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Someone asked me to post an update if I remembered... today is my first day off Adhansia xr! It just wasn’t doing it for me. The sleepiness never went away, even when my doctor upped the dosage from 25 to 45 mg. I also never felt focused or motivated. 25mg felt almost like I had taken nothing at all and I was sooo irritable and just overall unhappy. Every day I felt overwhelmed and intimidated by what was expected of me. I dreaded everything.
For now I am back on Focalin IR 10mg 3xday. I feel pretty good so far, no major anxiety or anything. I don’t have as much motivation as I would like but maybe that will come with time. I was actually motivated to get up and get ready this morning instead of feeling angry, exhausted, and having to FORCE myself to do it like I have for the past 3 months.
Not sure if this is going to be my forever med, but with it being the holidays and a stressful time, we (my doctor and I) felt more comfortable going back to something familiar that wasn’t terrible rather than trying something new.
Anyway, this is my update. If anybody has insight on Focalin IR that might help my feelings I’d love any input! Hope everyone is handling Christmas time alright and all the stress that comes with it. | 2021-12-15T16:47:38.000Z | rh3ekn | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Adhansia update | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3ekn/adhansia_update/ |
LaCroixed | I have not actually been diagnosed with ADHD. My psychiatrist prescribed me 20 mg of Ritalin a day in September for augmentation of depression. Last month, he increased it to twice a day.
I have only successfully taken it twice a day a couple of times. Often, I sleep in and I only take one pill to not cause insomnia.
I initially had an increased heart rate after first taking it, but that subsided. Until recently, that is. The last three days, even just taking one pill has given me chest tightness and a temporarily increased rate. I am starting a new job soon, and maybe it's just causing heightened anxiety symptoms.
I do have matcha in the mornings. I'm very good at spacing out drinking caffeine and taking my medicine hours a part. Maybe I should cut it out entirely?
I know to call my doctor, I'm just looking for any kind of consolation or stories of similar experiences. | 2021-12-15T16:45:39.000Z | rh3d23 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Sudden side effects after a few months on Ritalin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3d23/sudden_side_effects_after_a_few_months_on_ritalin/ |
nolakhsa | (cw: brief sh mention) i curate my playlists in a certain order for my mood so there's the perfect build up to my favorite song. i'll eat boring foods for a few days before i get the meal i've been really craving. i draw out showers and self care routines. i rearrange my room regularly and switch out the books on my book shelves. it's just a way to give myself good bursts of dopamine regularly.
i feel like a lot of non adhd people take little daily tasks for granted? when i started adderall and i was able to feel joy in simply drying my hair or making my bed or playing a video game and i didn't need drugs or self harm or alcohol to make my brian quiet i was elated. never underestimate the power of a shower in the dark with good music. | 2021-12-15T16:45:08.000Z | rh3clk | 3 | 15 | ADHD | i've learned how to squeeze every drop of dopamine from my daily activities | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3clk/ive_learned_how_to_squeeze_every_drop_of_dopamine/ |
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1tzluc1d | You know, I think about it alot but it's like my ADHD was like venom from the movie just going back and forth.
Brain: don't do it man, we could just do it tomorrow or later. (≖ ͜ʖ≖)
Me: Nope, I'm doing it now. ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ
Brain after I'm done with a paragraph: Ok champ that's it for today you deserve the break. ( ͡°⊱ ͡°)
Me: you know what your right! (.づ◡﹏◡)づ.
Brain, hours before something is due: WE'RE FUUUUU##### I told you we should've done it earlier! (ノಠ益ಠ)ノ彡┻━┻
Me: bruh..... (ಠ_ಠ)
You guy's ever feel this way lol? | 2021-12-15T16:43:43.000Z | rh3bl2 | 3 | 13 | ADHD | We got so many day's ahead, we should definitely do it on the last day. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3bl2/we_got_so_many_days_ahead_we_should_definitely_do/ |
WhoopDeDont | Long story short I have a very hard time getting up whenever I’m on my phone and will lie down for hours wanting to stop but can’t. This morning I just threw my phone away from my bed and I managed to get up and be productive (for me once I actually get up it’s not difficult to do other things- especially since I’m on medication now) | 2021-12-15T16:42:13.000Z | rh3ae4 | 72 | 375 | ADHD | I finally found a way to get myself off my phone | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3ae4/i_finally_found_a_way_to_get_myself_off_my_phone/ |
trench-coat-cat | Ah yes, ADHD and overthinking go together like butter on toast. Here's one of my better stories about overthinking something.
I met a girl a few months ago, in a class in my semester, and we got along pretty quickly! She was very open and bubbly and we were able to talk a lot and get to know each other (happy to say she's now a friend of mine). She also happened to have ADHD and while I haven't talked much about mine to anyone I know, it was nice to meet someone else who was in the same boat as me haha.
In our earliest friendship days, I had decided to send her a text after seeing her. I wanted to match her kind and outgoing energy and so I was honest with her and I said I thought she was a very nice person and I was looking forward to seeing her again. I thought I might've went a little overboard but I was being honest as we had now talked a few times and I enjoyed her company!
Now, a notification popped up, and all it said was something like "Thank you!". Now I was concerned. It had an exclamation point, yes, but now I worried I'd wrote too much. Who writes that to an acquaintance, anyways? Unless they like someone, perhaps, but I'd written it purely platonically. Anyways, I tried to distract myself but I felt so damn awkward about it.
Until I open up the message, that is!
Turns out she not only thanked me but she also told me she thought I was very nice and fun to be around too and that she was looking forward to seeing me again! I was not expecting such a sweet response, but nonetheless it turns out I was wrong! I was pretty amused with myself that I got so awkward over a text notification that turned out not even to be the whole message 😭 omg | 2021-12-15T16:38:21.000Z | rh3743 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | A Rather Amusing Overthinking Story | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh3743/a_rather_amusing_overthinking_story/ |
filthslimemuckboo | I (30F) just found out a woman offers equine therapy right down the road from me. I had no idea this was something for ADHD but apparently it’s a thing.
I have anxiety, ADHD and some depression. Most equine therapy stuff I’m finding online talks about its effectiveness with children. What about adults? Anybody had any experience with this?
Also, unrelated, would it be weird having a neighbor be your therapist? It’s a very very small rural town. I’m not really involved in any goings on, but I’m not sure how I feel about somebody knowing my deep secrets and living so close. | 2021-12-15T16:36:03.000Z | rh35bd | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Equine therapy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh35bd/equine_therapy/ |
nellahnellah | Hey! I've been noticing how so many of the experiences people describe here are also symptoms of dyspraxia. I think I have both (undiagnosed), I wondered how many of you also have both. Particularly with the processing, multitasking, short term memory problems I hear people describe.
It's hard to see where one condition starts and the other one ends. Anyone else think that maybe these disorders will get recategorised at some point?
The amount of overlap is such that I feel these things cannot be separated. Besides, disorders are only labels put to clusters of symptoms anyway. (Symptoms that are very real I hasten to add!)
Anyone have thoughts on this? | 2021-12-15T16:34:32.000Z | rh340r | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Adhd and/or Dyspraxia | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh340r/adhd_andor_dyspraxia/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T16:30:33.000Z | rh30st | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Power Outage Happened in the Middle of Productivity Window | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh30st/power_outage_happened_in_the_middle_of/ |
Uhanalainen | Background: I'm a male in my mid thirties, two teenage kids and wife, married for 10 years, together for 16. We have a house, both of us work and life is good. Great, even.
Our son was diagnosed with ADHD some 1,5 years ago, pretty much out of the blue for both of us parents. He had a nasty RS Virus infection as an infant which led to cardiac arrest twice before he turned 6 months, so he's had a rough start and for years we "blamed" those incidents and the lack of oxygen to his brain for his poor short term memory. Neither of us were really aware that ADHD was on the radar since he never was hyperactive. Then he started to get almost seizure like fits in school where he would be completely in his own world, without any means to contact him before he snapped out of it by himself. We had him examined, and while no neurological defects were found in CT scans, they told us that he's likely suffering from ADHD and gave him a prescription. His grades quickly started to skyrocket when he was able to actually focus and not daydream after we started to medicate him.
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Now, looking back on my own childhood, I feel like I can draw parallels between how he behaved before getting the meds and how I did when I was his age (and sometimes still do). I was a pretty lonely child, who loved to read. I only had one friend throughout first six grades, then got another one in seventh grade. I was absolutely paranoid all the time that people (especially girls) were laughing at me. I never had a girlfriend during that time either, not for lack of wanting but I didn't understand the social aspect of how to get one.
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Fast forwarding to these days, I work for a big IT company with Access Management tasks - meaning I'm the guy who creates user accounts, gives access to network shares, creates mailboxes, etc. I've been working there for more than three years, which is pretty much the longest career I've had anywhere so far - usually I've switched to something else at the two year mark.
Sometime, like 7-8 years ago I said to my wife that I hate the fact that I see other people having hobbies and being interested in things and actually being able to KEEP that interest. I've had plenty of interests along the years, back then it was reading - I would read nonstop, I'd even bring my books when going to the john, so I could read while pooping. I had hundreds of books at home, wanting to eventually have library of my own. Then, a few years back, I just stopped reading. Just like that. I haven't read a book since and after staring at the books in their cardboard boxes for like three years, I finally gave them all away to charity.
Another hobby that I've had on and off is music - I love metal music and right now, I superfocus on it, digesting tons of new albums and artists every day, reading articles and reviews etc. But I know that the day will come when I will get tired of it (again). I had a period a couple of years ago, where I would try to listen to music because I knew I love to do that, but it would almost make my stomach turn. I just couldn't force myself to do it or be interested.
I also do woodworking, this is one of my latest obsessions - and this is not a cheap one, either. You know how expensive tools can get? You watch these YouTube woodworkers with all their fancy tools, and of course you suck at it first because who doesn't, and you blame the tools, then get crazy expensive tools that you displace easily and then leave them to gather dust.
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This is probably nowhere near coherent but bear with me. I'm trying to find the point, what I'm trying to say. Or ask?
Weird things I do:
\- wife comes home from a long shift and I've been home alone - she asks what I've done - my answer is almost always "Nothing" and it's mostly true
\- I've always chalked this up to being introvert, but apparently not answering texts from your friends is... normal? Is it also normal to feel anxiety because "you feel like you're supposed to answer right away"? And feel anxiety because now you've wasted your friend's time when you didn't answer in a timely fashion and he's probably pissed at you?
\- My daughters pet peeve with me - she will come home from school, find me sitting on the sofa just doing nothing, and tell me something about her day - I'll even answer, but then when she asks for an opinion or something of what she just told me, I'll be like "can you repeat? I have no idea what you just said".
\- At work, if we have a ton of tickets, I function normally and do well. Holiday times are the hardest - things tend to slow down to a crawl, not much to do -> I start procrastinating the hell out of my work and then, when the tickets starts piling up, I can't get started no matter what I do. I KNOW I need to start working them, but I just can't get it done. I might open a ticket, look what needs to be done but feel it's overwhelming even if it's a super basic task.
\- If I watch TV or drive a car or something, whatever, I'll be nonstop drumming with my fingers, fidgeting with something etc. When I sit in my office, my restless legs will be in perpetual motion.
\- When reading stuff (on reddit for example), I will be clicking and dragging my mouse over the text I'm currently reading, also nonstop. It infuriates my coworkers for some reason, especially if they're trying to read from my screen at the same time as me???
\- If I try to create a new habit, like hitting the gym or something, it works fine as long as I'm able to stick to a premade routine. For example, if I say to myself I'll hit the gym three times a week, and I manage to do that for two, three weeks in a row, and then get sick and unable to continue, 99 times out of a 100 I will drop that habit because my brain tells me everything I've done up to that point was wasted because I couldn't keep doing it on schedule. This applies to eating healthy (if I cheat, well, there goes that)... hell, even to Pokemon Go (they have this "spin pokestops for 7 days in a row) - if I miss a day and have to start over, I'll uninstall the game on a whim
\- At work I get super riled up if someone tries to make me do their work or if I feel someone is acting in a stupid way and it usually ain't that pretty because I have a hard time filtering what I say to the person in question
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Oh yeah, and what about the topic? What I was getting at is, I feel like I might have ADHD. I want to get it checked out, but at the same time, I'm anxious. Like, I don't even know which one is the better outcome - that I DO have it and get the diagnose and maybe some help to tackle it, or that I don't have it and am just the lazy, indifferent bastard that my teacher told me some 18 years ago. "You have so much potential, if you just wouldn't be like that". Yeah, thanks.
So what am I afraid of? Well, if I get the diagnose, I worry how I will react to it mentally, seeing as I'm not young anymore, and I'll probably feel like I've "wasted" my life until now. And, if I DON'T get the diagnose, well then it proves my teacher right - I just am the lazy, indifferent bastard.
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Sorry for the super long winded post, I have no idea if this shit even makes sense to anyone but me. I'm just... I've been reading a lot and watching videos on YT how to cope with these things and so today when my wife was leaving for an evening shift to work, she came to my office and looked at me and asked, what's wrong and I just completely broke down. I don't even know why. Maybe it's a realization, or maybe I'm just burned out from my job, I don't know. We have a very shitty situation at work where several people have left and management haven't really been up to the task to recruit any new ones - so we who are left are doing more than our fair share of work and this has been going on for a year. Meanwhile, the boss keeps saying every week that "just a bit longer, then it'll even out". Out of four last recruits, two left the company within the second week of employment. It just guts me to start training someone and then see it flushed down the toilet time and again... | 2021-12-15T16:28:46.000Z | rh2z8x | 9 | 3 | ADHD | I want to get diagnosed, but at the same time, don't | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2z8x/i_want_to_get_diagnosed_but_at_the_same_time_dont/ |
lexi4732 | i’ve been diagnosed for basically my whole life but just got back on meds a year and a half ago. for the last few months i’ve been on vyvanse 40 mg and i’m starting to get to a point in my tolerance where it’s virtually ineffective. if i stay on the vyvanse i know i need to get my dosage upped but regardless when i take it no matter the dosage it only lasts to about 5 pm ish (i don’t take past 11:30 am cause any later it messes with my already present insomnia)
so to get to the point i’m not sure if i should stay on the vyvanse with an instant release adderall booster or switch completely to instant release because after a conversation with a family member they recommended that instant release works better for them.
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and before it’s commented i know everyone is different with meds but i just wanna get some more perspectives to talk to my psych about
tldr; thinking of changing my meds or adding a booster what worked better for you? | 2021-12-15T16:28:00.000Z | rh2ymh | 2 | 1 | ADHD | medication change? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2ymh/medication_change/ |
ScrotchyMcDumpwaffle | So, I was diagnosed at 12 or 13 (29M) and my mother is pressuring me since getting out of the military to get back on meds (I took them for 3 years, then at 19 joined the military and got out this year). However, I am adamantly against taking my meds because of how they made me feel (I took Concerta and it made me feel like my body was on autopilot and my mind was an observer that had no control).
So first, let me tell you guys what a day in my life is like (good and bad). I almost never remember my dreams, so I don't want up in a good or bad mood just 'alright, time to get up' and I have no anxiety about anything. It doesn't matter how shitty yesterday was, when I wake up, it's a brand new day. It's almost like I have a natural resistance to Depression.
If I have to work or have to do something, there is about a 3 hour window in any day where I am hyper productive. As in I can get more done in these 3 hours than most people can do in a day, especially if I have to sit down and study something. Let's say I wake up at 6 to be at work by 7:30 (eat, shower, shave, drive). Between 8 and 11, I am extremely productive but as soon as something pulls me away from my productivity, it is almost impossible to get it back for the rest of the day. I can extend it to maybe 4 hours, but if I get pulled away to go to lunch or go to a meeting, my focus is gone and will not come back. For the rest of the day I will find small menial tasking to feign how busy I am until I go home. If it is productive work at home, I will just procrastinate or move onto a different much easier task.
How do you guys control/manage lack of focus or lack of motivation? I know this is a problem that everyone struggled with not just people with ADD/ADHD but I want to avoid meds and learn actual self discipline. It's tough, but it's how I would like to live. | 2021-12-15T16:25:48.000Z | rh2ww1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Questions about management | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2ww1/questions_about_management/ |
DefconPilot | Hey Everyone!
I got diagnosed with ADD back in ‘08. Taking Concerta 54mg for 5 years know. I started college last year and I am doing great. However, since this year, I have a difficulty switching from hyperfocus back to ‘normal’. Just like many of you, my mind is always on. Especially when I need to work or do a lot of tasks. For example, I am modeling a appartement building and I need to calculate a lot and think about how I want to design something and much more. It makes my head so loaded with info and stuff.
What do you guys mostly do when you need to take a break from your minds? | 2021-12-15T16:11:44.000Z | rh2l7j | 7 | 2 | ADHD | What do you guys do to calm your thoughts/head? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2l7j/what_do_you_guys_do_to_calm_your_thoughtshead/ |
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Friendly_Football_58 | Hey everyone, I’m trying to figure out how I should fit in my cup of coffee. I read it’s not good to mix caffeine and stimulants, but I love coffee, like a lot, and look forward to drinking it in the morning so I’m not going to stop drinking it because I’m risky like that. But I am gonna be careful.
Should I wait an hour after I take my adderall? What do you guys do?
Additional info: I was on 10mg of adderall XR, but my doctor and I agreed it needed to be upped once I ran out. I guess he was out of the office when I ran out because I couldn’t reach him and ended up going two days without it. So I’m taking 20 mg after a little tolerance break, although I don’t feel like my heart is beating super fast or anything. I feel very calm. | 2021-12-15T16:05:40.000Z | rh2gbj | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Cup of coffee and adderall XR 20mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2gbj/cup_of_coffee_and_adderall_xr_20mg/ |
Ok_Historian_7664 | I recently worked really hard on getting ADA accommodations through my work to be able to work from home. It was not easy, I really did not want to share my struggles (to be clear, I never discussed my actual diagnosis) as I am a very private person and usually just like to fade into the background - cope the best way I can. I wanted to give up at times because of the hoops it felt like I had to jump through, but in the end it has worked out for me - and it can for you too!
Be your own advocate, even if it sometimes actually feels painful to do so. Figure out what you need to do your job the best you can and then tell your supervisor (if you feel comfortable doing so) and HR.
I feel like I can finally stay working even with my disability now - it’s absolutely life changing! Life is hard, try to make it easier for you :)
I am linking the JAN ADA website that I used to help me through this:
https://askjan.org/ | 2021-12-15T16:05:10.000Z | rh2fwc | 1 | 4 | ADHD | LPT - Advocate for yourself | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2fwc/lpt_advocate_for_yourself/ |
saucy_pilot | I started taking adderall recently. Ive been getting physical anxiety 30 mg IR adderall even if i cut it in half. Usually im a pretty calm person sober. I meditate, take fish oil, and take CBD. Im pretty a content person also. Do i have some hidden depression and anxiety? Is it just my body adjusting to adderall and will I be fine down the road? If you guys have any tips in reducing anxiety lmk please. | 2021-12-15T16:05:08.000Z | rh2fv8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anxiety with adderall | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2fv8/anxiety_with_adderall/ |
shellybearcat | Hope this is ok to post, please remove if not-
I am waaaaay overdue to find a PCP in Phoenix and my husband isn’t a fan of his. Last year, thanks to another redditor reading between the lines of a venting post I made, it started to hit me that ADHD might be what caused a lot of my issues, and after reading how it presents differently in women I was so overcome. I set up an appointment the next day but was with a physician’s assistant. She was honestly wonderful, listened to what I said, told me there are lots of things that can present similarly in women so we want to rule those out before we and together we call it ADHD, and then through the course of the appointment ruled out literally everything else lol. She recommended trying non-prescription options first and said if those weren’t doing enough come back and we’ll do blood work and talk about medication options. I did, it’s not, and it’s time.
But she is REALLY far away and I would like to have a full PCP. I wasn’t too concerned until I started reading the horror stories here about people getting dismissed, especially women first getting diagnosed. Then I found out at the same time as me my sister was also having a similar revelation and went to HER doctor (in a different city) who told her she was just depressed (she has no actual depression symptoms and had depression many years ago and knows what it feels like) and insisted on proscribing her heavy duty antidepressants which then took a month for her to wean off of when they (of course) did nothing good for her. So now I’m just very stressed about going through the process of finding a doctor and having them be like many have experienced and having to start over. | 2021-12-15T15:59:35.000Z | rh2b0w | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Any Phoenix women have a Primary Care doctor they really like and was informed and non dismissive of your ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2b0w/any_phoenix_women_have_a_primary_care_doctor_they/ |
t1dogsandweights | I had a virtual appointment with a prescriber today, and I was completely convinced I had adhd and depression but we reached a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. I’m starting abilify and lamotrigine tonight, but I’m really scared it’s going to make some symptoms worse. I struggle with binge eating (which I shared with my prescriber), and I am really worried about the increase in appetite. Anyone have experience with this combination of meds? | 2021-12-15T15:59:11.000Z | rh2apb | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Abilify and lamotrigine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh2apb/abilify_and_lamotrigine/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T15:57:53.000Z | rh29mh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone been in a similar scenario? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh29mh/anyone_been_in_a_similar_scenario/ |
Scarletsnow_87 | I was diagnosed with ADHD about 2 years ago and have been taking Wellbutrin for the whole time. I tend to be a little sensitive to medications so I've been only taking about $150 to 225 mg of it a day and it's been doing pretty good. But it wasn't quite enough. So my doctor recommended that I try Ritalin. I was given 5 mg instant release which also, lowest dose possible. It did exactly what I needed it to do. I was able to focus. Focus I felt happy instead of stuck in depressive. Thoughts. But then it stopped being so great. I got really really hot and I haven't stopped feeling warmer than normal. Also feel like I was forgetting things. I couldn't remember my phone number last night, I set the wrong alarm on my phone for this morning. Has it messed with anyone else? I kind of want to try it again but it also makes me a little nervous with how I reacted. Thanks guys! | 2021-12-15T15:55:53.000Z | rh27yf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Weird reaction to Ritalin.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh27yf/weird_reaction_to_ritalin/ |
Intelligent_Ad6088 | i’m currently working a full time job while simultaneously finishing my bachelors online. my work week starts on a thursday and ends on a saturday, with one sunday my shift covers each month as well. with 12 hour shifts to cram in hours to give myself days off in order to work on my classwork from sunday-wednesday.
i find myself stuck in a loop most weeks, just writing out assignment instructions or taking notes constantly tearing pages out when i have a spelling or grammar error that i can’t fix and hide at the same time. i know that i am the only person who will probably ever see my notes, so it shouldn’t matter if they aren’t perfect, and yet it does matter and takes up 90% of my free time i could be using on actually completing the assignments and working on hobbies like music.
i’m sure i’m not the only one who has this, or a similar, struggle to “accept that it’s good enough”. it’s something my dad has called me out on many times and told me i just have to “accept and ignore”, and yea that’s easy to say as someone who can pick and manage their thoughts normally, but near impossible for me. the more i’m told to forget something, the more i remember it and let us just sit in my head rent free telling me how useless i am because i can’t manage it like everyone else can.
even so, i now almost pride myself on my perfectionism, especially when it comes to music, i spend weeks just listening to a beat ive made or one that really caught my attention, always running through themes, lyrics, flows, and messages all coming together as jumbled thoughts but spoken in such a way that the jumbled mess is understandable.
i guess i’m just wondering how others have managed or dealt with their adhd’s obsessive tendencies, because i take meds (adderall Xr 30mg twice daily: 60mg daily) and for the most part it helps, but i can’t come home from work and complete homework effectively because my second dose has dissipated by that time (7-8pm) and i’m thoroughly exhausted. on top of that, many days off i have a hard time even noticing anything when i take my prescription, like i’m easily swayed and impulsive so a fault and it used to help me with that a lot, and now i’m starting to wonder if taking these is even worth the potential risk to my heart if i feel just as confused as i did before i started them.
if anyone else has had a similar experience and either found a solution to it, or just to start a conversation around the topic, please be my guest, i love hearing about others’ experiences in this community. | 2021-12-15T15:49:36.000Z | rh22y3 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | i’m constantly obsessed with note taking, and then don’t know how to use them | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh22y3/im_constantly_obsessed_with_note_taking_and_then/ |
anon55551 | I’m prescribed 4x10 mg of dexedrine spanules. I take 20mg within an hour of waking (by 730am). Then 10 around 12pm and 10 around 2pm. I fall asleep about 10pm. I find myself a bit sluggish until after I’ve taken the 12pm dose. Maybe not sluggish but not optimal functioning. Interested in others dosing schedule. | 2021-12-15T15:48:33.000Z | rh225f | 1 | 2 | ADHD | What’s your dosing schedule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh225f/whats_your_dosing_schedule/ |
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Dalecoop87 | So i'm finally on the pathway and can log into the portal on Psych UK and complete my forms.
When it comes to childhood recollections, I'm struggling to bring anything specific to mind. My mum has finally found a few reports from primary (elementary) school but there's nothing 'supportive' of an ADHD diagnosis.
I only remember broad things from my high school days, namely that I enjoyed myself, was a bit of a weirdo but had friends, showed off, did impressions of teachers and got a reputation as class clown. But I always did my work, never had any serious disciplinary action against me and got average grades....
I can obviously offer plenty of adult examples that support my suspicions that I am living with ADHD but my question is ***will not having as many childhood examples derail the diagnosis process?***
**I am absolutely prepared to be proven wrong; i'm not looking to try and force a diagnosis. If it turns out I have ADHD traits due other reasons, or that i'm just anxious and depressed and they aren't ADHD co-morbidities then so be it. I will deal with that if I need to.** | 2021-12-15T15:46:36.000Z | rh20ny | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Psych UK forms - Can't remember specific examples from childhood, will I be taken seriously?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh20ny/psych_uk_forms_cant_remember_specific_examples/ |
JustAnotherMate01194 | Title says it all. I’ve been on Adderall XR for several years now, and different moods are a bart of life, but the past couple of weeks have been different.
I’ve been pretty down in general, but my mood is definitely worse in the evenings, and I’m unsure if part of the problem is the meds wearing off.
Sorry in advance if this didn’t make a whole lot of sense, and thanks to anyone who weighs in. | 2021-12-15T15:42:35.000Z | rh1xkb | 6 | 6 | ADHD | Pretty awful mood swings when Adderall XR wears off? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1xkb/pretty_awful_mood_swings_when_adderall_xr_wears/ |
ff587 | Around 4 years ago, in my 30's, I finally started medication. IT WAS LIFE CHANGING. I wasn't walking around in a fog anymore, work was going very well, life was good. Since then, I began working from home, as many of us have, and went through a very mentally draining divorce. I am not on 20mg of Adderall 2x a day and can't seem to get out of my own way. My work is suffering from lack of motivation, imposter syndrome, and I can't remember to do anything to save my life. I am looking for advice on how to get that motivation back. The drive to succeed. How do I get myself to put a massive effort into my work like I used to so that I don't end up losing my job? | 2021-12-15T15:41:56.000Z | rh1x0p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lack of motivation and forgetfulness | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1x0p/lack_of_motivation_and_forgetfulness/ |
Resident_Good_3657 | Hey.
I just recently thought i may have ADHD and I'm the process of getting a diagnosis - though every specialist I've talked to and my friends with ADHD tell me I do have it. It may be inappropriate for me to insert myself into this space without a diagnosis, but I'm desperate.
Does executive dysfunction go away or get better? Can medication or therapy help with it? I can go to the gym and just sit on the equipment for ten minutes because i just can't move, even though physically there's nothing wrong. I've been like this for years. It applies to all things - even texting my boyfriend, whom i love very much, back. I just can't bring myself to do things sometimes.
Does it ever get better? | 2021-12-15T15:40:28.000Z | rh1vvx | 4 | 12 | ADHD | does executive dysfunction ever go away? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1vvx/does_executive_dysfunction_ever_go_away/ |
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lovelyalien15 | wow I really do these two things which weirdly parallel another:
1. make something (usually but not always out of left field for what I usually make) that I'm proud of but I keep it a secret and tell Nobody.
2. tell people I'm making something Huge but don't actually work on it or finish it.
WAIT WHAT IF IT'S BECAUSE OF: "don't surprise people." ?!?!?
I believe I never finish anything so I don't? but when I do make something I don't want people to potentially reject and have their opinion of me changed because I'm terrified of expectations placed on me in ANY way. but yknow what I can do? Uphold the status quo of how I view myself, yeah that maintains a semblance of control and stability that continuously gets ripped from me mentally!!!! :'D
So does, uh, literally anyone relate to this. I think it does involve ADHD to some degree.. can't articulate why though. Imposter Syndrome, expectations, rejection sensitivity? | 2021-12-15T15:38:24.000Z | rh1u5j | 2 | 2 | ADHD | something about how I create art and how I share it with people | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1u5j/something_about_how_i_create_art_and_how_i_share/ |
ComplexAd7820 | Does anyone here have a child with special needs? Our middle 9 year old son has Down Syndrome. I have no problem dealing with the therapy schedule (when he was younger), dr. appointments and hospital stays because from what I've discovered through my diagnosis, this is my way to chase a dopamine high. I'm always in a tizzy. Now actually doing what the therapists, teachers, behaviorists and doctors tell me to do is another problem. I never follow through. So that means my son doesn't have the structure he needs and probably has anxiety plus he's really irritating to be around. We generally isolate ourselves because of it. I do my best to get my other two boys out and involved but I know it's not fair to my middle son plus it puts a strain on me and my husband.
Why can't I just freaking follow through. I know that there would still be problems if I did everything right but I know life would be easier if I would try harder. I put a ton of blame on myself but it is what it is. I genuinely hate myself sometimes. | 2021-12-15T15:28:32.000Z | rh1lym | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Parenting a child with special needs while you struggle with your own diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1lym/parenting_a_child_with_special_needs_while_you/ |
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Panzercannon03 |
Some have asked me why I just don't bother dating at all, why I don't even attempt it anymore.
Here's why:
I've had several attempts at dating throughout my life. Each one of them extremely unsuccessful and only end up making me feel like crap and/or heartbroken each time. I've literally never had "happiness" from dating that lasted more than a month. Maybe it's the type of people I pursue or maybe there's something wrong with how I date, regardless it's a recipe for emotional pain for me more than it is a recipe for happiness.
I'm bad at dating. I fully understand that. Usually when a problem keeps happening no matter what variables you change, the only variables to look at are the constants and covariants: in this case I'm the "constant".
I also know some of the patterns. I would be one to "rush things" if I'm really excited and interested in a person. I tend to get really passionate and my interest in her often is 10x greater than her interest in me. It doesn't matter who the person is: I only have two modes: passionate and disinterested. Partially this is an ADHD thing (where you hyperfocus on anything or in this case anyone you're passionate about), and partially it's just simply because I've got a lot of love to give. I also just simply do everything with 10x more effort than would be typical for a normal person when I first start on something...not just dating that I do that.
That's not exactly a negative quality and I don't feel that's something I would want to remove or change in myself. I like the fact that I have way more capacity for passion than normal folks. But unless the person I'm dating is the same way, it's more likely not to work out. People assume that too much passion too soon is a bad sign. This the majority of the time....by around the third date my potential for passion starts to become apparent and people cut things off by then.
I've dated a few girls for a couple of months by managing to at least artificially contain any passion to an "acceptable" level; but usually that just ended up with me feeling more heartbroken once my true self is revealed; all that time feeling not like myself and walking on eggshells trying not to do something wrong: I want someone I can be true self with: I don't want to have to roleplay someone else just to convince her to be with me.
I also got tired of giving tons of love but not having nearly as much love reciprocated back. Like it got to the point to where anytime I would be with someone and they did something even remotely thoughtful and loving: like baking me cookies or giving me a small gift or even just simply buying me coffee, or if they told me they rearranged their schedule to make time for me: I would cherish that small drip of affection like it was the rarest thing on earth. I would also take their criticisms as gospel and try to act on any perceived blight on my part in some relentless persuit of perfection: believing I'm always just one bad day away from being dumped: I had to make sure there was no possibility of that I would do everything I can to be as perfect as possible. Needless to say, those eggshells start to hurt after a while: no one can keep up with that stress.
Well fast forward a bit. I'm now 34, and have never really had a true relationship at this point, after almost 15 years of actively trying to find one. I am paranoid about screwing up whenever I go on a date....to the point to where I basically expect all dates to end up with her half heartily saying "let's just be friends" (I've been around long enough to know most women are never sincere about the friendship offer; it's just something they say to cusion the blow). The few dates that have gone on to second dates 90% of the time (and I'm not exaggerating) end up with her saying that she's not sure about me. If it last to a third date well I usually end up cautiously optimistic but 90% of the time that ends up failing too. Something about my personality is revealed or they think I'm too sensitive or something: I don't really know.
What I do know: I know I would be a good partner to someone. I've a lot of good qualities that my friends see in me and why they enjoy spending time with me. I have no doubt I'd be an amazing partner to someone. I'd probably be an even better dad if I ever chose to have kids.
I don't need any "confidence boost" there.
But I am too traumatized by past experiences to even expect that any dating relationship will ever amount to anything but emotional pain for me. At this point I'm too jaded to expect anything good. So I've elected to just avoid that all together. Find other things that keep me happy: I've done things like kayaking and SUP, made 3d printed miniatures, hiking, mountain biking, et cetera.
Is avoidance a healthy coping strategy? No, but for me it's what keeps me sane and at a decent level of happiness. The level of avoidance would generally be me "trying" once or twice a year. But now I've gone on about a year and a half now with 0 attempts at dating. The pandemic made it more acceptable to be single and I just said "fuck it" and embraced my perpetual singleness as an active choice: if I have no chance at success, might as well find a way to be happy with my current reality. For the most part I have done that: I am genuinely a pretty happy person now: if you met me in person you'd see I'm actually pretty fun to be around, albeit a bit random and nerdy 😆. To my friends I'm both loyal and a good listener (sensitive people such as myself have a greater capacity for empathy). I just happen to be everyone's third wheel lol.
if you have a similar experience as me, I'd love to hear your stories. | 2021-12-15T15:23:56.000Z | rh1ibd | 19 | 23 | ADHD | ADHD has made it so hard that I've stopped trying to date. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1ibd/adhd_has_made_it_so_hard_that_ive_stopped_trying/ |
Unhappy-Hat-100 | I figured I should write my experience so far in case anyone can relate. I'm going to update this as my experiences change if at all.
**If you can relate or have any tips, PLEASE comment or message me.**
20 year old female, 239 lbs
•I started my first ADHD medication on 12/11 which was 18 mg of Methylphenidate ER (I think doc said generic concerta?) once in the morning. I took it once in the morning at 6am for 3 days, all 3 days I had no good or bad side effects and I felt the same as before I started any medication.
My doctor told me to start taking 2 tablets in the morning daily to see if 36mg would work for me. Yesterday (12/14), I took 36mg for the first time.
All day I didn't have any effects, no motivation to do anything and I just wanted to lay in bed all day like I normally do.
My resting heart rate was the same as it was before I started any medication. No headaches. No appetite changes. No good or bad side effects I was told about.
I did feel sluggish all day and I should mention that I've been dissociated/in a state of derealization for the past 7 months and I basically feel mentally tired but not sleepy. Cant think straight, nothing really feels real but at the same time it does. I just felt this feeling really strong yesterday.
About 6 hours in, I had to make a few phone calls and I was having trouble thinking of words to say and I was kind of.. Tripping over my words? It was really weird but basically I couldnt think of what to say and I had thoughts flooding my mind and it was just like any other time im trying to think and focus but 10x worse. I find it weird that my ADHD medication is making my ADHD feel worse especially with the flooded thoughts.
Today I tried taking my medication a bit later and also sleeping a lil later. (At first I would get up at 5am to wake up my fiance, take the medication at 5:30-6am and feel sluggish more than I normally do.
This morning after my fiance left for work, I went back to sleep at 6am and woke up at 8:30.
After waking up, I was in a good mindset and hopeful my medication would do something today.
I took the pills at 8:40am and I'm hoping that waking up at a normal time and taking my medication a little later will make me feel like im on a normal sleep schedule, and make me feel less sluggish and more in tune. I find that waking and staying up at 5am when its still dark, feels a lot like when you stay up all night and day.
I dont know if this is gonna be any different but I'm trying anything to get my medication to work.
I dont know how to tell if it starts working. Will I start to feel motivation or energy as im sitting here in bed? Do I HAVE to try and do something to test it out. About 1.5 hours later I dont feel motivated and I definitely dont feel like leaving my bed. I feel somewhat happy like I do on my good days but I still feel glued to my bed.
Important things I've been needing to get done like cleaning my pets cages or taking care of myself still feel impossible, and have every day ive been on this medication. | 2021-12-15T15:21:43.000Z | rh1ghr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Methylphenidate ER 18mg (36mg) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1ghr/methylphenidate_er_18mg_36mg/ |
mochiburrito | [removed] | 2021-12-15T15:19:46.000Z | rh1exk | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Curious to see what your superpowers are! | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1exk/curious_to_see_what_your_superpowers_are/ |
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DecisionFirst445 | I feel like I don't have any knowledge about anything. It's very frustrating seeing how everyone around me have solid opinions on a subject while I'm lacking in knowledge and skills.
It's like I never explore about a topic, I just get the idea of how it works and what is it and that's all. It's sad.
I don't know if it's because I can't work in something for more than 2 hours or is it just because I have no motivation.
I really want to change this but I'm not able to find a way to start.
(note: I have recentlly daignosed with ADHD and I'm not on medication) | 2021-12-15T15:12:33.000Z | rh19et | 29 | 83 | ADHD | Do you ever feel like you know nothing? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh19et/do_you_ever_feel_like_you_know_nothing/ |
NoTilt_ | I recently went to a Psychiatrist and he believes I have ADHD. It's not set in stone yet. Based on what I researched on it, it's incredibly relatable, not just in small everyday things but on how impairing it is to operate as a normal adult.
However, while I'm aware that there is a spectrum, most of the people describing their ADHD tend to talk a lot about how they space out during conversations or other things. To me, my rate of spacing out or being too absorbed into myself to pay attention to my surroundings is that of a normal person. To explain how it feels, I don't really miss what I'm being told when someone speaks to me and I also find it hard to ignore what people are talking about within my hearing range, the sounds, etc. And not only that, but I also don't really forget it, and if anything I remember pretty obscure things that people tell me.
If anything, it can be overwhelming and annoying at times to not be able to do stuff because the smallest of things bother me in my surroundings.
In any case, I'd be curious to hear if there is someone with ADHD that can relate more to that and perhaps educate me a bit on how the spectrum works. I'm currently on my first day of prescribed Methylphenidate, half a pill, to test it out for two weeks. Don't really feel a change but won't question that since is a small dose and also the first day. | 2021-12-15T15:05:21.000Z | rh1407 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Can I have ADHD if I don't really space out during conversations and, quite the opposite, I tend to ingrain in my head a lot of what it's being said to me or my surroundings? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1407/can_i_have_adhd_if_i_dont_really_space_out_during/ |
heneedssomemillk | I've been diagnosed a few months and the psychiatrist first started me on 10mg IR ritalin, which i took for a month.
I now take LR ritalin 20mg (50-50 release). I started on the 1st of december, but skipped sa-su-mo each weekend. So i've taken about 9 pills over 2 weeks.
IR was a bit rollercoastery, being very focused and sharp feeling (with more anxiety, but LR is the same) and then very shakey feeling on the comedown.
LR is definitely more stable feeling, but at the start i feel very on edge and wound up. I feel like i HAVE to do SOMETHING productive but in an unpleasant way. When i focus on studying, i can keep my focus on task, but the meaning is gone? It's like focused brain fog?
Then on the comedown, i get very sleepy and like i desperately need caffeine to keep my brain functions going.
I can't study well and need good grades since i'm in med school and the coming exams are VERY important.
My psychiatrist appointment is still a month away. Should i visit my regular doctor to go back to IR during exams or will the LR side effects go away?
Help? | 2021-12-15T15:04:09.000Z | rh1321 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Ritalin LR makes me feel on edge first, with brain fog when focussing and then tired and sleepy. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh1321/ritalin_lr_makes_me_feel_on_edge_first_with_brain/ |
Lunagirl6780 | I just got the email yesterday morning and I told myself I was going to open it later but I forgot lol. But I am so glad I did, it's not my dream school but now atleast I will definetly have somewhere to go!!!
I was so scared because I struggled so badly in school, but I'm hopefully that I will get into the rest!! | 2021-12-15T14:57:55.000Z | rh0y18 | 17 | 119 | ADHD | I GOT INTO MY FIRST UNIVERSITY | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0y18/i_got_into_my_first_university/ |
cleverCLEVERcharming | How hard was it really to get a diagnosis and meds as an adult? I’m in the US in the Midwest.
I signed up for cerebral because waiting for an in person appointment seemed daunting. I need a refill on depression meds I’ve been on forever so I was going to start there but wanted to ask for ADHD meds. Ended up skipping the appointment because I was afraid asking point blank for ADHD meds would be a red flag for seeking pills. Just didn’t want to be judged. | 2021-12-15T14:57:29.000Z | rh0xp2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Adult meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0xp2/adult_meds/ |
harry_powell | [removed] | 2021-12-15T14:49:59.000Z | rh0s66 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What’s a good book about ADHD if you’ve been diagnosed as an adult? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0s66/whats_a_good_book_about_adhd_if_youve_been/ |
Nimrochan | My dude, my guy, my lady - I know. This will take five minutes, but so will that and this and that also. Many many things can take five minutes and they ALL have equal priority in my day and five minutes times 700 tasks is still a lot. I don’t need to hear the “break it up into small tasks,” I don’t need to hear “it’ll take you five minutes a day.” I know. Rearranging or organizing puzzle pieces doesn’t make the puzzle smaller.
Edit: I see this comment has resonated with a lot of people lol. Thank you all for the comments and upvotes.
Someone here mentioned arranging the puzzle pieces by color - that’s kind of what I do. Cleaning tasks is one pile, phone calls/appointments are another, school is another, etc. I end up jumping around piles all day. So sometimes an important task gets lost in the pile of similar tasks that I’ll eventually get to. It’s far from a perfect system and I struggle to do important things in a timely manner, but a thing eventually done is a good thing I always say. | 2021-12-15T14:45:29.000Z | rh0oug | 291 | 3,692 | ADHD | “It’ll just take you five minutes a day” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0oug/itll_just_take_you_five_minutes_a_day/ |
thymelord | I'm in a prolonged period of "hungry but everything is unappealing so I'll just overeat whatever is handy" and I'd like to stop. I've got some dietary restrictions that make it trickier to just grab anything, but I'm heartily sick of some of my current standbys. I've also been struggling with cooking because of the lingering smells of cooking, so trying to figure out no-cook, grab and go kinds of things.
Looking for recs of protein bars, snacks, smoothies or shake mixes, and other quick foods that are:
* gluten-free
* No bananas/peaches/apricots/apples
* No mushrooms/beans/lentils/celery
* drinks that aren't gloopy and gross like Soylent | 2021-12-15T14:44:55.000Z | rh0ocz | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Snacks and other quick food for someone w/ dietary and texture restrictions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0ocz/snacks_and_other_quick_food_for_someone_w_dietary/ |
gShox | Does anyone else feel like this? I’m just so uninterested in everything. I can’t really watch TV or movies because I get so bored. Can’t play video games because I get bored. It feels like I’m constantly searching for something to keep my interest, but I can never find it. The only motivation is external forces, I do well in school but that’s because I know if I don’t do my work I will fail. I’m a programming major, and I do well in classes and I know I have the skills to do stuff, but working on personal projects is impossible because I can never commit to them, I just lose interest and motivation too quickly or feel overwhelmed (I’m talking about within minutes)
My more book based classes that aren’t hands on I really struggle. Studying is a no go, I try to read and end up skimming or line skipping and I feel like the information never actually goes in my mind, I’m just reading it without being able to truly understand it.
It’s honestly incredibly frustrating. | 2021-12-15T14:42:31.000Z | rh0mhx | 17 | 67 | ADHD | Can’t finish anything | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0mhx/cant_finish_anything/ |
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ashambels | Update : Thank you for all your perspectives. As I told u/remindmein15minutes ...
I've pretty much dropped the squirrel metaphor it because it's **too easy a joke to make** and therefore **too easy to ridicule**. I also realize that my symptoms, while real to me, put me in the top decile of people, functionality wise. I may still make a comic or something but only to point out the difference between getting alongside an ADHD person and making fun of them.
I appreciate your frank thoughts. The kindness and generosity of this group has blown me away.
Previously wrote ...
I'm creating a collection of writing (possibly for a book) which I was going to call the "squirrel collective" . The aim is a light-hearted but useful resource for people with ADHD. Last thing I want to do is annoy people . Is the title a "hard no" a "meh maybe" or a "why not ?" . Appreciate in advance | 2021-12-15T14:36:10.000Z | rh0hmt | 188 | 137 | ADHD | is "squirrel" pejorative ? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0hmt/is_squirrel_pejorative/ |
SleepIsForTheWeak_1 | I've seen a bunch of people with ADHD in the past, but most of their experiences all boil down to varying degrees of some type of depression deal. ...but that isn't anything I've experienced. It may just be my personality combined with my ADHD but I've always been a pretty happy person. I think I tend to come off as to much when meeting someone new, but those who know me, know that I'm pretty easy to talk to, and I have a pretty good understanding on how to operate in conversation. Meanwhile I've seen a bunch of stories about how people would have to actually research stuff like that and I'm confused. It might also be the fact that my doctors were somehow able to recognize my ADHD before I was born (even offering to terminate the pregnancy because of it) and so my parents raised me with that in mind, unlike most people who are less fortunate and don't get raised like that.
Tldr; I'm happy even though most ADHD experience I've seen is more sad sometimes
So is this common and I'm just an idiot, or something else? | 2021-12-15T14:34:57.000Z | rh0gnv | 62 | 17 | ADHD | So am I just the odd one out? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0gnv/so_am_i_just_the_odd_one_out/ |
ProlapsePatrick | Hi, like many of us here, I've struggled with mental illness for pretty much my whole life, which has made things vastly more difficult to not only do, but deal with on a daily basis, and my life has been stagnating. I'm sure this feeling isn't foreign to most of you reading this, given your ADHD was impactful enough to make you want to browse this sub for support. But a lot of us feel misunderstood and alienated by society, given that we have to "mold" ourselves to fit in with a world that often feels like it wasn't made for us. People don't understand us, words don't do it justice sometimes.
That's why I'd like to make music to represent how it feels. I already have two tracks I made on a particularly bad day, but I have a few tracks I'd like to make to express various components of mental illness. For example:
ADHD (Hyperfocus) - The track starts with a high energy, interesting buildup, and suddenly switches to another style of buildup. This continues for a lot of the track, until it reaches the breakdown (focus burnout) section, and sustains on a slow, disinteresting tone for the rest of the track.
I already have a song I'd like to title "Depression - Happiness", because I feel it describes depression's negative impact on profound happiness. The song is still upbeat but sounds very wrong, the melody is happy but it doesn't feel as profoundly happy as one would expect from music. I'm hoping these tracks can help explain what mental illness is like to those who don't quite understand just from hearing experiences, or can explain it in a better way, or perhaps be something others can relate to.
If anyone is interested in joining, you're more than welcome to message me. Any help is appreciated, this isn't a project that needs to be professional quality, for either the audio, or the potential video I'm hoping it becomes, it's more of a passion project I'd like to start.
Do you guys think this is a good idea, and would any of you like to join? Whatever you're able to add is fine, whether you've been making music professionally for years, or just downloaded the FL studio free edition today and hardly know what to do, your input is welcome.
Musicians, Artists, Photoshoppers, Video Editors, even just writing lyrics or recording a monologue / slam poetry to go with a song, it's fine. This project isn't solely focused on ADHD, other mental illnesses are welcome
**TL;DR:** I want to make music to represent how it feels having mental illnesses, and anyone who can contribute (music, art, lyrics, etc) is welcome to participate.
I will set up the details later, I'm at work until 5:00PM EST (10 or 11pm for most of you in western europe) | 2021-12-15T14:31:49.000Z | rh0e8v | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Considering starting a project to raise MH awareness, anyone who is interested can help | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0e8v/considering_starting_a_project_to_raise_mh/ |
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EvangelineTheodora | [removed] | 2021-12-15T14:29:57.000Z | rh0cpq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | This is your reminder that your vehicle may have an active recall on it, and you need to schedule that work to get done. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh0cpq/this_is_your_reminder_that_your_vehicle_may_have/ |
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drahdrazan | Does anyone else relate to this? I first noticed this because I work in a school, and on days that I forget to take my meds, I'm incredibly prone to auditory overstimulation. If the kids are talkative- not even super loud, just at normal speaking levels consistently throughout the day- I'll go home grumpy and usually with a migraine.
But on my meds I'm very unbothered. Even louder classes don't bother me too much. It's like they allow me to tolerate very stimulating environments for much longer.
I'm still sensitive to certain sensory things, but I can pretty quickly identify what's irritating me and make sure I take action to lessen whatever it is.
Unmedicated it's harder for me to recognize that I'm being overstimulated at all, let alone always identify what's causing it? I just find myself becoming irritable and attempt to ignore my irritation, because I don't understand why I am.
I'm just taking generic Adderall. Does anyone have a similar experience? | 2021-12-15T14:21:18.000Z | rh06dk | 3 | 10 | ADHD | My meds prevent overstimulation? Anyone relate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh06dk/my_meds_prevent_overstimulation_anyone_relate/ |
SgtJamie | # Hi All
# Happy Wednesday, hope everyone is having a lovely week so far, and ontop of are beginning to unwind for the year.; what a crazy one it has been. :)
*A present for before you start-* [https://open.spotify.com/track/2Mb0UmjVuMQ1Pgcyko9dW3?si=a079be5859f24611](https://open.spotify.com/track/2Mb0UmjVuMQ1Pgcyko9dW3?si=a079be5859f24611) (Enjoy)
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**Anyway as title suggests, please if I can ask for some advise and support relating to the following issue (well how I can best describe it anyway):**
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# Friends taking out anger and frustration on me, due to issues my ADHD unintentionally causes me.
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As of Late, I have alot of close friends get angry and frustrated with me to the point of its pushing me away and making me want to be mean, withdraw from them, and further everyone as a whole.
The primary driver of these frustration's/anger is me being me in the sense off how my adhd affects me.
The likes of:
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* **A perceived lack of care/love for someone, because I take long at times to reply to them about important/personal things.**
* But then can happen to be in touch quickly/get in touch about something completely different, while the personal issue is still at large.
Or
* **The problem in that, for example: I have been helping a friend deal with some personal side's of their life's, with which it is to the point that I am lining them up with work to help pay their bills/rent.**
* The issue that is coming from this is that, the ability for them to make sure they can pay their bills is then being compounded by me and my issues.
* In that for her to make sure she can pay her bills/does not have to stress about I.e when she will get payed from the work, only happens as long as I am ontop of/up to date with them and not in a disorganised state.
* Lately I have been in a state all over the place, feel like a person with wayyy too many spinning plates.
* its that duality that is causing massive stress, as she is getting angry at me because of the issues that my issues cause me; which then leads for me to want to spiral and only make things worse.
* and I feel like she just needs to understand that strangling me/getting angry at me will only make things worse per se, and further I am not purposely doing this; however much frustration it causes.
and also
* My ability to emotionally regulate at times,
* As of late have been having more time's then not ware I have been finding it hard to emotionally regulate, even when on medication but primarily will say it the later case its during the come down phase.
* I will note, I have been having issues with staying ontop of taking my medication- (Elvanse 50MG) lately, primarily have been finding myself forgetting to take it over weekends due to working Friday and Saturday Nights at a club doing lighting; end up getting home like 6am. Further my Sleep pattern/schedule is very off generally.
* **Sometimes even when I have informed a friend I have not taken my medication today**, or am feeling off/not regulating well.
* They can still end up being quite the burden, in that I guess to put simply its that in these days I really need alot more compassion and time.
* and on those days, I can end up acting out with said friend, due not being able to cope with the emotional load/regulate my response and end up being short with them.
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**I am trying so hard to keep ontop of, and stay conscious of that fact that its not there fault they are getting angry; but its just getting so hard and soo much lately. I really don't want to end the year with broken friendships.**
When Journaling earlier to get it out, I wrote this line:
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**START**
"When someone close seems to disrespect you, it can feel 1000 times worse then normal.
Even more so being someone like myself...
Moving forward from this, all I can do is show Love, compassion and Kindness.
THe bridge can only be rebuilt through these things.
Hate, Resentment, Anger and Remorse will only make the gap wider."
**END**
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Anyway weather its due to me being too nice, I always seem to want to apologise for myself, and you know someone very kindly said to me the other day that: "I should never apologise for being myself".
and I really want to understand that line better, as this whole load lately has been really affecting my self of steam and all I want is happiness in my life.
Any help kindly appreciated
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**In Solidarity and Love**
Jamie (24-London)
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P.s Another song for you as thanks, love abit of Bill :))
[https://open.spotify.com/track/6yKkA8HzwWTZ5taIMaG4Nm?si=86af0f04af604814](https://open.spotify.com/track/6yKkA8HzwWTZ5taIMaG4Nm?si=86af0f04af604814) | 2021-12-15T14:17:14.000Z | rh03dl | 4 | 2 | ADHD | People taking out anger and frustration on me, due to issues my ADHD unintentionally causes me, and dont know what to do? xx :( compassion greatly appreciated | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh03dl/people_taking_out_anger_and_frustration_on_me_due/ |
Working-Mistake-6700 | I hate folding clothes, you sit down and focus on that exclusively it's boring. And it feels like I takes forever. I am great at washing my clothes. But I never want to fold them which means they end up in different piles all over my room, which means my room gets messy. Which means I have panic attacks because I can't find clean clothes, which means I'm late to work, ect. It all snowballs from the fact that I hate folding clothes. Does anyone have any tips on how to get myself to fold clothes and more broadly keep my room clean? | 2021-12-15T14:16:08.000Z | rh02ip | 609 | 842 | ADHD | Ideas on how to get myself to fold clothes? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rh02ip/ideas_on_how_to_get_myself_to_fold_clothes/ |
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mrhers1015 | Nobody understands that I can’t just make myself study, or that no planner is going to be helpful if I lose the motivation to use it 3 weeks in.
It’s hard to implement most of the advice in the first place due to executive dysfunction. So I’m pretty much asking for ways to trick myself into productivity. | 2021-12-15T14:12:52.000Z | rgzzzf | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Genuinely helpful tips for succeeding in academics? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzzzf/genuinely_helpful_tips_for_succeeding_in_academics/ |
peppermintxcherry | My housemate has severe executive dysfunction. All signs (plus his psychologist) point to him having ADHD and ASD (he is being assessed soon).
Unfortunately this leads to him neglecting shared household duties. We agreed on the bathroom being cleaned each week in alternating turns. However, whenever it is his week he has not done it for multiple weeks on end. It takes him weeks to mentally prepare himself and even then it will take even longer for the motivation to randomly strike. When it goes on like this the bathroom eventually gets so filthy that I can’t stand it so I clean it myself and the cycle continues. I have been cleaning it for the past few months with him only occasionally doing part of it.
The executive dysfunction often rules his life, it makes it difficult for him to make food or do things he enjoys.
What am I supposed to do? I feel like it is unfair on me but I know that he can’t control it. | 2021-12-15T14:11:06.000Z | rgzypb | 19 | 8 | ADHD | How can I help my housemate with executive dysfunction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzypb/how_can_i_help_my_housemate_with_executive/ |
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schnuwuli99 | Hey guys!
I've purchased a SmartWatch a few days ago and I've realized that my heartbeat during school/studying is as high as it is during work ( I'm a mechanic so my work is pretty exhausting). It's usually between 90-100 and I'm wondering if that's because of my ADHD my brain needs more blood so my heart has to beat faster?
Does this makes Sense?
I'm taking 20mg of Ritalin everyday and I'm female 172cm/57kg if that matters. | 2021-12-15T14:05:54.000Z | rgzuv7 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | High Heart Rate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzuv7/high_heart_rate/ |
gabbers912 | Hi friends
I’m 4 weeks into 10 mg of Lexapro for anxiety and depression (also take 15 IR of adderall). So far, my mood is much better, yay! But-
- so so so tired
- so forgetful! I’m a teacher and I literally forgot a student’s last name
- so spacey! I left a quesadilla in the skillet until it started smoking!
Now, I’m normally forgetful and spacey, but I’ve never done these things. Taking it at night makes me sleep terribly, so that’s not an option.
-will these side effects go away? (Lol do you have a crystal ball to predict my future?)
- if you experienced similar side effects, was there another SSRI or SNRI that helped instead? | 2021-12-15T14:05:51.000Z | rgzutd | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Lexapro= worse adhd symptoms? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzutd/lexapro_worse_adhd_symptoms/ |
JacPhlash | I texted my wonderful wife yesterday and said, "I hope you had a good workout!" and she replied that she had been picking up and dropping off the kids this afternoon and doesn't get to go to the gym on Tuesdays. She was even a little hurt that I don't know her schedule when she knows mine *and* all the kids.
She understands me and my brain so well and is so patient with me but I can understand how every once and a while it can get frustrating for her.
I let her know that I understand where she's coming from- and I wish I could keep track of all that stuff as well.
I hate disappointing my loved ones. | 2021-12-15T13:57:01.000Z | rgzo1q | 109 | 708 | ADHD | I Feel Badly When My ADHD Effects Other People | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzo1q/i_feel_badly_when_my_adhd_effects_other_people/ |
olcatin | Hey all,
I spoke to my GP lastnight about some concerns I've been having and she sent me a form to fill out regarding ADHD (the part A and part B one) and today I recieved an appointment for a triage in 3 weeks at the Mental Health Triage and Assessment Service. It says it's a telephone/video appointment that's expected to last around 20 minutes.
Could someone who's gone through the process in the UK help me out with what part of the process this is?
Many thanks!! | 2021-12-15T13:55:40.000Z | rgzn2n | 2 | 3 | ADHD | NHS process | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzn2n/nhs_process/ |
DannoWhamo | Anyone else have this issue ? It seems to be a constant struggle for me.
I’ll get a job , enjoy it, work it, and then get frustrated that I’m expected to be at a place or expected to do certain tasks.
I get bored easily and want another job to try to fix it, but I just end up job hopping.
I’ve had 3 jobs this year alone and I just got a great position as a manager at a salon but I’m starting to grow to resent it because I got into a fight with a coworker and now want to leave and start over.
Anyone else job hop? Is it an adhd thing ? Or am I just insufferable | 2021-12-15T13:51:41.000Z | rgzkds | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Can’t keep a job longer than 6 months. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzkds/cant_keep_a_job_longer_than_6_months/ |
AdvancedYellow5856 | I have gone up a bit on my dosis of methylphenidat.
It is working as well as i had hoped.
I am able to concentrate on one thing at a time, and i am able to focus my thoughts towards the thing i am during at the moment.
It has been such a huge relief and such a change. I can't say how extremely reliefed i am that it is finally working.
I do have trouble with my mouth though. It seems i have a uncontrollable urge to chew or contract my jaw muscles.
Anyone else has this?
So far brushing teeth and chewing gums help. | 2021-12-15T13:49:26.000Z | rgziw9 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I often chew my teeth or tighten my jaw muscles while on my ADHD medicin | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgziw9/i_often_chew_my_teeth_or_tighten_my_jaw_muscles/ |
DannoWhamo | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:49:05.000Z | rgzinb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Trouble keeping a job for more than 6 months … anyone else ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzinb/trouble_keeping_a_job_for_more_than_6_months/ |
benjamynblue | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:46:17.000Z | rgzgqf | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Denied ADHD meds after 6 months for being on a medication my doctor prescribed me for my mental health?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzgqf/denied_adhd_meds_after_6_months_for_being_on_a/ |
PleasantEscape1774 | I’ve been diagnosed and I was taking concerta for it. But I noticed that after taking it for 2 weeks I would get really irritable and stopped taking it as much. I was wondering if any of you guys go through something similar and how do you cope?
I ended up taking it less and less to the point I just don’t take any medication. I just would rather be useless than feel on edge the whole time I guess. | 2021-12-15T13:45:46.000Z | rgzgch | 3 | 0 | ADHD | How do you deal with your medication? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzgch/how_do_you_deal_with_your_medication/ |
my_reddit_username2 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:43:28.000Z | rgzelz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is there a medication doctor's usually start off with? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzelz/is_there_a_medication_doctors_usually_start_off/ |
blahblahblunt | They diagnosed me with adhd a couple of days ago. I had no clue. For all of my life people called me lazy, dumb, unmotivated. I’ve always had problems with academic performance. Now all of this just feels depressing. I realized that I’m mentally ill. That being “lazy” is actually not my fault. That people who told me those things are wrong. But here’s the thing. When I didn’t know I have adhd I felt normal. Like there’s nothing wrong with me. Like I can change things, I can change my attitude, I can do anything if I want. Now it feels like I can’t. I can’t have control over my own life when I don’t take medication. And since I live in Russia we don’t have stimulants here like Ritalin etc, it’s illegal and you can get those only by a dealer or whatever, which means
1. It’s dangerous cause I don’t wanna go to jail
2. You can’t really say if this medication is original or has a lot of dangerous additives going on.
I started taking Strattera since it’s legal here but we all know that it’s not as effective plus you need to wait for a couple of weeks. I’m not quite sure if it works. I started to feel sleepy and nauseous all the time but do I feel different? Idk. So depressing to me that I have to wait for so many time for this to work or not to work and spend loads of money cause strattera is hella expensive here. Uni semester is almost over and I have a lot to do. I’m jealous of people around me. I’m jealous of my friends. I’m jealous of people from my classes. They can have normal life, they can study and be successful. They have the ability to make their dreams come true and those aren’t hyperfixations. I thought I can be like them too, but my brain won’t let me. Maybe I’m just being dramatic but that’s how I feel. I feel like I’m disabled | 2021-12-15T13:41:46.000Z | rgzddw | 5 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD is ruining my life. I don’t have control over it | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzddw/adhd_is_ruining_my_life_i_dont_have_control_over/ |
ponderingkitty | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:39:45.000Z | rgzbv6 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Share your Clothing organization systems | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzbv6/share_your_clothing_organization_systems/ |
MinimumToad | Has anyone tried Adderall IR (or I suppose XR too) for a while, only realized mild benefits even after increasing doses, then tried Desoxyn?
Was it better or worse for you?
And perhaps even more importantly - are the risks of physical addiction / dependence higher with one over the other? Or if taken in appropriate doses, are they around the same?
I take IR twice a day depending on the day and my needs, and it hasn't helped nearly as much as I'd hoped (and that's after my doc increased my dose to 30mg/day). Still struggle with heavy distraction, overthinking, avoiding any work that overwhelms me, etc. | 2021-12-15T13:39:28.000Z | rgzboi | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Adderall IR vs Desoxyn? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgzboi/adderall_ir_vs_desoxyn/ |
miomioamica | So kind of rant and no one will probably read this and that ok,
I need to move out in a few days and I have major executive function problems, and so so so much clutter and stuff I need to clean and organize in boxes and it’s just soooo much, it’s really hard and Stressful because I’m not allowed to take my meds if a couple of weeks and yeah it’s just so bad, I hate moving. | 2021-12-15T13:36:26.000Z | rgz9jx | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Moving out is so difficult | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz9jx/moving_out_is_so_difficult/ |
ponderingkitty | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:36:03.000Z | rgz9an | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Clothing organization systems | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz9an/clothing_organization_systems/ |
thepiedposher | This is my first post here! I was recently diagnosed with ADHD (I am 30 years old, mom of 2) I’ve struggled my entire life with various adhd symptoms, even as a young child I was always kicked out of class, always been called “annoying/crazy” I remember older kids my sisters age on the bus straight up asking my sister if I had adhd and they all joked saying I must (my sister is 6 years older than me) I’ve spent my entire life feeling inferior and made to feel like something was wrong with me, that I was weird, annoying, crazy (anger outbursts/disregulation) as a teenager I suffered depression, was even hospitalized for a bit. I saw a psychiatrist for major depressive disorder and an eating disorder and took fluoxetine and bupropion (Wellbutrin) for YEARS. Once Wellbutrin was started, I was good. I don’t think at the time I realized how much it truly changed my life until i stopped taking it when I got pregnant the first time, over 3 years ago.
Ever since then my mental health has plummeted and I’m just now trying to crawl out of it. With my second pregnancy I was referred to a reproductive mental health program where we get 100% coverage for therapy and a psychiatrist… thankfully I’m finally getting answers. I HAVE ADHD and everything makes sense now.
My big question right now is, do you guys find your medication helps with emotional disregulation and anger outbursts? As a mother I really feel this is the worst thing for me. I am a good mom, but I’m extremely impulsive. I suffer from major auditory sensory overload and I find I’ll just be handling everything super well and then suddenly out of nowhere I completely snap. I yell, scream, swear , I act like a fucking toddler. I know it’s bad, I hate myself for it. It’s especially bad behaviour to exemplify to my son who is 3 and has a better time regulating his emotions than me.
I was prescribed concerta but I’m breastfeeding and i keep putting off taking it, but I need help. I want to know will it be worth it. Does anyone suffering from anger outbursts, etc find their meds help in that department? TIA and please don’t judge me, I already feel like a horrible mother as it is
Edit: I saw half of a comment and I’m not sure if my phone is being weird or it got deleted, but to answer any further questions: we are starting with concerta because it is the most studied drug for adhd treatment for breastfeeding mothers, apparently. All studies have shown little to no medication passes through the breastmilk, and the amounts passed are so minuscule that they won’t pass through babies BBB therefore shouldn’t affect the baby. I’m already struggling with the idea of taking meds at all while breastfeeding, so we’re starting here. | 2021-12-15T13:34:54.000Z | rgz8je | 8 | 5 | ADHD | Emotional Disregulation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz8je/emotional_disregulation/ |
tomi_pisoi | When I sleep I am restless. I move my body a lot in my sleep. When I was younger I was kicking with my feet whom else was sleeping with me.
I have a lot of nightmares or if it's not a nightmare it's a weird dream like a deja-vu. I have a night with no dreams or with nice dreams very rare.
How do you guys sleep? How did you sleep when you were a child? | 2021-12-15T13:33:25.000Z | rgz7id | 185 | 235 | ADHD | How do you sleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz7id/how_do_you_sleep/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T13:32:12.000Z | rgz6mb | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Your perception is your reality | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz6mb/your_perception_is_your_reality/ |
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Sky645 | I am currently 23 and have always been unstable emotionally to a degree, but I've always done very well in school until high school and then I did well in high school until college. During high school, I had a lot of trouble fitting in at first, understanding social dynamics, self-esteem issues, organisation, time management, and making myself be productive instead of playing videogames.
I tried to fix these problems in my life at first by going online and doing research and trying to see how other people got out of their situations. Oftentimes, I would come across personal posts that mentioned depression, adhd, and anxiety. At the time, I didn't know anything really about these topics, and the more I researched them the more I felt like I could relate. And, eventually, I did get diagnosed with depression during my senior year of hs.
Looking back, I was heartbroken at the time and in a toxic relationship. The experience resurfaced a lot of painful memories with strong emotions and forced me to confront them, when the only coping mechanism I had learned at that point in my life was bottling my emotions up and distracting myself. But at the time, I thought, wow that's what's been wrong with me this whole time; now I can focus on it and fix it.
So I went to a few therapy sessions, a psych ward, and got onto SSRI's. I'm not sure how much they helped, but once college started, I was able to improve myself a lot, socially and emotionally. New environment, new friends, new social circles. I stopped taking my medication after a few months of college because I didn't feel like it really did anything, and having a good support group did more than anything the SSRI's could have done. But now, I'm about to start the second semester of my fifth year in college after a gap year. I was suppose to graduate this semester, but I ended up failing an online class because I couldn't force myself to work/would occasionally forgot assignments and due dates. I still feel like I'm in slowly drowning into a fog, and the water's finally reached my eyes. The only thing that's stopped me from lying in bed all day when everything starts to pile up has been adderall. I first tried it my first-semester junior year, took it once during finals week, but I don't really remember how exactly it felt then.
The semester after I started using it 1-2 times a week. It was the most emotionally stable and productive semester I've had. I'd take it on the weekends, study in a library with a friend, catch up on late texts, actually plan out my week and day-to-day activities, and generally just feel like an actual adult. It felt like how it feels after sitting still too long and then getting up, and having the biggest greatest stretch of your life; the kind that makes you almost dizzy, makes you close your eyes and take a deep inhale, and when you finally open your eyes and exhale it's you've been drunk your whole life and only now ironically sobered up. I still got distracted though, like I am now writing this, but there wasn't anymore arguments in my head. Usually, it feels like child me is in front of wheel and all adult me can do is give backseat suggestions.
But now, the roles were reversed. I felt like I was in control for once in my life. My family told me I had a light in my eyes again, a fire. I finally felt like a responsible adult but I also felt like I was finally me again, the me I used to be when I was a kid. The curious kid that always got into trouble and could spend a whole day just reading novels until he passed out reading sideways in bed.
But, after that semester I stopped because I was worried I was becoming an addict. And now, I've started using adderall again after falling behind, and I don't know if I "need it" or I just want it as an easy way out. During my gap year, I spent a year working on a farm with my dad and stepmom in Florida. Great sun, daily exercise, good nutrition, no drugs, but it didn't feel like I was getting any better. In fact, working on the farm made me feel dumber. I'd accidentally daydream on the job, and mess up, dropping things, crashing vehicles, etc. My dad would give me instructions and I'd say okay, and go out and to do it, but I'd either forget what he told me or feel like I remembered everything only for him to tell me later what I did wrong/forgot. For example, there were a few times I would go out to a store, and during the drive there I would repeat the list in my head, get to the store, repeat it again in my head, and then I'd leave with everything on the list but somehow lost an item in the list as I was repeating it my head.
I felt like my focus was mostly there, but I couldn't get my actions to reflect it.
I think I know what depression feels like, and I would say I do exhibit symptoms of depression, but I've been reading about how ADHD can cause depression and anxiety and rather than getting treated for depression again, I want to explore a possible ADHD diagnosis. But I'm scared.
I had a really bad psychiatrist appointment last year. I explained to her that I was concerned that I might have ADHD but she started talking through me. She asked somewhere in the beginning if I did any drugs, and I wanted to be honest and tell her I had used unprescribed ADHD medication before, but I was nervous after reading post's on here about their experience telling their therapist/psychiatrist, and so I only told her I smoked mj. She then yelled "AHA!" like she had just got me so confess some dark secret. After that, I didn't feel acknowledged at all. At one point she just asked if I could answer a hundred question quiz in an hour, and I replied it depends on the material but I guess I could maybe, and she told me from that I couldn't possibly have ADHD and started telling me that I was bipolar instead.
Obviously, she's the professional, not me, but I've done some light research on it, and I don't feel like I'm bipolar. I'm not good at understanding my emotions, but she knew me for an hour and I've been living with all these issues my entire life. I don't want to waste more time and money trying to fix something I don't have. It took me years to ask my cousin for help and then it took her months just to find an available psychiatrist that accepted my insurance. Even now she can't find anyone that'll take me.
My last relationship ended because I was never present, never in the moment. I was always off thinking/feeling about something else. I'd start forgetting important dates, plans, promises, etc. She wasn't perfect either, but in the end I couldn't tell if she was gaslighting me or if I had genuinely remembered wrong/forgotten. I was as much, if not more, to blame for things ending badly as she was.
Some things in my life have gotten better. I have a good group of close friends and when I'm with them, I'm carefree, happy, always in a mood to joke around and mess around. But, I still wake up every day feeling exhausted. I still can't force myself to make or follow a schedule. I still just go through every day as an unorganised mess and can't plan further than a few hours in advance. I still can't fall asleep at night until I've exhausted my brain.
I don't lay in bed all day anymore because of apathetic depression, now I lay in bed, frustrated I can't change, and sad that as frustrated and as much as I want to change, I don't
I know I need therapy, and I want to be able to be better, but I'm scared, I feel paralysed.
I'm scared I'm not going to be taken seriously, that they'll just see me as another lazy college student trying to get a script. I'm scared they'll tell me I don't have ADHD or anything at all. That the problem is just me, not some illness in my head.
I'm scared that I really am just as lazy and stupid as I think I am.
I'm scared that I'm just a no-good junkie addicted to drugs and the easy way out and too immature to face reality.
TL;DR: I'm too scared to see help, and even if I wasn't I don't know where to go. | 2021-12-15T13:30:59.000Z | rgz5of | 1 | 3 | ADHD | How do I get over my anxiety to see a therapist/psychiatrist and get a psych evaluation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz5of/how_do_i_get_over_my_anxiety_to_see_a/ |
cocoal4 | So I recently was diagnosed with ADHD and it felt great to finally be able to use a word to define all the things I always felt but couldn’t explain. Now I’m trying to explain it to my loved ones, so I was wondering how I can do it. Also, if any of you have any recommendations of sources to learn more about ADHD I would love to know. | 2021-12-15T13:28:57.000Z | rgz430 | 8 | 3 | ADHD | How do you explain ADHD to people? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz430/how_do_you_explain_adhd_to_people/ |
neematodee | Hey guys! Whelp, I’m glad I’m not the only one who hyperfocuses on crushes or potentials, buuuut. It’s kinda hard to distinguish whether I’m really into him or not because is it my ADHD who’s so excited that I finally met someone or someone I’m truly into? I feel like “relationships” in the past don’t end up being one because being sensitive to rejection, I like to know whether he is interested in me or not even though it’s early on. I’ve noticed this is a defense mechanism of mine lol. I do want to take it slow, but sometimes it just occupies my mind. Also when does it get to the point where I am being patient or too patient with him? Any tips, truly appreciate it! | 2021-12-15T13:28:24.000Z | rgz3p1 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Hyper-focusing on a dating potential | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz3p1/hyperfocusing_on_a_dating_potential/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:26:05.000Z | rgz206 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Emotional Disregulation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgz206/emotional_disregulation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:16:20.000Z | rgyvi4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just Diagnosed Yesterday- | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyvi4/just_diagnosed_yesterday/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:10:54.000Z | rgyrwa | 6 | 2 | ADHD | How did you know you’ve found the right meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyrwa/how_did_you_know_youve_found_the_right_meds/ |
Independent_Bird_226 | I’ve gotten pretty decent school grades my entire life, currently working at straight As and so when just looking at my school reports there seems to be no issue between me and school
Because of this many teachers , although aware of my diagnosis, do not recognise the struggle I have to go through to be able to achieve at school while having ADHD. Although I do get the grades, I cram and stress study for hours and hours in hyper focus the night before a test, not because I want to but I physically cannot study any other way
I miss so so many classes I think 50 so far this year since September and so I am always very very behind but somehow can learn all of the content just before a test, which obviously confuses my teachers as to how I do so well, but behind the A grades I have no idea what I’m doing and don’t understand my subjects, rather just memorise everything and forget it straight after. this plays into imposter syndrome slightly as I feel I don’t deserve straight As as I’m not ‘trying’ as hard as the other kids who get a lower grade. where all the other students are prepared and organised with lots of class notes and revision resources I feel like a disorganised mess who is some how ‘getting away with it’ even though I am the one who achieved the grades
Even when reading back my own essays I feel like it’s not me that has written them as I don’t understand how I did so well at the time but could not write that essay even the day after
Not sure if there’s anyone who can give any tips or help with this or just relate to my experience in general but teachers feel I don’t need support as I’m performing well but my way of working is unsustainable and I burn out FAST and i think they don’t understand how ADHD impacts almost every aspect of your life and not just attention and focus
I want to be able to feel on track rather than playing catch up all the time as my dream university requires Three A grades at the end of the year, with everyone almost certain I’ll get in (not me) I’m worried I will not be able to pull them through during the entire month of exams which determine my grades in May/June as it’s constant exams in all my subjects for a month straight so I’m worried I’ll burn out like 4 days in
Any advice on trying to sort myself out to feel as though I have some kind of structure and study plan rather than living in absolute chaos all the time and everyone thinking I’m doing well where o feel like I’m not | 2021-12-15T13:08:29.000Z | rgyqam | 3 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD with Good Grades - A silent struggle? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyqam/adhd_with_good_grades_a_silent_struggle/ |
velveteencherries | [removed] | 2021-12-15T13:07:11.000Z | rgypdv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Got told by a psychologist that she don’t think I have ADHD because of my intelligence. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgypdv/got_told_by_a_psychologist_that_she_dont_think_i/ |
DuckHeadNL | Adderall (technically Tentin, but i believe it's the same: dexamphetamine) helps me a lot with being productive. I usually take it 2 or 3 times a day when needed, with ~3.5 hours in between. But when the last pill starts to wear off in the evening I can crash really hard, I'll get insanely fatigued and just generally down. It kind of makes me hesitant to take it at all, even though it can help a lot.
Does anyone recognize this? And if yes, how do you combat it? | 2021-12-15T13:03:09.000Z | rgymph | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Crashing after taking Adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgymph/crashing_after_taking_adderall/ |
garcon-astronome | So I’ve been prescribed 30mg Elvanse for adult adhd, it worked great for the first maybe 3 days, I had energy, I could complete tasks for the first time in my life, I could think straight, concentrate in meetings etc, there was still a bit of background noise in my brain but it was definitely manageable. Now I’m 8 days in and it doesn’t seem to have worked for a few days, is this normal until they up my dose? | 2021-12-15T12:59:45.000Z | rgyk38 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Elvanse stopped working after a few days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyk38/elvanse_stopped_working_after_a_few_days/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T12:57:46.000Z | rgyit2 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I don’t understand people. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyit2/i_dont_understand_people/ |
StopUnique | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:53:25.000Z | rgyg1a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Father here. I have a question on Methylphenidate. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyg1a/father_here_i_have_a_question_on_methylphenidate/ |
Lion11037 | I do not know where to start.
First I am not english native speaker so I'm using the help of Google Translate.
I didn't got a ADHD diagnosis but I'm thinking that some things in my life make sense with ADHD, but what I want here is not really a diagnosis, kinda just vent.
I've always noticed that I was quite forgetful and distracted, however I never paid much attention to that, but for some time now I've been realizing that I'm very forgetful and also stressed.
At my job, in a fast food part time job, I often forget some ingredients or if I'm doing a task I forget about another task I was told to do together, my co-workers get upset with me for that sometimes but I don't know how change this on me.
Sometimes I go to one location to search for one thing even if they already told me a couple of Times that the thing I was looking for moved to another location (for example, I go a couple of times to the old location where plates were placed, even knowing they are not there )
In my driving lessons I sometimes get distracted because I'm too attentive to one thing and forget about the rest, or sometimes I get distracted in my own thoughts and have to refocus.
Both my teacher and my coworkers say I have to be more attentive but I don't know how. I'm pretty bad right now and I don't know what to do. 😔
Thanks. | 2021-12-15T12:53:22.000Z | rgyg0n | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Suffering in my Job and drive lessons | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyg0n/suffering_in_my_job_and_drive_lessons/ |
deepseascale | I don't know if I'm burning out as we come up to the end of the semester (I work in education) but all the good habits I managed to build up since starting meds in June are slipping, and then some.
Stuff that I need to do everyday like give my pet medication, keep my room tidy, and even extremely basic shit like showering and brushing my teeth are all a massive effort and I'm really falling behind. I hadn't had tooth brushing issues for *years* before starting meds and now I find myself slumped at the end of the day and just not having it in me to get up and do it. I was using Habitica, which I loved, but now I can't even bring myself to open it just to be faced with a list of things I failed to do.
I'm finding it increasingly difficult to get myself to eat, even though I was literally on meal replacement shakes which is the easiest fucking thing to have, even when my appetite is suppressed. I'm eating less but spending more, because I keep ordering out when it gets late and I have zero energy but I'm also starving.
I'm worried I've somehow become too accustomed to my meds and they're not working as well? I asked my prescribing nurse if that was a thing and she didn't answer the question. She suggested taking extra IRs but I'm already struggling to eat. I currently take 50mg Elvanse (Vyvanse) and a 5mg IR dexamfetamine in the morning around 7.30am which supposedly lasts around 4hrs. I don't eat beforehand - do you think this would help? Am I metabolising it faster if I take it on an empty stomach? I've been taking it and then going back to bed for an hour or so because when I wake up properly the IR has kicked in and I can actually get up.
I started the combined pill in early October and have been running packs together to avoid periods because I'm always useless just before my period. I don't know if that could be causing it? I'm tempted to come off it for a bit to see if anything changes but that's not a viable long term thing for me.
TLDR: Scared because I had developed great habits and now I'm somehow worse than before I was medicated. Is it stress, meds, birth control, or something else? Has this happened to anyone else and how did you pick it back up? | 2021-12-15T12:53:05.000Z | rgyfuw | 2 | 3 | ADHD | How to cope when good habits start slipping? (is my medication still working?) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyfuw/how_to_cope_when_good_habits_start_slipping_is_my/ |
MadeOfStyrofoam_1 | i don't have any tic disorder, but i do have tics. i have mostly moviment related tics, like jerking my head. but recently i think i got another tic where i just go HMP-um! out of nowhere.
i'm on meds, so idk if its a ritalin effect, an ADHD or an undiagnosed tic disorder, anyone else experiences this? i had tics before i got meds so i'm thinking its an ADHD thing. | 2021-12-15T12:52:18.000Z | rgyfe6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD tics? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyfe6/adhd_tics/ |
StopUnique | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:50:31.000Z | rgyeac | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Father here. Quick question. My son (14, 140lbs) started to take Methylphenidate. He’s at 10mg (one dose) per day. So far, no effect. In your experience, when will the effect start? Does it come suddenly at the correct dose, or is it gradually? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyeac/father_here_quick_question_my_son_14_140lbs/ |
MadeOfStyrofoam_1 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:50:30.000Z | rgye9m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD tics? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgye9m/adhd_tics/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:48:32.000Z | rgyd3t | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have to raw dog my ADHD at work today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyd3t/i_have_to_raw_dog_my_adhd_at_work_today/ |
vovovp97 | I’m 24 now, I was diagnosed with ADHD an dyslexia early in my life, but because of a great childhood I never felt like I have ADHD, I mean sure I struggled in school, but my parents always supported me, the higher I got in the education the easier it got I felt like, I took medicine for a duration. But because of a year of travel before I startet to go to uni I stooped, fast forward, now I’m in my last year of the bachelor, working on my bachelor Projekt. An now I start to feel like I have ADHD, I’m slowly starting to realise that I’m not like all the other students,
I Struggle with schedule, with keeping focus, and allot of other symptoms. The thing is, that I just now start to slowly find out what it means to have ADHD, and that I finally need to accept it. Need to find ways to coop with it. Need to find out where it really impacts me in life. And I struggle with it. Struggle to accept that I have ADHD, trough most of me life, my intelligence and ability to learn by just being in school where good enough but that’s not working any longer. Because of that I’m in the proses of ruining my dream. My family is great is trying to help as much as they can, and I’m really great full, but I’m the end I’m the one that need to accept this part of me, and need to accept that I need help. I’m back with medicine but like last time I’m unsure about what to look for in MySelf what is ADHD and what is just me Being lazy. I often felt like a lot of the symptoms don’t fit on me or that it’s not that bad (they to and they are) and a bit like with love I’m kind of lost on how does it feel to be “normal” to love, how should it feel if the medication works, do I know it when I feel it? I’m aware that this experience is different for everyone. But that does not stop me from feeling lost.
Well sorry for the wall of text. I’m not sure if any of that makes sense, but I kind of needed to tell it to somebody, and for anybody reading this far I hope you have a great day. | 2021-12-15T12:48:29.000Z | rgyd2v | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I need to start to accept that I have ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyd2v/i_need_to_start_to_accept_that_i_have_adhd/ |
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