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7,311,801 | mommit | Sending you all the love and strength a stranger can offer. I’m so so sorry, I know that everything is unbelievably painful and raw right now. |
7,311,802 | mommit | I am so incredibly sorry. I am sending virtual hugs and holding space for you if you need someone to talk to. |
7,311,803 | mommit | my deepest sympathies. |
7,311,804 | mommit | I have no words, only that I'm extremely sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family |
7,311,805 | mommit | I'm very sorry for your loss... I hope you have someone to talk to and/or a support system. Reach out to people. They would be more that happy to be there as a rail to support during this time. |
7,311,806 | mommit | Oh no, I’m so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your little one. Sending you prayers for strength and peace. |
7,311,807 | mommit | I'm so sorry you and your little one are going through this. I know their only one thing you want right now but if theirs anything else I can do to help you through this difficult time, please reach out. |
7,311,808 | mommit | I'm terribly sorry for your loss! |
7,311,809 | mommit | Condolences. So many poeple dying unexpectedly lately. |
7,311,810 | mommit | Oh mama, I’m so so sorry. I hope you can find the strength you need to get through this. I’m sending you some, along with lots of love. |
7,311,811 | mommit | You've experienced such a huge loss in saying goodbye to your husband. When you're ready, We'd love to hear more about who he was to you and what your times together were like. Hugs! |
7,311,812 | mommit | I’m so so very sorry. I cannot imagine. Sending prayers for peace and comfort. |
7,311,813 | mommit | I am so sorry for your loss. This is something no one should ever go through. I witnessed firsthand what it does with my best friend when his wife died by suicide, and I learned a lot of things that could help you. I am in no way a mental health professional, but I’ve been trained enough on it. First: It’s about to g... |
7,311,814 | mommit | I’m so sorry to read this. Be gentle with yourself. My husband died suddenly 9 years ago and I remember how surreal those initial days, weeks and first couple months were. Be vocal about what you need to your closest support system. My heart breaks for you and your family. Im so sorry for your loss. |
7,311,815 | mommit | I have no words, I don’t know even how I would feel if my wife passed suddenly like that. I send you all of the love and consensual virtual hugs! Remember to give yourself grace, and just focus on you and your son! Everything else will get done when it gets done! |
7,311,816 | mommit | I am so sorry. |
7,311,817 | mommit | Oh my God, I'm so sorry for your loss. |
7,311,818 | mommit | I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I hope you can find some great support to help you navigate through this |
7,311,819 | mommit | I am so, so sorry. Lots of people commenting here that they went through similar experiences, and I want to tell you I went through a similar experience as your son. And he will be alright. It doesn’t feel alright right now but it will be over time. My father passed unexpectedly right after my 5th birthday; it’s been a... |
7,311,820 | mommit | I am very sorry |
7,311,821 | mommit | Prayers |
7,311,822 | mommit | Sooo extremely sorry for your loss! |
7,311,823 | mommit | sending love love from Ireland xxx |
7,311,824 | mommit | I’m so very sorry. |
7,311,825 | mommit | I don’t have lots of words mama besides I’m sorry, stay strong, you will be ok… I will pray for you and your son lovely stranger of the internet |
7,311,826 | mommit | I’m so sorry. Sending hugs |
7,311,827 | mommit | So sorry for your loss |
7,311,828 | mommit | OP, I am very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts. |
7,311,829 | mommit | Oh I am so very, very sorry for your loss. |
7,311,830 | mommit | My condolences |
7,311,831 | mommit | My heart is breaking for you. There are no words. I don’t know who you are, but I’ll be thinking of you. |
7,311,832 | mommit | My condolences, OP. Losing a family member, especially a spouse, is the hardest thing in the world. |
7,311,833 | mommit | I have no advice, just wanted to send love and strength. I hope you find a great support system. |
7,311,834 | mommit | I am so sorry. Sending you all the love I can. |
7,311,835 | mommit | I’m so sorry for your unfathomable loss. For your son, there are a lot of high quality children’s grief books: The Invisible String, I Miss You: A First Look at Death, Always and Forever, Ida Always, Memory Box, Life is Like the Wind, Fall of Freddie the Leaf. I read all of these with my then 3yo daughter after my son ... |
7,311,836 | mommit | Thinking of you and sending so much love and comfort to your family. I’m so sorry. |
7,311,837 | mommit | I’m so sorry. I was 4 when my dad passed as well, and it was on my moms birthday. Reach out to friends and family if that is an option for you and take time for yourself to grieve and process. |
7,311,838 | mommit | I’m so sorry |
7,311,839 | mommit | My heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry for your loss. |
7,311,840 | mommit | I’m so so so sorry. |
7,311,841 | mommit | I am so sorry about the death of your beloved Cory and am sending you and Porter lots of internet hugs. I second the poster who suggested a memory box or something similar. My nephew lost his dad (my brother) to kidney cancer when he was a few months past his 5th birthday. It was so hard for him and his mom, but thank... |
7,311,842 | mommit | Thinking of u tonight |
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7,311,844 | mommit | > I remember being genuinely surprised when the sun had the audacity to come up the next morning and people continued on with their lives. Yes. I had this same feeling when my dad died. I remember leaving the hospital and just looking at people driving their cars, going to work, taking walks, going out to dinner, like... |
7,311,845 | mommit | This reminds me of a song I love “someone great” by LCD Soundsystem: The worst is all the lovely weather I'm stunned, it's not raining The coffee isn't even bitter Because, what's the difference? |
7,311,846 | mommit | I lost my husband unexpectedly four months ago. If you have someone who can come stay with you for the next several days or even a few weeks, I highly recommend it. I was incapable of dealing with my own shock and grief and basic parenting at first. Knowing my kid was safe and fed and clean was such a relief and gave m... |
7,311,847 | mommit | Lost my husband to cancer back in June. Our son is almost 4. You're going to find yourself explaining things to him repeatedly. It sucks, but this age can't process that death is permanent. Take it a minute at a time. Be kind to yourself. Accept help from people who offer. Also, if in the US, call Social Security and... |
7,311,848 | mommit | You're doing your best. Continue to give yourself grace, ask for help when you need it, and hug your little one as close as possible. Just one minute at a time, one day at a time. There is no rule book on how to pick up the pieces after loss... we just kind of do. One piece at a time until we can carry them around with... |
7,311,849 | mommit | One second, minute, hour, day at a time. It’ll be unbearable but somehow you’ll make it through. I am very far but if you need emotional support I’m here. You have to keep going through grief, you cannot go around, and it is agonising, but will become bearable or familiar. Find support so you can get breaks for yoursel... |
7,311,850 | mommit | I’m so sorry. Hold your little one close and wishing you strength xx |
7,311,851 | mommit | my mom lost her partner of 10 years to covid in 2020. it was heartbreaking to watch her go through that process. as others have said, find a close village and hold them tight. also therapy helps immensely, for you and your son. keeping you in my thoughts. |
7,311,852 | mommit | Adding that if you can financially afford it, a paid helper can be a godsend. Make sure that you are still getting consistent time for self-care, rest, and probably therapy. While family and friends are well meaning and helpful, sometimes it’s nice to have someone who will do exactly what you tell them to do without qu... |
7,311,853 | mommit | Thank u so so much |
7,311,854 | mommit | These are great tips for OP! |
7,311,855 | mommit | Thank u so much. I'll be checking on those benefits and that group. I'm so sorry for you too. |
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7,311,857 | mommit | Thank u so much |
7,311,858 | mommit | Thank u for this |
7,311,859 | mommit | Thank you for this kindness. One of my current fears is that Porter will forget his dad Cory as he gets older. He's a smart kid and 4 and a half but you never know. I'll work on a memory box when I'm ready. For now all his things are exactly where he left them at home and I feel haunted. |
7,311,860 | mommit | Oh I'm so sorry do you remember your dad? How did your mom deal with her birthday? Was she ever happy again? How badly did it change you forever? You don't have to answer these. I just dont know how we're going to survive. |
7,311,861 | mommit | Thank you so much for these helpful suggestions. I'm so grateful |
7,311,862 | mommit | Thank you. I'm watching Power Rangers with my son and eating chips he couldn't finish. I just cried hard after seeing pictures from a fun family picnic 2 years ago. I still can't believe he was gone so quickly. Life is horribly unfair. |
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7,311,864 | mommit | Hello. To the OP, I felt shell-shocked for quite a while when I found out my son's father died. It never even entered my mind that a loss like that would ever befall my little family, especially so close and so young, and so permanent. When I thought on it I'd become overwhelmed with dispair for for my son's loss over ... |
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7,311,866 | mommit | I don’t remember him but I watched a lot of home videos growing up, heard a lot of stories from people he was close with, and there were always pictures everywhere in our house. Once I got a little older I’d try to make my moms birthday special. It’s a hard road to navigate but she found a lot of happiness in being a m... |
7,311,867 | mommit | I'm so sorry for your loss and your son's loss. My dad died of cancer 2 weeks before my sixth birthday. I remember him, and a large part of that was memories being reinforced by people telling stories, and watching home videos and seeing pictures. I wanted to be just like him, and ended up following the same career, an... |
7,311,868 | mommit | One thing that can help is this thought. We are all going to the same place. It helps me process death. My dad is currently dying. |
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7,311,870 | mommit | You don't need to have been married for your son to qualify. It's a federal program through the Social Security office if you are in the US. It's not much - but, this economy, even a hundred dollars a month (I have no idea what the actual amount is today) is better than absolutely nothing. You will need for his father... |
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7,311,872 | mommit | Thank u so much for sharing. I'm grateful. |
7,311,873 | mommit | Thank u for this truthful take on losing your father. I'm grateful you took the time to truly explain. What a difficult journey for you and for us in the years ahead. |
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7,311,875 | mommit | Thank you so much for this information! When I first heard of it I was worried my son either wouldn't qualify due to us not being married, or I assumed if that weren't the case then it would be too excessive a hassle, due to the fact, as you mentioned above, his father's name would have to be added to his birth certifi... |
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7,311,877 | mommit | Ooooor the fun times you're being stopped to make sure you aren't kidnapping them. I appreciate people doing that and being willing to confront a stanger to possibly save a child, but in that moment it sucks! |
7,311,878 | mommit | my toddlers' nickname is spaghetti, because he turns into a limp noodle when i try to pick him up as he's refusing to do something. |
7,311,879 | mommit | I got my first “Hang in there! I’ve been there before!” a few weeks ago. It actually made me feel a lot better since I’m always worried about the mean people out there who’ve forgotten what a tantruming kid is like. |
7,311,880 | mommit | We should come up with a universal sign of “I’ve been there too you got this” |
7,311,881 | mommit | Honestly the judgement is the worst part. |
7,311,882 | mommit | I will always remember my then 3 year old(now 21) when he wanted something from the store and because I said NO he started crying like someone was about to kill him and because I am the mom and when I say no I mean it I was not about to give in. He was sitting on the cart and cried from the toys department all the way ... |
7,311,883 | mommit | Mine liked the sideways plank, with a dashing of screaming and kicking thrown in when I would have to carry them under one arm out of places. |
7,311,884 | mommit | I like to pretend I’m the bouncer at a nightclub, and my kid is a regular who’s gotten out of hand and needs to be escorted out. Like, I don’t want to have to do this, tiny stranger, but the boss says you can’t stay here! |
7,311,885 | mommit | I'm really glad this hasn't happened to me yet, so far my dude usually just tells me "I have a meltdown!" while sobbing and screaming. I once asked him if he could wait until we got outside to the car and he said yes and calmed tf down. I know I have it good right now, but I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop and hi... |
7,311,886 | mommit | I have a distinct memory of being a toddler throwing a tantrum at the grocery store because my mom wouldn’t buy me a candy bar or something at checkout. I stomped my feet, refusing to leave the store until she bought me my candy. She said “Fine, I’m leaving without you.” And proceeded to walk away from me out the doo... |
7,311,887 | mommit | I have 3 with ADHD…I’m immune to the looks and stupid comments people make about it now. They have no idea. |
7,311,888 | mommit | And that’s always the assumed position! |
7,311,889 | mommit | How do you deal with this looks? I hate them |
7,311,890 | mommit | I just got back from the vet’s. It was me, my 9yr old, toddler, and two pups. One is getting surgery and the other is doing further testing. Guess who decides to have a meltdown as the vet is explaining my pup’s lab results… |
7,311,891 | mommit | One time I legit said to some pregnant woman "just wait until it's you" lol My kids are usually really well behaved in public but everyone has their days, even tiny humans. It was the first time I ever felt embarrassed by their behavior and I just wanted to smack the smug off this woman's face. |
7,311,892 | mommit | From my experience, people sure are quick to move out of my way when I'm carrying a screaming toddler lmao |
7,311,893 | mommit | We like to call it *no bones* when the kids go limp. Honestly I prefer that over them trying to fight and run away. The first gets you sympathetic reactions, the second gets you angry stares from strangers as you're holding on to their arm or shirt for dear life. |
7,311,894 | mommit | My 3 year old nephew calls playing the limp card "going boneless" and i about cried the first time i heard him say it. |
7,311,895 | mommit | The sit down is my 2yr olds go to move. If I'm not going to get my way I'll just plop down here, makes sense right lol |
7,311,896 | mommit | I haven't noticed a lot of judgy looks, maybe because I'm too focused on my little tornado baby, but I feel like I really underestimated how hard it is to control your child, especially during certain life stages. I truly believe this is karma since I was a difficult kid too. |
7,311,897 | mommit | I am jealous of all the limp noodle sitter downers - my kid just bolts and lemme tell you, she’s faster than me - some guy on the beach had to catch her the other day as I’m huffing and puffing trying to get ahold of her. Not my finest moment :) |
7,311,898 | mommit | My 3 year old screams "Help" at the top of his lungs when he can't get his own way Imagine that walking down the street not one person has stopped me yet I must look enough like a fed up mama |
7,311,899 | mommit | So much fun when the child (3y) I was nannying screamed at me over and over on the street. "Stop following me!" Yeah, how dare I look after her. I swear I´m not a kidnapper. AT least as a mum you can easily proof it most of the time. But as a nanny I might actually end up temporarily in custody if I can´t get in contac... |
7,311,900 | mommit | When my daughter was 3 we drove 25 hours to visit my husbands family. While there she got really sick and we had to take her to urgent care where they prescribed a particularly terrible tasting liquid antibiotic for her. We go to the pharmacy to pick it up and my husband made the mistake of trying to give it to her rig... |
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