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dencherific | I had a catch up with my boss and hr yesterday. They wanted to know what was going on with me and that I've 'lost my spark' and they mentioned my lateness and stuff like that.
Fast forward to this morning and my girlfriend and I slept through both my alarms, I sleep with earplugs and I guess my alarm wasn't as loud as usual. I missed my train. But only by a minute, so I was close.
Hr calls me in to say it's not good enough and she thinks that work isn't a big enough priority for me and she's disappointed that she has to have another chat after yesterday.
I didn't and still don't know what I should have said in those meetings and it feels like my recent diagnosis, that they're fully aware of, isn't being taken into consideration.
What they said is true. I have lost my spark. I have no spark for anything, I don't care about work because I find it boring and I feel like I don't matter. Very rarely anything brings me joy and I feel like I will need to look for a new job soon. Idk what to do, I can't magically make myself want to be here and focussed and committed. I want to cry but I can barely bring myself to tears. I feel nothing.
Edit: i should have clarified that i'm on meds but it's still difficult enjoying things. | 2021-11-26T10:10:07.000Z | r2k19k | 11 | 5 | ADHD | I need help. About to get a work disciplinary | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k19k/i_need_help_about_to_get_a_work_disciplinary/ |
sabercat2 | So I recently signed up for Cerebral to seek better treatment for ADHD (if anyone has tried this and has input lmk) and went to help my brother sign up, but he’s 17 and you have to be 18 to use their services. He needs treatment badly and his pediatrician didn’t prescribe him medication in the right way when he was younger, so there was a stigma in my family about ADHD meds until I got diagnosed (at 20!). I’m trying to get him the help he needs and was wondering if there are any online services that one has tried that would work for a teen?? We also have Teledoc but I’m not sure how that would work. Any input is helpful! | 2021-11-26T10:10:02.000Z | r2k17q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Treatment for Teens | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2k17q/treatment_for_teens/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T10:03:10.000Z | r2jxoq | 15 | 2 | ADHD | So dependent on vyvanse it’s scary. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jxoq/so_dependent_on_vyvanse_its_scary/ |
Chloton069 | The other day, I was on a video call to my sister, talking about my day. I'm 29F, and have recently thrown myself back into music studies after working for 5 years. This particular day, I had, as always been struggling with getting my homework done, and had decided to make myself a coffee. So I go into the kitchen, prépare and start the machine, then notice the washing up needs doing. Except, my sponge is gross. So I dive into the cupboard under the sink. Next thing I know, its been 20 minutes and my cupboard is completely rearranged. So I show my sister the tidy cupboard, and she becomes a bit quiet before saying that this happens a lot to me and that it *could* be a sign of adhd, which I laughed off.
She then started pointing out other things :
- How I don't like plan changes (who does?)
-How I'm constantly fidgeting (I cannot tell you the amount of times my leg or hand has been slapped by an irate family or friend member. When watching films with my best friend, she covers part of her face so as not to see my rotating foot)
-My "zoning out" in conversations, excessive daydreaming as a teenager in class that drove teachers mad.
-Impulsivity (I may have bought a dog on a whim 6 years ago. He is awesome. Also just upping and leaving for a few days every now and then. Or going back to music studies which wasn't planned at all.)
-Interrupting people : this came as a shock to me. I was in disbelief and thought she was exaggerating until yesterday I noticed I interrupted one person 3 times in an hour, and another on the phone at least 2 or 3 times as well. How has no one pointed this out to me? Its just rude on my part.
-I have bad problems with eating. 2 years ago I decided to lose weight and thats literally all I focused on. I lost just over 30kg, then...stopped. I need to lose 10 more but my eating is terrible, and a year later I can't for the life of me find this focus again.
-distraction. I do get easily distracted, its true. I will start something then 30 minutes later am doing something completely unplanned.
- this is an odd one that I have a hard time buying, but sure : If I have a lesson/appointement/plans at a specific time, I can't get anything done beforehand as I'm waiting for this moment. I mean I walk the dogs, but being productive? Its extremely difficult for me. Like today, my lesson is at 12h15, I leave at 11h45 on my bike so despite getting up at 7h30, I've done barely anything all morning except a bit of rythme work.
But whilst these *could* be signs, I think thats just me. Yes I can be a bit forgetful which has got worse since living alone (lived with my sister for 5 1/2 years until july) but the other things? Well, if I'm into something, I'm focused as all hell. As a kid I would be reading 500-600 page books in a day, and still do that. If I am doing homework, music, whatever, if I really get into it then nothing will distract me for love nor money. Whereas if it were adhd, then I would be constantly distracted no? Also I am on time. I manage my freetime badly, but if I have to be a place at a time, I will be there on the dot.
Anyway she thinks I should get tested which is not easy in our country and I'm not sure if I want to go through the whole thing. I mean, if my lack of organisation, time management issues and severe procrastination are due to something other than me just being a lazy scatterbrained slob that could be fixed then I think I would be more eager. But I'm not convinced. She is worried that since living alone again (which I did for 5 years before we moved in together) these traits are becoming worse. Except as far as I know, adhd can't suddenly surface at 29.
Can I reassure her that I'm fine, that yeah I sometimes frustrate myself (ok, often) but that it isn't necessarily adhd? I was hoping someone could find some holes in her reasonings and arguments as I don't want to be one of those fake disorder people who pin all of their problems on something that doesn't exist for them, therefore making it harder on those who genuinely do have the disorder.
I also apologise if I seem offensive in anyway whatsoever. I've read up on it a bit recently but my knowledge is limited. I also apologise for the long text, I have a bad habit of waffling/rambling on a bit. Thank you for reading! | 2021-11-26T09:53:08.000Z | r2jsmh | 16 | 3 | ADHD | My sister thinks I have ADHD, I'm skeptical. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jsmh/my_sister_thinks_i_have_adhd_im_skeptical/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T09:30:02.000Z | r2jgxx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do non-stimulants actually work for anyone? What advantages and disadvantages do they have? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jgxx/do_nonstimulants_actually_work_for_anyone_what/ |
VenusAsABoy96 | I recently started trying to educate myself on my ADHD diagnosis, my symptoms, and how they impact me. This so far has been a journey of self forgiveness, hope, direction, a sense if purpose, and perhaps a bit of a fixation on these new revelations concerning my behaviors.
I've been considering my options in terms of medication. I haven't taken any for a while, and I haven't taken anything consistently in several years. I swore of stimulants because I had been convinced they were terrible and I didn't need them, and nothing else ever really worked for me.
So I set up a doctors appointment. It took a while to get one. I was so excited to talk to him about how I'd educated myself. How I was ready to really treat ADHD and not hide my symptoms from people who were trying to help me out of fear or guilt or shame. How I understand why taking medication actually mattered and in all likelihood I could find aomething that worked for me.
And...within the last couple weeks, my old friend S.A.D has hit me like a truck. And it feels as bad as ever now. And I don't know how I'm supposed to manage this, on top of wanting to begin seriously treating my ADHD.
I can't sleep all. My self hatred and guilt and general desire to find a way to just not feel anything seems incessant. And I'm finding myself fixating on people I barely know and emotionally crashing off those feelings at an alarming rate.
I'm angry, honestly. This sucks.
edit: Also, honestly, I don't know what I should even say to my doctor. Does anyone have any tips? I just...feel very frustrated by this turn of events. | 2021-11-26T09:29:35.000Z | r2jgpm | 3 | 8 | ADHD | My yearly bout with Seasonal Affective Disorder is starting to kick in and I feel like I'm really losing hope | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jgpm/my_yearly_bout_with_seasonal_affective_disorder/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T09:26:41.000Z | r2jf9l | 2 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD or Lazy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jf9l/adhd_or_lazy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T09:20:32.000Z | r2jc8j | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Can i have high functioning adhd | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2jc8j/can_i_have_high_functioning_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T09:16:22.000Z | r2ja65 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | After 4 years of waiting, I'm finally on meds. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ja65/after_4_years_of_waiting_im_finally_on_meds/ |
SquidNarks_ | Tell me about a single day and how many searches on google about one specific topic that turns into multiple searches about so many things stemming from that one thought. The other day I looked at Judy Denches life and ended up on ground dwelling wasps, just curious if anyone else has internet research days and how their search goes from one single thought into 50 other searches | 2021-11-26T09:15:25.000Z | r2j9ol | 1 | 4 | ADHD | The infinite internet | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2j9ol/the_infinite_internet/ |
SunIsGay | I fucking hate projects. You can fucking fail a few projects but forget and procrastinate on one project and there goes 40% percent of the grade. And then a nice 21 also got chiselled off from something I wasn't even aware existed. Why tf do I procrastinate. I hate this, and it literally is entirely my fault. I could have done something to help my ass. I knew I had ADHD. I should have done something. Now I fucked up an entire quarter-year's grade. I clearly know I can work when I have accountability, and I should just listen to my mother when she told me instead of fucking getting defensive. I literally am so fucking dumb. I literally could have just like, looked into the to-do on Google Classroom and like, done it. I didn't even realise I fucked up this hard. God damn it. I hate myself and every project in the world. | 2021-11-26T09:07:21.000Z | r2j5ih | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Well fuck, fucked up my geography performance grade. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2j5ih/well_fuck_fucked_up_my_geography_performance_grade/ |
Goldenleavesinfall | [removed] | 2021-11-26T09:05:56.000Z | r2j4t6 | 11 | 15 | ADHD | Terrible memory, great memorization? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2j4t6/terrible_memory_great_memorization/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T08:58:34.000Z | r2j0lk | 4 | 0 | ADHD | 2nd day on Concerta | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2j0lk/2nd_day_on_concerta/ |
thecosmicslop | Does anyone else really struggle with these? Doing my own taxes, filling out job applications, all of these things have always been so difficult for me to complete and even to start! Part of it is how mundane the task feels, another is loss of focus, another is anxiety that I feel when struggling to focus on the task or to be faster, and then there's the procrastination to get started. Then anxiety again when avoiding the task because I know really important things depend on me completing said task. I find relief in thinking this may be related to my diagnosis so there is a likelihood I can improve somewhat in this area.
Do you struggle with this?
What do you do to cope? Tips/hacks to get things done??? | 2021-11-26T08:53:23.000Z | r2ixz8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Forms, applications and anything else with multiple questions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ixz8/forms_applications_and_anything_else_with/ |
thisalreadytaken | I got my first ever prescription for ADHD today, its 18mg Concerta but I'm very anxious about starting it. I constantly forget to eat and have a terrible sleeping habit with which I physically can't go to sleep until I can barely keep my eyes open (usually around 6AM), but I didn't get to tell my physician this due to an unreasonable fear of being judged. I heard Concerta can induce insomnia (which I already have(?)) as well as decrease your appetite. I'll definitely follow up with my physician if any of these symptoms worsen but I just wanted to hear you guys' experiences with it in order to get a better picture. | 2021-11-26T08:36:05.000Z | r2ipdq | 6 | 3 | ADHD | How was your experience with Concerta? The good and the bad? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ipdq/how_was_your_experience_with_concerta_the_good/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T08:26:40.000Z | r2ikim | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 13 son just diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ikim/13_son_just_diagnosed_with_type_1_diabetes/ |
A_Fan888 | I am always interested in learning about new stuff, and the topic that I feel most interested changes with time. When I was in high school, I am most interested in psychiatry. I keep browsing the internet for information about it, and choose that as a topic for most projects in school. I was determined to become a researcher in the field.
Now, I am a university student. I am still interested in that, but didn't have the same passion as before. I still actively look for information and join activities related to mental health. I still feel that it might be good to pursue that career, and I am willing to try even though it would not be easy.
Yet, I get a new interest for around the recent year. I am now extremely interested in human sexuality and gender. I am basically doing the same as I was for psychiatry, except spending even more time. It is to an degree that I am considering to take a minor or change my major to gender studies (my major is not related to psychiatry or gender studies), even though it is almost certainly that I have to defer my graduation for either of this.
I know I really do feel that passion for gender studies for now, but I am also scared that it might just be an hyperfixation. I am scared that I might loss my interest after I fight for it for all cause. I don't want myself to put such an important decision based on a hyperfixation. | 2021-11-26T08:22:36.000Z | r2iif4 | 6 | 11 | ADHD | How to tell if my new 'interest' is really an interest or a hyperfixation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2iif4/how_to_tell_if_my_new_interest_is_really_an/ |
nineteenix | Firstly, do any of y'all experience that as well? Like I understand it's just a game, however, one mistake killed me and I lost days on days of work like that. I wish I could say I wasn't crying as I type this.
Usual ways I fix this:
Rampant cheating-takes some accomplishment out depending on what I'm doin, but very nice for not dying, giving stuff back to myself etc.
In Minecraft specifically, fuck mobs 99% of the time, I hate when I'm just having a good time and a creeper drops from the sky (underground) and best case scenario I panic but recover, worst case scenario I get exploded.
Also- I usually turn off fire damage, it was a stray lava block and walking against where I was digging that ripped 30 levels and a freshly enchanted pickaxe from me.
-however- my friend who runs our server decided wands that go back to your death point was equivalent to keep inventory, (and then also switching to normal :))))))) and there's 3 of them and one of me so that's gonna stay the way it is. He helped me get stuff back the first time I died like that, xp and all, but now I've just gotta lose my stuff and start over and I can't do it again.
Sorry this was so long and rambly, it's what I do best. I hope y'all had a good Thanksgiving! I was until I dug into lava.
(Also for my ladies, hormones are a bitch, don't forget your birth control if you've been steady on it for a while, I forgot how much I cried before my BC and EmReg meds lmao) | 2021-11-26T08:16:25.000Z | r2ifaz | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I love games like Minecraft but dying makes me so incredibly sad. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ifaz/i_love_games_like_minecraft_but_dying_makes_me_so/ |
ashley_erin31 | Has anyone had psychiatrists refuse to prescribe you stimulants for ADHD? I'm just recently diagnosed (30 years old), and I've had two psych doctors refuse, even though my sister was prescribed Ritalin and responds well to it. I'm currently on Straterra, which calms my racing thoughts, but it doesn't help me with focus, memory, motivation, or organization. I'm interested in taking Ritalin in addition to it.
Additionally, how much can I expect meds to help with my ADHD symptoms? Am I still going to be messy/late to everything/averse to boring tasks even after taking stimulants? At what point do the meds stop and strategies and tools become necessary?
Thank you for your help! | 2021-11-26T08:08:14.000Z | r2ib26 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Difficulty getting stimulants | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ib26/difficulty_getting_stimulants/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T07:46:09.000Z | r2hyuj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did anyone else’s doctor not tell them about what stimulants can do to your teeth? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hyuj/did_anyone_elses_doctor_not_tell_them_about_what/ |
Gaydude_1991 | Any one else bad at time management? I’m especially bad at it at work. Before I was diagnosed (this past August) it was really bad. Now that I’m medicated it’s gotten slightly better. Luckily my new SM knows that I have it and she has it too and understands is working with me on it.
One thing that has gotten better tho is my focus especially on tasks I find boring. Before I was getting into trouble for not getting tasks done (like tags and freight.) Now I can actually focus on them and am doing really good in that aspect. Just need to manage my time better. Does anyone have any tips? | 2021-11-26T07:44:57.000Z | r2hy7m | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Bad at time management | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hy7m/bad_at_time_management/ |
Depressing-Pessimist | [removed] | 2021-11-26T07:44:39.000Z | r2hy2a | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Need help with meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hy2a/need_help_with_meds/ |
CHAAES | [removed] | 2021-11-26T07:39:16.000Z | r2hv5a | 4 | 0 | ADHD | I feel like my BMI (BodyMassIndex) is a problem. I'm 18, 187 cm tall, 55-58 kg | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hv5a/i_feel_like_my_bmi_bodymassindex_is_a_problem_im/ |
Level-Tourist-8900 | Do you guys have the experience of seeing a game that you’ve just played for hours, when you close your eyes. I first experienced this with Tetris way back when I was little. I notice it’s usually when I’ve been on a game for long periods of time. I’ll close my eyes to try to fall asleep, but I can see the game clear as day as if I’m still playing it on the tv, which makes me lay there thinking about what I have to do in the game instead of going to sleep. Just wondering if anyone else experiences this?
***To everyone mentioning it’s not specific to ADHD, yea I never said it was. I just wanted to know if it happened to anyone else because I know that we tend to obsess over or hyper focus on things. I know this effect is more likely to happen if you’ve been consistently focused on something for a long period of time and just thought it would be interesting to see if anyone shared the experience. I’d actually heard about and read about the Tetris effect a long time ago and just forgot about it lol. The thought popped in my mind, so I asked the question. | 2021-11-26T07:37:55.000Z | r2huet | 155 | 580 | ADHD | To all the Gamers | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2huet/to_all_the_gamers/ |
CountDotula | First time Reddit poster, apologies for any errors/mistakes.
Recently (3 months ago) diagnosed ADHD-i at 34yo (F) successfully medicated on combination of Vyvanse and Dexamphetamine. Still figuring things out.
Forgot to take meds today (worked night shift last night, normally would sleep until lunch, get up, take 10-15mg Dex to get me through the afternoon) and am now at the in-laws for dinner and struggling massively. TV volume way too loud, MIL and Aunt speaking at loud volume over the TV, and stubborn and argumentative on every topic, won't listen to me on topics that I am well experienced/educated on, just want to believe the opinions they have already formed in their head and not open to any other ideas.
My chest is tight, heart rate elevated and I just feel incredibly uncomfortable.
Just needed to vent and don't want to disturb my husband at work. | 2021-11-26T07:33:32.000Z | r2hrz8 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Sensorsly overload and lack of patience/tolerance. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hrz8/sensorsly_overload_and_lack_of_patiencetolerance/ |
boriisi | [removed] | 2021-11-26T07:28:17.000Z | r2hoxa | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My Adventure | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hoxa/my_adventure/ |
Thrice_88 | I'm not sure if this is related to the executive dysfunction that's apart of ADHD or if it's a random quirk. I realized that if I don't think about things like playing the bass guitar, spelling things, things involving remembering numbers, etc I can do them almost automatically but the second I start thinking about how to do those things it's like my brain shorts out and I can't remember how to do it until I either think about something else or walk away and come back and don't think about it again. Anyone else experience this? | 2021-11-26T07:19:56.000Z | r2hkbw | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Thinking about how to do things suddenly makes me forget how to do the thing. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hkbw/thinking_about_how_to_do_things_suddenly_makes_me/ |
Honest_Flatworm2028 | I’m so frustrated! I have so many things in the evenings (post work) that I want/need to do, and I’m lucky if I get **one** day a week for a couple of hours that I actually follow-through with doing a thing/task.
Trying to learn math (again O.O) and be a good partner/meal prep/be a regular human that does human things, but dang it is so hard. Why am I like this ?!
But seriously, do I take more stimulants later... ? Any tips? I’m trying to set alarms for myself and whatnot, but I just snooze or ignore them.
**TL/DR** super frustrated I get home and do nothing for **so many hours** not often enjoying the nothing anyway because I’m filled with anxiety/dread
Pls halp xx | 2021-11-26T07:12:04.000Z | r2hg0b | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How does everyone get things done later in the day? How do I harness this magic power?! 🥺 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2hg0b/how_does_everyone_get_things_done_later_in_the/ |
zoeleigh13 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T06:36:53.000Z | r2gw8o | 3 | 1 | ADHD | first time taking meds and it just felt weird and slow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gw8o/first_time_taking_meds_and_it_just_felt_weird_and/ |
New_Adagio_3635 | So I had some rough nights in the last two days. I had pretty much going on in my life lately and mymind just went batshit crazy with racing toughts, even through the night, wich causes me to be pretty tired the next day. Today I allowed myself to take a day off work to care for myself, physically and mentally. I know that it will be good for me having a break once in a while but I cant get over the feeling of being guilty somehow. Like that it is my fault that I havent slept very well the last few days (wich obviously ismy fault) and that I cant take that as a reason to not go to work. Has anybody else got that feeling? | 2021-11-26T06:27:36.000Z | r2gqvo | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling guilty for caring for mymental health | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gqvo/feeling_guilty_for_caring_for_mymental_health/ |
fruityabx | Hello everybody I have been taking wellbrutin for about a month now. I think they've been working or honestly now that I think about it I have decently seen improvement. However I have the slight worry about my weight when it comes to it.
I have seen some people make remarks about losing weight and gaining Weight and have seen an even amount of comments on both topics.
However I am just looking for stories on both topics and wondering about how they have affected people.
I know it may seem like an odd topic to worry about but I've just had such a hard time with weight my entire life and was underweight for such a long time and am now a decent weight and am just worried about it
Thank you in advance everyone | 2021-11-26T06:27:22.000Z | r2gqqx | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Wellbrutin? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gqqx/wellbrutin/ |
stormtroopi3 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T06:26:29.000Z | r2gqan | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What’s your dosage, and when do you take your meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gqan/whats_your_dosage_and_when_do_you_take_your_meds/ |
EstablishmentUsual91 | I’m a really anxious person who hates the attention on them. I plan to bring fidgets to my classes to ease my anxiety and my fidgeting with like nail biting. I don’t know what to bring though because i have a lot. I have pop its, fidget spinners, squishies and cubes. Does anyone have an idea of which one be the best to bring and use? | 2021-11-26T06:15:23.000Z | r2gk8g | 10 | 3 | ADHD | Fidgets and which i should bring | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gk8g/fidgets_and_which_i_should_bring/ |
richfromhell | I get really really down sometimes when significant others or parents or friends say “you never listen to me”. Nothing could be further from the truth. I do listen…. Sure, elementary school I would listen and a certain word would trigger the avalanche of thoughts and I’d be lost. A little better in Highschool but not great. Eventually figured out how to cope with it in University.
I got really good at listening. Some people have a photographic memory, turns out mine is acoustic. Like a digital mp3 recorder. I can rewind, play it back, hear the words, the intunation, the emotion the intensity, the pitch and the volume (turns out that is also not always a good thing….) but I do listen and the audio file gets saved.
But when I’m under stress at work… that audio file gets lost. It’s like my brain makes room for the “work” directory by dumping files from the “personal life” directory. That’s why I never remember to make appointments for doctors, therapists, email people for Birthdays wish them luck for something or get concert tickets while I am at work. The second I walk out the office door, I remember. I’ll hear your voice saying “wish me luck for my 10:00 presentation to the board of directors “. The “personal life” directory file allocation table is suddenly accessible.
So I seem like a bad friend, a bad son, a bad boyfriend because it seems like I don’t listen … but I do. It’s just that those audio files are not always accessible. While I’m at work and things get stressful, they are just gone.
But I did listen, and I did care. A lot. And still do. | 2021-11-26T06:13:45.000Z | r2gj8u | 3 | 8 | ADHD | I do listen, sometimes I don’t temember | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gj8u/i_do_listen_sometimes_i_dont_temember/ |
throwaway8188188 | Hi,
Turns out this is quite a long post.
TLDR: Does uncontrolled ADHD cause intense anger in relationships, and huge loss of sexual desire or any desire to be around me physically?
So my partner (35m) of about a year has ADHD. Diagnosed as a child, doesnt take prescribed treatment but has self medicated with a known 'herb' for many years.
Very basic back story:
The first few months were amazing, but then he had to give up his place and we decided to live together, he moved into my place. I know this was quick. It is what it is.
His work at the time was extremely stressful and really making him ill, and we'd also discussed a business we wanted to start together. So we decided it would be mentally healthier for him to quit the job, and concentrate on the business. But then it became apparant he needed some time to recover from the stress of the place he left etc, so we left the business side of things for him to take a few weeks relaxing and recovering mentally.
I have a decent, albeit very stressful busy job, enough wages to just about cover the both of us.
We also decided to get a puppy, who is now 5 months old.
The now:
He spends his days looking after the pup, doing a bit of housework and playing on the playstation. When I get home from work, which is usually pretty damn stressful.....he tends to be still gaming and dinner seems to be either I cook if I can be arsed (hardly ever, so tired and mentally exhausted from both work and all this).... I'll order takeaway.
I feel so guilty asking him to do anything, I'll get the deep controlled sigh, then the 'Sure.' in a very measured quiet 'im furious and dont want to but I have no valid reason to say no' tone. ' Which then makes me feel so bad that Im asking him to do something he doesnt want to do, that I take it all back.
I cannot seem to do anything right. Im walking on eggshells all the time, if I interrupt, or say something and he takes it the wrong way (because his brain is choosing the 'bad' interrpretation rather than the 'good').
He gets so angry. Not physically abusive, just furious at the slightest little thing, and then when we end up arguing, its always all my fault, and he gets mad because I 'never listen' (because its something he never actually said to me before) or gets things twisted in his brain and it was something I had said, not him. But he's furious, so wont have any of it. So instead I have to sit there getting berated for something ridiculous, and have to take it because he cant seem to understand.....EVER.....that he's wrong. Either that, or if I actually start to argue back, he instantly does the silent treatment which just makes me even madder as I cant get a response to the things Im saying or asking. With his friends, he's always really bouncy and happy and I get to see the him I met, and......well I just miss that him so much.
When he's not angry, we can talk about feelings etc, but it just seems like nothing changes at all. The entire relationship seems to be about him and his needs. He cant cope with deciding what to have for dinner, so gets really angry when I cant decide either (because at that point Ive been awake for 13hrs and have made about 743 decisions that day already at work). I think I would absolutely bawl my eyes out if I came home one day to an actual cooked meal that he'd thought about doing for me because of how hard I work to actually put that food on the table.
But he doesnt seem to think about me ever. Tells me he loves me all the time and that he's the happiest he's ever been in a relationship......which terrifies me because that means he wont change anything. For me, its ALMOST the most unhappiest Ive been and Im struggling to see the light. Any light it feels like at the moment.
I understand how difficult it must be being at home all day tied down by a puppy who howls in the car for the entire journey, but nothing Ive suggested is good enough. I suggested some good ideas for training her to cope with the car after a bit of googling (which he could have easily done himself)....but I was apparently telling him that he was utterly shit and couldnt train the dog. Ive offered to lend him my in ear very noise cancelling headphones. Nope. He wanted his own so I bought him some. And those foam earplugs that block everything. (He said that he could still hear her loudly through those.....I stupidly, without thinking casually mentioned that Ive had them before and as long as I got them right down in my ears before they expanded......which caused another huge row because I was actually saying he was stupid for not knowing how to use them properly).
So he wont leave the house to go in the car with her. And we cant leave her on her own yet. I forget why tbh.
I suggested doggy daycare a couple of days or mornings a week, i can drop her on my way to work etc to give him some freedom to get out the house, go for a drive, see some mates, work on whatever he wants to work on, plus good for the pub and socialising with other dogs etc........wow. That was an argument and a half.
I suggested it out of concern and trying to help and support him, but instead he took it that I didnt trust him whatsover to take care of the dog, and that I was punishing him in someway by taking away the one bit of company he had during the day. And he refuses to let 'someone he doesnt know take care of her'. Doesnt matter about whats best for pub either. Just feels like martydom, no matter how understanding Im trying to be.
We also havent had any sort of sexual activity in 6 months. And not througy lack of me trying.
When I say that, I mean we have literally had 1 actual snog in the last 6 months. He sometimes if he's in a good / amused mood will go to kiss me, then just stick his tongue in my mouth and wiggle it round really fast as a 'gotcha' type thing, or lean in for what little is left of my hearts little hope, a romatic kiss..... But then try to stick his tongue up my nose, or wetly lick my cheek. Then if I get annoyed or bring it up, he's just having a laugh and isnt he allowed to have a laugh anymore?
We have a peck or two on the lips and a hug when I leave for work and get home. We sometimes curl up on the sofa. Ive tried instigating numerous times in the past when things started to go downhill a bit, but after getting stonewalled and rejected time and time again, its like the sexuality part of me is dying. I darent try anything, I cant handle any more rejection. I feel like a huge part of my human-ness is missing and I dont feel whole at all. I feel like pieces of me are just being chipped and chipped away until I dont think there will be anything left.
Ive tried talking about this a few times, but he doesnt seem to think its an issue (it shouldnt be all about sex, sex shouldnt matter) and Ive agreed with him but thats not how I feel at all upon reflection I just dont really dare say. Its like I try and convince myself that he must be right as I just cant face another beratting session. Then argue in my head and I dont even know WHAT i think or believe anymore about my OWN goddamn viewpoints on anything! I dont NEED sex, but to have zero form of intimacy whatsoever in what is meant to be a loving relationship is heartbreaking. It makes me feel utterly undesirable and worthless. And I know logically Im not, but, well....brain biology I guess. We're like good friends who are slightly too overfamiliar. At best.
He says he's just not horny, doesnt know why and doesnt seem like its an issue for him personally. I dont think he WANTS for us to get a sex life back. He gets down about it because it affects me, so I dont bring it up anymore. He just says it will all be fine again one day, he's sure of it.
I suffer from touch deprevation too, and he wants nothing to do with actually touching my skin. Even wont curl up with me at night without needed the quilt to be between our skins. Would rather lie flat on his back shivering before cuddling up to me for warmth. I remember in the early days, we'd jump into bed and be hugging each other so tight to warm up n stuff. But he tells me my problem and the reason Im down about it is because im living in the past and I need to live in the now. But the past was beautiful and the present makes me feel like crap.
Ive asked him to stroke my back in the morning before, and he has, and I had the best day ever. Then realised how pathetically and utterly sad that was, that just the tinest bit of intimacy (that I had to ask for, which is degrading enough!) made me so incredibly happy. I dont ask anymore.
I'm struggling with money a lot, and have tried suggesting getting back into the business thing....but thats my fault because I come home tired so he doesnt want to bother me to ask for my help. Which is crap, quite frankly, I offer help all the time and have said how much I enjoy doing that, and I'll be there with bells on whenever he wants me to be.
Suggested some online focus groups, £50 a time type thing, which would help hugely towards his herb use.... but they would stress him out too much and he doesnt want to have to talk to strangers for an hr on zoom. Well, I don't want to be up at 5am every goddamn day, to go to a really stressful job knowing that at 3pm Im going to start getting really anxious at what kind of mood he will be in when I get home.....but needs must you know?!
I asked him to see if he could brainstorm a list of ideas the other day to make a little extra cash....I never ask him to do anything, I sort everything 'life admin' wise. Apart from the housework, he enjoys doing that and keeps on top of that and the laundry for which I am grateful and thank him every day. He didnt do a list, didnt even bring it up. Neither did I because I was way too tired to face the barrage of how aggy the dog has been today, how pissed off he's been with x y z, how his game mugged him off because of lagging and he didnt get the kills he should have done, all with that 'i hate you and am only tolerating you because I have nowhere to go' tone of voice. But he loves me....and is the happiest he's ever been.....?!
Feel like I spend my life researching and trying different techniques to help....listening to mental health audibles to try and combat my own mental state that this is causing me so that I can better be there for him. Suggested looking at different alternative medication, always trying to think of how I can help etc. His version of putting any effort in to help us seems to be biting his tounge more. Which I do appreciate....but it's a drop in the ocean.
Anyway, I could go on and on (and I feel I probably have waaaayy to much already)....but the questions I have that Im really hoping someone can help me with are:
Does the anger / refusual to do anything to help himself sound typical of how a person with ADHD behaves if it isnt managed properly? (and actively almost try and sabotage himself....refusing to train the dog for the car etc, refusing any idea I have that might ACTUALLY help him feel a bit better)
Is the not wanting to be anywhere near me physically apart from a few peck on the lips and over clothes hugs typical of ADHD if not managed correctly? (in the beginning, it was amazing by the way....it was never boring or rubbish sex for either of us).
I imagine I may get a lot of 'you need to talk to him' type responses. I already have. About everything Ive written above and more, including how i lt affects me. Ive spoken with calmness, kindness, understanding and love. Ive not ranted or raved. Ive asked questions to try and help me understand his condition better. Ive researched and talked about my research to see if it may help him. During those talks, he's occasionally calm, receptive and can understand my points. Then he disappears into the haze again for days and days and nothing whatsoever changes.
On a slight side note if it matters, he also thinks I have ADD. I think he may be right, albeit a milder version. A lot makes sense to me after doing all this research etc. If this matters, please ask more about it, dont have time here as I have to get ready for work. Booooo!!
Thank you in advance! | 2021-11-26T06:09:50.000Z | r2ggx2 | 9 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD relationship help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ggx2/adhd_relationship_help/ |
Fickle-Imagination-3 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T06:02:32.000Z | r2gciy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does taking Adderall make a 2.5 hour plane flight feel shorter or longer? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2gciy/does_taking_adderall_make_a_25_hour_plane_flight/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T05:51:36.000Z | r2g5os | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Awake naps on vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2g5os/awake_naps_on_vyvanse/ |
Kivadovah | I’ve (25f) always been so bad with money. I can’t budget to save my life, I’m always chasing my tail, always have bills overdue. I’m constantly seeing people my age excel and being able to go out and buy themselves nice things and it kills me that’s I can’t even buy myself some new clothes that I desperately need… I’ve been working since I was 14 and been living independently since 17 and yet I’m still so far behind… it’s so depressing and I’m so anxious everyday thinking about how I’m going to get through the week and feed myself dinner…
I own my own small business and I work my ass off every week doing heaps more hours than a normal work week and yet I’m still struggling… I finally paid off one of my debts and just have a credit card left to pay off… I’m just so depressed about this and it makes me just want to give up all together, I work so hard and always have and yet I can’t even enjoy life. Has anyone got any tips to help?? What am I doing so wrong..?? I’m at the end of my rope… | 2021-11-26T05:40:58.000Z | r2fz68 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | How to be better with money?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fz68/how_to_be_better_with_money/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T05:40:48.000Z | r2fz2j | 7 | 7 | ADHD | First day of taking my medicine and I feel like I made a huge mistake… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fz2j/first_day_of_taking_my_medicine_and_i_feel_like_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T05:40:40.000Z | r2fz0c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Prescription refill - Brand vs Generic | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fz0c/prescription_refill_brand_vs_generic/ |
Sea-Indepeny944 | I hear from lots of people on and/or medication that their minds stops racing and ruminating within an hour. Or just basically slows down by a huge margin. I have been dealing with this issue regarding past things that don’t matter or shouldn’t effect me anymore. I hear that medication options for ADHD Such as Adderall, Concetta, Ritalin, etc. Help with this type of issue. | 2021-11-26T05:33:58.000Z | r2fv8j | 3 | 2 | ADHD | For people who take medication- Does it help you stop or reduce rumination? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fv8j/for_people_who_take_medication_does_it_help_you/ |
Confident_You_4831 | I haven’t been diagnosed. But I’ve been suspecting lately that I might have ADHD. I’m starting therapy tomorrow for some of my mental health issues. But I’m so so scared of finding out that I’m just lazy and everything is all my fault. I’ve been feeling so guilty about it lately and it’s driven my self esteem to an all time low. That’s what has driven me to therapy. I have exams coming up and I haven’t studied for nearly a month. I just can’t get myself to do it. No matter how much my brain yells at me to. But what if I don’t have it? Did anyone else feel like this or current feel like this? | 2021-11-26T05:32:04.000Z | r2fu67 | 13 | 14 | ADHD | What if I don’t have ADHD and I’m just disorganized and lazy? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fu67/what_if_i_dont_have_adhd_and_im_just_disorganized/ |
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Omomon | [removed] | 2021-11-26T05:29:58.000Z | r2fss4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is over sharing a problem for anyone else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fss4/is_over_sharing_a_problem_for_anyone_else/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T05:19:04.000Z | r2fmha | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It sounds trite and cliche to say it, but what is your killer app for managing ADHD ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fmha/it_sounds_trite_and_cliche_to_say_it_but_what_is/ |
__shadowwalker__ | [removed] | 2021-11-26T05:16:54.000Z | r2fl83 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Based on your experiences could it be harmful to start with a high dosage of Vyvanse? Sort of experimenting | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fl83/based_on_your_experiences_could_it_be_harmful_to/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T05:12:06.000Z | r2fidv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Is Vyvanse worth it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fidv/is_vyvanse_worth_it/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T05:09:37.000Z | r2fguo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is there a place where even arrest form where I could pay somebody to put all my thoughts and ramblings in two coherent sentences on paper or rather typed out | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fguo/is_there_a_place_where_even_arrest_form_where_i/ |
okhithere72 | I apologize if this doesn’t belong here, but I’m having a really hard time trying to figure out my life or whatever that means. I’m young, 20M, and went through a terrible crisis event about a year ago that involved drug abuse and the death of my grandmother that came after. I thought I was going to die from the panic attacks, but made it out alive with severe anxiety. I stopped all drug use since but I was left to cope with the severe mental and physical anxiety for many months before I finally went to therapy and got on some antidepressant medication for the first time. It helped so much that I’m now starting to feel like my old self again. But I hate it. I hate this feeling. I feel like my old self who didn’t care about the bad habits, lifestyle, and mental health issues that were never addressed for the majority of my life. Life was and still feels like I’m autopilot. I still like some part of my old self though; the natural curiosity that’s part of my personality, wanting to learn things all the time, and watching too much YouTube and playing video games (a con also). And through this past year on learning more about my mental health, I came to the realization I may have untreated ADHD and maybe even Asperger’s Syndrome due to my behavior in my childhood to the present day. I’m in the process of trying to get evaluated for these disorders with a neuropsychologist. But besides that, it is so damn annoying living this way. I want to change myself. I know I need to because it’s killing me both mentally and physically. But it feels like I can’t. There’s a barrier to it all and it absolutely sucks. I want to reinvent myself. I want to be a healthier human being and have a better lifestyle that I know is beneficial for my well-being. I want to actually get somewhere in life but I don’t know what to do or even have a plan. I research so much stuff whenever I get hyper fixed on these topics that I know what I have to do but end up never doing it or give up right in the beginning. I hate this part of myself. It sucks so much living like this. | 2021-11-26T05:03:40.000Z | r2fd5x | 2 | 5 | ADHD | (Rant) I want to change and I hate living the way I do. But it’s so hard. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fd5x/rant_i_want_to_change_and_i_hate_living_the_way_i/ |
ChemicalSpread | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:59:12.000Z | r2fa6a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The bottom shelf of my fridge is food that will go bad / has gone bad and I don’t feel like cleaning the Tupperware yet. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2fa6a/the_bottom_shelf_of_my_fridge_is_food_that_will/ |
Jumping_Juniper_19 | I have ADHD and take adderall IR in the day time, I have been pretty bad at taking it consistently throughout the work day because my job is very active and I forget. It seems like a waste that I only take it sometimes because it isn’t helping to make a meaningful impact on my life.
I’ve been off work for the holiday and I wanted to see if I can figure out how I actually feel when I take it consistently at the recommended doses for tapering off throughout the day.
I have noticed that some of the symptoms I attributed to the adderall being active in my system are actually side effects of it wearing off because they are only happening later at night now …
Most troublesome is that I become very irritable and have a short fuse.
Since I haven’t been taking it consistently until now, I’m wondering if irritability would eventually improve if I continue to take it regularly.
I currently have been using magnesium drink powder with L-Theanine and occasionally use sleep aids to help fall asleep and relax but these don’t cut the irritability enough.
What have you done to help alleviate the discomfort of stimulant meds wearing off?
Has anyone else had improvement with these side effects after taking meds consistently for awhile? | 2021-11-26T04:57:19.000Z | r2f91q | 0 | 3 | ADHD | Stimulant wearing off reminds me of sundowning 😵💫 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2f91q/stimulant_wearing_off_reminds_me_of_sundowning/ |
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WheneverYh | Yesterday I had an argument with my parents. Mind you, they rarely yelled at us, they never hit us, but, in our culture you shouldn't talk back. Even if they are completely wrong, things will escalate to something much more serious. And from a stern voice to yelling, and basically... We rarely had *those* arguments, but there were some that ended in my dad not speaking to me for few days, and THAT is something our family never does. We always just talk "normally" after few minutes or hours. So... Even though I'm an adult adult, even though my parents do act hypocritical in some scenarios where they wouldn't take same shit from their parents but expect me to take it... Those things are not often, and they do so much for me to help me. I can just shut up, and let them be sorry later on, instead of ending up in a screaming match.
Last night (or mid-afternoon for those who aren't depressed and use sleep as an escape) I took my pill depository to arrange my morning pills for next 7 days. There's no Concerta to put it in.
I'm out of my ADHD meds and I have class today, then it's weekend, and I'll likely get them some time next week, and next Friday we have our first test. IDK about you guys, but nothing here is comforting.
Me: mom, where's my ADHD prescription?
Mom: in the kitchen drawer next to bla bla
Me: where?
Mom: *comes in, opens the drawer, hands me the envelope*
So I tell my mom how she forgot to order my meds (they were going to the pharmacy, so why should I go separately), and told me she doesn't know where my prescription is, we will find it when I come home. so what the fuck should I do now?
Dad chimes in not knowing what's going on, but seeing my mom being overly dramatic meant I must killed her childhood pet or something. Whatever.
Mom argues that I forgot too. I agree and while our conversation did not need any further discussion, my dad say that he asked me to give him scissors the other day, and I should have seen that envelop in that drawer.
And that's when I yelled BECAUSE I HAVE ADHD. IF I SAW THE ENVELOPE I WOULD FORGET ABOUT THE SCISSORS. THAT'S WHY I ALWAYS FORGET TO BRING ONE OF TWO DIFFERENT THINGS YOU TOLD ME TO BRING YOU.
I'm proud to say that they actually couldn't argue further. Which is why I had that entire first section of the post about how talking back is a no-no. I'm not using my ADHD as an excuse, but I feel like some people know you have ADHD but expect you to act as if you don't. When it's inconvenient for them.
I'm moving from one town to the other because I lost my job, and this whole ordering meds was while I was packing in that different town. I also found out around that time that I got into adult education program, and I'm having some things online that I'm trying to turn into a income.
I don't know what my name is anymore.
I'm also pretty sure I didn't have Concerta yesterday either because I did feel weird, but today... I woke up with zero desire to do anything expect stare at the wall. I'm not necessarily depressed, I'm just me? I don't feel bad, but I don't feel good either. And judging by how many times I lost my train of thought already - I will need to try to focus even more, and I'll need to mask better. I'd bet someone that people will notice a difference, and probably ask am I ok.
Concerta makes me likeable. In school and social settings it's important.
Today they will probably see more of "true me" than some people ever saw. And it's so draining to me.
EDIT: I'm so sleepy. And I forgot to mention that I'm going to that other town to finish packing what's left and man... It's gonna be a wild ride of sleeping entire Friday and Saturday, making myself to "normally human" on Sunday.
I'm someone who always "liked to sleep a lot", and all these social interactions are more draining than I was aware of. Damn. | 2021-11-26T04:51:07.000Z | r2f5ea | 5 | 11 | ADHD | Because I have ADHD! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2f5ea/because_i_have_adhd/ |
TheAnswerGiver | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:46:24.000Z | r2f2n7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to deal with procrastinating? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2f2n7/how_to_deal_with_procrastinating/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T04:46:12.000Z | r2f2im | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin XR makes me angry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2f2im/ritalin_xr_makes_me_angry/ |
JustBet | After wading through all of the online content talking about child ADHD 🤦♂️ I keep finding conflicting thoughts about tolerance for ADHD medication. To those of you that take stimulants: does the effect eventually begin to wear off? What has been your experience and solutions to that?
I’m writing some more text now because my initial post was automatically deleted because for some reason the minimum characters required for a text post on an ADHD subreddit is 300… Petition to change that rule..? for obvious reasons? | 2021-11-26T04:45:25.000Z | r2f22b | 20 | 7 | ADHD | Medication Tolerance: Is It Real? How Do You Deal With It? | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2f22b/medication_tolerance_is_it_real_how_do_you_deal/ |
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JustBet | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:41:40.000Z | r2ezub | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medication Tolerance: is it real? How do you deal with it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ezub/medication_tolerance_is_it_real_how_do_you_deal/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:41:25.000Z | r2ezpd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin ER makes me angry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ezpd/ritalin_er_makes_me_angry/ |
krobb_kross | Basically title. Have hated school for a long time and emotionally checked out too. Talked with parents about dropping out this year but had no idea what I wanted to do and it was scary. I still don't. I've had so many opportunities to pass I don't know why I didn't. Just got told that my assignment I needed to pass didn't. The teacher is really nice and at a loss for why I didn't do any of my assignments during the year and why I didn't show up to the workshops and all that. i don't know myself. It's fucking dumb. Kinda just burnt a year. All my friends are doing things and going places.
I'm aware that it's not the end of the world and all that and I'm ok so don't worry. Not depressed and I don't really get much trouble with anxiety (which might be a reason I couldn't motivate myself to pass the year). Basically I'm not gonna ruminate on this I just wanna know what to do with myself. I feel mentally healthy apart from school and trying to maintain hobbies it's jsut like why can't I fucking do these things. There's a possibility I could pass with summer school which would be good if true but also humiliating. It's just god I feel pathetic and pretty stupid for wasting so much time. Next year will be living with parents... my brother failed y13 as well and I feel like a pretty big disappointment.
There's a lot of things where it's like oh that could be cool when it comes to later life jobs but it's like if I can't even cope with high school it sorta puts a damper on all that and it's hard to think that anything will make me feel fulfilled.
I'm in nz btw so if anyone has any tips on getting into uni in spite of this that would be great.
Mainly I think I would appreciate some people sharing tips on how to have a meaningful "gap year" because I don't wanna waste next year as well. I'm gonna be working as a gardener a lot I think. Also stuff around finding what you wanna do in life, life purpose, dealing with feelings of falling behind, making friends when all of them will be going off to uni and I'll just be working.
I'm currently trying to get diagnosed but it will be like 8 months in nz so i'm looking for the fastest place to book. Looking back I've had a pretty avoidant reaction to things I have trouble with due to my possible adhd which has gotten a whole lot better with friends and stuff but not school.
Again if anyone has any thoughts or ideas on what to do in my free year, what to do in life, how to deal with failure they would be much appreciated.
Thanks for reading! | 2021-11-26T04:34:47.000Z | r2evr0 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Just failed high school | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2evr0/just_failed_high_school/ |
Etranger- | Hello,
So I don't know if this is a common ADHD thing, but for some time now, I have been extremely bothered by the noise my devices make. It's this constant vibration that I only hear at night (all the people who stayed over say they haven't heard much) and it is making me completely lose sleep in addition to driving me crazy. It's 5:30 AM here, I haven't slept at all and I have a migraine when I have an exam in a few hours. Due to sensory issues, I cannot pu anything in my ears to cover the noise. Does anybody else experience this ? And if so, do you have any tips ? I haven't slept in days and I'm on the verge of collapsing. | 2021-11-26T04:34:28.000Z | r2evjp | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Noisy devices | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2evjp/noisy_devices/ |
blueberry-spy | I want to quit facebook or at least reduce my use a lot because I can't find a healthy balance with it, but I can't figure out what to do with all those short moments in which I don't know what id be doing instead.
Basically, what are your best things to do when bored between activities or out of executive function? I'm thinking maybe I should make a dopamenu like Howtoadhd suggested, I just don't know what I'd put on it for "snacks".
I Really hope this isn't a stupid question, I just cannot tolerate boredom for even a moment before I reach for my phone, but it's sucking up all of my time | 2021-11-26T04:33:08.000Z | r2euoy | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Healthy dopamine hits as alternatives to facebook? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2euoy/healthy_dopamine_hits_as_alternatives_to_facebook/ |
New_Adagio_3635 | I have met a girl who makes me feel loved and wanted, who likes me as I am and wants to get to know all parts of me and I'm so incredibly happy to have met her, I really really am. I really get the feeling that she is so into me. We have dated for about two months now and yesturday we had the talks if all talks. It was about making things exclusive between us. We decided to think of things we need and expect from our partner in a relationship and what goals we would like to set for a relationship and bring these things up the next time we meet and then wait a week to decide on our own if we want to have that kind of relationship, knowing what the other wants and needs and if our future plans are compatible. I couldnt sleep tonight because all these thoughts race in my head about what I do really want from a relationship. I wandered to explore my deepest feelings and wants and came to some kind of mental break down. I also have tears in my eyes writing this. For all the time I have known this girl, I felt loved, cared for, like I wasnt alone in this world and understood. And this is kind of all I want from a relationship tbh. Is it wrong to just wanting to have someone who makes me feel the way I described? Because I hear all those stories about "you should love yourself first" ond "your feelings (negative or positive) should not depend on someone else" and that makes me think that I am an asshole or mentaly unstable for wanting these things in a relationship. I do think Im an interesting persin and I am quiet comfortable the way I am and I also like myself that way, I also have very good friends who want the best for me. I just want someone who cares and someone who accepts me as I am and I will happily do the same in return. I know that my friends do that and I am very grateful for that but I just want that intimacy that comes with a romantic partner. Is it that bad to think like that? Does what I write make sence in any way? My ADHD mind just wont stop racing rn and I feel ashamed of it | 2021-11-26T04:25:55.000Z | r2eqd5 | 11 | 4 | ADHD | Just wanting love | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2eqd5/just_wanting_love/ |
Organic-Turnip-4476 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:21:49.000Z | r2enxs | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Should I skip my adderal on the weekdays? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2enxs/should_i_skip_my_adderal_on_the_weekdays/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T04:21:38.000Z | r2entk | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Trying to find the right medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2entk/trying_to_find_the_right_medication/ |
Nahughes121989 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:19:09.000Z | r2em9c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed w/ adhd. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2em9c/recently_diagnosed_w_adhd/ |
InfluenceBeginning26 | I’m on adderall but because you can only get it with a prescription I have to make a doctors appointment each month to get a new one instead of getting refills. As common with the adhd brain I tend to forget and my doctor would always be booked up and I go long periods without medication. Does anyone have any alternatives that they think works as good as meds from experience? | 2021-11-26T04:11:23.000Z | r2ehld | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Forgetting meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ehld/forgetting_meds/ |
ScawedyCat | [removed] | 2021-11-26T04:08:33.000Z | r2efx0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | has anyone tried audiobooks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2efx0/has_anyone_tried_audiobooks/ |
DSMBCA | First off Happy Thanksgiving!! So as I write this I have been sober for 122 days. I am 38 and I have been drinking alcohol since I was 15. Always been a hard drinker and often a blackout drinker especially later on in my drinking career. Finally decided to get help and get sober. I've "quit" many times in my life after regretful actions or for sober October but always temporary and usually fall right back into old ways but not this time.
At first I felt great I noticed increased clarity, memory, better mood etc. I have really been trying to be conscious of how I feel and one thing I have noticed is that I have a real hard time focusing. It is to the point where I am struggling at work because I can't concentrate my mind seems to be scattered. I have a hard time watching TV or movies without flipping on my phone or fidgeting. So I started researching ADHD and comparing to some other aspects of my life. Always have had a hard time finishing tasks. For example, I'll cut the grass and leave the lawn mower outside. Or I'll get my tools out to fix something and fix it and leave my tools out. My clothes are rarely ever put away always on the floor like a teenager!! I never really read books because I'll be reading the words but my mind will be thinking about something totally different. My wife does all the grocery shopping because all I ever come back with is odds and ends unless I have a list!! The list better be in order of the store because if not I'll be going around and around.
So i have been seeing a therapist since I got sober so I mentioned this stuff to her and we talked about the fact that I may have been self medicating all these years! She agreed that the symptoms seem legit and recommended a meditation app. I talked to my sister who is a principal at a school and she said I should look into medication. She said she has had students who were blown away by how much better they felt after getting a prescription. I also know that these ADHD drugs have side effects and are addictive.
So if you made it this far thank you. I am looking to hear some personal experience with ways to treat this from people who have experienced it. Do my symptoms sound legit? I guess I always just assumed it was more of a personality trait but after removing alcohol it appears it's getting worse!!! | 2021-11-26T04:07:29.000Z | r2ef9e | 2 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD Symptoms after getting sober.... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ef9e/adhd_symptoms_after_getting_sober/ |
whatsupyouguys | I was assigned a ~2500 word paper worth 35% of my final grade about a month ago and it was due last Tuesday and I have yet to hand it in. I have about 600 words written and I literally cannot for the life of me write this paper. I just short of begged my professor for an extension well before the deadline but was denied one without a medical note. I am having a lot of trouble figuring out what to write about and cannot stay focused despite my attempts to work on it for hours every day with no distractions, different environments, pomodoro timers, etc. I am so desperate for advice, this has been such a huge source of stress for me especially as finals approach and I’ve been having a lot of breakdowns. I cannot enjoy anything because this paper is hanging over my head and I feel as though I can’t work on studying for my other finals because this paper takes precedent, so I’m also behind on my other classes. My self esteem is in the dumps because i feel like a lazy failure and I can’t stop worrying that this will cause me to flunk out of university.
At this point, even if I do submit a somewhat presentable paper, the late penalty will guarantee that I fail. However, if I submit a medical note sometime before the end of the semester, the late penalty will be removed from my grade. I am seeing my psychiatrist soon and I’m wondering whether it is possible to get a medical note for ADHD or anxiety for school or if anyone has any experience doing this?
Any advice (pertaining to my question or otherwise) is much appreciated, I’m really struggling and it would be great to hear I’m not alone in this. | 2021-11-26T04:04:51.000Z | r2edr5 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Overdue paper barely complete, can I get a medical note? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2edr5/overdue_paper_barely_complete_can_i_get_a_medical/ |
linepup-design | I mean, clearly I know I'm weird lol, but that's not what I mean. My in-laws are over for Thanksgiving, and when they are here my father in law likes to watch things on tv. I don't usually have the patience to just watch tv for hours and hours, so I'll pull out my laptop, research things, look at my phone, scroll Reddit. Him and I are the only ones still awake, and I'm sitting at my desk organizing random things and looking at my phone while he sits and watches football. He gets up to go to bed, looks at me and says "what are you doing?" I was kinda like, "uhh idk, I was looking at stuff on my computer, looking at stuff on my phone, oranizing some stuff on my desk." And he looked really confused and said "huh.. night owl.. huh? It's more the WAY he said it, as if I'm a weirdo, which like, I know I am, but why point it out? I swear some people just don't understand when someone like me doesn't want to just sit quietly and watch tv all day... | 2021-11-26T04:01:01.000Z | r2ebd0 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Am I weird? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ebd0/am_i_weird/ |
cwrighky | I’ve tried Adderall and Vyvance, but I had to stop taking them because I can’t stand the come down and the eventual physical dependence that develops. I don’t like feeling like garbage if I miss one day of taking stimulants. I’ve even been thinking about SSRI medications with the mentality that I could possibly need serotonin, but again, idk. Have any of you found success with medications other than stimulants? Thanks in advance for taking the time!
EDIT- I’m trying to quiet my mind. But I’m also looking to be able to have the energy to get up and move around. I just feel like I can’t focus on anything and this is causing me to have difficulty reading, writing, and talking. | 2021-11-26T03:57:21.000Z | r2e8xn | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Success with medication other than Stimulants? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2e8xn/success_with_medication_other_than_stimulants/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:57:03.000Z | r2e8qd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I let go of perfectionism? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2e8qd/how_do_i_let_go_of_perfectionism/ |
cwrighky | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:52:38.000Z | r2e5vj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone take any medication to quiet their mind OTHER than stimulants? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2e5vj/does_anyone_take_any_medication_to_quiet_their/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T03:46:36.000Z | r2e25n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How can I actually change myself? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2e25n/how_can_i_actually_change_myself/ |
lemongonewrong | prefacing this by saying i've looked into adhd in the past year or so, relating to a lot of the symptoms, yet not really sure if i fit them. i'm stuck in this cycle of "do i actually do this thing relating to adhd, or does my brain read about it and subconsciously do it/want me to believe i do" (if that makes sense).
so last monday i had a session with my therapist, basically i've talked about my lack of motivation for a while. last session, i told her that sometimes i want to do things, but i can't physically do them (the term executive dysfunction seems to fit, but i'm scared that it's just procrastination/laziness and im looking for an excuse).
anyway, she basically told me that it's because i don't actually want to do these things... what do i even do at this point? maybe she's right and i'm in denial, i'm not even sure.
due to other reasons, that was my last session with her, so i'm totally lost. any advice (or anything) is welcome! | 2021-11-26T03:46:13.000Z | r2e1wh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | not sure if my therapist is right? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2e1wh/not_sure_if_my_therapist_is_right/ |
SundaenkVillashire | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:39:49.000Z | r2dxrp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else find Seinfeld as one of the best shows for someone with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dxrp/anybody_else_find_seinfeld_as_one_of_the_best/ |
b-carbonate | Not asking for medical advice, I just want to know if not taking or taking vyvanse can do this and i cannot see a doctor, beasically just want to ease my mind, it's getting very painful and it's my right hand so i can't play or draw i'm going crazy
I don't take Vyvanse everyday, i'm in a no class wee so no vyvanse except yesterday.
Sorry for any typo and bad wording, I'm relying on autocorrect right now.
About 20 minutes ago I had one if those extreme energy moments as usual when I stay home all day, and suddenly I started getting very uneasy feeling behind my eyes, it ended in what I could only call some sort of tic attack, I do not have a tic disorder but I have some tics so I recognized the feeling of wanting to scrunch my face.
But it turned to me violently scutching my face for a long while (I was hella dissociated so I can't recall how long) and my hands were also doing their thing, looked like stimming b7t I couldn't stop and my whole body was like restless legs syndrome but worse and ,y whole body.
My right hand started clenching and it's still stuck closed, It's burning and. very painful, The internet says amphetamines can do that so I thought Vyvanse maybe , I don't think it's my other meds Sertraline coz the muscle thing from it doesn't feel like that at all for me. | 2021-11-26T03:38:25.000Z | r2dwx3 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Help is clenching fists a Vyvanse side effect? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dwx3/help_is_clenching_fists_a_vyvanse_side_effect/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T03:38:02.000Z | r2dwnc | 2 | 9 | ADHD | Psychiatrists can suck | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dwnc/psychiatrists_can_suck/ |
sweet_saccharine | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:36:24.000Z | r2dvol | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Coffee making anyone else tired? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dvol/coffee_making_anyone_else_tired/ |
Emotional-Many1536 | -125 pounds
-5’5
-Female
-Bipolar, ADHD, PTSD, General Anxiety, BPD
-Tried non stimulates and did nothing but make me depressed
-Started at 27mg Concerta (Psych was VERY cautious about giving me it at all due to the bipolar and manic tendencies)
-Upped to 36mg Concerta
Okay so,
Iv been on Concerta for 3 months now and I think I’m metabolizing it too fast… I take 1 in the morning around 10:30am and I get that good boost then by 1:30-2pm I’m slowing down, wanting to take “check my phone breaks”, no more motivation, and just wanna avoid doing my job at all… and most of the time I actually get up earlier around 8am so really it wears off around 11am when I end up getting up at the time I’m suppose too and when I get to work it’s wearing off 😑which helps me nun.. Iv already upped my meds once.
Has anyone had Bipolar and got prescribed vyvanse maybe? Since those are suppose to be super long acting? I’m just worried that won’t wanna give me anything but the Concerta because of that. He barely wanted to give me Concerta honestly🥴 It works for me but just not long enough…. Or has anyone been prescribed a booster for the last have of the day? I’m not sure about that either cause he didn’t wanna give me instants due to it more likely to cause manic symptoms as well..
Any suggestions or combinations that worked for you when you have a fast metabolism? | 2021-11-26T03:34:31.000Z | r2duh8 | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Metabolizing Concerta too fast?? Solutions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2duh8/metabolizing_concerta_too_fast_solutions/ |
halophytic | I(20f) was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago and it's totally reframed my life. I thought I knew what it felt like to be in love. I remember staying up, unable to sleep because I couldn't stop thinking about my then-girlfriend. The need to be with her was all-consuming and I would get excited about just the *prospect* of seeing her.
Now I feel the same way about a guy who I've hooked up with a couple times and barely know. In retrospect, the way I felt about my ex isn't too different to how I've felt about other fixations/hobbies.
It's making me wonder if I've ever been in love at all or if I've just been hyperfixating on these people. | 2021-11-26T03:33:41.000Z | r2dtxp | 3 | 3 | ADHD | love or hyperfixation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dtxp/love_or_hyperfixation/ |
calliel123 | Sorry in advance if this doesn’t make a ton of sense. (Moderate-severe combined type adhd and medicated, for reference.)
I’m in the process of moving states, and I have been storing a lot of stuff at my parents house (for the last ten years) as well as being back and forth across the country for work with almost zero sign of it slowing down until feb. I am not able to have ANY type of regular ‘routine’ or balance for more than a few days. This has basically taken my already severe ADHD into a place where I’m having frequent shut downs and overwhelm and even the small amount of time I DO have, I’m not able to pack or be productive because I can’t focus.
Does anyone have either:
A. Tips for managing symptoms when you can’t have consistency/a routine?
B. Advice on packing and moving with adhd?
C. Advice on pulling yourself out of a shut down cycle for tasks that overwhelm you to the point of mental paralysis?
Heck, I’d also just appreciate hearing from people who understand and can tell me I’m not crazy. I KNOW I’ll get it done but right now I feel so stupid for struggling, I feel like I’m burdening my parents as my stuff is taking up two rooms in their house and I feel like it’s such a dumb problem to have. ALL I HAVE TO DO IS GO THROUGH BOXES.
Thanks and sorry for the the text wall. | 2021-11-26T03:31:12.000Z | r2dsak | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Moving & Coping with INTENSE Overwhelm | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dsak/moving_coping_with_intense_overwhelm/ |
Status_Explanation | He is 10. He hates school and homework which I totally understand, but i feel like it's 50% the boredom and difficulties paying attention and 50% to frustration of withdrawing from screens. He gets home 11:30 a.m. and pretty much stays about 10 hours a day playing games, and that's because me and my mom tell him to take some time off from time to time, because i bet he'd stay even more if he could.
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it is obviously also worsening his attention, which makes me even more worried. I tried talking to him about watching some movies with me, reading comic books, playing some sports, learning how to play a música instrument... sometimes he says he's interested in some of these things, but as soon as he turns on his cellphone/computer he gives up and doesn't want to do anything. my mother isn't home all the time and she honestly kinda spoils him so that he won't bother her, he refuses to listen to me most of the time (which I also under, but it's hard for thin to work that way, because basically he has no routine, no rules, no boundaries....).
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I'd like some tips on how to get him to do something else and stablish a routine (i know it's really important for ADHD) we're pretty open to possibilities, we ask him what he's interested in, but he just eventually drop,S out of extracurricular activities. even things that are really compatible to his likings and needs, he gets too lazy. | 2021-11-26T03:31:06.000Z | r2ds8j | 24 | 11 | ADHD | My brother has ADHD and won't do anything besides playing videogames. I'm worried about his future. | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ds8j/my_brother_has_adhd_and_wont_do_anything_besides/ |
Timely_Raise7829 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:28:41.000Z | r2dqqj | 4 | 2 | ADHD | High Adderall Tolerance. Need Advice on Possibly Switching Meds. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dqqj/high_adderall_tolerance_need_advice_on_possibly/ |
AdriftDrifter | I've heard this for pretty much my entire life and it never helped the first time and I keep hearing it all the way to the present.
Just focus more. It's easy.
Just concentrate. It's easy.
Stop getting distracted. It's easy.
Just plan better. It's easy.
Don't worry about that until tomorrow. It's easy.
Organize better. It's easy.
I told you it's easy. Why isn't it easy yet?
Even outside of ADHD contexts it's such a useless and unhelpful pair of words. Even if something is easy for someone, how does that make it easier for someone else to say so? | 2021-11-26T03:28:25.000Z | r2dqlq | 6 | 30 | ADHD | I can't think of a pair of words said to me that are more condescending, dense, and less helpful than "it's easy." | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dqlq/i_cant_think_of_a_pair_of_words_said_to_me_that/ |
Lazy_Gamer519 | I'm having one of those moments where my dopamine is so low and yet I'm so frustrated and overwhelmed that I just want to shut myself down.
I have no interest in trying to bring my dopamine back up. I don't want to eat even tho I haven't eaten all day, I don't want to do something to distract myself. I just want to sleep even tho I'm not even that tired just because I'm too pissed off to be awake. I hate this. | 2021-11-26T03:27:58.000Z | r2dqbn | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I just want to shut down. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dqbn/i_just_want_to_shut_down/ |
Beez_And_Trees | As this reddit suggests, I have ADHD. I’m awful at following through with workouts—TV or podcasts barely work for me. (EDIT: I tend to give up like 10-15 minutes in. I get bored and tired and don’t have the willpower to keep going). I’m wondering if anyone has any specific equipment (looking into a smart hula hoop but I may be a bit too thin?) or other tactics to maintain an effective workout. Bonus points if you have tips on how to stay motivated for a long time, routine has never worked for me in the past :( | 2021-11-26T03:26:54.000Z | r2dpok | 8 | 6 | ADHD | How do you exercise without getting bored and/or losing motivation? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dpok/how_do_you_exercise_without_getting_bored_andor/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T03:25:50.000Z | r2dp37 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | What's your opinion of @jay_will_float_too from TikTok? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dp37/whats_your_opinion_of_jay_will_float_too_from/ |
TakesDmtOnce | Well. It's 4 am and my diagnosis starts at 11 am. It's been a year since a university student psychologist/counselor suggested I get tested for ADHD after telling her I've been having sleep problems as long as I remember not to mention the chronic low grades from middle school till now among other signs of ADHD. After a year procrastinating the researching, and the long waiting list today is the day. The thing is I feel like if I don't get any sleep then my lack of it is going to fudge the results somehow and I get misdiagnosed. So I finally decided to post here after lurking for ages. I am also worried that if I dont get diagnosed, what then? Am I just making this all up?
Sorry if this does not make any sense and for the run on sentences. I hope I can catch some FUCKING zzz's. | 2021-11-26T03:25:37.000Z | r2doyz | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I'm getting tested today and I can't sleep | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2doyz/im_getting_tested_today_and_i_cant_sleep/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:25:11.000Z | r2dop7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It's hard for me to think of a more condescending, dense, and unhelpful pair of words than "it's easy!" | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dop7/its_hard_for_me_to_think_of_a_more_condescending/ |
Plasteal | I mean I do if we’re being honest. I mean with thanksgiving here you know there’s always the discussion of guys getting to watch the game and women clean up, or women do all the work of making while men do nothing. And all though I genuinely reject the idea I can’t help see myself in them as I struggle with starting tasks like that. Does anyone else this fear? | 2021-11-26T03:21:40.000Z | r2dmlv | 17 | 20 | ADHD | Men with ADHD do you ever get scared of being grouped into the lazy man-child husband stereotype? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dmlv/men_with_adhd_do_you_ever_get_scared_of_being/ |
amerricka369 | I never used medication growing up (parents did not want to medicate). started using some in college to help me focus and get work done. I only filled my prescription a couple times with different doses and different types but hated how I felt on all of them. Long story short, I Opted for many natural coping mechanisms. I am happy with how things turned out and can manage my symptoms well enough. I can’t help but wonder what I missed with consistent medication and curious if there is a dosage/product that would have made me feel better while taking it. Ps I also have auditory processing disorder so I am not sure if that impacted anything. | 2021-11-26T03:18:22.000Z | r2dkkb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What did I miss by never medicating myself? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dkkb/what_did_i_miss_by_never_medicating_myself/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:17:57.000Z | r2dkab | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Happy Thanksgiving | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dkab/happy_thanksgiving/ |
Plasteal | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:17:47.000Z | r2dk74 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Men with ADHD do you ever get scared of being grouped into the lazy man-child husband stereotype? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dk74/men_with_adhd_do_you_ever_get_scared_of_being/ |
Distinct-Dog5424 | I saw this phrase in another [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2d9pn/i_lost_my_selfagency/), but figured it deserves it's own:
>How do you unfuck a fuckup, when you're so fucked up mentally you don't want to get unfucked up?
What do you think /ADHD crew? When I'm so mentally fucked up from a day, or whatever reason. Nothing will get me out of that mentality. I'm imprisoned in my own head, the key is thrown away. The day is screwed. | 2021-11-26T03:15:17.000Z | r2diog | 2 | 3 | ADHD | How do you unfuck a mental fuckup? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2diog/how_do_you_unfuck_a_mental_fuckup/ |
Distinct-Dog5424 | [removed] | 2021-11-26T03:12:27.000Z | r2dgvt | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do you unfuck a mental fuckup? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2dgvt/how_do_you_unfuck_a_mental_fuckup/ |
ap22312 | I was recently on adderall xr generic 30mg
At the end of the day I was depressed and had severe social anxiety. My doctor gave me the choice of just staying on the adderal and using it as needed instead of every day like I was or trying vyvanse. What is yalls opinions on vyvanse compared to adderall? I was focused and calmer on adderal just couldn't take the depression and anxiety. My doctor was surprised it caused me to feel like that said it's not a normal reaction. But from what I read it is. But idk. Any advice? Also bipolar but I'm on a mood stabilizer. | 2021-11-26T03:07:54.000Z | r2de0g | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Adderall vs vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2de0g/adderall_vs_vyvanse/ |
Powerful_Amphibian43 | All of the self-supporting habits I tried to build are currently gone.
I'm living/sleeping on my couch with a three weeks worth of trash and food wrappers around me, and I can't seem to care anymore.
I've missed two doctors appointments because I can't be bothered to give a damn.
I hate it. It's comforting though.
I know I need a therapist, I \*know\* I need to see my doctor. I just can't seem to care.
I can't bother to try to reschedule a doctor's appointment, or why I should even bother anymore.
How do you unfuck a fuckup, when you're so fucked up mentally you don't want to get unfucked up? | 2021-11-26T03:01:22.000Z | r2d9pn | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I lost my self-agency | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2d9pn/i_lost_my_selfagency/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-26T02:36:46.000Z | r2ct5z | 3 | 5 | ADHD | With meds I can focus now, but now I can't rely on the same irrational anxiety / stress mechanism to get me to do stuff | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r2ct5z/with_meds_i_can_focus_now_but_now_i_cant_rely_on/ |
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