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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LobotomyxGirl", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4rd7t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320614.0, "created_utc": 1625320614.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625322491.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5dzn", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5dzn", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5dzn/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 499, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 499, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "LobotomyxGirl"}]
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Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Good point!! I don’t share my makeup with anyone due to this.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "vimse85", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5kd0thrw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320632.0, "created_utc": 1625320632.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5f0j", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5f0j", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5f0j/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "vimse85"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "vimse85", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5kd0thrw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320632.0, "created_utc": 1625320632.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5f0j", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5f0j", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5f0j/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "vimse85"}]
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And re: $15 set from Walmart:
She wanted to have this particular set, she set herself a goal, and she saved up for it. This wasn't just a makeup set to her, but something she had been looking forward to getting and that she had made sacrifices for. She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because of the makeup, but because she had *achieved* something.
To save up for something bigger you're dreaming of is a really important experience, for learning how to manage your finances specifically and also in general. The lesson that someone can just ruin something that is important to you without even having it recognized as having been wronged was an experience she could have done without, but at least she learned that her dad has her back.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "vimse85", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5kd0thrw", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of taking stuff without permission.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320632.0, "created_utc": 1625320632.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x5f0j", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x5f0j", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x5f0j/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "vimse85"}]
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16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year.
18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up.
Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall?
I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter.
The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing.
And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}]
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And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course.
Get these deadbeats out of your house NOW.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}, {"content": "THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "atked", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_y7iir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324600.0, "created_utc": 1625324600.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcnup", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcnup", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcnup/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 217, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 217, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "atked"}]
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I have a friend who's father moved a co-workers whole family into their home and she immediately became a live in maid for every single person in that house.
Its absolutely despicable to see and I'm no longer welcome there because as soon as I saw it happening I called them out for being the lazy assholes they were but she puts up with it cause she has nowhere else to go.
OP has no idea just how much this will affect his daughter in her adult life, he needs to protect her with everything he's got right now.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}, {"content": "THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "atked", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_y7iir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324600.0, "created_utc": 1625324600.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcnup", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcnup", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6qtq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcnup/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 217, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 217, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "atked"}, {"content": "And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course. \nGet these deadbeats out of your house NOW.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "beretbabe88", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5whr9", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course. \nGet these deadbeats out of your house NOW.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course. \nGet these deadbeats out of your house NOW.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335285.0, "created_utc": 1625335285.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xx8t2", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xx8t2", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcnup", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xx8t2/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "beretbabe88"}]
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Rent and house rules. For all of them...I had actually suggested house rules for the girls and rent for the dad but by golly, you are RIGHT. 18 is old enough to get a job.
Each one of them should be paying rent independently. Anyone who can't pay can be evicted.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}]
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>instead of staying with mom where they grew up.
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Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}]
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You make an excellent point. The brother-in-law and his two poorly raised kids have successfully driven a wedge between OP and his wife. What’s next?
Dollars to donuts they’ve gotten a little *too* comfy and will keep stomping on any normal boundaries until you get fed up and leave “their” home.
I’d also encourage the OP to review the household finances, e.g. credit card statements and ATM withdrawals. It often happens that one partner is “loaning” money to their deadbeat sibling, or, as his daughters have no problem stealing, items of value may start disappearing from the home.
Check into your state’s housing laws as well. After a certain period of time, OPs brother-in-law and adult kids may be viewed as tenants, and that’s a whole other can of worms.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "walkonbi0207", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6iw82vhf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. \n\n18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. \n\nDo the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? \n\nI hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying \"this needs to be dealt with\", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. \n\nThe biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. \n\nAnd silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. *Isn't wrong* and b. *Is protecting herself* is *exactly* what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year. </p>\n\n<p>18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up. </p>\n\n<p>Do the 3 of them have jobs? Do they have a timeline of when to be out by? To save money? Are the twins going to college in the fall? </p>\n\n<p>I hate to say it but if I were in your shoes I'd be worried that they have now moved in for a good, long time unless you become a firm boundary, line in the sand person. Like saying "this needs to be dealt with", and demand your wife go to couples therapy - with only you, or family therapy with only you and your daughter. No extended family, so that you can work through immediate family issues, like why your wife suddenly went from valuing privacy to thinking your daughter doesn’t deserve boundaries and it's ok to make your daughter feel like she doesn't matter. </p>\n\n<p>The biggest issue is following through on whatever consequence you place out if your wife isn't willing to change, if it's that you and your daughter get an apartment, or that you kick out the in law's, or that you threaten divorce. Don't say a consequence that you won't follow through on, or they'll just get 1000 times worse bc they know you won't act on your threat/ you're bluffing. </p>\n\n<p>And silent treatment is a go to of an abusive relationship, Zoey feeling guilty to apologize for something that a. <em>Isn't wrong</em> and b. <em>Is protecting herself</em> is <em>exactly</em> what they want. They want an apology for your daughter valuing herself. Please don't let her. This is early conditioning of manipulation which easily leads her to become an easier target for toxic and/or abusive relationships.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321374.0, "created_utc": 1625321374.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6qtq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6qtq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6qtq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 449, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 449, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "walkonbi0207"}]
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If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madpeachiepie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6e1aumcp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320533.0, "created_utc": 1625320533.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x58tz", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x58tz", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x58tz/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 396, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 396, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "madpeachiepie"}]
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Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madpeachiepie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6e1aumcp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320533.0, "created_utc": 1625320533.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x58tz", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, 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What's going on is that now wife has "permission" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madpeachiepie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6e1aumcp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320533.0, "created_utc": 1625320533.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x58tz", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, 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I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rhet17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1qo7jnu0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325233.0, "created_utc": 1625325233.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xduwa", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xduwa", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6kq5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xduwa/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 138, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 138, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "rhet17"}]
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More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her placing a lot of importance on privacy but being uncomfortable with the lock on her daughter's door. I think the mother is caught between a healthier adult life and a more abusive childhood and having her brother there is causing her to revert to old habits. I think the brother is likely far more abusive than OP is aware.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "madpeachiepie", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_6e1aumcp", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625320533.0, "created_utc": 1625320533.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x58tz", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, 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"author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "And the wife can go with them.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>And the wife can go with them.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321279.0, "created_utc": 1625321279.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6kq5", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": 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I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "rhet17", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1qo7jnu0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325233.0, "created_utc": 1625325233.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xduwa", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xduwa", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6kq5", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xduwa/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 138, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 138, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "rhet17"}, {"content": "What's going on is that now wife has \"permission\" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MrsMurphysCow", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5hgzjqeb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "What's going on is that now wife has \"permission\" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>What's going on is that now wife has "permission" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327704.0, "created_utc": 1625327704.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xije0", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xije0", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xduwa", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xije0/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 63, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 63, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "MrsMurphysCow"}]
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At this point I'd be outright telling your BIL and nieces it's time to start respecting YOUR FAMILY in YOUR HOUSE or they have to leave.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, 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Honestly, you should say this because in reality you have a wife problem and her actions nows can have long tearm impact on her relationship with Zoe. You guys aren't providing a united front on house rules. Your wife js dismissive of your daughters items and privacy in a way she wouldn't be with her own. She's the one letting the house guest manipulate the situation like there doing you a favor by teaching you lessons on sharing everything you own? The silent treatment really? Have you checked your bank accounts? Your housing them (alough the house didn't come with an extra wardrobe and makeup supplies to experiment with). This is a wife problem. Nex
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321833.0, "created_utc": 1625321833.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x7kvi", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7kvi", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7kvi/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 122, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 122, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Contrariwisey"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Contrariwisey", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_aaru7yir", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things safe. Also, they aren’t borrowing, they are outright stealing. To borrow, you have to ask for permission! Don’t back down. Someone needs to be on your daughters side. Please don’t let her down.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321833.0, "created_utc": 1625321833.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x7kvi", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x7kvi", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x7kvi/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 122, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 122, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Contrariwisey"}]
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AlanFromRochester
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NTA....and this is crazy. These people, who you generously have allowed to live in your home, are sticking their nose into your parenting and acting in a deeply disrespectful way toward you and your daughter--making your home an uncomfortable place for you and daughter. And you wife is enabling them and not supporting her own family. What is the exit plan here for her brother? When he came to live with you 10 months ago, was there any talk about how long he would be staying? Because it sounds like he has overstayed his welcome. I think it is time to have a serious talk with your wife about your feelings on this. If she dismisses you, then I'm not sure what you can do....unless you are prepared to move out with your daughter until wife's brother is gone.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Seymour_Zamboni
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Tell your wife that teaching and providing boundaries and privacy for your daughter now will give her a healthy baseline for the rest of her life. No joke, this is one of the most important things you will ever teach your daughter.
Instead, Zoey's basically being taught that stealing from her is fine, she doesn't deserve to have anything of her own, people can barge in on her without her consent, and standing up for herself results in punishments. What if she has a toxic roommate or significant other someday? She won't be able to see mistreatment because that will be her normal.
The lock is giving Zoey protection and control over her own life. Keep the lock.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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mer-shark
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Remind your wife too, that her behavior is abusive towards your daughter. Removing her emotional support from her own child is abuse as well, especially when it is punishment for voicing her concerns about her privacy and her belongings.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Your wife and BIL are absolutely in the wrong here. There is something to be said about kids of a similar age borrowing things from each other. However, a key part of borrowing another person's belongings is asking that person for permission and if it is okay to use their things. At no point in this post did I see that the cousins were doing that. They were just taking her stuff to use as their own. That isn't borrowing anymore. That is stealing. It doesn't matter if they return it later, if they did not have permission from the owner, it is theft.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Zoey doesn't feel safe in her own house, your wife needs to realise that. If she wants the lock gone she needs to make sure Zoey can feel safe. And we know what that means. NTA
Zoey is 16 she's a human being with autonomy, not a toy for her cousins to play with as they wish. If she wants to hang out with them she can open the lock. Otherwise all they're missing is the chance to force themselves on her.
edit: Spelled "lock" "look". Fixed it.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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>I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.
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uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.
It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.
So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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> It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.
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But but but but but faaaaamily! My sibling is more important!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": ">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\n[...quoted text...]\n\nuh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.\n\nIt is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nSo yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Dreams-in-the-Rain", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3yq3yl4r", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": ">I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\n\nuh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.\n\nIt is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.\n\nSo yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><blockquote>\n<p>I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's how to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.</p>\n</blockquote>\n\n<p>uh yeah Zoey isn't wrong to do that, she's just learnt the only lesson there is to learn from how her cousins are stealing from her and her mother and uncle are ok with that.</p>\n\n<p>It is amazing to me that your wife hears that and doesn't stop to consider for even a moment 'am I in the wrong?' or 'ok maybe how I think things should be doesn't work for my daughter' or the even more important 'oh wow Zoey might really learn to hate her cousins and uncle over this!' Very self absorbed of your wife.</p>\n\n<p>So yeah NTA for you and the silent treatment from her cousins and uncle doesn't sound like much of a punishment for Zoey. Sure beats them constantly stealing from her.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322213.0, "created_utc": 1625322213.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8aag", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8aag", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8aag/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 79, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 79, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Dreams-in-the-Rain"}]
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Let them be silent. Have Zoey mirror you walking right past them. I was a teenage girl and I've raised a family, and you must show your daughter that it's not her responsibility to bear others injustice against her. Zoey is her own person, not an extention of your wife and if she doesn't receive the respect she deserves in her own home, this will set up a lifetime of her subjugation to others if they are 'mean' to her in any capacity. You wanna watch this happen to her at college and in the corporate world? Of course not. Respect is earned and I'm embarrassed that her mother isn't standing up for her too. It's very sexist of her and her brother to hand you, "teenage girls share things". Bullshit! Walk right past them like they're not there. Gaslighting you both is cruel.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Why are these people still in your house? Your BIL cannot afford his own house and yet criticizes your parenting and tries to get around rules you have made in your own home. Your nieces are stealing and making your duaghter miserable in her own home.
Why are your nieces feeling prioritized in your home over your daughter?
Tell Sam if he doesn't like your rules in your house to find somewhere else to live.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Her cousins are ADULTS. They're 18. They're old enough to know better. There are very real consequences for adults who do shit like this. What are they going to do when they move out into their own apartment with a roommate and the roommate doesn't put up with that sh--? It sounds like you're teaching not one, but two lessons. You're teaching your daughter that her space and privacy is valued and disrespecting it won't be tolerated, and you're teaching her cousins that you cannot get away with taking things without people's permission (something that, clearly, they're own parents havent taught them.)
Odd question: how does _their_ mom feel about this behavior?
Editing for judgement: NTA
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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It sounds like it’s time for your in-laws to find a new place to live. They are causing massive disruption to your family and refuse to not act like spoiled brats.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Dude who tf acts this entitled?? I cannot fathom how somebody can be disrespectful towards people who are preventing you from being homeless. Those girls are a bully and what you did was right OP. I think you should talk to your daughters and let her know that she hasn't done anything wrong and all of them are being pricks.
Also 10 months??? I think its time your BIL finds a place to rent atleast and get out of your house
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Why is your wife valuing the comfort of her nieces over that of her own daughter? And that comment her brother made about your daughter having a defect... What in the holy fuck of a thing to say to someone who housed you after going homeless??
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Your wife wants you to placate people who are treating you and your daughter as second class citizens in your own home. Has her FOO always come before you two?
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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These girls are 18? And are pissed that they can’t steal from their minor cousin anymore.
I’d ask them not so kindly to gtfo your house if they cannot muster even the minimum of respect for your home and belongings
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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ocx94s
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Jazzyfizzles18
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I’d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don’t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that’s right, no one else will take them.
I’d also let your wife know she’s welcome to go with them if she doesn’t stop being a hypocritical cow
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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KatLikeTendencies
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Omg, I was looking for this comment. I'd tell them to get out and take OP's wife with them. She's a huge part of the problem.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "I’d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don’t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that’s right, no one else will take them. \n\n\nI’d also let your wife know she’s welcome to go with them if she doesn’t stop being a hypocritical cow", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "KatLikeTendencies", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_hc913", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I’d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don’t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that’s right, no one else will take them. \n\n\nI’d also let your wife know she’s welcome to go with them if she doesn’t stop being a hypocritical cow", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I’d be telling Sammy and the entitled twins that if they don’t like the house rules, they are more than welcome to go somewhere else. Oh that’s right, no one else will take them. </p>\n\n<p>I’d also let your wife know she’s welcome to go with them if she doesn’t stop being a hypocritical cow</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321346.0, "created_utc": 1625321346.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x6ozm", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6ozm", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x48ia", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6ozm/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 117, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 117, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "KatLikeTendencies"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Absolutely ridiculous. Having a lock on your room so you're entitled to some privacy doesn't give anyone the right to treat you poorly. This girls are just brats and want to "borrow" (and ruin, honestly) your daughters stuff without consequences. Your BIL and your wife are acting like these two basically adult women get to have say over what your own daughter finds acceptable. It's not cool, and they're acting like giant children. Tell your wife to stop putting her brother and his kids over your own, and to stop babying and spoiling them. Also honestly get them out of your house. They sound toxic as heck and they're making your wife toxic too.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I'm sorry, I read your text twice and I still need to ask - is Zoe only your daughter? Like is your wife her step-mother? Because how can she watch her child be mishandled like this?
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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2 18 year old ADULTS stealing from a 16 year old CHILD then punishing her for not "sharing" and being treated like garbage...
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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This is some seriously toxic nasty behaviour.
Lack of respect for boundaries is something that we learn from parents - your wife as well as BIL both have issues here. I imagine neither of them were allowed boundaries as teenagers and children, hence the issues now. You on the other hand, have boundaries and understand the need. I have no suggestions as to how you move forward with this, but you are definitely NTA, and your wife’s behaviour towards her own daughter is appealing.
Zoey needs solid reassurance from you that she is entitled to boundaries and that she has done nothing wrong.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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You need to explain to your wife that she is completely disregarding Zoey’s feelings and she is sending the message that her nieces and brother’s feelings are more valid and important than her own daughter’s. And since zoey is moving her stuff out already, mom is going to be shocked when she abandons all of you in 2 years. And I would not blame her. Her room should be 1005 off limits unless zoey gives them permission to be in there.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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Ursula2071
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holy shit if some assholes were living in my house stealing my child's belongings, telling me my child is defective and I need to fix her, and then doing immature shit like giving the silent treatment, they would be out on the curb so fast...
Huge NTA on this one
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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ocx94s
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bagelmanb
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Very soon Zoey is going to move *herself* out. Your wife thinks her cousins should just be able to steal her stuff (sharing makeup is unhygienic, also, it was HERS) and refuses to take her own daughter’s side?
You don’t just have a BIL and cousin problem, you have a wife problem.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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ocx94s
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allyearswift
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reddit
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My dude something is really off here between you and your wife. WTF is she doing siding with her brother against her own family? Her daughter is being hurt and she is telling you and her to suck it up? BIL giving his opinion about how things should be done around your household?? No no and hell no. You sir need to pull yourself out of the moment and ask yourself what is going on here and what you would think if someone else was in this situation.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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NTA. But I’m kinda just hijacking this comment to say - if buying a $15 Walmart make up kid is the solution for your daughter - who spent her own money on this pallet - why isn’t he doing that for his daughters who clearly *need* make up if they’re willing to steal for it?
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625319958.0, "created_utc": 1625319958.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625325018.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x48ia", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": true, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x48ia", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x48ia/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5196, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5196, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}]
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I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}]
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My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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Smolfrend
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I third this (is that a thing?).
Same situation/background.
Mom was a fucking disaster and allowed friends and their kids to use our home as their own.
Seriously fucks kids up when there's no sense of safety/security or sense of ownership.
As much as I hate to say it, OP seriously needs to get these people out of the house immediately. If someone can't respect your space, privacy or property, they absolutely should not be in your house.
NTA
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. 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Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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"subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "A home without privacy and security is not a home at all.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "leo_douche_bags", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, 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null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "leo_douche_bags"}, {"content": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}]
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So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}]
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TickleMonster528
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Seriously can’t understand how people fail to see an issue with doing things like that. I slept in the living room for all of my teens and my early 20s. Lack of privacy in your own home really really messes you up mentally. To this day my mother doesn’t understand why I don’t want her to EVER enter my room.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "leo_douche_bags"}, {"content": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}, {"content": "So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TickleMonster528", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_464xj4ro", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334275.0, "created_utc": 1625334275.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xvc4j", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvc4j", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvc4j/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TickleMonster528"}]
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I have no idea why people think this is a good idea
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "leo_douche_bags"}, {"content": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}, {"content": "So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TickleMonster528", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_464xj4ro", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>So true, it definitely puts a kink in a teens emotional growth. My parents took my door of the hinges when I was like 15 and it only made me angrier, which lead to me being even more rebellious, it wasn’t a good mix haha.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334275.0, "created_utc": 1625334275.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xvc4j", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xvc4j", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xvc4j/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TickleMonster528"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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"subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "A home without privacy and security is not a home at all.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "leo_douche_bags", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, 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null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "leo_douche_bags"}, {"content": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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null, "saved": false, "score": 2227, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2227, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "leo_douche_bags"}, {"content": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Smolfrend", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5m71g9rq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I second this. Grew up in an emotionally, financially and sometimes physically abusive home with too many people and frequent live in guests who treated it like a vacation home. Privacy and common courtesy was non-existent. As a teenager this type of thing slowly messes you up. Hold your fort op.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332066.0, "created_utc": 1625332066.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xr17w", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xr17w", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xdn4o", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xr17w/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 502, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 502, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Smolfrend"}, {"content": "Same. Hope you're doing better now.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LettuceBeGrateful", "author_cakeday": true, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_27729nce", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same. Hope you're doing better now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same. Hope you're doing better now.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625337881.0, "created_utc": 1625337881.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3y24y3", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y24y3", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xr17w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y24y3/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "LettuceBeGrateful"}]
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My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"
Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n​\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Prickly-Flower"}]
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Holy shit. Your mom is not worth knowing. I hope you are NC or LC.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n​\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Prickly-Flower"}]
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JFC this made me audibly gasp. Holy fuck, some people. I hope you're ok.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n​\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Prickly-Flower"}]
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ocx94s
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Vividienne
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reddit
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May I suggest r/raisedbynarcissists
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n​\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Prickly-Flower"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}, {"content": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Prickly-Flower", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5wfm151w", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? \"She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!\"\n\n​\n\nCan't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My older sister constantly used the expensive colouring pencils I saved up for over a year to buy (and constantly anxiously checking this big box was still for sale whenever we were in the store). I was 12, sister was 16. My mom's reaction to my tearful pleas to stop my sister? "She's much better at drawing than you are, so stop whining!"</p>\n\n<p>​</p>\n\n<p>Can't reply anymore since the thread is locked, but thank you all for your kind words and understanding. I have tried going NC with my parents several times but was not supported in that by my then partner (there's a pattern there...) Now I just don't really discuss important things in my life with them anymore, keep contact to a minimum, mostly about the children who do like their grandparents, and patiently await the moment I will receive my inheritance which will help me financially to finally have some freedom.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326434.0, "created_utc": 1625326434.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 1625428729.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xg4gg", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xg4gg", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x8u0f", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xg4gg/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1049, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1049, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Prickly-Flower"}]
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I work with teenagers, and absolutely hate it when parents tell the kids to work it out. All that means is that the least responsible, most bullying kid will win, at least not without parental intervention.
I remember one case where the daughter was getting detentions for being late to school because her brother would not get to the car in time to get to school. I told her to take off without him, but her mother said she couldn't do that, so of course, she had more detentions.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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I feel especially bad for Zoey who has been invaded by her cousins. How horrible to coming home and never knowing what is missing! OP did the right thing for his daughter. BIL is teaching his adult daughters it’s ok to “borrow”. Mom is TA for not protecting her daughter and for shaming her husband. Time for BIL et al to move out.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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My mother would have drawn and quartered us had we taken our siblings things without permission. I frequently left my journal all over the house after writing in it. My mom would pick it up and put it back in my room. She was and is vigilant about privacy. And now we are the same way with our kids.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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And as OP's kid isn't a legal adult, she is 100% dependent on her parents to stick up for her. If she were an adult roommate whose name was on the lease, she could call the cops and have these theives removed from her home, no questions asked
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, 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My brother robbed me blind when I was a teen; he broke into the locked box I put my first ever wages in to and stole them, and I was distraught. I bought a fitted a lock myself, when what I really wanted was for my Parents to sort him out. This kind of thieving led to bigger thieving later on.
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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I remember one of my cousins (17f at the time) sitting down with my aunt (who was pulling this "work it out yourselves" nonsense) and her sister (20f) and stating very calmly "I have asked Sister politely on multiple occasions to stop using my things without permission. I have now asked you to intervene. You aren't doing anything. The problem continues. You have now told me to work it out. At this point, this is your tacit approval for me to beat the brakes off of her, which is what WILL be happening if she touches my stuff again. You can warn her and put a stop to this, but I do not want to hear it if she comes crying about it, because I will do it. Further touching of my stuff is not an option. You have been warned." My aunt tried to get all huffy and say that wasn't appropriate but my cousin was just not having it. At some point she said "Control your brat, or I will." It got super ugly. I (26 at the time) remember being mystified that all my aunt had to do was a relatively small amount of basic parenting (I myself had kids at the time and so I wasn't ignorant of the ways of such things) but she'd rather fight over whether it was appropriate for her daughter to be mad her brat sister was appropriating her shit. Sometimes, honestly, people like this really only DO understand harsh payback style justice. My cousins did eventually get into a nasty fight. The older tried to press charges on the younger. The cops laughed and left.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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Work it out yourselves? Do they expect you to put a bucket of water over the door home-alone style?
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[{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Pillow_President", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_c01n43d8", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My sister would do this all the time when we were teenagers and my parents always told me to work it out ourselves. I felt helpless to do anything because I couldn't always be there to stop her and it was infuriating. My dad got me a lock and it really made me feel like he recognized my frustrations and supported me. This dude is doing a great service to his daughter. A teen needs privacy and security, especially when they've felt powerless in their own home.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322515.0, "created_utc": 1625322515.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3x8u0f", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8u0f", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8u0f/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 2979, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 2979, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Pillow_President"}]
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This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.
I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}]
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Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...
Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).
I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already.
I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship.
Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home.
And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments.
OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}]
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NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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THIS—the lock gives her a way to enforce her boundaries!
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "timotheusd313"}]
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This. Teaching your daughter boundaries and teaching her how to enforce them is essential. She needs to know that it is OK to set appropriate boundaries. You do NOT want her to become a people pleaser and believe that her own needs are not important. Thats what she will take away from this if your wife continues enforcing her own people pleasing towards her brother and his kids on your daughter.
I find it rich that the guy who has moved himself and his adult daughters into your house gets to have an opinion on anything. Because he shouldn't. He's not a house guest. He's a mooch as are his daughters. Financial problems happen, but when they happen and people bail the person out, it should be met with a "thank you! how can I help make this work so we are as little of an imposition as possible?" As to his daughters... it sounds like the apples do not fall far from the tree. His entitlement is astounding and the entitlement he is teaching and enforcing in his daughters is astounding.
The only way you wbta is if you allowed these people to continue running rough shod over your family. I think its time for you to sit him and your wife down and ask him what his plan is for finding a place of his own and how he plans to afford it. Then give a time frame for when he has to leave. He absolutely should NOT be living there without a plan. Given that literally every place is hiring right now, he should be working to get back on his feet, even if it is not in his industry and even if it is a step down. Likewise, the 18 year olds should be doing the same. They need to get summer jobs so they have spending money to buy their own stuff.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "timotheusd313"}]
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Maybe bringing this up with the wife will help her understand you’re trying to allow her to set healthy boundaries
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "timotheusd313"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "timotheusd313"}]
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YEP. She’s more than welcome to open the door when she consents to visitors in her space! The lock itself does not prevent bonding/closeness. It just prevents this particular boundary violation.
As an adult, I have a lock on my front door. It is not a sign that I am anti-social or selfish. I can open my door to let in guests whenever I like, and I often do. But my home is MY space, and nobody enters without my explicit permission. That’s what her bedroom should be to her.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "timotheusd313", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1yc399f", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA part of raising a socially well-adjusted daughter is teaching her she has autonomy, and the right to say no to anything. A lock is just a physical manifestation of a default “no”</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328413.0, "created_utc": 1625328413.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xjx3o", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjx3o", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjx3o/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 853, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 853, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "timotheusd313"}]
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One thing I will say is that if brother in law and his daughters treat everyone that way then I do think we’ve found the reason nobody else wanted to take them in
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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Ding ding ding. What a surprise, no one else wanted entitled assholes to move into their house and live rent free.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": 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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": 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The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those "but they're faaaaaaamily" people.
She needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.
The rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those "but they're faaaaaaamily" people.</p>\n\n<p>She needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.</p>\n\n<p>The rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330423.0, "created_utc": 1625330423.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xnrjx", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnrjx", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnrjx/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 419, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 419, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "MissLadyLlamaDrama"}]
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You are so right. She needs to stop defending her loser brother asap. If she keeps him around, she is screwed.
BUT, if she kicks them out, one of two things is going to happen:
1. Her family will swoop in and accuse her of leaving her brother and his kids homeless. In which case, she knows that the whole "family value" thing is bull shit. Otherwise they would respect her choice to defend her family, OR, at the very least, take it upon themselves to offer to accommodate the brother and his kids themselves. If they don't, then she can use that to realize that she is putting out way more effort than anyone else, and that the "family" crap is just an excuse they use to unload their bull shit onto her, so they don't have to deal with it themselves. or....
2. They will understand and realize why they kicked these people out of their home, and respect their decision to do so. In which case, the only people who are gonna be upset are the brother and his daughters, and that's their own fault for disrespecting the people who are LETTING THEM LIVE IN THEIR HOME FOR FREE. So who gives a crap if they're upset?
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those "but they're faaaaaaamily" people.</p>\n\n<p>She needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.</p>\n\n<p>The rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330423.0, "created_utc": 1625330423.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xnrjx", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnrjx", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnrjx/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 419, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 419, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "MissLadyLlamaDrama"}, {"content": "They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Self_Reddicating", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3e96wieb", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>They'll be by her side, right until she doesn't have anything for them to mooch off of. After that, she's competition in their familial mooching game, so they'll cut her loose in order to get first mooching rights on other family members.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625331205.0, "created_utc": 1625331205.0, "depth": 5, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xpbtd", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xpbtd", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xnrjx", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xpbtd/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 169, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 169, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Self_Reddicating"}]
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I have a feeling wife probably had to "just get over" a lot while she was younger, and that's why she doesnt see how harmful her diminishing and discounting of her daughter's feelings is.
Just because you turned out "ok" after having dealt with bullshit doesnt mean you should feel justified passing down a bullshit legacy to your kids. It means you need to actually be better.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}, {"content": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MissLadyLlamaDrama", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4djvf5g4", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those \"but they're faaaaaaamily\" people.\n\nShe needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.\n\nThe rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>The wife seems like one of those people who will do anything and everything to appease her toxic relatives. One of those "but they're faaaaaaamily" people.</p>\n\n<p>She needs to realize that her family now is the family she chose when she got married and decided to raise a child. THAT is her family. And she is risking her relationship with them in order to let her brother take advantage of her obsession with pleasing this loser brother, for no other reason than sharing DNA with him.</p>\n\n<p>The rest of the family didn't take them in. Which kind of tells me that either they know his family are a bunch of thieves, or OPs wife has become the go-to for brushing everyone's problems on to because they know she doesn't have the spine to tell them 'no'. Either way, the wife needs to get her shit together and start defending her daughter. Otherwise she might just find that the only one by her side at the end of this is her shitty brother and his thief daughters.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625330423.0, "created_utc": 1625330423.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xnrjx", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xnrjx", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xhcpe", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xnrjx/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 419, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 419, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "MissLadyLlamaDrama"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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Sammy and his kids are lucky the new lock he bought wasn’t for the front door. It is time for the three of them to find a new place to live.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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Right. Taking something that doesn’t belong to you without the owners permission is being a thief
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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Yeah, the mom is thinking her relationship with OP and kid is solid so she’s worried about what the family will think. Guess what lady, it’s on rocky ground. And she needs to get on the same page as her husband and child before she’s worrying about not being the nicest person ever. Hell having someone who will be strong is probably why this pushover married OP.
My grandma told me when my grandpa kicked her mom his MIL out of their house one night was when she knew she had chosen the right man.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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Whether the girls gave the stuff they were taking back is not the issue and it really doesn’t make it any worse if they didn’t. The point being that taking something from someone else and using it, even if you give it back, is still stealing. If you go into a store and open a lipstick and use it then put it back, it’s stealing. I don’t understand how the brother doesn’t understand that his girls really are thieves just from using her stuff.
To the contrary, I think the makeup thing is actually worse than them using other items of hers. It’s an expensive item that she saved up to buy for herself. They took it, used it, and made a mess of it by mixing shit up. The value of something isn’t necessarily tied to its price.
The worst part of all of this is the lack of respect and basic decency to ask to use her stuff, especially after it was known that she was upset by it. In my house nobody uses my stuff without asking. Not even my boys or husband. Same goes for the other way around.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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makeups is pretty expensive, as it can add up over time, especially your not buying the cheap stuff.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TheoryAddict", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [21]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mk5ykci", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly those two girls were taking *extremely* expensive stuff to begin eith (a school *laptop*?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...\n\nIm a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).\n\nI honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nOP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. \n\nI would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. \n\nTell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. \n\nAnd OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the *adult* twins and say they were stealing from his *minor* daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. \n\nOP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly those two girls were taking <em>extremely</em> expensive stuff to begin eith (a school <em>laptop</em>?) And OP didn't call them theives but if the glove fits...</p>\n\n<p>Im a twin too but I dont go stealing my twins shit (unless its snacks but thats a mutual thing lol).</p>\n\n<p>I honestly feel like the makeup, while seemingly not as 'big' or 'expenisve' as the other things was just the straw that broke the camel's back.</p>\n\n<p>OP, if they never returned the items they took you could ask for reimbursment or start charging them rent if they arent paying rent already. </p>\n\n<p>I would also ask your wife if her supporting her brother and his daughters with them stealing and harming your daughters things is worth the strain on hers and your daughters relationship. </p>\n\n<p>Tell her that her not backing her up and making excuses for horrible behaviour will make her feel not safe in her own home and not cared for by her mother. This is some relationship ruining shit because teenagers need privacy and want to know they are safe in their own home. </p>\n\n<p>And OP is being generous if they are taking stuff and not giving it back because he could have easily of called the cops on the <em>adult</em> twins and say they were stealing from his <em>minor</em> daughter. Not to mention your wife backing up her brother after the hurtful comments. </p>\n\n<p>OP you need to talk to your daughter and alsolet her know if her mother says anything that makes her upset she can come to you and trust you. Your the only one she has!</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327079.0, "created_utc": 1625327079.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xhcpe", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xhcpe", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xhcpe/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1154, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1154, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "TheoryAddict"}]
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He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}]
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chris-joy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2tllq67o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327546.0, "created_utc": 1625327546.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xi8ov", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi8ov", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi8ov/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 534, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 534, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "chris-joy"}]
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Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren’t?
OP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP.
Or you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chris-joy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2tllq67o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327546.0, "created_utc": 1625327546.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xi8ov", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi8ov", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi8ov/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 534, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 534, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "chris-joy"}]
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The BIL was *trying* to make the argument that the minor was messed up for trying to look like a grown up via makeup, but *not* his grown-up daughters for stealing said makeup from a minor. Go figure.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chris-joy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2tllq67o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327546.0, "created_utc": 1625327546.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xi8ov", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi8ov", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi8ov/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 534, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 534, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "chris-joy"}, {"content": "Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren’t? \n\nOP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. \n\nOr you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "HeatherReadsReddit", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [19]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7xznmngm", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren’t? \n\nOP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. \n\nOr you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! Why is Zoey defective for using the makeup, but his brats aren’t? </p>\n\n<p>OP thank you for standing up for Zoey. As you know, they are stealing - not borrowing - and your daughter needs to feel safe in her own home. Please try to make BIL and the cousins leave ASAP. </p>\n\n<p>Or you and Zoey find somewhere else to be, leaving all of the thieves on their own.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341809.0, "created_utc": 1625341809.0, "depth": 4, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3y9mti", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y9mti", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xi8ov", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y9mti/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 30, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 30, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "HeatherReadsReddit"}]
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Yeah that part is disgusting. I am horrified the wife is ok with him talking about her daughter like this.
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I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": false, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": true, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "OnlyInQuebec9", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_d32xujeo", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": null, "body_html": null, "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": false, "collapsed": null, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": 2048, "comment_sort": "confidence", "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": false, "controversiality": null, "created": 1625315782.0, "created_utc": 1625315782.0, "depth": null, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": "self.AmItheAsshole", "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 3, "gildings": null, "hidden": false, "hide_score": false, "id": "ocx94s", "is_created_from_ads_ui": false, "is_crosspostable": false, "is_meta": false, "is_original_content": false, "is_reddit_media_domain": false, "is_robot_indexable": true, "is_self": true, "is_submitter": null, "is_video": false, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": "#7193ff", "link_flair_css_class": "not", "link_flair_richtext": [], "link_flair_template_id": "35ab95ec-0b14-11e5-87b6-0efd95e46dfd", "link_flair_text": "Not the A-hole", "link_flair_text_color": "light", "link_flair_type": "text", "link_id": null, "locked": true, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t3_ocx94s", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": 5237, "num_crossposts": 10, "num_reports": null, "over_18": false, "parent_id": null, "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "pinned": false, "pwls": 7, "quarantine": false, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 81020, "score_hidden": null, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": "My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.", "selftext_html": "<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\"md\"><p>My brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\n\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\n\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\n\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said "my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this "defect" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.</p>\n\n<p>I told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from "spending time" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.</p>\n\n<p>She got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.</p>\n\n<p>Everyone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.</p>\n</div><!-- SC_ON -->", "send_replies": true, "spoiler": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": 24050251, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": "top", "thread_id": "t3_ocx94s", "thumbnail": "", "title": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 81020, "upvote_ratio": 0.92, "url": "https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/", "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": false, "wls": 7}, "role": "OnlyInQuebec9"}, {"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "riblz11", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [3]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_m1enf", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.</p>\n\n<p>They need to start behaving like appreciative guests.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316287.0, "created_utc": 1625316287.0, "depth": 0, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 4, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wyfzq", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyfzq", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyfzq/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 65566, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 65566, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "riblz11"}, {"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Featherymorons", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [16]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4oqinkad", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316785.0, "created_utc": 1625316785.0, "depth": 1, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 1, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3wz5w4", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wz5w4", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyfzq", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wz5w4/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19659, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19659, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "Featherymorons"}, {"content": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "SubstantialDrawing7", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5bt2qq3t", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey \"defective\" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.\n\nI have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This. It also bothers me that Sammy dared to call Zoey "defective" when his kids are taking and ruining other people's property.</p>\n\n<p>I have friends that I'm so close to, we will go to each other's gyno appointments to give support if need be. No way in h*ll am I messing with their makeup without permission. My closest friends are twins, and they don't even mess with each other's makeup without asking.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324620.0, "created_utc": 1625324620.0, "depth": 2, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xcp6c", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xcp6c", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wz5w4", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xcp6c/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1597, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1597, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "SubstantialDrawing7"}, {"content": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "metadata": {"_additional_fetch_params": null, "_comments_by_id": null, "_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "allow_live_comments": null, "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "chris-joy", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2tllq67o", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>He called Zoey defective for buying and using expensive makeup, so she would look more like an adult. Then his child steals this makeup. Would that not also make the BILs child defective, by his standards?! 😂</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "category": null, "clicked": null, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_limit": null, "comment_sort": null, "comment_type": null, "content_categories": null, "contest_mode": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327546.0, "created_utc": 1625327546.0, "depth": 3, "discussion_type": null, "distinguished": null, "domain": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "hidden": null, "hide_score": null, "id": "h3xi8ov", "is_created_from_ads_ui": null, "is_crosspostable": null, "is_meta": null, "is_original_content": null, "is_reddit_media_domain": null, "is_robot_indexable": null, "is_self": null, "is_submitter": false, "is_video": null, "likes": null, "link_flair_background_color": null, "link_flair_css_class": null, "link_flair_richtext": null, "link_flair_template_id": null, "link_flair_text": null, "link_flair_text_color": null, "link_flair_type": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "media": null, "media_embed": null, "media_only": null, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xi8ov", "no_follow": false, "num_comments": null, "num_crossposts": null, "num_reports": null, "over_18": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xcp6c", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xi8ov/", "pinned": null, "pwls": null, "quarantine": null, "removal_reason": null, "removed_by": null, "removed_by_category": null, "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 534, "score_hidden": false, "secure_media": null, "secure_media_embed": null, "selftext": null, "selftext_html": null, "send_replies": true, "spoiler": null, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_subscribers": null, "subreddit_type": "public", "suggested_sort": null, "thread_id": null, "thumbnail": null, "title": null, "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 534, "upvote_ratio": null, "url": null, "user_reports": [], "view_count": null, "visited": null, "wls": null}, "role": "chris-joy"}]
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