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Let me see your dog!\n\nedit: Thank you to everyone who replied with pet pictures! Here are a couple pictures of my cat in loaf mode. \n\nhttps://i.imgur.com/cqoNTxd.jpg\n\nhttps://i.imgur.com/kpzgv4d.jpg", "role": "browsingtheproduce", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"browsingtheproduce\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"#3b2921\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": [], \"author_flair_template_id\": \"0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde\", \"author_flair_text\": \"Partassipant [3]\", \"author_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"author_flair_type\": \"text\", \"author_fullname\": \"t2_38uasife\", \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": false, \"author_premium\": false, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"YTA for not sharing the picture. What the fuck, OP? Let me see your dog!\\n\\nedit: Thank you to everyone who replied with pet pictures! Here are a couple pictures of my cat in loaf mode. \\n\\nhttps://i.imgur.com/cqoNTxd.jpg\\n\\nhttps://i.imgur.com/kpzgv4d.jpg\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>YTA for not sharing the picture. What the fuck, OP? Let me see your dog!</p>\\n\\n<p>edit: Thank you to everyone who replied with pet pictures! 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ESH. Idc if i get downvotes. It seems that you are trying fo make yourself look as innocent as possilbe and some people here are calling for it. You didnt say what the argument was about and u just dropped ur kids off at your sisters house like nothing ever happened.
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I rang her, said I'll arrange to work from home, then come get the kids. She said I have 45 mins to get back to her place or she would call the police.\n\nI told my supervisor the situation, and she said I could leave after I did a few things. This delayed me 20 mins. When I got back to my sister in law's, just over an hour later, she said she'd already called the police when the 45 mins ran out. I then had to stick around long enough to tell the officer that I didn't abandon my children, there was just a communication issue.\n\nSister in law and I had another shouting match later over this. I arranged other childcare for my kids and I've been mostly ignoring her since. However, she reached out and apologised, and has asked if I'd be willing to go back to the old childcare arrangement. I've told her to go fuck herself.\n\nI work with kids. If I got child abandonment on my record, I would never work in my field again, which she knew, and her calling the police was a *massive* overreaction, so if she needs a babysitter she can go whistle for all I care. She said that if I checked my phone, talked to her that morning, or came back when I was supposed to, she would not have needed to call the police, and I did this to myself, as she gave me a warning with that first text and I could have checked my phone or spoken to her directly when I got to her place, all of which she says she would have done if she were in my position, given that we'd argued the night before. I've told her that if she thinks I'm babysitting for her, she's fucking delusional, and she's on her own.\n\nBecause of my refusal, it's looking like she may have to quit her job because my brother and her would pay more for a babysitter than they would earn from her working. My mother and brother have both called me an arsehole because there were no consequences to her calling the police, and that while she overreacted, she's apologised, so if I really forgive her, I'll let us move on. This income loss would also mean that she, my brother, and my niece and nephew might need to move somewhere cheaper, that my brother might have to take on extra hours at work, and in an extreme scenario they may even be completely unable to live independently, meaning they'd have to move in with her parents, who live several hours away.\n\nAITA?", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": false, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": true, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": null, \"body_html\": null, \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": false, \"collapsed\": null, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": 2048, \"comment_sort\": \"confidence\", \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": false, \"controversiality\": null, \"created\": 1617389492.0, \"created_utc\": 1617389492.0, \"depth\": null, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": \"self.AmItheAsshole\", \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 1617394916.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": false, \"hide_score\": false, \"id\": \"miquq1\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": false, \"is_crosspostable\": false, \"is_meta\": false, \"is_original_content\": false, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": false, \"is_robot_indexable\": true, \"is_self\": true, \"is_submitter\": null, \"is_video\": false, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": \"#7193ff\", \"link_flair_css_class\": \"not\", \"link_flair_richtext\": [], \"link_flair_template_id\": \"35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd\", \"link_flair_text\": \"Not the A-hole\", \"link_flair_text_color\": \"light\", \"link_flair_type\": \"text\", \"link_id\": null, \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": false, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t3_miquq1\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": 2719, \"num_crossposts\": 1, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": false, \"parent_id\": null, \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/miquq1/aita_for_not_babysitting_for_my_sister_in_law_any/\", \"pinned\": false, \"pwls\": 7, \"quarantine\": false, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 23337, \"score_hidden\": null, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": \"My sister in law and I have an agreement. She watches my kids 3 days a week, and I watch hers 3 days a week. This agreement has stood since March 2020 without issues. Any changes have been discussed weeks in advance.\\n\\nA couple weeks ago, we had an argument. The next day, I brought my kids to her house, dropped them off, and left. I didn't speak to my sister in law, because when one of us is in a rush, like I was, it's standard for us to just let the kids out, stay in the car, and drive off when you see the door open.\\n\\nI drove to work, about 40 minutes away. When I got there, I had about 20 missed calls, and even more texts, all from my sister in law, all saying she didn't want to watch the kids given our argument. Her first text arrived a little before I got to her place, but I didn't see it until I got to work because my phone is always on silent when I drive. I rang her, said I'll arrange to work from home, then come get the kids. She said I have 45 mins to get back to her place or she would call the police.\\n\\nI told my supervisor the situation, and she said I could leave after I did a few things. This delayed me 20 mins. When I got back to my sister in law's, just over an hour later, she said she'd already called the police when the 45 mins ran out. I then had to stick around long enough to tell the officer that I didn't abandon my children, there was just a communication issue.\\n\\nSister in law and I had another shouting match later over this. I arranged other childcare for my kids and I've been mostly ignoring her since. However, she reached out and apologised, and has asked if I'd be willing to go back to the old childcare arrangement. I've told her to go fuck herself.\\n\\nI work with kids. If I got child abandonment on my record, I would never work in my field again, which she knew, and her calling the police was a *massive* overreaction, so if she needs a babysitter she can go whistle for all I care. She said that if I checked my phone, talked to her that morning, or came back when I was supposed to, she would not have needed to call the police, and I did this to myself, as she gave me a warning with that first text and I could have checked my phone or spoken to her directly when I got to her place, all of which she says she would have done if she were in my position, given that we'd argued the night before. I've told her that if she thinks I'm babysitting for her, she's fucking delusional, and she's on her own.\\n\\nBecause of my refusal, it's looking like she may have to quit her job because my brother and her would pay more for a babysitter than they would earn from her working. My mother and brother have both called me an arsehole because there were no consequences to her calling the police, and that while she overreacted, she's apologised, so if I really forgive her, I'll let us move on. This income loss would also mean that she, my brother, and my niece and nephew might need to move somewhere cheaper, that my brother might have to take on extra hours at work, and in an extreme scenario they may even be completely unable to live independently, meaning they'd have to move in with her parents, who live several hours away.\\n\\nAITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My sister in law and I have an agreement. She watches my kids 3 days a week, and I watch hers 3 days a week. This agreement has stood since March 2020 without issues. Any changes have been discussed weeks in advance.</p>\\n\\n<p>A couple weeks ago, we had an argument. The next day, I brought my kids to her house, dropped them off, and left. I didn't speak to my sister in law, because when one of us is in a rush, like I was, it's standard for us to just let the kids out, stay in the car, and drive off when you see the door open.</p>\\n\\n<p>I drove to work, about 40 minutes away. When I got there, I had about 20 missed calls, and even more texts, all from my sister in law, all saying she didn't want to watch the kids given our argument. Her first text arrived a little before I got to her place, but I didn't see it until I got to work because my phone is always on silent when I drive. I rang her, said I'll arrange to work from home, then come get the kids. She said I have 45 mins to get back to her place or she would call the police.</p>\\n\\n<p>I told my supervisor the situation, and she said I could leave after I did a few things. This delayed me 20 mins. When I got back to my sister in law's, just over an hour later, she said she'd already called the police when the 45 mins ran out. I then had to stick around long enough to tell the officer that I didn't abandon my children, there was just a communication issue.</p>\\n\\n<p>Sister in law and I had another shouting match later over this. I arranged other childcare for my kids and I've been mostly ignoring her since. However, she reached out and apologised, and has asked if I'd be willing to go back to the old childcare arrangement. I've told her to go fuck herself.</p>\\n\\n<p>I work with kids. If I got child abandonment on my record, I would never work in my field again, which she knew, and her calling the police was a <em>massive</em> overreaction, so if she needs a babysitter she can go whistle for all I care. She said that if I checked my phone, talked to her that morning, or came back when I was supposed to, she would not have needed to call the police, and I did this to myself, as she gave me a warning with that first text and I could have checked my phone or spoken to her directly when I got to her place, all of which she says she would have done if she were in my position, given that we'd argued the night before. I've told her that if she thinks I'm babysitting for her, she's fucking delusional, and she's on her own.</p>\\n\\n<p>Because of my refusal, it's looking like she may have to quit her job because my brother and her would pay more for a babysitter than they would earn from her working. My mother and brother have both called me an arsehole because there were no consequences to her calling the police, and that while she overreacted, she's apologised, so if I really forgive her, I'll let us move on. 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She basically told us that our son had made up the story about the TV breaking and stole it and took it to their house to watch. \n\nI filed a police report and his girlfriend let the police into their house to get us our TV back. We do plan on pressing charges against him. He stole our TV and made my daughter pay for it. That is messed up on so many levels. 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My son told us that he took the TV to the dump as it was shattered and useless. My daughter and son-in-law (my 4yo granddaughters parents) felt very bad for what had happened and paid the cost of the TV that day.\\n\\nMy husband was watching our security cameras and our son's story doesn't hold up. We never see our granddaughter breaking the TV. All that we see is our son taking away the TV that is not shattered. We asked our son about this and he said that the security camera must have cut out the part that shows our granddaughter breaking the TV.\\n\\nEventually I got a call from my son's girlfriend that lives with him. She said that she knew what was going on and felt guilty. She basically told us that our son had made up the story about the TV breaking and stole it and took it to their house to watch. \\n\\nI filed a police report and his girlfriend let the police into their house to get us our TV back. We do plan on pressing charges against him. He stole our TV and made my daughter pay for it. That is messed up on so many levels. AITA for pressing charges?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>My son (28) was visiting us for a couple days and was at my house alone babysitting my daughters kid.</p>\\n\\n<p>According to my son, the other day my 4-year-old granddaughter (his niece) pulled down the TV and broke it. My son told us that he took the TV to the dump as it was shattered and useless. My daughter and son-in-law (my 4yo granddaughters parents) felt very bad for what had happened and paid the cost of the TV that day.</p>\\n\\n<p>My husband was watching our security cameras and our son's story doesn't hold up. We never see our granddaughter breaking the TV. All that we see is our son taking away the TV that is not shattered. We asked our son about this and he said that the security camera must have cut out the part that shows our granddaughter breaking the TV.</p>\\n\\n<p>Eventually I got a call from my son's girlfriend that lives with him. She said that she knew what was going on and felt guilty. She basically told us that our son had made up the story about the TV breaking and stole it and took it to their house to watch. </p>\\n\\n<p>I filed a police report and his girlfriend let the police into their house to get us our TV back. We do plan on pressing charges against him. He stole our TV and made my daughter pay for it. That is messed up on so many levels. 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Then they could sit with themselves between the kid and other people. And even bring like a file folder to hold up as a barrier to him seeing. They could pay extra to get a 4th seat for an extra buffer.
They're AHs.
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Picnics to stop in the park? They can't continually control his surroundings. Plus the problem isn't people eating near him, it's him not understanding what's going on. The parents need to explain to him what's going on, not explain medical things to strangers. 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Picnics to stop in the park? They can't continually control his surroundings. Plus the problem isn't people eating near him, it's him not understanding what's going on. The parents need to explain to him what's going on, not explain medical things to strangers. If they want to completely control their surroundings then yeah they can fly private or maybe a nighttime flight so they can sleep instead.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>NTA - do they expect people to stop eating as they walk past a restaurant? Picnics to stop in the park? They can't continually control his surroundings. Plus the problem isn't people eating near him, it's him not understanding what's going on. The parents need to explain to him what's going on, not explain medical things to strangers. 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Her job is to sell drinks and food to make a profit for the restaurant owners. Not providing the beer the husband ordered would be unprofessional. There would be no way to please that couple, so she just needs to sell as much as possible. She was very professional.
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Other guests started chiming in saying that she was being ignorant and that I was doing my job, which is to provide guests with what they want and said that it wasnt MY fault that she was a controlling wife. She storms out.\\n\\nGiven the fact that I was put on the spot like that, I feel insanely guilty. AITA?\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.</p>\\n\\n<p>Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and the wife ordered a margarita. The husband then tried ordering a beer. The wife instantly lost her noodles and said "Uh, no. He will not have a beer. He will have a water." She then turned to him and said something along the lines of him not needing to drink because he was driving. He said no, the daughter could drive. It was childish.</p>\\n\\n<p>Anyways, he keeps telling me he wants a beer. She keeps telling me no. In this industry, situations like this are a lose/lose for waitresses. If I get him the beer, wife wont tip. If I dont get him the beer, he wont tip. Damned if I do, damned if I dont. So while they were arguing AT me, I said "Listen, I really dont have time to play mediator here." They went silent. I went and got both of them their alcohol. Daughter gives me an apologetic look upon my return, presumably because her mother was acting bat shit crazy upon seeing me bring a beer in tow.</p>\\n\\n<p>Flash forward to after their meals. Husband has had 2 beers at this point. Wife has stopped drinking and glares at me everytime I return. Wife and daughter go to the car while husband pays. Husband drops me a $40 tip on a $68 tab. I told him I couldnt accept it. He insisted. 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Really she\u2019s pissed at her husband not you.\n\nEdit- I think some people are reading this as if I think the wife is a harpy and drinking and driving is fine, I don\u2019t, and I have no idea what happens in their life, for all I know he pulls this shit all the time, or she\u2019s the one who always has a glass of wine and he never gets to, etc etc. Just it\u2019s clear the actual annoyance was not with the staff.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Nta imo, manager has your back (which is good!) and the other customers as well. 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I am also proud of you! It’s so hard to stand up to family members, but you do not have to take their nonsense because you’re related, because she’s pregnant, because you inherited and they didn’t. You are just beginning your adult life- don’t let them pull you down. You’re doing great. Keep it up.
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I\\u2019m starting to think I\\u2019m the bad person now \\n\\nSo AITA for making my mom and brother homeless?\\n\\n\\nEdit wow I expected a few comments but wow \\n\\nSo I\\u2019m on a break I\\u2019ll address some things \\n\\n- some of your roasts are hilarious I honestly deserve it for how bad my grammar is but I was walking to work and declining calls from my mom while making this post I almost said fuck it and didn\\u2019t post\\n\\n\\n- if I sell the house to my uncle I will lose 100k but he\\u2019s always been good to me and it\\u2019s one of those situations were I\\u2019d sleep better knowing it\\u2019s gone to someone in my dads family \\n\\n\\n- my mom told me because of my age I wouldn\\u2019t be taken seriously if I tried to evict them \\n\\n-if I evict them and continue to live in the house along with the high financial costs I don\\u2019t think they\\u2019d ever let me live in peace \\n\\n\\n- my mom has health issues and my sil will have to move in with her parents they won\\u2019t allow my brother so id be splitting up a young family in my moms words\\n\\n- guys I\\u2019m actually crying I\\u2019ve never been told before \\u201cI\\u2019m proud of you\\u201d and the fact I\\u2019ve seen a thread of comments telling that means the absolute world to me\\n\\n\\nEdit two i plan to meet a lawyer and will update you all as soon as I\\u2019ve news also \\n\\nsince people are curious the house is worth 2.5 million its in the heart of London\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I know shitty title but I\\u2019m in a rush to get to work so excuse my grammar </p>\\n\\n<p>Also I want to point out me and my brother have two different fathers </p>\\n\\n<p>I (19f) lost my father last year to cancer he left me 90% of his stuff including his family home that was left to him by his dad it\\u2019s been in their family for over a hundred years. My brother (34) and my dad didn\\u2019t have a relationship but he did leave him 10k, my mom was pissed at the will reading but since she got 10k she couldn\\u2019t do anything about it</p>\\n\\n<p>For the past year me and her live ok together. she went on acting like it was her house like before which I had no problem with till in may my brother and his girlfriend (30) moved in (without even asking me)</p>\\n\\n<p>They\\u2019re messy entitled and rude \\nI told them in July I want them out by September because they don\\u2019t pay for anything nor wash a dish \\nIn August they announced they were pregnant and my sil smugly said \\u201cguess we won\\u2019t be moving out now\\u201d \\nIt didnt go down well but when I told them I wanted them out my mom and brother basically laughed in my face </p>\\n\\n<p>Well the past few months have been hell they\\u2019ve become worse than before and my mom enables it than demands me to treat my sil like a princess because she\\u2019s pregnant\\nI once had to wait outside McDonald\\u2019s till they opened to get her a McMuffin </p>\\n\\n<p>Well here were I maybe the asshole \\nBecause my sil is pregnant she eats everything she sees like the cupcakes my friend made me for my birthday she ate all six didn\\u2019t even get to try them.\\n I can\\u2019t even make my lunch the night before because when I go to get it, it will be gone she\\u2019ll have a smug look on her face while rubbing her belly than laugh and say \\u201cI couldn\\u2019t help my self blame the baby\\u201d if I put stuff in my room my mom will open the door with the spare key sil can go through my mini fridge </p>\\n\\n<p>Well a week ago I was running late to collage I didn\\u2019t have time for my breakfast or to make lunch and I had to go to work straight after so all I had that day was a bar of chocolate when I got home I was starving I made myself dinner while it was cooling down I went to use the bathroom </p>\\n\\n<p>I must of been in there 10 minutes at most by the time I came out she had 70% of my dinner ate and I literally lost my shit of course she started crying my mom and brother started screaming at me for making her cry making excuses like how she couldn\\u2019t help it and it was my fault for leaving food around her </p>\\n\\n<p>Well I had enough I told them get out just like before I got mocked but here\\u2019s the thing back in October my uncle offered me a life changing amount of money for the house I called him up crying a few days ago explaining the situation he said he\\u2019d buy the house but he will evict my mom and brother. \\nThey ofc didn\\u2019t take it two well and I have had to stay with a friend I\\u2019ve been receiving texts and I\\u2019m being tagged in multiple posts on social media. I\\u2019m starting to think I\\u2019m the bad person now </p>\\n\\n<p>So AITA for making my mom and brother homeless?</p>\\n\\n<p>Edit wow I expected a few comments but wow </p>\\n\\n<p>So I\\u2019m on a break I\\u2019ll address some things </p>\\n\\n<ul>\\n<li><p>some of your roasts are hilarious I honestly deserve it for how bad my grammar is but I was walking to work and declining calls from my mom while making this post I almost said fuck it and didn\\u2019t post</p></li>\\n<li><p>if I sell the house to my uncle I will lose 100k but he\\u2019s always been good to me and it\\u2019s one of those situations were I\\u2019d sleep better knowing it\\u2019s gone to someone in my dads family </p></li>\\n<li><p>my mom told me because of my age I wouldn\\u2019t be taken seriously if I tried to evict them </p></li>\\n</ul>\\n\\n<p>-if I evict them and continue to live in the house along with the high financial costs I don\\u2019t think they\\u2019d ever let me live in peace 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Not going to lie ... this post made my house real dusty all of sudden. Badly affected my eyes.
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I asked my brother Josh to come closer and I made sure I held him close and make him feel comfortable. He asked \"What's going on?\" but I started by telling us how much we cared and loved for him, then told him everything about my parents (I put them in a bright light in hopes of a reunion) and who I am to him, then quickly hugged him and my other two kids together and told him that I love all my children the same and NOTHING is going to change my love for him. He was shocked and asked if I was joking, but I was starting to cry a little at this point, so he knew I was serious. My bio-children were very surprised too. He was in tears and asked me why I didn't tell him sooner. I didn't know what to say and said \"I was just trying to protect you, I'm sorry and I hope you can forgive me\", but unfortunately and understandably, he left.\n\nHe didn't talk to me as much, again, understandably so. I continuously offered him to go out to the park and play a bit of football (he loves that) and all his favourite things, but he just outright declined and even got a little angry sometimes for me even talking to him. I thought I messed up big-time, until one day while my wife and two children were out doing shopping and we were alone, he came up to me and said \"I know you're not my real father, but I want to let you know you're the best dad in the whole world. Sorry for before.\" I hugged him and things got pretty emotional. It would be a big lie to say my house is normal now (far from that), but things are slowly - ever so slowly - starting to brighten up. There's no longer anything to hide anymore and it feels like we are born again.\n\nJosh is a tough kid, and he handled this far better than I believed he would. I'll be looking into therapy for him to help him recover just incase it doesn't go well in the long run. I'll strive and continue to be a great dad to my kids, and a great dad to my brother/son. Thank you Reddit for pushing me towards this happy ending. Thank you for all the advice and judgements I got (excluding the rude ones about my uncles and aunts -- eeek!) I love you all. 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So many people wanted me to update on my previous post and wanted me to seek professional advice first before I take matters into my own hands. Apologies if it is long. I'll try to make it as detailed as possible while making this short.\\n\\nI went to my local therapist and told him about my situation and asked what to do. To keep it short, he said he's heard similar recounts from before and said it is best if I tell him as soon as possible for multiple reasons and to **make sure that my bio-children are present** (multiple reasons). I asked a few of my closest friends and the majority said more or less the same thing.\\n\\nMy wife and I decided to sit the kids down and burst the big bubble. I asked my brother Josh to come closer and I made sure I held him close and make him feel comfortable. He asked \\\"What's going on?\\\" but I started by telling us how much we cared and loved for him, then told him everything about my parents (I put them in a bright light in hopes of a reunion) and who I am to him, then quickly hugged him and my other two kids together and told him that I love all my children the same and NOTHING is going to change my love for him. He was shocked and asked if I was joking, but I was starting to cry a little at this point, so he knew I was serious. My bio-children were very surprised too. He was in tears and asked me why I didn't tell him sooner. I didn't know what to say and said \\\"I was just trying to protect you, I'm sorry and I hope you can forgive me\\\", but unfortunately and understandably, he left.\\n\\nHe didn't talk to me as much, again, understandably so. I continuously offered him to go out to the park and play a bit of football (he loves that) and all his favourite things, but he just outright declined and even got a little angry sometimes for me even talking to him. I thought I messed up big-time, until one day while my wife and two children were out doing shopping and we were alone, he came up to me and said \\\"I know you're not my real father, but I want to let you know you're the best dad in the whole world. Sorry for before.\\\" I hugged him and things got pretty emotional. It would be a big lie to say my house is normal now (far from that), but things are slowly - ever so slowly - starting to brighten up. There's no longer anything to hide anymore and it feels like we are born again.\\n\\nJosh is a tough kid, and he handled this far better than I believed he would. I'll be looking into therapy for him to help him recover just incase it doesn't go well in the long run. I'll strive and continue to be a great dad to my kids, and a great dad to my brother/son. Thank you Reddit for pushing me towards this happy ending. Thank you for all the advice and judgements I got (excluding the rude ones about my uncles and aunts -- eeek!) I love you all. Good night.\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Original post: <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ehmsme/aita_for_letting_my_brother_call_me_dad_and/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share\\\">https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ehmsme/aita_for_letting_my_brother_call_me_dad_and/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share</a></p>\\n\\n<p>Hey guys! So many people wanted me to update on my previous post and wanted me to seek professional advice first before I take matters into my own hands. Apologies if it is long. I'll try to make it as detailed as possible while making this short.</p>\\n\\n<p>I went to my local therapist and told him about my situation and asked what to do. To keep it short, he said he's heard similar recounts from before and said it is best if I tell him as soon as possible for multiple reasons and to <strong>make sure that my bio-children are present</strong> (multiple reasons). I asked a few of my closest friends and the majority said more or less the same thing.</p>\\n\\n<p>My wife and I decided to sit the kids down and burst the big bubble. I asked my brother Josh to come closer and I made sure I held him close and make him feel comfortable. 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Humanual-Opinion
Reddit users expressing opinions across diverse personal-issue threads (r/AITA), reflecting moral standards on controversial topics like family conflicts and life decisions. This dataset is part of the HumanLM benchmark for training user simulators that accurately reflect real user behavior.
Source: Reddit r/AITA via asyncpraw · Domain: Social Media & Opinion · Date Range: 2018-11-12 to 2025-09-08
The dataset contains 42,332 comments from 4,567 users across 992 posts, with an average of 3.55 turns per conversation. Each example includes the user's persona, conversation context, and ground-truth response.
Splits: train (37,791) · val (1,177) · test (3,364)
| Column | Description |
|---|---|
prompt |
Reddit post and parent comments as a list of messages with role and content fields |
completion |
The ground-truth user comment to generate |
persona |
User's commenting history and stance patterns on r/AITA |
post_id |
Reddit post ID |
user_id |
SHA-256 hashed Reddit username (for privacy) |
timestamp |
Unix timestamp of when the comment was posted |
turn_id |
Depth in the comment thread (1 = direct reply to post) |
metadata |
Reddit metadata as JSON (subreddit, score, awards, etc.) |
Quick Start
from datasets import load_dataset
dataset = load_dataset("snap-stanford/humanual-opinion")
sample = dataset["train"][0]
print(sample["persona"]) # User persona
print(sample["prompt"]) # Conversation context
print(sample["completion"]) # Ground-truth response
Citation
@article{wu2026humanlm,
title={HUMANLM: Simulating Users with State Alignment Beats Response Imitation},
url={https://humanlm.stanford.edu/},
author={Wu, Shirley and Choi, Evelyn and Khatua, Arpandeep and Wang, Zhanghan and He-Yueya, Joy and Weerasooriya, Tharindu Cyril and Wei, Wei and Yang, Diyi and Leskovec, Jure and Zou, James},
year={2026}
}
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