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Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "Therapy can feel very weird to begin with - think about it, how often do we go and tell a relative stranger our deepest, darkest thoughts in the rest of our life? So I think its reasonable to expect a certain level of nerves as you get used to your therapist and to the whole process of talking about yourself and vulnerable topics. That said, its definitely worth bringing to the attention of your therapist (if you haven't already) to see if there is anything that they can do, or that the two of you can explore together, that might make the process feel less intimidating to you.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "It takes a lot of courage to go to therapy.\'a0 I have gone myself as a Counselor and know what that feeling is like. This is normal but hopefully you have become more comfortable with your therapist. This might be something to bring up to your Therapist and openly discuss (scary to do but its ok) this may even relieve some of your anxiety.\'a0 If it continues, you may want to consider trying another therapist as this one may not be the best fit for you.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "Therapy does not work overnight, oftentimes it is a lifelong struggle, the therapists job is not to ""cure"" you or to remove something but rather to make you strong enough to live your life with your own peculiarities and struggles, remember we are human and constantly fallible. Another important thing to note is that although you go to therapy, that is just a room, most of the magic and work takes place in your real life outside of that room.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "Yes, feeling nervous for the first few or several sessions of therapy, is completely normal.Therapy is an unusual way to have a conversation with someone. \'a0 The person is an expert in recognizing and understanding dynamics of human interactions. \'a0 For some people the fear is that the therapist knows more about you than you do yourself.In general terms hopefully your therapist has worked with many other people who've faced problems similar to yours.In this sense the therapist has a general idea of the basic dynamics you most likely are handling.No therapist could possibly know your particular details and your particular areas of upset or in what ways you feel unsure of yourself.Once you start to trust both your own right to tell your particular story and start to also feel that your therapist is listening attentively and cares what you tell the person, your nervousness will start to disappear all on its own.Good luck in getting the most from your therapy sessions!", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is absolutely normal to be nervous about therapy. \'a0Many people take years to make the decision to start counseling and although it is a safe place to explore feelings, it may be the first time you are facing certain issues. \'a0It takes courage to face issues head on. \'a0Being nervous is part of the process. \'a0The fact that you are continuing to go to therapy sessions despite feeling nervous demonstrates your strength. \'a0Keep it up!", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "Yes, it is completely normal to feel anxious about therapy. Therapy often explores topics and feelings that are uncomfortable. The ultimate goal of therapy is to feel better but the process itself can be uncomfortable.", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "For some people it's absolutely normal to feel nervous about coming to therapy. \'a0 It's sometimes hard to share our emotions and feelings with someone --- no matter how warm and caring the therapist is. \'a0 \'a0 Are you comfortable with your therapist? \'a0Is it a good relational fit? \'a0 \'a0 \'a0Maybe this is a good thing to discuss with your specific therapist at the beginning of your next session --- maybe they can help you find some strategies or tools to make it easier?", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "Well, it's generally okay to feel anxious or nervous about going into therapy, particularly in the beginning because the process of being open about what you are going through, much less to someone who you don't know well, can be anxiety-producing. It's also common to feel anxious when you are discussing something that is important, difficult to discuss, or you are making changes that are very difficult for you.The most important thing I can tell you, though, is to discuss with your therapist this idea that you feel nervous and shaky. Some anxiety can actually help to motivate or lead you toward change. There are also level of anxiety that can be counterproductive, so it's a good thing to discuss. Personally, I can tell you that I would want my clients to tell me about anxiety they feel 100% of the time. That opens the dialog to discuss whether it is the level of anxiety that they want to sit with and learn about in discovering more about themselves and their experiences and/or whether they would like to do something to lessen the feeling of anxiety.Thanks for writing here. If it caused anxiety for you to do so, I hope that feeling is diminishing for you, at least related to writing here.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "Certainly.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "of \'a0I would love to know a little bit more about what's going on in your life but I will attempt an answer.Yes, you could still be shaky and nervous going to therapy. This therapy thing your doing is sometimes scary.\'a0First, because your opening up things that you might have never wanted to.\'a0Second, your still building a relationship with this therapist person. You may never get over that. The therapist really can't be your ""friend"". They are there to push the buttons that you might not want pushed and help you heal. \'a0That in itself is scary and can make you anxious.\'a0Third, you really never know where this therapy thing will go. Yes, there are goals. But sometimes side roads need to be taken and sometimes that is scary.Know this you are in the right place. You are taking steps to change.", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "It is absolutely a typical response.\'a0 Many of my clients are nervous the first couple of times we meet.\'a0 This is\'a0essentially a stranger\'a0with whom\'a0you are sharing\'a0your\'a0feelings.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "It's normal to feel a little anxiety--after all it's an important encounter for you. \'a0My suggestion is to discuss this with your therapist, let him/her know how you're feeling, especially if you feel as though your level of anxiety is impacting the quality and benefit of your sessions. \'a0You might try some relaxation techniques prior to starting the session, deep breathing, progressive relaxation, core muscle dis-engagement--If you're not familiar with these techniques ask your therapist or write back.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "Hello there.\'a0 You ask about being nervous and shaky walking in to your therapy session and want to know if its normal? ...\'a0 I realize there a few ways to look at this.\'a0 I presume you weren't\'a0anticipating feeling this way; and probably hoped to feel the opposite..\'a0 Well, my initial response is yes, sure, it can be within reason to feel this way.\'a0 Have you been in therapy before? Is this somewhat new? That could be part of the reason. But either way; new or not, I think when are entering into a meeting that holds potential evaluation of deep things about you and your heart and soul, it can cause anyone to tremble. The soul can be anticipating some things could be shaken up here, and it can feel scary to look at these things and then change.\'a0 Looking deep at our life can feel daunting and scary; so your response just might be regards to potential growth trying to happen.\'a0\'a0 OR, is there something about the therapist you don't feel confident about?\'a0 This too might be in play as a reason for your feelings...\'a0 Maybe you lack confidence in that therapist ?\'a0 Have you let your therapist know how you feel?\'a0 That would be good to explore...I would like to encourage you to look at these ideas.\'a0 Hope it helps.\'a0\'a0 Let me knowKindly,keithkeithcounseling.com", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | """Normal"" can be an insidious word to use because it can undermine your sense of worth. \'a0It implies there's one particular way you should be behaving and can leave you feeling crappy and ""abnormal"" if you're not behaving according to that prescribed standard. \'a0Instead, what I'd recommend is to pay attention to your emotional experiences when you're attending therapy. \'a0Explore your feelings and thoughts without judgement and try to reflect and understand what's going on that's causing you anxiety. \'a0Once you figure out the underlying meaning of the anxiety, you can figure out a way to handle it and action steps to take to diminish it.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "Everyone has different experiences going to therapy. Being nervous can be a typical emotion one might feel. Emotions are our body's way of telling us important information about ourselves. I would suggest talking openly in your sessions about this. That way you can process your thoughts and feelings with the guidance of your counselor. There are probably underlining emotions (fears or insecurities) that are being stirred up during your therapy sessions. Your counselor might suggest individual counseling depending on what you learn about your anxiety. In individual therapy you would have time to deal with your own stressors. As you address your issues, then you will have tools and skills that will be useful in addressing the couple relationship.", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "I would be more concerned with how is this being addressed in therapy. Therapy can be a rewarding process, however often times we do not pay much attention to the messages being sent to our bodies. I believe in somatic therapy which deals with our mind & body connection. I would think it may not be a question of normal or abnormal however if it is impacting you then you must pay attention to that. It would be helpful to explore the feelings you're having \'a0with your therapist. It may be something that needs addressing to help alleviate those feelings or have a better understanding of why they are showing up when it is time for therapy.", |
Is it normal to go into therapy feeling nervous?I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Hello. First, I am so sorry you are experiencing these feelings. They can be intense, I will do my best to offer some suggestions or thoughts that I hope will be helpful to you. There could be a number of things occurring. Therapy is a delicate, private decision and I would first like to commend you for the fact that you are not giving up, that you are working to figure this out, and make this work, it sounds like you are engaged and motivated to receive support from a professional,\'a0your continued \'a0dedication and motivation will take you far. I would first start by asking if you have discussed this with your therapist, if you feel comfortable enough telling your therapist what is going on, maybe inform the therapist that \'a0that you feel nervous and shaky. I am a firm believer in open communication between the client and therapist as this builds a healthy therapeutic relationship that yields positive outcomes, if this can be obtained and well received. This is\'a0YOUR time for healing and therapy should be a safe, supportive environment to not only process but to seek support and guidance from a professional who can help you move past the barriers. If you feel you are comfortable and able to speak to your therapist, that would be my first suggestion, is to tell he or she how you are feeling. If they know then they can help determine the potential cause and allow you to process and move forward. If this is left un resolved it will be hard for you to move forward. If you are not comfortable discussing this with your therapist, this may be something to take into consideration and worthy of thinking about: why you are not comfortable speaking to the therapist. I understand this is difficult. If I may offer one more suggestion, breathing exercises are very beneficial. Remind yourself what you are working to achieve, close your eyes in a safe moment and breathe in and out slowly, in slowly through your nose and out through your mouth with pursed lips. Breathe in for approximately 5-10 seconds, then let it out slowly. Be sure and do this when you are in private, and feel safe environment. When you begin, I suggest putting your hand on your stomach, over your belly button to feel yourself actually taking in those deep breaths. I know it may sound kind of silly but they really work and are\'a0incredibly helpful. We often forget to breathe, especially when we\'a0 are feeling anxious. You are supported here and try taking yourself through the above thought process and breathing and practice the breathing several times a day. I hope this shaky and uneasy feeling eases. Wishing you the very best!Laura Cassity, LMSW, LMAC", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It can be uncomfortable talking to someone about your life in the great detail that is normally necessary for counseling to be beneficial. Since you're already going to counseling, congratulations on taking that big, first, stress-inducing step. Hopefully by now you are starting to feel a little more comfortable with your therapist. It can be helpful to address this big ""elephant in the room"" and talk to your therapist about this. I do my best to help people feel comfortable when they come to counseling, but regardless of how hard we try, sometimes it is just a little hard to get accustomed to. The good news is, the more you keep at it, the more ""normal"" it will become.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "If you have only been to a couple of sessions, it makes sense that you might still feel apprehensive at first. Therapy is hard work! You may be talking about some things that you never talked to anyone about before. Opening up to stranger can be scary. After you feel comfortable with your counselor, and trust has built up and you feel understood in session, you should feel more relaxed. I would encourage you to talk to your counselor about feeling a little shaky. Sharing what the process is like for you is important in your work. If you still feel unsure about sharing after several sessions, it is important to take a look at that and try to understand where that may be coming from. For example, are you and the therapist not a good fit? But, again if you are just starting out in working together, feeling a little bit nervous makes perfect sense, and I encourage you to give it a bit more time and to talk to your therapist about how you are feeling.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Hi there,\'a0Thank you for your question. It's absolutely ok to feel nervous going to therapy. I have experienced anxiety going to see my own therapist. There can be a few reasons why you might feel this way.\'a0First, it is always unnerving to see a person who is a stranger and to share intimate things with that stranger. You mentioned it has only been a couple of sessions. Your anxiety might subside as you continue to see your therapist and grow more comfortable with him/her.\'a0Another reason why you might feel particularly nervous is perhaps you are not comfortable sharing things. As children, we might have bad experiences opening up to others. Someone might bully or ridicule us, and that experience can stay with us for a long time, making it extra scary to share our intimate feelings and thoughts with others. If this the case, as you continue with your sessions and have positive interactions with your therapists, this anxiety will subside with time and you will re-learn that it is safe to share.\'a0And the last thought why you might feel the shakes is perhaps you know that you need to talk about some past experiences or memories that are uncomfortable and difficult.\'a0Regardless of the reason, it might help you to bring up your nervousness in your session and share how you feel with your therapist. Having an open dialogue about your anxiety with your therapist can help you resolve some of that anxiety and built greater trust with your therapist.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Thank you for your question. It's completely normal and natural to feel nervous before a therapy session. Many people report having felt this way.\'a0I can't say enough regarding the amount of courage it takes to reach out and attend a therapy session. For many people, it can take weeks, months, or even years of contemplating whether to see a therapist or not before actually contacting one and attending the first session. It takes courage to want to work through any struggles you may be having or personal growth you aspire toward.\'a0In your question, you mentioned that you've ""gone several times and are still feeling nervous and shaky."" If you feel comfortable with your therapist and it's a good fit for you, I would suggest talking about this with your therapist. You don't have to struggle each time you have your appointment. Together, you and your therapist can work toward helping you have a different experience.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Sure, why not!It's nerve-wracking to go to a man or woman you've never met before and who is a total stranger, that you are paying to take an interest in your life.\'a0 You're likely feeling an internal truth about the sessions, the man or woman with you, and the man or woman sitting across from you.\'a0 I'd listen to those feelings.Wouldn't it not be best to go to those around you that do provide comfort and aid, first?\'a0 Wouldn't it be better to attend to those of faith around you who have love to offer, first?\'a0 Wouldn't it be better to go to your family and loved ones, first? :)Might try that; see if your nervousness evaporates...", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "What you are experiencing is extremely normal. Opening up to someone you don't know from a can of paint can elicit some uncomfortable feelings and make you feel shaky. With time and building trust with your therapist, you will eventually start feeling less apprehensive before sessions. Consider bringing this up to your therapist as you both can process this experience together and figure out ways of coping with this anxiety before you come into the therapy room.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It\'92s very normal to be nervous going into therapy. You are being vulnerable and honest, which is always scary, no matter how many times you do it. The best part about therapy is that the more you go, the more confident you are in your ability to work through those difficult feelings, and while you still may sometimes get nervous, you will have confidence too!", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It depends on your definition of ""normal""!:) I would say that the average client I see feels some level of nervous energy when they come into their sessions, and especially at the beginning. I think that with clients who I work with that have difficult times in relationships, maybe being able to trust people is tougher for them given their life experiences, the expectation would be that they have a harder time moving through those nerves and feeling more at peace in sessions.In my opinion, a competent therapist could help you explore where these nerves are actually coming from (talking about yourself, relating to another, something else?) I encourage all of my clients to bring up whatever emotions are coming up for them in the moment, as it's helpful to the client to recognize the ""present moment"" emotion and then being able to process, learn from, and move through to a more peaceful place, if that is what is being sought.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Therapy can feel very weird to begin with - think about it, how often do we go and tell a relative stranger our deepest, darkest thoughts in the rest of our life? So I think its reasonable to expect a certain level of nerves as you get used to your therapist and to the whole process of talking about yourself and vulnerable topics. That said, its definitely worth bringing to the attention of your therapist (if you haven't already) to see if there is anything that they can do, or that the two of you can explore together, that might make the process feel less intimidating to you.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It takes a lot of courage to go to therapy.\'a0 I have gone myself as a Counselor and know what that feeling is like. This is normal but hopefully you have become more comfortable with your therapist. This might be something to bring up to your Therapist and openly discuss (scary to do but its ok) this may even relieve some of your anxiety.\'a0 If it continues, you may want to consider trying another therapist as this one may not be the best fit for you.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Therapy does not work overnight, oftentimes it is a lifelong struggle, the therapists job is not to ""cure"" you or to remove something but rather to make you strong enough to live your life with your own peculiarities and struggles, remember we are human and constantly fallible. Another important thing to note is that although you go to therapy, that is just a room, most of the magic and work takes place in your real life outside of that room.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Yes, feeling nervous for the first few or several sessions of therapy, is completely normal.Therapy is an unusual way to have a conversation with someone. \'a0 The person is an expert in recognizing and understanding dynamics of human interactions. \'a0 For some people the fear is that the therapist knows more about you than you do yourself.In general terms hopefully your therapist has worked with many other people who've faced problems similar to yours.In this sense the therapist has a general idea of the basic dynamics you most likely are handling.No therapist could possibly know your particular details and your particular areas of upset or in what ways you feel unsure of yourself.Once you start to trust both your own right to tell your particular story and start to also feel that your therapist is listening attentively and cares what you tell the person, your nervousness will start to disappear all on its own.Good luck in getting the most from your therapy sessions!", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It is absolutely normal to be nervous about therapy. \'a0Many people take years to make the decision to start counseling and although it is a safe place to explore feelings, it may be the first time you are facing certain issues. \'a0It takes courage to face issues head on. \'a0Being nervous is part of the process. \'a0The fact that you are continuing to go to therapy sessions despite feeling nervous demonstrates your strength. \'a0Keep it up!", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Yes, it is completely normal to feel anxious about therapy. Therapy often explores topics and feelings that are uncomfortable. The ultimate goal of therapy is to feel better but the process itself can be uncomfortable.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "For some people it's absolutely normal to feel nervous about coming to therapy. \'a0 It's sometimes hard to share our emotions and feelings with someone --- no matter how warm and caring the therapist is. \'a0 \'a0 Are you comfortable with your therapist? \'a0Is it a good relational fit? \'a0 \'a0 \'a0Maybe this is a good thing to discuss with your specific therapist at the beginning of your next session --- maybe they can help you find some strategies or tools to make it easier?", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Well, it's generally okay to feel anxious or nervous about going into therapy, particularly in the beginning because the process of being open about what you are going through, much less to someone who you don't know well, can be anxiety-producing. It's also common to feel anxious when you are discussing something that is important, difficult to discuss, or you are making changes that are very difficult for you.The most important thing I can tell you, though, is to discuss with your therapist this idea that you feel nervous and shaky. Some anxiety can actually help to motivate or lead you toward change. There are also level of anxiety that can be counterproductive, so it's a good thing to discuss. Personally, I can tell you that I would want my clients to tell me about anxiety they feel 100% of the time. That opens the dialog to discuss whether it is the level of anxiety that they want to sit with and learn about in discovering more about themselves and their experiences and/or whether they would like to do something to lessen the feeling of anxiety.Thanks for writing here. If it caused anxiety for you to do so, I hope that feeling is diminishing for you, at least related to writing here.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Certainly.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "of \'a0I would love to know a little bit more about what's going on in your life but I will attempt an answer.Yes, you could still be shaky and nervous going to therapy. This therapy thing your doing is sometimes scary.\'a0First, because your opening up things that you might have never wanted to.\'a0Second, your still building a relationship with this therapist person. You may never get over that. The therapist really can't be your ""friend"". They are there to push the buttons that you might not want pushed and help you heal. \'a0That in itself is scary and can make you anxious.\'a0Third, you really never know where this therapy thing will go. Yes, there are goals. But sometimes side roads need to be taken and sometimes that is scary.Know this you are in the right place. You are taking steps to change.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It is absolutely a typical response.\'a0 Many of my clients are nervous the first couple of times we meet.\'a0 This is\'a0essentially a stranger\'a0with whom\'a0you are sharing\'a0your\'a0feelings.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It's normal to feel a little anxiety--after all it's an important encounter for you. \'a0My suggestion is to discuss this with your therapist, let him/her know how you're feeling, especially if you feel as though your level of anxiety is impacting the quality and benefit of your sessions. \'a0You might try some relaxation techniques prior to starting the session, deep breathing, progressive relaxation, core muscle dis-engagement--If you're not familiar with these techniques ask your therapist or write back.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Hello there.\'a0 You ask about being nervous and shaky walking in to your therapy session and want to know if its normal? ...\'a0 I realize there a few ways to look at this.\'a0 I presume you weren't\'a0anticipating feeling this way; and probably hoped to feel the opposite..\'a0 Well, my initial response is yes, sure, it can be within reason to feel this way.\'a0 Have you been in therapy before? Is this somewhat new? That could be part of the reason. But either way; new or not, I think when are entering into a meeting that holds potential evaluation of deep things about you and your heart and soul, it can cause anyone to tremble. The soul can be anticipating some things could be shaken up here, and it can feel scary to look at these things and then change.\'a0 Looking deep at our life can feel daunting and scary; so your response just might be regards to potential growth trying to happen.\'a0\'a0 OR, is there something about the therapist you don't feel confident about?\'a0 This too might be in play as a reason for your feelings...\'a0 Maybe you lack confidence in that therapist ?\'a0 Have you let your therapist know how you feel?\'a0 That would be good to explore...I would like to encourage you to look at these ideas.\'a0 Hope it helps.\'a0\'a0 Let me knowKindly,keithkeithcounseling.com", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | """Normal"" can be an insidious word to use because it can undermine your sense of worth. \'a0It implies there's one particular way you should be behaving and can leave you feeling crappy and ""abnormal"" if you're not behaving according to that prescribed standard. \'a0Instead, what I'd recommend is to pay attention to your emotional experiences when you're attending therapy. \'a0Explore your feelings and thoughts without judgement and try to reflect and understand what's going on that's causing you anxiety. \'a0Once you figure out the underlying meaning of the anxiety, you can figure out a way to handle it and action steps to take to diminish it.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "Everyone has different experiences going to therapy. Being nervous can be a typical emotion one might feel. Emotions are our body's way of telling us important information about ourselves. I would suggest talking openly in your sessions about this. That way you can process your thoughts and feelings with the guidance of your counselor. There are probably underlining emotions (fears or insecurities) that are being stirred up during your therapy sessions. Your counselor might suggest individual counseling depending on what you learn about your anxiety. In individual therapy you would have time to deal with your own stressors. As you address your issues, then you will have tools and skills that will be useful in addressing the couple relationship.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "I would be more concerned with how is this being addressed in therapy. Therapy can be a rewarding process, however often times we do not pay much attention to the messages being sent to our bodies. I believe in somatic therapy which deals with our mind & body connection. I would think it may not be a question of normal or abnormal however if it is impacting you then you must pay attention to that. It would be helpful to explore the feelings you're having \'a0with your therapist. It may be something that needs addressing to help alleviate those feelings or have a better understanding of why they are showing up when it is time for therapy.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Sounds like a lot is going on right now at such a young age. I'd start with discussing with mom your concerns and ideal situation. I'm unsure what prevents you from staying there, but whoever you are staying with, it should be brought to their attention. In regards to your anxiety attacks, deep breathing is always a benefits. I have a link you can use to help to do this online if you are interested. In addition, finding ways you usually cope with anxiety and what's worked before can help and if it isn't, exploring new way to calm you down can be beneficial. This is something you can speak with your therapist about going forward when they are available.In regards to feeling suicidal: I would call suicide prevention hotline (You can google them) if you truly feel the ideation is getting worse. They are professional agents who can speak with you about your ideation and help you through the process. Hope this helps.", | "It is totally normal - you have a lot riding on this and you're invested! Think about why you feel so shaky - is it something about the therapist or their style? If so, it would be a good idea to talk with them about it so you feel more at ease. In any case bringing up your feelings about therapy in\'a0therapy is totally appropriate and even necessary. Good luck!", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "At age 17, I think you are old enough to decide which parent you want to stay with full-time. I would gently and lovingly tell your father that you've decided to stay with your mother. You can offer to visit him regularly, if you'd like. Parents often have a hard time letting go and, especially in divorce situations, your dad might feel as though he's ""lost the battle"" if you go live with your mom. He might also feel he's lost you. If your dad is unrelenting and the situation unbearable, you can ask a judge to modify the custody agreement.", | "OK first things first. We have to think of your safety and take care of those thoughts of hurting yourself.Yes, this is a major problem for you and can cause anxiety and depression. You have the right to be sick and tired. Kids often are pawns in this marital problems that their parents have. I'm sorry that this is happening to you.I am not sure of your rights in the state you live in but as far as I know you as a 17 year old you have the right to stay where you want.\'a0So your'e going through an anxiety episode and your therapist is not available. \'a0If I'm the therapist we would have already set up a plan so that if you are in this situation you would know what to do. In the worst case scenario you would be able to contact me.But I would have given you several exercises to help reduce your anxiety.Staying with your mom should be your choice. I know you probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but there are ways to ease the tension. Maybe with your permission and their agreement, we all could meet together for a session or two to ease your tensions and get over and through this hassle.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "At age 17, I think you are old enough to decide which parent you want to stay with full-time. I would gently and lovingly tell your father that you've decided to stay with your mother. You can offer to visit him regularly, if you'd like. Parents often have a hard time letting go and, especially in divorce situations, your dad might feel as though he's ""lost the battle"" if you go live with your mom. He might also feel he's lost you. If your dad is unrelenting and the situation unbearable, you can ask a judge to modify the custody agreement.", | "Have you told either of your parents that the current house rotation of where you stay, bothers you?Since each parent has an interest to be together with you, I imagine that to some degree, each cares how you feel.If these conversations are not getting your problem solved, then maybe your therapist can have a family session with your parents together and depending on the outcome, with you and each parent.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "At age 17, I think you are old enough to decide which parent you want to stay with full-time. I would gently and lovingly tell your father that you've decided to stay with your mother. You can offer to visit him regularly, if you'd like. Parents often have a hard time letting go and, especially in divorce situations, your dad might feel as though he's ""lost the battle"" if you go live with your mom. He might also feel he's lost you. If your dad is unrelenting and the situation unbearable, you can ask a judge to modify the custody agreement.", | "I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorce can be so disruptive in a child's life.I'd really need a lot more information about your situation before I'd feel comfortable offering any advice or suggestions. There are so many variables, and not knowing the whole story, any advice could possibly make your situation worse.I do see some positives, though.\'a0One, you say you have a therapist. That's great! I hope you're able to talk to them about this soon. Still, they can't give you legal advice, and a lot of this situation may be dictated by the law. What your therapist can help with, though, is dealing with whatever situation you have to follow by law. If you can't change the situation, you at least need to learn how to cope with it better.\'a0Two, you're 17. When you're 18, you're legally an adult and will not be bound by any custody rules or visitation plans in place.\'a0Honestly, teenagers usually have a lot of say with the courts in custody arrangements. Since you didn't specify more on the situation, I have no idea what your specific situation is. Were your parents ever married? Are they separated or divorced? Was there ever a court hearing for custody? Not all couples have an official court order arrangement. All families are different, too. Was there abuse between your parents? Towards you by one of them? Does either of them have addiction issues, major health or mental health issues, or anything like that? You mentioned that you want to live with your mom, but didn't say why. Are you afraid to tell your dad you want to stay with your mom? Is mom the lenient and fun parent while dad is the more strict one, or is there something else going on? This isn't a decision that should be placed entirely on you, and it also isn't a decision that anyone else needs to make on your behalf without your input. But advice on what to do needs to come from the people who know more about your situation so they can help recommend the best thing for you.\'a0Whatever you do, hang in there! 18 will be here before you know it. Focus on that. Freedom. College. Plan for your future that YOU control, and focus on making it the best it can be. Do not let the anxiety and depression cloud your thoughts and make you do something irreversible.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "OK first things first. We have to think of your safety and take care of those thoughts of hurting yourself.Yes, this is a major problem for you and can cause anxiety and depression. You have the right to be sick and tired. Kids often are pawns in this marital problems that their parents have. I'm sorry that this is happening to you.I am not sure of your rights in the state you live in but as far as I know you as a 17 year old you have the right to stay where you want.\'a0So your'e going through an anxiety episode and your therapist is not available. \'a0If I'm the therapist we would have already set up a plan so that if you are in this situation you would know what to do. In the worst case scenario you would be able to contact me.But I would have given you several exercises to help reduce your anxiety.Staying with your mom should be your choice. I know you probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but there are ways to ease the tension. Maybe with your permission and their agreement, we all could meet together for a session or two to ease your tensions and get over and through this hassle.", | "Have you told either of your parents that the current house rotation of where you stay, bothers you?Since each parent has an interest to be together with you, I imagine that to some degree, each cares how you feel.If these conversations are not getting your problem solved, then maybe your therapist can have a family session with your parents together and depending on the outcome, with you and each parent.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "OK first things first. We have to think of your safety and take care of those thoughts of hurting yourself.Yes, this is a major problem for you and can cause anxiety and depression. You have the right to be sick and tired. Kids often are pawns in this marital problems that their parents have. I'm sorry that this is happening to you.I am not sure of your rights in the state you live in but as far as I know you as a 17 year old you have the right to stay where you want.\'a0So your'e going through an anxiety episode and your therapist is not available. \'a0If I'm the therapist we would have already set up a plan so that if you are in this situation you would know what to do. In the worst case scenario you would be able to contact me.But I would have given you several exercises to help reduce your anxiety.Staying with your mom should be your choice. I know you probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but there are ways to ease the tension. Maybe with your permission and their agreement, we all could meet together for a session or two to ease your tensions and get over and through this hassle.", | "I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorce can be so disruptive in a child's life.I'd really need a lot more information about your situation before I'd feel comfortable offering any advice or suggestions. There are so many variables, and not knowing the whole story, any advice could possibly make your situation worse.I do see some positives, though.\'a0One, you say you have a therapist. That's great! I hope you're able to talk to them about this soon. Still, they can't give you legal advice, and a lot of this situation may be dictated by the law. What your therapist can help with, though, is dealing with whatever situation you have to follow by law. If you can't change the situation, you at least need to learn how to cope with it better.\'a0Two, you're 17. When you're 18, you're legally an adult and will not be bound by any custody rules or visitation plans in place.\'a0Honestly, teenagers usually have a lot of say with the courts in custody arrangements. Since you didn't specify more on the situation, I have no idea what your specific situation is. Were your parents ever married? Are they separated or divorced? Was there ever a court hearing for custody? Not all couples have an official court order arrangement. All families are different, too. Was there abuse between your parents? Towards you by one of them? Does either of them have addiction issues, major health or mental health issues, or anything like that? You mentioned that you want to live with your mom, but didn't say why. Are you afraid to tell your dad you want to stay with your mom? Is mom the lenient and fun parent while dad is the more strict one, or is there something else going on? This isn't a decision that should be placed entirely on you, and it also isn't a decision that anyone else needs to make on your behalf without your input. But advice on what to do needs to come from the people who know more about your situation so they can help recommend the best thing for you.\'a0Whatever you do, hang in there! 18 will be here before you know it. Focus on that. Freedom. College. Plan for your future that YOU control, and focus on making it the best it can be. Do not let the anxiety and depression cloud your thoughts and make you do something irreversible.", |
I don't want to keep going back and forth between my parents' housesI'm and I'm sick and tired of going back and forth. I'd like to stay at my mother's house. This problem has really affected me. I've had anxiety attacks and suicidal thoughts and self-harm in the past. Currently I'm going through anxiety and my thearapist is not available. How do I handle this? | "Have you told either of your parents that the current house rotation of where you stay, bothers you?Since each parent has an interest to be together with you, I imagine that to some degree, each cares how you feel.If these conversations are not getting your problem solved, then maybe your therapist can have a family session with your parents together and depending on the outcome, with you and each parent.", | "I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. Divorce can be so disruptive in a child's life.I'd really need a lot more information about your situation before I'd feel comfortable offering any advice or suggestions. There are so many variables, and not knowing the whole story, any advice could possibly make your situation worse.I do see some positives, though.\'a0One, you say you have a therapist. That's great! I hope you're able to talk to them about this soon. Still, they can't give you legal advice, and a lot of this situation may be dictated by the law. What your therapist can help with, though, is dealing with whatever situation you have to follow by law. If you can't change the situation, you at least need to learn how to cope with it better.\'a0Two, you're 17. When you're 18, you're legally an adult and will not be bound by any custody rules or visitation plans in place.\'a0Honestly, teenagers usually have a lot of say with the courts in custody arrangements. Since you didn't specify more on the situation, I have no idea what your specific situation is. Were your parents ever married? Are they separated or divorced? Was there ever a court hearing for custody? Not all couples have an official court order arrangement. All families are different, too. Was there abuse between your parents? Towards you by one of them? Does either of them have addiction issues, major health or mental health issues, or anything like that? You mentioned that you want to live with your mom, but didn't say why. Are you afraid to tell your dad you want to stay with your mom? Is mom the lenient and fun parent while dad is the more strict one, or is there something else going on? This isn't a decision that should be placed entirely on you, and it also isn't a decision that anyone else needs to make on your behalf without your input. But advice on what to do needs to come from the people who know more about your situation so they can help recommend the best thing for you.\'a0Whatever you do, hang in there! 18 will be here before you know it. Focus on that. Freedom. College. Plan for your future that YOU control, and focus on making it the best it can be. Do not let the anxiety and depression cloud your thoughts and make you do something irreversible.", |
How do I cope with separation anxiety while boyfriend is out of town?"I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. He recently got a new job and travels a lot. I\'m not used to him being gone all the time. I feel as though he has forgotten about me because he does not talk with me as much and doesn\'t keep me up to date on everything that he does throughout the day which he used to.\
I feel lost sad and unwanted. This is really a tough new challenge. I just want to break up with him but I love him so much. I don\'t know why he is acting this way lately. I believe I have separation anxiety. Is there anything that I can do to help me cope with this while he is out of town?" | "In a way, yes, you have separation anxiety. It's normal in a relationship for us to slow down a bit with the attachment behaviours that establish and deepen love and connection. So, just because your boyfriend isn't talking as much or keeping you up-to-date doesn't necessarily mean what you fear it means...that he's forgotten about you or loves you less. It could mean quite the opposite...that he's focused on being successful in his new job and impressing you. He may think he's loving you more, but you feel loved less. You have two jobs to do here. The first is to manage your anxiety by ""talking back"" to the thoughts it puts into your head. It sounds like ""It's normal to be insecure, but I have tons of evidence that he loves me and that I mean the world to him..."" Find that evidence that helps you refute what anxiety is trying to claim. The second part of your job is to let him know what you need. You need more affection and connection during this period when he's away (more texts, phone calls, information). It's okay to want that, and I am sure he will be relieved to know exactly what he can do to help you feel secure and calm when he's away.", | "First step is to tell your boyfriend the reasons you feel upset.This way he has a chance to answer your questions as to why he doesn't keep in touch.His responses will guide your next steps.There is a difference between his unavailability due to a heavy workload or because he has less interest in the relationship.In order to work with his current behavior you first need to find out why it is happening.", |
How do I cope with separation anxiety while boyfriend is out of town?"I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. He recently got a new job and travels a lot. I\'m not used to him being gone all the time. I feel as though he has forgotten about me because he does not talk with me as much and doesn\'t keep me up to date on everything that he does throughout the day which he used to.\
I feel lost sad and unwanted. This is really a tough new challenge. I just want to break up with him but I love him so much. I don\'t know why he is acting this way lately. I believe I have separation anxiety. Is there anything that I can do to help me cope with this while he is out of town?" | "In a way, yes, you have separation anxiety. It's normal in a relationship for us to slow down a bit with the attachment behaviours that establish and deepen love and connection. So, just because your boyfriend isn't talking as much or keeping you up-to-date doesn't necessarily mean what you fear it means...that he's forgotten about you or loves you less. It could mean quite the opposite...that he's focused on being successful in his new job and impressing you. He may think he's loving you more, but you feel loved less. You have two jobs to do here. The first is to manage your anxiety by ""talking back"" to the thoughts it puts into your head. It sounds like ""It's normal to be insecure, but I have tons of evidence that he loves me and that I mean the world to him..."" Find that evidence that helps you refute what anxiety is trying to claim. The second part of your job is to let him know what you need. You need more affection and connection during this period when he's away (more texts, phone calls, information). It's okay to want that, and I am sure he will be relieved to know exactly what he can do to help you feel secure and calm when he's away.", | "Consider talking with your boyfriend about times that you may be able to talk together while he is away. This way, you have an idea when you'll be able to contact him. Does he recognize the feelings that you have while he is away? How do you feel when you are together with him and he is home?I'm also curious as to how the level of your anxiety (on a scale of 1 to 10, perhaps) changes during the parts of his trips. Maybe there are certain parts that are more or less related to anxiety for you. Perhaps you have less anxiety while working or involved in a specific activity, for example, spending time with friends.When you are both in the same area (when your boyfriend is not traveling), do you do some things independently with friends?\'a0Do you know what leads to your anxiety when he is away? I don't know whether it is a general feeling of wanting him to come back or anxiety that something specific will happen to you or him.Do you ever recall feeling this way in your past? If so, what was happening then?What do you have that makes you feel very safe and comfortable?Consider working with a mental health professional in the area. Perhaps it would be helpful for the two of you to meet with a therapist who specializes in couples to see what kind of relationship you want to have and what you can each do to contribute to that relationship. There could be things that you could both start or stop doing to help your relationship move in the direction where you would like it to go. As an example, perhaps you would like a text before your boyfriend goes to bed, no matter what time zone or time of day it is. Perhaps he would prefer a good morning text or call/voicemail from you.", |
How do I cope with separation anxiety while boyfriend is out of town?"I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. He recently got a new job and travels a lot. I\'m not used to him being gone all the time. I feel as though he has forgotten about me because he does not talk with me as much and doesn\'t keep me up to date on everything that he does throughout the day which he used to.\
I feel lost sad and unwanted. This is really a tough new challenge. I just want to break up with him but I love him so much. I don\'t know why he is acting this way lately. I believe I have separation anxiety. Is there anything that I can do to help me cope with this while he is out of town?" | "First step is to tell your boyfriend the reasons you feel upset.This way he has a chance to answer your questions as to why he doesn't keep in touch.His responses will guide your next steps.There is a difference between his unavailability due to a heavy workload or because he has less interest in the relationship.In order to work with his current behavior you first need to find out why it is happening.", | "Consider talking with your boyfriend about times that you may be able to talk together while he is away. This way, you have an idea when you'll be able to contact him. Does he recognize the feelings that you have while he is away? How do you feel when you are together with him and he is home?I'm also curious as to how the level of your anxiety (on a scale of 1 to 10, perhaps) changes during the parts of his trips. Maybe there are certain parts that are more or less related to anxiety for you. Perhaps you have less anxiety while working or involved in a specific activity, for example, spending time with friends.When you are both in the same area (when your boyfriend is not traveling), do you do some things independently with friends?\'a0Do you know what leads to your anxiety when he is away? I don't know whether it is a general feeling of wanting him to come back or anxiety that something specific will happen to you or him.Do you ever recall feeling this way in your past? If so, what was happening then?What do you have that makes you feel very safe and comfortable?Consider working with a mental health professional in the area. Perhaps it would be helpful for the two of you to meet with a therapist who specializes in couples to see what kind of relationship you want to have and what you can each do to contribute to that relationship. There could be things that you could both start or stop doing to help your relationship move in the direction where you would like it to go. As an example, perhaps you would like a text before your boyfriend goes to bed, no matter what time zone or time of day it is. Perhaps he would prefer a good morning text or call/voicemail from you.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First, congratulations on your new job.\'a0 Apparently your employers think highly of you, since they hired you!You say that ""people keep telling"" you that you have ""anxiety"" - how do they know?\'a0 Have you told others you are sometimes upset or nervous?\'a0 Have you been treated for anxiety?\'a0 Or is that a perception that others have that you haven't been able to counter?It's a new job, and it requires you to do new things, in new places, with new people.\'a0 Being nervous is not just normal, it may actually help you be on your toes and do a good job.\'a0 Unless YOU think you have anxiety, do not let others predict your future.If you believe you are anxious, get in to see a therapist and address it.\'a0 Anxiety is very treatable, and you don't have to suffer with it - but you do have to acknowledge it and work towards health.However....If, in\'a0 your experience, this is more a nervous energy than an anxiety issue, there are things you can do to address it:\'a0 Make sure you take good care of yourself, especially in the first month or two of the new job.\'a0 That means eating well, getting adequate rest, moving your body (walking, swimming, dancing, etc) every day, and staying in touch with friends and family who are positive and supportive.Below is an article I wrote that might give you more tips too.A quick way to combat stressDo you ever feel like your brain is""bouncy"" and won't settle down?\'a0Your brain, that magnificent machine, is notmuch different than the brain that kept your ancestors alive in dangeroussituations.\'a0\'a0Today, though you may notneed to worry about a mountain lion having you for dinner, other stresses areperceived and processed just you\'92re the physical dangers your ancestors faced.That means a looming deadline or a fight withyour partner creates the same ""fight/flight/freeze"" response thatsaved your ancestor way back in the day.\'a0If you ""burned off"" that adrenaline and cortisol cocktail byrunning or fighting off a predator, you would feel the relief and exhaustionbut you would have also metabolized the stress chemicals that are meant to keepyou alive.\'a0However, when there is no physical response tothe stressor your body is ""all wound up with no place to go"".\'a0\'a0Over time this creates not only the""bouncy brain"" feeling of distractibility and distress, but canmanifest itself in physical ailments.It\'92s impossible to avoid stress forever, butsometimes you just need a way to relieve the pressures of life for a moment.Here's a quick way to settle your brain into a feeling of rest instead ofdistress:Put one hand on your chest at collarbone leveland one on your belly just under your naval.\'a0Now, take a slow deep breath filling your abdomen with air, just likeyou would fill a glass with water...from the bottom up.\'a0\'a0When you are full of air, pause for just amoment and really feel the fullness.\'a0Then slowly exhale, just like you would pour water out, from the topdown.\'a0\'a0Pause again at ""empty""and feel the relief of space.\'a0\'a0Repeat for5-10 cycles.If you find yourself feeling stressed anddistressed too often, and you are a California resident, let\'92s talk!\'a0\'a0Book a complimentary 15 minute video consulthere:\'a0abalancedapproach.com", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Its understandable to have anxiety when transitioning to a new job/career or any other major life change. Doing some mindfulness activities such as deep breathing exercises, grounding, or mindfulness meditation can help center and calm yourself in moments of anxiety when being away from your family.It may also be helpful to make a list of your concerns or fears about being away from your family. What are you afraid will happen while you are away? Once you've identified those fears you can challenge them and determine whether they are based on fact or your emotions.", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Hi,\'a0It is really good that you are working so hard to take care of your family. Anxiety can be so challenging, especially when new challenges have come up. It would be good to work through some of these issues you are experiencing, and examine your self care and support processes.", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: often, when we know how we might deal with a situation, the situation doesn't manifest.\'a0On a more broad scope, though, tools to minimize anxious feelings abound: there are apps (headspace or happify for example) therapy helps, and tools like yoga and meditation can help reduce anxious feelings too.\'a0Safe travels~", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. \'a0Here are a few ""tools"" you can use that will help in the short term: \'a0Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; \'a0Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a cooler beside you, which you may take out and hold in your hand or to your face; Soothing self-talk such as ""This is uncomfortable, but I can handle it"" or ""I've been through this before and can make it through again"". \'a0I recommend that you seek out a Therapist to help you with some long-term solutions to the anxiety. \'a0Additionally, learning to breathe into the abdomen and practicing this daily is another long-term solution. \'a0Yoga and meditation would be great!", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking.\'a0Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend that was turning to you for help, what solutions would you have offered them, but also continue to seek to secure right support as well. Talking to your physician is always a good place to start; your physician can tell you if there are organic influences causing your anxiety that may be out of your control. Additionally, talking to close or compassionate family and friends is always good. It is important that you turn to supportive people at the time of emotional need, talking about our challenges can help break the cycle of anxiety at least momentarily.\'a0Remember, to further your success, it requires a healthy self, if you have supportive relationships relying on and turning to people who can be there without judgment is great. Healthy lifestyle\'a0like eating right, sleeping enough, and regular exercise also never fails to help improve overall emotional health.\'a0Additional self-care\'a0measures such as repeated relaxation practices can help you become more familiar with your nervous systems reactivity and you can implement strategies to ease anxiety in various situations as it demands. The more resources the better you will be equipped to manage challenges and concerns at the time notice. \'a0You can find a lot from the internet too, use your\'a0best judgment as what may not be appropriate for you there are some wonderful apps on most smartphones that can help you learn and practice grounding strategies to ease anxiety.\'a0If you have access to a therapy you find more specific strategies that would best fit your needs. Good luck, wish you a happy journey and much success.", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. \'a0This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. \'a0I recommend\'a0visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and working to unravel those causes piece by piece. I know seeing a therapist can be challenging when traveling, and online counseling could be a good solution. In the meantime, here are a few of my favorite anxiety stopping strategies. \'a01. Grounding Exercises: When you feel your anxiety increasing, take a deep breath and begin things in your room (or where ever you are) that have things in common. For example, name all of the blue things that you can see. \'a0You can also do non-visual grounding\'a0exercises like\'a0naming all of the hte\'a0sports teams you can think of or all of the state capitals. \'a0This will get your mind off of your anxiety and connect you to space. \'a02. The pretzel: This is a seated pose that will stop any anxiety attack in its tracks. \'a0Start in a seated position and cross your dominate leg over your nondominant leg. Then, stretch your arms out in front of you with the back of your hands facing one another. \'a0Cross your arms in front of each other so that your palms are touching. \'a0Flip your arms into your body. \'a0You will end with your elbows by your side and your hands crossed under your chin. \'a0Close your eyes and take long breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. \'a0This calming pose will help you get through even the toughest of panic episodes. 3. Bilateral stimulation and visualization: Start in a seated position with your hands placed on your knees. Tap each knee in an alternating pattern. Close your eyes and begin visualizing a peaceful setting. The combination of bilateral stimulation and visualization will help calm your body and mind. \'a0I could go on and on, but these techniques should get you started. \'a0These techniques should help you manage anxiety in a pinch. \'a0Best of luck!", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "It is ok to have anxiety. \'a0 Please don't be anxious about being anxious.If you feel anxiety coming over you, then pull off the road to a safe place. \'a0 Concentrate on centering yourself and to breath slowly. \'a0 Take some sips of water. \'a0Sit still. \'a0 \'a0 The anxiety should pass in about twenty minutes.If it does not pass, then continue calming yourself until you feel safe enough to drive to your hotel. \'a0 \'a0 You can always explain to your supervisor that you were taking care of a medical problem, because anxiety is a medical problem.", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
I'm worried about my new job"I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.\
People keep telling me I have ""anxiety"" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do?" | "Anxiety often occurs when big or unexpected changes come to our lives, like having new jobs, relocating, or assuming new roles. Notice if your anxiety feels like excitement, concerns, or fear.It seems like you are excited about your new job, but worried because OTHERS are telling you that you have anxiety.\'a0\'a0 Let's notice how other\'91s input is affecting your thoughts and maybe causing more anxiety that you may really have. \'a0\'a0If you are indeed experiencing anxiety, that does not mean that you will have panic attacks.\'a0\'a0 But if you are experiencing panic attacks, or suffer them at some point, you could learn how to reduce them either with therapy or medication.You can learn how to process it depending what triggers it and channel it, in a useful way.\'a0 For example, you could plan a schedule around your new job and be meticulous about it because you are worried about how your new job may affect your routine, or, you could feel overwhelmed with your schedule, focus on the feeling, but not do anything about it.\'a0 Notice the difference?\'a0 The key is in recognizing if you are anxious about something that you can change or have control over it, and take action if you do, and recognizing when you cannot control things and be OK with not being in control.I teach clients how to use meditation and cognitive reframing techniques to help calm anxiety symptoms.\'a0 If you are interested in engaging in counseling or teletherapy you may contact me at 787-466-5478.I wish you success on your new journey!Estoy preocupada por mi nuevo trabajoLa gente me dice que tengo ansiedad y estoy aterrorizada de tener un ataque de p\'e1nico en la carretera.\'a0 Esto es nuevo par a m\'ed. \'bfQue puedo hacer?La ansiedad ocurre com\'fanmente cuando llegan cambios grandes o inesperados en nuestras vidas, como tener un nuevo empleo, mudarse o asumir nuevos roles.Al parecer est\'e1s emocionada por tu nuevo trabajo, pero preocupada por que OTROS te dicen que tienes ansiedad.\'a0 Notemos como la opini\'f3n de otros esta influenciando tus pensamientos y tal vez te puede estar causando m\'e1s ansiedad de lo que realmente tienes.\'a0 Si realmente estas pasando por un periodo de ansiedad, no es necesario que vayas a experimentar ataques de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Pero si ya los haz experimentado puedes utilizar terapia o medicamentos para controlarlos.Nota si tu ansiedad se siente emocionante, preocupada o temerosa.\'a0 Puedes aprender a procesar estos sentimientos dependiendo que pensamiento los causen y canalizar la ansiedad de manera productiva.\'a0 Por ejemplo: te puedes enfocar en organizar una agenda porque te preocupa como tu nuevo empleo afectara tu rutina diaria.\'a0 O te puedes sentir agobio respecto a c\'f3mo tu trabajo afecta tu rutina, y no hace nada m\'e1s que preocuparte constantemente.\'a0 \'bfNotas la diferencia?\'a0 La clave est\'e1 en saber cu\'e1ndo te preocupas \'a0por algo que puedes cambiar, y tomar acci\'f3n; vs. cuando te preocupas \'a0por algo que no puedes cambiar y aceptar que no lo puedes cambiar.Le ense\'f1o a mis pacientes a\'a0 usar t\'e9cnicas de meditaci\'f3n y re enfoque cognitivo para manejar s\'edntomas de ansiedad\'a0 y desorden de p\'e1nico.\'a0 Si te interesa una cita de consejer\'eda o tele-terapia me puedes contactar al 787-466-5478.\'a0\'a1Mucho \'e9xito en tu nueva jornada!", | "There are lots of things you can do, but first: Congratulations on your new job! \'a0Commuting long distances can be stressful, but there are some things you can do.First, make sure that your seating arrangement in your car is comfortable. If you are driving long distances on a regular basis, you want to make sure that your body is in a comfortable position. Second, select some music or podcasts that work for you, rather than against you. Soothing music is good, as well as inspirational podcasts. Alternatively, listening to books can be a great way to spend the time, improve your mood, and find inspiration. Third, make sure that you have plenty of time for your commute. If the drive normally takes you 30 minutes, plan on 45 (or if it's 45 minutes, plan on an hour). This way you won't be rushed, can take your time, can focus on your driving, and if traffic is a bit backed up, you've got plenty of time to reach your destination.Finally, if you do find yourself being anxious in a way that impedes your driving, pull over to the side of the road, take some deep breaths, and sit with your feelings. Take a deep drink of water. Consider jotting your feelings down in a journal. If its safe, get out of the car and walk around a bit, stretching you muscles and breathing in the air.But most of all, be kind to yourself. I wish you much success in your new job.", |
How can I learn to be content and at peace?"I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over years. I truly believe I did the right thing but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.\
I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.\
How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career relationship status etc?" | "Moving on from a long term relationship can be difficult. \'a0Sometimes we can lose a sense of who we are because in a way we have become defined by the relationship itself. \'a0So, when we begin to move on and see other people, our sense of identity may be obscured. \'a0The tendency is to seek out validation to give us a feeling of worthiness. \'a0 That it's ok to move on and be happy. \'a0 This is a relatively normal reaction. \'a0It's important to treat yourself with kindness and compassion through this time in your life. \'a0Mindful self-compassion can be a great way to begin the process of getting that sense of who you are back and what you want in a relationship. \'a0I think its important to look back, learn what you can from the previous relationship, and become a better person for it in the future. \'a0At the same time, taking the necessary time to nuture yourself on a mind, body, and spirit level. Self-compassion allows you to turn inward and except all facets of who you are. \'a0It improves your capacity for love, vulnerability, emotional openness, social interconnectedness, and self-respect. \'a0My philosophy is holistic, collaborative, and accepting. \'a0The cornerstone of my treatment philosophy is mindfulness and other evidenced based integrative modalities. \'a0I work as your ally to help you cultivate abundant self-compassion in your life, so that you can have the types of relationships you want.", | "A break up, even one that you initiated, may deserve some time and space to allow it to be complete.There's a few ideas I'll throw out there and you can choose if they stick.\'a0 One is to re-invest in the friendships you have by setting up regular coffee get-togethers for example.\'a0 Two, get out in nature.\'a0 It's hard to ignore how grand and patient nature is, and it sometimes takes the pressure off what we should be and instead allows us to be.\'a0 And the last one I'll throw out there is to invest your time and energy in a project or achievement you've wanted to do for a while, but that perhaps you didn't have the time to.\'a0 Something related to a hobby such as sports or music, or related to your career.\'a0 Something that is 'for' you.\'a0\'a0Life knocks us off balance at times, and that's ok.\'a0 Self-questioning during these times can be a healthy endeavor.\'a0 Should you follow any of the advice on this website, continue to be kind to yourself about what you're feeling, and curious about why you're feeling that way.", |
How can I learn to be content and at peace?"I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over years. I truly believe I did the right thing but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.\
I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.\
How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career relationship status etc?" | "Moving on from a long term relationship can be difficult. \'a0Sometimes we can lose a sense of who we are because in a way we have become defined by the relationship itself. \'a0So, when we begin to move on and see other people, our sense of identity may be obscured. \'a0The tendency is to seek out validation to give us a feeling of worthiness. \'a0 That it's ok to move on and be happy. \'a0 This is a relatively normal reaction. \'a0It's important to treat yourself with kindness and compassion through this time in your life. \'a0Mindful self-compassion can be a great way to begin the process of getting that sense of who you are back and what you want in a relationship. \'a0I think its important to look back, learn what you can from the previous relationship, and become a better person for it in the future. \'a0At the same time, taking the necessary time to nuture yourself on a mind, body, and spirit level. Self-compassion allows you to turn inward and except all facets of who you are. \'a0It improves your capacity for love, vulnerability, emotional openness, social interconnectedness, and self-respect. \'a0My philosophy is holistic, collaborative, and accepting. \'a0The cornerstone of my treatment philosophy is mindfulness and other evidenced based integrative modalities. \'a0I work as your ally to help you cultivate abundant self-compassion in your life, so that you can have the types of relationships you want.", | "Possibly you haven't completed your phase of mourning the recently passed relationship and lifestyle which surrounded it.Relationship breakups mean a person's entire life goes through an adjustment since the relationship impacted all areas of your life.Give yourself some patience to restore yourself from the old relationship.\'a0When you feel whole again then more than likely you will lose some of the anxiety wondering what your new casual partner feels about you.And instead of wondering, \'a0you may simply decide to ask the person your question!", |
How can I learn to be content and at peace?"I recently broke up with my boyfriend After being together for over years. I truly believe I did the right thing but omehow being single now has made me very needy and unsure of myself.\
I am seeing someone casually and I am losing my mind with anxiety about how he feels about me and this need for validation.\
How can I learn to be content and at peace with myself regardless of my career relationship status etc?" | "Possibly you haven't completed your phase of mourning the recently passed relationship and lifestyle which surrounded it.Relationship breakups mean a person's entire life goes through an adjustment since the relationship impacted all areas of your life.Give yourself some patience to restore yourself from the old relationship.\'a0When you feel whole again then more than likely you will lose some of the anxiety wondering what your new casual partner feels about you.And instead of wondering, \'a0you may simply decide to ask the person your question!", | "A break up, even one that you initiated, may deserve some time and space to allow it to be complete.There's a few ideas I'll throw out there and you can choose if they stick.\'a0 One is to re-invest in the friendships you have by setting up regular coffee get-togethers for example.\'a0 Two, get out in nature.\'a0 It's hard to ignore how grand and patient nature is, and it sometimes takes the pressure off what we should be and instead allows us to be.\'a0 And the last one I'll throw out there is to invest your time and energy in a project or achievement you've wanted to do for a while, but that perhaps you didn't have the time to.\'a0 Something related to a hobby such as sports or music, or related to your career.\'a0 Something that is 'for' you.\'a0\'a0Life knocks us off balance at times, and that's ok.\'a0 Self-questioning during these times can be a healthy endeavor.\'a0 Should you follow any of the advice on this website, continue to be kind to yourself about what you're feeling, and curious about why you're feeling that way.", |
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