "I am very upset", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Im sorry to hear your upset. Do you want to go into why you are?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "A friend of more than 20 years hurt me deeply by judging me for not buying a gift for my nephew for his birthday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Why would they judge you on that? Do they know your nephew as well?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, she is very close friends with my nephew's mother as well. She is the kind of person who will go into deep debt and overdraw her bank account to buy someone a gift, I am not. I could not afford the gift, I am disabled and on a very minimal income.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That i can relate too, i am also disabled and on SSI. Have you spoken to her about how she upset you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I did. I took a few days to cool off and then told her that her comments hurt me. I know that she's aware of my financial situation as well as the fact that I am disabled. Her response was that she said nothing wrong.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats a tough spot to be in with a friendship that has lasted so long. Does she tend to treat you like this regularly?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, she really never has. Typically, she feels like other people walk all over her and take advantage of her, but that's never been me and its never been our relationship.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then would you say its a little odd for her to be acting in this manner towards you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes, quite. At times over the years she can become quite self absorbed. But she's never been so downright hurtful. I can't really see a way for our relationship to be the same anymore.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would agree that the relationship is getting a bit toxic but before terminating such a long relationship i would do one thing. I would try to see if there is something going on in her life right now for her to be acting like this. Sometimes people dont know how to talk about something thats bothering then and it in turn comes out as anger or spite.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's true. We've been through a lot together over the years. But I can't deny that what she said hurt, and our conversations are just so superficial now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah to be honest if you press the issue and ask if anything is going and you continue to get toxic responses. It might be time to end the friendship. I would do that as a last resort but there is no need for you to be carrying it one sided and holding all the burden as well. It hurts to have to end a long friendship but unfortunately sometimes it has to happen to keep yourself in a better spot.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thanks. I appreciate your help", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
1,095 | 1,542.022753 | 5 | 1 | 4 | depression | Issues with Parents | My parents have this expectation of me to give back to them even though I'm not financially stable yet | [{"text": "Hi, How are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am the youngest of 5 siblings and I feel all most days now because of my parents", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're having a hard time feeling like you have your parents' attention, is that right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Not their attention, but more on their expectations on me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds frustrating, I'm sorry", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do they do or say anything specific that makes you feel those expectations?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, its more on comparing me to the children of their friends. They always say why don't I have a better job or even plans on marrying rich. Stuff like that is very frustrating", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They also expect me to take care of them financially soon, I'm just starting my adult life I want to enjoy it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds very frustrating. I think if I felt those kind of expectations I would be anxious.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do you feel comfortable talking to them about your feelings?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I do feel anxious every time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I tried a couple of times, but my mom always sees it as being too sensitive", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes it can feel impossible to talk to parents", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know, is it better if I stay away for awhile? since taking to them won't make sense?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that it can be very healthy to get some distance, but I think it can also feel difficult -- do you have good friends in your life that you could lean on if you needed some distance from your parents?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I do. They actually helped me coped up. I always think that I wasn't blessed with my family, but I'm blessed with good friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good friends can be a huge comfort and it sounds like you're a good friends yourself if you have those kinds of friendships", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thinking about it, they really did help a lot. So I should really distance myself for a while right?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think if making distance helps you feel better, you deserve and have a right to that space", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, thank you. I really need to that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're welcome", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are making healthy and careful emotional decisions", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Is there anything else you want to discuss about your parents?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "2", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,104 | 1,541.486738 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | problems with friends | my friends refuse to take the pandemic seriously | [{"text": "Hi", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hello How are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing well. How are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm actually not doing that great. I'm feeling pretty bad", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that, what's going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well, I'm a little frustrated with my friends because they aren't taking the pandemic seriously.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They think it's a hoax.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. I assume you are taking it seriously?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, I take it very seriously. I lost my grandfather to the illness earlier in the year and I also contracted it. I was sicker than I ever have been and I still can't smell or taste.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, I'm very sorry to hear that! I'm sorry for your loss.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do your friends know that you were sick or that you lost a loved one?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah they do which is why it's so frustrating to hear them talk about it not being real.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It really hurts", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So they are not taking you seriously either then?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "That's really frustrating and I'm sorry to hear that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Do you have any friends who you can trust and talk to?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do, I have a few newer friends that I've made recently that have had lost family members too. They don't seem to think it's a hoax.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That can certainly be difficult to talk about. But maybe you can build stronger relationships with them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Friendships can change overtime and sometimes people who don't value the friendship can find themselves without friends.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I know, it would be hard to say goodbye to them but I don't feel respected.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe you don't have to say goodbye. Maybe you can just ignore them and see if any of them reach out to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You shouldn't have to feel bad in a friendship. Friends are supposed to support each other. If you aren't feeling support, maybe it's time to make new friends.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think you're right, It's just hard to say goodbye to them. I may take your advice and just ignore them for a bit. My new friends seem to have better heads on their shoulders anyway and I like talking to them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that's a great plan!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thanks so much for your help!! I really appreciate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No problem! glad I could help!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
416 | 1,541.088327 | 7 | 1 | 2 | depression | breakup with partner | I broke up with someone I believe is my soulmate | [{"text": "Hi! How's it going today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hello! I'm pretty good today, what about you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing really well, thanks. What brings you here today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm just having some old thoughts about a past relationship. IT's making me sad", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can appreciate that. Thinking about lost loves makes me sad too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What about this particular relationship makes you feel sad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeahhh I re read some old messages from a while back and just started thinking about it again. IT's going to sound quite dramatic, but I regret breaking up with this person. I feel as though they were my soulmate. And I ruined it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh...I see, you think s/he's the \"one who got away?\"", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Why did you break up?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Pretty much... but the dumb thing about that is I am the one who broke it off. I was with him since beginning of high school, and so I never knew anything other than him. But Earlier this year I was having second thoughts and thought we should try new things for a while. In the beginning, I was doing fine and he was having a really hard time. But now I miss him more than anything and he is now better off without me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow...that does sound painful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I know how hard it is to let go of a guy you really loved. I've had to break up with a few of them over the years!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah? Do you miss any of them? Or do you feel like it was right for you in the long run", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "In the long run, I feel that those break-ups were absolutely necessary. I'm in a really good place now. And they are too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah that is good. That is everything that I'm hoping for. But it's not coming fast enough", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I eventually learned to think of it like this: every man I loved taught me something important about myself. ANd I taught them things about themselves. ANd it doesn't happen overnight. But eventually, you will probably be able to see how you grew as a result of the breakup.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Maybe the things you will learn can help you be ready for Mr Right!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I really appreciate that way of looking at it. Of course I will always cherish my memories and the things I learned from him. And I want to think of those things as happy experiences rather than sad memories", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a really good way of looking at it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "How long did it typically take you to finalyl be over them and happy with what you ecperienced?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oohh.... I think it really depended on how long I was with them. ANd why I decided to end it. The longer relationships Maybe a few weeks to a few months before I was ready to move on and try again. BUt Only a fraction of that was crying with Ben & Jerry's!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hahaha yes. That really does help honestly !", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "For me it just happened that one day, I thought about Gary and I didn't really feel that sad anymore. I just thought...wow, we had some good times.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "B&J's and a few good rom-coms ought to put you in a better mood! Lol", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah I guess I am just waiting for that day when my thoughts are genuinely me just grateful for the times we shared but not missing them. And honestly, some days I do feel like that! And then it all comes back. I think I am getting there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It really sounds like you are making progress!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Just remember the old saying \"time heals all wounds.\"", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah exactly. You are right!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks so much", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's my pleasure! I hope you keep feeling stronger!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": ":) I definitely will", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You know, I believe you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
467 | 1,541.010331 | 6 | 0 | 4 | sadness | breakup with partner | Well I guess it's not really a break up, my boyfriend got killed in a car accident coming up on 3 years ago in January. | [{"text": "hello there, how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am ok. Kinda having a rough day today.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. Do you want to talk about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Sure. It's coming up on 3 years next month that I lost my boyfriend in a car accident. Its just really rough this time of year.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot imagine how hard that must have been for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Extremely hard. I remember that morning like it was yesterday. He got killed within an hour after leaving the house on his way to work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He was killed so soon after you last saw him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Very soon. And the worst thing is I was upset with him that morning. He had an addiction to xanax. I was not ok with it. He had went and got some that morning and he would always give them to me so I could give them to him so he didn't take them all. I was so upset that he went and got them. He was packing up his truck with things to take to the new shop that day. He was a tattoo artist and just started a new job. I didn't even get out of bed to help him and he knew I was upset with him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you considered any sort of bereavement counselling? Addiction in a partner is a very hard thing to have to deal with. It is not your fault!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I had decided that I was gonna wait to hear from him that day instead of texting or calling him. I wanted him to realize how upset his addiction made me. Instead the phone call I got was that he had been killed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel any sort of guilt about it? You should not, of course, but do you wonder if things would have been different if you had talked to him first?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't done any counseling. I know I should and it would probably help me. I don't know why I have not.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have previously had counselling and found it very useful but there is a long waiting list for a free counsellor", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I don't feel guilt about it. Now at least. I was pretty hard on myself at first. But I know that he knows why I was upset that morning. It was something we dealt with a lot.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you still in touch with his family and friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I went and talked to a therapist once right after and never went back. And I don't know why. He was amazing to talk too. But I just never went back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you should do things in your own time but I would recommend doing it again one day.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I don't have any contact with his family. I actually had to block them on all social media. They are extremely religous. Which there is nothing wrong with that. But he didn't have the best relationship with any of them. They couldn't accept him for who he was. His biological father didn't have anything to do with him. His mom was remarried and had two more kids and they didn't treat my boyfriend very good growing up. He ended up living with his grandparents. He finally had acceptance in my family. He actually talked to my mom more than I did lol.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds like a very complicated set up. It is sad when family members become partially estranged from one another.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "His family has been pretty horrible to me and my girls. And I know it's because they have guilt for the way things were with their relationship. They didn't even invite me and my girls to the burial of his ashes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is extremely offensive and I think you would have had the right to contest that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It's very sad. Not what I wanted at all. But they were really horrible to me and my girls. I know he would not be happy that they have treated us so poorly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope that you are able to come to terms with things in the near future. Please try and focus on your girls and not worry so much!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "His sisters went and cleaned out and took everything he had from the shop the day after the funeral. Which really hurt. The stuff he had there meant alot to me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you should talk to someone about this. Maybe a lawyer? There must be something people can do to help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I hope I can too. I just take everything day by day. I start a new job this week and hopefully things will start looking up. The last 3 years have been rough to say the least.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have to wrap this up now but I wish you all the very best for the future. Please try and reach out to people for help!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "We weren't married. And of course he didn't have a will. He was only 32. So according to his family I have no legal rights.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for chatting with me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very welcome!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Have a good night.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you too, goodnight.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You can leave now :) I will just wait around till you've gone.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
12 | 1,540.7697 | 6 | 2 | 2 | depression | job crisis | My account went into the negative this morning. | [{"text": "Hello, How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am very unhappy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im sorry to hear that, would you like to go into whats causing you to feel this way?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My bank account went into the negative this morning. I also keep having abandonment issuess with my boyfriend and I was supposed to leave Friday for Dallas, but with my bank account in the negative, I am scared", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Was this unexpected? As in, was there unwarranted withdrawals to your bank account?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes it was", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you contacted your bank yet to see whats going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Not yet I am going to soon", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would get on top of that as soon as possible. They are usually very accommodating with things like that. Ive had false charges that returned quickly. Hopefully that can get you to dallas soon", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Whats going on with your boyfriend though?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "He is struggling financially and wants to leave his apartment and I am supposed to be there Friday but things are a mess.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im sorry i was confused before, so you are feeling as if you are abandoning him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "More like he'll leave me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He will leave you if you do not come and help? That does not seem very healthy. Cant he see you are doing everything you can to try to get to him now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "No, he did not say that I just alway sfeel like someone is going to leave me because of past relationships and trauma", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh i hear you, i am sorry that you have been affected like that. Have you conveyed those feelings to him?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Or have you spoken to a professional? I have had a very abusive relationship in the past. I couldnt get close to others until i spoke to my therapist. It was a long journey but i feel i am myself now though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yes, I have he feels similarly. I may be talking to a professional on Wednesay because of group therapy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats great, that one small step can really make a big difference. Everyones path is different but i hope it really helps you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am sorry about the abusive relationship", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Therapists ccan be a big help I am glad that I found one", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I thank you for that, but we are here for you now, heh. They can be, it really helps to lay all the pieces on the table and try to put everything back where it goes. Sometimes you just have to break it all down to build it back up.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah, that's true. You can break from something so bad and painful, but it takes a lot to get ack to being yourself again. Although, it's very important to do so.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yea, you do come out stronger in the end though. Its a good fight to get into. You seem to be talking the steps you need to, which is very good, not many people can or are willing too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's very true and they can be stubborn, it's important nto to be.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, i think its most people are afraid of what they have become but are more afraid of the hard work needed to get through. Its not easy.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "No it isn't. I remember doing homework packets the last time I went to therapy and it's not easy. Revisiting trauma isn't easy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No its like living the nightmare all over again, except this time you know what happens. The one light at the end of the tunnel, at least for me, is knowing that alive right now to even think about it. It kinda helps in a weird way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That's true. There's a light in the darkness knowing you survived.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yup, gotta take the small wins, let them build up. I hope us talking has been a small win.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It has been, it's been helpful thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
700 | 1,540.565194 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anxiety | ongoing depression | friend has possible COVID and going to hospital today for tests | [{"text": "Hello there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Not too bad. Been experiencing some anxiety though. It is kind of an ongoing issue for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Anxiety can be a real challenge. What have you done to face it in the past that works for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have tried going to support groups and therapy. I also take medications. Despite this I still feel overwhelmed.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you have tried a lot of different methods, so good for you for taking care of yourself. What is overwhelming you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "The situation with COVID is scary. I just found out someone I care about may have the virus. I am a worrier anyways so it is hard not to feel butterflies in my stomach about the issue.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is a very scary time we are all living through, so it's very easy to understand your higher anxiety with someone you care about maybe facing it. What can you do to feel better?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I can try to keep myself busy and practice self care. It is hard though because I still worry. Sometimes I feel too worried to do the things necessary to stop it all spiraling", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a great way to approach it-- since the time has to pass anyway, you can use it to take care of yourself and move your life forward despite the \"pause\" of the pandemic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Have you thought about trying meditation or focused breathing to calm yourself when you feel spiraling?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I have practiced breathing techniques and meditation before and think that is a great suggestion. At the moment I think the only thing that would ultimately really make me feel better is knowing my friend is okay. He already has health issues so it is a worry.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely, and it's completely understandable, but it's very hard to wait. I hope that you are able to practice some of the techniques we talked about, and seeking help by talking about it is part of self-care, too. I think you are on the right track to getting through this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you. That is nice of you to say and I appreciate the support. Just knowing someone has faith that I can do it gives me more confidence", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I believe we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for, and it takes strength and courage to reach out for help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Please take good care of yourself, and I hope your friend stays healthy or gets well very soon.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks. I appreciate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for reaching out, and I hope the rest of your day goes well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks, I hope you have a great day too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank yo for your helpful input as well", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
534 | 1,540.312938 | 4 | 1 | 5 | anxiety | Alcohol Abuse | I have had trouble coming through the pandemic and have turned to alcohol to cope with job, family, and relationship issues. | [{"text": "Hey, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hello! I am doing ok today. Just getting through the day I suppose.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're having a rough day.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Anything in particular happened?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Just an average day if I had to describe it. Nothing particularly unusual or bad. Worked for about 8 hours and now no plans for the night", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I get that. Some days are just meh, but nights can feel especially lonely.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Exactly. I find that when the night starts seeping in the loneliness comes up especially with no concrete plans or things to keep busy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've felt like that too. The business of the day makes you forget, then it's time for bed and you remember.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "And for me it's the build up to bed time. Those hours to fill with either dinner, watching tv, reading or whatever. Plenty of time let me mind wander and think the worst.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like your day to day gets very lonely.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "From time to time yes. I have a dog so that's nice company", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Even then I sometimes turn to drinking to clear my mind", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Dogs or pets in general really help to alleviate depression.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes! Something to make me feel needed and companionship knowing he's depending on me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. Do you have any friends to talk to or groups about it you can join?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Exactly! Dogs really do love you no matter what.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I do. I've been better about reaching out to people and joining a few online groups. It has helped for sure but I still find myself with the feelings from time to time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Personally, I have a betta fish, but he seems happy to see me.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That's great! The first step in recovery is reaching out for help. You're doing the right thing.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's cute. Fish are less work than dogs but still a way to feel needed with food and water changes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's good to hear. Sometimes I think I'm not doing enough to get help but each meeting or talk with friends is a step in the right direction", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad he doesn't need to walk, but I'm sure the fresh air is nice.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I know it can feel like you're a bother, but you aren't. I'm glad you're reaching out to those who care.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Thanks. Good to hear that even from a stranger. It feels like a bother to burden others with my \"problems\" even though they are supportive", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like that too. It's easy to feel \"strong\" for holding it in, but it's just as strong to let those feelings out.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Well, stronger. I'm sorry. I hope that made sense", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Even this was helpful. I was leaning towards pouring that first drink of the night soon, but just a quick chat like this has helped me reframe and stay strong for tonight at least", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad. Things are tough but you can do it! Moment to moment is easier than a day at a time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well, thank you so much. This was a nice chat that definitely helped me. Hope you have a good rest of your night", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope you do too. Keep reaching out when you need it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,265 | 1,539.764644 | 6 | 3 | 1 | shame | problems with friends | My friends are not taking the current pandemic seriously and often have get togethers. | [{"text": "Hello, how are you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi there! How may I support you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well, I'm really upset with my friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that. Did something happen?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yes, they aren't taking COVID seriously.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is so hard. I have family that isn't taking COVID seriously as well, and its so frustrating to see. Are you able to talk to them about your concerns?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yes but they get angry with me. I don't know how to get through to them,", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Some people express their frustrations in certain ways. Do you think there is another way to communicate with them? It's also okay to stand up for yourself and stand by what you feel is right.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I really don't know I just haven't been seeing them at all but I see through social media that they have large parties but I do feel left out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's a weird dynamic.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you're finding it hard to balance the isolation you feel during this pandemic, while you know it's the safest option, with the social gatherings your friends are having. Does that sound right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "That's exactly right.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that is such a hard position to be in. it sounds like you are doing your best by choosing to be safe and keep your distance.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I'd like to think so but I wish they would too. It's hard to know what is right.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have found that having vitural movie nights, or going on socially distanced walks with my pals has been so helpful with staying connected. Is this something you think your friends would be willing to try?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yes, but they'll have their BBQs and parties anyway. They are having a group Thanksgiving and there will be a lot of people there. My husband and I feel bad that we aren't going, but we also know it isn't smart.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think a lot of people are going by the notion that you can't live your life in fear, and that they're going to have these big family gathering regardless of what is happening with COVID. The stats have shown that after holidays the cases have surged, for example, memorial day, 4th of July, labor day. But I think its important to remember the bigger picture that peoples lives are literally at stake and the people that disregard need to be more aware.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "We feel like after this is all over, they will still remind us that we were standoffish during this time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And I agree. The longer we put it off and don't take it seriously, the longer it will last.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell them that that just isn't the case? You and your husband are making the right choice by staying home for the safety of yourselves and others. If I am correct, it has nothing to do with the fact that you don't want to see your pals and family!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "From chatting with you it sounds like your relationships with these people is incredibly important to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes that's totally accurate.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes they are. They are good people.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "They just think living for the moment is the bigger picture.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope your friends can see how important they are to you and thats a huge reason why you're not seeing them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think they do. They just think that this is a hoax.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know a lot of people that think the same thing. I have one friend who thought that, and they ended up contracting COVID. Thankfully she was ok, but after she got it she definitely didn't think it was a hoax anymore. I hope they understand the risk they are taking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That's scary.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah I don't think they get it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am proud of the choices you are making and I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that you are doing your part in helping keep things under control. There is a strength in numbers and the more people who understand that the faster it can be controlled.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you. I hope it gets better. But anyway thank you for giving me the chance to open up.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes of course, I hope this was helpful. You are doing the best you can and take pride in knowing that. :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,216 | 1,539.760416 | 5 | 2 | 3 | depression | breakup with partner | I am recently divorced. My ex-husband has moved in with his new, much younger girlfriend and they are discussing marriage. Although I am happy the marriage is over, I'm depressed because I have not had any romantic offers while he has moved on with no problem. | [{"text": "Hello, is someone there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, my name is Jonathan. May I ask who I am speaking to today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hi Jonathan, I'm Keri.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi Keri. How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm feeling a little bit down today. I've been feeling a little bit down a lot lately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh no. I'm sorry to hear that. What do you think would be the cause of you feeling down lately?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "My ex-husband is moved in with his new girlfriend. They might get married.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh Keri, that must feel awful. Was it a recent separation between you two?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "He started dating a few months after we split up. I don't know if this is the only person he's dated but I think so. He really moved on quick.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, are you still there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah I understand what you're going through. I was in a similar position not too long ago. I had a hard time wrapping my head around how fast my ex could move on from what we had. How does it make you feel that he's trying to start a new relationship so soon after yours?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It makes me feel like he didn't learn anything from our relationship or like he thinks he's better than me because he has someone new and I don't. I'm trying to take some time and be alone and be okay with being alone, which is good I think, but sometimes I feel really really lonely too. Like maybe I won't ever find anyone.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must feel really isolating. But working on yourself and becoming a better you is the only way to move on in a healthy manner. I think you're doing the right thing in waiting and learning to love yourself before you can open up and love another.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you! Exactly. But it is scary. I am guessing from your name that you identify as male (please forgive me if that is incorrect), so you might not understand what it feels like to be an older woman when your ex starts dating someone a lot younger. Men only get better and more desirable with age, not so for women.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I might not understand that particular aspect, but self worth is still self worth no matter the context. I'd say try not to pay any mind to what he's up to. The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, but if you just focus on watering your grass (making yourself happy) then you'll have a much more fulfilling life.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Haha, watering my own grass. That is a good way to put it. Thank you for talking to me for a few minutes. It makes me feel a little bit better to have someone agree that it is okay to spend time working on me, instead of thinking that it is sad or pathetic or an excuse. I really appreciate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh absolutely Keri. Thanks for opening up and sharing your experience and feelings with me for just a few minutes. It was great to talk to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Have a good night, Jonathan. :-)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Happy Holidays Keri. Keep your head up!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Happy holidays.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {}} |
701 | 1,539.632937 | 5 | 1 | 4 | depression | Issues with Children | I am divorced and my kids live most of time with my ex wife in another state. I do not know what to do when I am in the depressed mood I feel so down in the dumps thinking of my kids. My ex wife tells them lies about me saying I left them. I came to Tennessee when I found out my mom had cancer and I got out of the military. | [{"text": "Hello how are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am down feeling depressed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel like the world is crashing down around me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have suffered from depression and know how hard that can be", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What seems to have brought it on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Thinking about my kids and wanting to be able to hug them and see them they are in a different state", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have medications I take but I have so many different things going on", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that is hard being separated from family. Are you unable to t5ravel right now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have PTSD, sleep apnea, and numerous other issues I suffer from as well", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "So are you being followed by a specialist?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It is hard to travel at the moment I feel I can't trust anyone and don't like to be around a lot of people", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do see a specialist", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay so you are not feeling well enough to travel and see your kids am I right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It's even hard for me to go outside", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No I am feeling very down and depressed right now and it is very hard", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds like it would be isolating...are you able to keep in touch with people by telephone, video chat and what not, are you feeling well enough for that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My kids call me and facetime me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know when I am depressed I don't want to see or talk to anyone...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "My oldest son texts me a lot so I am thankful for that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I'm so glad you are in touch in that way, do you find them supportive?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My kids make me happy to talk to but usually I don't feel like seeing anyone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is there any way they can come and visit you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't even know how to describe how I feel to people sometimes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope they will be coming soon when my youngest son gets out of school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed right now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "My mood seems to go up and down but mostly stays down I don't like going anywhere", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is there anyone else besides your specialist and your kids that you can reach out to for support in your community, even if it's just by pone?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That makes me feel so bad too because I never used to be this way", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am remarried and my wife tries to help as much as possible", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And you won't feel this way forever, it will pass, know that, even if it does not feel like it, it will. It can be hard to see any light at the end of the tunnel when we are depressed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I live close to my sister as well but it is still difficult for me to even talk a lot to them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh that's great you have a supportive wife!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I feel like I don't have anyone sometimes and she is supportive but I just get to feeling down and shutdown", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "In my community we have mental health programs, I am actually doing some via zoom, do you know if there is anything like that you can access?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I shutdown from everything and feel worthless sometimes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that shut down feeling....I close right up when I am down", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I hate to feel like that but I feel there is nothing I can do sometimes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Feeling worthless, uninterested in going out, those are symptoms of depression, they will pass", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I don't find fun in things I used to do that was fun", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel so separated from people my parents both are gone now too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Lack of interest in things is also a symptom of depression. Once your depression lifts it will come back. I'll tell you what helped me when I was depresed...", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "My dad passed away 24 years ago and my mom passed away last easter too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what helped you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was taught to make very small goals. For example, I found it hard to go out for a walk, even though I knew it would help my depression. (Exercise has been shown to be as effective as antidpressants) So I was told, just walk around the block. If that's too much, walk to the corner. If that's too much, walk to the end f the driveway. If that's too much, step outside. If that's too much, put your shoes on. Baby steps.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "And whatever small step you manage to acheive, celebrate it and reward yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I would like to know because I don't like the feeling of depression and anxiety not being able to sleep", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ultimately, my last depression it was getting my covid shot that helped most....lifted a bunch of fear and anxiety and restored my hope.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Does your specialist know you are this down?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I try to go out and walk my wife likes to go outside so I try to do that but I still feel so down and I don't like how I feel I have become I get angry all the time too I feel like", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes my specialist knows and I have appointments with them more often", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And losing your mum last Easter, you are probably still dealing with grief on top of everything else. My parents are gone too, grief can be a long process. Grief is tough. That will get easier with time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "My meds I take have been increased and I hate to just take meds to try to help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The thing is though, depression is an illness. Would you take meds for another sort of illness, something physical?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "It has been 24 years since my dad has passed away and he was my best friend and I still hurt everyday", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is hard, I'm sorry you are hurting", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Have you tried writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know and I try to get out but after I retired from military I still have thoughts about all that I seen there too and I hate that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "okay so the PTSD is related to time in the military?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I don't like to tell everyone about that because I feel like I am bringing everyone down saying that too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes the PTSD is from the military time", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are there any veterans groups in your area that help with that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Maybe connecting with others \"in the same boat\" would help", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I am not sure but I don't like to be in big groups either", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Or maybe there is a way online you could do that, virtual meetings, since you find it hard to get out. Could you handle a zoom group meeting?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I get easily startled now too when I am outside I always feel like someone is coming close to me and no one is there", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I attend zoom group meetings for my mental health. They have helped.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I am not sure about that I feel ashamed a lot too about the way I feel", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are going through a lot, but you are stronger than you feel, I know you can get through this. Things will get easier.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I don't think people should feel the way I do and I don't understand my feelings either", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you done any research online about PTSD....perhaps your veteran organization has resources on their website", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I truly hope so because I feel like I am against a wall sometimes too with my thoughts and feelings", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is so hard, I hear you", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I have not done a lot of research but I need to try that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Research is something solitary you can do", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I feel like I am complaining to people too and that bothers me too because I am not", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Whereabouts do you live?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I live in southern Tennessee", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well you are being honest. Some people will be able to handle that, some won't, but either way it takes courage to communicate how badly you feel.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am with the VA now they get all my appointments for me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I truly feel like my back is against the wall and I have never been that way I used to have fun", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "ok good. I see online that Tennessee Dept of Veterans lists some mental health resources", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I go to see one of my specialists tomorrow actually VA", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You will have fun again. Your feelings are due to depression, you will get through it, it will lift.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I really appreciate you listening to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very kind to listen and try to make things better", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good. Be honest and open with your specialist please? That's important. It's a pleasure listening to you, you're welcome", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I hope you are right and someday these feelings do go", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Aw thank you for the compliment", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I hope you have a great rest of your day and thank you so much for the kindness", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Honestly, I have been ill with depression several times, and have felt hopeless...and it always lifted", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "You're so welcome. Feel better soon.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And don't give up!!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am trying not too but that is the hard part", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel alone a lot I understand I am not but that is how I feel", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Bye for now and thank you again", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have your wife and kids you are not alone :) Bye take care, things will get better.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "If you hit the quit button it will end the session :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
893 | 1,539.5469 | 7 | 2 | 1 | depression | breakup with partner | My boy friend left me for nothing, I tried to ask for explanation but i won't get any thing , make me depressed and felt alone. | [{"text": "Hello. How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hey , it's good to see you , thanks for the meeting", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Happy to be here. Is there anything on your mind?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well I've been better, I'm not doing that great.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It' just all this stuff with him. I am still thinking about it all the time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "This is a hard time of year for many people.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are thinking about a specific person a lot of the time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Ugh. That's the worst.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is there anything you can think of that would help you to feel better?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah. I hate the way it ended. I really cared about him and feel like the part is still there.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like things ended in an unresolved way. That can make it feel like there is no real conclusion.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Hey! are you there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes, there is a lag in the system. it takes a while for the response to upload", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Ok fine , it's so hard to get over someone after a breakup like this.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I agree. Sometimes it just takes time to process all the emotions.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I mean logically , I know it's not. If we were gonna break up, then we were gonna break up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, that's a good point. It sounds like you are thinking this through in a good way, but the emotions are hard to process. Letting yourself feel the emotions is an important part of getting through a difficult situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "But I want to keep his photos. And how would I even distract myself that much that I'd stop thinking about him completely.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is understandable to want to keep photos. Distracting yourself might not be the solution; that could stop you from processing the emotions. There is a stage of grieving for a lost relationship that happens when a relationship ends. There will be grieving for the person, and for the relationship with that person. That is what has to be processed in order to move on.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Ok, I mean , I can try, But it's just, I don't want to leave him behind. I miss him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That makes sense; you care about him so you miss him. This is one of those things that will take time. Accepting and acknowledging the emotions, even when they are painful, will let the emotions evolve and over time they will become less painful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "But he's gone. I know it hurts so badly.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, it must be a painful experience. The end of a relationship is a loss, and there is a grieving process to go through. That is a painful experience. I am sorry you have to go through this. I believe that you can manage this experience and end up a stronger person.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,282 | 1,539.480117 | 6 | 1 | 3 | fear | job crisis | My son had heart surgery this year and is in the midst of being diagnosed with CP. I work with a lot of people and am terrified I could catch COVID and it will kill him. | [{"text": "Good afternoon/evening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, how are you tonight?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Doing great. How about yourself?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing well how can I help you tonight?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "So, the issue I'm having is work-related. My son had heart surgery a few months ago. He now has a pacemaker. He's also in the middle of testing for CP. My job requires that I be around a lot of people. I always wear a mask...but sometimes the people I am with do not. Nor do they respect the 6-foot boundary. A simple cold gives my son a fever of 103. Im scared that if I continue to work, Im putting him in danger. But if I stop, I can no longer afford bills.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My son just turned 2.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see where this would be frustrating. As parents our biggest goal is to keep them safe and healthy. Have you thought about having a conversation with the people you are around to inform them you'd wish they wear a mask?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have. A few people respected my wishes. But one in particular stands out. A gentleman who told me he had a medical condition and proceeded to get in my face. He got angry at my request.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "In my shoes, what would you do?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Because I feel like Im stuck between a rock and a hard place lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand how you feel. Can you tell me a little more about how it makes you feel when they don't honor your requests?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It makes me feel trapped. Frustrated. I would never intentionally try to put someone else in harms way and I feel like I don t", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "*don't get the same courtesy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel frustrated because I'm REQUIRED to deal with people. I work in construction.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel trapped because, what are my options? Continue to work.....my son gets sick and dies. His pediatrician has already warned me how deadly this could be for me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And if I quit? No money? I have a 5 year old I have to take care of too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can see exactly how frustrated you are in this situation. Before I share some ideas do you have any ideas of ways to combat this issue?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I've spoken to my boss. He was sympathetic about it all....At this point I'm not sure what to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Alright. Have you talked to your boss about working in areas where you can be around people less? Or possibly going part time for now and finding a lob that puts less danger on you and your family?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Those are fairly decent ideas. The struggle for money would still be an issue if I worked part-time. And I doubt I could find a better job at this particular time. With that being said, I didn't think to see if the boss would let me work in the office for a bit. I know my fellow employees would respect my wishes.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Any other suggestions?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "We are going through some really tough times right now and I think that most people are very sympathetic. Especially for those who are in your shoes. Our children are our top priority and seeing them sick hurts us more than anything. How do you feel about talking to your boss about working in the office for a bit until things calm down a little?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Do you get paid vacation time in your job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That sounds like a reasonable thing to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do get paid vacation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Another suggestion that I have is maybe you could take some paid vacation time now rather than later to get away from people for awhile. I know it may not be the most fun time to do it but then you know you're keeping safe!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I'm not sure of all the details on your job so I'm having a hard time making firm suggestions. How would you feel about that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
599 | 1,538.778595 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anger | breakup with partner | My ex partner is harassing me and will not stop talking to my friends and family. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi! How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have been better", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you might be upset. Can you tell me what\u2019s going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My ex partner and I broke up a long time ago because they cheated on me. Now they will not stop contacting my friends and family and posting about me on social media", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds difficult and stressful. What do you do when you see it happening?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I usually just document it and try to not go online for a while. It is hard to ignore", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are avoiding things you enjoy because of their actions. I think documenting it is a good idea! Have you tried reporting them for harassing you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have tried but everyone just tells me there is nothing they can do because they don't think it is dangerous or criminal at this point", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be very frustrating. Can you tell me if you\u2019ve tried other things to get them to stop?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have confronted them in person but it was dramatic to say the least. They basically had a meltdown that they don't want to lose me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You tried to do the right thing and they are having a difficult time letting go. The ongoing comments through social media sounds like they are wanting your attention. That can be exhausting for you. In my past, I had to block someone who did something similar to me. If my friends mentioned seeing something from my ex about me, I asked them to keep it to themselves or consider blocking them,too. The people who were closest to me understood what was going on and I realized that people who didn\u2019t know me, didn\u2019t matter. Would you be willing to suggest this to friends or family if it would help to remove the ex from your interactions?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I have encouraged my friends to block them as well, but a new account always pops up. My ex really will not give up.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. How long has this been going on and is this a daily occurrence or does it happen at certain times?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It has been happening for at least 6 months now and it usually happens every weekend", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can sense your frustration. It must be overwhelming at times and make you dread the weekends. It sounds like it has become a habit for your ex. It might help if you write a letter to them explaining that you are ready to move on and are asking them to do the same. Explain that you are giving them the opportunity to stop harassing you in the following ways [list some of the details you have documented]. Inform them that if they do not stop, you are considering taking it further regarding harassing communications and that this letter serves as your intention to no longer tolerate their actions. Send it via certified mail and keep a copy. This will give them no way to immediately respond and would be the first step of official documentation should they decide to continue. Do you think that might help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think that is an excellent idea! That is a good way to end this once and for all.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I sincerely hope it is a step toward you regaining your control over how you are able to interact with people. I wish you the best in dealing with this and hope you begin to feel better about it soon, especially entering into a new year!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you very much!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {}} |
446 | 1,538.689033 | 5 | 2 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | I'm feeling down and anxious about getting older because I've lost my parents and I'm worried about loosing my aunts. | [{"text": "Hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! How are you doing today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing better now that I have someone to chat with!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been feeling down and anxious about getting older lately because I've lost may parents and I'm worried about losing my aunts.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, you feel like your losing everyone close to you and wondering about your own mortality now as well?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Exactly, I worry about losing my aunts because they are in their 70s and 80s. I worry about my own mortality as well.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you told your aunts how much you love them? It may comfort you to know that you've shared exactly how you feel with them while they are here.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I tell them every time I talk to them and try to spend as much time with them as I can.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I try to let everyone know I love them too just because we never know when we aren't going to be here anymore. I definitely understand where you are coming from.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Have you tried looking at any YouTube videos about life and mortality?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I agree! We never know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I haven't but I will check some out. I love You Tube but never thought to look there.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I personally have found some comfort in hearing other people struggle with their own mortality or their beliefs in an after life or different things. Maybe that could be something you could try looking into.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I will definitely try that. It makes me feel better to know that you have found some comfort in hearing other people's struggles with their mortality or beliefs.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds to me like you've felt alone in your struggles and you are not alone! Yes I have and I've heard from many others who have as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That and there are some great books out there also!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I have felt alone in my struggles. It's good to know that I'm not alone!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm so happy I could be here for you! It's not fun to feel alone, if we can all lean on each other in times of need the world will be a better place.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "do you have a favorite video or book, or one that you found most helpful?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I appreciate you being here for me. You have given me some great ideas, listened to me, and have made me feel better. I feel calm and relaxed now. Thank you so much!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've personally enjoyed looking into all the different types of religions and spiritual beliefs from around the world. It's nice hearing about different beliefs on life and death.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I agree, the world would be a much better place if we could all lean on each other in times of need!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very welcome! Again I am happy to help and would love to chat any time you are feeling anxious about anything at all!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am always here for you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thank you so much! You have helped me more than you know!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So nice to have such a supportive friend to talk to!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very welcome! I hope you have a great rest of your day and please don't hesitate to message if you want to chat again!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I hope you have a great rest of your day as well! If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you I will! Take care!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
682 | 1,538.307499 | 5 | 2 | 3 | depression | ongoing depression | covid depression | [{"text": "Hello there, are things going well with you right now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "hey, i'm having a rough time. i'm really depressed about the never ending covid situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do not blame you. Would you like to tell me what specifically is bad about it for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "i am just feeling like there's no good news, i'm constantly onthe verge of tears", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you just feel as though there is nothing to look forward to at the moment?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes, it's all doom and gloom there no good news nothing to look forward to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have to admit that I have been feeling much this way myself. It has been a very long year, hasn't it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "it has been a long year and i fear it will be a dark, deadly winter", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is the new year to look forward to. It might bring new things - there might be a vaccine, for instance.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "that woudl help, but i have been discouraged by the number of people who aren't following the science", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "why aren't they wearing masks?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you feel that there are a lot of ignorant people out there who are making things worse by refusing to follow the rules?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes. things are bad and those peole are making it worse by not following the rules or advice", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "All we can really do is to follow the rule ourselves and so help to make things better for people!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "we are currently quarantined because my son was exposed to a coworker who tested positive. we should know in a couple of day if he's positiv or not", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must feel very difficult for you. Do you have anyone around who can support you, even if just by leaving groceries outside of your door?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "the number of unkowns with this virus is stressful and makes it even more baffling that people wont follow what we do know", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "we are well stocked, i did that over the summer, thanksfor asking", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think that some people simply do not have much in the way of current sense. Is it true to say that this is making things worse for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "common sense, sorry.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "really the part that' sthe most upsetting right this very minute is that we are having to wait for the test results before my husband can come home", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "he works out of state", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be incredibly difficult for you. I gather your husband is not with you right now. How long have you been separated for?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,017 | 1,538.264806 | 7 | 1 | 2 | anxiety | job crisis | I've been so blessed to have such a great job but thanks to Corona, my works has come to a screeching halt. I'm so anxious because I don't know when my next check will be or for how much. The pressure and stress is almost too much. | [{"text": "Hello there! how are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing OK. Just stressed about work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's been going on lately? Is something in particular there stressing you out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Ever since Corona hit, my work has come to a complete stop. I'm just so worried about where my next paycheck will come from.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, that wounds really rough. So you haven't been able to work in the same way since Corona? Do you have any ideas of things you could do to make ends meet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "No, my work was through a hospital and they stopped my contract. I've been looking but not many places are hiring.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh, I see. That does sound really rough. I would be feeling the exact same way you are in that situation and I'm sorry you're going through that. I know this sounds cliche, but I do believe that things will work out. I once heard, \"It'll always work out in the end. If it hasn't worked out, it's not the end.\"", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you. I appreciate your support and words. That's very true. Things haven't worked out yet so I just need to hang on.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I know there were some grants and loans and things specifically set aside for small businesses for the pandemic. You might want to look into local resources and see if some are available to help you just to make ends meet for the time being?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Oh really?! I didn't know that. I'll have check that out. It's so hard to know where to turn to or where to find that kind of information. Is there a website or something? Just knowing there might be something out there to help gives me so much hope.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There's so much information and disinformation out there, it can be really hard to discern help. There's one website: sba.gov that has several different options for pandemic relief for small businesses. I don't know what are you're in but there are some local resources available from my local government websites too, you might want to check that out too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is wonderful! Thank you so much for passing along that information. I've written the website down and I'll do some searching tonight!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just talking to you has brought my anxiety level down so much!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Excellent, I hope you're able to find some relief through this difficult time! I have a friend who looked into it and was able to find a small grant to help him out!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That's hopeful to hear! Thank you! Do you know if there's another stimulus check coming? Those have helped me so much. It's also amazing what a kind person, who really listens and wants to help, can do for your well being as well!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have heard that another one is coming, and this one should be better than the last one. It's all dependent on income, so anyone that makes less than 80k a year should be getting the full amount according to what I've heard. I agree, they did help! Would that ease your burden a little bit if the next one comes soon?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Great! I will definitely qualify if that's the case. I would be able to pay rent if we get this check soon. It's been so hard making ends meet. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed I feel like I can't breathe. Any tips for that?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hang in there, I'm sure help is on the way and your positive attitude will help carry you until then, you seem like a really strong person. For me, I try taking really deep breaths and even meditating if it gets really bad. Have you ever tried anything like that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's so kind of you to say. I try to stay positive and be strong but I often feel like I'm failing. It helps to hear words of support that I'm going to make it through this tough time. I've never meditate before. Do you listen to music or just silence. I would love to give that a shot. I try to take deep breaths. Oftentimes it helps but only for a moment. Maybe mediation could help me overall for longer periods of time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're not failing as long as you're still trying and not giving up. All we can do sometimes is pick ourselves back up and keep plugging along. There are a few apps available that have calming music, stories to listen to, or even breath exercises to try. They are all over the app stores. It definitely helps me! Meditation has been proven to help a lot of people in stressful situations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "That's so true! I'm going to write that down and post it on my fridge! Those are the words I'm going to live by for the next while. I'll look up some apps! Thank you for being such a great listener and supporter. I feel so much lighter and hopeful. I can't believe how much this has helped me. I look forward to chatting again soon. Thank you so much! You have no idea how grateful I am to you right now. I won't give up!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course, so happy to be of help! Hopefully we can talk again soon and catch up on how you've been doing. It helps me a lot to know I'm helping others too, any kind of service always feels nice.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thanks again! Have a great night!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you, you too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
0 | 1,538.170555 | 4 | 2 | 4 | anxiety | job crisis | I am on short term disability and I am afraid I will lose my job if I don't go back soon. | [{"text": "Hello good afternoon.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi, good afternoon.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm feeling anxious that I am going to lose my job.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Losing a job is always anxious.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I hope I don't.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Why do you think you will lose your job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am on short term disability and I am not ready to go back to work yet but I do not have any job protection.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh so your job is not protected and your short term disability will end soon? Is that correct?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It's not ending yet, but no my job is not protected. I live in the United States, but I have not been at my job long enough to earn protection for medical leave.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you have to have been here for a year, and I started November 2020", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm afraid that I will lose my job since I'm still on disability for the foreseeable future.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see. Have you spoken to HR?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have, but they are telling me that it is up to my department manager who isn't actually getting back to me about it yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Your department manager is not answering you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "No, I have sent them a few emails about it. It makes me nervous. I do not have a phone number to call and my psychiatrist really does not think I am ready to go back to the stress of my job.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I wish I could just call him, but I do not have a phone number for him. Just his email.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried mentioning that to HR?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "HR is the one who gave me his email.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't think he has a direct work line, and they're not allowed to give out personal information.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes that is how most employments work about providing personal information.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "That in itself causes anxiety to most since other forms of communication is not possible especially if they are not responding to ciritcal matters.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes! 100%. Every time my phone rings I get nervous that I'm being fired and I'm worried I made a mistake going out on disability. I needed to though, but I'm nervous.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No you should not have to feel you made a mistake for the time you are taking out of work for a necessity.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you for saying that. That does make me feel better. It sucks sometimes we have to choose between our health and our jobs. We don't get paid to take care of our health though, we only get paid to work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You know yourself more than anybody and you need to take care of yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,105 | 1,538.073577 | 5 | 2 | 3 | depression | ongoing depression | I am always depressed and the upcoming holidays are making it a lot worse. | [{"text": "Hello. How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "hi i am okay, a little bit sad though", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay. I am very sorry to hear that! Do you want to tell me more about that?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Well with the holidays coming up i have been very stressed and nervous about what i am going to do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really feel you there. Holidays are so hard.. especially with the way this year has been. Anything specific?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes. I am a college student and I live on campus. The day before I moved in my dad said some unforgivable things to me and we haven't spoke since", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have no choice but to go live at home over the break but I am very scared about it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you feel scared for your own self? Or of the situation in general? I'm sorry to hear that. Relationships with parents can be very difficult sometimes.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm around college age as well and also live at home. So I can understand your struggle.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "more for the situation in general. i know we will not speak but we will constantly be running into each other, my house is not big.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and i have no car to escape it", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's like we live the same life. I also have no car to escape! It seems so small, but it's such a huge stressor when you feel trapped in an environment you're not positive in. I feel your pain and I empathize with you completely.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It'll be hard but I hope you can make it through it throughout the holidays and enjoy yourself some. Are there any pros to going back home? Any pets?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you I appreciate that. I will be fine making it over the thanksgiving break but I am more nervous about covid-19 sending us home for good.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not many to be honest. I have a hamster but he is at school with me so nothing at home to go back to", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like Covid- 19 is going to be a personal stressor for you. It's such a strange thing to have to live with already, the pandemic, and i'm sorry that it might end up pushing you where you don't want to be.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Could you bring your hamster home with you? Even the smallest things could help a place feel more loving", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes it is very strange and I know that it is a big stressor on all of us, i don't want to sound selfish.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes i am bringing him home with me so that is my little piece of joy that is coming along", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't think you're selfish at all. You have feelings you are entitled to have and are expressing them which is healthy and I encourage that behavior!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Good! I know how hard this situation can be. Very nerve wracking. The smallest things, even a hamster, can be so beneficial.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Well thank you that does help me to feel better. Yes I am happy to bring him home with me and hoping I can have my niece over to intro duce her to him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You sound like a very determined person in making this trip as stress free as possible. I commend you for that! Maybe you could have your niece over often to play with your hamster just to soften the stress of being there", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is surely my goal! I appreciate your kind words. I would love that if I had a car I could do that but I am not sure how much she will be able to come to my house. I am going to try though!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is Uber an option for you? I know there's a lot of rideshare services but they're not always financially reasonable. But that could be a way to get away if you ever need too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "that is very true i didn't even think of that to be honest! I may use that along the way, thank you for the reminder!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes I forget little things like that to help myself whenever I get too involved in the emotional aspect of things. I'm glad I could suggest it to you!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thank you! Well i appreciate your help a lot and hope you have a great day!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course! I hope you do as well and happy holidays!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
876 | 1,537.994759 | 4 | 1 | 5 | depression | breakup with partner | I recently found out my partner had been unfaithful to me and I don't think the relationship will survive. | [{"text": "hi! how's your day going?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Hi there, I really need someone to talk to. My partner has been cheating on me and I feel totally worthless.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that. when did you find out?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Only very recently. I answered his phone and it was her! When I confronted him he admitted it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's a hard way to find out. are you still in the same house?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes because for financial reasons we have to be. Our relationship is really strained though and we are sleeping in separate bedrooms.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i can't imagine what you are going through, but separate spaces sounds like a very good idea to me.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is made worse by the fact that we are in lockdown and so can't really see other people at the moment. Do you think I should try and break away for good?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "before you take any action, i'd ask myself what are your options?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "you know that his actions have very little to do with you and more to do with him, right?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well, I could move out but I can't afford to rent a flat on my own. I'd have to move in with my parents, realistically.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I keep telling myself that but I feel really betrayed. I keep wondering what she is like and whether she is prettier and more successful than me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "are your parents supportive of that idea?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have not really talked to them about it. I feel a bit ashamed having to admit to them that my relationship has not worked out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it's not about her or you. it's about him.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "But I can't help thinking that perhaps I did something wrong that made him stray?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "they will understand. opening up to them will be the hardest part. it's a shame cocktail, but it's not one you made", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Do you think that there is any point at all in trying to mend things at this stage? He has promised he will not see her again but I don't think I could ever trust him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it's in our nature as women to ask \"what did I do?\" but it is never about us or anything we did.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you, I am really glad that you understand. I don't feel that I will ever be able to trust any man again!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "trust and vunerability is huge in a relationship. i'd look for professional help if you wan tot try and work on it", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I can't really afford professional help. And I don't want to be a burden on my friends. I worry that I am already annoying them.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "do you have a friend who has been through a similar situation? sometime that helps. also, sharing your burden with someone does NOT add to their burden", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do have a friend who has been through the same though ironically it is a male friend whose wife cheated on him!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "my guess is he felt the same way you are feeling right now", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes. It is just such a deep betrayal. I think I could have forgiven him if it had just been a one time mistake but he had been seeing her for ages.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "watch the brene brown video on youtube with the cartoon animal about empathy - it should help when looking for friends to rely upon", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "grrrr. that would make me angry too", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It is nice to have things to distract myself from the things that are making me feel terrible. Do you have any other suggestions for distractions?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just keep thinking that every evening when he was returning home with me and with every nice thing he said he was being false.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm totally into the podcasts \"a slob comes clean\" basically it's about getting your poop in a group", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Hmm that sounds .. interesting :D. Is that a metaphor?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "that's so hard. imagine how much energy he had to use to keep his lives from colliding. he couldn't find a better use for that energy?!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I know, right!! Do you think it would be helpful for me to try and talk to this woman and see how she feels? I dunno if she even realises that he was in a committed relationship", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yes! LOL but it's been helping me focus my anxiety into being a bit more productive", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Anything that will help me with my anxiety is worth trying at the moment.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "what do you want to hear from her? is there anything she could say that woudl make you feel better?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "NO!! she's not going to be able to help you unless you need a witness for divorce court", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It would be less of a betrayal, I think, if she did not know about me. I would never do that to another woman!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "she likely knew, othewise how would he explain all the time he spent with you to her?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I suppose that's a good point too. I think maybe I do just need to make a total break and not look back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do appreciate you talking, you have helped me to see things a great deal more clearly than I previously did.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "glad i could help. please stay safe and no matter what you decide to do, you will be fine.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you and the same to you! Have a nice rest of day.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,170 | 1,537.459098 | 6 | 1 | 3 | anger | job crisis | My boss reduced my pay so that he gets a bonus | [{"text": "Hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello though, how has life been treating you lately?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's been a pretty crazy year. I'm mostly bummed because of my work.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It has been a really weird year hasn't it? Don't worry, I think it's been the same for all of us. Would you like to tell me more details?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Sure, when covid hit my company did a round of layoffs and also cut everyone else's pay by 10%... I was bummed but I kind of understood because I knew our business would be impacted by closures. I found out recently that my boss (the VP) is intentionally making our impact seem worse so he can keep our salaries reduced and overall cost lower so that he can get a higher bonus next year.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That really sucks! I can understand why you are angry and anxious about this and you have every right to be!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Are there any official routes that you can use to complain?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I work in supply chain and I see the actual sales numbers and realized 4 months ago that we were actually on track to exceed our plans, even with the covid reductions. a few weeks later I heard him tell our sales director to keep the numbers artificially low so that they will both get their bonuses", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't think so... He's the VP there isn't anyone I can go to above him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is genuinely unfair. Have you looked into getting free - or low cost at least - advice about making a formal complaint?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It really should not be legal for your boss to be taking advantage of workers like this", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I don't know if it is or not... I used my EAP benefit through work where you can talk to a councilor for free (5 visits) and they said that it's unfortunate but they didn't think it was illegal.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am very sorry to hear that, that sounds extremely unfair to me. Have you considered looking for another job? I realise it's a very difficult time to be looking for work right now though", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "yeah, it's tough.. I don't know if anyone is hiring. because of the timing like you mentioned.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've looked a little bit though", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really can't wait for this year to be over! It's been so awful. Do you suppose anyone at all has had a good year?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "haha I don't know... I'm sure someone has... heck the VP is getting a Bonus... so I'm sure he'd say he's having a good year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well yes fair point! Us poorer people are not doing very well though!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Have you tried to talk with any of your coworkers about this? I would suggest that it might help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Amen.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's a good call, I've got a work buddy who I feel somewhat comfortable talking with. I may try and reach out to him", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really think you should. You have a legitimate grievance and being able to discuss it with people who understand might help a lot.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I feel a little guilty about sharing what I know because I almost feel like ignorance is bliss at this point. But then I feel guilty for keeping that info", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel that people have the right to know what is being done and will be happy you told them.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I agree and I think you're right. I appreciate you chatting with me about this", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very welcome. I hope I have been able to be of some help to you and you will continue to talk to other people about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
710 | 1,537.318796 | 5 | 2 | 3 | anxiety | academic pressure | I am just starting school & i feel like i not smart enough to graduate | [{"text": "i just started school and i dont feel that i am good enough", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Congratulation on starting school! That is a huge accomplishment. Tell me more about how you're feeling.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Its been so long since i have attended school. I barley graduated high school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I dont feel i am cut out for college", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are a little apprehensive about attending school because you have not done it in awhile. Is this accurate?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can definitely understand that. I remember feeling a certain way when I pursued another degree. What would make you feel a bit more confident about the idea of school?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I dont know to be honest", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It is certainly okay to feel nervous about it. This is a big step and a life-changing experience. You should be proud of taking that first step!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What excites you about starting school?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im excited for the high paying jobs i can get once i graduate.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "also i chose a field that will allow me to work from home. I will be able to support my family without having to leave them!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sure is exciting!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "There are many ways to prepare for starting school. For me, becoming more organized helped me in preparation for school. What are some things that come to mind that would help you mentally prepare for this event?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "breathing techniques come to mind.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you have helped me identify that it is simply just anxiety and i can better handle it now. thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I feel so much better and more confident!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wonderful idea! Meditation and deep breathing have proven to be extremely effective. I'm so glad this has helped! How do you see yourself fitting in the breathing techniques this week?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i will do the techniques before each class. That way i have a clear & open mind!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I love it!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Well Its lunch time for my kids, i guess that concludes this conversation! Happy holidays!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Best of luck to you! I think the consistent routine with breathing techniques is a great strategy.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Happy Holidays!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
201 | 1,536.954842 | 5 | 1 | 4 | depression | ongoing depression | my age (66), uselessness,fear of death | [{"text": "Hi, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "okay right now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm glad to hear that. Is there anything in particular you wanted to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "i am 66, my immediate family is dead, no kids, in touch only with a cousin who is a very troubled person, sometimes her depression spreads to mine, limited friends, COVID makes conditons more sad", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That definitely sounds like a rough situation and I'm sorry to hear about it, though I'm glad you decided to reach out.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i unloaded a lot on you but current situations do not feel good", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's what I'm here for. I want to support you in any way I can, especially given your situation. Did you want to talk just to talk? Or we can discuss a way to work through what you might be dealing with mentally? It also sounds like keeping in touch with your cousin isn't helping in any way, so maybe we can talk about how to handle that? I am entirely at your disposal.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "she is my age, in a homeless women's, very bad living conditions, she is a mental health client but treatment team seem so to feel that as long as they keep her medicated, their job is done. she has a dx of bipolar and probably has borderline personality. her background is similiar to mine, i cannot abandon her as her other family has done.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's definitely difficult and it's easy to see why it wears on you so much. As much as you don't want to abandon her, it's important to remember to take care of yourself too. It's like when you're on a plane and the safety pamphlet tells you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. You might not be able to help your cousin as much as you want to if you are suffering too much. Are there any mental health resources you've tried for yourself other than reaching out here?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "on antidepressant meds, COVID makes it hard to keep in touch with provider, your comparison about the oxygen mask is a good one.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I see, it certainly doesn't help that it's difficult to keep in touch with your provider.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I have a website that contains a list of support groups provided by NAMI. Would you be interested in it? Many of the support groups are offered multiple times a week online, so you wouldn't even have to leave your home.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "a possible path to look into. thanks", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course, here's the link: namimainlinepa.org/online-and-telephone-support-groups/", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "thanks. may be a good time to close on a positive note. like suggestions", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sounds good. Was there anything else you wanted to discuss?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "not right now but thanks for your concern", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Alright. You're welcome, it's what I'm here for. I hope you have a good rest of your day!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
78 | 1,536.695283 | 5 | 3 | 2 | sadness | ongoing depression | My finance is working out of the country till 2022 and I am left here by myself until he gets home. I have no friends and no one to talk to. | [{"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hey there, how's it going?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "alright. just getting by.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "is there one particular problem or issue that's been on your mind the most lately?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am estranged from my family and living 5 hours away from everyone I know and my fiance is away for almost 2 more years", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds rough, I'm sorry. Being away from people we care about would make anyone feel pretty bad.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yeah and I really have no friends since I quit drugs so I can't really even text my old female friends", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You don't have to answer anything you don't want, but I'm curious- how'd you end up 5 hours away from the people you know?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My fiance's job", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He works out of ATL", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Gotcha. That's rough for you. Sounds like you made a sacrifice to make that happen.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes but he is worth it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Glad to hear that :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I am just alone down here.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A lot of us feel like we need friends around to keep our mood up, or to get support when we're bummed or bored or sad. Sorry to hear you have less friends nowadays.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Are you interested in finding new friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes and no, if they are on my level then yes but if not then no. I don't want to associate with people that do drugs so its been a tough time making friends.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, that's tough. It's tough enough to make friends as an adult in a new city. Tougher still if it seems like a lot of people are into things you don't want to be around.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yep, so I just work at home since COVID so I don't really get out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's a word you'd use to describe your feelings about this issue? Sad, lonely, frustrated, etc?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Lonely", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Bleh, sorry to hear that. And also, that makes sense based on what you've told me.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yeah it is okay it has been nice chatting. Hopeful time will go by quickly for me. I thank you for your time. Have a good day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good talking to you too. Lonely sucks, but in a way it's also okay. I hope you don't feel like you're broken or you're doing something wrong.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "No just alone. I will be fine. thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Good luck to you and stay safe! Have a good day.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
625 | 1,536.650397 | 6 | 2 | 2 | anger | breakup with partner | I recently broke-up with my boyfriend. We were together 5 years. | [{"text": "Hi, can I help you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hello. I recently broke up with my boyfriend. We'd were together for 5 years.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am so sorry to hear that. That can be a really hard time and problem to navigate. Five years is a really long time too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "It was unexpected and sudden. I found out he was cheating on me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a horrible shock to hear something like that. I thank you for expressing yourself today it can be hard to share a disappointment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I am really strict about lies and he broke my trust, so I felt like I had to break-up with him.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have good instincts when you can face a situation and make a judgment and decision.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I feel like that's true but I miss him so much. Five years is a lot to just throw away.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, you can feel like you have invested a lot after 5 years. I can imagine you have a lot of the same friends and that can be hard too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "We also have two dogs and own a house together. I just don't know what to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate to on that level. When I went through a divorce I had to part with my house and pets. I went to live in an apartment and met a really nice guy next door and wound up marrying him. There can be light at the end of the tunnel.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I guess... I'm just not sure how to get to the light from where I am right now. I'm just so angry.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Being anger is valid and you have every right to be mad. You have been betrayed and have to work through problems that you didn't create. Do you have any close friends you can confide in sometimes?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I do, her name is Ann-Marie and she's wonderful.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is fortunate and reflects what a good person that you are to have developed a close friend that you can trust. Maybe she could be your support when the evening and weekends get hard for you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's a wonderful idea. I will definitely do that.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you are interested in religion often times they have local support groups to join as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I'm not religious at all.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Okay, an alternative is joining a local group that meets up for exercise in the park. Just an idea.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I have found that I have been focusing on my own health a lot more lately.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is great news. Most of all thank you for sharing your feelings today and opening up. You are a path to healing but being so expressive and open.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
1,279 | 1,536.527947 | 5 | 1 | 4 | depression | ongoing depression | I am dealing with a COVID-19 quarantining situation. Can't interact with family and friends. Wife is super paranoid about the virus. | [{"text": "Good evening! What can I help you with tonight?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I am dealing with pandemic depression. We are completely isolated.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can't see friends, family, hug grandkids...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is extremely understandable. The pandemic is an event no one was prepared for, and it has cause unforseen upheavals.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "That is a tough situation, being isolated physically from those that you love. I'm sorry you're going through that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It's been going on for months with no end in sight", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you at least able to maintain contact through text and video chats?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "How do you deal with it?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, some video chats, but not the same", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well, I make sure I continue to maintain my relationships as well as possible through the avenues I have available. It is definitely not the same, but it's what we have at the moment.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Personally, I try to maintain a routine. First hour after I wake up is coffee time, coffee and social media scroll time", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Then there is my wife. She is very paranoid about the virus", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "She sanitizes the house even though no one comes in it. Bitches at me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds very stressful, I'm sorry to hear that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I appreciate your concern. It helps to have someone to vent to.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is this going to end soon???", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I definitely cannot answer that. As long as people keep valuing one another though, we will get through it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That sounds really good.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I do value her, just not the paranoia.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course, that's understandable.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Any thoughts on calming her down?", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
326 | 1,536.382915 | 5 | 3 | 2 | anger | Issues with Parents | My parents grounded me for something I didn't do. My sibling broke the TV, I did not!! | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi! How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I'm grounded so i'm not happy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. It must be hard.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Can I ask what has happened?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "My sibling broke the tv and blamed it on me and my parents believed them", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. That must be a hard situation, to not have your folks believe you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "It is very frustrating", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you spoken with your sibling about why they lied?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, we just got into a yelling fight about it and are both in our rooms now", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sure it's frustrating when you know you're correct and no one believes you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes it is", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'd rather just run away from everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's not cool that you're sibling lied, but it may be a good time to breathe a second. Running away never solved anything", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It is late at night", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So probably it's quiet. this is a good time to take a breath and , literally try and sleep on it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "What do you want to see happen?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "that is probably a good idea. I want my sibling to be punished not me and for parents to believe me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "OK, I understand.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "So, then, it's how to figure out how to make that happen.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "well my parents dont believe me so not much i can do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "May I ask why they believe your sibling? Is your sibling a different age?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "they are younger and the favorite", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I just need to wait until I'm 18 so I can move far away", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So, it sounds like you already have a plan to turn things around. How far away from 18 are you, if I can ask?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "1 year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "OK, good for you. It may not seem like it, but you can do anything for a year.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "True.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can't wait", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So, the question is....how do you deal in the short term?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It will be nice to get away and never talk to family again", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just hole up in my room and not talk to anyone from now on I think", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "only talk when necessary", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes. I was going to suggest the \"grey rock\" technique.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You would be only as polite as you need to be, and only engage others in a limited way. You go about your business as you need to without the involvement of your other family members.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is a good idea", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I will just do that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i can handle that for a year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "thank you for your help", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you're welcome!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I truly wish you the best. Stay calm, you're a stone, and will get through this until you can leave.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thanks have a good day", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
961 | 1,536.312594 | 4 | 1 | 5 | anxiety | job crisis | The partiality in my work place and the favorability to people who hardly work but always say "yes" to my manager's say. | [{"text": "Hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im feeling down and need some advice as to how do I handle this situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hello how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing ok", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How about you?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm doing well. Ok I can help. Whats going on?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's to do with some of my peers who hardly work but are favorable to my Manager as they always say yes to his word.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It sounds like you are unsure of how to deal with favoritism in the workplace. I have dealt with similar situations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Yes, it bothers me as I cannot tolerate injustice", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When did this start?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "for about a year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Can you tell me some examples about the injustice?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Some colleagues are given an option to log out early, whereas some of us have to slog .", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Is the logging out early a reward for their work? I had a job that offered similar rewards based on performance.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "No, it's a privilege given to them if they agree to anything the Manger says like going out with him for a drink, etc..", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is very inappropriate. This must be very hard for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "It is, I try to let it go, but fail at times.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If your manager has a supervisor that you feel would not approve of this behavior, I would speak to them. If you don't feel that would be beneficial to you, you could reach out to your company HR department.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yes, I have that as my last resort. What do you think? Should I go ahead as I'm afraid my step may backfire me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I would not be able to let this go either. I'm so sorry you're in such an unfair and unethical work environment. Do you know the supervisor well or interact with them? It could backfire if they both interact with this behavior. I believe you will make the right decision. If it does backfire, this is a toxic work environment and not a good fit for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for your inputs", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Feels better when you share with someone who has similar experience and can understand your situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are very welcome. It does feel good to communicate with people who can understand how you feel. I wish you the very best of luck.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Thank you so much. Take care. Be safe.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're welcome. You be safe as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
821 | 1,536.257592 | 6 | 1 | 3 | disgust | problems with friends | My sister-in-law is a horrible person, and she's harrassing me for jewelery from my mom, who just died. | [{"text": "Hello?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Please let me know if you're there...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm not receiving any messages - are you there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello! I am here", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Ahh! Hello...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you doing?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm okay - I'm just sort of frustrated with my brother's wife.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh no, do you want to talk about it? What hapepned?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "She barely speaks to me - she didn't even message me on my 50th birthday - but then she texts to demand my mom's wedding ring", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "... because she wants to give it to her 16 year old daughter. Who will also be getting a Lexus for her birthday.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh wow, that sounds incredibly frustrating. Do you speak to your brother?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "How is a diamond solitaire an appropriate gift for a 16 year old?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "He is so rabidly defensive of her, if I bring it up, it won't matter if he agrees with me or not - he'll take her side.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And both our parents died last year - I can't lose him too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's so inappropriate, my husband's brother is the same way with his kids. They are giving such inappropraite gifts for their age.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Oh wow, i'm so sorry about your parents. Losing parents is so hard. Definitely need to make sure you don't lose your brother as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "She's the only granddaughter - she'll get the ring eventually, if she wants it (probably won't). My SIL apparently thinks that was the only valuable thing about my mom - she didn't want any of the books, or art, or photos...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you too busy to do this right now...?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not at all!!!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "You're really not saying much.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats' so horrible. THere is so much more valuable. YOu can keep the books and art and photos though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "the interface has been slow for me , i'm so sorry !", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Do you have your moms photos displayed? I found that to be a really helpful way to stay connected and show people how special they are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "No, I should do that. I see them on my phone and computer every day, but I should have a framed one up. I just moved house, and I don't have all my stuff yet.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It's nice to display them in pretty frames. YOu could even frame a few and give htem to your niece. She may appreciate them more if they are displayed in a nice way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "You can then tell her stories about them that go with the pictures, it will make them more meaningful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I could do that... of course, if the frames aren't solid platinum they won't be good enough for my brother's wife...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My parents both got dementia at the end, and I\"m sad that the kids won't really remember the real them. My mom was more than a diamond ring... And she would have been horrified at the idea of giving it to a 16-year-old who'd just throw it in a drawer with her other diamonds.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I don't really see the kids. Not my choice. It hurts that my brother just goes along with it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I guess I'll sign off. Thanks for talking, and for the ideas.", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {}} |
394 | 1,536.251654 | 4 | 2 | 4 | sadness | ongoing depression | Car accident led to traumatic brain injury and PTSD having nightmares 2x a week. | [{"text": "Hello there. In the past 3 years, I have gotten into 2 car accidents. Neither of them were my fault. I sustained a concussion/traumatic brain injury and am experiencing depression and PTSD.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have nightmares of crashing at least 2x a week. I am seeing a therapist, but due to the pandemic we are not meeting in person to do EDMR for my PTSD", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello, I'm so sorry to hear that. That sounds like an awful lot to go through in a few years time, which now can feel like the time passes so quickly.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have a traumatic brain injury that creates a lot of overstimulation in my life. I used to be social and now I can't be in a social setting for too long without feeling exhausted", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried to talk to your therapist through video chat or is that something they offer?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I talk to my therapist every other week", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's great that they can offer that, I know it's very difficult to get regular care at the moment with the pandemic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Do you have any family or friends close by or something that you can talk to if you feel like you need some extra support?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I do not have supportive or understanding friends and family", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have lost a lot of them in the last few years or have created boundaries because when I got into my first car accident, legit someone said \"are you not better yet?\" and another said \"can't you just walk it off?\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "When I got into my second car accident, people said \"again? are you drunk?\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Even though neither were my fault, people were not understanding or asked how scary those situations for me were", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that, people are very quick to judge so it's very unfortunate that you were treated that way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "After my first car accident, the tow truck guy was towing my car to my aunt's garage to hold for auto insurance appraisal. He said to my aunt \"sorry for your loss\" My aunt said \"oh, she's right over there and alive\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "the car accident was so bad the tow truck guy thought I had died", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but even after seeing my car, friends and family acted like it was just something that happens to everyone. walk it off", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Wow, I can't imagine what the car must have looked like then for such a comment to be made. I'm glad that you here and despite going through that trauma that you are still going.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thanks.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A women fell asleep at the wheel in 2013 and hit me going through an intersection and totaled by car as well, but I had only had a concussion and pain I had to go to physical therapy for a short time, so I can't imagine how you must have felt.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What are some things you do when you have depression? Have you been in a scary car accident before or know anyone? Have you offered them kindness or you just dismissed them and thought it was their own problem?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds scary. And is extremely unfortunate.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry that you didn't get the support you needed after your accidents because it's hard enough to go through the pain and trauma (mental and physical) to begin with and the support is much needed.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Absolutely! But I'm doing better now. You find out who your real friends and family are and you move on. The whole saying of \"they don't deserve you at your best when they weren't there when you were at your worst\"", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are 100% correct. Have you looked into any support groups at all or tried to connect with anyone with similar experiences through social media?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I don't use social media", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I quit in 2016, which is also when I started realizing how vain people are", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Some of those same friends and family didn't bother to text me even though they had my number", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I did find a local group that did social stuff together but they were all really old like 50 years plus", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm in my 20s so it was hard to relate", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Gotcha! Well I'm glad I was able to connect with you this evening because sometimes it helps just to chat and have someone listen :-)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thanks! I appreciate it. Happy Holidays and Happy New Year", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I hope that for 2021 things can somewhat go back to normal so the routines can get back to what they were and that this next year is your best year yet. You have already been through so much to be in your 20's.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
885 | 1,536.0312 | 5 | 2 | 3 | anxiety | ongoing depression | Constant pain from back problems. | [{"text": "hi, how are you and how can i help?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi I'm experiencing a lot of anxiety and depression because of constant severe back pain.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "when did this start?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "About eight years ago.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i see. have you sought out any medical help with the back pain?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yes, I was supposed to have surgery for it, but it has been cancelled because the hospitals are full due to the coronavirus.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "yeah, this pandemic has thrown a wrench into many people's plans, but hopefully things will ease up soon.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I hope so too, but it looks like it's going to be a long time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "it is a bit daunting when we see the number of infections increasing and people getting sick, but i think it will just be a matter of time before things get better. and hopefully a vaccine will help with the hospitalizations", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Hopefully, but how to deal with it in the mean time?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i think you're already taking a step in the right direction by talking to me about your anxiety and depression. i'm amazed that you've been able to just deal with it for 8 years", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i've had friends who suffered from anxiety and depression, and i've noticed that just talking things through can sometimes help a lot", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's been very hard, I've also had to take care of my mother in that time period, but she sadly passed away last march, possibly from the virus and I've been having a hard time processing that grief.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "i'm very sorry to hear about your mother's passing, and a significant loss like that can take some time to process", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "from my experience, it really helps just to open up to someone about the things that are on your mind. even a journal can help. if you have someone who can lend an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on, spending some time with them can help you get your feelings out and might give you a sense of relief", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's true, I know many are suffering so much right now and many people have also lost their loved ones. It makes the isolation all the harder trying to handle the grief. It does help to talk, thank you. Do you have any suggestions on how to handle the anxiety?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "personally, i find that hobbies are great for getting your mind off things and keeping yourself occupied means that your mind doesn't wander into dark thoughts", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That is good advice, I will try to stay busier. Also, do you know of any support groups online that might be helpful?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "just from this limited conversation, it sounds like you're an amazing person and i sincerely commend you for seeking help here and pushing yourself to cope with you loss and pain. i really wish there was more i could do to help but i believe in you ;)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "this might sound silly, but reddit is a great resource. there are some great support groups there who help each other and lift people up", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Thank you, I will look there for others going through the same things, it doesn't sound silly at all and you are an amazing person too. Thank you for listening and your thoughtful help.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you're very welcome, and thank you for your kind words. stay strong and i know you can get through this. i don't know what the rules are on sharing personal contact info here, but i'm happy to be a friend or pen pal if you just need someone to talk to", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks, you stay strong too! I know this time isn't easy for anyone. I'm just grateful for the few minutes of help here, you really did help. No need to share too many details, I think that going to the reddit forum will lead me to other people in my area that might be able to get together and help each other. Thanks very much for your help and good advice and you have a wonderful evening!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you too!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
96 | 1,535.839954 | 5 | 1 | 4 | anxiety | job crisis | My industry shut down due to Covid-19 and I am currently seeking work but very financially behind and stresed about it. | [{"text": "Hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Are you there?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "goodness i am so sorry! my browser did not make a noise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "how are you doing? sorry i kept you waiting!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "That is okay! I'm glad you're here", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Awww, thanks. How are things going in your world today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm doing alright I suppose, just trying to do a few mturk tasks to feel like I'm accomplishing something. Waiting to hear back from unemployment and not hearing back from any job applications makes it hard to ever really relax", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah, i hear you. The lack of response makes it really easy for me to make up stories in my head and fear the worst.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I've never done any computer based jobs before, I did live audio and carpentry before this, so I just feel like I don't qualify for anything, but I'm immune compromised so until this is over i don't know what other work I can safely do besides for something from my computer....", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I just feel so terribly stuck", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry. I know the feeling of not knowing where I fit in. Its a whole world shift, too.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I haven't received any financial assistance from the government yet, I've been living off of loans from friends and what little of my art I've been able to sell. It's stressful. I just want my life back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I felt like I was on a really good career path at the first of the year, and now I just don't even know what o do", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That scattered feeling....trying to put the pieces back together....I've walked the same road this year. Would you be willing to mourn for what you had before? To let it go?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I don't want to. If there is a vaccine in the first quarter of 2021 then the company I worked for before this will be able to go back to business, and I've been assured my old job back.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm just in limbo right now, figuring out how to survive until then and keep from going crazy", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you have determination! There is fire within! Tell me, what brings you joy?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Music (that's why I was in the music industry before this haha) and art. I paint and do woodburning. I also love my cats, they spark a lot of joy.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you for chatting with me, and helping me earn the maximum bonus for this task! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day! Good luck in your own endeavors.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "but of course! it was a pleasure to connect. keep chasing joy daily!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "oh, I think you need a couple more inputs on your end to finish", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "oh good, well i got inputs to put!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Perhaps you could tell me what brings you joy?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "YES! for one, this mturk task is AMAZING to me. Connection has been a huge boon for me this year. I thrive on helping others realize their strengths.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I'm glad you're enjoying it, I like this task too.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "between that and creation, i love to express myself. art, mov ement, building something.....its all just me expressing myself, getting my head into the world", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That is beautiful! Keep it up!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "whenever i can :)", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
80 | 1,535.584623 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anxiety | breakup with partner | I want to break up with my partner who ive been married to for 6 years with a 5 year old child | [{"text": "Hey", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "HI, can I help today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have been married for 5 years but i am very unhappy and anxious. I want to break up with my partner but not sure how, this is increasing my anxiety", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am sorry to hear that. I know it can be really stressful when you are considering a break up. How long have you thought about doing this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "i've thought about this for the last year, things have been going downhill since. I think its starting to become noticible", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a long time to think about something, so you have given it a lot of time and thought. Have you mentioned it to your partner?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "i tried to do it around 8 months ago but my partner convinced herself that it was because i was cheating on her. Her own insecurities put me under a lot of pressure to stay in the relationship to prove i wasn't having an affair", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sharing your feelings is important so thank you for making the effort today. It is not fair to prove a negative and that can be taxing. It sounds like you are a very patient person.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I try to be patient, but i feel like i am wasting my life when i could be happy on my own or potentially with someone else in the future", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Im anxious about my daughter and my relationship with her if we split up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You have spent a great deal of time trying to make things right with your partner and you have used a great deal of effort to make it work. You are also a very loving parent who cares greatly.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know i need to be true to myself but its extremely difficult, i'm not sure how to start the process", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, you are right. My parents split up later in life and I was happy to see my dad happy. I understand that isn't everyone story though. Do you have any close family members you can talk to about this? Or close friends?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "unfortunately i pushed all my friends away for the sake of the relationship, again the insecurities meant i couldn't have my own time and space. I know my family would be supportive, but there are a lot of financial issues with divorce which worries me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Often times people turn to church or religion and support groups in order to connect with people from the same faith. Have you considered this avenue?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Ive considered support groups, im a little embarrassed tho. I don't think religion would be much help to me", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that you feel nervous about reaching out and thank you again for doing that here today. Sometimes close friends can be a good source of support. It can be hard repairing friendships though.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Maybe i should reach out again?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes, I would reach out to old friends who may be willing to give you insight into how they viewed things. Support groups can feel intimidating but are usually very welcoming and truly there to help people.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "i just hope my daughter is young enough to be able to adapt to her parents splitting up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Children are resilient and want their parents happy ultimately. You are a thoughtful person. Thank you for sharing your feelings today and being open to ideas and possible ways forward.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Thank you very much, you've given me a few options to consider on how to move forward. I'm feeling less anxious with your kind words of support", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is great news. We are always here to help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "thank you again, bye", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're welcome and good luck.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
850 | 1,535.334341 | 6 | 3 | 1 | anxiety | problems with friends | One of my oldest friends is extremely insecure. She's been this way for a long time, but fear and immaturity have made it worse recently. It's become super frustrating to have to constantly reassure her that I love her, and she's really my friend, cause her insecurity makes her doubt anyone could love her. I'm anxious about it. | [{"text": "hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I'm dealing with a lot of frustration and anxiety.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How are you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Frustrated and anxious", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Oh I understand how that can be.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Would you like to tell me about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Ok. I have a friend who I've known a long time, who is one of my closest friends, but who is extremely insecure. She constantly seeks affirmation that I love and care for her, even though she should KNOW I do, since we have been friends for so long.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand how that can become a source of frustration after a while.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Would you like to share what pushed it beyond the normal point today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's just been an ongoing thing that has escalated recently because she's so afraid and timid and doesn't believe anyone could really love or care for her. I get sick of having to say that of course I love her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can relate because I also have a close friend that seeks constant reaffirmations.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Have you spoken with her about this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have. I address it every time it comes up. She always sells herself short. Recently I suggested she could babysit my kids, she agreed, then almost immediately said it was ok if I had someone better in mind, and didn't want her, even though I had asked her!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "do you talk to your friend about it?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes it is very difficult to see yourself through someone elses eyes when you undervalue yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I know it may be difficult to remain patient when your friend repeatedly does this, but maybe you could explain to her that it makes you feel like she is mistrustful of your opinion when she second guesses your taste in friends.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I know. Until she finds her self worth, it doesn't matter what any of her friends say to her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have actually told her that. That it seems like she doesn't trust me.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Possibly explaining it in a way she can relate to would be helpful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I did in fact speak with my friend and it helped our relationship quite a bit. We continue to be very close 20 years later.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "It's frustrating to me and gives me anxiety because I wish I could change her to see herself the way I, and others, do. But I know I can't make her see her self worth. That's something she has to find for herself.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That's good to hear about you and your friend.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can feel your frustration just by our conversation, and I too wish that she could see that you value both her and your friendship enough to reach out to someone that can just listen. Don't forget that your feelings are valid as well.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I know they are. And yes, she's dealing with a lot, but we all are, and it would be so much better for her if she could trust the people who love her to actually love her.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Sometimes you have to take a step back and fill your own cup.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Indeed. Thank you for your input.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It has been my pleasure! I trust you will make the right choice! Best of wishes!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Not really, because I'd just worry about her. She needs someone like me to look after her. I'm kind of the Yin to her Yang. Thank you for your time and conversation!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "4", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
845 | 1,535.059348 | 6 | 3 | 1 | sadness | breakup with partner | My girlfriend and I broke up and I've felt terrible ever since. | [{"text": "Hello. How are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I've been better. I've been really sad ever since my girlfriend and I broke up and I don't know what to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "The end of a relationship is a really difficult time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "How long were you together?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Yeah every day has been pretty hard. We were together for about 3 years.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Three years is a long time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "What led to the breakup?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "We found ourselves arguing more and more each day.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've been in relationships like that. It really takes it out of you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "What are your days like now?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Every day has been feeling the same. I didn't like that we fought but now I feel empty. I don't know what to do.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can totally understand why you're feeling that way.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "How long have you been seperated?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's been about a month now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So this is still really fresh. It's going to take some time to start to feel normal after three years.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "What have you been doing for self-care?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "What have you been doing for self-care?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I haven't really been doing much. My friends invite me out but I never feel like going.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "After a three year relationship, you're going to have a period of mourning. This happens whether the breakup was right or wrong. It's still a huge part of your life now separated, and that's an important life event.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "Yeah that makes sense. It's just hard you know. What steps should I take to feel better?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think it would be good for you to go out with your friends. Sometimes when you're really down, you might not feel like it. Going out takes effort, but it's worth it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Okay I'll try to make an effort to go out more.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Isolating at home is not going to help you process things. You might even consider going on some walks/runs, and getting in more exercise.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "That's a good idea I'll try to be more active.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thanks for all the help I appreciate it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Of course. Anytime.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "It's nice to have someone to talk to thanks for hearing me out.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Do you have any more advice?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It will get easier. It'll just take a little time. Remember, it is okay to be sad. Trying to hold back emotions will only make things harder, so let them out as they come up.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I have been bottling up a lot of my emotions so maybe I'll try to talk to a friend about how I'm feeling.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Absolutely. Talking to a close friend is one of the best things you could do.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Okay, thanks for all the help!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
19 | 1,534.685064 | 7 | 2 | 1 | shame | job crisis | Recently left a job due to COVID-19 virus concerns. Everyone there was amazing but I was concerned about virus risk. | [{"text": "Good evening.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Good evening, thank you for picking this up", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "No problem, how are you tonight?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm good, a little anxious and down because I recently left a job with great people", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Just to make sure I understand, you recently left a job and you are feeling very anxious about it.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "That is correct", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What caused you to leave the job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "COVID-19 risk and exposure. I felt like the company wasn't doing enough to protect the employees.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I completely understand that reasoning. I was also very anxious when the pandemic first started due to working in a grocery store.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Yeah, I was in retail also aha worked in a convenience store with lots of foot traffic", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Did they offer you any type of leave due to COVID?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "No, I was relatively new after leaving the military and was looking for a job so no leave days available", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I really liked the employees and everyone was kind though. It's just the risk of exposure that made me stressed", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand, I can tell through typing with you that this has made you very anxious.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "Did you get any contact information from the employees you worked with while you were there? Often it helps to keep in touch with previous co-workers, especially during a time like this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yes, I do have the numbers of a few of them. I talked to them a little during the day but I mainly kept to myself as I planned my next few steps", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I was just ashamed for having left after they have been so helpful", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I pride myself in being loyal and supportive but it was just too much risk to myself and family", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that completely, but I know you can make it through this!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "I appreciate it lol I didn't imagine myself getting help through a platform through this, but I appreciate the support.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you thought about looking for some work from home for the time being? There are a lot of companies who are offering remote work during this time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "It was my pleasure!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I know I'll get over it. It's just an unexpected change", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I am. I'm looking at a few options and retooling. I planned on starting university again in Fall 2021 to retool", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yes it is!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "2020 has been nothing but craziness lol", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "School will definitely help.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "For sure, I look forward to the change. I'm just planning out my next few months and a routine to help pass time.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Routines are definitely helpful, I make sure to spend plenty of time doing other hobbies I enjoy to take my mind off of the pandemic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah, I was pulling some old textbooks to review but I'm looking for some hobbies like art and reading", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I found unexpected freetime so that's a blessing I guess aha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I find myself watching a lot of movies and tv shows I enjoy as well as playing video games.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Same, I started picking up alot of old hobbies and games after the pandemic started.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I used to want to be hyperproductive all the time but now I am enjoying the time I do have", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have done the same.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "The burn out is real. I appreciate the time you spent listening", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I did not know what to expect but I do feel better talking to someone anonymous than someone I know right now aha", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It was not a problem! If you ever need anything else, don't be afraid to reach out again!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I appreciate it. Thank you and have a wonderful night :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "and happy holidays!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "2", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "1"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
553 | 1,534.497037 | 5 | 2 | 3 | depression | breakup with partner | My girlfriend of ten years run away on our wedding day | [{"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hi! How's it going today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "am somewhat fine", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That doesn't sound super positive?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "so my almost supposedly wife ran out on me on our wedding", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "What's going on? What made her do this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "so now am back in our apartment reminiscing all the times we had. that's my question too, I don't know why she left", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Maybe she had been cheating and ran to her man but why wait till the wedding day", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "if she had a problem she could tell me before that", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not knowing why must be hard, this sounds like it was more of her problem than yours. That's a terrible thing to do to you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i don't know what to do, should i call her or just wait till she is ready to explain", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think she definitely owes you an explanation for what she's done. That was the worst way for her to do that.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "should i move places because this place has too many memories, should i burn her things or send them to her family", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "well she hasnt bothered to look for me so far and its been a week", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Time will help with some of that. Once you're able to make new memories in your apartment it won't be so unbearable. But maybe her hurting you this way means you don't need that explanation because she simply wasn't right for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "and she couldn't say no when i proposed or any day before the wedding", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "As much as it hurts, it sounds like you're better off without her.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "easier said but i guess so. i just want this year to end now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Unfortunately this year has been less than ideal in more ways than one.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "i know, what a year. i just thought this will make this year atleast better after everything", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I can understand, it was something to finally look forward to. Unfortunately, everyone is dealing with all of these emotions differently and it was just too much for her.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "And it's hard to talk to people about our feelings because everyone is in the same or worse situation with the pandemic.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "exactly", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Everyone is worn out. plus i wouldn't want to add to their worries especially family", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Right, but it is worth talking to someone. I always feel guilty until I finally start talking and then it ends up being a support system between both parties. Not just me dumping my problems on someone else.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "you are probably right. Thanks this was actually helpful", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Glad to hear it, hopefully with time this will all make sense for you.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "i pray so too", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "you have a lovely afternoon", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You as well", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
1,018 | 1,534.473356 | 5 | 4 | 1 | anger | problems with friends | One of my best friends I lived with moved out and screwed us over with the lease and her rent the DAY BEFORE rent was due and then blocked us on everything so that we couldn't ask her to pay. | [{"text": "Hi", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hey friend! I should let you know that if you have typed in a description, i cant see it. how are you doing ?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I am doing alright, and yeah I did type in the description. Do you want me to tell you what I typed?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "If you're willing to share, please.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "So I'm frustrated with an ex-friend right now. I lived with her and 2 other friends and she just moved out the day before rent was due and then blocked us on everything so we couldn't ask her to pay her rent. So I'm pretty frustrated, but also sad that a friend would do that, yanno?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "ouch. that sounds like it really hurts. how are you feeling about that? betrayed? sad? mad?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "All of the above reallu", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "really", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Yeah, its a low blow. What are you looking for around this?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm not really sure what you mean by that. I guess I'm looking for closure from her", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Because she left without really any explanation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Closure seems only reasonable. Realistically, logically, I can't give that to you here. I can do all sorts of other things though. I can remind you that all that you feeling is totally valid!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Haha yeah that's true. It would be unreasonable to want closure from someone who doesn't even know why themselves! Thank you for validating me :)", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "And know that closure isn't something anyone can give you, you can give it to yourself. You may never forget this act, but you have the option to forgive, to be compassionate to whatever you friend may be going through, and act with love.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Yeah you are right. It wouldn't be good to hold onto these negative feelings for so long. I need to move on", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Focus on the good", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Heck yeah! Theres no need to give your energy and power away, and if your friend comes back into your life, you can repair and heal. Whats brought you joy today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Something that brought me joy today was seeing some work friends when I got to work :) I just got a new tattoo and everyone had been complimenting it!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thats great! I judge you are worthy of the compliments :) Thanks for connecting with me today !", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "Thank you too! You've been really helpful", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have a nice day!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "likewise!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
214 | 1,534.432224 | 7 | 2 | 1 | anxiety | academic pressure | One of my classes is extremely difficult and my professor is not responsive. | [{"text": "Hi there, how is this season treating you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "It's alright. Definitely not as cold as last year which is something to be slightly thankful for.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Well let's be grateful for small mercies :). How are you feeling in yourself though? Is there anything you'd like to talk about?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I'm worried about grad school", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Ah I am sorry to hear that. Please try not to worry too much as it's a common worry to have. Do you want to tell me the details?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Sure. One of my classes is extremely difficult and the professor has not been responsive at all. The TA is kind enough to make time to help me with homework, but my grades are still not great. It makes me feel really dumb and undeserving to be in that class", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you are feeling as though you are in the wrong place? Do you feel as though you might fail your class completely?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "I want to be in the program, it's just that I feel like everyone is so much smarter than me and my performance in that class makes me question my admission into the programs sometimes. When I feel like this after submitting homework, I end up crying because I just want to do well. I enjoy this field, just not this class in particular.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm afraid of failing, but I'm not sure if that should be a concern either. Over the past 3 years, no one has gotten a grade lower than a B.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "But do you really think that you would have been admitted to the class if you were not up to the standard? Do you think that maybe most of your classmates are secretly feeling the same?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Sometimes I think about that. At the same time, I feel like it's unfair to compare myself to others.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "This sounds like it might be a self esteem issue and not about your grades. I have felt this sort of thing myself and I do know how awful it is to be so hard on yourself.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "So what do I do about it? I don't want to keep feeling like this", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you thought about seeing a therapist? Does your school have any free therapy programmes you could use?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I don't think my school has free therapy programs. I have thought about seeing a therapist but I've heard therapy is very expensive.With student loans, I didn't really put much more research into therapy past hearing about the costs.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "A far as I am aware there are charitable organisations which can arrange a few free therapy session for you. Perhaps you could talk to your doctor about it?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I have had free therapy sessions before and I found them very helpful", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I think free therapy sessions would be a good place to start", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "It would help you work on your self confidence and you might find that you are not doing as badly in school as you think you are.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Yeah, there are definitely a lot of other things i'm insecure about", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Then I think it is probably just a general self esteem issue and nothing academic!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Anyway it's been really nice to talk to you and I hope that everything goes your way", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I think talking about this has helped. I'll do a little more digging. Thank you!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You're most welcome, have a lovely Holiday season.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4", "empathy": "3", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "3"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
236 | 1,534.363776 | 4 | 1 | 5 | sadness | breakup with partner | My boyfriend just told me that he wants to break up because he doesn't see a future because he never wants to get married but I do. | [{"text": "Hello there, how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "Hi, Thanks for talking to me today. I've been so upset about my boyfriend breaking up with me. It was so unexpected.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I'm sorry to hear that. When did he break up with you?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "He texted me yesterday! Can you believe that? We've been together a year and he broke up with me by texting me!!! He couldn't even do it face to face!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That seems very cowardly to break up with you over text after being together for a year.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "Yes, I thought so too! He knew I'd be upset and he didn't want to deal with me I guess. He knew I wanted to get married some day from the very start. He knew it didn't have to be soon. I'm still in college. I just want to know that he wants marriage some day but he decided that marriage is an institution he doesn't believe in.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That is a shame. I can understand his perspective if marriage is not something he wanted but it seems hurtful to string you along in a relationship if your life goals were very different. Was your differing opinions on marriage the only reason he gave?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Yes, It was completely unexpected because things with us were going great. I was completely blindsided. We hadn't even talked about marriage lately. He just knew that it was something that I wanted in the future.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That sounds very difficult. How have you been coping with the break up?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I've just been crying and laying in bed. I called off work today. I don't want to see anyone right now.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think this is to be expected from a very fresh break-up. I know that when I broke up with my partner, I spent at least a few days crying and trying to figure out what my life would be now.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "How 'd you get over it?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I tried to focus on other areas of my life and to critically reflect on my relationship. Largely, I threw myself into my work and tried to better that aspect of my life, and hung out with people that I knew cared about me. Both of those are very good distractions which you might be able to use.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Maybe calling off work was a bad idea... all I'm going to do is think about this instead of doing something to take my mind off of it...", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think one day off to get the crying out of your system is a good emotional cleanse. We all need time to self care and look after our emotions. Maybe going for a walk or doing some yoga, to place your focus on something rather than being boxed into a room may help to shift your focus.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I think I'm going to get out of bed and do something to take my mind off of this . Thanks for chatting with me today!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think I'm going to do that! There is a park by my house that I'm going to go for a walk in! Some fresh air might be good for me!", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are more than welcome. I hope that you feel better by being outside.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Thanks! I hope so too!", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "4"}, "supporter": {}} |
660 | 1,534.296127 | 5 | 2 | 3 | depression | ongoing depression | I have been out of work and my father passed now we have to move to a smaller house and I am my mothers care giver | [{"text": "hello", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "hello?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Hello there", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "how are you i guess you read my situation", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Actually I haven't seen the details. How can I help you ?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "I have been out of work . my father passed last year we have to move to a smaller home and I am my mother care giver", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "That must be a real challenge. Anyone would feel stressed in this situation.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "yes it has been at least when he was alive we had his income it was stressfull but we had the money to keep up with things", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So you used to rely on his income and now you are struggling to make ends meet?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "yes and with Covid its been even harder", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have also felt that COVID has added additional pressure in my life. You are not alone in thinking this. It must be tough", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "yes for all , so we are moving but thats been a pain also getting approved for a mortgage packing up and still caring for my mother", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "So from talking to you it seems like there has been a sudden death which has been difficult, financial challenges as a result and all this is mixed with Covid and moving house. This must be incredibly stressful.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Reflection of feelings"}, {"text": "yes I cant sleep and when I do I wake up in a panic middle of the night", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you tried looking at your problems individually and trying to tackle them in smaller manageable steps?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yes but it all seems to hit me at once", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "in hoping the move helps but it will be a big change much smaller hone", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "home", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Have you looked into financial support for people in your situation who care for others, such as government support or subsidies?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yes but she isnt that sick yet where they would pay and both of us being high risk looking for work has been hard", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Many people are surprised by what help is actually available if they take a look. The government has provided quite comprehensive support, especially for carers.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "i will have to look in to it more once the move is complete", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I think you are trying to stay positive which is a good thing. It is easy to give up but I think you can get through this.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Affirmation and Reassurance"}, {"text": "i hope so its been a hard last couple of years with money parents health stress but i no im not the only one", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Not at all but I would suggest looking for help. There is no shame in asking for support. We all need that at times.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "yes I know I need to get passed my embarrassment", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "There is no need to feel embarrassed. I think it shows strength it character to realise when help is needed and your situation is very challenging.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "thank you I feel this just getting it all out has helped some", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome and I'm glad that it helped.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "yes thank you for your insight", "speaker": "usr"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "3", "empathy": "4", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
97 | 1,534.257246 | 6 | 3 | 1 | depression | Alcohol Abuse | My family have lost confidence in me due to my alcoholism. I want to stop but don't know how. I have tried before but some things I go through make me go back. What can I do? | [{"text": "Hello how are you today?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "Am feeling down and blue.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I understand that you are feeling down and blue and that isn't good. What is making you feel down and blue do you think?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Restatement or Paraphrasing"}, {"text": "Recently no one in my family is talking to me. I think they are mad I went back to taking alcohol. I was depressed because I lost my job.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I've struggled with alcohol before too and understand how tough it is to not drink especially during a tough time like after losing a job. Don't beat yourself up, it's only natural and you have the power to get through this trying time.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "I feel calm to know someone else knows what am feeling.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "How long ago did you lose your job?", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Question"}, {"text": "How can I stop going back to alcohol when am depressed?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Its been a few weeks since I lost my job but I never told anyone In my family.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "My advice is to try to talk to your family and explain to them that you lost your job and are feeling down. While they may not accept it at first it is a good start to try to give them some context for why you are drinking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "Alcohol is a way of self medicating; some people find it helpful to talk to a doctor to get an actual prescription for a medication to help. I personally stopped drinking once my doctor found the correct medication for me. That allowed me to be happy without drinking.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Information"}, {"text": "I am not sure who to talk to first. Mom or Dad? Am worried my mom will make a big issue out of it.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Talk to who you feel most comfortable with. Start off easy. Hopefully they can help you then talk to the other parent. I am sure your parents have once had a period in life where they were down and blue and can relate to what you are going through.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Providing Suggestions"}, {"text": "I feel reassured now will definitely find time to face dad and let him know what am going through. Thank you was nice talking to someone who can understand me easily.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Bye", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome. Best of luck!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "I believe you have to end the conversation as I am not able to. I am here to keep on talking too if you would like.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}, {"text": "One more question, did you stop drinking alcohol completely or did you go about your consuption?", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "I have done both; I have gone periods of 6-12 months having nothing to drink and then when I could control it I would allow myself to have drinks on special occasions. I tried not to drink during the week and only once on the weekend at most.", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Self-disclosure"}, {"text": "That sounds like a good plan. I hope I will also come up something that can work for me. Also, will try seeking help from my doctor.", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "Thank you once more. Bye", "speaker": "usr"}, {"text": "You are welcome. Have a nice day!", "speaker": "sys", "strategy": "Others"}] | {"seeker": {"initial_emotion_intensity": "5", "empathy": "5", "relevance": "5", "final_emotion_intensity": "2"}, "supporter": {"relevance": "5"}} |
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