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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T03:54:33.000Z | rc90gz | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Symptoms worse after being out of school/unemployed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc90gz/symptoms_worse_after_being_out_of_schoolunemployed/ |
Affectionate_Rest209 | So I just started taking Vyvanse today (30mg) and I didn’t feel anything. My doctor told me I would notice it almost immediately so I was excited at the hopes of combating my ADHD for the first time in my life. But I worry that it’s not working. I’m at a low dose which can be increased, but I’m wondering if maybe it takes a while to kick in? I legit didn’t even notice I had taken it. | 2021-12-09T03:54:10.000Z | rc9086 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Vyvanse effect timeline | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc9086/vyvanse_effect_timeline/ |
Dangerous-Teacher-55 | [removed] | 2021-12-09T03:52:50.000Z | rc8zev | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just got diagnosed! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8zev/just_got_diagnosed/ |
Affectionate_Rest209 | [removed] | 2021-12-09T03:50:07.000Z | rc8xmb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse feelings | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8xmb/vyvanse_feelings/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T03:46:48.000Z | rc8vgz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to balance multiple classes in college? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8vgz/how_to_balance_multiple_classes_in_college/ |
delusionalxx | I definitely need advice. I love giving gifts it’s one of my favorite things to do! However it’s easiest for me to just do it spontaneously several times throughout a year to appreciate loved ones. The issue is at Christmas time when it’s a deadline I get so overwhelmed. it’s like my brain can’t organize all of the different gifts I must come up with and give to people. I try writing lists but even once I have that figured out I struggle being able to order or buy them or make a handmade gift. I’m trying to use a friend as a body double soon but I’m afraid even with lists I’ll still struggle. Shopping is very difficult and it feels like a wall of procrastination and anxiety is blocking me from ordering/crafting. I’m unsure how to work around this issue and my meds aren’t helping. | 2021-12-09T03:43:17.000Z | rc8t80 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Christmas Gift Procrastination | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8t80/christmas_gift_procrastination/ |
greysoul197 | I have always had slow processing speed. If someone says something it takes me a minute to process what they said or I have ask them to repeat themselves. Sometimes I will just nod and say yes even though I didn’t understand what they said. I try combating the issue by mouth reading, but it isn’t a full proof solution. I also have communication issues. I have difficulty stringing a thought together and speaking in front of a class.
I was a shy and reserved kid. Always worked hard but my processing speed was always slower. I constantly felt there was something wrong with me. Always in my head. Never liked reading books because I couldn’t process what I was reading.
I constantly feel dumb and not like everyone else who has adhd. I have noticed the people with hyperactive adhd are usually intelligent. I see posts of people talking about how they have adhd and are intelligent but they never had that structure to prosper. It’s hard not to feel stupid and insecure about myself.
Does anyone experience this?
I was diagnosed with inattentive adhd. | 2021-12-09T03:34:27.000Z | rc8ni0 | 6 | 8 | ADHD | Slow cognitive tempo and adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8ni0/slow_cognitive_tempo_and_adhd/ |
Ok-Boot2360 | TLDR at end of post. It’s late and I’m impulsively over sharing, so I might delete this in the morning.
Hello! I (18 f) have been trying to get assessed for ADHD for a while now. In October I had a general physical exam with my pediatrician (I was still 17), where my mom brought up “concerns with focus” to hint at ADHD, as she was worried that if we went in specifically to be assessed we would be charged more and/or insurance would not cover it. After a brief discussion, we were given two small diagnostic packets, one for my teachers (we had to make copies ourselves and they were labeled “ADD assessment sheet”, so not particularly assuring) and one for my parents. I was not asked any questions, given a diagnostic sheet to fill out myself, or asked about my (adhd prominent) family history. Long story short, the packets were made for elementary school students grades preschool to 3rd grade and given to High school teachers that had known me for 3 months, and I was denied further assessment based solely on their responses, which even despite not knowing me well still noted a lot of my difficulties in class.
I have been pushing for my parents to take me to my dad’s GP or try to find a psychiatrist, but they’re worried that because I have already had a physical exam this year, insurance will not cover it until far in the future. I am mot sure if “far in the future” means January or quite literally a year from now.
Would it be worth messaging my counselor about it? My school is very large, over 3,000 students, and I’m not sure if high schools can even do ADHD assessments like elementary or middle schools may. My symptoms greatly impact my school and home life, and I would really like to be properly assessed before I go to college, even if it turns out I definitely do not have it. I am fully aware that they likely would not be able to treat me, and especially not medicate me, but it might be a good first step.
TLDR: had a botched pre-assessment and pediatrician will not assess me further, and there are money concerns with pursuing assessment from dad’s doctor. Should I go to my high school counselor for possible assessment? | 2021-12-09T03:31:51.000Z | rc8lud | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Is it worth talking to High school counselor about assessment? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8lud/is_it_worth_talking_to_high_school_counselor/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T03:27:58.000Z | rc8j72 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Umm.. I was supposed to drop out of uni this week but I forgot to re-fill my meds, ran out of them and got obsessed with a few new things instead :)) I also messed up my inner clock.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8j72/umm_i_was_supposed_to_drop_out_of_uni_this_week/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T03:26:18.000Z | rc8i4m | 2 | 1 | ADHD | hyperfixation causing feelings of depression | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8i4m/hyperfixation_causing_feelings_of_depression/ |
tree_fitty513 | I want to see if other have the same experience. I have these periods where I feel really good - I can focus for most of the day (at what I like to think is a normal level) and am just generally happy about life and am excited about the future. Then, for seemingly no reason, I go into a mini depression, where doing literally anything productive is painful. Even things that I am “consciously” interested in give me no joy (like a show I know I’m interested in conceptually but have no emotion towards at the moment). I have no motivation to do anything, and nothing at al makes me happy.
I’ve been trying to identify what might cause this, but I can’t come up with a reason for these switches. Does anybody else have this, and if so, have you identified what might be causing this for you? | 2021-12-09T03:23:38.000Z | rc8gfk | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Motivation Highs and Lows | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8gfk/motivation_highs_and_lows/ |
no2K7 | My city's power went out 2 hours ago right, and the night looked so perfect that I came up to the roof top just to gaze a little lol
After the realization if what happened - And for about an hour, literally no inner voice. At all, just perfect quietness. Even the noise of a couple if cars passing by, was all filtered out. Then the second the light come back on, I noticed my inner.
On a side note, I'm mentioning it cause since I was a kid I've always preferred low light, or no lights in every setting possible makes me the most comfortable. | 2021-12-09T03:23:37.000Z | rc8gf5 | 5 | 7 | ADHD | Light sensitivity? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8gf5/light_sensitivity/ |
tarotharo | I just realised my ADHD probably in part is why for pretty much my whole life i've been a 'super fan' of certain musicians, by this i mean *very* obsessed. Spending hundreds on merch, watching every interview and listening to the same songs on repeat for months and then the obsession fading into another artist or creator.
I can sing word for word the entire discography of Paramore but i can't remember what i ate for dinner last night. I have an entire catalogue of songs in my head from these fixations. | 2021-12-09T03:22:52.000Z | rc8fyy | 2 | 12 | ADHD | Getting obsessed with certain musicians/creators then forgetting about them? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8fyy/getting_obsessed_with_certain_musicianscreators/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T03:18:44.000Z | rc8ddf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | hyperfixation causing depression | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8ddf/hyperfixation_causing_depression/ |
Kachana | My psychiatrist keeps stressing how I need to get to sleep before 12pm to get the optimal hormonal times for the sleep cycle or something.
I’ve rarely been asleep before 1 am for years. Biggest problem seems to be I don’t feel sleepy at night, and even if I do, I lay there feeling bored and itching to google some random question that came into my head or do something more interesting.
What has helped you guys if anyone has tried to improve their sleep schedule?
I’ve tried putting my phone away an hour before bed, but then I can’t think of anything to do and I just feel so bored and restless (stimulation craving). I can’t really read because I get so stuck in the books that I’ll just keep reading half the night.
I feel like this battle to get to sleep on time is just feeling really stressful. | 2021-12-09T03:18:10.000Z | rc8d0y | 13 | 9 | ADHD | What are your tips for not staying up too late? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8d0y/what_are_your_tips_for_not_staying_up_too_late/ |
guads4 | Hey y'all,
I was diagnosed recently with ADHD, and I realized that whenever my mom vents to me about school or work (she's getting a master's in social work and working full time) i get really anxious and feel guilty. I realized just now as I'm writing this that it happens when she's telling me about problems shes having now that I had in undergrad such as feeling like you're working all day and still not getting anything done, and being behind on paperwork. So probably I'm attaching my own insecurities to what she's saying bc #emotional dysregulation, and I'll have to work this out thru therapy. Idk how do y'all cope when you're feeling anxious/guilty for dumb reasons? | 2021-12-09T03:16:12.000Z | rc8bqv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | When my mom vents to me I feel anxious and guilty for no reason | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc8bqv/when_my_mom_vents_to_me_i_feel_anxious_and_guilty/ |
brownsniffer | There should be tldr software that converts my long text ramblings to something more concise & structured. For someone who wasn't good at school, when I try to explain things through text I can branch out and almost push out a mini novel. By the end of my typing I'm surprised how much is the structure & repetition | 2021-12-09T03:08:46.000Z | rc86rd | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Thought of the day. Tldr | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc86rd/thought_of_the_day_tldr/ |
Kanttouchthis123 | I've been constantly fucking up at work recently and I can tell people are losing their patience. I try my best but I'm always overlooking things, making stupid mistakes, etc. I feel really ashamed of my performance. I haven't been taking my adderall because I wanted to manage without medication but I definitely need it now. I can't refill until my doctor comes back from vacation so I'm just going through the next few days unmedicated and on edge. Just needed to vent. | 2021-12-09T03:04:35.000Z | rc83x9 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | I'm worried about getting fired | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc83x9/im_worried_about_getting_fired/ |
Between_three_twenty | [removed] | 2021-12-09T03:00:06.000Z | rc80ks | 18 | 4 | ADHD | Are adhd attacks a thing, if not what's happening to me? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc80ks/are_adhd_attacks_a_thing_if_not_whats_happening/ |
xxCandy_floofxx | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:55:43.000Z | rc7xoq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Would you rather ADHD edition: | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7xoq/would_you_rather_adhd_edition/ |
pruieprui | I am currently 20F and am a college drop out. I got diagnosed with ADHD 5/6 months ago and honestly, my diagnosis pissed me off so bad. I’m not mad that I have ADHD, i’m mad because I am smart and still failed all through school years and no one ever fucking noticed except my mom, who no one listened to either. I distinctly remember being in 2nd grade and being moved to an island in the middle of my classmates whos desks were made into a circle. All because I was too talkative. As an 8 year old girl who was just trying to have fun, I was humiliated. I seriously can’t believe my teacher punished an 8 year old for talking to much by putting them in the center of everyone. This continued all through elementary, middle school and high school. So many teachers hated me because I talked “too much”. Did they ever consider their class was boring and staring at a chalkboard all day long while someone talks is not interesting and is not optimal for a growing child to learn?
Here’s another great story of when I was 15 and tried to get help. I did all the testing through my school. At the end of the testing, the guidance counselor (i kid you not) says to me “you are too smart to have anything wrong with you” as if people who have disabilities cannot be smart? People i know who have autism or ADHD are some of the smartest people I have ever met. Like, seriously dude. I’m failing all of my classes, but you see that I am in fact smart. How is that not a cause for concern?
I seriously to this day cannot believe this was said to me.
Come now, i’m relatively freshly diagnosed, it all is just so appalling to me. It makes me so mad that all of those years I could have known what was going on and I could have gotten help but my school disregarded it.
I seriously just needed to get this off my chest. Something needs to be done regarding the lack of care for disabilities in the public school system. Its fucking ridiculous. Apologies for the rant and feel free to share your system failed you stories so I know its not just me. | 2021-12-09T02:54:08.000Z | rc7wnv | 7 | 24 | ADHD | Rant about how the school system failed me. | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7wnv/rant_about_how_the_school_system_failed_me/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:53:55.000Z | rc7wj4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Thought of the day. Tldr | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7wj4/thought_of_the_day_tldr/ |
ohnoimreal | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:51:32.000Z | rc7v0d | 6 | 48 | ADHD | Okay this one might sound insane…but sometimes, doing the things that I need to do is literally physically painful. As in, I feel pain. | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7v0d/okay_this_one_might_sound_insanebut_sometimes/ |
LucilferKurta | TL;DR: I took Vyvanse today and it didn't help me concentrate or anything that normally it "should" do, nor it made me agitated even though I always had anxiety, instead it made me feel calm, peaceful, but demotivated, depressed and I couldn't even gather energy to study what I study every day nor concentrate on it, and I didn't find anyone that had a similar experience, did someone here had or know someone who had something like this? (Even though I know these things can vary from person to person, what I felt today seemed completely atypical.)
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Edit: It was a 50mg pill.
Hi, first, I'm sorry about doing this post here, I couldn't think of any community that could answer my question, my girlfriend takes Vyvanse and it helps her a lot, I used to go to the same psychiatrist that she does, on my first consult he felt that treatment with duloxetine could be a good start, but he said he felt that I \*maybe\* could have ADHD because I commented how sometimes I had trouble focusing on things from college, but I never had any problem with attention in high school or when I was a kid (and to be honest I don't think I have ADHD, most of the times I have trouble to pay attention to the things I have to learn, it has to do with my anxiety of me not being good on that thing, so I can't really focus), I stopped taking duloxetine months ago, and most of the time I feel neutral, and now I'm able to study more, normally I try to study every day, and I'm able to do that and focus when I'm not suffering from anxiety.
Since my girlfriend started taking Vyvanse, we always thought about me testing it, just to see what the results could bring and if it could help me, so today I decided to take one to see what would happen, we joked about how I would get hyper-focused, and maybe I could have an anxiety crisis (because even coffee makes me focus better and get active a lot), I took it in the morning and we waited some time and... nothing happened, 1-2 hours later I started to feel some things, but it was completely different than everything I saw about it, I started to feel like when I took duloxetine for the first time, I felt asleep, calm, peaceful, my muscles felt relaxed, I wanted to go to bed and sleep all day, then I tried to do things that normally gets me active and... I felt calm, to be honest, I never felt so calm like I did today, then I started to talk with my girlfriend, a lot, I talked a lot today with her all day long, keep in mind that I'm always the silent type and normally is she that does the talking (she sometimes even feels kinda sad because I seem disinterested), then in the middle of the afternoon I started to feel sad, I'm normally always neutral, but I started to feel really sad for no reason, normally when I get sad or feel anxiety, I can pinpoint what is causing it, but today there was nothing to cause it, I felt more demotivated and depressed than I could ever think, I was still talking a lot, but at the same time I was describing how bad I was feeling, sometimes I wanted to cry even though I didn't even know, sometimes I started getting some kind of derealization, everything felt weird, my girlfriend, the cats, myself, it's like I'm neutral but I'm sad, even though I don't feel like being sad, it's a weird horrible sensation that I honestly don't want to feel never again in my life, I spent all day in bed and until now the only thing I can think is how much I want the effect to end and I start to feel like myself again and how I will never take it again. Did someone feel something similar or know someone that did? (Even though I know these things can vary from person to person, what I felt today seemed completely atypical.) | 2021-12-09T02:42:38.000Z | rc7p4q | 7 | 1 | ADHD | [Vyvanse]Did someone else feel asleep, sad, demotivated, and didn't even feel the things that normally Vyvanse should do when taking it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7p4q/vyvansedid_someone_else_feel_asleep_sad/ |
KingCo_ | a couple of hours ago i took 2 30mg Vyvanse pills, im not sure if its working i took it at 11am now its 1:30pm the first thing is im not getting any side effects, my heart isnt beating any faster its at normal BPM, and i dont feel any different i just feel normal and like i havent taken any drugs at all. Is this supposed to happen when i take Vyvanse am i not supposed to feel anything not even the side effects?
Also how does Vyvanse affect you guys when you take it or start to feel it? it would really help me to know what others experience when taking these drugs, it helps more than you know | 2021-12-09T02:36:37.000Z | rc7l27 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do i know if Vyvanse is working? (im not feeling any effects) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7l27/how_do_i_know_if_vyvanse_is_working_im_not/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:31:44.000Z | rc7hwu | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for support groups for adult ADHD related Obesity. Are there any out there? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7hwu/looking_for_support_groups_for_adult_adhd_related/ |
Professional-Ad-231 | Hey all, this is something I'd really like to discuss when it comes to the diagnostic process, as well as just figuring out the right meds.
I've always had a hard time just coming out and saying how I feel. Sometimes when I'm alone it comes easy, but then the rest of the time it can be a bit of a brain scramble. That on top of the signature trouble with memory just makes me really nervous that I wouldn't even know what "better" felt like. It makes it hard to identify brain shifts, side effects, etc. Just very numb.
I just started on Adderall this week, and so far it's been productive, but when it leaves my system, I just feel sad to be back in my normal brain. When it comes time to talk to my doctor about all this, I don't know whether to say it's working or not, because is this as good as it should get?
I have a bit of paranoia I try to keep at bay that because most of the people I know are battling some illness or other, the state everyone's looking for is a myth. I know that sounds super negative, but if anyone has a story about feeling completely lost and reaching a space they didn't know they could, I think I just need to hear it right now 😅 | 2021-12-09T02:29:25.000Z | rc7g90 | 5 | 10 | ADHD | Trouble with identifying thoughts, feelings, or anything? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7g90/trouble_with_identifying_thoughts_feelings_or/ |
stormRed1236 | Occasionally I have moments (usually when I'm tired/hungry or depressed), where I get completely absorbed in a story, end up getting attached to a character or storyline only to end up feeling heartbroken when something goes wrong, as if experiencing genuine grief. The emotions can last a little while, but fade pretty quickly, as I progressively get back in touch with reality.
Part of the whole frustration is not being about to really understand it (especially pre-diagnosis), because experiencing that same storyline while emotionally stable would probably just make me bummed out, not devastated.
Anyway, I just went through that again and I needed to vent, I know it's most likely related to emotional dysregulation/difficulties with putting things in perspective, but I'm also curious to see who can relate to this weirdly specific experience. | 2021-12-09T02:27:58.000Z | rc7f7j | 2 | 7 | ADHD | Moments of painful immersion | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7f7j/moments_of_painful_immersion/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:24:14.000Z | rc7cor | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for support groups for ADHD related obesity. Are there any out there? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7cor/looking_for_support_groups_for_adhd_related/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:24:11.000Z | rc7cno | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Tips for talking to spouse about ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc7cno/tips_for_talking_to_spouse_about_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:18:09.000Z | rc78kg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for Support groups for ADHD and Obesity. Are there any out there? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc78kg/looking_for_support_groups_for_adhd_and_obesity/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:14:53.000Z | rc76c3 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do I get that song out of my head? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc76c3/how_do_i_get_that_song_out_of_my_head/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:13:52.000Z | rc75oa | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone here in a constant battle with ADHD and Obesity? Looking for support groups and advice. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc75oa/anyone_here_in_a_constant_battle_with_adhd_and/ |
Lady_N_1219 | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:12:33.000Z | rc74sr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What's the strangest thing you've been hyperfixated on? How long did it last and was the outcome positive or negative? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc74sr/whats_the_strangest_thing_youve_been_hyperfixated/ |
dalekgaming59 | [removed] | 2021-12-09T02:11:47.000Z | rc747z | 3 | 1 | ADHD | help i need to know waht these are | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc747z/help_i_need_to_know_waht_these_are/ |
resqw_ | Hi! I'm new here and so is my diagnosis. First things first, I already looked for this same question here but the most recent ones don't offer much.
I've been battling with getting a proper diagnosis since 2019, and two weeks ago, I threatened my (new) doctor with not going back to therapy because I was at the point I couldn't watch a series or movie for more than five minutes at a time, read a book, and take an exam without constantly trembling and fidgeting. Since I also suffer from Bipolar Disorder type I, doctors are wary of prescribing ADHD medication, as it could trigger mania.
I've been taking Ritalin for two weeks. Started with 10mg instant release, and when the doctor saw no mania and actual results, he prescribed the 20mg slow release. At the beginning I'm fired up for studying, I can concentrate and I can understand everything, but at 22:00 or 23:00, I'm not just sleepy, but my eyes feel heavy and the more I try to keep working, the more tired I feel, even when the meds are supposed to be still in my brain.
This could be great for my circadian rhythm since my constant procrastination made me anxious at night and kept me working until 05:00 or later for almost two years now, but this change was almost instantaneous, breaking a years old habit. Does this mean anything? Only scientific answers I could find were related to Adderall, and how in non ADHD people it will always cause euphoria, but in *some* ADHD people it can cause sleepiness as a side effect of the supression of hyperactivity.
I'm looking for quick answers now in case anyone is going through the same, but I'm seeing my doctor soon.
PS (very important): I started developing insomnia at 12, and have been taking different kinds of hypnotics on and off since I was 21. I'm taking a third of what I used to take now but I've already fallen asleep with Ritalin in my system and zero hypnotics twice now. | 2021-12-09T02:11:23.000Z | rc73xr | 9 | 5 | ADHD | Why is Ritalin making me sleepy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc73xr/why_is_ritalin_making_me_sleepy/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:10:16.000Z | rc735v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why is Ritalin make me sleepy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc735v/why_is_ritalin_make_me_sleepy/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:08:48.000Z | rc725t | 10 | 10 | ADHD | Hurtful statements towards non-ADHD friends | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc725t/hurtful_statements_towards_nonadhd_friends/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-09T02:08:22.000Z | rc71vk | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Sometimes I love having ADHD… | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc71vk/sometimes_i_love_having_adhd/ |
sb_vvv | I became a freelancer about a year and some months ago and I’m having a lot of trouble finding balance in my life & work flow that works best for me. It seems like when the sun is out my body just doesn’t want to move. It’s like I’m hungover but not with the normal hungover pains. More like super heavy, lethargic, and sleepy. No matter how much sleep I get the night before, it takes so much for me to actually stay focused and do what I need to do. I end up forcing myself up, eating, drinking coffee, taking my adhd meds and then PASSING OUT at my desk or couch. How?! And then once the sunsets I’m a ball of energy (with or with out meds, coffee, etc.)
SO I looked into some things and learned about N24 (look it up. There’s even a huge group here on Reddit about to). When I learned about that I started living life however my body felt right doing. I ended up getting SO MUCH work done in the process. It was crazy. I was loving it! Until more social things started popping up in my agenda. That’s when things start getting out of hand where some days I won’t sleep so much cause I have something going on later that day, usually around the time Im usually sleeping or waking up. At that point my immune system goes down and I get the flu or something. It’s a vicious circle.
Now I’m trying to get back in a normal schedule but I’m not getting as much done as I was before. Which sends me into depression these unproductive depression funks 😔 Does anyone else have these issues? | 2021-12-09T02:06:57.000Z | rc70vz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Trying to find the balance | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc70vz/trying_to_find_the_balance/ |
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mytoewarmm | i’ve been scrolling through the threads on hyper fixation on people but I feel like it’s been inconclusive for me. I want to find a way to cope with these feelings because they are literally taking over my life. it doesn’t feel good to be this obsessed with someone i barely know!
small backstory, met someone and we hooked up and now i’m SUPER obsessed with the thought of them. i know it’s not a crush, but it doesn’t make it better. they are in my mind constantly, i always feel like they are watching me so i romanticise everything i do so they think i’m cool or something? even though i’ll just be alone in my room. i just wanna focus on ANYTHING else! we don’t talk a lot, i’ll message them and they’ll simply ignore my messages for days or a week. they insist that they’re interested but i feel like they’re lying. i think the inconsistency and disinterest in me makes it worse. i post stories and obsessively check who’s viewed it every two seconds to see if they have. when they post but don’t reply to me i feel super shit even though i understand not having the energy to talk but still be online. i feel like i scared them because i would keep asking them if they were still keen to meet again and they insist that they are everytime. i have to stop myself from messaging them too often. i loathe that im like this and recognise that it’s a bit toxic. it’s so bad i feel really insecure and puts me in this depressive state.
how do you deal with this? how do i stop obsessing? it’s taking over my life. will medication help? anything is helpful i would really appreciate some advice | 2021-12-09T01:56:22.000Z | rc6tct | 11 | 6 | ADHD | extreme hyper fixation on a “crush” | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6tct/extreme_hyper_fixation_on_a_crush/ |
appollo1999 | I'm a 22 year old guy, and found out I have ADHD a few years ago. I feel like I have missed out on so many opportunities and lost so much time to ADHD and the problems it has caused for me, primarily around school. I flunked out of my first college, appealed it citing the new diagnosis, but ended up dropping out last summer when my Mom was put on hospice care because I needed to be with her, and because I felt that since I wasn't getting the same financial aid I was getting before, it wasn't worth the money to attend online/socially distanced classes. I'm now living at home with my Dad, and taking classes at a local community college. I keep thinking about all the things I missed out on, and feeling like I'm behind where my friends/old roommates are. I miss my friends a lot, and since they're all going to be graduating next semester and I'm barely through enough credits to count as a freshman year, I feel like I won't be able to reconnect with them and kinda make up for lost time. If you experience this feeling of "behindness" or like retroactive FOMO, what helps you? | 2021-12-09T01:53:19.000Z | rc6ras | 4 | 16 | ADHD | ADHD and "Lost Time" | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6ras/adhd_and_lost_time/ |
SilverSquare | These things were said to me by two different friends in two different hangouts the past week. I would forget what someone said a few minutes later or didn’t focus when someone would tell me an answer.
I can tell their frustrations, even getting to the point of those two quotes being said to me. I’m undiagnosed, I relate to everyone here. Even if it’s not ADHD, I still have debilitating symptoms and it sucks not being able to say “Chill, I have ADHD/Insert other condition here.”
I get self conscious. I legit feel broken and dumb and it really sucks. My two groups are the type where we’re comfortable having fun. I’m the “sentimental, but funny guy” and when moments like this happen, I get pretty mad and sad and I don’t know what to do.
I really want to get treated. Starting in January I’ll be on a PPO from my work, shifting from HMO in Kaiser in hopes that I don’t have to feel broken anymore. Even then I know if there’s a diagnosis and there’s medical treatment that it’s still a journey, but I’m holding on to hope because not only I feel debilitated socially, but also professionally. That’s another story for now. | 2021-12-09T01:52:52.000Z | rc6qy5 | 5 | 27 | ADHD | “It’s because you’re not listening.” and “Is this guy really that dumb?” were quotes said to me that really hurt. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6qy5/its_because_youre_not_listening_and_is_this_guy/ |
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CassipoeaOC | I have shown multiple signs of having adhd over the years but I’ve been shut down every single time. I can’t live with it anymore, I’m failing in college because every time I open my assignments on the computer my head zooms off to think about shit that could have happened years ago if I had slapped a penguin or something similar. Every little sound around me enough to make me want to cry and my headphones for music that I used for my anxiety when I’m in public aren’t cutting it anymore. I’m constantly overwhelmed and I’ve started clawing at the insides of my forearms again. And the mess, Jesus Christ alive, it’s like it follows me like a smell. I can’t keep a room clean to save my life because I think “oh I’ll just do that later” boom then a week has gone by and my room is a shithole that a rat would even pass off. Everywhere is a constant reminder of things that I’ve started and thought “one day I’ll do that and it’ll be magnificent” never fucking happens. I’ll take these random bouts of productivity but when you put a task in-front of me I’ll blank out and lose the ability to begin my own sentences. Every doctor I’ve ever seen has said oh well you should talk to your chams instructor, anyone from the UK knows that as the children’s mental health services that’s super hard to get into because of the wait times. I was there for my anxiety attacks but as soon as I voiced my concerns she immediately said that she’d already have known if I did. But that’s didn’t calm my worries as I had hid any and all issues from anyone for years and gone undetected and I’ve done extensive research on adhd in young women and how it’s easily written off as depression or anxiety. So I guess I just wanted to ask if it’s worth trying again as my future looks more like a daydream everyday and I’m falling down to a dark place. | 2021-12-09T01:44:48.000Z | rc6ldk | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Am I going nuts or am I just lazy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6ldk/am_i_going_nuts_or_am_i_just_lazy/ |
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Randomessa | I know, I know: having a job with receptionist duties is probably one of the worst things for a person with ADHD, but I didn't know I had it until having these duties shredded my ability to mask my focus/working memory issues. I do love my job and the subject matter and the people I work with, some of whom I've told I'm struggling with ADHD, so I'm just doing my best.
One of my duties is to keep track of where the employees at my firm are, for when other members of the firm ask. This isn't just keeping track of their meetings on calendars, I can do that. This is: oh, so and so said he stepped out to get lunch, so and so has left for the day, so and so is in someone else's office. It's easy for me to see visually when someone is walking to the bathroom or the elevator. I even have a notepad and every day in the office I write down everyone's name as they come in, to update when each of them steps away or returns.
You can see where this is leading: I have such trouble remembering to update when someone has left or returned, or to check it when someone asks for an update. Today, a coworker left for the day, told me he was leaving for the day and that he could be reached by cell phone. We had a whole goodbye conversation. Later, another coworker talked to me about how this person had left and how to get in touch with him the next day. Through all of this, no thought crossed my mind to write down that he'd gone for the day.
My boss came by a while later asking if so and so had left for the day, and I was caught mute. I had no idea! I ran to his office to check, yes, empty, I guess he DID leave. How could I not have known? And not five minutes later, it all came rushing back: the multiple conversations, and the damned empty notepad page, not that I even remembered to see if I'd written anything down.
So, is there any trick for this? I'm stressing out about it. I know what I need to do, and I have initiated a tool to help, but if I *don't remember to use the tools*, they can't help. So far, I have only two other ideas:
* basically print out a grid log of all my coworkers with "IN/OUT" columns and display it on my desk in the hopes that a massive chart that needs filling out will draw my attention more
* I have downloaded a reminder app that I can set to fire literally every 5 minutes to remind me to physically check/verify/update the status of everyone
If there's something better than making my phone symbolically slap me every five minutes with "hey dumbass, check this" I'm all ears! | 2021-12-09T01:37:56.000Z | rc6gq4 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Receptionist challenges - how to remember to write down what you need to write down to remember it? (And then remember you wrote it down!) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6gq4/receptionist_challenges_how_to_remember_to_write/ |
Phoethicc | I'm currently studying abroad in UK and, in theory, I've made a group of friends here, but I'm THAT friend, you know the one. The one that stays behind alone when the sidewalk is too small, or stays on the sofa unable to join, focus on or start a conversation fluently for the most part. I used to be like that in Spain, but with my friend group there I actually became pretty good at holding conversations. But in here I'm back to feeling like a third wheel or something in a group of over 10 people.
Today we were celebrating a birthday and playing this drinking game, and I lost the last round because one of them had a headache and wanted to go home with her boyfriend but didn't want to be the one to stop the game. I'm not blaming her or anything, mind you, because I actually also felt like finishing the night already. The thing is, the reactions to me losing from the rest of the group were..lukewarm at best compared to when everyone else lost, with "WOOOOOO"s and the like.
Everyone else besides the three people that used the chance to leave kept playing, and I decided to go on a walk in the middle of the night.
I now feel alone and extremely out of place within my own group. I don't have the chemistry everyone else seems to have with all or at least a couple of the others, and I don't think they have even realized I've been gone from the flat for an hour now. I don't even know if this is related to my ADHD, if it's more an anxiety thing or what, but I'm kind of tired of feeling like this, like I don't even belong in this group. It used to happen with my group of friends in Spain, but way less and I got over it way faster because my friends there know what this shit is like and are way closer with each other I guess.
I don't even know why I'm writing all this here. I guess I'm tired and, like the tag says, I'm just looking for some empathy. | 2021-12-09T01:37:02.000Z | rc6g4z | 7 | 1 | ADHD | I'm feeling alone | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6g4z/im_feeling_alone/ |
kateran723 | Hey everyone! So I was recently diagnosed at 31 years old and today I spoke to the therapist and she wants me to try Wellbutrin first. She decided this because I used drugs 15 years ago when I was a teenager (have ten years sober and this is absolutely 0% of a concern to me because I don’t consider myself an addict) and she tells me I have mood problems though I feel like she is over exaggerating about this. I don’t have any depression and only very mild anxiety which I would actually consider a nonissue. I’m afraid to be on something I have to take every day and can’t just quit if I hate it. My bf takes it and he has described feeling like he’s “watching himself” and I can not explain how much I don’t want to feel that lmfao. Like, honestly I feel like dissociating like that could lead to me having a total mental break down. I guess I’m just looking for reassurance from other normal people rather than just trusting this doctor Ive only met 1 time to have my best interest at heart. Im starting nursing school mid January and don’t want to feel all messed up in the head while I start this journey. I would love any advice or experiences. Thank you everyone! | 2021-12-09T01:35:57.000Z | rc6fdn | 10 | 1 | ADHD | Scared to take bupropion | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6fdn/scared_to_take_bupropion/ |
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Flimsy-Emu-557 | I was diagnosed with ADHD in 5th grade. I am now 18 in my first semester of college. I never started medication as a child because my dad did not want me taking medication and thought it was a bad thing to take it. I always had trouble in high school studying and paying attention but my grades did not suffer too much since I was able to kinda just pass by my classes without studying (especially when i was online because of covid). Now i’m starting to realize how much this is effecting me in college. My grades are suffering so my room mate gave me a adderall to study for my exam. I realized how much this helped me and how happy I was when I was finally able to focus and get a good grade of an exam. I really want to start medication to help my adhd but my dad is so opposed to it that I don’t even know how to bring it up. Any advice? | 2021-12-09T01:29:25.000Z | rc6ams | 6 | 3 | ADHD | What should i do about my adhd issues | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc6ams/what_should_i_do_about_my_adhd_issues/ |
FaithInStrangers94 | I’ve grown to love my own company. That should be everyone’s goal right? Well I think I’ve actually gone too far - since my thoughts are so random I keep myself entertained and I obviously enjoy my own sense of humour and enjoy my interests - oftentimes I’d rather actually do things solo than with anybody else because when you involve somebody else you have to filter what you say and it feels less natural and more performative. Basically
I find it a bit tiring being around people.
I had no trouble getting through lockdown while living by myself.
Meanwhile most people I ask tell me they can’t really stand being along with their thoughts.
I’m not sure if I’m the one with the problem or if they are, I suppose it depends which way you look at it.
Do you enjoy being alone? | 2021-12-09T01:26:45.000Z | rc68rw | 118 | 414 | ADHD | Do you enjoy spending time alone? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc68rw/do_you_enjoy_spending_time_alone/ |
Kouunno | I'm sitting in a blanket cocoon on my computer and I'm thirsty. I want a glass of water. What do I have to do to get it?
1. Move my computer and my blanket.
2. Actually stand up.
3. Go to the kitchen.
4. Find a clean cup (harder than it should be since the same executive dysfunction + sensory issues makes washing the dishes an impossible chore most days)
5. Get some water from the fridge.
6. Go back to the living room.
7. Sit back down.
8. Re-cocoon and get back on the computer.
That's just too many steps. Yes, almost all of them are trivially easy objectively speaking, but tell that to my brain, which just sees a big number of Things To Do and gives up immediately. I'll get that water when I can ask someone to get it for me, or when I have to get up because I have to go to the bathroom too badly to put it off, and no sooner. And I wonder why I'm dehydrated.
This goes down to the smallest things. I bought Ring Fit Adventure hoping to get more exercise but I have to find wherever I put the Switch accessories from last time, set up the TV, set up the Switch, etc... too many steps. Hell, even for things I just objectively *want* to do that are quite easy, like playing a game on my computer, my brain processes it as having to find the game on my computer, open it, wait for it to load... suddenly it's a chore. I just wind up scrolling through Reddit or Tumblr instead.
It's exhausting. | 2021-12-09T01:22:22.000Z | rc65se | 23 | 79 | ADHD | I like explaining my executive dysfunction as a problem of "too many steps". | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc65se/i_like_explaining_my_executive_dysfunction_as_a/ |
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ancientspacewitch | Why can't I just enjoy a TV show or movie or a video game without become absolutely obsessed with it and making it my whole personality?
I actually end up ruining my experience because I can't stop thinking about it, or looking at articles about it, fan art or browsing merch, or whatever, and then I burn out my interest in it super quick.
This week I've been obsessing about this one video game to the point where I've thought about nothing else all week, and I know I will do the same tomorrow.
I'd love to be able to sit down and watch a good movie and go "oh well that was great!" and then move on with my life but nooooo I have to then read everything that's ever been put on the internet about the topic till its 5am and I pass out. Can't have a normal conversation with people about these things because I want to talk their heads off about how great it is and how it's "changed my life!" (like it does every time) until they are staring at me like I've lost it.
But I've become so accustomed to having an obsession that when I'm not hyperfixating on something I feel totally lost.
I wish I was normal. | 2021-12-09T01:14:33.000Z | rc607f | 3 | 37 | ADHD | I can't consume any media without hyperfixating on it and its driving me crazy | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc607f/i_cant_consume_any_media_without_hyperfixating_on/ |
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Cerealkiller05 | Recently I was prescribed Concerta 27mg. I was able to focus in class, do work better and more consistently without it being a massive struggle. I felt calm, I was less fidgety, I could complete simple tasks from start to finish, I could write notes in class. I was finally able to understand how other people did it. I wasn't fixed, it was still difficult, but I could work hard and do it. For the first time in my life, it felt possible.
By the third and fourth days on concerta the shine was wearing off (as expected), but the medication still worked. On days 5-8 the medication had zero effect. I'd take it and nothing would happen. After asking friends who take the same medication, finding articles, and searching reddit, it seemed this was because the dose was too low.
Went to the doctor for med check in, turns out the meds raise my resting heart rate to 105bpm and cause it to beat erratically (which I hadn't noticed). The doctor seemed mildly concerned/confused and said my resting heart rate has to stay below 100bpm. My prescription was raised to 36mg, and I'm to come in for another checkup in 7 days.
This is my first day on 36mg and as far as I can tell the medication has had zero effect except raise my resting heart rate. I don't know what to do. Is this just how ADHD meds are after the first few days? Is the dose too low? Am I taking the wrong medication? Will switching medication lower my heart rate? Will I be forced off meds due to my heart rate?
If the answer to my questions isn't what I want to hear that's fine, I'm ready for that, I just hate not knowing. I can clarify anything that needs clarifying. I apologize if this is difficult to understand. Any advice/anecdotes/knowledge is appreciated.
**TLDR: Concerta worked for 4 days then stopped working. Upping the dosage didn't help. The medication makes my heart rate dangerously high and I'm lost.** | 2021-12-09T01:05:46.000Z | rc5u7t | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta worked for 4 days | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5u7t/concerta_worked_for_4_days/ |
ScawedyCat | I was thinking back to this specific time in 10th grade when one of my classmates broke her tailbone. She had been gone from school for a month and lived pretty far away from, so she asked if she could stay over at my house for two weeks. The trip would be shorter and my mom would drive me to school , so less bumpy. I said yes, and assumed she’d let me know when she was better enough to return to school and start staying at mine.
She did not let me know. She showed up the next day at school with a huge luggage saying how happy she was that I’m letting her stay. I had a straight up panic attack in the middle of my physics class.
I always wondered if maybe I was just actually an asshole and hated the idea of her staying over? I just realized today that it was just my ADHD brain. It desperately needs structure and a plan in order to survive, it cannot do spontaneity. I probably would’ve been fine if she had told me the day before, so cleaning my room would be a life or death situation. | 2021-12-09T01:04:03.000Z | rc5t1k | 1 | 6 | ADHD | I used to get worried and think my brain just didn’t work right, now looking back its all blamed on my adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5t1k/i_used_to_get_worried_and_think_my_brain_just/ |
adhdheartthrowaway | [removed] | 2021-12-09T01:03:20.000Z | rc5sky | 14 | 2 | ADHD | High heart rate and hypertension after starting stimulants - How have you found success with ADHD medication after experiencing cardiac symptoms? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5sky/high_heart_rate_and_hypertension_after_starting/ |
MusicAndFairies | I find that knowing about successful people who have ADHD, will really help me in feeling motivated, and positive about managing my ADHD symptoms.
I often find that I can get quite cynical and extremely hard on with myself and what I’m capable of.
I’ve struggled with undiagnosed ADHD for most of my life and my self confidence and self esteem have taken a blow since i didn’t know why I struggled so much more than other people.
I berated myself (and sometimes still do) with criticisms like:
“you’re so stupid,”
“can’t you do anything right?”
“What’s wrong with you?”
“You messed up again?”
“Your such a loser!”
“You knew better”
“You’re such a failure”
“Why can’t you get your act together!”
“If only you didn’t have these issues you would be so much more successful and accomplished”
As you can see, my self esteem has taken a blow and I have attributed my struggles with ADHD as character flaws.
So if you could help me think of people who have ADHD and have achieved success— it would really help to motivate me!
Looking forward to your answers! :) | 2021-12-09T01:02:22.000Z | rc5rwp | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Who are some successful people with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5rwp/who_are_some_successful_people_with_adhd/ |
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dashkinok | 2 days ago I was writing a paper and then I got bored and while my meds were still working I decided that I am going to clean the heck out of my room, especially my drawers. An hour later, my meds wore off and I didn't feel like cleaning anymore and I was just laying on the floor along with the mess I had before and the mess I have just added to it.
It has been 2 fricking days and I can't force myself to clean it. I hate when my room is messy, I genuinely do and I will always clean every part of the house but I HATE cleaning my room. For instance, I will not go to sleep if the kitchen isn't clean, but once again, my room something fucking stops me from cleaning it. so annoying.
I know that if I have someone coming over I will easily clean it, but I know at the moment it will take me about 30 minutes to clean my room, 45 at most. So I would wait until I have 45 minutes and clean it.
What do I do, how do I get this shit done, any tips lol all i know is that I'm writing this post and the room isn't gonna clean itself
TL;DR
I *enthusiastically* started cleaning my room 2 days ago for about an hour and I can't get myself to finish cleaning my room
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UPDATE: wow I can't believe that people of reddit made me clean my room, jesus. ThANKYOU
Here are some before and afters (everything on the bed ive been sleeping with for past 4-5 days)
https://imgur.com/a/YORSOK0
Update 2: ayo team much love to everyone, I’m laying in bed reading the comments and cracking up because I didn’t expect much from this post, but I got a silver award (thank you very much I’m confused why but thank you) and just to clarify, you can see the AFTER pics if you go on the Imgur link :)
Once again, thank you everyone for the encouragement, motivation and just positive vibes lol <3 | 2021-12-09T00:59:49.000Z | rc5pvr | 112 | 250 | ADHD | can someone please force me to clean my room? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5pvr/can_someone_please_force_me_to_clean_my_room/ |
adhdheartthrowaway | [removed] | 2021-12-09T00:59:46.000Z | rc5pub | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hypertension and high heart rate after starting Adderall (first medication) - Has anyone had these symptoms on one stimulant but not another? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5pub/hypertension_and_high_heart_rate_after_starting/ |
ctbpdx | I just had a somewhat new relationship end because I completely forgot an important conversation I had with the person I was dating. I did exactly what we agreed neither of us would do. I normally keep notes with details about the person I’m seeing, because I don’t want to forget important things about them. This is the first time I’ve ever had a memory problem affect a relationship before. Everyone I ask in Facebook groups says if I actually cared about them, I would have remembered, but I do care about them…
I guess I’m asking, have any of you ever had a memory lapse affect a relationship? I relate to many ADHD memes, but I don’t fit the diagnostic criteria according to my therapist, but the majority of my friends say they’re pretty sure I have ADHD. I’m concerned this could turn into a problem going forward. | 2021-12-09T00:58:46.000Z | rc5p60 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Memory Problem | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5p60/memory_problem/ |
TheSuperiorRobo | my dad just finished talking to me about what is essentially, "i get that you've got this disorder, but we need you to try harder in school." a lot of the points were just not accurate at all and it really bothered me and left me feeling a lil invalidated so i'm just gonna rant a bit.
1. i am trying the hardest i can, i'm just *a little* (sarcasm btw) hindered by my **fucking neurological disability**, that makes doing even the simplest schoolwork a state of constant sysiphus. i can't just "try harder" and magically be on the same level as everyone else. that's on the same level as telling a kid in a wheelchair to just "try harder" to walk.
2. yes, i'm aware my state of burnout coincides with me recieving my diagnosis. no, that is not planned. every year i have this burnout at around the same time. this is not new. it's just worse this year for reasons i don't fucking know. i don't want to have this problem, but i do.
3. apparently my mom gets stressed out by my not doing my work. i will put a disclaimer that i do have empathy for her. i have anxiety so i know that can't be fun. however i don't really like that i'm basically being guilted for having a **fucking neurological disability**. the context of the information was given in a way that was like "just get your work done, for your mom and for yourself." well sorry my fucking disability that hinders my ability to do basic and necessary tasks (which affect me more than they could ever affect you), hinders your ability asleep. i'll just tell the adhd to stop existing.
that's all the points i can remember that ticked me off. it just makes me feel kinda invalidated, and also annoyed because the people that are my parents don't understand what's going on. because of this mentality, i feel like even if i'm legitimately suffering from something due to adhd, i feel like i'm just "using it as an excuse" when in reality i'm just speaking my truth.
it also sucks that adhd doesn't even look like adhd to the uneducated eye. it just looks like "spazzy dood never do work or pay attention or remember things." without experiencing my suffering and having the disorder yourself, you have no way of knowing how it truly feels. it may look like i'm being lazy and choosing not to do my work, but in reality i'm dying to do it. it's eating me up inside. but my conscious and my subconscious disagree and i physically can't start. it's a state of sysiphus constantly.
parents out there who have adhd children, i cannot stretch this enough. DO YOUR RESEARCH. cram the shit out of reliable sources and become an expert on the disorder. ask your child's doctors about it. don't react with anger at the disorder or guilt them because of it. work with the child, help them. respect them. i can't find a good sentence to properly end on but yeah.
also i do love my parents, i just wish they took the time to make sure they knew what they were talking about lol | 2021-12-09T00:55:47.000Z | rc5n0z | 29 | 100 | ADHD | parents thinking they understand adhd when they really don't is so unbelievably frustrating | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5n0z/parents_thinking_they_understand_adhd_when_they/ |
RTZFRTZ | [removed] | 2021-12-09T00:55:14.000Z | rc5mnv | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I had my first ever psychiatric appointment today!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5mnv/i_had_my_first_ever_psychiatric_appointment_today/ |
1234hitujas | Does ADHD especially inattentive type causes problems with reading comprehension? I also have difficulty in absorbing information like while watching a movie or TV series, can't absorb what the characters are talking even with subtitles on. Its like my mind is not able to process the information quickly and have to think really hard in order to understand it. I also have a bit of depression for years and i have researched that depression also affects cognitive functioning (don't know about the reading comprehension part). Any of you hav difficulty with these tasks and do you think its a part of ADHD or something else like depression or dementia ? If you have these difficulties, how do you manage them and do meds help? | 2021-12-09T00:53:54.000Z | rc5loi | 7 | 14 | ADHD | Difficulty in reading comprehension, thinking skills? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5loi/difficulty_in_reading_comprehension_thinking/ |
Edg-R | What could happen if someone is prescribed 50mg Vyvanse (taken at 5:30am) and 30mg Adderall (taken at 1pm)?
Is it dangerous to have so many stimulants in per day? If so, in what ways?
Is it normal to be prescribed a “booster” dose for when the first dose wears off if someone works a very long day?
What long term effects could this have on someone’s body?
Thank you in advance!
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So the reason I ask is because that’s what my psychiatrist prescribed me. We started off with 30mg Vyvanse and 15mg Adderall and gradually went up to 50/30 since my day starts at 5:30am and ends around 6pm.
This has been working perfectly for me.
I’ve never been more active, focused, and happy with my progress at work, in fitness, in nutrition, etc.
I recently ran into some issues getting my Rxs filled after having them filled successfully for like 7 months.
This time when I submitted a request for an Adderall refill they sent a refill for Vyvanse instead. I didn’t need Vyvanse, I had just had it filled the previous week.
So I contacted my doctors office and let them know that I needed my Adderall refilled. I was told that it was too soon to refill since I had just gotten it filled the previous week.
But I didn’t. It was Vyvanse.
I ended up arguing back and forth with the administrator (I think) from my doctor’s office. He kept claiming that I had just gotten my Adderall filled last week and made it seem like I was trying to double up on prescriptions. He then said that I shouldn’t even be on both at the same time and they’ll probably drop the adderall from my prescriptions.
At this point I remembered that the patient portal keeps track of my refill requests, so I pulled it up and I was correct. I sent a screenshot to the person and he sounded confused and said that his system showed something different and he’d have to call me back.
Today, about a week after the first conversation and after sending a number of emails that went unanswered, he called me and told me they can’t refill my Adderall prescription and that I shouldn’t be on two stimulants at the same time and that I needed to pick one.
I asked if my doctor made a mistake by prescribing me the two medications, he wouldn’t say yes or no, he just said that their office policies changed and I can’t be on two meds at once and told me to pick one.
I didn’t feel comfortable being forced to pick a medication by an office person instead of discussing it with my doctor.
I have a recurring office visit in a couple of weeks and I’ll see what my doctor says. I’m very confused. | 2021-12-09T00:51:32.000Z | rc5jzi | 7 | 0 | ADHD | What could happen if someone is prescribed 50mg Vyvanse (taken at 5:30am) and 30mg Adderall (taken at 1pm)? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5jzi/what_could_happen_if_someone_is_prescribed_50mg/ |
MusicAndFairies | I often feel self conscious about my symptoms and try to get people’s approval and attention in order to feel better about myself.
It’s an insecurity of mine and I’ve never shared this to anyone. But I feel so self conscious about my struggles that I try to overcompensate by trying hard for people’s attention and approval.
When my mind wanders during a conversation in an important meeting, or when I forget to pick up my meds or when I accidentally fall asleep with my makeup on after bingeing on YouTube videos until 3AM, I feel so bad about myself that I feel completely worthless.
Then like a needy child, and because my self esteem takes a huge blow for feeling like a mess up, I try to get people’s approval or attention. I subconsciously think to myself, “If don’t accept myself, but others do, maybe I’m not so bad after all!”
As a result, I find that i overcompensate by being extremely friendly to others, or taking on too many projects, or trying to make friends with everyone at my work, or by saying sorry 100x in order to get peoples approval (and forgiveness).
I find I am so insecure about my attention issues and ADHD symptoms that I try really hard to get on people’s ‘good’ side.
Can you relate? How would you suggest I stop trying to get everyone’s approval? It’s exhausting.
How can I not be so hard on myself when it comes to my ADHD symptoms? | 2021-12-09T00:51:24.000Z | rc5jwc | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Help! I feel so bad about my ADHD symptoms that I crave people’s approval and acceptance | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5jwc/help_i_feel_so_bad_about_my_adhd_symptoms_that_i/ |
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LykosHellDiver | I'm currently taking 5mg two times a day.
Sometimes I feel weird and can't find these symptoms on any "offical" literature about the drug. So I'm turning to you for help.
Sometimes I feel tingling in my scalp, roof of mouth, jaw, top teeth and tongue.
Tingling in hands feet and and arms. Sometimes it's painful, but that might be from me panicking a bit.
Blurred vision
Not breathing difficulties, but it just feels shallow or like my chest is tight and its harder to breath. But my o2 level is fine.
I end up working myself up into a panic attack and it makes all of those symptoms way worse.
If I can just understand what is happening with the tingling, I can be ok.
I see my dr. Next week, I will discuss all with her, just needed some ease of mind in the mean time. | 2021-12-09T00:45:39.000Z | rc5ftr | 39 | 11 | ADHD | Weird side effects with Adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5ftr/weird_side_effects_with_adderall/ |
LifeismeaninglessXD | So it’s been almost 9 years of me trying (and failing) to get even decent grades in school, every year my grades progressively got worse until I’m barely passing a few of my classes.
Next year is my senior year and I actually want to graduate like everyone else but no matter how hard I try (like actually trying and not just cramming at the end) I always come out with terrible grades and fail the final.
I just can’t learn the way they want me to and I can’t take the pressure anymore so I will literally take any advice anyone gives me.
Please | 2021-12-09T00:43:49.000Z | rc5eid | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Any advice will be taken for better grades with adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5eid/any_advice_will_be_taken_for_better_grades_with/ |
zahrawins | [removed] | 2021-12-09T00:41:25.000Z | rc5cv2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta 18mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5cv2/concerta_18mg/ |
Scary_Owl7799 | I know this question may sound dumb because of ADHD symptons but what if your hyperfocused on something you like and try to do it as perfect as possible for example drawing and trying to draw everything perfectly or playing the guitar and trying to play a song like the original.
Im not 100% sure if I have ADHD but I usually draw geometric drawings and I try to draw it as symetric and exactly as possible I wonder if some of you have habits similar to this. | 2021-12-09T00:38:13.000Z | rc5ajs | 9 | 4 | ADHD | Its perfectionism common among people with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5ajs/its_perfectionism_common_among_people_with_adhd/ |
hoshiiiko | I have severe adhd inattentive
Medicated with vyvanse 70mg but that’s besides the point
I was wonder if I did a okay job during my semester without being on the pill since October
i gotten 2b’s 2d’s one is at a 69% and ones 64% but the 64% might go up since I submitted my final.
I never gotten these high grades before and sustained them
Am I allowed to celebrate? | 2021-12-09T00:37:35.000Z | rc5a3p | 2 | 1 | ADHD | did I do good | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc5a3p/did_i_do_good/ |
mlz1004 | Hi. From what I remember, I have always struggled to stay awake during an exam, even really important examinations like high school or college entrance tests. I follow all the usual tips: eat a chocolate bar before the exam, keep your brain hydrated, sleep well the night before, don't fixate on a single question for too long, but they **never** seem to work. It has gotten way worse with online learning and online tests: it's like a fog invades my mind and I cannot think of anything. I stay blank and fall asleep. It's an overwhelming feeling.
Is this a common occurrence for people with ADHD?
I am currently undiagnosed. I'm getting an evaluation in 2 days. | 2021-12-09T00:30:43.000Z | rc559j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is falling asleep during exams common for people with ADHD? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc559j/is_falling_asleep_during_exams_common_for_people/ |
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droopa199 | If it's for work I'm straight up and out of bed but if it's days off however, I just role over and push the little voice at the back of my head telling me to get up aside and go back to sleep for another hour or 2.
I just feel so weak and tired every time I wake up, the easiest thing to do is just role over and go back to sleep every time... I probably wake up and go back to sleep 3 times in the morning before actually getting up. Any suggestions? | 2021-12-09T00:25:25.000Z | rc51fm | 31 | 44 | ADHD | Find it difficult to get out of bed if it's not for work... | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc51fm/find_it_difficult_to_get_out_of_bed_if_its_not/ |
pedroyoyoma | TL:DR - medication worked for one day, since then it hasn't really worked. Are there any things to consider trying in conjunction with medication to increase the effectiveness of the medicine?
I am getting treatment for ADHD for the first time and had a strange experience when I first started. I started on 20mg of Adderall and was very nervous before taking my first pill. I am not a big drug guy, and I heard the commonly flung around horror stories like "It's just speed," and it is super addictive, etc. I didn't know how my body would react, so I popped my first pill, then I immediately did a meditation to calm my nerves and tried to be very careful. I had enough water and ate healthier that day.
The effects were shockingly positive. It felt like a lightbulb went off, and I was giddy at how good I felt. It felt like I had the best night of sleep ever, and I was more well-rested and able to focus than I had felt in my life. I thought I was "cured."
That lasted literally one day. After that first day, I stopped feeling almost any effect. My energy was a little better, and I could focus a tiny bit more, but it was more like taking an Advil. No light bulb, but I generally felt a little better around the edges of my day.
Since then, I increased my Adderall to 30mg and 40mg to no effect. I switched to Vyvanse and liked it a little better, but I'm now at the highest dose (70mg) and don't feel like it is helping very much. I am now getting a prescription for Ritalin to see if that formulation works better with my chemistry.
I was very intentional with my first dose, almost treating it as a ceremony. Since then, my nerves around the drug have left, so I take it like any other medication and don't think much about it. I am left wondering, could my behaviors around the drug affect how well it worked for me - even tangentially?
Has anyone experimented with coupling drugs with behavior changes (like meditation, eating differently, etc.) or other parallel therapies (like acupuncture or talk therapy - which I do) and found that it helps with symptoms? Or has anyone experienced a steep drop-off like me and found a solution that helps them? | 2021-12-09T00:23:38.000Z | rc504i | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Behavioral changes or other therapies in conjunction with medication to increase effectiveness? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc504i/behavioral_changes_or_other_therapies_in/ |
sagekoalanutz | [removed] | 2021-12-09T00:22:18.000Z | rc4z6e | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Resources for everyone to understand their ADHD! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4z6e/resources_for_everyone_to_understand_their_adhd/ |
timetrigger | I just got back from the doctor with a prescription for adderol while I was there for a severe sinus infection. I was advised to wait until I'm off work to start taking it. But other that no other information on what to look out for or how I could react.
While I'm grateful and quite relieved for being taken seriously and believed for my issues, I am a little apprehensive taking it.
Any tips from fellow AdHDers on what to pay attention to on my new journey of being medicated?
Any tips?
Thanks in advance! | 2021-12-09T00:21:42.000Z | rc4yrp | 0 | 1 | ADHD | New to adderol | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4yrp/new_to_adderol/ |
rinkinky | So I take 20 mg of adderall that lasts for only 3 hours, it’s a short release medication
I have an important math exam tomorrow, that’s at 12:00 pm
I want to take my adderall at 6:30 pm today to study for atleast 3 more hours tonight (till 9:30)
The problem is, when I take my medication that late in the day I’m not able to sleep at night even with melatonin, I end up only being able to sleep around 6-7 am. Which would end up with me only having 5 or less hours of sleep before my big exam
Does anybody here have tips or tricks to sleep at night after your medication has worn off but it’s still keeping you awake?
My current plan to try is to take a hot shower and relax and sweat out even little bits of my medication that’s hanging around (I might be wishfully thinking), then eat a good meal before bed which I plan to try and sleep at 12:00 am which is 3 hours after my medications already worn off
Then I thought about taking a vitamin C pill to help flush out my medication
Then a vitamin pill that’s calcium, magnesium, and zinc which helps with sleep and muscle relaxing
Then 10 mg of melatonin
This is all I can think of that I can do to TRY and get myself to be able to fall asleep tonight, is there any other ideas you guys know of that helps?? Please send help lmao | 2021-12-09T00:21:20.000Z | rc4yhy | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Please, need help on how to sleep after taking my medication late in the day | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4yhy/please_need_help_on_how_to_sleep_after_taking_my/ |
Morning_Beers | First time posting here so idk how this works but, I am prescribed 40mg/day. Mix of IR/XR for context..
*I am really sorry for the venting but I want to not be such a dick and let things roll off my back but I cant. and I have no other words to describe the feeling I am feeling besides I could literally explode in a billion pieces from how overwhelmed I feel.*
**Background**: My partner and I recently moved into our dream apartment with our two puppies and ever since the move I have been so stressed/filled with anxiety that I have been such an asshole.
Recently, I feel like I am not able to relax in our apartment because its unorganized and shit is everywhere so I am constantly putting things away before I can start to get my work done (since I work from home).. but the putting things away is never ending so in return I am not fully invested in my work. I love my job so the stress of knowing I am not doing a good job makes me feel sick to my stomach. And then I am getting upset that on her days off or before/after work she is not making as much of an effort to help get the house situated even though its causing me a lot of anxiety.
I have been trying to do more and more around the house to get things situated so I can move on to enjoying the new place with her but I am making it a place of stress and anxiety. I am constantly crying when one little thing is out of place or a wave of anger. I have been saying some not so great things to my partner as well and I feel absolutely terrible. I know she is helping out here and there but, I am doing soooo much because I feel so awful in here that I am somewhat expecting her to do the same.. and getting mad when she doesnt.
My partner is always so patient with me when I am feeling overwhelmed but I feel like I am starting to push her away due to the outbursts.
The one thing that always level sets me is just getting away from our phones, work, friends, etc.. and just spending time with her. I am starting to feel like the past few weeks she is making plans with her sister/friends and I am sensing it might be to get away from me.
Please let me know if you have any advice because I really love this girl and I cant ruin it because I cant handle a little stress from moving. | 2021-12-09T00:19:01.000Z | rc4wuf | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Currently unable to control my outbursts and I feel awful | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4wuf/currently_unable_to_control_my_outbursts_and_i/ |
dylandongle | Typically I never really realise I'm dreaming even though the events aren't realistic, I just take it as it is. As a result, I have no clue whether I can lucid dream because it never occurs to me. Further, it often feels like parts between plot points are straight-up skipped, if that makes sense.
I really don't know. Anybody got some input? | 2021-12-09T00:18:14.000Z | rc4wbu | 6 | 4 | ADHD | Does ADHD affect our dreams? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4wbu/does_adhd_affect_our_dreams/ |
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m1thrand1r__ | Hi all, I'll try to keep this brief, but this subreddit has always been so friendly in the past, I just wanted to rant a little I guess. Might get a bit long. The last two years have been incredibly hard on my family and I, and with my mom being sick, living across the border during a pandemic, and graduation nearing, the pressure got a bit insurmountable this year. I found myself crumbling under the pressure and knew I was sick of struggling with daily life the way I was/am.
This spring I was lucky enough (and persistent enough) to start undergoing a treatment plan with a highly-respected GP, who has been amazing at keeping in touch and assessing how things are going, and working with me to adjust my meds based on how I'm feeling.
He sussed out that I do have, and probably always have had, ADHD and chronic anxiety. (My mom mentioned the school wanted to get me diagnosed as a kid, but it didn't happen.) These seem to create a nice tall cocktail of depression that makes it hard to do anything to fight the fundamental issues, especially as I get older and more responsibilities start falling on me. He wanted to start me on a low dose anti-anxiety/antidepressant, and I've been on Effexor since around May now, and we increased slowly to a level I felt comfortable with. Last month he suggested I add a low dose Adderall XR to see how I handle it, and we've increased it once so far. So far it's gentle, and I'm confident if I don't increase it too much of too quickly and I'm careful to follow the instructions, I won't have a problem resisting abusing it. (I'm wondering to myself if potential abuse is partially what worries my family, but I see this purely as medication, not something I can just pop whenever I don't feel right. I read warnings from people saying not to start doubling your dose or anything, and I can honestly say that hadn't even occurred to me; it feels like such a privilege to be trusted with it at all, and I want it to help me the best it can. I'm seeking normality not superpowers. It's highly highly controlled in my country, and incredibly tough to maintain abuse of it.)
Both drugs (and having hope and someone to help me figure out a fight plan) have helped me immensely, and I was finally able to sort out therapy starting this week as well, and despite things in my life getting worse and worse, I feel more stable and able to handle it than before. It's been a game-changer, and I finally feel heard for the first time in my life.
I haven't gotten an official diagnosis done yet but plan to when I get my insurance sorted. It's really expensive where I am, but it will benefit me while finishing school. It might also help me feel more valid in my assessment.
I guess all of this rambling is just unnecessary backstory and probably a common tale, but I guess that's why I'm here. I was really open with family and friends when starting to talk to doctors, I didn't want to hide anything, and everyone was so lovely and supportive for the first few months, besides a few "are you sure you have it?"-type comments that I had to squash down.
The problem is now that it's been a while, and I'm still being open about my progress with people close to me, and my friends and siblings are still supportive as heck and seem happy I'm going for it, but the mood feels changed somewhat with the folks in my family who are a bit older. Especially once I started on Adderall. It surprised me most to hear it from my parents and grandma, who were my biggest cheerleaders at first. I know ADHD wasn't really a thing even when I was really young, so I don't blame them for being hesitant, but it's starting to affect my morale.
They seem to be getting a bit stressed that I'm determined to stick to my treatment plan and don't want to hear their opinions, as far as things like trying proper diet and exercise and sleep instead. They seem to think (as was my whole life) that if I just tried a little harder, I could keep up with things. It seems very hard for them to accept that it's getting impossible for me to keep up even the basics of those things without support. They're all for me getting into therapy, but for some reason they're treating it like it's going to be a replacement for the medication (that the DOCTOR and I have determined, slowly with trial and error, is helping me. Sorry non-doctor family, I finally found a GP who I trust and who obviously cares for my wellbeing, I'm not going to ignore him.)
I know emotions have been running wild and tension is high the last few years, with my mom being sick and trying everything possible to get better, looking at all the options. I don't know why they're so averse and why they don't even want me to try it out for a while, even though I know it's all out of concern... I'm 29 now though, and finally just starting to feel slightly normal and valid for the first time in my life. It's really disheartening to hear this doubtful talk from people who I'm really close and honest with. It makes me want to not mention it around them, but I'm aching for them to kind of understand my struggle just to function normally. I feel like I'm a kid again being told to stop being lazy and do my homework; why can't I pay attention in class, why am I always fidgeting; if I can get through my favorite book in 9 hours, why do I get distracted every 10 min when I clean my room, etc.
I've been asking myself this kind of shit since I first knew what the word "lazy" meant; I'm sick of beating myself up over the way I function, and wondering why simple daily life stuff is such hard work for me when others seem to seamlessly Incorporate it. I finally feel like I have professional help and answers I should have been exploring my whole life.
Anyway, like I knew it would, this post got super long on me lol. Thanks to anyone still reading, and to anyone who can offer advice or want to share similar experiences ❤️ I'm sure we all have bucket loads of these anecdotes.
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TLDR; Was diagnosed with adult ADHD. Found a good GP, started medication and it's working for me. My close family older than me can't stop questioning what I've been trying and want me to work harder at exercise, diet, and sleep instead, even though all these things have been way easier to do since the meds. I am so tired. I just need help. | 2021-12-09T00:14:00.000Z | rc4teu | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Not sure how to handle close family doubting my diagnosis and medication plan | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4teu/not_sure_how_to_handle_close_family_doubting_my/ |
Gaymer6927 | I brought up the topic about a couple months ago but they brushed it off and said I dont have it. I relooked over some of the symptoms recently after seeing a meme and it just keeps making sense. My mom currently doesn't want anymore stress with whats going on, and is treating it like its terrible thing to have it. She also thinks just because my one friend has Adhd I want to be cool like them. What can I do to get diagnosed since my parents would rather gaslight me than get it checked out? | 2021-12-09T00:12:11.000Z | rc4s52 | 3 | 4 | ADHD | My parents refuse to take me to get diagnosed | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4s52/my_parents_refuse_to_take_me_to_get_diagnosed/ |
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RhubarbSilly5734 | I've recently become obsessed with the idea of finding my "signature scent" as a grown woman.
I haven't worn perfume in 10 years, but I saw a post on r/AskWomen about perfume and all of a subdden I am obsessed w this idea of having a signature scent and in the hot pursuit of it.
I ordered some random samples from a perfume company yesterday, and today I went to Sephora and smelled over 20 scents.
I've spent hours reading fragrance threads and researching different scents. I stayed up till 2am doing this.
I **almost** bought a $100 perfume sampler pack today but thank God my husband was there to tell me I was being impulsive.
What is your current obsession!? Has anyone been on the same obsessive crusade for a perfume as I am? | 2021-12-09T00:10:02.000Z | rc4ql6 | 160 | 401 | ADHD | My most recent hyperfixation is so random | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4ql6/my_most_recent_hyperfixation_is_so_random/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-09T00:03:06.000Z | rc4lra | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Initial diagnosis/Adderall prescription with Klarity for NY | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4lra/initial_diagnosisadderall_prescription_with/ |
funkymonkey_444 | My whole life I’ve daydreamed about having some sort of routine. Daily, morning, or just a loose general one.
For example, I want to run in the morning on certain days and read every night, but even these two simple things never stick.
I blame my executive dysfunction.
I’d love to have my shit together and have every day planned out. But I could never hold a habit, much less a routine, for more than, say, a month. They were right when they said adhd is chaos and unpredictable. Does anyone have any advice for this? Has anyone been successful in keeping a routine with adhd? | 2021-12-08T23:59:00.000Z | rc4igc | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I Want To Have A Routine So Badly | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4igc/i_want_to_have_a_routine_so_badly/ |
MusicAndFairies | Okay, technically I know I am not dumb. I know I am not dumb because I have a lot of ideas, did well at school (because I tried so hard to overcompensate for my symptoms) and can hyper focus and accomplish a lot if I find the work stimulating.
BUT,
I often feel dumb because my ADHD symptoms disrupts any progress I make almost everyday!
(even my so called friends in high school were surprised I got into university— they thought I was dumb and air-headed. *some friends they were*)
But I do struggle to sustain my focus and it can completely affects my job performance, it’ll affect how I behave in a relationship, or I’ll lose interest in a task and I’ll leave it incomplete.
Sometimes my mind even wanders in the middle of a conversation! And I have to ask the person to repeat themselves! Or, my mind wanders while watching Netflix and thank God I can rewind that because otherwise, It would take me longer to grasp the plot of the story as I would have missed it.
(I won’t even mention how ADHD affects my job performance at work— this post would be so long, LOL)
Thus, ADHD makes me feel spacey, unaccomplished and quite frankly, a loser. :(
What can I do in order to avoid letting my symptoms define me?
What has helped you manage your attention when you find it hard to focus? | 2021-12-08T23:57:03.000Z | rc4h1x | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Why does ADHD make me feel so stupid? :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4h1x/why_does_adhd_make_me_feel_so_stupid/ |
Delicious-Ad3044 | So first time posting here but feel like I need advice as I’ve never really realised I’ve needed it until now, i was diagnosed with ADHD this year and it’s made sense to a lot of things in my life (I’m 21 and male). I’ve never been someone who’s stupid but always had problems with studying thing I’m not interested in what so ever school work for example, I’ve ended up in a shit job making shit money when i feel like if I had some help when I was younger I could’ve achieved so much more and I’m stuck in life. I know 21 is still young enough to go into trying new things but i tend to get distracted from things constantly and my GP recommends not taking medication at the moment and just meeting up with someone to talk about stuff at the moment. Any help would be greatly appreciated | 2021-12-08T23:54:36.000Z | rc4f8z | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Predicament | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4f8z/predicament/ |
April9811 | I don’t even fully understand why, but every time I have my med check appointment I get extremely nervous. So much so that when they check my blood pressure and heart rate they’re always elevated (they are always normal when I check at home) That in turn makes me more nervous because I’m afraid the doctor will take me off my meds because my bp and heart rate is too high. Anyone that can give me any advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA. | 2021-12-08T23:50:08.000Z | rc4c1k | 6 | 2 | ADHD | I get so nervous every med check appointment | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4c1k/i_get_so_nervous_every_med_check_appointment/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-08T23:49:12.000Z | rc4bb5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just Got Diagnosed, spouse is angry? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4bb5/just_got_diagnosed_spouse_is_angry/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-08T23:48:21.000Z | rc4aoc | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I (53f) was evaluated for adult ADHD today. Any other older folks get diagnosed later in life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc4aoc/i_53f_was_evaluated_for_adult_adhd_today_any/ |
BeanEntity | So I've been diagnosed before the school year started and have been on meds since, methylphenidate, dexmethylphenidate, and adderall xr (in that order). Unfortunately though none of them have done anything (other than make me tired and stop eating breakfast). I'm a little worried that me not being affected by these is abnormal so I came here to ask how many different medications you've tried and what medication you're on just to see if other people's experiences are similar (the specific medication is just curiosity) | 2021-12-08T23:45:00.000Z | rc48dm | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Those of you on meds, how many different kinds did you try until you found what was right for you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rc48dm/those_of_you_on_meds_how_many_different_kinds_did/ |
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