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[deleted] | [Undiagnosed ADHD, Diagnosed with ASD] [19] I remember being “into” cars when I was younger and I talked a lot about them. But really I could never get into the design and intricacies of a well-made vehicle. Sure I was hyperfocused on cars, I spent 5-7+ hours just researching cars and looking through the years they were made and going to the Edmund website sifting through models. But actually I was just obsessed with numbers and how fast they drove and when they was going to come out. I had an idea of the aesthetic I liked when it came to cars, but never had any real attachment to how they were actually made. I meet other car people and they have all these stories about cars in life and they have all these romantic attachments and stories about cars and, idk, I just can’t relate.
Same goes with paintings. If I look at them for too long it gets boring and I’ll want to look at the next one. And it makes people look like I am uninterested at the art. Which I shouldn’t be because I’m supposed to be an ‘artist’. And yet I don’t exactly admire any artist whatsoever. Whenever I talk about artists I regurgitate information learned about an artist, but never like an “oh this artist is my idol” or as if there is any sentimental value attached. It makes me feel like a fake artist because I don’t seem to appreciate any art in the way that an art master can study and analyze a painting and admire all of the details. But also I know what art I want to make, I know the aesthetic, I have my genres of interest, and I can make decent work. Just, if you want to ask me my favorite artist and/or why I like any particular artist, I can’t answer that.
And also music ~ I never catch the lyrics and I can only understand the song in-depth if I read it online like a research scientist, with lens n all. I don’t really appreciate the beats or instrumentals like anyone else can (at least not until 10-50x listens), I just know what feels good and what doesn’t. Otherwise, nothing. If you want me to cry to a sad song, then you need to explain to me why it is sad, and explain the lyrics. Otherwise I won’t cry.
Please tell me this isn’t just me. It’s like as if my brain is collecting information and stimuli unconsciously but consciously I am absolutely lagging behind. My head feels so spacey at times and I can only describe a vague feeling of ‘holiness’ for things that look good. When I see things that look good I just think they look good. I can’t even think of why it looks good. I’m just so frustrated right now. Tell me I’m not crazy. | 2021-10-06T21:56:19.000Z | q2ui4g | 3 | 9 | ADHD | ADHD is when you are an artist and yet you get bored looking at everything made before you | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ui4g/adhd_is_when_you_are_an_artist_and_yet_you_get/ |
NashtonMayson | Hi all,
Been meaning to post this a while…
I’ve worked in finance for the past ten years. Nothing too fancy, mind you. Glorified admin.
My biggest suspicion that something was up was work took me twice as long as my colleagues to complete . This manifested in long hours and working unpaid weekends to catch up. At first, it’s usually mistaken for going above and beyond but as time wears on, questions are asked.
It was never my intention to iron out any personality quirks - all I wanted was to be as efficient as possible in 7.5 hours. Get some of that work-life balance I’ve heard so much about.
This year, between jobs, I was diagnosed at 34 years old. I’ve tried Vyvanse/ Elvanse for the past 6 weeks and made it up to 50 mg , but I don’t feel any difference and been through 20mg all the way up. Going to try something new next week, but not holding out much hope.
I recently started a new job and had a flying start where I’ve stood out, even training new starters, but quickly falling back into old habits and doing extra hours and not even keeping up this time. I’m burning out and it doesn’t usually happen this quickly. Dunno if it’s because I’m not in my 20s anymore but I secretly dream of being a postman and having a simple life.
So, my question is , are there any fields of work where your ADHD isn’t a hindrance, that an office bod like me could slip into? I’m really outgoing and confident, always do my research and not scared of putting in extra work (just not 14 hours a day).
Answers on a postcard, if you’d be so kind. And if anyone’s switched meds and it was the answer, be happy to hear from you.
Thank you. | 2021-10-06T21:52:00.000Z | q2uf44 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Burning out - Advice required | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2uf44/burning_out_advice_required/ |
ArthurStirling | (I'm giving myself 5 minutes to type this post to avoid excessive time wasting)
I'm going to make this simple. I'm deeply struggling with motivation right now. My job pays well, but knowing I will be fired if I don't turn things around isn't enough. People's lives will be negatively impacted if I don't get my #### together, but that isn't enough. I feel guiltier and guiltier everyday for not working, but for some reason it hasn't translated into actually sitting down and doing what I need to do.
If I go too long without food, I feel hungry. If I go too long without sleep, I feel tired. But for some reason the feeling that usually kicks in when I have upcoming deadline or when clients are getting frustrated with me hasn't arrived.
I'm not being asked to do anything terribly difficult or even something that I don't understand. I'm being asked to do things I've done 100 times before, but for whatever reason, right now it seems like the most difficult task on earth. | 2021-10-06T21:50:22.000Z | q2ue00 | 53 | 144 | ADHD | I Can't Make Myself Want to Work. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ue00/i_cant_make_myself_want_to_work/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T21:50:18.000Z | q2udyq | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Is ADHD a trait some humans have always had throughout history or something recently observed due to the way society is? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2udyq/is_adhd_a_trait_some_humans_have_always_had/ |
TwisterRex | [removed] | 2021-10-06T21:48:05.000Z | q2uci4 | 8 | 2 | ADHD | Rant for all the Emos out there | 0.56 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2uci4/rant_for_all_the_emos_out_there/ |
kalwardin2005 | On the one hand, I have an incredible father who I CAN ABSOLUTELY TALK TO ABOUT ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING.
On the other hand, whenever I DO try to talk to him about my issues, I break down within the first sentence and can’t get my thoughts across.
Result: my father gets the wrong idea, and has no idea whatsoever about whatever on Earth I just tried to tell him.
A colleague of his (a psychologist) suspects I’m autistic, plus there’s his opinion I DO have ADHD (after an assessment), so me trying to explain to him why I can’t make friends in a new environment is painful, and I end up defaulting to my bullshit lying routine because otherwise I break down and look like an idiot. And sound like an idiot. And can’t even explain my problem because I’ve no clue what my problem is.
Why can’t I make friends? I’m filled with extreme dread and anxiety whenever I think about even needing to talk to people. Why? How should I know? But when I want to tell him my problem, what happens? I look like an idiot.
On the one hand, I know my father is a calm, patient man who has all the time in the world for me, his son.
On the other hand, it’s like my brain paints him as this extremely impatient anger management guy who I CAN’T talk to because what the hell. Why not.
I suspect someone here much have some grip on this problem, seeing as I’m probably not the only person who deals with it, so. Any advice? | 2021-10-06T21:46:39.000Z | q2ubjo | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Anyone know how to deal with RSD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ubjo/anyone_know_how_to_deal_with_rsd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T21:39:47.000Z | q2u6pq | 7 | 9 | ADHD | Why do my meds wear off so fast? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u6pq/why_do_my_meds_wear_off_so_fast/ |
The_Legend399 | I am having a LOT of trouble focusing on any work. No guides, articles or advices has helped me. I don't have time to meditate and my meds don't really help (concerta).
I need real help from others who have overcome this. So please, give me the words of wisdom for the poor to use and gain from.Thanks! | 2021-10-06T21:38:07.000Z | q2u5gd | 2 | 0 | ADHD | HELP ME (M <18) | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u5gd/help_me_m_18/ |
287978mo | Hey all! I was diagnosed with ADHD at 15 and went on meds a few months later at 16. I’ve been on adderall XR 10 mg for about a month, but it was wearing off early in the day, so my doc decided to prescribe me 10mg IR to take later in the day. I’ve only taken my IR a few times, but it seems to give me anxiety (the XR does not.) My pcp thinks I have anxiety and is waiting until my adhd meds are sorted out before deciding if she wants to prescribe or treat the anxiety. But the IR is giving me massive anxiety, where the XR does not. Is this normal for the IR, and will it go away as I take it more, or is this a cause of concern I should voice? Any insight is greatly appreciated :) | 2021-10-06T21:37:29.000Z | q2u50d | 3 | 1 | ADHD | adderall IR giving anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u50d/adderall_ir_giving_anxiety/ |
The_Legend399 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T21:37:25.000Z | q2u4yj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | HELP ME (M <18) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u4yj/help_me_m_18/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T21:36:00.000Z | q2u3xv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I passed a test with 100% for the first time in a long time. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u3xv/i_passed_a_test_with_100_for_the_first_time_in_a/ |
thinkcleer | My main issue is paying attention in conversation when I am not interested in the topic, e.g. someone telling me a story about a novel - I weave in and out of listening. And it this behavior is not exclusive to my personal life, same issue at work.
However, some days are better than others I can focus and concentrate. The whole day.
Please help me with the inconsistency. | 2021-10-06T21:34:04.000Z | q2u2l1 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Concentration | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u2l1/concentration/ |
Regular-Procedure-86 | I was wondering if anyone notices a increase in zoning out when not on stimulants compared to before you ever took stimulants?
Im not sure it I just notice I am zoning out more because I am used to stimulants and I always zoned out this much.
But oh gosh, without my meds I stare into space a lot. | 2021-10-06T21:33:38.000Z | q2u28z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Stimulants and zoning out | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u28z/stimulants_and_zoning_out/ |
The_Legend399 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T21:31:09.000Z | q2u0i0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | HELP ME (M <18) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2u0i0/help_me_m_18/ |
ihaveaboyfriendnow | English is not my first language so please forgive me any mistakes!! :)
I got diagnosed with ADHD maybe 1 1/2 years ago (I was 24) And I really struggle with this medication question. I took medikinet 10mg daily and it helped a lot with being focused, not being bored all the time (in school) and being more Organized. But at some point I always stopped taking it because I have the feeling that I can’t feel my feelings properly, didn’t like to comedown and yeah, it doesn’t feel natural because it isn’t haha. Besides that I think that it CANT be the solution to take a pill EVERY DAY just to function.. I also don’t think that it’s good in a spiritual and healthy way.
But yeah, I’m always struggling without, I have social anxiety, depression, I can’t get motivated, stick to things, plan ahead and plan life generally, the usual things..
what do you think about this med question? When I read all these success stories about meds I start wondering again if I should take them, or if I should try different ones .. I’m really indecisive :/ | 2021-10-06T21:25:19.000Z | q2tweh | 4 | 0 | ADHD | The question of taking meds or not | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tweh/the_question_of_taking_meds_or_not/ |
kg999999 | I’ll start off by giving a little back story. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 5 and was put on Ritalin and then switched to Adderall in high school. I remember both medications feeling very harsh, for lack of a better word. I’m in my early thirties now and aside from this past year, spent the last decade unmedicated. When I decided to try medication again in 2021, I was prescribed Strattera for 4 months and it did absolutely nothing. My doctor then prescribed Vyvanse at a starting dose of 20 mg. I’m now up to 50 mg and it’s just not working for me. I feel incredibly unmotivated and depressed most days. It also makes me fairly tired and I’ve noticed it only lasts maybe, 5 hours. These side effects have gotten more severe with each dosage increase and I have an appointment with my doctor next week to discuss trying a new medication. I’ll be honest though, I’m feeling a little disheartened. I know finding the right ADHD med can be a lot of trial and error, but I’ve had varying degrees of bad experiences with 4 different medications now. This was one of the reasons I waited so long to start medication again after years off of it. I guess I’m looking for a little hope in others’ experiences with finding the right medication. | 2021-10-06T21:21:37.000Z | q2ttrf | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Experience with finding the right ADHD medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ttrf/experience_with_finding_the_right_adhd_medication/ |
laurabelleaces | I (25 afab nonbinary, I use they/them pronouns) was diagnosed with ADHD-C in August. Since then, I've tried 2 separate meds. 20mg Adderall XR, 30mg Adderall XR, and 36mg Concerta. I'm currently taking the concerta. Here's what I've noticed so far:
Adderall XR 20mg:
-improved focus
-more outgoing
-generally really good on this med
Downsides:
-did notice my fuse seemed short and I got frustrated easier
-did not last through a whole 9 hour shift
Because of this, my provider upped to 30mg Adderall XR.
Adderall XR 30mg:
-less improvement from the 20mg
-more anxious
-effects seemed to wear off even faster, around noon.
-some trouble sleeping, too.
This is where we switched to Concerta last week
36mg Concerta ER
-some improved focus
-lasts longer, but effects don't seem to be as good
-still fairly scatterbrained
-no insomnia issues with this one so far
So here's the like big deal I guess:
I like the way the 20mg Adderall XR worked, I just need it to last through a whole day of work (and sometimes my work hours end up being 12 hours, so this is ESPECIALLY key on those days, or I'm left disassociating for 5 or 6 hours.) My provider mentioned that some people need two doses, one in the morning and one around lunch, but I'm worried about the cost of that (though I suppose I could take the second dose on an as needed basis and the cost would be less monthly) as the original prescription itself costs around $30/month with insurance.
The Concerta was only $7 for a 30 day supply which was honestly pretty rad, but I don't want to stick to a medication just because of the price of the medication if it isn't helping my symptoms as much as another medication, you know?
I have considered trying Vyvanse (my wife takes it, when she remembers) at well, but it is even more expensive than Adderall so I am at a bit of a loss there.
And to top it all off, I may be changing insurance plans soon through work because my wife (also on ADHD medications as well as a whole slew of other medications for her many medical problems) will be joining me on my insurance once open enrollment starts. And my work insurance (I work for a network of clinics and hospitals in our area) will be requiring that we use the network pharmacies starting in January, and I'm unsure how all of that is going to affect the cost of my various medications.
I suppose this all boils down to me being very confused about many things and just wanting to get the opinions of other people with ADHD on how exactly to proceed?
If you read all of that, congrats you're now my friend, thank you for reading! | 2021-10-06T21:19:02.000Z | q2tryx | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Trouble with medications?? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tryx/trouble_with_medications/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T21:18:58.000Z | q2trx8 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Do I even have ADHD? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2trx8/do_i_even_have_adhd/ |
StiffBallOfAnxiety | its great when the Ritalin is in my system, I am actually functioning semi normally for the first time in years, but once the Ritalin runs its course, I'm exhausted and I don't want to do anything. Its annoying because its done around 4pm and there are still things that need to be done. but nooooo, my brain is just *too* tired to focus anymore. I picture my brain flopping on the floor dramatically like my cat does when he wants me to carry him because jumping over a baby gate is just *too* hard | 2021-10-06T21:18:07.000Z | q2trbh | 5 | 13 | ADHD | Ritalin really wears me down | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2trbh/ritalin_really_wears_me_down/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T21:15:39.000Z | q2tpig | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I struggle to take advantage of resources given to me in time and end up doing so late | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tpig/i_struggle_to_take_advantage_of_resources_given/ |
SleepDefiance | I was diagnosed 15 years ago after my college experience imploded. 2 years ago I moved from the US to the Netherlands and married my husband who is Dutch.
I have to learn this language. My citizenship and residency relies on it. Because of the panini I was given an extra 2 years to learn but I am already 2 years into living here. I can barely speak Dutch beyond greetings. I can't understand the Dutch spoken around me.
It takes my brain 3 times longer to parse what I'm hearing because it's so loud and I think in full sentences. Then I realize I don't have most of the words I need to answer back in Dutch. Then I have to apologetically ask if we can speak English making Spreekt je Engels the best Dutch in my vocabulary.
I've talked to my doctor about medications. But the medical system moves so slow here. It's been 6 months and she still isn't ready to try stimulants. I don't know how to make this easier on myself. I just spent 45 minutes with Duolingo and my A1 TaalCompleet boek knowing I'm going to lose most of my grasp of what I learned by tomorrow. Frustrated. | 2021-10-06T21:14:13.000Z | q2tohn | 37 | 32 | ADHD | Is there hope for me to learn a second language? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tohn/is_there_hope_for_me_to_learn_a_second_language/ |
ADD_Gunedd69 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T21:09:16.000Z | q2tl41 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hello, I would like to ask a question. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tl41/hello_i_would_like_to_ask_a_question/ |
Vivid_Standard | Hi I have ADHD-PI and autism/aspergers and I am 24 and live with my parents. My ability to function in daily life is terrible and it is definitely out of the question to get a job of any sort. I also have extremely bad bad anxiety and OCD. All ADD meds just create crippling anxiety and extremely fast heart rate (150+)
What can I do? Because my family is frustrated with my lack of functionality and I am 110% dependent on them for money and other resources.
I am very intelligent but that intelligence is Worthless without the ability to use it and apply it.
I've heard of people getting on disability for simply having OCD or autism, would I apply for disability? | 2021-10-06T21:01:07.000Z | q2tf3z | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Can you get on disability for severe ADHD and no medication works? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2tf3z/can_you_get_on_disability_for_severe_adhd_and_no/ |
johnsmallz | I basically feel like I’m on cocaine (minus the “I can do anything”) feeling.
Was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and had terrible side effects with every medication I was put on so when I turned 18 I was allowed to ween myself off them. Now at 35 realized I let ADHD run my life since then (basically procrastinated my entire 20s and early 30s) and decided it was time to go back on. Wasn’t impressed with way the new diagnosis/med hand out went (in Canada. Saw an ADHD “specialist” who talked to me for 5 minutes and prescribed Vyvanse. My ADHD isn’t strictly inattentive or hyperactivity and comes with a host of others things.
They started me out with 20mg to see how I am on them before upping the dosage but boy oh boy 20mg legit just makes me feel like I’m on cocaine. Can’t stop clenching my jaw, def cant focus on one thing, and also had a random urge to gamble (casual low $$$/stakes sports.
Has anyone else ever had this reaction to low dosage of Vyvanse before? | 2021-10-06T20:49:44.000Z | q2t6wh | 0 | 2 | ADHD | Just started taking 20mg of Vyvanse and feel weird | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2t6wh/just_started_taking_20mg_of_vyvanse_and_feel_weird/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:40:12.000Z | q2t0iw | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Took a little bit too much Vyvanse and now I just feel kinda shit | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2t0iw/took_a_little_bit_too_much_vyvanse_and_now_i_just/ |
feelingsdoctor | I am a third year doctoral student in the field of clinical psychology and I have pretty severe inattentive type ADHD. I am currently in the process of writing my thesis and I have to say, it is really really distressing. I can't do any work unless I'm on my medication, but my medication also makes me feel like shit, so I hate taking it, but I have to. So I usually end up taking a lower dosage than normal as to not have so rough of a comedown, but then I can't really work on my thesis because I'm not fully medicated. Then I end up feeling like shit because I wasted a potentially productive day and didn't get anything done that I had planned. This cycle has repeated for months now and I'm stuck in it, I haven't gotten anything done in regards to my thesis since August. (BTW, it's due in December)
To add, my research advisor JUST told me to scrap an entire section and change the format when in the first place, I had written that section exactly how she told me to. So now she wants me to change the entire section and completely and re-write it. I have literally ZERO motivation to write this thesis in the first place, I hate research and I'm not interested in being published, and now I have even more work to do with it when I had barely managed to put together a rough draft. This has become so daunting and it's seeping into my general experience in school because I can't think of anything but this motherf\*\*ing thesis and I end up feeling stupid because I don't know what's going on in my other classes.
I guess my potential solution could be to just take my full dosage of medication and bang out as much of my thesis that I can in a day that I don't have work or school and suck up the pain. It just sucks that it comes at the cost of physically suffering with migraines, nausea, and irritability. It's times like this where I'm jealous of neutorypical people who can just randomly decide at any moment to get some work done and there's nothing to it. I guess I just needed to rant and maybe I'm not explicitly looking for advice because I feel like I know what I have to do (suffer with full dose of medication because I NEED to get this done) but if anybody wants to offer advice anyway or any pick-me-up it would be very appreciated. If not, thank you for reading and when all else fails, at least we have each other to relate to. | 2021-10-06T20:39:20.000Z | q2szx5 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Rant from a stressed, inattentive grad student | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2szx5/rant_from_a_stressed_inattentive_grad_student/ |
No-Entertainment2254 | Find a book I’m interested in (not very hard to do).
Get so excited about the book I take in 0 words from the sentence I have just read.
Get so excited about the book I can’t sit down in one place for longer than 1 minute.
Get up to get a drink (that I won’t finish and will forget about in 30 seconds).
Read one page and not one single word has been processed.
Get up to change my t-shirt (???)
Get up to talk to my sister.
Get up to do that task I was meant to do last week but had completely forgotten about.
Google cool thought that has just popped in my brain.
Sigh in frustration as I look at the clock because an hour that I had scheduled for reading has passed with not even 1 single page turned.
once again I have been unable to read. Even tho I love it.
Proceed to throw book down where it will get lost and won’t be picked up until a few weeks or months later and I am feeling optimistic again. | 2021-10-06T20:39:01.000Z | q2szpc | 3 | 5 | ADHD | How to read a book adhd style | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2szpc/how_to_read_a_book_adhd_style/ |
Longjumping-Ask-2122 | I’m in an accelerated LPN program. We have to get 82%+ to be passing or we get kicked out of the program. My grades were 82-86%.
In all 5 of my classes, I have above a 95% thanks to Vyvanse! I’m no longer falling asleep during lectures and I can actually focus on getting assignments and studying done! I even have the energy to stay late to work.
Its kind of an ego boost too because we all share our grades with each other and when we talk about tests and I tell my peers about my 95%+ they say “you’re so smart!” I never thought I was smart because I always got 80-90% in classes. | 2021-10-06T20:36:50.000Z | q2sy8y | 4 | 10 | ADHD | Grades are sky rocketing! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sy8y/grades_are_sky_rocketing/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:35:53.000Z | q2sxlm | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Am I doomed to eternal clutter? | 0.87 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sxlm/am_i_doomed_to_eternal_clutter/ |
CowsAreHellaGay | Whenever I have a girlfriend all my negative aspects of ADHD are cured. I think it's a combination of knowing someone cares about me, loving someone myself, external motivation, morals, and also sexual gratification. It's very reassuring I know I'm like this but you can't get a prescription for organic love from a doctor so sometimes that can lead to a spiral of existential doubt. But I use that doubt to fuel my workouts to help me gain confidence as I keep working on my body. | 2021-10-06T20:33:04.000Z | q2svne | 5 | 5 | ADHD | All Negative Symptoms Cured | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2svne/all_negative_symptoms_cured/ |
c0rnnn | Last week I (23F) got diagnosed with ADHD, and everything makes so much more sense.
I nearly got fired from my last job. I was working as an admin, and my manager confronted me rather harshly about how poorly I was performing. She listed everything I did wrong - taking too long on tasks, turning them in late, making careless mistakes... it wasn't a surprise because I had been struggling so much, but it didn't make it easier to here. During my time working there, I couldn't find time to go to the bathroom, I worked hours overtime, often logging in early or late to get things done on time. I constantly felt super overwhelmed and like I was barely keeping my head above water.
Thankfully, a family friend was able to get me out of that job and into her team. The change of atmosphere has been night and day. The team is so friendly, treats me like a valuable member of the team, and I WANT to keep this job. That said, although my new workload is MUCH more reasonable, I still struggle with my ADHD symptoms. Getting started on tasks is super difficult, and I'm still procrastinating until the last minute. It's stressful, causing me to work outside my 9-5 hours, and I'm afraid I'll end up dissappointing my manager. But I don't want that, I REALLY want to do well.
My family doctor prescribed me Vyvanse. It's working well enough, and I feel like it's easier to focus once I get started, but getting into work tasks and time management is still a huge struggle. I'm lucky enough to get extended health care coverage, so I've decided on my own to get an actual ADHD clinical assessment. This will help me understand strengths and weaknesses, and by the end of it, I'll be able to request accomodations at work based off the results.
However, this is a long process, and I won't get results until April, 2022. This is far away, and I'm scared of how I'll perform at work until then. So - those with ADHD working in admin/clerk jobs, any tips on getting by? Do you think it's worth disclosing my ADHD diagnosis to my manager if I can't ask for accomodations yet?
TLDR: I have ADHD, and it makes my work-from-home administrative job difficult for me. I want to perform well, so looking for tips on how to succeed in this work - coping strategies, what (if anything at all) to tell my manager...
Thanks!
Edit: I just want to thank you all for being so thorough in your answers, the support means so much to me, and it's such a relief knowing that I'm not alone in what I'm goinf through. | 2021-10-06T20:30:04.000Z | q2stgu | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Tips for job in admin support? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2stgu/tips_for_job_in_admin_support/ |
dutchedcanadian | [removed] | 2021-10-06T20:29:08.000Z | q2sssv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just got diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sssv/just_got_diagnosed/ |
DrowsyIntuition | I didn’t want to deliberately ask for vyvanse but I told the doctor that I needed a extended release version of Zenzedi which I am currently on.
I told her Adderall XR didn’t work right for me (twice) and Zenzedi is fine but the multiple pills a day is messing me up
She said she would prescribe me extended release dextroamphetamine and then a booster immediate release dextroamphetamine for the afternoons/periods.
As far as I know, there isn’t an extended release dextroamphetamine, there’s just really vyvanse.. but that’s called something different, (lisdexamphetamine I believe)
Could she had just been “speaking my language” or is it likely that i just got prescribed extended release adderall again.. ?
Can’t check the actual script til my drug test comes back.. | 2021-10-06T20:25:44.000Z | q2sqh4 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | “XR Dextroam” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sqh4/xr_dextroam/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:17:02.000Z | q2skbu | 2 | 0 | ADHD | stressed about having no skills | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2skbu/stressed_about_having_no_skills/ |
AdelaideMez | [removed] | 2021-10-06T20:15:58.000Z | q2sjlv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Managing hobbies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sjlv/managing_hobbies/ |
djcraze | Preface: I’m in my early 30s and male. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and later diagnosed in my 20s with autism and social anxiety. I’m on the max FDA dose for Lexapro and max FDA dose for Vyvanse.
I’m wondering if anyone is always exhausted even on their meds? I take 70mg of Vyvanse in the morning (around 6am). It kicks in around 8am. I use it to help me wake up. I’m constantly exhausted and could fall asleep at any point in time if I closed my eyes. I can practically sleep anywhere in any position. I take 10mg of IR Adderall around 3pm to help me get through the rest of the day, but rarely does it help.
I do have sleep apnea, and my sleep doctor says I have no reason to be exhausted (at least in regards to my sleeping.)
I find it mostly odd that even when on stimulant medication, I can easily sleep. One sleep doctor told me there should be practically no way I could sleep on Vyvanse, but here we are.
No matter how much sleep I get in a night I’m always tired. I might have a good solid 3 hours of not being tired, but it doesn’t last all day.
Has anyone else experienced this and found a solution?
Appreciate the advice.
Thanks. | 2021-10-06T20:14:00.000Z | q2si5y | 12 | 3 | ADHD | Always exhausted, on max Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2si5y/always_exhausted_on_max_vyvanse/ |
CowsAreHellaGay | Does anyone else feel like with their ADHD they aren't looking for a cure or solution but instead a mindset or the pursuit of happiness? It's like a deep drive within me that can never be satisfied regardless of any therapy, medication, or even current emotional state. I'll be content for a year or maybe half a year with a good routine and schedule but then I get existentially bored no matter what I do and need to change something in order to be satisfied again. School was nice as it was broken up into semesters so I always had new material and routines to look forward to or at least be forced to adapt to. But now life after college I'm forced to make these changes myself and honestly I struggle with this idea of what I should be doing compared to my peers or compared to society. The only comparison I have is financially but I don't really consider that a good metric. | 2021-10-06T20:12:39.000Z | q2sh62 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | The Pursuit of Happiness | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sh62/the_pursuit_of_happiness/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:10:38.000Z | q2sfpb | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I just went to a psychiatrist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sfpb/i_just_went_to_a_psychiatrist/ |
Prettyflyforawhitey | What is the best way to take Ritalin for maximum results?
I take Ritalin IR in a daily basis (20mg at 16:00, 10mg at 20:00 and 10 at 00:00) but i don't feel much
In my country there's only Ritalin and Concerta (Vyvanse is expensive as fuck)
Would like any tips from you, experienced fellas.
I'm 6'1 and 183lbs
Sorry if i misspelled something | 2021-10-06T20:08:39.000Z | q2se9m | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What is the best way to take Ritalin? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2se9m/what_is_the_best_way_to_take_ritalin/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:08:06.000Z | q2sdvg | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Back on my meds! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sdvg/back_on_my_meds/ |
Jessency | **TLDR:** As part of my ADHD, I am always seeking out new experiences to satisfy myself and it's very frustrating because now I don't have have any idea of who I am anymore. This in turn makes it hard for me to understand what I want and/or need and what career I can hopefully pursue for my future.
As part of my hyperactivity, impulsiveness, and inattentiveness, I have a never-ending addiction to seeking out new experiences and such. While this seems quite innocent at first, it gets very difficult when you're stuck in a limbo with it. Then once you reach far enough you can end up not knowing yourself.
One day I can be totally in the films and want watch every movie there is and perhaps make a career out of it, then the next day I'm just not into it anymore and would just chill with videogames. Or I'm interested in resparking my love for art and want to improve then soon I'm just binging a TV Show that made me interested in forensics.
I'm always changing as a person and I never stop to even know who I even am anymore. Sure my peers don't have everything together either but at least they know who they are and have an idea of what's for them and what's not. Compare that with me whose interests change every hour to the point that my life options have become one of Frankenstein's creations. | 2021-10-06T20:07:20.000Z | q2sdaw | 5 | 28 | ADHD | I constantly change as a person to the point that I don't know myself anymore. | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sdaw/i_constantly_change_as_a_person_to_the_point_that/ |
Thedeadpanmann | Today is my day off, I planned on cleaning out a closet in my house where we store shoes, coats, random stuff, etc… it’s not very big but I made this thing an absolute mess. I got an idea to build a nice storage shelf. Took some measurements and off I went to the store. I had them cut all my wood, got home drilled my holes nailed it together and voila it’s too wide to fit through the door……. I didn’t take into account the fact I essentially made this thing to fit perfectly inside the closet and I’m unable to get it through the frame. I tried taking the door off the hinges but there’s absolutely no way to fit it. Now I have shoes and shit scattered all over my kitchen a shelf that doesn’t fit, and I feel like I wasted my money. I’m so defeated. I wish I could’ve just taken the time to plan for FIVE MINUTES TO SAVE ME THIS TROUBLE. I can’t take the shelf apart because I used nails too, cutting it apart and re-building to size would only cost more money. I’m so frustrated. | 2021-10-06T20:07:01.000Z | q2sd2j | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Wasted half of my day. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sd2j/wasted_half_of_my_day/ |
LongTimeChinaTime | For many years, I had avoided treating my ADHD because I didn’t like how one medication made me too quiet and unable to interact with peers.
But the consequences were more than just a newfound ability to talk to people and extroversion.
It is my belief that the problems with low dopamine and norepinephrine in specific areas of the brain, can prompt a person who is suffering from ADHD and not taking a stimulant… to act erratically and weird, often in order to get attention, or even without necessarily seeking attention. Because there are not enough “feel centered and decent” chemicals in his or her brain, the brain tries to compensate by desperately working his or her environment to be stimulating and interesting.
Unfortunately this can bring a person down paths that are fraught with unhealthy socializing, danger or tragedy.
In my case, I would act super weird and random all the time, compulsively, and would head down paths that were both most interesting, for that stimulation, as well as easy, on account of a damaged ability for executive functioning and long-term planning and execution, often without realizing it.
In my case, this meant an inability and dislike for completing college, opting instead for going to Hollywood and doing sex work. Sounds like a great way to get killed.
It had to be super interesting and exciting AND easy. Well I don’t have to explain to you how this could bring someone to harm, the work itself and the lifestyles that coincide. This behavior was NOT what I envisioned as a relatively centered young adolescent. I expected I would become a scientist. Except that years later, untreated, I couldn’t put myself together enough to stick on that road.
Truth be told, I have other mental disorders too so that might explain the extent to which I failed to manifest a positive, productive life without even realizing I had become a “bad” kid. On the outside I had realized I was an adult model, but in terms of self identity on my inside I still felt like a scientist that just had bad luck.
But, what I mean is that you may want to reconsider before you go the anti-vax / anti medicine route if you have loved ones who tend to get into trouble due to ADHD. ADHD does not guarantee a negative path, and not all cases of ADHD are that severe, but it’s something to think about. | 2021-10-06T20:06:06.000Z | q2sch6 | 1 | 6 | ADHD | ADHD can be more serious than trouble studying college exams | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sch6/adhd_can_be_more_serious_than_trouble_studying/ |
Low-Battle | So it’s taken a long time but I finally got a much-needed prescription for adderall.. to be told that my insurance plan doesn’t cover it and it would be a few hundred dollars out of pocket monthly (which I can’t do) . They won’t cover vyvanse or dexedrine either. I’ve tried ritalin, focalin, intuniv and adderall and adderall is the only thing that really does anything for me… does anyone have any advice? | 2021-10-06T20:05:55.000Z | q2sccp | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Insurance plan doesn’t cover adhd medications… what do I do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sccp/insurance_plan_doesnt_cover_adhd_medications_what/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T20:02:50.000Z | q2sa4n | 8 | 1 | ADHD | First psych appointment tomorrow! Need advice! | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2sa4n/first_psych_appointment_tomorrow_need_advice/ |
Ferret_Sweetie | This or similar has been asked a ton I'm sure, but I just started taking Adderall XR 10 mg yesterday. Before I knew I was going to be prescribed, I drank a double shot espresso Starbucks can before the appointment. Then about 2 hours later (honestly to my surprise because it's been HELL trying to get this) they sent me off to the pharmacy to pick up the meds, which I took in the parking lot. About an hour after that, I was feeling calm and in control and such. It was great.
Today, wanting to work on cutting down the caffeine due to having meds now, I drank a cup of just regular coffee, and took the Adderall around the same time right when I woke up. And I didn't feel that calm that? I felt closer to what I did before, maybe even a little bit 'more' restless, but not by much.
I tried googling and looking up stuff about it, but I'm more curious to hear if anyone else had such a difference between day 1 and day 2, or with going lower on caffeine due to meds? | 2021-10-06T20:01:56.000Z | q2s9i7 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Another (probably) question about Adderall and Caffeine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s9i7/another_probably_question_about_adderall_and/ |
Prettyflyforawhitey | [removed] | 2021-10-06T20:01:37.000Z | q2s9ac | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is the best way to take ritalin? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s9ac/what_is_the_best_way_to_take_ritalin/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:56:43.000Z | q2s5is | 4 | 4 | ADHD | How to get proper treatment and support from parents in a country that doesnt have much ADHD understanding | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s5is/how_to_get_proper_treatment_and_support_from/ |
_Gabish_ | **TLDR childhood diagnosis, I'm from a conservative polish-immigrant family who didn't believe in mental health and ADHD medication but were forced by the school district to get a diagnosis.**
I was diagnosed with ADHD combination type as a kid but this was because I switched school systems and the new one immediately noticed symptoms ADHD symptoms and hounded my mom and stepdad that a doctor is consulted, so the diagnosis was more of a proud 'we have to get this over with so we don't look bad' kind thing that was never then acted upon. The doctor asked that I be put on medication but my mom basically said that it was a laziness, lack of discipline, and an unhealthy eating issue - not a chemical imbalance/neurological disorder, so yeah.
I did shit in elementary and eh middle school, but well in high school thanks to a combination of personal anxiety, fear-mongering/punishment, and threats of disowning for dishonoring the family, but there's no one to threaten me or shame me for adhd actions at college and so symptoms that were already bad are worse/worsening.
**TLDR I moved for college and was prompted by my therapist to start treatment. The college needs an eval within 3 years of the current date if the student was diagnosed under the age of 18, and the psychiatric requested a new neuropsych eval to start treatment because my old one is from just over 10 years ago when I was in third grade and from another state which combined makes it invalid now.**
When I moved to Indiana for college I wanted to start getting treatment because symptoms were progressively harder to deal with, but both my college and my doctor here wanted a new neuropsych evaluation. The ADHD is definitely still evident: my therapist as well as both the PCP who referred me for the eval and the nurse practitioner I'll work with through the psychiatrist agree that I have ADHD and want me to go on medication.
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**TLDR: Could you guys give me some of your stim medication pro and con stories to help with choosing a stim medication to start because my prescriber kinda said 'we need to start you on some type of stim medication, any preference?'**
I was started on non-stims while we waited for the reevaluation date that's later this month (LONG waitlist, it's been like three months since being put on the waitlist and I got an appointment today for the end of October)
* Did Strattera for 2 months (one at 45mg and one at 60mg) with no effect
* Did Wellbutrin for 3 weeks then stopped due to nasty side effects (increased impulsivity, more hyperactivity, insomnia, and what I felt was kinda like mania)
My nurse practitioner said that she's planning to start me on stimulant medication as soon as the results come in and that she's open to starting me on any stim medication, but said she's heard good things about Ritalin for women ages 18-30.
Some of my main symptoms are:
\- immense trouble focusing, inattention to detail (losing stuff!), hyperfixating, time blindness, disorganization, avoiding tasks that require mental effort, procrastination, pacing and fidgeting, talking too much, maladaptive daydreaming/monologing (like event planning in my head but zoning out during it), and bursts of energy.
(the last one is like starting projects at 110% with a lot of physical energy and mental passion and then just leaving it abruptly and not having the energy and passion to go back (ie organizing my room and having clothes just left everywhere because I gave up; cleaning half the kitchen and getting distracted; planning and buying everything for a hobby that never gets started; just energy burst - its not like bipolarity though which is really hard to explain to people. It's not feeling uber happy and then being depressed - I just kind of get energy to do or start something but then it goes away like an hour later and I'm just scrolling through TikTok mentally telling myself go get something done but I am but a fungus molded into the couch.) | 2021-10-06T19:55:41.000Z | q2s4s1 | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Which medication would you guys recommend starting? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s4s1/which_medication_would_you_guys_recommend_starting/ |
garlic_girl_ | I just had my first-ever psych appointment, and my psychiatrist prescribed me clonodine for my attention issues. I want to take it tonight, as she said to do, but I'm worried it will make me too tired to work in the morning.
The dose is low (0.1 mg I believe). I'm worried I will be drowsy as hell when I wake up. It's fine if I'm a little drowsy— I'll slam some coffee or something. But my job requires me to be pretty sharp and energetic when the days starts (I'm a journalist and my editors are always assigning me stories first thing in the morning.)
I'm 5'5 and 140 lbs if that matters.
Anyone have any stories with starting on a low dose of clonodine that they want to share? This would be the only med I'm on other than birth control. | 2021-10-06T19:54:25.000Z | q2s3vs | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Was just prescribed clonodine for ADHD...should I take it tonight like my psychiatrist said or will I be unable to work in the morning? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s3vs/was_just_prescribed_clonodine_for_adhdshould_i/ |
HowToGym | I struggle sometimes with oversharing and am wondering how to recover from an instance of this recently. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, have reflected a lot on all of the experiences relating to this, and have really wanted to vent about it. I ended up sending a message to a friend about how much I related to a post from this subreddit (with that post linked), and they haven't responded in days. Clearly I overshared because they never take this long to respond and it was kind of a lot.
Should I acknowledge the oversharing and laugh it off via text, or should I completely not acknowledge that I sent the message altogether and send something else later? | 2021-10-06T19:53:36.000Z | q2s3b5 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | I overshared -- what do I do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s3b5/i_overshared_what_do_i_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:53:09.000Z | q2s301 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | My ADHD is making it impossible to get a job | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s301/my_adhd_is_making_it_impossible_to_get_a_job/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:52:10.000Z | q2s2bh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just moved internationally, and it's really upset my ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2s2bh/i_just_moved_internationally_and_its_really_upset/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:48:44.000Z | q2rzwm | 6 | 3 | ADHD | First day on Vyvanse 20 MG — disappointed / hour-by-hour updates (albeit short-lived) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rzwm/first_day_on_vyvanse_20_mg_disappointed/ |
TheMuffin3 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:48:18.000Z | q2rzl9 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Stack: Zoloft (75mg), Adderall (80mg), Guanfacine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rzl9/adhd_stack_zoloft_75mg_adderall_80mg_guanfacine/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:47:24.000Z | q2ryz4 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | I did something stupidly impulsive and now I feel bad..could really use some advice or reassurance | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ryz4/i_did_something_stupidly_impulsive_and_now_i_feel/ |
hahafunnyig | Looking at my life retrospectively, and now presently, I've started to think that having ADHD is a real possibility. Problem is, I am getting predicted good grades at school, and my parents aren't very open to issues surrounding mental health. I'm not going to go into details about what they think about it, but they really aren't keen on taking me to get it checked, instead calling me paranoid and 'just stressed out'.
Is there anything that I could possibly do to open up the idea to them? It's really frustrating as I'm constantly struggling in many aspects of my life and I'd really like to know to get some bits resolved if possible. I am 17 and am aware of the difficulty surrounding diagnosis once you become an adult, and while I am willing to go to the GP alone if I have no other options I would much rather honestly go through the process with them. They also have private health insurance for our family so perhaps it would be a lot quicker if I did too.
Apologies if this has been a rant, just finding it a bit difficult right now. Nobody has ever really seemed to understand the way I'm feeling about it all unless they actually have ADHD themselves so its kinda why I've come here. | 2021-10-06T19:42:28.000Z | q2rvjk | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Parents and diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rvjk/parents_and_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:40:53.000Z | q2rug1 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How do I beat ADHD without medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rug1/how_do_i_beat_adhd_without_medication/ |
petitewench | I've spent the morning crying tears of absolute joy and relief. I (26F) was diagnosed well in adulthood and have been taking medication since March.
I haven't taken a math class in almost a decade - in high school math was my worst subject, no contest. I didn't understand it at all. The numbers would just float out of my head the moment they went in, and I constantly made careless mistakes. Like many of you here, high school, in general, was hard. I actually just got my HS transcripts today since I'm applying to uni, and it was really shocking to see my grades again. While I was in the honors classes, I was constantly getting Cs and Ds in my academic classes. I never studied and would daydream during every class. My parents just thought I was lazy and unmotivated.
I've been talking about this in therapy lately, but because of my high school experience with undiagnosed ADHD, I had internalized so many of those failures and still carry them around well into adulthood. I had labeled myself as stupid - absolutely, incurably dumb. It kind of became the lens through which I saw myself and how I moved through life. It destroyed my self-esteem, and any ounce of ambition I had was squashed by that voice in the back of my head that told me I was too dumb to achieve anything.
WELL. After a decision to change careers, I recently started back at community college. I've managed to get all As so far. This semester, I'm taking my first math class since HS - Stats 101. I started out completely afraid and expecting myself to flounder and fail. As the semester has progressed, everything we've learned has just made *sense*. Today, I just finished my first exam in the class and holy shit, all the questions made sense. I knew the answer to everything. It was simple. Every single fucking question!! This has never happened ONCE in my life! I CAN DO MATH!!!
I was feeling so proud of myself, and as I was driving home from school it hit me. I'm not fucking stupid. I have ADHD. I have a handicap that prevented me from reaching my full potential. I've spent my entire life, and even the last year with a diagnosis, seeing myself as stupid. I seriously feel like I've finally broken the shackles I've been carrying around every day of my life. I don't have to see myself as stupid because I'm not stupid.. I'm actually god damn fucking smart!!! And I'm good at MATH!! I'm so excited for the future, and I'm so excited to not have to carry around the burden of low self-worth anymore. I really truly feel free!!!!
PS - I started school to become a therapist, but now I'm even thinking I might want to go for my PhD and get into research. One of my psych professors encouraged me to take that route, but my low self-esteem told me I could never achieve that - PhDs are for smart people, not me! Well now I've never been more driven - I want to go into ADHD research! I want to do what I can to help girls like me who slipped through the cracks because of gendered medical discrimination.
Thanks for listening if you made it this far! I'm so happy and want to shout it from the mountaintops, but I live in the desert so this seemed like a good substitute :)
TLDR: Took my first math exam since high school, as a newly diagnosed and medicated person, and holy shit I understand math now. I'm not the dumb girl I always thought I was!!! | 2021-10-06T19:40:51.000Z | q2ruet | 15 | 71 | ADHD | Been crying all morning because holy sh*t, I'm not stupid | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ruet/been_crying_all_morning_because_holy_sht_im_not/ |
SoberRufus | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:39:44.000Z | q2rtn4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone managed to beat ADHD w/o Medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rtn4/has_anyone_managed_to_beat_adhd_wo_medication/ |
rpdrag | I always knew I was bad with money, and was elated when I found that my bills and insurance can be withdrawn automatically, so I obviously set it up.
But I’ve just been contacted by a debt collector that I haven’t paid my insurance two months ago and I had no idea, because I thought it was automatic!
I never thought to check, because I didn’t think I was short of money!
Has this happened to someone else? Any tips what to do?
Hopefully I can pay it back in instalments… | 2021-10-06T19:37:59.000Z | q2rsf0 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Even automatic payments let me down | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rsf0/even_automatic_payments_let_me_down/ |
ripitandleaveit | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:37:50.000Z | q2rsb4 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Please try exercising! | 0.4 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rsb4/please_try_exercising/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:35:47.000Z | q2rqxz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Possible ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rqxz/possible_adhd/ |
smellofupdog | I feel like such a horrible person and I don’t know what to do. I went through my unopened messages and there are three of my friends who have been consistently swiping up on my stories for six months now. And I haven’t responded. For six whole months.
Two of these three people I see and talk to almost daily so I feel slightly better about them since they’re aware I’m not ignoring them. But one of them I haven’t seen since August.
To make matters worse, these specific people are genuinely the sweetest people I know. And I’ve been unconsciously ghosting them for months.
The issue is, when I saw these messages, I kept thinking “Oh I remember that message - I thought I responded.”
So I’ve been mentally responding instead of physically responding for months now.
I don’t know how to forgive myself for this. | 2021-10-06T19:27:25.000Z | q2rl58 | 20 | 145 | ADHD | Just realised there are friends I haven’t responded to in up to 6 months. I’m so incredibly ashamed. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rl58/just_realised_there_are_friends_i_havent/ |
INeedHelpNow8 | Really need advice for how to remember details better at work (I currently work remotely which is both great and difficult).
I constantly effed up when serving, it was so bad that I just eventually quit.
Now I have a slower paced job, but it can be very detailed (sales/shipping management). So I sometimes forget important things especially when a routine is changed (for example we have a whole new process of the first steps of arrangement now).
I get frustrated enough when I forget my own personal things but it's even worse with work, I constantly worry about getting in trouble or possibly even losing my job. I always write things down/take notes but then sometimes there's a gap between when I get new instructions/when I have to actually use them...so I'll forget.
Part of me thinks this is just sort of semi-normal human behavior but I also know it's an ADHD thing. My friend who has a similar type of ADHD that I have has said she struggles with the same issues.
Looking for thoughts/tips/advice about this. | 2021-10-06T19:24:34.000Z | q2rj8v | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Forgetting so much "at" work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rj8v/forgetting_so_much_at_work/ |
Federal_Sword | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:23:26.000Z | q2rii2 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Dopamine agonists (Mirapex, Requip, etc) and ADHD? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rii2/dopamine_agonists_mirapex_requip_etc_and_adhd/ |
Sameehhh | I work as a waiter and I can’t understand when someone ask me to do something and I look so dumb. And this happens multiple times a day, my boss has found out a have adhd a treats me like 5 year old because I’m so slow to understand my task. And I’m not new at this workplace.
And it is simple things I get asked but can’t seem to understand the task when asked the first 2-3 times. I fearing that I won’t be able to get keep a future job because of this.
I’m getting very frustrated and just wanted to hear if I’m the only one with this problem. I don’t know if it’s an adhd thing or if my brain just doesn’t function like it should. | 2021-10-06T19:22:30.000Z | q2rhuy | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Incompetent at work | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rhuy/incompetent_at_work/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:20:01.000Z | q2rfxq | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Explaining executive dysfunction to my boyfriend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rfxq/explaining_executive_dysfunction_to_my_boyfriend/ |
blunthitsback | I was diagnosed with adhd when I was 32. The doc prescribed me vyvanse, and it blew me away the very first time I took it. I remember clearly taking a pill before I went to work. It kicked in by the time I arrived, and I was so overwhelmed by the clarity of thought that I locked myself in an office and cried for hours. I couldn't believe that's how most people live their lives. It was amazing. Well, in 2016 my job changed healthcare providers and I was no longer able to afford the meds or the psych I was seeing. I didn't trip. I never wanted to take meds for the rest of my life anyway. It seemed like a chance to test the structures that I'd built up in my life while medicated. 5 years later, my life is a complete mess. I decided to try and get back on medication and finally did today. Everything has fallen right back into place like it was back in 2016. I don't know how long I'll be able to afford it (healthcare still doesn't cover the cost), but for now I'm happy that I'm not standing in my own way. | 2021-10-06T19:19:09.000Z | q2rf85 | 6 | 33 | ADHD | Back on my meds | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2rf85/back_on_my_meds/ |
Competitive_Monk2954 | I’m a firm believer in Jesus Christ, but I’ve always struggled so so much when it comes to going to church. I haven’t gone in about a year, and it kills me. I still believe, I still have that desire, but I’m unwilling to put myself back in church.
I’ve always felt out of place, I can’t connect with peers, and I don’t learn in the small groups that are “designed for where I am in life”. (College student). When I’m not learning I get bored, and then just don’t want to participate because my brain is shut off. I don’t expect going to church to be a social visit, and I’m not there to “find the love of my life”, or anything like that. I just want to be part of a Christian body like how God intended us to be. But I always end up feeling alone, isolated, bored, and so drastically different from everyone else there
What do you guys do to help with this? | 2021-10-06T19:12:17.000Z | q2ra4k | 5 | 1 | ADHD | How do you guys become consistent in going to church? (For those that go) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ra4k/how_do_you_guys_become_consistent_in_going_to/ |
turning_wheels_1203 | Does anyone else occasionally have days where even when you're doing everything right, you still cannot focus? I'm finding that one every 1.5 - 2 weeks I have a day where focusing on a task is almost impossible. On those days I will feel very motivated and energized, but I just cannot put that energy toward a singular task. I'm noticing I will typically feel extra talkative those days, as well.
Super short bio: 36-year-old male recently (last 6 mos.) diagnosed with ADHD. Currently on Adderall IR 2-3s per day. | 2021-10-06T19:11:32.000Z | q2r9mk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | "Off" days even on meds? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r9mk/off_days_even_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:09:00.000Z | q2r7tp | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Just started taking Vyvanse (20mg) and…. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r7tp/just_started_taking_vyvanse_20mg_and/ |
KeinSeemann | Im digging a bit around in this phenomenon. There is no scientific Data i can find that mentions this but adhd People talk about it frequently. So is it just something everybody experiences or is it adhd specific?
Is it linked to other illnesses aswell?
Do you know people that have constant head music and are definitely not adhd? | 2021-10-06T19:08:00.000Z | q2r72p | 10 | 8 | ADHD | Do not-ADHD People get constant head music aswell? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r72p/do_notadhd_people_get_constant_head_music_aswell/ |
Xboxrrod | I’m a classroom aide at a preschool and I find myself interacting with the teachers more than the kids, maybe this is because I find talking to teachers more intellectually stimulating rather than watching a student build a block tower and I guess i see them playing rather than actually learning. Does this mean I need to work with older students like 3rd grade and higher? I think when there are blocks, dinosaurs and other manipulatives I just look at it as child directed learning and prefer more teaching directed activities.
I’m also taking early learning classes and find the reading boring and almost common sense since I’ve been working at a preschool for over a year. When I took anatomy for nursing even the material required lots of re-reading and repetition I’m not sure I found anatomy that interesting but easier to stay focused reading rather than this early education material | 2021-10-06T19:07:57.000Z | q2r71k | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Should I still pursue teaching | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r71k/should_i_still_pursue_teaching/ |
GFTurnedIntoTheMoon | I'm sick to death of the advice to have your partner/friend/parent be your accountability buddy, parallel play, etc. It strikes me as incredibly burdensome, so I've tried to avoid it. And yet... My partner is completely burned out by my inability to be on top of shit.
When it comes to all visible tasks - I've got that shit down. Our apt is relatively clean. Bills are all paid on time. I manage to do all of this on my own. Work? Relationship? Communication? Not so much.
We started a business together, somehow have survived the pandemic on low income and some debt. But he has felt like he's been carrying the business. That all income is dependent on him. Because I can't get shit done alone. Or when I do, it's always focusing on the wrong task. We've put in place a millions systems. We work non-stop. It always feels like we're just 2 steps away from being able to fully support ourselves. So I just keep going.
Yesterday, I realized that what I thought was just him feeling stress was full-blown depression. And I can't believe I missed all the signs. I feel like such a shit human.
We've never been the type go to bed angry, mostly because I'll just feel sick to my stomach until I can find a way for us to make up. But I'm starting to wonder if that's ever actually been relief for him or if only been about me. But he's been upset since Monday, and there's no fix. He just sleeps.
It doesn't help that he is avoidant attachment, because he was emotionally neglected as a child. And I had an overwhelmingly great support system, which I wonder if it just spoiled me. I was raised to always have someone by my side. Someone to help me through. And I've just dumped that responsibility on him.
He just feels like he can't trust me on my own. I know I've let him down by making him feel like he's in charge of our income. I don't want him to feel that way. So I make promises to be better. But I'm always too late.
The best advice is always to just "talk to him." We've talked 2x in the last 48 hours. Nothing is better. Just last month, he promised me that if our business failed, it wouldn't be the end of our relationship. And maybe it's rejection sensitivity or anxiety or the panic attack I've been holding off for hours. But it sure feels like the end.
I just need a hug right now. I don't know what to do. | 2021-10-06T19:04:38.000Z | q2r4nz | 3 | 4 | ADHD | HELP I've burned out my partner | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r4nz/help_ive_burned_out_my_partner/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:04:29.000Z | q2r4k0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do not-ADHD also get the constant Head music? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r4k0/do_notadhd_also_get_the_constant_head_music/ |
NoExcitement3237 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:02:55.000Z | q2r3ct | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHDonline | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r3ct/adhdonline/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T19:01:03.000Z | q2r1w2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I did something so stupidly impulsive and I feel bad | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r1w2/i_did_something_so_stupidly_impulsive_and_i_feel/ |
Accomplished-Eye1825 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T19:00:02.000Z | q2r0wr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How can I confirm that I have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r0wr/how_can_i_confirm_that_i_have_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T18:59:32.000Z | q2r0ig | 6 | 4 | ADHD | Is it safe to be assessed by an intern? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2r0ig/is_it_safe_to_be_assessed_by_an_intern/ |
ihatereddit2434 | I’m 19f and I take care of myself much more than I did when I was younger. I still can’t get over this feeling though and constantly feel like a complete mess compared to everyone else. I used to just stick loose papers in my backpack when I was younger and my notebook would be full of sketches I did in class. Looking back I can imagine how scattered I looked to everyone else. I was diagnosed in high school probably because I wasn’t hyperactive. I did get in trouble a ton in elementary school for talking too much but generally I think I started to feel different than others in middle school.
Once I was in middle school the work load started getting heavier. There was very clearly something wrong with me because I was always leaving things to the last minute, couldn’t remember things, lost things, came to class late all the time, etc. You know the usual things people with ADHD struggle with. No one at the time suspected I had ADHD so I was just treated like a person who was lazy and totally incapable of doing anything. I beat myself up constantly and wondered why I couldn’t just be normal. To get back to what my title was about I felt like my behavior was very different from what was expected of girls. I was wondering if this is a common experience. | 2021-10-06T18:58:48.000Z | q2qzyl | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Growing up feeling gross and not feminine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qzyl/growing_up_feeling_gross_and_not_feminine/ |
coffeebeanoil | I work in healthcare. In between patients, not a lot of time to explain.
Starts working two weeks in, I’m a week in with noticeable difference:
Executive functioning to even make this post
More organized/ getting a lot of things I wanted to start but couldn’t done
Bursts of energy
I can just feel the executive functioning part of my brain waking up.
Not sure why this isn’t allowed here. Please inform me. I would want to read this if it was a successful way to deal with this mental abomination. | 2021-10-06T18:50:06.000Z | q2qtrj | 2 | 5 | ADHD | MindLab Pro is….. working? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qtrj/mindlab_pro_is_working/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:41:43.000Z | q2qnse | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to consult a therapist about the possibility of having ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qnse/how_to_consult_a_therapist_about_the_possibility/ |
mangopreacher | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:30:37.000Z | q2qg54 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling dizzy on 27mg concerta? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qg54/feeling_dizzy_on_27mg_concerta/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T18:29:26.000Z | q2qf9p | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Brain pending formal ADHD-PI assessment results | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qf9p/brain_pending_formal_adhdpi_assessment_results/ |
Firelite67 | My head is full of 2000s pop songs playing in random order, I have multiple homework assignments due, I need to reflect on about six different mistakes I made yesterday, I was happy earlier and that somehow feels wrong and I can't find time to figure it out, I seriously considered Nazism this morning, I hate everyone I love and I...
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I need a moment to think and to sort this out. Also, I'm clearly not thinking clear at the moment for various moments, but I have a million different things vying for my attention. What do you do when you need to think but can't find a chance? | 2021-10-06T18:29:01.000Z | q2qezc | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I need a brief moment of clarity. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qezc/i_need_a_brief_moment_of_clarity/ |
disnynewaccount321 | I’ve been taking 20 mg adderall for a month and a half
Everything’s been **great**, but
For the past week, I’ve been getting way less sleep. Like, 5 hours, 4 hours, 3 last night
The thing is I’m not even that tired. If anything I have bursts of energy sometimes, I’m **very**easily agitated, and even am feeling confident about the future. I’m actually just about to quit my job too, I **need** to focus on school
I don’t want to sleep. Not because I don’t feel an ounce of tiredness, but because of all that I could probably accomplish if I don’t sleep. The school work, being able to stay up when the run rises, etc.
Before this past week I was getting a great amount of sleep on the meds.
Here’s the thing I get like this sometimes **even before the adderall** but my fear is that the meds may eventually prolong it since it’s literally a stimulant? | 2021-10-06T18:27:45.000Z | q2qe23 | 20 | 10 | ADHD | Should I not take my meds today? Something seems up with me | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qe23/should_i_not_take_my_meds_today_something_seems/ |
MarlesGong | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:27:08.000Z | q2qdmd | 0 | 1 | ADHD | The top 3 things I have added to my lifestyle that have drastically helped my ADHD: | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2qdmd/the_top_3_things_i_have_added_to_my_lifestyle/ |
Emotional-Actuary-77 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:18:49.000Z | q2q7oy | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Help for my son? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q7oy/help_for_my_son/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:15:41.000Z | q2q5it | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I forgot to put deodorant on today. Don't be me. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q5it/i_forgot_to_put_deodorant_on_today_dont_be_me/ |
GrandmasterFluffles | Wondering if anyone has experience of taking their meds into the US. I’m about to go there for 5 months, my medication (Elvanse/Vyvanse) is crazy expensive there and the insurance I have only covers acute illness. Finding lots of conflicting information about this online…. Has anyone on here ever taken their meds into the US? | 2021-10-06T18:14:48.000Z | q2q4w9 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Getting meds into the US | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q4w9/getting_meds_into_the_us/ |
DJ_Baxter_Blaise | I have a primary diagnosis of OCD so I take 100mg of Zoloft for that. I have always had focus issues so I was prescribed Wellbutrin 150mg XR but the side effects were rough even after a month and did not help a ton with my attention. So I was switched to Vyvanse for the first time today (took Wellbutrin yesterday) and this is my first experience with stimulants. I’m on 30mg and still don’t feel that much of an effect even 4 hours after taking it. I’m not really sure what to look for but I was nervous about it creating anxiety which it has not. Any tips on how to know if the Vyvanse is working? How long after being on 30mg should I try a different dose? | 2021-10-06T18:10:59.000Z | q2q27w | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed with ADHD and switched from Wellbutrin to Vyvanse… does it take days to start feeling the effectiveness of Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q27w/recently_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_switched_from/ |
Professional-Ok | [removed] | 2021-10-06T18:10:29.000Z | q2q1tx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is there anyone else who can't take stimulants? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q1tx/is_there_anyone_else_who_cant_take_stimulants/ |
strawberrywords | I finally spoke to my GP about getting diagnosed. She’s going to refer me after we talk more in another longer appointment. I’m the meantime, she’s asked me to gather data that shows ADHD in childhood, like report cards or statements from family members.
She says this is because they need childhood information to make a diagnosis, but that since I’m not ready to discuss this with my family that we can skip it for now.
Is this normal? Wouldn’t my recollections of what I experienced plus all the reasons it wasn’t visible to others, wouldn’t that be enough? | 2021-10-06T18:08:41.000Z | q2q0km | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Do they need childhood information to diagnose? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2q0km/do_they_need_childhood_information_to_diagnose/ |
Junib333 | Hi everyone,
Hoping someone could provide some insight, perspective, or advice.
I recently was diagnosed and prescribed strattera 40mg/per day. My psychiatrist told me about working up to 80mg/day and that usually it’s a 3 day min. between switching up the dosage. I thought that sounded good, so I was looking forward to trying it out.
I picked up my first prescription the day after and started. Def symptoms but I was also feeling some benefits. Mental clarity, it was amazing! I emailed them with my symptoms (as we had emailed right after my appointment) and they responded. At day 3 I shared some more notes and got initial responses. I was concerned because my period was mega late and it was hard to find info of other women experiencing this. Anyway they responded and I felt reassured. For the first couple days I provided updates.
I paused after that but after about those first 2 days I didn’t really feel any benefits. I emailed explaining that (5 bullets, not paragraphs!) hoping they’d remember and suggest taking 80mg/day. No response still and I’m at about week 3. I feel terrible because my adhd symptoms are really difficult for me to manage right now and I’m concerned about work. I’ve had some mess ups over these 3 weeks that have really brought me down and caused a lot of stress.
But anyway, why are they not responding? What if I just start taking 80mg/day?
I initially wanted to try a stimulant because I was already self medicating with a ton of coffee and don’t experience jitteriness. Plus strattera requires that full month before effects are noticed and I struggle so much that I didn’t want to wait so long. Since I’m still at 40mg/per day I’m not expecting to feel something crazy at 1 month.
I also don’t want to pay for a visit at the month mark when I know they will just increase the dose. I’d rather try it now and have the following visit be productive.
Yes, I’m spiraling. What do I do? 😭 | 2021-10-06T18:03:08.000Z | q2pwhp | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What do I do? High stress from adhd symptoms, Strattera not helping, and psych won’t email me back :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2pwhp/what_do_i_do_high_stress_from_adhd_symptoms/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T17:58:43.000Z | q2pt17 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Any tips for avoiding careless mistakes while studying/answering questions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2pt17/any_tips_for_avoiding_careless_mistakes_while/ |
cruxclaire | Sharing this because I see a lot of comments about people struggling with hygiene, especially longer processes like showering.
I have medium-long hair and tend to forget to shower after work until it's late enough that it would mean going to bed with damp hair (unpleasant) or having to blow dry it (tedious and time-consuming). I bought a reusable shower cap after bleaching my hair during quarantine, since I wanted to wash it less often to prevent additional damage. I've found that with the cap, the time it takes to shower and dry off can easily be cut down to the 5-10 minute range, so it's much less of an issue if I forget to shower until an inconvenient time.
You can get a reusable cap that won't get moldy for less than $10 on Amazon or at your local big box – I use [this one](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B08DL93CFF/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o07_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1). The reusability means you can just hang it in the shower on a hook or water tap and not have any additional trash to worry about. You can always follow with dry shampoo in a pinch if your hair is greasy, although I've found that with washing it less often, it actually takes longer to get "dirty," so it's a win-win for me. | 2021-10-06T17:56:45.000Z | q2prqb | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Shower cap: a surprisingly helpful purchase | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2prqb/shower_cap_a_surprisingly_helpful_purchase/ |
DelicatFairy | I live in Italy, where ADHD/ADD is not a big thing (not because people don't have it; it's just wildly unknown, plus parents and professionals tend to look only for dyslexia and autism when the symptoms are brought up).
When I heard about it for the first time months ago I was so relieved. Everything matched perfectly, and I felt like I finally had an explanation for the way I acted and my 3 (!!!) failed school years. Thinking about it now, it's comical how my parents never questioned if anything was wrong when my life had been a mess for so long.
Time went on, I only grew more and more sure about having this disorder. So naturally, willing to get help and possibly treatment too, I talked about it with my mom.
And she just laughed. She said it was not possible, that I pay attention to the things I like and that I am good in a couple of subjects.
I didn't even reply, I was so shocked because usually my mom is very comprehensive regarding mental health. But this interaction completely teared me down; if before I was 99% positive that I could get a diagnosis, now I'm back to thinking I'm just lazy and useless and I'll never do any good.
Being ADHD (almost?) always genetic and after observing her for a while, I thought that she might have downplayed my struggles because she has to face them too so she doesn't recognize them as such, but still it heavily sucks that I have no support.
I don't even know how and if to look for help now.
Have y'all ever faced anything similar? | 2021-10-06T17:55:45.000Z | q2pr0p | 11 | 25 | ADHD | My mom laughed in my face when I told her I wanted to get tested for ADHD. | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2pr0p/my_mom_laughed_in_my_face_when_i_told_her_i/ |
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