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AITA My best friend is upset about how we communicated for her to leave and I do not know what to do. [deleted] | Soft YTA, jokes are always a bad idea. You didn't set a boundary, you relied on a yoke that was in poor taste. Come right out and say "Sorry I'm cutting our conversation short and pushing you out but I'm kind of tired and we need to make plans for dinner." Going forward set a real boundary in advance. Examples: "Sure y... |
Aunt is only 42 so I’m assuming OP is quite young, probably a teen | And OP mentioned school. So yeah, OP is very likely not old with decades of life experiences. |
This seems like a good place to ask, what would constitute as a close familymember? Would my grandfather be included, or is that not close enough? | Yeah that definitely counts, pls mention him to your doctor. Also, better safe than sorry, so if you know anyone else in your family that has it, you should mention them |
I work in colorectal cancer research (especially early onset) and have more and more patients with advanced disease who are teens and young adults. If there are ANY changes to your bowel habits, or if anything else in the bathroom is not quite right, talk to a doctor. Look into Cologuard if you are uncomfortable with t... | [deleted] |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Lost my MIL to it a year ago. She didn’t even get to see me marry her son. Get your colonoscopy, even if it’s embarrassing. |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | NTA- definitely open a new account immediately and move everything into it. Also you may want to take the time to seriously sit down and go back through all your bank statements. This doesn't sound like it's the first time she has taken money out without you knowing. Definitely go back and check. Good luck! |
[deleted] | If your normal at home bowel habits change for more than 5 days. |
Enough to perhaps draw attention to it and get her in trouble for giving OP the code. I agree with this judgement. Soft YTA, but lesson learned | If you can get in trouble for overspending on your code, why wouldn't you mention anything at all? You're setting yourself up for failure. |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | No joke, it’s an important message for everyone. Don’t let your asshole be an asshole to you. |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | NTA Open another account. |
It's definitely not normal. Im 40 and have colonoscopies every 1.5-3 years due to UC since I was 20. Not one procedure was painful. I was awake for one of them and just watched the screen. The bad part was the prep, and that depends on which one the doctor uses. Golytely was by far the worst to drink, but I couldn't st... | The prep was a little uncomfortable, but not a big deal at all. When I googled the procedure beforehand, it said it could be painful, and in some places they use anesthesia. They didn't on me though, and it was definitely painful. Didn't last too long though, but felt like it when in pain. |
AITA for refusing to read someone's tarot? I (f31) like "witchy" things. Tarot cards, I make my own herbal tinctures (I am fully vaccinated and believe in science just getting that in), crystals etc. That being said, I consult tarot cards for fun. If I'm being audited by the IRS, I'm consulting an accountant, not tarot... | NTA. But can't you pretend to read her tarot and let the tarot say that she needs to get a lawyer? |
I’ve had digestive problems my whole life but doctors just told me in my 20s and 30s that I was too young for a colonoscopy. Hoping they were right. | Doctor said the same thing to me at 44. I insisted on doing the test. Turns out I was Stage 3. That was 16 years ago. |
NTA Your wife sounds like my stepmother. That didn't go anywhere good, not for me and my brother other or even for her own kids. Please demand couple's counseling. What she's doing is manipulative and abusive. It could be a symptom of a mental health problem in her, but that is not a good reason to put up with it if sh... | Or it could just be that her feelings are hurt and she doesn’t want to talk about it. Abuse? Mental health problem? My feelings would be hurt too if—my kid? his kid? their kid?—didn’t take two minutes to say thanks and goodnight. I wouldn’t handle it the same way she did. I’m too impatient to sulk that long, but I’m pr... |
I’m not sure if that’s entirely true. At the same time I’ve always had a credit union since I was 8 and my grandmother was on my account until bills she owed took money from my account (she repaid). I was able to get her removed and make my mom and brother beneficiaries as a teen. Granted this was 8-9 years ago. | I don’t know if it’s “most” but regardless many major banks are this way. They will not let you remove one person who was authorized as a user upon creation of the account. |
NTA. You weren't given a line to not cross, how are you supposed to know? And if she's giving out *her* code when she isn't supposed to, that's on her. | >how are you supposed to know? Common sense? |
AITA for refusing to read someone's tarot? I (f31) like "witchy" things. Tarot cards, I make my own herbal tinctures (I am fully vaccinated and believe in science just getting that in), crystals etc. That being said, I consult tarot cards for fun. If I'm being audited by the IRS, I'm consulting an accountant, not tarot... | NTA. But can't you pretend to read her tarot and let the tarot say that she needs to get a lawyer? |
AITA for not bringing my daughter’s friend home and making her parents come get her? My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I’ve taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends. They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry yo... | I want an Umppa Lumpa NOW, daddy!!! |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | A truly good person gives because they want to give so others feel joy, not because they want the thanks. NTA. Sure it would have been nice to say thanks, but her being THAT upset is a red flag. |
YTA. You should have given her the full amount the insurance company gave you. | You're the only one that has said this so far. Numerous people are telling me that I enabled her by giving her any of the money at all. She paid for liability and the car was a gift. I'd love to hear more of your perspective. |
NTA. You weren't given a line to not cross, how are you supposed to know? And if she's giving out *her* code when she isn't supposed to, that's on her. | I agree, NTA. When I worked retail at a place that had an employee discount, we all frequently “abused” (by the standards of this thread, apparently) our discount for our friends and family to get their products for less money. I don’t even think I had to use my own card to pay or anything like that. If the aunt wasn’t... |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Had a colonoscopy recently on the basis of a home test, led to two big polyps being removed before they cause a problem. None of it was much of a big deal and two years from now might've been quite different if I hadn't taken care of it. |
AITA for using my Aunt’s personal employee discount code to buy clothes? My aunt (F42) works for a major clothing brand in a senior position. Employees get a personal discount code (hers is usually 50-75% off) that she can use and it varies based on the position. My aunt sent me the code saying “if you need anything, h... | ESH She should have told you to use it within reason. You should have used some common sense, the code is associated with her employment and it's use or abuse reflects on her and may cause her a problem. The reason companies monitor, limit and eliminate these perks is because of abuse like your shopping spree. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | hmmm.. as a woman who gets angrier and angrier every single time I've to clean up the house and realize that the mess was more caused by my husband and my son... I'd say there's an underlying issue here that makes your wife upset.. and it's not about her expecting her step son to thank her at all.. first, you dismissed... |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | NTA Your wife sounds like my stepmother. That didn't go anywhere good, not for me and my brother other or even for her own kids. Please demand couple's counseling. What she's doing is manipulative and abusive. It could be a symptom of a mental health problem in her, but that is not a good reason to put up with it if sh... |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | Why does she need to be thanked, she had an idea, she did nothing else. Self centred much, the woman needs to grow up fgs. You need to grow a backbone as well and tell her she didnt need to be thanked. Sulking like a child is not attractive at all! |
I hope yours is too! I’ve seen UC up close and it looks so painful. I’m glad you were finally able to get a diagnosis and the treatment is helping you! | Thanks! I’m feeling so much better now that I’m on medication for it. It really explained a lot. |
AITA My best friend is upset about how we communicated for her to leave and I do not know what to do. [deleted] | I know that my comment will not be popular but, here it is. You said the friend is lonely, does she have any mental health issues that feed into this? She is using you as a source of companionship which she may not necessarily be entitled to since you are with someone else. Does she take social cues well, can she "read... |
AITA My best friend is upset about how we communicated for her to leave and I do not know what to do. [deleted] | Nta, it's not your responsibility to manage her life. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | Did she ever want to build a close bond with your son? Maybe as a stepmother, if she is a kind one, she wanted your son to be closer? Also since you married her, stop repeating "my son" because she is also legally his step-mum once you're married so she's his mum too |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | You need to move your money to your own account and do not give her access any more. Furthermore, everything coming back is intended for you which is why it is going in your account. So you need to tell her if she doesn’t pay it back you will go as legal as you need to, to get it back. Also if you can move out do it as... |
Age and a family history of polyps/colon cancer are usually why people go in for first colonoscopies. After my large polyp was found at 28, my younger brothers started having regular colonoscopies. My father also has a history of polyps, and my paternal grandmother died from colon cancer. Small polyps very rarely bleed... | I had symptoms for over seven years, was repeatedly misdiagnosed, and saw three different gastroenterologists before getting diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. The treatment has made a massive difference to my life. According to my gastroenterologist this isn’t an uncommon experience at all, at least amongst her patien... |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | NTA! I’ve got access to two of my five children’s money. I have no idea how much is in either account and the only reason I would possibly go into the accounts is to add money for them. My youngest is in college and I deposit money in her account twice a month. It’s crazy to me that your mom is accessing the account of... |
My husband is about to turn 40 and I’ve been pushing him to get alllllll the tests done but he’s resisting. I told him Look you do NOT want to die of butt cancer which is 1 super easily detected and 2 easily treated if caught early. | Show him some pics of people dying of colon cancer. Colonoscopies weren’t exactly fun but dying of colon cancer is just about as bad as it gets. |
AITA for refusing to read someone's tarot? I (f31) like "witchy" things. Tarot cards, I make my own herbal tinctures (I am fully vaccinated and believe in science just getting that in), crystals etc. That being said, I consult tarot cards for fun. If I'm being audited by the IRS, I'm consulting an accountant, not tarot... | NTA. I read too and I very plainly tell people that I do not read for legal matters, medical matters, or pregnancy. The only time I will mention those three things is if they come up in the cards organically. It's fine to have boundaries. |
DAMMIT THATS GOOD! Each episode would be one or more cards put together. The pilot episode would be "The Empress and Judgement" | This needs to be real! Keep tarot as the main thing, but have her start using other 'witchy' stuff as the episodes continue. Crystals, good luck charms, etc. All pointless, but the placebo effect is strong! |
ESH She should have told you to use it within reason. You should have used some common sense, the code is associated with her employment and it's use or abuse reflects on her and may cause her a problem. The reason companies monitor, limit and eliminate these perks is because of abuse like your shopping spree. | Should have told you? Like it you're not grown enough to know when you shouldn't take advantage of something? |
AITA for refusing to read someone's tarot? I (f31) like "witchy" things. Tarot cards, I make my own herbal tinctures (I am fully vaccinated and believe in science just getting that in), crystals etc. That being said, I consult tarot cards for fun. If I'm being audited by the IRS, I'm consulting an accountant, not tarot... | The obvious answer here is what everyone said, that the tarot has informed you that she will be in big trouble unless she prepares. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | INFO: When she suggested it, did she in any way hint at wanting to go with you too? |
[deleted] | If your normal at home bowel habits change for more than 5 days. |
The sex joke has a very different dynamic when it's one friend to another getting off a call vs a couple in a room and the third person is the spare wheel being dismissed. Can you honestly not see the difference? And she asked to come in and hang out, you said she could and then after 20 mins decided you were tired lik... | I don’t really see the difference. I struggle with empathy so I guess that’s why I posted this here. |
This is how we learn. There’s some friends of our kids who are OK for sleepovers, camping on the Cape, going to New York City. But you have to get to know them first. I made the mistake of letting one of my kids bring one of his friends to climb Mount Washington. The kids talk nonstop. It was unbelievable. You have to ... | Yes, it was definitely a lesson learned. It’s a shame because every other friend we’ve brought with us has been well behaved, doesn’t complain and we always have a fun time. But now we’ll stick to friends we know can handle it. |
AITA for not wanting my niece and nephew in my baby’s room? My husband’s brother and his kids (2.5F and 5.5M) come over pretty often. I try to make our house fun and comfortable for them and we have a backyard play area, a living room play area, and even the basement you can run around in. But every time they’re here, ... | Put a high latch on the door that cannot be reached by little ones. Next, have a toy basket for them ready to play with when they come. I've always done this for kids who visit. When it's time for them to leave, explain toys need to be placed back in the basket because we want their toys to stay safe. |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | Are you old enough to open a new account that she has no links to? If so do that and move your money over. |
NTA. Tell them flat out they are not allowed in that room. Lock the door. Tell them that if they are not going to clean up after their kids, they need to stop coming over. You are not their maid. Ideally, your husband should be doing this but you don't mention him or his stand. If he won't talk to them and make them be... | Since it sounds like all the bedrooms are upstairs and they don't need to be up there at all, OP could install a baby gate at the bottom of the stairs. |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | your Mom doesn't know what it means to be accountable. That explains why she yelled at you in the morning. |
So when you told your son about the trip, did you present it as “Your stepmom had a great suggestion for something she thought you would enjoy.”? Or did she hear your son gushing about his excitement, while you did not give her credit? It sounds like to me she is mad at YOU. I suspect YTA, not for your son’s behavior, ... | Well it was supposed to be a surprise but she accidentally told him about it a few weeks ago. At that point I told him it was her idea and I followed up with that with him today. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | She sounds insufferable. Expecting fawning gratitude from a kid because something was her idea. NTA |
*You’re* fantabulous! | Aww, shucks. |
Seriously, I think I need a god damn nap just by *reading* what that person went through. But I'm probably going to Google a TOS procedure, getting a friggin rib removed and that stops blood clots in the shoulder (under certain conditions)? Bodies are weird as hell! | > But I'm probably going to Google a TOS procedure, getting a friggin rib removed and that stops blood clots in the shoulder (under certain conditions)? As the Subclavian vein passes over the shoulder, it goes through a small triangle-shaped opening between the 1st rib and scalene (neck) muscles. In cases where ther... |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | So its a concern for people age 20 to 50, but you're only screening people aged 45 and above? While also saying how important it is to catch it early? |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | Your wife is the ahole. |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | This happened to me! I almost cancelled my colonoscopy so many times but ultimately I went. No symptoms. Needed a ten hour surgery and an ileostomy that was reversed after a few months. I was Stage 1. So so lucky. |
I started getting checked at 35 due to family history, I just want to say that getting a colonoscopy is **NOT A BIG DEAL**, and I wish people would stop acting like it's an arduous process. The prep makes you poop a few times and you can't eat solid food for a few hours, the actual procedure takes like 30 minutes and y... | man i had like 5-6x blood in stool as well as recurring odd diarrhea and they still wont let me pass any test what soever...healthcare system failing lol wtf im 35 |
Spouse survived CRC because they were proactive. As bad as colonoscopy prep is, it doesn’t come close to chemo. | I swear I thought I was going to throw up trying to drink all of what I was supposed to. |
AITA for using my Aunt’s personal employee discount code to buy clothes? My aunt (F42) works for a major clothing brand in a senior position. Employees get a personal discount code (hers is usually 50-75% off) that she can use and it varies based on the position. My aunt sent me the code saying “if you need anything, h... | Its like lending someone your credit card but then acting offended that theres charges on it that you havent done. Shes an asshole. |
AITA for using my Aunt’s personal employee discount code to buy clothes? My aunt (F42) works for a major clothing brand in a senior position. Employees get a personal discount code (hers is usually 50-75% off) that she can use and it varies based on the position. My aunt sent me the code saying “if you need anything, h... | What’s missing here is, did she have permission to give her code out to family? In my experience this can be a fireable offense. |
AITA My best friend is upset about how we communicated for her to leave and I do not know what to do. [deleted] | NTA. |
AITA for not giving the full amount of insurance money to my daughter for her car? I (46F) gave my daughter (19F) a car for her 18th birthday. For her to stay on my car insurance plan, it was cheaper if her car stayed in my name. She made the decision and I agreed. She paid me the amount it cost per month to have her o... | ESH. You raised an entitled, reckless, self centered AH. You continue to enable her. You should never have purchased her a car in the first place. You should have registered the title in her name and made her pay her own insurance. If she decided to be uninsured or underinsured or liability only then she would be respo... |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | NTA. She sounds insufferable. How did you not know this before the wedding? |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | I hope you don't enable your wife by making your son thank her for doing nothing. If I make people thank me for everytime I have an idea then I'll never hear the end of it. Unless she went out her way to pay and planned everything then she's not owed a thanks. |
But that still tracks back to the aunt. If she might get in* trouble, she shouldn't have given the code or told her a limit at least. Eta: in. | This, she should have been clear about number of items and dollar amout! |
How could she know she was "taking advantage" unless she was told there was a limit? I just don't see how OP could have known. | "If you need anything," usually implies reasonable requests. |
Thank you. How are you feeling? We found out today that he has moderately differentiated adenocarcinoma. He has one 30mm tumour and his CT scan is next week where we will find out what stage he’s at. Hopefully he will also be stage 1 or 2. | I feel great, thank you. I had a great surgeon and I've kept myself in decent shape, so my body has recovered well. I have a temporary stoma until mid November, but I wasn't able to keep my rectum. I thankfully won't need chemo. I'll be keeping your friends husband in my thoughts and hoping the best for all of you. |
My husband is about to turn 40 and I’ve been pushing him to get alllllll the tests done but he’s resisting. I told him Look you do NOT want to die of butt cancer which is 1 super easily detected and 2 easily treated if caught early. | and its pretty much a discomfort for a day or two. compared to possible death uh I'll take it. |
NTA, but if he has a lease you can't kick him out in the middle of the lease (for no good reason). You have to give him notice before the lease ends that you won't be renewing. | It’s going to end in January, but lots of people around told me it usually renews every year and that I can’t tell him to move out easily so I am not really sure how it’s going to work out |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | Im just saying do you pay rent buy your own food and who bought your first car and have they sent you money for whatever you need if you get a lump some you should give a little back to them just saying she not have just taken it that's wrong but in hindsight kinda fair just saying it could have been handled better q |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Me = 47yr old man, decent health, worked out off and on throughout life. Non-smoker, social drinker. Had a lump on neck that I thought was from having covid. Non-hodgkins lymphoma at 45 - chemo and radiation. First colonoscopy due to age, no symptoms. Colorectal cancer at 46 - surgery to remove 4 inches of colon and ch... |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Yeah. Turning 40 in a few months and I got this to look forward to. |
AITA for not bringing my daughter’s friend home and making her parents come get her? My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I’ve taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends. They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry yo... | Nta. Kids sounds like an entitled brat |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | NTA. She deserves no thanks. It was an idea but you organized and paid for it. She did nothing. It sounds like she is just looking for an excuse to complain about your son. |
AITA for refusing to read someone's tarot? I (f31) like "witchy" things. Tarot cards, I make my own herbal tinctures (I am fully vaccinated and believe in science just getting that in), crystals etc. That being said, I consult tarot cards for fun. If I'm being audited by the IRS, I'm consulting an accountant, not tarot... | I find tarot card readings help walk you through your feelings and thoughts about a particular issue, and view things a little bit more objectively and potentially from another angle. A Celtic cross reading helps examines the circumstances that led up to where you are, and maybe opens your eyes to some current pros and... |
AITA for not wanting my niece and nephew in my baby’s room? My husband’s brother and his kids (2.5F and 5.5M) come over pretty often. I try to make our house fun and comfortable for them and we have a backyard play area, a living room play area, and even the basement you can run around in. But every time they’re here, ... | NTA. When my son was about 6 or so, when we had his cousins come over they would go into his room and destroy it by doing the same thing. He asked me the next time can he close his door and not allow anyone in it. I told him if he did that HE ALSO couldn’t go in there to play or get any toys. He told me that’s fine. So... |
AITA for not wanting my niece and nephew in my baby’s room? My husband’s brother and his kids (2.5F and 5.5M) come over pretty often. I try to make our house fun and comfortable for them and we have a backyard play area, a living room play area, and even the basement you can run around in. But every time they’re here, ... | Telling kids will do nothing. You need to put a lock on the door |
AITA for not bringing my daughter’s friend home and making her parents come get her? My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I’ve taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends. They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry yo... | Why do I have the feeling that Leah does not have any rules at home? NTA! Her mum sure is. I cannot imagine any scenario in which my kid would me and I’d refuse to come get them. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | NTA. Your wife needs to grow up and start acting like an adult. |
I work in colorectal cancer research (especially early onset) and have more and more patients with advanced disease who are teens and young adults. If there are ANY changes to your bowel habits, or if anything else in the bathroom is not quite right, talk to a doctor. Look into Cologuard if you are uncomfortable with t... | Has research pointed to any evidence pointing as a cause for this? Is it the glyphosate rampant in our food supply in the US? Edit: FYI glyphosate = Roundup |
That's fair. I let her drive my car and then gave her a second chance after she blew the engine racing, then she drove her car which was a Honda CRV all wheel drive that can't be raced, so that part was no longer an issue. I didn't know about the tickets until after she totaled the CRV. I had already taken her off my i... | Yes I still believe you were an asshole for giving her any amount of money. Insurance gave you that money to recoup *your* loss. You daughter didn't have a loss. These cars were not hers, and she broke TWO of them. If she wants to be treated like an adult she needs to act like one and that means enduring the adult cons... |
Scary Poppins 😨 | What a fabulous Halloween costume idea!! |
AITA for using my Aunt’s personal employee discount code to buy clothes? My aunt (F42) works for a major clothing brand in a senior position. Employees get a personal discount code (hers is usually 50-75% off) that she can use and it varies based on the position. My aunt sent me the code saying “if you need anything, h... | YTA, slightly. I think it's probably commonly understood with something like this that you don't go hog-wild. It sounds like you went hog-wild. |
Sounds like Leah isn't a good social fit for anyone. | I hope it’s a learning experience for her as a 12 year old. |
Tarot doesn't read the future, it just tells you the likely possibilities. In her case, she very likely needs a lawyer... | Do people really believe that? It's a deck of cards. It doesn't tell you shit lolmao. |
AITA for not bringing my daughter’s friend home and making her parents come get her? My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I’ve taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends. They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry yo... | NTA. That was not a reasonable request. Leah's mom should have told her to cut the crap and do her best to enjoy herself, and stop being so whiny and ungracious. OR if leaving was the preferred solution, they needed work that out. As you said, she was not hurt or injured. Requiring you to leave the party would not have... |
Absolutely NTA. If you ever invite a newbie again, make the parents know they are responsible for picking up their kid if they want to leave early. | Or invite the mother to come along. That way they can leave together if it isn’t their cup of tea. Or you and Mom may hit it off and enjoy yourselves. |
🤣 I have asked them to leave the room a couple times nicely but I’m very non confrontational | Hey OP, I’m not the best at confrontation, but the way I place it sometimes in the way I have to deal with it is I’m not confronting them for my own peace of mind or personal space. I’m doing it for someone I love who cannot for whatever reason stand for themselves, i.e. your child who cannot protect her bedroom. So yo... |
> But I'm probably going to Google a TOS procedure, getting a friggin rib removed and that stops blood clots in the shoulder (under certain conditions)? As the Subclavian vein passes over the shoulder, it goes through a small triangle-shaped opening between the 1st rib and scalene (neck) muscles. In cases where ther... | You are an insanely good story teller. I have a horrible attention span but was completely engaged word for word lol. Also, bought both products you linked because they would definitely come in handy in my medical disaster household! Wishing you well 🙏🏻 |
I actually laughed out loud at this. What card would that even be....justice is kinda on the nose. | I once was failing a college class because I hadn't started a project, I needed some help starting and had no clue about anything. Of course I hadn't asked any of the 3 or 5 people who could have helped over the course of the whole semester cause I was ashamed. So I went and pulled one card. Fucking Judgement. Swallowe... |
My husband is about to turn 40 and I’ve been pushing him to get alllllll the tests done but he’s resisting. I told him Look you do NOT want to die of butt cancer which is 1 super easily detected and 2 easily treated if caught early. | Check if your insurance will cover tests before 45. |
AITA for not making my son thank his step mother first thing when we got home? My son (11) got to go to his first professional football game with myself and his grandfather. The game was several hours away, so we made a weekend of it, and got back just in time to shower, etc to go to bed because school tomorrow. My wif... | NTA An 11 year old wouldn't know on his own that it was important to thank his step-mom for coming up with the idea to go to the football game. Especailly late at night, etc. Clearly she's mad at YOU for not making this stupid little acknolwedgement happen....so could it be she feels unappreciated by you for the work s... |
AITA that I don’t agree with my finance’s mom about if my fiancé should walk him down the isle or not, if his dad can be a groomsman, what shoes and dress I should wear, etc. Okay so my finance 23M and I 24F, are getting married next year. My parents already paid for the venue and reception, which I’m very grateful for... | Phew! A lot going on here lol. Start with the small stuff. Consider having an attendant like a nephew or someone to escort your mother. That's how it's usually done where I'm from. His dad being a groomsman is a bit weird but if your fiance is okay with it, why not. As for the actual details? Two people are getting mar... |
How many Mets did you have? And did you do chemo? How long did it take to cure everything? Are you NED? | I had 14 in my liver that were 2 cm and one in my right side that was 11.5 cm x 7cm when diagnosed in 2018. I had 30 heavy chemo cycles and 2 y90s prior to getting a 2nd opinion with a liver specialist who was able to operate on me after being told by others I'd be chemo for life and inoperable for a year and a half, e... |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Thank you!! As an elder millennial who has constant colon trouble and is getting dismissed by doctors : what kind of at home tests are there and are they only for the US folks? Does anyone know about at home tests in Europe? It's very old woman yells at cloud but it would be so good if anyone knows bc I'm scared now. I... |
AITA for not giving the full amount of insurance money to my daughter for her car? I (46F) gave my daughter (19F) a car for her 18th birthday. For her to stay on my car insurance plan, it was cheaper if her car stayed in my name. She made the decision and I agreed. She paid me the amount it cost per month to have her o... | Your daughter is too immature to be driving, please don’t let her drive. To many people die or are permanently disabled due to automobile accidents |
Thank you, you’re right I’m calling first thing tomorrow | Did you call? |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | My mom was diagnosed in her sixties and got a piece of intestine removed. 10 years later they found a small polyp and removed it as well. She’s now 86 and going strong. I’ve had a couple colonoscopies and get screened periodically since I have digestive problems. For her it all started with a ‘weird shape’ in her stool... |
AITA My best friend is upset about how we communicated for her to leave and I do not know what to do. [deleted] | NTA |
AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I ... | NTA but ffs you're 21, get mom off of your bank account! That needed to happen *3 years ago.* She does *not* need to be able to "see your bank account for emergencies." I'm betting she's the one who told you that was a good idea (edit: reading comprehension fail on my part - I missed that yes, yes she was, my bad. But ... |
Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t ... | Colonoscopy set for this Monday. I am a 49 yo woman. Any helpful advice for prep is appreciated. I’ve heard this is the “worst” part of the experience. Also have heard that the FIT kits are about 50% accurate. So get a colonoscopy. |
YTA to yourself and the public. She’s not a safe driver and doesn’t even have the sense of responsibility to pay for her own liability insurance. She can take the bus until she matures. | Yeah unfortunately the massive safety, accountability, and responsibility issues hugely outweigh the piddly issue OP has come here to ask about. This young driver needs to return to driver's ed and needs fiercer consequences associated with her bad driving. OP is focused on entirely the wrong thing. OP should not be he... |
AITA for not giving the full amount of insurance money to my daughter for her car? I (46F) gave my daughter (19F) a car for her 18th birthday. For her to stay on my car insurance plan, it was cheaper if her car stayed in my name. She made the decision and I agreed. She paid me the amount it cost per month to have her o... | YTA - You raised an asshole and you continue to enable her. Thanks mom, for unleashing something like this on society for the rest of us to deal with. She shouldn't have gotten any of the money? She only paid for liability insurance. She is out a car and that's a bummer for her. Maybe she'll learn the lesson you refuse... |
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Dataset Card: sbussiso/AmItheAsshole-reddit-9-29-2025
Dataset Summary
30 posts from r/AmItheAsshole transformed into a chatml dataset format with contextual responses
Usage
from datasets import load_dataset
ds = load_dataset("sbussiso/AmItheAsshole-reddit-9-29-2025")
print(ds)
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