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SimPHunter64 | I hate that so much that I need so much more time for realizations. For things that others hear right away and it clicks for them right away. Like they hear it and it clicks for them even if they not gave to much attention for the informations. They still know it.
And there is me... A guy with ADHD (C). Always lagging behind in ordinary/everyday things (sometimes in things that I am actually good at, neurotypicals just out perform me in a short time. Because it clicks for them and they can do as they heard.
I am currently 2 days before one of my final exams...
Today at evening it came to my attention first...
My class mates and my teachers spoke about it many times. But it just did not click untill now... | 2021-11-22T17:18:12.000Z | qzqg3y | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Ranting/Need support. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzqg3y/rantingneed_support/ |
Thatonestrangemom | I (30F) have a son (8) who has been diagnosed with the above recently. I’ve known since he was 2 there was something going on and since then we have continuously try every resource to help him. I have 50/50 custody of my son and have a great relationship with my ex and his wife. He gets counseling once a week and is on medication (guanfacine & focalin). I’ve noticed a big change over the last several years. No longer getting kicked out of school, tearing up classrooms, switching sitters every week. Just over the last year, we’ve maybe had 5 major incidents (major progress considering it use to be a every day blow up) and it’s mainly when my son tells people to stop doing something and they continue to instigate him until he blow up causing him to fight and scream awful words which we continue to work through and express it’s okay to be angry and have feelings, but that there is a wrong and right way to do it. He definitely gets along better with older children by far. He understands what’s right and wrong but in the heat of a moment he can lose his temper.
My question or curiosity is to see if anyone here has been diagnosed, mainly with ODD, and is now an adult or know someone who has. Did they get better? How is life for you/them now? What are some resources that you wish you had as a younger age to help? Any random thoughts or advice would be helpful, I just want to understand more what he is going through. | 2021-11-22T17:16:48.000Z | qzqexc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Those with ADHD/ODD/AS ; what resources did you wish you had when younger? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzqexc/those_with_adhdoddas_what_resources_did_you_wish/ |
borbster | Turns out the best way to manage my life wasn't a detailed hourly agenda I would inevitably give up. The solution was actually: controlled chaos! It's both rigid and freeform enough for my fickle brain!
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Here's how I've been managing:
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TIMERS:
For getting stuff done, I set a timer specifically tailored to my attention span and then take a little (timed) break in between. I discovered my attention span for "dreaded tasks" by using a stopwatch to see how long I could sit down for a task before my brain was fed up. I did this several times and then took the average to be my attention span time. I can do challenging stuff for about 35-40 min, but there's no shame if your attention span is shorter!
The reason it works so well for me is often, a task seems so massive and I have no idea how much of my day it's going to take up. Now, I know that I just have to work on that task for my timer's amount of time. It feels much more managable.
I even set a timer to do my morning routine, I find that I don't skip out on flossing or washing my face if I know I can get it all done in 15 or fewer minutes! I've actually flossed several days in a row!!!
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PLACES:
For life organization, I have designated bins and areas for everything I own. I used to have clothes everywhere, now I have a dirty hamper, a clean hamper, and a basket for once-worn clothes too. I even have a basket on my coffee table that's just for small things that end up there like hair ties, pens, lotions, masks, fidget toys, etc.!
In all honesty, choosing what categories of bins I'd have was really challenging but it's so worth it because I can just quickly throw junk from my floor into their respective spots (I set a timer to work exclusively on figuring out an organizational system!)
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"MASTERING YOUR ADULT ADHD" WORKBOOK:
These aren't new ideas by any means. In fact, I've learned all this from a specific workbook called "Mastering Your adult ADHD," which I may or may not have a free pdf. It's got the above advice as well as other tips and it's super readable for someone with ADHD. They actually did the homework. Another tip by them I love is having a place to write down all the ideas that pop into your head while you're trying to complete something else, then checking that list once your timer goes off to see what needs to be done.
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DISCLAIMERS:
I'm also taking medication (concerta) which has helped me get better at starting stuff in general, I can't speak for someone trying these methods on their own.
I've only been doing this method for 3 weeks so I could very easily be doing well because I'm still excited about it. If anyone's interested, I can give an update in a month or so! | 2021-11-22T17:12:55.000Z | qzqbmb | 8 | 34 | ADHD | Timers and Baskets - there's a time and place for everything! | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzqbmb/timers_and_baskets_theres_a_time_and_place_for/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T17:10:52.000Z | qzq9wd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Metformin and Ritalin. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq9wd/metformin_and_ritalin/ |
TheMadGraveWoman | Every time I get out to interact with people, I feel like pure garbage. I feel really aggressive when I come home even though nothing bad happened to me. It is just my mind is flooded by negative thoughts about people who thought that it would be fine to break my psyche and scream at me instead of helping me. I just feel like I am in an almost manic state and aggressive.
I am just afraid that if I get into some conflict at work I will just snap and attack someone. | 2021-11-22T17:10:40.000Z | qzq9pp | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Why am I completely pissed off whenever I have to go outside? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq9pp/why_am_i_completely_pissed_off_whenever_i_have_to/ |
H_MarMar | [removed] | 2021-11-22T17:10:11.000Z | qzq9a3 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Needing some help for dissertation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq9a3/needing_some_help_for_dissertation/ |
m3tafisics | [removed] | 2021-11-22T17:09:46.000Z | qzq8xa | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone do THC in combination with a stimulant? Is it safe? Any advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq8xa/does_anyone_do_thc_in_combination_with_a/ |
flooowie | Hey, its my first time asking something in this reddit sorry if I make any mistakes, im going through a really really difficult phase in my life ( lol arn't we all ?) anyways
it would really really help a lot if someone could please tell me the common meds Stimulants, Non-stimulants which are easily available in INDIA.
and also the medicines that you got prescribed with in India
it would mean a lot any kind of advice suggestion or anything thanks a lot :/ <3 | 2021-11-22T17:07:48.000Z | qzq7am | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Meds in India | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq7am/meds_in_india/ |
NotaVogon | A situation at my job has changed and negatively affects my ability to do my job. In order to continue being effective, I now need accommodations.
Looking for your input on whether the accommodations I am requesting sounds reasonable:
Hybrid remote/in office schedule. Working remotely Mon, Wed, Friday. In office Tues and Thurs. Does this sound like a reasonable request?
(I was in a private office and could close my door to block out distraction. Now I'm in a cubicle located in a high traffic area across from a break room and a noisy copier just on the other side of the cube wall. Even using white noise and headphones I am much less productive. There's also no way to prevent interruptions.
The cube is also situated so my back is to the open ing and I've already been startled multiple times by people walking up behind me - doesn't help the anxiety disorder.) | 2021-11-22T17:06:21.000Z | qzq613 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Requesting accommodations at my work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq613/requesting_accommodations_at_my_work/ |
kingevillemon | After 1 and a half years of going through the process to be diagnosed, I've finally got my appointment with a specialist soon! I've done little to no research other than i hear the medication for some people be compared to putting glasses on that you need for the first time. My question is what's the best medication to be on? What makes them different? I'd say my ADHD is pretty severe. | 2021-11-22T17:05:09.000Z | qzq50b | 4 | 1 | ADHD | What's the best medication to be on? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq50b/whats_the_best_medication_to_be_on/ |
flooowie | [removed] | 2021-11-22T17:05:04.000Z | qzq4wn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds in India | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq4wn/meds_in_india/ |
whatisaheck | was diagnosed a couple weeks ago and started taking meds last week. since then i’ve been having a hard time accepting the psychiatrist decision and thought about not taking medication since addiction runs in my family. this reddit page and a former psychologist i went to are what pushed me to go to get checked out and i walked in thinking “i’m only here to get this thought out of my head. i probably don’t have it.” sat down, took a questionnaire, then watched a screen change from shape to shape for 20 minutes and spoke to my psychiatrist who also has adhd. she showed me my results and said she was pretty sure i have it and sent a prescription off for Adderall XR 20mg.
Taking it that first day was like night and day. Truly i really don’t t know how to describe it other than i was finally able to go to work and not feel the need to get out of my seat until my designated time. I could focus on what customers were telling me and related to them MUCH easier than i probably would have otherwise. i downloaded stock and coding apps so i could finally learn stock and work on my degree while i have free time. I was able to listen to my boyfriend talk about his day and not feel bored out of my mind/the need to cut him off and finish his sentences. the noise and clutter in my mind felt like it was swept and someone lighted a nice candle i there. Euphoria is probably what i’m getting at. (How do people who weren’t prescribed it feel when taking it?) the come down was kinda harsh though but not unbearable.
Now that’s i’ve taken the for a few days (except today. took a vitamin because of the appetite suppressant aspect of adderall and forgot it had vitamin C in it, so I skipped my dose) that specific feeling has subsided but i feel more motivated? it’s still hard to want to do certain chores but there’s less of a push in my head to put it off. instead my thinking is more like “get it over with and move on.”
Anyway i’m not sure why i feel like her diagnosis was a fluke. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety and depression in the past. The things i struggled with before were things i thought EVERYONE struggled with? my psychiatrist laughed when i told her that cause she said she thought the same thing before she got diagnosed and pursued her degree. im trying to accept it but it surprisingly difficult and confusing? maybe deep down i dont want it to be true? i don’t know i’m just all over the place. maybe it’s because i didn’t take my meds today lol
TLDR; i’m still in denial about my adhd diagnosis even though i have taken medication and seems to be working | 2021-11-22T16:59:53.000Z | qzq0ct | 2 | 1 | ADHD | i feel like my adhd diagnosis was a fluke | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzq0ct/i_feel_like_my_adhd_diagnosis_was_a_fluke/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:59:14.000Z | qzpzus | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I am always so awkward in meetings | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpzus/i_am_always_so_awkward_in_meetings/ |
S7r5h | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:58:19.000Z | qzpz40 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Methylphenidate Doses | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpz40/methylphenidate_doses/ |
sophemy | I just want to see what you guys do or try to do to break the cycle of when you get stuck inside your head when youre down.
Usually, i am able to manage by maybe playing a game or something but other times, the thoughts are so intense, i feel like my head wants to explode. When it gets too intense, i can feel my heart/chest fluttering intensifying the feeling. I have been sitting here at work trying to keep my mind off of my thoughts since I know it is probably all in my head (or not) either way, none if my usual tactics are working. Tried meditation and tried breathing exercises. I tried playing games, but i dont feel as motivated to even do that. Currently just listening to music and kind of thinking about just leaving my desk.
I had no where else to turn, so hopefully something here works.
#edit 1: Thank you to everyone who responded! Reading/trying some of the things you guys recommended has helped put me in a manageable mood. From the bottom of my heart, thank you. Sometimes it can feel so unbelievably lonely even when I have support from friends/family because its just hard for them to relate.
#edit 2: wow this blew up, sorry if I dont reply to your comment, I will definitely read them all though! Thank you again. | 2021-11-22T16:56:02.000Z | qzpx8h | 332 | 1,326 | ADHD | What do you guys do to distract yourselves when you find yourselves stuck in your head feeling down | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpx8h/what_do_you_guys_do_to_distract_yourselves_when/ |
ThrowawayTardis40 | I am *not* an artsy person and I don’t really have a designer eye, but I am pretty proud of my newly-made, extremely low budget kanban board.
I don’t have the space for any kind of whiteboard and not the money either, so I decided to make do and use what I had.
I made all of the elements in PowerPoint. I’m not much of a designer as I said but there’s tons of inspiration around to “borrow” from ;) and it doesn’t matter if it looks amateurish anyway ?
I then used my $20 laminator and after that spending what felt like an eternity (and probably was like 30 minutes) cutting everything up.
The whole thing is on my bedroom door. I just used blu tack to put them up, and the two green lines are just washi tape.
Now let’s discuss if this was just another way for me to procrastinate rather than being the essential tool it should be? 😬😅🧐😏
https://imgur.com/a/H4Tsbvj | 2021-11-22T16:53:12.000Z | qzpv31 | 3 | 12 | ADHD | I wanted a visual way to track progress so I made my own, low-budget kanban board. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpv31/i_wanted_a_visual_way_to_track_progress_so_i_made/ |
unkempt_cabbage | I do this for friends and for partners and anyone else who matters to me. I use Google Keep because it’s free and works on my phone and computer and syncs between the two so easily.
I have a note with the person’s name as the title, and then important details about them. You MUST put their name in the note, because you won’t remember, even though you swear you will when writing it. I include likes, dislikes, favorites, things we’ve done together or plans we keep trying to make together, etc. I’ll include if they like texting or calling more. I’ll put current things at the top (dog is sick, work is stressful, having a baby, etc.)
I also put their birthday in my calendar (recurring annually) and if they’re someone who I should do something for their birthday (like get them a present or make plans) I’ll set a reminder 1 month, 2 weeks, and 1 week out.
The system isn’t perfect, and I forget to update people’s notes sometimes, and I’ll still miss birthdays or forget important things. But it’s made me a much better friend overall, because it shows people I care (because I do care! I just have the memory of a drunk goldfish.)
**IMPORTANT** Don’t put anything in this note that you aren’t willing to show to that person. You likely will never show them, but you also don’t want to have “Mary: Likes goat cheese and big dogs, hates country music, nice ass, annoying voice.” **If you wouldn’t say it to their face, don’t put it in this note.** | 2021-11-22T16:52:47.000Z | qzpurh | 9 | 131 | ADHD | One of my best relationship tips: keep a running note! | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpurh/one_of_my_best_relationship_tips_keep_a_running/ |
Outrageous_Flan_7442 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:52:40.000Z | qzpuoc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is my Adderall working? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpuoc/is_my_adderall_working/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:52:26.000Z | qzpuie | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Are psychiatrists who follow patient cases just not a thing anymore? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpuie/are_psychiatrists_who_follow_patient_cases_just/ |
DaCreepyArcher | I relaxed today. I was just sitting down and thought to myself "ok listen up bud I won't allow you to check reddit before you've done at least some of your homework" and I made myself do it even though it's not due before Wednesday and holy s--t for once I'm not stressing about homework and it's like my entire being went silent for once in my life.
You will NOT regret doing your work and/or other responsibilities before the last second!
It's like I'm - genuinely - a new person now. | 2021-11-22T16:49:46.000Z | qzpsc1 | 3 | 10 | ADHD | idk how BUT YOO I relaxed today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpsc1/idk_how_but_yoo_i_relaxed_today/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:48:14.000Z | qzpr2b | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Things that I do that help me in college. Feel free to share some of your own! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpr2b/things_that_i_do_that_help_me_in_college_feel/ |
CharacterLife3744 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:48:00.000Z | qzpqvu | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Do symptoms manifest later in life even if you didn’t have them as a child? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpqvu/do_symptoms_manifest_later_in_life_even_if_you/ |
CharacterLife3744 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:41:58.000Z | qzplyq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do symptoms and stuff manifest later on in life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzplyq/do_symptoms_and_stuff_manifest_later_on_in_life/ |
1Trigger_Warning1 | Last year I failed school; I was academically suspended after a long struggle with anxiety/depression. Culminating in a ADHD diagnosis that was just a bit too late. I'm scared to go back to school after two semesters off but I am tired of feeling on 'standby' and want to go back. I'm scared I'm going to fall back into old habits even though now I have a counselor and Dr that I trust and a diagnosis and Ritalin prescription. I need to meet with my advisor but things have come up Everytime for me to justify cancelling. The last one being that I was sick. I am also scared cuz this time I also have more on my plate with a part time job. My parents are trying to convince me to transfer to a different school, but I don't want to do that either since then I'm leaving everything behind. My friends, my apartment, my Dr, my counselor, my job. But they have a point too and are financially helping me with school. I'm just conflicted on all ends. | 2021-11-22T16:35:21.000Z | qzpgls | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Scared of going back to school | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpgls/scared_of_going_back_to_school/ |
SpecialLearningInc | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:34:56.000Z | qzpg89 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | GIFT: Celebrating Thanksgiving Social Story | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpg89/gift_celebrating_thanksgiving_social_story/ |
drekoho | Hey everybody. I am being told over and over that exercise and meditation will get me through this and so I've started researching on effects on meditation on dopamine. (Yes, the sweet hyperfocussed researched phase). What do you guys think? I'm trying not to get angry, yet just the memory of having this talk makes me angry over and over. Do you guys get angry by past memories throughout the day multiple times, out it's just me? I want it to stop, as I decide to finally do something, I get angry and then yes, it's postponed again.
What do you guys think?
tl;dr: is only meditation and exercise enough? Also, is anyone else having anger from recalling something unpleasant from memories?
Not just anger, all emotions.
Edit: I'm asking about whether "only" exercise and meditation and NO medication will help, as I'm being hammered on by people? | 2021-11-22T16:31:45.000Z | qzpdp0 | 28 | 5 | ADHD | Is only exercise and meditation enough? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpdp0/is_only_exercise_and_meditation_enough/ |
Blatz | In the last couple months I've come to suspect I might have ADHD. Have read posts from here that seem all to familiar, have read various articles, taken some questionnaires, etc. It's no guarantee but I'm kind of hopeful that it is because treatment for Depression and Anxiety have gone nowhere for me.
I did a virtual visit with a psychiatrist through DoctorOnDemand, talked it over and they agree that might be what's going on. However they can't/won't prescribe Stimulants in a virtual appointment. They offered to try Non-Stimulants but I didn't really want to go that route. I've tried Wellbutrin in the past and it didn't go well. I'm sick of medications that take months to see if they are helping only to not work anyways.
I set up and appointment with my GP and they won't prescribe without formal testing. I get it but it sucks.
I've tried about ten different places including in person and online resources and can't get in anywhere. Places are booked through January/February some of them aren't even scheduling right now saying to call back in a month and try again.
Not sure what to do at this point. Starting to freak out pretty hard. Pretty burnt from so many failed phone calls and time wasted filling out forms. | 2021-11-22T16:31:07.000Z | qzpd66 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Can't seem to get scheduled for testing | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpd66/cant_seem_to_get_scheduled_for_testing/ |
gapal05 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:27:40.000Z | qzpae8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for recommendations | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpae8/looking_for_recommendations/ |
SelectionDelicious39 | Hi all! I tried doing some research on this but couldn't find too much info and I don't see my gastro for another few months. I was diagnosed with GERD about a year ago (nausea and lots of acid reflux) and have been on 2 daily antacids since. I've noticed that since starting Vyvanse a few months ago, on the days when I do take it, my GERD symptoms like acid reflux and nausea seem to be worse than normal.
Does anyone have any experience with stimulant meds and GERD? | 2021-11-22T16:27:16.000Z | qzpa3h | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse making my acid reflux/GERD worse? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzpa3h/vyvanse_making_my_acid_refluxgerd_worse/ |
twinkletoess2000 | I'm starting ADHD meds in January/ February next year. I got my diagnosis 3 weeks ago so I'm really excited to try meds though I a little frustrated about the long wait (NHS lol). I've been fired 3 times in the last 1.5 years. All in roles I'd studied 2 degrees for. My confidence has been at an all time low and although I'm working at the moment, I fear that my ADHD symptoms might get me fired again.
What can I expect when starting medication? Asides from concentration and procrastination issues at work, I also suffer from pretty bad depression and anxiety. Most of my days are bad days. I can't remember the last time I woke up feeling happy. What have ADHD meds done for you? I'd love to know. | 2021-11-22T16:21:00.000Z | qzp53o | 4 | 2 | ADHD | What should I expect from ADHD medication? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzp53o/what_should_i_expect_from_adhd_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:20:34.000Z | qzp4r2 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Adhd and AI | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzp4r2/adhd_and_ai/ |
CheapSignal2 | My ADHD ass at a family feud night with my girlfriends work's Christmas party:
I had a brain fart while being tipsy and answered the question "what do you shake before using" with "nuts" thinking about shaking a handful of treenuts in your hand before eating them (something I do) I then gestured in front of everyone innocently which looked like a lewd gesture; shaking my fist and bringing it to my mouth. Everyone laughed and my gf was so embarrassed. I was so embarrassed too but tried not to show it. Literally something out of one of those bad dream where you embarrasse yourself.
Next question was "what do you bring out of the closet for special occasions". I was first to answer in line and the only thing I thought of was "toys". So being first one, having a disposition for impulsivity, and feeling the pressure of not being able to think about anything else with the time running down I said "toys". Everyone laughed very hard and I again was super embarrassed. Shouldn't have been drinking that night.
My girlfriend was so embarrassed and rightfully so. She was not happy when we got home, very shy girl.
Needed to share because two days later I'm still compulsively thinking about it and it's fucking up my morning. | 2021-11-22T16:20:05.000Z | qzp4eb | 8 | 2 | ADHD | Literally SO embarrassed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzp4eb/literally_so_embarrassed/ |
pondleaf3 | I have always had ADHD but I didn't know that until uni. I was the smartest kid in primary and middle school and it was something I was proud of. It really boosted my self esteem and I felt confident and happy.
I started struggling during high school. Since I was no longer the best at anything, it made me go through some identity crisis. Things got even worse during uni when I started failing exams. It was at this time that I got diagnosed with ADHD. I later got diagnosed with GAD.
My grades started to improve after my ADHD diagnosis but of course I wasn't "best" at anything. I feel kind of lost in life as I am no longer confident and happy as I was in the past. I feel like that part of me had died and is forever gone. I can't help but feel unhappy about it. These days I lack confidence and feel like I'm not particularly good at anything. Any advice? | 2021-11-22T16:15:37.000Z | qzp0su | 5 | 16 | ADHD | I feel so lost in life | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzp0su/i_feel_so_lost_in_life/ |
Victim-of-comphet | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:14:35.000Z | qzozzc | 0 | 1 | ADHD | What to do when meds are on back order? (Advice/commiseration thread) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzozzc/what_to_do_when_meds_are_on_back_order/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:14:33.000Z | qzozy4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ok so I just started meds and I’m confused I can’t tell if I feel anything | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzozy4/ok_so_i_just_started_meds_and_im_confused_i_cant/ |
dungandcougar | I'm not sure why but I really find my ADHD to go in cycles, weeks or even months of me thinking "I'm fine! I don't even have ADHD" to periods where I miss 3 different appointments, walk out of the house without my keys or belt done up and leaving the oven on. Does anyone else have this kind of on-off/cyclical experience?
Anyway right now i'm in a major ADHD period. I've recently lost my passport 2 weeks after i lost a phone and i've possibly lost a watch i got for my 18th birthday (I haven't seen it in a while :( ), it's 16.04 and I'm in my pajamas having lost the entire day. How are you getting on? | 2021-11-22T16:12:52.000Z | qzoykx | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What is your most recent ADHD F*ck up? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzoykx/what_is_your_most_recent_adhd_fck_up/ |
helloworld8686 | Does anyone ever gets like so annoyed by people or just plain angry ? Like sometimes I get to work and my coworkers annoyed me so much, I don’t feel like talking to anyone, but I do feel bad because they have not done anything to me, but I am just annoyed and can’t control it. I don’t know if it’s the Adderall or is just me. I do feel like I do have like a personality disorder and my emotions are always “over exaggerated” it’s exhausting to feel like this, but not sure how to handle it. | 2021-11-22T16:12:14.000Z | qzoy3z | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Annoyed or Anger | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzoy3z/annoyed_or_anger/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:09:41.000Z | qzow52 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Am I wrong for wanting to see a new psychiatrist? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzow52/am_i_wrong_for_wanting_to_see_a_new_psychiatrist/ |
NoIdentity1337 | So I read on this forum that many people here can't read books. I myself love reading books, if I need a mental break, I can just take a break and read on and that even to my own preferred speed. It's different with Audiobooks, I can't follow them because I don't notice when I stop listening and start daydreaming, furthermore I can't adjust the speed. Could it be possible that I actually don't have ADHS and just coincidentally fail at concentrating at almost everything else? | 2021-11-22T16:09:30.000Z | qzovzp | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I could read books all day long, but I think i got ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzovzp/i_could_read_books_all_day_long_but_i_think_i_got/ |
DustyLemonTree | Is Psychiatry UK worth the wait? I'm on the cancellation list as my assessment is next September but I've seen the medication can be another 6 month wait after that.
I've been recommended a private place that assesses ADHD that seems really good, but obviously it involves a lot of money.
Is Psychiatry UK worth the wait or do people wish they gone private sooner? | 2021-11-22T16:07:46.000Z | qzoumc | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Psychiatry UK - How long is the current triage between assessment and medication? Do people recommend waiting 1 year for assessment and medication or just going private? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzoumc/psychiatry_uk_how_long_is_the_current_triage/ |
dungandcougar | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:06:32.000Z | qzotnl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What was your latest ADHD Fuck-up? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzotnl/what_was_your_latest_adhd_fuckup/ |
Longhorn89 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:06:09.000Z | qzotcn | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Extra Emotional While Starting Meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzotcn/extra_emotional_while_starting_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:03:44.000Z | qzorcr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Non stimulating ADHD meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzorcr/non_stimulating_adhd_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T16:03:00.000Z | qzoqpk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I was feeling rather proud of myself for filling in my calendar for the upcoming week ahead of time, something I’ve only done several times all year. I got 6 days in when I realized I’d filled in last week by mistake. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzoqpk/i_was_feeling_rather_proud_of_myself_for_filling/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T16:02:12.000Z | qzoq14 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | You'll never guess what I did. I forgot. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzoq14/youll_never_guess_what_i_did_i_forgot/ |
jnpg | I'm 22 and just recently realized that I had ADHD BAD. I won't go into the deatils, but I did graduate college without any meds. However, I had to quit my first job over stress and incompetence due to ADHD. I'm looking for a lower stress job now, but soon enough I'll be taking meds for ADHD.
I'm usually a fast talker and reasonably social with the people around me. I also have an EXTREME difficulty thinking inside the box and will forget information that was just given to me.
I am nervous about the future, and wanted an idea of what changes may occur to my personality. I understand that's not the intent of the meds, but there's still going to be SOME involuntary change. How much of me is ADHD and how much of me is me? | 2021-11-22T15:58:01.000Z | qzom9a | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How do I know who I am pre-med vs post-med? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzom9a/how_do_i_know_who_i_am_premed_vs_postmed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:57:39.000Z | qzolzw | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling “stuck” / “drowning” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzolzw/feeling_stuck_drowning/ |
PerspectiveLucky9786 | Aspiring writer here. Just a thought, but if I were to try and convey the struggles of ADHD to a NT, I’d probably use comics or graphic novels. I say this after starting a short story centered on an ADHD character.
Mainly, graphic novels can show the reader intrapersonal dialogue while also depicting external reality in the same frame. Simultaneously and naturally. That’s key to depicting ADHD.
E.g.: *panel showing a person laying on a couch*
“*Get up get up get up get up*”
*same panel*
Or: *one panel of two people talking*
NT: talk talk talk
ADHD person thought bubble: *thoughts that have nothing to do with what the person is saying*
See how much could be communicated in one panel? Beautiful. What would take forever to write in a book can be concisely conveyed in comic form. And if you wanted to show this in a movie, you’d need voiceover or otherwise a lot of film tricks.
Anyway, I can’t draw. But I want this in my life now and can’t stop thinking about it. So if someone wants to help me or make it themselves or whatever, please do. | 2021-11-22T15:56:35.000Z | qzol2p | 9 | 126 | ADHD | Graphic novels are probably the ideal medium for showing what it’s like to have ADHD | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzol2p/graphic_novels_are_probably_the_ideal_medium_for/ |
007agent30 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:54:42.000Z | qzojji | 173 | 349 | ADHD | My dad told me that I need to stop involving my adhd in my entire personality. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzojji/my_dad_told_me_that_i_need_to_stop_involving_my/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:52:33.000Z | qzohr1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Wondering about something | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzohr1/wondering_about_something/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:52:00.000Z | qzohbd | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How did your life change after being diagnosed and treated? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzohbd/how_did_your_life_change_after_being_diagnosed/ |
Voytila | I read [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/pqoa2e/do_you_feel_as_if_you_cannot_understand/) 2 months ago about how the person always needs to get explained the "why" behind instructions to really understand them, and it's exactly the same for me.
It kinda hurt me realising it might be related to ADHD because I always thought I've just never lost this childlike interest in knowing how things work and would take pride in it.
Anyway, I then thought about how in turn I 99% of the time know exactly why I do what I'm doing and was super curious if it's the same for people with ADHD? Like not only when I'm working, but also e.g. when I'm driving in traffic I know exactly why I'm currently accelerating or slowing down based on hundred of factors like other drivers behaviour in the last few minutes, what brand their car is, their license plate, what age the driver seems like, etc etc. Basically trying to predict everyone's behavior in traffic and acting accordingly.
One annoying thing that sometimes happend when I was still in training at work is when my supervisor was talking to me about a mistake I did I usually tried to explain why I did what I did (without denying any fault or trying to blame someone else) but usually got told to stop with the excuses. Innerly the lack of empathy and understanding usually drove me nuts but now I just shut up and silently agree when I'm in a similar situation because I learned people don't give a duck about your reasoning or just aren't able to understand them anyway.
Didn't mean to include the rant but it just made me feel even more out of this world when I was a teenager and maybe someone here can relate. | 2021-11-22T15:47:27.000Z | qzodl9 | 4 | 7 | ADHD | Do you also nearly always know why you are doing what you are doing? | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzodl9/do_you_also_nearly_always_know_why_you_are_doing/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:46:20.000Z | qzocnb | 2 | 3 | ADHD | How do I contend with the constant feeling that everything I do is wrong? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzocnb/how_do_i_contend_with_the_constant_feeling_that/ |
blue7376990 | I'm trying to study for an important test this Wednesdays. I managed to finish half of the material this weekend after struggling with adhd paralysis the entire week. I wrote flashcards for everything. Now I still have full 13 pages of text left. I can't even shorten it bcs all the information is important. I realized that the fact that i have to write so much material on flashcards was overwhelming me extremely so I decided to stop right then to take a break.
Any other ways I can memorize the material? I don't know if only reading it will help? I'm to scared to highlight anything since it always gets out of hand and I just highlight way to much. I really need some advice! | 2021-11-22T15:40:14.000Z | qzo7oi | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Ways to study besides flashcards? Pls help? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo7oi/ways_to_study_besides_flashcards_pls_help/ |
buffooonery | Hey all, I am getting started studying for finals and recently (about a month ago) switched from 2/day 5mg Ritalin (immediate-release) to 1/day 10mg Ritalin but extended-release. The switch has been mad helpful for me, but I was wondering if I ever needed an extra boost throughout the day if I could take some of the 5mg IR doses that I have left without any harmful side effects? When I was taking those before I only really got \~2 hours of productivity out of them, and google search wasn't helpful so just looking to see if anyone here knows. | 2021-11-22T15:38:07.000Z | qzo5zq | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Mix Immediate and Extended-Release? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo5zq/mix_immediate_and_extendedrelease/ |
NotaB21 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:37:36.000Z | qzo5l4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Newly diagnosed and relieved! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo5l4/newly_diagnosed_and_relieved/ |
Cocasseries | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:37:04.000Z | qzo55m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Starting Vyvanse/Elvanse in a week - what should I know? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo55m/starting_vyvanseelvanse_in_a_week_what_should_i/ |
ExoticAntimatter | My question is really straightforward. Could someone please share their mealprep menu for the week including things like snacks?
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For the last couple of months I started sporting again which was a milestone for me. Consistently going to the gym. But after trying to incorporate mealpreps I got so overwhelmed that I now haven't been to the gym for a couple of weeks,
What didn't particularly help is the loss of appetite due to medication.
This would help me out a ton, | 2021-11-22T15:34:02.000Z | qzo2n2 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Mealprep Help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo2n2/mealprep_help/ |
ChaoticMink | Right now, I’m blessed to be working for a company that doesn’t seem to mind my chronic lateness. But I feel terrible that I’m late for work every day, and I’m concerned that if I ever have to start working for a different company, I’ll be fired almost immediately.
I’m a recent college grad, and I’m currently working my first professional job. I recently switched to a 9-5 schedule, and it’s been super rough. I desperately need 8.5-9 hours of sleep every night in order to function, which means going to bed at 11 pm, and my brain just….won’t let me do it. Often I get stuck in adhd paralysis before bed, stuck staring at my phone or at the wall until my brain says “okay you can get up now”. As a result, I’m so tired in the mornings that I sleep through multiple alarms and get ready for work at a snail’s pace, causing me to be late.
I’m currently on Strattera which isn’t working so far, but I don’t know if starting on stimulants would help, because they will have worn off by the time I’m going to bed, and they won’t have kicked in yet in the morning. I’m not really sure where to go from here. Would ADHD coaching help? I keep trying to start new routines where I go to bed early, but they invariably fail. At this point I’ve pretty much given up trying to have a consistent sleep schedule. | 2021-11-22T15:32:57.000Z | qzo1q6 | 3 | 9 | ADHD | I’m worried that I’ll never be on-time for work again | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo1q6/im_worried_that_ill_never_be_ontime_for_work_again/ |
teppanyucky | I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2015, but my anxiety and depression were considered pressing matters so we shifted focus towards them - I had an existential crisis in 2015 and 2016. Fast forward to today, the past year and a half have illustrated (time and time again) that my anxiety and depression are likely comorbidities of un-addressed ADHD, and an improper toolset to deal with the growing number of identified issues (emotional dysregulation, waning executive function).
I'm now taking Vyvanse (30mg) for ADHD and Escitalopram (30mg) for depression. My doctor wants me to get an ECG to ensure I can TAKE 30mg of escitalopram as it may cause adverse heart rhythms.
My days have receded to 'work', 'eat', 'sleep'... basically as simple as that - where in the past I would joke that that is all I do, it literally is now, just about all I do. Self care is gone. I've lost 1/3 of my body weight in the past year, I have a room full of music equipment. I haven't written anything this entire time, i've ALWAYS struggled to write, and its getting worse... and I am married. I can only see all of this going downhill. I do not know what to do. My doctor wants to increase meds, my therapist is only functional in giving me advise on how to address work issues, but nothing caters to my underlying ADHD... I live in Ontario, Canada, i've tried to find resources for ADHD therapists but they are private practices that require a full private diagnosis (despite a diagnosis) to the tune of nearly $2K... and that's just to get my foot in the door to speak to a therapist.
I feel like I'm rapidly running out of time before my psyche becomes irreversibly damaged or I have a physical breakdown and I am forced to go on stress leave, etc. (which is not compatible with my job)
I feel like I'm being dragged behind a vehicle and my person is being reduced to a red smear along the highway, whatever I was is dying, whatever I become will likely not be full of life. | 2021-11-22T15:31:24.000Z | qzo0gf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I am winding down and don't know how to continue (ADHD) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzo0gf/i_am_winding_down_and_dont_know_how_to_continue/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:29:20.000Z | qznyq0 | 10 | 34 | ADHD | It hurts to know I’m not dependable. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznyq0/it_hurts_to_know_im_not_dependable/ |
em0tionalpotato | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:29:17.000Z | qznyoo | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Heart palpitations after 7 months on Adderall Xr | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznyoo/heart_palpitations_after_7_months_on_adderall_xr/ |
tofu-mop | [removed] | 2021-11-22T15:17:38.000Z | qznpbu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD & Meditation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznpbu/adhd_meditation/ |
Key-Object-4657 | I see that a lot of people have been able to finish college, find a job and have some sort of order in their lives despite having ADHD and without taking medication. Is it thanks to your parents? Environment? Friends?
I ask this because there's no way I could do anything without medication and that's why I've finally reached out to a psychologist and got diagnosed. In school I'd be daydreaming through all the classes, I'd get home and I I'd be unable to sit down and do anything, my parents didn't care so I never got anything done. I would study the day before, and it was like if I've never had seen or heard of the material before. I still could get at least a B- or 7/10.
This is only possible in high school. How are you able to study or work without anyone looking after you?
I'm 20 and I've wasted the last 2 years doing nothing because I can't. I've tried everything: waking up at 5am, cold showers, exercise, meditate, read... But i always end up wasting half of the day daydreaming. Going to the library doesn't help either.
Was diagnosed a few months ago with depression and anxiety. Lexapro and Prozac did absolutely nothing. Bupropion (Wellbutrin) helped with motivation and fatigue. I'll finally get medication 16th of December. | 2021-11-22T15:15:10.000Z | qznner | 18 | 3 | ADHD | How are you able to live a normal life without medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznner/how_are_you_able_to_live_a_normal_life_without/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:08:39.000Z | qznicp | 3 | 0 | ADHD | ND friends and family!! What are some colors you feel affect your mood/stimulate you? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznicp/nd_friends_and_family_what_are_some_colors_you/ |
Regret-this-later | I've been at my job for 3 years and I don't hate it. It's the longest I've ever been a job and it's close to home. They pay for my college and the $/hr is the best I can get in this field. *BUT*
I've gotten a new boss recently who isn't as flexible. Long story short if I can't fix the zoning out by the end of the month then they'll have to let me go. My numbers are fine but the zoning out makes it look like I'm slacking off and that's "a bad look for the company ".
I want to work here again in the future so Is it better to quit or get fired ?
I should note that due $$$ (and a failed prior authorization) I'm not on medication.
Sorry for the long post. | 2021-11-22T15:04:58.000Z | qznfb6 | 11 | 1 | ADHD | Is it better to quit or get fired ? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznfb6/is_it_better_to_quit_or_get_fired/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T15:01:31.000Z | qzncdk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Getting prism glasses fixed my daily headaches Ive had for the past 30 years. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzncdk/getting_prism_glasses_fixed_my_daily_headaches/ |
GreenAwareness | For me, for sure, is talking too much. I was only diagnosed this year at 34 and in my first report card at nursery (3’s class), the teacher wrote that I was similar to peacock and would not stop talking. I have that report card my mom kept. I can’t believe how classic ADHD I was but because I was diagnosed as a woman in my 30’s with “gifted ADHD” I understand how hard it probably was to spot it in the 1990’s. See - an example - I’m already talking too much. Lol.
Btw - by gifted it doesn’t mean that I’m a genius by any means, my doctor just considers gifted in being able to overcompensate to ADHD and being actually a very good student - academically wise. My impulsive/talkative nature got me in a lot of trouble as I interrupted teachers or would just talk to a friend the whole class and disrupt the students. I was also always late to school and arrived 3-5 minutes after the bell rang. So typical.
But yes I guess my question is if you guys have a symptom that meds have no been able to fully control and if you do, do you think it’s just part of my personality (being chatty and outgoing) or a mix of both? It’s just weird also when I’m texting people have an impressions that it took me hours to write so much but it only takes me 1 minute to write something long.
I wish I could be more concise/and was able to listen more than I talk… anyone have the same issue? | 2021-11-22T15:01:14.000Z | qznc58 | 8 | 2 | ADHD | What is 1 main symptom that medication don’t help you with? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznc58/what_is_1_main_symptom_that_medication_dont_help/ |
WrinkleFreePants | I guess this type of question gets asked a lot, I hope you guys don't mind... TLDR: how do you follow through on a [jewellery making] hobby?
Okay, so here I go again. A new 'hobby' that I've not even tried yet, and I've just spent around £100 on beginner supplies...
I've bought polymer clay, resin, moulds, fixings, flowers, glitter, tools and materials... But I've never even tried it before.
I love jewellery, I buy a lot of it, and have a loads of time on my hands (not that that makes a difference, eyeroll). So, I thought I'd make my own.
Now, half the stuff has arrived I have a terrible feeling I just will not get around to doing anything with it.
Like, should I return it all? I think I'd just buy it AGAIN in a few months.
There is literally SO much I *could* make, but I'm overwhelmed with ideas. Also, I've started getting way ahead of myself thinking that I could start selling things one day 🙄🙄
Any tips on getting started/staying with it? I'm feeling stupid right now. | 2021-11-22T15:00:22.000Z | qznbfg | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Just impulsively (is there any other way?) spent an absolute fortune on jewellery making stuff 😓 Any ADHD jewellery makers with advice? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qznbfg/just_impulsively_is_there_any_other_way_spent_an/ |
Ascendia_california | Lately I have been fighting with loss of motivation at my job. When I started working there everything was new and exciting and I got shit done like nobody's business. But over the past couple months I feel the weight of disinterest and it is pulling me down.
I know that there's a point where the novelty of something wears off and I lose interest, I got it on previous jobs and hobbies too. But this feels like a whole other level. I could still always get myself to at least keep going but some days I can't even manage that anymore. I feel the same way I do when there's a pile of dishes or when I had to study for school. That deeply rooted feeling of dread, which you can't explain to anyone, of just not wanting to do it even though you know you should and it's really not a big deal.
All the little things that make up "the daily grind" - colleagues who are not doing what they are supposed to do so I have to wait for them or fix their shit, a manager who is virtually unavailable, a boss who keeps telling us how bad we are doing and who keeps pressing for more sales while limiting our resources... I just can't seem to find it within me to say: let's do this!
So my question to fellow ADHD people with (corporate) jobs: how do you stay motivated when that inevitable moment of loss-of-interest comes? And when you dealt with the internal motivational problems how you then deal with all the external problems which kick you back into not-getting-shit-done? | 2021-11-22T14:57:06.000Z | qzn8om | 11 | 67 | ADHD | Motivation after the novelty wears off on the job | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzn8om/motivation_after_the_novelty_wears_off_on_the_job/ |
chicgeekathlete | [removed] | 2021-11-22T14:54:53.000Z | qzn702 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Niche question: Have any sailors on here with ADHD done the Clipper Around the World Race? Did you disclose your ADHD to the organization? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzn702/niche_question_have_any_sailors_on_here_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T14:52:12.000Z | qzn4y9 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Addiction advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzn4y9/adhd_and_addiction_advice/ |
lilneonate | Hi everyone. I know no one here can diagnose me but I have just been on a wild rollercoaster ride this past week and I’m just hoping for some advice? Feedback? I’d honestly take whatever I can get right now.
I had always felt these negative thoughts about myself like I was undisciplined and lazy and disgusting for the following reasons:
- always disorganised, my room is a dump
- cannot get things done (it’s not like I don’t want to do it but I can just forget or it just doesn’t get done?)
- cannot do anything that requires consistent effort over a long period of time
- (right now) unable to listen to online lectures
- always making careless mistakes in work
- always getting things done at the last minute, particularly if given a deadline. Things without deadlines are rarely done promptly and even just completely forgotten.
- things don’t get done A>B>C it’s like A>omg C needs to be done>omg now there is D> circles back to A when others are done.
- feels like I put in extra effort when listening to people talk when having a conversation
- sometimes unable to stop myself from blurting things out and interrupting a conversation
Recently I’ve had a really hard time getting stuff done for work (paperwork) and I felt like I had no motivation at all. This something I have difficulty with always but is particularly bad right now perhaps because I feel burnout. I sit at my desk every day with the intention of doing the thing but it just does not happen. I don’t remember know how but I found something that said it’s a sign of lack of executive functioning which led to me finding this subreddit.
There are many things I feel like I relate to, but there are so many things where I wonder if it’s really just me blowing it out of proportion.
I looked up report cards when I was a kid and there were maybe two years in middle school when the teacher said I had to pay more attention. Many other comments that I have to work harder or I have potential or have to take work more seriously.
From 13-16 I did not get homework done until the morning of and often times I copied my math homework. I stopped doing homework altogether for subjects I was not interested in. However, I think I did pay attention in some classes. Could it be because I was interested in learning so I could focus? I was also scared of some of my teachers so maybe that’s why the work was done on time.
In high school and university I always did my work last minute and started the latest out of all my friends. Even now, as an adult, I finished a work assignment in 2 days where others started months earlier. They were in disbelief when they heard. I did have a difficult time in university due to long term individual projects, which was when I was also diagnosed with (mild)depression and anxiety.
I feel this inability to start doing things (simple emails, wash the dishes, put laundry in laundry bag). Even things that I want to do. I lay in bed thinking I need to brush my teeth, but don’t but try to stay awake because I have not brushed my teeth. I buy presents for friends but don’t mail them. I am unable to remember the birthdays of my closest friends. I feel like I also have poor working memory which shows when I am working. I have a ton of games (over two hundred) but I have only completed maybe 5 games my whole life.
I’ve been sharing this with a few friends and they all say they related to not being able to listen to lectures and procrastination. But they admit my level of procrastination is way higher but maybe not the attention part?
I’m not sure of anything anymore and feel a little bit insane as though I’m making things up about feeling different from people and maybe everyone is struggling just like I am? Can anyone relate? Please help.
(I am planning to get an assessment but I am honestly terrified that someone is about to brush off my struggles and I find out I don’t have anything different about me and I’m just lazy and wrong) | 2021-11-22T14:50:52.000Z | qzn3vg | 21 | 6 | ADHD | Mild ADHD? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzn3vg/mild_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T14:48:22.000Z | qzn1zh | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Is it normal to forget someone’s birthday? | 0.4 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzn1zh/is_it_normal_to_forget_someones_birthday/ |
chettybarbie | Hi guys! I'm a first year medical student who is struggling HORRIBLY. I don't have better words to describe it but nothing is working for me and I'm stuck because I have finals soon and I don't know ANYTHING at all.
For context, I'm doing my MBBS (South Asian) and you could say I'm a whole year behind in terms of knowledge because I don't understand anything. It all started after the pandemic. I've heard lots of success stories of how people bounced back from burn outs but for me it seems neverending. I used to be a high achiever, I used to study adequately and still score great marks. Now I can't even focus for more than 5 minutes. A little interruption puts me off for the entire day. I've tried everything in the books: making a timetable, meditation, Pomodoro... nothing seems to work for more than a few days. I am unable to retain information. I'm unable to stick to plans or reform any type of consistency. You may know how beneficial flash cards are in Med school. My streak is 2 days! I'm just so unproductively productive. I spend hours looking study tips, trying to make Anki cards, reviewing lectures or making my notes look pretty but I retain NOTHING. I'm so exhausted and I don't know how I'll pass.
Sometimes I get bursts of motivation and it lasts for maybe 2 hours before I'm back to *normal*. I feel like a wasted potential now because I used to be so smart and now, even calling me "below average" is being generous. My peers who have known me since high school and are in university with me actually are surprised by my downfall and some even mock me which is just hurtful. I'm really trying to get back on my A-game but I feel so useless.
I feel I have undiagnosed ADHD or something that's hindering my progress. Please do realize that I can't seek professional help bc of family reasons (my mom won't ever believe me if I tell her the reason I can't study is because of ADHD) so i was hoping to find some temporary solutions to problems. I also want to be able to EXECUTE them instead of just following through them for a day and then falling back into the void.
A year's worth of syllabus *from scratch* is impossible to cover in 1.5 weeks and that's haunting me. I suck at holding myself accountable too and I can use about anything as an excuse. Not to mention I don't have friends who'd be willing to help me get through this burnout so I'm all on my own.
Im aware no one's obligated to help me because I know my issue is pretty much unfixable but if there's anyone who can offer tips or anything to just help me back on my feet again, I'd love it. I'm so exhausted of trying and failing. 3 whole years of doing nothing, I feel like a slob. Even this entire post in retrospect feels more like an excuse to procrastinate than anything at all. I've already wasted my entire day today bc I've been horribly sick and can't study.
I am going to post this on r/ADHD as well if I can get any help. Thank you for reading if you did. I know it's too long. Much apologies. | 2021-11-22T14:43:14.000Z | qzmxto | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Burnt out since the start of the pandemic! | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmxto/burnt_out_since_the_start_of_the_pandemic/ |
pangu2 | Hey,
Some time ago (1-2 weeks?) there was a thread here about someone commenting about roommates potentially sealing their medication.
Sometime later I randomly remember there was some important information in the comments, I forgot what. Then I made a note in my todo list to check it out, but for the life of me I can't find it.
Pretty sure it had a decent amount of upvotes since it appeared on my main page and had lots of comments, but I'm unable to find it again.
Does someone by any chance remember the thread name?
Thanks!!! | 2021-11-22T14:38:54.000Z | qzmuje | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Does someone remember a thread about stealing meds here? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmuje/does_someone_remember_a_thread_about_stealing/ |
mariafroggy123 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T14:32:25.000Z | qzmpn6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else need to have background noise to everything including going to sleep??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmpn6/anyone_else_need_to_have_background_noise_to/ |
hofornickmiller | My room is dirty and messy. Everything is on the floor, my pile of laundry keeps getting bigger, my clean laundry pile is also getting bigger because my mom keeps yelling at me to do my laundry but I can’t fold it so it’s on the floor getting dirty again. You know that feeling when it needs to feel ~just right~ for you to start cleaning but then it never shows up. I’ve been waiting for it for 2 months. I’m so tired | 2021-11-22T14:26:58.000Z | qzmlb1 | 4 | 7 | ADHD | I’m so overwhelmed and exhausted | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmlb1/im_so_overwhelmed_and_exhausted/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T14:21:07.000Z | qzmgzl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I feel as though I exhibit many codependent behaviors as a result of coping with untreated ADHD. Is this common? Or are they completely unrelated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmgzl/i_feel_as_though_i_exhibit_many_codependent/ |
Dman_Jones | So I was diagnosed when I was very young. Probably 6 or 7. I haven't been on meds in like 10 years and I haven't seen a psychiatrist since I was a teenager. Im also pretty introverted. Meeting new people makes my anxiety skyrocket.
I just got done with a doctors appointment telling me I have pneumonia for the 2nd time this year. The doctor, of course, gave me an earful about quitting smoking because "You're a young guy and you're getting pneumonia like an old man."
I want to quit smoking, I really do. I've tried everything multiple times, vaping, snus, nicotine patches, cold turkey, gum (both nicotine and regular chewing gum). None of it has worked. I've seen that Wellbutrin has shown positive results in people with ADHD quitting smoking, so Im really wanting to try that. I don't want Chantix as I've known multiple people who it has drastically effected their moods and made them very unstable while they were on it.
So my insurance offers tele-med appointments with a psychiatrist, do you think if I went that route that I'd get a prescription? Would they want to re-diagnose me 1st since its been so long? I see and hear the stories about people with ADHD just getting diagnosed with anxiety instead because "insert bs stereotype here" and slapped with some xanax and I really don't want that. | 2021-11-22T14:18:04.000Z | qzmeoc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting on meds to quit smoking? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmeoc/getting_on_meds_to_quit_smoking/ |
un-pibe-mas | [removed] | 2021-11-22T14:14:22.000Z | qzmbv6 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | How to diagnose myself with ADHD | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzmbv6/how_to_diagnose_myself_with_adhd/ |
SergeantStroopwafel | [removed] | 2021-11-22T14:07:02.000Z | qzm6di | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else feeling shitty almost every day after a day where you feel ecstatic or super happy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzm6di/anyone_else_feeling_shitty_almost_every_day_after/ |
everyla | Has anyone had any luck with finding resources to learn coding languages (I’m thinking Javascript specifically) that was “ADHD friendly”? I’m hoping to relearn JS after letting my skills atrophy since college but before I dive in, I wanted to consult the fellow ADHD people to see if anyone has suggestions. | 2021-11-22T14:06:38.000Z | qzm63i | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Best coding resources for ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzm63i/best_coding_resources_for_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-22T14:05:11.000Z | qzm514 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The end of the semester is coming up and I feel stuck. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzm514/the_end_of_the_semester_is_coming_up_and_i_feel/ |
Comprehensive-Song51 | My doctor put me on Adderall this summer and it's had a huge positive impact on my life. The problem I'm having is every two months he's made me come in for a checkup before he'll renew the prescription. Is this normal?
I understand that this is a drug that needs to be monitored because of the tendency to abuse it but it's ridiculous to have to come so often. I'm also diabetic, so I already have way more doctor visits than normal and they cost me $300+ every time beyond my yearly checkup. Should I be looking for a different doctor? I've never had one like this before. | 2021-11-22T13:55:25.000Z | qzlxl9 | 18 | 16 | ADHD | Constant appointments for Rx renewal? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlxl9/constant_appointments_for_rx_renewal/ |
astraltoaster | [removed] | 2021-11-22T13:55:02.000Z | qzlxay | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it common to take meds that way? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlxay/is_it_common_to_take_meds_that_way/ |
kenziestardust | Hi! I’m a 22y/o female and was diagnosed just about 2 years ago. I’ve been studying abroad this semester and I realized just how hard it’s been to keep up with my work, especially career things that have been going on back home. Before I was diagnosed, and even after, I’ve tried everything: Bullet Journaling, Notion, Calendars and ToDo lists, Sticky notes all over the walls, but nothing has worked for very long. I’ve been googling “executive functioning therapy” but come up short: either nothing, or blogs that are tailored to parents helping their ADHD kids. I am putting it out in the world that i desperately need help. I’m talking to my doctor about adjusting my meds but I would really like therapy to take the driving seat in my journey to helping myself. Does anyone have any resources? Tips on how to google this? Any help would be so appreciated, i’m literally desperate at this point | 2021-11-22T13:39:06.000Z | qzlm6c | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How to find help for executive dysfunction as an adult | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlm6c/how_to_find_help_for_executive_dysfunction_as_an/ |
socialskills100 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T13:39:00.000Z | qzlm3n | 4 | 0 | ADHD | What do you do with your left over meds? | 0.25 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlm3n/what_do_you_do_with_your_left_over_meds/ |
socialskills100 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T13:36:47.000Z | qzlkma | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What do you do with your left over meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlkma/what_do_you_do_with_your_left_over_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-22T13:35:23.000Z | qzljlu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Are you medicated or unmedicated, why? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzljlu/are_you_medicated_or_unmedicated_why/ |
ccrhoadess | I’ve always known I had ADHD since I was 13 maybe (19 now) but I never took medication for it. I always thought me not doing well in school or getting hyper fixations or getting these weird spurts of energy, was just normal and everyone had them until I realized it was ADHD and how severe my it is and how much it is hindering my daily life. I want to see a doctor to get prescribed medication but I don’t know how to go about it or who to call ( I don’t have a family doctor or a regular doctor I go to). | 2021-11-22T13:27:58.000Z | qzlehm | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Need help seeing a doctor | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzlehm/need_help_seeing_a_doctor/ |
RareBowl46 | I have just started my Masters degree in chemical engineering and was thinking about getting in touch with the disabilities office to get some accommodations.
However, now that I am a couple months into the programm, I've observed that many professors have interesting projects going on and that many students tend to do their master thesis project with them (instead of applying in a company, which is pretty standard in my country) and even continue to work on the same lab for the PhD.
I'm afraid that if I disclose my ADHD information professors won't consider me for future positions inside the university, but also if I don't have accommodations I might end up with a shitty grade and won't have a chance either. What should I do? | 2021-11-22T13:12:42.000Z | qzl4oe | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Should I tell my professors that I have ADHD? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzl4oe/should_i_tell_my_professors_that_i_have_adhd/ |
itsdanidarling | how do i stop feeling like my adhd is made up and i’m using it as an excuse and that i live an endless cycle of trying to convince everyone it’s real and my symptoms are legit? i’ve even told my therapist that i feel like i knew what to say for her to diagnose me and she tried to explain that she can tell the difference between those struggling and those just seeking fake diagnoses but it still didn’t help why do i feel like such a fraud. all the time. i’ll go forever without meds cuz i think i’m making it up and i’m like i don’t need these!! i’m normal!! and it’s just a circle of not believing i have a problem :( | 2021-11-22T13:06:02.000Z | qzl0av | 12 | 15 | ADHD | Constant doubt | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzl0av/constant_doubt/ |
badmaash_badaam | [removed] | 2021-11-22T13:02:11.000Z | qzkxn3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why People Living With ADHD Are Often Misjudged As ‘Lazy’ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkxn3/why_people_living_with_adhd_are_often_misjudged/ |
sauceGinge | I have tried to find ways of tackling my problems. I looked online for what helped other ADD people but it feels like almost nothing works for me. When I get started I can usually carry on but starting is really hard but once I getting started is so hard. And even when I do manage to start, when I get distracted by something and stop for a second then, unless I have an important deadline tomorrow, it’s back to square one. What do I do??? | 2021-11-22T12:59:09.000Z | qzkvbw | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Some techniques for tackling ADD work for some people but none work for me | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkvbw/some_techniques_for_tackling_add_work_for_some/ |
sauceGinge | [removed] | 2021-11-22T12:51:44.000Z | qzkqij | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don’t know what to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkqij/i_dont_know_what_to_do/ |
throwaway8619425 | [removed] | 2021-11-22T12:49:59.000Z | qzkpd6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm. Procrastinating. Right. Now. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkpd6/im_procrastinating_right_now/ |
fiddlestuxx | [removed] | 2021-11-22T12:45:44.000Z | qzkmpu | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Ran out of Vyvanse. Concerta next or? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkmpu/ran_out_of_vyvanse_concerta_next_or/ |
throwawa_wtfhappened | [removed] | 2021-11-22T12:45:14.000Z | qzkmfn | 13 | 6 | ADHD | Concerta - first day and no effect? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkmfn/concerta_first_day_and_no_effect/ |
thedeepestofsighs | **TL;DR:** tonight was the second time my boyfriend asked me to try and stop raising my voice at him as much (never out of anger, just when I’m emphasizing a point while we’re bantering). I feel like there’s such little reaction time when I do it that it might just not even be possible to learn to intercept myself and stop it, as it’s an unconscious behavior. Have you ever managed to undo an impulsive habit like that, for the sake of yourself or a loved one? What helped you undo it or lessen it?
I’m especially referring to verbal habits, e.g. talking back to authority figures, excessive cursing (if you’ve wanted to or have felt pressure to limit it), making random noises, etc. Habits that have maybe a nanosecond between the impulse being created and acting on it.
For me, I want to try and rein in the intensity of my reactionary comments to others, especially the people closest to me. In the last few years I’ve noticed that when I react to something another person says, particularly if I want to do so with sarcasm or frustration, the severity of my tone is a lot worse than I perceive it to be. Even just a day or two ago I replied to something my mom said to me, and had done so with a bit of a sneer; but once the words were out of my mouth I thought “Wow, that sounded a lot more harsh than I meant it to.”
And then today I was talking with my boyfriend when he said something I disagreed with, and when I let him know that with my reply, I’d apparently raised my voice to the point where he felt yelled at, which really bothers him. (Now before anyone comes in with any “that’s immature, you should leave him” replies, he is an absolute gem of a man who is patient and otherwise endeared by all of my ADHD-driven mannerisms and slip-ups. I would much rather have a partner who skews toward oversensitive than toward obtuse or unempathetic. He clarified that this is also not a big stressor to him, but since it happens more than once in a while he wanted to address it.)
I agreed that I’d try to work on it, but I told him that I wasn’t sure if I even have the ability to correct it. As a primarily-inattentive female who wasn’t diagnosed until age 21, I’ve never been given any sort of impulsive behavior-correcting discipline or strategies. I told my bf that I can start by taking my medication every day instead of just on the days I do my schoolwork, as it does help me with my impulsivity, but its side effects are intense and I’m sometimes more irritable when I take it. He responded that that may not be necessary; he does love all of me the way I am, including my “excited” side, and he added that I don’t need to change all at once.
So I was curious about whether any of you have been in this sort of position. Have you developed strategies for reining in an impulsive bad habit? | 2021-11-22T12:33:04.000Z | qzkfed | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Have you ever successfully reduced or abandoned an impulsive bad habit? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qzkfed/have_you_ever_successfully_reduced_or_abandoned/ |
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