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boopityboop8 | As I'm sure you've noticed, there has been an explosion of people on TikTok and Twitter saying they have ADHD.
I'm not going to speculate on how true these claims are, and I imagine a lot of people really do have it and are realising thanks to social media.
But I have to say, a lot of these people seem incredibly functional professionally and academically, and that makes me feel really bad about myself in comparison. Lots of people I follow online who say they have ADHD went to top universities and graduated on time with good grades. They have good careers, have written books, have apartments, hobbies, talents, social lives. They generally seem functional on paper, and their struggles seem to be related to procrastination of chores and hyperfixations.
Meanwhile I: failed high school exams due to procrastination and slow processing speed, struggled to get into a very poor uni three years late, graduated several years late, have spent months at a time doing nothing due to executive dysfunction, struggle to get any work done at my job, struggle with tidiness and self-care to a severe level, can't maintain hobbies or interests (giving me regular identity crises about who I even am), often can't follow conversations, often can't understand instructions, regularly lose important things, cannot drive (have failed my test many times), have never lived away from home and a million other things.
I must have spent thousands of hours just aimlessly scrolling on my phone or sleeping during the day to avoid doing tasks (or even to avoid doing hobbies). Sometimes just mustering up the concentration to play a game or watch a Netflix show is an achievement for me, whereas most people would consider those things procrastination.
It can take me months to do something as basic as ordering a prescription or replying to an email. I am years behind in life due to my struggles, so it stings a little to see these people so far ahead of me despite apparently having the same condition. I know they likely have struggles behind the scenes, but the fact is they were able to overcome them to achieve the many milestones that I missed. Like, how come they were able to overcome their struggles and achieve good grades and jobs and I wasn't? Did I just not have enough willpower? Why do we have the same struggles but different outcomes?
It makes me feel like I can't use ADHD as an excuse when there are people with the same condition who have achieved so much more.
Am I just more severe than them? Or do I have comorbid issues? Or I just genuinely didn't try hard enough?
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Edit:
It's probably obvious I'm particularly hung up about the academic side. It's because I used to be considered very smart when I was younger but things caught up with me around age 16. I went from being considered among the smartest in my year to not even being able to finish my exams.
I'm quite insecure about my academic failures as I used to define my identity on being smart. I've had people look at me pityingly when I tell them my struggles and tell me maybe I'm just not an academic person (even a psychiatrist) which really stings and makes me question my identity. To be honest, if I'm not an academic person, then I don't know what I am, because I have no non-academic skills or achievements. I'm just useless.
When I first realised I may have ADHD it was a bit of a relief and made me feel less like a failure. But now, seeing all these ADHD high achievers, I can't help but wonder that maybe I am not smart at all. Maybe ADHD isn't to blame and I am just dumb and non-academic?
People performing well academically despite having ADHD makes me feel that ADHD isn't an adequate explanation (to tell myself and others) for my academic failures. So what is the explanation? Am I just stupid and lazy? | 2021-12-15T12:47:31.000Z | rgychl | 29 | 51 | ADHD | Functional people saying they have ADHD makes me feel bad about myself | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgychl/functional_people_saying_they_have_adhd_makes_me/ |
psinghfamily | Great forum. I joined just today while searching for a related article, and am going to share the forum with some loved ones. In addition to all the good tips already here, I thought I will also share a nice blog post I had found a few months ago: [https://www.marianamcdougall.com/adhd-apps/](https://www.marianamcdougall.com/adhd-apps/) \-- the author lists some good digital tips for making daily activities go smoother. | 2021-12-15T12:46:59.000Z | rgyc67 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Using mobile apps' help in making daily activities go smoother. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyc67/using_mobile_apps_help_in_making_daily_activities/ |
Independent_Bird_226 | I was diagnosed around 2/3 months ago and was put on elvanse (vyvanse in US) since there has been improvement in my productivity and focus once I’m awake and doing schoolwork or my actual job but I can’t seem to wake up before around 10am. I’ll wake up at 7 from my alarm but fall straight back asleep and if I try to get up it feels as if there’s just a huge weight on me and my brain can seem to find the point in getting up but my body can’t seem to move which is very frustrating, almost like there’s a block between my brain and body
The thing I’m struggling with is waking up to be on time for things I actually want to do, school for example I know I need to go to stay on top of my classes and also want to see my friends but everyday I end up atleast 2 hours late which obviously makes me fall behind but it’s not putting off something I don’t want to do as I actually want to be in class so I don’t fall behind
I’m a straight A student from being able to cram and stress study in hyper focus the day before a test but working this way is taking its toll on my mental health and due to feeling very unproductive and other people such as parents and teachers reinforcing the idea I am ‘lazy’ and ‘playing on my diagnosis’ in order to get away with missing school (i wish it was a choice) I’m feeling abit lost and very low as all I want is to be able to get to school and work and function well
Does anyone have any advice on what I could do to try and get myself awake and to sleep at a decent time (before 3am for sleep and before 10am for waking up) I take 50mg elvanse when I wake up for the first time around 7/7:30 but when I wake up again around 10 I feel they aren’t kicking in as I’ve fallen asleep
Also wondering if depressive tendencies (not full on depression but very low and hopeless moods for days at a time) are interlinked with ADHD at all as I think the inability to wake up and sleep is playing in to this
:) | 2021-12-15T12:44:55.000Z | rgyavs | 27 | 14 | ADHD | Cant get out of bed but I want to? ADHD | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgyavs/cant_get_out_of_bed_but_i_want_to_adhd/ |
BeastieBoy1984 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:43:45.000Z | rgya49 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone done neuro feedback? Would you if you could? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgya49/has_anyone_done_neuro_feedback_would_you_if_you/ |
PitMistress | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:40:05.000Z | rgy7pl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone know of British or Irish ADHD podcasts? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy7pl/does_anyone_know_of_british_or_irish_adhd_podcasts/ |
simplegiraffe22 | Hello All, **(Please share your stories below if you want to)**
I am very new to this subreddit and just wanted to share my experiences and story if that would be alright. It'll be a long one so please bare with me. I was born pre-mature, was supposed to be born in mid November and was born in early August. I always thought that it was fascinating that I never had anything (physically) wrong with me, unlike some people who were born early, i.e., Down syndrome, cerebral palsy, although I was smaller than most by being a couple pounds at birth and in the nicu. I always lived my life as any normal kid would, I went to school, (very small mind you.. 13 kids in my graduating class in elementary school) played sports growing up, and went outside to play. Growing up I never struggled THAT much in elementary school, a couple bad grades here and there, but nothing major that was a cause for concern. I saw a speech pathologist during school hours a couple times a week for my slight stutter, you know, the "R's" and getting words out even though I knew what I wanted to say, but the words just would not come out, but not for anything else. In high school, I went to a good, accredited, private (all boys) school. I had friends, but at the same time I kept to myself, which is still the case today. Not because I did not WANT to socialize, but because it was hard and I was always overthinking about what people would think of me if I said something dumb in that maybe they would not be my friend anymore. The sciences ALWAYS, at least in high school, took me to struggle bus city, biology was alright, but when it came to chemistry and physics, man let me tell you, not fun. Chemistry was always interesting to me, balancing equations and the labs, but I just could not ever fully focus on it, especially history because, personally, it was just so damn boring and uninteresting . BUT, math is where I excelled. I failed Algebra 1 because my small grade school did not help get us prepared for it. So, due to this, I was put in "track 2", for the people who, I guess, needed extra help and had learning deficiencies. I was confused as to why *I* was being put in this type of classroom environment, sure I failed an early math class, but so what? I found that the slower pace and more student attention actually helped, but never took this approach as a 'tried' to further my education. I then got accepted into a good public college in my area; the first couple years went pretty decent, nothing spectacular, but decent to manageable. I always saw in the first day of classes, "if you have a disorder please contact \_\_\_ through the school to get assistance, never thought I needed it. After that is when it all went downhill for me. I struggled for a couple years after that, up until now as I am currently writing this post, having my graduation pushed back and back. Internally I was thinking that I cannot do this; I guess I just must be the dumbest person on the planet. I did not try to get any help or figure out why I was like this, up until recently because I just believed that is who I was and I had to accept it and push through. But I came to a random 'Eureka' moment in my life, thinking hmm.. maybe I have ADHD. Now, I am no doctor, but just reflecting on my life and the way I live... it really lines up. Some things I have noticed are: I am always late to things (significant or insignificant), ALWAYS lose things, my wallet (which I still haven't found), multiple AirPods, my keys, you name it, my room and car are a mess, I get easily distracted and lose interest in things that aren't interesting to me, bite my nails even when I am not nervous, forget things when I am just told, walk into room and forget why I went in there, among other things. I always thought I was unmotivated and lazy, sometimes yes, but I WANT to do well in life , but it's just hard. Overall, I am not saying I have it because officially I do not know, but I am 96% sure. Now is my time to go see a doctor, get into therapy, tell people in my life what I wrote here to strangers on the internet lol, and to finally get my life started how I want to and to learn how to live with and use my potential adhd to my advantage. If you made it this far, THANK YOU. | 2021-12-15T12:35:44.000Z | rgy53l | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Suffering in Silence | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy53l/suffering_in_silence/ |
bulkazserem | I (19f) have been considering getting diagnosed for past few months, but the day came, and I woke up and was like “I don’t have any symptoms I’m just trying to find an explanation why non-artsy kids considered me weird, so I’ll feel better with myself”. The fact that my symptoms are hyperactive-impulsive does not help, whenever you google “adult adhd” it’s all losing keys and being late, which rarely occurs to me. I’m scared I’ll pay for nothing. Even tho yesterday I took few tests to feel more confident and according to them my symptoms are high. I don’t want to embarrass myself AND pay for it few hundreds. What made me realize I might have adhd was having problems to stay in one place, having thoughts so loud I couldn’t sleep without distracting sounds like radio, being able to focus only listening to noise rock, barely listening at school, but yeah mostly being hyperactive. But I could just be creative and extroverted. I’m doubtful, but two weeks ago I was convinced enough to set up an appointment. | 2021-12-15T12:35:11.000Z | rgy4qj | 4 | 3 | ADHD | I am seeing a therapist in 2 hours (diagnosis) and I started doubting myself | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy4qj/i_am_seeing_a_therapist_in_2_hours_diagnosis_and/ |
5degrees_ | [removed] | 2021-12-15T12:34:41.000Z | rgy4ef | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question for people who "improved" their attention despite having ADHD, what did you do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy4ef/question_for_people_who_improved_their_attention/ |
Dap0k | This might not be the best subreddit for this but its related to my adhd.
I've been feeling a lot anxiety about my work because it's a job that requires attention to detail which (as you know) is something people with adhd aren't good at. my psychiatrist told me that if I didn't get the anxiety under control it could lead to depression.
and now lately, I've been burnt out and tired from work and I thought that was all I was feeling but I'm starting to see the signs that this might be depression. I can't perform as well as I usually do even when I'm on medication. I'm starting to get antisocial with my coworkers and all the things I used to love doing aren't bringing me joy anymore.
I know I should be solving the problem at its source but I can't really do that anymore in the slump I'm in and the anxiety will get even worse if I keep performing like this.
Does anyone have any tips for bouncing back from this before it gets worse? | 2021-12-15T12:33:19.000Z | rgy3i2 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Tips for bouncing back from depression? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy3i2/tips_for_bouncing_back_from_depression/ |
AC9164 | I’ve been on Vyvanse for a little more then a month and it has been working great, I’ve been much happier, my executive functions have been great I finally feel normal, I can remember what I actually do in a day and important things for work. But recently I’ve been taking metronidazole(flagyl) for an infection for the past week and I feel like my meds aren’t working at all. I’m really irritable, I feel the dizziness has come back, I can’t remember small details and I feel like I’m out of it. So my question is has anyone else had this happen while taking Vyvanse and metronidazole together? | 2021-12-15T12:31:09.000Z | rgy21l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Metronidazole and vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgy21l/metronidazole_and_vyvanse/ |
SpicyRaspberry | Hi guys. Just trying to figure out side effects here. I’ve been on Elvanse (Vyvanse) since September. 2 Weeks of 20mg, 2 weeks of 30mg, 2 months of 40mg and now I’m approach 3 weeks at 50mg.
In terms of effects, the 50 seems to be best and gives me 10-12 hours duration.
I have noticed that I get very mild palpitation type feelings on the left side when my heart rate raises. I also can’t tolerate caffeine at all anymore, whereas I could on 40mg.
After 3 weeks they have calmed way way down. Maybe I’m still getting used to the new dose.
I’m going to mention it to my psych on Friday, but has anyone experienced anything similar?
I had a full cardiovascular assessment before starting meds, including an ECG and everything was fine. | 2021-12-15T12:28:02.000Z | rgxzy5 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Elvanse/Vyvanse side effects | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxzy5/elvansevyvanse_side_effects/ |
CrashCold | English is not my native language so I apologize in advance.
I know that I would probably feel better if I started to eat healthier or get some more exercise.
But advice that just goes "drink more water", "go to sleep earlier", "move more" just isn't going to be helpful.
I feel like I would need some step-by-step advice for it to work for me. Heck even then I would probably have some trouble with following through but at least then I can somehow follow it then just being clueless on what I should do to eat better or workout more. | 2021-12-15T12:27:58.000Z | rgxzws | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I hate "tips and tricks" that don't give you practical advice. | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxzws/i_hate_tips_and_tricks_that_dont_give_you/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T12:24:43.000Z | rgxxss | 2 | 2 | ADHD | My Doctor Laughed At Me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxxss/my_doctor_laughed_at_me/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T12:06:18.000Z | rgxmsd | 1 | 5 | ADHD | The amount of love you have for the things you ignore makes you ignore them more. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxmsd/the_amount_of_love_you_have_for_the_things_you/ |
theunknowncompanion | Hi all,
So this may seem like a weird post, but I think I'm going through burnout. Recently, my brain feels foggy, things seem unreal, I'm tired all the time, I'm not sleeping well, and when I do sleep, I still feel tired upon waking up. Recently, too, since getting over a bad cold, my brain just feels foggy and nothing seems real... I've asked my friend if I seem different, but she said she hasn't seen me acting out or anything. I'm not sure how to describe it, it feels weird, it's like I'm having a sort of out-of-body experience. Hopefully, this will resolve with a bit of rest and TLC... I'm trying not to get worked up about it cause I know that will make it worse (I have bad anxiety, and can trigger panic attacks myself if I get too worked up).
I've been quite stressed/overworked at work recently and now my dad is visiting for the Christmas break, and that's a different kind of stress, more personal. I love working, and I love my job but sometimes I can feel it's asking too much, not enough recognition for the work I do, and I do long hours a lot.
My meds help a bit to help me be a bit more focussed as well as caffeine (within reason!), but yeah, still feel a bit strange...
Anyway, has anyone felt like this on this sub? (burnt out, disassociating?) | 2021-12-15T11:53:38.000Z | rgxe18 | 8 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD Burnout??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxe18/adhd_burnout/ |
bugpr1nc3ss | I just started taking meds for the first time today and it felt weird to me. i think im just kinda overthinking at the moment but im worried that i dont actually have adhd and i shouldnt be taking these meds. I felt a little anxious throughout today and i feel kinda awful at the moment. I guess i am just seeking reassurance and validation and i dont really know what im saying at the moment. Im also worried that i wont be able to take the meds because they make me anxious and ill never be able to get through university and what not | 2021-12-15T11:52:10.000Z | rgxd69 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Anxiety about starting Adhd meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxd69/anxiety_about_starting_adhd_meds/ |
memeishuser | I have always found myself hopeless because it just felt like things were not going to be better even though I know it isn't true (due to past similar circumstances). I would even half joke that my purpose is just to be either lazy or sad all the time.
Anyway, going back, I FEEL RELIEVED AND EXCITED
Why I feel relieved:
1) I got officially diagnosed with ADHD-PI last week and I'm starting to take my medicine tomorrow (after trying to find it in different pharmacies).
2) I am glad that my very first semester in college is gonna finish in a few days.
Why I feel excited:
3) I'll be taking leave of absence on the following semester (hopefully it will be approved by my university).
4) I'll be using it to figure what I want for my bachelor's and to improve my mental health (since I'm also battling anxiety and depression on top of my ADHD).
IM JUST SO HAPPY TO TAKE THESE BIG STEPS OAHFNADKSK 🥺 | 2021-12-15T11:47:36.000Z | rgxamn | 6 | 4 | ADHD | I FINALLY FOUND MY HOPE | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgxamn/i_finally_found_my_hope/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T11:40:39.000Z | rgx6rj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosed at 23 with ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgx6rj/diagnosed_at_23_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T11:34:09.000Z | rgx32m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally called time on a friendship and blocked them for good. | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgx32m/finally_called_time_on_a_friendship_and_blocked/ |
luziemarie | Hey folks,
I need your advice on something.
Me (neurotypical) and my best friend are having regular study sessions. He's got ADHD and really has trouble focusing on his uni work. He's been struggling all through secondary school as well, had to repeat a year and I think he's a bit in the mindset of 'I'm gonna fail anyways'. So I want to support him and help him, but because I don't have ADHD, I'm not sure how exactly.
We're already taking frequent breaks (about every 20-30 minutes), where we do something active like rope skipping, cleaning or taking a walk. Sometimes we watch an episode of Friends. We're studying downstairs at the kitchen table, I think that helps as well. The thing is, he has to catch up on a lot of video lectures, which is obviously quite boring, so he still gets distracted easily.
Do you guys have any tips on studying? And how I can support him in general with his academic journey?
Thank you <3
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Luzie | 2021-12-15T11:29:27.000Z | rgx0ep | 11 | 2 | ADHD | How do I help my friend with ADHD study? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgx0ep/how_do_i_help_my_friend_with_adhd_study/ |
Daydream_Meanderer | I had an idea and I picked out colors online and didn’t even get swatches. I knew I should’ve, but I was in a hyper erratic mood. I just had a burst of energy, went to the store, bought the paint, and put it on my wall. Every single color is off from what I wanted and I don’t even like the idea that I had any more. I’m basically fucked out of 500$, and wasted all of this time for nothing. Now it’s tickling my anxiety and fueling a lot of self loathing that I did this stupid thing. I’m an adult. I am a home owner. I’m supposed to be.. idk- smarter than this? I’m constantly feeling drained and depressed and my impulsive decisions aren’t helping. I just wanted to vent. | 2021-12-15T11:18:13.000Z | rgwu2s | 75 | 160 | ADHD | I impulsively spent 500$ on paint for my house and the colors are all wrong. | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwu2s/i_impulsively_spent_500_on_paint_for_my_house_and/ |
NutellaSandwich_99 | I have spent my entire childhood undiagnosed and only recently gotten diagnosed as my symptoms have somehow suddenly worsened. I was always sensitive to lights and sounds and textures, etc but it has worsened lately to the point where I get severe panic attacks. This causes a lot of trouble especially since I’m in college and I need to go to the dining hall to eat. It is very noisy and bright and I end up leaving mid meal. I can’t afford over the ear headphones as of now and my ears hurt from over usage of my noise cancelling ear buds. I don’t even know whether this sudden worsening of symptoms is normal and I would love absolutely any advice. My anxiety also has gotten much worse lately. | 2021-12-15T11:17:38.000Z | rgwtq3 | 6 | 5 | ADHD | How to navigate sudden worsening in symptoms? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwtq3/how_to_navigate_sudden_worsening_in_symptoms/ |
Rogue_SHAG |
**TL;DR:** Does anyone have experience with a wrong diagnosis of bipolar for ADHD? because it was discovered in your adult years?
Secondly: I see myself seeking help for ADHD online for specific problems, which help btw! But I do it in secret, because I feel like a fraud for seeking help for it without knowing I have it. idk how to feel about this? Am I conditioning myself to have ADHD?
So I'm 21, currently at uni. After being forgotten by my GP for a month, He finally redirected me for an ADHD evaluation- or more. (**TW**: Mentions of: abuse, self-harm, unsubscribing from life)
I've been through a lot beside a traumatic childhood. Abusive dad, mom who always victim traps me (and my siblings), Toxic relationship, sexual harassment)
I moved away to another country (7,239 Km away) to live with my dad who moved there years ago. Dad was different, no longer abusive towards me (but still anger issues towards others). My dad was a different person, and we actually started bonding. I felt, after 18 years of life that I actually had a dad again.
Here is where hell breaks loose.
My time with dad didn't last. 11 moths in he had an accident at work, sending him into immediate coma, and died 3 days later as a result (I never said goodbye to my dad while he was conscious).
I failed to grief, and few month later after un-alive-ing thoughts I was diagnosed with PTSD, got therapy and I'm over it. my biggest take was that I learned to cry. Turns out I'm super emotional but have been holding it in all this time.
Life was OK ish. I was struggling academically because of my mental health. But now that I live alone I noticed I'm struggling with everyday tasks. Grocery shopping was always scary for me, I get overwhelmed in public spaces if too much is going on; machines whirring, people talking, me trying to think what the fck I needed, people walking fast, that cute dog outside drinking water in the cold. IDK. it's overwhelming. I've always struggled with this. But I was always with someone (mom, dad or sibling) and simply blindly followed them because I'm too busy to think. just do what they do and that is absolute. That way I can let the different things "bother" me.
I want to do 10 tasks at once. I can never seem to prioritize. So I need up doing it all at once- AND FAILING. It makes me feel so shitty...
I've always been like this- but my parents would always step in... I literally had to do 1 thing only: Study (Which I love doing, and always got high grades (Especially if I loved the subject) ). My room would get cleaned, my clothes washed, food cooked... If I had to do something myself I would, but end up taking too long, and my someone would get impatient and do it instead.
I now want, and know I can to these basic things myself. But I keep failing, and it makes me feel worthless and incapable. I asked help at my GP, because I get overwhelming attacks (where I hit my head to make it stop). He then forgot to refer me to and ADHD specialist, and when I found out I spiraled into a depression, because I felt let down by the care system. I self harmed, and was admitted for it. Got meds , which made me feel like absolute shit (Night terrors and exhaustion). Honestly what got me out was talking about it, I stopped the meds and started saying what hurts, why it hurts and what's on my mind- THAT helped waaaaaay better then meds.... I got rejected for the ADHD evaluation because of my meltdown. which, lol, caused another meltdown. (This time I had a friend who has depression and gets me 100% so she knew what I was feeling). I got referred a second time, and have to wait 5 months for my first appointment. I think they want to test for bipolar and ADHD. I think they saw the meltdown as an episode associated with bipolar.
What worries me is- If they will confuse ADHD with bipolar. the meds I tried where for bipolar and they were awful. I'm scared for a wrong diagnosis. I've explained how my head works to 2 people with ADHD now and both got excited as we experiences 95%-98% of the same shit!
**TL;DR:** Does anyone have experience with a wrong diagnosis of bipolar for ADHD? because it was discovered in your adult years?
Secondly: I see myself seeking help for ADHD online for specific problems, which help btw! But I do it in secret, because I feel like a fraud for seeking help for it without knowing I have it. idk how to feel about this? Am I conditioning myself to have ADHD? | 2021-12-15T11:14:09.000Z | rgwrq6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD or Bipolar? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwrq6/adhd_or_bipolar/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T11:06:50.000Z | rgwnu4 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Two extremes: either intensely focused or not focused at all | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwnu4/two_extremes_either_intensely_focused_or_not/ |
mooneaterguac | [removed] | 2021-12-15T10:56:50.000Z | rgwi3j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I think I might have ADHD but I don't want to add onto my piling diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwi3j/i_think_i_might_have_adhd_but_i_dont_want_to_add/ |
nosimaj4 | I've been vaping and using nicotine products for around 6 years now, and am finding it very hard to quit.
I used to take Adderall in high school, but after I started vaping, I quit Adderall and ended up using nicotine as my main stimulant to help keep me focused. My friend without ADHD or any other form of chemical imbalance once used a vape for weeks, and then just decided "eh, I'm gonna quit" but every single time I throw away my vape, and the next day goes by, my ADHD kicks in, and my brain starts going haywire with thoughts and things to touch and hear and see, then my brain thinks of nicotine, and it will NOT let go of the thought of hitting a vape.
I feel like my addiction is mostly linked to the habit of having something in my mouth, as when I don't have my vape for a while I end up running my tongue across a specific tooth until my tongue ends up getting sore. I've tried using zero nicotine, but the ADHD makes it really hard to focus on doing simple tasks, especially at work. I work on an assembly line and I have to keep up, but it is almost impossible to focus with nicotine withdraws eating at my brain every second of the day.
The main reason I want to quit nicotine is because it has made me into a zombie. I don't feel a lot of happiness anymore, and all I do when I get home from work is play video games to pass the time. I have wasted the past 2 years of my life as I have no energy or willingness to do anything, and it is when I use pouches that I see a slight improvement. I want to completely cut nicotine from my life as I want to gain control of my happiness back.
In Summary: I have severe ADHD, and nicotine is my current method of settling the effects. What is the easiest way to quit nicotine with severe ADHD? If I still need to calm my ADHD, what is a good method of doing so without nicotine or the typical prescribed drugs, if any? | 2021-12-15T10:48:53.000Z | rgwe5a | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Quitting nicotine with ADHD | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwe5a/quitting_nicotine_with_adhd/ |
querencian | My psychiatrist prescribed me Concerta almost two weeks ago. For the first week I started on 18mg which I definitely felt make me more in tune to things but I never got any sort of clearheaded-ness. As instructed, I upped my dosage during the second week which was a few days ago. I don't really feel any change from the 18mg but when it starts to wear off it can make me zone out a bit. Not only that but it hasn't really provided much help in terms of helping me stay on tasks continuously or ignore distractions.
Should I tell my psych that they aren't working or is this feeling normal and I just have no motivation? I know medications are different for everyone and they won't always work for some but I can't tell if it's just me or if they really aren't doing anything. | 2021-12-15T10:45:13.000Z | rgwca3 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Concerta working, but not really working | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwca3/concerta_working_but_not_really_working/ |
jakerichh | Hi guys, I'm prescribed Concerta 18mg - On some days it makes me anxious and increases my obsessive thoughts. On other days it does what it's meant to do and keeps me calm and makes me feel 'normal'. Why is this? Does anyone have any ideas why it affects me differently on different days? Advice and suggestions much appreciated. Thanks. | 2021-12-15T10:41:35.000Z | rgwaet | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Different bodily reactions to Concerta 18mg on different days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgwaet/different_bodily_reactions_to_concerta_18mg_on/ |
StormySwan | Hey all, I recently started on Vyvanse and have found I am relatively tired. I am curious if anyone else has had this as a side-effect. Found it particularly surprising with Vyvanse being a stimulant (with the understanding of different effects on ADHD brains). It's the only clear change I have noticed in the opening days of my medication commencement. | 2021-12-15T10:35:49.000Z | rgw7dv | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Tired On Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgw7dv/tired_on_vyvanse/ |
AQuestionableVase | WHen I was around 12-13, we went to this robotics club where we were learning to build lego robots and mess around with them, and there was this kid in the class who was quite a bit younger who was just textbook symptoms of ADHD. It was so obvious.
The instructor would yell at him to sit down nd stop touching the stuff on the table and he looked like he was really trying and he'd apologise but in a few minutes, he'd be up again. He even got the trademark "Pay attention!" screamed at him several times during that one class.
I knew I had ADHD and had a pretty good background on it, even though my mother was against medicating and I never got properly treated. So I did the best thing my kid mind thought of and I wrote this note that said something along the lines of "Your child has ADHD, please get that checked out." He read the note, looked up at me and said "Thank you." I idiotically didn't explain anything to him or let him know that I and my siblings had it too, just said "You're welcome." and went home.
A few lessons later, the same thing was happening with the kid so I wanted to make sure his mother understood the direness of the situation, so I went to the guy who was managing and teaching the course and told him what I knew. He brushed me off, said there was nothing wrong with the kid and they had gotten him tested for autism but he was clearly just misbehaved. I knew nothing about autism, the idea I had of it was that people just hallucinated things, so I was extremely frustrated with the guy. I wish I'd hung around and spoken to the mother myself, or told my own mother, or SOMETHING, but now this kid is struggling with a disorder in a terribly unhelpful environment and I have no contact to check on him. I hope that he got diagnosed or looked it up himself at some point so that at least he understands what he's dealing with, or was able to advocate for himself later.
It's just such a shitty situation and I hope he's doing okay. | 2021-12-15T10:35:33.000Z | rgw79k | 2 | 11 | ADHD | I met this kid I could just tell had ADHD years ago and didn't advocate for him properly | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgw79k/i_met_this_kid_i_could_just_tell_had_adhd_years/ |
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charmingVietnam | [removed] | 2021-12-15T10:33:34.000Z | rgw68g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | [US] Is that better to have lunch at the school cafeteria or bring a lunch box? My son needs advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgw68g/us_is_that_better_to_have_lunch_at_the_school/ |
violetrangerr | As someone who doesn't have much hobbies and always have a hard time unwinding, I finally stumbled upon an enjoyable leisure activity. Cloud watching is now my favourite thing to do. When I look up at the sky, I see clouds drifting away slowly, which makes it easy to forget about the harsh and fast-paced society we live in. As silly as it sounds, I wanted to be a cloud. Up in the skies, there are hardly any signs of life, I am free to be myself, without the pressure of masking / living up to expectations. I would look at the world from an aerial view, get the freedom I craved for, bask in the sun and the best part - humans can't locate me. The only downside would be getting shit on by birds? That's fine as long as I don't have to tolerate unreasonable demands and play the "catch-up" game anymore.
When January arrives, my third attempt at University begins and I'll be thrown into the world of assignments and burnouts (again). I'm undiagnosed at the moment and struggling to stay afloat. I'm unmotivated and have been called lazy due to some hygiene issues. I have never followed through with hobbies but everyone seems to think I lack perserverance. Nothing makes me happy and nothing is engaging. Lately, all I feel is an overwhelming sense of hopelessness. How do I feel fulfilled though, there is no manual for that.
When I'm in such a bad state, I look at the clouds and all of a sudden, I feel as though everything will be fine. There is something really special and therapeutic about clouds. It takes me back to times when things were much simpler, back when I was a carefree child with hopes and dreams. Unlike the past, I forgot how to move on from setbacks, I became unforgiving and impossibly strict on myself. I guess things are different now and it sucks to know it's impossible to turn back time. | 2021-12-15T10:29:18.000Z | rgw3yu | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Cloud Therapy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgw3yu/cloud_therapy/ |
gomezburgio | Been scrolling and posting in Reddit for two hours. I have too many deadlines this week.
Tried Notion for organizing my work life aprox 10 times, but I found it only works for me as a tool for certain projects (as a content calendar for social media, for example), but I haven't been able to make it work for organizing *everything*.
Google Calendar is fine for scheduling each task, and has helped me be and stay aware of what I should be doing all of the time. But it's of no use if I can't properly prioritize my tasks and schedule step by step what needs to be done. Also, I'm often called to unexpected pointless meetings that I have to attend to keep some clients happy, regardless the schedule I had made for myself before.
How do you guys handle this? | 2021-12-15T10:10:47.000Z | rgvusn | 20 | 75 | ADHD | TIL: if you can focus thanks to meds BUT don't prioritize and plan tasks properly you end up focusing on all the wrong things. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvusn/til_if_you_can_focus_thanks_to_meds_but_dont/ |
herzy3 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T10:06:09.000Z | rgvshj | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Any good books or movies that capture the ADHD experience? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvshj/any_good_books_or_movies_that_capture_the_adhd/ |
mjleavitt | Does anyone here with ADHD also have ridiculously long conversations?
One of my best friends has ADHD too and we hung out tonight and we talked for 7 straight hours. We had board games to play, but we just kept talking.
I realized it has to do with the way we both talk. We go on SUPER LONG tangents and tell 6 or 7 distantly related stories before going back to the main point. 4 of those 7 hours we just talked about therapy. 😅
It’s especially ridiculous with the two of us because we don’t mask around each other.
I’d love to hear your stories. Any records for ridiculous conversation length? Or rambling tangents? | 2021-12-15T10:06:00.000Z | rgvsey | 9 | 28 | ADHD | Ridiculously Long Conversations and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvsey/ridiculously_long_conversations_and_adhd/ |
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nexsus1111111 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T09:53:29.000Z | rgvlyn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | HELP URGENT!!??!?!??! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvlyn/help_urgent/ |
decadentdarkness | [removed] | 2021-12-15T09:46:50.000Z | rgvism | 0 | 1 | ADHD | L-Tyrosine supplementation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvism/ltyrosine_supplementation/ |
HoraceIG | I did pass my degree at Uni, but not in the level I hoped.
Wondering if this is an adhd thing.
I was good enough but not the best and had really bad focus in my subject and didnt even have plans or ideas of what to do afterwards with the degree (social sciences)
I looked at so many subject and when i did my dissertation on social movements a topic i wanted, my supervisor kept saying I needed to focus to try and get to the point of my dissertation.
I had no point or even understood what she meant by a point or my thesis. I just wanted to write history of Civil right movements and compare them to each other but I had terrible structure or purpose
I got 52% pass and a comment that was "disappointing"
It was a real blow | 2021-12-15T09:43:38.000Z | rgvh9b | 4 | 4 | ADHD | My "Disappointing" Dissertation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvh9b/my_disappointing_dissertation/ |
AbeliaGG | Deep breaths. Do not disturb exists for a reason, count to thirty before deciding to caber toss someone in arm's reach.
I. HATE. INTERRUPTIONS. Well, not always, but particularly when I'm really making momentum and my brains abuzz with ideas and I'm scrambling to get them out on paper. It's a very specific type of hot anger that very few things compare to. I turn into a completely anti-social prick when I'm in that mode.
So, I learned something from my therapist walking me through Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (what a mouthful) last year. It's come in handy quite a bit since! Apparently, getting "hot under the collar" isn't just a figure of speech, it's a real reaction. If you feel yourself building up, cooling yourself off can really dampen your urge for immediate action. I don't always notice myself getting hot in the moment because I'm too busy seething, but after a brief walk to my frozen car I'm able to see clearly again.
The book I mentioned spends a whole chapter on environmental cues, which really do affect our baseline emotions in a situation! But most importantly, majority of it is checking your body for specific inconsistencies to lower the amount of ambient distress you have to work through. It's subtle, but death by a thousand cuts.
Like, for example, the presence of a thing you don't need, versus lacking it generates unnecessary yearning sometimes. For example, having snacks available but placed out of immediate reach (for me, anyways, I know it doesn't work for everyone). Or, having a chair nearby even if you intend to stand.
Dunno, thought I would share the stuff that's been keeping me sane tonight it's made a huge difference. Without it, I wouldn't have been able to let anything go until a whole day later. Thanks for reading. | 2021-12-15T09:39:34.000Z | rgvf60 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Interruptions (TW: Interruptions) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvf60/interruptions_tw_interruptions/ |
Rare_Combination_225 | Since I probably won't find therapy for at least another year, I'm looking for books that will teach me strategies to deal with my ADHD. I know there are a lot of recommendations on this subreddit, and I've looked at a handful of them, but I've found that one thing is true of all of them: they just don't get to the point... why would you decide to write a book about ADHD for people with ADHD and make it hundreds of pages long, with tons of filler? I really don't get it. If you can manage to read it, all the better, but I just can't.
Does anyone know of a self-help book that avoids this mistake, i.e. is short and sweet? | 2021-12-15T09:39:06.000Z | rgvexa | 2 | 11 | ADHD | ADHD books written for people with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvexa/adhd_books_written_for_people_with_adhd/ |
Accomplished-Drag-52 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T09:30:14.000Z | rgvagl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A list of traits/hobbies/abilities I didn't know I had until I got diagnosed and medicated for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgvagl/a_list_of_traitshobbiesabilities_i_didnt_know_i/ |
TwoAgitated1182 | Hi Reddit,
My therapist already being in holidays (that’s gonna be rough to wait for her to return in January), I asked this question to my family doctor this morning and he told me it’s basically just because I am off-meds.
*Do you, too, go from being barely able to fall asleep and sleep 3-4 hours a night to being exhausted and sleep until someone wakes you ?*
My personal record is 26 hours sleep and still waking up completely drained. I tried melatonin and different hacks to reset my circadian rythm but nothing works. As said earlier, my family doctor thinks it’s because I am off-meds and my brain just likes to do his own thing.
Does that happen to you guys too ? | 2021-12-15T09:18:20.000Z | rgv4fn | 18 | 3 | ADHD | From 3 to 26 hours sleep ? | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgv4fn/from_3_to_26_hours_sleep/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T09:13:55.000Z | rgv250 | 6 | 7 | ADHD | What strange loops do you get stuck in to procrastinate? For me it's online chess. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgv250/what_strange_loops_do_you_get_stuck_in_to/ |
Pandaliliy | Lately I've noticed, that it's really helpful for me to have certain habits or routines I can stick to. Unfortunenately once I think about something I want to establish, it sticks for a moment and then I forget all about it. Do you guys have any tips or tricks how to get a good morning routine going for example? | 2021-12-15T09:09:01.000Z | rguzoc | 6 | 3 | ADHD | How do you establish habits or routines? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguzoc/how_do_you_establish_habits_or_routines/ |
DiagnosedAt30 | I started taking Adderall(generic) on thur.
He started me at .5mg twice a day 8am/1pm.
I had an app mon and he upped it to 10mg twice a day. I started a week late do to insurance, so it was a quick change between doses.
I was diagnosed with TOVA. So on the results let’s just say it’s a scale of 1-10 I’m around a 8.5. Having three different doctors it’s difficult having them all on the same page.
I’m having this problem by the 5th hour it’s slowly wearing off. 6th hour it’s almost off and by the 7th it’s gone. After that everything just comes back 10 fold. Can’t focus, Im going back and forth between apps, and then my thoughts are back to uncontrollable. So I’ve been taking a extra half dose at 5-6pm to get me through the night. But bed time procrastination has me up till past 12, and by 10 then who can go to bed with their adhd on full blast after having peace?
So has anyone else had this issue? Any tips for a newly diagnosed?
Thank you 💜💜💜 | 2021-12-15T09:04:50.000Z | rguxgw | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Adderall wears off after 6 hours | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguxgw/adderall_wears_off_after_6_hours/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T08:58:27.000Z | rguu0c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does adhd and depression have connections? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguu0c/does_adhd_and_depression_have_connections/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T08:58:22.000Z | rgutyp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone end up getting stuck in hour long loops of binging quick activities? For me it's blitz chess. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgutyp/does_anyone_end_up_getting_stuck_in_hour_long/ |
Dark_Bunny200 | Hello everybody,
I was wondering how you all deal with executive disfunction and how you explain it to people who don't experience this.
My therapist said I just have to do the thing. Like nothing is keeping me from getting up and doing the dishes. I still have legs and all. So just get up and do it. Command yourself to do it.
I tried to explain that I am already screaming at myself in my head to get up and do the thing but that my body just doesn't do the thing. I don't know how to explain it. I tried to explain it as follows:
Imagine you have a very heavy blanket on you. Like 15 kg or something that prevents you from getting up, on top you have headphones that play 15 different songs in 4 languages, 3 audio books and then you have yourself standing there and screaming at you to do the thing.
After that explanation she repeatedly said I should just get up because nothing is physically holding me down. If there were a fire I would jump up and run right? I thought about it and yes I would get up. So why don't I do that when I am already screaming at myself to get up?
Any tips or tricks how you deal with that and how to maybe explain it better? | 2021-12-15T08:51:03.000Z | rguqa6 | 13 | 5 | ADHD | How do you deal with executive disfunction? And how do you explain this to others? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguqa6/how_do_you_deal_with_executive_disfunction_and/ |
bubbagarooni | I have severe executive dysfunction in the sense that I can’t get myself to do things I need or want to do. It sounds silly and every time I try to explain it it just sounds like I’m making excuses for being lazy but I truly cannot make myself do things! Even if it’s something I want to do, I still won’t be able to make myself go and do it. It doesn’t matter what it is, it could be the easiest, simplest task and I will not be able to move. It literally feels like I’m paralyzed by my execute dysfunction. This is really affecting my everyday life. Please help!! | 2021-12-15T08:48:12.000Z | rguouf | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Tips for overcoming executive dysfunction? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguouf/tips_for_overcoming_executive_dysfunction/ |
RazorBlade233 | It's so slow! I dedicate my time and effort into studying and at the end of the day, I look back and find out I studied only three pages of A4. And then I try to remember, but can't, I can only bring up snippets of what I studied that day. It's so annoying, especially when you know others have it easier. | 2021-12-15T08:36:12.000Z | rguj20 | 6 | 19 | ADHD | I can study, but... | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguj20/i_can_study_but/ |
Thencros | I'll give some background about me before venting a little bit. When I was 3 years old I was diagnosed with a number of learning disabilities with only an intelligence in the higher percentile as a bit of a counterweight. I have ADD, Autism, NLD, Dyspraxia and have struggled with it during my time at school, and thought it would have improved going into the workplace.
I'm 26 and I got a job as a librarian at a local university after getting a degree last year. As much as I wanted to come on time every day, I struggled heavily with adjusting to the 9-to-5 routine, often coming a few minutes too late or even sleeping in, due to insomnia issues. Most of my colleagues thought I had more than poor social or communicative skills and talked a lot behind my back. There had been times where I discussed the fact that I have those disabilities, but that they were dismissed as excuses.
The projects that I've made and actually completed were very qualitative and I received a lot of praise for them, but so many of them blamed me for having a bad attitude, that it felt like I was fired months ago, even though it happened just a few days ago. The last few months I had very little motivation of going to work and it started affecting a lot of things outside of work too. I suffered from depressive and anxious thoughts and struggled with self-care, diet and tasks around the house. I live alone in an apartment, which is currently quite messy, because I don't have the mental energy to clean it up on a regular basis. Personality-wise I always tend to work these problems out on myself. Declaring myself the source of all problems, and just not living up to expectations or complaining too quickly. Which just adds to the depressive thoughts and it ends up being a vicious cycle.
I will probably go see a psychologist soon, which up to now I haven't done, because I have struggled maintaining a budget and where I live, they can get pretty expensive.
This event was incredibly confronting for me and I've shed many tears for it. Job-wise it was something someone with my skillset should be able to do and excel in easily. The first months I received a lot of support and I guess i thought I was finally able to hide my disabilities or control them in a way that my peers would still be content. That soon turned out not to be the case at all. The monsters I thought were subdued, raged on and will probably do so for the time being.
**TL;DR I was fired from my first job for reasons that are mostly attributed to my disabilities. Just when I thought I could hide them, or control them, they started to come back hard and eventually it led to me being fired, which was very confronting. At this moment, I doubt that I will ever find a work environment that will accept me the way I am.** | 2021-12-15T08:28:43.000Z | rgufcm | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Just got fired from my first job. It was very confronting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgufcm/just_got_fired_from_my_first_job_it_was_very/ |
letschangethename | [removed] | 2021-12-15T08:23:23.000Z | rgucnw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Justice sensitivity | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgucnw/justice_sensitivity/ |
Aflyingduckk | I work construction building custom homes and my job requires me to solve not-so-ordinary problems and as someone with adhd I really excel at it. Work loves that I always seem to have a several plans or always remember where things are around the jobsite, unless that thing is right under my nose. Either way, things work pretty well.
I just wanted to warn everyone about something I haven’t heard anyone mention.
A while ago I got excited about something and I don’t know if I got up too quick or what, but I ended up herniating a disc somehow and frankly I don’t think the blame is misplaced when I say it was probably adhd that caused it.
It could be just construction being it’s normal self, but I can’t be sure. Either way,
BE CAREFUL OUT THERE. | 2021-12-15T08:19:08.000Z | rguahk | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Adhd momentary excitement probably ruined my back | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rguahk/adhd_momentary_excitement_probably_ruined_my_back/ |
PerpetuallyBitter | TL;DR: I sabotage relationships with poor communication skills and make others feel less valued.
(I typically don't post messages this long so I'm not entirely sure how the formatting is supposed to look. Sorry for any inconveniences!)
I have a lot of trouble communicating with others and knowing how to make language flow and getting really aggressive in needing to get all of my opinions out without interruption before I lose the thought (making me more passionate/overwhelming). My neurotypical boyfriend of 2 years and I have had ups and downs in our relationships due to communication problems. I don't comprehend things well and often need something spelled out with all the different details multiple different ways in order to comprehend the problem (even then, sometimes I only get a glimmer of the idea in my head). This has really stressed him out and made him feel like he has to walk on eggshells around me because something might trigger me (from past trauma) and either I try to convey something to him which is exhausting for him because, while I think I'm being thorough, he feels like I'm constantly "nailing him to a cross"/"kicking him while he's down".
I'm understanding now why I can't make friends very easily - because I don't understand how to communicate or relate to others. This has affected me so horribly and sabotaged so much in my life, what can I do? Has anyone else experienced this and found a way to work with it? I'm at such a loss. | 2021-12-15T08:01:33.000Z | rgu15l | 7 | 3 | ADHD | I struggle with effective communication and it has ruined or damaged many of my relationships. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgu15l/i_struggle_with_effective_communication_and_it/ |
Professor_Snivus | I don’t even know how I always end up like this. I even dropped out of a few classes, I have a request for a leave of absence email that I need to write and send. I cannot wait to be medicated. Theres so much I want to do.
I want to be good at computer science and art. I cannot bring myself to do the work or even remember how much work I am missing until the last day. I honestly didn’t even feel like I missed THIS many assignments. I have a scheduled and a journal to remind me but I don’t see the bigger picture until the very end. I am taking a 10 minute break for 5 minutes of work just to get my brain stimulated enough to barely focus | 2021-12-15T08:00:02.000Z | rgu025 | 11 | 40 | ADHD | Its almost 3AM and I have an entire semester of work to submit by tomorrow night | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgu025/its_almost_3am_and_i_have_an_entire_semester_of/ |
Ninjanic0 | I have been diagnosed with ADHD since elementary school. I'm not one to get angry easily or often. But when I do, it's explosive. Yelling, hitting things, slamming things. To be clear as well, no matter how angry I get, or whoever I'm angry at, I would never and will never hit or at all be violent to a specific person, but it's always to my environment. It feels almost like a release of tension and emotion when I hit say my bed, a counter, or my steering wheel. and no matter what, my anger will quickly go away the second the argument (or whatever) is over with and I'm back to my usual self.
Lately, however, there has been a situation in my life that creates this unbridled rage/frustration quicker than anything in my life before. Not only that but, my girlfriend is starting to be affected by it emotionally as well. She and I both know that I wouldn't lay a finger on her, but these acts scare her and it doesn't help that this situation that is causing my anger to flair up easier is also directly affecting the relationship as well.
I don't want to scare her and I don't want this issue to keep affecting my emotions to that degree anymore, especially because it's not something that will go away anytime soon nor is it something I can run away from. I've tried breathing and calming down, trying to relax and all that, but it ends up feeling so deeply unsatisfying and almost doubles the anger because I still have to come back to deal with it after calming down.
Does anyone have any ideas on how to go about this? | 2021-12-15T07:52:24.000Z | rgtw4x | 4 | 3 | ADHD | How to control my anger and why does it feel so unsatisfying? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtw4x/how_to_control_my_anger_and_why_does_it_feel_so/ |
PerpetuallyBitter | [removed] | 2021-12-15T07:52:12.000Z | rgtw04 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | My neurotypical boyfriend gets very upset with the way I *fail* to communicate and I get too passionate about things turning them into an argument. Does anyone have any advice on how to improve? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtw04/my_neurotypical_boyfriend_gets_very_upset_with/ |
Aspen_Pass | Hello! I have recently accepted my ADHD diagnosis that I originally pushed for and then gave up on. I tried Adderall, which did not help. And then Ritalin, which did not help. So I assumed that meant I didn't have ADHD and gave up.
My current therapist happens to specialize in adults with ADHD and said, no, actually, your superhuman immunity to stimulants means you DO have it. 😂 Ope.
I reluctantly tried Vyvanse...because I'm on Medicaid (fully covered) but about to lose it (on the hook for $300/mo oop). I didn't want to find out it works and then not be able to afford it. It works. 😔 Ope. **EDIT:** *I've read up on the assistance program now and will be looking into it. Love this place!*
So, I'll get to the real question in a second I swear, but if you've experienced issues with Adderall and Ritalin (they don't "wake me up" or help me concentration or feel normal at all...they just make my heart race at higher doses), but success with Vyvanse....and then had to go off of it...did you find anything else that worked?
**Actual question starts HERE:**
Everything I read about Vyvanse crash is about the same day! Or extended withdrawals from quitting. However, what I'm experiencing is:
+ An uptick in anxiety at the end of the day, which I've managed by taking my twice-a-day-as-needed anxiety med at night in addition to my usual morning.
+ If I try to skip my Vyvanse for the day, around the 22 hour mark I am shoved into a dark closet of brain fog. Slowed slurred speech, exhaustion, disinterest, trouble processing, etc. The second time I noticed the fog, I took my dose late in the day and timed how long it took to feel better. Almost exactly 30 minutes. My partner even noticed and asked what flipped my switch.
+ *This is the new, concerning one...* A few times now, I've done my usual, running late thing of having a cup of coffee and whatever sugary thing I find laying around for breakfast. This is BEFORE taking my meds for the day. Suddenly, my heart is racing and my hands are shaking. You'd think from too much stimulation, right? Well, this morning when it happened, followed by stuttering and confusion at work along with other "this is weird and uncomfortable" body sensations, I decided to take the Vyvanse anyway, and within a half hour felt normal again.
I mean, obviously the lesson here is "take your Vyvanse every day at the same time, don't skip, figure out how to keep getting it, and also stop eating cookies for breakfast." But, I just can't figure out what the heck is happening in me. I don't feel like I'm in danger at all so I probably won't discuss with my psych (unless that changes). I'm just curious if anyone else has had physical symptoms like this outside the norm.
If it matters, I'm a woman, and I do NOT have hyperactivity. | 2021-12-15T07:51:51.000Z | rgtvtt | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Experiencing delayed (24hr) meds crash... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtvtt/experiencing_delayed_24hr_meds_crash/ |
usernametoolongsorry | I always did well on tests, class discussions, and group assignments despite never taking any notes or doing any of the reading because I absorbed the material during class. I would have done much better in school had there been less homework.
Not sure what I’m looking to achieve by posting this, but I hope that I am not the only one with this experience | 2021-12-15T07:50:16.000Z | rgtv0y | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Homework is why I never did well in school | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtv0y/homework_is_why_i_never_did_well_in_school/ |
Buffer_Brain | I am diagnosed ADHD and also Autistic. Most of the time when arguments happen I’m not able to recognize what I said or did to cause it, when I am able to recognize the specific action I fail to understand what I should have done differently. Add to the fact I have a very hard time understanding facial expressions and tones; and I just feel incredibly confused and terrible because I dont want to hurt anyone.
In the past when these sorts of arguments happen the other person would sometimes get really mad at me, insult me, call me rude and self centered, just leave me. Other times they would say its ok then just leave me anyways or tell people I am rude and terrible.
Now as an adult anything that feels like a minor arguments or disagreement immediately sends me into a full confused panic trying to find anything that can point to what i did wrong, trying to understand why that could have upset them, and what i should have done instead; sometimes its that alone that triggers a meltdown. The only things that ever console me enough to avoid it is the other person reassuring me multiple times that they truely aren’t mad, that they aren’t leaving, and talking it over with me. This already makes me worried that im manipulative, but when they don’t/aren’t able to (have to go to bed/work) my meltdowns get 10x worse and can sometimes take me days to recover.
I’ve only ever told the other person that the disagreement caused a meltdown. But I stopped because i was worried I’m manipulative, but now im worried just the fact I’m like this is manipulative enough. I feel like the fact I want them to stop/reword what they are saying to reassure me that they dont just absolutely hate me so I dont have a meltdown, is just me being manipulative to get what I want and I hate the thought of hurting people.
I know this isn’t “normal” and definitely not healthy but am I manipulative? If others are like this also is there something that you do that helps? | 2021-12-15T07:49:37.000Z | rgtunp | 6 | 8 | ADHD | Minor arguments are a massive trigger for meltdowns and I’m worried I might be manipulative because of it. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtunp/minor_arguments_are_a_massive_trigger_for/ |
IDKMAN445 | I have been diagnosed with ADD for the last 3 years, but I have never taken any medication. Last week I came to the conclusion that I probably need medication if I want to succeed in uni. On monday I took my first dose ever of methylphenidate. I felt more focused and it was pretty nice. On Tuesday however, I stumbled upon a weird problem. For the first time in my life I ejaculated prematurely. This has never happened before and it was pretty embarrassing. I tried again some time later and it happend again. Because this has never happend before, I started thinking about what could have caused this issue. Last Friday I had sex with the same girl and it went as usual, on Monday I took the medication, and on Tuesday this problem occured. Is there anyone who has experienced premature ejaculation or other sexual problems from their ADHD meds? | 2021-12-15T07:46:01.000Z | rgtstl | 12 | 0 | ADHD | ADHD medication and premature ejaculation | 0.4 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtstl/adhd_medication_and_premature_ejaculation/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T07:44:56.000Z | rgts8k | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Anxiety about being fired from a job I want to quit | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgts8k/anxiety_about_being_fired_from_a_job_i_want_to/ |
YVRBeerFan | I’m going to be working hard to help my guy through these formative years. Lots of things are still new to me and sometimes only have been described to me recently. Like meds making food taste bad.
Obviously meds are quite central to things being manageable, although they take away the incentive to gain those important calories. Being that the meds fade, we try and focus on getting academics done before dinner. Usually dinner and 1-2 evening snacks get us into the daily calorie ballpark so I think we’re ok there. Evenings I’m working to shut off texting with friends to avoid impulsive chats that have historically ended with not feeling positive before bed. I won’t be able to enforce this over the years, but very curious if anyone employs strategies on when to banter with friends. Or maybe it’s about getting your friends to come to a place where they know you will communicate differently at different times of day?
I’m sure there are all sorts of considerations I haven’t even considered.
Always thankful to members on this sub for sharing, listening, and helping people like me to be a better parent. | 2021-12-15T07:42:09.000Z | rgtqp4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Top strategies for the teen years? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtqp4/top_strategies_for_the_teen_years/ |
Scorpiopristine | [removed] | 2021-12-15T07:21:26.000Z | rgtfb7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD medication problem | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtfb7/adhd_medication_problem/ |
Orangejuiceskillet | Okay I so, I started driving September of this past year right? So far I've gotten into two fender benders, one of which ended in an at-fault insurance claim since I scratched up the side of her car, and the other I dented a guy's license plate when I backed into him.
This only happens when I'm over stimulated on the road. And I don't know how to stop it. For some reason I just windows blue screen crash in my head for an instant, and in that instant is when I make a small dumb mistake, which ends me up in this situation.
I've been trying to drive as little as possible for this reason, but I have to get to work and drive for work sometimes. I'm thankful that no one is hurt by my dumb mistakes, but I'm really scared that one day someone might be.
Anyone got tips for driving with ADHD? Did you guys also get into small fender benders when you started driving?
Usually my reflexes are really really good, it's just when there are too many things happening that this happens. I'm bawling my eyes our right now because I don't want to end up hurting someone. Any advice or support is appreciated.
I'm also unmedicated and have been since August. I get health insurance in January so I'm planning on going in to get it then, and hopefully it helps. | 2021-12-15T07:17:15.000Z | rgtd0j | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Driving Problems | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtd0j/driving_problems/ |
gingerypineapple | Hi all,
Recently had a conversation with a friend of mine who is a pediatric psychiatrist and she mentioned the medication management for ADD/ADHD is significantly different in children than adults. As a 30 something who has not been on ADHD medications (but has gone through periods in adulthood where I probably should have been) I’m curious. | 2021-12-15T07:14:07.000Z | rgtbay | 10 | 3 | ADHD | What ADHD medications are all the 30+ year olds taking? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgtbay/what_adhd_medications_are_all_the_30_year_olds/ |
butchmymeat | I work an evening shift and should go to sleep by 3-4Am. I had planned lunch at noon with a friend at noon and guess what, I did not sleep because I don't have time to sleep, I have to go to lunch at noon, the 8 hour time that I have is not enough to sleep apparently. This is not new and happens almost all the time. I do not do anything in middle if I have a thing planned (even if I have hours and thing can be completed in minutes). This is not at all healthy. Please share your experiences, I really need some validation and to know that I am not alone. I would love some help too! | 2021-12-15T07:11:02.000Z | rgt9lg | 10 | 43 | ADHD | Why does my Brain not understand the concept of time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgt9lg/why_does_my_brain_not_understand_the_concept_of/ |
butchmymeat | [removed] | 2021-12-15T07:05:07.000Z | rgt6an | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why does my Brain not understand the concept of time and how to perceive it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgt6an/why_does_my_brain_not_understand_the_concept_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T07:02:59.000Z | rgt54o | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Is there a chance I have ADHD? (I'm not that familiar with it, and I feel like something isn't right.) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgt54o/is_there_a_chance_i_have_adhd_im_not_that/ |
audreywash2 | I’m curious if it’s just me or if this relates to a lot of people with ADHD… do you have a “designated messy area”? I’m not a messy person, I keep a clean house and clean car but I have one area that is just mine and usually it’s complete chaos. It’s (hidden in) my nightstand drawers. Anything I don’t or can’t deal with I just throw in a drawer. Today I cleaned it out for the first time in almost a year. Not sure what made me do it today. I upped my med dosage so not sure if that played a part. I had a lot of emotional stuff in there, that I’ve been avoiding like paperwork from the hospital, sympathy cards, cremation paperwork, etc from when I lost my son back in April. It was hard but I did it and I love having that clean space again although I can never seem to maintain it long-term. My mom is a hoarder and I feel like my nightstand is my hoarding place but I make sure not to let it spill into the rest of my home, mostly because of my excessively tidy husband. I was definitely messier before we got married. Anyways, just curious if anyone else has something like this. | 2021-12-15T06:58:27.000Z | rgt2di | 1 | 7 | ADHD | Is this an ADHD thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgt2di/is_this_an_adhd_thing/ |
YamulkeYak | This was a patient's response tonight when I described the frustration patients with BPD feel when their emotional reactions make perfect sense to them but no one else.
The example I used, "My friend didn't text me back for three and a half HOURS, so of course it's because she hates me and now I want to k*ll myself because I'm so humiliated at the thought of ever having been stupid enough to think anyone would want to be friends with me."
My secret? This is how my RSD felt all the time prior to my diagnosis and treatment for ADHD-C and how it still feels sometimes.
We, women with ADHD, are misdiagnosed all the time. Psychiatrists would rather give us almost any label than ADHD, even a personality disorder that's surrounded in (dare I say) more stigma than ADHD.
I was always afraid of being diagnosed with BPD because of the stigma as "impossible to treat", so I studied everything about I could get my hands on and it never fit me. I was diagnosed with ADHD at 30 and C-PTSD at 32. These diagnoses and treatment thereof changed my life, but I've never lost what I learned from my own feelings.
I'm now six months away from graduating with my MSW and ADHD is my area of focus -- as well as BPD and C-PTSD. I have an enormous passion for patients who are struggling with emotional regulation for one reason or another.
This is a ramble, yah, but I just wanted to share that our experiences can and do benefit others. Please don't take this as a "silver lining" or superpower post. Eff that noise. What I'm saying though is that we can be the heroes other people need - even people without ADHD.
I don't love having ADHD. I don't think it's cool and I'd trade it in a second if I could. But I'm glad I was able to connect with this patient tonight.
Love y'all. | 2021-12-15T06:54:40.000Z | rgt0cr | 0 | 3 | ADHD | "How did you know?! Are YOU Borderline?" | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgt0cr/how_did_you_know_are_you_borderline/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T06:53:30.000Z | rgszpm | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Currently thought spiraling. Feeling a deep sense of alienation and inadequacy. Need some people to talk it out. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgszpm/currently_thought_spiraling_feeling_a_deep_sense/ |
NorthStarhOne4321 | Hello folks,
I am interested has anyone with a history of substance abuse actually found a doctor that does not judge you and makes treatment decisions based on your diagnosis and not your past. I was diagnosed late in life(37). It’s actually only been about 4 months since I’ve been diagnosed and I get nervous to tell my doctor about my past because I know a lot of doctors don’t understand and just chalk you up as a pill seeker. | 2021-12-15T06:48:38.000Z | rgswzu | 23 | 2 | ADHD | Getting treatment with a past history of substance abuse. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgswzu/getting_treatment_with_a_past_history_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T06:35:57.000Z | rgspo8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How long after going on meds did you start to see progress? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgspo8/how_long_after_going_on_meds_did_you_start_to_see/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T06:33:20.000Z | rgso4u | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Focusing on all the negative | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgso4u/focusing_on_all_the_negative/ |
cresscentelle | I was diagnosed with ADHD last month, Was prescribed with concerta 18mg for the first 10 days and then 36mg for 5 days and now I'm on 54mg..
I didn't feel much different when I was on 18mg, first day was okay? A little sense euphoria and then nothing. Just anxious and sleepy.
When I started 36mg, I felt so good and clear and I actually feel really good in general? But that only happened on the first day..
And then I feel nothing.. again.. aside from feeling anxious most of the time..
Now I'm prescribed with 54mg and gosh. I feel terrible. I'm nauseas, anxious, but with a clear head.
Anyone on concerta feeling the same way?
Doctor said it's gonna take some time for me to get use to this dose? How are we supposed to feel while on concerta? Is this how it supposed to be? It's only my third day on 54mg. | 2021-12-15T06:32:44.000Z | rgsnqt | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling restless on concerta 54mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgsnqt/feeling_restless_on_concerta_54mg/ |
jklmcc56 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T06:26:40.000Z | rgsk5d | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Possible New Member | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgsk5d/possible_new_member/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-15T06:13:45.000Z | rgscgd | 0 | 1 | ADHD | What do you do to wind down? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgscgd/what_do_you_do_to_wind_down/ |
Lolrandomusername3 | I'm putting out this post to ask a question and follow it up with a reminder
1. Does anyone else feel their ADHD symptoms are even worse when you drink? Obviously this is rarely if ever done during productive/working hours, but I'm just throwing it out there in terms of times you consume alcohol. For example you'll set the oven to heat up a pizza, remember a song you want to listen on Spotify, stop it halfway between then load up a video game. Or say you're with friends, you're able to recall any memory related to the conversation topic, then someone will ask you to come participate in an activity and you will stop midsentence and go join them. You may not do ANY of these actions but I'm seeing you notice that your unpredictability and your eagerness to take on a new task is heightened. These are common occurrences for me and I'm wondering if anyones feeling the same.
2. Please remember we typically have addictive personalities and it's important to limit ourselves in order to continue leading happy, healthy lifestyles. Drink responsibly! | 2021-12-15T06:12:48.000Z | rgsbux | 14 | 13 | ADHD | Drinking with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgsbux/drinking_with_adhd/ |
dpkart | I've avoidet giving oral to my sexual partners for quite a while. Its not that I dont like it, I do. Mostly because I like making my partner feel good. The problem is that the taste and smells are just really distracting. I've had bad encounters where either the hygiene was off or the smell was natuarly stronger (every body is different I guess). So that was a "traumatic" experience and since then just went down on my last girlfriend because I dont know how to approach this situation. I dont wanna be like "I have to check first if your hoohaa doesent taste or smell to strong". Only wanting to do it after a shower also seems weird to me. Does someone have some advice on what to do here. I already know the pineapple trick. And to all the woman, how should I approach this? | 2021-12-15T06:12:21.000Z | rgsblu | 18 | 1 | ADHD | How do I make oral sex more enjoyable | 0.56 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgsblu/how_do_i_make_oral_sex_more_enjoyable/ |
wittwlweggz | [removed] | 2021-12-15T06:09:52.000Z | rgsa2a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What do you do to wind down? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgsa2a/what_do_you_do_to_wind_down/ |
CropperCrapper | [removed] | 2021-12-15T06:08:03.000Z | rgs90h | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My dad something wildly intelligent today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs90h/my_dad_something_wildly_intelligent_today/ |
rweso | My son and daughter have ADHD as well as several nephews. I have always suspected that I have it and will be seeing a Dr to confirm it. I’m 48 years old and wondering if that is too old to seek help. I’m fearing that the Dr will say something like “You lived this long without a diagnosis and/or treatment. Why does it matter now?”
How old were you when you got diagnosed? | 2021-12-15T06:06:37.000Z | rgs85b | 25 | 3 | ADHD | For those who were diagnosed as an adult, how old were you? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs85b/for_those_who_were_diagnosed_as_an_adult_how_old/ |
epic-username123 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T05:59:36.000Z | rgs3hp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Am I the only person that is able to read long passages of words? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs3hp/am_i_the_only_person_that_is_able_to_read_long/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T05:59:23.000Z | rgs3cw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | feelin real hypocritical rn | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs3cw/feelin_real_hypocritical_rn/ |
missbeets | Can you stay awake for a whole movie?
I fall asleep almost every single time I watch a movie no matter what it is, where I am, or who I’m with. my attention span is too short for movies and I can barely watch shows. In my Highschool Film class I would always get in trouble for sleeping but no matter how hard I tried to stay awake, I never could.
I’m curious if other folks fall asleep if bored/without stimulation. If so how do you help it? I annoy my friends and family by falling asleep all the time and want to be able to watch entire movies. | 2021-12-15T05:55:01.000Z | rgs0pf | 1 | 2 | ADHD | If I put on a movie, I’ll be asleep well before it’s over | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs0pf/if_i_put_on_a_movie_ill_be_asleep_well_before_its/ |
BugsB_iolin | Hello! I am a female who maybe a year or so ago started getting treated for ADHD. Something I struggle with, and would like advice on, is that I have a hard time holding on to money. For me, it’s like once I see my paycheck hit my account, I just want to spend it right away! Several thoughts go through my head like, “I can finally get that thing I’ve been meaning to get!”, and “I could really go for some [insert food I really don’t need to be spending that much money on] tonight!” and, “I want this, this, and this, and THIS would be very useful and this would help me with this and this!” You get what I mean? I often forget that I need to put gas in my car and pay bills, and lose sight of how much money I am actually spending. I literally got $40 food deliveries three days in a row. And I got paid on FRIDAY! I know a lot of people struggle with finances, but I thought I’d ask people I have way more in common with. How do you manage your money? How do you stop yourself from spending money on stuff you don’t need? Thanks in advance! | 2021-12-15T05:54:14.000Z | rgs08q | 10 | 6 | ADHD | Money burns a hole in my pocket. | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgs08q/money_burns_a_hole_in_my_pocket/ |
twrowawaye | edit: thank you everyone for your insight and advice. I’ve decided to reach out to my supervisor to hopefully discuss some options and new approaches to my workflow to mitigate mistakes so that I can do better. I will not be explicitly stating I have adhd, just briefly mentioning what I struggle with and what I think may help me do better going forward. i’m super anxious about it, but hopefully the discussion will help in the end!
—- og post:
apologies if this gets to be a bit of a ramble, I’ll try to keep this as short as I can! made a throwaway since I’m a bit anxious posting.
lately I’ve been in a pretty serious downward spiral in my professional work. I’ve found myself making a lot of careless mistakes without realizing until hours or sometimes days after. been struggling to remember tasks that were told to me (verbally) within minutes of being explained, and even when I try to write what’s said down, I miss a handful of details and feel embarrassed having to then ask people to repeat themselves constantly. combine all that with executive dysfunction, dissociation, struggles with motivation, etc etc, and it’s been a huge mess for me. I’m only now managing to get back on track with my work, but am way behind on various time sensitive tasks and feel like I’m constantly playing catch up. not to mention, people depend on my work to get what they need done, so there’s a lot of guilty feelings as well.
I was diagnosed with inattentive type adhd and autism somewhat recently (within the last few months), and am still coming to terms with what that means for me and how best to navigate it.
I find myself wanting to explain to the people I work with (notably my supervisor) that I’ve been seriously struggling mentally in recent weeks - maybe to show that the mistakes I’ve made aren’t “malicious”, “intentional” or “airheaded”. but is this reasonable/acceptable to do in a professional environment? do you see it as an excuse for not being on top of things? should I just “suck it up”?
have you experienced this in your own field of work, and have you taken the opportunity to be open about personal struggles with those you work with? would you tell your boss you have adhd? why/why not? | 2021-12-15T05:53:05.000Z | rgrzhz | 10 | 12 | ADHD | what do you think are the pros/cons of explaining your adhd to the people you work with? have you done so? why/why not? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrzhz/what_do_you_think_are_the_proscons_of_explaining/ |
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corbinleviii | Hello everyone this is my first time ever posting so we will see how this goes. So for me I struggle to be alone a lot of the time even though i’m introverted, and i always stick with my close friends instead of new people of course. When it comes to me being alone late at night i can’t sleep or stop crying, and the main reason i hate it is cause i don’t even know why i am upset or anything it’s a out of nowhere feeling. (If anything doesn’t make sense i will try and clear up what i meant.) | 2021-12-15T05:39:53.000Z | rgrr1r | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Emotional Problems | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrr1r/emotional_problems/ |
AlexSciChannel | [removed] | 2021-12-15T05:32:56.000Z | rgrmnt | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I think I just failed my College Math Final. It's reminiscent of a long going problem I've been ignoring. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrmnt/i_think_i_just_failed_my_college_math_final_its/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T05:29:22.000Z | rgrk6j | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Need tips/advice for adult ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrk6j/need_tipsadvice_for_adult_adhd/ |
Guinypher | Hi, 29F here, on vyvanse for ~2 months. My doctor just had me increase my dose from 20mg to 30mg and my heart rate was very high all day. Is this a normal side effect when increasing dosage, does your heart rate return to normal as you adjust to the new dose? I'm not looking for medical advice, just wondering if this is common or not.
Additional details: I was up to 90% of my calculated maximum (fitbit recorded 173 bpm) on a brisk walk and 80-105 bpm while sitting and typing. No caffeine. My normal resting rate is 65ish bpm, hovering as high as 70 bpm since I've been on 20mg, which has felt fine. | 2021-12-15T05:24:49.000Z | rgrh8k | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Increased heart rate when increasing dose - does it go away or is this a concern? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrh8k/increased_heart_rate_when_increasing_dose_does_it/ |
trash_snackin_panda | I'm currently taking instant release generic Adderall, 20 mg 2X daily, and some of the side effects suck. I'm thinking about switching meds, wondering if the XR is better, or if I should try something like Vyvanse, concerta, etc.
What is your personal experiences with side effects from medication? If you switched to a long acting medication, what were the benefits?
I have:
- Dry mouth
- increased heart rate
- sweatier
- feel like I'm gonna die if I don't get food in me once they wear off
I'm constantly dehydrated anyways, because I always forget to drink water lol. Some days are obviously better than others, but legit I get so hangry sometimes when my meds wear off, I drive my wife nuts.
Thoughts? | 2021-12-15T05:21:49.000Z | rgrf9v | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall XR vs Instant | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrf9v/adderall_xr_vs_instant/ |
izzzy427 | [removed] | 2021-12-15T05:21:47.000Z | rgrf9e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I take 15 mg of adderall but I notice when I take it at 7 am I Start to lose focus by the time it’s 1 pm. Should I go up to 20 mg? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrf9e/i_take_15_mg_of_adderall_but_i_notice_when_i_take/ |
[deleted] | Every time I hangout with people I just completely embarrass myself. I talk so much way too fast and I overshare. I'm definitely eccentric and quirky which I HATE! I want to be calm and normal. The only way I can do that is if I don't say anything.
I know people think I'm weird and annoying. People have always said that.
I've had a couple close friends (3) and 2 of them dumped me via text message.
I would just love to have social cues ... which I seem to be obviously missing :(
Can anyone else related ?? | 2021-12-15T05:21:31.000Z | rgrf2l | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Social anxiety and not liking my personality! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrf2l/social_anxiety_and_not_liking_my_personality/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-15T05:21:26.000Z | rgrf12 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I am overwhelmed. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rgrf12/i_am_overwhelmed/ |
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