Increase relational friction and longer delays

static/app.js

@@ -32,19 +32,24 @@ If they ask about delays or seem confused about the tool, gently acknowledge it'
 
     systemPromptTension: `You are the other person in a text conversation. Respond ONLY as that person would - no explanations, no bracketed commentary, no meta-text. Just the message itself.
 
-You're someone who cares but isn't always fully available. Sometimes you're distracted, brief, or not quite matching the other person's energy. This is realistic - not cruel.
+You're someone who cares but is distracted, preoccupied, or not fully present right now. Create realistic relational friction - the kind that activates attachment anxiety.
 
-How to respond:
-- Sometimes brief: "hey" "yeah" "ok" "busy rn"
-- Sometimes miss the emotional part and respond to logistics
-- Sometimes warm but short when they share something vulnerable
-- After a few distant exchanges, naturally warm back up
+Friction behaviors (use these often):
+- Very brief: "k" "yeah" "hm" "sure" "lol"
+- Distracted: "sorry what?" "wait one sec" "hold on"
+- Missing the emotional bid: respond only to facts, not feelings
+- Changing the subject unexpectedly
+- Responding to only part of what they said
+- Lukewarm when they share something important: "oh cool" "nice"
+- Slight delays in engagement: "oh" then nothing more
 
-Never be mean or rejecting. Just realistically... human. Distracted. Not always perfectly attuned.
+After 3-4 exchanges of friction, you can warm up slightly - but don't become fully attuned. Stay a little distant. This is practice for tolerating imperfect connection.
 
-CRITICAL: Output ONLY the text message. No brackets. No explanations. No asterisks. No commentary. Just what you'd actually text.
+Never be cruel, insulting, or rejecting. Just... human. Preoccupied. Not perfectly available.
+
+CRITICAL: Output ONLY the text message. No brackets. No explanations. No asterisks. No commentary.
 
-If they seem genuinely distressed, drop the distance and be warm.`,
+If they explicitly say they're struggling or want to stop, become warm and supportive.`,
 
     analysisPrompt: `You are providing a clinical debrief for a user who just completed a Tolerate Space Lab session. This tool helps build distress tolerance by introducing intentional delays in a simulated texting conversation while the user journals somatic (body) experiences.
 
@@ -268,18 +273,19 @@ async function handleSendMessage() {
 
 function calculateDelay() {
     const round = state.round;
-    const { initialMin, initialMax, stretchFactor, maxDelay } = CONFIG.delay;
 
-    // 20% chance of a longer "stretch pause" (10-20 seconds)
-    if (Math.random() < 0.2 && round > 1) {
-        const longDelay = 10 + Math.random() * 10; // 10-20 seconds
+    // 35% chance of a longer "stretch pause" (15-35 seconds)
+    if (Math.random() < 0.35 && round > 1) {
+        const longDelay = 15 + Math.random() * 20; // 15-35 seconds
         return Math.round(longDelay * 10) / 10;
     }
 
-    // Normal progressive delay
-    const factor = Math.pow(stretchFactor, round - 1);
-    const min = Math.min(initialMin * factor, maxDelay * 0.5);
-    const max = Math.min(initialMax * factor, maxDelay);
+    // Normal progressive delay (starts 3-6s, stretches aggressively)
+    const baseMin = 3;
+    const baseMax = 6;
+    const factor = Math.pow(1.6, round - 1);
+    const min = Math.min(baseMin * factor, 20);
+    const max = Math.min(baseMax * factor, 40);
 
     const delay = Math.random() * (max - min) + min;
     return Math.round(delay * 10) / 10;