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opticalstuff
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To me, it seems like the best way to deal with that issue is to develop a dialogue about it where, when I don’t have all my feelings completely in order, I can remind myself “I don’t know all my feelings right now” and with mindful meditation I can make peace with that fact. Then, hopefully, I can gradually start to designate those feelings because they’ll be in a box labeled “I don’t know yet” rather than “bakfhworusjsiejfnsifuendnsks”.
Does this plan check out? How do y’all experience this?
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2021-12-19T04:29:12.000Z
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rjotob
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ADHD
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Talk to me about the whole “having trouble recognizing and labeling our feelings” thing. That’s a new one for me but it checks out. How do y’all handle it?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjotob/talk_to_me_about_the_whole_having_trouble/
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amazingmeag11
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I am switching from a day job to a night job, so I started taking my medicine tonight instead of this morning. I’ve had indigestion, nausea, and near-vomiting. Is it possible that is from taking the Adderall at a different time than my body is use to, or could it be something else? I was fine all day until I took my medicine.
Does anyone have any advice on how to make this transition a little smoother?
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2021-12-19T04:26:14.000Z
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rjos1x
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ADHD
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Adderall and Changing Shifts
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjos1x/adderall_and_changing_shifts/
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kitkat_splat
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For context: I get really difficult food obsessions where I want and will only eat a very specific meal for weeks on end. Yes, sometimes I do eat other food for meals but i’ll get it in my head that for lunch I want grilled cheese and tomato soup and I truly will just not eat if it isn’t that specific food. Like I just can’t break myself and so often I spend money I shouldn’t just to have this specific food over and over again. What does everyone else do? TIA
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2021-12-19T04:17:09.000Z
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rjomlu
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ADHD
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How to cope with food obsessions? What are your tips/tricks?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjomlu/how_to_cope_with_food_obsessions_what_are_your/
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Longhorn89
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I just finished bingeing the second season of The Witcher after two years of waiting. Very few things catch my interest the way a great movie or book series does and when I finish it, I feel so empty.
To make matters worse, I feel that my hyper focus and special interests are too-niche to continue finding new sources. For example, I really loved ACOTAR and a few other serious like it, but very few authors write in this “new adult” category because it’s a relatively new genre of fiction. Furthermore, I prefer new adult fantasy/high fantasy with some spice. But it has to be a keep-you-up-all-night-reading kind of book. It also has to be very character focused. Things that do fall into my category: ACOTAR series, The Witcher, Guild book series, From Blood and Ash series
Things that do not fall into my category: Harry Potter (too young for me), Lord of the Rings (too cold and political for me), Game of Thrones (too plot-driven and political for me)
The best way I can describe the let down is…grief and borderline depression. I should not feel similar levels of empty as to when I lost my dear grandmother when I finish a BOOK OR MOVIE. God I feel so out of control of my own brain chemistry. I’m even medicated so I’m not sure what else I can do help myself.
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2021-12-19T04:16:08.000Z
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rjom02
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The Big Let Down
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjom02/the_big_let_down/
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Pleasant_Issue
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30 year old with ADHD. Have finally had enough of it and started vyvanse with high hopes. Day one was amazing. Took it at 7:30 am. And when 2:00 rolled around it felt like I had hit a wall or came down really hard.. day 2 is exactly the same. Great for 8 hours (hear it’s supposed to last 12) and then super tired and flat and just - almost depressed! It’s weird. Is this normal? Would upping the dose eventually make
It last longer and like.. get me to bed time!? Pretty weirded out I’m NEVER this tired. I realize it’s super early on just looking for some words of wisdom/ advice / info. I’m 185 lbs 6ft if that helps with the dosage question.
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2021-12-19T04:15:48.000Z
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rjolrw
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ADHD
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Day 2 of 20mg vyvanse.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjolrw/day_2_of_20mg_vyvanse/
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Alliedoll42_42
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How do you balance a relationship, responsibility, your own interests, time with a teenage son and a job? It's hard because I spent the entire day doing my own reading challenge today but in the evening my husband didn't want to talk. He's got a cold, so I get that, but I had spent the entire day alone doing my own thing. And he's totally not into the reading challenge thing. But when I ask what he wants to do or talk about it's I want to play the game I'm playing and I'm not here to entertain you. And it's like cool but I spent hours today alone.
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2021-12-19T04:15:38.000Z
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rjolo1
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How much is too much attention?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjolo1/how_much_is_too_much_attention/
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ArrozConTomate
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If you like marvel comics + have planning issues:
I love the MCU so I'm trying to read marvel comics, but it takes so much effort!!! I feel like I spend more time looking for the correct order of the events / tie ins / single shots than what it takes to actually read them, so I end up not doing anything and procrastinate it.
I tried the Marvel subscription but the app is so chaotic + not helpful when it comes to following chronological order.
It's infuriating but every other marvel fan doesn't seem to have an issue about it. I guess it's the ADHD lol. How do you organize your readings?
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2021-12-19T04:11:04.000Z
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rjois3
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ADHD
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Planning to read marvel comics take so much time.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjois3/planning_to_read_marvel_comics_take_so_much_time/
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Kiloura
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2021-12-19T04:07:40.000Z
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rjogrg
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ADHD
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Is 'Scattered Minds' still a valuable read in 2021/2022?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjogrg/is_scattered_minds_still_a_valuable_read_in/
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MatchingRacer
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I zone a lot when it comes to focusing (obviously) but I think the funniest times are when I’m really trying to concentrate but I can see something as small as a fly pass by and all my attention will go to the fly. Then I start thinking well flies produce maggots which make more flies and where do all these flies go? They must be like bees who have a hive and we’ll bees make honey which goes on pancakes and pancakes are made from flour. Flour comes from wheat and wheat is grown by farmers. Farmers have cows and cows give milk to give to their calf….. calf, calve I have calves, come to think of it today is leg day. Dang I don’t wanna go to the gym but gotta get swole like Arnold. Arnold was in terminator with the robots and stuff wonder if that would ever happen. Then all of a sudden it hits me that someone is still talking to me and I find it funny but yeah it’s a hassle sometimes haha.
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2021-12-19T04:04:40.000Z
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rjoevx
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ADHD
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Funny zoning out stories?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjoevx/funny_zoning_out_stories/
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suadabdellatif
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I have struggled with adhd my whole but I never wanted to feel abnormal so I resisted reaching out for help. But I just transferred to a rigorous college and adhd has taken over my life. I can’t function like a normal human being and it’s very hard for me to do everyday tasks. I nearly failed my classes at one point because of extreme procrastination and avoidance. I finally decided to see my doctor because I didn’t think I could handle another 2 quarters like that. She had me do a depression and anxiety questionare which I got a 21 on which is severe depression. She wouldn’t believe that I wasn’t depressed and that the reason I’m having such a hard time coping isn’t because I’m sad or down in general it’s because my brain is at war with me. I’m normally a very happy person, school and social interaction has just been very hard for me lately because I’m overwhelmed. She prescribed antidepressants and told me that they would help me focus and motivate me but they didn’t and instead I actually feel dead inside. I have an appointment with the psychiatrist she referred me to but he’s a specialist in depression and I have a feeling he’s going to say that same thing. I feel like I’m never going to get the right diagnosis and I’m very frustrated.
To be clear the reason I think I have adhd is because I have all the textbook symptoms of it and my mother who’s a special Ed teacher recognized the symptoms in me as a child but didn’t believe in medicating children.
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2021-12-19T03:58:59.000Z
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rjoaxr
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ADHD
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My doctor thinks I have depression and she doesn’t believe that I have ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjoaxr/my_doctor_thinks_i_have_depression_and_she_doesnt/
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domisoptimistic
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So being online last year really messed me up good when it comes to getting work done and staying in the moment in class now that I'm back in person. Going from relatively coasting by online to being rushed by piles of work and all these tests at once is just causing me to get so burnt out on assignments. If I take a day off to try to catch up, I just spend the day worrying about the assignments and waste the day on YouTube. The Pomodoro method's kind of working for me, and I do well when I do my homework at the library, but I still struggle to do all of homework that I need done at once. I still have six months left in school, and I feel like I'm gonna crumble already (and that's before finals and AP exams). I've just completely lost my motivation. I'm so enmeshed with the internet and a lot of my assignments are on there; it's just so easy to switch tabs and fool around instead of working. I'm seeing the neurologist on Monday and I'm hoping to get on a med plan, but I know that pills aren't going to magically fix everything. What should I do?
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2021-12-19T03:56:14.000Z
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rjo98a
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ADHD
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senior year burnout - advice for me?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo98a/senior_year_burnout_advice_for_me/
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2021-12-19T03:54:56.000Z
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rjo8ge
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7 pharmacies in a row, none will fill my ℞ 😭
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo8ge/7_pharmacies_in_a_row_none_will_fill_my/
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ADHDfueledinsanity
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**TL;DR:** My parents don\`t think my ADHD effects me very much and my dad has actually told me so.I\`ve been doing very bad in school and I think It\`s due to untreated by diagnosed ADHD but because my parents don\`t think it effect me I have no way to receive treatment because I can\`t afford to get a rediagnosis. Also not sure if it\`s ADHD or just that I\`m probavbly not veery smart.
I(18F) have been diagnosed with ADHD as well as anxiety since I was 5 years old due to the fact I had very extreme, stereotypical ADHD symptoms which led to getting a diagnosis at a young age.
For some backstory, I was put on Ritalin immediately which made everything 10x worse so I was quickly taken off of it and have been unmedicated since. my parents have tried a lot over the years, including finding out that caffeinated teas tended to help a lot. so if I was at church and misbehaving or generally acting " too energetic" for sunday school teachers, my parents would usually give me herbal tea to calm me down. It worked well. that same church also had a church school which never had any more than 40 students at a time and I attended until 8th grade. We have left the church due to it becoming a very toxic enviornment and are now in a great church who is very accepting and loving to anyone who walks through their doors.
I also did therapeutic riding lessons when I was 7 - 9 and still ride to this day. I own three horses and they help tremendously. I was also bullied so badly I was in therapy for that and ADHD for a short time though I don\`t remember how long.
I was bullied in that school for many things, which also extended to teachers not understanding ADHD. I was often talked down to, treated as if I was dumb, and my math teacher even would move me from the classroom to the sanctuary and leave me there if she felt I was too distracted to give me " A quiet place to work" which didn\`t ever help, and It turns out I\`m 99% now that I have dyscalculia.
due to all of these factors I quickly learned to mask many of my symptoms leading my parents to believe that my ADHD wasn\`t that bad anymore and "fading" in a way. So if they get mad at me for something that I can\`t help or force myself to do, I can\`t say that it\`s ADHD related because they won\`t listen.
I did an online high school program that was easy and I was able to go my own pace, and when I took tests was because of this I finished Highschool in December 2020 instead of the normal May 2021. in the fall of 2019 I started Dual enrollment college classes, which turned online in 2020.
I ended up failing every single online college class I took, no matter how much I tried. I always started off well, telling myself I would pass and do well, but after a month or so I would fall behind and keep going downhill. with angry parents who kept insisting I take more classes because " You\`re lazy! you just don\`t want to do the work. you can make yourself do it. It\`s online, its easy." I was put on academic suspension for spring 2021 because of my low grades in both spring and fall semesters of 2020. My mom forced me to take a summer class summer 2021to catch up and since It would be the last free(minus cost of required textbooks, had to pay for those). class I could take before becoming a full college student. I , of course, failed it. My parents told me they planned on helping be out a little bit with college, but because of failing they didn\`t want to waste their money on me in case I were to just keep failing.
I know it\`s probably my mostly my fault and not as much of an ADHD thing, but I want to try to get treated just to see if it will make any difference.
I finally took two in person classes and two online classes for this fall semester, and not surprisingly I failed again. every class. I\`m most frustrated with my biology class because it\`s with a professor I had previously in 2019. he was well known, even by other staff(we complained about him at that time and my financial advisor said they have received a few complaints about him previously. also has a low score on rate my professor) to be a nice teacher but one who grades incredibly harshly. his classes all consistently had a class average of C, and I don\`t think anybody in my class that year had anything above a B. both classes I had with him, the student dropout rate was high. this semester I believe more than half of the class dropped it.
However I did fantastic in lab, which had a different instructor who was awesome and tried to do his best at helping us to actually learn the material and I and on scored well on all of my tests in lab, especially the final, receiving a B on it, yet I failed the whole biology final. doing well in lab though wouldn\`t help me in the long run. I still failed.
One day, when I was in the car with my dad he asked how my classes were going and I didn\`t want to lie even though I knew how he\`d react. I told him they were going okay(I wasn\`t failing bio yet) but that I was failing math, which he knows I\`m bad at. he sighed and told me that If I kept failing my classes I could never become a vet. He told me he wasn\`t trying to be mean about it, but it was the truth and I couldn\`t expect to be able to transfer from the community college to my dream school with bad grades.
Previously, with discussions about my poor grades after I\`ve walked away I\`ve heard hurtful things my parents have said that I wasn\`t meant to hear. including " You know it\`s going to take her like four years to get a two year degree, right?" I know what they\`re saying is true but it still crushes me that they\`ve probably given up on me getting anything higher than an associates. they\`ve told me that I don\`t have to go to vet school but that I still had to not give up and finish my associates in science, which is what I planned to use to transfer to my dream college. I\`ve wanted to be a vet since I was little, but now, I\`m giving up too.
​
I went for a regular visit with my Dr. for the first time by myself(my mom still showed up because I was nervous to go by myself but we drove separate bc I had to come straight from work.) and when she asked about my ADHD, if I was on anything for it, my mom told her that no, I wasn\`t, and that I had my ADHD under control and that it wasn\`t that bad anymore.
once my mom left I told the DR about my concerns and that I wanted a rediagnosis because the last time I had an ADHD related appointment I was maybe 10. she told me I should talk to my parents about getting rediagnosed anyways because of insurance not covering it and it being expensive.
I don\`t think it will work, and my biggest fear is talking to my parents and them telling me that I was fine and didn\`t need to get rediagnosed.
my college has a disabilities center, and I have looked into it but there isn\`t much they can do if I don\`t have a doctors note from the last 4 years, and some teachers on the first day of class have gone over the syllabus and straight up said that if we needed any accommodations due to disabilities that we couldn\`t talk to the professor about getting them, we had to go through the disabilities center first.
I\`m really at a loss here. is it worth it to continue going to college if I can\`t even pass classes?
My parents haven\`t once stopped and thought there could be any other explanation for my grades dropping, only that I just didn\`t want to put in the work or that I was choosing to focus on 4H and those educational competitions than I was for schoolwork, even when I have tried to explain that I can\`t just choose to want to do school work and when I can finally manage to get motivated, it doens\`t last long.
I work two jobs at two horse farms that I enjoy, and I make enough money to pay for the things I need to such as gas and car insurance(been paying since I was 16) and my phone bill, as well as had financial aid(from being in the dual enrollment program) for this semester but lost it for Spring semester due to grades. so I could pay for clsses this semester. My car broke down a few weeks ago and I still owe my dad back for him paying to get it fixed, so I can\`t really afford to keep going to classes. I haven\`t told my parents that I don\`t have financial aid this coming semester and I\`m terrified of what they\`ll say.
​
I apologize for such a long post, but I\`m tired and frustrated, and at this point I can\`t tell if it\`s just because I\`m not a very smart person or if ADHD is the problem.
If it\`s something I love (Like poultry or horses) I can easily info dump for hours on it because I\`ve read all the books, watched all the videos or just experienced them firsthand, but I can\`t even pass a class that\`s sort of hard.
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2021-12-19T03:54:10.000Z
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rjo80i
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Advice? Untreated ADHD is effecting school and no way to get treatment
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo80i/advice_untreated_adhd_is_effecting_school_and_no/
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2021-12-19T03:54:04.000Z
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rjo7yk
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ADHD
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Extreme divergent thinking
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo7yk/extreme_divergent_thinking/
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MatchingRacer
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2021-12-19T03:50:27.000Z
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rjo5m5
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Anyone Else
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo5m5/anyone_else/
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emhelen1121
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Hi. I’m 21 year old female. I was diagnosed as a child and I took medicine as a child. But we discontinued the medicine when I hit teen years because it made my anxiety worse.
Recently- it has occurred to me that I could probably try it again, as dealing with adhd on my own is so exhausting and difficult.
So I’m gonna be starting out on a low dose (lol obviously). And I will be study lung abroad when I do so. I’m really excited about going abroad, but I’m worried about my adhd symptoms getting in the way.
So I guess my question is- is a low dose effective in any significant way?
Or will it like only help a little bit in small quantities?
Idk. It has been so long since I have taken adhd meds so I don’t really remember how much it affected me
Thanks
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2021-12-19T03:50:04.000Z
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rjo5cd
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ADHD
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Question about low dose of medicine?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo5cd/question_about_low_dose_of_medicine/
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ChrisC1234
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I saw [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rj707b/my_best_adhd_tip_when_you_get_your_prescription/) regarding refilling ADHD medication prescriptions, and it inspired me to post my own tip. That tip won't personally work for me, but mine works just fine.
For whatever reason (not sure if it's state law, pharmacy policy, or insurance policy), but I can only refill my prescription 3 to 5 days before the end of my current supply (I also get 90 days at a time, not that it matters). Because of problems I've had with going out of town, prior authorization issues, and general pharmacy hours, I've come up with my own system.
I don't take my medication every day. There are periodic days where I don't take it, such as holidays, vacations, or any other day where there is no benefit for me to take it. (Honestly, I prefer being unmedicated when on vacation.) So any day I choose not to take my medication, I move a pill to my "safety stash". If there's ever a day that arises that I want to take 2 doses, the second dose come out of my safety stash. I've probably got about 2 weeks worth in my safety stash now. It makes it much easier for me knowing that I don't get in a bind if a prior authorization or anything else prevents me from filling my prescription when I should be able to.
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2021-12-19T03:48:36.000Z
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rjo4cy
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Another ADHD Prescription Pro Tip
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo4cy/another_adhd_prescription_pro_tip/
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StrangerIsDead
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i’m a self proclaimed “peaceful person”.
i don’t like violence in any way. but there was this one kid at school who pissed me off, so much to the point where i punched him square in the face, something i thought i’d never do.
it felt… good.
it gave me a sense of power i’m not used to.
now, every time someone annoys me ever so slightly, i have the urge to punch them, square in the face. i just need that winning high again.
i’m genuinely scaring myself and don’t know what to do, any tips for breaking mental habits like this?
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2021-12-19T03:44:06.000Z
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rjo1hs
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habits. (and how to deal with them)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo1hs/habits_and_how_to_deal_with_them/
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RemixHipster
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My day was going great, I ate breakfast, I cleaned my backyard, went out got gifts for my family, cooked for my dogs, watched anime and enjoyed a nice lunch.
But then...
I decided to venture on social media and I glanced at some old friends having a blast with out me tonight, I haven't been invited to the last 3 trips they went on... I let that ruin my day. :(
I don't know why it's getting to me. My whole mood is sad and panicky now.
It's only 7pm and I think I'll force myself to sleep, and wake up to a new day.
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2021-12-19T03:42:40.000Z
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rjo0k6
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You ever go to sleep early and try again tomorrow?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo0k6/you_ever_go_to_sleep_early_and_try_again_tomorrow/
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Margaret205
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I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was a toddler and I continue to show symptoms of it today. However, before COVID, I was pretty good at masking the symptoms, finding motivation, and maintaining a reasonable schedule. However, after COVID hit, everything fell apart and suddenly I haven’t been able to get reasonable sleep or find the motivation to do the most basic things. I doubt it’s depression or anxiety since my mood hasn’t really changed, but when I talk to my neurotypical friends, they either were unaffected or more motivated as a result of the pandemic. I’m just curious if this is something associated with ADHD or if it is something else.
Sorry for formatting. I’m on mobile.
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2021-12-19T03:42:31.000Z
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rjo0go
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Why did Covid kill my drive so hard
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo0go/why_did_covid_kill_my_drive_so_hard/
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2021-12-19T03:42:05.000Z
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rjo07p
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How to stop hyper focusing?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjo07p/how_to_stop_hyper_focusing/
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legalisefreedom
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Pretty much the title, i’m in 30mg vyvanse and it is really really helpful in all aspects of my life but it has severely reduced my appetite and i’ve been feeling sick and lightheaded cos i just can’t eat food.
Anyone else have this conundrum? I don’t want to stop taking it because it works so well but obviously need to eat.
Does anyone have any recommendations on what to do? I’ve also tried Ritalin and I had the same appetite problem on that too.
Any suggestions are appreciated.
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2021-12-19T03:29:37.000Z
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rjns0n
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Medication helps so much but side effects are so annoying
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjns0n/medication_helps_so_much_but_side_effects_are_so/
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thedrtummyfart
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2021-12-19T03:24:51.000Z
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rjnp16
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Do you have an issue understanding what time it is by looking at an analogue clock?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjnp16/do_you_have_an_issue_understanding_what_time_it/
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oto379
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M,24. This should be very long but I will try to keep it as short as possible. I made so many edits though, it might not make sense anymore, so I apologize in advance.
I do not remember most of my past, but as I was told I was an active, sensitive, loving kid. What I remember is that I had troubles learning things at school, I struggled with math, learning things by heart, labeled lazy and so on, but I never really made trouble, always behaving and not causing a problem (now I am a huge people-pleaser who can’t say no and often gets taken advantage of, while being conscious about it). Looking back, I think I tick most of the boxes on Inattentive ADHD, since I am not really hyperactive, on the contrary even, 24/7 tired and fatigued, quite sluggish. But on top, I can’t get myself to do anything, other than lie around, overthink about this or just do nothing on the internet, have this small bursts of focus that fades and whatever I’ve read or seen is soon forgotten. Anything but doing something to make my situation any better.
Long story short, I managed to high finish school, with major depressive episodes, anxiety, bullying, trauma + help from tutors and family. Somehow me complaining about not being able to study well, that my memory was horrible and slowly became an outsider and avoidant went unnoticed. Fast forward to university, it was okay, I was in the same group with my close friends from school. I had help from them in terms of note-taking (I can’t manage to do that and listen at the same time), group studies and so on. Ironically I was getting better scores than them, despite them doing most of the work and me cramming it in 1 day, because otherwise I would forget the material anyways. The thing is though, I feel like I do not learn anything, like almost nothing stays with me. Memories, details, friendships, even the relationships I have, it’s like these depth-deprived facts, barely. I sometimes feel super weird, like I don’t miss anyone or feel anything meaningful towards anyone. Especially now, when I am alone and far away from everyone, it’s nothing. Like, at some point, life became too much and I am numb since, on a survival mode, always anxious and in an out of depressive cycles. Mostly because I am bad at everything, with crappy memory, no social skills or any skills whatsoever. I can’t even work see myself working somewhere that requires focus, working brain and socialization. Sometimes I think that maybe I hit a brick wall in childhood and was not properly developed. Like I am aware of how bad I it all is, but that makes it all worse. I have really simple and short thought process and verbalization, low emotional reactivity and no motivation.
I managed to get accepted to a highly rated French university with a scholarship in a scientific program. Me, who barely grasps anything complex, unaware of how life works, or how to be normal in social situations. I can’t even manage to cook or organize my room, get ready properly and on time. Constantly confused.
From teenage years, every year I thought it would be it (periodic depressive episodes), like I couldn’t do it anymore and that was it, somehow I managed to go on. This research-oriented science program totally broke me though. I lasted a month until I broke down and dropped everything. I couldn’t listen to any lecture, had zero energy and motivation to study afterwards, had serious social anxiety during presentations. Forgot everything I knew before, felt like an imposter among young, motivated and thirsty-for-knowledge people. It got so bad I tried to end it, yet again, but failed because I am a coward. And while emotionally numb and not feeling much, I felt bad for my family and friends. I ended up in the psych hospital for 2 months, diagnosed straight away with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety. The only English speaking doctor (well, intern) here doesn’t specialize in learning disabilities or ADHD. She performed Connors test and DIVA 2.0, sent the results to the clinic that actually specializes in it, but got a response that they can’t help me due to the language barrier. They say it is likely, but can’t confirm or deny anything. My doctor here also said it is unlikely I have it because I am not hyperactive and my mother’s subjective evaluation of my childhood doesn’t meet the threshold… Now I feel lost. Most of my life I knew something was not right. Coming from a 3rd world country where there is a stigma around psychiatry and adult ADHD doesn’t exist, I thought I would figure it out here. What’s worse, I avoided and ghosted everyone, uni people, friends, family, but I do not know what to tell them, how to explain that I am a failure (2nd year in a row, btw). I basically don’t reply to people, disappeared. Not that I had many friendships and connections going. It is really hard to keep up with everything and even this small circle is overwhelming and too much sometimes. I can never understand how can people do so much at the same time. Like, study, have a social life, work and keep up with life.
Apart from terrible memory, I struggle with paying attention, expressing feelings and emotions, expressing myself verbally, executive dysfunctions like planning and management, multitasking, focus and time-blindness, avoiding complex tasks and dropping everything, impulsive decisions, like buying unnecessary things online while basically broke or terrible sexual decisions and regrets; also mindlessly scrolling social media and watching stupid stuff to distract myself.
I still struggle to accept my sexuality, eating disorder (my doc here also said that if I can control it myself and managed to mostly recover, ir was not and ED to begin with? WTF…) and low-self esteem.
At this point I don’t know if I am just lazy and dumb, or I need help. I know that people have it worse than me and somehow manage to “do life”, study and be successful. The thing is, I can’t and right now I feel hopeless. There is more to tell, but I rambled enough already.
I just think that depression and anxiety only do not explain all my struggles. Or, they are so severe that cause such a high dysfunction and problems…
As regards to medications, I am currently on Venlafaxine and Seresta, I do not see much change, apart from being less anxious. They even performed and MRI brain scan, since I was insisting it was not normal to be like this at my age, plus I had a history of several traumas and a seizure. The results were fine, my brain is just fine, lol.
Now I am avoiding to talk to my family and friends, I do not want to go back to my country, which is a toxic environment due to different complex reasons, also feel like I don’t belong… Currently messing up my future, getting in debt, but doing nothing, just laying around waiting for who knows what. I know I can’t manage to go back to my Grad program, at least like this. Likely never, I have too high of a gap in terms of knowledge and skills/motivation/ethics just to survive this level of education. The thing is, I do not know what else to do, I feel like I am just breathing lately. And it is getting worse, I feel like I have serious case of dementia at 24. I just don’t see the reason to even try and keep going at this point. I feel too broken mentally. I do not want to go back to my safe bubble, because my family won’t accept the true me, which I can’t even fully accept myself. I do want to live and be normal, but I can’t and can’t even force myself to actually get myself together and do something for a change. I just thought a diagnosis and maybe mix of therapy, medication and coping strategies would help, even acquired late. But I got nowhere, just lost months of my life to be told I am depressed and given medication that might be even making it all worse.
I do not know why I wrote all this, just wanted to let it all out and maybe get some advice from people who can relate. Thanks in advance if you made it all through. Any advice or thoughts are highly welcome.
TLDR; is basically the title.
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2021-12-19T03:24:22.000Z
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rjnoqi
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Feeling lost and invalidated. Struggles of getting diagnosed in France as a foreigner. Depression, anxiety and maybe ADHD-I, SCT, or just hopelessly dysfunctional?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjnoqi/feeling_lost_and_invalidated_struggles_of_getting/
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i_faqd_ur_mom
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If you read the symptoms, I have just about every single one. Have been medicated on and off for years. I feel like I have a haze or cloud in my brain that never goes away. I am constantly forgetting to put things away. Never put my keys in the same place etc. She's tired of cleaning up after me and I don't blame her. I'm 100% not doing this on purpose but I feel like she's totally oblivious to the fact that I have a legitimate problem with my brain that simply does not work like hers does. I wish I could remember to do stuff and wasn't so scatterbrained.
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2021-12-19T03:23:37.000Z
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rjno8n
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My wife gets very angry with me instead of being supportive. It's almost like she doesn't believe I have a legitimate brain disorder.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjno8n/my_wife_gets_very_angry_with_me_instead_of_being/
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DiagnosedAt30
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I’ve always been a nanny or have found odd jobs to get by. This was when I was living with my kids great grandparents so it worked fine.
I left the house in the middle of the night as a result of my Impulsive behavior as well as a family member drinking and taking pain pills excessively.
6 months of living in my car I finally found a 9-5(precovid) and got a place.
I worked all through 2020 but had to leave due to a toxic company(auto parts store). Got a new job for a call center selling car parts before I quit the first job(woot wasn’t too impulsive)
2021 half way through after 8 months of being there I went on disability for my anxiety and depression(surprise severe adhd) in the 8 months I had called out 28 days..
Well next month if my medication are figured out I’m going back to work. Curious if you guys have found jobs that work better for your adhd. I’m still with the call center and now of course spend countless nights replaying future situations at work in my head. Wondering if I’ll need to find a new job
So jobs that work well for you?
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2021-12-19T03:22:21.000Z
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rjnncs
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ADHD and jobs
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjnncs/adhd_and_jobs/
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2021-12-19T03:08:33.000Z
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rjnehd
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Adhd and work
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjnehd/adhd_and_work/
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plutopetrichor
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**TLDR at end.**
I think I might have ADHD. When I was younger, I was always kind of forgetful. I procrastinated often and had my head in the clouds. I would speed through books, sometimes getting so engrossed that I couldn’t hear what people were yelling at me. My parents would get mad at me during meals because I’d always get up and run around.
My current symptoms are still similar. I’m forgetful, sometimes I talk too much, I procrastinate (especially on large things), I often go down rabbit holes and get easily obsessed, I’m absentminded, I’m bad with deadlines and appointments, I fidget often, I’m easily bored, and I can’t seem to do things when I want to.
My room is filthy. It takes me so long to do chores. I can’t stand doing nothing at all. I’ve always been a “smart” kid that floated along easily, but I’m in high school now. I’m getting a lot more work that matters, and there are so many projects. So many tasks. It’s overwhelming and makes me feel guilty. I feel like I’m wasting my “intelligence.”
My younger brother also has hyperactive symptoms.
Some of this can be explained by depression, anxiety, screen time, and sleep deprivation, but I think it’s worth asking about ADHD.
How should I talk to my parents about this? Right now, they think I’m just being lazy. They give me simple solutions like “just focus and do your work.” They think I’m sooo smart, but it’s a shame I never use those smarts.
And should I get good sleep and stop using my phone before I ask? Because I know those two factors affect me.
**TLDR: I’ve shown ADHD symptoms since I was young, and I want to ask my parents to take me to a doctor. They
think I’m lazy, so how do I convince them?**
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2021-12-19T03:00:53.000Z
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rjn9m7
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How to bring up possibility ADHD with parents?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjn9m7/how_to_bring_up_possibility_adhd_with_parents/
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Mammoth-Swim1590
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I was wondering what everyones GFR and Creatinine levels are sitting at while taking Adderall IR with one kidney. I've been on the medication for over seven year currently taking IR 25mg daily which I split here and there through out the day if needed. I am currently hovering between a GFR of 63-75 with a creatinine level of 1.28-1.48 depending on how hydrated I am or how much protein I've consumed the night before.
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2021-12-19T02:54:32.000Z
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rjn5he
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Anyone currently on Adderall with one kidney
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjn5he/anyone_currently_on_adderall_with_one_kidney/
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2021-12-19T02:50:13.000Z
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rjn2s3
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Being on ADHD medication with one kidney
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjn2s3/being_on_adhd_medication_with_one_kidney/
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hornybigcok
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I am about to get fully tested for adhd and I think I was tested for it as a child and it came back positive, but no matter what I do I feel like I am just bullshitting myself into believing that I have adhd and use it as an excuse for my self, tho symptoms line up and it explains a lot of things but I just feel like I am bullshitting and I don't really know what to do
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2021-12-19T02:49:08.000Z
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rjn22l
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I feel like I am bullshitting myself about adhd
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjn22l/i_feel_like_i_am_bullshitting_myself_about_adhd/
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2021-12-19T02:48:48.000Z
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rjn1ti
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ADHD Medication with One Kidney
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjn1ti/adhd_medication_with_one_kidney/
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mnatt
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I did a search and saw there are quite a few posts on this website with a lot of mixed feedback.
I have ADHD. I was diagnosed many years ago, but needed a current diagnosis for medication as I was finishing up breastfeeding my second daughter. I don't have much time or money, and it's hard to get in with psychiatrists and it's especially hard to get proper diagnoses for ADHD as an adult woman. I thought, this will be easy. I will build up a medication history and I can transfer it to a real psychiatrist when I have more time and money.
I did get a diagnosis, back in April 2021. But I couldn't commit to weaning my daughter and didn't finish nursing my daughter until November, so I had my first medication appointment November 23.
I was prescribed Adderall and my psychiatrist said that I could always get in touch between appointments if something was up with the medication or I needed an adjustment and told me to make my 30-day follow-up.
At that time, I was literally leaving an abusive relationship and I forgot to call. I also might have mentioned I have ADHD. So I waited almost two weeks to try to schedule the follow-up and they could not get me in until December 28. I pointed out that would be 5 days without medication, and asked if I could just speak to my psychiatrist as this seemed easy to deal fix. The receptionist said she would reach out to my psychiatrist but basically said "your appointment is the 28th."
I did expect my psychiatrist to reach back out. As a psychiatrist, it's your job to manage medication and any problems with it. If you're paying for psychiatric care, that includes the ability to get in touch with your psychiatrist. I heard nothing.
Yesterday I called back and asked again if I could please speak to my psychiatrist to avoid a gap in medication. This time, I actually explained about the abusive relationship, even though it is none of their business. The receptionist would not even attempt to reach my psychiatrist. She told me that it was my fault for not making an appointment sooner, that she understood I had things going on in my life but that everyone does, and that nothing would happen to me if I went cold turkey off my medication for 5 days.
First of all, receptionists should not give medical advice. Second of all, it is not OK for some people to go cold turkey off Adderall, even if they just started it. Third of all, psychiatrists should be reachable.
It's one thing for a place to fuck up a diagnosis. Any psychiatrist could do that and you kind of have to expect it from a place called "ADHD Online." You're taking a gamble because you don't have a better option, like me.
But this seems frankly dangerous to me and I wanted to put it out there. I did notice in looking at the complaints and reviews on Better Business Bureau that I'm not the only person who has been denied access to their psychiatrist and forced to wait for medication.
Clearly, I'm seeking a new psychiatrist immediately, and not one online.
Just wanted to throw out a warning.
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2021-12-19T02:44:12.000Z
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rjmysr
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"ADHD Online" Warning
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmysr/adhd_online_warning/
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2021-12-19T02:43:15.000Z
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rjmy68
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Anyone wants to be university study buddies (body doubling)?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmy68/anyone_wants_to_be_university_study_buddies_body/
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FaithInStrangers94
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The closest thing to an explanation is “what if they reply quickly and I get stuck in a conversation with them?” but they’re supposed to be a friend and also .. so what? just message them for a while?
In some cases someone will ask me when I’m free to meet up and I will leave them hanging for a month or more.
Someone who I actually would like to meet up with as well.
It’s so unexplainable even my psychiatrist wasn’t sure what the reasoning was.
Something about it just seems unduly mentally taxing. And after a few days go by I feel guilty and try to come up with an excuse to why it took me so goddamn long to reply, leading me to avoid it more.
Sometimes I’ll go on a spree and reply to everyone I’ve been ignoring then they’ll reply to me and the cycle repeats.
I’ve had some luck in forcing myself to open the messages and just start moving my finger tips without thinking about it - but it’s ridiculous that it’s come to this.
I have to address this because people these days don’t understand or tolerate it - I’ve lost job opportunities and dates and a few friends because of this. It’s the most damaging part of adhd for me by far.
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2021-12-19T02:40:22.000Z
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rjmwbf
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Why do I literally find it easier to do a workout than reply to a friend?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmwbf/why_do_i_literally_find_it_easier_to_do_a_workout/
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StormcloudAce
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As the title says, I'm trying to clean my room. I'm normally pretty good with it, but I think the main issue I have is trying to "find a place" for everything. I have a lot of little bits and bobbles that I'm not quite sure where they'd go, so I get stuck in the part of my cleaning process when I've picked everything up off the floor, but suddenly that stuff just ends up in a junk box (or boxes) or on my bed. Does anyone have any tips for cleaning up and finding a place for items you're not sure how to categorize/place
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2021-12-19T02:39:12.000Z
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rjmvjc
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Help I'm Cleaning!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmvjc/help_im_cleaning/
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LoveSpiritual
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I don’t know why, but being able to say something like “hey Siri, turn off the living room lights” makes me feel… calm? Like something in the world is simple and within my control? Is this something others feel?
Honestly, since I was a little kid ANY kind of automation has made me feel better. I’ve made a career out of it in software engineering.
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2021-12-19T02:35:53.000Z
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rjmte0
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I get a huge thrill from getting home automation to work
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmte0/i_get_a_huge_thrill_from_getting_home_automation/
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Dear-Wrongdoer8234
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I guess this question is for anyone who didn't grow up with medication or has been off of it recently enough to compare the differences.
Have any of you noticed a change in how you play video games since being medicated?
For me, I used to LOVE League of Legends even though I quit for mental health reasons. I used to win almost every Mariokart race. Overall I used to be at least decent with video games, but since I started Strattera last year I've noticed my performance declined.
It's almost like my thoughts are too slow to make decisions in the moment.
I'm also chronically ill so it could be attributed to my worsening health and/or brain fog, but I'm curious what others have noticed.
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2021-12-19T02:32:26.000Z
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rjmr0d
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Meds affect video game performance?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmr0d/meds_affect_video_game_performance/
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qrimzn
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My situation is very unique, I really did not have any apparent ADHD symptoms until 2.5 years ago. By coincidence I was diagnosed with a sleep disorder which makes me exhausted 24/7 (Idiopathic hypersomnolence). This disorder can often exhibit symptoms of ADHD and thus making the diagnosis of ADHD questionable and hard to distinct. Since that time I've always been unsure if I truly had ADHD and same with my Doctors as when diagnosed, it was not by the best psychiatrist.. I haven't gotten re-diagnosed because of the cost. I just can't afford it. Over time I noticed small things and that I would often feel resonance with the symptoms that people with ADHD speak about. It wasn't until this morning when I saw a post on this sub asking if people felt like they wanted to do so many different things in life and were unable to commit to one thing. It really hit me deep, and at that moment I realised that I unequivocally had ADHD.
The thing is that because of my situation not only has my life and any plans I had laid out changed due to my sleep disorder but now this too (was en route to become a doctor). I have no strategies or practices to manage life with ADHD and the symptoms that come along with it. Like all chronic illnesses there are tips, tricks, strategies and 'life hacks' that make life better and more manageable but I don't know anything and the ADHD is affecting my life negatively. I would really appreciate some advice, resources, and overall knowledge about what steps I can make to improve life and manage the ADHD better.
Tldr: Had the realisation today I unequivocally have ADHD after confusion and uncertainty with another illness that can exhibit ADHD symptoms. Need advice/support to help manage ADHD
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2021-12-19T02:15:35.000Z
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rjmfyf
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I don't know how to manage life with ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmfyf/i_dont_know_how_to_manage_life_with_adhd/
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2021-12-19T02:14:01.000Z
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rjmetc
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ADHD and One Kidney
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmetc/adhd_and_one_kidney/
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2021-12-19T02:13:07.000Z
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rjme8t
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Anyone taking ADHD medication with one kidney?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjme8t/anyone_taking_adhd_medication_with_one_kidney/
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someblondeflchick
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First of all, if you’re exhausted in the morning, start tracking your sleep at night with a app because you could be tossing and turning all night, and still be dead asleep, not aware of it.
But, does anyone else toss and turn all night? Im dead asleep when I do it, but I just wake up SO exhausted and sleep medicine doesn’t do anything for it… I’m on Adderall XR but I only take it in the early morning, and I’m positive it’s not my IR booster because my sleep was WONDERFUL when I used to only take IRs. I’m starting to think this is just a symptom of ADHD lol. There’s no way the XR is staying in my system for 24 hours… does anyone else have this issue??
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2021-12-19T02:12:39.000Z
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rjmdy8
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Tossing and turning all night?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmdy8/tossing_and_turning_all_night/
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2021-12-19T02:09:51.000Z
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rjmc33
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Fidget toys for scratching
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmc33/fidget_toys_for_scratching/
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2021-12-19T02:08:39.000Z
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rjmbbc
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What is your MOST embarrassing ADHD moment?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjmbbc/what_is_your_most_embarrassing_adhd_moment/
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darlin_starling
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hi, so ive been on 2 different adhd meds over the past two months. the first one i tried was concerta, but it made me extremely fatigued, unable to sleep (or stay asleep), paranoia, high heart rate etc// and now im on vyvanse, where im tired all the time still. ive been on different kinds of meds over the past few years for mental illness and am struggling to want to continue. having to take meds makes me feel weak and useless since almost none of mine have had positive effects alongside the negative ones. if you have some time could anyone please share any experience with vyvanse, adhd meds, or just anything like that?
tldr; tell me about your experiences with meds, im losing hope
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2021-12-19T02:06:18.000Z
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rjm9tm
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advice or experience?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm9tm/advice_or_experience/
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2021-12-19T02:04:53.000Z
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rjm8vx
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Tossing and turning all night?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm8vx/tossing_and_turning_all_night/
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2021-12-19T02:04:10.000Z
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rjm8e8
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Best way to ask your doc to increase Adderall dosage without being labeled as drug seeker?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm8e8/best_way_to_ask_your_doc_to_increase_adderall/
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2021-12-19T02:03:02.000Z
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rjm7ln
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Kind of a stupid question that I want to confirm
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm7ln/kind_of_a_stupid_question_that_i_want_to_confirm/
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2021-12-19T01:58:19.000Z
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rjm4be
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Is anyone else an absolute impatient dickhead when they’re off meds?!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm4be/is_anyone_else_an_absolute_impatient_dickhead/
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fairydommother
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I’m not sure where else to ask this.
**TLDR** my skin and often the layer of muscle directly beneath it hurts. Almost all the time. Sometimes my skin is so sensitive a touch feels like it’s burning. Others, a mild tap can feel more like a light punch. It’s not crippling, but the amount of pressure is nowhere near enough to be as painful as it is. It hurts. Can this be related?
**why I think it could be**
1. I’ve heard of SPD being somewhat comorbid with adhd. I have a thing about tags, tight pants, my hair, specific textures, and sounds and light. Things that give me the heebs or that I find unbearable. Maybe this can cause some deeper sensitivity as well?
2. I feel like a read something on here awhile ago about the nervous system being in overdrive in someone with ADHD and that maybe that could cause things to be painful when they shouldn’t?
Hopefully someone has some insight. My husband accidentally kicked me a little as he got off the couch and it hurt so bad…he barely touched me. I finally decided I’d ask about it.
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2021-12-19T01:54:54.000Z
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rjm23n
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ADHD, SPD, and painful skin?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm23n/adhd_spd_and_painful_skin/
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2021-12-19T01:54:09.000Z
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rjm1nj
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Anyone else not feel comedown from Adderall XR?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm1nj/anyone_else_not_feel_comedown_from_adderall_xr/
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2021-12-19T01:53:47.000Z
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rjm1fh
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how to help the comedown depression?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjm1fh/how_to_help_the_comedown_depression/
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2021-12-19T01:48:53.000Z
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rjlycu
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Best advice to not end up on my phone but make something productive instead ?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjlycu/best_advice_to_not_end_up_on_my_phone_but_make/
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No-Necessary4465
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I found it really helpful to learn this simple breakdown of qualities that draw attention and focus: Interest, Challenge, Novelty, Urgency. I first learned about it in the early stages of my current relationship, one that escalated quickly in a super intense way, and it tickled me to realize our relationship checked all four of those boxes for me.
For those of you in successful long-term relationships, I’m curious how you manage to keep engaged with your partner. How many of these boxes do you check, and how do you check them? For us:
Interest: Obviously.
Challenge: He also has mental health challenges but in completely different ways than me. So learning about his mental illness, how it affects him, and how to handle him when he struggles, is very challenging. But it’s a challenge I am up for and he’s never been with someone who is so interested in how his brain works. The plus side is that it created the space for him to be very open and vulnerable with me in ways he hasn’t before. It’s pretty amazing.
Novelty: We met and started dating 5 months ago but I think we will be able to keep the novelty going because we both enjoy going on “adventures” to new, fun places and having deep conversations. And we also enjoy roleplay in the bedroom which was new to me when we started but I realize it’s perfect because it engages my creativity and we can be different people, so built-n novelty.
Urgency: When I first met him he was visiting family and friends for the first time since the pandemic and was planning on going back home (1500 miles away) in a couple months. So there was a built-in sense of urgency because our relationship had an expiration date. Once our connection reached a certain level we spent almost all our free time together. Now he’s back home doing 2 months of career training but is coming home on Christmas Eve and will be living with me. At that point there will be no more urgency but because of the other three I think that will be okay.
I’m interested to hear others’ experiences of how their relationships relate to these four things!
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2021-12-19T01:43:06.000Z
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rjluoy
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ICNU (Interest, Challenge, Novelty, Urgency) in relationships
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjluoy/icnu_interest_challenge_novelty_urgency_in/
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2021-12-19T01:41:58.000Z
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rjltzr
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tell me about your meds
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjltzr/tell_me_about_your_meds/
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2021-12-19T01:41:10.000Z
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rjltj2
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If I ever take my one life, my suicide note would have a passive-aggressive note to my loved ones telling them to be happy I've finally completed a task.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjltj2/if_i_ever_take_my_one_life_my_suicide_note_would/
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Banaanisade
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Hi all. :> I've recently been assessed for autism and ADHD, and fall into criteria for both. I've always suspected autism so I know something about managing symptoms and practicing self-care there, but I never considered ADHD as relevant to me. As a result, I know absolutely nothing about it outside of it being the "can't sit still at school" disorder, or the "daydreams a lot" disorder, neither of which is the problem for me as a 30 years old adult. Rather, I have a larger than necessary array of disabilities, and I'm having a really tough time figuring out what symptoms are relevant to ADHD, and how to help myself take care of myself in that aspect, how to make coping in everyday life easier, what tricks to use for it, or even where I should start looking.
I've scanned the basic resources/wiki for this sub, but my problem is primarily that I don't know which symptoms are associated with ADHD, or at what point I should be looking into medication, or any basic life management skills whatsoever relating to the disorder. Any help would be appreciated - Google insists this is a little boy disorder for kids at school, to be managed by parents. I am not a child and I have to manage myself, so this is of little help.
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2021-12-19T01:40:29.000Z
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rjlt2y
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Basic resources for dummies
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjlt2y/basic_resources_for_dummies/
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abusedkidgrownup
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As the title says, I'm strongly leaning towards asking to use a service like AskSunday as a workplace accommodation.
I'm a 1-man team, and I end up needing to work crazy long hours because of how long it takes me to get through the boring, administrative side of my job like managing my calendar, sending follow up reminders, suddenly remembering looming deadlines, etc.
If you could convince your employer to pay for it, would you try something like this, or maybe a shared personal assistant for a team?
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2021-12-19T01:40:21.000Z
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rjlszw
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Considering trying to use a Virtual Assistant service as an ADHD workplace accommodation. Thoughts?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjlszw/considering_trying_to_use_a_virtual_assistant/
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2021-12-19T01:39:12.000Z
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rjls9b
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Can you get another form of vyvanse?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjls9b/can_you_get_another_form_of_vyvanse/
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YummyOctopie
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Like listening to a ton of music or having on shows or something at all to distract from the constant pounding of thoughts in your head. Like if I don't have anything on it feels like there's a ton of mush in my head and I try to remove all of that by consuming loads of content on in the background to try to drown out whatever is going on in your brain. Sometimes my thoughts get so loud I can't like drown them out which sends me into a panic of sorts. I dunno if anyone else is dealing with this kind of thing and I don't think I can explain it very well but I wanted to know if anyone else was dealing with this kind of thing. It's just really scary and hard to deal with and it makes me feel overwhelmed.
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2021-12-19T01:28:24.000Z
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rjlle1
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I fill my head with content to try to ignore my thoughts (even if it doesn't work)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjlle1/i_fill_my_head_with_content_to_try_to_ignore_my/
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allamma3
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TBH I'm not even really sure what I'm asking for here. I have been suffering for my entire adult life with /something/ I just constantly felt behind and unable to keep up with other people etc. For a long time I thought for sure it was just some form of depression and anxiety, however I always felt it didn't quite fit right. Went to doctor after doctor and had been prescrived anti depressants over and over while I begged them to run more tests because I just /knew/ there was some underlying problem. Only to be continually told I'm perfectly healthy and just try this other antidepressant. They always seemed to help, but only sort of and I still had so many problems keeping up with every day life.
WELL fast forward to basically the past few months and I had stubled upon some ADHD posts on reddit and it was like a damn light bulb lit up and everything, for as long as I can remember, has begun to make sense.
Well I have now joined Cerebral for treatment, because I thought I couldn't see anyone through my insurance. They prescribed me Strattera 25mg and said k see you in a month! Meanwhile I have realized I CAN see a psychiatrist through my insurance and it will be cheaper . So basically I need to make an appt, see a psychiatrist and be properly diagnosed and treated.
Anndddd I literally have thought about nothing else for days and basically have so much anxiety and thoughta/scenarios going that are making it difficult to actually make an appt and follow through.
Meanwhile the Strattera is making me feel so angry and irritable. Some days I feel OKAY and some days I want to rip my hair out and hit people with my car (lol not really but mannn), and some days I just want to sleep all day......
I think I just have no idea what to expect from the entire process for being diagnosed etc and I'm terrified they'll tell me I'm healthy, like all thw other doctors I always see. And I'm just SO sure I do have it, which then makes me question it all too, like I'm not a doctor how would I know..... but jeez I've never felt so understood in my life as I do when i read all the posts here and I've never felt like I understood myself until now.
oh also my mom is severely ADHD also and I was homeschooled my entire life, so thats why i was never diagnosed as a child.
And that was long so thanks to anyone who bothered to read! Basically any advice on how to choose a psychiatrist or anything would be so appreciated, I honestly don't even know where to start...
Also if anyone has taken Strattera, tell me this anger/irritability goes away? I really want it to work but I cannot live like this I swear, I'm usually a much nicer person, this sucks.
When i first realized that I was probably suffering from ADHD I was SO hopeful and just so damn happy to finally have some idea of what was wrong, but now I just feel like I'm at the beginning of a super long and difficult process to actually be diagnosed and treated properly (so thats overwhelming) . And I'm getting married in March and am so upset that I can barely even enjoy the process of planning because of all this
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2021-12-19T01:23:13.000Z
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rjli5t
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Pretty much 150% positive I have suffered from ADHD my entire life. Need to get diagnosed and treated and looking for advice or just help calming my anxiety about the whole process. I kinda just kept typing so sorry about the length.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjli5t/pretty_much_150_positive_i_have_suffered_from/
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2021-12-19T01:18:46.000Z
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rjlf36
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what helps with the adderall comedown?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjlf36/what_helps_with_the_adderall_comedown/
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2021-12-19T01:17:08.000Z
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rjldzd
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adderal and zoloft?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjldzd/adderal_and_zoloft/
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Sooverwinter
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I had the official ADHD testing today. I have multiple doctors saying I have adhd but there’s no meds allowed to be prescribed until the “official” results come in.
I haven’t felt this stupid since I lived at home with my mother and her POS husband and I constantly heard how stupid and worthless I was.
I swear to god I’m smart, but I can’t do mental math. I wasn’t allowed to use a pen and paper and I was given word problems. I couldn’t remember numbers, I couldn’t repeat them back, I couldn’t think of certain words. I could tell her everything about said word except the freaking word itself.
My siblings have adhd. My mom has adhd. My kids have adhd. But me? I’m pretty sure I’m just an idiot who can’t remember so much as a few simple words. All I want to do is go crawl in bed and cry because I feel like a failure. This is even with Strattera.
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2021-12-19T01:06:42.000Z
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rjl6zb
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I feel so stupid after testing.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjl6zb/i_feel_so_stupid_after_testing/
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horizonzdawn
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Does anyone else ٫ when thinking about which city or part of the world to move to..feel indecisive (as per usual) and anxious. Same with career choice٫ way of life٫ way of behaving and being perceived ..I want to be perceived in this way but also in this way..unstable and inconsistent needs
I just feel like any place I could move to would in some way make me feel disconnected or too far apart from the rest of the world..like if I were to live in Madrid٫ Spain٫ I would miss out on being in London and if I were in Paris I would miss out on being in NYC..and with each city there's an anxiety and feelings of being trapped in a way..and stuck and depressed ..empty and not feeling truly at home anywhere٫ everywhere something is missing .
The need to move from one place to another but the fear of change and getting out of your comfort zone as well as general inertia and inability to act...
Where should I live٫ how should I live٫ how can I get my life together if I can't make plan and stick with it without feeling like in some way I'm always going to miss out on something and two parts of me are in conflict with each other ...
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2021-12-19T01:06:38.000Z
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rjl6y1
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Is this an ADHD thing or am I tripping ?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjl6y1/is_this_an_adhd_thing_or_am_i_tripping/
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PrincelingMallow
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TL;DR: I get a strange reaction to certain sounds. It's not unpleasant, but I don't know what causes it.
Ha, this is hard to explain, so bear with me.
I (NB, 30, they/she) am currently pursuing an ADHD diagnosis, but I'm just curious as to whether anyone has any input on this maybe having something to do with ADHD.
Since I was a kid, I'd cry at loud sounds. I'm half-Northern Irish and grew up going to see the bands every July with the Protestant side of my family (I'm an atheist and my dad is Catholic, so it's an interesting way to exist in 90s Northern Ireland... if you know, you know). These are loud, piercing, percussive bands (YouTube it if you're curious!) and, despite eventually realising in my early teens how toxic the whole thing is historically, big bass drums and loud sounds still make me cry.
But not in a bad way.
Often, my sensory overload is just that: a very negative overload that makes me freak out. It happens so much in public that I've developed agoraphobia as a partial result of it.
What I get from certain sounds and music though, is more like sensory ✨satisfaction✨. It's like if that sparkle emoji were a feeling, but with dancing.
My whole body comes alive, the bass of my skull tingles and I get giddy and overwhelmed with feeling. It probably sounds odd 😥 Earlier, I was vacuuming and had my headphones on. A track with heavy bass and dissonant harmonies came on and it was like my head melted and my body needed to move. I ended up having a cry too, because my eyes just well up!
I walked into the kitchen where my partner was making dinner: she had one look at my wet, crumpled face and gave me a cuddle, saying, "Aw, were you listening to loud music again?"
Does any of that make sense? Is it maybe a stimmy thing?
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2021-12-19T01:05:12.000Z
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rjl62m
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So, I cry at loud sounds, but not always in a bad way? It's in a weird "AAAAAH" way.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjl62m/so_i_cry_at_loud_sounds_but_not_always_in_a_bad/
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lzeusy
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I'm gonna try to make this short. But, basically, a few month ago I got diagnosed with anxiety and my psychiatrist prescribed me some antidepressants. When I first tried them they worked wonderfully. But idk now it feels like they're not working anymore. I talked to my therapist and she diagnosed me with adhd pretty recently (which i had already figured since i felt like something was wrong and it wasn't just anxiety). And now i don't know if my anxiety was caused by my adhd or not. If anyone has been in this situation please help bro im feeling lost and losing hope on the medication I'm taking currently. Should I continue taking antidepressants or should i talk to my therapist about taking adhd meds?
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2021-12-19T00:55:32.000Z
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rjkzwc
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Should I try adhd meds instead of antidepressants for my anxiety?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkzwc/should_i_try_adhd_meds_instead_of_antidepressants/
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2021-12-19T00:50:54.000Z
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rjkx2v
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I think ADHD would be a really effective basis for a horror movie.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkx2v/i_think_adhd_would_be_a_really_effective_basis/
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rjku3c
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Tolerance break: what supplements to take and what to avoid
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjku3c/tolerance_break_what_supplements_to_take_and_what/
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PersonPicture
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Hello all , I’ll preface this whole thing with a brief history of my adhd diagnosis. At five yo my mother was told by our Dr. that I had the WORST case of adhd he had ever seen. My mother (wanting what’s best and this whole adhd thing was relatively new around 1993-94 when I was diagnosed) decided to allow the dr. to prescribe me Ritalin. I took the meds until I was aware of exactly what was happening to me in school and my mom asked if I would like to stop the meds. I did because I felt zombified every day in school. A shred of my “organic” personality.
I stopped the meds and began to get targeted by schools who either didn’t have protocol for kids like me or just bad teachers, I was kicked out of every single school after I had stopped the medication. Mostly it was for silly things like being to fidgety or talkative and it’s just the tenth strike and I get the boot.
After high school I sought out help from hopefully new meds on the market and tried the new version of Ritalin I’m forgetting the name atm but it’s generic form was labeled “amphetamine salts” Reading that label being a very paranoid person really set me up for disaster. I took the recommended dose and began FREAKING OUT. I felt like I was going to jump out of my own skin. I was riding passenger in my buddies car on the way to college and I had to make him stop and let me out to roll around in wet grass!!!
My question to any one out there who might understand my problem from personal experience would be has this ever happened to anyone else? Was it dosage or maybe diet that triggered the reaction? I read something posted here today about the feeling of relief after taking meds, like I can finally structure my life without just piles of to do lists all partially complete. I’m so tired guys, I just want to order my mind and life like everyone around me seems to do effortlessly but I am so scared of Willy nilly drs prescribing me basically ******** to call me down. I’m very weary to the motivations of most doctors. Should I get on meds again? Maybe some alternatives ? Idk not sure if this is too much of a rant for this platform I’m sorry if It is I just found it today, read one post and almost cried honestly because it’s what I have been privately battling for a LONG time now as I am turning 33 in January. Thanks
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2021-12-19T00:45:34.000Z
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rjktrp
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New to the sub, kind of desperate
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjktrp/new_to_the_sub_kind_of_desperate/
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rocknroll-tragedy
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Ok, school is over for the semester, and I'm losing my gotdamb marbles. Yesterday I literally did so many menial tasks, I was just *doing things* nonstop until 5AM. I created a fake plasma protein for bioluminescent human blood, made an entire alphabet, coded a Python translator for said alphabet using Turtle, played the new Skyrim update, created a prototype audio filter for musicians and people with APD, watched half a season of Shameless, and completed a stupid game I got from an Instagram ad. I'm physically tired, but my brain dies if I stop doing fucking tasks. Because as soon as I stop doing tasks, my brain goes **AAAAAA** and I start getting exhausted and upset. Currently I'm sitting here with no tasks and no plans for future tasks. And I feel like I'm going insane. I'm literally bouncing up and down like a fucking NPC you need to interact with but haven't yet. Help.
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2021-12-19T00:39:14.000Z
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rjkpqx
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Understimulated 24/7?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkpqx/understimulated_247/
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ProtoFloof
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So I just found this sub today and I've never really dived ibto what adhd really is (I've been diagnosed since I was like 6 or 7) and my partner has really opened my eyes to a lot of things so I thought it'd be cool to see if there's something like this sub out there!
When I first looked thru it i started crying because I felt like I was normal for once around here with all the stories people were sharing, I didn't feel like everything my parents told me i was (lazy, worthless, etc) and it was so nice (before my imposter syndrome kicked in that is) and I want to thank everyone for giving me that feeling!
TLDR because we all have adhd: I've never felt so normal around others until I came here, thank you so much!!!
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2021-12-19T00:36:02.000Z
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rjknr4
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New member!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjknr4/new_member/
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undercover_james
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Yes I did start thinking of this while procrastinating on an essay.
So, I'm in college right now and STRUGGLING with writing/starting essays. The more important they are the more I procrastinate which is definitely an Issue. Here are some of the things I do when I'm having a hard time just starting, hopefully this helps some of you!
1. When you absolute can't start, go for a run around the block or walk up and down a flight of stairs. This will get your blood pumping and dopamine running, especially if you've been wasting away at your desk for a couple hours just feeling bad about not starting. Going for a run will help get rid of some of the anxiety around procrastination by having a physical outlet. I also pace around my room if it's really late.
2. Eat something. Food helps you concentrate, especially if you're doing that ADHD thing where you've completely forgotten to eat for the past couple hours. I like sucking on hard candy and tictacs in particular to help me fidget and get rid of excess energy. I also find that it helps me multitask and distract me enough to start writing.
3. Listen to music. Put on earbuds at max volume, or blast music really loudly if you're alone and aggressively sing along to it. I like “hype” music, with an enough of an upbeat tempo to keep me motivated (but without feeling like I’m gonna have a heart attack) while also being entertaining enough to stimulate all the good stuff in my brain without being distracting. Right now, I really like Glass Animals for this purpose!
4. Just start. Do literally anything to get the ball rolling. Open up your computer, pull up that Google doc, and write your name and title on it.
5. Start from somewhere. Essays can be really overwhelming because it's a lot of work that you have to find the motivation for out of nowhere, but it's easier if there's smaller steps to get into it. I like to ask friends/classmates if I can see their essay so I have a baseline of where to start from, or pull up similar essays I've written before and steal/modify a couple lines from those.
5.5 Use bullet points when you're starting! I find it less intimidating than writing full sentences, because it helps me convey unrefined general ideas by putting something on paper. Bonus points if it's really informal and colloquial. Write the way your brain thinks, and then fix it later.
6. Take regular breaks but set alarms for when they should end. Alarms, plural. I know we all have horrific time blindness here.
7. Remember it doesn't have to be good it just has to be done! This specifically a callout to all my other burntout gifted kids out there. Is this gonna be your best essay you've ever written? Probably not. But you don't need to put 110% of your energy into every thing you do. This essay can have 70% of your energy and still be a decent essay, or 50% of your energy and be a below average essay that still gets a passing grade. Something is always better than nothing. If the fear of failure is what's preventing you from starting, remember that this doesn't need to be a Great Essay, it just needs to be an Essay.
8. If you're starting to have a panic attack/feel like you're gonna die because of a school assignment, go to sleep. Nothing is more important than your health. If it's an assignment that you Absolutely Need to do, physically walk away from your computer and take a deep breath. Then take a break, eat something, or go for a run, until you're slightly more mentally stable enough to keep working.
Put into perspective how important the assignment is! How much of an impact on your grade (and life) does this assignment have? Will it matter in 5 years? Will you even remember it then?
Good luck everyone! If you have any more tips, please leave them in the comments :)
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2021-12-19T00:34:50.000Z
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rjkmyu
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How to write an essay with ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkmyu/how_to_write_an_essay_with_adhd/
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Think-Team5521
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Hello I just started adderall 20 xr 10 days ago. I noticed today my pulse seems high and my anxiety is really bad. I have had muscle twitching and crying spells. When I wake up I have muscle aches. And notice my allergies post nasal drip is bad. When it kicks in the 1st two hours I'm fine . Then I start getting facial flushing I red online this shouldn't be prescribed if you have anxiety.
Is there different medications I can ask Dr. About or do all the adhd medications do this? I just want help with my adhd . I took a tova test but the medication doesn't outweigh my anxiety.
I also have kolonopin but this seems like a contradiction.
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2021-12-19T00:32:56.000Z
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rjklt6
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Adhd and anxiety
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjklt6/adhd_and_anxiety/
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eddez
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When i am alone i feel empty in some ways like i dont feel emotions most of the time. Its mostly only when around friends or when watching certain youtubers or streamers i feel emotionally invested. When i game i dont feel anything the same thing with some movies. It has gotten better overtime as i feel more emotions when alone but other peoples emotions have gotten more complex and i feel like i have a hard time understanding and connecting with others beacuse of that.
I dont know if there is a emotion i dont know about or if this is just in my head beacuse the more i writte about this the better i get in the moment and the more emotions i can feel. Sounds cringe but this is how i feel.
Edit: When i stopped writing i stoped feeling the emotions and started feeling empty
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2021-12-19T00:29:44.000Z
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rjkjru
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I feel empty in some way when alone
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkjru/i_feel_empty_in_some_way_when_alone/
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ProstHund
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2021-12-19T00:27:57.000Z
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rjkipm
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ADHD
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ADHD frustration poetry
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkipm/adhd_frustration_poetry/
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CanaryInALandmine
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I'm sorry to be flooding the subreddit the last few days, but all of this is \_wild\_ to me, and I have a preliminary appointment with my GP on monday to talk about getting a diagnosis.
The point of this post is: Do any of you struggle with travelling, specifically the day of flights. My wife loves to eek everything she can out of a holiday, which means we will often take the last possible flight home on the day we leave. I find those days exhausting. All I can think of is that we have this flight to catch. It doesnt matter that its in 8 hours, its all I can think about. And the last minute shopping or sight seeing she would like to do is so stressful, and I'm constantly checking the time etc. Does anyone else deal with something similar?
While talking about all of this with a friend of mine, she mentioned a story about me, that to her makes way more sense in the light of potential adhd.
1) we moved house when I was maybe... 16.. In fact my parents sold our home, and built anew. Any Time I was shown paint samples to choose what I wanted, i was very indecisive and meh about the whole thing. To the point that my mother just chose for me. I didnt see the paint till it was on the walls, nor the furniture till it was in place. Does this resonate at all?
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2021-12-19T00:24:48.000Z
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rjkgqw
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ADHD
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Travel Day and other potential indicators.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkgqw/travel_day_and_other_potential_indicators/
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Think-Team5521
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2021-12-19T00:24:11.000Z
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rjkgbm
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ADHD
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Adderall side effects and ptsd
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkgbm/adderall_side_effects_and_ptsd/
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JustWannaBeAtPeace
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2021-12-19T00:18:34.000Z
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rjkcuy
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ADHD
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Does anybody have a source on what percentage of people taking ADHD meds (Ritalin or Adderall) become addicted?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjkcuy/does_anybody_have_a_source_on_what_percentage_of/
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Antdogonreddit
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I’m 30M and recently diagnosed (twice) with ADHD, the first time I got negative feedback from my parents saying I don’t have it and that I was being “silly” my gf says well it’s hard to tell cuz everyone has these issues. So I got a second diagnosis with a adhd test, my dad has come around and asked how the meds are working, well my mom, well I just don’t talk about it with her. My gf, I feel every time I bring it up, like my symptoms or my meds, that she kinda just starts ignoring me or will respond with oh yeah everyone goes through that. Or recently I was talking about how it’s a common joke that people with ADHD have many planners as I went through all my planners and she responds with oh my boss has alot of planners, I guess she has adhd than. It’s almost like she’s passively saying, “you’re not special that’s just normal” without even saying it. It’s made it kinda feel like i can’t even bring it up without her mentioning “everyone else” how do I deal with this? Do I just ignore it and not ever talk about it with her? Why do many people think ADHD is some made up thing even though there’s so much research out there about it? Any suggestions or anyone on here that can relate and help?
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2021-12-19T00:12:45.000Z
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rjk98k
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Why are people like this???
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjk98k/why_are_people_like_this/
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Starship_doggo
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2021-12-19T00:11:03.000Z
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rjk81b
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ADHD
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Do you ever have a hard time keeping your eyes at your partner’s face during a serious talk? (Maybe parent’s of friends’s for you)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjk81b/do_you_ever_have_a_hard_time_keeping_your_eyes_at/
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2021-12-19T00:06:41.000Z
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rjk55a
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ADHD
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Anyone else has a hard time actually looking at your partner’s face during a serious talk? (Maybe parent’s of friends’s for you)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjk55a/anyone_else_has_a_hard_time_actually_looking_at/
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noearthling
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2021-12-19T00:00:18.000Z
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rjk0r0
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ADHD
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Need some support - disorganisation impacting every area of my life
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjk0r0/need_some_support_disorganisation_impacting_every/
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2021-12-18T23:56:50.000Z
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rjjy7n
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ADHD
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Hard time feeling emotions and connecting to people
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjjy7n/hard_time_feeling_emotions_and_connecting_to/
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loviebeest
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So I still live with my parents and the way I act inside and outside the home is completely different. Though I have a few hyperactive symptoms, like fidgeting and fast-talking (though not enough to be considered combined) I tend to be a lot more silent at home. This is why my mother was the most difficult to convince I have ADHD before I got the official diagnosis.
One of my best friends has moved to an apartment together with her fiance for the first time and I was visiting her. I'm happy for her, we explored the city she moved to and stayed for dinner. I took them back to their family home for the weekend. So lots of talking and they had to warn me of a couple of red lights.
I drop them off and head home. I'm still in a good mood and when at home I start talking to my parents about what a great day I just had. Of course, I'm still talking really fast and am still on that social high. So my mother suddenly says; "Can't you act normal?"
After a few seconds of silence, I slow myself down round up the conversation and go to my room. That day was when I realized that; Oh, so I do mask my symptoms.
But being told to act normal when you are just happy and in a general great mood really hurt me. Though I can understand that her normal is the quiet me, that also means her normal is the not happy me.
TLDR; Was told to act normal when I was talking fast and hyperactive because I was happy.
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2021-12-18T23:52:35.000Z
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rjjvl3
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Some simple words can really hurt
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjjvl3/some_simple_words_can_really_hurt/
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Live_Panic_287
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Every time I get my screen time reports, I am so shocked. I shouldn’t be because I’m the one who was spending half my day scrolling but the phone just pulls me in. I literally don’t even realize how addicted I am to it because it feels so normal. On a day like today, i can pretty confidently say I’ve spent about 90% of my time looking at a screen. It’s sad and now it’s a crutch for me. I start thinking bad thoughts and I just immerse myself in my social media feeds. Apps like tik tok are the absolute worst for me! I know I should literally just force myself to stop but it’s like second nature to be glued to my phone unless I’m out or doing a specific task.
It’s at the point where often times TV just doesn’t do it for me. I find myself trying to watch an episode of something, thinking I’m just going to check my phone, and then losing all attention to the show. It’s crazy.
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2021-12-18T23:40:26.000Z
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rjjnas
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Appalled by my screen time reports
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjjnas/appalled_by_my_screen_time_reports/
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2021-12-18T23:35:41.000Z
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rjjk3p
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I’m appalled when I get my screen time reports
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjjk3p/im_appalled_when_i_get_my_screen_time_reports/
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Mysterious-Object
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After taking adderall for about a year, I finally switched to Vyvanse and it feels GREAT. All the anxiety that I felt on 15mg of XR addy is literally gone, and it's putting me in a great headspace. All the side effects are managable except for one, however. Everything I've read online says that dry mouth/feeling thirsty all the time is a side effect of vyvanse and other stims, but I've found that for women, that also translates into like, vaginal dryness. Like even when I'm fully aroused, I'm not physically "wet" down there like EVER, which is so so so annoying. It really diminishes how much I'm enjoying sex. Obviously there's always lube, but it isn't always conveniently available and doesn't feel as good. Does anyone have any other tricks to manage this unfortunate side effect? Like if I really REALLY drink enough water will it go away? Will my body get used to the drug and the side effects will wind down? (I've only been taking it for like two weeks and I don't take it every day). Does anyone else have this problem?
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2021-12-18T23:29:24.000Z
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rjjflj
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Vyvanse works perfectly but it makes me too dry.... everywhere.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjjflj/vyvanse_works_perfectly_but_it_makes_me_too_dry/
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Load_Fearless
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2021-12-18T23:17:40.000Z
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rjj7jq
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Increasing Vyvanse dose from 10 to 20mg
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj7jq/increasing_vyvanse_dose_from_10_to_20mg/
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escape56
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2021-12-18T23:17:01.000Z
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rjj72r
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ADHD
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Low dose Adderall effective, but had sleep issues. Am I hypersensitive or was I burned out?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj72r/low_dose_adderall_effective_but_had_sleep_issues/
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Inmyhead-85
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2021-12-18T23:16:38.000Z
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rjj6u2
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9 year old on focalin… help!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj6u2/9_year_old_on_focalin_help/
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Lumpy-Perception99
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2021-12-18T23:12:25.000Z
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rjj3zy
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ADHD
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If adderall helps you focus does that mean you have ADHD?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj3zy/if_adderall_helps_you_focus_does_that_mean_you/
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Alive-Presence-5838
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Today's been tough. I am currently going through the diagnostic process, which feels like it will never end, at the age of 23. I've had two separate appointments with my family doctor and now I'm waiting until this Thursday to meet with a phycologist. All of this waiting is so painful. I just want it to be over with. I cant help but constantly be in my head thinking about a million different memories and behaviors I have through the lens of someone who's finally realized they have ADHD. It's very liberating that I've finally found the issue after so long, but I've been feeling really angry today. I can't help but resent my parents and all of the other adults for how they were unable to realize what was going on with me. Looking back at it I personally think it was obvious, but at the same time I know it wasn't obvious to anyone else and it's nobody's fault. I don't know if that made any sense, but nonetheless I'm feeling very angry and regretful. What's especially been killing me today is the thought of what my life could have been like and how much better it would be if I was diagnosed at a young age instead of 23 fucking years old. I know that's still young, I'm not an idiot, but middle school and high school was absolute torture for me and I can't help but think how different my life would be if I just got some help. That's all.
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2021-12-18T23:09:24.000Z
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rjj1pt
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ADHD
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Feeling very angry
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj1pt/feeling_very_angry/
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rocksbells
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I’m medicated. But still struggle to start on complicated tasks. By complicated I mean, if it takes several steps. School: read directions, open files, take notes, discussions, etc. Work: same idea.
I tend to do things that I have a pattern for or that’s repetitive. I ignore deadlines and do those easier things first. I try to tell myself certain taglines. “1-2-3, Go!” “You’re not going to die. Just step in” (because you know, that feeling of doom and dread before you start?). “Bitch, go”. Etc….
What are your tricks to begin?
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2021-12-18T23:08:36.000Z
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rjj176
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How do you start?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj176/how_do_you_start/
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ItsSimplyDez
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Does medication make it easier to narrow down what you *actually* like? In terms of hobbies, style of dress or home decor? Or are we just kinda screwed in that department? 😩
I’m struggling but my psychiatrist is treating me for bipolar first to stabilize my mood and it’s doing absolutely nothing for the adhd side of things.
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2021-12-18T23:06:50.000Z
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rjj017
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ADHD
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Hobbies (or anything with choices)
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjj017/hobbies_or_anything_with_choices/
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throw_away_dude93
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2021-12-18T23:04:38.000Z
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rjiylq
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How do you guys prevent ourselves from running out of meds if your pharmacy will only fill them the day after you run out?
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjiylq/how_do_you_guys_prevent_ourselves_from_running/
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ImportantGiraffe9
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Sooo I decided to take my first medication holiday since I started taking 10mg of adderall IR x2 a day. I started taking it on the 9th of this month and I’ve been taking it every day since because I have such a busy life. I have a headache from hell, and was wondering how y’all do it or if y’all had any advice. TIA
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2021-12-18T23:04:18.000Z
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rjiydb
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ADHD
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Medication holiday
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjiydb/medication_holiday/
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hijabimommabear
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Ok so, I think it was on this sub but anywho. I move onto hobbies like it’s going out of style. I think many of us do. I had seen someone say we should do a hobby swap. Well, i did!
I did a hobby swap through my local buy nothing group! 10/10 recommend. She was so sweet and now I have a ton of stuff for macrame and polymer clay! She now has soap making supplies! Best idea ever!
I am so excited to fixate on macrame and polymer clay right now! The best part is that it was all free.
Note: I wish I could post photos but it’s saying I can’t post photos? 🤷🏽♀️
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2021-12-18T23:02:46.000Z
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rjix8p
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ADHD
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Hobby swapping: I did it!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjix8p/hobby_swapping_i_did_it/
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NefariousnessCheap98
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Follow-up to my post My Genetics Cause NOTHING to Work ( https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/oi5afh/my_genetics_cause_nothing_to_work/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf )
Please do not go after me in the comments.
Pharmakogenetic testing clarified that I have several mutations affecting my body’s absorption of medications, including a duplication that makes me a CYP2D6 ultra-rapid metabolizer (UM). I’m currently taking Adderall XR (mixed capsule) 60mg in the morning and Adderall IR (mixed tablet) 40mg in the afternoon. I’m overwhelmed with joy at how we’ve finally found this medication and dose as the solution.
This was an 18-year struggle. I took med after med and nothing seemed to be working as expected. In my childhood, my ADHD caused concerning anger problems and my impulsivity got me into a lot of trouble. At the time, I was taking Adderall XR 20mg in the morning, then again five hours later, and Adderall IR (or, eventually, Strattera) in the afternoon. My mother recently reflected, “we’d give you your meds in the morning and just a few hours later, it was as if you hadn’t taken anything at all.”
Now, I’m a college student in her 20s. Despite having worked with a life coach and all the attempts with meds, I had to drag myself through each day. My brain felt weighed down by my struggle to perform simple human tasks. I would stare at the wall for four hours and think that only ten minutes had passed. Being unproductive led me to a cycle of upset and depression, and only now- once I’m on a medication that works- have I understood that my depression was caused by my ADHD-unproductiveness.
Due to me being a CYP2D6 UM, the high dose amphetamine treatment doesn’t cause concerning cardiac effects. However, I am still monitoring my heart rate and blood pressure daily and seeing a cardiologist once a year, just to be on the safe side. My only complaint is that the meds seem to be making me have more cystic acne breakouts. I used to only get them occasionally around my menstrual cycle, but now I get weekly.
If you have been struggling for years to find the right ADHD medication, you’re not alone! I thought I would never find the right one, and I’m forever grateful that with a dedicated and experienced psychiatrist, we found the treatment that works.
Here were the list of meds and doses that I took for ADHD, and below I will list the results from the genetic test.
* Adderall XR (dextroamphetamine) 20mg, 40 mg, 60mg
* Adderall IR (amphetamine salts) 10mg, 20mg, 30mg, 40mg
* Strattera 10mg, 20mg, 40mg, 60mg, 80mg
* Modafinil 200mg
* Vyvanse 50mg, 70 mg
* Concerta 36mg, 54 mg, 72 mg, 90 mg, 108mg
* Daytrana Patch 10mg, 20mg
* Guanfacine XR 2mg
* Focalin XR 30mg, 40 mg
* Qelbree 200mg
* Ritalin 90 mg (30mg 3x daily)
CYP2B6 Rapid metabolizer
CYP2D6 duplication: ultra rapid metabolizer
CYP3A4/5 Fast metabolizer
SL6A4 duplication
COMT duplication
ADRA2A duplication
UGT2B15 duplication intermediate metabolizer
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2021-12-18T23:01:45.000Z
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rjiwku
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ADHD
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There’s hope! I finally found the right meds!!!
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjiwku/theres_hope_i_finally_found_the_right_meds/
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2021-12-18T22:55:12.000Z
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rjirqs
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Wife’s blames her bad treatment of me on my ADHD
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https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rjirqs/wifes_blames_her_bad_treatment_of_me_on_my_adhd/
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