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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:24:33.000Z | q0cypj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Taking dexamphetamines 7 hours after taking Ativan (still feeling the effects of the Ativan a little). Will the dex take away the feeling of the Ativan effects so I am able to go about my day like normal? Or will the effects be diminished? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0cypj/taking_dexamphetamines_7_hours_after_taking/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T07:13:14.000Z | q0ctqk | 2 | 0 | ADHD | How did you feel the first ever time you took your meds? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ctqk/how_did_you_feel_the_first_ever_time_you_took/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T07:05:33.000Z | q0cq94 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Took more than my prescibed dose today & it’s only 7am.. I am in for a day aren’t I. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0cq94/took_more_than_my_prescibed_dose_today_its_only/ |
Critical-Management9 | I wonder how my life would have been different had I not had this issue. I have lost jobs, friends and so much self esteem over the years because I’m always running late. No matter how hard I try, I just can’t seem to get ahead and then I end up beating myself up about what a worthless pos I am! I wasn’t diagnosed w adhd until I was in my 30’s & just learned that this is a feature of adhd. It makes me feel hopeful, maybe I can help myself get better! I’m so tired of running & feeling panicked/guilty/embarrassed that I’m late! Doesn’t help that my husband also has this issue. People always make fun of how we’re late. Everyone else in both of our families are timely people. We have a 10 year old & he is very time conscious (so happy he is) and I see that it just comes naturally to him. I feel like the beginning of my life was ruined by this & always thought it was a character flaw that added to my low self esteem & bad habits. I want to do & be better!! | 2021-10-03T06:55:51.000Z | q0clj3 | 5 | 23 | ADHD | Middle aged & just learning that what I’ve suffered from my whole life has a name - “Time blindness” | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0clj3/middle_aged_just_learning_that_what_ive_suffered/ |
paintsbybri | 6 months ago, I broke up with my boyfriend I was with for three years. This was after he moved 3,000 miles across the country to move to Florida with me (where my family lives, not his.) he was my best friend.
When we broke up I didn’t feel much at first, but now I miss how things used to be so much. Of course our relationship wasn’t perfect and there was other reasons for me ending the relationship, but he did so much for me and I told him I wanted to work on myself. Which I believe to be true,
But about a month ago I was diagnosed with ADHD which opened up my eyes to so much. I finally understood why I am the way I am.
But now I had a crazy thought;
did I break up with him because I was bored? Did us not knowing about my ADHD cause me to push away? Or am I overthinking this way to much. Probably the latter | 2021-10-03T06:44:13.000Z | q0cggc | 11 | 8 | ADHD | Afraid I broke up with my boyfriend because of my undiagnosed adhd | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0cggc/afraid_i_broke_up_with_my_boyfriend_because_of_my/ |
JeSuisGourde | I've been out of school or school-type situations since graduating uni in 2016, and I feel like my brain has turned to ADHD mush in the past few years. I read constantly, books and articles and dumb internet shit, but it's not the same sort of stimulation as a classroom setting, bouncing thoughts and ideas off other students and learning new stuff from a teacher. The whole classroom situation of lots of voices/perspectives/ideas from lots of people etc really helped me learn in uni because it felt like such varied stimulation all the time. I feel like my brain struggles more to comprehend complicated writing or deeper concepts because I'm not flexing those mental muscles in ways that my ADHD enjoys, so instead it just drifts in the distractable mush instead of focusing on cool new info. How do y'all find adequate mental stimulation once you're no longer in school? | 2021-10-03T06:34:58.000Z | q0cces | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do y'all find adequate mental stimulation post-school? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0cces/how_do_yall_find_adequate_mental_stimulation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T06:31:50.000Z | q0cb25 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | is it normal to forget someone's talking to you halfway through a conversation | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0cb25/is_it_normal_to_forget_someones_talking_to_you/ |
filterish | [removed] | 2021-10-03T06:21:23.000Z | q0c6f8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Theory about Adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c6f8/theory_about_adhd/ |
littleredrob | I take adhd meds and I notice often times I will just get way more judge mental on them. Like staring at someone with a completely blank yet judge mental expression.
Ik other kids from school and when they take adderall they stare at me the same way. Like it’s like this emotionless weird stare. And I’ve seen tik toks of ppl talking abt their adhd roommates and showing them on adhd meds and In the vids the people on adhd meds are legit just starting at their roommates with this look I can’t explain but it’s like a judge mental robot | 2021-10-03T06:17:49.000Z | q0c4so | 2 | 1 | ADHD | The adderal stare | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c4so/the_adderal_stare/ |
arrowandbone | TL;DR - struggling with intense shame for how I treated a close friend before I was diagnosed, seeking advice on whether apologising years after would be selfish and potentially re-traumatising for him.
I’m 32 and was recently diagnosed in May this year. It’s been a rollercoaster of grief, I’m in treatment but also looking for a psychologist who specialises in late diagnosis of ADHD to help me with toxic shame and cumulative relational trauma. This whole process has been so gruelling and I’m a wreck. On top of all of this, my diagnosis has given me clarity to reflect on my past behaviour and I feel so much shame, disgust and embarrassment for how I treated the people around me.
One person sticks out in particular. We met in our mid twenties, around 5-6 years ago, when he moved into the share-house I was living in. We hit it off immediately and became close super quick, he would invite me out all the time and I quickly integrated into his friend group. It was a really exciting and fun time for me, I was struggling with my mental health and he provided this amazing social escape and connection that I felt was missing in my life.
I fell for him really hard, but he only wanted to be friends and I just couldn’t accept that. My undiagnosed ADHD was in full swing, with emotion dysregulation, RSD and impulsivity making me a complete mess - I was SO clingy, pushy, manipulative, aggressive, volatile, desperate and frankly, awful to him. I behaved appallingly, and it eventually came to a head one night when we drunkenly hooked up, but I ended up stopping things from going further when I realised just how messed up it all was.
Needless to say he moved out pretty soon after that, after only a year of living together. Understandably, he was really upset with me and avoided contact for months afterwards. Eventually things calmed down and went back to a more normal level, and we both got into long-term relationships. We’re now still really good friends and very much involved in each other’s lives.
Today we caught up to grab coffee and go for a walk around our local park, we live about 15mins walk from each other, and it was great fun as it usually is. But I felt so much shame and guilt, and felt really compelled to apologise to him but held back. I’ve been ruminating on it since I got home.
My fear is, bringing up old painful memories might create additional unfair and unwarranted stress for him during an already stressful time. He’s clearly moved on and forgiven me in some capacity, since we’re still good friends and regularly catch up. Am I being selfish for wanting to acknowledge the pain I caused and apologise, in part, for my own closure? Should I leave things to avoid re-traumatising him by forcing him to re-live shitty experiences he might rather forget?
I’m hoping others who were diagnosed late might have some insights or advice. I’ve already taken steps to apologise to my family and my partner for past behaviour, but this episode in my life is particularly painful and shameful and I don’t know what the right thing to do is. | 2021-10-03T06:16:18.000Z | q0c45j | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Late diagnosis and needing advice regarding apologising to a friend for past behaviour | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c45j/late_diagnosis_and_needing_advice_regarding/ |
al_da | I was really stuck with my appearance for a long time, I never dyed my hair/got haircuts, I never got tattoos, and any piercings I had I always planned MONTHS ahead to make sure I never did anything impulsive.
For whatever reason in the past 6months I got one tattoo and suddenly I have 3 more, dyed my hair 3 times, got a haircut, shaved my eyebrows at one point, and got a new piercing. Totally unlike me, but I randomly have this urge to constantly change my appearance and do random things so I’m not “bored” with how I look. (Not body image related, I just like impulsively changing how I look).
Any advice on how to stop or at least slow down with the changes? | 2021-10-03T06:14:42.000Z | q0c3f8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Constantly changing my appearance | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c3f8/constantly_changing_my_appearance/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T06:13:45.000Z | q0c2z5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | is it normal to forget someone's talking to you halfway through a conversation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c2z5/is_it_normal_to_forget_someones_talking_to_you/ |
itstacotimeee | 30M. I messaged my doctor about 3 weeks ago to get checked out for ADHD. They gave me a number to call and I haven’t gotten to it yet (lol). Part of me is afraid that I’ll be told “no.” I’ve done my own research on medical websites, spoken to those close to me and I relate so much to the posts on this sub. Still afraid. If I find that I don’t have ADHD, I’ll feel ashamed for mis-diagnosing myself and for being the way that I am with no explanation. Looking for some advice or motivation from those who found themselves in a similar situation. | 2021-10-03T06:09:26.000Z | q0c10g | 10 | 4 | ADHD | Afraid to see a doctor | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0c10g/afraid_to_see_a_doctor/ |
whatthewouldbethat | [removed] | 2021-10-03T06:03:09.000Z | q0by3p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Straterra question | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0by3p/straterra_question/ |
jetpackbluess | So, I am on both Adderall and Effexor, and I stagger when I take them, just so I’m not overloading myself on meds at once. Tonight, like, twenty minutes ago, I realized I had forgotten to take my Effexor because I had instead, decided to nap.
Now, my bedroom is pitch black, so I used my phone to locate my pill planner, and then turned it off, which is where my first critical error was made, because I opened the wrong side of it, and dumped my Adderall into my hand. The feeling of multiple pills in my hand wasn’t a strange one though, as my Effexor dosage is at 220mg, which means that to make that dosage, I have to take three pills.
You see where this is going.
I only realized my mistake after the first pill, because I went to grab the second one (yes, I take my pills one at a time) and I realized that I still had three pills in my hand. Which wouldn’t have been the case had that actually been my Effexor.
The only positives I think in this situation is that it’s been about 15 hours since my last dose of Adderall, so the first one definitely is no longer in my system, and secondly, I’m only on a 30mg dosage of Adderall, so even if there was anything left of the first dose, it won’t push me over the legal limit of it.
In the morning, I will be skipping taking Adderall when I get up to make up for my foolishness tonight and then get back to usual grind on Monday. As for now, going to go find food and then pass out, because Adderall makes me sleepy, because of course it does. | 2021-10-03T06:00:14.000Z | q0bwki | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I am booboo the fool | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bwki/i_am_booboo_the_fool/ |
droptheask | So the other day I went out for dinner with my mother. It was a restaurant where the waiter gives a little explanation before each course, it went well, the food was great.
Afterwards we were talking a little about my somewhat recent ADHD diagnosis and how it explains so much of my childhood. I brought up how I don’t understand the rules of eye contact. For example with the waiter when they gave explanations at dinner. When they made eye contact, all I can think about is
Am I staring?
How long do I hold the eye contact?
How do the break the eye contact?
Is this rude?
And I miss whatever that person is saying most of the time. Like I have no issue making eye contact, but I just don’t naturally understand “societal rules” about eye contact.
Any one else with ADHD relate? Any have tips? | 2021-10-03T05:59:53.000Z | q0bwdj | 8 | 6 | ADHD | Eye Contact? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bwdj/eye_contact/ |
Igatsusestus | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:58:40.000Z | q0bvvb | 5 | 0 | ADHD | Covid vaccine made my head empty (not bad, I guess!) | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bvvb/covid_vaccine_made_my_head_empty_not_bad_i_guess/ |
foooood4thought | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:55:49.000Z | q0buls | 12 | 25 | ADHD | ADHD "checking" behaviour | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0buls/adhd_checking_behaviour/ |
whatever_the_fuck_ | Is there an appropriate thread for those of us in process of getting ourselves and/or children diagnosed?
I'm 43. As I parent my 6 year old researching the symptoms I'm seeing that we both appear to tick most of the boxes. I reached out to a local organisation for help and will talk to our GP also soon. | 2021-10-03T05:52:50.000Z | q0bt6y | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Hi, is there an appropriate thread for those of us in process of getting ourselves and/or children diagnosed? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bt6y/hi_is_there_an_appropriate_thread_for_those_of_us/ |
LannisterZ94 | So I have been working for a company for the past 7 months without a contract or anything official.
They first told me I will go under an evaluation phase for 7 mouths then they will decide if they want me onboard or not, 3 mouths later they said there is a thing with the thing and management wants to finish up with this first and things aren't going as planned.
8 months later, which was last Wednesday they were like hey good news we have your contact now you can sign up and get health insurance, much better pay, sick days...etc , after you pass the evaluation phase.
And my dumbass brain was like oh boy nothing feels wrong about that at all where do I sign.
I haven't realized it till until i everyone I told immediately noticed that's fucked up, now I feel like major jackass. | 2021-10-03T05:47:13.000Z | q0bqkq | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I feel like I need a consultant to help me make big decisions because my brain always freezes and never realize important things until it's too late | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bqkq/i_feel_like_i_need_a_consultant_to_help_me_make/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:43:18.000Z | q0bomz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | pancake lmao | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bomz/pancake_lmao/ |
Mandesss___ |
Loop earplugs are a lifesaver!
I have ADHD while my partner does not. I get overwhelmed when my environment is too loud. I have the dog eating, the cat scratching her post, and my partners tv show WAY too loud. He loves his tv the loudest he can get it, which often led to me lashing out in frustration due to sensory overload. He loves action movies, wrestling ect. These earplugs have been a lifesaver in letting himself and I enjoy the same movie or show! They lessen the sound without me or him having to miss out on anything. Highly recommend! | 2021-10-03T05:36:53.000Z | q0blkn | 2 | 6 | ADHD | Loop earplugs for the win! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0blkn/loop_earplugs_for_the_win/ |
Dollbar | I'm not sure if this is my depression, adhd, or just my personality. Does anyone else have issues with minor inconveniences causes you to just collapse in on yourself. Like "oh I can't print this paper" and suddenly you're in tears and yelling at everything and everyone. Then once you calm down you wonder why the fuck you reacted so strongly to such a minor inconvenience.
I like to say my brain has no brakes, like my brain is a car and bad things are pushing on the gas pedal. With other people there will be something else pushing on the brakes to slow the car down. But with me it's like those breaks just aren't there. There are of course things trying to stop it but because there aren't any brakes there is no way to stop it. So the car just keeps going and going, faster and faster until it runs out of gas and the inconvenience just kinda walks away. | 2021-10-03T05:33:46.000Z | q0bk5m | 4 | 9 | ADHD | Emotional outbursts | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bk5m/emotional_outbursts/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:31:19.000Z | q0bj0s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm desperate | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bj0s/im_desperate/ |
Mandesss___ | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:30:56.000Z | q0bitb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Loop Earplugs | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bitb/loop_earplugs/ |
jastplant | My nights have been filled with the existential dread of wasting youth and fleeting years. I feel as though I'm not doing enough socially because my hobbies and passions make me asocial - drawing, music composition, reading, and also University work. Although these hobbies are lonesome I so desire friendship and connection, but I'm oh so bad at it and I don't know how to put myself out there. Regardless, all of this makes me worry that I'm wasting my time and youth sitting in my apartment alone, bored, and sad - rather than meeting people in college - which is notably the easiest place to meet people. Its really taxing living alone like this and I'm seriously worried about my mental health (not in a life threatening way but a very depressive one). Its difficult to spend time not drawing or not making music because its so lonely. I actually overcompensate with a lot of drawing because i cant stand the vacuum. Leisure immediately results in overwhelming sadness regarding my solitude. People have been asking me "Man you got a handle on drawing fast" and I've just responded with "if only you knew how much time i spend". To explain how i feel here it goes: I feel a visceral rejection that i wouldn't describe as being alone, but rather forsaken and forlorn.
My current coping mechanisms: As i mentioned earlier, definitely drawing and creating my own worlds with my favorite characters helps me escape a little but: Imagination is Escape and Escape, is an Imagination - its only temporary. I binge a lot of music, always. I often phrase this to myself: No story is great without sufficient struggle. Billy Joel has a line in one of his songs that i enjoy which says "soul, its all about joy the comes out of sorrow". Things like this keep me a float.
I know that was a block and sorry for that and also i tend to be a bit melodramatic. But I was wondering if anyone felt like this - that their loneliness was fueling a feeling that they are wasting their youth and further, if they felt that ADHD has had a hand in the game. General thoughts etc are welcome. Thanks ahead of time! | 2021-10-03T05:28:15.000Z | q0bhjg | 2 | 0 | ADHD | The more I think about it the more I realize I'm wasting my youth by being complacent do any of yall with ADHD feel the same / that their ADHD maybe relates to this? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bhjg/the_more_i_think_about_it_the_more_i_realize_im/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:27:59.000Z | q0bhez | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Please Read my story and suggest what I can do... I need help :*( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bhez/please_read_my_story_and_suggest_what_i_can_do_i/ |
Inattentive_Cynthia | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:17:56.000Z | q0bcnu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Imposter Syndrome? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bcnu/imposter_syndrome/ |
AmericanDaydreamer | [removed] | 2021-10-03T05:15:41.000Z | q0bbjs | 7 | 0 | ADHD | ppl who can't have artificial food dye / colors + have adhd? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0bbjs/ppl_who_cant_have_artificial_food_dye_colors_have/ |
t0cahontas | I recently changed my diet drastically, lost a lot of weight, and started cooking for myself again. Now I really want to get in better shape. The problem is I HATE working out. My friends don't want to go to the gym with me so I'm on my own. All the other changes I made were interesting and fun for me, so they were easy. I have no external pressure to get in shape which is usually the motivator for things I don't want to do. So how the do I trick myself into doing it? I keep telling myself I'll get to eat more but that's not working. | 2021-10-03T05:06:58.000Z | q0b735 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | How can I force myself to work out? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0b735/how_can_i_force_myself_to_work_out/ |
AmericanDaydreamer | [removed] | 2021-10-03T04:51:59.000Z | q0azp6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anyone else affected by artificial food dyes? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0azp6/anyone_else_affected_by_artificial_food_dyes/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T04:51:45.000Z | q0azln | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What's your current song obsession? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0azln/whats_your_current_song_obsession/ |
improbsable | So I’ve always had issues with novelty in general. I can find almost any new topic or hobby extremely enjoyable for a very short amount of time, then I’ll drop it completely and move onto a new fixation. It’s very rare that I’ve found things I consistently enjoy. Which is usually ok except when it comes to sex.
No matter what I do in bed, I end up getting bored and dissociating. I’ve tried many different things that seemed exciting at first, but I quickly get bored and just want to get off and be done. I’m definitely not asexual or sex repulsed in any way but I’ve been with many men and none of them have kept my attention longer than a few minutes. I just end up going through the motions long enough to get us both off.
Does anyone else have this problem? How can I overcome this? I’m so tired of it | 2021-10-03T04:33:11.000Z | q0aqg0 | 164 | 524 | ADHD | Getting bored during sex | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0aqg0/getting_bored_during_sex/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T04:30:36.000Z | q0ap54 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Suck with motivation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ap54/suck_with_motivation/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T04:27:24.000Z | q0ankb | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Online school struggles. Any tips? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0ankb/online_school_struggles_any_tips/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T04:26:41.000Z | q0an7c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Caffeine Effects With ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0an7c/caffeine_effects_with_adhd/ |
jblkelso | Hi! I was diagnosed and started medication 3 months ago. Things were great, the medication was working actual miracles and now I’m curious and confused.
I have a lot of stressors come up for me. About 2.5 weeks ago my dose was increased. I take dextroamp 15mg 3 times a day. Sometimes I split it and take smaller doses more often because I had gastric bypass and my digestive system doesn’t absorb medications normally. 45mg a day is definitely the correct dose and I am not going to increase, but for about a week it hasn’t been effective, and I feel depressed.
I’m looking for anecdotes on this. What is your experience with depression and adderall? I used to be very depressed but hadn’t had an issue in years. Right now I’m dealing with a boss with a vendetta, regular customers at my workplace who are starting rumors bc they have decided they don’t like me as much as other bartenders (it’s really only one, but he has influence with my boss too), I’m in an intense portion of my schooling and trying to keep a home clean and safe while being the primary caretaker of my 2 year old.
I can’t tell if my adderall is making me depressed. I have the same level of depression whether or not I take my meds. I can’t tell if my depression, anxiety and dread are making my meds less effective because my brain is focused on fight or flight mode, or if its something else altogether.
I’m not against antidepressants, but in the past that usually made me more depressed and closer to self harm than I’d ever gotten so I sorta swore to myself I wouldn’t take them again so I’d stay safe from myself.
Oh and also losing weight makes you hormonal and I can’t tell if it’s that either.
Any advice? I don’t see my therapist until the end of the month.
Tl;dr which came first, the meds being less effective or the depression? | 2021-10-03T04:21:38.000Z | q0akje | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Depression and adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0akje/depression_and_adderall/ |
patrick9086 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T04:02:38.000Z | q0aagl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Best reminders/ to do list apps?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0aagl/best_reminders_to_do_list_apps/ |
kfmw05 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T04:01:40.000Z | q0a9x6 | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Pharmacy Help from a licensed technician | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0a9x6/pharmacy_help_from_a_licensed_technician/ |
a_wagen | Hey everyone! I just accepted an offer for a new job, and I have to do a drug screen (urine sample) in the next week or so. I recently started methylphenidate (Concerta to be exact), and I’m worried about how this might affect the results of the drug screen. I know that as an amphetamine, Adderall can show up on drug screens; however, I haven’t seen much information about Concerta/Ritalin.
Does methylphenidate usually trigger a positive result? Should I bring up my prescription before/during the drug screen, or should I wait until after the drug screen (to see if there even is a positive result) to disclose this?
I don’t want to lose this job because of my medication, so any advice would be greatly appreciated! | 2021-10-03T03:59:46.000Z | q0a8nq | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Pre-employment drug tests and Ritalin/Concerta? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0a8nq/preemployment_drug_tests_and_ritalinconcerta/ |
CoolArtFromSpace | [removed] | 2021-10-03T03:55:49.000Z | q0a6m6 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Are meds any good? Please give sources | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0a6m6/are_meds_any_good_please_give_sources/ |
alpacaperson | I’ve dealt with general anxiety for most my life, but through therapy have learned to cope with and minimize it. Although I still deal with anxiety, I don’t feel like it’s much worse than the average persons now and I’m feeling the best I ever have. Over the years I’ve also displayed symptoms of ADHD, but always attributed it to just having a bad memory and other things. My mom was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and it made me start to rethink my symptoms. I’ve been seeing a new therapist and mentioned my symptoms to her and asked for her opinion. She told me she couldn’t give me an ADHD diagnosis until I had been on SSRIs for my anxiety for at least a year, then she’d revisit it. I don’t feel my anxiety is bad enough to warrant SSRIs and don’t understand why she won’t consider if I have ADHD or not unless I go on them. My mom also suffers from anxiety far worse than mine and has never taken medicine, but got her diagnosis with no problem. Has anyone else experienced anything like this or would understand why my therapist would feel this way? I’m fairly positive I have ADHD but I don’t want to go on SSRIs as I feel my anxiety doesn’t warrant it. | 2021-10-03T03:50:29.000Z | q0a3uy | 17 | 6 | ADHD | Therapist says I can’t get diagnosed with ADHD because of my anxiety? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0a3uy/therapist_says_i_cant_get_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
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Dreamlove94 | Hello,
I have been medicated before and i had a diagnosis in the past when i was young, although there was not a lot of testing involved before i was given a prescription.
**I am pretty sure i have adhd, but i don't think its the standard kind of adhd that people think of. I think i need to have some kind of brain scan to determine. Please tell me if the description sounds like you.**
I am generally pretty reliable, i am always on time, and i am very good at forcing myself to do something when i need to. I am disciplined.
**My problem is not forcing myself to try and focus, its keeping my brain thinking about the thing that i am "focusing on" and also i tend to make TONS of small and often not so small extraneous errors. When i am at work, i can stay "focused" most of the day.** Its just that when i am "focusing" i tend to lose my train of thought constantly. Common example: not remembering what i was doing a few seconds ago for a few brief moments (not an exxageration).
The other day i was on the phone with this receptionist lady and we had been talking briefly for a few moments about rescheduling an appointment and near the end of the call i literally had to ask her what we were talking about because i had forgotten for a second the info that she told me. (This happens constantly, it would make a person who hasn't been dealing with it for a while go insane)
**It feels like i am in a dream, or i am high. Like i am looking at my life through foggy glass or i am just below the surface of water looking up at the sky and i just can't quite seem to focus my eyes all the way.**
Constant errors are a HUGE issue for me. As far as errors are concerned, here are some examples: (**accidentally writing something i am thinking about in the place where i need to make a note and NOT NOTICING at all**, **calculating incorrectly**, **completely missing something that i shouldn't miss, generally just VERY forgetful. Constantly forgetting things, even very basic things like names**) **sometimes i will realize i forgot something randomly out of the blue MUCH later after i did something, like an epiffany.** For my job sometimes i have to do a little bit of math and i ALWAYS have to do the same calculation MANY times to double check and make sure its right because i get a different answer every single time because i always seem to miss something.
anothertrait i have is that its very hard for me to sit still for long periods of time i get restless., i'm kind of twitchy in that way, i do A LOT of pacing around and talking to myself when i am by myself. i need open pastures to roam around when i am alone. i have freaked out one of my roommates before in college
people are difficult for me too, i think i'm on a different frequency than most people. I think i am a bit intense and passionate compared to a lot of people around me. Sometimes i can tell the way i act is very forward and makes people feel uncomfortable. I often times speak without thinking and people make fun of me for it. Often times i simply lose track of what people are saying to me, especially if i feel stressed. **My colleagues at work make fun of me because it seems to be more difficult for me to act like a professional and also because i tend to speak without thinking sometimes. i ask a lot of questions that are obvious that i could figure out by myself easily but i am impulsive and ask quickly, i am generally disorganized with my workflow and my thoughts, i am getting better at controlling my dimeanor.** Everyone in the office knows i am the odd man out, and it was like that my previous job. It makes me feel pretty stupid, i am adapted to it though, but it still sucks
I am a landscape designer and i do very high end residential projects, every single project has a completely different workflow order. I don't have a set process step 1 step 2 etc. I just can't seem to build any habits like that. Its a complex process but i only know instinctively which things i should tend to focus on first, and which things to focus on later, but i still miss things because its different for me every time. I also get very hung up on details sometimes, it can be very difficult for me to move on from specific tasks sometimes and it causes me to take way too long to do tasks
I graduated with a bachelors in 2019, had a horrible experience with my first job, got fired due partially to covid and partially due to my terrible people skills and mental state, and now with my second job it is better but still really is not going well. My bosses are caring and they see i have problems. They don't want to fire me, they want me to succeed but they sat down with me and told me i am the worst person in the office, i am significantly slower than everyone else and i tend to miss much more things. THe people who i work with are pretty much all my age except my bosses who are in their mid to late 30's. I started at around the same time as another colleague i graduated with, and during the time we have been here it has taken me much longer to get over the initial learning curve
**I am 26 right now and i think the economy is going to take a down turn in the future next year or perhaps a bit later. When that happens i will likely be fired. I may be fired even before that because i haven't kept up with their production standards.**
**From any other adhd's out there, does this sound like you? DO you think i should keep trying to work in the same industry if i get fired? Or would it be a bad move to change industries and do something i am more passionate about, i am really passionate about money and stocks. I am getting to the point now where my career matters and i have to be very cautious about how i approach this problem. What am i supposed to tell potential employers, i literally have a history of failure. (of course i can use covid as an excuse but still its fucked)**
I am not sure how i am going to attract girls if i can't hold a goddamn job. I am very good looking and it is generally easy for me to ask out girls, i am good at being very direct. but i'm not sure how its going to go down with longer relationships. Just another reminder i have been fired from every single job i have had that wasn't physical labor. That includes another job i had when i was in high school. (i have been fired twice,, and i'm in the hot seat now with this new job)
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[deleted] | My rejection sensitive dysphoria is the most prominent part of my adhd. It’s so bad I feel like I lose touch with reality. It’s so strong the corners of my vision get foggy white and I feel like I’m in a completely different realm, the hurt is so strong. I can’t live like this forever. There’s nothing to fix it it seems. There’s no “until”, relief, way of fixing it. I don’t have access to therapy and even if I did, my reactions are usually so bad Id just go straight to the psych ward. I’m so pessimistic. I just want to be normal so badly. Everyone else gets it for free. But I have to be like this forever. | 2021-10-03T03:42:10.000Z | q09zfk | 8 | 10 | ADHD | I wish I knew how to cope | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09zfk/i_wish_i_knew_how_to_cope/ |
anonymausmoosemousse | Saw the thread about most ADHD thing you’ve ever done and I relate to so many things. My therapist said that I don’t have ADHD and it’s just PTSD from childhood trauma.
I’m kind of wondering if I have it though. A few examples that make me rethink is:
-I didn’t realize I turned on gas stove without lighting it first so I was cooking with unlit gas. I just realized because I stepped outside and when I went in I got a whiff of gas. Had to call fire dept (so embarrassing).
-I was a gifted child so people say I can’t have ADHD. But always got told I put no effort in which didn’t make sense. I ended up dropping out of middle school temporarily and high school until put in a special program. It took me 22 years to finish college cause I couldn’t stick with it. Have A’s and F’s depending if I like class or not.
-I’m having trouble with my new job because part of my job is to get directions and tell directions to other people. But I can’t pass it on because half the time I zoned out or forgot.
As I get older my symptoms seem to get worse where now I’m worried I have dementia or something (early 40s). Wondering if anyone can relate? | 2021-10-03T03:35:18.000Z | q09vr6 | 9 | 14 | ADHD | PTSD acts like ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09vr6/ptsd_acts_like_adhd/ |
kiki-smash | [removed] | 2021-10-03T03:33:08.000Z | q09ulj | 24 | 51 | ADHD | I don't words good | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09ulj/i_dont_words_good/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T03:24:22.000Z | q09puk | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Speech problems often only occur when speaking my native language not English | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09puk/speech_problems_often_only_occur_when_speaking_my/ |
GirlGeekers | I'm trying at 23 to learn French and then Spanish as a stupid monolingual American, but it's hard. I feel dumb inferior to bilingual friends and it's hard to reach my goals. I want to learn French, Spanish, Italian, Portuguese, etc one by one but it's starting to be terrible forcing an hour a day since it's difficult to have a schedule in the first place! What can I do to stop big so outdated, stupid, and worthless? | 2021-10-03T03:23:30.000Z | q09pd4 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Im trying to be bilingual but it's hard! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09pd4/im_trying_to_be_bilingual_but_its_hard/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T03:23:17.000Z | q09p8w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meeting a psychiatrist in roughly three weeks. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09p8w/meeting_a_psychiatrist_in_roughly_three_weeks/ |
Unfey | I just really feel like I'm bad at everything. And I'm ashamed of that because people say I'm talented so I should be better than I am-- but I'm not. I keep missing emails. I have 3 primary ones and they're always filling up with stuff and I lose the important messages because I don't even look for them, or think about looking for them, because unless something is up in my face demanding my immediate attention I don't think about it at all.
Some guy my dad was going to hire to help coach me to get into a PhD program messaged me angrily because I didn't respond to his messages for three months. He said I should have been more clear about my intentions if I wasn't serious about getting into a program or working with him. I didn't even want to hire him; I just agreed to it because my dad is trying to throw money at what he thinks my problem is. I don't need a PhD program coach; I know how to apply. I just never think to do it. Even though I want to. And when I do think to do it, I don't.
I have too many inboxes and too many things that I need to check on all the time and I'm always forgetting to check them. I feel like I'm just running around putting out fires, but they keep popping up again.
I'm so unhappy right now where I am in life and if I just applied myself I'd be able to achieve things. I can hear all my teachers from all my schools demanding to know why I don't just apply myself. I don't know. I never knew. I don't understand it. I don't understand why I can't just do things when they're supposed to be done, or think to check on something that isn't immediately in front of me. I only ever remember that I need to call someone or set up an appointment or whatever when it's late at night, usually on a weekend when everything is closed. And by the time it's business hours again I'm busy and I'm not thinking about anything other than what's due for work immediately. I feel like such a shitty person. I feel really pathetic that I can't just fix this stuff about me. I'm supposed to be smart.
It's just making me really upset right now. I'm not really looking for advice-- I know what I want, I know what steps I need to achieve those things; I just never actually do those things even though I desperately, desperately know I need to. But if you've felt the same, and you know this shameful feeling, I guess I'd appreciate some empathy right now. | 2021-10-03T03:21:33.000Z | q09o9p | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I feel really bad right now. I guess I'm hoping somebody else out there knows this feeling & can empathize. | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09o9p/i_feel_really_bad_right_now_i_guess_im_hoping/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T03:19:10.000Z | q09mzi | 21 | 29 | ADHD | I (29F) would always tell myself "Only you think you're behind in life". Well, I saw what my partner (30F) was texting her friend about me. Love it when my fears are confirmed. I am "the definition of useless". | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09mzi/i_29f_would_always_tell_myself_only_you_think/ |
Theoreticalhuman2 | Does anybody else feel like past events are super close? Like past relationships are so close? I have tried to research more about this but studies do not tend to go into time blindness in this way. For example, I tend to feel like relationships I've had with people are just somewhat on pause, I've often jumped back o relationships years after the fact and just assumed like the person was exactly the same, we were just picking back up. I'm not sure if this makes sense, I'm very happly married now but almost feel at though my past relationships just happened even though they could have been 4-10 years ago. | 2021-10-03T03:17:40.000Z | q09m8l | 3 | 8 | ADHD | time blindness with the past | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09m8l/time_blindness_with_the_past/ |
Notquite_Caprogers | [removed] | 2021-10-03T03:16:41.000Z | q09lqd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting an assessment and diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09lqd/getting_an_assessment_and_diagnosis/ |
kaburger94 | Hello! So I’m newly diagnosed (27F) and recently was started on Adderall XR. I have heard that acidic foods/drinks reduce the effects of the drug so I have been avoiding coffee in the morning. I feel slight improvement from the meds (mostly in the energy/motivation I have at the end of my day), but it’s not to the extent I thought I would feel based off of how people say it is with recreational use. The thing is I REALLY enjoy starting my day by making up my morning coffee. Do those of you who are currently on or have been in the past notice anything different effect wise if you have coffee in the AM when you take the med? I can get a gap of atleast 30 mins between when I take it and drink coffee, but it would be nice to not think about it. I would rather have the improvements of being medicated (even as slight as they are) over drinking coffee, but both would be heaven. I would appreciate any advice you guys could give me regarding this and honestly any other tips for taking Adderall XR. Sorry for the wordy/lengthy post, but I too often find myself doubting it’s impact (until I take a couple days off) and I want to know how to help it work optimally! Thanks in advance! | 2021-10-03T03:10:33.000Z | q09ieb | 15 | 2 | ADHD | Coffee on Adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09ieb/coffee_on_adderall/ |
irrelevantanimator | As context I was on Vyvanse throughout middle school and high school. I stopped taking them my senior year im 24 back on meds (strattera) that work way better for me. I've always been kinda quiet but I've been told by so many people I'm actually very social. While I still have very severe social anxiety I've notice that over the years I've become social and I wonder if anyone else experienced this when coming off of adhd stimulant medicine?
I just feel so odd when I tell people I'm not social and they don't understand. | 2021-10-03T03:09:12.000Z | q09hm8 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Social when I'm off meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09hm8/social_when_im_off_meds/ |
Ghosted_Gurl | I was laid off at the beginning of the pandemic. And I was able to get unemployment l, and extended unemployment, for a good long time. Honestly, it was the happiest and least stressed time of my life. I did look for jobs and I got a little remote contracts but that’s it.
Now, my unemployment got cut short. And all the jobs I’ve been applying for are either not responding or rejecting me. I just got a rejection from a company I was *absolutely* qualified to work for, and I’m in shock.
I know there are a lot of remote workers out there now. I know I don’t have an amazing resume because I have gaps in my employment due to ADHD and motherhood.
But I have to get a job. I have to. And I hate it because any job I take will be stressful and I will be bad at it for much longer than someone without ADHD. And that’s embarrassing. I’m so tired of all this. | 2021-10-03T03:09:08.000Z | q09hko | 6 | 2 | ADHD | I need a job and I’m starting to panic | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09hko/i_need_a_job_and_im_starting_to_panic/ |
sleepingbeauty147 | New to meds, so far I have payed $1,136 for 4 months of Vyvanse. I'm not making this post in search of ways to pay less, I'm just curious how much other adhd medications go for in case I can't get my insurance to eventually cover it with a diagnosis.
My Vyvanse is over $400 but with a coupon I've gotten it down to $284 for a 30 day prescription. Does anyone else pay for their own meds? If so can you tell me what the med is and how much it costs you?
I'm also not educated on if the prices vary in different states or not. | 2021-10-03T03:03:30.000Z | q09egl | 12 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for out-of-pocket medication information | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09egl/looking_for_outofpocket_medication_information/ |
ToonKid4 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T03:00:35.000Z | q09cph | 3 | 1 | ADHD | am i getting adhd??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09cph/am_i_getting_adhd/ |
silverdeane | ADHD rabbit holes X1000000
I’m used to the hyper focus,absolute requirement to learn everything I can about topic du jour. But I’m currently fighting myself with 3 different hyper focus and I can’t do them all at the same time 😂 so many tabs open, I had to separate my “research” on my phone, and the others on my iPad
Just in case you’re wondering: the history of the conjuring house (it recently went in the market and I came across an article. Now I must find out everyone that has ever lived in that house), a similar “haunted” house with less fanfare and only interests me because it has a black window, and the Duggars/IBLP. | 2021-10-03T02:58:12.000Z | q09b8m | 1 | 2 | ADHD | You folks will get it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q09b8m/you_folks_will_get_it/ |
ToonKid4 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T02:55:59.000Z | q099zh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | am i getting adhd??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q099zh/am_i_getting_adhd/ |
kippey | For me, it’s date night. I get as much time as I want to decide what to eat and I don’t have to deal with the overwhelm of eating in a crowded restaurant. I like renting new releases on Prime rather than seeing them in theaters because I can move around and fidget or scroll my phone as much as I like without annoying a whole movie theater of people. | 2021-10-03T02:52:29.000Z | q0983f | 9 | 16 | ADHD | What part of post-COVID life is so ADHD-friendly you don’t want to see it change back? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0983f/what_part_of_postcovid_life_is_so_adhdfriendly/ |
Nerscylliac | Yesterday, as I was cleaning the kitchen while my wife and I did a 10 minute clean together, it struck me that the only reason- the *only* reason- I have a full time job, am studying, have just bought a house and haven't moved back in with my parents in 7 years, is Because. Of. Her. She snaps me out of my endless scrolling, she motivates me to get up, she makes me clean with her. She also does all of our banking, keeping track of all of the finances. Suggests we go out and do things with our child.
I understand that I am incredibly lucky to have her, but it's been a long bumpy journey. We've only just in the last few months clocked on to my having ADHD. But with this in mind, my appreciation for this woman just went up tenfold.
Tell the people that are willing to support you in your day to day troubles how much you appreciate them. Make sure that the frustrations they can sometimes feel about how monotonous it must be doesn't go unnoticed, and that you love and appreciate them every time they put up with your shenanigans.
You never know, they may not fully understand how much you appreciate them, it might just make their day! 🫂🫂💗 | 2021-10-03T02:46:45.000Z | q094wn | 8 | 59 | ADHD | To those of you who have a wife/partner/roommate/friend/etc who supports you - Tell them how much you appreciate them! | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q094wn/to_those_of_you_who_have_a/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T02:32:33.000Z | q08x5l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD vs Autism | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08x5l/adhd_vs_autism/ |
Yeetyeetyote2468 | Hi everyone I am a 23f and I have combo type adhd. It was a hard day today because i was feeling down about having trouble staying in contact with friends when I am not seeing them everyday. I don’t have a problem making friends, but it’s very challenging for me to maintain those friendships when we are not in situations together.
I think it’s an out of site out of mind situation where I tend to forgot people if I don’t constantly see them.
This was making me feel bad today because the world is not set up for this. I feel like I cannot make solid and deep Long term friendships.
Mostly here I am looking for sympathy or also strategies others use | 2021-10-03T02:30:13.000Z | q08vtn | 50 | 127 | ADHD | Limited friends? But not really? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08vtn/limited_friends_but_not_really/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T02:19:32.000Z | q08pv1 | 51 | 200 | ADHD | I hate that I’m judged for getting medicated | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08pv1/i_hate_that_im_judged_for_getting_medicated/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T02:18:56.000Z | q08pjc | 18 | 55 | ADHD | Do you ever feel "fear" about an activity you need to start? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08pjc/do_you_ever_feel_fear_about_an_activity_you_need/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T02:14:54.000Z | q08nby | 3 | 6 | ADHD | I hate myself for doing nothing and wasting my time. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08nby/i_hate_myself_for_doing_nothing_and_wasting_my/ |
summer-breeze- | So I am on 10mg xr adderall. I use to pick my skin compulsively before starting stimulants.
While my meds are in full effect all the picking stops. When they wear off I get a little anxious and maybe just more aware? So I start picking my skin again.
Any tips on stopping the picking? Does this mean I need to up my dose soon or should I work on it with a therapist or both? My face was starting to clear up and Im upset about this lol | 2021-10-03T02:01:37.000Z | q08flr | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Skin picking after my adderall wears off | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08flr/skin_picking_after_my_adderall_wears_off/ |
anas0001 | Hey, so I have been feeling that I may have ADHD as I have most of the symptoms and I think that I have wasted most of my life because of focus issues and losing interest in every single thing really fast.
I recently moved to UK and got in touch with NHS regarding this but got an appointment after a year’s date. I don’t want to wait that long so I have been looking at private options. The issue with private options is that I am not sure which one is good and prices are extremely high ranging at £400-£1500 just for the assessment. I am a student and I certainly cannot afford that. Could anyone here please recommend me a good practice in UK that will not cost me my kidneys just for a diagnosis. Thanks, | 2021-10-03T01:52:51.000Z | q08a7l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Needing suggestions regarding private medical options | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q08a7l/needing_suggestions_regarding_private_medical/ |
Mundane-Mammoth-3358 | I'm going to look into some therapy for some self care and cognitive therapy. I want to be done with meds for good and I'm ready for the next step in my life. Meds are preventing me from growing as a person and it's just time to be the best version of myself. People with ADHD is a lifelong challenge day in and day out. I'm a 37 year old married male with a beautiful 2 1/2 year old daughter and another child on the way. Got a house 1 year to the day and life is going good. I don't base myself off what I got in life by any means but I base myself off my mental stability and as a person. I've been through ALOT and honestly I'm lucky to be able to realize mentally that stuff can get really bad in life and there is always something worth living for. People with adhd have it 100x worse thinking stuff through and the lack of dopamine makes it worse. Meds (vyvanse, adderall) have gotten me through tough times and have cleared my way as in keeping me stable throughout my life from age 21 until now (on and off). I'm at the point now where I Definitely want to be in therapy and with the intent that I know longer want to be on meds. That is my goal and it's a humbling feeling. I don't feel growth in my life and I'm tired of feeling that fake dopamine and fake success dealing with problems. I know everything about meds and adhd and my kid deserves the DAD that is a strong person without the crutch of a pill. I can go without meds and do well but I always go back. I don't want that high feeling anymore or anything related to putting my mind somewhere else besides exercise and natural dopamine. It's not me anymore and it's not healthy for long term. Just wanted to vent and if anybody out there can relate or have any input let me know. Thanks for listening. | 2021-10-03T01:50:36.000Z | q088wk | 16 | 2 | ADHD | I don't want to be on meds anymore | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q088wk/i_dont_want_to_be_on_meds_anymore/ |
Diablet323 | I don't want to be on both. Honestly, I'm not against medication but I don't feel safe taking these two medications at the same time.
I feel very on edge on Elvanse...I'm not sure it's working. Do I just cut it and go back onto anti depressants? I've had a nasty cold for a week and I just haven't had the energy to take my elvanse medication because of the on edge feeling it gives me. I'm going to start taking it again tomorrow morning.
I know citalopram worked for me for 3 months and then it stopped working. That's when I went back and got diagnosed with ADHD and they thought the best thing for me was elvanse...its not. I'm severely depressed I've been in a rut for weeks on end.
I really don't like this on edge feeling elvanse gives me...I haven't even given it the full 6 weeks. I've been self harming a lot. I was on it for 3 and a half weeks until I got this nasty cold and had to take a week out. So now I'm debating do I give it another 3 weeks?
Or do I just give up with this whole ADHD thing together. It's annoying me that I've been diagnosed with something that has just confused tf out of me.
First I'm told elvanse will really help with anxiety and depression and now I'm getting told I need to go on anti depressants with adhd medication it just seems too much for me. Sorry to be venting I'm just so annoyed and everything at the moment. | 2021-10-03T01:46:51.000Z | q086qt | 8 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD medication or Anti depressants? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q086qt/adhd_medication_or_anti_depressants/ |
Fantastic-Abalone802 | Hi, I just started adderall around a week ago. Suddenly yesterday and today around maybe 4-6pm I get INSANELY tired. Like I can not stay awake as if I’ve been up for days. Typically I’m rarely tired, have insomnia, and can easily stay up all night. I have 2 kids so I can’t crash and sleep at 4-6pm. I’m on 10mg to start low due to breastfeeding seeing how my child reacts sleep wise. I don’t have a lot of choices in changing prescriptions due to this as well. I need the crashing to stop… | 2021-10-03T01:44:00.000Z | q0856m | 21 | 7 | ADHD | Adderall making me tired | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0856m/adderall_making_me_tired/ |
csandy1 | Like many others on this sub, I had some crappy spirals in college (not do assignment-->avoid class-->don't talk to professor--> start failing-->avoid that-->really start failing)--I barely got my degree, and with a combination of covid social isolation and stress my transcript gets worse as time goes on. I'm not including my gpa on job applications because it's not great (2.9). But my question has to do with folks who applied to jobs asking for transcripts.
Context aside, is it just not worth it to apply to a job with a transcript with a bunch of fails for recent courses? I'm feeling really discouraged by the job application process--the academic problems and spirals I intentionally avoided towards the end feel a ton more salient.
TL;DR: fucked up college but got a degree, what did you do to get a good job/a job you liked afterwards if you went through the same thing? | 2021-10-03T01:37:16.000Z | q081eg | 3 | 1 | ADHD | niche job app questions re: transcript | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q081eg/niche_job_app_questions_re_transcript/ |
Gloomy_Fig9392 | First of all, I have no friends. Ppl seem to dislike me a lot...
Second, my grades are shit. I can't focus. I can't even do anything I like. There's this deep fear in me that once I use up my mental energy for something I won't be able to do anything else.
What can I do to make friends, and get better grades? I feel so hopeless. It just doesn't seem to get better. I want to have a successful career, not even that...just a decent job, and at least a few ppl I can call friends. | 2021-10-03T01:37:01.000Z | q0818b | 4 | 4 | ADHD | What can I do to make my university life better? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q0818b/what_can_i_do_to_make_my_university_life_better/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T01:36:28.000Z | q080xo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Brain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q080xo/adhd_brain/ |
QueenPuddingThe2nd | TLDR: Help me brainstorm a cheap/creative way to monitor my leg movement at night
Like many ADHDers, I have restless leg syndrome. My doctor started me on a medication that appears to be helping (my husband complains less) but it’s hard to know how much I’m still moving at night.
I’m supposed to increase the dosage myself until the RLS stops. My sleep quality has definitely improved already but maybe it could be even better!
Has anyone here had success monitoring their own RLS? I wonder if a cheap pedometer on my ankle would do the trick? Or maybe I could put my iPhone in my sock and use an app? 🤔 | 2021-10-03T01:32:52.000Z | q07yrt | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Ideas to self-monitor RLS? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07yrt/ideas_to_selfmonitor_rls/ |
sam_tics | hi so, its 9:29 at night and I am genuinely happy because I just got up and am cleaning my hamster cages after about 3-4 weeks. I normally don’t ever take this long to clean them but I’ve been awfully unmotivated and I’ve been beating myself up over it but I have a bunch of energy and I’m super happy. I’m going to switch out the toys and houses and they're gonna love it. I wanna use this cute Halloween bedding too but I gotta use up my other bedding first ugh | 2021-10-03T01:32:20.000Z | q07yi8 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | kind of happy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07yi8/kind_of_happy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T01:31:55.000Z | q07y9u | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Brain… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07y9u/adhd_brain/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T01:31:13.000Z | q07xum | 8 | 7 | ADHD | First-person rant: I hate myself. i wish i were normal, life would be easier. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07xum/firstperson_rant_i_hate_myself_i_wish_i_were/ |
Ok_Pangolin9024 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T01:28:43.000Z | q07wbo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | EARWORM TIME 🪱🪱🪱 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07wbo/earworm_time/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T01:24:47.000Z | q07u6p | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Doctor taking me off ADHD meds (Concerta) after three months of no improvement. I don’t know what to do now | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07u6p/doctor_taking_me_off_adhd_meds_concerta_after/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T01:24:04.000Z | q07trm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | does anyone have this,if u do help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07trm/does_anyone_have_thisif_u_do_help/ |
Eidrianator | I feel like I have to take this off my chest. I wake up everyday feeling dreadful (I have ADD btw). I started college interested in psychology but ended up interested in psychiatry but wasn’t interested in medicine that much. I’ve changed my career goals just because I feel like it’s too hard. I wanted to become a psychiatrist and it was a dream I had in college but it’s just to much competition, too much studying, too much years and too much debt. Right now I’m studying to become a med lab scientist and I have a crisis every week because it’s not what I really want. I have to study for a test I have for Thursday which consists of 10 chapters and nothing stays in my head.
It’s also so hard to pay attention to stuff I’m not interested like these types of hard sciences.
I know I’m smart, in fact many people have told me I am. I feel like I can’t be successful like I thought I could be. I’m just too scatter minded and disorganized. I want to be successful somehow but everything feels so hard compared to other people, it makes me feel crazy.
Sorry for the rant, I just had to get it off my chest. Feel free to comment anything you guys have in mind, this sub has really helped me feeling comfortable being who I am. | 2021-10-03T01:23:13.000Z | q07tb2 | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Feeling like life is harder for people with add/adhd. | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07tb2/feeling_like_life_is_harder_for_people_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T01:23:06.000Z | q07t8r | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Cleaning and cleaning and cleaning | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07t8r/cleaning_and_cleaning_and_cleaning/ |
AlonelyFroggo | [removed] | 2021-10-03T01:17:03.000Z | q07pwd | 13 | 8 | ADHD | How to keep persisting when you have nothing to live for? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07pwd/how_to_keep_persisting_when_you_have_nothing_to/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T01:01:39.000Z | q07h7z | 1 | 2 | ADHD | NP has not given me a Vyvanse refill in 3 days… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07h7z/np_has_not_given_me_a_vyvanse_refill_in_3_days/ |
dysfunctionalEMT | [removed] | 2021-10-03T00:59:40.000Z | q07fxu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have a bad habit of just like blurting out super personal details about their life and make people feel weird and you just can’t stop talking? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07fxu/anyone_have_a_bad_habit_of_just_like_blurting_out/ |
AstroidSeenByDinos | [removed] | 2021-10-03T00:54:30.000Z | q07d3b | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I feel like my Ritalin doesn't work anymore, what should I do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q07d3b/i_feel_like_my_ritalin_doesnt_work_anymore_what/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T00:44:33.000Z | q077fy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need concise information or else my brain goes crazy... (Decision paralysis) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q077fy/i_need_concise_information_or_else_my_brain_goes/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T00:37:50.000Z | q073mn | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling absolutely lost and don’t know what to do (medication and anxiety) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q073mn/feeling_absolutely_lost_and_dont_know_what_to_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-03T00:23:16.000Z | q06uzh | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling down for 8 days straight how I break this cycle? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06uzh/feeling_down_for_8_days_straight_how_i_break_this/ |
tatsumut | So when school started it was like a big change for me (I don't adapt well) so at first I did take my meds for I felt like shit because of the side effects so I simply stopped taking them and I was happy for a month or so but of course not paying attention, turning assignments later, not participating in class, but now my grades are coming in and I'm falling almost every class expect 2 of them (which one of them I also failed but the teacher gave me the points to pass) and it feels worse cuz' I know this one's on me for not taking my meds | 2021-10-03T00:22:00.000Z | q06u9a | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Stopped taking my meds and fucked my school grades | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06u9a/stopped_taking_my_meds_and_fucked_my_school_grades/ |
AphonicGod | Hi, i put "(possible) ADHD" because im Autistic but i have alot of symptoms that overlap, so ive been considering the possibility alot. i feel like this community may help.
I'm in college, my classes are online and accelrated. this means instead of 16-wk classes i have two 8-wk blocks. Currently i have three classes and im only passing one of them.
i already work almost 50 hrs/wk (mandatory, unavoidable, this is the best job ive had in a year so i dont want to leave.) and my school work takes up all of my time. but i have so many missing assignments and no matter how determined i feel to come home and do my work its like my brain doesnt let me. i sit down with a textbook, read 2 pages, and then zone out for 35 mins thinking about other things, rinse and repeat for videos, discussion questions, etc etc. I push assignments off until the weekend because im not done with the chapter and then im rushing to get anything done, which also means i dont leave myself time to ask questions on assignments.
i just....dont know what to do. i feel so stupid but i understand my material perfectly and i do actually like the format of my classes. i know that i could get this done if my stupid broken brain would let me focus on something for longer than 20 mineuts. I just want to be able to sit and do my work like a normal fucking adult, instead i spend 7 hours after work just sitting at my desk doing fuck all and evey week i say "this'll get better, i can fix this" and then nothing gets better and i just, feel lost i guess. im so so frustrated.
i guess this is partially a rant post, im sorry about that, but i am genuinely seeking advice. | 2021-10-03T00:13:44.000Z | q06pc4 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | My (possible) ADHD makes me feel like a failure, even though i know how capable i am. i dont know what to do. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06pc4/my_possible_adhd_makes_me_feel_like_a_failure/ |
idunno324 | [removed] | 2021-10-03T00:13:10.000Z | q06ozl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Food? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06ozl/adhd_and_food/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T00:11:57.000Z | q06oa8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Diet | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06oa8/adhd_and_diet/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-03T00:10:49.000Z | q06nky | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Bad Diet? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06nky/adhd_and_bad_diet/ |
ThrowawayTardis40 |
I don’t know what subreddit this is appropriate for. It’s ridiculously long and I doubt anyone will make it to the end. It’s not exactly an ADHD-friendly post and I apologize for that.
I don’t even know what kind of support I’m looking for.
ETA: actually, what I need is a way to restore my belief that I’m capable of following even the simplest of plans. No pressure, Reader.
But I know I’m tired of lying.
I’m so tired of lying.
I am so tired of myself and my brain.
Shame is choking me all day long.
It started with information being communicated in an inexplicable fashion on several different channels.
***TL;DR:*** *I’m five weeks behind in my college course. I’m stuck. I feel awful. I know what I need to do but I’m terrified I won’t be able to.*
I’m back in college after having to leave my job as management consultant due to burnout. I was on medical leave for a year and went back to college a year ago. I also have ADHD and some rotten luck.
The semester started a month ago. The exam is in 1.5 week and I’ve done practically nothing, not even going to class.
It’s a combination of fighting family members, very sick parents and worry for a grandmother… and the ADHD. And the depression. And remote learning removing external support structures. And plain old laziness.
Ironically, I have a BSc and two MSc already so I know I’m capable.
I just got stuck, like I always do.
This time it was because of innovative professors.
They decided to use a variety of different online tools to promote cooperation - great!
But it ended up being enormously confusing. The picture (in Swedish) is of the weekly plan for the first week of the class. https://imgur.com/a/9WueWej
The reading would be published and linked on the “whiteboard” but the weekly assignment would be posted (without @everyone) on Slack and include several other articles.
Lectures were both live and recorded and hidden away someplace and the PowerPoint would be in a completely different spot.
The textbook was accessed online and just reading it required several different accounts and printing it even more steps.
And I just froze. I couldn’t get an overview of what I was supposed to do and that combined with my mood just became this enormous hurdle.
I felt I needed to know everything I needed to do but gathering all the information and turning it into something understandable just became impossible. (In my mind.) I knew that. I
I finally got myself to go through it but the first two weeks made me cry, it was that complicated.
I mean, objectively it isn’t complicated. It’s time-consuming, confusing and takes forever but it’s certainly doable.
But my brain just shut down. I was seriously considering whether I could pay someone to do it for me and help me make a plan.
So I still don’t know the exact scope of what I need to do but as you undoubtedly understand, it’s a lot, four-ish weeks of material.
The material is also rather dense and technical , and the seminars and tutoring sessions I didn’t attend will probably be my downfall.
I will probably fail the exam because of it.
I’m trying to focus on what lies ahead.
The exam is due in two weeks. I haven’t even been able to finish my overview of everything I should’ve read and watched by now.
The material is difficult enough that I will have a very hard time catching up.
I’ve only been able to think of one possible course of action.
Erasing the exam from my mind and simply start at the beginning. I will need to know the material and it’s unlikely I’ll be able to catch up, so I’ll have to aim for the re-take exam. If the Powers to Be are good, I might be able to do it despite missing lectures and seminars.
I’m trying to be as realistic as I can.
But I’m so shattered and so ashamed and so worried about my future. I hate myself for sabotaging things for myself.
I’m really really struggling to not wallow in unproductive self-pity but it’s hard.
I can’t tell anyone about this. This has happened so many times before but I’m too ashamed to talk about it.
The further behind I fall, the more I stop doing things because I combine procrastination, guilt and a pig headed optimism saying I can catch up. Until I can’t catch up and here we are.
And the guilt and shame causes me to withdraw from everything. Here’s where the lying comes in.
Pretending everything’s fine is so tiring. I hate that I have to lie and I avoid talking to people because of it.
I’m very sensitive so all the stuff with my family upsets me a lot and steals even more executive functioning.
(I have good doctors and am on medications as well as waiting for therapy to help me figure out how to reduce the effect the various crises and catastrophes that seem to occur with unpleasant regularity.)
Asking for help is not my strong suit. I suffer in silence until I break.
But the thing is… no one can do this for me. No one can read the books for me.
There are very few anti-procrastination methods I haven’t tried, and quite a few I know work if only I can bring myself to use them.
I should start reading the first chapter of the book, but the Mountain of Complete Information Chaos - not having an overview of the entire course - just paralyzes me.
There’s also the Ogre of Note-taking Methods: should I take notes by hand (which makes it easier for me to remember), on my iPad or on my computer (faster but cumbersome). It sounds ridiculous but it just makes me freeze. Logically, I’m at a point where I simply need to read, period, and skip note-taking.
I feel so lonely and ashamed.
I want this degree. The class is extremely interesting and I hate that I’m wasting this opportunity. I hate that I know exactly what I’m doing and still can’t prevent it from happening.
I know I need to stop focusing on the big picture and just focus on the next five minutes and the next page. Ignore yesterday and ignore tomorrow.
I don’t know what I’m looking for by posting this. None of you can read the books and watch the lectures for me.
I’m terrified I will never get better, that I will be stuck in procrastination-burnout cycle for the rest of my life.
I just wanted to not lie to someone for once.
If you’ve made it this far… thank you.
https://imgur.com/a/9WueWej | 2021-10-03T00:02:43.000Z | q06im5 | 10 | 13 | ADHD | I’m tired of lying. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06im5/im_tired_of_lying/ |
NojoNinja | I don’t know exactly if I have ADHD. I definitely had some form of ADHD when I was younger, but it was found to be linked to a color allergy or something that went away as I got older.
With that aside, every single time I read something for school or just in general, me reading is not what’s on my mind, what’s on my mind is like a past memory of me doing something or me thinking about what I’m gonna do throughout the day. It constantly happens, 24/7, me reading, me talking to someone, ex. Idk if it’s ADHD but I just can’t focus even if I catch myself daydreaming or whatever, I just forget I’m supposed to be focusing 5 seconds later. I regularly have to read a page of a history book or science book over and over and over just to be able to focus and retain the information. Is this ADHD or am I just a severe daydreamer? And is there any way to stop getting so distracted? Even if I have ADHD I don’t see a huge point in getting diagnosed as a diagnosis won’t suddenly fix anything. | 2021-10-03T00:00:13.000Z | q06gum | 3 | 0 | ADHD | How do I focus?? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q06gum/how_do_i_focus/ |
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