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My mom loves it: Ordered this for my mom. She had been looking for this particular book. She loves it
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Super cute: Bought it for a ballet tutu but it is being worn around the house with leggings. Really cute, full skirt.
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One Star: This item is very cheaply made and not full like the picture. It resembles something from a $1. store.
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Three Stars: The blue received was not as pictured. It was lighter and greener. I had to make my own.
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Just right: Cute not too full,soft, and perfect color
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Completely agree with your sentiment here. Nothing will change until we have the technology to remove our reliance from fossil fuel. But that will take massive government support which won't happen while corruption is so prevalent in most governments.
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yes they are hypocrites, and are doing more harm than good
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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Other videos show members of the public grabbing protestors across the road, enraged by their self-centered behavior.\n\nAs recently as October 2022, Just Stop Oil protestors prevented vehicles - including the emergency services - from getting to their destination, and many of the drivers who encountered the blockade were furious.\n\nIn the wake of the protests, members of these organizations appeared on television and radio shows. Liam Horton from Insulate Britain is possibly the worst of the lot, demonstrating a remarkable knack for not answering questions. (He should seriously consider becoming a full-time politician.)\n\nWe can only hope these activists will grow up a bit, come to their senses, and stop being a public nuisance.\n\nBut let's be honest. They probably won't.\n\nBlatant Hypocrisy\n\nGreen activism might be the most hypocritical political movement of modern times.\n\nThe aforementioned Liam Horton from Insulate Britain is a good example. In a laughably-stupid interview with TalkRadio, he admitted to not having insulated his own home (despite demanding that other people do so) and even went on to say he didn't really care about insulation.\n\nBut the inconsistencies of certain spokesmen are outweighed by the hypocrisy of celebrities and politicians.\n\nLet's start with the latter.\n\nBack in November 2021, the city of Glasgow hosted COP26, the twenty-sixth edition of the United Nations Climate Change Conference.\n\nLeaders from all over the world flew into Scotland in their private jets, guzzling an estimated 13,000 tonnes of CO2 into the atmosphere. President Biden then decided to add more to his carbon footprint by arriving at the conference with an entourage of more than twenty vehicles.\n\nThe irony of world leaders talking about climate change after pumping so much CO2 into the air is almost laughable.\n\nAnd it's a similar story with celebrities. Leonardo DiCaprio - despite his impressive acting chops - is one of the worst offenders. As you probably know, Leo likes to talk a good game when it comes to climate change. He even addressed the issue in his 2016 Oscar speech, describing climate change as \"the most urgent threat facing our entire species.\"\n\nBut in the very same year, he flew 8,000 miles from Cannes to New York in a private jet to accept an environmental award.\n\nIf you want to be taken seriously, you need to practice what you preach and stop being so hypocritical.\n\nIs There Any Hope?\n\nComedian Konstantin Kisin recently went viral after he gave a speech to the Oxford Union. In this speech, he spoke about climate change and pinpointed the heart of the issue:\n\n\"There is only one thing we can do in this country to stop climate change, and that is to make scientific and technological breakthroughs that will create the clean energy - that is not only clean - but also cheap.\"\n\nComplaining about the world isn't going to fix it. Instead, we need to give more kudos and financial support to those who are trying to create cheap and efficient green energy for future generations.\n\nIf you think whingers with signs are making a positive contribution to the climate crisis, I suggest you reevaluate your position.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "b1acea7b3ea9", "title": "The Green Movement Is Embarrassing", "subtitle": "I can’t stand these eco-maniacs", "author": "941fe9d7cff1", "publication_id": "eca1ba5ae1ca", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:14:37", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:14:37", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "climate-change", "protest", "green-energy", "hypocrisy"], "topics": ["climate-change"], "claps": 166, "voters": 9, "reads": 53, "views": 192, "word_count": 662, "responses_count": 3, "reading_time": 2.69811320754717, "url": "https://medium.com/illumination/the-green-movement-is-embarrassing-b1acea7b3ea9", "unique_slug": "the-green-movement-is-embarrassing-b1acea7b3ea9", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/0*epIhRgic_15CRV6-", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}, "images": ["https://miro.medium.com/0*epIhRgic_15CRV6-"], "anchors": [{"href": "https://unsplash.com/fr/@li_anlim?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral", "text": "Li-An Lim"}, {"href": "https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral", "text": "Unsplash"}, {"href": "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqN6tOTVjeE&ab_channel=EveningStandard", "text": "In a video from October 2021"}, {"href": "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SVBfJBVYK7k&ab_channel=TheTelegraph", "text": "Other videos show"}, {"href": "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iaZ9aSxcgnw&ab_channel=TheSun", "text": "Just Stop Oil protestors"}, {"href": "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ae6z_hYb_5Y&ab_channel=JeremyVineon5-OfficialChannel", "text": "Liam Horton from Insulate Britain"}, {"href": "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K7lVez98FTw&ab_channel=TheTelegraph", "text": "laughably-stupid interview with TalkRadio"}, {"href": "https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/private-jets-flying-cop26-blast-25338840", "text": " estimated 13,000 tonnes"}, {"href": "https://www.independent.co.uk/tv/cop26/joe-biden-cop26-climate-summit-v81741e7c", "text": " an entourage of more than twenty vehicles"}, {"href": "https://youtu.be/xpyrefzvTpI?t=206", "text": "2016 Oscar speech"}, {"href": "https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/leonardo-dicaprio-flies-8-000-miles-in-private-jet-to-accept-green-award-a7042326.html", "text": "he flew 8,000 miles"}, {"href": "https://youtu.be/zJdqJu-6ZPo?t=477", "text": "the heart of the issue"}]}, "fans": {"id": "b1acea7b3ea9", "voters": ["d318b6cf7eb1", "71b1331fd89e", "e83fd2794928", "b2ed81ed12a8", "eaf2a058fd19", "a831d545f3d0"], "count": 6}, "responses": {"id": "b1acea7b3ea9", "responses": ["13d0b1e70f4d", "73798da24e2c", "4270d2f59fb0"], "count": 3}}}]
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. It's melting their brains.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "9e5543ae8650", "title": "Does Inhaling Gunpowder Damage Your Brain?", "subtitle": "How else to explain giving grenades as gifts or selling child-sized AR-15s", "author": "ea7d486472f1", "publication_id": "65fc9594d35c", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:12:38", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:12:38", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "government", "gun-control", "republican-party", "grenade"], "topics": ["politics"], "claps": 488, "voters": 27, "reads": 145, "views": 245, "word_count": 782, "responses_count": 5, "reading_time": 3.150943396226415, "url": "https://medium.com/politically-speaking/does-inhaling-gunpowder-damage-your-brain-9e5543ae8650", "unique_slug": "does-inhaling-gunpowder-damage-your-brain-9e5543ae8650", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/0*6a-W97yrqQX7SXdk", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": true, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": "Must be the gunpowder. 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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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[{"role": "ea7d486472f1", "content": "POLITICS\n\nDoes Inhaling Gunpowder Damage Your Brain?\n\nHow else to explain giving grenades as gifts or selling child-sized AR-15s\n\nI've decided that inhaling too much gunpowder damages your brain. Ya know, like sniffing glue. How else to explain people who think that running a combination gun range and wedding venue is a good idea?\n\nGuns and alcohol. What could possibly go wrong?\n\nOr how about the brand-new Republican Representative from Florida, Cory Mills, who thought it was a good idea to send grenades to his fellow Republican Congressmen and invite them to \"come together?\"\n\nBonding over explosives. Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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I guess there are no laws against child-size assault rifles, so they need to sell a few million before a law or two are written to preclude children from owning their very own AR (excuse me, JR). Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury?
This is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. Corporate America salutes them all.
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. 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I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt. They are exempt from being sued so they can't be held accountable for the injuries and deaths caused by their products.
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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. 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Under certain conditions they are tax-exempt. So are ammo manufacturers.
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. Corporate America salutes them all.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "1668097bd886", "title": "I guess there are no laws against child-size assault rifles, so they need to sell a few million…", "subtitle": "", "author": "8b257772d976", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 2, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 14, "word_count": 148, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.5584905660377358, "url": "https://medium.com/@kconnor2019/i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "unique_slug": "i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "1668097bd886", "voters": ["f7fb5578b15e"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "1668097bd886", "responses": ["8fc734383e6e", "275d288be7eb"], "count": 2}}}, {"role": "ea7d486472f1", "content": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt. They are exempt from being sued so they can't be held accountable for the injuries and deaths caused by their products.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "title": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt.", "subtitle": "", "author": "ea7d486472f1", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 10, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 4, "word_count": 29, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.10943396226415095, "url": "https://carenawhite.medium.com/i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "unique_slug": "i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "voters": ["8b257772d976"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "responses": ["d5c786a9938a", "a5e919df30a3"], "count": 2}}}]
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. It's melting their brains.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "9e5543ae8650", "title": "Does Inhaling Gunpowder Damage Your Brain?", "subtitle": "How else to explain giving grenades as gifts or selling child-sized AR-15s", "author": "ea7d486472f1", "publication_id": "65fc9594d35c", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:12:38", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:12:38", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "government", "gun-control", "republican-party", "grenade"], "topics": ["politics"], "claps": 488, "voters": 27, "reads": 145, "views": 245, "word_count": 782, "responses_count": 5, "reading_time": 3.150943396226415, "url": "https://medium.com/politically-speaking/does-inhaling-gunpowder-damage-your-brain-9e5543ae8650", "unique_slug": "does-inhaling-gunpowder-damage-your-brain-9e5543ae8650", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/0*6a-W97yrqQX7SXdk", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": true, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": "Must be the gunpowder. 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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. Corporate America salutes them all.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "1668097bd886", "title": "I guess there are no laws against child-size assault rifles, so they need to sell a few million…", "subtitle": "", "author": "8b257772d976", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 2, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 14, "word_count": 148, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.5584905660377358, "url": "https://medium.com/@kconnor2019/i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "unique_slug": "i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "1668097bd886", "voters": ["f7fb5578b15e"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "1668097bd886", "responses": ["8fc734383e6e", "275d288be7eb"], "count": 2}}}, {"role": "ea7d486472f1", "content": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt. They are exempt from being sued so they can't be held accountable for the injuries and deaths caused by their products.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "title": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt.", "subtitle": "", "author": "ea7d486472f1", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 10, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 4, "word_count": 29, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.10943396226415095, "url": "https://carenawhite.medium.com/i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "unique_slug": "i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "voters": ["8b257772d976"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "responses": ["d5c786a9938a", "a5e919df30a3"], "count": 2}}}, {"role": "8b257772d976", "content": "Under certain conditions they are tax-exempt. So are ammo manufacturers.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "d5c786a9938a", "title": "Under certain conditions they are tax-exempt. So are ammo manufacturers.", "subtitle": "", "author": "8b257772d976", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-02-01 21:34:32", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 21:34:32", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 0, "voters": 0, "reads": 0, "views": 2, "word_count": 11, "responses_count": 1, "reading_time": 0.04150943396226415, "url": "https://medium.com/@kconnor2019/under-certain-conditions-they-are-tax-exempt-so-are-ammo-manufacturers-d5c786a9938a", "unique_slug": "under-certain-conditions-they-are-tax-exempt-so-are-ammo-manufacturers-d5c786a9938a", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "d5c786a9938a", "voters": [], "count": 0}, "responses": {"id": "d5c786a9938a", "responses": ["13f431805882"], "count": 1}}}]
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I thought I read they had a tax-exempt status as well. I better check on that one. Thanks for the heads up.
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. Corporate America salutes them all.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "1668097bd886", "title": "I guess there are no laws against child-size assault rifles, so they need to sell a few million…", "subtitle": "", "author": "8b257772d976", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 2, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 14, "word_count": 148, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.5584905660377358, "url": "https://medium.com/@kconnor2019/i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "unique_slug": "i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "1668097bd886", "voters": ["f7fb5578b15e"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "1668097bd886", "responses": ["8fc734383e6e", "275d288be7eb"], "count": 2}}}, {"role": "ea7d486472f1", "content": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt. They are exempt from being sued so they can't be held accountable for the injuries and deaths caused by their products.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "title": "I don't think gun manufacturers are tax exempt.", "subtitle": "", "author": "ea7d486472f1", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 21:12:21", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 10, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 4, "word_count": 29, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.10943396226415095, "url": "https://carenawhite.medium.com/i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "unique_slug": "i-dont-think-gun-manufacturers-are-tax-exempt-8fc734383e6e", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "voters": ["8b257772d976"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "8fc734383e6e", "responses": ["d5c786a9938a", "a5e919df30a3"], "count": 2}}}]
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I don't think any of us need weapons of war unless we're soldiers. The fact they're selling similar weapons to parents so they can give them to their children is positively chilling. It seems like they're trying to form a Christian army to fight the rest of us who are happy with a secular country.
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. 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They ARE forming an army. Secularism scares them and threatens to change the world in ways they cannot accept. There is a right way to live and a wrong way to live, they believe, and their pastors and politicians see to it that the fear never lets up. A daily diet of fear keeps their households well stocked with guns, and gets them into church every Sunday. Check out my profile page for something I just posted there on this subject.
And thanks for reading, Frida.
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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Does it matter what size the bullet is? Will firing it point blank at another child (or your mom when you're really pissed) keep them from injury? \nThis is just one more notch on the tax-exempt gun manufacturers belt. Children were already killing children prior to this new and improved assault weapon's debut. Now it'll just make it a little easier, and the injuries and deaths a little greater. But the kiddies will be proud to own an assault weapon just like mom and dad, and schools will be investing a great deal more money in bulletproof windows to keep those wee ones safe. Corporate America salutes them all.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "1668097bd886", "title": "I guess there are no laws against child-size assault rifles, so they need to sell a few million…", "subtitle": "", "author": "8b257772d976", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "last_modified_at": "2023-01-31 23:49:27", "boosted_at": "", "tags": [], "topics": [], "claps": 2, "voters": 1, "reads": 0, "views": 14, "word_count": 148, "responses_count": 2, "reading_time": 0.5584905660377358, "url": "https://medium.com/@kconnor2019/i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "unique_slug": "i-guess-there-are-no-laws-against-child-size-assault-rifles-so-they-need-to-sell-a-few-million-1668097bd886", "image_url": "", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": true, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}}, "fans": {"id": "1668097bd886", "voters": ["f7fb5578b15e"], "count": 1}, "responses": {"id": "1668097bd886", "responses": ["8fc734383e6e", "275d288be7eb"], "count": 2}}}, {"role": "f7fb5578b15e", "content": "I don't think any of us need weapons of war unless we're soldiers. 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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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Only in America.\n\nFirst of all, I will admit that the grenades were inert, so my apologies to anyone suffering PTSD resulting from the violence of Jan. 6.\n\nRest assured that no congressmen were hurt in the giving of this \"gift.\"\n\nBack to gunpowder damaging your brain.\n\nApparently, it is a tradition for new Republican members of the House to gift items from their home states to their fellow Republican legislators.\n\nFlorida. Hmmm ... what would you have gifted your fellow party members? Citrus fruit? Disney tee shirts? Key lime pies?\n\nWho in their right mind would think that grenades are the perfect gift from Florida?\n\nAccording to the letter accompanying the grenades, they were manufactured in Florida (who knew?) and were developed during the Vietnam war.\n\nOh, so he is giving them reminders of a war that we lost?\n\nThese grenades are not meant to be thrown by hand like in Hollywood movies. They are made to be launched by the MK 19 grenade launcher.\n\nSo he gave them the ammo without the gun? Is that anything like giving people mags from ARs but not the ARs?\n\nAnd about that \"coming together,\" Cory, sweetheart, grenades blow things apart. They don't bring them together. That's the purpose of grenades.\n\nThis guy is supposed to be an Army vet. You would think that he would know shit like that.\n\nObviously, he inhaled way too much gunpowder during his army days.\n\nThink being gifted a grenade is horrifying?\n\nHow about child-sized AR-15s? Yup, you too can now buy your son or daughter their very own child-sized battlefield weapon. Ya know, to use until they grow into the adult-sized ones.\n\nWell, much like the inert grenades, these guns are actually .22s but they look exactly like a scaled-down AR-15.\n\nThe manufacturer, WEE 1 Tactical, advertises the gun, called the JR-15 (get it?) as \"an ideal weapon to 'teach a younger enthusiast.'\"\n\nI call it an ideal way to get your child killed.\n\nMy biggest worry is trigger-happy police officers. Whenever they see a \"suspect\" with anything that even vaguely resembles a gun, they shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nChildren, holding toy guns, have been killed by the police. Police officers don't bother asking the child if the weapon they are holding is a toy gun or a real gun. They just (say it with me) shoot first and ask questions later.\n\nNow imagine the police being notified by a busybody neighbor that little Johnnie is running around his backyard and firing an AR-15. Do you honestly think that the responding officers are going to stop and check to see if Johnny is holding a JR-15 or an AR-15?\n\nNope, they will just fire every round they have to protect themselves from a perceived battlefield weapon.\n\nWhat kind of a parent buys their child something that will paint a target on their backs (and fronts)?\n\nFortunately, seven senators, including the normally milquetoast Majority Leader, Chuck Schumer (D-N.Y.) are urging the Federal Trade Commission (FTC) to investigate \"the marketing of highly lethal firearms, including assault-style rifles, to impressionable young people.\"\n\nWee 1's response?\n\n\"It's a misnomer that this product is being targeted and advertised to children. Children can't buy it.\"\n\nReally?\n\nChildren can't buy the toys advertised on TV either and yet toy manufacturers spend millions marketing toys to children, not their parents. You never see any commercials for Barbies during Sunday Night Football, only during PAW Patrol.\n\nThe only way that I can explain why anyone would think that manufacturing child-size weapons of war and any parent who would actually buy a child-size weapon of war, is that they have all inhaled way too much gunpowder.\n\nYa know, every time I think that this whole \"everybody needs an arsenal to protect themselves\" thing can't possibly get any worse, it does.\n\nAnd why is it that no one in the heavily armed parts of the country can see how insane this all is?\n\nMust be the gunpowder. 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[{"role": "c0080959b615", "content": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down\n\nTwenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time\n\nHow fortunate America was to have, in its gravest public health crisis in a century, a guide of the skill and stature of Dr. Anthony S. Fauci.\n\nServing since 1984 as head of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, Dr. Fauci led research teams aimed at preventing, diagnosing, and treating age-old infectious diseases such as tuberculosis and malaria, as well as emerging ones such as Ebola, Zika, Sars, and HIV/AIDS. Over his long federal career, Dr. Fauci served as medical advisor to seven U.S. Presidents.\n\nWhen COVID-19 was declared a pandemic by the World Health Organization on March 11, 2020 - the gravest public health crisis since the Spanish flu pandemic of 1918, which killed an estimated 50 million people worldwide - Dr. Fauci was perfectly poised to lead us, like Virgil did Dante through the Inferno, to higher ground.\n\nBut while it was America's good fortune to have Dr. Fauci step up as our guide in such a fearful time, it was Dr. Fauci's bad fortune to step up - as chief medical advisor to the President - to a \"President\" (Donald J. Trump) who was a narcissist of the first order and a certified liar (see: The Washington Post's tabulator). By definition, a narcissist lacks any feeling for the public, and a lying narcissist is even worse in a life-or-death crisis - he is pure havoc. The collision between the Pre-Eminent Public Servant and the Chaos of Ego must have become, for Dr. Fauci, his own Inferno.\n\nWhich is why, in inaugurating my series \"Notes from a Plague-Time,\" I titled my first post \"In a Plague-Time, We Need Truth and Experts.\" It did not take a genius to foresee both the vital need for truth and expertise in a breaking life-or-death crisis, as well as the coming conflict between the lead players.\n\nAs expected for a public health official, Dr. Fauci quickly became the public face of the fight against this new virus - the coronavirus - which, because so little was known about it and because it seemed so lethal, struck fear, even panic, in much of the general public. Endeavoring to adhere to the science while also giving confidence, Dr. Fauci accurately termed the virus \"dynamic,\" one constantly changing, thus being studied as the pandemic unfolded; indeed, soon we saw viral variants. Until a vaccine was formulated, Dr. Fauci urged the common-sense precautions of masking and sanitizing. For his reality-based professionalism, Dr. Fauci became a saint in many households (including ours).\n\nAt the same time, proving political ideology is as pathological as any virus and acting on a long-term anti-science bias, Republicans soon targeted Dr. Fauci himself, vilifying him for allegedly crashing the economy and hurting America's children with mandated lockdowns of businesses and schools. Accused of \"flip-flopping,\" Dr. Fauci was simply \"following the science\" - following a \"dynamic\" virus wherever it went, which is what a good scientist does. Thus the public face of the COVID fight became a bull'e eye, a ready-made one. Trump, that medical genius, called Dr. Fauci \"a disaster.\"\n\nJumping further down the rabbit-hole of absurdity, masks were soon reviled, by GOP politicians and their followers, as an affront to personal liberty(!). Same for the vaccines, once they came online: These miracles of modern medicine, created in record time, were, according to the increasingly rabid Republicans, yet another affront to personal liberty(!). They even turned \"Fauci\" into a pejorative term: \"Don't Fauci my Florida.\" Elon Musk, that corporate disaster, tweeted \"Prosecute Fauci.\"\n\nBeyond absurd, this inflamed \"thinking\" is flat-out criminal: How many of the 1.1 million American lives lost to date to COVID-19 - count the zeroes: 1,100, 000 American lives - were needlessly lost, tragically so, sacrificed to political ideology and a lethal know-nothingism? On the other hand, while it is impossible to quantify, it can be justifiably claimed that Dr. Fauci's guidance saved countless millions more.\n\nBereft of moral sympathy, Republican pols strutted around practicing medicine without a license. One Republican who does have such a license - Rand Paul of Kentucky is an ophthalmologist - repeatedly lit into Dr. Fauci in Senate hearings with such twisted viciousness that, at one, the usually unflappable Dr. Fauci noted the senator's allegations \"kindled the crazies,\" resulting in death threats against him and his family(!). For shame.\n\nAnd, now, with the U.S. House of Representatives back in GOP control following the November midterms, Republicans threaten to investigate this peerless public servant? More shame.\n\nTrained in virology, Dr. Fauci understands contagion of the viral sort. Presumably, as a public health official, he also understands political contagion: the sort infecting ambitious types in their quest to climb the greasy pole for power. It is a sickening sight, and it must have sickened the good doctor, too. In his final interview with \"PBS NewsHour,\" Dr. Fauci expressed disappointment that the American public, so divided, could not see the COVID-19 pandemic as a galvanizing event, like World War II, that brought a disparate people together, as one, to fight for their mutual salvation. The good doctor no doubt feels he failed in his galvanizing role. I hope in his forthcoming memoir Dr. Fauci diagnoses our ideological disease and also prescribes treatment.\n\n\"No good deed goes unpunished\": The French with this proverb reveal their insight into human nature at its worst. Dr. Fauci took the worst. But, to his everlasting credit, he persevered in advocating for his patient - the American public - and steadfastly adhered to the science. I often wondered as Dr. Fauci hammered yet again at his message, what the constant repetition of his good advice, and the constant disputing of it, was doing to the wielder of the hammer himself, though this Stoic will not likely get lyrical about his pain. In his valedictory rounds before his official retirement in December upon leaving a half-century of public service, Dr. Fauci's parting advice, to future scientists as well as the public, remained simply: Follow the science.\n\nMeanwhile, Americans, so caught up in advocating for their own personal liberty, might do a rethink and consider, like Dr. Fauci, advocating for the commonweal, for the American public as a whole. Therein, as this viral pandemic recedes, lies our ethical recovery.\n\nI among millions thank Heaven that America had Anthony Stephen Fauci as its guide in this historic pandemic. Just remember how terrified we all were at the outset of this pandemic - was this another bubonic plague? - and how Dr. Fauci's steadying influence quelled that terror. Thank you, Dr. Fauci, for the totality of your extraordinary public service and for exemplifying that rarest of human specimens - a Mensch.\n\nFor other posts in this series, see here.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "6dfe599ac187", "title": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down", "subtitle": "Twenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time", "author": "c0080959b615", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:05:44", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 07:12:08", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "science", "covid-19", "dr-fauci", "republicans"], "topics": ["politics", "coronavirus"], "claps": 1119, "voters": 29, "reads": 71, "views": 116, "word_count": 1157, "responses_count": 3, "reading_time": 5.416037735849057, "url": "https://carlaseaquist.medium.com/dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "unique_slug": "dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}, "images": ["https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "https://miro.medium.com/1*0SYr68jUK26k5MRVE6nV3w.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*4wpHorfJyZekYFpzHZQP4A.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*j3lGIuF3fpHIFbIQBqp_NQ.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*O-lw5M7_BemfmD0ScZm7OA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*uva2NrmkfuwKArJeHml3tA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*m412Y0G_LtdZ4iCYnvd_SQ.jpeg"], "anchors": [{"href": "https://www.niaid.nih.gov/about/director", "text": "Dr. Anthony S. 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Fauci did a premier job on handling the pandemic. Early on his only error was not advocating for universal use of masks soon enough. He did an excellent job at supporting the rapid development of the Covid RNA vaccine, He strongly pushed for controls and measures that if they had been followed by Trump and his administration 500,000 lives would have been saved. The problem was not Fauci it was the extreme right that advocated against taking the vaccine and for not following the basic CDC recommended Covid guidelines. This is why those 500,000 should not have died.
In response to the totally absurd comments below. The Swedish apporach (2,274 Covid deaths/million population) was an utter failure when compared to other Scandinavian countries such as Norway (928 Covid deaths/million). I have a relative who was a phusicisn on the front lines in Sweden and she would be the frist to say the Swedish approach to Covid was a fiasco and an embarraament. Fauci should not be improisoned he should be given accolades for his efforts. Mike Mar let us compare US (3384 Covid Deaths/million population) to Canada (1,312 deaths/million). Sadly Mike stats do not lie. The US failed on its Covid response not because of Fauci but because we as a nation failed to follow his plan and the guideliens of the CDC. That is the reality. Thanks Carla for writing this article. For someone that worked on Covid 19 and ran mathematical models on this pandemic this was well done. I do wish that a non-partisan presidential commission would be established to investigate how we as a country responded to this pandemic and how we should prepare for the next one. I guarantee you another one will come probably sooner than we think!
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[{"role": "c0080959b615", "content": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down\n\nTwenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time\n\nHow fortunate America was to have, in its gravest public health crisis in a century, a guide of the skill and stature of Dr. Anthony S. Fauci.\n\nServing since 1984 as head of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, Dr. Fauci led research teams aimed at preventing, diagnosing, and treating age-old infectious diseases such as tuberculosis and malaria, as well as emerging ones such as Ebola, Zika, Sars, and HIV/AIDS. Over his long federal career, Dr. Fauci served as medical advisor to seven U.S. Presidents.\n\nWhen COVID-19 was declared a pandemic by the World Health Organization on March 11, 2020 - the gravest public health crisis since the Spanish flu pandemic of 1918, which killed an estimated 50 million people worldwide - Dr. Fauci was perfectly poised to lead us, like Virgil did Dante through the Inferno, to higher ground.\n\nBut while it was America's good fortune to have Dr. Fauci step up as our guide in such a fearful time, it was Dr. Fauci's bad fortune to step up - as chief medical advisor to the President - to a \"President\" (Donald J. Trump) who was a narcissist of the first order and a certified liar (see: The Washington Post's tabulator). By definition, a narcissist lacks any feeling for the public, and a lying narcissist is even worse in a life-or-death crisis - he is pure havoc. The collision between the Pre-Eminent Public Servant and the Chaos of Ego must have become, for Dr. Fauci, his own Inferno.\n\nWhich is why, in inaugurating my series \"Notes from a Plague-Time,\" I titled my first post \"In a Plague-Time, We Need Truth and Experts.\" It did not take a genius to foresee both the vital need for truth and expertise in a breaking life-or-death crisis, as well as the coming conflict between the lead players.\n\nAs expected for a public health official, Dr. Fauci quickly became the public face of the fight against this new virus - the coronavirus - which, because so little was known about it and because it seemed so lethal, struck fear, even panic, in much of the general public. Endeavoring to adhere to the science while also giving confidence, Dr. Fauci accurately termed the virus \"dynamic,\" one constantly changing, thus being studied as the pandemic unfolded; indeed, soon we saw viral variants. Until a vaccine was formulated, Dr. Fauci urged the common-sense precautions of masking and sanitizing. For his reality-based professionalism, Dr. Fauci became a saint in many households (including ours).\n\nAt the same time, proving political ideology is as pathological as any virus and acting on a long-term anti-science bias, Republicans soon targeted Dr. Fauci himself, vilifying him for allegedly crashing the economy and hurting America's children with mandated lockdowns of businesses and schools. Accused of \"flip-flopping,\" Dr. Fauci was simply \"following the science\" - following a \"dynamic\" virus wherever it went, which is what a good scientist does. Thus the public face of the COVID fight became a bull'e eye, a ready-made one. Trump, that medical genius, called Dr. Fauci \"a disaster.\"\n\nJumping further down the rabbit-hole of absurdity, masks were soon reviled, by GOP politicians and their followers, as an affront to personal liberty(!). Same for the vaccines, once they came online: These miracles of modern medicine, created in record time, were, according to the increasingly rabid Republicans, yet another affront to personal liberty(!). They even turned \"Fauci\" into a pejorative term: \"Don't Fauci my Florida.\" Elon Musk, that corporate disaster, tweeted \"Prosecute Fauci.\"\n\nBeyond absurd, this inflamed \"thinking\" is flat-out criminal: How many of the 1.1 million American lives lost to date to COVID-19 - count the zeroes: 1,100, 000 American lives - were needlessly lost, tragically so, sacrificed to political ideology and a lethal know-nothingism? On the other hand, while it is impossible to quantify, it can be justifiably claimed that Dr. Fauci's guidance saved countless millions more.\n\nBereft of moral sympathy, Republican pols strutted around practicing medicine without a license. One Republican who does have such a license - Rand Paul of Kentucky is an ophthalmologist - repeatedly lit into Dr. Fauci in Senate hearings with such twisted viciousness that, at one, the usually unflappable Dr. Fauci noted the senator's allegations \"kindled the crazies,\" resulting in death threats against him and his family(!). For shame.\n\nAnd, now, with the U.S. House of Representatives back in GOP control following the November midterms, Republicans threaten to investigate this peerless public servant? More shame.\n\nTrained in virology, Dr. Fauci understands contagion of the viral sort. Presumably, as a public health official, he also understands political contagion: the sort infecting ambitious types in their quest to climb the greasy pole for power. It is a sickening sight, and it must have sickened the good doctor, too. In his final interview with \"PBS NewsHour,\" Dr. Fauci expressed disappointment that the American public, so divided, could not see the COVID-19 pandemic as a galvanizing event, like World War II, that brought a disparate people together, as one, to fight for their mutual salvation. The good doctor no doubt feels he failed in his galvanizing role. I hope in his forthcoming memoir Dr. Fauci diagnoses our ideological disease and also prescribes treatment.\n\n\"No good deed goes unpunished\": The French with this proverb reveal their insight into human nature at its worst. Dr. Fauci took the worst. But, to his everlasting credit, he persevered in advocating for his patient - the American public - and steadfastly adhered to the science. I often wondered as Dr. Fauci hammered yet again at his message, what the constant repetition of his good advice, and the constant disputing of it, was doing to the wielder of the hammer himself, though this Stoic will not likely get lyrical about his pain. In his valedictory rounds before his official retirement in December upon leaving a half-century of public service, Dr. Fauci's parting advice, to future scientists as well as the public, remained simply: Follow the science.\n\nMeanwhile, Americans, so caught up in advocating for their own personal liberty, might do a rethink and consider, like Dr. Fauci, advocating for the commonweal, for the American public as a whole. Therein, as this viral pandemic recedes, lies our ethical recovery.\n\nI among millions thank Heaven that America had Anthony Stephen Fauci as its guide in this historic pandemic. Just remember how terrified we all were at the outset of this pandemic - was this another bubonic plague? - and how Dr. Fauci's steadying influence quelled that terror. 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The F'n embarrassment is that he lied to everyone about what he actually did not know. This scumbag received a hefty F'n check from Pharma, he pulled a Trump on everyone. Probably worse than Trump, Fauci took.
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[{"role": "c0080959b615", "content": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down\n\nTwenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time\n\nHow fortunate America was to have, in its gravest public health crisis in a century, a guide of the skill and stature of Dr. Anthony S. Fauci.\n\nServing since 1984 as head of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, Dr. Fauci led research teams aimed at preventing, diagnosing, and treating age-old infectious diseases such as tuberculosis and malaria, as well as emerging ones such as Ebola, Zika, Sars, and HIV/AIDS. Over his long federal career, Dr. Fauci served as medical advisor to seven U.S. Presidents.\n\nWhen COVID-19 was declared a pandemic by the World Health Organization on March 11, 2020 - the gravest public health crisis since the Spanish flu pandemic of 1918, which killed an estimated 50 million people worldwide - Dr. Fauci was perfectly poised to lead us, like Virgil did Dante through the Inferno, to higher ground.\n\nBut while it was America's good fortune to have Dr. Fauci step up as our guide in such a fearful time, it was Dr. Fauci's bad fortune to step up - as chief medical advisor to the President - to a \"President\" (Donald J. Trump) who was a narcissist of the first order and a certified liar (see: The Washington Post's tabulator). By definition, a narcissist lacks any feeling for the public, and a lying narcissist is even worse in a life-or-death crisis - he is pure havoc. The collision between the Pre-Eminent Public Servant and the Chaos of Ego must have become, for Dr. Fauci, his own Inferno.\n\nWhich is why, in inaugurating my series \"Notes from a Plague-Time,\" I titled my first post \"In a Plague-Time, We Need Truth and Experts.\" It did not take a genius to foresee both the vital need for truth and expertise in a breaking life-or-death crisis, as well as the coming conflict between the lead players.\n\nAs expected for a public health official, Dr. Fauci quickly became the public face of the fight against this new virus - the coronavirus - which, because so little was known about it and because it seemed so lethal, struck fear, even panic, in much of the general public. Endeavoring to adhere to the science while also giving confidence, Dr. Fauci accurately termed the virus \"dynamic,\" one constantly changing, thus being studied as the pandemic unfolded; indeed, soon we saw viral variants. Until a vaccine was formulated, Dr. Fauci urged the common-sense precautions of masking and sanitizing. For his reality-based professionalism, Dr. Fauci became a saint in many households (including ours).\n\nAt the same time, proving political ideology is as pathological as any virus and acting on a long-term anti-science bias, Republicans soon targeted Dr. Fauci himself, vilifying him for allegedly crashing the economy and hurting America's children with mandated lockdowns of businesses and schools. Accused of \"flip-flopping,\" Dr. Fauci was simply \"following the science\" - following a \"dynamic\" virus wherever it went, which is what a good scientist does. Thus the public face of the COVID fight became a bull'e eye, a ready-made one. Trump, that medical genius, called Dr. Fauci \"a disaster.\"\n\nJumping further down the rabbit-hole of absurdity, masks were soon reviled, by GOP politicians and their followers, as an affront to personal liberty(!). Same for the vaccines, once they came online: These miracles of modern medicine, created in record time, were, according to the increasingly rabid Republicans, yet another affront to personal liberty(!). They even turned \"Fauci\" into a pejorative term: \"Don't Fauci my Florida.\" Elon Musk, that corporate disaster, tweeted \"Prosecute Fauci.\"\n\nBeyond absurd, this inflamed \"thinking\" is flat-out criminal: How many of the 1.1 million American lives lost to date to COVID-19 - count the zeroes: 1,100, 000 American lives - were needlessly lost, tragically so, sacrificed to political ideology and a lethal know-nothingism? On the other hand, while it is impossible to quantify, it can be justifiably claimed that Dr. Fauci's guidance saved countless millions more.\n\nBereft of moral sympathy, Republican pols strutted around practicing medicine without a license. One Republican who does have such a license - Rand Paul of Kentucky is an ophthalmologist - repeatedly lit into Dr. Fauci in Senate hearings with such twisted viciousness that, at one, the usually unflappable Dr. Fauci noted the senator's allegations \"kindled the crazies,\" resulting in death threats against him and his family(!). For shame.\n\nAnd, now, with the U.S. House of Representatives back in GOP control following the November midterms, Republicans threaten to investigate this peerless public servant? More shame.\n\nTrained in virology, Dr. Fauci understands contagion of the viral sort. Presumably, as a public health official, he also understands political contagion: the sort infecting ambitious types in their quest to climb the greasy pole for power. It is a sickening sight, and it must have sickened the good doctor, too. In his final interview with \"PBS NewsHour,\" Dr. Fauci expressed disappointment that the American public, so divided, could not see the COVID-19 pandemic as a galvanizing event, like World War II, that brought a disparate people together, as one, to fight for their mutual salvation. The good doctor no doubt feels he failed in his galvanizing role. I hope in his forthcoming memoir Dr. Fauci diagnoses our ideological disease and also prescribes treatment.\n\n\"No good deed goes unpunished\": The French with this proverb reveal their insight into human nature at its worst. Dr. Fauci took the worst. But, to his everlasting credit, he persevered in advocating for his patient - the American public - and steadfastly adhered to the science. I often wondered as Dr. Fauci hammered yet again at his message, what the constant repetition of his good advice, and the constant disputing of it, was doing to the wielder of the hammer himself, though this Stoic will not likely get lyrical about his pain. In his valedictory rounds before his official retirement in December upon leaving a half-century of public service, Dr. Fauci's parting advice, to future scientists as well as the public, remained simply: Follow the science.\n\nMeanwhile, Americans, so caught up in advocating for their own personal liberty, might do a rethink and consider, like Dr. Fauci, advocating for the commonweal, for the American public as a whole. Therein, as this viral pandemic recedes, lies our ethical recovery.\n\nI among millions thank Heaven that America had Anthony Stephen Fauci as its guide in this historic pandemic. Just remember how terrified we all were at the outset of this pandemic - was this another bubonic plague? - and how Dr. Fauci's steadying influence quelled that terror. Thank you, Dr. Fauci, for the totality of your extraordinary public service and for exemplifying that rarest of human specimens - a Mensch.\n\nFor other posts in this series, see here.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "6dfe599ac187", "title": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down", "subtitle": "Twenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time", "author": "c0080959b615", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:05:44", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 07:12:08", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "science", "covid-19", "dr-fauci", "republicans"], "topics": ["politics", "coronavirus"], "claps": 1119, "voters": 29, "reads": 71, "views": 116, "word_count": 1157, "responses_count": 3, "reading_time": 5.416037735849057, "url": "https://carlaseaquist.medium.com/dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "unique_slug": "dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}, "images": ["https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "https://miro.medium.com/1*0SYr68jUK26k5MRVE6nV3w.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*4wpHorfJyZekYFpzHZQP4A.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*j3lGIuF3fpHIFbIQBqp_NQ.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*O-lw5M7_BemfmD0ScZm7OA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*uva2NrmkfuwKArJeHml3tA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*m412Y0G_LtdZ4iCYnvd_SQ.jpeg"], "anchors": [{"href": "https://www.niaid.nih.gov/about/director", "text": "Dr. Anthony S. 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Early on his only error was not advocating for universal use of masks soon enough. He did an excellent job at supporting the rapid development of the Covid RNA vaccine, He strongly pushed for controls and measures that if they had been followed by Trump and his administration 500,000 lives would have been saved. The problem was not Fauci it was the extreme right that advocated against taking the vaccine and for not following the basic CDC recommended Covid guidelines. This is why those 500,000 should not have died.\n\nIn response to the totally absurd comments below. The Swedish apporach (2,274 Covid deaths/million population) was an utter failure when compared to other Scandinavian countries such as Norway (928 Covid deaths/million). I have a relative who was a phusicisn on the front lines in Sweden and she would be the frist to say the Swedish approach to Covid was a fiasco and an embarraament. Fauci should not be improisoned he should be given accolades for his efforts. Mike Mar let us compare US (3384 Covid Deaths/million population) to Canada (1,312 deaths/million). Sadly Mike stats do not lie. The US failed on its Covid response not because of Fauci but because we as a nation failed to follow his plan and the guideliens of the CDC. That is the reality. Thanks Carla for writing this article. For someone that worked on Covid 19 and ran mathematical models on this pandemic this was well done. I do wish that a non-partisan presidential commission would be established to investigate how we as a country responded to this pandemic and how we should prepare for the next one. I guarantee you another one will come probably sooner than we think!", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "dc2a0366f948", "title": "Fauci did a premier job on handling the pandemic.", "subtitle": "In response to the totally absurd comments below. 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[{"role": "c0080959b615", "content": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down\n\nTwenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time\n\nHow fortunate America was to have, in its gravest public health crisis in a century, a guide of the skill and stature of Dr. Anthony S. Fauci.\n\nServing since 1984 as head of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases, Dr. Fauci led research teams aimed at preventing, diagnosing, and treating age-old infectious diseases such as tuberculosis and malaria, as well as emerging ones such as Ebola, Zika, Sars, and HIV/AIDS. Over his long federal career, Dr. Fauci served as medical advisor to seven U.S. Presidents.\n\nWhen COVID-19 was declared a pandemic by the World Health Organization on March 11, 2020 - the gravest public health crisis since the Spanish flu pandemic of 1918, which killed an estimated 50 million people worldwide - Dr. Fauci was perfectly poised to lead us, like Virgil did Dante through the Inferno, to higher ground.\n\nBut while it was America's good fortune to have Dr. Fauci step up as our guide in such a fearful time, it was Dr. Fauci's bad fortune to step up - as chief medical advisor to the President - to a \"President\" (Donald J. Trump) who was a narcissist of the first order and a certified liar (see: The Washington Post's tabulator). By definition, a narcissist lacks any feeling for the public, and a lying narcissist is even worse in a life-or-death crisis - he is pure havoc. The collision between the Pre-Eminent Public Servant and the Chaos of Ego must have become, for Dr. Fauci, his own Inferno.\n\nWhich is why, in inaugurating my series \"Notes from a Plague-Time,\" I titled my first post \"In a Plague-Time, We Need Truth and Experts.\" It did not take a genius to foresee both the vital need for truth and expertise in a breaking life-or-death crisis, as well as the coming conflict between the lead players.\n\nAs expected for a public health official, Dr. Fauci quickly became the public face of the fight against this new virus - the coronavirus - which, because so little was known about it and because it seemed so lethal, struck fear, even panic, in much of the general public. Endeavoring to adhere to the science while also giving confidence, Dr. Fauci accurately termed the virus \"dynamic,\" one constantly changing, thus being studied as the pandemic unfolded; indeed, soon we saw viral variants. Until a vaccine was formulated, Dr. Fauci urged the common-sense precautions of masking and sanitizing. For his reality-based professionalism, Dr. Fauci became a saint in many households (including ours).\n\nAt the same time, proving political ideology is as pathological as any virus and acting on a long-term anti-science bias, Republicans soon targeted Dr. Fauci himself, vilifying him for allegedly crashing the economy and hurting America's children with mandated lockdowns of businesses and schools. Accused of \"flip-flopping,\" Dr. Fauci was simply \"following the science\" - following a \"dynamic\" virus wherever it went, which is what a good scientist does. Thus the public face of the COVID fight became a bull'e eye, a ready-made one. Trump, that medical genius, called Dr. Fauci \"a disaster.\"\n\nJumping further down the rabbit-hole of absurdity, masks were soon reviled, by GOP politicians and their followers, as an affront to personal liberty(!). Same for the vaccines, once they came online: These miracles of modern medicine, created in record time, were, according to the increasingly rabid Republicans, yet another affront to personal liberty(!). They even turned \"Fauci\" into a pejorative term: \"Don't Fauci my Florida.\" Elon Musk, that corporate disaster, tweeted \"Prosecute Fauci.\"\n\nBeyond absurd, this inflamed \"thinking\" is flat-out criminal: How many of the 1.1 million American lives lost to date to COVID-19 - count the zeroes: 1,100, 000 American lives - were needlessly lost, tragically so, sacrificed to political ideology and a lethal know-nothingism? On the other hand, while it is impossible to quantify, it can be justifiably claimed that Dr. Fauci's guidance saved countless millions more.\n\nBereft of moral sympathy, Republican pols strutted around practicing medicine without a license. One Republican who does have such a license - Rand Paul of Kentucky is an ophthalmologist - repeatedly lit into Dr. Fauci in Senate hearings with such twisted viciousness that, at one, the usually unflappable Dr. Fauci noted the senator's allegations \"kindled the crazies,\" resulting in death threats against him and his family(!). For shame.\n\nAnd, now, with the U.S. House of Representatives back in GOP control following the November midterms, Republicans threaten to investigate this peerless public servant? More shame.\n\nTrained in virology, Dr. Fauci understands contagion of the viral sort. Presumably, as a public health official, he also understands political contagion: the sort infecting ambitious types in their quest to climb the greasy pole for power. It is a sickening sight, and it must have sickened the good doctor, too. In his final interview with \"PBS NewsHour,\" Dr. Fauci expressed disappointment that the American public, so divided, could not see the COVID-19 pandemic as a galvanizing event, like World War II, that brought a disparate people together, as one, to fight for their mutual salvation. The good doctor no doubt feels he failed in his galvanizing role. I hope in his forthcoming memoir Dr. Fauci diagnoses our ideological disease and also prescribes treatment.\n\n\"No good deed goes unpunished\": The French with this proverb reveal their insight into human nature at its worst. Dr. Fauci took the worst. But, to his everlasting credit, he persevered in advocating for his patient - the American public - and steadfastly adhered to the science. I often wondered as Dr. Fauci hammered yet again at his message, what the constant repetition of his good advice, and the constant disputing of it, was doing to the wielder of the hammer himself, though this Stoic will not likely get lyrical about his pain. In his valedictory rounds before his official retirement in December upon leaving a half-century of public service, Dr. Fauci's parting advice, to future scientists as well as the public, remained simply: Follow the science.\n\nMeanwhile, Americans, so caught up in advocating for their own personal liberty, might do a rethink and consider, like Dr. Fauci, advocating for the commonweal, for the American public as a whole. Therein, as this viral pandemic recedes, lies our ethical recovery.\n\nI among millions thank Heaven that America had Anthony Stephen Fauci as its guide in this historic pandemic. Just remember how terrified we all were at the outset of this pandemic - was this another bubonic plague? - and how Dr. Fauci's steadying influence quelled that terror. Thank you, Dr. Fauci, for the totality of your extraordinary public service and for exemplifying that rarest of human specimens - a Mensch.\n\nFor other posts in this series, see here.", "metadata": {"counts": {"id": "6dfe599ac187", "title": "Dr. Anthony Fauci: Peerless Public Servant and Pandemic Guide Steps Down", "subtitle": "Twenty-fifth in an ongoing series, Notes from a Plague-Time", "author": "c0080959b615", "publication_id": "*Self-Published*", "published_at": "2023-01-31 23:05:44", "last_modified_at": "2023-02-01 07:12:08", "boosted_at": "", "tags": ["politics", "science", "covid-19", "dr-fauci", "republicans"], "topics": ["politics", "coronavirus"], "claps": 1119, "voters": 29, "reads": 71, "views": 116, "word_count": 1157, "responses_count": 3, "reading_time": 5.416037735849057, "url": "https://carlaseaquist.medium.com/dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "unique_slug": "dr-anthony-fauci-peerless-public-servant-and-pandemic-guide-steps-down-6dfe599ac187", "image_url": "https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "lang": "en", "is_series": false, "is_locked": false, "is_shortform": false, "top_highlight": ""}, "assets": {"other_embeds": {}, "images": ["https://miro.medium.com/1*M72eR5HqvcJcOHRQJ3XlcQ.png", "https://miro.medium.com/1*0SYr68jUK26k5MRVE6nV3w.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*4wpHorfJyZekYFpzHZQP4A.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*j3lGIuF3fpHIFbIQBqp_NQ.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*O-lw5M7_BemfmD0ScZm7OA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*uva2NrmkfuwKArJeHml3tA.jpeg", "https://miro.medium.com/1*m412Y0G_LtdZ4iCYnvd_SQ.jpeg"], "anchors": [{"href": "https://www.niaid.nih.gov/about/director", "text": "Dr. Anthony S. 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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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SnausageFest
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NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.
They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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riblz11
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You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.
Now her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}]
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WTF dang these people are entitled AF.
I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there
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This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.
And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": ">Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there\n[...quoted text...]\n\nThis is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.\n\nAnd the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there\n\nThis is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.\n\nAnd the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in r/justnomil.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house and do whatever the hell they want?! Instead of being grateful for a shelter over their heads. Bil and daughters are all adults - they can all be kicked out for pulling this shit.</p>\n\n<p>And the wife?? Yikes. I have no advice there, she sounds like she'll eventually end up in <a href=\"/r/justnomil\">r/justnomil</a>.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323039.0, "created_utc": 1625323039.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x9spa", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9spa", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9spa/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 885, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 885, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}]
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Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "HRHArgyll"}]
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Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "HRHArgyll"}, {"content": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "A_Magical_Potato"}]
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Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "HRHArgyll"}, {"content": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "A_Magical_Potato", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hrsoa", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328594.0, "created_utc": 1625328594.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xk9hd", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xk9hd", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xa0ow", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xk9hd/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 273, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 273, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "A_Magical_Potato"}]
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And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HRHArgyll", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5n6vdgpn", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323158.0, "created_utc": 1625323158.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xa0ow", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xa0ow", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xa0ow/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 200, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 200, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "HRHArgyll"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).
I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.
As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them—possibly even legal altercations.
It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there."
Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.
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They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}, {"content": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "BretTheShitmanFart69", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dk4zcg3", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625339853.0, "created_utc": 1625339853.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3y5x0n", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y5x0n", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6v41", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y5x0n/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "BretTheShitmanFart69"}]
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Thegrumbliestpuppy
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"she can drive them there"
She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before anyone makes an attempt to go behind someone's back. Call me cynical, see a lot of irrational and misguided people in these stories, just throwing a play out.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.
"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am trying to be accommodating, but this is interfering with how I'm raising my child."
Lay out your expectations and stress that the development of your child supercedes everything else.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "V-838", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3f9eum54", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321440.0, "created_utc": 1625321440.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6v41", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6v41", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6v41/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3421, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3421, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "V-838"}]
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bimmy2shoes
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No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, 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Lol that too. OP should tell them to “borrow” wife’s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, 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"r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EndlessWanderer316", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, 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null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "EndlessWanderer316"}, {"content": "Or she just wants her make-up to herself.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Matriarch2020", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8ybflij0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Or she just wants her make-up to herself.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Or she just wants her make-up to 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This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go there and realize that mac and cheese isn't a meal and the "fun" parent just didn't give a shit at all, not just about what they weren't supposed to be doing. He didn't care about them at all. And when he had them full time, he started to get temperamental with them and get frustrated easily because, let's face it, kids are a lot of work and he was still honeymooning with his new girl, who wants kids to ruin that??? They realized they hadn't had a proper meal in months and they weren't wanted or loved by daddy, so they realized their fuck up and went home. Eventually, I hope the twins realize they should've stayed with the "more strict" parent, because then maybe they could become decent adults.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, 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>...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...
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And very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, 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Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}]
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It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9aq7", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x93e9", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9aq7/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 236, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 236, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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I know. I’m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can’t unsee bro.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn’t always been this abusive towards her own daughter.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}, {"content": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322655.0, "created_utc": 1625322655.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x93e9", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x93e9", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8guv", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x93e9/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322768.0, "created_utc": 1625322768.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x9aq7", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.
That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xdkf8", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.
Which is why they're stealing from their cousin.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xdkf8", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326881.0, "created_utc": 1625326881.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xgz4s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgz4s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdkf8", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgz4s/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 31, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 31, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don’t care who they hurt.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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be done with the little thieves.</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325080.0, "created_utc": 1625325080.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xdkf8", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326881.0, "created_utc": 1625326881.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xgz4s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": 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Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "loveisrespectS2", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8guv", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x501c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8guv/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 787, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 787, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Special-Parsnip9057"}]
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Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it’s the devil she knows and the only “normal” she knows so that’s why she probably isn’t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8cnm4vfp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>WTF dang these people are entitled AF. </p>\n\n<p>I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320392.0, 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"permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x501c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4275, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4275, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "loveisrespectS2"}, {"content": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Special-Parsnip9057", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [9]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6yuw2o8c", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it?</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322313.0, "created_utc": 1625322313.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8guv", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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I’d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce.
Kids come first. That’s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them.
It’s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids.
It’s your kid’s happiness and wellbeing.
This is the one point in a relationship I will never compromise on. I don’t even want kids, but if I ever have any, they come first.
Between both parents I’ve been second to drugs, alcohol, gambling, boyfriends, girlfriends, wives and family.
I will never, ever put a child through that.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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"metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prestigious_Fruit267", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bmg9bu7u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And they can take the wife with them", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And they can take the wife with them</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, 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Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can’t even comprehend.
The most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called *KNOCKING ON DOORS*?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate that they’d like to come in or speak to the person in the room?! Are they all fuckin **aliens**?! I mean what the actual fuck
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}]
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My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}, {"content": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "enameledkoi", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8edd2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325385.0, "created_utc": 1625325385.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xe56o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe56o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe56o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 369, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 369, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "enameledkoi"}]
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I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my “normal.” This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}, {"content": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "enameledkoi", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8edd2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325385.0, "created_utc": 1625325385.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xe56o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe56o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe56o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 369, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 369, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "enameledkoi"}, {"content": "My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nicannkay", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_l81it", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326743.0, "created_utc": 1625326743.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xgpt3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgpt3", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xe56o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgpt3/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 149, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 149, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "nicannkay"}]
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I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I can honestly say that if this happened in my house, then the wife and I would have had it out well before it got to this point, so I feel like you're on to something with this codependency crap. I could grin and bear shitty situations with he best if them, but when my kids are being hurt and harmed, repeatedly, and their mom is enabling and participating in it? Fuck all that. Fuck all that right the fuck off.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. 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Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}, {"content": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "enameledkoi", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8edd2", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325385.0, "created_utc": 1625325385.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xe56o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xe56o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x5e7m", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xe56o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 369, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 369, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "enameledkoi"}, {"content": "My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "nicannkay", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_l81it", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I had to go no contact with my mother and I can have a little involvement like in texts with my brother but it gets to where I have to walk away from even that much.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326743.0, "created_utc": 1625326743.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xgpt3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgpt3", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xe56o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgpt3/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 149, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 149, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "nicannkay"}, {"content": "I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my “normal.” This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my “normal.” This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would tolerate those things being done to my child when they were just my “normal.” This can be the beginning of a painful process that leads to better mental health and happiness. OP sticking up for his daughter here is most excellent and a start in the right direction.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329195.0, "created_utc": 1625329195.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xlex3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xlex3", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgpt3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xlex3/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 40, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 40, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "IPetdogs4U"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}]
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Hi I'd literally just like to repeat something you wrote as it's so important. Enforcing her personal boundaries gives her nothing to lose except bad relationships. NTA op, you are not just looking after your daughter short term, you are modelling useful behaviour to her later in life. Does your wife want your daughter to be someone that doesn't enforce her own boundaries? That the cousins or the brother in law, that even the mom doesn't understand is not relevant, they are not their boundaries. Your daughter has a reasonable boundary which can be harmlessly respected, that it hasn't been has made her hide her belongings and you to get a lock, that they still aren't is what is causing the ongoing drama. There would be no problem if the kids or the brother or your wife had at any point been like no, respect her boundary
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "anm313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_g62le", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320618.0, "created_utc": 1625320618.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625334538.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5e7m", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5e7m", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5e7m/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1213, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1213, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "anm313"}]
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If thats how they act towards your daughter for not wanting all her stuff stolen, they should go, it has been long enough.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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ocx94s
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awhiled
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Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it.
Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Bun_Bunz
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Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side.
I would just have a talk with BIL and remind him he is in your home as a guest and he should be appreciative or you are going to have to part ways, Being disrespectful to you and your daughter by making a hostile environment in your own home is horrible behavior of grown adults. I would let him know and your wife that this is a deal breaker and if things don't change they will have to move out immediately, while reminding them it IS A TEMPORARY situation and they should be more concerned with working on getting their own place. Two 18 yr olds and an adult should all be working and able to afford an apartment of their own.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. \n\nAlso, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Bun_Bunz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2n9mybaj", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. \n\nAlso, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it. </p>\n\n<p>Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320542.0, "created_utc": 1625320542.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x59f4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x59f4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x59f4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 224, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 224, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Bun_Bunz"}]
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It’s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "It’s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "VeryStickyPastry", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [14]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4ros1uu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It’s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It’s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320572.0, "created_utc": 1625320572.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5b9q", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5b9q", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5b9q/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 199, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 199, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "VeryStickyPastry"}]
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If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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doubt they are buying thier own food, probably uses the wife to do it. If they are living with OP for free, i dont think they spend money on food, if its food is cheaps stuff like fast food.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NCKALA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [30]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_681ftsvi", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP, I hate it for you. You are being SO used :(</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320822.0, "created_utc": 1625320822.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5qs2", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5qs2", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5qs2/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 193, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 193, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "NCKALA"}]
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Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ICWhatsNUrP", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#e3be04", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "e899ca7e-a710-11e9-8365-0e193c0f4a16", "author_flair_text": "Professor Emeritass [96]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e9qln5g", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321259.0, "created_utc": 1625321259.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6jfm", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6jfm", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6jfm/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "ICWhatsNUrP"}]
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They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ICWhatsNUrP", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#e3be04", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "e899ca7e-a710-11e9-8365-0e193c0f4a16", "author_flair_text": "Professor Emeritass [96]", "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e9qln5g", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321259.0, "created_utc": 1625321259.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6jfm", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6jfm", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6jfm/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "ICWhatsNUrP"}, {"content": "Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "littlegingerfae", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1hwudea8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327567.0, "created_utc": 1625327567.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xia2y", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xia2y", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6jfm", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xia2y/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "littlegingerfae"}]
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How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320739.0, "created_utc": 1625320739.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5lp3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5lp3", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5lp3/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 177, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 177, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Auroraburst"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320739.0, "created_utc": 1625320739.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5lp3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": 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"author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321130.0, "created_utc": 1625321130.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6b09", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, 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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Auroraburst", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#ab8c0e", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "fe8bfb56-f967-11e8-aad8-0e2a3f932fc0", "author_flair_text": "Colo-rectal Surgeon [31]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_730i00yc", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320739.0, "created_utc": 1625320739.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5lp3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": 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"author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321130.0, "created_utc": 1625321130.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6b09", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, 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littlegreenapples
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Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5dzn", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5dzn/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 499, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 499, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "LobotomyxGirl"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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If this was happening at my house, that’s exactly where it would be heading. Child abuse will never be something I accept from my husband.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, 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By the sounds of it, it's about the only positive thing going on. Poor girl probably feels like an alien in her own house.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. 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