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Capital-Ad-1648 | Hi guys, so I’m a 20 yr old girl & I’ve had an adderall prescription for the past year and a half. It was pretty sketchy how I got the prescription, I just called my doctor and told him I thought I had ADHD & wanted to do some testing and he said “honestly we really only do the testing on younger kids to rule out autism, we can just try out medicine and see how you respond.” And like I’m 100% sure I have ADHD and had taken adderall before for tests so I knew that it just focused me and I could still sleep and everything. but basically my prescription is for 15mg twice a day and i haven’t talked to my doctor again except to refill the prescription. I’ve always been super worried about becoming dependent and losing my personality because of situations like this where doctors really don’t give enough of a fuck to figure out the right dosage. So I only take half of one (7.5mg) when i need to do homework and just kinda deal with my ADHD the rest of the time.
But here’s the thing, I saw this post today about a lady’s husband who had been on meds for the entire time they were married and then went off his meds saying adhd was his superpower and he’s like a dysfunctional nightmare now. And a lot of the more personality related things that had changed about him resembled a lot of the personality traits i dislike about myself that i had never even thought could be related to my adhd. So now I’m just kind of wondering if this whole “i want to keep my personality” bs is really just me self sabotaging ???
So I guess if anyone is taking their meds everyday or used to take them everyday and quit I’d just like to hear some of the long term changes you’ve had or any advice at all really. thanks!!! | 2021-12-07T03:04:56.000Z | rap3cm | 2 | 3 | ADHD | is Adderall dependance worth it?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rap3cm/is_adderall_dependance_worth_it/ |
Aggravating-Look1689 | I set god knows how many alerts and calendar events and auto emails to myself so I don't forget theirs. Never missed one of theirs for the 15 years we've known each other. Had a call with another friend but just was trying to bring the mood down. Absolutely gutted, and I can't focus on anything else right now. Thus why I'm awake 3h before having to get up. Their birthdays are less than a month away. I even got a message from one saying they'd bought their boyfriend a Christmas present today. Haven't had it in me to reply | 2021-12-07T03:02:54.000Z | rap1yy | 3 | 3 | ADHD | My two closest friends from school forgot my birthday this year | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rap1yy/my_two_closest_friends_from_school_forgot_my/ |
lanternbinch | Ive been diagnosed with adhd at a very young age. My mom would give me adderall and through out the years i would take it. However i hated how i felt with it. That eventually i quit taking them in highschool. I gained weight and was then diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. I never know if i should take the pills or not again. I hated feeling like that, calm and boring. Im rambling but thats my dilemma. | 2021-12-07T03:01:41.000Z | rap135 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Unsure what to do anymore | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rap135/unsure_what_to_do_anymore/ |
canwiibefriends | I’m really noise sensitive and I sometimes get annoyed at the sound of peoples voices/yelling. I’m looking into headphones to get to help me but there’s so many different kinds and I have no idea which to pick. Do you guys have any recommendations?
This part is for the character requirements that make very little sense because most of us have a very short attention span | 2021-12-07T03:01:04.000Z | rap0my | 9 | 4 | ADHD | Im looking for some good noise cancelling headphones/earbuds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rap0my/im_looking_for_some_good_noise_cancelling/ |
CatAdvanced8912 | I have bipolar and get chronic migraines. One of the main tools of treatment for both is managing your triggers. But part of that process is identifying your triggers and it can be so difficult to do. Because you forget what triggered it this time or you forgot to record it in your habit tracker.
All of my conditions would be helped if I ate healthy regularly, exercised regularly, and maintained a good routine to keep me on track. But ADHD makes it so hard to stick to a routine. I feel so exhausted at the end of a even mildly productive day.
Sometimes I can even feel a migraine coming on and I know I need to take my meds. But I will sit their and procrastinate it and then I’ll have a full fledged migraine. Or I’ll trigger a migraine because I forgot to drink water or eat food. Or I went outside when it was too bright and forgot to bring my sunglasses.
ADHD makes everything harder. But when you have other difficulties in your life that need management it feels impossible sometimes.
Like today I did has an amazingly productive day and I still got a migraine because I didn’t pay attention and drank too much caffeine. | 2021-12-07T03:00:42.000Z | rap0dr | 1 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD makes any additional ailments, conditions, or disabilities you have so much more difficult. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rap0dr/adhd_makes_any_additional_ailments_conditions_or/ |
Slicelker | Alright I'm at the point where I'm willing to accept that when I get too into something, I honestly can't stop myself from getting overly hyper about it. This is the worst in social situations, where every conversation that lasts for a while has me talking way too fast and being gittery. I can calm myself down easily if I'm aware that I'm getting too hyper, but the problem is that I often don't notice my behavior until its too late.
Basically I need a recommendation for a way to have a 10/20/30 minute reminder vibrate on me on an interval. Is there like a physical tool that can do this? Something small and with long battery life that I can conceal in my pocket and no one would hear the vibration but me. Don't really want it to be my phone, so that would be my last resort. I also think that having it be external from what I already carry daily would help me as well.
Also if anyone has any advice on this issue, I'm all ears. | 2021-12-07T02:59:34.000Z | raoze7 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Need a tool recommendation and/or advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoze7/need_a_tool_recommendation_andor_advice/ |
canwiibefriends | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:57:03.000Z | raoxq5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for some good noise cancelling headphones/earphones | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoxq5/looking_for_some_good_noise_cancelling/ |
Msmegrenee | I took 15mg IR 9 hours ago and still feel it. Friday I took a 2nd dose at noon and couldn’t sleep until 4am. Is it normal for my body to metabolize it so slowly? Also, my hands and feet have been like ice all day! I will say, today is the first aha! day I’ve had taking medication. I was able to focus at work all day and it was a miracle! | 2021-12-07T02:56:30.000Z | raoxdp | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal for adderall IR toast 10+ hours? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoxdp/is_it_normal_for_adderall_ir_toast_10_hours/ |
rpgsavedmylife | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:51:21.000Z | raotwb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | symptoms worse when i missed a dose of wellbutrin. Why? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raotwb/symptoms_worse_when_i_missed_a_dose_of_wellbutrin/ |
BrownieJoe | More context: I suspect I have ADHD, so I called a psychologist my parents took me to about six times as a child (over 20 years ago). The psychologist said any records would be destroyed by now, but he could see that the "billing diagnosis" was listed as ADHD.
However, my mom tells me the psychologist determined I was normal and that he even wrote a letter to my teacher saying so. Does the billing diagnosis mean I was actually diagnosed, or maybe they just used that so insurance would cover the sessions or something? | 2021-12-07T02:51:04.000Z | raotp4 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I called a psychologist my parents took me to six times as a child and he told me my "billing diagnosis" was listed as ADHD. Does billing diagnosis always reflect actual diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raotp4/i_called_a_psychologist_my_parents_took_me_to_six/ |
Neanderthal888 | I’m 33, only recently accepted my Inattentive ADD diagnosis. But I’ve never accepted how hard it is for me to take care of myself and clean etc.
I still beat myself up about it.
It gives me shame and anxiety as well when it stacks up.
I live alone so I pretty much only clean if I know people will visit soon.
But otherwise my place becomes a complete mess and my clothes all get dirty till I don’t have much to wear, food starts going mouldy and it gets more and more overwhelming.
It seems impossible to motivate myself consistently (sometimes I have short periods where I’m driven to do it, but it fades quickly).
Does anyone relate? What advice do people have for me?
What can I do to change this? Or do I have to accept it? | 2021-12-07T02:50:18.000Z | raot6a | 22 | 65 | ADHD | Struggling to accept how hard it is to motivate myself to clean and self care consistently | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raot6a/struggling_to_accept_how_hard_it_is_to_motivate/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T02:50:11.000Z | raot3c | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Im scared of medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raot3c/im_scared_of_medication/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:49:43.000Z | raosqg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I called a psychologist my parents took me to six times as a child and he told me my "billing diagnosis" was listed as ADHD. Does billing diagnosis always reflect actual diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raosqg/i_called_a_psychologist_my_parents_took_me_to_six/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T02:42:57.000Z | raonzo | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Is one of the symptoms of ADHD not knowing when you offend people and over apologizing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raonzo/is_one_of_the_symptoms_of_adhd_not_knowing_when/ |
bivuki | I’ve been reflecting on conversations I have with my friends and had a moment of self awareness. I tend to go way too deep in the reasons why I say “No” to certain things. I also tend to apologize for things that are normal for other people , is this a common thing for people with adhd, or is it just a me thing? | 2021-12-07T02:41:55.000Z | raonak | 5 | 12 | ADHD | over-explaining your behaviors to other people | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raonak/overexplaining_your_behaviors_to_other_people/ |
gotape | So I had a really bad past couple years or so and about a year ago my situation left me alone and through being alone I’ve focused on healing and becoming a better me mentally and trying to be a good person and really focusing on being self aware. I isolated myself from relationships and people because truly I know i had a lot of work to do on myself before any of that was a priority. I’m confused as to the type of person I am or what my personality entails because I feel like nobody truly knows me. I have adhd and I do notice myself constantly having different personality’s towards different people or depending on our relationship ( especially to people I just meet (ex. work) ) I spend so much time what feels like hanging out with myself and talking to myself but my perception of myself goes away when with someone and it frustrates the hell out of myself because i don’t even like the person that comes out. Well after a year of hanging out with nobody i got really lonely and wanted to feel the presence of someone especially the opposite gender. I hung out with a old situationship that I probably shouldn’t of even entertained and off rip I found myself reflecting this old unhealed personality I used to have. I don’t even know why because instantly I even got the ick from hearing some of the things i said or how judge mental my demeanor came off. Why? After thinking i’ve done so much healing and improvement why does this personality come out that I don’t even want to resonate with? If I think I’m becoming such a good genuine person then why can’t I show the world the person that is in my head? Why did the personality I’ve been fighting come back the second I finally hang out with someone? | 2021-12-07T02:38:56.000Z | raol6n | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Hung out with someone for the first time in a year | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raol6n/hung_out_with_someone_for_the_first_time_in_a_year/ |
Ham_The_Spam | I have so many things that I need to do and I do nothing all day. Tasks that I know are important, yet I lazily procrastinate. I could do everything in a week but I’ve been doing nothing but procrastinate for months. I internally yell at myself “JUST FUCKING DO IT!” but the only way I can do anything productive is if someone is next to me and doing the thing for me. Everyday I have the potential to do something, anything, but instead I just lazily sit on my ass and play video games all day. What the fuck is wrong with me? | 2021-12-07T02:35:32.000Z | raois0 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Everyday is a failure | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raois0/everyday_is_a_failure/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:35:19.000Z | raoiln | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have a giant test tomorrow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoiln/i_have_a_giant_test_tomorrow/ |
canwiibefriends | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:29:30.000Z | raoeht | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have good noise cancelling headphones/earbuds recommendations? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoeht/does_anyone_have_good_noise_cancelling/ |
hhubbs | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:29:04.000Z | raoe5y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Prozac and Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raoe5y/prozac_and_vyvanse/ |
Mediocre-Gazelle3991 | TLDR: I don’t know how to get my therapist or psych to help guide me to be more aware of my symptoms and find solutions for them in my daily life. Even with the help of meds.
How do those of you who are in therapy and feel like every session is productive and helps you move in the “right” direction, make your sessions helpful and productive?
I’ve been seeing my therapist since I was about 17, I’m 26 now. I’d like to say that it’s been helpful as far as being able to vent to a non biased person and some sessions I walk away really thinking about how to solve the issue I have.
However, I’ve realized I really don’t know how to pin point certain symptoms/behaviors of my ADHD and how to work with them. As this disorder (along with my new diagnosis) has been my “norm”
I was just diagnosed with bipolar 2 in May, and again, I have no idea how to pin point symptoms/behaviors of this disorder. As far is when I’m hypo manic or having a mixed episode or rapid cycling.
I feel lost to sum it up, I feel like I’ll never be a fully functioning adult.
I started meds and when I asked my psych what changes I should notice/look out for he just said “your anxiety will go down four notches and you’ll be a happy successful person!” Not helpful… at all.
Sorry if this doesn’t really make sense… | 2021-12-07T02:28:28.000Z | raods4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you make your therapy sessions productive? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raods4/how_do_you_make_your_therapy_sessions_productive/ |
Lonely_stranger_ | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:24:38.000Z | raob06 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Questions regarding ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raob06/questions_regarding_adhd/ |
lohwren | Hi everyone, this has been a problem I've dealt with for a long time, but usually after a few weeks of a slump I can try to start improving my ability to clean up around my apartment etc. But the past few months I've been physically unable to do anything that I need to do, as in it's entirely too overwhelming and I end up getting frozen on my couch basically all day.
I've been talking to a therapist and they are suggesting I go to a psychiatrist for an official diagnosis on what shes almost certain is ADHD. I've always felt like I struggled with it but never had much support until now.
Anyway, even with the hopes of getting this diagnosis officially, I don't feel any better, and it's impossible to get myself to focus on anything at all. Feeling really lost. | 2021-12-07T02:21:18.000Z | rao8nv | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Any tips on completing daily tasks would be helpful | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao8nv/any_tips_on_completing_daily_tasks_would_be/ |
SparkliestSubmissive | I have an appointment next week with my doctor to explore other medication options, and I’d like to do some research before our appointment, but I’m not even sure where to begin. I know I can’t afford Vyvanse until it has a generic, but other than that, I feel pretty clueless about ADHD meds!
I would love to hear about your journey with medication, what has/hasn’t worked for you, whether you take your meds daily or skip days…all the important stuff. I want to be as prepared as possible before I meet with my doctor, so I’m just looking for some personal insights, experiences, and context before I start researching.
If it matters, my key problem areas are:
~Working memory (such as in putting something down and having no idea where it is…but like…a million times a day)
~Inability to focus/concentrate on work or any kind of reading
~Difficulty organizing information and thinking through tasks (grocery shopping is a nightmare)
~Difficulty listening/paying attention
Thank you in advance!! | 2021-12-07T02:20:32.000Z | rao84s | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Diagnosed last summer. Adderall worked like a charm for two months, then became very hit or miss even with increased dose and taking 2 days off per week. It just doesn’t work anymore. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao84s/diagnosed_last_summer_adderall_worked_like_a/ |
jbergcreations | I tried strattera by itself probably 15 years ago and it did nothing, I’m now on “the highest” dose of adderall and it’s not helping so my doc added 40mg strattera, is there a ideal time of day to start taking it? Will I notice the benefits right away? Foods to avoid? Any advise appreciated, I’ve heard some scary stuff about side effects and am slightly nervous | 2021-12-07T02:18:53.000Z | rao6x6 | 9 | 1 | ADHD | Adding Strattera to my Adderall dose… anything I should know? | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao6x6/adding_strattera_to_my_adderall_dose_anything_i/ |
[deleted] | So just want to start by saying I am not diagnosed with ADHD, so it might not be in good taste for me to post. I am, however relating on a level of not just "lol that's definitely me" but on the level of "I didn't realize this hyper specific thing was a fucking PATTERN" to everything I've been researching about ADHD, and I'm trying to figure out if I should get tested.
I often do things like bouncing my heel continuously for hours until my leg hurts (didn't even realize it until my gf said it makes her anxious), or struggle and get frustrated with conversations because I can't get a sentence to land and have to really focus to stay on topic instead of rambling and talking as soon as something pops into my head, or try to stay awake working to delay tomorrow, I can't read for too long because I have to keep going back and rereading things cause I lost track of the sentence, stuff like that.
However, one thing that I do VERY often, is pacing around my flat monologuing about any subject I'm feeling passionate about, as if someone was listening or as if I was recording a video. I keep pacing until my legs hurt and I am really tired, the only time I managed to roughly guess the distance, I had paced for 3.7 miles while talking.
Is this like, a thing that other people have experienced? | 2021-12-07T02:18:06.000Z | rao6e6 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Pacing and monologuing for miles? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao6e6/pacing_and_monologuing_for_miles/ |
DBold11 |
I'm a high school teacher with ADHD-PI and just started recovering from a pretty strong burnout after a vacation last week. I was feeling more rested,clear minded and even happy since then and came home with a renewed determination to pace myself so I don't burn out again.
But now that my mind has some rest, it feels like a motor that doesn't want to stop running despite my attempts to slow my life down.
There's a constant buzzing and chatter like an engine running full throttle but not going anywhere. Seems to be a cycle and it usually keeps running until I'm mentally depleted again. Only to start again later. I'm assuming it's an ADHD thing. Does anyone else experience this and found ways to achieve balance? | 2021-12-07T02:17:05.000Z | rao5p0 | 3 | 8 | ADHD | Mental hyperactivity/Burnout cycle | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao5p0/mental_hyperactivityburnout_cycle/ |
No_Kaleidoscope553 | I’ve noticed troubling habit patterns in my iPhone use and have developed systems to tackle them. Wanted to share them here and get advice on how to continue my fight forward.
Strategies:
-Minimalism: only keep essential Apps. No Snapchat/TikTok/Instagram
-Mindfulness Friction: Use shortcuts to require inputting a reason before opening an app that’s addicting
-Location Automation: Use shortcut automation to only allow opening an app where falling into a binge is unlikely (outdoors). This also motivates me to go outdoors
-ScreenTime: Create downtime and app limits and make several passcodes until you forget the passcode
-Greyscale/Motion Reduction: Makes phone less exciting
-Separation: Keep phone away in the living room.
I’ve tried all these systems and they have helped but I’d like to go further. Two challenges I still experience:
Lingering/Trance: This is when I open my phone to do some kind of task and I do it mindfully but then I fall into a sort of trance where I just linger on the app that I opened or complete a ludic loop (opening a bunch of apps in cycle). I’ve found that I sometimes do this in-spite of the mindfulness reason prompt. I go into an autopilot mode where I feel paralyzing checking “just one more app one more time”. Typically, this happens when my phone unbeknownst to me, follows me into my room and I lay in bed for hours scrolling and swiping.
Mindless Checks: I find myself checking my phone for absolutely no reason when Im waiting for the elevator or any other slow situation
Please let me know if you have any tips/suggestions! | 2021-12-07T02:16:41.000Z | rao5fs | 2 | 13 | ADHD | Dealing with Smartphone Addiction | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao5fs/dealing_with_smartphone_addiction/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T02:15:29.000Z | rao4la | 2 | 3 | ADHD | "You are not trying hard enough, you don't care enough, you are always slacking off" | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao4la/you_are_not_trying_hard_enough_you_dont_care/ |
zephyrstardust | So I have ADHD, and I run an earring business. I didn’t find much success on Etsy, because I haven’t put in the hours, but I have found more success selling to galleries and locals through Instagram and Facebook. But I’m SOOOOO inconsistent. I give up and don’t work on my earrings or business even though it’s an excellent source of income for me. I’m constantly behind when I promise to add inventory to my client galleries. My posts on social are far and few between. But every time I post I have interested buyers. There is a lot of interest with my earrings and I could be making bank at the million craft markets/farmers markets where I live. But I physically, mentally, and emotionally can’t put in the time. Why?! I hate this. Even the fact I take meds everyday doesn’t help. I think about it every single day, how I want to get proactive with my earrings. But I’m paralyzed. Help. I just want to be successful with my own business 😭 | 2021-12-07T02:12:27.000Z | rao2js | 7 | 7 | ADHD | Why can’t I be consistent with my business | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao2js/why_cant_i_be_consistent_with_my_business/ |
OliveGardenDumpster | I notice when I talk about something I’m very excited about or super interested in I start shaking really really badly. It’s like this huge surge of energy comes over and my entire body, especially my shoulders and arms, just start shaking really badly and I start talking a lot more/talking faster.
Is the shaking something to worry about? | 2021-12-07T02:10:22.000Z | rao10y | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Shaking when talking about something exciting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rao10y/shaking_when_talking_about_something_exciting/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T02:06:21.000Z | ranybb | 9 | 11 | ADHD | "gatekeeping" adhd | 0.82 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranybb/gatekeeping_adhd/ |
TheRealMasonMac | Something that's been frustrating for me lately is the number of friends I've lost for what are to me completely unknown reasons. I understand that there was something in how I behaved that justified their response, but without them telling me what there's nothing I can do. I wonder if anyone has some lessons they've learned over the years when it comes to social skills w/ ADHD?
A few personal questions:
1. How do you apologise when you don't know what you did wrong?
2. What do you do when you sense a tension in the friendship? If I try to ask them directly if there's anything wrong, they'd only give me empty reassurances.
3. My ex-friends never told me anything was wrong until they blew up, and they never reveal their reasons for doing so. It often feels like they expect me to already know, and that I'm just pretending I don't. I often hear them rhetorically say, "Was I obliged to tell you?" What can I do to improve communication and trust here? | 2021-12-07T02:06:14.000Z | rany8n | 2 | 3 | ADHD | What are some social skills that people with ADHD lack and should really be aware of? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rany8n/what_are_some_social_skills_that_people_with_adhd/ |
XXSusanStoHelitXX | I was diagnosed in my late 20's and am in my early 50's now. I have been on and off meds and am currently a complete mess as I wait for my psych appointment in January.
My daughter, who is 13, has taken on a role of carer. She comes to find me in the morning, makes sure I'm up and not paralysed by indecision trying to work out what to wear. She helps me choose clothes, makes lunch for us both and makes sure I eat breakfast. She'll discretely remove any distractions (like my phone or tablet) and follow me around giving instructions.
I feel like crap because she's seen how I'm struggling and has taken on this burden of caretaker. She's a teenager. She should be out doing fun, teenage things, not looking out for me. She tells me that she loves me and she doesn't mind helping. I tell her every day that she doesn't have to help and it's not her responsibility. I don't want her to feel obligated to give things up for my sake. I am responsible for my actions not her.
She feels that it IS her responsibility because my hubby and other children just don't help. It's not because they're being horrible - I think they're just oblivious to how hard it can be to function because I am very good at masking. Every few months, things get too much, the façade fails and people step up for a week or so. I don't want my daughter to see this because it increases her sense of obligation. It's not fair to her.
I've been waiting 18 months to see the psychiatrist and I hope they'll remedicate me but am also terrified they'll tell me the diagnosis was wrong. Cue anxiety and unhelpful thoughts followed by overwhelming hopelessness and a complete inability to do anything. It's just crap. | 2021-12-07T02:02:20.000Z | ranvf7 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Teenage daughter taking on carer's role | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranvf7/teenage_daughter_taking_on_carers_role/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T02:01:04.000Z | ranuk3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else sick of being seen as stupid or unreliable? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranuk3/anyone_else_sick_of_being_seen_as_stupid_or/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:57:36.000Z | ranrys | 55 | 210 | ADHD | I'm unable to watch new shows or movies - stuck on re-runs. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranrys/im_unable_to_watch_new_shows_or_movies_stuck_on/ |
agentlastwish | It makes me feel like I'm drowning. Like I want to abandon everything I've worked so hard to achieve because I can't cope with this one, stupid symptom. It like, when I think I'm about to be rejected, or when I'm corrected at work, it feels like everything inside me just completely collapses. I've been doing cognitive behavioral therapy for like 3 years, trying to deal with a long history of childhood neglect, and I've made so much progress but this one thing... It's ruining my life. I have these breakdowns, and I just don't know how to explain myself to my boss and my friends. Like, "Hi, I need you to verbally praise me more and be a lot more gentle when you correct my work because I have Can't Sit Still Disease and also I wasn't hugged enough as a child."
How the hell do you guys deal with this? How do you establish boundaries when your boundaries are literally "don't tell me I'm wrong too much or I'll cry."
I'm working so hard trying to out my life back together but this one stupid thing... I'm so scared it's going to swallow me up and drown me. | 2021-12-07T01:54:29.000Z | ranpr0 | 289 | 1,032 | ADHD | How Do Y'all Deal with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranpr0/how_do_yall_deal_with_rejection_sensitivity/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:51:58.000Z | rano0c | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I know exactly where I want to be but can't get there | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rano0c/i_know_exactly_where_i_want_to_be_but_cant_get/ |
baconmanic42 | So my doctor wanted to moved me to ER but when the script was filled it was my old 10mg IR. So I'm wondering if splitting the pill in half and taking it every 2 to 3 hours would be the same as the ER? Besides filling my old script the Concerta ER tabs is so much more expensive..
Any ideas on this plan? Even if it is a bad idea I want to know. The first few days was good with little to no drop offs ( how I assume ER) would be. When I tried to go back to 10mg three times a day i got swings again.. | 2021-12-07T01:48:08.000Z | ranlfs | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Splitting Methylphenidate IR pill... Question. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranlfs/splitting_methylphenidate_ir_pill_question/ |
GayandPanicking | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:47:56.000Z | ranlbe | 8 | 7 | ADHD | Is this an ADHD thing?: I can’t engage in things that are popular. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranlbe/is_this_an_adhd_thing_i_cant_engage_in_things/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:47:50.000Z | ranl8x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else have trouble watching new shows/movies and just keep watching re-runs? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranl8x/anyone_else_have_trouble_watching_new_showsmovies/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:47:16.000Z | rankvz | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Have you ever successfully crammed? Need help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rankvz/have_you_ever_successfully_crammed_need_help/ |
SparkliestSubmissive | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:46:15.000Z | rank7s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosed last summer. Adderall worked wonderfully for about two months and then it seemed to do nothing, even taking 2-3 days off a week and trying a higher dose. I have an appointment next week to discuss other medications, but I’m not sure where to begin researching. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rank7s/diagnosed_last_summer_adderall_worked_wonderfully/ |
positiveshinee | Do you have any advice for automating things and getting rid of barriers to entry for tasks? For me, when I know exactly what I have to do and there are as few barriers to entry between me and the task as possible, I can complete what I need to do in a much better and more satisfying way. For example, one thing i realized recently after getting airpods is that it is really easy to send messages with siri. It's far less brainwork than having to open up my phone and complete the text manually. | 2021-12-07T01:44:36.000Z | ranj5j | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Do you have any advice for automating things and getting rid of barriers to entry for tasks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranj5j/do_you_have_any_advice_for_automating_things_and/ |
positiveshinee | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:43:19.000Z | rani9t | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anybody have any advice for automating things and getting rid of barriers to entry for tasks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rani9t/does_anybody_have_any_advice_for_automating/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:41:20.000Z | rangxv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone really repetitive? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rangxv/is_anyone_really_repetitive/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:41:06.000Z | rangrm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I started crypto | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rangrm/i_started_crypto/ |
2starGulag | First try at meds. First week 2.5mg breakfast and 2.5 lunch. Short acting.
Was really effective in making my moods, outlook and super dark thoughts reduced.
Reduced ticks and habits like binge eating and over thinking on having treats.
But no improvement on focus and attention at all.
Followed my plan and tried 5mg at breakfast and soon after was experiencing profound body anxiety. Took 3 days no dosage before it went away completely.
It have chronic anxiety issues so I was able to keep it managed and work and parent and I wasn't mentally anxious so that was nice?
Tired 5 again on week 3, same result.
Was really hoping to improve my focus, anyone have thoughts before my follow-up appointment? | 2021-12-07T01:38:27.000Z | ranezy | 19 | 2 | ADHD | More than 2.5 dexamfetamine = body anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranezy/more_than_25_dexamfetamine_body_anxiety/ |
goredrinkerenjoyer | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:38:00.000Z | ranenz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Took large amounts of concerta | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranenz/took_large_amounts_of_concerta/ |
BerserkerZach | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:34:36.000Z | ranccs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Those "oddly satisfying" videos honestly make me feel uncomfortable | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranccs/those_oddly_satisfying_videos_honestly_make_me/ |
Trapalot630 | I constantly find myself captivated by the app TikTok but can never pay attention in class. It’s actually becoming difficult to stay attentive as I almost fall asleep. The odd thing though, is that as soon as I pick up my phone I get wide awake. Do you know anything that will help me? Should I start medication again? | 2021-12-07T01:34:20.000Z | ranc6m | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How do I keep myself focused? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranc6m/how_do_i_keep_myself_focused/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:33:50.000Z | ranbtu | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I haven’t been diagnosed, and I’m not self diagnosing either, but I feel like I fit in here. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ranbtu/i_havent_been_diagnosed_and_im_not_self/ |
Thrice_88 | Hello there. I just spoke with my doctor and he upped my dosage of Adderall XR from 10 to 15mgs. He said he was going to write a new prescription for the new dosage. The thing is I have about 20 pills left from my previous bottle. My wife asked if I was supposed to take the extras to the pharmacy for them to dispose of the extras. I had never heard of that. Is that a thing? How do you discard extra pills? | 2021-12-07T01:27:19.000Z | ran7bd | 9 | 1 | ADHD | Taking Adderall to pharmacy to discard? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran7bd/taking_adderall_to_pharmacy_to_discard/ |
DaintyNoodles | im so incredibly excited, but i’m doing that thing where because i’m excited i want to do the thing right this second and it’s killing me to keep waiting. my plan is to do it at our friends new year’s eve party but the ring came in today and it’s taking all of my willpower to not just pop the question as soon as she gets home. i want it to be special for her but i’m just really excited and want to do it now | 2021-12-07T01:26:54.000Z | ran703 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | I’m going to propose to my girlfriend soon | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran703/im_going_to_propose_to_my_girlfriend_soon/ |
erinmorales74 | For pretty much my whole life I’ve always been the friend that entertains everyone and says random things to start interesting conversations and jokes. And since learning that I have and also going through severe depression ( it’s gotten a lot better but I’m still sad 60% of the time) I’ve realized I can’t find people who entertain me and this has cause me to become pretty quiet and anti social and picky about people in general. I’ve realized that I need to stop and give people a chance but I still need help breaking out of this mindset. I truly am a social person at heart and I hate thinking that people see me as antisocial. Don’t really think anyone else has this problem but does anyone have tips for finding friendships that’s satisfy your adhd or can relate ? | 2021-12-07T01:26:43.000Z | ran6w2 | 7 | 3 | ADHD | People seem to never been enough for me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran6w2/people_seem_to_never_been_enough_for_me/ |
nyanpires | so, i went to college and i struggled throughout because i had a full time job as a manager at a retail store, i would go to college right after work and come home and do homework. when it comes to things i want to personally improve on, now that i have time, if i have to do anything that has more priority my brain shuts me out.
so, now that i am not doing all that stuff i described, i have free time to work on my art and my book. these are important to me but i was also working on streaming, getting commissions, uploading art for my instagram and trying to relax.
it was going good until i started doing doordash about a month ago. i do it for 2-6 hours on average and it's NOT hard, it's easy and requires no brain power, no socializing pretty much and i get paid. when i come home, i look at my home projects like learning environmental art or outlining my book a little -- even writing in it, and I can't.
My brain is like: you did things, don't do anything else....not even things you enjoy?
i also text RP, which is my "relax" from everything but i sometimes don't even do that, so i idle for hours and have to force myself to do things. streaming did help me keep myself accountable for doing and working on my improvement on my art(studies etc) but my studies are super ugly and I don't want anyone to see them.
:| coffee does help some, but does anyone have any tips to keep me from shutting down? i can't even clean up the apartment. | 2021-12-07T01:25:39.000Z | ran67d | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i can't seem to do more than one thing at a time? help? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran67d/i_cant_seem_to_do_more_than_one_thing_at_a_time/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:24:14.000Z | ran5b0 | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Struggling to keep my eyes in focus | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran5b0/struggling_to_keep_my_eyes_in_focus/ |
JonesinforJonesey | I was reading an ask Reddit or other community about how your ADHD affects (fucks up) your daily life and checked it out because I've always wondered if my son has it. Instead I found myself relating to so many of the replies. I've been stuck on it ever since, digging around for more information, pulling away then coming back. The video of the young girl veering around till she bumps into something that I saw today? That's me, I do it all the time! Except I'm faster and don't get as many bumps.
The trouble is I'm fucking old, I don't know if i want to ask my doctor as I always start things with my health and then I don't follow through and she knows this. Ive had a requisition for bloodwork that I asked for in April and still haven't gone in, had a bone density follow up last December that I missed and couldn't make myself call them back, stuff like that. I'm afraid to call. What would I say? And I don't match up with all the things mentioned, like overweight or psoriasis etc., I'm worried she might think I'm just nuts. And I actually am a wee bit crazy or 'off the wall'.
Also, I'm wondering about medication, I don't think I'd want to take it so why get a diagnosis? I just want to know. I'm better when I know what I'm dealing with. I used to drink to quiet things down, all the ptsd stuff I carried, plus the constant go round in my head. I quit that 3.5yrs ago and started using pot, it allowed me to think about all the things I didn't want to and deal with them. I'm better, but not there yet. About a year ago I realized I have terrible anxiety, knowing it helps me.
I don't know what to do, but would definitely appreciate any advice. Thanks to anyone who got through reading this! I deleted about a thousand words haha. | 2021-12-07T01:23:54.000Z | ran52e | 130 | 152 | ADHD | I'm in my mid 50s, is it too late to for diagnosis/treatment? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran52e/im_in_my_mid_50s_is_it_too_late_to_for/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:19:35.000Z | ran26v | 4 | 2 | ADHD | What's some good gift ideas for adult friend with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ran26v/whats_some_good_gift_ideas_for_adult_friend_with/ |
Lexilacecd | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:15:49.000Z | ramzoh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I take Vyvanse for my ADHD and I'm getting tested next month just wondering what it's going to be like | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramzoh/i_take_vyvanse_for_my_adhd_and_im_getting_tested/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T01:14:11.000Z | ramyhy | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I just want to get better | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramyhy/i_just_want_to_get_better/ |
Maleficent-Spell4170 | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:11:19.000Z | ramwe9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What are some healthy ways that you all use to cope with large amounts of stress? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramwe9/what_are_some_healthy_ways_that_you_all_use_to/ |
aquarius12791 | [removed] | 2021-12-07T01:04:33.000Z | ramri5 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Hello Ahead is Awesome! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramri5/hello_ahead_is_awesome/ |
Strange_Mammal | To preface, I’m in high school and the past month or so with writing assignments has been especially hard for me. Three times lately I’ve been over five days late on English assignments and so on. I’m a good student, and writing is typically where I do well.
I have an assignment due this Friday—making this a disappointingly significant achievement for me in that I’m writing this somewhat in advance—and I have loose ideas in my head about it, but whenever I try to sit down and write the thoughts just won’t come out. Moreover, I can never figure out how to elaborate on what ideas I have—I have loose notions of what to say but it’s far too abstract.
Does anybody have any tips for this? It’s immensely frustrating and has been really hard for me. Any thoughts are appreciated, and a thank you in advance to anyone willing to put in the time to offer suggestions. Truly, everything helps. | 2021-12-07T01:02:52.000Z | ramq92 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I don’t know how to organize my thoughts | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramq92/i_dont_know_how_to_organize_my_thoughts/ |
dumbnunt_ | I wasted the entire day today, plus I got up too late because I was woken up by noise. And I managed to not get any work done. The day was fully free. I don't know how I can start anew. My family also doubled down on the guilt being like wtf did you do all day.
How do you bounce back? And believe you can do things? Also, it seems that if I have small amounts of freelance work, I find it difficult to manage time and study between classes. | 2021-12-07T00:57:58.000Z | rammp1 | 31 | 96 | ADHD | A day wasted | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rammp1/a_day_wasted/ |
98-Sam | The initial Doctor who saw me thought because I was in University (at the time) so therefore "I couldn't have ADHD" but then told me to go to my University's Doctor (I wasn't registered at those Doctors and didn't live on Campus), which never happened anyway because the COVID pandemic happened soon after.
But I finally saw someone who took me seriously late last month and it made me feel like I wasn't making it up for attention or because I wanted a high off the medication or "wanted to feel special". And now I'm being referred to a psychiatrist. The referral is gonna take a year but it's much better than the nothing I had before. | 2021-12-07T00:56:10.000Z | ramli4 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Finally Getting A Referral, 2 Years After Initially Going to The Doctor | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramli4/finally_getting_a_referral_2_years_after/ |
ThisIsHarlie | If you can’t bring yourself to do transaction reports because you’re feeling anxious to wash your floors after work, it’s okay to stop working and wash the floors.
It’s okay to do the laundry before making dinner. (For the love of god, clean the damn lint trap)
It’s okay to pay bills before you feed the cat.
If the natural order of things goes against your natural order, do the other thing first. It’ll help prevent adhd paralysis. | 2021-12-07T00:55:39.000Z | raml6t | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Reminder: it’s okay to do the other thing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raml6t/reminder_its_okay_to_do_the_other_thing/ |
seanf999 | Just wanted to say - I've no official diagnosis, it's very hard to get seen over here but everyone around me suspects I have ADHD, it's basically a running joke.
I'm in the final year of my business degree, not sure how I've managed to get through it to this point.
I have never studied but I've somehow gotten to here and I'm hoping to graduate in the summer!
I just have no idea what I want to do career wise following college.
What I do know is I can't see myself sitting at a desk 9-5 and I know I want to start my own business at some point.
So I've been thinking the best plan of action for me is probably to learn a trade/skill, learn the business and eventually go it my own.
So I need to just find something that I don't mind doing day in day out.
I think hands on learning is going to be best for me.
It doesn't even have to be a typical 4 year apprenticeship.. I mean just whatever I like doing.
That being said I was an apprentice electrician for all of 6 months when I briefly dropped out of college.
I hated the large scale industrial environment and the people I worked with more than anything, sh\*tty management, I had no friends and it just wasn't a fun experience.
But I worked with my uncle who's a carpenter (fitting kitchens, wardrobes etc) and I liked that..
It's harder going physically but I just like(d) working with him and his friends, plus I could still take pride in the end result.
I also don't like working out in the damn rain day in day out, sounds stupid but it factors.
I'm not going to melt but I wouldn't go out bricklaying where I'll be out in the elements everyday.
I'm also looking at trades that are not in construction.
I've even considered hairdressing because it's hands on, creative and it's social - I'm a bald 20 something who's never had an interest in actually cutting hair.
Chef - tough going, my mother was a chef but left that life, she would strongly advise against it, plus I'm not brilliant at multitasking, for some reason I like the idea of it - dedication to passion.
Nursing isn't for me - it'd mean going back for 4 years of schooling, additional cost and I couldn't start a business from it, so I don't fancy that.
Any ideas for jobs that would suit a (possible) ADHD individual? | 2021-12-07T00:50:19.000Z | ramhmj | 2 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD Career Advice Anyone? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramhmj/adhd_career_advice_anyone/ |
98-Sam | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:50:02.000Z | ramheo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally Getting A Referral, 2 Years After Initially Going to The Doctor | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramheo/finally_getting_a_referral_2_years_after/ |
fonz13s | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:48:41.000Z | ramggv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did you used to lie about your grades in school? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramggv/did_you_used_to_lie_about_your_grades_in_school/ |
SuchAnAquarium | I’m F20 undiagnosed but will get tested in around 6 month. I have been showing a lot of adhd symptoms since I was a child. Basically every one expect I have always had good short term memory. Like in school I memorized tons of information 5 minutes before an exam and got good grades. Then however my other symptoms took over and I dropped out despite being a “gifted” student but that’s another story. Is it possible to have ADHD and good short term memory? | 2021-12-07T00:46:51.000Z | ramf95 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD and short term memory? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramf95/adhd_and_short_term_memory/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T00:43:33.000Z | ramd1x | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall IR vs XR vs Focalin...medication advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ramd1x/adderall_ir_vs_xr_vs_focalinmedication_advice/ |
senioritissss | Thanks to the good old executive dysfunction I have left all of my major assignments to last minute, all of which are due this week.
- 2 art projects due Thursday that I haven’t started
- Exam on Wednesday that I have yet to study for
- 2500 word essay which we were given to work on since the beginning of the term, that i once again barely touched.
I just remembered all of these things are due this week and I’ve spent the entire day panicking without getting anything done. I feel so overwhelmed with the amount of stuff that I just can’t bring myself to do it. All I’ve done today was contemplate whether or not I can do this all or get distracted by stupid shit.
I very recently got diagnosed with inattentive type and I’m trying to register for academic accommodations at my college, but my intake appointment isn’t till next week so I can’t make use of the benefits right now.. I failed most my classes last term and I’m on academic probation right now so I really need to pass this time, but I don’t know if I can do that.. I feel like a disappointment to my parents. They’ve spent so much money sending me to study abroad and all I’ve done is fail my classes and waste their money. I wish I wasn’t like this. | 2021-12-07T00:38:35.000Z | ram9py | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Overwhelmed with school | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ram9py/overwhelmed_with_school/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T00:37:37.000Z | ram914 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Is ADHD hurting me from getting in a relationship or even just talking to guys? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ram914/is_adhd_hurting_me_from_getting_in_a_relationship/ |
Alpha-Quartz | Hey guys,
I am 21m and just got back from a diagnostic appointment for ADHD. I have been seeing the doc every 2 weeks since the last 2 months and was on antidepressants (SSRI + SNRI).
So he had me fill out a questionnaire and it was obvious from my answers that i have ADHD. Then, he made me take a test on his computer for about 15 minutes. I had to match shapes and colors and stuff and i would say i got about 30% wrong.
He said he will share the results and talk more during our next appointment, but i am just worried that he might think i was really good at the computer game test and filled out the questionnaire a bit too......like i had ADHD? If he says i did well on the game, and that means i must be lying on the form and just want some pills, what do i tell him? Have any of you had a situation like this with your psych, and if so what did you tell him?
Thanks | 2021-12-07T00:29:32.000Z | ram3e3 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Got back from diagnostic appointment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ram3e3/got_back_from_diagnostic_appointment/ |
Frankidelic | Hello, this is my first semester on meds, with the roll out of in person classes, I’m getting C’s and it’s a accomplishment, Fall 2019 semester I stopped showing up during finals week and failed everything. I’m currently studying for finals. I’m feeling confident these are baby steps and for once I do not want to self sabotage. I hope you pass your finals, I know you got it in you. Don’t give up. Godspeed | 2021-12-07T00:27:45.000Z | ram25w | 3 | 5 | ADHD | First semester on meds | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ram25w/first_semester_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T00:24:49.000Z | ram08c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have possibly undiagnosed ADHD (my therapist suggested I get tested for it but I still haven't) and I'm taking university classes but as each semester goes by I just do worse. Any advice or similar experiences? I feel like such a failure. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ram08c/i_have_possibly_undiagnosed_adhd_my_therapist/ |
Aithusa519 | Hi. I have ADHD and I'm currently unmedicated. I'm not as productive as I could be or want to be. I hate it. But what I hate more is the idea of taking ADHD meds and it just squashing my personality. I've taken them before in high school and I just got drained of all personality, it felt like. I don't want it to happen again. I want to be me but also be more productive. I've learned to live with my ADHD the majority of the time but I would like to be productive. And I don't want to spend months and months trying different meds and having tons of bad side effects only for everything to fail. | 2021-12-07T00:24:11.000Z | ralzs3 | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Scared to take ADHD meds. I don't want it to change my personality. | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralzs3/scared_to_take_adhd_meds_i_dont_want_it_to_change/ |
Similar_Breath6846 | Okay so I’m an 18 year old female in college who doesn’t know wether to get tested or not. I went to a really small high school where a lot of people had adhd or some kind of mental disability. So I’m familiar with how it looks. But lately (since last summer) I’ve felt like I have it but I’m very high functioning. I have been an A student all my life and have gotten by pretty easily. But I did get into a lot of trouble I’m middle school for talking but it never stopped me from getting good grades. I would just skimp through notes an past. Recently I’ve been trying to do better in college but I can’t focus in any of my classes. Thinking back I never really focused unless I liked the subject I would always say dream or be on my phone/laptop. But it’s taking a toll now cause I can’t even sit down and do work without being distracted. I’ve taken test online that say I have it but I’m not convinced. I’ve also taken both prescription adderall and vyvanses and after I didn’t really feel a difference except a lot calmer. I finally didn’t feel like 100 things going on in my head. I haven’t been able to fully focus but I definitely feel better on it. Also I have lots of trouble with interrupting people, I don’t get up a lot when I sit but I’ll move my legs all the time, and if I start one task I’ll probably start 3 more within the same time frame. I have to constantly restrict myself from doing things cause I know I’ll get off task. Even with driving I have to pay very close attention or I might drive in another lane. The only reason I’ve been holding off on a diagnosis is cause idk what my parents would say. I feel like I’ve been exposed to it a lot so maybe that’s why I feel that way, but I also know I won’t be able to pass college if I don’t start being able to pay attention. Please help!! | 2021-12-07T00:23:24.000Z | ralz96 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD IMPOSTER | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralz96/adhd_imposter/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-07T00:23:10.000Z | ralz2e | 6 | 43 | ADHD | Holy Shit Guys I'm About To Cry I Never Knew There Were Others Like Me! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralz2e/holy_shit_guys_im_about_to_cry_i_never_knew_there/ |
tijdvoorthee | So yeah I have my ADHD assessment on Thursday, just wanted to ask if there is anything I should know about or what advice you would give me going into it. It’s a UK assessment and it’s 1.5 hours (which scares me slightly because I’m scared I’ll go off on a tangent in conversation and waste time lol).
What should I expect? Should I prepare for it, if so how? Also I don’t wanna push the ADHD narrative so much that they just diagnose me with it for the sake of it?
Idk i just don’t know what to expect or how it’s gonna go and it’s scaring me a bit and I don’t want to mess it up!! Literally any comments would be appreciated | 2021-12-07T00:22:55.000Z | ralyvt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have my ADHD assessment soon - Do I prepare? What to expect? Any advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralyvt/i_have_my_adhd_assessment_soon_do_i_prepare_what/ |
exmedusae | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:22:38.000Z | ralyo6 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD meds make me feel like a zombie | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralyo6/adhd_meds_make_me_feel_like_a_zombie/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:19:40.000Z | ralwk9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’ve recently acquired some adderal | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralwk9/ive_recently_acquired_some_adderal/ |
kikkerc | I am so incredibly frustrated about not being able to finish my assignments, forgetting deadlines, getting bad grades and just the eternal struggle of school. I got my associates degree after 3 years, took a break and now back at school for my bachelors at 27. I’m scared I’m failing. I failed 2 classes last semester, I think I’m failing one this semester. I have so much homework to do this whole week and I feel so fucking tired of myself. Does anyone have any advice? I take adderall and I think it helps a little, but goddammit I feel like a failure.
I want to finish school, I want my degree, and I want to go into a field where I need this degree but I have no idea how I’m going to do it. I could just use some advice and help from people like me because my friends don’t really understand and I’m worried they think I’m exaggerating or making excuses. | 2021-12-07T00:19:07.000Z | ralw6o | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Why am I such a bad student? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralw6o/why_am_i_such_a_bad_student/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:16:51.000Z | ralums | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Don’t know what to do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralums/dont_know_what_to_do/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:16:45.000Z | ralukm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Newly diagnosed adult with what feels like a million questions!!! Answer any if you can, but even just a little bit of support will go a long way as I'm yet to tell anyone irl. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralukm/newly_diagnosed_adult_with_what_feels_like_a/ |
msofroniou01 | I've recently started seeing a therapist for the past few months to help me work through a myriad of issues related to family issues, mood regulation, anxiety, and ADHD. I think I'm making some progress but I often time feel like my therapist tends to not know how to acknowledge a lot of different aspects of what I've got going on. I originally chose them since they were listed to have a specialties in LGBTQ+ issues and ADHD, but it doesn't feel like they're very familiar with either.
We've really fixated on family issues which is definitely at the forefront, but I've had to repeatedly remind them that 1) I was previously diagnosed with ADHD and 2) I originally inquired about therapy for strategies related to working with ADHD. Obviously I don't blame them for forgetting since we talk much more about family issues, but they also tend to never want to extend the conversation outside of family? It's difficult because up at the top, I mentioned that I'm looking for a more appropriate psychiatrist for a second opinion on my ADHD assessment since my original diagnosis was performed by someone with an M.D., not a Psych.D. who would have more appropriate training to assess a wider variety of mental health conditions.
I've been feeling stuck since we'll always do exercises relating to identifying where sources of emotion are coming from and reflecting on how past experiences make me feel, but often times, I feel like that's not what I struggle with. I feel like my problem's the opposite where I'll constantly reflect and ruminate on things, acknowledging my emotions, but then be stuck not knowing where to place these feelings or how to process them. Examples include: having an incredibly strong, difficult to reign in guilt response; being really sensitive to inconveniences, having ruminating thoughts / mood swings that last a few days that really hinder my ability to any real life or work tasks. I'll tried to ask for strategies or ways that I can better cope and process my emotions but we just always circle back to family issues and rarely ever seem to get passed that. I know how incredibly formative youth can be, but the incredible focus on all of the ways in which my family has made my life harder doesn't really do much good for me since 1) I already recognize that and 2) it just leaves me with more anger my family and just feels unproductive.
For those of you who have a therapist, how is ADHD discussed in your therapy? What helpful things has your therapist said to help you cope with some of the emotional regulation aspects of ADHD?
What should I do to try and guide my therapy to be more constructive? I'll need to see a psychiatrist first before making any big decisions, but I feel like I may need to find a therapist that may be more familiar, goal-oriented. | 2021-12-07T00:14:09.000Z | ralsrx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Discussing and Addressing ADHD in Therapy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralsrx/discussing_and_addressing_adhd_in_therapy/ |
IDontFeel24YearsOld | Hi I'm going to try and start this simply, but I have so many questions and concerns.
First, I'm a 28 year old male.
In the past I always felt that I might have some form of ADHD because of my frequent fidgeting, inability to focus even when I try to tell myself to mentally, and other things. Recently, it comes up more because my current gf notices it a lot ever since we moved in together. She sees I pick my wounds, nails, I always mess with the most random objects during conversations, or I zone out and she realizes I don't even know what's going on. Honestly, all of this makes me feel like I'm incapable of having an average intelligence. Does it bug me daily, and is it really a huge inconvenience? No, I have worse problems in my life. But it's annoying.
So we talked about me going to see what a doctor might think. My gf believed I did because she thinks she sees the symptoms or associated behaviors. She's no doctor, but she is a pharmacist.
So I go, and my regular doctor is... I don't know how to put it. He's an alright guy, but I can tell he doesn't really care, tends to not believe me, and would rather if you didn't ask any questions. I tell him about my and my gf looking into the possibility of me having ADHD. He starts off by saying something to the effect of "what makes you think that?" Then I described all the issues I just mentioned. I also mentioned that my girlfriend witnesses it much more than I do. Because I don't notice it all the time. He then asks "Is your girlfriend "A" kind of doctor, "B" kind of doctor, "C" kind of doctor.." Ya know? Almost like he's trying to deligitimize her opinion. Saying it has no weight or merit. I respond no, I say it was her idea that I go get a checked out, and get the opinion of a doctor. And he asked me if she recommended any medication, and I said no. And he says "Good, I wouldn't have listened anyway" And this is what upsets me. And makes me think I should get a new doctor. At the end of the day, he told me there's no way to test and see if somebody has ADHD. So he prescribes me Adderall after doing an EKG to determine if I had heart issues. So he gives me 10 mg of the all day version. For 30 days.
Within the first week and a half to two weeks, I became extremely tired after taking it. I would be sleepy in the mid to late afternoon. And that was consistent for those weeks. But has since stopped. I don't really take naps ever, but I had to at least once in that week. In fact I really don't drink much caffeine whatsoever. This is very strange to me because I believed Adderall was a stimulant.
Now in my line of work, I come across many people with many jobs. And it happened that a customer of mine was a doctor. He was an allergist to be fair, but I picked his brain for a little bit. And he pretty much told me that he seemed to believe that I had ADHD. Bare in mind, I haven't spoken to my actual doctor after I've taken the medication, even though I spoke to this one.
Now the first question the allergist asked me, was if I was tired after taking the medication. And I absolutely agreed. And he pretty much told me that he believed I had ADHD simply for that reason. That most of the time people become, well, stimulated etc if they don't have it. He called reference to it being a club drug, things like that. But when they do have ADHD, its supposed to balance you out. He also asked me if I wake up very easily in the morning, implied that I probably don't drink much caffeine, things like that. All of those things being 100% true.
Based on what I told him about my doctor, he told me to hear him out, see what he has to say, and if he doesn't share those opinions, or even seems to care about what I have to say, to find a new doctor.
I don't even know if any of this is true. I'm just listening to literally anybody. But the allergist did make me feel best.
Overall though, it seems like it has helped me a little bit in terms of my fidgeting. I find that I still do it occasionally, but I can generally stop myself which wasn't the case in the past. My nails surprisingly have grown out a decent amount, and it hasn't felt like a huge struggle to do that. When in the past when I've tried without medication, I'm on again and off again but mostly off. Still I feel like my focus could be better. I still find myself telling myself to pay attention to things and not being able to do it all the time. But I do feel like it has worked a bit. So I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm not sure if I should even believe my doctor when I speak to him on Friday. Does he even have my best interests at heart? And if I like The Adderall I'm taking, which at the moment I do, where do I go from here? Does it sound like I should be taking a higher dose? (I get I'll be seeing my doctor on Friday, just looking for some advice possibly.)
TLDR:
I think I have ADHD, my doctor says there is no way to test for it. He just gives me Adderall regardless. I react okay to it, should I ask for a higher dosage? Is my doctor an ass and does he actually care about me? Do I have ADHD based on my symptoms? Is the allergist correct? Should I just crawl up in a ball in the corner of My garage and whisper "find your happy place" to myself? | 2021-12-07T00:13:31.000Z | ralsc6 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I have too much to say. Do I need a new doctor? Is this other doctor correct? Should I be taking Adderall? How much should I be taking? Any advice helps please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralsc6/i_have_too_much_to_say_do_i_need_a_new_doctor_is/ |
Friendly_Item_65 | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:11:49.000Z | ralr4a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Having anxiety/panic attacks about overdosing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralr4a/having_anxietypanic_attacks_about_overdosing/ |
PlumThese8313 | I'm in my early thirties and freshly diagnosed (inattentive). I'm about two weeks into taking Adderall, and I'm curious about others' experiences with alcohol.
I've been somewhat unhappy with my relationship with alcohol for quite some time. It's gotten worse over the past year, where I rarely skip a day having at least 2-3 drinks (and usually more on weekends). I felt proud of myself if I skipped even one or two days, sadly. I successfully did a dry January last year, but it was mentally very hard for me (no physical withdrawal fortunately).
Curiously though, the first day I tried Adderall, that mental need that I had for alcohol totally evaporated. I haven't had anything to drink in 2-3 weeks and I don't even care. My wife has had an occasional glass of wine, and it looks tasty, but it didn't feel difficult at all to choose not to have it.
Has anybody else seen similar effects from starting stimulants? Based on this experience, I strongly suspect I was self-medicating. It always sounded so good to have a drink (or more) after work to help turn my brain off a bit and feel less bored and irritable, but the allure isn't there in the same way now. | 2021-12-07T00:07:31.000Z | ralnzk | 21 | 31 | ADHD | Alcohol cravings vanish after starting Adderall? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralnzk/alcohol_cravings_vanish_after_starting_adderall/ |
steve_will_do_it | A lot of the times when I am speaking, or even thinking to myself in my head, it is hard for me to recall a word that I am certain that I know. I know many people on this subreddit experience this problem. However, I was wondering is there a way to practice recalling words or sharpening ones memory through some sort of activity or drill?
Thanks in advance. | 2021-12-07T00:07:02.000Z | ralnnl | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Retrieving words from memory | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralnnl/retrieving_words_from_memory/ |
KlippelGiraffe | [removed] | 2021-12-07T00:03:28.000Z | rall4h | 1 | 1 | ADHD | On Ritalin (Concerta) and it feels like I'm constantly having to force myself to eat. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rall4h/on_ritalin_concerta_and_it_feels_like_im/ |
Puzzleheaded-Fly-398 | Whenever I have some shiny new mantra or technique that I think will really help me with my ADHD, I can't remember it when I need it. Even if it is something I have definitely committed to memory, I'll be in the moment thinking, "*Here it is. Here's the moment when I really need to remember... um."*
I can't remember the thing I had memorized. I can't remember why it was important. I can't remember the general source of the thing (therapist, podcast, reddit, etc) or any other context. I can't remember any clue at all, which is very unusual for me. It's as if my brain has a special lockdown mode just to prevent me from reasoning my way out of an ADHD-related funk. It's so dispiriting!
I know the solution is to externalize these things rather than rely on my memory. But the next time I inevitably think, "*There's no way I'll forget THIS little gem!"* Does anyone else experience this particular kind of memory problem? | 2021-12-06T23:59:13.000Z | ralhrr | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Self-help thoughts Evaporate when I need them! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralhrr/selfhelp_thoughts_evaporate_when_i_need_them/ |
Galaxyartcat | So basically, I screwed my knee up (I have genetic chronic knee issues) and cannot walk easily, in fact I'm out of school until I have crutches or all week as my school isn't built for someone who can barely walk and instead has to hop. It hurts and all but the boredom of barely being able to move comfortably or walk and watching the same videos is catching up to me and I'm so bored. My brain is tired and I don't know what to do, | 2021-12-06T23:54:22.000Z | ralebc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I screwed up my knee and am so bored. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralebc/i_screwed_up_my_knee_and_am_so_bored/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T23:54:03.000Z | rale2w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Attracted almost exclusively to other people with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rale2w/attracted_almost_exclusively_to_other_people_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T23:53:35.000Z | raldrp | 17 | 32 | ADHD | How do you stop living on autopilot? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raldrp/how_do_you_stop_living_on_autopilot/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T23:52:37.000Z | rald3p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tips for letting go of obsessions and fixations before my interview | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rald3p/tips_for_letting_go_of_obsessions_and_fixations/ |
micheld40 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T23:49:34.000Z | ralawf | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Answering questions today about ADHD | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ralawf/answering_questions_today_about_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T23:46:33.000Z | ral8pw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else have trouble falling asleep at night but struggle to stay awake when working or driving? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ral8pw/anyone_else_have_trouble_falling_asleep_at_night/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T23:46:25.000Z | ral8mf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Dating with ADD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ral8mf/dating_with_add/ |
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