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Mythrowaway847483 | Quick background: I’m 42, divorced with two kids. And recently got out of a 2 year relationship with my fiancé. I left 10 days before we planned to get married. Struggled with ADHD my whole life. On and off meds. Currently back on them and trying Concerta. It’s only my first week on it but so far so good.
I know I had valid reasons to leave my fiancé.
But I can’t shake this idea that the symptoms that come with my ADHD caused me and both of my major relationships to fail. I would forget things all the time, truly forget. Things like bills I had to pay, and places I had to be. I’d always have this constant sense that I was completely overwhelmed which caused a short fuse and defensiveness. I tried to listen but couldn’t always give my full attention because of distractions. I’d be extremely sensitive to criticism like being called lazy or told I’m not treating them well. And I hate using ADHD as an excuse for this behavior because I feel like I’m trying to diminish my mistakes.
My wife left me for another man. And I feel like I pushed my ex fiancé to the point of a self fulfilled prophecy situation. I was so afraid of her leaving me like my wife I came up with reasons to leave her first.
Just struggling today. Glad I found this sub I’m already getting a lot from all of you. | 2021-12-06T21:31:39.000Z | raibri | 7 | 17 | ADHD | Struggling with the thought that a big reason I’m alone is because of my ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raibri/struggling_with_the_thought_that_a_big_reason_im/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T21:29:07.000Z | rai9mn | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I have a sudden burst of energy before bedtime | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai9mn/i_have_a_sudden_burst_of_energy_before_bedtime/ |
Thedarthlord895 | For the past month I've had ao much in my personal life that I've been incapable of focusing on my academic. My grandpa is in horrible health and I've been helping them move every day for the last week and a half. Both yesterday and today I've needed to get like 10 essays and a final to get done and everything is due at the end of the week and im so stressed and overwhelmed I can't do anything. I'm so stressed and as I'm writing this I'm having a panic attack. I just need a break to relax but things have been so hectic I never get the chance to do both. I just want to hide under my desk and curl into a ball. There is no time and I feel like I'm drowning. With everything going on I can't devote myself towards school, family, and myself and neglecting any one of these just makes me more and more stressed. All I want to do is play some video game to relax but I can't write my essay if I do that but I can't write the essay because somebody in my family needs my help or want to have dinner with me at I time I can't afford to spend with them.
I just want to crawl into a hole and cry but I know it'll only make me cry harder.
I just want to be by myself in a quiet place but I can never focus unless I'm in my office but my pets are there and I can't ignore them and once my family gets home they are so loud it makes ir impossible to do anything requiring focus.
I don't know I just needed vent | 2021-12-06T21:29:06.000Z | rai9ls | 1 | 2 | ADHD | This is killing me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai9ls/this_is_killing_me/ |
tricksterfae | So I've just started day 3 of Vyvanse and its helping a lot, however I'm getting some side effects I need some help with dealing with.
The first is that I'm still quite distractable. And this is becoming an issue for me because Vyvanse makes me hyper focus on things. Once I start a task I will not stop. Which means if I get distracted before starting something important, that distraction will now become hyper focused on.
The second, I can't sleep :/. I'd say I've gotten 2-3 hours both nights I've tried sleeping. I may try taking a sleep aid tonight, but any tips on how to deal with that are also greatly appreciated.
And finally I'm grinding my teeth and even wounding the inside of my my mouth from small bites and such. It's nothing serious, I haven't drawn blood, but its a bit painful and I'd like to stop.
Anyway thanks for any tips you have for me! Hopefully once I adapt to the medication these will fade as well | 2021-12-06T21:28:14.000Z | rai8y7 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Help with managing some of Vyvanse's side effects? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai8y7/help_with_managing_some_of_vyvanses_side_effects/ |
stormRed1236 | Because adhd can make it easy to lose perspective, sometimes it helps to ask yourself "Am I still going to care about this tomorrow? What about the day after that? Next week?" Etc. Fixating on and ruminating about accidents and mess-ups can quickly ruin your day, so try and make sure to take a breath when you reach that point. | 2021-12-06T21:27:51.000Z | rai8ms | 5 | 9 | ADHD | A trick I just thought of to alleviate feeling bad about messing up | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai8ms/a_trick_i_just_thought_of_to_alleviate_feeling/ |
Chemist_Exact | 18y/o male
Simple as the title, i got prescribed prozac for adhd/anxiety. I feel like I finally made a dent in the mountain of work I need to do for my mental well being, my gp said when I left after I had attempted to unravel the alphabet soup of nasty things I struggle with, "I'm sorry buddy, I think we can help you, you seem very stressed"
The fact that my inner war going on was noticed for the first time from a stranger and not my own family members was a little distressing but none the less a step in the right direction | 2021-12-06T21:25:35.000Z | rai6p3 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Just a lil victory | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai6p3/just_a_lil_victory/ |
noesze | Hello my fellow ADHD people!
I think some of you might relate to my issue, which is picking at my skin - a lot. It is a usually temporary fixation that lasts either hours/days/weeks and I'm sick and tired of damaging my face/scalp/body because it hurts and it looks terrible.
Did anybody find a solution to steer away from the satisfaction of popping a(n invisible) pimple or tearing away skin of a healing mark?? Because I would love to hear about it! | 2021-12-06T21:24:48.000Z | rai629 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Please help me stop my skin picking habits | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai629/please_help_me_stop_my_skin_picking_habits/ |
geraldinus | So uuh i have ADD ( just adhd but without hyperactivity) but still cant sleep well cuz its a mess in my head
Especially when i have tests or something important the next day.
I just cant get my thoughts of off the important things which me stress up.
I also take small dose of melatonin (0.3mg) with 55kg bodyweight. 14 years old btw.
So uuh does anyone have tips for falling asleep quicker without getting stressed cuz of ur thoughts?
Apologies for my bad English | 2021-12-06T21:24:20.000Z | rai5oo | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How to sleep lel | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai5oo/how_to_sleep_lel/ |
Mentalcasemama | [removed] | 2021-12-06T21:21:29.000Z | rai34k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don’t know if this is ADHD related… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai34k/i_dont_know_if_this_is_adhd_related/ |
solace56 | Hello!
So, sorry to bother you, but I have a few questions about weather I should fight to have a diagnosis and meds??
Really, I'm a little old to be diagnosed I think (17 years old) and I'm an AFAB by the way. But there are all these things that people said I would grow out of but I'm not.
For example: I lose things, everything, important things (including my brand new cell phone that I ended up having to replace) my past 3 Mp3 players, papers, notebooks, anything I put down practically. When I loose sight of something, I don't remember that it exists.
I just can't stop disappointing my parents. I miss meetings and assignments (today I missed a really important one about collage registration T.T) I'm barely passing some classes, while others I'm okay, but only because I dedicate days to the smallest assignments. It takes me way way way too long to finish things, if I finish them at all.
I am so impulsive that I actually drag my brother shopping with me everywhere because it actually kinda *hurts* my brain when I say no to impulse buying and eating. I also can never get schedules to work for me lol. I find it so hard to do one thing at a time.
And I feel so LAZY. I just don't do things, even when I want to, it's hard. I'm a bad listener and bad at time management. Plus, I never feel present. Like I'm literally behind a veil from the rest of the world. The only ways I can find to cope are listening to music and minor self harm. I really just feel so detached. Also I can't regulate my emotions. I'm just angry all the time, or manic. And I have rejection sensitivity so bad, I have a panic attack when I think about seeing my actual good friends.
I also can't sleep. I take melatonin (when I can remember) but it's a pretty high dosage, and I just feel like I'm forcing a shut down and I have nightmares all night. Then I almost can't get out of bed in the morning! Ughhhhhh.
And here's the thing, when I mentioned that I might have ADHD to my parents, they were reluctant to believe me, then they said that I could get a diagnosis, but they don't want me to do meds because I "seem to be fine all this time" and because I do well in school (Ummm that's only because I'm homeschooled so I can do things at my own pace). Plus they said they doubted my doctor would put me on meds anyway. Well, I decided not to get the diagnostic test bc my doctor makes me feel weird, like I feel like I'm blowing things out of proportion whenever I go to her office (but I can't change doctors bc my parents *love* her.)
idk guys! I just don't know what to do. Would diagnosis really help? Would meds really help? I feel like I might be making all this anyway, but like I'm not? I feel like such a failure. Every day I find new ways to disappoint. Every day, I get up and say I'm going to have a better handle on things and myself, then fall short. I feel so dumb and awkward and clumsy and blind.
Sorry wow that was long. But any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also any alternative coping methods would be great too! <3 | 2021-12-06T21:20:58.000Z | rai2pz | 10 | 2 | ADHD | Could a Diagnosis and Meds actually help me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai2pz/could_a_diagnosis_and_meds_actually_help_me/ |
tecolote_azul | Earlier this year my mother told me that I was almost diagnosed when I was a child, but she didn't follow because at that time, she had the opinion that it was being overdiagnosed. This lead me to investigate about the symptoms, and now I rationalized my behaviours around ADHD, making me feel distant to the feeling of being me.
Did this happen to you? How did you cope with it? | 2021-12-06T21:20:51.000Z | rai2mf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know how to feel about this. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rai2mf/i_dont_know_how_to_feel_about_this/ |
trannus_aran | What's easier or even possible?
> 1. Acceptance that you *will* make worse mistakes more frequently than your peers, regardless of your progress and coping strategies, with no real way to explain it to others
> 2. Choosing not to see a pattern in your mistakes, living in the present moment, and dealing with the pain of your mistakes as they occur
As far as I can tell, I *have* to pick one. I've tried both, but it really feels like a question of "would you like chronic anxiety, or acute, episodic anxiety?" I just don't know how to live with this. It's been over 20 years, I need to figure something out. | 2021-12-06T21:14:01.000Z | rahwsi | 5 | 5 | ADHD | How do you live with this? | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahwsi/how_do_you_live_with_this/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T21:13:02.000Z | rahvz1 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What are the known effects of using meds over an extended period of time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahvz1/what_are_the_known_effects_of_using_meds_over_an/ |
_Salamand3r_ | [removed] | 2021-12-06T21:10:33.000Z | rahu1q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Uh oh, I just learned how to solve a Rubick's cube. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahu1q/uh_oh_i_just_learned_how_to_solve_a_rubicks_cube/ |
Abyssal_Guard | Hello everyone, first and foremost I'd like to apologize if this is ill placed in this community. I have no diagnosis of ADHD. However I'm trying to understand whether how I feel is related to anxiety or perhaps ADHD. I apologize for any ignorance I may display and would be happy to be educated. I don't mean offense.
Recently I've been finding myself struggling to get school work done. I'm on my first semester of college and it has pretty much gone smoothly. However, I've noticed that throughout college I struggle to focus on my work knowing full well that if I complete the work it will ease burdens on my shoulders. However when I sit down to do my work it's hard to focus on actually doing what needs to be completed pertaining to the class. I get distracted by checking my email unnecessarily, playing a game and hyperfocusing for hours and sometimes forgetting to eat and drink properly. My SO points out that it's weird that I need multiple sources of stimulation. For instance I'll be watching TV with her, and playing a game on computer. I feel like I can't have any downtime that I always need to be working on or toward something. During loading screens I'll load up a game on my phone or read an article online. I have always considered myself a procrastinator And I use the pressure to power through school work or whatever I have planned. I'm not exactly sure where to begin in rooting out way I feel this way.
I apologize again if this is in the wrong place or if I have offended anyone. Thank you in advance for your insight as I appreciate it very much. | 2021-12-06T21:10:19.000Z | rahtuf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | In need of advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahtuf/in_need_of_advice/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T21:09:38.000Z | raht95 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone used meds for an extended period of time with positive feedback? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raht95/has_anyone_used_meds_for_an_extended_period_of/ |
taroicecreamsundae | i used to be able to play for hours when i was a kid but now it only takes 20-30 minutes for me to be bored. i often continue playing because there was still stuff i wanted to enjoy.
you would think this is a good thing that allows me to be more productive but i end up just feeling depressed and demotivated after and too lazy to do anything else. so i just keep playing all day because it’s an easy “thing to do” despite having a list of stuff i wanted to do. | 2021-12-06T21:06:54.000Z | rahr1v | 4 | 6 | ADHD | i cant tell if this is an adhd thing— getting bored of video games quickly? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahr1v/i_cant_tell_if_this_is_an_adhd_thing_getting/ |
socialskills100 | They all know I (21) take pills every 3 hours but not what for. My boss said himself that everyone is accepted at this job and it seems so far his words are true.
I’ve had 4 shifts in total. On Thursday I got a psychiatrist appointment and I awkwardly had to tell my boss that I can’t come in until 3 hours late. He seemed bummed, and we didn’t get to discuss it at all. It makes me really anxious. I tried texting him too.
On top of the weekly psychiatrist appointments, I’ve also just contacted a psychologist. Appointments could start as soon as within a week, but with Christmas, it’s likely to be in January. As of right now I work 7.30-16.00. The clinics close at 16… once I’m fully trained, I’ll work from 10 or 12 to 19.15 which is a lot more suitable. Could be 3 months yet tho.
I’m new. I don’t want to tell them about my newly diagnosed ADHD or my thoughts about offing myself. I’ve been treated differently by past bosses with _immediate_ effect after telling them I MIGHT have it.
At the job interview, I said I had no hobbies or vacation planned that would interfere with work time.
Well I didn’t expect to be in such a dark place just 3 weeks ago. It is however, very dark. I also didn’t expect to clock in at 7.30 when the job I applied for specifically said closing shifts.
Any experience or advice? | 2021-12-06T20:59:40.000Z | rahkvu | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What do you tell your boss and coworkers when you miss work for appointments? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahkvu/what_do_you_tell_your_boss_and_coworkers_when_you/ |
Ryou2198 | I’ve noticed a lot of posts on here about losing phones and keys and stuff so I want to share what I have learned and found useful.
Android users: if you lose your phone you can go to google.com on your computer, make sure you are logged in to your account, and search “find my phone” and track it or force it to ring from there.
iPhone users: if you’ve lost your phone you can go to iCloud.com, sign in to your apple account, and use Find My to track your phone and make it ring.
Lost items: so of course Apple has come out with their own tag device BUT there are cheaper alternatives. Tile and Chipolo are two brands that come to mind. Both brands make tags you can hang on your keys, bags, water bottle, whatever or card shaped ones for wallets. These devices also work in reverse so if you have your keys but lose your phone, you can double press on the tab and force ring your phone.
Personally I use Chipolo and if I walk too far from an item with a tag I get a notification. I left my water bottle in a work vehicle once and nearly lost it forever. I would have lost it had I not had a tag attached to it and my phone told me I left it somewhere. | 2021-12-06T20:54:58.000Z | rahh0x | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Helpful tip for losing silenced phones and other stuff because ADHD is annoying like that. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahh0x/helpful_tip_for_losing_silenced_phones_and_other/ |
katmauve | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:51:25.000Z | rahe4f | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I have two take home projects for two jobs and i am paralyzed to start | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahe4f/i_have_two_take_home_projects_for_two_jobs_and_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T20:50:02.000Z | rahcy6 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling like a gigantic failure and idiot - work-related. Not sure what to do. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahcy6/feeling_like_a_gigantic_failure_and_idiot/ |
laurenges | Hello! Long time lurker, first-time poster. I have gone through a few of the posts on this subreddit already and I know I'm not the first person to write this, but I could really use some opinions on this if anyone else has gone through this.
Ever since I was a kid, I had the standard issues with schooling: Troubles focusing, I used to be more flippant about my schoolwork when I was younger (my mom has several stories about me telling teachers I wouldn't do work cause it was "boring" or because I simply "did not want to do it"), plus getting notes about being disruptive and all of that playing into my parents getting me "tested" into the Gifted and Talented program at school when I was in kindergarten.
The logic was that nothing they gave me in school was challenging enough, so I just needed something to keep me occupied. I got in, and all of my schoolwork since then was more rigorous (for elementary school, I just got a free day off-campus to go hang with other G/T kids) and everything seemed fine. I was a mostly straight-A student all of the way through graduation with the exception of a B or two. My mom was the kind of person who constantly stayed on top of me for my schoolwork, chores, and basically everything else so I've never thought of myself as someone with organizational or focus deficits, just not "challenged" enough. I learned to manage the "disrupting" stuff by putting my energy into self soothing behaviors, and eventually figured maybe I had just grown out of it.
Cue me going to college and losing every single support I had, and I found myself having the hardest time trying to get it together. Left to my own devices, I couldn't possibly get it together long enough o do my schoolwork, I was constantly having to stay in the library cause if I went home, I was definitely going to put things off. I went from a 4.0 to a 1.7 my freshman year and I didn't even have that challenging of coursework, it was strictly the organizational aspect and trying to do things, keep it all together that I had problems with. Couple that with me taking classes I couldn't give a shit about, and my next five years would be spent with me feeling like a failure cause suddenly, I was stupid despite being able to thrive in high school.
All of this really set me up to take everything hard, and trying to couple that with living on my own had made things worse. I wasn't exactly a "functional" adult, but once I met my boyfriend, things had gotten easier cause I was able to offload a lot of stuff onto him like figuring out dinner and cleaning and stuff I didn't like doing on my own (I once got fined by my apartment complex for my room being such a mess). Working in college was me getting a new job, working it for two weeks to a few months until I got bored of it or they asked "too much" of me or I just decided everything in my life was too much, and by the time I had graduated college and had to fill out a background check, I had around 10-12 jobs to fill in specific information for over the last five years.
For the last 4 years, I had supports in the form of my (now ex) boyfriend who I think was most of the reason I didn't notice any of these things before. I had to constantly rely on him for regular day-to-day stuff, and the stuff that required my attention was handled through the constant calendar and notes app things. At work, I had coworkers I could offload the boring stuff onto if it meant I got to hand them all of the data I'd gathered and we had a good system.
Now that I live alone, I realize a lot of those things I simply just can't do by myself. I can't wrap my mind around cooking long enough to do it, and that's been such a problem over the last 8 months that I've turned to soylent and supplements. My life is strictly run through my phone or else I will get nothing done, or I can do one task and the rest is me trying to convince myself we have do to more. And work is just people asking me to do things that I put off until the last minute cause I can't be bothered to be motivated otherwise.
I know none of these are specific to ADHD. But, after talking to other people who have ADHD plus looking up and understanding how executive dysfunctioning works, I decided to go speak with a psychiatric professional (NP) who was listed as an ADHD specialist in my city. They told me, based on previous history of depression and anxiety and a diagnosis of bipolar I, that I should go see a psychologist. I talk to her, tell her about my current issues (was as specific as I could be) plus tell her my current history as I've laid out here. The psychologist tells me to fill out a questionnaire, give another to a close friend/family member/etc, and that I have to do a full Neuropsychological Evaluation to rule out anything else.
**Please start here for Summary/TLDR**
So, after 6 hours of IQ testing split over two days, I finally got to go speak with the psychologist today and she essentially tells me that because they don't see any cognitive deficits and because my observer said that THEY didn't see me being disruptive, forgetful, etc that nothing stands out as "ADHD". That maybe a lot of my problems in my life right now are just due to overthinking, and that it's a good thing I'm in therapy because now I can practice "mindfulness" and learn to get out of my own head. Even going to far as to say I was doing it during the meeting because I was trying to wrap my head around what else could be causing my problems, and she was just like "Yeah, you have clinically significant worry and you think a lot, but none of those things can be related!"
As if the reason I'm not constantly overthinking is because I have to keep everything in my head or else it'll just fall in one ear and out the other. When I tried to mention that adderall actually helps me, more than anything I've done so far, she just said that college kids take it to focus too so of course it'll change something for me. Essentially trying to force me to acknowledge that "maybe I'm just depressed and/or anxious and need to work on my self-esteem" despite me repeatedly saying those weren't my current concerns right now and they weren't drastically affecting my life.
Anyways, I'm feeling disheartened and really upset cause I'm not sure if anyone else has dealt with this. Do we all just expect that an IQ test and essentially being an "open fuckup" to be the things that make this disorder what it is? I'm not saying those are bad, just that maybe they shouldn't be the hallmarks when someone says that they are currently unable to function and have only managed this long because of constant awareness of what happens when they stop paying attention to themselves. | 2021-12-06T20:48:34.000Z | rahbrn | 10 | 7 | ADHD | Neuropsych Eval/IQ test did not validate a diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahbrn/neuropsych_evaliq_test_did_not_validate_a/ |
CBStrike | Like extra exam time or just being able to get extension without having to provide a good reason always makes me feel like I’m cheating and I *should* be able to do things in the same time as everyone else.
I know it’s irrational. I know that I’m worse off in terms of working memory and time management than neurotypical students. But there’s still this nagging voice in my head telling me that I have an unfair advantage.
I suppose that’s internalised ableism. Can anyone relate? Or have any tips how to get over it and be kinder to oneself? | 2021-12-06T20:47:34.000Z | rahaw0 | 7 | 7 | ADHD | Getting accommodations at university feels like cheating… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rahaw0/getting_accommodations_at_university_feels_like/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:46:22.000Z | rah9w8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling like a gigantic failure / idiot - work-related | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah9w8/feeling_like_a_gigantic_failure_idiot_workrelated/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:44:55.000Z | rah8pb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it ADHD related to have the opposite of troubles falling asleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah8pb/is_it_adhd_related_to_have_the_opposite_of/ |
BestOutlandishness84 | Wife has pretty much concluded to separating because I keep hiding things from her. Things that are small and have no reason to be hidden. My past self. Pre-drug free and pre- ADHD medicated self lied constantly and while I am on my search to find myself I still stick to ear insecurities. When I want to do something I know people won’t like I hide the truth like candy wrappers in the air ducts. Much like those wrappers it cause issues that come to light and need to be fixed. Also much like the wrappers. I could have aired the garbage out and not put myself through the unnecessary burdens.
I need help with coping mechanisms to ICD. If you have dealt with this. Lost someone you loved because of it. It is mindless and happens without knowledge. It isn’t such a fix as don’t do it. If I could I would already. | 2021-12-06T20:41:21.000Z | rah5sk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Ruining my marriage due to ICD (Impulse Control Disorder) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah5sk/ruining_my_marriage_due_to_icd_impulse_control/ |
juniperthecat | The feeling in my body is so uncomfortable. I'm so low energy and exhausted, for no particular reason as I've literally accomplished nothing today and slept great last night, yet internally I want to crawl out of my skin and do 500 jumping jacks then run around the block twice at high speed. But I can't because I'm simultaneously so tired.
This is such a ridiculous feeling. I hate it. | 2021-12-06T20:40:58.000Z | rah5hl | 5 | 11 | ADHD | I feel so physically fatigued and sleepy today yet internally restless and like I need to do a high intensity workout | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah5hl/i_feel_so_physically_fatigued_and_sleepy_today/ |
thugprincess_6 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:40:39.000Z | rah58c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I used to read a lot as a kid but... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah58c/i_used_to_read_a_lot_as_a_kid_but/ |
consultingwithadhd | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:38:55.000Z | rah3rc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Have been feeling a little discouraged lately, feeling like life will just be a series of distractions until it’s wrapped up. Does anyone have any success stories to share of overcoming their ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah3rc/have_been_feeling_a_little_discouraged_lately/ |
Purple_Felix33 | I have no idea if this has anything to do with adhd, but last week I had some thoughts I didn't like (nothing too bad, just thinking about someone I didn't want to) and slapped myself to stop thinking about it. And now I get the urge to slap myself every time I have a thought I don't like. I feel disgusted with myself a lot, so maybe that had been a contributing factor. It may be some type of OCD, i don't know, but I want to stop it before it's become a habit. I'm not sure how though. | 2021-12-06T20:38:46.000Z | rah3mk | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Impulse to hit myself when certain thoughts occur | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah3mk/impulse_to_hit_myself_when_certain_thoughts_occur/ |
japidupdup | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:38:00.000Z | rah2zk | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I have been misdiagnosed for the past 15 years. Turns out its "just" ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rah2zk/i_have_been_misdiagnosed_for_the_past_15_years/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T20:32:53.000Z | ragyrm | 6 | 3 | ADHD | adderall calms me down a little too much | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragyrm/adderall_calms_me_down_a_little_too_much/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T20:31:12.000Z | ragxag | 4 | 2 | ADHD | My girlfriend has ADD and ADHD. TIPS/ADVICE to understand her better? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragxag/my_girlfriend_has_add_and_adhd_tipsadvice_to/ |
Numb-Chuck | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:30:49.000Z | ragwxc | 168 | 604 | ADHD | 55 years on ritalin | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragwxc/55_years_on_ritalin/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:26:55.000Z | ragtmt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else misinterpret other people because of failing to listen or read messages thoroughly? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragtmt/anyone_else_misinterpret_other_people_because_of/ |
fukam_piko | why do i have to learn advanced math, when i can't focus on it for even 10 seconds. i'd just learned math for like an hour and when i tried to solve this equation everything i learned just went out of my head instantly. i learned (and understood) the same thing for like the third time, but still can't solve the damn thing. | 2021-12-06T20:25:45.000Z | ragsp9 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | mathematics | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragsp9/mathematics/ |
thugprincess_6 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:23:43.000Z | ragr4v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Reading Books | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragr4v/reading_books/ |
Business-Charity2571 | Since I am a little child, I have never succeeded focusing for more than 1 hour on something. Also, when I see some ADHD symptoms(whether it is exaggerated for memes or « scientific » symptoms), I can always relate, and I honestly have thought for several years that I have ADHD.
Trouble is that I don’t dare talking about it with my mom, cause I have no idea about how she will react.
can anyone please help me ?
and also, how did you figure out you probably had ADHD ?
(also sorry for the long text) | 2021-12-06T20:23:00.000Z | ragqkk | 10 | 1 | ADHD | I’m scared.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragqkk/im_scared/ |
Rakeittakeit | Recently in the past year or so after I started taking my medication, I started to notice that I was focusing more and zoning out less and whatnot, but my hyperfixations were greatly exaggerated, to the point it had layers.
Let me explain, essentially a background layer, is a hyperfixation you are not obsessed with per say, but have a consistent interest in over long periods of time, the kinds of hyperfixations that will work it's way into your front layer hyperfixations. For me this is geography.
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Middle layer hyperfixations are the kind where you are slowly losing interest in a given hyperfixation and it is shifting into a background one, for me this is the original World Trade Center (weird one ik)
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A front layer one would be your more generic hyperfixation that you are absolutely obsessed with for a period of time, I sorta need something to fill this gap at the moment but it will come.
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And finally something I don't exactly have a name for but for now I'll call them detached hyperfixations, these are the very brief very specific and easily lost types of hyperfixations, but some of the strongest. For instance we have all probably had a brief cleaning hyperfixation at some point.
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Anyways I know I sound insane writing this but if anyone has experienced something similar to this please let me know! | 2021-12-06T20:19:45.000Z | ragnrs | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Different Layers of Hyperfixations | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragnrs/different_layers_of_hyperfixations/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T20:17:12.000Z | ragllk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I cannot get work done today, and it is *maddening*. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragllk/i_cannot_get_work_done_today_and_it_is_maddening/ |
avresco | I was lucky enough to find a perfect match with my doctor who provided both psychotherapy and psychiatric support for me. I struggle with words and expressing my experiences and many of us ADHDer’s do and she had a way of always knowing exactly what I was trying to say. Unbelievably supportive and I felt she genuinely wanted to help me.
Well I had to change jobs and found out she isn’t in network with my new insurance.
While I feel so lucky and privileged to have had this experience, I am devastated.
I feel so alone, and like a major support pilar bas just been yanked from under me. It’s hard enough to find a doctor you really connect with, and even harder to find one who treats ADHD. Im scared now because this will be just hard cut off from medication and therapy with no real transition period as well. | 2021-12-06T20:11:26.000Z | raggui | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Having to find a new doctor oof | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raggui/having_to_find_a_new_doctor_oof/ |
theunknowncompanion | So I recently took my second dose of the day for the first time (30mg) to get me through until the evening. I took the dose at 2.30pm
I made the mistake of drinking too much caffeine today and now I feel jittery!
Oops!
I hope I’ll be able to sleep tonight but I feel it’s going to be one of those tricky nights.
Learn from me, if you go up a dose or take a second dose, be careful with caffeine until you know how much it’s going to effect you. Without the meds, my tolerance is quite high but a couple of green teas and one coffee later, I’m a bit too buzzed! I’m also trying to come down off a cold as well, so that doesn’t help!
I’m no stranger to caffeine but make sure you don’t go over the mark like I did today otherwise you can be quite restless! | 2021-12-06T20:11:18.000Z | raggrb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Jittery after caffeine! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raggrb/jittery_after_caffeine/ |
boundlessdays | Hi all! New to this sub. I personally haven’t been formally diagnosed with adhd, but I have been looking into getting an assessment — but that’s besides the point.
My boyfriend (19) has pretty severe adhd, and doesnt take medicine for it unless he needs to (for a test, for job training, anything that requires 100% focus) because he doesn’t like the crash and everything that comes along with it. He’s in the middle of finals week right now, and I can tell the stress is really taking a toll on him. I’ve watched him struggle so much this semester and it breaks my heart as a partner who doesn’t really know how to help. I watch him take his medicine multiple times a day (instant release) and crash at the end of the day, just so he can finish some work. I’m not too sure what I as a partner can do other than make sure he’s fed, hydrated, and takes the occasional break. Are there any study tips or just general tips you guys can offer?
Thanks! | 2021-12-06T20:07:08.000Z | ragd92 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Advice needed: how can I help my adhd boyfriend succeed during finals week? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragd92/advice_needed_how_can_i_help_my_adhd_boyfriend/ |
Airikawithanickel | Hi! I'm new to this community but I'm hoping to get some advice. I was diagnosed about four months
ago and started adderall. I got to a dosage that I feel is working almost two months ago and I was doing
pretty good. Irritability was down, productivity was up, and I was slowly but surely building some routines and healthy habits for myself. Until about
two weeks ago when a few things started popping up. I have some trauma/grief surrounding my family and the holidays, my already high-stress job has been extra busy, and there’s been
an influx of angry and unreasonable clients. Everything combined has my stress levels through the roof and it's brought back the irritability, my
focus is worse, and the schedule and habits I was forming have gone out the window. I have absolutely no idea how to cope with stress in a healthy way. My
tactics prior to diagnosis and meds was eating comfort food and numbing myself with tv, my phone, smoking, and shutting down emotionally. I really don't want to resort to these methods but I can already feel myself slipping. Any and all advice is appreciated! Thank you in advance!
TLDR- my stress levels are through the roof, I have no idea how to manage it, and I feel like my life is starting to fall apart. Please help!
Note- I'm already in therapy but I just started, I've literally had two sessions. My therapist suggested I do "stress check-ins" throughout the day but I don't see how that will help. I already know I'm stressed, need to know how to manage the stress. Plus that's just another thing to schedule in and try to remember to do which is also stressful. | 2021-12-06T20:03:45.000Z | ragafu | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to manage/cope with stress | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/ragafu/how_to_managecope_with_stress/ |
Zeldro | is strattera like the antidepressant form of adhd medication?
antidepressants take a while to "kick in" before they start working, but in that time period before it "kicks in," your brain undergoes a lot of changes, that start very small. i don't know too too much about biopsychology, but maybe there's finally \*just enough\* serotonin in your brain 2 weeks after taking them to make the decision to go to the gym, or finish that meal. THAT'S how antidepressants help, I think. with the way it changes your brain chemistry gradually, the person taking them can start consistently making (usually very small) decisions that ultimately cause them to start feeling better. probably overexplaining it, but you know what i mean (hopefully). they don't immediately flood your brain with The Happy Chemical to have yourself a good ass day, but what they DO do is slowly change the way you go about your day and slowly influence the small little decisions you make. and then, one day, you realize "oh, i haven't been feeling that bad lately," because you realize you've finally been eating better and being more social, without putting the amount of thought & effort into it you would've thought.
stimulants for adhd have a lot of similarities to what i described above, for sure. by taking them every day, you slowly start making better decisions and are able to think clearly, but it's definitely an effect you feel immediately. the immediate effect and ability to think more clear doesn't automatically equip you with the right thinking patterns, habits etc. to become the person you want to be, but still, it's an effect you do, in fact, feel IMMEDIATELY. so most say it's better than strattera because of that. when people get used to how stimulants make them feel, and then try strattera, of course it's not gonna have the kind of effect they want. and even if they're told it's more of a gradual effect, and they internalize that, the sense that it's not "the same" will still be there. now, obviously that's not the case for everyone. everyone's different. but, for me personally, i'm wondering if this is the barrier for me from being successful on strattera, and also if the kinds of thought patterns that lead to someone concluding that stratter "doesn't work" or is "too weak" are the same as/related to thought patterns that hold us back in more ways than we think.
i've tried strattera before and felt it didn't work. however, i've also been on an antidepressant before, and have firsthand experienced the gradual way in which it changes you. i wonder, if i stay off of stimulants and try strattera with this mindset, would it go well for me? | 2021-12-06T20:01:35.000Z | rag8mo | 8 | 8 | ADHD | do people tend to underestimate strattera? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rag8mo/do_people_tend_to_underestimate_strattera/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T20:00:12.000Z | rag79i | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Gf has been asking me to get evaluated for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rag79i/gf_has_been_asking_me_to_get_evaluated_for_adhd/ |
notoriousrdc | I'm a runner, and I found out recently that a lot of my recurring injuries are probably due to a hereditary issue where my hip stabilizer muscles don't activate properly and don't get stronger with any non-isolating exercise. The good news? I can totally compensate with targeted strength training. The bad news? Strength training is the perfect storm of requiring attention/executive function while providing minimal mental stimulation so that it's stupidly mentally exhausting and hard to get myself to actually do. I'm hoping some other ADHDers might have found some workarounds or have suggestions, because the non-ADHD fitness people I've asked Do Not Get It.
My biggest issue is that doing sets of repetitive motions in the same place for 30+ minutes while having to sit still for a minute or two between sets is *super freaking boring*. There's no novelty. There's nothing to occupy my brain. I don't even get to keep moving the whole time. It's awful. AND THEN, I can't even let my mind wander or listen to audiobooks or podcasts or anything, because I have to *count my reps,* which is in no way interesting, but does require focus, which is a whole mental feat in and of itself. And I can't do anything between my sets to entertain myself, because I've only got a minute or two and I won't be able to get into anything interesting, and if I *do* get into something interesting, I get frustrated because I immediately have to stop or just miss my timer to start working again entirely. Plus, I find the physical sensations of working my muscles hard unpleasant, and I don't get any satisfaction from completing goals or progressing in weight.
Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated. | 2021-12-06T19:54:02.000Z | rag24g | 8 | 7 | ADHD | How to make strength training not tedious and awful? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rag24g/how_to_make_strength_training_not_tedious_and/ |
nightimefog | My life is a mess and I want to get back on track but there’s so much Catch-up I need to do for my lack of good habits before I can create these good habits. (I.e. 10+ loads of laundry, dishes, clean out my car stacked full of shit)
What helps you stay on track and/or get on track? What helps you keep up your good habits and rid your bad? | 2021-12-06T19:53:55.000Z | rag20t | 3 | 3 | ADHD | What helps you build good habits? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rag20t/what_helps_you_build_good_habits/ |
ModernAustralopith | This is something I've been peripherally aware of for a while, but the awareness is really crystalising for me right now, and I need to write it down before I forget - and I'm wondering if anyone else feels similar.
**Does anyone else find the ADHD really kicks into high gear when you can't make any progress?**
The example that's really hitting me right now - I'm learning a new piece of software. I've been asked to test what happens when I make some specific changes. Trouble is, I can't figure out how to make those changes, and so every time I reach the point that I can't get past, my brain immediately switches me over and I end up staring at Reddit, or doomscrolling Facebook, or obsessively monitoring my credit score. But then I'm not making progress there, so I start thinking about taking out a loan or opening a new credit card, just to have something to do.
And now that I see this, I see the same thing everywhere. When I'm driving, if I hit a particularly long red light or some backed-up traffic, I get antsy and unhappy. I start thinking of ways to get around the traffic, or bypass the light. Even if those ways are longer and slower than just waiting it out, I can't just sit there and wait - I *have* to be making progress.
Playing a video game, if I reach a point in the game that's challenging and needs several tries to get through, I'm as likely to just log out in frustration and play Minecraft or Stardew Valley instead - because those games always have clear, evident progress.
And the trouble is, I know what I need to do to actually make the progress in the original thing. I know I need to ask for assistance with making the changes in the software that I'm supposed to be making - but instead, I'm here on Reddit complaining about it.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? | 2021-12-06T19:51:42.000Z | rag064 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | The need to be making progress | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rag064/the_need_to_be_making_progress/ |
GreenBeans1999 | My friend just told me that for the last few months since I got diagnosed ADHD has become my entire identity and I need to stop obsessing over it. Any idea on how to not do that? I also got emotionally abused growing up and she says that's become my entire identity since I've been going to therapy as well. It's definitely good to acknowledge my feelings and face my problems head on, but I think she's right when she says that hyperfocusing on this is becoming unhealthy. Does anyone else have experience with this? | 2021-12-06T19:50:53.000Z | rafzfj | 139 | 424 | ADHD | How do I not let ADHD become my entire personality? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafzfj/how_do_i_not_let_adhd_become_my_entire_personality/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T19:50:50.000Z | rafze5 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Sceptical of ADHD medication? (Biphentin) | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafze5/sceptical_of_adhd_medication_biphentin/ |
69herobrine69 | I’m a 17 year old girl, 5’11, and about 138 pounds as of today. My psychiatrist told me she wouldn’t prescribe me Adderall, which I’ve been on for a few months, if my weight slipped below a certain point, since I’m pretty frail as-is. That was about 7 pounds ago, and I’m worried I won’t be able to get the medicine I need if I can’t put on more weight or at least stay where I am. Is there a way for me to gain weight healthily? I don’t eat red meat and try to avoid dairy (stomach issues), so I’m limited in terms of food options. Along with that, I have major texture issues and don’t find most food appetizing. Does anyone have any advice, whether it be foods to try, things to avoid, lifestyle tips, etc? | 2021-12-06T19:50:08.000Z | rafytg | 10 | 3 | ADHD | How can I gain weight on stimulants? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafytg/how_can_i_gain_weight_on_stimulants/ |
ModernAustralopith | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:49:22.000Z | rafy71 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else find they have to be making progress? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafy71/anyone_else_find_they_have_to_be_making_progress/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T19:48:00.000Z | rafx0h | 10 | 25 | ADHD | Being late to work feeling like a form of self harm? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafx0h/being_late_to_work_feeling_like_a_form_of_self/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T19:47:05.000Z | rafw8b | 6 | 17 | ADHD | My ADHD is so bad I feel crippled by it and I'm having some pretty dark thoughts... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafw8b/my_adhd_is_so_bad_i_feel_crippled_by_it_and_im/ |
OldWiseBitch | Hi, I’m not sure I have ADHD but I struggle to focus on things I don’t 100% absolutely am forced to focus on, like zoom calls, classes, etc. I’ve spent a lot of time online for years (high dopamine activity), so that may have something to do with it.
I notice when I am eating, I can focus on a boring teacher/video/whatever. I don’t think it’s an oral fixation, because smoking wouldn’t help. Mint/gum can help to a lesser extent.
Does anyone else experience this? | 2021-12-06T19:46:01.000Z | rafvd6 | 10 | 5 | ADHD | Does eating help with focus in people with ADHD? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafvd6/does_eating_help_with_focus_in_people_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:44:40.000Z | rafu7q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I not let ADHD control my life and become my entire identity | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafu7q/how_do_i_not_let_adhd_control_my_life_and_become/ |
theskyisblueright | I initially thought she’d refer me to a specialist but she said based on the questionnaire, I can diagnose you and start you off on a weak dose. Just need everyone’s thoughts here. Has anyone ever experienced something like this aka getting diagnosed and prescribed over a visit where they just go through a questionnaire. Looking for support. Thank you. | 2021-12-06T19:39:37.000Z | rafpz8 | 12 | 2 | ADHD | Went to my family doc today. Based on a questionnaire, she diagnosed me and prescribed meds (10mg daily of Adderall) to start. Is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafpz8/went_to_my_family_doc_today_based_on_a/ |
FLY-KAISON | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:38:11.000Z | rafoqw | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Adderall vs no doz | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafoqw/adderall_vs_no_doz/ |
FLY-KAISON | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:33:17.000Z | rafkk2 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | ADDERALL VS NO DOZ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafkk2/adderall_vs_no_doz/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T19:28:42.000Z | rafgpp | 6 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD and Firearms License | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafgpp/adhd_and_firearms_license/ |
Zamille | Hi, undiagnosed but after really really researching in to ADHD I can see
1. A lot of things from my childhood that would be explained by a diagnosis (my mum never thought to take me because she shows the same tendencies I do and thought the forgetfulness and constant inability to revise/study the things that I didn't find super super interesting and then throwing myself at topics I really enjoyed. Like going to free university physics lectures for a whole year at the age of 14 because I was hyper fixated on physics at the time)
2. It's affecting my work. Unless I have a tight deadline or it's a week before the deadline I CANNOT work at full speed or even 80% until I absolutely have to and then I will be up until 2AM working my ass off because I know it has to be done..this isn't just once or twice this is every single time I have a project due at work. I get distracted by the tiniest things and find ways to just not get what needs doing done.
3. It's affecting my personal life. the other day I made dinner I sat there for an hour thinking the oven was on and I was ready to take it out I'd set a timer so I didn't forget it.. I went back when the timer went off to a raw chicken in the oven the oven wasn't even on. When I do make food I can only focus on making food, cleaning as I'm going does not compute in my brain I'll make the tiniest meal and the kitchen looks like a bombs gone off and my partner gets really annoyed(understandably) I constantly forget appointments, my partner will ask me to do something and if I don't do it right then and there it Will never get done until the next time she reminds me and then I'll have to do it straight away or the cycle continues. Sometimes I don't even manage to brush my teeth or wash because I just forget. And then immediately have to shower when I notice I stink.
I kick myself whenever I do these things but it happens every time all the time to the point where i can't ignore it anymore I want to go and try for a diagnosis but I'm scared they'll tell me I'm talking nonsense and that it's perfectly normal what are the first steps I can take living in the UK. | 2021-12-06T19:28:12.000Z | rafg9v | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Undiagnosed but the ADHD tendencies I have are starting to affect life in a lot of eays | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafg9v/undiagnosed_but_the_adhd_tendencies_i_have_are/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T19:27:00.000Z | raffb6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Online prescription without video call? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raffb6/online_prescription_without_video_call/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:25:29.000Z | rafe2x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Online prescription without video call? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafe2x/online_prescription_without_video_call/ |
pillowtalklover | Hi! I just have to vent, as I am scared but have to wait until tomorrow to ask my doctor. (I feel like I do have to mention that I am of course not seeking any medical advice, just want empathy and support and maybe also some similar experiences. I will be talking to my doctor to figure out what to do tomorrow.)
So, I got started on meds (Vyvanse) at the end of June. Prior, I got an ECG done, which showed no abnormalities (just like any other ECG in my life). My prescribing psychiatrist wanted me to get a ECG done every three months while on Vyvanse and that's what I did. I got it done in October at my GP and they have told me that everything is fine.
Well... today I went to my GP to pick up a copy of the ECG, so I can send it to my psychiatrist. And what do I see? There are three (!) abnormalities written down. If anyone cares: short PQ-Interval, incomplete right bundle branch block and negative T-waves in V2. Of course I am no doctor and I do now know if that is bad. I just know that I never had any of those and the reason for the ECG is to catch on any issues as soon as possible. And somehow, nobody at the GP thought it would have been important to notify me?!
I am just going to send it to my psychiatrist and hope to get an answer by tomorrow. I really hope that this is not too dramatic and that I am allowed to take my meds. But we will see.
Does anyone else had changes in ECG after starting meds? How did it go? | 2021-12-06T19:24:19.000Z | rafd5g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Scared after ECG | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafd5g/scared_after_ecg/ |
illability | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:23:42.000Z | rafcms | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone feel like their memories, especially short-term, are stuck behind little locked doors? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafcms/does_anyone_feel_like_their_memories_especially/ |
arianaagrandesmelon | I took adhd meds in elementary school after I was diagnosed, but I stopped by 5th grade. I'm in 9th grade and recently started taking vyvanse, and it has made me realize how severe my adhd is, and has always been. Without medication, it's almost impossible to do my schoolwork, brush my teeth, shower more often than every 2 (normally 3-4) days, relax, hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes without getting distracted, and so many other things. I still struggle alot with other symptoms on 30 mg of vyvanse, but it makes my life much easier. When I take it I can do at least small-medium amounts of schoolwork, shower almost every day, have conversations and slightly better communication (something I need to be able to keep my relationships somewhat stable), and I can even control my overthinking a little bit better. I'm so thankful for my meds, and I feel like I can finally breathe and get through life easier. | 2021-12-06T19:21:48.000Z | rafb33 | 2 | 10 | ADHD | I never realized how severe my ADHD was | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafb33/i_never_realized_how_severe_my_adhd_was/ |
Dhadhumol1294 | So I posted this in the nursing forum but got no response so......I posted it here.....So I have generalized anxiety and taking clonazepam for it. But because of that my doctor won't prescribe any adhd medicines because they are stimulant and etc..... Anyway I have my exam on the 22nd of this month......I'm going to fail. I was doing okay studying in the beginning of the year, I guess.
(I studied nursing in India and came to to America because....I'm American and paperwork took forever to come in and process so I've had about a year of waiting.)
Now I am answering questions on Kaplan test review prep and it's like I know nothing at all. I mean I get some correct but I mean I wouldn't pass the test. I don't know what to do. My family is not supportive and doesn't like to admit I have adhd. And they all are praying on their knees everyday for me to pass and I'm kinda freaking out. So please help me. Is it too late? TIA. | 2021-12-06T19:21:19.000Z | rafaox | 3 | 2 | ADHD | UNMEDICATED AND HAVE MY NCLEX RN EXAM SOON!!! FREAKING OUT!! Any adhd nurses out there to help me out... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rafaox/unmedicated_and_have_my_nclex_rn_exam_soon/ |
AgreeableBag | Literally so frustrated right now. I got diagnosed with adhd at the beginning of highschool and started medication near the end. For context I currently have dropped out of uni, started a paramedic course but I’m finding out I don’t like it as much as I should and now I’m interested in going into a trade (carpentry)?? I seriously feel like I can’t make up my mind with anything!! Seriously, how tf did you guys find your passion ??? I feel like at this point I just hate everything and my parents are just tired of me switching interests all the time.
TD;LR
switching through a bunch of careers unsure how to find the right one. | 2021-12-06T19:16:00.000Z | raf69w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Unsure about career and future | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raf69w/unsure_about_career_and_future/ |
i-forgot-my-old-user | I'm trying to build up my fitness by going to the gym a bit more, and im not sure if this is just me being unfit or if its ADHD but I just get so bored?? Like I cant stay at the same speed on the treadmill for more than 5 minutes and find it much more enjoyable to alternate between sprinting and running. Same goes for changing equipment every 10 minutes, I just get bored.
Anyone else had this issue?
(Also should mention I cant listen to music since I use a military gym so you gotta keep headphones off in case of an alarm)p | 2021-12-06T19:14:01.000Z | raf4l0 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Exercising with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raf4l0/exercising_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:08:08.000Z | raezo3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm trying to get diagnosed with adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raezo3/im_trying_to_get_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
MedicalThrowawayxX | Stimulant ADHD medications gave me anxiety and sleep issues, so I asked my doctor for a non-stimulant and ended up with a Strattera prescription (started me on 40mg with no ramp-up). I've been on it for a week and noticed two side effects from day one: Scalp tingling (don't care), and sexual side effects.
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Strattera has basically triggered a condition I haven't dealt with in several years called hard flaccid, which is the result of pelvic tension and for me is associated with moderate numbness along the pelvic floor and sexual organs, weak libido, and (temporary) shrinkage in the scrotum and penile area. It was terrifying when I first had it years ago and didn't know what was happening, but I hadn't experienced it since I started taking a low dose of Cialis every morning. Until my first Strattera dose last week.
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On this subreddit some people have alluded to other Strattera side effects wearing off after some time, but the sexual side effects maybe persisting. I'd like to give this medication a chance but honestly I'd rather work through the ADHD through other means than deal with this side effect. Has anybody had anything remotely similar with Strattera but found that once you built up tolerance it went away? I'm pretty close to giving up on the rest of the prescription because it sucks to wake up every morning feeling relatively normal, then take a pill that feels like I'm chemically castrating myself within a couple of hours :p. | 2021-12-06T19:03:31.000Z | raevtx | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Strattera sexual side effects (male, mid-30s) possibly wearing off? (experiences wanted) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raevtx/strattera_sexual_side_effects_male_mid30s/ |
tobitimesthree | does anyone else struggle with the act of talking? as in, my enunciation is terrible so i sometimes have to repeat myself when talking to someone because it all came out unintelligible. or sometimes, my words will all try to come out at once, so i end up saying gibberish. or, i'll anticipate that i'm about to say the wrong thing so i just start my sentence over from the beginning again, which means i sometimes have a slight stutter as well. or, of course, sometimes i'll just talk too fast and no one can keep up.
does anyone else struggle with this? what can i do to make myself clearer and easier to understand?
i just can't wait for my mouth to catch up with my brain. how can i get myself to slow down? | 2021-12-06T19:03:16.000Z | raevmf | 59 | 325 | ADHD | why is talking so difficult? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raevmf/why_is_talking_so_difficult/ |
lamesocorticolimbica | [removed] | 2021-12-06T19:01:03.000Z | raetqu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody also has autism? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raetqu/anybody_also_has_autism/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:59:30.000Z | raes9l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 2 ADHD medications at once? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raes9l/2_adhd_medications_at_once/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:59:27.000Z | raes7t | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody also has ASD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raes7t/anybody_also_has_asd/ |
dabxsoul | I feel very alone in the fact that I am so inconsistent & absolutely can’t follow a schedule unless it’s a work schedule or college classes set by someone else.
writing a daily schedule doesn’t even help.
there are certain things I do, like shower every morning, that are the same. other than that, if I’m not working, life is chaotically different every day.
just to note, it’s not a huge issue for me. however, it feels strange to me that I’ve never met someone else that has this issue. that’s why I’m reaching out on here, to see if anyone else can relate. if you could share any tips that help you, I would love to see them. :) | 2021-12-06T18:59:12.000Z | raes09 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | inconsistent / lack of schedule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raes09/inconsistent_lack_of_schedule/ |
idkthisisaspare | I was never good at eating. I enjoy eating, and when I remember to eat I do, it’s just a matter of remembering. It’s gotten worse since I started my medicine, but it’s the only thing that’s helped me in every other way and it’s done wonders. I’ve accidentally forgotten to eat for over 24 hours. At 5’ 6 and being a 16f, I’m supposed to be at least 115-120lbs, but recently I’m gotten down to ~98lbs. Sometimes, thought now often, when I do remember to eat, I can’t find anything that doesn’t make me feel sick when I think of eating it. I nearly passed out yesterday. I was scrubbing some potatoes to make dinner and I just suddenly felt really weak, nauseous and it was hard to breath. My dad helped me out and I felt better in a bit but it’s a serious problem. | 2021-12-06T18:57:47.000Z | raeqs7 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How do people remember to eat? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raeqs7/how_do_people_remember_to_eat/ |
VioletLovesRowlet | Hi,
I’ve been getting gradually worse with my issues (or I’m just not ignoring them now) and I’m struggling in my day to day life.
My attention span is so abysmal that I can’t watch a film/show for an hour without getting distracted over something else. I struggle with work and find myself constantly fiddling with my phone. I like playing games, but I can rarely manage 30 minutes of properly playing games by myself, because I get distracted and bored.
Hell, I got distracted after writing my first example up.
I need help with a diagnosis and medication, but I have heard it’s a 5 year wait and I don’t think I can really wait that long.
Where would be good for a private referral? How much would it cost? Are Harley Psychiatrics any good?
I’m in the UK btw. | 2021-12-06T18:56:14.000Z | raepjq | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Trying to look into private ADHD assessments, any advice? UK | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raepjq/trying_to_look_into_private_adhd_assessments_any/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:55:14.000Z | raeorg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Too literal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raeorg/too_literal/ |
lamesocorticolimbica | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:54:54.000Z | raeoho | 3 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD + AUTISM | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raeoho/adhd_autism/ |
lamesocorticolimbica | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:52:25.000Z | raemgn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD + ASD COMORBID | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raemgn/adhd_asd_comorbid/ |
Important-Ad1713 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:47:17.000Z | raei98 | 9 | 2 | ADHD | Tell Me Your Withdrawal Stories. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raei98/tell_me_your_withdrawal_stories/ |
skeptic_holland | I constantly do this thing where my feet ALWAYS have to be moving. Whether I’m just rolling my foot around or I’m clenching my toes I CANT STOP. It bothers me the most when I have to do it to be able to fall asleep. If I’m not tap tap tapping away, I’m never going to get to sleep. If there’s music playing anywhere at any time, suddenly my toes are going with the beat. I didn’t notice this for the longest time until just before my diagnosis a little over a year ago. I just thought it was normal.
I can’t be the only one who gets the feet taps, right? Is there any way I can possibly stop doing this or am I stuck tapping forever? | 2021-12-06T18:45:19.000Z | raegmi | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I can’t stop tapping my toes!! How do I stop? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raegmi/i_cant_stop_tapping_my_toes_how_do_i_stop/ |
hungoverinhanover | didnt realize this might be adhd related, but im a 2nd yr college student that was diagnosed w/ adhd this term in college @ age 19. my friends always point out how unbelievably hard i am on myself and how much i blame myself for really minor non-issues, yet never take credit for my own successes. keep in mind im an ivy league student who went 18 yrs w/o meds or a diagnosis, so im very used to always being the best at everything and suddenly im not, so my self esteem is even worse.
adhd is super underdiagnosed in women (esp indian/desi women like me), so we tend to struggle for longer w/ no explanation for why. as a result, we convince ourselves that we should be doing grandiose things like curing cancer and then are constantly rlly hard on ourselves when we don't meet these ridiculous expectations that neurotypical ppl cant even meet bc we believe that we're not working hard enough. anyone else relate? what'd you do to \~fix\~ it? im also a pre-medical student so i have this quadruple whammy of premed neuroticism, asian tiger parenting expectations, ivy league environment, and having adhd. | 2021-12-06T18:44:58.000Z | raegcc | 2 | 1 | ADHD | any other women w/ adhd have self-esteem issues? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raegcc/any_other_women_w_adhd_have_selfesteem_issues/ |
Liaroslo | It doesn't matter if it's early morning or evening, if I have something I have to get to, appointment or grocery shopping or whatever, and get that thing done, I consider that day finished. Which I really don't want to do- but all the motivation for the day is shot after.
It feels like my brain is saying, "Well, we did the important thing we were supposed to do, that means the day is over and we can't do any more tasks". Like.... huh????? What even is the logic behind that? And does anyone have a way to trick their brain into like, staying on for the rest of the day? | 2021-12-06T18:40:27.000Z | raechy | 47 | 243 | ADHD | What's the deal with only being able to focus on one important errand per day?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/raechy/whats_the_deal_with_only_being_able_to_focus_on/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T18:32:45.000Z | rae64h | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I’m getting fired for mellowing out. | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae64h/im_getting_fired_for_mellowing_out/ |
Brave_Delivery_Bike | I mean, symptoms of ADHD in adults, for example, are some of the following:
· Disorganization
· Hyperfocus/Lack of focus
· Forgetfulness
· ...
But gifted people show symptoms such as learning quickly and deeply or an above-average brain. power. Could symptoms of giftedness compensate ADHD ones? I mean, could giftedness symptoms be an involuntary resource to mitigate ADHD? | 2021-12-06T18:31:25.000Z | rae52c | 5 | 0 | ADHD | Can giftedness symptoms mask ADHD ones? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae52c/can_giftedness_symptoms_mask_adhd_ones/ |
Brave_Delivery_Bike | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:30:50.000Z | rae4k0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can giftedness symptoms mask ADHD ones? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae4k0/can_giftedness_symptoms_mask_adhd_ones/ |
Elllllie | So I LOVE art. Or, when I get into the phase of the year where I can focus on it, I love it. People tell me I'm good, though I don't really see it. But they always give the advice that if I consistently draw and actually learn the fundamentals (I do portraits and realism), then I may feel happier with my work. Trouble is, drawing is mentally exhausting and I get burnt out so fast. I hop between hobbies, and then get to a state where I do nothing because nothing makes me happy. I have the typical thrill seeking bit from ADHD- I crave newness even when I enjoy something.
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Right now, I have a screenful of unfinished drawings in procreate, and I can't go back to them with the same enthusiasm PLUS since I'm not actually sure how to draw I can't match whatever technique I originally used. Two of the drawings are meant to be gifts. One is mostly finished because I started it last year, and I still can't make myself complete it.
Anyone else find themselves stuck with a skill or talent that will never improve because you stop getting joy from it, and lose focus? If so- how have you helped your brain to commit to a task from start to finish? I kind of want to try setting timers, and forcing myself to draw. Usually if I'm awake enough I can make myself hyperfocus, but wondering if the timer interrupting that may ruin that idea.
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I AM medicated, but don't feel it does enough, buuut my dr doesn't take my new insurance so I'm kind of stuck.
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**TL;DR- looking for support/solidarity AND what you do to overcome hobby burnout/ways you make yourself stay on task for something that isn't actually work** | 2021-12-06T18:30:39.000Z | rae4ee | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Finding skills and hobbies but unable to grow them due to ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae4ee/finding_skills_and_hobbies_but_unable_to_grow/ |
Brave_Delivery_Bike | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:28:17.000Z | rae2d9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can giftedness symptoms mask ADHD ones? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae2d9/can_giftedness_symptoms_mask_adhd_ones/ |
TeeDee101 | I am officially turning 27 tomorrow and I feel like a failure in life. I have nothing to show for my life. Some of the reasons I am so unsuccessful are ADHD-related but others are entirely my own fault. I only just moved out a year ago and haven't made much progress in furnishing the house because I am so poor at money management. The idea of budgeting just exhausts me. By the way, does anyone else get tired when they have to budget? Anyway, I am graduating this year after 5 long years in college (this is the school administration's fault, not ours as students) and I am working a shitty job that only allows me to pay my bills. I am so frustrated. My peers from middle school and high school are doing so much better at life. I feel like such a loser. 27 is so ancient. I am supposed to have my own house now or at least have a job that can allow me to even THINK of saving for a house someday. I feel so old. My family makes snarky bitchy remarks about how I've accomplished nothing.
Any thoughts are welcome. | 2021-12-06T18:27:48.000Z | rae1x4 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Old and Unsuccessful | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rae1x4/old_and_unsuccessful/ |
socialskills100 | I’m not sure if it’s ADHD related. I am very sensitive to even the smallest kind of rejection, so it might be.
I feel like I’ll sit at the dinner table, try and engage in conversation but no one looks at me. I’m just about to turn 22, so maybe the adults still see me as a kid. But my cousin is just 12 and my brother is 19, he’s an asshole though so we avoid each other. So it’s either the adults or play fighting with my cousin.
It feels like when I say something, people will glance at me and give me half a nod. Other times they’ll talk over me. Sometimes they’ll ask me a question but then start talking to someone else as soon as I begin speaking.
Covid rules in stores were brought up and I’ve worked in stores since it began. Istg when I told them they were wrong, several members literally began yelling to overpower my voice. I was just trying to explain the rules I’ve followed the past 2 years.
I have considered several of these members may have ADHD as well. My brother does after all. My aunt doesn’t hear a thing unless you have eye contact. She also did poorly in school cause she spent all her time day dreaming. My grandma stops listening if there’s a noise somewhere else. My mom gets overwhelmed as quickly as me. They’d never ever get tested though.
It just seems like it’s JUST me who gets ignored. We are a small family too! Parents divorced so last time we were just 8 people in total.
I quite honestly don’t know what I can do to stop feeling this way other than to stop participating. It’s killing me at a time where I’m barely holding on in the first place.
Is this relatable to anyone? | 2021-12-06T18:25:18.000Z | radzsv | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I feel ignored and invisible at family gatherings | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radzsv/i_feel_ignored_and_invisible_at_family_gatherings/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T18:20:25.000Z | radvm3 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Do your meds mess with your sleep? How do you deal with it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radvm3/do_your_meds_mess_with_your_sleep_how_do_you_deal/ |
wings_of_despair | I'm struggling with organising my life as well as focusing on work (both loosing focus or procrastinating). Whenever I try organising I use my calender but I often forget and can't make it some sort of morning ritual or anything. I like having a rather spontaneous schedule but when I do that too spontaneously and unplanned I tend to forget deadlines and usually do assignments last minute. Because of this I have a lot of stress over a short period of time, then I chill again and then a new ton of stress comes around.
Do any of you have any good tips on making a schedule and sticking to it on the long run? Thanks in advance. | 2021-12-06T18:17:27.000Z | radt36 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Do you have some tips for organising your life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radt36/do_you_have_some_tips_for_organising_your_life/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:16:55.000Z | radsli | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else feel like they have an uncommonly acute sense of their surroundings? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radsli/anyone_else_feel_like_they_have_an_uncommonly/ |
NecessaryMaster | Hey Guys,
After 23 years of struggle with adhd symptoms without me knowing that it was adhd i finally got diagnosed. I got prescribed with 20 grams methyl for 3-4 times a day. In the beginning week I got recommended to take 15 mg to get used to it. Unfortunately it doesn’t have the I hoped it would have. When I take it I get a sense of stress a busy head and hastyness. I lowered the dose to 10 mg but I really don’t feel like it has a positive effect. Have any of you experienced this feeling at the beginning? And should I continue or would you recommend me talking to my doctor to look for other medicine?
I look forward to seeing your input. | 2021-12-06T18:16:24.000Z | rads4e | 2 | 1 | ADHD | No result from methylfenidate | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rads4e/no_result_from_methylfenidate/ |
Traditional_Ice_2499 | hi guys, looking for personal anecdotes with vyvanse. i started at 30 mg for a few days but got moved to 20 mg bc of racing heart/heightened anxiety, and stayed on 20 mg for about a month. i worked fine on that dose for a few weeks, until it started to feel like i was over-adjusted and wasn't being helped enough anymore. i started 30 mg again a few days ago and am liking it, except i feel EXTREMELY social and desperately want to talk to people like 24/7. this happened before, but not quite as extreme. i also feel a little too happy at times, like there's this fake sensation of happiness blanketing my brain. almost makes me feel a little ill. also, looking for tips on eating enough, i get mega appetite suppression. thoughts? | 2021-12-06T18:16:15.000Z | radryv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | adjusting to vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radryv/adjusting_to_vyvanse/ |
SeanClarke3424 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T18:14:24.000Z | radqbp | 0 | 1 | ADHD | My obsessions are going to get me in trouble. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radqbp/my_obsessions_are_going_to_get_me_in_trouble/ |
TLawD | Hello! I'm currently suffering from a pretty standard cold, and whilst I'm not dramatically sick, I've found that my executive function has completely gone.
My colleague who also has a cold today and is seeming to get their work done fine (it's an office role) whilst I am a mess.
Do you find that when you get ill it exacerbates your ADHD symptoms? And if so, do you have a strategy for this? | 2021-12-06T18:14:22.000Z | radqaa | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What's your experience with illness? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/radqaa/whats_your_experience_with_illness/ |
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