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largameoperineo | On Day 1 on Vyvanse 30mg and I've been having high anxiety, it's difficult to concentrate because all the physical (increased heart rate, slight pressure on the chest) symptoms of anxiety and psychological distract me and I always feel on the edge. Does this go away? I feel like I took too much coffee and it's just uncomfortable, not nice at all. | 2021-11-26T17:16:48.000Z | r2s434 | 13 | 5 | ADHD | Does Vyvanse anxiety reduces after the first few days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2s434/does_vyvanse_anxiety_reduces_after_the_first_few/ |
Sea-Indepeny944 | For people who take medication- Does it help you stop or reduce rumination?
I hear from lots of people on and/or medication that their minds stops racing and ruminating within an hour. Or just basically slows down by a huge margin. I have been dealing with this issue regarding past things that don’t matter or shouldn’t effect me anymore. I hear that medication options for ADHD Such as Adderall, Concetta, Ritalin, etc. Help with this type of issue. | 2021-11-26T17:15:11.000Z | r2s2ub | 2 | 1 | ADHD | For those who are on medication- Does it help stop/reduce rumination? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2s2ub/for_those_who_are_on_medication_does_it_help/ |
tiiigerrr | I'm curious to hear what workarounds you've developed to manage or even take advantage of your ADHD! Especially the ones that are super specific to you.
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Here's one of mine - sorry it's so long. 😂
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I'd need to take my phone into the bathroom with me because the two minutes or whatever it takes to pee is unbearably boring. I'd then get distracted and wind up spending an exorbitant amount of time on the toilet looking at my phone. I also used to have a hard time keeping up with litterboxes.
So what I did was move the litterboxes directly across from the toilet, with the garbage and scooper in reach too. I threw out my boxes with lids because having to remove the top to scoop was another barrier. Now whenever I go to the bathroom, I use my bored, fidgety energy to clean the litterboxes. This also means they get cleaned way more often!
But it gets better. I figured out that it's relaxing to use the scoop to flatten the litter after cleaning, like a zen sand garden. It looks really nice too. ADHD distractibility takes over. Having the boxes look nice makes me want to sweep the litter off the floor to match. And when the floor is swept I want to clean up the messy sink. And then if I have a wet rag or sponge I may as well spot clean any dirt marks on the floor. And suddenly I'm picking up in the hallway outside. Before I know it I've zoned out cleaning, and I've gotten my half an hour of daily spot cleaning in before I remember what I was doing before I had to pee.
Obviously I enjoy cleaning and keeping things tidy - I just have a really, really hard time making myself do it, so having an easy start-off point is perfect for me. When things aren't organized my life basically falls apart, and things get disorganized daily. Probably this would never work for other people with ADHD who don't like cleaning. Or raking the litter sand 😂 | 2021-11-26T17:13:05.000Z | r2s17u | 21 | 32 | ADHD | What weird ADHD hacks do you have? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2s17u/what_weird_adhd_hacks_do_you_have/ |
ItsZing | This is long but there’s a TDLR at the end.
I’m 21 and was just diagnosed with ADHD a couple months ago, and of course I was doing a ton of research into my adhd, and finding out more about myself and realizing what is connected and what about me was affected by it. I’m so freaking glad I was diagnosed and that I’m getting treatment. While I’m pissed I had to go this long when it was obvious when I was child, I feel lucky I didn’t go into my 50s not knowing what was wrong with me.
On the other hand, my uncle is nearing his 50th birthday and I know for a fact he also has ADHD, untreated. I had my suspicions because he had some of the same traits as me, messy room, overeating, and a bunch of things he does to mask that I do too. Everyone in the family likes to call him lazy, and when I was younger I just accepted that he was lazy too. My father, his older brother, says he has a defeatist attitude, and that’s why he couldn’t get a job and still relies on my grandma so much. My mom (who is unrelated to him and doesn’t know him well) just thinks he’s lazy and doesn’t understand why I would compare myself to him since I’m about to graduate college and I “seem” to be doing so well. He didn’t have a job for a lot of my childhood until he started working for my grandma’s building doing yard work and maintenance a couple years ago. But now knowing what I know about ADHD, and also that they TRIED to diagnose him when he was young but took him off medication because they didn’t like the side effects, it hurts me. I hate that they see him as some kind of disappointment when he probably has the same painful feeling in his brain that I do. The only reason I didn’t end up exactly like him is because of the times we were born in. Aside from the fact that college was less common (esp for a black boy in nyc project housing), If I grew up in the 70’s-80’s I probably never would have gone to a therapist who would suggest ADHD, I wouldn’t have online forums like this to hear other people’s experiences. With how psychiatric medicine used to be they probably gave my uncle 80 mg of adderall when he was 15 and when that obviously had him all kinds of fucked up decided that it wasn’t worth it. Even now my dad is apprehensive about me going on meds because back in his day it was “experimental” and he probably still sees it that way. It doesn’t help that my family and I are Black, and as African Americans there’s a lot of medical trauma to unpack. Once the doctor gave my uncle something with a negative affect my family took him off it to protect him, but didn’t do anything else to help him. No therapy, just ignored it. And now here he is, decades later struggling. That is exactly where I’d be if I didn’t look into my adhd myself after reading about it online, because my parents did the same thing, fearing the medication. It’s not fair he went his whole life like this. He could feel better, do better in his life. He could at least get therapy to understand himself better.
My uncle and I aren’t extremely close, but he gave me my first game cube controller when I was a kid. I care about him. How should I bring this up to him?
Also sorry if this was rambley, I’ve been thinking about this for a while and it’s been getting to me :/
TDLR my 50M uncle has the same untreated ADHD struggles as me and I feel like I should say something about him getting treatment but I don’t know how/what | 2021-11-26T17:10:07.000Z | r2rz0m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My uncle has untreated adhd, should I say something? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rz0m/my_uncle_has_untreated_adhd_should_i_say_something/ |
theunknowncompanion | When at 15, you thought you got lucky and your parents' mental health issues didn't impact you, by 22 you had extreme anxiety issues and skin/hair-pulling....
By 28 you've been diagnosed with ADHD after having symptoms from childhood, and everything suddenly makes sense... but it's a shame that I didn't get out of that house scott free, without any mental issues. Even my dad has said it "you turned out pretty normal given the stuff you've had to deal with" I thought I just had really bad anxiety, it made sense, my mum had it, it passed onto me, a bit like second-hand smoke, I breathed in all that nervous energy that she had... If it wasn't anxiety, it was extreme depression, my own mother each day saying she wanted to desperately kill herself, and one day she succeeded... Some days were good, some days were bad, I could never tell what my mother was going to do or say if it was going to be a good hour or bad hour, let alone a day...
I thought I got through all that relatively unscathed, now, I'm just realizing honestly, how much this has all affected me, and it sucks... | 2021-11-26T17:06:52.000Z | r2rwjw | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Parents and mental illness...*RANT* | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rwjw/parents_and_mental_illnessrant/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T16:56:37.000Z | r2roiu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is Equasym the same as Ritalin? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2roiu/is_equasym_the_same_as_ritalin/ |
RubyDiscus | I've seemingly always had this issue where I don't get tired at night and even with all lights off my mind is racing and I'm not tired at all.
Over time this has really screwed my sleep schedule up. I'm mostly nocturnal but I just don't get tired.
I don't get all sleepy like most people, I'm like wide awake right up till getting into bed then I have to close my eyes and kinda force myself to sleep. Then I usually wake up multiple times during the night.
I went through a period earlier this year when I was sleeping every second day. Seemed to work but the fatigue was annoying.
Its like the later the night gets the more hyperactive and aggitated I get. With racing thoughts and paranoia. So I usually lock all the windows and doors and check them a few times.
I just wish I got sleepy and relaxed like is normal | 2021-11-26T16:49:09.000Z | r2rj6f | 9 | 1 | ADHD | Night time hyperactivity issues | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rj6f/night_time_hyperactivity_issues/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:48:57.000Z | r2rj0t | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Adderall isn’t working nearly as well as Nicotine | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rj0t/adderall_isnt_working_nearly_as_well_as_nicotine/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:44:28.000Z | r2rfl9 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Night time anxiety and hyperactivity | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rfl9/night_time_anxiety_and_hyperactivity/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T16:43:59.000Z | r2rf6g | 7 | 6 | ADHD | Considering taking my medicine on an “as needed” basis. Taking it every day does not sit right with me | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rf6g/considering_taking_my_medicine_on_an_as_needed/ |
MacaroonExpensive143 | I’m on adderall IR, she’s had to titrate up quite a bit but this was no surprise bc I’m suspected to be a “super metabolizer” or whatnot, I forget the formal name. (I haven’t been tested yet) while I can “feel” something, I’m not quite sure what? I do sleep much better, in fact she bumped me from 10mg a dose to 20mg bc 10 was too sedating. I take on an empty stomach and try not to eat within 2 hours after taking. I just don’t feel like other than calming my brain down a bit they’re doing much, or am I 1. Expecting too much from them? Or 2. Not helping the meds help me (are there things I’m not doing right in taking them?)
Im afraid to try a different kind of med bc I hate starting new meds and usually have horrible side effects, this at least doesn’t give me many side effects. Not asking for medical advice but just wondering if anyone has been through this and knows what I’m even trying to describe? Isn’t dopamine supposed to make you happy? Im pretty darn miserable :/ | 2021-11-26T16:43:26.000Z | r2rer3 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Are my meds working? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rer3/are_my_meds_working/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T16:40:56.000Z | r2rcwq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD? Maybe. Struggling to manage my life. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rcwq/adhd_maybe_struggling_to_manage_my_life/ |
SleepyyQueen | I have ADHD but definitely don’t have a type A personality, however, my boss does and let me tell you…. it can get CRAZY!
I work with a young woman who has FASD and the “boss” I’m referring to is her mom. Because of her type A personality, she has a very specific way she wants things done but because of the ADHD, she also often gets sidetracked.
The funniest is when I get text messages because what she needs to say *could* be said in a couple of sentences, but it often goes for much longer. For example, if she knows she’s going to be back late, I won’t just get a “I’ll be home a little late, can you stay until such and such?”, I’ll get an explanation of why she’s late and calculations of how long she thinks it will take her to get home while explaining why she’s expecting it’ll take that long and telling me what I can do in the meantime and so on and so forth.
My fellow ADHD havers, if you’re someone with a type A personality, let me know if you relate to this and how you see your personality showing up alongside your ADHD tendencies. | 2021-11-26T16:40:45.000Z | r2rcsj | 10 | 10 | ADHD | Type A People with ADHD are on a Whole Other Level | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rcsj/type_a_people_with_adhd_are_on_a_whole_other_level/ |
LEMO2000 | I was told to go unmedicated so I could eat thanksgiving dinner, and I did. I was there for 3 hours before I couldn’t take it anymore and I had to leave. I didn’t know half the people there and the people I did know were occupied, I have 0 interest in football, and I think alcohol is fucking nasty so I had nothing to do. After 3 hours I finally tap out and go home. Apparently im an asshole for not faking a fun time during thanksgiving, but it’s perfectly fine to drag me to family functions knowing full well I’ll hate every second of it. How do you guys deal with these awful gatherings of people you don’t care about cuz you only see them on thanksgiving? | 2021-11-26T16:39:18.000Z | r2rbp4 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | I hate holidays | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rbp4/i_hate_holidays/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:39:16.000Z | r2rbns | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can I become a teacher with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2rbns/can_i_become_a_teacher_with_adhd/ |
DM_me_ur_story | Planned to go into town and get my Christmas shopping done for black Friday. Here in the UK we don't get the huge surging crowds you see in black friday videos from the US so it's not even that much harder than regular shopping.
But now it's half four and I need to pack a bag and get a half hour bus into town. But I also haven't eaten and I'm too hungry to go shopping or back a bag. Planned on showering but that's out the window now too.
So now I don't have time to eat and pack a bag and catch the nearest bus. Next one probably won't be for another half an hour.
Eatings gonna take too long, packing a bag is gonna take too long, I'm annoyed that I haven't showered. By the time I actually get there it's probably gonna be 6pm. Pretty sure shops close at 6 or 7pm.
So it's basically not even worth it now. I'm too frustrated to even try. Why is this so difficult?
There would probably still be time if I was just normal and just did what I need to do but in ADHD-time the shops are basically already closed.
I was so close to actually getting my Christmas shopping done in advance instead of going to the supermarket on Christmas eve and buying some pathetically shit presents for people who care about me.
I'm sick of this always happening. I'm just really frustrated and fed up. Equal parts angry at myself and angry at everything else for being so difficult. | 2021-11-26T16:34:15.000Z | r2r7w2 | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Sick of always getting too frustrated and giving up with simple errands | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r7w2/sick_of_always_getting_too_frustrated_and_giving/ |
Good-Bottle7238 | I am 23 and following and I have given up on life. My brain doesn't work and I am hopeless as an intern who can't do simplest of the tasks.
1. I can't find things in front of me.
2. I can't follow instructions and figure simple things out.
3. I am unable to apply concepts as well as solve problems which arise in day to day life.
4. I always give up at everything and lack impulse control.
5. I repeat same mistakes again and again.
6. I lack presence of mind and do things without thinking. | 2021-11-26T16:33:05.000Z | r2r6z5 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Am I using ADHD as a defense mechanism to run away from the fact that, I am dumb and stupid? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r6z5/am_i_using_adhd_as_a_defense_mechanism_to_run/ |
undercover_soup | hello, i've just been diagnosed with adhd-c and starting tomorrow, i'll be taking 5mg of dexedrine daily, probably bumping up to 5mg 2x a day in a few weeks. i haven't found a lot online about side effects and i forgot to ask my doctor when i had the chance.
if anybody has been on dexedrine i'd really like to know if there are side effects i should expect. thanks! also go drink some water. | 2021-11-26T16:31:09.000Z | r2r5ju | 5 | 1 | ADHD | dexedrine side effects? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r5ju/dexedrine_side_effects/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T16:31:01.000Z | r2r5fu | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Please help. Sabotaging myself | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r5fu/please_help_sabotaging_myself/ |
lav__ender | I’m currently dog sitting for the next week, and yesterday morning the dog had peed on the floor so I took the mat he peed on to rinse outside. I got swept up in other tasks and ended up forgetting about the hose. I didn’t even realize until the family had texted me pictures of the neighbors flooded side yard this morning and asked me about it.
I’m so ashamed and embarrassed. The neighbor had come over to ask if I was aware too. I feel horrible since this isn’t even my house and the owners trusted me to watch over it. I don’t know what to do. I’m having a hard time even articulating the words to apologize to this family. I just want to disappear. | 2021-11-26T16:28:30.000Z | r2r3fe | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I left the hose on overnight while I was dogsitting | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r3fe/i_left_the_hose_on_overnight_while_i_was/ |
kellieie | I’ve been taking 20mg of adderall daily for about 4 months now. I’ve noticed the last week or so that after a few hours of feeling the initial effects, I’ve been finding myself falling into a little depressive slump. Feeling pretty sad and drained. Maybe it’s a seasonal thing or from unrelated personal stresses(which are definitely high this time of year).
Was just wondering if anyone has noticed emotional trends like when they feel they might need to discuss with their doc about increasing/changing doses? | 2021-11-26T16:24:54.000Z | r2r0r1 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Emotional trends with adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2r0r1/emotional_trends_with_adderall/ |
Available_Shower2057 | Hi, long-time lurker here. I (F33) was diagnosed with ADHD (combined) 2 months ago, finally! At first I was relieved to get a diagnosis and excited to start Concerta. I have seen some changes Concerta brought with it although nothing incredibly dramatic.
Lately I’ve been feeling stuck in a rut again. A lot of it has been because of some things I have read here about pretty remarkable changes when they have started medication.
I don’t want to rain on anyone’s parade or single anyone out, but lately there’s been some posts that have made me feel especially awful. One was starting Adderall (on a quite a high dose) and getting really happy and energetic and doing a ton of stuff on it. To me it just read like getting high, but it had thousands of upvotes and awards and comments about that’s how medication changes you and I was thinking… Is that what ADHD meds are supposed to do? Is that actually ADHD symptoms being alleviated or just an amphetamine high? Could I get happy and energetic like that too? Why am I not feeling any of that??
(In all honesty, I tried amphetamine recreationally a couple of times many years ago and didn’t get energetic or euphoric even then even though some other people were bouncing off the walls. I was just a little calmer. And I’m pretty small, 115 lbs. So I don’t even know what kind of a monster dose I would have to take to get an actual high.)
Another one that I don’t understand is the ”head feeling clear” thing, or like there had been ten televisions on in your head all the time and then nine of them are switched off. I don’t think anything has been switched off in my head and any changes in clarity are pretty subtle. Maybe it’s a little slower, a little clearer in my head, like it’s easier to observe my thoughts, but nothing is switched off, not for a moment. I was really looking forward to that because even though my physical restlessness has changed, there is never a moment of peace in my head.
I’m now on 72 mg of Concerta. Smaller doses of 18 mg and 32 mg didn’t work, the biggest issue was that it made me extremely sleepy and also somewhat depressed. But I took the sleepiness as a possible good sign that the calming effect of ADHD medication was taking place and the dose was lifted to 54 mg. The sleepiness went away, I felt calmer and physically more relaxed (and I have NEVER in my life felt physically relaxed so that is in itself a small miracle). I wasn’t energetic either, unfortunately, just… normal? All my ”anxiety” (probably ADHD misdiagnosed as anxiety disorders) disappeared too. The most significant improvements have been on the hyperactivity-impulsivity side but with inattention there has been less effect.
I’m especially disappointed that my executive dysfunction isn’t much better at all. It’s easier for me to take a shower and brush my teeth in the morning and keep my place clean but anything more than that just doesn’t happen. I still get stuck in my head like I did before and can’t get started with what I want to do. I don’t see a whole lot of improvement in focus either.
Fatigue from meds wearing off in the afternoon/evening was pretty bad so my doctor told me to try adding a second dose (18 mg) later in the morning/noon. It helped and now I’m crashing later in the evening at bedtime. But I haven’t seen improvement in executive dysfunction between 54 mg and 72 mg. My thoughts are somewhat clearer and more linear, but there’s still no great peace, no pause, no silence. I’m still stuck in my head and can’t get out.
Executive dysfunction is the most soul-crushing part of ADHD. I’ve been crying a few times when I read posts about people having great bursts of energy and getting all the things done that they have been putting off for months. I’m still stuck. I still can’t do the things I want to do. I’m starting to feel desperate. It’s not even about all the basic boring things you have to get done, it’s the things I love and want to do.
Do you think a change of medication could help? My next appointment with my psychiatrist is in February. I’m scared to ask him for a change of meds because I’m afraid that asking for Vyvanse/Elvanse (lisdexamfetamine) sounds suspicious. (Adderall isn’t even legal here.)
I’m grateful for hyperactivity and impulsivity decreasing. I’m grateful for being able to sleep better, not trying to do a million things at once, and wasting less time on dumb, meaningless stimulating things that suck me in (internet, social media, binge eating, alcohol, and a random assortment of crap). I’m grateful for being more relaxed and interested in social situations and my mood being more stable, and for not being as irritable and impatient as I usually am. But not being able to get out of my head is killing me. I’m spending hours a day just sitting and thinking, daydreaming, fantasising, making plans but not carrying them out.
Reading about ExTReMe changes here is making me feel absolutely shit. I’m not sure if this sub is deluded and celebrating getting high or is the energy and happiness something that should happen. And is the peace of mind exaggerated here or just such a subjective experience that I can’t feel it in the same way? Or is Concerta not working for me? Am I just a difficult/severe case?
I don’t even know anymore what I should expect and what is realistic. Can you really get that level of energy and do all/most things you want? Is it possible to get that clarity of mind? I just want some silence in my head and do things I like. What is realistic to expect? Help??
EDIT: So embarrassing to edit this but I just remembered I’m PMSing and I get really bad pre-menstrual depression (PMDD, google it) that makes me lose perspective and completely drowns me for a while. So ignore the extremely emotional tone of the post… even though the point still stands.
Anyone want a uterus and a pair of ovaries? Just message me and you can have them 🥲 | 2021-11-26T16:22:35.000Z | r2qz32 | 126 | 253 | ADHD | Feeling like shit after reading some best-voted posts here… What are ACTUALLY realistic expectations from medication? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qz32/feeling_like_shit_after_reading_some_bestvoted/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:16:55.000Z | r2quuf | 10 | 3 | ADHD | I feel bad for wanting to have ADHD | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2quuf/i_feel_bad_for_wanting_to_have_adhd/ |
palingu77 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:13:26.000Z | r2qsdz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse (Elvanse) dissolve in water and increase dose, possible? 30 -> 50mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qsdz/vyvanse_elvanse_dissolve_in_water_and_increase/ |
Fantastic-Drink-4852 | So this psychiatrist I went to see today said I should feel better by taking vitamin D, omega 3(specifically chia seeds), and eating more dates. She said she doesn’t know much about ADHD, but if a different doctor prescribes me meds for it I shouldn’t take them(?), I got very confused. Then she went on to tell me to meditate and try to be more present, I told her I’m having difficulties with it and she said “well that’s what meditation’s for”. She kept emphasising eating dates because she read about them in a yoga book, she must like them a lot I guess. Her solution for studying was to just sit down and reeeeeaaally commit to it. I don’t think she took me seriously, she also said ADHD is a children’s issue, so her, as an adult psychiatrist, is not qualified to talk about it. For some reason she thought it was important to mention how her daughter is “clumsy” as well(?) but she got her degree so I should be able to focus on my studies as well.
Then she made me write a test about depression, adding the points together I was right on the line between “less severe” and “severe”. She didn’t mention it at all afterwards.
I came out of the room crying, I felt like it was more of a spiritual class than a medical appointment. She made me feel like a fool, and like I’m imagining things. On the medical paper I got in the diagnosis field she wrote ADHD with a question mark.
Edit: I just wanna clarify that I do think yoga, meditation can be helpful. Also eating healthy is very important, but she was extremely unprofessional and it made me upset. | 2021-11-26T16:10:54.000Z | r2qqkv | 177 | 407 | ADHD | New psychiatrist said I should eat more dates | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qqkv/new_psychiatrist_said_i_should_eat_more_dates/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T16:02:48.000Z | r2qknk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Adhd therapy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qknk/adhd_therapy/ |
cadebasil | [removed] | 2021-11-26T16:01:36.000Z | r2qjq1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It’s amazing what I can get done, when I’m avoiding the main thing I need to get done… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qjq1/its_amazing_what_i_can_get_done_when_im_avoiding/ |
Imaginary_Release_13 | i was diagnosed back in may i think and i’ve never felt worse. i was prescribed 10mg XR and then 20mg, taken daily of as needed. at first, it was great. the prescription helped me focus on on my tasks, it was almost like tunnel vision. sure, it wasn’t a “magic pill” that fixed all of my academic, social and mental issues but it felt like it eased the pressure a little bit. but now the pressure is back and i feel like i can’t function anymore.
everyday is hard, everything is hard. i’m 21 years old and i’ve been dealing with depression since i was 6 or 7. i always feel “down” no matter what and when i was 16, i was diagnosed with persistent depressive disorder which made perfect sense. recently though, i can’t think of anything but being depressed. i can’t eat or sleep, do my work, nothing. it’s hard for me to socialize too. suicidal idealization takes over majority of my thoughts. my heart beats faster and faster for no reason and suddenly i’m freaking out again. anxiety attack after anxiety attack, i’m also EXTREMELY sensitive to anything that resembles “rejection.” i don’t want to live because it requires me to suffer. adhd makes me feel more useless and worthless because i can’t do any of the things i need to. no matter how hard i try. or if i do them i always do them poorly.
college also destroyed me, looks like i’m not gonna graduate this spring. i want to just drop out but i put way too much money into it, i’m gonna have loans until i’m 50. i’m so broken. the work is TOO MUCH PLEASE. i can’t handle it. | 2021-11-26T16:01:35.000Z | r2qjpl | 7 | 7 | ADHD | TW: i can’t live with adhd. (rant) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qjpl/tw_i_cant_live_with_adhd_rant/ |
Role_Mat | So I’ve only just recently started on medication after being diagnosed in July. I started on Xaggitin XL, which was a nightmare, and have now moved onto Elvanse, which hasn’t really given me any bad side effects so far.
My question is, how do I know that I am on the correct medication? I still really struggle with executive functioning and motivation, although it has got a little better since starting medication.
Do I need to be asking to be moved to a something different or is this the norm? I’m a little sad that I haven’t experienced the instant joy that some people mention when they first start on their meds, but realise that isn’t the case for everyone.
Thanks! | 2021-11-26T15:58:29.000Z | r2qh8b | 1 | 2 | ADHD | At what point are my meds successful? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qh8b/at_what_point_are_my_meds_successful/ |
nnaoam | Recently my phone started malfunctioning. Around the same time, I started missing alarms despite using the same app and system that's worked for me without fail for over a year. I rely on this system working, but I don't know if the issue is me or the damn phone... I also don't know how soon I'll be able to replace it. I HAVE to be able to wake up consistently, it absolutely crashes me otherwise, so I'm at a loss right now.
I know at least some of the time it's the phone, because the alarm app I use has a history function and some of the alarms I "miss" aren't even there. But that's an even bigger problem, because this is the only system I've ever found that allowed me to actually use alarms reliably. But I also know that some of the time it's just me ignoring them now, which I suspect is a knock-on effect. | 2021-11-26T15:53:37.000Z | r2qdxc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know if it's my phone that isn't working or me... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2qdxc/i_dont_know_if_its_my_phone_that_isnt_working_or/ |
srv199020 | My husband and I were discussing many things over breakfast recently, and somehow the subject of happiness came up. Can’t remember how, but it led to me telling him I’m either happy or not happy, one of the two. I think it was because he was confused why I assumed he was upset when he said he wasn’t happy, I naturally assumed that if he wasn’t happy he had to be upset. Then he goes and blows my mind by telling me that for the majority of people, they go around feeling just “okay”. I said, “so they’re bummed? They’re upset? Like not angry, but kind of sad?” The sweet Saint of a man said, “nooo…they’re neither. They’re just, okay.”
Still didn’t understand. He equally was confused with me. I told him, if I’m not one, I’m the other. He asked, and I told him that even when I feel my version of “okay” I still have either joy in my heart/body, or a small amount of somberness or bummed out feeling.
This was blowing my mind still. I thought about what it must feel like to live in this middle ground he described, and I told him “ THAT SOUNDS SO BORING. Do most people go around living is this state of mind??” He said, “yup…”. Then he reluctantly nodded his head when I said, “that must be why my highs are so high and my lows are so low, I don’t have a middle ground state for emotions.”
Now this was just him telling me this, so I had to ask:
Does anyone else know this “okay” state he’s describing? How would you describe it? Do you not have a middle ground like me? | 2021-11-26T15:46:35.000Z | r2q954 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Joy or No Joy — No middle ground | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q954/joy_or_no_joy_no_middle_ground/ |
erasedme23 | Hello! My boyfriend of four years is adhd diagnosed since childhood and takes Adderall for it. We have had our ups and downs struggling with all the things that come with ADHD. The reason why I’m coming here is to see if anyone else is experiencing what I’m experiencing or to give me their advice if they have experienced the same thing. Lately he has got into a habit of taking his Adderall and jerking off. I have no problem with porn, and most times I try to join and fulfill his fantasies. His sessions can last anywhere from 2 to 12 plus hours. When we do you get intimate I try to do exactly what he is wanting. Sometimes I let him just go and masterbate for as long as he wants so he can get it out of his system. No matter what I do it doesn’t give him what he wants. He is constantly switching videos.
Sometimes we will send gifs or stories back-and-forth to get it going, but no matter how long I try to have sex with him we just end up masturbating next to each other until I can’t take it anymore after five or six hours and then he will just keep going. I have noticed that it’s hard for him to get hard just for me without the extra stimulation of porn or anything else. Last night, and I apologize if this is too much information, he was really into the idea of tying me up. I finally went ahead with it, he used toys on me briefly and then wanted me to do it myself and all of that jazz. But then when I was blindfolded, he continued to just watch porn. He wanted me to do everything to myself. I waited it out but nothing ever changed. I ended up getting sore and just had to stop and he is still just watching porn. I’m curious if anybody else has this addiction and if it strains anybody else’s relationship.
I don’t want to tell him he can’t watch porn because it really doesn’t bother me, but I’m starting to feel like no matter what I do or how I try to participate, it won’t be enough. I am frustrated and I do want to talk to him about this, but I I don’t want to upset him. Has anybody else had this issue and if so, what happened? I know he loves me very deeply, but starting to not even like looking at porn. Anytime we have had sex I have initiated it, and it hasn’t been that much or often. I get scared that it won’t be fun for him because it will just be me and him.I mean every couple weeks or a month or so I’ll initiate it and it lasts very briefly. I can’t remember the last time he initiated with me.I love him so much but I just don’t know what to do. One of his biggest complaints is that we don’t have sex and we’re not very intimate. But I don’t remember the last time hr actually ever initiated. With that being said, I feel like no matter what kind of sex we have we have to up the ante or it won’t be fun.I would love to hear from anybody about this. I wanna make it very clear that I do love my boyfriend and this isn’t a post to shit on him, I just am so crazy with not knowing what to do.
I apologize that I didn’t frame this in a way that is the easiest to read, I will go back through soon and make that easier. | 2021-11-26T15:46:23.000Z | r2q90k | 29 | 8 | ADHD | ADHD Boyfriend of four years addicted to porn | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q90k/adhd_boyfriend_of_four_years_addicted_to_porn/ |
Environmental-Cake34 | I did well in school. I had to work way harder than my classmates and I always procrastinated, but I still got good grades. But ever since I've graduated from college I've been falling apart. I can't seem to hold a job or find something I'm engaged in. I can't motivate myself to do anything.
How do I get out of this rut? Is medication the key? It doesn't matter how many self help books I read or new habits I try to implement. I'm still a trainwreck. And if medication doesn't work, what can I try? | 2021-11-26T15:42:42.000Z | r2q6d2 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I did well in school but I can't handle adulthood | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q6d2/i_did_well_in_school_but_i_cant_handle_adulthood/ |
notreallysure63 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T15:41:41.000Z | r2q5n0 | 18 | 0 | ADHD | Developing ADHD? (F 22) | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q5n0/developing_adhd_f_22/ |
mazalope | Hi all,
I wanted to share a bit about my experience as a 33 year old just starting to navigate the world of ADHD treatment. Since a lot of people seem to ask about getcerebral, I figured I'd also share my experience with them. This will be a long post, so bear with me if you can.
**For context:** For as long as I can remember I have struggled with focusing and paying attention while others are talking to me, while my partner tries to tell me about her day, I am always half-listening while cooking dinner, watering plants etc. I am constantly fidgeting during meetings, always forgetting details, losing my belongings, and chronically procrastinating. I also have extreme social anxiety, and have a hard time being around large groups of new people. Even though I have always been this way, I am intelligent, and I have been relatively successful in school and my work environment. I was able to complete grad school, and I have a very independent work life. I even recently began teaching college-level courses at a local University.
However, my problems with focus and inattention, and social awkwardness became much more apparent when I began freelance work during the pandemic, and I severely struggled completing tasks while working from home. It is no exaggeration that sometimes it can take me an entire day to write a paragraph. I start writing a sentence, and then I check my e-mail, then water the plants, then put on a pot of tea, then return to my desk, then watch 30 seconds of a youtube video, then answer a text message I forgot about... etc. My inability to start projects and keep track of details has led to increased anxiety, and an elevated sense of imposter syndrome. I have been in a spiral lately where my lack of focus and inattention makes me anxious that I'll never succeed, and my anxiety makes me avoid the tasks that I desperately need to get started in order to succeed. I've felt stuck.
Because of all of this, I sought therapy for the first time several months ago on betterhelp, suspecting that I had aspergers, the idea that I have ADHD never crossed my mind. My therapist is a licensed clinical mental health counselor with a PhD in psychology. After meeting with her for several weeks, and as she got to know me more, we did a few screening exercises together and she suggested that I very likely have undiagnosed ADHD. I initially disagreed -- surely *somebody* would have noticed this by now. I'm 33 years old, how hadn't I been diagnosed before? I always thought kids with ADHD were hyper, and I was the opposite -- quiet, shy, and contemplative.
We continued to explore this further, and after taking several more assessments, she was very strongly convinced that I have ADHD. She highly recommended that I try medication to treat it while we work on some other techniques together, however, she is not able to formally diagnose me or provide me with medication in the state where I live, so she recommended a doctor in the area. I am currently in a health insurance limbo, and since a lot of people have moved to my state during the pandemic, getting an appointment to meet a new PCP will take between 6 and 8 weeks, then I need a referral and who knows how long it will be before I actually meet with this psychiatrist! I was hesitant to take this step -- I have never been on prescription medication before -- but when I saw an ad for Cerebral, I thought that this could be a good fit, and I could get a head start on treatment while I waited.
**My experience with Cerebral:** After signing up for a pretty cheap introductory price, the first available appointment to meet with a prescriber was *3 weeks away!* I booked it, and decided not to complain since the first month was only $30. However, the day before my appointment he cancelled with no explanation! I called to try and set up an appointment with another prescriber and the best they could do was another week out. I waited, and again a day before I was scheduled to meet the prescriber cancelled with no explanation. I called and complained, and they gave me 50% off my second month, and set me up with another prescriber. I wish I had just cancelled right then and there.
When I finally met with my prescriber, he immediately came off as annoyed (like he had better things to be doing), skeptical, and his understanding of ADHD seemed stigmatized and out-dated. He asked me why I thought I had ADHD, and I began explaining everything that I outlined above. He cut me off a couple sentences in and said "People come in here all the time telling me that they have ADHD. It's a catch-all term, and its over-diagnosed. Why are you so convinced you have it?" I told him that ever since my therapist suggested I could have ADHD, I did some research and it started to make a lot of sense. He cut me off again saying "So why won't she prescribe you with medication if she's so convinced?" I repeated that she could not prescribe it in my state, so she recommended that I see somebody who can.
At this point I felt like I wanted to cry, here I was seeking help, and doing what I thought was the right thing. I was taking the advice of someone who I really trusted, and this guy, after knowing me for five minutes was just telling me that I was wrong.
He asked a few other questions: "Have you ever been in a car accident? Were you bouncing off the walls as a kid? How are your grades, did you do poorly in school?" When I answered no to all these questions he said "Well, then it doesn't sound like you have ADHD, people with ADHD usually get into car accidents, have poor grades and tend to be hyper".
Based on my own limited knowledge and research, and what my therapist had told me, ADHD can present in two different ways, inattention (which *very* clearly seems to fit me), and hyperactivity/impulsivity (which doesn't fit me as much). When I brought this up to the prescriber, he again became dismissive and even argumentative.
He then asked me how often I drink alcohol and smoke cannabis. I was 100% honest with him and admitted that I consume THC and CBD regularly as a tincture or as edibles (it's legal in my state), and sometimes it does help with my anxiety, other times it makes it worse. He said "So, you come here telling me you have trouble focusing and getting things done, and you're getting high all the time? You don't think there's a connection there?" I responded by saying "Fair enough, but I have always had these symptoms, long before I ever tried pot for the first time, and these symptoms persist even when I am not using THC."
He continued to press me on this saying: "You claim that you're hesitant to try medication, but you're self-medicating every day? People think that since cannabis is legal now that it's harmless, but it can exacerbate your anxiety". At this point I was choking back tears, I did not seek out treatment to be judged. I often go months or even years without using THC, and I still exhibit all of the classic symptoms of ADHD, I still experience anxiety.
This man does not know me, he hasn't even tried to get to know me. If there was any formal assessment or diagnosis during this process, I did not know about it. He ended the conversation by saying "I'm hesitant to prescribe two medications at once for you." Before doing exactly that: straterra and lexapro. No explanation of how to take them, or what their side-effects are, or if they are the best fit for me. I had no say in the matter.
Personally, I am uncomfortable starting two medications at once, and I wish he would have explained this further. The day they arrived, I took them as prescribed and within 30 mins I was violently ill. Vomiting, sweating, shivering. I was totally knocked out for 24 hours, and I could not bring myself to take them again. I decided that I'd rather take the symptoms of ADHD and have a somewhat enjoyable life then feel that way ever again.
Ever since this interaction I have felt considerable self-doubt. I feel lost, and confused, and invalidated. I thought I was getting closer to a solution -- and maybe I am -- but I do not feel supported.
Again, sorry for this lengthy message. I get that this was just one prescriber, but I got the vibe from cerebral that they are not the place to go for a first step. I do not want anyone else to feel this way after taking the first step toward seeking help. Good luck to you all on your journeys with ADHD, mine is off to a rough start, but I hope to hit my stride soon. | 2021-11-26T15:41:07.000Z | r2q57n | 1 | 6 | ADHD | bad experience with cerebral/trouble getting treatment as an adult | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q57n/bad_experience_with_cerebraltrouble_getting/ |
DustyLemonTree | TLDR at end
My assessment was meant to be nearly a year away in 2022. I was put on the cancellation list and I've just been told I have an appointment next week. I have huge self confidence issues anyway but I suddenly feel like I've been making everything up and I'll just be wasting everyones time.
I often jump between thinking *'I must have ADHD as it's obvious'* to '*I'm making it up and I must just trying to make connections that aren't there'*.
I often worry that I'm just watering down the struggles of people who actually have ADHD to fit my own symptoms (while simultaneously connecting to endless amounts of symptoms both big and small to do with ADHD) and I don't want to do that, I don't want to minimise peoples real struggles. But at the same time I was never allowed to express my own struggles as a child which has only scared me as a very openly emotional person and now I find it so difficult to trust my own instinct.
I don't feel prepared for this assessment at all and I'm quite anxious as it's the first official mental health assessment I've ever had. I've suffered with chronically bad mental health since I was really young and I grew up in a family that would rather pretend everything was fine than admit anything was wrong, almost like poor mental health doesn't exist, but if it does....don't ever ever tell anyone!!
**People diagnosed as adults, how did you feel leading up to your assessment?** I've had to really fight for this assessment as my GP practice is unfortunately very dismissive, very unorganised and very forgetful (they lost my referral letters more than once!!) and just generally not a great practice (I do want to change eventually).
I already forgot that I had previously filled out all of the questionnaires until the person on the phone reminded me.
**Whats the best way to prepare so I'm not a complete mess?**
Also, I'll most likely cry as I cry at everything, thats not going to put the Doctor off is it?
.........
**TLDR:**
\-**My ADHD assessment has been pushed forward and I suddenly feel like I've made everything up and I'm not prepared.**
\-**How do I prepare for my first ever official mental health assessment?**
\-**How did you feel as an adult before your ADHD Assessment?** | 2021-11-26T15:40:32.000Z | r2q4t5 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | I've just had my P-UK assessment fast tracked to next week and now I'm terrified that I don't have ADHD, that I'm just an imposter and that I'm going to be wasting the doctors time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q4t5/ive_just_had_my_puk_assessment_fast_tracked_to/ |
Dschinn_ | Recently, I accidentally stumbled across the correlation of ADHD and sleep apnea. I never heard of sleep apnea, so I researched it and found out both have pretty overlapping symptoms. What I couldn't find out were the differences between both. As I think it is possible I have sleep apnea, I wanted to find out whether I even actually have ADHD.
So does anyone know of symptoms that occur in ADHD but not in sleep apnea or vice versa? Does anyone have experience with both and is able to say which symptom comes from which cause in them? | 2021-11-26T15:39:20.000Z | r2q3yu | 15 | 3 | ADHD | Sleep apnea & ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q3yu/sleep_apnea_adhd/ |
recipeOfCucumber | [removed] | 2021-11-26T15:35:15.000Z | r2q10c | 303 | 221 | ADHD | Took Vyvanse 3 hours ago first time, a lot of anxiety, does it get better over the days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2q10c/took_vyvanse_3_hours_ago_first_time_a_lot_of/ |
Marwoleath | Alright, so my whole life I have been the worst at waking up. Snooze after snooze after snooze, its terrible. I can't, I don't want too, its the worst. No matter if I slept 4 hours or 14, its the same. I have struggled with this for so long.
And then, at some point, I don't remember what triggered me, but I got an idea. I put an alarm for 1 hour and 15 minutes before I wanted to wake up. And a normal alarm. When the first alarm went off, I took my meds (that I put on my nightstand the night before, 1 bottle with my exact dose) turned off the alarm, and went to sleep again. When my second alarm went off, I snoozed it on autopilot, threw off my blanket, got out of bed and into the bathroom. The moment I crossed through my doorframe, I froze, checked my phone, and just couldn't believe it. I got out of bed. In 1 go. No snoozing, nothing.
I have never been so productive in the mornings. I am getting things done. I suddenly have time to eat breakfast, make lunch, do some other random things, and still leave on time! Its like a whole new world out there. I can't believe I never thought of doing this before.
Therefore, I am here now, sharing this with you guys. If there is anyone suffering with the same thing, this worked so well for me! You should really try it out!
The only time it doesnt work as well is when I am actually truly tired and didn't get enough sleep. 8 hours works perfect, 6-8 hours works decently but not too often in a row, less than 6 hours depends on how well I have been sleeping before. But still, even when super tired, I need so little snoozes! Like 1 or 2 max! Its amazing.
I picked 1h15m because somehow that was a nice number the first time (waking up at 615, accidentally put 5 for first alarm and left it there) and works best for me. If I do 1 hour I still snooze once, if I do 1h30m I somehow wake up by myself around the 1h10/1h20 mark, so this worked perfectly for me.
I hope this helps someone else too! | 2021-11-26T15:33:48.000Z | r2pzzo | 37 | 162 | ADHD | No longer snoozing dozens of alarms before I finally get out of bed! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pzzo/no_longer_snoozing_dozens_of_alarms_before_i/ |
Zac_N_Cheese | Hi friends!
New to the community here and have dealt with ADHD pretty much my entire life (diagnosed around 7, now 27.) My adult life has become more challenging with this illness and I recently was prescribed Vyvanse 30mg in the morning. During the morning and afternoon, I feel phenomenal. Mood is great and concentration is amazing. I almost feel superhuman (I'm actually posting this now in the morning as it's when I can concentrate the most to put this all out there.) However, I've quickly learned that after midday I'm feeling groggy, headache-y, and irritable, which isn't fun.
I'm reaching out to ask, what non-medicinal approaches do all you use to extend the effects of medications, or just to help keep focus and concentration consistent? Yes, maybe my prescriber will offer some sort of afternoon medication but I'd like to try and minimize the quantity of medications as much as possible.
TLDR; how do you all improve memory and concentration without medicinal interventions? | 2021-11-26T15:30:00.000Z | r2px6t | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Improving or increasing the effects of Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2px6t/improving_or_increasing_the_effects_of_vyvanse/ |
Mq200 | Almost 6 years after my ID became invalid, I'm about to get a new one.
I don't even know how I got by without one but I did mostly. I guess other forms of identification.
But this stuff makes me wonder what's wrong with me. I think my biggest problem is lack of sleep. I always wake up late and most important things and institutions operate in the morning. | 2021-11-26T15:21:01.000Z | r2pqmq | 4 | 11 | ADHD | After 6 years of its expiration, I'm about to revalidate my ID | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pqmq/after_6_years_of_its_expiration_im_about_to/ |
JensengTea | Hello - my thoughts are racing right now and this might not be the easiest post to understand, but I'll try my best to explain what I'm thinking and break it up into sections. I hope it's not too confusing - I just really want to discuss this topic with others. I'm hyperfocused on it right now for some reason and have actually been writing this post for about three hours now LOL
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You know those "ADHD cycles" where you have like one or two days of really good productivity (peaks) and then you get stuck being unable to do anything at all (ruts)? Well, when you finally get out of the stuck phase doesn't it feel really good? Almost... *dangerously* good? The world is clearer and brighter and you're ecstatic to be back in control of your own life. The end of the ADHD rut is marked by the biggest surge of dopamine you've had in what feels like forever.
**TLDR: Do you get stuck in ADHD cycles?**
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I have noticed that my ruts have slowly increased in length such that I'm now spending months unable to do much of anything. But because of this longer deficit of dopamine, the rush that comes from finally getting out of a rut is even more rewarding. Then, as being productive becomes less rewarding, the peak ends and a new rut begins. And each successive rut needs to be longer than the last. Here's a metaphor that I think explains it better.
I feel like I'm on a no sugar diet (the rut). On cheat days (the peaks), I get to eat one chocolate bar and it feels great. If I make every day a cheat day, the chocolate isn't special any more and it doesn't feel as great to eat it. But, if I only get one cheat day at the end of each month, that day is the best day I've had in a month. If I only get one cheat day at the end of each year, that day is the best day I've had in an entire year.
I'm scared that one day, I'll enter a rut and never come back out of it. I'll be stuck thinking about how great it'll feel to finally get my life together again, but never be able to feel it again.
**TLDR: Can you relate to this? Does anyone have any articles or information on this topic? It's got some pretty scary parallels with addiction.** | 2021-11-26T15:20:40.000Z | r2pqd9 | 28 | 81 | ADHD | Do you get stuck in "ADHD Cycles"? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pqd9/do_you_get_stuck_in_adhd_cycles/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T15:16:33.000Z | r2pnau | 2 | 1 | ADHD | brain scan? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pnau/brain_scan/ |
UncleBrownFingers | Hi Everyone,
I just thought i'd jump on here and share something i've found this past couple of weeks that I feel has really been working with me.
So I started using Trello which is a Kanban system used often used to manage projects in creative studios etc.
I recently decided to move back into a creative position, so I spoke to a very enthusiastic and keen recruiter and panicked when I realised how neglected and irrelevent my portfolio was, so I naturally
🌄 hyper fixateeeed 🌄
and planned a whole case study which was beautiful and super in depth.
And decided to operate very professionally and use Trello to manage it.
Its been great for me. I don't get held up organising my thoughts, because i just open trello and it tells me what I wanted to do and when. Its like talking to myself 3 days in the past.
I'm honestly mashing work out easier than I ever have.
The best things about it are that it's drag and drop its, you can fully customise your boards with colours and stickers, which I use to denote importance,time sensitive stuff and end goals. Its totally free.
I've even started using it in my everyday life for housework and errands on a separate board, its fantastic.
Erm...your welcome?
Trello.com | 2021-11-26T15:14:41.000Z | r2pluz | 10 | 18 | ADHD | 🌋ADHD life hack for you 🌋 | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pluz/adhd_life_hack_for_you/ |
ElementaryMyDearWut | Hello peeps,
I have a friend who is currently seeking her adult ADHD diagnosis. She's with psychiatry UK, but is possibly 2+ months away from a diagnosis, and even further away from medication.
She's really struggling with her job because of her ADHD which sends her into a loop because she feels like her job should be "easy". It's really heart-breaking listening to her cry as usually there is some remedy to the situation, but with the lockdown in the UK and the surge of ADHD diagnosis, the NHS is backed up.
Does anyone have any advice for someone like her? Are there any alterative paths for diagnosis that are faster (that are not £800+ private GPs), any over the counter help, self help etc?
Any advice would be appreciated so much. Thank you guys. | 2021-11-26T15:12:05.000Z | r2pjvh | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Suggestions for someone who's waiting for a diagnosis? Self help/alternatives etc. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2pjvh/suggestions_for_someone_whos_waiting_for_a/ |
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angrymice | Yesterday I talked to my brother over video chat. He's a doctor in Montana, and I don't often get to talk to him. I brought up that I recently started Adderall, and that it was really helping with motivation and focus at work. He said, he was glad it was helping, but it would help with focus whether or not you have ADHD. He said, he didn't think I had ADHD, because they would've caught it when I was a kid. I asked if he didn't think there was Adult ADHD. He said he thinks there are adults with ADHD, but there isn't Adult Onset ADHD (which I never claimed there was) except in certain neurological circumstances like head trauma.
I'm 40 and was just diagnosed in May. I had been mostly successful in school, and have a Master's in Library and Information Science. So, no I didn't display the stereotypical issues when I was younger that would inhibit my school work enough to seek help. But I mostly got by on charm and promise, instead of actually completing assignments to my potential. I always wrote papers the night before, no matter how interested or prepared I was in the topic. This became a big problem in my attempt at a Master's in Literature that I tried to get simultaneously with my MLIS. Focusing on writing papers was nearly impossible for me, and I missed deadlines and got extensions until I had to drop out of the program. I've been mostly successful at my job, largely by following a 'putting out fires' approach. But I struggle with initiative, and, especially after returning from the pandemic I've hardly done any work at all.
So, yeah, I've gotten by, but I've never felt like I've succeeded. Hearing about the characteristics of ADHD has really helped me to identify the causes for my struggles. I know I have ADHD, and I know that there are thousands of adults that get diagnosed with it, and the diagnosis helps them too. Still his doubt started eating into me.
Eventually after talking with him more, I pointed out that I was diagnosed by a neuropsych. That seemed to mollify him, and he said, Oh I guess you do have ADHD. Still, it's frustrating that my brother, and still many in the medical community, have prejudices and misconceptions about ADHD. | 2021-11-26T14:37:34.000Z | r2oufx | 11 | 1 | ADHD | MD Brother doubts I have ADHD | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2oufx/md_brother_doubts_i_have_adhd/ |
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AliensAreComing4Tea | ...I should not force myself to do one thing for hours on end, unless I'm able to actually focus on it and feel good about that. If I can't focus then I **need** to do something else
I think the most important thing I learned about handling my adhd is if I come across something that I can't focus on then I should not force myself to stay in that situation and focus on it. When I can't focus, thats my minds way of telling me that I need to go do something else. My mind is just passive agressive. So instead of making it obvious and out right telling me that I'm bored, go do something else, it would rather give me little hints that are hard to pick up on.
Sometimes I will sit at my desk and **force** myself to do my hw, but have absolutely no luck. That's really frustrating and it stresses me out. What I learned is that my mind is trying to tell me that I need a break. I've found that my mind prefers something active instead of being on Reddit or playing videogames. Instead of doing that, I need to go and clean, organize, make dinner, play with my cat, or anything like that thats active. Sometimes I may need longer breaks vs shorter ones and I may need to do multiple activities before I am ready to study again.
After awhile of doing those I can feel myself be ready to study again and then I can go back and study and really get the most out of the study session. I'm so glad I learned this. I've been getting so much more done, not just with school, but in my life as well. I also just feel happier because I'm not forcing myself to sit at my desk for hours on end.
What helps you the most? | 2021-11-26T14:28:59.000Z | r2ood6 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I've been learning how to handle my adhd. I've found that... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ood6/ive_been_learning_how_to_handle_my_adhd_ive_found/ |
Galaxxydreamer19 | I Will be traveling back to my home state for my entire Christmas vacation (almost a month) but my RX is filled while I'm there. I don't know what to do I'm starting to freak out, I need my meds. I initially thought maybe I could have someone pick it up and ship it to me but after doing some googling I found out that's highly illegal. Any thoughts??? | 2021-11-26T14:27:41.000Z | r2onah | 3 | 1 | ADHD | HELP ME OUT | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2onah/help_me_out/ |
Person_withQuestions | I have been diagnosed this summer and have been noticing behaviour and thinking patterns that now I can connect with ADHD.
One of those things is related to how I manage to REALLY relax. It's very difficult for me to, for example, sit and meditate, or do excercises for calming down if I'm on my own. But if somebody else "forces" me to be in that situation it feels very different. If I go to get a shiatsu massage I can actually concentrate on my body and let go all the thoughts because I totally trust that the person who's handling me knows what to do. It's very grounding and after that my brain-storms are cleared for a while.
to the NSFW part: I am now wondering about something I found out in my private (aka sexual) life. I've known for a while my tastes are not exactly vanilla. I can enjoy vanilla sex as well, but there are some situations that put me in a mind space that somehow is even better than the thought of an orgasm. Being restrained, not having choices, not having to show initiative, brings me to the most pleasurable sense of peace and presence in my body that I ever experienced (and I wish I had the opportunity be in that space more often, but that's another story).
So yeah, I wonder if it's just a kink of mine, or if there is a psychological, maybe even therapeutical effect from bdsm that more people with ADHD can relate with.
I'd really like to hear other people experiences on this!
I hope this is not too weird to post here, I didn't read anything against this kind of post in the rules, but if this is too much of a sensible topic, i am really sorry and will delete the post.
Edit: seen the traction this post has gotten, some worries some people expressed about risking to fall into the trap of saying a random personality trait and connecting it with ADHD. As a human I love to find connection between things but of course I don't want to insinuate that anybody's interest in BDSM IS ADHD related.
So to pose it on a more clear light, my point and question is not: am I kinky because i have ADHD?
but instead: Does anybody experience that BDSM practices have positive effect on ADHD annoying symptoms? | 2021-11-26T14:17:57.000Z | r2oflu | 366 | 1,633 | ADHD | NSFW and not for kids - ADHD and bdsm | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2oflu/nsfw_and_not_for_kids_adhd_and_bdsm/ |
binchlauren | I got diagnosed with combined type ADHD recently. I started medication (Ritalin) for that about 3 weeks ago? Something like that, and I can’t even begin to describe how amazing it is. I can actually take my time with my speech, I’m more calm and collected, and have even started doing some of the things I’ve always wanted to but never could find the motivation for (drawing, boxing, etc). But the one thing I’ve realized is that I’m finally content with being alone. I’ll try to explain what I mean. I’ve always said I was an introvert, that I didn’t like people, and that I preferred to be alone. But I’d always find myself bending over backwards for people, reaching so hard to interact with people, being social, and HATING it. I’d always end up sabotaging or ruining my social interactions with people, but still keep trying time and time again, thinking it would be different next time. After learning more about my diagnosis, I assume I was just under stimulated. Because of this medication, I’m finally learning how to stick to myself, and stop trying to force myself to be something or someone that I’m not. I’m sticking to doing the things I LOVE, and are keeping to myself. And I couldn’t be happier. | 2021-11-26T14:17:31.000Z | r2ofc1 | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I love being alone. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ofc1/i_love_being_alone/ |
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princessmilahi | Sometimes, I'm fine, ok. And then I see something and start spiraling. For example: "Why did I do X thing Y months ago??", or "why didn't I do X thing at Y day??" and this can make me spiral all the way down to a panic attack or an anxiety attack (that for me can last weeks).
And like, it's in THE PAST. I can't change it. But how can I make my brain understand and be ok with this? | 2021-11-26T14:10:42.000Z | r2oajn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Any tips on how to avoid a panic/anxiety attack? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2oajn/any_tips_on_how_to_avoid_a_panicanxiety_attack/ |
cosmiicsloth | I can't figure if this is something that happens with everyone or if it's an ADHD thing, but my sense of time is so warped. I was thinking about something that happened a week ago and- wait, that was two days ago?! - and sometimes I think it's a different day that it is.. Several times a day.
Actually, I think it comes up in other contexts too. Like I'd just have such a strong assertion in my mind that this is how x thing is, yeah I've already done y thing. And despite me forgetting assignments and appointments and whatnot because of this my brain seems to be so adamant about these things until I check the facts. Anyone else? | 2021-11-26T14:09:37.000Z | r2o9uv | 1 | 8 | ADHD | Weird sense of time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2o9uv/weird_sense_of_time/ |
bothydweller72 | I’m awaiting assessment for ADHD and something I’ve always been aware of is that when I’m totally absorbed in something, particularly fast moving things like mountain biking or playing games, my head wobbles about. I’ve never really understood why it happens and I’m just wondering if it’s an ADHD thing. Anybody want to join the wobbly head gang? | 2021-11-26T14:03:59.000Z | r2o63a | 3 | 2 | ADHD | My head wobbles when I get really absorbed in stuff | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2o63a/my_head_wobbles_when_i_get_really_absorbed_in/ |
brickinthewallthing | [removed] | 2021-11-26T14:03:02.000Z | r2o5fn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 20mg Elvanse/Vyvanse Day 2 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2o5fn/20mg_elvansevyvanse_day_2/ |
Psychological_Cake38 | I have a very bad habit and thats taking the ring from plastic bottles and chewing them.
I have been doing this for years and my teeth are starting to get damaged according to my dentist.
Is there a better alternative for chewing stimulation? especially something discrete I can chew when at work that **isnt gum**? | 2021-11-26T13:56:52.000Z | r2o13d | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Things to chew on other than plastic | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2o13d/things_to_chew_on_other_than_plastic/ |
ZeroRozuMagi | Just as I got my depression manageable, I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. Turns out all those times I was hyper or fidgety as a kid was my ADHD shining through my depression and my inability to focus was really just my brain and not a lack of motivation. I really like what someone said on here, that with ADHD you have to be twice as motivated to get things done, so I can’t wait to see what it’s like when I get medication. I’m also very impulsive now that I’m not as depressed. Also, I tend to get obsessed with whatever would give my brain dopamine. Like with new partners or sex or food or sleep, whatever feels good I just crave. I find it hard to stop thinking about things that are unresolved or about my current love interest. Do you guys have any tips for that? Also I’ve become addicted to my phone | 2021-11-26T13:54:15.000Z | r2nze7 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Just typing out my thoughts… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nze7/just_typing_out_my_thoughts/ |
XanderDeSade | I had been waiting for what felt like decades, and then it finally happened.
Never got any proper help until I was out of school, even though therapists and doctors contacted my old teachers and professors. Even though I asked for help time and time again & showed signs of my disorder very early on.
Ever since I got my ADD on paper, I've felt both disappointed by the lack of support I've received (generally) but also very very happy to have my problems explained to me. To know that it's not my fault that I can't get certain things done, and how messy my head is. To have people I can speak to, that have similar, if not the same, experiences.
Today I'm proud of this part of me and will speak about it openly. I still feel inferior to neurotypicals in my life, but I'm getting over it.
I'm finally on meds, and making progress.
After years of putting off commissions and making custom illustrations for people, I'm finally doing it. I've dreamt of this moment and now it's reality. It's been stressful to even think about doing it - but here I am.
I'm finally writing and illustrating the childrens book that I've been planning for years now.
It's finally coming together. I might not be cured off my ADD, but I'm doing things I put off for so long. I feel like I'm actually living. | 2021-11-26T13:49:54.000Z | r2nwls | 13 | 101 | ADHD | Finally on meds after 4 years of waiting & one of my dreams came true :) | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nwls/finally_on_meds_after_4_years_of_waiting_one_of/ |
Azumarie | I recently bought my favorite headphones again (didn't find others with the same quality and fit, even more expensive ones) and since I've had them back I feel so much more at ease! I can listen to my music whenever wherever, while doing the laundry, cooking etc and it makes concentrating so much easier because it gives me stimulation so I don't zone off while doing something. It's amazing :) | 2021-11-26T13:47:06.000Z | r2nuvj | 17 | 89 | ADHD | Headphones are the best thing ever! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nuvj/headphones_are_the_best_thing_ever/ |
martellstarks | I spent the longest time getting fed up with my arts degree because it got frustrating doing things where there was never a real 'correct answer'. In my spare time I started trying to teach myself coding, because I just wanted to prove to myself that I could do something 'technical'. And that led me to the conversion course I'm doing now - which is almost entirely maths and programming. Guess what? now I miss writing essays and reading books and doing creative work.
It seems that I always wanna be doing the thing I don't have to do - and that's what excites me. And I hate the feeling of doing what's obligatory, even though it's initially what I chose for myself. How do I just be content with what I'm doing now instead of chasing the next skill or hobby or obsession? | 2021-11-26T13:41:22.000Z | r2nr3z | 10 | 198 | ADHD | When I have to do it, I don' t want to do it. When I don't have to do it, I wanna do it. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nr3z/when_i_have_to_do_it_i_don_t_want_to_do_it_when_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T13:38:16.000Z | r2noqa | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I've made so many mistakes at work recently and I'm humiliated | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2noqa/ive_made_so_many_mistakes_at_work_recently_and_im/ |
Noizybee | [removed] | 2021-11-26T13:28:55.000Z | r2ni6p | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Should I ask for a dosage increase? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ni6p/should_i_ask_for_a_dosage_increase/ |
kuaaeb | At the age of 24 I got diagnosed earlier this year.
When I had to break off my long term relationship last year I felt like a fucking failure. All our arguments surrounded me not being enough. Not being helpful enough around the apartment, not being emotionally available or empathetic enough and not being thoughtful enough to remember small gestures. In retrospect we had an unhealthy dynamic and in many ways I contributed heavily to that dynamic.
I started therapy a bit before diagnosis and the first thing my therapist said post diagnosis was ‘everything makes so much sense, I should’ve known’ and it that moment, for the first time in my life, I felt so deeply seen and understood. My therapist have helped me realize that I am highly emphatic and caring and helped me understand how I function and how to be more compassionate towards myself. I’m still on the journey of internal compassion, but I’m so proud of myself!
I’m so proud that I recognized that I needed help and took active steps to get it. I’m so proud that I’m sticking by my therapy sessions and started that deep inner work. I’m so proud that I’m learning to take my emotions seriously instead of dismissing them. I’m so damn proud that I’m in a loving relationship and manage to express my needs and boundaries even when feeling uncomfortable. Mostly I’m so proud that I recognize and work with my symptoms instead of against them and take accountability when they hurt the people I love.
I’m so proud that I have discovered that I can be emotionally available and at ease while at the same time having room to understand others emotions and their needs instead going in defense mode. I’m so fucking proud that I’m writing my bachelors when last semester I was the brink of dropping out because of my symptoms. I’m so proud that I have the courage to say ‘I didn’t say that’ or ‘That’s not what my experience was’ when previously I just took everything on my shoulders even though I didn’t recognize the narrative.
A while ago I had a huge win that most of you can relate to. My partner triggered an emotional reaction to the point where I couldn’t sleep because it was so intense! As per usual I got an emotional tantrum and expressed my hurt, but in the middle of the night I had an epiphany. I was being unfair! I realized how I was being unfair and managed to express accountability for my unfairness and thankfulness for my partners patience and compassion and I also manage to give my partner concrete examples of how they could meet my needs in the future.
That right there I believe have saved my relationship in the long run and I’m so damn proud!! Instead of distancing myself or being hurt by my partner I realized how I was being unfair and corrected it so we could be emotionally connected again - something that I’ve NEVER been able to beforehand.
This post is really just an encouragement and a sign to y’all that you should take a step back and acknowledge the ways in which you are proud of yourself and your development, because lord knows we only to easily get down on ourselves. And if your loved one has ADHD take this post as a sign to reflect on how they’ve positively developed and grown and in which ways you are proud of them AND TELL THEM.
Therapy and stimulants have been a game changer for me and I hope you have the courage to find what’s right for you, and get that inner work going! | 2021-11-26T13:28:27.000Z | r2nhua | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I’m proud of myself and you should be too! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nhua/im_proud_of_myself_and_you_should_be_too/ |
Money_Vegetable3933 | I am a opiate addict with ADHD, ODD, GAD and diagnosed schizoaffective. I'm on methadone and I am so blessed my doc trusts me but next week I see him for the last time he's leaving his practice to someone else and I said I wanna stop Adderall but I changed my mind. I'm so blessed to even be trusted by him. I'm so scared I fycked up and I'm so scared of the new doc too! Please put your energy and prayers towards me getting what's best for me whatever that may be. I do great on Adderall but I wanted Vyvanse and idk I'm scared. | 2021-11-26T13:24:56.000Z | r2nffy | 1 | 7 | ADHD | Doc appointment after saying I wanna stop my meds but now I've changed my mind after stopping. | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2nffy/doc_appointment_after_saying_i_wanna_stop_my_meds/ |
CricketsAreGolden | A thing that happens a lot, especially on days when I'm having a lot of trouble focusing, is that I literally walk around my apartment and talk to myself. That's always been the way I think through things, is to talk in my head or out loud as if I'm telling someone else about something. But often it's a long trail of diverging thoughts just spewing out of my mouth, and I become somewhat unaware of what I'm doing. It's like a flow state where my brain lets itself ramble in an unhinged way where each thought diverges from the previous, and eventually I catch myself and think "what the hell am I doing, what was I even thinking about". Anyone else have this? Almost like it's thinking "I've been suppressing this for long enough, time to ramble aimlessly".
It also happens when I'm writing like a reddit post. So many times I've written a long post for a sub only to realize it's completely unreadable, and I don't bother trying to edit it so I just delete it. | 2021-11-26T13:23:25.000Z | r2necw | 15 | 52 | ADHD | Anyone elseget stuck in endlessly diverging trains of thought? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2necw/anyone_elseget_stuck_in_endlessly_diverging/ |
JS43362 | Work and such stuff is one thing, but even in my free time I seem to struggle.
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I might be playing a game, but my mind will drift to, for example, a novel that I want to read. Then if I'm reading the novel my mind might drift to a film or show I want to watch. Then when I'm watching the film or show, I might start thinking about a nice meal that I want to make. And so on. | 2021-11-26T13:17:49.000Z | r2n9y5 | 8 | 43 | ADHD | Can't focus even on enjoyable things | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2n9y5/cant_focus_even_on_enjoyable_things/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T13:07:13.000Z | r2n19j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm going to get crazy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2n19j/im_going_to_get_crazy/ |
JensengTea | Does anyone else go through “cleaning” phases? It’s embarrassing to say, but sometimes I go weeks without basic hygiene and cleaning. But sometimes, usually when I’m medicated, I get an intense urge to clean and will clean obsessively. I will clean everything and do a painstakingly thorough job. I have to go through every drawer, every bag and box… everything. I don’t have any control over it and it’s usually triggered by randomly picking something up off the floor. Sometimes it lasts for a couple days. Is this a hyperfixation?? It’s almost as if I’m trying to make up for the massive depressive/ADHD rut that I was just in.
Anyway, I’m finally cleaning my room after months of stepping over things and feeling like a pack rat. I’m hoping it’ll get me feeling motivated and “normal” again. | 2021-11-26T13:05:10.000Z | r2mzl7 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | I’m finally cleaning my room. Sort of… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2mzl7/im_finally_cleaning_my_room_sort_of/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T12:49:35.000Z | r2mkqf | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Omega3 / fish oil experience? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2mkqf/omega3_fish_oil_experience/ |
MaxDols | That's basically it. I am not diagnosed and I don't bother because there are no meds in my country, they literally don't exist. Today i pulled an all nighter trying to do assignments but didn't even start any. After the 24 hour mark i went for a walk, ate a bit and right now i did like half the job. Blasting music on full volume and eating chocolate also helps. Wouldn't recommend. | 2021-11-26T12:45:03.000Z | r2mh07 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I can focus while sleep deprived | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2mh07/i_can_focus_while_sleep_deprived/ |
Boomat | Anyone else feel like if you don't socialize with anyone then your ADHD gets worse. I get brain fog and daydream alot because of this.
It's not like I'm very introverted or anything, it's just a mix of my bad social skills, social anxiety and my weirdness from ADHD, also I have troubles opening up to people and I have no friends... | 2021-11-26T12:40:35.000Z | r2mcq1 | 2 | 9 | ADHD | Not socializing makes me daydream... | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2mcq1/not_socializing_makes_me_daydream/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T12:38:00.000Z | r2mad0 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Not socializing makes me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2mad0/not_socializing_makes_me/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T12:34:36.000Z | r2m7k1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | vyvanse makes me sleepy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2m7k1/vyvanse_makes_me_sleepy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T12:34:29.000Z | r2m7fr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Not socializing makes me daydream | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2m7fr/not_socializing_makes_me_daydream/ |
cherry_doughnut | I take 30mg in the morning and I haven't changed the dose or anything. The only potential reasons are I sometimes drink coffee, and I don't always take the medication on a work day because it's just manual stuff and not really needed, and I'm scared of tolerance and that sort of thing.
In terms of the actual reaction, I guess I just feel really positive? Like, people are nice, having hope, wanting to hug and celebrate and stuff. | 2021-11-26T12:30:14.000Z | r2m3xy | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Should I still be getting euphoria reactions on Vyvanse after taking it for a few months? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2m3xy/should_i_still_be_getting_euphoria_reactions_on/ |
cherry_doughnut | [removed] | 2021-11-26T12:27:37.000Z | r2m1ye | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I still be getting euphoria reactions on Vyvanse after taking it for a few months? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2m1ye/should_i_still_be_getting_euphoria_reactions_on/ |
Empathicrobot21 | The profs even started out with „well we both were absolutely hyped for your your exam and thought you’d power us through this, but quite frankly, we’re a little disappointed.“
Of course that’s when I started to cry.
I literally mispronounced every single Latin term in an exam about ancient history. I forgot the title of a woman I was supposed to research- i even forgot her name!
My brain is completely friend and I f***ed up my grade now. I mean I passed with a „good“ grade, but I really honestly just did a very bad job and they believed in me and I let them down. I wish I could just tell them how much I’m struggling with even sitting down and staying by my desk, how the words dance limbo when I’m trying to focus and my brain just. Won’t. Do. It.
I just want to bury my head in the sand but now I gotta write my thesis in 3 weeks. I’m so exhausted :(
Still flagging this as success tho bc I did pass. Even if I can’t enjoy it yet. | 2021-11-26T12:11:16.000Z | r2ls5r | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Just had one of my graduation exams and forgot all the specific terms. Fml. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ls5r/just_had_one_of_my_graduation_exams_and_forgot/ |
bothydweller72 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T12:09:16.000Z | r2lqy0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else’s head wobble when you are absorbed in something? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2lqy0/anybody_elses_head_wobble_when_you_are_absorbed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T11:58:14.000Z | r2lkbc | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Split between two passions | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2lkbc/split_between_two_passions/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T11:54:09.000Z | r2li69 | 4 | 6 | ADHD | I am lost. | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2li69/i_am_lost/ |
Misstykal | I have been trying to celebrate my successes. Usually at the end of the day (if I didn't forget) and it went something like:
3 Seconds: Hey I did this thing finally today
10-30 minutes: but it did take me really long, and it was soo easy, and I didn't do it perfect, so does it even count. :(
Some app prompted me to really celebrate the things I do, to really feel it and to do it at the time I am doing them or right after. So right now I am doing victory dances for the things I do (yay I put the jar of mayo back into the fridge when I was done instead of leaving it out so long that I have to get rid of it....victory dance for me!)
It feels more like a victory and me being silly makes me laugh more then anything so it might be that. But I can imagine that in time I will no longer feel the dread of having to put it back and my brain can make the connection that it is a good feeling to put things back.
Wanted to share, perhaps someone else can use it as well to celebrate the steps that they make. | 2021-11-26T11:50:22.000Z | r2lg76 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Celebrating succes | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2lg76/celebrating_succes/ |
ofelia39 | Maybe I'm a little monothematic😅I'm on the diagnostic pathway, today 3 sessions and maybe last...the penultimate time I did tests and today I brought my father to whom I told about my doubts and had him read some info from the "jenn has ADHD" site...but he immediately seemed very skeptical and biased. In today's visit he denied and underestimated many things...he even did some tests (I was turned away by myself and I still suggested that I would never have done it, but what the hell do you think he would cheat?!) I'm afraid he has ruined everything for me and I'm trembling with nervousness because I've been told that the tests I've completed show ADHD. But in the case of conflicting opinions, is it possible that the opinion of an external person carries more weight? The psychiatrist told me that he will tell me directly the final answer 😖 thank you ! | 2021-11-26T11:44:16.000Z | r2lcz5 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Taken into account for diagnosis opinion of my father who however underestimates and denies the symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2lcz5/taken_into_account_for_diagnosis_opinion_of_my/ |
TmzuXBOX | [removed] | 2021-11-26T11:39:56.000Z | r2lamu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Which ADHD medication won’t increase heart rate as much? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2lamu/which_adhd_medication_wont_increase_heart_rate_as/ |
PiratenPower | [removed] | 2021-11-26T11:32:08.000Z | r2l6og | 15 | 0 | ADHD | Feel like alot of people on this sub are having trouble, because they don't do basic safer use rules with their meds. | 0.27 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2l6og/feel_like_alot_of_people_on_this_sub_are_having/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T11:27:57.000Z | r2l4gy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | started meds and can actually function in school <3 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2l4gy/started_meds_and_can_actually_function_in_school_3/ |
anetanetanet | [removed] | 2021-11-26T11:22:33.000Z | r2l1mm | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else here from a country where typical adhd medication isn't really available? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2l1mm/anyone_else_here_from_a_country_where_typical/ |
alostengstudent | They will complain about me losing and forgetting things, being completely obsessed with work and losing interest the next day, always being late, impulse buying and not saving enough money, and getting completely lost in my hobbies. They do believe in ADHD however they don't believe I have ADHD, in their opinion I just need more self control and discipline. It's very frustrating. Apart from this my parents are amazing and they definitely have the best intentions for me. | 2021-11-26T11:22:21.000Z | r2l1iw | 141 | 812 | ADHD | Parents don't believe I have ADHD, but will complain about symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2l1iw/parents_dont_believe_i_have_adhd_but_will/ |
willy0071998 | Day 10 of new medication (Elvanse 30mg, I’m from the U.K. and it’s the same as Vyvanse) and I can’t say how much better I feel on this in comparison to Medikinet (of which I did a full titration up to 40mg and it was hell on earth) I’m able to concentrate and think straight, although I am aware that this is only the first day, however it’s a whole world of difference. I have put this down to the different release profile. Most slow release ADHD medication is spiked release and peaks twice a day, to which my anxiety gets unbelievably intolerable. Elvanse (Vyvanse) is a much smoother release with the same longevity and completely eradicates my anxiety. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I’m soon to increase my dose to 40mg due to the titration regime. | 2021-11-26T11:20:45.000Z | r2l0nx | 9 | 3 | ADHD | New Medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2l0nx/new_medication/ |
PornIsEvil666 | Recently I've decided to finally seek help for my anxiety, my doctor previously told me to contact help but my parents told me I'd grow out - newsflash I didn't.
I'm now struggling with school work, often avoiding it because I feel anxious af doing it. I can't even pay attention to lectures for more than 5mins, I lose attention and become lost | 2021-11-26T10:55:40.000Z | r2knlr | 55 | 87 | ADHD | ADHD + Anxiety, what is it like for you? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2knlr/adhd_anxiety_what_is_it_like_for_you/ |
holybobine | This isn't really ADHD related, but I didn't know where else to go.
I have a friend who's been having trouble with social relationship for years. He has a tendency to overthink things and think everyone is against him.
Everytime I see him he tells me about how awful it is at work, how everyone is against him... The truth is, even though I only have his version of the stories, I'm feeling more and more that HE is the problem.
I know he had a troubled youth and that life hasn't been easy for him, but when I'm hanging out with him he is quite hard to live with. As if he were always on edge and you had to tiptoe your way through the conversation not to cause trouble (I got him crying without warning about some everyday subjects).
What I'm getting at is : I've had this new job recently, where I've been asked to recommend somebody. I instantly gave my friend's contact info, only to be told : "I know this guy. No offense but I don't want to work with him anymore, he's created problems with everyone in the office."
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So my question is : how do I talk to him about this ? I want him to seek help, see a psychiatrist or smth (I did so myself and it helped me a ton). yet I can't see myself coming up to him and say : "hey, you torpedoed your career by angering all your coworkers, please get help."
How do I approach this ?
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tldr : I need to tell a friend to seek help about his problematic behavior at work, but don't know how. | 2021-11-26T10:52:18.000Z | r2klyy | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Wanna help a friend but I don't know how to approach things | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2klyy/wanna_help_a_friend_but_i_dont_know_how_to/ |
FieryDee | Hi - looking for anyone's thoughts who might have been through this - my GP sent a referral for an ADHD assessment off for me and I thought this meant I would be put on the long waiting list for an assessment, which I am fine with. I cannot afford to do it privately and at 43 I am quite sure that ADHD is the problem I have had all my life, and for the first time I felt a sense of hope that perhaps I could get some help with something I have never been able to explain to other people until I read about what having ADHD actually looks like in an adult woman.
I called the docs to get a copy of the referral letter, as I am studying and my college require proof I am being assessed. The doc had said this would be fine.
The receptionist I spoke to said the referral had been sent back and I would need to speak to my GP about it. she wouldn't give me an appointment or tell me anything else and said she would send a note to the particular doctor who I dealt with at the time, who had had a really weird manner during the telephone appointment but nevertheless agreed I fit the criteria from the ASRS form I had filled out.
I think they are going to try and fob me off, and tell me I don't fit the criteria after all and I can't get an assessment.
Anyone know what my rights are here with regard to getting a second opinion on NHS, I am really bad at fighting my own corner, I am reactive and get upset easily (emotional dysregulation - I get upset but it dissipates again really quickly) I struggle to find words in those situations because my working memory is poor. I know some one of you will understand this and for that I am grateful for this forum.
Sorry for the essay. I would really appreciate any answers. thanks :-) | 2021-11-26T10:32:37.000Z | r2kcf3 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | HELP! ADHD assessment NHS Scotland - my GP referral has been returned to the GP | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2kcf3/help_adhd_assessment_nhs_scotland_my_gp_referral/ |
Melancholic_Cashew | [removed] | 2021-11-26T10:31:46.000Z | r2kc06 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Dear depressed ADHDers… how do you manage? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2kc06/dear_depressed_adhders_how_do_you_manage/ |
gomezburgio | First off, I'm EXTREMELY happy. I (28M) just got my diagnosis, and understand that this is a whole process and it's just getting started.
My doctor prescribed me Rubifen, which is the most commonly prescribed drug for ADHD here in Spain. It's based on metylphenidate, so I guess it's similar to Concerta or Elvanse. We started with 20mg.
So. This morning I took my first pill. And, having read all the stories, seen all the memes, watched all the tiktoks (lol, jk), I expected this kind of transformative experience. Like, "my train of thought is silent now, I can work", and stuff like that. But then happened... nothing.
Don't get me wrong, I've gone to work and I've kept proper focus. But it didn't feel different to other times I've been able to as well. I did (do) feel as if I've had a lot of coffee. Not too much, just a lot. Maybe my HR has increased. I don't know. But my mind feels pretty much the same?
Now I'm back home, I have to do some office work and... just don't feel like it. Maybe I'm just being lazy now. Maybe if I just get started I'll just get on with it and be amazed at how I'm able to keep focus now.
But I do feel a little disappointed, tbh. Maybe it is because I had unrealistic expectations? What were your experiences?
**1st edit:** minor corrections
**2nd edit/update:** Rubifen's effects last \~4 hours, so it's usually prescribed as 2 pills a day, one in the morning and one at lunch. Had my second pill about an hour ago and aprox 45 later just felt kind of a *rush* and started to feel more focused in what I was doing. Not a transformative experience, but this feels much, much more like *it*. | 2021-11-26T10:22:19.000Z | r2k74g | 5 | 1 | ADHD | First day on meds and I feel... the same? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k74g/first_day_on_meds_and_i_feel_the_same/ |
sdennis94 | After being on Concerta for the few months after diagnosis (26m) , I recently had a trial with Vyvanse, but have since gone back to Concerta. I wondered if anyone could offer any advice on how they knew which was the right med for them (I appreciate its a tough process) . Just wondered if anyone had tried both, and what your opinions on the 2 of them are compared?
Here is what I noticed so far :
Concerta
\- Find it much easier to sit still (big positive)
\- Can study
\- Brain 'quiet' at times (Finally!)
\- Heart rate can be high. Can also at times get palpitations
\- Unfortunately doesn't last too long
Vyvanse
\- A much more 'wired' feeling. Did make it easy to do basic chores (did help me get out of the house and moving nice and quickly in the morning)
\- Much more social (maybe a tad of Euphoria involved)
\- Tough to get to sleep whatsoever (even on low dose)
\- Definitely helped focus - but like I say in a more 'wired' fashion. | 2021-11-26T10:21:04.000Z | r2k6i5 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse vs Concerta - choosing the right med! | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k6i5/vyvanse_vs_concerta_choosing_the_right_med/ |
KeybladeMasterAqua | I used to be very very skinny from my adhd meds, and so I never learned portion control or how to exercise due to excess lethargy. Fast forward to 27, and my husband is scared for my health. He wants me to start exercising, but I can’t stay consistent. I have a sweets addiction. I don’t know what to do. Any thoughts? I’ve gained 30lbs since the pandemic started. | 2021-11-26T10:16:02.000Z | r2k406 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | I can’t get myself to start exercising or having portion control due to executive disfunction | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k406/i_cant_get_myself_to_start_exercising_or_having/ |
l0nelyB0iiii | [removed] | 2021-11-26T10:11:51.000Z | r2k23q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can some one tell me the difference between ADD and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k23q/can_some_one_tell_me_the_difference_between_add/ |
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