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[1634.86 --> 1635.54] I think one of the most
[1635.54 --> 1636.46] destructive things
[1636.46 --> 1637.16] and unhealthy things
[1637.16 --> 1638.10] we can do in conflict
[1638.10 --> 1639.50] is to isolate
[1639.50 --> 1641.12] and it's tempting
[1641.12 --> 1642.00] by the way to isolate.
[1642.10 --> 1642.62] If you're in community
[1642.62 --> 1643.16] and there's sin
[1643.16 --> 1644.02] and you've been hurt,
[1644.20 --> 1645.20] you want to pull back
[1645.20 --> 1645.94] because you've been hurt
[1645.94 --> 1647.14] and then you're stuck
[1647.14 --> 1647.86] in your own head.
[1648.56 --> 1649.18] Then you're stuck
[1649.18 --> 1650.28] rehearsing the same things
[1650.28 --> 1651.46] over and over and over
[1651.46 --> 1652.36] thinking about
[1652.36 --> 1653.26] what you should have said,
[1653.34 --> 1654.08] thinking about how much
[1654.08 --> 1655.24] they have sinned against you
[1655.24 --> 1656.00] and you're just stuck.
[1656.54 --> 1657.68] You need brothers and sisters
[1657.68 --> 1659.04] who love you
[1659.04 --> 1660.68] to encourage you,
[1660.88 --> 1662.00] to pull you back
[1662.00 --> 1662.64] into community,
[1662.92 --> 1664.34] to keep you from bitterness
[1664.34 --> 1665.74] that will take root
[1665.74 --> 1666.64] when you're in isolation
[1666.64 --> 1668.98] and in some cases,
[1669.54 --> 1670.08] rebuke you.
[1671.46 --> 1672.56] Rebuke you for thinking
[1672.56 --> 1673.50] you're judgmental,
[1673.76 --> 1675.06] for they deserve your vengeance,
[1675.30 --> 1676.22] for thinking you don't need
[1676.22 --> 1676.78] to forgive them,
[1676.84 --> 1677.42] for thinking you're
[1677.42 --> 1678.70] that much better than you are.
[1678.70 --> 1679.54] There are times
[1679.54 --> 1680.10] where you need
[1680.10 --> 1680.86] brothers and sisters
[1680.86 --> 1681.96] holding the scriptures
[1681.96 --> 1682.94] in their hands saying,
[1683.60 --> 1684.18] this is what Jesus
[1684.18 --> 1685.12] invites us into.
[1685.88 --> 1686.42] Are you willing
[1686.42 --> 1687.32] to walk with us
[1687.32 --> 1688.52] in the path of forgiveness?
[1690.92 --> 1691.88] And thirdly,
[1692.48 --> 1693.72] as I've already mentioned,
[1693.82 --> 1694.32] I think it needs
[1694.32 --> 1694.98] to be said again.
[1695.94 --> 1697.56] Matthew 18 demands forgiveness.
[1697.94 --> 1698.82] It demands that we
[1698.82 --> 1700.04] be people who extend
[1700.04 --> 1701.28] the extravagant grace
[1701.28 --> 1701.74] of Jesus.
[1702.68 --> 1704.00] But that doesn't necessarily
[1704.00 --> 1705.58] make it instant or easy.
[1705.58 --> 1708.40] And it is okay
[1708.40 --> 1711.40] if time is needed
[1711.40 --> 1713.30] for forgiveness.
[1714.40 --> 1715.80] And I say that specifically
[1715.80 --> 1716.80] to people who have been
[1716.80 --> 1718.10] seriously wounded
[1718.10 --> 1719.00] by others.
[1719.40 --> 1720.78] And there are many of us.
[1721.16 --> 1722.02] The wounds run deep.
[1722.10 --> 1723.10] It's not hard to forgive
[1723.10 --> 1723.92] small offenses.
[1724.14 --> 1724.62] You know, you think of
[1724.62 --> 1725.32] in a family unit
[1725.32 --> 1726.24] with kids and all the rest.
[1726.66 --> 1727.54] Sometimes we do things
[1727.54 --> 1728.60] as, I forgive you,
[1728.66 --> 1729.38] I love you, it's okay.
[1729.48 --> 1730.18] There's other times
[1730.18 --> 1731.66] where you are crushed
[1731.66 --> 1732.86] to the core.
[1732.86 --> 1735.16] And you can't even imagine
[1735.16 --> 1735.90] what it looks like
[1735.90 --> 1736.68] to forgive someone.
[1737.66 --> 1738.74] And you hear this passage
[1738.74 --> 1739.80] and think, oh man.
[1740.10 --> 1741.10] And what you need to do
[1741.10 --> 1742.48] perhaps in these circumstances
[1742.48 --> 1743.58] is say, I know that's
[1743.58 --> 1744.02] the command,
[1744.16 --> 1745.10] I know that's the invitation,
[1745.58 --> 1746.34] and I'm going to take
[1746.34 --> 1747.20] the baby steps
[1747.20 --> 1748.96] to get to that place.
[1749.02 --> 1749.98] I want to get there.
[1750.38 --> 1751.42] I'm looking forward
[1751.42 --> 1752.40] to one day getting there.
[1752.46 --> 1752.94] I'm just going to take
[1752.94 --> 1754.14] the baby steps of prayer,
[1754.46 --> 1755.46] of being in the church,
[1755.72 --> 1756.74] of listening to the scriptures,