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r0gu15h | does anyone have any tips for washing/folding/storing clothes that aren't just "have less clothes" or "turn it into a game" or "have an s/o that does it for you"?
i looked up ADHD laundry hacks and they were generally... unhelpful. so i was wondering if you guys had anything that helps you get laundry done when your brain doesn't want to cooperate | 2021-10-03T15:37:46.000Z | q0k6fw | 104 | 43 | ADHD | ADHD and Laundry | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k6fw/adhd_and_laundry/ |
sarawongb | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:34:38.000Z | q0k48c | 10 | 3 | ADHD | Is there a correlation between ADHD and becoming vegetarian/vegan? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k48c/is_there_a_correlation_between_adhd_and_becoming/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T15:33:16.000Z | q0k3av | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Problems with medication, next appointment is in 6 weeks, should I wait this out or not? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k3av/problems_with_medication_next_appointment_is_in_6/ |
calmcakes | My mom just texted me that she got diagnosed inattentive ADHD. My brother and my aunt are also diagnosed. With a disorder that’s so highly genetic please tell me why my doctor keeps telling me it’s just depression causing my difficulty with focusing. So frustrating!! I’m thinking about going on one of those ADHD doctor website but I feel like they’re sketchy | 2021-10-03T15:33:04.000Z | q0k347 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Online ADHD Doctor? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k347/online_adhd_doctor/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:32:16.000Z | q0k2kw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for interested writers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k2kw/looking_for_interested_writers/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:31:50.000Z | q0k29j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and laundry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k29j/adhd_and_laundry/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T15:31:34.000Z | q0k22g | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Impulsive decisions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0k22g/impulsive_decisions/ |
agoddamn_polyA | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:28:24.000Z | q0jzoz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Thoughts about Strattera | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jzoz/thoughts_about_strattera/ |
drewbrewski | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:19:22.000Z | q0jt6r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A quick poll | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jt6r/a_quick_poll/ |
BloomerBoomerDoomer | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:18:46.000Z | q0jsri | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Does anybody else get a brainfreeze when someone shows them a meme you have to read? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jsri/does_anybody_else_get_a_brainfreeze_when_someone/ |
drewbrewski | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:15:58.000Z | q0jqtw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A quick poll | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jqtw/a_quick_poll/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T15:11:08.000Z | q0jnn9 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | My Neighbours are total nightmares | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jnn9/my_neighbours_are_total_nightmares/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T15:03:52.000Z | q0jiid | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Getting real sick of jumping through hoops for refills | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jiid/getting_real_sick_of_jumping_through_hoops_for/ |
hyeings | idk if this is a common experience but i get really depressed when i don’t have a set hyperfixation? i feel constantly understimulated and my executive function goes down the drain. it’s seriously so annoying, especially because I’m reluctant to let go of my past interests. i’ve been looking around and trying different stuff but i haven’t found anything. i dont even wanna play games or read or anything haha
sorry to ask here like this. i’m on medication for my adhd (xaggitin) that has helped executive dysfunction a lot, but i’m also diagnosed with autism so that might be a factor.
It’s just bothering me so much because it’s a forever, ever cycle. It’s months of being excited because wow, I have a new interest, and then losing it and all i’ve invested in it to boot. | 2021-10-03T15:02:26.000Z | q0jhfm | 2 | 18 | ADHD | hyperfixation depression | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jhfm/hyperfixation_depression/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:01:44.000Z | q0jgxv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Talking out loud to myself when thinking about earlier cringe moments! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jgxv/talking_out_loud_to_myself_when_thinking_about/ |
TheAlmightyRook | [removed] | 2021-10-03T15:00:19.000Z | q0jfw7 | 55 | 228 | ADHD | You are not broken, you are just misunderstood. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jfw7/you_are_not_broken_you_are_just_misunderstood/ |
icantthinkofaname482 | Hi, i’m 15, and suspected i’ve had adhd for a while but am unable to get diagnosed for a few reasons:
- My parents likely don’t know what ADHD is, and my symptoms aren’t super visible and i tell them i get really good grades (until one of my teachers contacted recently and let them know otherwise) so they wont believe me when I tell them what it is
- My grades are very mixed, one test i’ll get an A and the next i’ll fail
- I don’t know how to get diagnosed, I know i’ll have to see a psychologist or psychiatrist? but i don’t really have evidence from my early childhood and my parents would probably tell them i have no trouble. My reports dont mention any trouble with me being distracted, but i get comments all the time from my teachers saying i don’t pay attention. I don’t have any report cards from earlier than age 12 either
Recently (this year) everything adhd-related has just got worse. Last year, it wasn’t as bad, but still there and i was able to hide it (although my grades werent the best for some classes). This year, everything is so bad, I cant focus or concentrate, I get distracted, my head is just full of thoughts and I cant stop moving and fidgeting, even in bed, and i try to stop the leg shaking when i’m trying to sleep but it just comes back when i don’t realise. I have other troubles, with reading and sensory stuff, i’ve been suspected to have autism but never got tested because my parents believed otherwise. I don’t really have that much sensory problems or social issues, rather just getting overwhelmed when im in in a really stressful environment and lots is going on. I don’t know what to do anymore, it sucks because everything outside of school is great at the moment and i am actually happy but im scared about school. If anyone has any advice to start the diagnosis process, that’d be great, but any advice about the problems i’m having in school would be really helpful, Thank you :) | 2021-10-03T14:54:59.000Z | q0jc7c | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Undiagnosed but can barely cope with school | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jc7c/undiagnosed_but_can_barely_cope_with_school/ |
Solid-Version | 1. Existing in a state of ennui with no motivation, inspiration or creativity for months on end.
2. A random and sudden burst of inspiration is sent by the gods. It’s glorious. All those ideas that have been lingering in purgatory you’re now going to execute with alacrity. But there’s a problem… which idea do you start with?
3. You don’t know, so you just try and to them all at once. It’s fun for about a week or two. You’re motivated, you’re convinced you’re on to a master piece. Or masterpieces! This is it, people are finally going to recognise your talent.
4. All that creative fire is split 8 ways. You’re left with half finished notes, non fleshed out designs, half written songs. You mentally collapse under the sheer weight of all your creative might. Why can’t I finish anything?!
5. You stare at the scrap heap of your labours till imposter syndrome kicks in. Your work is terrible. You hate it. Why did you even bother in the first place. The doom sets in. You tell yourself you’re never going to be good enough to make something of your creativity.
6. You cry
7. Your state of ennui returns. You reminisce about that time a few weeks back when you were on fire and pray one day the gods would have the grace to bless with that spark sooner rather than later.
Back to step 1 | 2021-10-03T14:54:20.000Z | q0jbs2 | 2 | 17 | ADHD | The woes of an ADHD creative in numerical order | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0jbs2/the_woes_of_an_adhd_creative_in_numerical_order/ |
total-space-case | I had no clue about working memory deficits, I didn’t even know what working memory was or did! But now I understand that it’s my brain’s cache.
I have great memories for other types of things, and I can remember things short term (dust some anxiety over it and it’s set, unless too many things have anxiety dust at one time in a given setting). But the way things just refuse to stay in my mind?! Things like:
-Mental math: thought I was just a little dumb for years, but I literally cannot hold onto the numbers while I manipulate them
-Closing cabinets/putting things back
-What I was just doing/meant to do/information on a screen I just checked
-Requests: either I forget completely or I do something to the left of what I was supposed to.
Apparently I get distracted all the time, and then certain “memories” just disappear like they never existed. Until I come back to them or get reminded 🙃 | 2021-10-03T14:52:04.000Z | q0ja9h | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Breakthrough: it’s my working memory! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ja9h/breakthrough_its_my_working_memory/ |
Siamese-Autie | [removed] | 2021-10-03T14:51:03.000Z | q0j9l2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question about a cat I rehomed and miss | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0j9l2/question_about_a_cat_i_rehomed_and_miss/ |
Zealousideal-Mail-65 | Hi! So I’ve been seeing my current psychiatrist for about 6 months now and I’m just not thrilled with him. He’s super hard to get ahold of (literally doesn’t have a phone you can call) and I feel like he doesn’t really listen to me. A little back story I’ve been diagnosed and on and off meds since I was 12. I’m 26 now. I have 2 under 2 and wasn’t medicated during pregnancy but I was after and my dose was 40mg XR with a 10mg IR booster when I needed it. I felt good on it but after my youngest was born I wasn’t really comfortable going back to that dose so we started lower and he put me on IR even though I don’t do well with that. Finally after months he put me on 40 mg XR and it’s fine but not great. And when I ask him options or if we should lower it or increase it he just blows me off. He also seems to think my PPA and PPD will just “level out” and forgets to send in my Zoloft. It’s just frustrating. I’m supposed to make an appointment this month but I kind of want to switch. Do I have to tell him I want to leave? Do I just switch? I don’t want to be rude but I pay him a pretty penny every 3 months and it seems pointless. | 2021-10-03T14:42:28.000Z | q0j3l7 | 11 | 3 | ADHD | How to switch psychiatrists? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0j3l7/how_to_switch_psychiatrists/ |
mickeyslaps | [removed] | 2021-10-03T14:39:36.000Z | q0j1ha | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What would you consider to be the best jobs for people with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0j1ha/what_would_you_consider_to_be_the_best_jobs_for/ |
8NotMe | Btw I'm undiagnosed.
Honestly I just don't know what my future entails, everything beyond the present is smothered in fog and I have no idea what I'm doing, or at least the things I am doing I don't know if it's right for my future.
I'm applying for college rn and I'm so scared of committing to a major. I wanna major in music because music has been the only constant in my life but even then, I don't know. I love music, but I barely practice my instruments, barely work on the songs I'm composing, barely do *anything*.
2 weeks pass with me not filling out my application and the week I do decide to pick it back up, it's usually just 1 day out of that entire week and I'm back to procrastinating. I need to contact teachers for music lessons but I can never bring myself to even text these numbers, to just ask. I feel like a lost cause.
And if I go to college undecided, I feel like I'll waste so much time trying to explore my interests only to find out that it's just a fleeting thing that I'll eventually run out of passion and motivation for.
I'm so jealous of adhd-ers who hyperfixate on hobbies they have and possibly even make a career out of it. All I do is just scroll on my phone and watch YouTube for hours on end. Sure I can do other things, but I am mostly on my phone.
Also, I know it's unfair to compare myself to my peers, we're all on our own journeys and whatnot but I can't help but feel like I'm lagging behind. I know that everyone does not have their shit together, but at least they have a sense of direction in their lives. Even my partner who is also taking a gap year, at least they're passionate about art and they know they want to make a career out of it. I know I'm young, that I have many more years ahead of me to figure it out and it's okay that I'm confused, but I can't help but feel that I'm moving too slowly, that by the time I "figure things out", I've wasted so many of my years just wandering lost and afraid.
I've been staying up later and later because of this. The night is the only time when I feel free from responsibilties, from expectations, from everything. I don't want tmrw to come, I don't want the sunlight to shine because that forces me to confront the passage of time and acknowledge the shit I have to deal with but procrastinate anyway.
I want to ask my parents if I can get a diagnosis because I want help so badly, but they didn't really respond well to when I asked to get therapy. I did eventually get it but I stopped doing it. Still, diagnosis costs so much money and I feel like such a burden to them, but I'm also just so fucking tired of feeling this way, I want help please help me :(
That's it really, thanks for reading. | 2021-10-03T14:36:41.000Z | q0izbg | 3 | 16 | ADHD | I'm so tired and lost :( | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0izbg/im_so_tired_and_lost/ |
No-Button-8813 | I have started keeping a running list of things I’ve accomplished during the day. This is not my to do list. It doesn’t matter to me if it is finished or not. I just jot down where I stop. I am finding it helps my motivation and my memory. I keep it in a little notebook I keep with me. I call it my day diary. Anyone else do a form of this. | 2021-10-03T14:35:07.000Z | q0iy82 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | List of little things done | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0iy82/list_of_little_things_done/ |
youngben | [removed] | 2021-10-03T14:29:49.000Z | q0iuo0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Newly diagnosed, struggling with self doubt, addiction, medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0iuo0/newly_diagnosed_struggling_with_self_doubt/ |
finthehumanboy12567 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T14:18:48.000Z | q0inel | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Making friends | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0inel/making_friends/ |
KatPaintsStuff | Sometimes my mind gets something to be anxious about and it runs in circles around the topic for hours. My body gets really awake and I guess my sympathetic nervous system activates, and I’d guess I get a rush of cortisol/stress. I can see it from an objective perspective when it’s happening, and I’m like “stop thinking about this. Think about this in the morning.” But it doesn’t work, and then I’ll have days like today where I get really sleep-deprived and more emotional/stressed from that. I wish I was asleep literally right now but I can’t fall asleep during the day at all, I can only rest my eyes. Also I tried listening to night time meditations and doing sleepytime tea, usually the meditations knock me out but I listened to it for 40 minutes with my eyes closed and couldn’t pay attention to it. I was looping over the same stressful problem. Does anyone else have some experience with this?
(Edit) bless this damn sub for offering up a mountain of helpful constructive advice | 2021-10-03T14:15:42.000Z | q0ilaz | 477 | 1,030 | ADHD | How do you fall asleep when your mind is racing and looping over the same thought patterns? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ilaz/how_do_you_fall_asleep_when_your_mind_is_racing/ |
madlenbr7 | Hey!
As all of us here, I have ADHD and I'm searching for an accountability buddy! I have a REALLY hard time getting anything done and I wanna see if this would help, especially coming from someone that has ADHD aswell and understands the struggle.
Anyone that's down to text, call whatever it is to keep each other motivated, especially for school, as I am a uni student. We can create a system where we both feel the need to keep each other accountable. I would like to do it with someone that's down to keep this up daily for a while.
I'm 19F, go to uni for computer science, and my time zone is GMT-4 (i think haha).
So lmk :) | 2021-10-03T14:15:01.000Z | q0iku9 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for an accountability buddy :) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0iku9/looking_for_an_accountability_buddy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T14:13:19.000Z | q0ijp1 | 8 | 0 | ADHD | Risk of Myocarditis and Pericarditis after Covid Vaccine in people taking stimulants(Adderall)? | 0.4 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ijp1/risk_of_myocarditis_and_pericarditis_after_covid/ |
Windbag1980 | I am 41. I have never been diagnosed but a psychologist told me that I could get a diagnosis "any time you want." OK.
I have a life and a career that is highly functional. I just don't do things that conflict with my neurology. My job requires constant physical and cognitive involvement. I literally run around responding to constant demands, "putting out fires." I am good at it and I am paid OK, and I LOVE it.
But outside of work my disorder is getting worse than ever, much worse than 10 years ago. I have no patience for anything any more. The state of my yard and car is abhorrent. I don't drink excessively, but my moderate drinking feels completely compulsive.
I can't stand air travel any more. Too boring. I can't sit through a movie unless it is amazing. I can't even sit in the passengers seat. There isn't enough to do.
I used to daydream, or read, but I feel like I have seen and done enough that nothing is new any more. I have degrees in the humanities and engineering - whatever seemed interesting at rhe time.
I wake up at 3 am and have to actively prevent a panic attack because *there is nothing to do* in the middle of the night. I feel like I am drowning in boredom.
I am missing out on a lot. My son wanted to go on a fishing trip. 3 - 4 hours on the water. Too long - we didn't go. I knew I would start to get antsy after and hour or two, it would just intensify after that.
I have professional development goals that I will never, ever meet in my current condition.
I think I might make an appointment for this coming week, if I can. | 2021-10-03T13:56:59.000Z | q0i8md | 13 | 13 | ADHD | I am strongly considering treatment | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i8md/i_am_strongly_considering_treatment/ |
aoul1 | I have been on Elvanse for two months, and whilst it was good, it wasn’t doing as much as I was hoping and wasn’t lasting long enough so I decided to give concerta a whirl.
Well, after two days at 18mg I feel like I HATE this stuff. Yesterday I felt lethargic and from 6pm had that repeated water in my mouth about to vomit feeling. Today I feel mental - depressed and really scared (not exactly anxious, it’s hard to explain - I have had a rough year and am only just recovering from a mental health crisis so I am worrying about going back there). I wasn’t able to leave the house to meet someone because I was worried about feeling sick (woke up feeling sick but it went away when I ate) and then I just felt too low.
Has anyone got off to a rough start with concerta and then found it great? Or should I cut my losses and just go back on to Elvanse despite it not being perfect. | 2021-10-03T13:53:02.000Z | q0i652 | 43 | 8 | ADHD | Did Concerta get better for anyone after a rough start? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i652/did_concerta_get_better_for_anyone_after_a_rough/ |
GetHairOrDieTryin | Hey guys, so as the title says I was just recently diagnosed with having ADD, and it’s a relief to know that my suspicions were true and I’m looking forward to finally being treated for it. At the same time it’s a bit bittersweet since looking back I have been struggling for 20+ years (turning 27 soon) and I’m wondering how much different my life would have been if I had been diagnosed as a child….
Anyways next week I am meeting up with my psychiatrist and psychologist to discuss my next steps. Currently I take Trintellix 15 mg/day (for depression, anxiety and OCD) and Wellbutrin 150 mg/day (for tiredness caused by trintellix but it also works on my depression too). Prior to adding Wellbutrin I was nervous that it would cause heightened anxiety but I was pleasantly surprised that it actually had the opposite effect and made me much calmer and I felt way better.
Now I have been looking at different medications that you could take for ADHD and it seems like Vyvanse is the best for someone with a history of anxiety and OCD? It also seems more long-lasting and “smoother” which is what I am looking for. Should I ask my psych for vyvanse?
I also read that in some cases Wellbutrin has been used for add/adhd off-label. Is there anyone who is taking both Wellbutrin and Vyvanse,or any other ADHD-stimulant, together? What dosages are you on?
I feel fairly well on the trintellix + Wellbutrin combo, but I still struggle a lot with starting tasks and maintaining focus and concentration, and was wondering if I could add a CNS-stimulant without having to remove any of the meds that I already am taking.
Looking forwards to reading your responses! :) | 2021-10-03T13:51:18.000Z | q0i524 | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed with ADD. What now? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i524/recently_diagnosed_with_add_what_now/ |
BenTheHooper | [removed] | 2021-10-03T13:51:17.000Z | q0i51s | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Opinions on Bupropion Sr 150mg-2/day | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i51s/opinions_on_bupropion_sr_150mg2day/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T13:47:27.000Z | q0i2lf | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I wanted to quit my job as a director in a Software firm | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i2lf/i_wanted_to_quit_my_job_as_a_director_in_a/ |
UnusualWonderland | I been reading Atomic Habits by James Clear. So far some of the tips he mentions has been super helpful in creating a short morning routine. However like always I forget something off of my short list even when I think I don’t need my list. So I rewrote my list according to an trick called habit stacking to remember the next thing on my list. The sentence reads like “After I (current step/habit), I will (new step/habit”.
An example would be “First I wake up and go brush my teeth. After I brush my teeth, I will go eat breakfast. After I eat my breakfast, I will take my meds”. I rewrote my whole routine like this and will say it out loud each morning a few times plus keep it with me. Now I am able to remember my next step a bit better by using the last step as a cue. It also helps with my anxiety around lists. | 2021-10-03T13:44:45.000Z | q0i0wh | 8 | 35 | ADHD | A trick to remember the next step in my morning routine. | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0i0wh/a_trick_to_remember_the_next_step_in_my_morning/ |
Pizzaiscool88 | It can be about a job or being enrolled in a university course or anything. I spend years wishing I could be there and then once I'm in I'm bored and it feels like it was another person who was wishing.
It's strange because it could be like my biggest goal and then suddenly when it's in my hand I don't feel like I care anymore , so to maintain the course or the job I just have to push manually with so much efforts all the way just so I don't end up being empty handed. It's almost as if I'm obsessed with the concept and not the actual thing.
It's really hard to live with this mind and it makes me feel confused why I have to push myself through things that I spent years daydreaming on. | 2021-10-03T13:41:06.000Z | q0hykp | 9 | 27 | ADHD | Is it normal that my motivation level drops once I recieve what I want? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0hykp/is_it_normal_that_my_motivation_level_drops_once/ |
Sessayy | I hate being indecisive, i hate not knowing what i want, i hate being impulsive, i hate not being able to pay attention, i was told i have wandering eyes by my ex because i can’t focus, i hate the mood swings i get because i want to do something but my brain won’t let me, i hate that i have this perfect picture of who i want to be but i struggle to pull it off because i have mental blocks, i am tired, reading a book is a struggle, i have social anxiety, i am tired. | 2021-10-03T13:26:08.000Z | q0hpgm | 63 | 462 | ADHD | I don’t want to live this way for the rest of my life. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0hpgm/i_dont_want_to_live_this_way_for_the_rest_of_my/ |
masonhunt1986 | I was diagnosed as a child (age 8) but never got any support. My parents didn’t believe in meds and basically maintained I was smart but just lazy so the fault was mine . I white knuckled my way through university and have a good job but I turned into a ball of stress and anxiety and addictions. At 35 , after so many years of struggling , began to accept my diagnosis and started meds . My life has just been so much easier I sometimes want to cry when I realize it didn’t have to be so hard. I can do what everyone else does now, like submit stupid paper work. I’m so happy and finally view the world in a way that makes sense. But then I always hear those voices saying I’m just lazy or unmotivated and I’m using meds as a crutch for my character defaults . I know this isn’t true , rationally . But I can’t shake the negative messages I got so early on about being lazy and undisciplined and scattered and that the fault lied in my personality. Then I hear people say how they would love meds or it must be nice or “ you seem too X” to have adhd. Does anyone else struggle to shake years of being humiliated for how your brain works , to the point of not feeling fully happy even when you are being treated and seeing results ? | 2021-10-03T13:23:24.000Z | q0hntu | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Struggling to accept I’m happy now | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0hntu/struggling_to_accept_im_happy_now/ |
Messedupmarionette | Guys, i'm feeling so lonely these days. Feels like everybody around me is so busy everyday going out with their friends and their SOs and i'm always here everyday at my house. I always had difficulties socializing but i really put on the effort to learn how to meet people and i think i've been somewhat successfull. Today i can easily do some things that i had a lot of issues - like talking to random people in the street or the internet, making friends and having the courage to say no and asking for things that i think i deserve, etc. I even had a couple girlfriends these last years. But i dunno... There's still a lot of specific things that seem so easy to everybody and for me are the hardest thing... Even though i can see that i'm cleary getting better at socializing i still fell like i'm behind everybody... Feel like the people around me learned everything that i struggle with when they were like 12 or 14, and i'm here having to get the hang of it as a 20 YO... It's so damn hard to create connections with other people man... That seems so natural to other people... I wish it was easier, i wish i had the courage that i have today to try to talk to people when i was younger... If i did, i wouldn't have to try so hard to catch up today and wouldn't be feeling so lonely. | 2021-10-03T13:22:52.000Z | q0hni4 | 16 | 65 | ADHD | Lonely all the time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0hni4/lonely_all_the_time/ |
[deleted] | okay so this is a new account but i have been lurking this sub for a long time.
at the moment everything in my life feels like it is collapsing. i have an exam coming up next weekend, but tbh i don't care about it anymore. i have been studying my ass off for most of last 2 years. i usually studied in libraries but then covid hit and as y'all know forced us to stay at home. now in the beginning i was able to cope *okay* if not great. then it starting taking a toll on my mental health. things bad but not terrible. exam dates were close so i thought let's ride this thing out. then 2nd wave struck my country and my exams got delayed by 5 months. that single thing hit me like truck. i was already in state of burnout, but then it became chronic (can't go out much cuz covid curbs) and now i think i have full blown depression. i am just numb, and if not i constantly find ways to make myself numb. i can't sleep and if i do i have borderline panic attacks and i wake up in middle of night.
i genuinely don't care if i pass or fail these exams. i'm probably gonna fail anyway because of my current mental state. i used to play games and now even they appear boring. i wouldn't call myself fit but now my exercise and diet have hit a new low. actually, i used to stress eat a lot before, but now i just don't eat and skip meals. i just feel completely numb. not sad, but just numb. i can't access therapist rightnow (can't afford that at the moment, but still do take my adhd meds). i just want to get out of this dark mind blackhole im in, and i can't find anyway out if it myself. I really need help and am crying rightnow. | 2021-10-03T12:53:45.000Z | q0h5vp | 10 | 5 | ADHD | need help. chronic burnout turned into depression/ mental breakdown | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0h5vp/need_help_chronic_burnout_turned_into_depression/ |
BabyThespy | [removed] | 2021-10-03T12:48:56.000Z | q0h35t | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Taking Pictures as a Kid | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0h35t/taking_pictures_as_a_kid/ |
Moephisto | Hello friends!
I've lurked on this sub for a while and found it really comforting and enlightening to witness all the shared experiences on here, so I thought I'd share a positive one of my own with people who 'get it', so to speak.
I'm a 28 year old musicology student who got diagnosed at the start of 2021, about a year after figuring out that something was different, and that ADHD seemed to explain so many of my difficulties throughout life. I've always been considered a 'gifted' student (ugh..) who could accomplish anything I'd put my mind to. Of course, I've never quite been able to control what that might be - I just get super excited about a random thing and go all in for a while before moving on when I stop getting those kicks out of the novelty-factor, or if I the feelings of reward and accomplishment start plateauing. I feel like I've never really been at the wheel, I just try to enjoy the ride, if that makes sense?
So, I've never really had to apply myself academically since most things came pretty easy to me. I've always winged assignments the night before a deadline, never took notes, never prepared much for exams. I never had to learn to take care of myself either, since my mother took care of every single thing in the household requiring executive function. She was always frustrated that I didn't just clean my room by myself as she requested - "you're so bright, why can't you figure out cleaning your room?" - yet, before I was ever able to, she'd have done it for me, and so it went with most things. My brother and my dad are the same way, so it probably just seemed like laziness from the outside (I suspect they both have ADHD, too).
I didn't learn any of these life skills until I moved in with my girlfriend and started uni, and if not for my girlfriend refusing to mother me, I'd probably never have figured out why this stuff was so difficult for me. Together, we figured out systems and made schedules and plans for every single thing that could be systematized. She helped me realize that it was never about the tasks themselves, but about structures and strategies. I learned a lot about self motivation by cheating myself in clever ways and setting myself up for success by breaking down tasks, etc.
When I started on medication after getting diagnosed, I finished two of my exams with time to spare for correcting spelling mistakes and reading it through a couple of times. This had literally never happened before in my life. Until then, my process had always been to try and fail to start early, procrastinate until the last possible moment (being constantly stressed about not being able to start), and then churn out page after page for a day or two right up to the deadline, often finishing minutes before. But somehow, I still did well, so I thought that this was just my process - getting anxious and stressed about starting, hoping for my focus to kick in, and then not eat, sleep or shower for the remaining highly intensive days of turbo-writing. Every single time I did this (which was about six times a year for the past 5 years), I would only build up more anxiety around starting, since I knew I wasn't in control, and when I finally went into overdrive there was no turning back from the stressful, stomach-churning sensation of being just on the edge of failing.
After experiencing my first balanced workflow ever after starting on medication, I only had my thesis left before graduating. I was determined to kick its ass and put my newfound confidence, my new strategies, and the benefits of my medication to good use. Turns out that living in isolation and having complete responsibility for at 55-70 page academic paper doesn't vibe with ADHD at all... I completely stalled when it came to the writing process. I had lots of ideas, did all the prep-work fine, took notes, gathered info, read articles etc, but when I had to write something, I just choked. For months. By the end of deadline, I had written 10 pages. I was faced with either the biggest Hail Mary-operation of my life, or to seek help from my supervisor and figure out some solution. Turns out this was the best decision I ever made. I ended up getting a four month dispensation, got extra counseling, started meditating, using scheduling apps, tracking my sleep cycle, making sure I got enough water, food and sleep. But it was still tough. It was the hardest thing I was ever faced with. But I did it. I sat for eight hours every single day throughout the last month with barely any leissure time. I reached 55 pages the night before deadline. I had time for corrections and details. I did it. It's been two days since then, and I still don't understand... But I did this, I decided to do it, and I got it done. I used all my strength and willpower to work on myself and made it happen, and I'm extremely proud of how far I've come this past year.
Tl;dr: Gifted, spoiled kid gets diagnosed with ADHD as adult, almost fails out of uni, but decides to seek help and work on himself. Just handed in his master's thesis against all odds.
Thanks for reading, and thanks for sharing your experiences with me. Best of luck to all of you! | 2021-10-03T12:48:53.000Z | q0h34x | 10 | 19 | ADHD | I just handed in my masters thesis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0h34x/i_just_handed_in_my_masters_thesis/ |
frrojo | Hi I’ve been taking vyvanse for just over a week and my hair is falling out in clumps. Slightly concerned I will go bald.
I’ve stopped brushing it as the amount is quite scary. Im only on 30mg but May need to increase to dosage, but still evaluating.
Has anybody experience this and did it stop?
Apart from that the medication is making a great difference, so prefer to remain on it.
Thanks in advance | 2021-10-03T12:47:02.000Z | q0h23c | 16 | 5 | ADHD | Hair loss with Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0h23c/hair_loss_with_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T12:42:12.000Z | q0gzh3 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | trying to fall asleep is a nightmare | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0gzh3/trying_to_fall_asleep_is_a_nightmare/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T12:40:54.000Z | q0gyt1 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Any other teachers feel a little...resentful at their kids' accomodations? | 0.7 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0gyt1/any_other_teachers_feel_a_littleresentful_at/ |
_C4_ActhaupYT | [removed] | 2021-10-03T12:38:13.000Z | q0gxc5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is adhd different in young kids, teens, and adults? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0gxc5/is_adhd_different_in_young_kids_teens_and_adults/ |
Mr_Jek |
Today a girl I used to sit next to in class in high school made a post about getting diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, how hard it was for her, and all that stuff. Back then she was probably one of the first girls I felt like I really ‘clicked’ with; I felt like we saw the world similarly, it was comfortable being around her, our minds kind of seemed to ping pong rapidly through conversations from one thing to the next, and above all I just felt like we were very similar. We got along really well and we’re still on good terms (she didn’t feel the same sadly).
Another girl I had a big crush on and have a similar story with from about a year back? She has ADHD too, and I didn’t know until we got to know each other. And it wasn’t until I looked into my own inattentive ADHD as an adult and came to realise the symptoms were there for me that I began to piece together why I was so attracted to them, it’s because our brains think in similar ways.
I’ve spent my full life not really connecting with people and on the occasions I’ve found someone I’m attracted to who’s brain works in the same way to me it’s been really intense for me. It always felt like FINALLY, someone understands me. People feel like that I suppose with regular crushes, but this was so intense for me and always so meaningful. It would take me forever to get over these crushes because I was always certain there was something there.
And it’s kind of validating to know there WAS something there, it just wasn’t a romantic connection each time like I thought. What I was feeling was the rush from finding people who, subconsciously I suppose since I wasn’t aware of why, understand me. I always thought in these cases we just ‘got’ each other, and realising today the real reason why I felt that to such an intense degree is mind blowing. | 2021-10-03T12:15:59.000Z | q0gl95 | 149 | 1,772 | ADHD | Just realised that most times I have a crush on someone and feel like we ‘get’ each other, it turns out we both have ADHD | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0gl95/just_realised_that_most_times_i_have_a_crush_on/ |
justpeachiey | My friend was just broken up with after 3 years. She’s obviously heartbroken and needs friends and support. But i don’t know how to help her when i myself have so many problems and can hardly keep myself afloat.
I have adhd, depression and anxiety. Even during the summer I was struggling with keeping myself mentally stable and to try being productive. But now we both have just moved back to the UK to finish out final year of university. I hate living here but I can’t really do much about it now. It takes so much energy not to break down every single day because of how much i miss home and hate living abroad. On top of it I also have majorly messed up my grades the first to years of uni and this is my last chance to make these 3 horrible years worth something at least.
But the past two days with her have felt like months. I tried listening to her, but the constant repetitive things that she says (which i understand she has to vent) take so much out of me to actively listen to. On top of that she needs constant attention. But if i do so I can’t study because she’s distracting and as someone who struggles with adhd having anything distracting in the room when you try to study is a death sentence to my attention.
I’m not sure if i’m alone with this but I also need plenty of personal space and quiet to get through the day. But with her here I just don’t have any of it atm.
Am i a selfish a$$hole for this? I’m trying so hard to tell her this but every time i think about it i break down crying because i feel so guilty. | 2021-10-03T11:50:00.000Z | q0g7r9 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Am i the as*hole for not being there for my friend? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0g7r9/am_i_the_ashole_for_not_being_there_for_my_friend/ |
dreamheadx | Does anyone else feel like this? Recently got back on Vyvanse 30mg after quitting it 5-6 years ago due to my Alcoholism and recreational random drugs I used. Granted, I know meds over time can wear off at certain doses and you need a dosage increase or a med switch, but damn I didn't realize how much I can't focus until I take the meds again. | 2021-10-03T11:47:49.000Z | q0g6q3 | 7 | 4 | ADHD | You don't realize how bad your ADHD is until you get the right Medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0g6q3/you_dont_realize_how_bad_your_adhd_is_until_you/ |
Best_Ad_3027 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:44:47.000Z | q0g58b | 1 | 1 | ADHD | New to ritalin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0g58b/new_to_ritalin/ |
kimberlite1223 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:41:24.000Z | q0g3kx | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Would you like to share your story on a podcast? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0g3kx/would_you_like_to_share_your_story_on_a_podcast/ |
-acidlean- | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:38:12.000Z | q0g1xc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD made me poor and now I want to kms because it's cheaper than staying alive. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0g1xc/adhd_made_me_poor_and_now_i_want_to_kms_because/ |
osobieh | So I recently got diagnosed and so much of my life is starting to make sense now. I wanted to participate in ADHD awareness month on my social media and spread more information about it to friends and contacts who may have been affected by it. I also want to share some of the many coping strategies I've used that have helped make my life better.
Thing is I have only told a handful of people and this will be announcing it to the world including my dad (over 70 and the picture of ADHD). I'm worried how he would react over 70 finding out his son has a genetic trait that causes a lot of his own personality quirks and difficulties. I don't know if I should talk to him about it or if I should just post the videos or hide them from him.
He's very set in his ways and gets very defensive when anything needs a tiny bit of change. We've also been very distant since he and my mom separated when I was around 7 and we're only starting to reconnect now I'm 35. I don't want to agitate him or cause him any pain or feelings of loss because of ADHD. On the other hand maybe his quality of life can improve if he gets treatment. I don't know what to do at this point.
Any advice? | 2021-10-03T11:31:45.000Z | q0fz2i | 20 | 5 | ADHD | Need help in deciding if I should tell my 70 year old dad I have (and he probably has) ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fz2i/need_help_in_deciding_if_i_should_tell_my_70_year/ |
Drive_Both | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:29:23.000Z | q0fxvt | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Food for ADHD people. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fxvt/food_for_adhd_people/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:26:15.000Z | q0fwm8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for good adult fidget “toys” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fwm8/looking_for_good_adult_fidget_toys/ |
Drive_Both | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:25:47.000Z | q0fwfd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I know there's a lot of unproven science about ADHD... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fwfd/i_know_theres_a_lot_of_unproven_science_about_adhd/ |
Expensive_Potato8366 | Hello there,
I'm (30F) got diagnosed in March after years of struggle with uni and life in general. I started Atomoxetin 40 mg in May, tha first week was awful, all I could do was sleep but as weeks went by it got better, I felt so quiet in my brain, I could study, organize house chores and I had way less anxiety than normal. It was good. But now I feel as if I'm empty inside, I had no desire to do all the things I used to enjoy, I have zero sex drive and I feel really, really sad. I had some mayor changes in my life during this time and I though I was just adjusting myself to my life right now, but now I'm not sure.
Has anyone had the same experience within this meds? I cannot reach yo my psychiatrist easily because public mental health is a mess here but I plan talking to her about it, also with my therapist but I feel as if they don't have much idea about side effects other than what the vademecum says. I don't know what to do, I thought it was gonna be easier with the diagnostic and the treatment but it's getting harder by the day.
Thanks and English is not my first language so sorry if there are any mistakes. | 2021-10-03T11:23:31.000Z | q0fvik | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Atomoxetin and depression | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fvik/atomoxetin_and_depression/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T11:17:11.000Z | q0fswv | 7 | 2 | ADHD | How do I help my sibling overcome internalized medication stigma? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fswv/how_do_i_help_my_sibling_overcome_internalized/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T11:09:50.000Z | q0fpsd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | hello hi greetings ceillutations hallo | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fpsd/hello_hi_greetings_ceillutations_hallo/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T11:08:24.000Z | q0fp69 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I need help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fp69/i_need_help/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T11:03:07.000Z | q0fmz4 | 3 | 12 | ADHD | Oversharing at work/private life | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fmz4/oversharing_at_workprivate_life/ |
Character-Ad4918 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T10:59:04.000Z | q0fl2c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I havent slept consistently since i started straterra | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fl2c/i_havent_slept_consistently_since_i_started/ |
truckbomb99 | Im so scared im gonna fail my degree because of my tendencies to sabotage myself by procrastinating until the last minute, I’ve been in a hole for years and can’t get out. I’m sure many of you can relate, do you guys have any advice for someone in my situation? I’m 23 years old and feel like I’ve been living my life on autopilot to the point where I feel my reality has shifted and I’ve gone into a psychosis. | 2021-10-03T10:54:39.000Z | q0fja1 | 4 | 10 | ADHD | Procrastination and self-sabotage is ruining my life, need advice please!! | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fja1/procrastination_and_selfsabotage_is_ruining_my/ |
Jaded_Ad7019 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T10:54:06.000Z | q0fj10 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone else noticed touch sensitivity as a side affect of medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fj10/has_anyone_else_noticed_touch_sensitivity_as_a/ |
truckbomb99 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T10:39:55.000Z | q0fcsi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Procrastination and self-sabotage is ruining my life, need advice please!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0fcsi/procrastination_and_selfsabotage_is_ruining_my/ |
ComputerSea2747 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T10:21:04.000Z | q0f40m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone else also felt this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0f40m/has_anyone_else_also_felt_this/ |
donkeysrcool | I'm starting Elvanse for the first time and I want to keep a record of its effects, but I'm finding myself totally overwhelmed by the many ways that could be done. Has anyone found a solid method for themselves? What kinds of things are best to take note of? I don't want to overcomplicate it because then I won't do it, but I want the data to be helpful. Got some real analysis paralysis goin on right now, so I'd be grateful for any advice! | 2021-10-03T10:20:18.000Z | q0f3n7 | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Good ways to track effects of medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0f3n7/good_ways_to_track_effects_of_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T10:10:19.000Z | q0eyxh | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I have been procrastinating on my exam for over 4 months and I feel like shit | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0eyxh/i_have_been_procrastinating_on_my_exam_for_over_4/ |
blackdogtattoo | Just need somewhere to rant.
I'm so angry with myself. Got up 6am and walked him, headed out to work, and my partner messaged at 10am to ask whether he had been fed as he was crying. I'm very good with his routine, but just fucked it this morning as I slept badly and had a lot on my mind. Can't wait to get back to see him and apologise. Fucksake. | 2021-10-03T10:05:32.000Z | q0ewq0 | 23 | 31 | ADHD | Forgot to feed my dog this morning | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ewq0/forgot_to_feed_my_dog_this_morning/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T09:59:54.000Z | q0eu1w | 69 | 296 | ADHD | Is a person with ADHD remembering your birthday a great achievement? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0eu1w/is_a_person_with_adhd_remembering_your_birthday_a/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T09:58:13.000Z | q0etdr | 1 | 0 | ADHD | issues relating to animals and people at a young age | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0etdr/issues_relating_to_animals_and_people_at_a_young/ |
Tuirseach49 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T09:41:57.000Z | q0emyr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I got accepted to a PhD program!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0emyr/i_got_accepted_to_a_phd_program/ |
JoshEdmo | If someone makes a negative comment towards me, it completely derails my mood and ruins my day.
I've tried 12 weeks online CBT, a couple of months of one-to-one therapy sessions, and daily visits from the crises team. I understand that everyone has their own problems. I know that if someone says something unjust, it's their problem not mine.
I accept that I will feel negative emotions because I'm human, but is there a way to help my emotions from being so extreme? | 2021-10-03T09:36:01.000Z | q0ekkk | 18 | 10 | ADHD | Is there a solution for emotional dysregulation? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ekkk/is_there_a_solution_for_emotional_dysregulation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T09:34:39.000Z | q0ejyh | 27 | 1 | ADHD | Help I Took a double dose of my meds?? | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ejyh/help_i_took_a_double_dose_of_my_meds/ |
D3athToTheCrusaders | [removed] | 2021-10-03T09:25:27.000Z | q0eg37 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How am I supposed to study?? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0eg37/how_am_i_supposed_to_study/ |
bboysmoke100 | Hey guys, i have started taking Cipralex (Lexapro) in June 21, started with 10mg and now the doc upped my dose to 20MG and i have been told it will help me focus more in class and stop pulling hair from my stache/beard, my anxiety has reduced but my focus problem is still the same, im still pulling hairs, the psychotrist offered me to start taking Atomoxetine, any of you had this problem? :) | 2021-10-03T09:24:59.000Z | q0efw2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Doc suggested Atomoxetine (Lexapro user) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0efw2/doc_suggested_atomoxetine_lexapro_user/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T09:23:15.000Z | q0ef5c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’m stoned right now and I just feel like I discovered an unhealthy coping mechanism that I’ve convinced myself was normal for the past few years. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ef5c/im_stoned_right_now_and_i_just_feel_like_i/ |
Electronic_Head_5368 | I’m looking for support. 2 years ago I had a major breakdown, left my job without thinking it through, nearly lost my house, ended up being off work a whole year.
The company I left kept asking me back but I never felt ready to return until November last year, now it’s been almost a year I’m getting the same feeling where I literally want to quit, the hours are irregular, my sleep pattern is all over the place and I think it is making my ADHD worse.
Trouble is it is a good job, decent salary and more importantly the company I work for understand that I have ADHD and PTSD and often make accommodations.
I just really don’t know what to do but I feel like I’m about to breakdown again. | 2021-10-03T09:19:42.000Z | q0edo6 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Irregular working hours | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0edo6/irregular_working_hours/ |
chilldude696996 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T09:14:59.000Z | q0ebmf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does you perception of time changes when doing meds? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ebmf/does_you_perception_of_time_changes_when_doing/ |
[deleted] | What are some tips and tricks to get started on tasks, especially ones that aren't so fun like University assessments, and study?
I'm currently (recently) medicated too, I thought it may help but it's not really much help unless I get started. Always feeling like I'm in a cycle of depression from not starting>failing>feeling like crap and it just goes in circles endlessly. | 2021-10-03T09:13:14.000Z | q0eawa | 6 | 18 | ADHD | Struggling with Motivation and starting tasks. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0eawa/struggling_with_motivation_and_starting_tasks/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T08:59:46.000Z | q0e4ur | 8 | 5 | ADHD | My bf doesny understand my adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0e4ur/my_bf_doesny_understand_my_adhd/ |
Dry_Committee_9256 | ADHD is rampaging my life right now. I cannot focus on ANYTHING except procrastination. I spent probably 30 hours the last 5 days looking at tool boxes on Craigslist -- expensive toolboxes.
Granted -- one of my side jobs is as a fabricator/designer -- but I am supposed to be writing a dissertation -- and I should have been working on it for the last few years.
I ALWAYS find a way to procrastinate -- and I've always seemed to "pull it off" right at the last moment -- but I do NOT like living this way.
This is a recurring theme in my life -- it hasn't mattered what I was doing -- and I've lived what most would consider a very "well-balanced" and "full" life. I have lots of hobbies -- and when I get focused -- I am F-O-C-U-S-E-D -- if you know what I mean.
I started with Focalin for the past couple years -- and honestly -- it helped some -- but I am struggling SO much right now -- even after increasing my dosage.
I am lying to myself about my productivity -- my wife -- my advisors -- to everyone.
I am not accountable to anyone or anything -- and I hate it so much... but I feel "addicted" to my ADHD and I am falling apart.
I honestly am so scared to face the music -- but I have a child on the way and I am starting to freak out. I'm scared I'm going to lose everything I hold dear if I am not able to clean up my act and focus. This is no way to live and I know it -- but "knowing" it just makes it so much more ridiculous and awful right now.
I know I need a psych eval, etc. and a therapist - but right now -- I could just use some words of encouragement (or a swift kick in the ass) from some strangers that I've shared a real truth with that I cannot even fathom telling my closest loved ones.
Thanks for reading. I'm going to bed now -- I hope I can sleep instead of dreaming about Snap-on Triple Cabs. | 2021-10-03T08:45:20.000Z | q0dyso | 15 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD is rampaging -- I am lost -- can't focus... | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0dyso/adhd_is_rampaging_i_am_lost_cant_focus/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T08:28:49.000Z | q0drxq | 7 | 0 | ADHD | Meeting a psychiatrist in three weeks and I need help! | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0drxq/meeting_a_psychiatrist_in_three_weeks_and_i_need/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T08:27:53.000Z | q0drir | 3 | 0 | ADHD | may I have adhd or is it something else? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0drir/may_i_have_adhd_or_is_it_something_else/ |
Positpostit | It’s late and im trying to go to bed but there is a voice reminding me of how I couldn’t find the motivation at my last (really good) job. I’m remembering embarrassing moments and wish I could have succeeded.
I have decent experience and went to an “impressive” school but I have to find a new job and am worried I will fail.
At my last job, it boiled down to working in a fast paced setting that required a lot of prioritization, planning and quick turn around times. I started falling behind then would feel embarrassed about falling behind and wait too long to bring it up. I cared a lot and got along well with everyone but wasn’t fully engaged like I needed to be, although I tried to be.
Medication makes my anxiety worse and I feel exhausted once it wears off but I feel like I will likely need it to succeed. I’m just scared I won’t find a job I’m good at. I feel bad I couldn’t hang onto the opportunity I had but am also glad I left. I’m scared I will mess up at my next job. | 2021-10-03T08:25:39.000Z | q0dqmz | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I’m laying in bed ruminating on all the ways I’ve messed up at work. Scared to go back. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0dqmz/im_laying_in_bed_ruminating_on_all_the_ways_ive/ |
Il_portavoce | It's really really easy for me to get sucked into my phone, no matter how many tricks I use, it ends up happening pretty often. My current phone is basically dead so I gotta get a new one, I was looking around for a cheap smartphone since the less I use it the better and I noticed that nowadays all phone are fullscreen, like they do not have the physical home button and it's basically all screen.
And let me tell you, I hate that shit. Without the actual "box" that separates the screen from the phone, my mind cannot see the phone as a tool to do something, for example checking emails or texts, but just as an infinte supply of dopamine.
What phone do you guys have? Do you still have the physical home button? If it was possible I'd like to just go back to a flip phone or something but Maps saved my ass more than a couple times and also I love listening to music on commutes or just walking around. So I guess what I'm saying is, what do you guys think is a smartphone designed to be less addicting and more ADHD-friendly? Thanks in advance for the replies. | 2021-10-03T08:20:50.000Z | q0doo4 | 20 | 1 | ADHD | Are there any ADHD-friendly phones in the market? | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0doo4/are_there_any_adhdfriendly_phones_in_the_market/ |
elysian-eris | [removed] | 2021-10-03T08:18:16.000Z | q0dnjf | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Anyone think dyslexia is a different branch of the same tree? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0dnjf/anyone_think_dyslexia_is_a_different_branch_of/ |
1niltothe | I looked through the mega-tips sticky post and can't find anything that deals with this specific area.
I get on well with my partner, and find it very very easy to just stay at home.
What ways do you have of making sure you go out and do fun stuff with friends?
When me and my partner have a falling out (rarely) my social life gets very interesting quickly, cuz I suddenly am motivated to leave the apartment.
When we are getting on well, I tend to spend way too much time here.
Needless to say, I deeply enjoy seeing my friends and going out, in a different way to being at home with my partner. It just seems harder to organise / I have less motivation or tricks to make sure it happens.
No tip too big or small. And also if this has been covered a million times or is on a sticky thread or whatever, I'll delete this ofc.
X | 2021-10-03T08:12:22.000Z | q0dl00 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | How do you avoid spending too much time at home? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0dl00/how_do_you_avoid_spending_too_much_time_at_home/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T08:10:05.000Z | q0djzi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Life Balance w/ Relationship + Socialising? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0djzi/life_balance_w_relationship_socialising/ |
Bagolyvagymi | Once I get through the struggle of making something to eat, I can munch on a single sandwich for an hour or more if I have free time. It is like I think through every bite and sometimes I just stare into the void then realize that I should be eating. I can't process how can someone eat a whole hamburger in 5 minutes. Does anyone has this problem too? | 2021-10-03T08:05:14.000Z | q0dho8 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Eating can be an obnoxiously long process for me | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0dho8/eating_can_be_an_obnoxiously_long_process_for_me/ |
adorapearl | I don't know if this has been discussed here yet, but I was wondering if anyone (who isn't autistic) in this group has to mask their ADHD?
I have issues with hyperactivity and get mentally and physically exhausted whenever I try to ‘tone it down’ in social situations. (Like I have to be more aware of interrupting people and going into tangents.)
I don't know if there's another term for it for people with ADHD, since I know it's a more common practice for people with autism.
Really curious to hear your guys’ comments :) | 2021-10-03T08:00:21.000Z | q0df3m | 3 | 0 | ADHD | ADHD and masking? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0df3m/adhd_and_masking/ |
Mohuru02 | For years ive been struggling with a tendancy to phase out of everything going on around me. Like someone talking to me and i completely phase out and dont listen to them anymore. My closest friends are kind of used to it but i know i hurt my gf during my last relationship because of it. And now I found someone amazing, i told that i was prone to phase out and forget about a lot oh things she said it was ok but im still worried about it hurting her.. | 2021-10-03T07:58:49.000Z | q0de4y | 7 | 1 | ADHD | I'd like to know im not alone.. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0de4y/id_like_to_know_im_not_alone/ |
naivesnapper | I’m noticing I have a strong preference for paper planning and bookkeeping. I’m convinced this is connected to my ADHD. I was worrying about money constantly, and then I used an old-school double-entry ledger to figure out everything that I have going on. And it was *such* a relief. Anyone had this experience or maybe the opposite experience? It’s kind of a bummer because I have a hard time *keeping up with the paper* but I hate using anything that isn’t paper…. | 2021-10-03T07:48:39.000Z | q0d9e3 | 72 | 177 | ADHD | Do you prefer to write things down instead of using a device? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d9e3/do_you_prefer_to_write_things_down_instead_of/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T07:46:36.000Z | q0d8jn | 8 | 0 | ADHD | Can y'all please insult my teacher? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d8jn/can_yall_please_insult_my_teacher/ |
PiperViper11 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:43:48.000Z | q0d7bi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can anyone explain to me the neurobiology of habituation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d7bi/can_anyone_explain_to_me_the_neurobiology_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:38:23.000Z | q0d4wr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Attention to detail, listening to directions, and asking the right questions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d4wr/attention_to_detail_listening_to_directions_and/ |
nswami | I graduated this past year. Due to anxiety, circumstance and tbh probably add as well, I wasn’t super proactive about applying to jobs, so my current job for a variety of reasons is one I don’t like at all. I currently see a therapist and take non stimulants.
I work with practically no one, work at home alone most of the week and my interactions with my boss are awkward and pretty anxious. I only am required to communicate with my bosses about twice a week, so I’m left with ample free unsupervised time throughout 95% of the work week. You can imagine how that might go. On top of that my grandmother died this month and she raised me so I’ve felt like it carrying a ton of bricks on top of the work anxiety. My job gave me holiday to grieve and what have you but going back to a job I already am so reluctant to do has been even more difficult and I’ve fallen sorely behind. Today was supposed to be my catch up and I felt like I let my impulses take the autopilot and I let myself down and did nothing tomorrow is my last chance to pick it up before I have to meet my boss on Monday with an update.
I realize that no ones first job is perfect and I don’t take getting a comfortable pay check lightly. I know what I do want in my career or at least I have a strong enough idea and I want to pursue that.
I feel so constrained by my own mind and feel trapped and want to take control but I’m pretty down about it. | 2021-10-03T07:31:15.000Z | q0d1qe | 2 | 10 | ADHD | Feel like my life is starting to de rail after graduating college | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d1qe/feel_like_my_life_is_starting_to_de_rail_after/ |
Happy_Potato_1 | I have ADHD-C type and for as long as I could remember, I’ve never had trouble making friends. The trouble was keeping them around. I’ve always dreamt about having friends that I was close to. The ones I could call if I was upset or they’ll call me for something that’s making them upset or even to hang out and go places. For a large part of my life, I’ve always felt like I had to overcompensate for me being a literal spazz with gifts or being super helpful. In the end, I’ve always gotten stepped on or not treated as part of the “main friends” in a group.
Now it’s to the point where I don’t like to share too much of myself. You know, like the nitty gritty stuff? Like what’s are some of your goals in life, what’s your biggest fear, what’s something that’s been bothering you for years but you’ve never talked about it, etc. To be honest, what would be the point anymore? I could be as nice as possible, be a compassionate listener, and help them if they need it, but zilch. I feel like it all stems my ADHD and possibly RSD. There has to be a correlation with this or something. | 2021-10-03T07:30:34.000Z | q0d1f4 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Any advice for this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d1f4/any_advice_for_this/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:29:29.000Z | q0d0vc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone experienced this before? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0d0vc/has_anyone_experienced_this_before/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:27:18.000Z | q0czwc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have trouble keeping friends? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0czwc/does_anyone_have_trouble_keeping_friends/ |
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