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2021-12-19T11:52:14.000Z
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rjv9e3
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It’s been 3 months on adhd meds (seeking support help not empathy)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjv9e3/its_been_3_months_on_adhd_meds_seeking_support/
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_UnreliableNarrator_
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I always give myself too much to do so I constantly feel like I’m failing at something. I just realized, *maybe I do this to give myself a constant sense of urgency for that deadline motivation*.
This is awful for my stress levels but I have been feeling like it’s the only way I get *anything* done. It could also be the dopamine excitement of something new before finishing current tasks too.
Right now, I work full time, am going back to school in January taking 9 credits, and just signed up for a CompTIA exam in February I need to study for 😅
I have NO idea how to flair this, so for tips and suggestions, how do you all manage an impossible workload? Any tips on practicing restraint as well?
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2021-12-19T11:48:44.000Z
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rjv7h8
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ADHD
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Just had a realization about my workload choices
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjv7h8/just_had_a_realization_about_my_workload_choices/
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ikenefick
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Hi,
I’m one month away from the finals of my 1st semester.
Every time I tried on the past to study all out, I procrastinated and eventually couldn’t sit by the even for a minute.
Couldn’t being myself to study well till the exams.
The issue is, I’m telling myself for a couple of weeks if not over a month - The exams are close I should start taking it more seriously, I should study better? Without distraction, I should stop randomally web surfing or redditing or reading about random stuff that are interesting for me and all of this instead of studying.
Any tips how I can get myself to sit consistently everyday and study well so I could pass those exams?
Just mentioning, I did submit every single homework we received, but always in the last day, in the last hour or two available for submissions
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2021-12-19T11:46:22.000Z
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rjv6dj
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ADHD
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Advice would be great
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjv6dj/advice_would_be_great/
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socialskills100
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I’ve (22) jumped retail jobs the past year in hopes of finding a better one. Turns out I just had undiagnosed ADHD and some really close minded colleagues!
Well I finally feel comfortable at my new job. Open minded and chill people, there’s a regularly rotation at the register and it’s not too busy during the winter.
It’s a small team though, and it can be hard to push in and be a part of the “circle”. I would describe myself as kind and helpful but I would really love to change that to kind and helpful, _to a degree_ .
I’ve definitely been stepped on, on past jobs. I would take over the register if my colleagues needed, but even when I begged, they wouldn’t help me. With anything! Actually!
I can kind of see that happening here too. While I do much better at the register now, I do get to a point where I need a break because I get overwhelmed. It’s also just really boring.
Today I took the register for 2,5 hours and then my coworker took over. After an hour she asked to switch again. I was really annoyed cause I figured she was just lazy. We agreed to do 2,5 hours each. I then went up and asked if she needed a break from the register or what’s up. Turns out she just got a bit overwhelmed with the whole schedule, breaks etc. she wasn’t trying to use me/step on me.
I’m just wondering… I mean if a fellow colleague has ADHD (etc, which is likely) I would love to help out a bit. It’s just that when I need a break, it’s a lot of moping and “are you sure?”
I want to put myself first while also being a good colleague. Any suggestions or advice on how to do this? While also not having a break down or letting them push my boundaries. I really like my colleagues!
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2021-12-19T11:40:48.000Z
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rjv3k6
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ADHD
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Setting boundaries at work while also being helpful?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjv3k6/setting_boundaries_at_work_while_also_being/
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Bee_Ad2836
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Tomorrow’s my first day and I’ll be on Strattera 40 mg (taken once a day). What should I expect?
Also:
What time should I take it given that I start working at around 8am
What time are the crashes
What should I expect when I start crashing
Would appreciate some advice on this! I’m nervous but also hopeful that this’ll really help me 🙏🏼
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2021-12-19T11:38:16.000Z
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rjv29q
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ADHD
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First day of medication tom, what should I expect?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjv29q/first_day_of_medication_tom_what_should_i_expect/
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LM0R
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So as of a few months ago I read something and finally concluded what made me feel like I was so different from others. So after discovering my ADHD and reading into it I was fairly keen on getting a diagnosis as I was 99% sure it had to be that. Hopefully followed by meds. With Covid being so problematic, getting into a psychiatrist was very difficult as majority were booked for months and months ahead. However, my mum helped me out and found a tele psychiatrist that was quite reputable and I wasn’t at all fussed by that as I just wanted to get help ASAP. So after a month or so my first appointment finally came, and a minimal amount of time into the appointment I already possessed the feeling that something wasn’t right in the process that she was using to assess me. The questions were quite broad and it almost seemed like she had no interest in actually connecting with me helping me rather just getting through the appointment. She’d asked me minimal questions and further asked to talk to my mum for an outsiders perspective which I assume is quite normal, however I felt she barely asked me anything. Even after the appointment finished I said to my mum, how can she come to any conclusion when she’s getting on information from me. Within the next few days I get diagnosed as well prescribed vyvanse. Despite my doubts of how she could prescribe me something based off such little info I didn’t care as I just wanted something to assist me with progressing from my current struggles. Beyond this we waited for the script to be sent to the chemist as well as my gp. Days pass no script, week passes no script and so my mum rings the reception. They haven’t been able to get a hold of her, but they said they’d continue trying. Days/weeks pass, and during this time my mum has phoned the reception numerous times and the psychiatrist is just unresponsive. About 5 weeks have passed and mum gets a call (not sure of the superiors association’s name) from the people that basically overlook all things involving mental health shit. They tell mum that this person has done this to multiple patients and they’re now investigating them and attempting to strip them of their license. Mum and I were honestly ecstatic as it’s not a very difficult task to email a singular script. Just makes me think of people who are much more mentally unstable then myself and could have potentially harmed or even taken their own life due to such a reliance on meds. 6 and a half weeks pass, this being as of 4 days ago and the chemist finally received the script. I’ve been taking 30 mg of vyvanse every morning and this is where I thought her lack of professionalism would come into play. I don’t think these have at all helped me but rather made things worse. I haven’t felt I’ve benefitted at all from these meds yet but have been destroyed by the side effects. Struggling to eat and just constantly feeling sick and almost at times more foggy.
So a bit unsure as of what to do, whether that be discontinuing the medication or what. Would appreciate any sort of help/advice, thank you for reading :)
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2021-12-19T11:28:59.000Z
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rjuxhi
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Need advice on what to do due to an uncommon scenario with my psychiatrist
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjuxhi/need_advice_on_what_to_do_due_to_an_uncommon/
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Lifeshardbutnotme
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The only way that I can get anything done is when I'm stressed by a deadline or simply by the feeling of my own inadequacy. The only other way is when the stars align and I have a functioning brain for a few hours.
As you can imagine, being constantly stressed all the time isn't good for you, and constantly looking for ways to feel like I'm inadequate isn't very good either. How you y'all avoid burnout without losing almost manic ability to get things done in a pinch. I still want to be able to work fast and with some urgency though so how do I avoid burnout
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2021-12-19T11:28:24.000Z
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rjux8e
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How to avoid burnout
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjux8e/how_to_avoid_burnout/
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Lifeshardbutnotme
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The only way that I can get anything done is when I'm stressed by a deadline or simply by the feeling of my own inadequacy. The only other way is when the stars align and I have a functioning brain for a few hours.
As you can imagine, being constantly stressed all the time isn't good for you, and constantly looking for ways to feel like I'm inadequate isn't very good either. How you y'all avoid burnout without losing almost manic ability to get things done in a pinch.
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2021-12-19T11:25:37.000Z
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rjuvuz
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How to not burn out
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjuvuz/how_to_not_burn_out/
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thelilacarcher
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Yesterday I was with a friend and we were having a great time, until she asked me "so what do you do all the time"? It got me almost depressed, because, truth to be told, all I do is think about stuff. I think about drawing and making things of clay and reading, studying foreign languages, tidying up my space, but that is as far as I get. I get stuff for so many hobbies during my dopamine chasing episodes, but getting literally anything done is virtually impossible for me. Outside work (I work about 4 hours a day) - and kind of regular exercise routine which I am building up as it helps me a lot with grounding self - all I do is contemplate stuff and get overwhelmed by the thought itself and then cry, because I feel so overwhelmed. I cannot even water my plants because it feels like too much of a task.
Has anyone managed to make their brain cooperate?
Thanks a bunch to anyone who has something to say♡
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2021-12-19T11:14:24.000Z
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rjuq3q
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How do you get anything done?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjuq3q/how_do_you_get_anything_done/
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riggycat
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I'm at risk of being suspended from my university.
And yet, all of my professors have an equal opinion of me:
"Your grade does not reflect your ability. You shouldn't be failing this class."
another even said in a report filed with the school:
"he's one of the top students in my class of 40, but his grade places him in the middle."
LIKE YEAH NO SHIT IF YOU MAKE ME SIT THROUGH A TWO HOUR LECTURE ON L'HOSPITAL'S RULE I'M GOING TO NOT BE ABLE TO ABSORB THE FUCKING CONTENT
Why not provide study guides? Interactive examples? Problems to do in class? But no, that'd be too much *effort*. I'm paying so much goddamned money to go here the least you could do is make a little goddamned effort. I'm on a pretty fucking hefty dose of adderall. If me on 40mg of vyvanse isn't enough then that's not an issue on my end: it's on yours.
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2021-12-19T11:09:17.000Z
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rjunbo
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Why is the modern academic environment so averse to non-structured teaching styles?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjunbo/why_is_the_modern_academic_environment_so_averse/
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Defmin
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2021-12-19T11:07:56.000Z
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rjumlw
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No-one will diagnose me with ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjumlw/noone_will_diagnose_me_with_adhd/
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ElectedDictator
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2021-12-19T10:50:23.000Z
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rjudqr
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Thoughts on tapering dosage throughout the day.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjudqr/thoughts_on_tapering_dosage_throughout_the_day/
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givemeapples
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I've heard of the usual, Adderall, Concerta, Vyvanse, as well as non stimulants like Strattera, Guanfacine, but I've never heard anyone talking about Dexedrine before. Is it an uncommon choice, and if so, why? Do people not typically see results? Curious to learn more from other people who have taken it before
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2021-12-19T10:48:53.000Z
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rjud0v
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How many people here take Dexedrine? My doctor prescribed it but I have never heard of it until now?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjud0v/how_many_people_here_take_dexedrine_my_doctor/
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ewiwaa
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Every NT I've talked to who have gone on a "phone/social media detox" have claimed that it made them so much happier and made tasks a lot easier to get done because they weren't always doing a dopamine inducing activities on their phone that was more interesting than work.
What do you think would happen if you, as an ADHDer, would do the same?
I think I would either a) find a way to get to the internet anyway (library, literally buy a second phone, etc.) or b) find something in my house that was more fun than work.
Or would it benefit me? There's no doubt I'm addicted to my phone, but I also feel like I need stimulation of some kind or else I start daydreaming or get distracted.
Has anyone with adhd tried to go on a phone detox? How did it go?
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2021-12-19T10:38:13.000Z
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rju7wp
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What do you think would happen if you went on a phone detox?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rju7wp/what_do_you_think_would_happen_if_you_went_on_a/
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justtobeinthedark
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The title is convoluted but I have no answer to that question but truly it's been haunting me for months.
I have this writing project i've been working on but once the creative part of it was over and proofreading, factchecking and so on were the things i needed to do next, i stopped being productive. And it's been a year since I'm stuck on this.
There is no external factor to motivate me because, it's not something for work, university, or anything. It's just me, really wanting to finish a project but being unable to.
It's frustrating because when i try to explain this, no one understand why I'm putting myself through hell to try to finish the project and it doesn't even work.
I can't even pay someone else to do the job, I'd hate it and will want to proofread it myself at the end of the day.
Does someone else relate ? And if so, any advice ?
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2021-12-19T10:32:54.000Z
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rju5je
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How to do something you want to do that you can't do but that you don't have to do
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rju5je/how_to_do_something_you_want_to_do_that_you_cant/
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givemeapples
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2021-12-19T10:27:54.000Z
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rju2ya
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Does anyone take Dexedrine? My doctor prescribed it but I have never heard of it before
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rju2ya/does_anyone_take_dexedrine_my_doctor_prescribed/
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Ostblocktricker
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Hey guys,
sometimes Bad happend or someone fucks up and it makes me angry for weeks. My gf was a little sick and promised its the end and I wont get sick. Now Iam sick and plans for the next week are ruined. It was very important to me to catch up with all my friends and now its possible.
For her its not a big deal but Iam loaded and ready to explode. She didnt live with me otherwise we would have a lot of fights.
Do you have it to and how you come down fastr. After few days im fine again.
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2021-12-19T10:25:59.000Z
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rju23x
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Do you also have phases of hate and anger?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rju23x/do_you_also_have_phases_of_hate_and_anger/
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Hwingal
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Hi! I'm medicated and on Concerta as of mid November. Started with a month of 18mg - first week was a huge relief and boost to my overall wellbeing, but after that all effects (including side effects) disappeared entirely. So after checking my bloodwork I got the OK to increase to 36mg. It has now been a little less than a week since doubling my dose and the first 3 or so days I experienced the same relief I felt the first week on 18mg, but the past two days (day 4 and 5) I experienced some uncomfortable effects.
After some googling I found out about the 'concerta crash' and my symptoms were similar, but I also have that nagging doubt of being mis-medicated so while I wait for my checkup / eval in mind Jan, I wanted to check with the community if this is a common experience or if I should request an earlier appointment to adjust the dose.
The symptoms arose around lunch both days, so \~ 4-6 hours after taking my meds. I basically felt an intense spike in anxiety and restlessness, I felt extremely unfocused and wired and 'stressed' (like I had to hurry everything I did for some imaginative deadline I didn't actually have, even just wrapping xmas presents I felt pushed to 'finish ASAP' rather than just relax and be mindful). I also got anxiety sweats, which I normally never have.
This lasted for about an hour or so before it 'settled' and didn't return later during the day, even in the evening when the dose should have been out of my system entirely. I sleep well, too.
I'm about 2 hours in on day 6 and feel physically relaxed and focused, but I have felt a bit of anxiety that I also felt in the morning before even taking the meds. I'm trying to gauge whether it's just seasonal stress or \*potentially\* the result of an incorrect dose!
Has anyone experienced similar effects? Grateful for any insight or advice!
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2021-12-19T10:15:46.000Z
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rjtx62
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Is this the 'Concerta crash' aka my ADHD symptoms flaring up like crazy, or troubling medication side effects?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtx62/is_this_the_concerta_crash_aka_my_adhd_symptoms/
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2021-12-19T10:14:04.000Z
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rjtwd1
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Youtube channel recommendation please!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtwd1/youtube_channel_recommendation_please/
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sadberet
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I've been reading and learning a lot about ADHD and everytime someone mentions something I can relate to I feel really great and like I've solved a mystery but then when I hear about something I don't relate to I start to doubt if I'm barking up the wrong tree (I'm in the process of getting my first assessment!)
So I was wondering if any of you have common ADHD traits people talk about a lot that you don't relate to?
For me I don't relate to forgetting my keys but I would be so disorganized I'd forget things I needed for a class.
I don't think I had socializing issues when I was younger but I did jump from new friend group to new friend group (a new best friend every term lol)
It's weird being in the waiting phase before an assessment because I keep switching from being so sure to doubting everything and worrying if I'm wasting someone's time.
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2021-12-19T10:13:56.000Z
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rjtwat
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What are some ADHD things you relate to and some you don't?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtwat/what_are_some_adhd_things_you_relate_to_and_some/
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Open-Foot7314
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So a few days ago I decided to finally go to the doctor to see if I had adhd. Told him a bunch of symptoms and that several family members in my family also have adhd. Then he just gave me prescription?? Is that it??? I'm so confused. He told me to contact him again in two weeks but nothing else. I thought the process would be more intense?? I'm not even sure if I can afford the pills in the first place and I don't want to be accidentally taking the wrong stuff. Idk, before going to the doctor's I was so sure I had adhd but now im second guessing myself. I can't stop worrying that I just convinced myself that I had adhd and that if I take the pills I will only get worse.
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2021-12-19T10:13:42.000Z
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rjtw7m
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Just got meds without a diagnosis (kinda)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtw7m/just_got_meds_without_a_diagnosis_kinda/
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2021-12-19T10:10:46.000Z
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rjtuqf
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I couldn't decide between a coca cola and a fanta
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtuqf/i_couldnt_decide_between_a_coca_cola_and_a_fanta/
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upset_guac
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I have had to move around quite a bit bc of my dad's job, and it was always on critical times of my childhood and development. Bc of it i was never even given the chance to have long lasting friendships and just today I'm in tears thinking about the fact nobody knows who I am or who I've been, unlike most people who have longer friendships through school or whatever. I never thought much of the quickness at which people forget me and move on because my first move was to a different country and the second was 15 hours away, so it was easy to excuse it on that instead of me.
How this connects is that on top of this, the few friendships I've had since I moved last (which was 6 years ago) have crumbled so quickly. I don't have trouble making friends, but the relationship lasts about 2 years or less and then we're at most acquaintances, despite me wanting more from the relationship. I was also that person rarely ever invited to things, and when i was, i just felt out of place, so even during the friendship i never felt like it really was a friendship. Which is contrary to what i hear about everyone who talks about having known each other for years or, even having met just a few years ago, now doing everything together and having a stable, mutual relationship. I cannot relate, have never been able to relate. My 'friendships' have always developed because we were stuck together, such as in a class or an activity, but the friendships would end along with the class or activity that had brought us together.
The longest has lasted 3 years and has been the most impactful for me, led me to believe things were getting better, and that moving was the only issue in the past, especially since it started in my first year in college. That was before about a year ago, when i realized that the same thing had started to happen. When just a little bit of separation begins to appear, we drift apart almost immediately. The few texts i get asking me how I'm doing or swiping up on my stories the few times i post almost feel like interactions out of pity, like 'oh i forgot you were still alive.' And from that i just feel replaced. Like i am someone easily tolerated in the short term but after a while become unbearable. And i probably am because I exhibit all of the symptoms that make it harder for people with ADHD to form and maintain relationships. People would rather have me in their pasts rather than the present. I don't blame them.
What sucks the most is that it's not like the friend group will split due to personal growths or people changing. The person always left behind is me. The friend groups stay mostly intact otherwise. Which in my scientific mind only means one thing... I'm the common denominator.
Finding out about my ADHD has legitimized a lot of insecurities I've had my whole life i didn't realize weren't just normal like my parents said, who proudly told us none of us had ADHD or any other condition and that the condition was just a result of bad parenting, despite my dad, two siblings and I exhibiting almost all symptoms. But just because they're legitimized doesn't make them all better, it has just made my life since predictable. The mess, the forgetfulness, the disorganization, the dozing off and looking like i don't care about everything... It's so much.
I now have a girlfriend (since Feb 2021) somehow that says she loves me, and wants to do things with me and just overall shows me more love and interest in me than anyone ever has, and i really don't know how to process it. But I'm always thinking: when is that feeling is going to end, when is she gonna wake up and realize she's wasted her time and that I'm a mess and a bad influence. To this day I hate myself for letting the relationship happen because I truly feel like I'm wasting someone else's time and that I'm getting someone else involved in my clusterfuck of a life. I'd rather just suffer by myself without feeling like a walking inconvenience for everyone around me and dragging people down with me.
Her friends (who I'm also -currently- 'friends' with) already jokingly say that her fatal flaw is being in love with me. Thing is, i TOTALLY agree and believe them and feel the same way. Even though I really like her and want to be the best man for her and hope for a future with her, I feel like I cannot love her properly when I'm too busy hating myself in my head and wondering if she's delusional for liking me. I feel like the best thing i can do for her is to leave her for her own good, to rid her of myself. Which feels horrible. That being said, I've tried my very best to fake being fine and have been a shell of a good boyfriend, but it can only last for so long.
I abhore myself and cannot wrap my head around someone liking me, even platonically, which has led me to more recently purposefully distance myself. I have given up on wanting relationships and adopted the mindset of 'maybe I am an obstacle' and just move myself out of the way instead of waiting to be moved out of the way. I'm tired of not being understood and always being the disappointment, the obnoxious one, the fifth wheel in a friend group of four (seriously). I'm tired of being an inconvenience and i just want to suffer alone.
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2021-12-19T10:06:17.000Z
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rjtsop
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I am a walking inconvenience - LONG rant. Sry. Just got diagnosis and I'm battling with a lot. 21M
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtsop/i_am_a_walking_inconvenience_long_rant_sry_just/
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Accomplished-Drag-52
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Just a healthy reminder to the neurotypicals, that we don't need to be bouncing off walls and distracted by butterflies mid-conversation to have ADHD.
It's phenomenally more complex and layered than those things. And when your mind is already at sea as a child, you can't gather the thoughts to properly verbalise it. Your focus falls, your inferiority relative to your peers rises, you struggle to retain friendships and relationships and you don't know why.
Then left untreated, it grows and manifests itself in more sinister ways BECAUSE you were told that the prerequisite for ADHD diagnosis was to act like the howling wolf and not the disciplined Labrador. So as you get older - and left untreated - you adapt to looking even more disciplined because you have to; it's something being an adult demands of you.
And then between those bridges from childhood to your teen years to your adulthood you're becoming anxious, depressed, reactive, suicidal, impulsive - symptoms umbrella'd under this constant sense of confusion as to why the hell you are so much more complicated than most other people.
You might also get misdiagnosed here and there just to add to the evergrowing confusion. Heck why not throw in physical self harm and drug abuse for good measure!
And so, left untreated, you get turned inside out. That howling wolf inside your brain finally finds its moon and is unleashed upon the world. The discipline is gone and suddenly you've gone down paths of mental self destruction and sabotage that goes far beyond your wildest nightmares. Relationships, sense of self, confidence and self belief start to dissolve and those fundamental pillars that keep the day to day human functional fall down alongside.
ADHD is so much more than that wolf. It lives there inside your brain until one day it finds its way out in the worst way possible.
It's not just bouncing off walls. It's so much more than that.
The above story is my experience. I turned 30 a month ago. I was 30 years left undiagnosed.
Since being medicated, my life has been changed. A wolf well trained, a lab well disciplined -
**Finally, I'm the one who's in charge.**
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2021-12-19T10:05:00.000Z
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rjts4z
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My brain was like an rabid wolf howling at the moon for hours and hours and hours but my outer everyday persona was like an obedient Labrador...
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjts4z/my_brain_was_like_an_rabid_wolf_howling_at_the/
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kk1116
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Just had Thanksgiving with my family and when I was talking about how I'm hesitant to go back to college again (failed the first time) cuz its super hard. My step Grandfather said "Schools only as hard as u make it". I swear I almost glitched out when he said that there were so many things running through my head. I just ended up shutting mouth and leaving cuz I just couldn't form words. Idk y I'm suprised though he's always been like that. Not to mention I have other learning disabilities and mental illnesses on top of ADHD the major one being BPD. I dont understand how ppl think learning disabilities...etc don't exist and were all just looking for an excuse to be lazy. Anyone who thinks that is so privileged. Like u were born with the perfect brain. Great. Good for u. But maybe try to not be a bigot. It is so discouraging to hear things like this. Especially from ur own family.
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2021-12-19T09:59:12.000Z
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rjtoyx
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ADHD
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Schools only as hard as u make it.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtoyx/schools_only_as_hard_as_u_make_it/
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2021-12-19T09:58:08.000Z
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rjtohu
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ADHD
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My ADHD diagnosis appointment is this week's, any tips
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtohu/my_adhd_diagnosis_appointment_is_this_weeks_any/
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Riiwn
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My entire life school has been a bit of an ambivalent place. I love learning new things, especially within my special interest and subjects. I've been diagnosed late in life, so my many attempts of getting an education was always blamed on my 'chronic' depression, and I believed that if only I could deal with the depression and anxiety, I could finally get an education. I thought that the reason I kept jumping from major to major was probably because it wasn't the right subject, and I blamed that for causing my depression. After 5 attempts and several years later, I finally learned that it was the other way around. Not the depression standing in the way of education, but the concept of school and defining myself in a career that was causing the stress and anxiety, leading to depression.
I got diagnosed with both autism and ADHD a few months ago, and every since my burnout last spring, I've been desperate to figure out how exactly this neurodivergent brain of mine is making school and work such a difficult area of life.
Then I realized that the ADHD time blindness is about more than just being late, or having a hard time estimating how long a task takes. For me, the entire feeling of hours, days, weeks months and even the year has a very rigid and mash up kind of feel (hard to explain exactly, but I guess a lot of you can relate - at least I hope). I realized that the stress and paralysis I get when I get overwhelmed by too many tasks because my brain doesn't know how to prioritize the tasks is much the same feeling I get when I have a bunch of things I need to do some time in the future. My brain doesn't feel any different about a task that is due in 3 days or two months, its the exact same feeling. Its like my primitive brain knows there is a tiger lurking somewhere, but have no clue if its 50km away, or just behind the next bush, so I have to be prepared just in case. And obviously having a feeling of something is due in 3 days for the next two months is pretty stressing. I stumbled upon the idea about ADHD's time perception as being either now, or not-now, and it makes perfect sense! There is no in between for me. Knowing all this now, it makes sense why especially school has always been hard for me, with due dates for assignments and upcoming exams, and a target that constantly keeps moving. I don't get motivated about the feeling of graduating, because its a fluffy concept of somewhere in 'future land' that is too unspecific for me to grasp.
Much like I realize that the reason I get paralyzed when I have to clean a messy apartment, because my brain thinks I have to pick up everything at once, I also feel that all time is now. The only way I can clean is by taking one area/thing at a time, I can only relax with time when all is in the present.
What are your experience with this? Have any of you every manage to graduate, and how can you stick with one major if your interests keeps shifting? How do you manage your concept of time in a world where most stuff is somewhere in the fluffly unspecific 'future land'?
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2021-12-19T09:57:20.000Z
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rjto4w
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ADHD
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The ADHD perception of time, and the challenges of school/work
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjto4w/the_adhd_perception_of_time_and_the_challenges_of/
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draperf
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Can someone share with me the long-term health risks associated with stimulants? What are the options/alternatives?
My therapist thinks I have ADHD, but I've been dragging my feet on getting diagnosed...
I should mention that my anxiety is probably worse than anything else, so I struggle with decision-making.
TIA
ETA: Thanks to everyone who's contributed so far. Appreciate these helpful comments! If possible, I'd love some authoritative links discussing the side effects of stimulant medications. I'm an academic, and I sort of like to dive deep into the details. If anyone has any leads, I'd be grateful.
Thanks!
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2021-12-19T09:54:14.000Z
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rjtmte
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ADHD
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Probably have ADHD (so says my therapist), but I'm older (40s) and am concerned about stimulant side effects
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtmte/probably_have_adhd_so_says_my_therapist_but_im/
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iamforcingmyself
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This entire semester I turned every single assignment late despite getting an extension. I start the day of the extensión that it was due on and I literally end up pulling an all nighter to turn it in the next morning. I don’t know how my GSI’s deal with me they’re so kind. But i can’t bring myself to do it earlier than that. I turned in every single final late. What is wrong with me. Does anyone else deal with this ?
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2021-12-19T09:52:12.000Z
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rjtlso
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ADHD
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I can’t seem to turn any assignments on time
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtlso/i_cant_seem_to_turn_any_assignments_on_time/
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Particular_Pipe_4106
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Hi everyone who lives in England, if you are not aware of the right to choose scheme, it is a way to choose your mental health provider for a private diagnosis funded by the government. Everyone now knows about Psychiatry-UK but there are two more clinics that I know of (after a lot of calls to find out) under the scheme so you can ask to be referred to them instead, ADHD-360 and Clinical Partners.
There's going to be a bit more work to do for changing from Psychiatry Uk but these two have shorter waiting lists.
Hmu if you have any questions 🙂
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2021-12-19T09:50:15.000Z
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rjtksf
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ADHD
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England/ Right to choose
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtksf/england_right_to_choose/
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iamforcingmyself
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I saw a tweet that said “Having ADHD means you’ll experience people having fake empathy towards your struggles but as soon as they have to personally deal with it they’ll always express anger, frustration and annoyance towards you. Reminding you that you’re a burden to deal with.” It made me really sad because I feel this so often. I feel like this with my boyfriend who gets mad at me when I forget to text back for a few hours. I feel like it’s really affecting my relationship in negative ways.
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2021-12-19T09:49:46.000Z
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rjtkis
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ADHD
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People are fake empathetic when they know you have adhd.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtkis/people_are_fake_empathetic_when_they_know_you/
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iamforcingmyself
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I worry about this all the time. When I see people talk about their adhd and if it doesn’t relate directly to mine I always gaslight myself and wonder if I even have it. The adhd meds don’t work well on me. I take Ritalin but at 10mg I experience horrible side effects like sweating a lot and other things. And wellbuitrin hasn’t really worked for me. So I always wonder do I even have it? My head also only runs with thousands of thoughts when I’m anxious. If not it’s blank. I barely think of anything. And i use social media to avoid thinking. Idk how that relates but I just do. I don’t know why I doubt it but I can’t help to. I asked my therapist and she said that she’s very conservative in her diagnosis. And my psychiatrist is supposedly really good too. But it’s the idea of taking meds for the rest of my life that really psychs me out and wonders if there is a better way. I saw a Ted talk that said that if ppl with adhd took micro nutrients at high doses it minimized symptoms drastically. And idk it made me wonder a lot. Doctors used to prescribe coke. So I’m just like so anxious as you can tell and I always wonder this. Sorry I’m all over the place.
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2021-12-19T09:47:19.000Z
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rjtjfi
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ADHD
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Do you ever worry that you had a misdiagnosis ?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtjfi/do_you_ever_worry_that_you_had_a_misdiagnosis/
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theokayduck
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So I’m (24F) waiting for a psychiatry appointment to open up for the local Psych MD’s/NP’s in my area. My SO and I both think I have ADHD. Does anyone get more scatter brained when under stress? Anyone take anti anxiety/anti depressants and later diagnosed with ADHD or ADD? I have a lot on my plate recently but overall have a habit of losing, forgetting and blacking out dropping things somewhere never to find them again. I’ve had trouble focusing in school and exams although successful in my career now but taken a lot of repetition to get that way. I recent took a ADHD quiz online from a psych source and my result was “possible to most likely ADHD”. Basically I’m trying to come to terms with the fact I may have it but I’ll be happy to get on the right medication to live a more peaceful and organized life.
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2021-12-19T09:44:55.000Z
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rjtidd
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ADHD
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Waiting for psychiatry appointment
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtidd/waiting_for_psychiatry_appointment/
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Babygothicc
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I recently got diagnosed with ADHD and got prescribed Vyvanse (30mg), and I can feel some effects (more side effects than anything really) but I’m still having such a hard time actually starting assignments I need to get done before it’s last minute. I’ve always had this problem and I usually breezed by and adapted to being motivated by stress, but since I started Uni it’s not really working out as it was before and I feel myself not doing as well as I could if I just gave myself more time and start earlier, but I just find it hard to start assignments. I’ve tried looking for apps but they’re more for staying focused but actually starting the assignments is a bigger issue for me rn while medicated. Any suggestions :/
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2021-12-19T09:43:16.000Z
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rjthmc
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ADHD
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Can’t start anything
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjthmc/cant_start_anything/
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theokayduck
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So I’m (24F) waiting for a psychiatry appointment to open up for the local Psych MD’s/NP’s in my area. My SO and I both think I have ADHD. Does anyone get more scatter brained when under stress? Anyone take anti anxiety/anti depressants and later diagnosed with ADHD or ADD? I have a lot on my plate recently but overall have a habit of losing, forgetting and blacking out dropping things somewhere never to find them again. I’ve had trouble focusing in school and exams although successful in my career now but taken a lot of repetition to get that way. I recent took a ADHD quiz online from a psych source and my result was “possible to most likely ADHD”. Basically I’m trying to come to terms with the fact I may have it but I’ll be happy to get on the right medication to live a more peaceful and organized life.
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2021-12-19T09:41:26.000Z
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rjtgpj
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ADHD
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Waiting for psychiatry appointment
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtgpj/waiting_for_psychiatry_appointment/
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ObeisanceProse
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Last year I was very successful gaining muscle by doing bodyweight exercises at home during my working day. I'd do each set during breaks in work. Mostly push ups (and now variations) and pull ups
Now I'm back in the office since October. And that's become much harder. I'm walking into and back from work, so at least in getting light cardio.
I also recently became medicated. But after a day at work I don't have a ton of juice left.
I've bought a kettle bell because it seems like the kind of exercise I could do in a block and everyday but I'm struggling to find the motivation to use it.
I still struggle a lot with getting to bed and getting ready in the morning so I think exercising before work would be hard.
**What kind of strategies have people found that helped them develop a routine?**
My initial thought is to maybe drop down the kettle bell weight to something easier and concentrate on developing the habit and technique by practicing the same time every day (make it easier for my ADHD brain to make the habit) before increasing back to a challenging weight (16kg is what I have).
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2021-12-19T09:29:42.000Z
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rjtavz
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ADHD
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Exercise and ADHD: what's worked for you?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjtavz/exercise_and_adhd_whats_worked_for_you/
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cooljpeg
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I've noticed this reoccurring pattern in the relationship I've built around my passions, where I get very scared and suspicious of pursuing certain avenues of my interests because I feel like that avenue will *taint* my love for the thing itself.
So like, I love writing and I love making movies and telling stories in whatever way comes to mind, and I feel like it's my calling to dedicate my entire life to it... but the idea of pursuing a "career" in writing or joining some kind of program for it scares me to death because I feel like it'll sorta codify my love for it and the magical feeling it induces in me. It doesn't feel like laziness at all; it isn't the goal that scares me, it's the *path*... And it doesn't feel like I have an inability to follow these paths, instead it feels like the paths are "outside forces" that will lead me to a dead-end, or that the path will sort of take the place of my passion itself, and before I know it I will have built a life around the path that is sort of immovable and isn't truly *mine.*
I'm asking this here because the longer I sit with these feelings (I've felt this way since high school, now out of college and only recently finding the words for it), the more I feel like my ADHD plays a role in exacerbating these anxieties and ruminations. Has anyone else felt a similar over-protection towards their passions? Like somehow you won't have agency over your passions the more you explore them through "external" means (jobs, school programs, etc.)? Would love to hear y'all's experiences and some possible advice if it's out there.
Thanks so much. :+}
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2021-12-19T09:18:57.000Z
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rjt5ou
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ADHD
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Habit of protecting your passions from "outside forces"?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjt5ou/habit_of_protecting_your_passions_from_outside/
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phluffy_pokemon
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Hey guys. So, I'm new here and contrary to probably most of you, I'm from Europe :)
I've been thinking I might have ADHD for a while. I remember when I was in 4th or 5th grade, my dad having to come in to the office to talk to the headmaster and he mentioned that since I was born over 2 months prematurely as a result I have trouble concentrating. But I never thought anything of it.
I noticed that I often forget things, I zone out during conversations all the time, I tend to interrupt others, I often get super into a new hobby to try only to drop it completely after a few days or weeks. I'm currently in uni and if I don't have a specific outline of how to do a task I have difficulty coming up with a structure by myself. I get irritated and annoyed by small things often. I often misplace things and can't find them. After I read 3 or 4 sentences I already forgot what the first sentence said.....I often have to ask people to repeat themselves cause I have no idea what they said a few minutes ago..etc. etc
Now my problem is that I'm terrified to go see a doctor to get a diagnosis. Because what if I don't have ADHD or ADD? What if this is just me? That would mean that there is nothing wrong with me. That this is just the way I am and noone can help me. That this won't get better.
Any comments or advice would be welcomed.
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2021-12-19T09:15:53.000Z
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rjt4cb
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ADHD
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Terrified I might not have ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjt4cb/terrified_i_might_not_have_adhd/
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txicab
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Hi, someone recommended to get diagnosed through Circle Medical because its way cheaper and easier than what I was originally going to do.
I have a few questions about it if anyone is okay with answering:
1. How did the appointment go?
2. Were there any problems with billing? (I do no have health insurance)
3. Were there any problems with receiving the prescription/medication or getting a diagnosis?
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2021-12-19T09:13:47.000Z
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rjt3ac
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| 1
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ADHD
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Circle Medical Experiences
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjt3ac/circle_medical_experiences/
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Concibar
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I struggle with my mistakes due to my experiences as a kid (yeay constant ADHD blaim). I now feel whenever I make a mistake it's inexcusable, People will rightfully disdain me and I'm a horrible person in general.
On a _rational_ level I know Frank, my brain goblin, is in full bullshit mode when it comes to mistakes.
But emotionally, it's enough that a slightly impolite comment I made gets downvoted and I'm fully stressed out for the day.
Any advice?
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2021-12-19T09:12:27.000Z
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rjt2kt
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ADHD
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How to not be utterly destroyed when I make a mistake?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjt2kt/how_to_not_be_utterly_destroyed_when_i_make_a/
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2021-12-19T09:05:38.000Z
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rjszdr
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ADHD
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What playback speed do you watch movies/web-series?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjszdr/what_playback_speed_do_you_watch_movieswebseries/
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2021-12-19T09:02:32.000Z
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rjsxuc
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ADHD
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Wondering if I don't have ADHD?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsxuc/wondering_if_i_dont_have_adhd/
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floofer-roofer
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I have only been diagnosed within the last year and am still working on working out kinks medication-wise but overall I’ve seen a huge difference. The one thing I can’t get myself to do, medicated or not, is to read textbooks or similar material which is super important to my life. Does anyone have any advice on how to read incredibly detailed, factual, long readings without having to spend 5x the time as the average person?
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2021-12-19T08:55:55.000Z
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rjsufu
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ADHD
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Advice for reading textbooks?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsufu/advice_for_reading_textbooks/
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Imakedis
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It's called Otter. I was looking for basically a dictation app where I could speak into my phone and it would write down what I said accurately. Like journal entries, to-do lists, my hilarious anecdotes and brilliant ideas. Like this app I just found. *womp womp*
It can link to your calendar, include pictures and I don't know what else yet. I was just so excited I had to tell, y'all!
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2021-12-19T08:55:47.000Z
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rjsudy
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ADHD
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Just found a speech-to-text audio recording app that I think will be a lifesaver!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsudy/just_found_a_speechtotext_audio_recording_app/
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Gloomy-Introduction4
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I have a seriously bad addiction/obsession to my phone. specifically tik tok. i know this sounds extremely ridiculous but it's actually really bad. It's the first thing i open when i wake up in the morning and i can be on it for 5 hours + ... I'm not sure if i do it bc my brain needs constant simulation, if i want to avoid my own depressive thoughts by keeping myself constantly busy or if i just simply have a psychological addiction to my phone.
ANYONE ELSE ?????
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2021-12-19T08:51:37.000Z
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rjsse4
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ADHD
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addicted to my phone
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsse4/addicted_to_my_phone/
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2021-12-19T08:46:16.000Z
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rjsq02
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ADHD
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Medication = No More ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsq02/medication_no_more_adhd/
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rougeix
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Hiya! I was diagnosed with ADHD just shy of a year ago, and I’m still learning everyday, but also grieving everyday about how I went 21 years without knowing when it was SO obvious. I learned why people always called me lazy, I learned why I struggled so much in school in the topics I found boring, I learned why I struggled to make friends, and I learned why people would tell me to act my age when I had a temper tantrum over something that seemed like a big deal to me. It’s been really hard coming to terms with the fact I can’t turn back time and make it so young me didn’t learn poor coping mechanisms for a brain type I didn’t know I had. I also was grieving for the lack of knowledge I had regarding adhd and neurodiversity which is a really odd feeling; I feel wrong knowing I knew so little about something that impacts the lives of millions, and the only reason I learned more about it was because I got a diagnosis. Why this is relevant to my current problem? Who knows, I wrote the word rant and then my thoughts went everywhere lmao.
Over the last year, the biggest challenge I’ve had was trying to recognize how adhd impacts my life and recognizing poor coping mechanisms so I can work on creating new, better coping mechanisms. One thing that has me really stumped is my emotional dysregulation; this is especially a problem once I become frustrated (which unfortunately happens quite quickly). I’ve had a really hard time finding adhd specific therapy, so I haven’t found someone to help me with this yet. I don’t enjoy getting upset or having tantrums, and it’s really hard dealing with that when I’m basically emotionally illiterate, every feeling feels either happy or overwhelmed, and I really hate going to therapy when people ask me how I feel because I really don’t know!
At the moment, I’m upset at my partner for I think an actual valid reason. I’m someone who really needs communication. I grew up with helicopter parents, so naturally, I’m quite anxious, and communication helps to calm that anxiety. My partner on the other hand grew up with laissez-faire parents, so he’s quite independent and never really needed to communicate to others when his plans changed or when he decided to go do something on a whim, so he’s not too great at the whole communication thing (but he does try at least).
Today, I went to my parents to decorate our christmas tree. He was at work, but I invited him to come skating with us once he was done. He replied saying he was still at work and that he’d be there for another hour or 2, but that he’d love to come and that he’d text me when he was done work. Then, 6 hours later, he still hadn’t replied and it was getting late, so my dad drove me home. I figured he’d be in bed asleep as that’s usually why he didn’t respond, but when I got in, he wasn’t home. I called to ask where he was, and he was slurring his words, absolutely piss drunk. I told him I’d see him when he got home and hung up. When he walked in, I was still quite upset, and I literally sent him to bed. I was quite proud of that, I’m definitely quite the hot head, and as much as I dislike yelling, I often get mad fast enough, and end up yelling anyways. He’s now fast asleep, and that’s where I’m having a problem: I’m upset and overwhelmed, and I don’t know how to deal with it, i feel like I’m an aerosol can ready to explode.
I’m upset because not only had I been waiting on him to go skiing and get a ride home, but he didn’t tell me he was going out, and I didn’t find out until he was incredibly drunk. I don’t understand why that makes me feel SO upset, and it definitely makes me feel frustrated, because I know part of the feeling stems from wanting to be thought of, especially by my significant other. I mentioned poor coping mechanisms, well, one of them was being a people pleaser, and that went hand in hand with being walked all over, my first year of jr high was spent being the “backup friend”; that felt terrible and made it harder to deal with feeling as though people don’t care about me or that people important to me don’t ever think about me. I think the reason I don’t understand why I feel this upset is because that doesn’t seem like enough reason to be this upset, but i really wish this feeling would stop.
I’ve been dealing with a bout of depression and a PTSD flare up for a while now, and I’m struggling with intrusive thoughts daily, and one in particular that’s plagued me is feeling as though my partner is bored of me and annoyed at me and that he regrets moving out with me, and when things like this happen, my brain uses it as evidence that my intrusive thoughts are right. How does one even stop that “habit”? And how do i stop feeling so upset over something this unimportant? It’s not like he’s an alcoholic or anything, so why does the fact he’s drunk make me more upset?
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2021-12-19T08:39:03.000Z
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rjsmkl
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ADHD
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Upset at my partner and don’t know how to deal with it, a rant. (Advice would also be cool)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsmkl/upset_at_my_partner_and_dont_know_how_to_deal/
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Inner-Spread-6582
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So, i have this situation which occurs a lot, particularly around my fiance's family, whereby i mainly become mute, or if i do say something, it sounds like I'm stupid or rude. The muteness and poor attempts at speaking create this awkwardness in the atmosphere, almost like a dark cloud. I can feel the awkwardness and it clearly impacts everyone.
As I've got older my muteness seems to have increased. I think its because ive become more aware of my clumsy communication. Im often sitting and thinking of what to say, but end up saying nothing because it's too late or i dont want to sound stupid.
As well as the muteness, i feel like a statue. I want to help and be involved in group exercises but i become too amxious that ill do something wrong amd so i dont. It's not always anxiety - often i just cant move.
I'm not diagnosed with ADHD but fit the inatttentative type. I just maily want to know if anyway experiences the awkwardness in group situations? Im at the point where i don't ever want to be in groups now.
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2021-12-19T08:35:42.000Z
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rjsl2f
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ADHD
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Awkwardness in social situations?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsl2f/awkwardness_in_social_situations/
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heathernim
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2021-12-19T08:35:07.000Z
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rjsksz
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My friends didnt seem to care when I told them I was just diagnosed with ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsksz/my_friends_didnt_seem_to_care_when_i_told_them_i/
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mossimoto11
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I totally fucked up and forgot to close my move ring today. I had a 346 day streak and was 9 days away from closing my move ring every single day this year. I knew I was going to fuck it up somehow and today was the day. Totally cried and now I just feel defeated and like a failure. I hate how hard I work to do something and then fuck it up so easily. /rant.
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2021-12-19T08:31:27.000Z
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rjsiz7
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ADHD
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Apple watch move streak ruined
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsiz7/apple_watch_move_streak_ruined/
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coolme897
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So i didnt know i had ADHD till i was 26.
All my life i did crazy things. Always to the extreem.
Im talking about self destructive to the end.
Drugs. Women. Achol. You name it i was doing it.
Over 90 escorts. Prostitutes. Whores. Sluts.
Drugs all kinds.
Achol morning till night.
I started seeing therapy past 6 years and didnt do shit. They simply cant understand or relate to how i can exist to this level of extreem.
Last month i joined here. I never give to fucks about adhd thought i could handle it.
But after being here. I found that it controls me. Despite me fighting it on every corner. Every momment was a fight with it for control. I swim 2-3 hours. Then gym 2 hours. And eat like a fat pig. I destoryed every relationship i had with people. By sheer madness.
But just a month being a part of this chat group. I found some sense of peace. I just had to stop fighting it. Now i can see my thoughts forming. My mood shifitng. I can talk to it. Try to change it. Try to calm down.
I think this ADHD group can really help people. Even the simplest things open an understanding on how you think. Im in a place of peace. Its orite. Its not what i expected. Seems dull but addictive enough to stay in it forever.
I hope you all win your battles. I feel like im starting a new life. I was on the very low. Now seems im powerful. Some of us are too blind by our struggles to see reality.
Wish you all the best in your battle. ADHD is somthing else.
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2021-12-19T08:23:09.000Z
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rjsevu
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ADHD
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I think i found peace with the ADHD battle.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjsevu/i_think_i_found_peace_with_the_adhd_battle/
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naberiusblack
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2021-12-19T08:00:03.000Z
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rjs35m
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Addicted to medication (Vyvanse)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjs35m/addicted_to_medication_vyvanse/
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adeltae
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2021-12-19T07:55:51.000Z
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rjs13w
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Don't be me
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjs13w/dont_be_me/
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2021-12-19T07:46:24.000Z
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rjrwiy
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ADHD
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ADHD medication induces psychosis/psychotic symptoms in me.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrwiy/adhd_medication_induces_psychosispsychotic/
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kuyabooyah
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2021-12-19T07:43:26.000Z
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rjrv0v
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ADHD
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When you only hear three words out of a conversation
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrv0v/when_you_only_hear_three_words_out_of_a/
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Aaron_deer
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So I come from a family that lowkey hates doctors so I have no idea how to go about finding some to test me for adhd. Now that I’m in college I thought that I’d just go a head and try to figure it out by myself but it’s stressful trying to and I end up giving up :// BUT this time I’m determined and I won’t give up!
Any advice on how to find a good person to test for adhd?
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2021-12-19T07:40:19.000Z
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rjrtf5
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ADHD
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How to find someone to test you for adhd?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrtf5/how_to_find_someone_to_test_you_for_adhd/
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marcoman22
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2021-12-19T07:35:35.000Z
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rjrr4j
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ADHD
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Worried, binge eating
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrr4j/worried_binge_eating/
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Physical-Swan9736
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Hey everyone !
I (22 female) have been diagnosed with anxiety when I was 16, I have had eating disorders, depression and lots of anxiety since that time. Still, ever since I was little I have struggled with focusing and time management like very very much. I believe I was misdiagnosed with more anxiety than I actually have and my adhd was overlooked. I want a permanent fix for my presumably adhd symptoms- binge eating, time management, difficulty focusing, cramming work, mood swings, compulsive behavioura and over sleeping. What kind of psychiatrist should I look for ? Has anyone else suffered with this ?
Side note- I started taking vyvanse once a week when I was 18 to do some school work and have continued through college because it really helps me. I dont want to take it every day though because it is an addictive chemical and I love the "spark" it gives me once a week- it makes working fun. I am also on Fluxotine.
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2021-12-19T07:30:43.000Z
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rjromi
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ADHD
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ADHD diagnosis
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjromi/adhd_diagnosis/
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Alpha-Quartz
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Hey guys,
I finally got the chance to talk to a psych about my ADHD and he had me do some computer test before prescribing me 25mg Strattera. I am really happy for finally being able to get help but i think strattera is messing me up.
I am on two antidepressants aswell and have started become super depressed and tired since starting strattera a week ago. The worst symptom is being sleepy and dizzy all the time. I move my head to the left and i feel like i will faint.
Any of you on strattera had these side effects? Is it worth waiting for another week or two before asking my doc to move me to something like concerta or vyvanse?
Thanks
(also the two antidepressants i am on are Paxil 10 mg and Venex (effexor) 75mg )
Edit - the reason my doc wanted me on Strattera first is because i started getting psychotic from cannabis abuse a year or two ago. He said that amphetamines can cause psychosis in people who have had it before.
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2021-12-19T07:27:22.000Z
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rjrmxf
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ADHD
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Strattera causing dizziness and nausea?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrmxf/strattera_causing_dizziness_and_nausea/
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2021-12-19T07:27:11.000Z
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rjrmub
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New here! Asking about treatment.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrmub/new_here_asking_about_treatment/
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lotteoddities
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My husband (32M) is on Medicaid and wants to try Vyvanse. I'm (29F) also on Medicaid and have never been able to get them to cover Vyvanse. My mom pays for it out of pocket. But she won't cover his.
I know there isn't am actual genetic Vyvanse but isn't there a drug that is the same as Vyvanse or something that Medicaid does cover?
He's currently on 30mg instant release Adderall and feels like he's not on anything at all. No improvement on focus or ability to accomplish tasks. Except for bad insomnia. He was on 40XR Adderall but the side effects were pretty bad, including the insomnia.
Any advice?
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2021-12-19T07:24:51.000Z
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rjrlra
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ADHD
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Generic Vyvanse? Also instant release Adderall vs XR
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrlra/generic_vyvanse_also_instant_release_adderall_vs/
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Arrenox
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Has anyone else found a fix or hack for this ?
I’ve been on concerta 18mg upped your 36 mg (twice a day from once a day) for 9 days now and it’s chill but hasn’t really helped with my executive dysfunction . What I noticed was that I enjoy talking to friends about anything now as opposed to before where normal conversations about someones day or whatever would bore the hell out of me and I couldn’t stand it .
I thought it might help with my sleeping problem but it hasn’t. I still go to sleep kinda late like 2 am and wake up at like 11 and still feel hella tired . Once I take my meds I’m good tho but I’m not sure I can’t seem to wake up earlier and feeling rested like a normal person no matter how much I sleep.
Oh and in case anyone here has ever dealt with changing meds , how can I go about asking my doctor to change me from concerta to adderall or Vyvanse without sounding like a junkie ? The main reason I wanted meds was to help with my executive dysfunction. I was given 60 pills which was supposed to last two months I guess but my doctor told me to up it to twice a day if I needed to. Like I mentioned it didn’t help. He set a follow up meeting for March and said to call the hospital number and ask for his nurse when I needed a refill but I’m not sure if I should get a refill if it’s not working ? However he already set the follow up appointment for March so does that mean I just have to keep taking it until then ?
Thanks in advance guys !
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2021-12-19T07:14:59.000Z
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rjrguq
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Sleep 10+ hours but still tired ?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrguq/sleep_10_hours_but_still_tired/
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2021-12-19T07:07:57.000Z
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rjrd10
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ADHD
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Self judgement/fears around starting daily meds
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrd10/self_judgementfears_around_starting_daily_meds/
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s91817
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Hi. So I’m about to have my diagnosis appointment with a psychiatrist (online) in one state, but I’m going to be in another state for work for a few months soon. If I get a prescription for my current state, does it work in other states? Also can psychiatrists write valid prescriptions for another state? I’m a little unclear on how this all works as I’ve never had such a tightly controlled prescription before. Thanks!
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2021-12-19T07:05:43.000Z
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rjrbv4
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ADHD
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Question for Australians. Are stim prescriptions state specific?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrbv4/question_for_australians_are_stim_prescriptions/
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jackap95
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2021-12-19T07:04:27.000Z
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rjrb72
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How does your “my brain won’t stop going” manifest?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjrb72/how_does_your_my_brain_wont_stop_going_manifest/
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2021-12-19T07:02:51.000Z
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rjra9n
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ADHD
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tips for sleeping on adderall?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjra9n/tips_for_sleeping_on_adderall/
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TruePhilosophe
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2021-12-19T06:58:26.000Z
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rjr7nx
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ADHD
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I am thinking about getting myself purposefully hospitalized.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjr7nx/i_am_thinking_about_getting_myself_purposefully/
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TruePhilosophe
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2021-12-19T06:51:58.000Z
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rjr4d3
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I think I’m going to purposefully hospitalize myself.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjr4d3/i_think_im_going_to_purposefully_hospitalize/
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sex-dramaturgy
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This just dawned on me as I'm cleaning my kitchen at 1:30 AM. I think ADHD-ers struggle with eye contact too? Aside from autistic folks or people w/ social anxiety, or maybe some combination of the three. But I think the reason why *I'm* scared of prolonged eye contact is because it's intimate; eyes kinda are the windows to the soul, and are one of the fundamental ways human beings bond. It's vulnerable to be visible. And when someone sees your soul or the first shades of it it's scary because I've felt so incredibly, and fundamentally other for so long. It's hard to know if folks will accept your whole being for yourself. It's almost inconceivable to me that someone would accept me for who I am and I wouldn't have to change a thing.
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2021-12-19T06:40:37.000Z
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rjqyap
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Hypothesis: I'm Afraid of Eye Contact because I'm So Used to Feeling Other
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqyap/hypothesis_im_afraid_of_eye_contact_because_im_so/
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2021-12-19T06:34:15.000Z
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rjquwb
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Busy lifestyle good?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjquwb/busy_lifestyle_good/
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miss_flower_pots
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Hi crew,
I've been buying a lot of ADHD self help type books lately to try and improve my weaknesses. I've noticed most of the adult ADHD books mostly focus on work, relationships and improving your house. These books are great and have helped but my biggest weakness is studying. Does anyone have any recommendations? I'm scared I'll never graduate unless things improve.
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2021-12-19T06:30:20.000Z
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rjqsjj
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ADHD
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Books on ADHD for university students
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqsjj/books_on_adhd_for_university_students/
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anonymousredditnurse
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Share with me a funny/embarrassing/relatable my adhd made me do it story to make me feel better 😭
I was walking through Sams Club. My husband was pushing a cart with my daughter behind me. I was pushing another.. My son was in his infant carseat in the carseat cradle... I was trying to figure out why my scan and go wasn't working on my app, I was very on edge and anxious because there was so many people around and it was so loud, I was thinking about how I needed to get to work... plus I could hardly see over my son's carseat.. I'm 5'3" (not that I was actually looking anyway) and I FORGOT I WAS EVEN WALKING THROUGH THE STORE. 🤦♀️ A woman came out from a side aisle and I slammed into her cart with my cart. I was so embarrassed I could have died right there. Thankfully it was just her cart and she was really nice about it. I have been in a real depressive state lately too so that was like the icing on my shit cake that day. My husband and daughter got a good goggle out of it.. which helped lighten it up for me a little.
I also hate when people arent paying attention in the store so I felt like an extra idiot 🤦♀️
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2021-12-19T06:21:22.000Z
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rjqnmt
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I forgot I was walking through the store..
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqnmt/i_forgot_i_was_walking_through_the_store/
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2021-12-19T06:21:02.000Z
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rjqneu
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Supervisor got weirdly judgmental after a speech slip-up
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqneu/supervisor_got_weirdly_judgmental_after_a_speech/
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IndianImp
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2021-12-19T06:15:15.000Z
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rjqk9q
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ADHD veterans, how did you master emotional regulation?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqk9q/adhd_veterans_how_did_you_master_emotional/
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2021-12-19T06:12:14.000Z
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rjqig9
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Has anyone had a supervisor get weirdly judgmental with you for stumbling over your words?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqig9/has_anyone_had_a_supervisor_get_weirdly/
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RocketDocRyan
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I've been meaning to write this for a while, but you know... irony. Anyway, I have a way of dealing with executive dysfunction that work a decent proportion of the time for me after some practice, so I hope it'll work for somebody else, too. The TL;DR version is this: don't think about doing "it", just plan the heck out of "it", then think about how great it would be if you did "it", especially the first, simple step, and then don't think about doing "it". With practice, you can get rolling and if you don't think about how you're doing "it", you can do "it".
So here's the long version: I'm a software engineer, so I think in terms of layers whenever working out a task. The top layer is very high level- for example, "I need to brush my teeth so they don't fall out". The next layer down takes that high level task and breaks it up into simpler parts: walk to the bathroom, get toothbrush, add toothpaste, brush, rinse. Then the unconscious layer takes those tasks and executes them. You walk (without thinking about it) to the bathroom, and do all the stuff and brush your teeth. Or we would if we were normal. That second layer is what I call the executive layer. It's sort of the shop supervisor in a normal brain, taking goals and breaking them up and handing them off to individual employees to execute. In our brains, however, it's the CEO's useless kid, who's very earnest and eager to jump in at the first sign of a task, but who screws it up in ever-more-impressive ways every time. Basically, Tommy Boy is our brain's middle management. So how to fix it?
Ideally, it would be great if our executive layer were functional, but after 40 years of fighting, I'm pretty sure it's just broke. But I've found a workaround. I wish it were super easy and just worked the first time you tried it, but unfortunately it takes some practice. Hopefully, if you know what you're trying to do (like I didn't) it'll go faster for you. The secret is to not let Tommy know there's anything going on, because if he gets a whiff of a task, he's gonna grab it and screw it up. So basically what you do is have the CEO and the employees split his job. The CEO figures out what parts need to go out, then the employees figure out where they need to be so they can get on the truck in the morning. Then they fire up the forklifts and do it- all without letting Tommy know there's any work happening. On a good day, he'll take a nap and you'll do pretty good. I worked on my car, made hazelnut brownies and am writing this post. Not bad.
So how does this work in practice? The executive layer pops up whenever you try to \*do\* something, so don't try to brush you teeth. Simply recognize that the brushing of teeth (not necessarily yours) is a good thing that should occur. Then start outlining in your mind what would need to happen. This is analogous to daydreaming, so it's pretty easy for me. I'd need to get up, walk to the bathroom, etc. It helps if I imagine basically winking at my legs, or the part of my brain that controls my legs, as I think about the task. Not doing the task, or trying to do the task. Keep it abstract, or Tommy will burst in and you'll be investigating aardvark mating habits for the rest of the evening. (Sorry). Once you get started, don't think about the fact that you've started. I literally have "don't think about it" rolling through my head over and over while I do stuff. Over time, I've found that my unconscious gets better and better at taking hints, and not thinking about doing stuff while I do it gets easier and easier. It's really weird, and doesn't always work. But I am getting brownies tonight, so there's that.
And another reminder that's good no matter what, and especially helpful with this technique: don't get mad at yourself when you can't do stuff. Tommy is a mess and can't be fixed, and the more you yell at him, the harder he tries and the worse he'll screw up. I didn't really start making real progress until I stopped beating myself up over things I couldn't control. Just take a deep breathe, close your eyes, relax, and try again. The antidote to ADHD is raw, dogged persistence. And meds. But the persistence is pretty great for life in general, so it's worth cultivating.
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2021-12-19T05:59:47.000Z
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rjqb6l
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How To Work Around Executive Dysfunction
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjqb6l/how_to_work_around_executive_dysfunction/
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ChowChow260
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Got diagnosed in June and Prescribed Vyvanse in August. I have always made straight As in school but it took immense energy. I would never let myself see friends or have any fun ever. To get myself to hyper focus on school I would completely make it my entire life. Every semester felt like a prison sentence. Even being prepared for tests, I would activate hyper focus before every exam which was extremely emotionally draining. After every exam hyper focus would not turn off and I would obsess over every mistake I made. I can now take exams and just stop thinking about them afterwards knowing I did my best.
Working is not so hard to start doing anymore. I can live a more balanced life. I actually party sometimes. I even partied the night before an 8am exam. Something I would have never thought I would ever do. Treating my ADHD has allowed me to live a life that does not feel so dreadful and draining. I am truly grateful for this community helping me realize I had this condition. Treating it has made my life a lot better.
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2021-12-19T05:55:38.000Z
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rjq8zw
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I got straight A+s this semester for first time in my life in undergrad
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjq8zw/i_got_straight_as_this_semester_for_first_time_in/
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Explanation-Signal
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I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 15 and I feel like I always am dreaming or longing for a romantic relationship or thing. After one ends, I want another. I don’t know if it’s the need for novelty that brings me dopamine, or it has nothing to do with ADHD. I don’t want to attribute this kind of feeling to ADHDERS so it’s a genuine question about your experiences.
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2021-12-19T05:54:31.000Z
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rjq8ce
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Love addiction?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjq8ce/love_addiction/
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2021-12-19T05:52:52.000Z
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rjq7c5
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I did a hard thing tonight
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjq7c5/i_did_a_hard_thing_tonight/
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No_Gap4672
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So I realized a while ago that I have a pretty complicated relationship with food, today at 11pm I went to eat and was looking for the fastest solution but all my fridge had to offer was junk food, bread and rice and lentils which I was seriously trying to avoid because I was tired of eating this and I have trouble eating the same thing too many times in a row but at the same time the only way to eat 3 times a day that works for me is cooking lots of the same thing.
At that moment I went full mom on myself, I thought "ok dude all you've eaten today was bread and that was 12 hours ago, get your shit together, you need some real food now, your options suck so think of it as having no option."
When you have ADHD it's easy to see choices everywhere, to think of a piece of bread as a valid choice for dinner but sometimes you need your inner mom telling you what's best for you and listen to her. I'm glad I ate a big ass plate of boring rice and lentils, my stomach was begging for it and I was trying to shut it up.
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2021-12-19T05:45:26.000Z
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rjq337
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Life hack: make yourself believe you have no choice, listen to your inner mom
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjq337/life_hack_make_yourself_believe_you_have_no/
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2021-12-19T05:40:39.000Z
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rjq074
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Taken advantage of my ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjq074/taken_advantage_of_my_adhd/
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2021-12-19T05:32:36.000Z
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rjpvlg
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Is anyone frustrated they just can't live with it?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpvlg/is_anyone_frustrated_they_just_cant_live_with_it/
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KryptonRockz
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Hi everyone!
So sometimes I feel really dumb because at work (or generally everywhere) I have the irresistible urge to repeat stuff I hear. Not words or conversations, but stuff like beeps or phone vibrations. I can't help myself and just repeat those sounds out loud.
What made me write this post is the fact that just 5 minutes ago, my boyfriend's phone vibrated, and I unconsciously went "bzzz bzzz" with my mouth. Hahaha. Is this ADHD related at all? (I was diagnosed in 2018) Or could it be something else? Thanks in advance!
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2021-12-19T05:31:12.000Z
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rjpurx
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I feel like a parrot
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpurx/i_feel_like_a_parrot/
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beastmodebro5
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I’m 20, and I feel like I’m always over emotional and like it always ruins things.
I’ve never been in a relationship with a member of the preferred gender before. I’ve been in lots of talking stages and it never seems to work out. I feel like I always ruin it by being too clingy or affectionate right away, once in awhile I feel like I’m being too sexual
I met this guy from tinder a few weeks ago, we talked for a few days and then we got lunch. He picked me up, I felt really intimidated because he’s older, 6’4 (im 5’10. I’ve actually never once been insecure about my height until now), and he’s even cuter in person. I consider myself a somewhat awkward person and I would say the date was not awkward, it went well. I have chronic fatigue and this can have a big impact on my ability to have conversations, so I was relieved it went well. Although, he did seem to complain a bit about work which I thought was odd for a first date. He paid which was nice. During the date I felt like I couldn’t stop looking at him, I just think he’s so handsome.
Afterwards we drove back to my dorm parking lot and slowly started touching each other. We didn’t make out because neither of us are really into that. I know this was a bad decision, but then we had some fun for a few minutes.
The past two weeks we’ve been snapping. I’m very attracted to this man and I’ve been expressing it a bit, but I don’t feel like I’ve gotten much in return. His responses don’t seem very effortful. He works full time at a very high stress job. I expected to meet again by now, he says he’s very busy with work. I really want to see him again
Maybe he just isn’t comfortable at this stage being this affectionate? I’m not sure. Am I trying to push things too fast? It was a mutual unplanned choice to hook up after the first date. I want to just shower him with compliments but that will probably drive him away :/ I feel really defeated, and I feel like this happens every single time
I feel hypersexual, oversensitive and I just feel very different from everyone in terms of how I handle relationships :(
I’m not sure what to do. I know it would be a smart decision to break things off, but I don’t really want to just yet. Please be nice. Thank you!
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2021-12-19T05:30:42.000Z
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rjpugo
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ADHD
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20M, I’m talking to someone (26M) and I need advice on how to navigate the talking stage
| 0.75
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpugo/20m_im_talking_to_someone_26m_and_i_need_advice/
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2021-12-19T05:28:59.000Z
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rjptd8
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ADHD
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i need to hear some ADHD success stories
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjptd8/i_need_to_hear_some_adhd_success_stories/
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indighostl-y
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Hi. On Adderall XR 15mg and have been now for about 6 months. It has helped me so drastically in life, helped me develop good cleaning habits, stop being so emotionally drained and all over the place, and in general has just made everything feel a lot easier. However there is one thing lately that I’ve noticed just over the past couple months is that I am so. Painfully. Boring.
I have off days (as reccomended by my psychiatrist) and Ive come to love my off days and dread when I have to take my meds again because of this. I’m usually goofy and silly off meds and Ive embraced this as who I am. I love making people laugh and laughing with them and I love the random songs that pop in my head and blurting witty things.
And all of that stops when I take my meds. My mind becomes literally empty and so does my expression and my whole demeanor and I hate it. I just get awkward and anti-social and only really talk when talked to. It makes me so focused on my tasks that I forget about social interaction altogether. When Im hanging out with friends and am supposed to be just relaxing and having fun I just dont feel anything.
Does anyone have any recommendation, or can at least empathize with this experience? I don’t want to just be a flatlined robot for 5/7 days of the week, but I also dont want to go back into having emotional breakdowns everyday and not being able to do my homrwork for more than 5 minutes at a time without a break. Urgghhhhh
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2021-12-19T05:28:58.000Z
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rjptct
| 4
| 4
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ADHD
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I feel sooooooooooo boring and anti-social on medication.
| 0.83
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjptct/i_feel_sooooooooooo_boring_and_antisocial_on/
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Familiar-Reserve-958
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Hi everyone, I’m a mother to a bright and insightful 4 year old boy. I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD myself, and I have a strong feeling that my son may also have ADHD. This has also been observed by a child psychologist who has been seeing our son for the last 6 months or so. He appears to have most of the hallmarks of ADHD - always moving, ALWAYS talking, bouncing from one activity to the next, inattentiveness, sensory issues, etc. I know a lot of this behaviour is ‘normal’ for a child his age, but his behaviour is on another level compared to other children.
Here is my concern… he goes through what I would call mood cycles. He can be quite cheerful and easy to deal with and his behaviours can be pretty manageable for a few weeks, to about a month at a time. Then one day, it’s like a switch is flicked and his behaviour becomes extremely challenging. I’m talking physical aggression, explosive tantrums, destroying things, near inability to focus on anything, compulsive behaviours, etc. He also seems to have increased anxiety during these periods and his stuttering increases. These phases can last a few weeks.
My question is: is this something that happens with ADHD? Any ideas? Any advice?
Thanks in advance 😊
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2021-12-19T05:27:19.000Z
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rjpshe
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ADHD
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Help! ADHD and mood cycles in children?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpshe/help_adhd_and_mood_cycles_in_children/
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ChunkyYetFunky911
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So I was diagnosed with ADHD about 2 weeks ago. I have serious imposter syndrome and part of me thinks I don’t have ADHD. Despite this I decided to try medication and was put on 40mg of Strattera and after about 3 days I’ve felt nothing really. I know it takes a while to kick in but if nothing changes I’m afraid to try stimulants. I’m afraid of addiction and think I should just not medicate if it doesn’t work on Strattera.
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2021-12-19T05:25:06.000Z
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rjpray
| 6
| 1
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ADHD
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Scared of medication and need advice
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpray/scared_of_medication_and_need_advice/
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scjsweetie0304
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2021-12-19T05:20:24.000Z
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rjpohf
| 1
| 1
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ADHD
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Anyone try DAYTRANA Transdermal patch?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpohf/anyone_try_daytrana_transdermal_patch/
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Life-Yogurtcloset-63
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Like the title says, I just finished my fall term with a 4.0 sessional gpa. I would have never imagined this happening in a million years. For context, I finished my first year with a 2.6 gpa and got diagnosed with adhd this past summer. I started medication over the summer and my university went back in person this year which made things so much better. It wasn’t easy but life is so much better now with the right accommodations and medications. I can understand what I’m learning in class, I have the motivation to study for exams, and I can focus during lectures. I can’t say it’s easy now, I still have to work twice as hard as other students to do but for the first time in a long time I have goals and aspirations for my future and my career.
To any other university/college students struggling out there undiagnosed, it does get easier and you aren’t alone. If anyone wants to talk feel free to message me.
Anyways I just wanted to share this success with you folks here!
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2021-12-19T05:16:50.000Z
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rjpmfk
| 1
| 20
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ADHD
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Finished my term with a 4.0
| 0.95
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpmfk/finished_my_term_with_a_40/
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slushiiiee
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There’s just so many things to do and so many things in general. I just feel like there is not enough time in the day to do everything I wanna do. Like most people have a phone—how the fck can you be bored with a phone in your hand???????? A phone has access to all the information and videos and pictures and games and stories and LITERALLY ANYTHING on the planet.
I just don’t understand. That’s all.
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2021-12-19T05:16:07.000Z
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rjpm1b
| 5
| 7
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ADHD
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I do not understand how people get bored
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpm1b/i_do_not_understand_how_people_get_bored/
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UltimateGamer3000
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I sometimes read posts on both of the ADHD reddits I know about but I often refuse to blame things on my ADHD out of fear that everything will become an "ADHD thing" or that ADHD will become a personality if not my only personality trait. Yeah a lot of things are ADHD things but not all of them are and if I don't draw a line there will be no line but I get the feeling I've drawn it too close and that's a thing I feel it's easy for people like me to fall into. In avoiding one trap, I dove face first into another.
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2021-12-19T05:09:44.000Z
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rjpi6e
| 1
| 1
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ADHD
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I feel like one of the easiest ADHD traps I fall into is the one I'm the most aware of.
| 0.99
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpi6e/i_feel_like_one_of_the_easiest_adhd_traps_i_fall/
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nowheremansaloser
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I've struggled to make friends all my life. Time and time again I'll meet someone, hyperfocus on them, get bored, and move on. And it sucks.
I've never had a girlfriend my entire life and I'm nearly 19 and I've never even had my first kiss, let alone lost my virginity. I have 4 close friends that I've known 5+ years now and haven't made any more in that time.
It's gotten to the point now where I actively avoid any new friendships or potential relationships because I've let people down in the past.
So to anyone who's been more successful in this field than me, how the damn hell do I make friends and make connections with people that last?? Because right now I don't think I've ever felt more lonely.
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2021-12-19T05:05:07.000Z
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rjpfh0
| 1
| 10
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ADHD
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How do you guys make friends?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjpfh0/how_do_you_guys_make_friends/
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A-Rainbow-Birb
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I find it really interesting, and I have been pondering the universe since I was 5. It's so crazy that the universe goes on FOREVER! Like, it never ends, but how....I mean FOREVER!??? Wow, just wow, I can barely wrap my head around it!!! Anyhow, onto the [color theory](https://www.livescience.com/21275-color-red-blue-scientists.html), what if I see blue, but you see my red??? I mean.......but how......what if we're just taught that this color is red and this color is blue, but in reality we are seeing totally different colors? So no one would be able to tell without looking through our eyes! And then they'd be like, 'oh. oh no. you must be colorblind.', but in reality ITS JUST THEIR COLORS!!! Wow wow wowity wow. Crazy!!!
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2021-12-19T04:56:10.000Z
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rjp9y0
| 88
| 135
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ADHD
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What if my 'red' is your 'blue', and the universe goes on FOREVER!!!???
| 0.86
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp9y0/what_if_my_red_is_your_blue_and_the_universe_goes/
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A-Rainbow-Birb
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2021-12-19T04:53:51.000Z
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rjp8jk
| 1
| 1
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ADHD
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Anyone else obsessed with the 'what if my red is your blue' thing?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp8jk/anyone_else_obsessed_with_the_what_if_my_red_is/
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2021-12-19T04:48:11.000Z
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rjp58t
| 1
| 1
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ADHD
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People who don't believe in ADHD are the worst
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp58t/people_who_dont_believe_in_adhd_are_the_worst/
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A-Rainbow-Birb
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2021-12-19T04:43:53.000Z
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rjp2qc
| 1
| 1
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ADHD
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Do you think I have ADHD? It is a large possibility, my doctor says, however, my dad doesn't want a 'sick' child, so I can't get a diagnosis. I also have a really bad reaction to ADHD meds (I took them for tics but had to stop as my legs got so numb I could barely stand). Please help!
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp2qc/do_you_think_i_have_adhd_it_is_a_large/
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Geek-Girl-Fi
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Okay, I’m 36 years old and diagnosed with ADHD.
I was given meds for a while, but they’re controlled drugs in this country and I have not been able to go back on them, I was told they’re a temporary solution.
This makes life extremely hard, and I need to drink a lot of coffee to be able to do anything.
That would normally be fine, but over the past few years I’ve developed endometriosis and I’m quite sure the coffee is not helping the severe pain.
Is there anything anyone knows of apart from coffee or temporary medicine that helps with this?
I’m wasting my life staring at walls all day.
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2021-12-19T04:42:58.000Z
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rjp27h
| 13
| 3
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ADHD
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Coping without medicine
| 0.81
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp27h/coping_without_medicine/
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All-gods-are-dead
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2021-12-19T04:40:13.000Z
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rjp0ju
| 3
| 1
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ADHD
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What does ritalin feel like?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjp0ju/what_does_ritalin_feel_like/
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MasonP13
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We'll be watching TV, and suddenly I'm just leaning for a hug, because brain goes "hug time" and like, I'd rather just enjoy the movie and not annoy my so about any of it.
I've taken focalin in the past, but went off it because the anxiety it created was weird, but I sometimes feel like I should just constantly be medicated
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2021-12-19T04:30:45.000Z
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rjoup7
| 5
| 2
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ADHD
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How to stop fidgeting? NSFW, how to stop wanting to just hug my SO constantly?
| 1
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjoup7/how_to_stop_fidgeting_nsfw_how_to_stop_wanting_to/
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