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100 | I’ve been seeing a girl for nearly 3 months now. We see eachother a lot, maybe abit to much but all in all it’s going well enough. But i’m not starting to wonder if i want anything to do with her anymore. I feel recently she has done a few things to set of my red flag alarms, little things like taking her phone to very... | She’s probably cheating. Your gut is almost always right. Been there. She was cheating. Oh yeah and the other one. She was cheating. | You're thinking about breaking up and asking strangers instead of asking her? You two seem to hit it off well. | Commentator's opinion | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | evaluation |
101 | I have a history with disordered eating. My husband recently has become very healthy in terms of food choices. He started only eating one meal a day about a year ago. He now wants to give up refined sugar completely (no dessert, no fruit, no bread, no pasta) and only eat whole grains, protein, and vegetables. He wants ... | Your husband is also exhibiting disordered eating, and will likely deny it. His hyper-controlled approach to food is not healthy for children at all, and puts them at high risk for eating disorders.
I wonder if a “neutral expert” could persuade him, your pediatrician, or a pediatric dietician. | I don't think there's anything wrong with HIM sticking to whole grains, protein, and vegetables, but he is bonkers crazy for trying to impose that on you and WORSE, your children. That is so incredibly unhealthy for him to even consider doing that.
DO NOT allow him to do this to your children. They will be binging ju... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | evaluation |
102 | My fiancée (28F) is a first generation French immigrant who moved to the US for college 10 years ago and became a US citizen 4 years ago.
Her parents and grandparents all still live in France and she visits them a few times a year. I went with her on a trip to France after we got engaged and had been together for a y... | The real question is how is your Fiancée handling her racist family? It’s not great she didn’t prepare you in advance. Does she plan to keep contact? How much contact? | Her family is crappy, but to spring that situation on you with no warning was really bad judgement. Like really bad judgement.
If that doesn’t give you second thoughts, I think maybe some counseling or a neutral third party (cause counseling is expensive in US) is in order to go over the implications of how this will... | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
104 | I’ve been seeing someone for a few months, and things have been great so far!
Over the past few days, something about our text conversations just seems..off?
I’m not sure if I’m getting too in my head; or if there are subtle signs that this person may be giving via text that he’s no longer interested.
From a male... | For me, if I'm not interested, I'll just tell you that I don't feel a romantic connection and I'll end it.
But, I suppose if I'm headed that way but haven't made a decision, I'll be texting less often, I won't be making future plans, I won't be as available, my communications will be less personal, no more flirting, ... | it wouldnt be so much in what i would say, but more so in what i'd do in my actions.
the conversation would become more friendly, i'd stop using words like "babe", i'd probably msg less often n even avoiding, i would cancel plans more often n say im busy.
i guess to summarize everything in two words: friendly and avo... | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | evaluation |
106 | Let’s set the scene. It’s May and I’m talking to this girl, let’s call her Ashley, and she eventually confessed that she likes me. While I would call this a W for me, I’m concerned on if I’m breaking bro code. One of my bros, call him Joey, and her were in a talking stage for a little bit way back in September, but it ... | He shut it down, right?
You're clear, dude. He moved on. | I spoke to the other Bros, and after further review the ruling on the field is confirmed. No violation is detected, proceed with your courtship. | Commentator's opinion | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | evaluation |
108 | I was chatting to a girl on tagged (dating app), she wanted to move the chat to telegram, once i chatted to her on telegram she told me that do I want a sugar mummy, she sent me 4 photos of hot ladies and she said pick one and I'll will meet her and have sex with her and then get paid $5000, I'm tempted to check it out... | So this woman randomly offered to make you into a prostitute?
I'm no expert, but I'm 1000% sure that's not on the level. | The fact that you even considered this might be a real thing and not an attempt to, at the very least, steal a kidney from you is legitimately one of the funniest things I've heard in weeks.
That being said, you should check it out! | Sarcasm | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | evaluation |
111 | I (20F) like this guy (20M) but I am several inches taller. I’m 178cm (5’10) and I would estimate he is 165 cm (5’5). The height difference does not bother me at all but I am worried he might not like it. I do not know how to make it known I like him and the height difference is not a big deal.
I have talked to guys... | Short fella here, I feel hella good when an Amazon likes me back | Talk to him the way you would anyone else you wanted to date. Don't mention height unless he asks. | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
113 | My girlfriend quit vaping two months ago. Since then, I've frequently reminded her of how proud I am of her and I assure her I am here to support her in any way. Recently, she has been undergoing a lot of stress from a summer job leading to burnout. Today, she has been expressing to me how much she wants to buy a new v... | kind of sounds like to me she's actually looking to you for support in not buying a vape. Doing something like this by yourself is very difficult, and it's usually very helpful to have somebody you're held accountable to. It almost sounds like she wants you to talk her out of getting a vape? Have you asked her if this ... | Hey there! It sounds like you're in a tough spot. You're doing great by supporting your girlfriend through this. Let her know you're proud of her progress without vaping and that you'll support her no matter what. Encourage her to find healthier ways to cope with stress. Keep reminding her that your love is uncondition... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
116 | I (23f) have been seeing this guy (26m) for about a month and a half. We hang out 3-4 times a week, talk a bit, have hooked up, and he acts like we are in a relationship. well, i decided to ask the “so what are we” question and he said:
“If you want to know how I feel, i definitely like you and enjoy your company alwa... | there's no timetable for him to be ready to be in another relationship. i wouldnt wait around. he basically wants a fwb situation.
you can say something like this(assuming you are looking for serious relationship):
"thanks for being honest with me and where you stand. at this time i am looking for someone who can giv... | The problem is that the words and actions do not align and is confusing and frustrating.
Step back in the relationship so that what you are doing matching what he says he wants/can give you and ask him to do the same. After the initial adjustment to it, if that process of differentiation or stepping back feels unmanag... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | evaluation |
119 | So we met about 1-2 times but we got eachother contact, we text alot in the first month, things going great, she seems to like it and we talk alot but in the second month it get repetitive so I tried to ask her out, go have a dinner or something, I thought she gonna agree but she's not. I didn't even say this was a dat... | stop wasting your time and move on. she likes the attention, thats it | STOP TEXTING HER. She is using you for attention, move on. There’s plenty of girls that will actually wanna go out with you, she isn’t one of them. | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
121 | Me 19F and my friend 19NB, have been friends since middle school. Its been twice since they made a move on me and I rejected them. But they still make me uncomfortable like them being like, “It’s so weird because I love people that I’ve known for so long. Even if I can’t be with them... Like I’m in love with their soul... | You need to tell them it makes you a bit uncomfortable and accept that may dent the friendship. You've made it clear there's no romantic interest but they're continuing to gesture towards it. | They have to come to terms and accept you’re not interested
It’s not your resizability to “do” anything just because they have feelings and you…don’t
That said, distancing yourself would probably do more damage than help and if as you say you don’t want to lose them as a friend, that’s a sure fire way to do exactly... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
123 | We have been dating for six years. I love him very much and he is my best friend. We only see each other on the weekends when we are home from university. We either meet at his parents or my parents house and sleep together there. He is very good looking and really sweet. I often get the urge to hug/kiss/touch him but ... | Staying with the same guy you’ve been with since 13 might sound sweet but if you arent sexually attracted to him - indicative that it isn’t a good fit. There are others out there - maybe you’re limiting yourself by holding on to something that has naturally run its course. | This is going to be beyond Reddit’s pay grade. It sounds like you have some complex feelings about sex and love that are hindering your relationship. Talking about that with a therapist would be a great place to start, and something that could help a lot. | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
127 | Whats up, I just met a girl on fb dating and we have been talking for about 5 days now. In the beginning (which I know is fast, I thought we clicked right away) we were flirting and getting to know each other. She said she liked me, her best friend approved of me, I thought it was kicking off to a great start. She came... | Take it and run bro, you don’t want any part of that long term, trust me. Even if she’s on meds now doesn’t mean they won’t stop working down the road and she’ll ruin your life. Get out while you can. | Thought I add that she said she wanted us to work, just wasn't feeling a connection. Said she wasn't a 100%. She has had terrible previous relationships, im just not sure how to continue this in the right direction to be with her | Commentator's opinion | Not Relevant | Comment 1 | evaluation |
128 | I’m a 36M and gf is 32F. Been together almost 8 years. Throughout the years I’ve dealt with episodes of her throwing rage fits. The first time I dealt with it was in year two of dating. We got into an argument at a friend’s wedding, but it was so long ago I don’t even remember what it was about. We stayed overnight in ... | It's incredibly tough to be in a relationship where rage issues are present. Your safety and well-being should always come first. It's important to consider seeking support from a professional counselor or therapist for guidance on how to navigate this situation, especially if you're feeling exhausted and unsure about ... | you have to leave. **You have to fucking leave**. There is no "discussion" about potentially breaking up, you have to DO IT.
This is domestic violence. | Emotional Support | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
129 | Me and my bf have been dating for a year now but to this day I still think about how i said I love you first (i said it 4 months into dating) my bf told me that he wanted to say it sooner before I did . Do you guys think that’s weird or looked like I was down bad I overthink it bc usually the guys say it first (from w... | Not weird at all!
You both love each other and that’s all that matters | I don't think it's weird and I don't think it matters who says it first! As long as you got your feelings of love out to each other, that's what matters! | Emotional Support | Emotional Support | Comment 1 | evaluation |
130 | Me (23M) and my partner (23F) have been together for 7 months now. Lately, she's been acting a bit distant and cold. Then yesterday, she opened up to me about something bothering her. It seems like she's unsure about getting married in the future or becoming dependent on her spouse. She mentioned she might prefer being... | OK, but so what? How is this impacting your building your future? Your constant self improvement? This woman just told you she doesn't really see a future with you right now, but she will keep you around because you provide boyfriend energy and maybe she will change her mind. So who cares about her?
Focus on build... | [deleted] | Emotional Support | Not Relevant | Comment 1 | evaluation |
134 | I met my 31m coworker and started talking to him about 2-3 months ago…. We got very close or at least I thought we did he came over a couple of times to my apartment and took me out to eat twice. We never had sex but we did almost everything else. Had phone calls texted almost everyday and I got so attached. Recently h... | I mean, you've been relegated to a booty call. This isn't how you treat someone you want a relationship with.
Want better than this for yourself OP: time to let it settle in that this is a dead end, and if they're looking to hang out with you, you probably end up feeling used the next day. | The first piece of advice I’d give is to say that conventional wisdom will suggest that you don’t shit where you eat. Why? Because of what you’re dealing with right now. Your professional relationship will (if it isn’t already) almost certainly be negatively impacted but here’s hoping that’s not the case.
Regardless,... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
135 | He and I have been together for almost 8 years now, and this has been an ongoing problem the whole time. The main problem to me is I can’t bring up concerns without him arguing with how I feel, getting defensive, making excuses, blaming me, or turning the tables on me.
For example, he and I were gaming together and s... | This isn’t love you’re feeling. It’s habitual. This is all your body knows around this person.
Maybe the truth is you keep choosing this man because somewhere along your life you were told that this was the best you were going to get. Being dismissed and minimised, not being heard or seen. Not cared for fully. You’re... | I think your question "why can't I leave the repeated DARVo, dismissive unhappy relationship" is large enough to warrant professional help/advice; like individual therapy or at least family
I sense being dismissed and talked down to like a bully, and even if I was getting paid to play my favorite games I wouldn't put ... | Commentator's opinion | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | evaluation |
137 | For some background, I (20F) have never had a boyfriend since I've always been happy on my own. When it comes to dating, I don't have a strong interest in in pursuing one and kinda have a "if it happens, it happens" mentality around it. For the past 7-ish weeks, I started talking and hanging out with a guy from my apar... | As a dude, please be direct. Just say that you’re not feeling it and you wish him the best. | There isn’t really a way to not hurt him as it seems he’s already developed some level of attachment, but the sooner the better, best course is to try to just be nice about it and let him down easy, but make sure you’re clear that there is no romantic attraction on your part, you have the option of exploring friendship... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
138 | So I met with this guy overseas as part of a tour that he was a guide for, we clicked and it was an instant connection.
Fast forward, he contacted me on Whatsapp and we spoke for two weeks and everything was fine. Checking on me multiple times a day, quick replies, we briefly saw each other outside my hotel a few time... | He is probably busy hitting on girls in the next tour that he's guiding! Move on! | Sorry.. you have been played. Next trick might be that “he’s in trouble and needs to borrow money” Cut your loss and move on.. treat this as a learning experience. | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | evaluation |
139 | I (19f) met this guy (21m) at a bar last summer and we’ve been talking for almost a year now. I started at college last year so it was obvious our relationship wasn’t going anywhere at the time but we did talk some throughout the school year. On top of that- he is in the military and is only stationed in my area he lit... | I don't think no-strings attached sex works for men and even less for women. It's not sustainable (at least wasn't for me). Trust your gut feeling on this. I went against mine and got punished eventually. | (24 M) I personally wouldn’t have sex unless I am in a serious relationship bc I’ve had sex quite recently with someone I was talking to and I got attached and realized our personalities weren’t compatible. I had to end things today bc of that and bc I was attached bc of the sex and our intimate time. All that to say. ... | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | evaluation |
141 | I [30 M] met this girl [25 F] at work. From the beginning we had a really great relationship (not romantically), a lot of common jokes and topics for conversation. But we didn't go out with each other outside of work (apart from one time to a place we both liked). I recently found out that she is taking a long leave o... | Go on another date, and this time, escalate to flirting and kissing if you are comfortable. If she doesn't respond well to that, then you have your answer. | You're trying to have a relationship through your phone. It doesn't work. She'll just meet someone who impresses her in real life. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
144 | My GF (18F) and I (18M) have been together officially for a year and about 2 years unofficially. First, I have to admit my GF did say that she doesn't enjoy physical touch that much. For example we haven't kissed yet because she finds kissing 'disgusting and weird,' I've accepted it and I'm okay with that.
We do have... | You want physical touch and affection, she doesn't. It sounds like you are incompatible and should probably think about ending the relationship. It sucks, but it doesn't sound like a fixable issue and it will almost definitely breed resentment between the two of you if it hasn't already. Try and be more open about your... | I suggest that you better talk with her seriously first, maybe she just this type of a person who don't like being physical but maybe it's something more deep, idk
But conversation it's always a good start and after you can think if there something you together can do to make it feel more comfortable for you and her, ... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | evaluation |
145 | Hello! I (26M) have a question, after ending a long relationship I’ve been trying for a year to find someone to go out with but I think my personality is not attractive, and it even bothers some people.
At parties I tend to be more of a clown, people usually laugh at me as much as with me, I am somewhat hyperactive, I... | Every person is different, and they’re going to prefer something different in a man’s personality.
You shouldn’t have to suppress who you are to find someone who loves you. They should enjoy you as you are. Wait for someone who does.
BUT, also ask people you know and trust if anything you do is considered off-putting... | A funny man is important, but also try to balance your conversations with light and deep topics. I don’t know if you are looking for a traditional girl, but being a gentleman is generally appreciated by women. Also, dress appropriately for your dates.
Good luck | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | evaluation |
147 | Why does growing intellectually advance you away from being attracted to the once simple pleasures(looks, gestures, lack of complexity). Find it as i have to get what likes me and not the golden ticket. | wut? | I don’t think you are as smart as you think you are. | Not Relevant | Hurtful | Comment 1 | evaluation |
148 |
I 29F am pregnant and have been only dating my fiance 34M for a year. We are getting married and things are going good . Due to some bad history I avoided dating and he was my first. The guy is an airline pilot and gone for 17 days a month, which is fine for my avoidant attachment style. He is good looking, smart a... | Are you sure your fiancé is a man and not just a bunch of red flags stuffed into a trenchcoat??
Is this the kind of man you want raising your children? Are these the views you want your future kids to have? | I had a talk with him again, at breakfast. I told him for me it was a big deal what he said and I don't accept to NOT talk about it. I was pretty firm I would say. He acted surprised. I noticed how he stopped his fork near his mouth without putting the food in. But he was open and asked what exactly I want to know. I a... | Commentator's opinion | Not Relevant | Comment 1 | evaluation |
149 | As the title suggests, I can’t get over a guy I dated over a year ago. We were in a “situationship” for 4 months so he was never even officially my boyfriend.
Physically, he was everything I was looking for. I was a tan, short, bodybuilding, blonde (22in extensions). He was a 6’4 blue-eyed Italian with luscious locks... | Take a break from dating and focus your attention on something else like a new hobby, new physical activity etc.
Try making new friends. Not romantic ones, just friends.
If you always think about him, start thinking of negative traits that you saw in him and you'll eventually stop thinking about him at all. | The real problem you have is u are looking for a copy of him, That's not gonna happen. You have put him on a pedestal; he was on drugs n overlooked it so who knows what else u over looked also him ticking all your "list" boxes doesn't help now your list has a face.
Proposed solutions: stop using a list as ur Ex is no... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
153 | Been dating this guy for six months and we had no problems between us. We had been doing long distance but I used to go visit him but he never took me to where he stayed.we always met in town .we had met a few days ago and there was nothing to warn me so I would say the day was good .the next day some girl calls me an... | This... was horrible and I'm sorry it knocked you down, but you CAN'T stay down. You have to get back up, collect yourself, and back out there. Because while it's true that the bar is in hell, there are good men out there. Most of us don't want to end up without a relationship and HE isn't worth being your last guy let... | > he never took me to where he stayed
He may have been your boyfriend.
But you were never his girlfriend. | Emotional Support | Hurtful | Comment 1 | evaluation |
158 | I (20M) have never had a girlfriend, am a virgin, and have only ever really been on a few dates in high school.
I want to try and put myself out there but really don’t know how. I’ve tried a dating app but half the time I don’t get responses. I feel as if I am decent looking and I am fit. I also have job stability bei... | Not sure that alot of my peers consider the reserves as stable career prospects, but the fact your a student with a goal for some type of OCS or OTS is a good long term goal. Just be yourself, open to meeting people and making friendly.
If you like someone, communicate that to them sooner rather than later and don't ... | I started dating through social media platforms. Some time ago, I participated in a private test of a social software called LightUp: Make Real Friends . It matches you with people who share your interests based on your posts and helps you connect. By sharing my daily life on the platform, such as the scenery outside t... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | evaluation |
160 | She’s also 28, I’ve known her since high school too but only started talking to her again two years ago, and only actually began seeing her in person this year.
As for why I’m a virgin, my life went to absolute fucking shit when I was 20. I was in and out mental hospitals for years and I only just finished an associa... | I'd be fascinated to hear your plan to change that if you didn't. | I’ll be honest with you, she might just view you as a friend and not as a potential lover but I’ll say this. If you have the balls to man up and let her know that you find her attractive and that you want to be more than her friend then tell her before someone else tries to be her man. | Sarcasm | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | evaluation |
1 | i know we’re young, we make mistakes. but there’s a lot that still isn’t morally right.
(for some context)- me and him have been on and off for the last 7 years or so.. this has been mainly due to immaturity. he cheated on me a couple times and was unloyal during our relationship on and off growing up. however i alwa... | Here's an advice from an older man to a young one.
That shit called "gut feeling" ??...yeah...that.
Fucking never ever doubt it. Be it in love, family, health or even on random things. That gut feeling thing is a form of blessing straight from big "G" himself.
If it says.. "walk" ...then you better fucking run like... | It sounds like he still has a cheating heart after all this time. A good partner doesn't make you feel crazy. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
2 | So, my girlfriend and I have been together for around a year, living together for 6 months. We have, up until now, had an "open phone policy" where our fingerprints are stored on each others' respective phones, funnily enough being her idea. Neither of us actually check the other's phone (never, not once), but it comes... | The gut never lies. Something is definitely wrong for her to suddenly remove it, especially seeing as it was her idea. Better to just ask her or it will eat you up. | Yea that’s a very intentional action taken by her. If you guys are supposed to have the fingerprints set up then you just simply say to her in the least accusatory way “hey babe I think we need to reset my fingerprint on your phone. I went to change the YouTube video when we were casting it to the tv the other day and ... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
3 | 12/31/2019: got married to wife in the US.
5/1/2024: found out wife had been cheating on me with a former friend of mine. Wife denies. We go to friend’s place 4 hrs away to check their evidence. Found solid evidence. Wife claims to be poly and cheats some more.
5/10: Came back home together. Wife behaves repentant a... | If you stay with her the cheating will never end. You'll become her doormat.
She's gonna promise to stop cheating and she even might for a little while til she does it again. And the cycle will just continue.
Please do yourself a favor and get a divorce. | What do you look for now? A divorce attorney | Practical Advice | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | exploration |
4 | Throwaway because he knows I lurk on here.
I (F34) have trouble trusting my boyfriend (M35) after he has cheated in a past relationship. A bit of context: About 4 years before meeting me, my boyfriend had a pretty long relationship (10+ years), which ended up with them breaking up after he realised he wasn't in love w... | Ultimately, it's your decision to believe he is a changed person or not. So, you can choose to leave or stay. If he seems to really deeply love and care for you, you should take his word. Give yourself a few weeks and then decide how you feel again. I'm sure that came as a shocker to you, but if you rethink about all t... | Well, you can’t hold it against him now as he hasn’t done anything wrong with your relationship, but (hope not) the time comes where he doesn’t seem “as happy” as before, you do need to be ready for the worst. “Cheaters stay cheaters” wasn’t created for nothing. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
5 |
Summary of the last [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/rEhmaIEG7G):
We broke up 9 months ago because he disrespected me, was emotionally abusive, lied, and pressured me for sex. He came back with a long apology and promises, and despite my hesitation, nostalgia made me give him another chance. Afte... | He misses having a steady source of sex. | Block his email(s). | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
6 | Why do girls like skinny guys? | From my experience, girls like every type of body. It’s all about preference. I like bulkier guys, and some of my girl friends really like skinny guys. Some girls like a nice medium of the types. I don’t think there’s one reason why girls like skinny guys. It’s just about personal taste. | skinny as scrawny or fit? same reason why most guys like skinnier girls | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
7 | There's this girl at my work and I can't help but glance at her whenever she passes by and I feel bad for doing it because I feel creepy. Even admitting it to friends that I like someone makes me feel stupid and/or weird.
I don't know why but I suppose me finding a girl attractive and looking at her makes me feel cree... | Well you did say glance. But one day you going glance so much you going get whiplash. Don’t upgrade to staring it’s definitely creepy especially if you’re saying nothing. Say hi, start a conversation. | You could attempt to communicate your feelings? And not glance and hope they make the first move, cause they will not. | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
8 | I moved in with my girlfriend four months ago, leaving my 10 year old dog home with my family as I felt it would be unfair to change so much of her life. Unfortunately, yesterday she passed away and I woke up to multiple texts and voicemails from my family frantically saying she was on the verge of death, hoping I'd an... | You told her yourself she didn't have to go back home, so she didn't. If you wanted her home, you should've told her you wanted her home instead of this "if you want" shit | " I said that it was up to her if she wanted to come home early or not and that she could stay if she wanted."
You're not in the wrong but you should have been upfront and expressed your need for her to be there. She's isn't in the wrong either as her plans were made well in advance but could have a done better job o... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
9 | i've (20F) been seeing this guy (20M) for a month now. we've both agreed we're looking for something casual cause he's only back home for the summer and i don't think i want to be in a relationship rn. we go on the best dates! and get along pretty well and it's been great so far. he also lost his virginity to me...whic... | i’ve been in a very similar situation before. long story short, if you are starting to catch feelings, and want to pursue something- in my opinion, speak up! on the other hand, if you want to stay casual, either keep going with the flow, or end things if it’s getting too serious. | It’s almost as of engaging in a bonding activity leads to…bonding | Practical Advice | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | exploration |
10 | For context, I’m an 18F from South Africa, and I went to an all girls school so I really don’t have a lot of experience with boys.
I’m very close with my mother and grandmother and I trust their opinions. Recently though, they got on my case about the stretch marks on my thighs, hips and breasts. I got them because I... | Your mother and grandmother should be deeply ashamed of themselves for making you feel bad about your body and planting this nonsense in your head.
Almost all women have stretch marks---it has nothing to do with eating and exercising, they occur in most skin type when hips and breasts rapidly develop. Some lessen over... | I have personally never been turned off by stretch marks. I don't think those are a big concern for looks. I care much more about other things: Like, are you fit and healthy now? That's way more important.
Remember also that men aren't a monolith. Most won't care but some men might. You want to find a good match. It's... | Emotional Support | Emotional Support | Comment 1 | exploration |
11 | Hi guys my boyfriend of 4 years confessed to me that he cheated on me on 1st year of our relationship.
He said he wants to marry but he couldn't start it without keeping this secret and he bursted out in tears.
He said he was scared because he had past bad relationship and when he was falling in love with me it scared ... | What a dumb excuse for cheating. "Oh I cheated cause I just loved you to much." Chester's cheat. Hell do it again. Leave. He literally went "oh I knew I didn't want anyone else after having someone else" like wtf | Reddit has taught me you either go to individual therapy and couples counseling to see if you can get over his betrayal and he can understand why he cheated, (prob get better communication skills as a bonus too) or you break up. On the plus side, it was one time and he feels guilt.
Also better to decide before a mar... | Commentator's opinion | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | exploration |
12 | My boyfriend m (37) and I f (44) are going to drop acid (psychedelic) tonight and I wondered if anybody had any ideas of some activities we could do to enhance this experience? | I’d ask in r/acid | ER afterwards? | Practical Advice | Sarcasm | Comment 1 | exploration |
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To try and keep this is short as possible I’ve been seeing a girl on and off for 6 months over the last month or two I felt it becoming more serious. However the problem is her feelings towards me change constantly from telling me she wants to go on dates to saying she couldn’t see her dating me. Saying she’s over her... | You're 20. Don't waste your time, move on. Why get yourself caught up in such mindless drama at your age? | I'd stay away from her until she figures her shit out. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
14 | Hello everyone,
My partner (F23) of 6 months currently brags about their sex life with their ex and how they would « make her cry by fingering her so good », how many times they would have sex per day/week, and how long it would last. I (F23) can’t be fingered because or vaginismus and sometimes i force myself to ask ... | Break up. There is no reason to date someone who treats you like this. | Yeah as soon as anyone would "brag" about how good sex was with an Ex I'm out
I'd be like ok go back to them then if they're on your mind this much | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
15 | I've never dated anyone who hasn't cheated on me or looked at other girls in that way. I feel like this is the norm nowadays. But I know I'd never have to worry about him cheating, he's truly in love with me and I love that. Plus he wants to do everything for me, make sure I'm happy, wants to make me comfortable and do... | He’s not in love with you after “a little over a month”, that’s absurd - google lovebombing
And he’s isolating you from your friends after only a few weeks. That’s about as big a red flag as I can think of
I would run away screaming from this guy | > I've never dated anyone who hasn't cheated on me or looked at other girls in that way. I feel like this is the norm nowadays.
No, it's not. There are plenty of men out there who are faithful.
> . Except he doesn't like me talking to male friends we are both friends with, or even go out by myself with my female frie... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
16 | My (25F) boyfriend (30M) is from another country. He’s currently traveling back to his home country to go to a friend’s wedding. Our relationship is relatively new and he already had his itinerary for the trip planned, so that’s why I didn’t go with him. He also already had a date to the wedding. His friend of 8 years,... | “Oh I thought I already told you…”
He’s lying and just trying to cover his ass after letting it slip. | >I want to trust him but not be dumb.
You are being kind of dumb.
He has proof that she historically wanted to sleep with him. They're going to a wedding as a "friend date". Sharing a hotel room and drinking.
If you consider any of that acceptable, you're setting yourself up to end up with guys like him.
This shoul... | Commentator's opinion | Hurtful | Comment 1 | exploration |
17 | I'm (M25) about to get married to F20 and I'm kinda stressed about being able to get it up in the bedroom - we'll be losing our virginity on the wedding night.
My friend is a doctor and I told him about my stress, and asked him if Viagra was an option for me. He said just buy Viagra Connect from the pharmacy without a... | You definitely need to have a conversation with your partner about this, and tell her your worries. Personally, I wouldn’t take the viagra straight away on your wedding night when you’re about to get into sex.
The build up to intercourse should get you excited and erect. And by build up I mean making out, touching ea... | For your number one, I'm going to be honest, if she's as ill-informed as you are about human sexuality, she may misunderstand and think you depend on the pills. I would take it because it helps your confidence and not mention it to her.
For number two, you need to focus on romance and foreplay. Recognize that at least... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
18 | I’m already 32 and I’m the perpetually single friend. I’ve had a bit of a bad streak with dating, everyone I meet and date either aren’t interested, emotionally unavailable or something else getting in the way such as moving overseas for work.
Keen to hear from formerly perpetually single people who eventually settle... | I just turned 33 and ended my nearly 5 year relationship because I realized our values aren’t aligned and I was worried if we took the next step I would feel like I settled. Prior to this I was single for 5 years. Now I am working on not repeating this same mistake, listening to the dating intentionally podcast has bee... | I’m 32 and super single too! You’re not a failure and definitely not alone in this. There are hard days where I feel very lonely and other days where I feel so hopeful that this great life I created for myself will be shared with my person. Each new day is full of possibilities, you can meet the man of your dreams tomo... | Commentator's opinion | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | exploration |
19 | My friend didn’t show up to my birthday party. I planned it about two weeks ago and she came to my house in the morning before my party to do her hair and she said she is going to a cricket match with her friend so she might be a bit late. So i said thats ok. I got to my party and i told the rest of my friends that she... | This is not a friend | She’s very selfish. Trust your gut, she’s a taker. | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
20 | Last night during dinner, my husband (40m)and I (43f) were talking about another couple in his family and their financial situation. Mostly because of my curiosity about how their situation works because the wife doesn’t have a job.
In the course of that conversation, my husband said very casually “we could replace yo... | If doesn’t sound like a plan with intent. He’s just done the math because your relationship hasn’t been great.
There is a difference between knowing what you would do and wanting to do it.
Additionally, you both live like single people being married. So it makes his math easier to him.
No point worrying because it ... | Do you feel able to talk to him about this? Perhaps ask him how he's feeling in the marriage, express your concern about what he said? | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
21 | So I’ve been on two dates with this girl.
We hit it off instantly, make each other laugh heaps, share interests, and there’s undeniable chemistry. It’s really rare that I meet someone so gorgeous that I connect with so well, and so naturally I’m super into her.
After our last date she made clear she’d be busy for t... | I’m a woman, and when I get busy, I pause on texting because I need to
Focus. I’d say don’t be alarmsd | Viewing Instagram stories or scrolling on your phone is passive, answering questions and texting is not. Sometimes people don't have the mental energy for a conversation and may put it off. Give it some time to see if she replies or not. | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
22 | So I have a friend with benefits. We were friends before we hooked up. We first slept together last Sunday. We hung out all week except two days. I told him I liked him and he said he liked me too… though he said he didn’t want anything serious and was resistant. I asked him to come over yesterday and he said he was ti... | You say FWB but sounds like you want a relationship lol | Girl don’t do it!!! This isn’t a friends w benefits. You already have feelings and he told you he doesn’t want anything serious, do you really want to go down the road to a situationship?? | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
23 | Just as the title says.
This is one of the reasons I broke up with him, but my ex boyfriend shared it with his friends after he said he wouldn’t. I asked him not too.
The picture was focused on my chest. He was in it too. His face was showing, and his hands were covering my n*pples. You can see the rest of my chest... | It is a deal breaker. You are right to feel this way. | That’s super, super shitty and grounds for breakup. Any guy that that is ok violating that level of trust with their girlfriend isn’t deserving of a girlfriend.
Also, it’s always wise, early in the relationship to state your position on these matters. As sad as that is to say. | Emotional Support | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
24 | this guy (M 20) that im talking to (F 20) told me that when he was a teenager he cheated on his girlfriend at the time. i’m not sure if i want to continue talking to him. he said he has complete remorse and that he was just a teenager, and that loyalty is one of the most important pieces in a relationship. does cheatin... | No, I cheated in my 20’s. I deeply regret it and learned a lot about myself and life afterwards. | this is why anyone who ever cheated don't ever talk about it or admit it
this is why in general guys don't open up or admit any flaws.
where most guys will be compassionate about mistakes most girls do in the past, this doesn't seem to be the case the other way around
if someone cheated and they understand what the... | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
25 | I've been in a happy relationship with a guy for almost a year now, we've been known each other for much longer. His ex broke up with him last summer but presumably he got over her before we started dating. We did not have any problems so far, we talked about his past relationship numerous times and he made sure he is ... | You should not do anything. Keeping letters or cards from an old girlfriend doesn’t mean he’s still loves them, it just means that he values what they gave him and the time he spent with them. Looking at old love letters where a past partner complemented him might boost his self-esteem. keeping old love letters is way ... | It's totally personally opinion. I have everything all my ex's ever gave me; it doesn't mean anything at all and I don't even look at them specifically, just come across them occasionally when looking for something else. They have happy memories associated with them, even though the relationships have ended (which I ... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
26 | Actually, I (F53) know the answer; I just have to cut this off. But still I have doubts. So please provide your advice with explanation.
I went on 2 dates with a man who, in theory, was a good fit for me. What are red flags for me; he (51) has never been in a relationship and I found out yesterday that he doesn't se... | This is a hard one because he sounds incredibly lonely. On one hand, you kinda want to help the guy out on what Not to do on a date. He definitely needs some dating advice. But he also needs to find someone who will love him for who he is... even if it's a bit on the creepy side.
People tend to push their own needs o... | Tell him it’s not about accepting a “no” to stop but getting a “yes” to start. He’s not entitled to touch someone everywhere and anywhere because they accepted a date. | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
27 | Sorry, this is my first post.
We've been together for 8 months now, long distance. I was diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD on December 2022. I let her know of my disorders and she seemed pretty understanding, telling me that it didn't matter. It's important to acknowledge she has BPD.
But now I feel like I'm ruining o... | so i wouldn’t say your ruining your relationship, but it’s important to acknowledge that autism is going to make relationships atypical.
my bf is/was the same way, we had our share of fights about it too. it took understanding on both of our parts to finally reach a “happy” place. i put happy in quotes bc bc when i h... | Are you on meds or anything? You should consider therapy. It’s good you’re putting in efforts to change instead of being ignorant and inconsiderate | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
28 | So, there's this young woman in the dance class I've been taking for a few weeks. She is very nice and pretty and I really like her. The problem is, I think she's way out of my league. I'm 21 years old and still in the middle of my bachelor's degree and far from finishing it. I don't have a lot of money, I look average... | sure there are times when we can say, we're not in a good spot to be dating or be in a relationship. but usually that refers to emotional health or financial situation. and even with a financial hardship, there are still people who can meet and date and do activities together, as long as you both do things within you... | The only way you will know is to ask her out. If you want to catch fish you need to go fishing. You have just as good a chance as anyone else. If you don’t shoot your shot I can tell you rn your chance is zero.
If you’re concerned about potential awkwardness wait until the last class to ask her out. Keep it simp... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
29 | I’m (m)17 after a month of talking with her I thought she was the one she was perfect we had everything in common but she started to not text me often so I asked if she still liked me she told me I’m a good person but she doesn’t see me in her future cause she’s always busy could I still get her back if I give her time... | Find someone else bro who values you, life’s to short to wait on people. Go live your life and if it’s meant to be she’ll be back | No. She said she didn't see you in her future but it's not because she's that busy. People make time for people they care about. So she was partially honest. She doesn't see you in her future because you're not her type and she wanted to let you down as easily as possible. You need to move on even though it hurts. | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
30 | Hi,
I (23m) know that this topic is often discussed here.
There is a woman in my courses, and we have exchanged a few words. I really enjoy our conversations, so I messaged her if she would like to meet up for a cup of coffee, and she agreed immediately. I haven't communicated this as a date. Would it be appropriate... | Personally, no, don’t bring flowers. Wait until the relationship becomes more established and intimate before bringing gifts such as flowers for her. | No, not on a coffee date | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
31 | context: my boyfriend has a problem watching porn. we've discussed this in the past. he's into some really fringe stuff that i find absolutely disturbing and disgusting. i told him it makes me uncomfortable that he's watching that kind of porn while we're together especially bc he hid it from me in the beginning. i ori... | How to end a relationship! If you don’t want him doing it behind your back, let him be more flexible. Because you said no, he wants to see if he can get away with it. Allow the watching & it won’t be as fun. | You set boundaries about what you are willing to accept and what you won’t accept and he broke those. Time to end things. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
32 | Should I tell this girl (18F) that her bf (24M) cheated on her with me (21F)?
So I (21F) was talking to this guy (24M) I was head over heels for a couple of months. As context, I had been crushing on this guy for about a year before we started talking and flirting with each other so I was really into him. There was d... | I think you should ignore him and move on. He clearly has a girlfriend, and hasn’t broke it off with her. Don’t be the side chick that’s a big no no but when it comes to telling the gf, you could, but you don’t know if she might still stay with him. There’s plenty of other guys in the sea that are mature and honest. An... | This man is worth losing. He doesn’t respect you or his girlfriend. Someone who respects you shouldn’t put you in a position like this in the first place. If they did, if they respected you, they surely wouldn’t put you in this position twice. That tells you his character, & you should believe what he’s shown you.
It... | Practical Advice | Emotional Support | Comment 1 | exploration |
33 | ok so there’s this guy at my gym who i have been crushing on for a while now. we would pretty much have the same exact workout schedule and would see each other 24/7. we would park close to each other, and make-prolonged- eye contact. so one day i finally got the courage to go up to him as we were both leaving and give... | As a dude I genuinely don’t know how to react sometimes when I’m not expecting a compliment or attention, especially at the gym/grocery store etc where I’m doing my own thing. He might also be into you but just gets shy.
Maybe give him a bit to see if he warms up to you, if it’s been a week or two or whatever I say s... | You probably caught him off guard. Maybe he’s shy. This same thing kinda happened with my gym crush. I was heading inside one day as he was leaving the gym and I complemented his tattoo, because we both really like the same band and all he said was “Thank you” without smiling. Looking back, I realize that I was nervous... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
34 | Please read!!
I F20 and my bf M20 have been together for almost 2 years now and also have a 6 month old baby..
Before moving in together we had a good sex life (looking back now it was mainly while we were drunk on weekends), we moved in together a few months into my pregnancy and all was good. We still had regular ... | Hes most likely bi sexual and was embarrassed to share that with you.
The question is ... is this a deal breaker for you? Be warned tho.. how you choose to approach this will set the tone for the rest of your relationship. | I don't think means gay. We talk open and share everything but one thing he won't even play along with is anything at all with another guy but we found out in one fantasy hot babe with huge tool and that way she has girl stuff and I have.....just huge cocks. Lol.ake sense | Emotional Support | Not Relevant | Comment 1 | exploration |
35 |
I (M) am getting married and we’re waiting till marriage.
I’ll admit my sex education is very poor, nobody ever taught me when I was a kid and I had to Google everything myself.
What I’m about to ask may sound like common sense, but please keep in mind I’m a virgin, I’ve never sexually touched a woman before, and I... | Are you allowed to talk about sex before marriage?
Most people who wait till marriage are rock hard just holding hands with their fiancé. Does the idea of sex get you excited?
If you don’t masturbate and you are straight, the idea of sex should cross your mind similar to the idea of your favorite food when you’re hun... | Sex is a beautiful expression of love. I waited as well.
It's normal to be nervous about your first time. Your fiance is also nervous as well.
Instead of focusing so much on the mechanics of sex, focus on the meaning and why you're having sex in the first place: to make each other feel special and loved.
If you'r... | Emotional Support | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
36 | I (28m) went on a date over the weekend with this guy (25m). We had a great time, chemistry was electric ect. After dinner we ended up going back to my house and watched a show I was talking about and cuddled. Throughout the night he mentioned multiple times about wanting to see each other again, wanting to cook for me... | Ideally, you should set up the second date DURING the first date, not after. | Dude, I guess that depends on how many other people you want to give a chance to be with her before you get back to her ! always immediately | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
37 | I'm (21F) generally not one of the best looking people out there. I've never get any attention when I'm out and about at all actually. Very tall and skinny. My goals in life are to become a rich cat lady. And it would be very cool to find someone I really like but I don't think that will happen in this day and age. But... | Don’t let it get you down. Keep trying and someone will click | Dating apps are shit. There's only weirdos and assholes on it. Find a some hobbies that make you in contact with guys. Become friends with them to enlarge your social circle until you meet someone proper. No need to mention you should maximize your appearance because I hope it's obvious.
Your issue is that your gener... | Emotional Support | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
38 | Yo so for the past month and a half I've been talking to this girl, we've been calling every night since day one and we've been on a couple dates that went well. The thing is, since maybe the beginning of this week, she's started getting dry on calls, up until now she'd talk for hours on end non-stop, but now im findin... | First of all, the initial phase, the first couple of weeks or even up to 3 months, is often the moment things don't work out. I wouldn't invest that much, talk all the time, give that much attention to a girl, you have met a few times, a girl you know for a couple of weeks or months. Because, you don't know anything ab... | [deleted] | Practical Advice | Not Relevant | Comment 1 | exploration |
39 | Is it really as bad as it feels? I 'M35' have a girlfriend 'F30' . We've been together for 4 years, living together for 2, and we've got a 1-year-old daughter. She’s from another state, and we live here in X. Things ain't good between us anymore. Whenever I say something, share an idea, suggest we do something, or just... | Depending on what state you live in, it’s against the law to remove the kid from some states. I would look up
Your state and see what the laws are.
Most courts now are very friendly to both mom and dad having equal custody. Another thing to look up or make a call to an attorney and ask some general questions.
I wou... | Is there a reason you wouldn’t push for primary custody? | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
40 | Before you read the rest of my nonsense below- it’s all hypothetical of course it’s not like we’re actively dating and have ever discussed this ever, so how DO we discuss this?
She had not even a dust particle of reference to her child in any of her social media accounts. I ended up doing some digging last minute and ... | If you are not seeing yourself to be the dad or kids just don’t go further . End the relationship or date or whatever and move on with your life . It’s not fair to both of you | In my opinion if a single mom is dating she will expect or at least want her partner to help her raise her child, either by contributing financially or in other ways. It's understandable that you're freaked out by this because you're 20. Whether you choose to go on the date or not is up to you, but personally I would n... | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
41 | So I have a friend that I've made it very clear from the beginning that we are just friends no sex, no dating, nothing other then friends. She has tried to seduce me on several occassions and even tho I keep telling her we will never be more then friends she refuses to accept it.
The reasons why I will not date her... | She's not listening to you and obviously not respecting your boundaries. Think it's time to put the friendship to an end. | *Why do you continue to be friends with such a disrespectful ass?* Friends are a choice that you get to make. | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
42 | My ex of 9months refollowed me on instagram and we chatted. We flirted too maybe some inappropriate flirting but he started it. I would say we both broke up with each other because we argued over and over. It was because he thought he was in the right and I did too but I always heard him out and tried to see why he fel... | I'm sorry but he was just taking the temperature to boost his ego by telling himself at least he wasn't the only one single. It was a petty vengeance from him. Sound you dodged a bullet. Block him and start to talking to other men. I bet you'll find someone better soon enough. | This is all just irrelevant blabber.
You're not in a relationship with him and he owes you nothing. You wanted an ego boost by stringing him along a bit to make yourself feel good, but he saw it and dumped you. | Practical Advice | Hurtful | Comment 1 | exploration |
43 | Does anyone else ever feel tired of working on your anxious attachment in dating? I have a really good life outside of dating. I have friends who I have really secure relationships with, I have a good bond with my family, I’m doing well at work, I often travel and explore new places. I’m very thankful for my life and t... | I could have written your entire post. I constantly go through this cycle where being dumped, left on read, etc. shatters my self-esteem and turns my scars back into wounds, and then I have to spend like at least a year picking up the pieces. And during my break from dating, I eventually gain momentum and feel confiden... | I feel you and most men just see us as clingy. It’s difficult, but what I do is often challenge the thoughts I have that cause me anxiety. I’m in a great relationship where my affection/texting and attention are being met. Maybe it’s just a matter of you find someone who matches your energy and your needs | Not Relevant | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | exploration |
44 | Hey everyone! First post on reddit for me so please be patient! I need your collective advice on a gift I can provide to my wife who's recently been going through a lot of challenging times (including personal and family related health concerns, sacrifices, anxiety attacks etc). Despite that, there's been some recent g... | I would surprise her with some meals delivered to her, and then when you see each other, have a fun filled or relaxing day planned with each other, at a spa or something. | A massage with oils and lotion (don't forget the foot rub!!)...a back rub..laundry...dusting...sweep...the dishes...a well-cooked dinner or a date to the local restaurant...a movie...a vacation... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
45 | I matched with a girl a little more than a month ago, and we hit it off quite nicely. I asked her out for a coffee date after some light conversation and she said that she wanted to focus on her exams and that we could go out later. I tried my best to keep in touch, but not to be overly aggressive. She’s never initiate... | She’s not interested, sorry. She’s giving you convenient excuses as a way to let you down easy. After you ask her out the second time imo it’s up to her to reach out if she wants to see you. Don’t waste your time with this girl until she decides to make a move. | dont bother. she rejected you twice now and didnt bother to reach out at all the whole time. waste of time | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
46 | I honestly am completely inept when it comes to the topic of women. I don't know how to open a conversation or even where to meet single women. I mean shit, it feels like every women I'm actually interested in is in a relationship.
Anyone have some thoughts to share? Where did you go to meet your current girlfriend or... | Bars or night club tinder is mostly dominated by men who are extremely good looking | "What are some good ways to meet women without coming of as creepy?
Wud be interested to know what you mean by creepy? Wanting sex? Isn't that what you want? If it is just ask. It's easier than being creepy! | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
47 | A friend of mine has an OF. She asked me to help her with photos and videos, both taking them and editing them as she isn't tech savvy and doesn't have the equipment to do it or space to do it.
I'm also currently getting into the dating world and I'm curious and concerned how much of an issue this will be for me. It'... | Some women will mind about the onlyfans photos and regularly seeing an old fwb naked. Others won't mind.
The women who object to onlyfans, have issues with jealousy of other females or can't calmly tolerate their bf regularly meeting up with an ex they use to have sex with- these are the types who will mind.
It pr... | You won't get one answer. Some will mind. Some won't. Some won't like that you continue to see someone you've fucked once upon a time naked and in certain types of positions. Some will ask if you can be their OF photographer. Some will question why you're doing a 'job' but not actually getting paid. Some will thi... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
48 | My boyfriend was out with his friends the other day which an old friend came across to them and hung out for a while. He came home and let me know he invited him to his baby shower. Me and my bf share many mutuals so i know almost all of his friends. He told me that the baby shower is on 7/28, and also even mentioned t... | A baby shower is not the hill to die on and you shouldn't read into it. They aren't the same as parties or a night out. It is a celebration of the couple and their growing family. They are often very intimate and small. I've been to plenty where couples were invited and plenty where it was just the friend of the couple... | If this is happening more than once or twice I would definitely bring it up. | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
49 | I’m pretty new to dating and am not very experienced. I (26F) have been seeing a guy for like 6 dates and we still haven’t kissed yet. I feel like maybe he’s waiting for me to initiate and make the first move? Anyways, I have literally no idea how to do that. But we’re starting to feel more like friends, and I want to ... | You can always just ask him -- May I kiss you?
Or If that feels too awkward, have you had any physical contact all all (hugging, cuddling, holding hands)? In a hug, if you have one of your arms below his and the other above, just let that hand float up to the base of his neck. I've found that having my hand there ... | Give him the triangle puppy eyes look, lips to eyes back to lips slowly and just go!! | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
50 | GF 30 and me 30M, we've been together for almost 5 years.
The first year was the sweetest. We were intimately active. We would naturally alternate who initiates the moment of intimacy. After moving in with her during the pandemic, things were slowing down but it was still fun. We were starting to shape our future; bu... | Hi I'm 33f and my 8-year marriage didn't survive this. I can certainly help you with the perspective of the other person (obviously only to an extent because everyone is unique). I can definitely say what we did that didn't work, and I'm in a 2-year relationship now where things are going excellent in that department.
... | Have you had a sit-down conversation about this? | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
51 | Been with her for a year and a half now, the first months of our relationship were full of lies around her drug use and other things. That’s in the past now we have since traveled the world together and have ALOT of great memory’s.
Anyhow I still have trust issues around it and it makes me act slightly controlling wh... | I think it is time to leave. A random 30 year old man sleeping in the same bed as her? And she never told you? Relationship started off with lies so I don’t think there’s much hope. I understand it’s hard but you’re still young and will meet other people. Not worth it to waste time being with somebody you can’t trust | Man I’d leave. I’ve lied about little things like this in relationships before. 100% of the time it’s because I’m hiding a much bigger thing | Practical Advice | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
52 | Hello, so I rarely if ever post but need some advice.
I met a man who is 14 years my senior (28f and 42m). We started talking and absolutely hit it off. We currently are long distance as we met while I was traveling for work. We have spent a few weekends together, and spend every evening talking for hours and througho... | It sounds like everything is good. You’re two adults who like each other - that’s all that matters. Don’t throw fake barriers in the way of your happiness which don’t need to be there. | Just remember, if it worked out, he will be 60 when you are 36 and 70 when you are 56.
Might look OK for you now but what about later? | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
53 | So yesterday I received a save the date for my childhood best friends (Anna) wedding. I was so excited! Only to open it and discover it is on the same exact day in October as my other close friends (Brenda) wedding, who I am a bridesmaid for. There is no way I can do both. And I definitely would not skip out on Brenda'... | Get a photo frame engraved with their wedding date and send the gift closer to the wedding. They’re not super expensive and you have time to save up. You should be able to do that for under $50.
Just give her a call or send her a text and tell her that you’re super excited about her wedding and wish you could join to ... | Oh no! I have already committed to be a bridesmaid in another wedding that exact day! I am soooo disappointed! What can I do to make it up to you? | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
54 | I don’t get it either y’all.
I’ve expressed wanting to move out multiple times with good reason, and everytime the conversation got shut down by him.
Tomorrow I’m leaving for a trip and when I get back in 2 weeks, I’m set to move out. I tried to open up a conversation with him about it last night so he had time to t... | I guess you move out single? | Boundaries are something you don't go past. Living with him is a desire of his not a boundary. The boundary might be that if you move out he breaks up but he isn't right?
Shacking up is just something he wants that you don't believe is reasonable or healthy. You are right. | Sarcasm | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
55 | Basically we had unprotected sex and I told him not to cum inside of me he did it twice after I told him no and I told him I’m not having your baby I got an abortion by him before and he still did it without my consent after I told him no I’m in nyc btw and do I have to pay for a fucking lawyer to do this plz lmk | I really hate to sound like that guy but why let him have sex with you in the first place? | birth control? morning after pill? | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
56 | What do you think? I creeped out after knowing this. She thinks it’s funny or something to be proud of. We both are looking for long term relationships | Personally I don’t date women who hang out with people they slept with.
I’d hit it and bounce. Or just hit it and stay her friend like all the other guys.
She offers no exclusivity for a relationship. | If it's casual it's probably not a big deal. It can be a red flag | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
57 | So I (27m) didn't expect to ever be in this situation, but here I am. I got out of a long relationship and recently started getting back into OLD. I had some dates that went nowhere, and a few days ago I went out with a girl that I had no expectation or intention of sleeping with on the first date at all. So much so th... | I have been on the receiving end. Tbh I appreciated the guy's honesty, it only caught me by surprise because there were no warning signs that he was about to say that. He also said it more like "I don't know if I want to continue things" instead of "I don't want to", which in the moment left me thinking he might change... | Heading straight into a new relationship after a breakup rarely works out well. Take time for yourself and heal before jumping in again. No strings from the old baggage, you know. | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
58 | If you went on a couple of dates. If they removed you and unfollowed you. Is that weird and does it read as desperate? | Yes | If it is an app like Instagram it wouldn’t be weird because the act of them unfollowing you doesn’t remove you as one of their followers. If you aren’t following them it would be weird because you’re going out of your way to watch them. | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
59 | Before instantly commenting any hate/such please read the context of the story.
Senior year of high school my good friend (we’ll call him Jack) started dating this girl (we’ll call her Kathy). During that time I got a lot closer with Jack to the point I would call him my best friend, as well as becoming good friends w... | You're a really fickle best friend, man | Even if you’d be great together you should just leave it at friendship. You’d be breaking bro code by getting with her. If you’re fine with being seen as a shitty best friend and you’re cool with her having a reputation as a homie-hopper then go for it I guess. I wouldn’t risk a friendship with a good bro for a girl yo... | Hurtful | Commentator's opinion | Comment 2 | exploration |
60 | It's almost comical what a high percentage of women go on a first date with me while sick, and then give me whatever they have by talking in my face in a loud restaurant.
The crazy thing is they think it's no big deal. They show up for the date and say stuff like i have been so sick this week, but don't worry I "took ... | > Am I the only one this keeps happening to?
It’s unlikely this is very common | women are used to being in some kind of pain and still showing up for shit, natural byproduct of a having to go to school/work while bleeding and cramping lifestyle. dudes stay in bed and let the storm pass. | Sarcasm | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
61 | My (26F) boyfriend M (32M) has a work buddy named Vance. Earlier this week M told me about how Vance went to get a massage and at the end he got a hand job. Weird whatever good for him. Last night my boyfriend fell asleep on the couch and I was about to eat some ramen on the floor when his phone went off. Long story sh... | For me it could be guy talk… but the red flag is that he got immediately defensive. This shows that he’s aware that it’s wrong.
Contrast instant anger and denial with:
“Ha ha. Yeah. Vance keeps going on about it, so I said that to shut him up. Now, are you going to give me that tuggie?” | Naaaah that's not just guy talk. Suss as hell. Did he get home later than he should have from work? | Commentator's opinion | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
62 | Ok. Short story: I was “dating” someone. We talked about our relationships; this person was never brought up until I saw their picture pop up in the car on her phone. I stopped and immediately said I knew them; she asked… did you guys “fuck” I said yeah, uncomfortably. The rest of the car ride was chill, and I immediat... | You were in this thing for six weeks, found out something that didn’t work for you, and you got out. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks. I think having a connected sexual history would make a lot of people uncomfortable.
One of my absolute closest friends is a straight guy (I’m a woman). It’s something ... | You mean she cut you off? | Emotional Support | Hurtful | Comment 1 | exploration |
63 | I (22M) have been with my GF (21F) for over a year now. Everything in our relationship has been great, she’s just the best, loving, caring, incredibly cute, intelligent, for me, she’s the whole package.
Last night we were getting intimate (it has been a long time since the last time we’ve been intimate due to her not... | You made an honest mistake that a lot of men have made, I believe you’re overthinking this situation, she told you everything was fine so try to believe her and learn from your mistake, when she says stop next time do it. | Once the trust is lost or broken there is no getting it back. There is always going to be that sense of insecurity and doubt. Don't waste the next 5-10 years of your lives and just move on. | Emotional Support | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
64 | Hi everyone ! The most awkward thing and embarrassing thing happened. This is a new "relationship" of two months but I've known him for years since we were teens,now I'm 29F he is 32 M. Anyways we were play fighting and making jokes . He was teasing me and there was a plushy right next to me I grabbed it and playfully ... | OOOOOOOF. I literally covered my mouth with my hand reading this story. I feel your PAIN.
Hopefully, the initial anger subsides, especially since it was an accident and you’re clearly VERY sorry. You already apologized AND offered to help cover damages; you can’t turn back time to make the incident not happen.
Some p... | Sounds like he lost interest. Advice it to move on. | Emotional Support | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
65 | My boyfriend (23M) and I (22F) have been together, off & on, since we were 16. He's always said he's an ass guy & never been much interested in boobs but I've been wondering if he's just not attracted to mine. I'm 5'3, 115lbs, & have a nice ass but 32B/C boobs so they're like just proportional for my frame, maybe a tad... | Why are you so fixated on your boobs?
What's the rest of the relationship like?
Where's the real problem? | Either way it sounds like you want him to be attracted to your boobs. I'd recommend, when appropriate, do a little strip number. Hump his leg, get some good subtle perfume on, good music, and gently beat his face up with your boobs. Some nice lingerie. If he cuddles into you, you're fine. If he pulls back, he doesn't l... | Commentator's opinion | Practical Advice | Comment 1 | exploration |
66 | I'm a girl, and I'm not very good at the dating thing. I've met a guy on tinder who I might be meeting irl soon, but I'm scared of being rejected after the date and spiraling into self doubt at depression? Lol | keep in mind that you don’t know this dude so being rejected by him isn’t really such a big deal. just be sure to set boundaries for yourself and remind yourself that you are worthy of love and that everyone you meet won’t be your cup of tea and that’s valid and okay | I mean, you have gone this long without him in your life. If he makes a quick exit, you’re no worse off than before. Don’t give someone power or influence on your life they haven’t earned. | Emotional Support | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | exploration |
67 | So my very new Bf (less than 2 months) went out to a concert with his guy friends. I knew that some of his mates were inviting their gfs to this concert, and I was a bit upset that I wasn’t even asked if I wanted to go along with him but understood why (don’t like the music and bc not the best place to first meet his m... | If you've taken responsibility for actions and apologized and he is responding in a way that makes you uncomfortable cut your losses. | Why is everyone acting like only posting pics of a girl and tagging each other isn't odd behavior. If it was everyone sure but no. Op is justified. | Emotional Support | Commentator's opinion | Comment 1 | exploration |
68 | This may sound ridiculous to some people, but I have just never really been good at communicating. I am not good at small, talk, or asking questions or pretty much any type of communication. This is absolutely something that I know I need to grow in.
My wife said it would mean a lot to her if I asked her more question... | You know when you were little and maybe you asked “why?” All the time? Thats basically what shes asking for but in an adult version, how was her day, she tells you x, you ask how she felt about x, she starts to vent, just agree with her and listen and eventually youll get invested enough where you start having question... | I think its more than just asking for asking's sake. I think she would genuinely want you to be interested as this is where it will show you care, so I would recommend taking the time to listen and ask more questions during the conversation. otherwise if you just ask 1 question then say "thats nice" and move on, it wil... | Practical Advice | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
69 | New to Reddit so sorry if this is poorly written. Also apparently these stories sometimes end up in video and stuff, so I ask that if you see this story you don't use it in any internet content, or repost it or otherwise archive it. I just want to ask this question and then most likely delete it later. Thank you.
So m... | That's really kind of you! As a person who has had some similar gastric issues, I would say to ask him if you can help afterwards but also be prepared to take his no for an answer. It IS embarassing and perhaps cleaning up gives him back a feeling of control that IBS can strip away. Good luck. | I think that this is incredibly sweet and mature of you, and he will appreciate you offering. BUT, he may say no (I would) for the reasons you identify and please don't push the issue, just let it go. I really think he'll appreciate you offering and just tell him why like you wrote here. | Emotional Support | Practical Advice | Comment 2 | exploration |
70 | Hello, i'm on the verge of breaking up because of this and I need urgent advice.
College students, have been dating for almost two years. He does not plan or take initiative in many things
-When he will see me next time if we are in different states etc
- Any dates, anniversaries, occasions, i have to choose the ti... | You can’t drag a partner through life no matter how sweet they are. | Hey there, it sounds like you've been carrying a lot of weight in your relationship. Feeling like you're always the one planning and making decisions can be exhausting, especially when you're looking for someone who takes initiative. It's great that he's sweet, but relationships thrive on mutual effort.
You've been cl... | Commentator's opinion | Emotional Support | Comment 2 | exploration |
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