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1,801	daddit	I have a 3 year old and I cried as a grown ass man reading this. I am so sorry for your loss brother, I can't imagine. I will hug my children tightly this week and appreciate every moment with them in your son's memory.
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1,803	daddit	I'm so sorry. Fuck cancer.
1,804	daddit	My son is 3y4mo. I will hug him extra hard tonight. This hits too close to home and as a pediatrician and a father, I am devastated with you. Godspeed little dude.
1,805	daddit	There's nothing really to say. It hurts like nothing else hurts. Take care of yourself, dad. Today marks 6 weeks since our daughter passed away. Time seems to crawl sometimes. The pain is real and it's real deep. I'm sorry. I grieve with you, wholeheartedly.
1,806	daddit	Hey man. I am in the same club. A shitty club nobody wants to be in, but our club nonetheless. My 4 year old son died 4 years ago of a brain tumor. DIPG in my sons case. 7 months from diagnosis to passing. We also did the endless radio and all of that. Its fucking horrible. I knew from the moment of diagnosis in our case that it was going to be fatal. I don't know if you had hope to cling to, so it may have been slightly different for you. But we knew from the moment they said tumor, that it was going to get him, and soon. (this is not a self pity "we just knew it wouldn't go away" thing, DIPG is ALWAYS terminal). Anyway, I know the pit in your stomach. I still have it, though I have gotten used to it. You will too. it feels insurmountable right now, but little by little it becomes just part of who you are now. Slowly but steadily all the bad memories will fade away. Not to be forgotten, just no longer front of mind. you will eventually only remember the good times. Curate your photos, put all the hospital stuff in one place, and keep it there. Don't let apple or google send you a "memory from last year" on your phone while you are waiting in line at the grocery store that has you crying at register 6 of the piggly wiggly. It will happen, it sucks. Your other son is going to save your life man. My daughter (who was 2 when my son died) has saved mine. he will keep you busy. there is no time to sit staring out the window feeling terrible when there are diapers to change and toys to play with. Life will trundle on. You will suddenly be very aware of your own mortality, I certainly have since my son died (if you manage to parlay this into a healthier lifestyle and weight loss, tell me how you did it....). But life will go on. It has too. You have to for the younger son. And you have to because its what your missing son would want. he wouldn't want you to sit around feeling sorry for yourself. He would want you playing with his brother. Because he cant be there, so you have to be for him. Eventually, in a couple of years, you will start to feel reasonably normal again. Not in a bad way, not forgetting your boy, but rather honoring him by being the dad he would want you to be. but before all that you are going to be just fucking LIVID with everyone else in your life pissing and moaning about unimportant shit that doesn't matter. Some of your friends, who have been pretty quiet since all this started, are going to suddenly come back into your life. Don't be shitty with them if you can help it. People don't know how to react to this sort of thing. Nobody is told how to act around the guy whose kid just died of cancer at 3 years old. and its so depressing people just stay away so they don't have to deal with it. do your best to not hold it against them and in so far as you can, just sort of pick up where you left off with them. you need friends, we all do. and you need friends who knew you before all this, even if they were less than amazing while it happened. People who know you as you, not just "that guy who's kid died". Some friends will never come back. It sucks, but it is a thing. fuck 'em. Pussies. Obviously Therapy is a good idea. I am ashamed to say I am guilty of giving advice I don't heed here as I didn't seek any out. But my wife did and she ended up doing a few zoom calls with her therapist that she had me "just say hello" on and I must admit it helped a great deal. It is just paying someone to let you vent at them, but people trained to deal with bereaved parent's will legitimately help you come to all sorts of understanding about what you are feeling. If you are chatty about this sort of thing, that is to say you just want to bitch and moan to someone about it all, I would love to hear from you via PM. I went thru all this in London (though I am American, I was just living over there when this happened) so my experience is all with the NHS. I have no idea about the health insurance fights and general use of the US system for this sort of thing. That's your writing prompt. If you are up for it, tell me about it. diagnosis. getting sent to specialists, how it all worked. where you had to drive too. all of it. That ball is in your court and I will not impose myself if you have enough going on. but now or in 6 months, whenever, I would love to hear about it. And about him. Totally up to you.
1,807	daddit	My heart aches for you. Nothing can replace him, your family’s pain. Love from all of us to you.
1,808	daddit	Sending all the love your way. Thank you for sharing.
1,809	daddit	Hugging my boy extra hard tonight. I love you stranger, I'm sorry.
1,810	daddit	There are no words but a quote my wife found once sums up all I can say Wishing you strength for today and hope for the future
1,811	daddit	Condolences for your loss. Sending love.
1,812	daddit	Sending my deepest condolences.
1,813	daddit	Thoughts are with you.
1,814	daddit	I’m so sorry my friend, sending you hugs.
1,815	daddit	I am so sorry. May he rest in peace and may you find comfort in the good memories you will always have of him.
1,816	daddit	Cherish the time you had. Sending love.
1,817	daddit	I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Please take care of yourself during this time because your wife and other child really need you. Be kind and gentle with yourself, and don't hesitate to reach out for help when you need it. Your child's memory will always live on, and they will always hold a special place in your heart.
1,818	daddit	I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the sadness and sorrow you're feeling, sending hugs your way.
1,819	daddit	I am so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now. Sending virtual hugs
1,820	daddit	I’m so sorry for your loss friend. :hug:
1,821	daddit	Sending my love
1,822	daddit	I’m sorry man. I wish that words could help.
1,823	daddit	Man, I wish there were words I had that could provide comfort. I'm sorry for your loss. Live in the joy of remembering all the smiles and laughter you gave him.
1,824	daddit	I don't even have words, but I'm so sorry dad.
1,825	daddit	I don't have the words. He's not in pain any more, and while that thought might not ease the pain you and your family are feeling, it's something. I wish it was more.
1,826	daddit	Sending love, mate. Sorry for your loss.
1,827	daddit	There are no words for this. I’m so sorry man.
1,828	daddit	So very sorry for your loss. Absolute worst fear imaginable
1,829	daddit	I am so sorry, I cannot imagine the pain your family is in.
1,830	daddit	I can’t even imagine this. Big hugs.
1,831	daddit	Can't even begin to think what you're all going through. Deepest sympathies to you, stay strong man.
1,832	daddit	I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even start to imagine. I hope you are able to find support for you and your wife.
1,833	daddit	I love you big guy.
1,834	daddit	Sounds like he was a special little man and made you proud. I'm sorry for your loss
1,835	daddit	your son is free now, his energy/soul returning to the origin of existence. all that remains of him here is how you remember him and what kind of impact he has on your heart. peace, love and strength my friend.
1,836	daddit	Just be.
1,837	daddit	Fuck. I don’t have any words that can make you feel better but know that I mourn for you and your family.
1,838	daddit	I'm so sorry to you and your wife. We're all here for you as much as we can be. Sending love & hugs. Vent here as much as you need, brother.
1,839	daddit	This was a beautiful read. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can come back to your post again later on and take comfort that your boy had a wonderful heart and that you faced the ultimate tragedy together as a family.
1,840	daddit	I have no words for this. Your boy sounded like an amazing human.
1,841	daddit	We love you, dad! So sorry for the pain and loss.
1,842	daddit	I am very sorry your family had to lose such a young little guy. My condolences, and I hope there is something positive from this terrible and tragic event.
1,843	daddit	I'm sorry.
1,844	daddit	Heartbreaking. I feel so deeply for you and your family. Please take care of yourselves.
1,845	daddit	Damnnn..I'm literally in tears. So sorry for your loss brother.
1,846	daddit	There is no need for you to cry as I'm doing it for you.
1,847	daddit	I’m so sorry, I wish I had some wise sage advice or wisdom to give but I don’t. We may have never met but I truly am sorry for you and your family.
1,848	daddit	I'm so sorry dude. I have a 3 and a half year old and I can't even imagine going through this.
1,849	daddit	Nothing anyone can say will heal that hole. I'm sorry for your loss.
1,850	daddit	Hey man, I can't comprehend your pain and anguish, it would just be impossible. I am in tears over here with my wife as we take stock of our life, refocus on the silver linings, and we are overcome with love and sympathy for you. I am so sorry you are going through this, life is really unfair and hard to make sense of. We will do better to pursue happiness in the simple things in your little guys honor. All the love and peace to you Your doing great Dad
1,851	daddit	I can’t even imagine the stress your family has gone through. Sorry for your loss with your son.
1,852	daddit	This hits hard. I have a daughter the exact same age and a 1 year old son as well. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. Take solace in the fact that all your son knew was love throughout his whole fight, from you and your wife, family and friends, and all the doctors and nurses that helped him fight to the best of his ability. You're a great dad and we love you, sending all of our thoughts, prayers, and good vibes your way.
1,853	daddit	I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.
1,854	daddit	Man, nothing but love for you and yours. I’m so sorry.
1,855	daddit	Arghh damn this sucks. I’m so glad you had him in your life for the time you did. He sounded like a really adorable little boy. The pain never goes away but neither do the memories. My condolences on your loss.
1,856	daddit	I am so sorry to hear this. RIP little guy
1,857	daddit	Op I'm so sorry I know those words mean nothing but you an your wife are with me in thoughts. Much love my friend an please take care of your self
1,858	daddit	There are no words. This is an outright tragedy and God is weeping at your loss.
1,859	daddit	I have a fresh 4 year old and a 1 year old and you are facing my (all of ours, I’m sure) absolute worst nightmare. I’m so sorry your boy had to battle this awful disease and I’m so sorry your family will have to endure this horrific loss. My condolences to your family.
1,860	daddit	This hurts to read and I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling. I’m so sorry for your loss, the memories are the part that hurts the most. We’re here for you.
1,861	daddit	This breaks my heart. I hate cancer, and I hate it even more in children. Our kids deserve more than 4% of the federal research funding! You and your wife are in my thoughts and hope that when you’re good and ready, you find a meaning, unique way to honor your son! I can’t imagine the pain that you are feeling and I wish that I could offer more comfort but words will always fall short. Keep your head up and live a life that would be pleasing to your little guy!
1,862	daddit	My toddler has a cold, and he didn’t want to get out of the bath tonight. So he and I sat in the empty tub, dripping wet, and playing with his toys, until he was ready to get out and watch bluey. Posts like yours make things like that easy for me, because I want to cherish every moment for you and every parent that doesn’t have those moments anymore.
1,863	daddit	I'm so, so very sorry. Thank you for telling us about him, especially about his sense of humor and his bravery. Lots of love from us here at r/daddit to you and your family.
1,864	daddit	Love you man, heartbroken to read this. Be well.
1,865	daddit	I’m right now crying in my office. Cannot even imagine how you must be feeling. Godspeed little one, you can rest now. All my love to both parents and brother.
1,866	daddit	Well. I’m crying. My sister died at 15 from leukemia. And that felt too soon. You are an incredible dad and you were lucky to have each other.
1,867	daddit	There is nothing anyone can say to ease this. I’m so sorry this happened.
1,868	daddit	I love you OP, you’re a strong person for doing this. Take care, be safe, and I’m here for you as well.
1,869	daddit	I am so goddamned sorry. This is brutal and you are an incredible man and family. The pain won’t go away, but I am looking at the stars and raising a toast to your little boy. I am so fucking sorry. PM if you need anything my brother.
1,870	daddit	I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to articulate the pain you and your wife have gone through. All I can say is that it sounds like you have been a loving father, while experiencing possibly the worst thing imaginable, and that your son clearly knew he was loved. I will pray for you and your family, fellow dad.
1,871	daddit	Bro I can’t even imagine. The strength you’re showing in even being able to write a post is incredible. I don’t know what to say other than I wish you and your family all the best moving forward and I’m sorry for your loss.
1,872	daddit	I’m a mom, but I am just so sorry. What an unimaginable, unthinkable, senseless loss.
1,873	daddit	No words to describe the feelings of this kind of loss, man. I’m just so sorry. There will always be, as you said, a new path forward. That path will inevitably be marked by his loss, but I hope that in time that new path would lead to a kind of meaning and wholeness that most people won’t get to experience.
1,874	daddit	As a first time dad, I felt this in my soul. You’re son sounds like an absolutely amazing little boy. Deepest, sincerest sympathies. I pray for comfort and healing for you, your family, and friends.
1,875	daddit	I'm so sorry for your loss, dad. Be strong, and know that everyone in this sub is here for you
1,876	daddit	Sorry man. No parent should have to burry their child. Sending love your way.
1,877	daddit	I'm sorry brother
1,878	daddit	I can't even imagine the pain you must be going through. Your love for your son shines through this post. While his illness was misfortune, he sounds lucky to have had you as a dad, and I feel like you were both immense sources of love and comfort for each other. You and your son deserve all the love there is.
1,879	daddit	Fuck cancer and sorry for your loss.
1,880	daddit	All the dad internet hugs.
1,881	daddit	Your post brought tears to my eyes. The pain you explain is unfathomable, but whatever power is available from words on the internet, I wish to experience from your fellow Reddit fathers. My sincerest condolences, we are there with you in spirit.
1,882	daddit	Oo so sorry, losing a child hurts, Just remember his sibling needs your love and support like you will need. Healing together..helps!
1,883	daddit	I’m sitting here reading this nearly at the end of my patience after listening to my kids argue and bicker all day. And now I realize how lucky I am because they are both happy and healthy and I am just so goddamn sorry that you are going through this. Much love.
1,884	daddit	You were there with him 100%,and he fought like hell through something many of us could never endure or imagine going through. Truly the greatest humanity has to offer, you have an amazing family.
1,885	daddit	My 3yo was sitting in my lap when I read this. Reminded me to put the phone down and be with her. Please get therapy so you can be everything your other son needs. It's ok to get help. You got this
1,886	daddit	I'm so sorry. There's really nothing that I can say other than that. I'm so sorry
1,887	daddit	The absolutely biggest internet huh I can send dad. I am so dreadfully sorry for your loss dad
1,888	daddit	I’m so sorry brother. Please accept my condolences to you and your family.
1,889	daddit	We cannot fully imagine what you are going through. I hope a part of you realize how strong you must be to face the reality. I salute to the love, strenght and spirituality of the whole family, including the little angel. We all are reminded of our duty to protect the child rights, and for any situation affecting the child, take the decisions only in the best for the child.
1,890	daddit	Sorry to hear this May your son rest in peace.
1,891	daddit	Hey man I just want you to know how proud we are of you. And how proud everyone around you is of you. You are the perfect parent we all strive to be, and you were the most perfect father for your son. And I believe you’ll see him again, even if you don’t. This life ain’t the main thing. It’s too short. Blessings and peace be on you and your family.
1,892	daddit	Man I’m so sorry for the loss of your little man. He sounds so incredibly brave and amazing. My son turns 3 in 2 weeks, i don’t even know what to say.
1,893	daddit	Losing a kid at any age is absolutely horrible, I lost my teen to suicide last year. Get therapy, it helps and it gives ways forward. You're right. You will never be the same and don't let anyone peddle you the idea that you can grow bigger and stronger through pain. These are scars, you will survive in a different way, and so will your wife, but you'll need to take it day by day. And speaking of your wife, be there for her, even if it doesn't make sense at first. Divorces SKYROCKET after losing a child, sometimes for reasons as apparently mundane as your SO's scent reminding you of your loss. There is work to be done, there is a new labor of love ahead of you. And also find space to be a little selfish without indulging in numbing the pain with cheap thrills. Have a snack but not a buffet, have a drink but not a bottle, take a break but don't dissapear from work for a month. In my case, weight lifting has worked wonders; you trade your emotional pain for the physical struggle of lifting and it feels liberating (making you healthier and resilient in the process). And let yourself be consoled by your friends and family. Talk with them, let them pamper you, cry with them, share pictures. I'm atheist so religion does pretty much zilch for me but spirituality is not necessarily religion: meditate, help others, help with other causes. Life goes on, he would have wanted you to move forward.
1,894	daddit	Although I can't know your pain, I feel your pain brother, and I am with you now, carrying it with me in my heart so that he is remembered and missed. I can only offer these words as a token of my brotherly love. A good friend of mine also lost his son recently, suddenly, and as I was sharing his grief, he shared a moment's grace with me. He said,"I miss him so much I want to die. I can't breathe or open my eyes without feeling so lost. But right at this moment, I know I have to go on, I can't quit. Because I know when he grew up, he would've looked to me to know how to live, and I can't let him down. So I've decided to give all the love I have for him to his brother and sister, so they know his love through me. I will not quit on them no matter how much I want to die. I will celebrate his life through my endless effort to spread his love and wonder. I will allow myself to die and be reborn every day if I have to. So he would be proud, as proud as I was to be his dad." You are never alone in this life, brother. We are all there with you in spirit
1,895	daddit	I only recently finished Rob Delaney’s book A Heart That Works about the three year old son he lost to brain cancer so this hit me like a sack of bricks. When and if you’re ready, it’s a wonderful and heartbreaking book that might help you understand and process the grief. In the meantime, my thoughts are with you and your family. It’s ok to grieve, it’s ok to cry, but it’s also ok to laugh, and to smile, and slowly, to heal.
1,896	daddit	There are no words, just hugs man. From one dad to another. Lost my mother to cancer 8 months ago.
1,897	daddit	Hugs, man. fuck cancer.
1,898	daddit	I’m sorry for your loss. God bless.
1,899	daddit	We are with you in spirit brother. From a warfighters perspective, he will be waiting in the great hall of Valhalla. And he fought valiantly. May he rest in peace
1,900	daddit	I am so so so sorry for your loss and heartbroken reading this. It makes me so fucking angry that the USA doesn't give a shit about our citizens and allows so many unresearched, carcinogenic chemicals to flow freely in our waters, our products (made in China), and food. Childhood cancer incidence is at an all time high and our country cares more about research to CURE it than PREVENTION measures by banning all of this unresearched garbage. Europe already has banned all of these compounds yet USA gives it all a green light (i.e. PFOAs, PFAs, flame retardants, etc).

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I have a 3 year old and I cried as a grown ass man reading this. I am so sorry for your loss brother, I can't imagine. I will hug my children tightly this week and appreciate every moment with them in your son's memory.

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I'm so sorry. Fuck cancer.

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My son is 3y4mo. I will hug him extra hard tonight. This hits too close to home and as a pediatrician and a father, I am devastated with you. Godspeed little dude.

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There's nothing really to say. It hurts like nothing else hurts. Take care of yourself, dad. Today marks 6 weeks since our daughter passed away. Time seems to crawl sometimes. The pain is real and it's real deep. I'm sorry. I grieve with you, wholeheartedly.

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Hey man. I am in the same club. A shitty club nobody wants to be in, but our club nonetheless. My 4 year old son died 4 years ago of a brain tumor. DIPG in my sons case. 7 months from diagnosis to passing. We also did the endless radio and all of that.  Its fucking horrible. I knew from the moment of diagnosis in our case that it was going to be fatal. I don't know if you had hope to cling to, so it may have been slightly different for you. But we knew from the moment they said tumor, that it was going to get him, and soon. (this is not a self pity "we just knew it wouldn't go away" thing, DIPG is ALWAYS terminal).  Anyway, I know the pit in your stomach. I still have it, though I have gotten used to it. You will too. it feels insurmountable right now, but little by little it becomes just part of who you are now. Slowly but steadily all the bad memories will fade away. Not to be forgotten, just no longer front of mind. you will eventually only remember the good times.  Curate your photos, put all the hospital stuff in one place, and keep it there. Don't let apple or google send you a "memory from last year" on your phone while you are waiting in line at the grocery store that has you crying at register 6 of the piggly wiggly. It will happen, it sucks.  Your other son is going to save your life man. My daughter (who was 2 when my son died) has saved mine. he will keep you busy. there is no time to sit staring out the window feeling terrible when there are diapers to change and toys to play with. Life will trundle on. You will suddenly be very aware of your own mortality, I certainly have since my son died (if you manage to parlay this into a healthier lifestyle and weight loss, tell me how you did it....). But life will go on. It has too. You have to for the younger son. And you have to because its what your missing son would want. he wouldn't want you to sit around feeling sorry for yourself. He would want you playing with his brother. Because he cant be there, so you have to be for him.  Eventually, in a couple of years, you will start to feel reasonably normal again. Not in a bad way, not forgetting your boy, but rather honoring him by being the dad he would want you to be. but before all that you are going to be just fucking LIVID with everyone else in your life pissing and moaning about unimportant shit that doesn't matter. Some of your friends, who have been pretty quiet since all this started, are going to suddenly come back into your life. Don't be shitty with them if you can help it. People don't know how to react to this sort of thing. Nobody is told how to act around the guy whose kid just died of cancer at 3 years old. and its so depressing people just stay away so they don't have to deal with it. do your best to not hold it against them and in so far as you can, just sort of pick up where you left off with them. you need friends, we all do. and you need friends who knew you before all this, even if they were less than amazing while it happened. People who know you as you, not just "that guy who's kid died".  Some friends will never come back. It sucks, but it is a thing. fuck 'em. Pussies.  Obviously Therapy is a good idea. I am ashamed to say I am guilty of giving advice I don't heed here as I didn't seek any out. But my wife did and she ended up doing a few zoom calls with her therapist that she had me "just say hello" on and I must admit it helped a great deal. It is just paying someone to let you vent at them, but people trained to deal with bereaved parent's will legitimately help you come to all sorts of understanding about what you are feeling.  If you are chatty about this sort of thing, that is to say you just want to bitch and moan to someone about it all, I would love to hear from you via PM. I went thru all this in London (though I am American, I was just living over there when this happened) so my experience is all with the NHS. I have no idea about the health insurance fights and general use of the US system for this sort of thing. That's your writing prompt. If you are up for it, tell me about it. diagnosis. getting sent to specialists, how it all worked. where you had to drive too. all of it.  That ball is in your court and I will not impose myself if you have enough going on. but now or in 6 months, whenever, I would love to hear about it. And about him. Totally up to you.

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My heart aches for you. Nothing can replace him, your family’s pain. Love from all of us to you.

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Sending all the love your way. Thank you for sharing.

1,809

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Hugging my boy extra hard tonight. I love you stranger, I'm sorry.

1,810

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There are no words but a quote my wife found once sums up all I can say Wishing you strength for today and hope for the future

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Condolences for your loss. Sending love.

1,812

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Sending my deepest condolences.

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Thoughts are with you.

1,814

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I’m so sorry my friend, sending you hugs.

1,815

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I am so sorry. May he rest in peace and may you find comfort in the good memories you will always have of him.

1,816

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Cherish the time you had. Sending love.

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I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Please take care of yourself during this time because your wife and other child really need you. Be kind and gentle with yourself, and don't hesitate to reach out for help when you need it. Your child's memory will always live on, and they will always hold a special place in your heart.

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I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the sadness and sorrow you're feeling, sending hugs your way.

1,819

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I am so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you are going through right now. Sending virtual hugs

1,820

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I’m so sorry for your loss friend. :hug:

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Sending my love

1,822

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I’m sorry man. I wish that words could help.

1,823

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Man, I wish there were words I had that could provide comfort. I'm sorry for your loss. Live in the joy of remembering all the smiles and laughter you gave him.

1,824

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I don't even have words, but I'm so sorry dad.

1,825

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I don't have the words. He's not in pain any more, and while that thought might not ease the pain you and your family are feeling, it's something. I wish it was more.

1,826

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Sending love, mate. Sorry for your loss.

1,827

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There are no words for this. I’m so sorry man.

1,828

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So very sorry for your loss. Absolute worst fear imaginable

1,829

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I am so sorry, I cannot imagine the pain your family is in.

1,830

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I can’t even imagine this. Big hugs.

1,831

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Can't even begin to think what you're all going through. Deepest sympathies to you, stay strong man.

1,832

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I'm so sorry for your loss, I can't even start to imagine. I hope you are able to find support for you and your wife.

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I love you big guy.

1,834

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Sounds like he was a special little man and made you proud. I'm sorry for your loss

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your son is free now, his energy/soul returning to the origin of existence. all that remains of him here is how you remember him and what kind of impact he has on your heart. peace, love and strength my friend.

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Just be.

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Fuck. I don’t have any words that can make you feel better but know that I mourn for you and your family.

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I'm so sorry to you and your wife. We're all here for you as much as we can be. Sending love & hugs. Vent here as much as you need, brother.

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This was a beautiful read. I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can come back to your post again later on and take comfort that your boy had a wonderful heart and that you faced the ultimate tragedy together as a family.

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I have no words for this. Your boy sounded like an amazing human.

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We love you, dad! So sorry for the pain and loss.

1,842

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I am very sorry your family had to lose such a young little guy. My condolences, and I hope there is something positive from this terrible and tragic event.

1,843

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I'm sorry.

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Heartbreaking. I feel so deeply for you and your family. Please take care of yourselves.

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Damnnn..I'm literally in tears. So sorry for your loss brother.

1,846

daddit

There is no need for you to cry as I'm doing it for you.

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I’m so sorry, I wish I had some wise sage advice or wisdom to give but I don’t. We may have never met but I truly am sorry for you and your family.

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I'm so sorry dude. I have a 3 and a half year old and I can't even imagine going through this.

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Nothing anyone can say will heal that hole. I'm sorry for your loss.

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Hey man, I can't comprehend your pain and anguish, it would just be impossible. I am in tears over here with my wife as we take stock of our life, refocus on the silver linings, and we are overcome with love and sympathy for you. I am so sorry you are going through this, life is really unfair and hard to make sense of. We will do better to pursue happiness in the simple things in your little guys honor. All the love and peace to you Your doing great Dad

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I can’t even imagine the stress your family has gone through. Sorry for your loss with your son.

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This hits hard. I have a daughter the exact same age and a 1 year old son as well. I can't imagine the pain you're going through. Take solace in the fact that all your son knew was love throughout his whole fight, from you and your wife, family and friends, and all the doctors and nurses that helped him fight to the best of his ability. You're a great dad and we love you, sending all of our thoughts, prayers, and good vibes your way.

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I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. May his memory be a blessing.

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Man, nothing but love for you and yours. I’m so sorry.

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Arghh damn this sucks. I’m so glad you had him in your life for the time you did. He sounded like a really adorable little boy. The pain never goes away but neither do the memories. My condolences on your loss.

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I am so sorry to hear this. RIP little guy

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Op I'm so sorry I know those words mean nothing but you an your wife are with me in thoughts. Much love my friend an please take care of your self

1,858

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There are no words. This is an outright tragedy and God is weeping at your loss.

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I have a fresh 4 year old and a 1 year old and you are facing my (all of ours, I’m sure) absolute worst nightmare. I’m so sorry your boy had to battle this awful disease and I’m so sorry your family will have to endure this horrific loss. My condolences to your family.

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This hurts to read and I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling. I’m so sorry for your loss, the memories are the part that hurts the most. We’re here for you.

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This breaks my heart. I hate cancer, and I hate it even more in children. Our kids deserve more than 4% of the federal research funding! You and your wife are in my thoughts and hope that when you’re good and ready, you find a meaning, unique way to honor your son! I can’t imagine the pain that you are feeling and I wish that I could offer more comfort but words will always fall short. Keep your head up and live a life that would be pleasing to your little guy!

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My toddler has a cold, and he didn’t want to get out of the bath tonight. So he and I sat in the empty tub, dripping wet, and playing with his toys, until he was ready to get out and watch bluey. Posts like yours make things like that easy for me, because I want to cherish every moment for you and every parent that doesn’t have those moments anymore.

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I'm so, so very sorry. Thank you for telling us about him, especially about his sense of humor and his bravery. Lots of love from us here at r/daddit to you and your family.

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Love you man, heartbroken to read this. Be well.

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I’m right now crying in my office. Cannot even imagine how you must be feeling. Godspeed little one, you can rest now. All my love to both parents and brother.

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Well. I’m crying. My sister died at 15 from leukemia. And that felt too soon. You are an incredible dad and you were lucky to have each other.

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There is nothing anyone can say to ease this. I’m so sorry this happened.

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I love you OP, you’re a strong person for doing this. Take care, be safe, and I’m here for you as well.

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I am so goddamned sorry. This is brutal and you are an incredible man and family. The pain won’t go away, but I am looking at the stars and raising a toast to your little boy. I am so fucking sorry. PM if you need anything my brother.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to articulate the pain you and your wife have gone through. All I can say is that it sounds like you have been a loving father, while experiencing possibly the worst thing imaginable, and that your son clearly knew he was loved. I will pray for you and your family, fellow dad.

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Bro I can’t even imagine. The strength you’re showing in even being able to write a post is incredible. I don’t know what to say other than I wish you and your family all the best moving forward and I’m sorry for your loss.

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I’m a mom, but I am just so sorry. What an unimaginable, unthinkable, senseless loss.

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No words to describe the feelings of this kind of loss, man. I’m just so sorry. There will always be, as you said, a new path forward. That path will inevitably be marked by his loss, but I hope that in time that new path would lead to a kind of meaning and wholeness that most people won’t get to experience.

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As a first time dad, I felt this in my soul. You’re son sounds like an absolutely amazing little boy. Deepest, sincerest sympathies. I pray for comfort and healing for you, your family, and friends.

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I'm so sorry for your loss, dad. Be strong, and know that everyone in this sub is here for you

1,876

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Sorry man. No parent should have to burry their child. Sending love your way.

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I'm sorry brother

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I can't even imagine the pain you must be going through. Your love for your son shines through this post. While his illness was misfortune, he sounds lucky to have had you as a dad, and I feel like you were both immense sources of love and comfort for each other. You and your son deserve all the love there is.

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Fuck cancer and sorry for your loss.

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All the dad internet hugs.

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Your post brought tears to my eyes. The pain you explain is unfathomable, but whatever power is available from words on the internet, I wish to experience from your fellow Reddit fathers. My sincerest condolences, we are there with you in spirit.

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Oo so sorry, losing a child hurts, Just remember his sibling needs your love and support like you will need. Healing together..helps!

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I’m sitting here reading this nearly at the end of my patience after listening to my kids argue and bicker all day. And now I realize how lucky I am because they are both happy and healthy and I am just so goddamn sorry that you are going through this. Much love.

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You were there with him 100%,and he fought like hell through something many of us could never endure or imagine going through. Truly the greatest humanity has to offer, you have an amazing family.

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My 3yo was sitting in my lap when I read this. Reminded me to put the phone down and be with her. Please get therapy so you can be everything your other son needs. It's ok to get help. You got this

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I'm so sorry. There's really nothing that I can say other than that. I'm so sorry

1,887

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The absolutely biggest internet huh I can send dad. I am so dreadfully sorry for your loss dad

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I’m so sorry brother. Please accept my condolences to you and your family.

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We cannot fully imagine what you are going through. I hope a part of you realize how strong you must be to face the reality. I salute to the love, strenght and spirituality of the whole family, including the little angel. We all are reminded of our duty to protect the child rights, and for any situation affecting the child, take the decisions only in the best for the child.

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Sorry to hear this May your son rest in peace.

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Hey man I just want you to know how proud we are of you. And how proud everyone around you is of you. You are the perfect parent we all strive to be, and you were the most perfect father for your son. And I believe you’ll see him again, even if you don’t. This life ain’t the main thing. It’s too short. Blessings and peace be on you and your family.

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Man I’m so sorry for the loss of your little man. He sounds so incredibly brave and amazing. My son turns 3 in 2 weeks, i don’t even know what to say.

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Losing a kid at any age is absolutely horrible, I lost my teen to suicide last year. Get therapy, it helps and it gives ways forward. You're right. You will never be the same and don't let anyone peddle you the idea that you can grow bigger and stronger through pain. These are scars, you will survive in a different way, and so will your wife, but you'll need to take it day by day. And speaking of your wife, be there for her, even if it doesn't make sense at first. Divorces SKYROCKET after losing a child, sometimes for reasons as apparently mundane as your SO's scent reminding you of your loss. There is work to be done, there is a new labor of love ahead of you. And also find space to be a little selfish without indulging in numbing the pain with cheap thrills. Have a snack but not a buffet, have a drink but not a bottle, take a break but don't dissapear from work for a month. In my case, weight lifting has worked wonders; you trade your emotional pain for the physical struggle of lifting and it feels liberating (making you healthier and resilient in the process). And let yourself be consoled by your friends and family. Talk with them, let them pamper you, cry with them, share pictures. I'm atheist so religion does pretty much zilch for me but spirituality is not necessarily religion: meditate, help others, help with other causes. Life goes on, he would have wanted you to move forward.

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Although I can't know your pain, I feel your pain brother, and I am with you now, carrying it with me in my heart so that he is remembered and missed. I can only offer these words as a token of my brotherly love. A good friend of mine also lost his son recently, suddenly, and as I was sharing his grief, he shared a moment's grace with me. He said,"I miss him so much I want to die. I can't breathe or open my eyes without feeling so lost. But right at this moment, I know I have to go on, I can't quit. Because I know when he grew up, he would've looked to me to know how to live, and I can't let him down. So I've decided to give all the love I have for him to his brother and sister, so they know his love through me. I will not quit on them no matter how much I want to die. I will celebrate his life through my endless effort to spread his love and wonder. I will allow myself to die and be reborn every day if I have to. So he would be proud, as proud as I was to be his dad." You are never alone in this life, brother. We are all there with you in spirit

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I only recently finished Rob Delaney’s book *A Heart That Works* about the three year old son he lost to brain cancer so this hit me like a sack of bricks. When and if you’re ready, it’s a wonderful and heartbreaking book that might help you understand and process the grief. In the meantime, my thoughts are with you and your family. It’s ok to grieve, it’s ok to cry, but it’s also ok to laugh, and to smile, and slowly, to heal.

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There are no words, just hugs man. From one dad to another. Lost my mother to cancer 8 months ago.

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Hugs, man. fuck cancer.

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I’m sorry for your loss. God bless.

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We are with you in spirit brother. From a warfighters perspective, he will be waiting in the great hall of Valhalla. And he fought valiantly. May he rest in peace

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I am so so so sorry for your loss and heartbroken reading this. It makes me so fucking angry that the USA doesn't give a shit about our citizens and allows so many unresearched, carcinogenic chemicals to flow freely in our waters, our products (made in China), and food. Childhood cancer incidence is at an all time high and our country cares more about research to CURE it than PREVENTION measures by banning all of this unresearched garbage. Europe already has banned all of these compounds yet USA gives it all a green light (i.e. PFOAs, PFAs, flame retardants, etc).