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[deleted] | I've always had trouble with this. I'll be having a conversation, the other person will stop talking, and I think they're done so I start talking - and we both end up talking over each other at the same time. It's very frustrating for everyone involved, but I suspect it's even more frustrating for them. I guess I just don't know how to tell which pauses mean they're done, or which mean they're getting ready to speak again.
Any advice? | 2021-10-06T07:11:32.000Z | q2f8qg | 4 | 4 | ADHD | How to tell when someone is done speaking? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2f8qg/how_to_tell_when_someone_is_done_speaking/ |
Avi215 | I’m curious if I’m the only one you who lives under constant stress about my monthly trip to the pharmacy for adhd medications because ever 2 or 3 months I’m forced to stop medication abruptly because of issues with either the insurance(prior authorizations,billing code issues, etc), the pharmacy( out of stock, backordered, closed pharmacies bc of civil unrest, unreliable staff at chain stores, difficult and judge mental Pharmacists, etc) or Doctors (Dropping the ball of refills, indifference, poor office operations, new doctors who don’t have a clue, etc)
I’m asking because I feel like I’m going insane. And that this is a problem unique to me.
My current doctors, who Ive had for the past 3 years, seem indifferent despite it being a constant problem. They act as if I’m the only one who has these problems and I’ve even asked some, if no one else have these problems getting medication filled on time and the response was they haven’t heard about it.
Or Maybe it happens to many others but it doesn’t majorly disrupt their life? | 2021-10-06T07:08:42.000Z | q2f7c8 | 8 | 2 | ADHD | Do others have constant problems refilling medication? What are the problems you run into? Are forced to suddenly & abruptly do with out for days/ weeks? How often? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2f7c8/do_others_have_constant_problems_refilling/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T07:08:22.000Z | q2f75u | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do you deal with reading comprenshion issues and slow processing speed in life & office tasks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2f75u/how_do_you_deal_with_reading_comprenshion_issues/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T07:05:42.000Z | q2f5tz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What can be medicated and what do I need to learn to handle myself | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2f5tz/what_can_be_medicated_and_what_do_i_need_to_learn/ |
AverageCanadianEhh | I just started an accelerated after degree RN nursing program. I’m very excited to become a nurse but I’m also so scared that I won’t succeed because of my ADHD (in both the program and also the actual job).
I do very well in school but I feel like I’m often slower than other people. I’m medicated, and that helps a lot. I would say I’m relatively high functioning but I do have a lot of issues with anxiety, low self confidence, high stress, executive dysfunction. Im worried I won’t be able to take criticism or that I’ll make a mistake when im dealing with someone’s life. Im obviously going to work very hard to make sure this doesn’t happen and always take my meds.
Anyone who has ADHD and is a nurse how do you find it? How was school? How was the job? What type of unit do you work on? I am hoping my ability to hyper focus can be used as an advantage. | 2021-10-06T07:00:05.000Z | q2f2oh | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Nurses with ADHD? Advice appreciated! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2f2oh/nurses_with_adhd_advice_appreciated/ |
Intrepid-Love3829 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T06:52:34.000Z | q2ez6e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Disability | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ez6e/disability/ |
kab1995 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T06:51:02.000Z | q2eyhq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just sorted through all the mail and documents that have accumulated for like 2 years min | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2eyhq/i_just_sorted_through_all_the_mail_and_documents/ |
BananaRuntsFool | So, true to ADHD, I want to learn all the things. The problem is, when I come across things I want to learn about, it seems I'm drained or tired and can't sustain the attention to read said article or watch said video.
Likewise, when I DO have the energy to do so, it's as if I have an avoidance to learn it. I find something else productive to do or I put it off and by that point I am tired. And I then find myself in an infinite loop.
And THEN if I want to decide the thing I am going to learn more about I get the same kind of fear I get when I am trying to pick a new movie. I get a sense of dread or anxiety about really leaning in to something.
So I just get left with all this either fatigue or energy and desire to learn something and never following through. How have any of you broken out of this? | 2021-10-06T06:44:41.000Z | q2evmw | 5 | 2 | ADHD | How Do I Build/Maintain Momentum to Learn New Things? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2evmw/how_do_i_buildmaintain_momentum_to_learn_new/ |
Koibo_ | So as someone with ADHD, I have very strong hyperfixations. And whenever I have a particularly strong one, it literally takes over everything I do and I start thinking of it as my “purpose.” Whenever I try and remind myself that it’ll probably pass, I’ll just think “no, this one’s permanent!!”
For example, I had a hyperfixation on rollercoasters for like two years, and for that entire time, I was convinced I was gonna work in a rollercoaster manufacturing company. Currently, I’m coming out of a hyperfixation on cybersecurity, and for the longest time I thought I was gonna be a cybersecurity analyst. There’s lots more examples of this, too.
I just… How am I gonna hold down a career??? I will literally get bored of anything I try to do. Idk 😭 | 2021-10-06T06:33:14.000Z | q2eqho | 18 | 39 | ADHD | I can’t imagine how I’m ever going to work. | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2eqho/i_cant_imagine_how_im_ever_going_to_work/ |
theadhdrabbit | Seven years ago I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder Type 1 by my psychiatrist as I was having very bad and fluctuating mood disorders where I would be happy one second, to complete instantaneous anger outbursts or depressive states if things didn't go the way I would hope. I was placed on Quetiapine for my medication regime and things improved over time.
These past couple of weeks during my psyche review, my psychiatrist has made the decision along with my doctor, psychologist and mental health nurse that they will un-diagnose my Bipolar Disorder to now having ADHD with Rejection Sensitivity (RS). I was given the reasoning based on the seven years of assessments rationalised through the evidence on my past social and medical history including school and my grades, input from my mother and how the RSD is the result of why I have very severe mood fluctuations.
I will be starting my new medication regime in the next week which will include going on Vyvanse and a small dose of Clonidine to help sleep at night and reduce the RS and eventually titrate off Quetiapine completely. Along with Melatonin Extended Release.
Currently reflecting upon this and discussing with my friends, work colleagues and family, it really starts to make sense in the larger picture. My mother also said that at one point when I was younger that a school nurse suggested that I had ADHD, but my father was in complete denial due to the negative stigma associated with ADHD, thus they did not pursue it further despite my mother pleading to pursue that route. My mother was honest in saying that she was relieved for me with this and for her it made sense than the Bipolar Disorder.
I work as a nurse at a very renowned hospital and when I told my nurse unit manager, she had stated that it made sense as well in the seven years that we have worked together and how my behaviours reflected that, of someone who had ADHD. I'm lucky and blessed as well that she would like to work on strategies to make the workplace better for me with my ADHD.
I'm looking forward to the future in some aspects. But I'm also having a loss of my identity with Bipolar and coming to terms with being ADHD.
Has anyone had a similar situation with their diagnosis and accepting and living with it? The overall reaction I get when I tell people is "Wow! It makes even more sense!", like everyone knew but didn't want to say... It's a confusing thing for me... As there was not much support when it came to having Bipolar, it was almost bleak and sad, but with ADHD, everyone has come out with such an immense support and acceptance.
Also, what is like to go on Vyvanse? Is anyone on Clonidine?
\*EDIT: I've changed to Rejection Sensitivity as this is all very new territory in relation to ADHD | 2021-10-06T06:27:30.000Z | q2enta | 4 | 8 | ADHD | I lived with Bipolar Disorder Type 1 for 7 years and now I will be undiagnosed and be diagnosed with ADHD and it feels like everything is making sense now. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2enta/i_lived_with_bipolar_disorder_type_1_for_7_years/ |
gdomf | This is for my partner which I hope is OK. He’s in quite a stressful job and is unable to switch off from work. He describes ‘spinning’ where he talks about work all evening, if we try to do something else to distract him he often can’t engage with it, sometimes not sleeping all night as he can’t switch off. Googling anything to do with sleep or switching off leads to generic sleep hygiene advice which I think he’s pretty sick of, I wondered if the adhd community has any tips about how to switch off when it’s feeling a bit impossible? | 2021-10-06T06:24:27.000Z | q2emex | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Seeking advice: totally unable to switch off from work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2emex/seeking_advice_totally_unable_to_switch_off_from/ |
AverageCanadianEhh | [removed] | 2021-10-06T06:23:24.000Z | q2elyb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone here with ADHD also a nurse? How is it going? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2elyb/is_anyone_here_with_adhd_also_a_nurse_how_is_it/ |
jillian-renee | Helllooooo
So im wondering if im the only one who has this problem? Sometimes I talk to fast or think to fast and my mouth can't keep up or something. I literally sound like I'm struggling. Thankfully it's not super often but I get embarrassed a lot and sometimes people don't even notice it. How the heck do I slow down?! Does anyone else experience this? | 2021-10-06T06:22:54.000Z | q2elq6 | 3 | 8 | ADHD | Stumbling Over My Own Words? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2elq6/stumbling_over_my_own_words/ |
LadyAxolotl9 | Hello! I was wondering if anyone else experienced this. have been super hyper lately. My ADHD has just in general been wildin' for the past few weeks. I have been forgetting assignments more often. Going on hour long research expeditions when I should be doing school. I get stuck thinking about special interests more. And my emotional dysregulation has been intense. And the past few days, I have been super super hyper. This isn't unusual. I was originally diagnosed with hyperactive ADHD when I was six due to climbing on shit and leaving the classroom and wandering around the room and just not being able to stay still unless I wrapped my legs around my desk... my shaking legs making the desk do this terrible sound... but sometimes... even with medicine... I will have bouts of intense energy and hyperness... which comes with both glee and giddiness while also anger.... I have more anger fits... like my post just disappeared and I got pissed off and clawed at my arms and started singing songs about hurting myself Broadway style... I don't think it's mania... I don't think it is... I don't really feel impulsive or hypersexual-- I have experienced medicine induced mania before. It's just my usual ADHD impulses like wanting to touch the fountain water or poke mushrooms or climb on ledges... yeeeeee... fun... I did this a bunch today as I didn't have to take via so I got to school early... yeeeee... nice... I have been channeling my anxious energy into art today and will continue doing this after my post... I just go through periods, like the past two days... where I just feel really hyper... like I was fidgeting a lot in class... swinging my pony tail around and stuff and shaking the table with my leg.... yeeeeeee... and I felt like going around all bouncy bouncy. It's not too big of a bother... I have been hyperfocusing... on things I'm interested in... lol... I was just wondering... | 2021-10-06T06:09:09.000Z | q2efih | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Really hyper periods that are really random that get worse after medicine wears off and feel a little like mania | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2efih/really_hyper_periods_that_are_really_random_that/ |
mayurbhedru | [removed] | 2021-10-06T06:07:19.000Z | q2eemv | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Can ADHD look like Bipolar? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2eemv/can_adhd_look_like_bipolar/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T06:01:39.000Z | q2ebxu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | is it just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ebxu/is_it_just_me/ |
Empathicrobot21 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T05:57:34.000Z | q2e9ys | 0 | 0 | ADHD | Of course we’re „bad“ with people. We notice how shitty they are — definitive rant | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2e9ys/of_course_were_bad_with_people_we_notice_how/ |
kjl583 | I have a prescription for 40mg vyvanse and 5 mg dexedrine (as needed) daily but I can't take it everyday because I'm abusing them.
Whenever I take vyvanse or dexedrine, it's the only time I actually feel functional during my work day and I love this feeling so much that I redose to avoid the crash and to continue working for as long as I can.
When I realize it's too late for me to redose, I start drinking alcohol and taking other substances to cope with the crash. This often leads me to take large amounts of alcohol and ironically, other stimulants to cope with the feeling of being drunk (not so drunk though cause of the stims, but the temptation is there). My ADD medication opens the doors to substance abuse.
I just wish I could take my medication as prescribed but since I have addictions issues, I can't see that happening. I also have benzo addiction correlated to my amphetamines use and anxiety attacks that I experience daily.
How can I get out of this situation and how can I still expect to be productive at my job.. I'm useless without it my medication.. but I'm destroying my mental and physical health.. ? Help | 2021-10-06T05:55:02.000Z | q2e8qt | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Can't keep taking me ADD medication but cannot work without it | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2e8qt/cant_keep_taking_me_add_medication_but_cannot/ |
ragefilledrice | [removed] | 2021-10-06T05:43:20.000Z | q2e3bo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD is... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2e3bo/adhd_is/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T05:34:52.000Z | q2dzgw | 2 | 3 | ADHD | now im no longer get nervous about study things like exams | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dzgw/now_im_no_longer_get_nervous_about_study_things/ |
Klutzy_Guava_1584 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T05:27:07.000Z | q2dvgo | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I CANT LIVE LIKE THIS, AM I GOING NUTS? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dvgo/i_cant_live_like_this_am_i_going_nuts/ |
amanda_135 | I am really not in good health at the moment so I bought some vitamin c but my psych told me not to drink or eat acidic food/drink before taking my dexamphetamine because it prevents absorption
I keep forgetting to take it at night so I want to take it with my other supplements after taking my morning dex so how long should I wait after? is 1 hour okay? | 2021-10-06T05:25:33.000Z | q2duq5 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Apparently digesting vitamin c before taking your adhd medication affects absorption. So can I still take it after? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2duq5/apparently_digesting_vitamin_c_before_taking_your/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T05:24:15.000Z | q2du56 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | I think Ritalin is increasing my anxiety. I tried Adderal, and it made me calm and zen. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2du56/i_think_ritalin_is_increasing_my_anxiety_i_tried/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T05:21:28.000Z | q2dsun | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How I feel about the concept of RSD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dsun/how_i_feel_about_the_concept_of_rsd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T05:18:43.000Z | q2drfx | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Am I a bad person for skipping 2 tests this week because I just couldn’t study, mainly because of my ADD? | 0.77 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2drfx/am_i_a_bad_person_for_skipping_2_tests_this_week/ |
Western_Cook8422 |
For the longest time I felt like I couldn't do anything unless I was hyper focused on it. Like
"If it isn't the only thing I ever think about, ever, if I don't have several dreams about it, and wouldn't willingly go several days of just doing that with no sleep, food, or water, than I can't do it good enough"
I always found it so frustrating that I couldn't do things "well" unless it was consuming my entire existence.
My best example of this is that I’ve been writing stories, mostly novels for about 4 years now. I enjoyed writing, and I still do, but about 2 months into those four years, the hyper focus was gone. I still have so many unfinished stories from such a ridiculously long time ago.
But I enjoyed writing so much, that for the next 3 years, I would randomly jump back into writing, trying to find that focus again, starting another story I’ll never actually finish because it didn't meet my standards so the motivation would just leave.
however, I’ve realized that if I turn music on while I’m writing, my brain can’t move faster than I can type, and the ideas and track of the story is way, way more streamline. I’m not only enjoying writing again, it’s as easy as it was when I was hyper focused without it taking over every other aspect of my life as well.
Funny how this stuff works. | 2021-10-06T05:11:24.000Z | q2do1m | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Realizing I have ADHD has been such a trip | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2do1m/realizing_i_have_adhd_has_been_such_a_trip/ |
piratemechfighting | I know ADHD makes it harder for people to delay gratification. I just can't stand waiting and not being able to do anything. Small example, I had to lose weight and so I had to wait like 4-5 days for a cheat day. It solved my problem, but the fustration was still there. And this happens everyday. Waiting for a friend to respond, waiting for class to start, waiting for food at a restaurant. And I don't really have a way to release this fustration. I mostly just complain to my friends to vent it out. Life is life and waiting is just a part of it, so it's just so annoying and I can't just turn it off or ignore it.
Any advice? Even bad advice helps | 2021-10-06T05:08:42.000Z | q2dmq9 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I hate waiting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dmq9/i_hate_waiting/ |
nmatthelibrary | TL;DR HR thinks I’m lying about ADHD potentially affecting my work, or just stupid.
I started a new job in August and it’s been…not great since the start. But the real issue came up when I ran out of my medication and had a hard time getting a refill prescribed. Took about a couple weeks and it was rough. In that time I slipped up a bit and accidentally missed a meeting due to a family emergency and didn’t think to notify anyone until afterwards because I was a scrambled mess.
The problem didn’t arise for another couple weeks, when I mentioned to my manager that I have ADHD and sometimes I have a hard time keeping up with things. She suggested going to HR to get things documented and discuss accommodations.
Red flag #1: my request for meeting/documentation was met with a “No. We don’t need to discuss that.” I had to insist that I wanted to cover my bases. A few days later I was called into a meeting with HR and the director and…
Red flag #2: they wrote me up. Officially it was for the missed meeting, but the timing made it pretty clear that it was retaliatory. Accommodations, I was told, were off the table, and documentation from my psychiatrist was rejected. It was made pretty clear to me that the director thought I was either lying or exaggerating.
I ended up letting my manager know how the discussion went and I guess she went to bat for me, because I was finally given paperwork to fill out for accommodations and to send to my psychiatrist to fill out.
I wasn’t asking for much - mostly I just wanted them to know that I might have an issue if I was unable to get a prescription refilled. At the most recent meeting (yep, we had another one!) the director went line by line through the accommodations request to make me explain/justify why it was necessary. It made me feel like I was being a problem. I’ve had to go through this process with two previous employers and it was quick and painless.
I honestly can’t tell if I’m taking this too personally or if they’re just handling things really poorly. Going on medication for my ADHD has made my life so much better, but now I find myself wondering if it still isn’t enough.
Has anyone found themselves in a similar situation? I can’t figure out if there was something I could’ve done to keep things from getting to this point. | 2021-10-06T05:08:16.000Z | q2dmi2 | 7 | 6 | ADHD | I’m about to quit my job, and I hate that it’s come to this… | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dmi2/im_about_to_quit_my_job_and_i_hate_that_its_come/ |
luminaria_ | Hi, my situation is as the title describes. I know it’s very specific but I am wondering if there is anyone else out there in my shoes who has done this. Im afraid to label myself as having ADHD because of stigma, and because it was already insanely competitive to get in. I just don’t want it to cause me more problems than help at school. But I am nervous about being required to share a dorm and how im going to handle the course load. Any advice would be wonderful. | 2021-10-06T05:07:22.000Z | q2dm0v | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Applying for disability at veterinary school | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dm0v/applying_for_disability_at_veterinary_school/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T05:06:52.000Z | q2dlqr | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I don’t feel an ounce of excitement when it comes to my extreme luck and social media growth. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dlqr/i_dont_feel_an_ounce_of_excitement_when_it_comes/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:53:56.000Z | q2df2x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It takes me so long to complete simple tasks around the house | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2df2x/it_takes_me_so_long_to_complete_simple_tasks/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:52:37.000Z | q2dees | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Have you been told anything about how you were as a baby or toddler that you think were early signs of your ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dees/have_you_been_told_anything_about_how_you_were_as/ |
Dxgvxl | So my biggest symptom is r$d (it won't let me use the actual term for some reason??) and when I have bad days, it just snowballs and I end up crying about everything that has ever bothered me ever. Like today, I was late to class, got lunch at my favorite place to make my day a little better and then they messed my order up then I went babysit just to get yelled at and critiqued by the kid (he was upset about homework) and then I got home to my mom getting upset with me.
After all of this I just finally got to sit down and scroll through tiktok and then it all just boils over and I'm crying about my weight and lack of friends and how I can't do anything right in my daily life. I try to talk to my girlfriend (my only safe place) and It seems like it always ends in feeling like I burden her with my mental ilness (depression, anxiety) insecurity, and the meltdowns that come with these.
I have these a lot aswell, but my home life is a bit unstable so it often triggers anxiety.
Anyone else have bad days like this that feel never ending and overwhelming? I would really appreciate some "youre NOT CRAZY and this is something I experience" comments as it's been really making me feel like I am absolutely insane that I react so strongly to just having things not go my way. | 2021-10-06T04:47:27.000Z | q2dbre | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Adhd and bad days | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2dbre/adhd_and_bad_days/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:45:47.000Z | q2davg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd and bad days | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2davg/adhd_and_bad_days/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T04:44:00.000Z | q2d9y6 | 14 | 35 | ADHD | Executive dysfunction is so extreme it controls 100% of my life direction. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d9y6/executive_dysfunction_is_so_extreme_it_controls/ |
deviantday | I tend to get most things done last minute before their deadlines. It’s just how I work. If I try to fight it, I feel dread and anxiety and lots of unnecessary stress while doing nothing but worrying about how I am procrastinating. Now, if someone gives me something to get done and never gives me a deadline, that’s just the worst… is it weird to ask for a deadline in a work/professional environment when someone doesn’t give one? | 2021-10-06T04:43:40.000Z | q2d9si | 9 | 69 | ADHD | When someone gives me an assignment to do without a deadline, it’s the worst and I never get anything done. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d9si/when_someone_gives_me_an_assignment_to_do_without/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T04:43:36.000Z | q2d9ro | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd and bad days | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d9ro/adhd_and_bad_days/ |
ghostinyourpants | Feeling oh so mad at myself. I am an artist who relies on grants for some of my income. I missed a deadline because I am an idiot, and it was for a big one. I did all the legwork, had letters of support, budget, ect, everything ready to go, and I fucked up by not having submitted a form that I needed to have submitted 2 weeks ago, in order to be eligible to submit the final grant today. I thought I'd done it in last month. But I got distracted, and didn't hit send.
I was relying on this grant for a chunk of my annual income, to get me through the winter.
And all I can do at this point is just suck it up and wait for the next deadline to roll around in 6 months. I am so mad and sad and dissapionted with myself. Excuse me while I curl into burrito form and sob for the next week. | 2021-10-06T04:43:11.000Z | q2d9kf | 7 | 22 | ADHD | ADHD Tax cost me $10k+ today | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d9kf/adhd_tax_cost_me_10k_today/ |
TowelStraight | I feel like I mostly hear about the stereotypical ways we struggle with executive dysfunction (such as time blindness, trouble planning, etc.) that I wanted to hear your unique experiences with this symptom, here I’ll start:
-When I make meals I can’t really plan what I’m getting from the fridge each time I open it, so I usually end up opening the fridge 50 times and pulling out 0 or one whole item I need
-saying “wait what” when I clearly heard you but my working memory went brrrr
-not being able to start taking notes for school, building diagrams, or starting a visual project because you don’t really know how to organize the pieces, so then you just jump in and it ends up looking like shit because you couldn’t plan
-making food or following instructions just to find out you’ve missed at least 5 steps
I know not all of these may be considered executive dysfunction, but I wanted to see how this symptoms effects us beyond the stereotypical ones we think about | 2021-10-06T04:41:49.000Z | q2d8v8 | 3 | 18 | ADHD | Unique ways you struggle with executive dysfunction | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d8v8/unique_ways_you_struggle_with_executive/ |
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mitchellsm2 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:39:14.000Z | q2d7l4 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How can I distinguish between ADHD and actual laziness? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d7l4/how_can_i_distinguish_between_adhd_and_actual/ |
mitchellsm2 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:37:07.000Z | q2d6ll | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Where does my ADHD stop, and laziness begin? How can I be honest with myself and distinguish between the two? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d6ll/where_does_my_adhd_stop_and_laziness_begin_how/ |
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i_am_me47 | TLDR: Have some symptoms of ADHD, only became present in high school and are only present (as far as I understand) in one place; however, I don't think its anxiety or depression so I'm looking for answers to make me feel less scared or embarrassed about bringing up the possibility of having ADHD.
So, long story short, I'm a first-year college student who, despite my promises that I would actually get my work done with having a fresh start, can't concentrate for shit, gets distracted, takes hours to read stuff other people finish in 15 minutes, zones out in class, always restless and can't relax, can't sustain any task for over 10 minutes, never finishes what I need to do, forgets about various tasks, etc...
Despite having some symptoms of ADHD I'm scared of even bringing it up to a mental health professional since I lack some of the things that typical diagnoses have. Even my mom (who's a licensed psychiatrist who diagnoses ADHD in people my age) has made it clear that there is absolutely no possibility that I could have it since I only have symptoms in school (and when doing schoolwork at home) and only "developed" symptoms of ADHD in high school.
Now, I know lots of people would say that I might have something else going on with me besides a developmental disorder (i.e. anxiety, depression, etc...). However, I was diagnosed and have since been treated for both depression and anxiety (and no longer exhibit as extreme symptoms due to taking 75mg of Zoloft a day) so I'm unsure if that would actually be the cause (especially since these symptoms were present before I developed extreme depression and anxiety my senior year of high school which I've been able to slowly get over- even making it to the point where I can get up in front of the class without having an anxiety attack).
But I digress. I'm seeing a school counselor on Friday but I'm super scared to bring up even the possibility of maybe having symptoms of ADHD because I'm afraid they'll just dismiss it and laugh at me for even thinking that as a possibility. At the same time, I'm desperate for answers and just want to get to a point where I can read more than a page every 15 minutes or actually stay engaged with a lecture instead of doodling or zoning out completely and missing essential information :( | 2021-10-06T04:34:35.000Z | q2d5dg | 4 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD symptoms present throughout high school and now in college but typically only in one location and not (at least from what I remember) during childhood? Could it still be ADHD and if not, what tf is wrong with me (I'm desperate). | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d5dg/adhd_symptoms_present_throughout_high_school_and/ |
berback88 | Help!!
Alright so I have adhd which means I like to be constantly busy but I woudlnt say I work well under pressure. I also get anxious but The thing is despite having my adhd make me want to be constantly busy.. I do not work well under pressure of people. I like to be very gentle with people. I am very shy and tend to be very reserved with new people instead of silly and natural. I am very sensitive to others so I don’t like to feel like I’m under pressure and have someone idk watching. I’d like a hands on job instead of a desk job. I don’t want to sit at a desk all day and like to move around. I feel like I work better when people are gentle with me instead of harsh. Despite my adhd making me want to be busy all the time I’m the opposite w people. I’m not patient when it comes to wanting to move around but I’m EXTREMELY pacing with people and enjoy being able to be supporting and help others | 2021-10-06T04:32:37.000Z | q2d4eb | 1 | 4 | ADHD | I can’t pick a career bc my adhd traits conflict eachother | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d4eb/i_cant_pick_a_career_bc_my_adhd_traits_conflict/ |
ExpensiveStrength678 | I knew I had adhd as a child but I guess I was never told what it really was. All my life I just thought that meant you were hyper. Which with me I was never hyper so I just knew they made a mistake. Honestly I thought my parent was just trying to get a check for me. I was also diagnosed with manic depression, and anxiety. Which my parents claimed “manic depression” meant bipolar. Which is another illness I looked up and again didn’t see any signs of. I was about 12 when all of this was diagnosed. I am now in my thirties and have been unmedicated. I am a wife and a mother. I’ve held full time jobs and side jobs. I have children who plays all types of sports and I have my wonderful husband. I just recently went on medical leave from my job because things got to be too much. It was very stressful learning everything having a lot of responsibilities at home and at work. Also my marriage was suffering as well. I had bad headaches everyday so bad I wanted to vomit. I had to close my eyes and try to sleep. I mean my vision would even get bad. No Menstrual cycle for about two months. I wasn’t sleeping. I went to my primary care whom prescribed me lexapro. First dose headaches immediately gone. Had like a relaxing feeling. Kids could argue, be loud, obnoxious and nothing would get to me. Also started to have a sleep schedule. But I could never stay awake during the day. Went to see a psychiatrist about ADHD and she prescribed adderall 10mg. First dose of that it was like everything around me was good. I could focus not overthink things and actually show up to events and stuff. Without usually falling asleep or getting in the mood where I didn’t want to do anything. Still no motivation though. So much needed to do around the house. My period came back! But that week taking the adderall it seemed to not work at all. From there I didn’t feel much by taking it. My question do I need to up my dosage? I’ve read where that’s a pretty low dose. Also I realize when I don’t take lexapro and just adderall I feel the effects a lot more | 2021-10-06T04:30:58.000Z | q2d3j8 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Don’t know how to feel | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d3j8/dont_know_how_to_feel/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T04:24:53.000Z | q2d0gc | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Stopping Procrastination…. NOW | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2d0gc/stopping_procrastination_now/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T04:22:16.000Z | q2cz60 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | People living in India, how much does an ADHD screening/trip to the doctor to get your diagnosis cost? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cz60/people_living_in_india_how_much_does_an_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T04:20:51.000Z | q2cyg1 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Learning about a simple topic but not understanding it unless you pinpoint every single logic and theory behind it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cyg1/learning_about_a_simple_topic_but_not/ |
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anonymous_and_ | My university entrance exams are next month and I know I'm able to do well in it if only I sat down and studied and stopped worrying about dumb shit. But my brain goes "you have 150g of Sourdough discard in the fridge, what are you going to do with it???" And it spirals until I am so worried and anxious about dumb frivolous stuff like fucking Sourdough discard it feels like I'm having a panic attack and the apolycapse is going to happen if I don't attend to it now and inevitably abandon studying for the night altogether.
Like now. Typing it out made me calm down a lot, but earlier I was full blown panicking over the discard issue, couldn't focus in online class and felt like shit. I felt like I NEEDED to attend to this bs during my lunch break even though I know I have no time to do that, and I should be using this time refreshing on last math class' stuff for math class later, and that I could do this in the evening if I wanted.
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Any advice? | 2021-10-06T04:14:39.000Z | q2cv9a | 4 | 4 | ADHD | How to stop worrying about random stuff and prioritize? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cv9a/how_to_stop_worrying_about_random_stuff_and/ |
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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:11:54.000Z | q2cttg | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Controlling hyper activity in the workplace 29M | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cttg/controlling_hyper_activity_in_the_workplace_29m/ |
SantaOMG | [removed] | 2021-10-06T04:08:45.000Z | q2cs6g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you listen to when someone is talking to you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cs6g/how_do_you_listen_to_when_someone_is_talking_to/ |
baw9000 | I’ve been struggling a lot recently, and it’s starting to get to a point where I want to get help. The only issue is that I’m having a hard time expressing that without downplaying it or turning it into a joke.
I’m not diagnosed, but I’m having a hard time determining if it’s ADHD or not, since the symptoms for depression and anxiety can overlap and vice versa. I struggle a lot to pay attention and i feel that’s it’s only gotten worse now that I’m in college. I know ADHD is a lot more than that, and I relate to most of the symptoms, but that one I would say is the most prevalent in my life right now.
I’ve tried talking to a close friend about it, but I always find myself tense up and not talk about it the way I intend to. I always end up just saying something short that doesn’t really capture what I’m feeling, or just laugh about what I said, making it seem like a joke.
I’m getting so frustrated with myself where it’s at a point where I’m not sure if I should even bother, but on the other hand, things won’t get better if I do nothing. This then leads to me overthinking, which leads down a depression/anxiety spiral.
I want to talk to my parents about it, more specifically my mom so I can possibly find a therapist or something. I fear though that she is going to downplay it somehow, and say I need to do x, y, and z and then I’ll feel better. I also feel like she won’t take me as seriously since I’ve been doing good in school up until now. What I fear more is that she won’t take me seriously unless I was suicidal, which I’m not.
I feel like I’m not even fully expressing what I want to say here, but I just don’t know what else to say. What do I do? | 2021-10-06T03:53:47.000Z | q2cjxz | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Having a hard time expressing my feelings | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cjxz/having_a_hard_time_expressing_my_feelings/ |
OwnGarbage9072 | I want to get evaluated for ADHD because I genuinely think I have it but Im the kind of guy that doesn't ask for help despite needing it and I feel embarrassed asking my mom. I also think if I dont actually have ADHD than my mom will tell my siblings and they will endlessly make fun of me for "trying to get an excuse for being lazy"
because its something that they would do and I don't want that. So I just want support to tell my mom because I don't even know how to properly bring it up. | 2021-10-06T03:52:11.000Z | q2cj45 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | How do I say this? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cj45/how_do_i_say_this/ |
YVRBeerFan | Parent of a 12m on meds. Mid-day eating has always been a chore for obs reasons. Just last week he told me that the meds actually make food taste bad while working. Thankfully we work on big breakfasts and dinners and pre-bed snacks. I’m just wondering if it’s a side effect of one medication or whether it’s a common phenomenon? I will talk with him & his dr, but I’d love to hear what others have found. Thx | 2021-10-06T03:50:06.000Z | q2ci21 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Do any meds make food taste bad? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ci21/do_any_meds_make_food_taste_bad/ |
pleaseinsertdisc2 |
I take 60 mg of Adderall XR a day and I definitely have gotten enough sleep the past week. I was in a 3 hour Zoom meeting for one of my classes and today was just EXTRA boring. My eyes got heavier as class progressed, and I had to hide my yawns a couple of times. To make matters worse I even started drinking coffee an hour into it!! My professor is just so repetitive and the subject is so uninteresting (personally), that I was getting sleepy even while simultaneously trying to write down practically every word he was saying.
Is this normal :( | 2021-10-06T03:48:23.000Z | q2ch2x | 12 | 10 | ADHD | Is it normal for a medicated (via stimulants) person with ADHD to STILL get sleepy when they’re bored? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ch2x/is_it_normal_for_a_medicated_via_stimulants/ |
pleaseinsertdisc2 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T03:45:04.000Z | q2cff2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal for a medicated (via stimulants) person with ADHD to STILL get sleepy when they’re bored? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cff2/is_it_normal_for_a_medicated_via_stimulants/ |
NeriTheFearlessSnail | When it comes to working, whether volunteering or paid work, I always end up having the same problem: I'm *absolutely terrified* that people will think I'm lazy or stupid, so I give 100% all the time, both physically and mentally. Obviously, this isn't sustainable, and I come home from work feeling absolutely exhausted.
Growing up, my undiagnosed and untreated ADHD got me in a lot of trouble- not doing my homework, forgetting my chores, forgetting to do something I was asked to do, and my family branded me as lazy and careless. Now as an adult, I'm incredibly scared of that happening again (especially because I'm fat, and the general negative perceptions of fat people).
Is there any way to strike a balance? Will people really think I'm lazy if I'm not doing the absolute most 100% of the time? How do you manage meeting expectations from yourself and others without burning yourself out? Are there "tricks" to show or prove or reinforce that you have a good work ethic without running yourself ragged every single day? | 2021-10-06T03:39:46.000Z | q2ccmf | 7 | 33 | ADHD | How to show good work ethic without burning myself out | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2ccmf/how_to_show_good_work_ethic_without_burning/ |
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MyHoardIsALibrary | So I'm in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD, but according to my doc its a pretty sure thing.
Anyway, when I was in highschool I was unintentionally self harming a lot. I would constantly pick at my arms, face, hair, really any part of my body that wasn't covered by clothes/hard to get to. Really if my hands were moving they were picking at something
About halfway through my junior year I took up knitting after my grandmother died, it was something we shared when I was a kid that I had stopped doing. But I picked it up fast and quickly reached a point where I didn't have to look at what I was doing.
Suddenly I was doing a lot better in class and while I wasn't taking notes (which I occasionally got dinged on (but I hadn't taken notes before so whatever)) I was actually able to focus on the stuff being taught to me and I was doing SOMETHING which made it a lot easier to just exist and to do other, often more boring, things.
Fast forward six years and I haven't done that kind of harm in forever, and only recently realized that it was cause I found something constructive to do with my hands.
Has anyone else accidentally found something like this? That was actually super useful and made their life a little more productive? | 2021-10-06T03:36:02.000Z | q2cak9 | 6 | 22 | ADHD | Accidentally Figured Something Out? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2cak9/accidentally_figured_something_out/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T03:28:44.000Z | q2c6ml | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Takings notes. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2c6ml/takings_notes/ |
Individual-Bid6446 | I'm 18, I have diagnosed ADHD, clinical depression, crippling anxiety, and a minor form of PTSD. I'm medicated and was just recently released from full time therapy and care, so now I'm out and about working and doing my best to live in society!
I have an issue though. My mom. She's a main stem of the majority of my trauma, but we've been through the wringer and we finally have the healthiest relationship we've ever had. My mom has an issue with touching though. An issue with me not wanting her to touch me, that is. (Not just her!!! I don't let anyone touch me.)
I'm very touch sensitive, one wrong touch and I'll be in a crippling meltdown. My mother knows about this, respected my boundaries at first, but over time started slowly overstepping them. A pinky promise here, a hug there, and then suddenly she's forcefully hugging me and holding my arms still as I try to push her away, yelling at her to let me go as I feel myself crumble into a meltdown for the first time in over a month. It was heartbreaking.
The next day I packed everything and moved into my dad and step moms house, and pretty much cut contact for about a week. When I spoke to her next I told her I wasn't going to be staying with/around her until we talked about boundaries, which she agreed.
Tonight she texted me about meeting up and is calling it "equal expectations" as if she has boundaries she needs to set. Which is...aggravating.
I really just needed to vent this out, but I'm open to hear from anyone about their opinions on the situation. | 2021-10-06T03:21:11.000Z | q2c2ex | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Physical boundaries | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2c2ex/physical_boundaries/ |
ilike2sleepalot | [removed] | 2021-10-06T03:19:16.000Z | q2c1bl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin- Melbourne GP??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2c1bl/ritalin_melbourne_gp/ |
1PurpleCactus | [removed] | 2021-10-06T03:16:45.000Z | q2bzu8 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Managing ADHD with food/supplements? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bzu8/managing_adhd_with_foodsupplements/ |
august401 | just realized how am i supposed to fulfill my dream of learning and becoming fluent in several languages when i have auditory processing issues and can barely understand english a lot of the time :(((( is there any fix for this i feel like my processing issues are becoming worse and worse any support and advice appreciated thank you | 2021-10-06T03:14:56.000Z | q2byrh | 10 | 4 | ADHD | apd ruins everything :( | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2byrh/apd_ruins_everything/ |
cloverthecottontail | I'm diagnosed with adhd but have never been on meds because my parents refused to "drug" me when i was a minor. I fall under the inatenive type.
Now I'm 18 and would like to take meds because the distraction and forgetfulness and everything is just so so unbearable. I cannot keep my mind on one thing, it feels like my brain is playing hopscotch, jumping from one thing to another and another and never completing anything or retaining any information and I'm tired of it. I'm about to be dismissed from college and i can't keep a job cuz i make an endless about of mistakes and no one understands whyand thinks I'm just a lazy person who doesn't want to work. and I'm hoping and even freaking praying that SOMETHING out there can help me. I really am interested in my major, it's chemistry, i find it fascinating but i cant for the life of me remember any material i "learn" or sit there wasting time reading the same sentence over and over andover again and i just can't anymore.
Do meds help with academic and like job proformance? I just don't want to keep failing at life :( | 2021-10-06T03:12:28.000Z | q2bxeq | 8 | 6 | ADHD | Medicated people, do meds help your mind from "floating away"? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bxeq/medicated_people_do_meds_help_your_mind_from/ |
heyykelleyy | I just got dropped from 2/5 of my classes for \~non-participation\~. Pretty sure I'm toeing the line of it being 3/5.
On my professors' end, it means they haven't seen squat from me on Canvas for the past month and (understandably) figured I flaked out, dropping me from their class. One without a word of communication before or after, and it was my major class.
On my end, I haven't been able to even look at the app without feeling like wanting to throw up from how overwhelmed I get just looking at all the assignments and quizzes and projects I've missed, after the first week high of "New school, new me! I will be different!" passed. Even though I have this constant sinking feeling that I have to do my work soon or else it'll be irreparable, I guess that deadline passed and I feel like shit, since I'd already failed out of my last uni for—guess what?—non-participation because one missed class or assignment snowballed from there.
The logical response would've been to email my professors before this exploded to let them know what was going on, but I was somehow even *more* averse to that idea, because I'm still floating in the pre-diagnosis space, so I still don't think I have a "valid enough reason" to explain away a whole *month* of absence.
I'd been fine in my in-person classes (hanging on by a thread, 11:59 PM due dates, and the grace of my professors), but online classes will continue to be the bane of my existence.
I think I finally snapped after I got \~conveniently and loudly\~ reminded to fold the laundry that's been sitting on my floor the entire day. Vibing with tear stains on my laundry.
Why am I like this. | 2021-10-06T03:11:44.000Z | q2bx04 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I broke down over my *laundry*. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bx04/i_broke_down_over_my_laundry/ |
BestAtempt | I don’t know what to do with myself when normal people go to sleep and I am just sitting here. I use to go to bars (bars… not sports bars, clubs, college whatever’s. Real bars) and just sit off by myself but I have been cutting down on drinking and also my SO doesn’t really want me hanging out at bars alone (completely understandable). But idk what to do with myself. If I have a new show I am watching I will binge that (even if I don’t like it) but if I don’t then I’m just stuck. I feel like I am in negative space. | 2021-10-06T03:09:22.000Z | q2bvmn | 8 | 3 | ADHD | What do you do when everyone else goes to sleep and you don’t have a direction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bvmn/what_do_you_do_when_everyone_else_goes_to_sleep/ |
MummaGoose | So my son is having a terrible time getting to sleep these days. He’s alright once he’s asleep but it’s always 10:30 before he finally gets there. He always needs me to stroke him or hold his hand or whatever. He also needs to have music and do meditation (these sometimes have mixed results) but he said it’s like a continuous train of thoughts. If I let him, he would talk all night about a massive range of stuff.
In the mornings, I have a really hard time getting him up now too. I don’t know if it’s “not enough sleep” or it’s his condition and he just “can’t get up”
He sleeps from 10-10:30 through to 6:30-7am.
He’s 11. Is this not enough sleep? I feel like he must be tired? Or is it just his condition and him lacking the ability to focus to get up, dress, eat etc. he’s almost in year 7 and will be off to high school next year. | 2021-10-06T03:06:44.000Z | q2bu1f | 12 | 0 | ADHD | My son and sleep | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bu1f/my_son_and_sleep/ |
august401 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T03:03:06.000Z | q2brv4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | apd ruins everything :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2brv4/apd_ruins_everything/ |
OldGuyWhoSitsInFront | My wife used to do a thing where she would have her hand on my leg and kind of fidget her fingers lightly. Hated it. Now my kids will lay or sit next to me and instead of laying their whole leg or arm or head on me they’ll just kind of poke me lightly with a toe or thumb. It’s awful when that toe or thumb is not wiggling but when they wiggle it it puts me into a borderline fight or flight state. I want to cuddle them but I have to stop because it’s beyond annoying.
A coworker once said “yeah no one likes light touch”, but this doesn’t seem to bother my wife. It sucks because my kids just want to touch me and be near me but I can’t handle it. I grab their hand , splay it out, and put it on me and say “i don’t mind this - i like it! I want to cuddle and be touched, just not by a single finger or toe.” I think my response to it actually is reinforcing it even though I’m saying not to nicely. Kids are lovely but annoying creatures.
Any of y’all experience this? | 2021-10-06T03:02:23.000Z | q2brgi | 2 | 7 | ADHD | Not sure if this is an ADHD thing but light touch is unbearably annoying. | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2brgi/not_sure_if_this_is_an_adhd_thing_but_light_touch/ |
PyPharm | Hi,
I’m sure you all have been ridiculed for your ADHD at some point. I got it really bad, and I am wondering how to deal with it. It sucks because it makes me do really stupid things that make me look utterly ridiculous. It’s like there’s nothing that could possibly make me an easier target.
I’m always lost, and I always look like I don’t have a clue what is happening. My response to it is to hate myself for having whatever condition causes me to be so stupid (not sure it is a condition perhaps just stupidity). I feel like I never even get credit for anything. People act like they don’t even believe that I have a good career despite the fact that I do. | 2021-10-06T03:01:11.000Z | q2bqq9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to Deal with the Ridicule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bqq9/how_to_deal_with_the_ridicule/ |
MrShawry1 | Hi guys,
I got diagnosed with innatentive ADHD the other day, part of me is relieved. But I am mostly pretty upset, however it explains a lot about my issues with my life, job and mental health. My psycologist is 100% sure so she asked me to go to my GP to get a script for Atomoxetine, my GP took her word for it. I have to see a psychiatrist and be (also) diagnosed by them before I can start any stimulants. It's really quite hard to see anyone about ADHD in my country and our mental health system is super screwed up. I have to wait until January before travelling halfway across the country for one $500 consultatioN JUST so I can be put on stimulants.
Anyway, she started me on Atomoxetine and only put me on 10mg (no increasing dosage) for a month. She told me to come see her again after one month, does this sound right? Should I be ringing up in a week and asking for a higher dose or should I just stick with it?
I'm really impatient about this because I have been living with this for so long and want to see some results. I hate my job, I hate my brain and my life. I find no enjoyment in anything, there was a time where I was able to "hyper focus" on my job when I didnt completely hate it. Now I find myself making stupid mistakes, constantly misplacing things and overlooking details, all while I'm off in fairy land basically operating on autopilot. I'm pretty sick of it all now. Any thoughts or advice from anyone? I'm seriously considering resigning until I can get my head sorted out. | 2021-10-06T02:59:46.000Z | q2bpr8 | 9 | 5 | ADHD | Atomoxetine and innatentive ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bpr8/atomoxetine_and_innatentive_adhd/ |
august401 | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:59:11.000Z | q2bpfe | 1 | 1 | ADHD | apd ruins everything :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bpfe/apd_ruins_everything/ |
flashb4cks_ | I'm tired of this sense of failure.
I feel burnt out. But I do nothing. I have so much things to do, because I push it to the very very last minute. Now I'm tired and I have accomplished nothing. Nothing today. Nothing yesterday. I barely sleep because I have had insomnia for as long as I can remember. I have a lot of school work. Education that, by the way, have been going to on and off for the past 10 years of my life, dropped out, went back and put myself in debts only to get absolutely no diploma whatsoever. I'm not going back to school because I'm "reorienting" myself, I'm going back to school because I should be fucking done already and my mental health was crap. I just never could accomplish anything.
And I'm there again. I tried taking some advance this weekend on my papers and presentation but nothing, it was just me staring at my computer screen. There's nothing I can do without that very last minute rush that burns me out. The older I get, the harder it gets to get stuff done on little to no sleep. I'm just tired. My apartment is a mess. Whenever I clean up, it just becomes dirty again in a blink of an eye. Why can't I do things like normal people ?
I always forget everything. I'm late because I lost my keys that I forgot to put into their designated place the night before and I find them in the stupidest place like my sock drawer. I can't eat all day because I forgot to bring my lunch, or my debit/credit card was put into the pockets of last night's pants and now I have a wallet with nothing I can pay with. Can't take notes because I forgot to bring the laptop in class. My phone is dead because I forgot to charge it last night. I'm late because I forgot I had to get my gas filled this morning and I had to leave earlier to do that. Or I'm late because yet again I barely slept last night and I slept through my alarm.
I know I'm somewhat "smart" and have the intellectual capacity to get through college/uni. Believe it or not, I find it incredibly easy to understand everything in my classes and remember concepts and information, I perform well in exams with very little study time. But I can't do shit. I just can't. I don't. I would usually vent out to my boyfriend who has been really supportive these past years, but even him has been growing tired of my bullshit of me failing/getting an anxiety attack because I couldn't do my assignments. I feel too old to be this much of a mess. | 2021-10-06T02:58:19.000Z | q2boxp | 39 | 377 | ADHD | I burn myself out doing absolutely nothing and it's beyond frustrating. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2boxp/i_burn_myself_out_doing_absolutely_nothing_and/ |
LemonLemons1234 | I started taking FocalinXR 3 days ago, it’s supposed to last 8-12 hours but I’ve found that it wears off after around 5 hours. My dose is 5g and I’m not taking any other medications. Is this something that might go away after taking meds for longer or increasing the dosage? Is there anything I can do to make it stop wearing off so early? | 2021-10-06T02:58:01.000Z | q2bor3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | FocalinXR wearing off too soon | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bor3/focalinxr_wearing_off_too_soon/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T02:57:15.000Z | q2bobp | 1 | 0 | ADHD | What are some cool things I can properly do for the first time under meds? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bobp/what_are_some_cool_things_i_can_properly_do_for/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:55:51.000Z | q2bnfm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adults with inattentive type, how do you deal with missing details/clumsy mistakes/absent minded at work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bnfm/adults_with_inattentive_type_how_do_you_deal_with/ |
PyPharm | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:55:16.000Z | q2bn1r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to Deal with the Ridicule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bn1r/how_to_deal_with_the_ridicule/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:53:34.000Z | q2blyq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adults with inattentive type, how do you deal with missing details/clumsy mistakes/absent minded at work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2blyq/adults_with_inattentive_type_how_do_you_deal_with/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:53:10.000Z | q2blpo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Going to take ADHD meds (Ritalin) for the first time. What are some cool things I could do on it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2blpo/going_to_take_adhd_meds_ritalin_for_the_first/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:52:04.000Z | q2bl39 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adults with inattentive type, how do you deal with missing details/clumsy mistakes/absent minded at work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bl39/adults_with_inattentive_type_how_do_you_deal_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T02:49:52.000Z | q2bjt1 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I Need Help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bjt1/i_need_help/ |
bottleglitch | Hi everyone, I was just diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type at age 32, and like I’m sure is the case for many late-diagnosed people, it’s made complete sense of so many aspects of my life.
My doctor has prescribed Vyvanse - 10 mg to start and 20 mg for after that - and while I would love relief from these symptoms that have been a part of my whole life, I’m really hesitant about trying medication. I tend to be really sensitive to… every substance. I had to completely quit caffeine a few years back because I would feel like absolute shit physically and mentally if I “missed a dose” and didn’t drink a coffee at a time that I normally would. I’m super sensitive to alcohol too, and the few times that I tried coke I experienced some of the worst depression of my life during the comedowns.
It sounds silly, but quitting caffeine was a big deal for me, and I really don’t want to start something that I’ll then have to quit due to side effects and have it be another ordeal. The weight loss also scares me since I’ve had issues with anxiety-induced disordered eating and am finally at a healthy weight.
I’m wondering if anyone else was hesitant to start meds, what decision they made, and how it went. I’d like to try counselling and lifestyle changes first, though I’m not sure how successful I’d be, unmedicated, at actually instituting any of those lifestyle changes (since that’s what I’ve been trying and failing at my entire life). | 2021-10-06T02:47:33.000Z | q2bijj | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Hesitation around trying meds for the first time (Vyvanse) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bijj/hesitation_around_trying_meds_for_the_first_time/ |
hyperfixatedqueen | TW: mention of EDs. My ADHD has caused me serious problems with eating. It started when I was in middle school and I started feeling ashamed because I felt out of control around food and couldn’t base eating on hunger cues. I developed severe anorexia and was hospitalized many times + tube fed at points. I am now (20 y/o) at a healthy weight, but I am struggling with overeating and completely ignoring hunger and fullness cues. Like I don’t base when I eat on hunger AT ALL and it’s creating so many problems. And the more ashamed I feel, the worse it gets.
I feel so guilty all of the time and I chew up to 2 packs of gum a day to try to keep myself busy (because boredom and avoidance is a big thing for me). Does anyone else struggle with this? :( | 2021-10-06T02:46:34.000Z | q2bhzi | 3 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD and EDs | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bhzi/adhd_and_eds/ |
notjasontoday | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:42:41.000Z | q2bfsw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do watch non-narrative videos of people actively doing something (like detailing cars or cleaning drainpipes) and bringing us along? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bfsw/do_watch_nonnarrative_videos_of_people_actively/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:42:29.000Z | q2bfoo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | can’t stop listening to billy joel | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bfoo/cant_stop_listening_to_billy_joel/ |
concretebrut | I have an appointment with a psychiatrist next week. As a child, a therapist noted that I very likely had ADHD but I never got a diagnosis. I'm 20 years old now and feel that I am lacking in many aspects of my life, I feel paralized to do anything. A diagnosis and treatment would greatly help with my degree. Also, how much would it | 2021-10-06T02:34:28.000Z | q2bayv | 6 | 2 | ADHD | How long did you take to get diagnosed after attending the psychiatrist for the first time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2bayv/how_long_did_you_take_to_get_diagnosed_after/ |
Sea-Indepeny944 | Hello. So recently, I started taking Adderall, 25MG. I suffer from ADHD and a bit of Depression. So, last August, I started taking Adderall and my perseverating and sadness lifted for a little bit. Then two weeks later that feeling started to wear off. I got back on it after two days and that happy feeling started to come back. Now after 4 days, the happy feeling wore off again.
Anyone else experience this? | 2021-10-06T02:32:52.000Z | q2b9zi | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Have you experienced this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b9zi/have_you_experienced_this/ |
Gamer_Chase | Been kind of an emotional couple of days, and this is probably rambly and I’m sorry about that. Please try and stick with me to the end though:
I’m a 40yr old (m)edically retired nurse, I’ve been in and out of therapy much of my life since my parents split (I was 3) and my dad was useless to me most of the time, straight up to using up my last insurance-allotted Employee Assistance Program (EAP) therapy sessions [just to discover the therapist isn’t a good match] 3-4yrs ago. I’ve been trying for over 30yrs to figure out why I am the way I am, when I’m so clearly “different” from everyone else. I’ve been diagnosed with generalized anxiety and depression several times (shocker), but never with any sort of social anxiety disorder or anything else. I don’t know why no one looked closer - did I not stick with the therapy long enough because it lost my attention or was too painful? Either way, no one ever suggested I might have ADHD. Not to me, at least, and not to my mother. I know cause I asked her yesterday. Grilled her about all the past therapy I don’t remember (which is most of it).
I learned critical thinking skills in my nursing education, but it also made me far more educated in how shitty I was being (according to myself, anyway). But more importantly I learned how to properly and, with a bit of clinical detachment, effectively research what I thought might be wrong with me. Until the last few days (and for a few years now), I was leaning toward Avoidant Personality Disorder (AVD). For some reason, ADHD was never on my radar. Probably because of how misunderstood I now understand it to be. So I educated myself a little. I started with the How To ADHD videos to get a relatable perspective I might understand better. And then the TV started feeling more and more like a mirror. So I expanded my viewing. I broke out old college textbooks on psychology and mental health. And I began to feel like I’d found the Rosetta Stone for the parts of me and my brain that I’d struggled to come to terms with and understand most of my life.
Full disclosure, this “epiphany” happened two days ago. I don’t know I have ADHD. I’m pretty sure I’m ADHD-PI, but I’m at best an amateur psychologist with nearly ten year old textbooks, Googling and watching YouTube because (and at worst) I have waaay too much time on my hands on a daily basis, and my phone appointment with my doctor isn’t until Thursday afternoon.
My doctor’s great. She’s seen me through my depression and anxiety, my spinal injury that ended my career, and I think appreciates that I do my research (not on bloody Facebook) before I come to her with what I think I need her for. She hasn’t disagreed with me yet, but we’ll see…
Rampant, undiagnosed adult ADHD explains *so goddamn many things* in my life, from my childhood straight up to trying to organize this messy rambling post to get out what I feel like is a paradigm-shifting moment in my life.
However…. I’m also so afraid it *isn’t* ADHD because, if it ain’t this… then what the fuck is wrong with me. | 2021-10-06T02:32:46.000Z | q2b9x0 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I once was lost, but now am found | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b9x0/i_once_was_lost_but_now_am_found/ |
mgkoutz | (Also posted to r/adhdwomen)
Ive been constantly biting my nails and picking at my feet since i was about 5 (21 now) and nothing I ever do helps. Im guessing its a stimulation thing because its not something i do when im anxious or stressed its just 24/7 no matter what. I used to get in trouble at school because when we had to be quiet you could just always hear me munching on my hands in the background. My fingers (and toes...) are always raw and bleeding and i need some advice as to what might help.
The other big thing i do when im bored is binge eat, also for a couple of years i would be pretty much constantly vaping when i was alone. I quit smoking a while ago, im trying to lose weight, and so now i have nothing else to do with my hands and mouth except tear into the skin around my nails.
I used to bite the actual nail part, but started doing manicures on myself hoping that i wouldnt want to ruin them. This worked and i have lovely long nails but i switched to picking at my cuticles and now the skin around them is always bitten raw almost down to the knuckle.
I literally had a dissection tool i stole from biology class in high school to get in deep and when i threw it out i started using needles, tweezers, anything i have around.
Ive tried basically dipping my whole fingers in that yucky tasting anti-biting stuff but i just dont care and accept the fact that im just gonna have the taste of it permanently in my mouth for a few weeks until i give up.
Please help! My hands and toes are always in pain and theres the health concern of possible infection too. | 2021-10-06T02:28:34.000Z | q2b7g3 | 0 | 2 | ADHD | Really bad nail biting/skin picking | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b7g3/really_bad_nail_bitingskin_picking/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:23:15.000Z | q2b4h8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Have you experienced this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b4h8/have_you_experienced_this/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T02:23:02.000Z | q2b4cl | 29 | 14 | ADHD | SO told me he feels disrespected and annoyed when I cut him off while talking. It’s a “huge pet peeve”. I try my best to apologize immediately when I notice it happening, but that’s not enough. | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b4cl/so_told_me_he_feels_disrespected_and_annoyed_when/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-06T02:20:50.000Z | q2b2zu | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Australia (Victoria) ADHD Medication Laws | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b2zu/australia_victoria_adhd_medication_laws/ |
notalotasleep | I wrote out this comment in response to a post on here and it got me thinking. If my parents, teachers or doctors had spotted the ADHD when I was a child and treated it then, where would I be now- What could I have done if I'd been allowed to reach my potential instead of having to manage on my own.
And it makes me furious. I'm so mad that I've had to struggle my entirelife, been labeled unreliable and flaky, accrued debts and lost jobs whilst the whole time knowing this way of living isn't normal but feeling too ashamed to actually explain the symptoms properly without being called lazy or a hypochondriac. The only time I raised it, my parents told me I was making things up to get attention, even now they believe MH issues are fiction.
Does anyone else diagnosed as an adult feel cheated and angry with the adults responsible for you as a kid for not picking up on it and getting help?
Comment below FYI
"I fixate on something random for so long and ignore what I should be doing then just drop it and move onto the next obsession. All whilst worrying about my workload or chores but not actually doing them.
I don't seem to notice mess, or if I do clean, I get distracted and nothing gets done unless it becomes critical.
Christ knows what I spend all my money on, and I am pathologically incapable of organising anything.
I either want to live alone in a cave or be surrounded by company. There is no middle ground. I have amazing recall for facts and memories from a decade ago but can't remember what I ate for dinner last night or what I am looking for currently.
I have dyscalcula along with this and am being investigated for ODD on top of it all. I was only diagnosed 3 months ago and to be honest I'm not loving the meds the drs have me on currently.
It's shit, and no one understands unless they also have it. You're expected to be this hyperactive ball of energy when in reality you are so tired you can't even eat.
Your medication is seen as a choice, and if you take it then you must like meth. If you don't take it then you're lazy and dysfunctional. '
Tldr: Mad at my parents and teachers for not seeing how younger me struggled with everything. Wonder what difference early diagnosis would have made? | 2021-10-06T02:20:07.000Z | q2b2ki | 3 | 2 | ADHD | First diagnosed in late 30s. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b2ki/first_diagnosed_in_late_30s/ |
bitchatbitchdotcom | i’m kind of wondering if i’m on the wrong meds. right now i’m on adderall 10mg and i definitely function better with it than without. i’m more motivated to do things and i actually get things done…. but i feel like instead of helping me focus it does the opposite? i was diagnosed w add (not adhd) but i feel like i AM hyperactive on my meds, like my thoughts are racing (not in the bad anxiety kind of way tho) and i wanna do a million things.
i went a few days w/o taking my adderall and it was horrible, i stayed in bed the whole day, couldn’t get anything done, felt like absolute shit. and it reminded me of how miserable and unproductive i was before i started my meds.
so it definitely helps w being motivated and actually doing the things i need to do, but it does not help me focus, which i desperately need help with!! and as a person w add AND depression, it’s hard to distinguish where the lack of motivation is coming from (probably the depression and then worsened by the executive dysfunction from add?), so i’m not sure if it’s doing much for my add
basically, i’m not sure if the adderall is the best medication for my add. i’m wondering if there’s another med out there that would actually help me w focusing as well as motivation.
i’ve been telling my psychiatrist i’m doing better and the meds are fine, bc they ARE helping, but i’ve been wondering if maybe i should ask to try another med for my add? but at the same time, i’m scared that once i go off the adderall i’m gonna go back to staying in bed all day and maybe the other meds won’t help. (but maybe they will help?!?!!?!!??)
side note: i’m also on 10mg prozac for my depression. when my psychiatrist first prescribed me adderall i’m pretty sure he said they kind of work hand in hand / the adderall can increase the effects of the prozac (maybe?? it was a while ago…… so i’m not sure what he said exactly), so maybe the adderall is only helping me w my depression and not my add (or only w the executive dysfunction part)?? idk i’m very confused pls help i need some insight | 2021-10-06T02:17:27.000Z | q2b116 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | feel like my meds actually make me hyperactive and help more w my depression instead of my add ?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b116/feel_like_my_meds_actually_make_me_hyperactive/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-06T02:17:02.000Z | q2b0s1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else fist diagnosed after their 20s and 30s? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q2b0s1/anyone_else_fist_diagnosed_after_their_20s_and_30s/ |
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