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SparklyUmbrella | I know I might get some criticism for bringing up the subject of sex work but I feel like its extremely relevant to how I've dealt with undiagnosed ADHD all these years.
I was diagnosed with some learning disabilities and emotional impairment when I was 5 years old. I was put through special ed until middle school. At that point something just clicked and I started doing really well in school. I was extremely shy and didn't have much of a social life but I managed to graduate top 10 of my class and get into a STEM program with scholarships. From there everything just started falling apart. I started drinking to compensate for my shyness. I would sit at a table in the library and try to focus on my studying but would fall asleep or get distracted by something else. Eventually I dropped out and joined the military, which was another 4 years of a mess.
I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. I'd take the meds and they would elevate my mood some but never put a dent in my focus and motivation. I constantly had my "head in the clouds" and it got me into trouble in the military (like failing to see an officer coming who I was suppose to salute). Towards the end I had an awful personal situation that almost got me into serious trouble. I barely got out with an honorable discharge.
That personal situation led me to doing sex work. I had to come up with a huge amount of money in a short amount of time and it was a way to accomplish that. Since then I've been a sex worker. My whole adult life has been a mess. I had my license suspended because I forgot to go to court for an expired registration ticket and it just ended up snowballing really bad. My life was falling apart around me but I could still manage to make money. Sex work is really forgiving when it comes to mental illnesses, but its also very enabling and comes with risk and stigma. My family found out and of course they were extremely disappointed. I compensated by lavishing them with gifts and money while ignoring my own growing list of problems.
I became reclusive and my social anxiety got worse. I smoked like a chimney and would drink up to 4 monsters a day. I started having awful panic attacks whenever I had to see someone new. I had a lot of issues including my license being suspended that could be fixed with money, but I couldn't bring myself to make more than what I needed and I couldn't save for the life of me. I started having really bad memory problems. Forgetting words was something that happened to me occasionally but then it started happening all the time. I would go to the grocery store and not even remember why I went there in the first place. I was constantly losing things to the point where it was costing me money.
I stumbled upon the possibility I might have ADHD on accident. My mom has MS and I was worrying that my memory lapses could mean I have it too. I stumbled across something that said memory issues could be a symptom of ADHD and from there, it was like going down a rabbit hole. There was so many things I thought were just part of my inherent personality that seemed to fit with an inattentive ADHD diagnosis. The constant daydreaming, being called "ditzy" and being told "for someone so smart you sure are dumb", the long list of abandoned hobbies, the inability to stick to a routine. I also have 3 sisters who have been diagnosed with hyperactive ADHD. Once I realized I had it I felt very angry, not only at myself but at my mom as well. I have a family of armchair psychologists who would roll their eyes at my "grand plans" I would never follow through with and always call me ditzy and it never occured to them that I have undiagnosed ADHD? Especially with my family history? It was also a relief, because I finally knew what was wrong with me. I've been looking for an escape from sex work and the courage to go back to school and finish my degree and now that I know whats been causing me to fail all these years I'm going back to school next year. Asking around it seems like a lot of Sex workers have ADHD. Learning more about ADHD it makes sense that those who have it would go for untraditional ways of making money.
Thanks for listening to me rambling. I tried to make it short but its hard to condense all my life troubles into one post. Hopefully if there is another sex worker on this subreddit lurking like I was it will be helpful. This subreddit has been extremely helpful to me. | 2021-12-18T01:34:08.000Z | riw6qy | 26 | 57 | ADHD | ADHD and sex work | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riw6qy/adhd_and_sex_work/ |
PapaTruquer | [removed] | 2021-12-18T01:31:31.000Z | riw51x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i find my dexadrine makes me feel quite bloated. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riw51x/i_find_my_dexadrine_makes_me_feel_quite_bloated/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-18T01:30:33.000Z | riw4do | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I've missed my appointment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riw4do/ive_missed_my_appointment/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-18T01:24:21.000Z | riw0a0 | 151 | 357 | ADHD | My ADHD has made it challenging for me to date. Men lose interest fast and get angry with my slow responses! Help! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riw0a0/my_adhd_has_made_it_challenging_for_me_to_date/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-18T01:24:14.000Z | riw075 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | name drops for documentaries on crabs? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riw075/name_drops_for_documentaries_on_crabs/ |
27hangers | [removed] | 2021-12-18T01:22:44.000Z | rivz8n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have any name drops for documentaries on crabs? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivz8n/does_anyone_have_any_name_drops_for_documentaries/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-18T01:18:26.000Z | rivw9v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Decision Paralysis Around Dinner | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivw9v/decision_paralysis_around_dinner/ |
theskinnyjew_ | Hello! First time poster here, new-ish diagnosed ADHD person (6 months)👋
I recently filled my script for generic Adderall 20mg XR for the first time at Walgreens. I took the Walgreens one today for the first time and feel dazed, weird, and zoned out. I want to say it’s all in my head but I don’t think it is... my arms even feel weird, like they’re heavy and cold.
Did some internet browsing and found the manufacturer of this one is Mallinckrodt. I had been filling it previously at Walmart, who dispensed Prasco. I had a very successful time with the previous ones from Walmart.
Has anyone who experienced this when switching generics (especially if you switched to Mallinckrodt) end up getting used to the new one and feeling better eventually?
I don’t want to tweak and ask my doctor for an early refill elsewhere, but also don’t want to feel shitty for a month if it’s going to stay that way. | 2021-12-18T01:18:20.000Z | rivw7o | 18 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD noob: Mallinckrodt generic Adderall XR vs Prasco? Feeling weird | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivw7o/adhd_noob_mallinckrodt_generic_adderall_xr_vs/ |
jeorja | .. just some thoughts, maybe someone can relate.
Went from endless loops of thought circles to shattered brain fog.
Although I feel like I couldn’t function at all without medication it still doesn’t feel right.
A grown person shouldn’t have to put so much effort into basic tasks without feeling like a lazy piece of shit all the time.
What annoys me the most though is my self loathing mindset. Some days I almost feel high when getting my shit together and wanting to save the world, being convinced to become that Type A person after all, finally living up to my potential.
Then it crashes..
It’s never linear. I wanna be able to complain without feeling like a victim of my own self sabotaging thoughts. But then again, I wanna build the strength to put myself together again. Be stronger than my demons.
I wanna wake up well rested, starting my day right. But deep down I want to stay in bed all the time, isolating myself.
My therapists tells me that the lifestyle I aspire to have is only what society sees as good and structured, I shouldn’t be so hard on myself.
I don’t know. I don’t need to be perfect, I’m aware social media is fake.
I just want to function and be balanced. My ADHD interferes with everything. Work, friends, family.. my brain can’t decide what it’s gonna be for the day. | 2021-12-18T01:11:39.000Z | rivrfc | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Can’t come up with an interesting caption | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivrfc/cant_come_up_with_an_interesting_caption/ |
glitter_dementor | New to reddit so I apologize if this question has obviously been discussed already.
I've been on Adderall for about 8 years.(current rx is \~30mg xr a day)
Over the past 6 months I've tried to titrate off medication 2 times after feeling like it was locking me out of part of my mind. (I wasn't creative anymore; I felt like I was only motivated to react to things and not act out of personal desire/compulsion, I was stuck in a job I hated but couldn't get myself to find another job bc I didn't know what I \~wanted\~ to do).
Well, both times ended up with me in a dopamine-deprived pit of despair so Im going to start up again.
What happens when we get older? Are we just supposed to take these meds forever until our retirement home nurses switch us to placebos lol? Im in my early 30s and just curious how things will play out as I get older. | 2021-12-18T01:11:37.000Z | rivree | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Do I/you/we need to take medication our entire lives? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivree/do_iyouwe_need_to_take_medication_our_entire_lives/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-18T01:09:14.000Z | rivpry | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed medication. here is my experience. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivpry/just_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_prescribed/ |
Inevitable_Office_66 | TW EATING DISORDERS
I finally got my adhd diagnosis but my family say I’m just using it as an excuse.
For as long as I can remember I really struggled. Finding out about adhd and completing the assessment really helped me understand myself better.
The other day my grandmother called me sounding very worried. It was on a morning that I was running late to work and she started talking about me having an eating disorder. She’s absolutely convinced I have an eating disorder now and at first I thought maybe I should listen to her despite knowing I don’t. Anyway, Ive always eaten the same amount as my cousins/siblings but they were a lot thinner than me growing up. As I got older I got slimmer despite eating the same. I’ve been skinny ever since I was in my late teens. I haven’t lost or gained weight but I eat very healthy vege heavy meals and try to get myself to exercise when I have time.
I realise there are some days where I will completely forget to eat a meal because I’m so deeply focused on something. Is this an adhd thing to some extent? It might happen a couple of times a week but I make up for it by making my next meal heavier. I know people who have adhd are more likely to have eating disorders and now I’m worried that I have one without even knowing it.
My grandma is watching me like a hawk and my anxiety levels have increased especially around family gatherings because I know she has told everyone I have ED and won’t take any other explanation for me being thin. It really makes me upset because I’ve tried hard to get my health and psych issues sorted as I’ve felt horrible for years. I don’t know what to do.
I got various blood tests and spoke to my doctor who said everything to do with them is great and that my stress levels and the adhd evaluation may be impacting further on my mental health subconsciously. How do I tell my family that I don’t have ED and that my psych evaluation and other life stressors have had a big impact on me? I’m worried they’ll keep saying that I’m making excuses. Would love to hear about other peoples experiences and advice! | 2021-12-18T01:05:33.000Z | rivn84 | 5 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD & Food TW - ED | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivn84/adhd_food_tw_ed/ |
AgaveBish | I JUST HAD THE WILDEST EXPERIENCE WITH A DOC!! I had been diagnosed several years ago, but never really pursued any kind of treatment. However, recently I have been considering going back to school (I never finished my degree) and my partner had been expressing concerns about us living together with my ADHD untreated. So, I figured I would find a doc, ask about treatment options, get an IEP, etc…
This appointment from the get-go was a shit show. She comes into the telehealth meeting with big angry mom energy. Like, I already feel like I am in trouble, and she just asks, “what are the symptoms that you want treatment for?” And I immediately blank and have no idea how to answer. I start stammering which devolves into word-diarrhea and I mention one of the things I am looking for is an IEP. She starts writing something down and mumbles what I think is “IUD”. I panic because that is *not* what I want and has nothing to do with why I am there, so I say, “An Individual Education Plan.” And she snaps, “I *KNOW* what an IEP is!” and now I really panic like, “I know! I know you know! I just wanted to clarify!” And I think after that she decided she hated me because it went super downhill from there.
Mind you: I am already previously diagnosed.
She starts asking about family history and when we get to mental health I mention both my dad and my sis. She goes, “Mental health issues can run in the family and depression can be misdiagnosed as ADHD. Have you considered misdiagnosis?” I say, “I know. My dad has ADHD and my sis is on the autism spectrum.”
At one point she asked me about what drugs I use, both prescribed and illicit, and I mention occasional flower use. She looks at me like I am stupid and say, “So you use 🍃, but are complaining about not being able to focus?” I clarify, saying that I don’t use it often (not even weekly) and primarily as a sleep aid because sleeping pills suck, and I don’t think my difficulty in finishing my math homework in 3rd grade is due to my current modest use. She drops it.
So we start talking about treatment options and she is super vague in describing what different meds do and what the side effects are, and brushing off my concerns about being regularly medicated. I want to ask about the benefits and the risks, ask about therapies that don’t involve drugs, and what I can expect with different kinds of treatments, and she is giving me no solid information. At one point, she actually says, “If you don’t want me to prescribe you anything, I can’t help you.”
I thanked her for her time and left.
I am both incredibly frustrated AND amused by the whole experience.
Is this normal when looking for treatment options? How do you vet providers? | 2021-12-18T01:03:11.000Z | rivlio | 7 | 8 | ADHD | Craziest psychiatrist ever | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivlio/craziest_psychiatrist_ever/ |
WalkDistinct3300 | I don’t know if it’s ADHD thing or me being a slightly reserved person it’s just so hard to make friends. I am 30 years old and just started postgraduate degree in a totally different country. I don’t know anyone in my city. I forget about my friends back home and I feel awkward reaching out to them and in the same time I have no friends in the new country. Just made me reflect on my very non existent friendship making skills. I used to hangout with whoever my other friends hangout with then someone would just click with me and we become friends that way and I guess this is not an option here as stated before I know no one. Can’t link up with the other students as most of the teaching is done online and they seem very content with their friends and not in need of new ones not that I asked them but seems like it. And in the same time I don’t want to befriend any student within my department as I tend to “act proper” to maintain a certain well presented image of myself within my department. I rambled for so long I am sure I am making any sense at this point | 2021-12-18T01:01:07.000Z | rivk1k | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Making friends | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivk1k/making_friends/ |
SVNHG | I fuckkkedddd up. So bad. I'm an engineering student who was primed to graduate last May. Obviously never have been the best student, but was getting by just fine due to having genuine interest in my field of study. Fast forward to online learning. Failed too many classes. Was given my "last chance" this semester and failed a class I couldn't. Again. I had gotten COVID (and told them immediately), but the fatigue and cough had lasted around a month and I never told them that part... Ended up falling behind. I feel so much shame for not communicating that I was struggling. I feel so embarrassed that I am likely going to walk away without a degree after spending years in college and being so close to graduation. Failure and shame are not new to me, but at this magnitude it just feels impossibly overwhelming. I've heard a lot of "everything happens for a reason" and "everyone has failures". But it just feels so much bigger than that. I just hate my brain right now more intensely than I have before
I dont know when I'll be able to find a therapist. That in itself is overwhelming. I am truly at a loss. | 2021-12-18T01:00:23.000Z | rivjim | 25 | 52 | ADHD | Coping with the biggest failure of my life | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivjim/coping_with_the_biggest_failure_of_my_life/ |
amsterdam28 | [removed] | 2021-12-18T00:57:48.000Z | rivhiv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just got diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivhiv/just_got_diagnosed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-18T00:57:21.000Z | rivh6w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Treatment without official diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivh6w/treatment_without_official_diagnosis/ |
Delicious-Spray3244 | [removed] | 2021-12-18T00:57:02.000Z | rivgye | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Mouth | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivgye/adhd_mouth/ |
Silly-Thanks-8857 | I’m currently taking ADHD meds and realized I wasn’t eating enough protein throughout the day. Most days I just eat around 10-15 grams. So I’ve been trying to figure out how much to eat.
For my body weight it says 37.8 grams of protein but I don’t know if I should up that amount because I take stimulants.
Do ADHD meds make you use up protein more and/or do people with ADHD have to eat more protein in general? | 2021-12-18T00:54:38.000Z | rivf7j | 5 | 4 | ADHD | How much protein | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivf7j/how_much_protein/ |
Starglimmer | Hiya everyone,
I've been lurking on this sub a little while now and going through posts people have submitted and reading through discussion it was like I've found a place that validated the struggles I've been experiencing throughout my life.
It actually gave me the courage to seek a professional to get some answers and hopefully some help.
I went to my gp who was happy to refer me however, in the UK an NHS appointment can take around 2 years to get so I went private.
Anyway, I had my zoom assessment meeting today and after an hour and a half of what I felt like was the psychiatrist not really listening to my struggles and kept referring to my depression, he says I can't have ADHD because I'm successful, and by successful he means I have a job and have managed to keep it/move to different companies and that I'm smart because I went to University and finished all my schooling on time. Notwithstanding all the struggles I tried to explain to him, which he passed off and I told him I failed college once and totally fucked up my postgrad that I literally have nothing to show for it.
I get that I may not necessarily have ADHD, I'm not a professional so I can't say for sure, I can only go with what I've pieces together but I honestly felt like that was such a bullshit response. I appreciate he's obviously got years of experience etc but I don't feel like I've been taken seriously, I feel like I've paid £700 for someone to pass my struggles off as just anxiety and depression. He spoke down to me when he could clearly see I wasn't happy with his "service" and said " I can clearly see you, you're not someone who likes to talk about their emotions" no shit, literally everyone I know who's spoken to me has come to the same conclusion, it's not a secret in the slightest. He even said, yes he knows people always say psychiatrist mix anxiety/depression and ADHD but as I'm doing well in life it's not ADHD.
I mean, he may be right? I am currently on 100mg sertraline for depression, I won't lie, it's kinda helped with my mood but for everything else such as, struggling to switch between tasks, not being able to organise/prioritise, "zoneing out" mid task, forgetting to finish things, start things, missing out details etc I'm finding myself getting worse, or maybe I'm just noticing it more?
My partner said I should put in a complaint as it doesn't sound like he even listened to me because when I tried to explain what I experienced he would steer the question more towards me giving an answer to depression, like just talking about my moods, if that makes sense? (I'm not the best at writing thoughts down clearly).
I am considering putting in a complaint and maybe requesting another assessment or at least half my money back so I can go elsewhere because honestly, I don't think I can trust the same place to provide someone versed enough in adult ADHD, especially in women (I forgot to mention I'm female, sorry.)
Thing is I don't want to be someone who's trying to jump in this weird ADHD bandwagon that seems to be a thing at the moment and it splits me between what I experience V what a professional has concluded. If anyone has any advice or experiences they'd like to share I'd be forever grateful.
Thank you for reading my post, sorry of it was long and rambly.
Edit: I don't know how important it is to mention but I've been told it's relevant, I do have an older brother who is Autistic and he was diagnosed early in life, he's now 38. | 2021-12-18T00:54:36.000Z | rivf6m | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I don't have ADHD because I'm successful?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivf6m/i_dont_have_adhd_because_im_successful/ |
CropperCrapper | “You don’t need that other shit you just need discipline”
“You need to learn how to focus”
“Its ironic how you can pay attention to what you want. You made the (psychiatrist’s) appointment, got there on time and got your father to drive you there. You can focus on want. This proves my point exactly. “
I’m sick and tired of non-experts offering their opinion on my diagnosis. ADD inattentive type and the list of accompanying symptoms describes my pattern of behavior perfectly, yet the ‘adults’ in my life are skeptical. I’m going to just stop telling these people I have ADD.
It’s really frustrating, almost infuriating. I’ve come to realize that they aren’t in my head so they can’t see just how symptomatic I am.
I’m very frustrated and I feel like my condition is being invalidated by the people I love and am supposed to be able to trust the most.
I’ve come to accept that I will retain these feelings of isolation indefinitely and that all I can do is essentially nothing—just to move onwards with an increased understanding of how I perceive the world and why (neurologically) I am the way I am. | 2021-12-18T00:51:17.000Z | rivcv3 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Everyone keeps doubting my diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rivcv3/everyone_keeps_doubting_my_diagnosis/ |
Acanthaceae_Live | i just realized that i sat down and drew for 4.5 hours without eating or drinking. felt damn light headed when i finished the art and posted it. i hate this stupid hyperfocus stuff sometimes but i got good art done so at least its not all horrible.
consider this a hydration and/or food break for all who read it. take care. | 2021-12-18T00:47:33.000Z | riva83 | 1 | 9 | ADHD | seriously, take breaks. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riva83/seriously_take_breaks/ |
Objective_Cap9332 | I’m sure you guys get this a lot but I’m almost 30 and think I have adhd.
1 - no matter how hard I try, I still make dumb mistakes at work. It’s been like this 9 years now.
2- irritable
3- low self esteem mostly due to my work performance
4- dis organized
5- I’m Muslim and pray 5 times a day. And if you know the prayers, each one has a different amount of rakats (stand up for a few min and prostrate for a few seconds) I always lose count when I’m doing this.
Addicted to porn and masterbation.
I don’t even know where to go for help but I’m willing to try anything.
I will admit I’m scared to take meds. | 2021-12-18T00:42:54.000Z | riv73f | 5 | 3 | ADHD | I need some help. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riv73f/i_need_some_help/ |
flickrfrog | If I know it's not productive/damaging to my mental health, **I will do it**. It's not that I even particularly want to do some of the behaviours e.g. I know playing that playing Minecraft for 7 hours by myself, or eating 4 bars of chocolate a day won't add anything of value to my life but I do it anyway because I start to get into the habit of it. It's annoying that the same can't happen for actually helpful habits though :/
I have no idea why this is happening and I feel useless.
I want to stop (especially because my grades are very low currently) however I have no idea how to because all of the solutions I've tried have failed.
These failed solutions include: just trying to get on with the task, the Pomodoro technique, a reminder app, making someone else force me to do stuff, punishing myself, rewarding myself, and making myself feel guilty. (They work for a bit but I end up getting distracted.)
Does anyone know any secret technique to just do stuff or am I just being silly? | 2021-12-18T00:39:34.000Z | riv4ua | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I'm addidcted to unhealthy behaviours | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riv4ua/im_addidcted_to_unhealthy_behaviours/ |
knoopx | Hi reddit, I'm about to turn 36 years in a couple weeks and I realized, just by stupid chance, I've been living with ADHD my whole life without knowing what the heck was wrong with me. It has been both a meltdown and a relief at the same time.
I've gone through every video, article and testimonial I could find and I have zero doubts I'm in the ADHD boat, it just explains every single damn struggle I went through at every stage of my life.
Every academic failure, every relationship conflict, why it's so hard to manage time and priorities, why it's so hard to have a regular schedule and why the hell I can't seem to have one or two hobbies like everyone else instead of thousand ideas and zero finished projects.
I've already spoken with family and some very close friends and they all mostly agree It might be a real possibility, so I already booked for a med appointment.
But now I'm wondering what if I am mistaken? I definitely check 95% of the symptoms and I can now identify my lack of dopamine given the many unconscious and often toxic "self medication" habits (coffee,dark chocolate,nicotine,w33d,sugar...)
I'm going to try start implementing all the behavioral changes I could find right now until further diagnosis/treatment, which funny enough, many of them I already tried without success before.
I'm Spanish, I have no idea what meds are given here, I would image mostly the same as in the US maybe with another name, there's just a few big pharmas.
Also, do meds dampen or cancel the few good things like hyperfocus?
Will be around here hearing other people successes and failures... Greetings and thanks beforehand | 2021-12-18T00:20:44.000Z | riurlx | 1 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD Newcomer? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riurlx/adhd_newcomer/ |
beanbrittle | [removed] | 2021-12-18T00:14:48.000Z | riungh | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Kratom 1 G and Adderall 15 MG XR interaction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riungh/kratom_1_g_and_adderall_15_mg_xr_interaction/ |
Prudent_Ad_9834 | I’m currently in the process of finding the right dose for me. Was getting on ok with 50mg but had to reduce down to 30mg because I ran out of meds before my new ones arrived.
Since dropping down I have felt incredibly irritable, I’ve hated being touched and noises have become unbearable. I am on the autism spectrum so I think I am probably over stimulated.
Has anyone else ever had this? Did anything fix it?
I’m also a few days away from my period but I never usually feel like this. Could it be making my pms worse? | 2021-12-18T00:12:23.000Z | riulqg | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Vyvanse and sensory overload | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riulqg/vyvanse_and_sensory_overload/ |
caterpi1ar | TL:DR I have a doctors appointment booked for Wednesday and I am really excited and really terrified! It’s taken me a long time to get to this point and I’m proud of myself.
A support for learning teacher at my school helped me write a letter which I gave to my mum this morning about how I want to see the doctor about possible ADHD and she booked me an appointment!
Admittedly when she picked me up after school she did spend a long time telling me about how everyone forgets stuff and how she forgets stuff too, everyone struggles to focus sometimes. She said I was just crap, disorganised and scatty but I don’t even care because I know that she doesn’t actually know very much about ADHD and that doesn’t matter because I’m just glad I can get professional help.
She was asking me lots of questions and she got mad when I told her that I’d forgotten to finish a college assessment once so I decided that it would be a bad idea to tell her about how behind I am in all my college stuff and about all of the school stuff that hasn’t been great either.
Sadly she reminded me why I didn’t want to tell her in the first place but at least now she can’t be upset that I went behind her back because she knows what I want to do.
Anyway I know it sort of turned into a rant I’m still glad I did it. | 2021-12-18T00:11:58.000Z | riulfo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’m going to the doctors! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riulfo/im_going_to_the_doctors/ |
MrCorbak | I have been trying to workout consistently for years now. I would go at it for a few weeks, maybe 2 months, see results and then stop.
For those of you legends that practice a sport and have adhd, how does it effect you? Does it make any difference on your symptoms? Does it help with sleep, anxiety?
I'm really starting to believe that sport is good for everybody, but for us it is mandatory. | 2021-12-17T23:55:52.000Z | riu978 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Effect of sports on ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riu978/effect_of_sports_on_adhd/ |
milanirafa | Guys, do you sometimes feel like your friends eventually get tired of you? Like, people love your “hyper” personality but later on are just annoyed by it and eventually drift away?
I feel like this happens every so often to me and it makes me really sad. I’m aware I have emotional dysregulation, but also I feel like my ADHD hinders my connections a bit.
Just wondering if anyone shared this feeling, had any tips on how to handle it, etc
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Yes bot, I saw you and changed it.
Edit 2:
Just to talk a little bit more about my problem here. I’m very sociable and connect to people on a deeper level easily. I’ve had multiple friendships that started quickly and soon became very close, but, on multiple occasions I’ve felt that, after the initial excitement of meeting someone new died out, many of those new closer friends I’ve made began to shut me down. I feel like I’m thrilling to have around when it’s a new friendship because I’m so energetic and hyper. I get super invested in the friendship and will talk to people for hours on end about our shared interests. But my energy never really goes down. I don’t have the capacity to chill. I’m hyper through and through and a year later I feel people just get tired of having me around. As if they were expecting me to “be more normal” after a while.
It breaks my heart cause it’s not something I can change about myself. I am diagnosed with ADHD, I’ve talked about this to my therapist and psychiatrist, and I am really trying my best to not let this happen so much.
But right now I just feel sad and lonely, and I wanted to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. | 2021-12-17T23:51:10.000Z | riu618 | 7 | 6 | ADHD | Feeling abandoned | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riu618/feeling_abandoned/ |
buttbuttbutt999 | I don't want to be a terrible person, but most people in my life have left because of how much I over analyze. It's past me just taking apart every detail of myself until I barely feel like a person anymore. During a terrible time in my life, during my development, I had to try to save my parents marriage. It was kinda forced on me and I became there therapist. This trauma has made it impossible for me to not try to solve every problem I experience. My roommate, a very submissive person and my best friend of four years, has his own traumas and problems. He's not very intelligent in certain areas and doesn't have a lot of common since, on top of this, he's a bit of a liar and uses lying as a defence mechanism. Both, lack of intelligence and lying, are huge triggers for me and so a lot of the time, we get into long conversations about these issues and many more, tearing them apart to their bare essentials as a means of trying to solve the issue, but I do this with every single thing. I have to solve any problem I am out against, I cannot agree to disagree, I have no since of boundaries, I can be arrogant and too emphatic with my opinions and this becomes worse because sometimes I do know what I'm talking about which just makes me more confident.
The problem is, it's not my place. But I can't stop over analyzing every little thing and finding problems in those things, which I then have to solve that problem which I then have to over analyze that solution which starts the cycle over again. I can see I'm helping in certain elements. Through our conversations, he has found a lerger since of confidence and is happier with himself, but he's also a lot more anxious and even angry at times because of the amount of pressure I put on him. I am a very strong willed person, and he is not. I am doing damage, but I can't stop thinking or over analyzing or thinking or over analyzing or.. FUCK! I THINK SO FUCKING FAST!
I've come to the conclusion that this is what has destroyed most of my relationships. I put too much pressure and must have everything work the way I'd like it too, and it's too much. If the world doesn't work the way I think it should, I lose my fucking mind...
I know I need a therapist... I can't afford one... I just don't want to be like this
Can anyone help? Please? I want to be a better person. I want to stop tearing the world around me apart and instead, just live in it. I can't stop fucking thinking.
I'm drowning in my own thoughts. And it's not just hurting me. | 2021-12-17T23:45:29.000Z | riu28g | 7 | 12 | ADHD | How do I stop over analyzing? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riu28g/how_do_i_stop_over_analyzing/ |
Naive-Cow9811 |
So I’ve seen 2 psychiatrists…the first one diagnosed me with depression right off the bat, she was pretty doctor-ey, cold and straight down to business type; she kept insisting that what I considered to be adhd was just my depression. That’s not true. It’s just that my main problems became 1000x worse with depression.
Ever since I was a kid I never, never, never studied on time, or after school or whatever, in fact my mom used to yell at me a lot about it. I would study the night before. And it literally didn’t matter how much stuff I had to cover, I literally could not focus on anything I had to study no matter how much I knew I’d be fucked later; literally, nobody believes me about this except for my siblings because they’ve seen it for themselves. It was always the last night super stress extreme pressure induced hyperfocusing that would make me work. And I’m so done with people telling me not to lie because I’m fucking not. This time I wrote the dates I started studying to show ppl if they asked. Nobody takes me seriously cause I’ve always gotten good grades.
I am not at all exaggerating when I say this has been my whole life. I also have always had trouble in being organised, always losing things like my sheets or important notes / my IDs, though as I’ve grown older I’ve become a bit better at it.
And I have an attention span of like fifteen seconds when it comes down to doing something like studying and suddenly I’ll remember the most stupid random things and get invested in them and then before I know it’s been three hours since I started studying and I’m still on the first page.
Don’t even get me started on initiating tasks. It sounds so ridiculous to say but it’s damn near fucking impossible for me most of the time. It’s just so hard, it feels impossible to initiate tasks, even things want to do, like I’ve been meaning to improve my art since I was 14 and I still haven’t gotten around to it despite buying sketchbooks over the years. There’s movies and shows ive been planning to watch but I never get around to doing it.
I just can’t fucking do anything unless there’s like the deadline equivalent of a gun on my head. It’s just this physical inability .
It’s so fucking exhausting and frustrating to be functional in this awful, extremely stressful way and it’s made me hate myself so so so much over the years. I couldn’t write my college essays until each of their deadlines. So pathetic of me but I couldn’t. I couldn’t focus. Ideas didn’t come, words didn’t come until I knew I had like six hours to submit the application.
And I’ve explained this to both my psychiatrists.
The second one was like you do not have adhd and I was like how are you so sure, and he said if you had adhd you wouldn’t have been able to finish this whole sentence you’ve said right now, ppl with adhd can’t hold conversations. Like. What.
With my first psychiatrist like I mentioned earlier she diagnosed me w depression. At that meeting I had a whole two pages front to back on which I wrote everything that I could remember that I did on the deadline/fucked up because of these problems and my dr didn’t didnt give any response to it or try to look at it even tho I mentioned what it was.
It’s been so stressful and it makes me feel so much shame and guilt and I just collapsed this year. I can’t do it anymore. I’m done with this. I emotionally cannot accept this lifestyle for myself anymore and I don’t understand why my psychiatrist can’t see how much of an issue it is for me.
Sure man I’ve got depression and anxiety but that’s not why I came here, I want to talk about my biggest problems which is ADHD related , but the psychiatrist just skims over it like it isn’t important. I’m just so fucking frustrated. I don’t know what at all to do at this point.
I want to be a doctor but I feel like I really shouldn’t cause it’ll probably destroy me since I can’t study regularly. I just, it’s so debilitating.
Any advice would really really b appreciated. Thank you . | 2021-12-17T23:43:55.000Z | riu151 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tired of not being believed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riu151/tired_of_not_being_believed/ |
PuppiesOnSteroids | I'm 4 months in methylphenidate, 27g. It's not a huge dosis, I might be overthinking it, but I find that I get more anxious while I'm on meds than when I'm not on them
I try to eat something before taking it. It's a long release (1 per day).
So, I don't know, have you heard of anything similar? Is this possible? Or am Imagining it?
Honestly I do find that meds have been super helpful, however I often find myself questioning if I should take a larger dosis or stop meds at all.
Days without meds are happier and "easier" sometimes, but I don't get much done 😅😅 | 2021-12-17T23:35:10.000Z | ritva4 | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Is it possible that meds are making me anxious? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritva4/is_it_possible_that_meds_are_making_me_anxious/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:34:21.000Z | ritupj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Med frustration | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritupj/med_frustration/ |
PuppiesOnSteroids | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:32:19.000Z | ritt7c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it possible that meds are making me anxious? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritt7c/is_it_possible_that_meds_are_making_me_anxious/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T23:32:06.000Z | ritt1e | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Guanfacine positive experiences? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritt1e/guanfacine_positive_experiences/ |
JuwannaBLomee | I'm on the verge of tears. I ran a red-light. Not mere seconds after yellow. Full on red-light and almost got t-boned and crushed by cars. Thankfully they hit the brakes and swerved. I feel horrible.
I know a major sign of ADHD is being a bad driver. But not for me, I have been a good driver and great at being aware of my surroundings. In fact, I'm usually the driver for long trips because I'm a good defensive driver.
Ever since I started taking Vyvanse my life has changed for the better. My relationships, schooling, work, etc.
But driving not so much. I've hit construction cones, hit curbs, and now this. I noticed I swerve more and I think the issue is maybe tunnel vision from too much focus?
Anyone have this issue? I know I should tell my doctor but it's done so much good for me otherwise.
EDIT: words | 2021-12-17T23:31:30.000Z | ritsmx | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Vyvanse has made me a bad driver. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritsmx/vyvanse_has_made_me_a_bad_driver/ |
Effective-Ad-2229 | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:30:44.000Z | rits2k | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Amphetamines are horrible | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rits2k/amphetamines_are_horrible/ |
LackingDopamine76 | Hi all. I was hoping to find out if any one had the experience of the use of Wellbutrin as a therapy add-on for ADHD. My psychiatrist has suggested that it might help as I am probs to low mood. Other anti depressants for years had not helped prior to the recent mid 40s diagnosis. It's very hard to get this drug prescribed from what I am told. Has anyone got experience of going through the process of getting this prescribed? Did it/does it help? Does it work well/compliment stimulant therapy? I have really struggled with long acting stimulants and am now on short acting but am still quite low in mood, so hoping this might help.
Thanks in advance | 2021-12-17T23:30:34.000Z | ritryq | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Experience of Wellbutrin? UK based | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritryq/experience_of_wellbutrin_uk_based/ |
jpjapers | Hi All,
Has anyone got any tips for habit forming? Ive been trying for the last year to get past more than 3-4 days of a healthy diet before completely forgetting thats what i was supposed to be doing and then remembering like a week after and repeating the cycle.
I piled on like 40lbs over the last two years from working remotely and basically sitting all day and whilst ive managed to sustain a 3-4 times a week gym routine this year, i find any habits that have to happen inside the house really difficult to remember let alone stick to.
Id really like to figure out a way that i can remember to eat healthy and sustain a level of motivation towards that goal. Does anyone have anything that worked for them that i could try?
Thanks! | 2021-12-17T23:28:24.000Z | ritqf3 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD and habit forming | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritqf3/adhd_and_habit_forming/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:27:43.000Z | ritpys | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Don't drink coffee if you're bored | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritpys/dont_drink_coffee_if_youre_bored/ |
amie_che | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:22:27.000Z | ritmhd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds for people with high blood pressure | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritmhd/meds_for_people_with_high_blood_pressure/ |
hail__sithis | I'm getting desperate. I have never had a particularly good memory or organisational skills. I am terribly scatterbrained and forgetful, I have trouble focusing on anything for more than 5 minutes and generally have a very poor work ethic. That was always my issue in school, even as a little kid: I was always extremely ambitious and competetitive, but unable to do any work that required any sort of memorisation or concentration over a longer period of time. I was a fairly smart kid, but so, so lazy.
The word "lazy" follows me around. I remember a specific incident in my childhood when I was in some sort of study group and kept getting distracted by birds outside the window, the scribbles on the blackboard, my own thoughts, the noises in the hallway. And I remember being so fascinated by the fact that no one else seemed disturbed by these things, that everyone kept working on their homework or projects without batting an eye. I was *fascinated.* And I remember a kid saying to me: "Hey, hail\_\_sithis, aren't you gonna do any work? What are you doing?". I had been procrastinating the entire hour while everyone else was nearly done with their work, and I barely realised it.
As a small child I would cry every time I had to do homework. My parents could yell at me for hours and it made no difference, if I had decided a task was not worth doing, I would not do it, like there was some sort of mental blockade that prevented me from picking up the pen and doing the damn work. I'm ashamed to admit that I never quite got over this, and still cry over mundane tasks and assignments I have to get done . I don't know the exact American equivalent, but I'm in the last year of school, after which I'll presumably go to Uni...don't ask me how I manage.
I thought I'd grow out of this, but that didn't really happen. I do not know what it is, whether I am depressed, have ADHD or some other disorder, but something isn't right. My parents never saw a problem. I live with the endless frustration and sadness of knowing that I could do so much more with my life, if only I had the willpower to do anything. If I could follow through. If I could sit down and do one thing from start to finish, properly. The only thing that can sort of drive me to action is fear, and even that is hit or miss.
I write endless lists each morning to keep track of what I have to do each day, because otherwise, I'll most definitely forget. And I mean endless, extremely detailed lists (ie. shower, brush teeth, take out trash, go outside, make appointment, call mom regarding this and that). And I hate it, because at heart, I want everything to be orderly. I want to have my life under control. I have so many goals that I want to achieve, so many dreams and plans, yet I cannot achieve anything. I cry in frustration and anger at myself for being like this but it makes no difference. I cannot change no matter what I try. I have had friends send me their study materials for exams, detailed texts to memorise, and even if I tell myself "you will memorise this and ace this test", as soon as I sit down to memorise, I can't remember anything.
Where do I go from here? | 2021-12-17T23:20:37.000Z | ritl5p | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I cannot remember or focus on anything. Don't know what is wrong with me. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritl5p/i_cannot_remember_or_focus_on_anything_dont_know/ |
HopelessVetTech | So I (37F) was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago - I've been on antidepressants for a number of years, and they don't usually help, either right from the start, or I build a tolerance too quickly. My doctor and I were going through a number of questions, and I mentioned that I can't for the life of me concentrate on anything longer than a few minutes - I'm perpetually distracted. I had always thought this was a byproduct of my depression. Because, you know, I'm 37. One would think I'd have been diagnosed by now.
She popped me on Adderall, and OH. MY. GOD.
First of all, while I won't say I am "cured" of my depression, holy crap does Adderall make a massive difference in how I feel. I can function, I'm not overwhelmed by the want to just not... Function. I have this insane energy, I can get everything done, I'm on the go. I'm not so exhausted by existing.
However, I'm still pretty easily distracted. I do come back to tasks, which I didn't before - but I'm still not great with concentration. My doc wanted to start me on Vyvanse and see how that did.
I have a couple of questions - 1) Has anyone taken both? How do they compare? 2) My insurance won't cover Vyvanse (due to my age? Seems dumb, but I had to fight about the Adderall too), are there any options where I don't have to pay out of pocket? Because it's $300 and I'm not that pressed to try it if I have to pay that.
Thanks!! | 2021-12-17T23:17:58.000Z | ritjaa | 7 | 8 | ADHD | Diagnosed with ADHD at 37, and it's just WILD the way meds make a difference - but I have questions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritjaa/diagnosed_with_adhd_at_37_and_its_just_wild_the/ |
LadyMoiraine | Hey all,
I've been on 150mg of Bupropion since June-ish, and it helped a lot with my depression and PTSD symptoms. I spoke with my new PCP for the first time, gave her my diagnostic report from the last place and said that I was finally ready to try ADHD meds, but on the request that we try to stay away from stimulants at first.
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She's added Amoxetine to my medication list, and I was hoping to see how this went for others. It looks like we're starting at 40mg... I take my Bupropion in the evenings to avoid any unwanted side effects during the day. Should I take these two at the same time, or should I take the amoxetine in the mornings? Thanks and hugs to all! | 2021-12-17T23:14:03.000Z | ritggn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Bupropion and Amoxetine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritggn/bupropion_and_amoxetine/ |
koct | DoneADHD has managed to lose my prescription and not been able to find it / work it out with my 'provider' for several days.
I feel like I'm trapped by them and I leave in 2 days to another state to be there for my family.
https://twitter.com/NOCAP_Invest/status/1471953239868424194?t=jTBx9-ECMGIvPFrwKGBWLA&s=19
There's my Twitter rant . Stay away, they have cool Gen z type advertisements making it seem like they know what they're doing. They don't. | 2021-12-17T23:13:48.000Z | ritgag | 3 | 22 | ADHD | Stay away from DoneADHD. They will not take care of you properly. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritgag/stay_away_from_doneadhd_they_will_not_take_care/ |
Easy_Illustrator6025 | Tldr at end
Im PISSED. I studied maybe 8 hours a day ONLY for physics (calc based-mechanics) but in reality it was like 4-5hours of actually studying. Anyway, i took the exam yesterday and im only confident about 50% of the stuff. The prof put some things ive never seen before even though i did a ton of practice problems on my own. Me passing or not relied on that final and now i dont know if i can pass. I studied all for nothing. I even had 100% extra time accommodations and i still couldn’t do it, but i knew it. But i just couldn’t. Im so burnt out from this week. If i dont pass its going to hurt. I swear I studied for it a lot but I couldn’t think intuitively to decipher some of the questions being asked. I second guessed myself on some and ended up erasing the correct answer for an incorrect one! Just fml
Please pray i pass.
Tldr: I studied 4-5hrs a day and dont know what i got on physics final. It was my only hope in passing. The prof put questions youve never seen before. Im burnt out. Please pray i pass.
Thank you | 2021-12-17T23:11:07.000Z | ritebx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finals week….(not necessarily seeking support, just a rant) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritebx/finals_weeknot_necessarily_seeking_support_just_a/ |
justalostdot | I’m new to this sub but it’s been eye opening. I think I’ve got ADHD and I’m somehow simultaneously shocked and unsurprised.
But the music in my head. It’s constant. And I thought it was normal.
I just said off hand to a friend after my headphones had run out of battery, “don’t worry, I’ll just listen to the songs in my head. Same, same but different”
She looked at me like I was insane.
I looked at her like she was insane.
Songs I love or know well I can just play and listen to in my head. Obviously not like blasting headphones but I can hear all the parts.
Is this just ADHD people? My friend thought I was crazy.
Everything I always thought was normal I’m slowly discovering isn’t quite so mainstream. It’s…surprising. | 2021-12-17T23:10:53.000Z | rite69 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Songs in my head sound almost the same as on the radio or Spotify. Is this not “neurotypical”? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rite69/songs_in_my_head_sound_almost_the_same_as_on_the/ |
SevereChocolate5647 | I was diagnosed with autism recently, also have had severe depression/anxiety for most of my life. My wife was diagnosed with ADHD recently as well, and that combined with talking to other people diagnosed with both autism/ADHD I started to wonder if I might have ADHD as well. Meds have helped the depression/anxiety but it has either made my ADHD symptoms worse or maybe just more obvious.
I've been seeing an autism specialist psych for my meds and he ruled out ADHD after my intake with him because I "got good grades in school". Does this seem reasonable to anyone else here? I don't like to brag, but to be blunt, I'm smart and school was trivial for me. I did do homework regularly but a) either the morning/during the class on the day it was due or b) out of fear of my very strict mom.
He wanted me to get control of my depression/anxiety first then said we could revisit. Last session since I've been doing better I brought it up again but all he said is he'd give me ritalin if I wanted to try to see if it would help me focus. Is it just me or is something kind of off here? He sent me a copy of his report recently and it said he ruled out ADHD.
I'm really bad at handling situations like this on the spot so I wanted to get any feedback from those with more experience navigating diagnosis (esp late in life), doubtful doctors, and medication, then I can better prep my script for the next session in January. | 2021-12-17T23:10:38.000Z | rite07 | 3 | 5 | ADHD | My psychiatrist ruled out ADHD because I got good grades | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rite07/my_psychiatrist_ruled_out_adhd_because_i_got_good/ |
Lapis_lazuli88 | [removed] | 2021-12-17T23:09:22.000Z | ritd1z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Experiences with weighted blankets? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritd1z/experiences_with_weighted_blankets/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T23:08:45.000Z | ritclx | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Meds and mood change? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ritclx/meds_and_mood_change/ |
BrickyTimme | Well, i kinda have been diagnosed with adhd
i have plenty of symptoms, and my therapist and psychiatrist told me, that it pretty surely is.
They told me, they will give me medication, not sure which one tho, told my mom
she was like
no
medication is bad
try meditating, just concentrating, etc
how tf should i explain that i cant do thst shit
i cant
no matter how often i try
i tried so many fucking things it makes me angry
how tf can she be sure that a planner or some meditation would help me?
Sry for cursing
it just really gets me angry
i am in my last school years and i wont make it without meds | 2021-12-17T23:02:35.000Z | rit86l | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How do i explain my parents? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rit86l/how_do_i_explain_my_parents/ |
chr0nic_h0 | anyone else get real squirrelly about vacuuming or whatever other chore?
my wood floors have been covered in pine needles and errant discarded backs to adhesive command strips all week and today i finally decided to vacuum. i have one of those amazon lightweight, funnel-style vacuums with a clear container for dust/detritus collection so you know when to empty it….mine was, like, probably 1/2 filled and still had lots of room inside.
welp, 45 minutes later and i am engrossed in cleaning out the mf vacuum cleaner and the floors still look like s*. 😕
sigh! | 2021-12-17T23:02:09.000Z | rit7u9 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | adhd vs the vacuum and/or other repetition-oriented chores | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rit7u9/adhd_vs_the_vacuum_andor_other_repetitionoriented/ |
chanpat | I am pregnant! Yay! However, I have been off my meds for a little under 2 years because of my last pregnancy and nursing my baby. I don’t want to go another 2 years. It is hard. It is exhausting. It is anxiety provoking. It is dumb. To not be on my meds. But I also have to protect the development of my fetus. Obviously, I’m going to be talking to my dr, but last pregnancy, she had to do research and consult with other drs to get any info, so I’m hoping to go in with some resources as well.
Thanks! | 2021-12-17T22:56:10.000Z | rit38z | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Pregnant: what meds do/did you use? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rit38z/pregnant_what_meds_dodid_you_use/ |
InsomniacCyclops | It had a lot of sentimental value as my partner of 2.5 years got it for me on one of our first dates. I’ve checked online and it would be next to impossible to replace it- it’s out of production and hard to find. I’m moving and it got mixed in with the donation box because of course I wasn’t paying attention because I’m fucking overwhelmed. It’s probably silly but I’m just really really sad. | 2021-12-17T22:53:26.000Z | rit1d9 | 8 | 6 | ADHD | I accidentally donated my favorite mug. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rit1d9/i_accidentally_donated_my_favorite_mug/ |
SparxX2106 | My mental capacity is completely 0. The slightest thing can piss me off extremely and put me in a depressed mood.
Every since i found out abut ADHD i am the textbook example of the innatentive subtype. It was first a shock on how my life would have been SO different and easier ifni had known earlier. My current 6 year relationship has struggled alot on multiple times because she is pretty much the opposite of ADHD. Whenever we would fight she would say very reasonable things like "but you see your sun glasses on thr kitchen counter when you go into the kitchen. Just pick them up and put them where the glasses go. Just pay more attention".
I couldnt explain at all why i could not do these simple things and it confused the hell out of me. I am currently waiting for another month until my diagnosis starts but man.. everyday i feel worse and worse.
I havent eaten dinner in 3 days because its too much work. I feel extremely guilty towards my gf for behaviour and unbeknownst executive dysfucntion.
I just want fucking help. I need someone to pull me out of this hole because i have nothing, absolutely nothing left in the tank.
I hope this coming month passes soon.. | 2021-12-17T22:46:36.000Z | riswl3 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I have nothing left | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riswl3/i_have_nothing_left/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:44:06.000Z | risusg | 1 | 2 | ADHD | When someone talks during a movie | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risusg/when_someone_talks_during_a_movie/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:41:22.000Z | rissvf | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Finally deciding to stop ignoring it and seek diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rissvf/finally_deciding_to_stop_ignoring_it_and_seek/ |
TheStrouseShow | [removed] | 2021-12-17T22:31:59.000Z | rismaf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Internal Monologue? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rismaf/internal_monologue/ |
CesarioKing | I’m 24 years old and have just been diagnosed with ADHD. I live with both my parents as it has been too expensive to move out and live by myself. My father is very understanding and patient with me, but my mother? Not so much.
I always had a problem when it came to doing chores, especially when my mother would say, “Do this right now.” I would usually respond with, “No” or “I’ll do it later” which of course isn’t good enough for her. I tried time and time again to explain to her that she can’t demand something to be done right there, right now, as it does a lot to my brain (someone I know pointed me to Pathological Demand Avoidance, which sometimes is found in Autism but also can be found in ADHD), but she says I’m making “excuses” to not do a chore and “Could you ever answer with just ‘Yes I’ll do it’ and not give me a hard time?”
It’s getting to the point where I’m fed up with her not at least TRYING to change the way she speaks to me so I can actually do chores. My father found a way to do it (He says “If you get the chance, please can you do xyz” and it works every single time).
What are some resources I can share with my mother that lets her know that she NEEDS to change the way she speaks to me so it doesn’t affect any of my mental health illnesses? | 2021-12-17T22:30:53.000Z | rislhs | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Sources For Parents With Adult Children With ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rislhs/sources_for_parents_with_adult_children_with_adhd/ |
tipsyredpanda | Hi everyone!
I was diagnosed recently as an adult but haven’t started meds yet.
Last night I saw a post from my ex’s wife where they looked so in love and are buying a house bc she makes a LOT of money from her fancy corporate job, and they have all these friends and everyone loves them. Meanwhile I’m working part-time at a job that means nothing to me, living with my parents, wasting my talents bc I can’t focus on anything, and approaching 30.
Of course looking at the post was a mistake. I’ve blocked her to give myself some space. Usually I can bounce back from comparison by remembering my own good qualities or accomplishments or progress or values. But the gap between our lives was so obvious in that moment, and I’m just in this spiral of self-hate and depression, feeling like I’ll never get out of this ADHD-induced mess of a life.
I’m losing hope I’ll find my place in this world and hold down a job or be a good mature partner or good friend or good anything, let alone live a meaningful and positively impactful life.
Really need some support or words of encouragement or even just empathy. I don’t know how much longer I can convince myself that I’m not a total waste of space who deserves to be unhappy. Thanks in advance.
EDIT: and can meds even help that much? Enough to help me build a life I’m proud of? Or will I just need to rely on life’s consolation prizes to get by without wanting to die? | 2021-12-17T22:30:12.000Z | risky0 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Feeling like a waste of space/life | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risky0/feeling_like_a_waste_of_spacelife/ |
Losspost | hey,
Seeing people in this forum I am always asking my self if I am just overreacting, if I just have a less severe case or if I just have good tricks to handle my ADHD. For example:
I have completed my Bachelors in EE with a good grade even through I hardly can focus in lectures and also can't remember facts very well
I do have some social anxieties and doesn't have big friend circle or a girlfriend but still can talk to people
I See so many people here getting meds but while I have gotten them for a short time I could handle my life even with out them. | 2021-12-17T22:28:01.000Z | risjdy | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Looking at this forum I asking myself if I should get checked for ADHD or if I am just overreacting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risjdy/looking_at_this_forum_i_asking_myself_if_i_should/ |
Losspost | [removed] | 2021-12-17T22:27:13.000Z | risivq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking at this forum I asking myself if I have ADHD or if I am just overreacting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risivq/looking_at_this_forum_i_asking_myself_if_i_have/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-17T22:27:03.000Z | risiri | 1 | 1 | ADHD | what happens if I chew adzenys? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risiri/what_happens_if_i_chew_adzenys/ |
Losspost | [removed] | 2021-12-17T22:26:07.000Z | risi6q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking at this forum I asking myself if I have ADHD or if I am just overreacting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risi6q/looking_at_this_forum_i_asking_myself_if_i_have/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:20:43.000Z | risedh | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I am confused all the time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risedh/i_am_confused_all_the_time/ |
aywhatupdog | edit #2: thanks everyone for both sharing your experiences and helping me realize how hurtful my words could be to my friend while he seeks his support, even if it came from a good place of concern. maybe you could chalk it up to impulsivity but i tend to say things while only thinking of my own interests (even if my own interest is seeking whats in the best interest of others) and not how someone else could view what i say, nor do i typically think of how much i might not know when i have a limited amount of info (i just know dunning and kruger are laughing at me lol). the only info i had to go off was my own experience with adhd and my moms borderline radical beliefs that she told me since i was a little one
to summarize as ive removed the full text: my friend went to a doctor who took a different approach than i had knowledge of to diagnose and what seemed to me to be a lazy and unthorough approach (essentially 20 min chat, gives addy and says lmk how they affect you). i jumped the gun and when trying to find info on whether or not my friends doctor was acting in his best interest, i seem to have unintentionally invalidated my friend due to my limited info both on his struggles and legitimate diagnostic techniques
i said it in the original post and ill say it again: im happy my friend is seeking support especially because im partially the one who put the idea in his head, and at the end of the day if it improves his life thats all that matters | 2021-12-17T22:17:47.000Z | risc8d | 58 | 53 | ADHD | my friend went to a doctor about adhd and it seems pretty shady, thoughts? im a little upset and a little concerned | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/risc8d/my_friend_went_to_a_doctor_about_adhd_and_it/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:10:55.000Z | ris73l | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Why I don’t take pills | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ris73l/why_i_dont_take_pills/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-17T22:10:11.000Z | ris6jv | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Learning through games: what would you need? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ris6jv/learning_through_games_what_would_you_need/ |
Pyrite-Neo | I'm 19 M and I have ADHD too so i can probably relate so some issues a lot of people here have, so if you have any issues any at all they dont even have to be about adhd, I'd be more than happy to listen and help whenever I can
And dont worry I'm super nice and I'm really understanding I never get offended and I never get upset with anyone so if you need someone to talk to about some problems let me know I'd be very happy to help, it's what I like doing | 2021-12-17T22:07:14.000Z | ris4ab | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Heyo I just wanted to offer support to anyone who needs it, if you need someone to talk to I'm here. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ris4ab/heyo_i_just_wanted_to_offer_support_to_anyone_who/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:01:54.000Z | ris0a4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | No appetite and everything tastes bad on Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ris0a4/no_appetite_and_everything_tastes_bad_on_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T22:01:27.000Z | rirzy4 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | The System Is Insane | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rirzy4/the_system_is_insane/ |
AAJJ88O | I have only been relatively recently diagnosed with ADHD and, while trying to adjust to it, I've noticed that one trait I've shown is avoiding deep thinking, and this has affected my uni work, my relationships, and my work life. Also because of this I've been gradually avoiding challenging myself as I felt that I was becoming increasingly 'wrong' and that there was no point trying anything new. Is this a trait typically associated with ADHD and if so, are there any strategies I can try to adjust or deal with this? | 2021-12-17T22:00:51.000Z | rirzhl | 1 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD and avoiding thinking help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rirzhl/adhd_and_avoiding_thinking_help/ |
godsavethequeen666 | [removed] | 2021-12-17T21:59:23.000Z | riry92 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have any advice about controlling anger? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riry92/does_anyone_have_any_advice_about_controlling/ |
Informal_Pool_4016 | Does anyone know a good place for a private assessment in the uk? The waiting list I’m told for the nhs might be past 2022, and psychiatry uk is booked until October 2022 without taking any new referrals. I’m looking for a place that’s ideally well respected so that it gives me the best chance of having my gp accept the diagnosis. I’m also wondering if there’s any non prescription items that would help with adhd temporarily before I get a diagnosis since it might be so long until I get one. It’s really hampering my university career. | 2021-12-17T21:54:33.000Z | riruu8 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Private assessment Scotland/uk. Temporary help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riruu8/private_assessment_scotlanduk_temporary_help/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T21:44:52.000Z | riro34 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Productivity for adhd need recommendations. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riro34/productivity_for_adhd_need_recommendations/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-17T21:44:29.000Z | rirntu | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Straight As and 2 clinical internships! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rirntu/straight_as_and_2_clinical_internships/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T21:27:45.000Z | rirbsw | 1 | 2 | ADHD | RANT (possible TW) What's even the point? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rirbsw/rant_possible_tw_whats_even_the_point/ |
Kate925 | I had my first session with a new psychologist a few days ago. Treatment of adult ADHD is one of his specialties, and right off the bat I told him that I suspect that I have ADHD. I reached out to him because I was hoping that he could either diagnose me or tell me that I'm wrong and help me to figure out what I actually do have.
I told him a bit of what I was going through, and he just flat out said.
> "Well it's pretty obvious that you have ADHD."
That was it. I had pages and pages of notes written in my phone that I wanted to tell him, and I barely even scratched the surface. And he just... believed me...???
It feels validating as hell, I almost want to cry. I had expected a long and complicated process of questions and testing and verifying that I have ADHD. And he just believed me?
For now he's agreed to help. He says that he can't prescribe medication but he can refer me to someone who can (I knew that going into this), and I guess that might happen in the next session, I don't really know yet.
He's also advising against getting a formal diagnosis? (For some reason I thought *he* could diagnose me?) He says that it would cost a few hundred dollars, at the cheapest, just to have someone tell me something that I already know.
He's said a few other things that have made me raise my eyebrows, but overall I really think he hears me and understands me. It's a really great feeling.
But I still can't get over the fact that he just... believed me. That just has me in shock. Good shock? I don't know yet, I'm just really excited to finally be getting help for this. A small part of my brain is scared that I tricked him somehow. Like maybe I was wrong, and he's wrong for believing me. But I'm trying to ignore it, I know that I need help.
I'm ready to learn how to live with this without letting it weigh me down.
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For the record, I'm not saying that the process should be any more difficult. Especially after reading some of the stories here. There shouldn't be any more roadblocks when seeking treatment.
I'm just dumbfounded and shocked. He just.... believed me? | 2021-12-17T21:25:46.000Z | rirad4 | 69 | 385 | ADHD | He just... believed me... I can't believe that he just... believed me...? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rirad4/he_just_believed_me_i_cant_believe_that_he_just/ |
rep4rep | [removed] | 2021-12-17T21:17:07.000Z | rir470 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Thyroid supplements and adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rir470/thyroid_supplements_and_adderall/ |
YOitsibzi | So I (18M from Pakistan) have ADHD, am i'm like pretty sure about that and i want to get a diagnosis and all but i need to tell my parents about it so they can help me with the diagnosis and all.
The problem is my parents are like veryy over protective and do not know much about what ADHD is. I feel like that when i say ^(attention deficit hyperactive) **DISORDER** they are going to freak out. And my mother reads a lot of facebook posts so idk what she thinks it is. I remember she was telling me a few years ago to stop using my phone so i dont get ADHD .\_.
I just want them to know that its a low-key thing, so i'm not cRaZy but its a problem enough that it is a problem and i need a diagnosis and possibly medication.
Any ideas? :D | 2021-12-17T21:15:10.000Z | rir2sx | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How do i tell my parents i have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rir2sx/how_do_i_tell_my_parents_i_have_adhd/ |
Chillicupcakepie |
It’s embarrassing the amount of money I’ve spent on hyper-fixations, obsessions, and impulses, just to end up bored and on to the next thing. Meanwhile I’m having trouble paying for college for the next semester.. I feel like a total f-up. I’m falling into another depression because of this…
I am drowning in guilt right now. I wish I could go back in time and fix all of this. College is very important to me. I’ve chosen to only be a full-time student and not work at all, and just pay by my savings. This isn’t sustainable, though. I wish I could maintain a high gpa and work at the same time, but I’ve tried that in the past, and my grades suffered tremendously. I managed to apply for a scholarship and loan yesterday, I guess that’s a start. Idk I’m just really beating myself up over this.
I’m not on medication at the moment, but really thinking about it. I’ve been trying to stick it out without medication for a while. Has medication helped any of you guys in situations like the one I’m in? | 2021-12-17T21:14:20.000Z | rir28d | 8 | 24 | ADHD | ADHD Should only be for rich people | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rir28d/adhd_should_only_be_for_rich_people/ |
Accomplished-Ad-7942 | Took my last dose of adderall yesterday and had my refill appointment. Prescription sent to pharmacy everything seemed like it was going great. Called the pharmacy yesterday to see what time my prescription would be ready when they informed me that they canceled the refill because they no longer have a contract with my insurance company. The fact they didn’t even call to ask if I wanted it filled there still pisses me off because I would have paid the out of pocket cost for it. Skip to day I’m highly anxious and angry. Have called my providers office 3x and have been sent to the same ladies voicemail every time. No return call, nothing, even tried to bypass it by talking to the receptionist. It’s Friday they’re closed on the weekend so I’d have to wait until Monday to try again. I work this weekend (nursing on call) on top of working M-F and it’s a highly stressful job. I’m angry and just need to rant. Im going to try one last time here soon, hopefully it gets figured it but reading the reviews of the place they are notoriously bad at getting prescriptions filled in a timely manner if you call them.
Edit: not that anyone is going to see this bc by now this post is buried and never got any traction but my persistence payed off. Finally got in touch with the lady I kept leaving voicemails for, she was a total bitch and said it hasn’t even been 24 hrs so you shouldn’t expect this to be taken care off, even though it was of no fault of my own, but also that she had sent a message to the prescriber and he’s with patients blah blah blah. All I asked for was a call back to close the communication loop and ensure that I’d been passed along to the appropriate person. I work in the healthcare field as a nurse and part of my job is to make sure patients get timely refills it’s not hard and I always update the patients. I get it, everyone in healthcare is fucking busy but did you really expect me to not call back after I had left 2 messages 3 hours and 1 1/2 hours apart asking for a call back? I felt like I was very polite and tactful, even thanked her for her time but Fuck. | 2021-12-17T21:04:40.000Z | riqva3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Going with out medication today- not by choice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqva3/going_with_out_medication_today_not_by_choice/ |
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Hot-Meringue5653 | [removed] | 2021-12-17T20:57:48.000Z | riqpzw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it ADHD or is it a lack of brain exercise that is making me mentally fatigued? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqpzw/is_it_adhd_or_is_it_a_lack_of_brain_exercise_that/ |
MysteriousWind44 | Hello all,
Some foreground here: I've always known that I haven't been like other kids/adults. My thoughts and reactions to situations have never been the same as "normal" people. Basically I've felt as though I lived in a parallel world. However, after seeing a psychiatrist at 20 after my first burn out, I was diagnosed with depression. After a few years, this was changed to borderline personality. And a few years after to bipolar. The questions asked by psychiatrists were always directed towards symptoms and never towards how I acted in daily life (hence how the underlying diagnosis was never "caught"). Well, after all this, I saw my psychiatrist due to the fact I constantly lose my items everywhere (scared of having dementia). She asked other questions and told me to read a book concerning ADHD. So, this book is basically my entire life story. As though, it had been written about me without me knowing. All the symptoms pointed to me. Failure to follow subjects, daydreamer, fidgeter, unable to wait turn, impulsiveness, major problem with unfairness, thousand conversations in one, unable to follow instructions or remember anything and the major problem of unfinished tasks (which in my case probably are in the 1000s). However, I'm perfectly functional when the subject interested me (more that other pupils in the class or employees in the company). I had always been an enigma to my teachers.
Anyway, after reading more and more I've now understood how all these previous diagnosis occurred. Constant depression due to the amounts of things started but never completed (the flame disappeared within 3 days more or less). Fluctuation in emotions because SO happy starting a new project (obviously as it was new to me - as though hypomanic), only to crash when the novelty disappeared and end up depressed. Constant comparaison to society and people and how they manage where I can't. Annoyed how some people don't understand things as easily as me. Not understanding how others can't understand (that seems so simple to me) and making an already \*boring\* meeting drag on while everyone is helped, further exacerbating my frustration and pushing my patience to the absolute maximum.
I could go on for hours but that's not really where I'd like some helpful feedback.
I'd always wanted to enter Mensa just to prove myself that I wasn't daydreaming once again, as their pre-test was a wizz to me (I love logic). But, yet again another "gonna do that" and never happens.
Anyway, enough self complaining. My therapist (after diagnosing BP for two years), has now said that I have ADHD. I live in France and she is probably a rare practitioner who understands this affection (she even says so herself). However my line of treatment (obviously) is Ritalin.
Would anyone be able to give me feedback just on the following :
* Will my creativity disappear ? Although I have a thousand different ideas, my creativity defines me.
* Will I have problems with my partner (exact symptoms but his psychiatrist refuses to see)? Bearing in mind that our ADHD complement each other, we don't get annoyed at each other if one "gives up easily" (as we're the same). But, will I now see him as a "giver upper"?
* Does Ritalin cause focus on one subject and "suppress" other thoughts?
* Could I look like Jackel and Hyde ("one person" on Ritalin and "another" as it "wears off")?
Also, any words used in this text are not destined to stigmatise/label/annoy/hurt anyone. They're just words for myself (probably wrongly employed) so I'm sorry if I offend anyone (and really hope I do not).
This already took me too long to write due to all the distractions around me. So any other info needed, just ask :) Also, in my head most of this made sense, but it might not to an exterior person, so any clarity will be provided where needed.
Thanks for taking time to read, and answer if you think you could help or give insight.
Have a great day ! | 2021-12-17T20:57:15.000Z | riqpmh | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Recent diagnosis (28M) - Help with future | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqpmh/recent_diagnosis_28m_help_with_future/ |
kttyprydes | He’s uninsured so he’s never made an appointment to speak of his issues, get diagnosed or prescribed medication. He suffers from ptsd from his family, who also never entertained the idea of him having ADHD. He honestly didn’t even realize how hard of a time he has had mentally until we began dating. His mind is constantly racing, he always has to do something to do distract himself, he’s struggling so much with starting college again because he can’t focus and learns slower than everyone else, he has a hard time showing emotion and opening up because his brain moves too fast and he doesn’t know how to process it all.
He’s having a really bad week and I just, I want to help him so bad and I don’t know how. Are there supplements I can purchase? Something more natural/affordable I can try? We smoke together occasionally and the high allows him to control his thoughts and calm down a bit. But realistically that’s not something he can do all the time. He never learned how to take care of himself and I know this makes it ever harder for him to do so. | 2021-12-17T20:55:40.000Z | riqogn | 3 | 2 | ADHD | My boyfriend is undiagnosed and suffering. How can I help him? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqogn/my_boyfriend_is_undiagnosed_and_suffering_how_can/ |
moneyteamtk | I basically have nothing left at this point. I tried college after high school and got suspended my first year. A year and a half later after moving to Arkansas and working a few jobs I went to the national guard only to get EPTS from not adapting at basic training. I’m currently getting held over until they send me home. At this point in life I have nothing to offer the world and feel like i’m better off not being here. I’ve ran through all my options at a better life all because of me and what I got going in my head. | 2021-12-17T20:54:44.000Z | riqnrb | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Failed college and military | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqnrb/failed_college_and_military/ |
[deleted] | My psych has overbooked herself so badly that she is at least an hour late to most of her patients' appointments, not just mine. She was two hours late to my very first appointment with her. There are patient reviews all over the internet about this stretching as far back as 2015! This is not a new issue for her. She has clearly taken on too much and should've stopped taking patients. I was referred to her by my therapist, and have notified my therapist of these problems.
Her office staff is obviously overworked and undereducated in regards to basic medical office procedures and management. They have screwed up every single one of my appointments in one way or another. One so much so that I showed up at their office, knocked and called for an hour, and when they finally answered the phone they said they had moved! Why no one thought to tell me this when I scheduled the appointment, I will never understand.
They're disorganized, unapologetic, and crabby af. There's a sign on the reception window that says they won't tolerate cussing or yelling. That's a red flag that should've told me to run. They're pushing people over the edge with all of this madness, and people are fed up.
Had some choice words for her over the phone yesterday, and it was cathartic. Primary doc took care of me for now, and looking for a new psych. Good riddance to that B.
I am celebrating my self-advocacy. :)
Edit: I understand everyone is under a lot of pressure right now, including and especially healthcare workers. But this is not that situation. This doc has been overbooking for years, according to online reviews. I can be patient, and I can be resourceful, and I can find alternatives. What I won't do is deal with disrespect and a lack of honesty. Respect my time, and tell me you can't take on any more patients, but she's done neither of those things for many of her patients since well before COVID. So I'm not buying the COVID excuse on this one. | 2021-12-17T20:54:10.000Z | riqnby | 14 | 2 | ADHD | Blew up on my psychiatrist for being a pill mill-running, overbooked POS, and I'm not sorry. Sick of people telling me my anger is unjustified! | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqnby/blew_up_on_my_psychiatrist_for_being_a_pill/ |
krystallynn97 | Is it possible to see improvements with ADHD symptoms by only taking Wellbutrin? Im currently pregnant and waiting until after she is born to start any new meds(currently taking sertraline). Ive never been medicated for ADHD before. Im hoping to get away with only taking Wellbutrin and skipping stimulants if possible. Does anyone have any experience with this? | 2021-12-17T20:51:32.000Z | riqlf5 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Wellbutrin without stimulants? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqlf5/wellbutrin_without_stimulants/ |
Nearby_Albatross8354 | This will be interesting. I've had Adderall and felt great, but my psychiatrist is not fond of starting with Stims. Excited to get going on this and see how it affects me.
Anyone else on an SNRI with an SSRI? curious to see how that combo has worked for others!
Also, for those who have said it causes constipation, check out what [norepinephrine](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norepinephrine) is. Understanding what that does in your body will help compensate for some of the side effects. Had to do the same shyte for Prozac to make it manageable until it subsided.
Took it minutes ago. If it works after a month or two I'll still reply to this thread. Otherwise, I probably won't respond for years after the first week or so.
EDIT: found out strattera interacts with Prozac, according to drugs.com and the published study I read.
So not taking that shit! Going to ask about vyvanse or adderall | 2021-12-17T20:50:21.000Z | riqkkf | 18 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosed Severe ADHD and Prescribed Sraterra - Already on Prozac | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqkkf/diagnosed_severe_adhd_and_prescribed_sraterra/ |
LupusAdUmbra | [removed] | 2021-12-17T20:47:20.000Z | riqi9n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Man, this piano lick is so damn inspiring I should download the video and make a track out of thi..... aaaand it's gone | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqi9n/man_this_piano_lick_is_so_damn_inspiring_i_should/ |
i_enjoy_music_n_stuf | do you remember the episode of spongebob where squid wars convinces him to be normal and so he becomes very boring and normal? there’s a quote from it where he says “i smoothed out the edges of my personality and the rest followed easy” i feel like spongebob where i wanted to fit in so long and mask myself but then once i did i was left with a feeling of sadness and missing the person i used to be but idk how to be them anymore | 2021-12-17T20:47:10.000Z | riqi4y | 1 | 4 | ADHD | i was watching spongebob and the “Normal” episode really hit me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqi4y/i_was_watching_spongebob_and_the_normal_episode/ |
paula2343 | Let me just preface this by saying, I have a love-hate relationship with ADHD "experts" on TikTik and other forms of social media as I find that they seem to relate very common symptoms of humanity to the diagnoses of ADHD which can be misleading to some. I have been diagnosed for three years now and am medicated. Sometimes I find a video that describes a symptom of ADHD that I had always thought was just a weird part of my personality but now seems to be a commonality among many. I have recently realized many of these are greatly interfering with my life and I plan to seek further medical treatment by a professional. I am just curious if anyone can relate to these symptoms and if they have been told (by a medical professional) to be an outcome of ADHD. I know when I read others talking about their obscure symptoms of ADHD, it makes me feel less alone, and hopefully, me writing this will have the same effects for others. If you read, the comments are open to anyone who have experienced similar issues or even if you feel like you cannot relate at all, because everyone's experience is different. Feel free to discuss other untalked about symptoms of ADHD that were not listed. I am not looking for any other diagnosis, but it goes without saying if you read something that is concerning you can let me know so I can bear that in mind when I talk to someone.
\*Note: I am not supplementing this for any type of medical treatment but I am at a place where the medical professionals I have talked to are very old-fashioned and one-dimensional when it comes to my issues with ADHD, like basically saying the only symptom of ADHD is hyperactivity and the inability to focus and never anything deeper
1. I would say the most debilitating symptom for me is like this constant brainfog. I've felt this since I was a child. Its hard to explain but I feel like there is just something clouding over my brain constantly that makes thought articulation so difficult. I feel like most of my life I'm just in autopilot mode and I cant do anything about it. I thought medication would get rid of this but it definitely isn't. I am on Ritalin SR, I have been wanting to try to switch my medication and maybe try some other option like Adderal but my doctor is very wary about my ADHD diagnosis (to be fair my family always knew I had a pretty bad attention disorder but never let me get a diagnosis because they don't really believe in treating it, I'm smart and always did well in school so it did not effect this portion of my life because I was always under pressure to get good grades). If this is a symptom of ADHD, is the medication supposed to alleviate the fog? Also- for those who feel like they are on the right medication, what are the before and after effects as far as symptoms?
2. Constant daydreaming, which I believe to be maladaptive. I spend so much of my time daydreaming, especially when I'm walking and listening to music. I have the ability to create such in-depth real scenarios its like an escape. I could walk with headphones in for hours replaying or creating scenarios of a mix of people I know and made-up characters. Its addicting because its like an escape from reality and sometimes it happens when I'm with people and I can't help it. The thing is I need to be moving and listening to music when it happens. I get obsessed over certain songs and create a scenario that perfectly match up to the music and listen to it over and over again. Its hard for me to listen to new music because it has to be perfect for me to enjoy it. I feel like people see me as weird because I spend a lot of my time walking and listening to music
3. Object impertinence is a big one that I recognize and feel guilty about. When I travel away from people, I never think about them. When I am at college, I never think about texting my friends at home or my family even though I love them so much. I get so guilty about never reaching out to people I continue not to do it because I feel so bad. Then when I leave school the same happens with my home friends. It's so scary to me because sometimes I feel like if someone important to me died, I would get over them so quickly. This has happened with my two grandparents who I loved very much. I only felt sadness in a wave, when everyone around me was sad. I did not cry at the funerals and I hate to say it but they never cross my mind. I loved them both so much but I do not miss them.
4. Connecting to the first one and the last one, just a general disconnect from my emotions. I don't think I feel the same way other people do. I almost never cry and have a great ability to (unintentionally) push down my emotions. This is kinda helpful as I don't really feel emotions for a very long time and can get over things quickly, but it does make me feel like somethings wrong with me
Sorry this text was so disorganized and I'm sorry if these topics have been discussed before. I am new on the sub and please let me know if I have violated any rules or if it seems like I am dumping. Truly I am trying to validate my experience and hopefully validate others as well. I was just kinda writing and let everything that popped into my head onto the text. If you are going to give me any advice please clarify where you are getting your information. Feel free in the comments to open up about any other untalked about symptoms of ADHD that you experience or even if you don't relate to my experience at all, as everyone is different. | 2021-12-17T20:46:50.000Z | riqhwc | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Not Talked about ADHD symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqhwc/not_talked_about_adhd_symptoms/ |
Patient_Reply | I (32m) have always struggled with moderation - alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, eating. I also have a hard time moderating "good" things, but that often becomes a problem as well. Anything that feels good I tend to binge. I have found that I am able to abstain from most unhealthy activities, but abstinence is obviously not an option with everything (for example: food).
Anyhow, do any of you experience this, and, if so, has it improved after you've started medication? If it did not improve, do you have any coping strategies? Thank you. | 2021-12-17T20:46:49.000Z | riqhvp | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Has your ability to moderate improved after being medicated? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqhvp/has_your_ability_to_moderate_improved_after_being/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-17T20:43:35.000Z | riqfc5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How can I stop binge eating? (comfort eating) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riqfc5/how_can_i_stop_binge_eating_comfort_eating/ |
oofadhdsucks | [removed] | 2021-12-17T20:28:44.000Z | riq48j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Zombie from Medication or Depression? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riq48j/zombie_from_medication_or_depression/ |
throwaway_3748258 | Hi,
I’ve recently started taking Vyvanse (Elvanse in the U.K.) and was wondering if the side effects decrease with time?
Key ones annoying me are my raised heart rate and dry mouth. I’ve also go fairly strong loss of appetite although that should drop a back down again when I go back to 30mg (was on 40mg for the last 2 weeks).
Thanks for anyone who can help :) | 2021-12-17T20:26:19.000Z | riq2gu | 23 | 3 | ADHD | Do Vyvanse Side Effects Decrease Over Time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riq2gu/do_vyvanse_side_effects_decrease_over_time/ |
Timoat | Im all full of piss and vinegar in the evenings, thinking that "tomorrow, bright and early, I'll be up and Im going to do this and this and this, and I'll write a to do list. Then in the morning i wake up at 7.30 and go back to sleep until about 11 am, and by then the day is "wasted" so I end up doing F-all. this just repeats endlessly. Its like I just completely forget what I was supposed to do, even though I'm awake. | 2021-12-17T20:24:28.000Z | riq14e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Common symptom of evening and morning motivation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/riq14e/common_symptom_of_evening_and_morning_motivation/ |
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