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### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
| (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
| (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
| (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
sys : (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
usr : That's very true, I'm not alone.
| (Providing Suggestions) I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
sys : (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
usr : That's very true, I'm not alone.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day
usr : You've made me feel a million times better, thank you so much.
usr : Tomorrow is a new day.
| (Providing Suggestions) And don't worry, life is full of surprises, maybe you find love one day |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
sys : (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
usr : That's very true, I'm not alone.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day
usr : You've made me feel a million times better, thank you so much.
usr : Tomorrow is a new day.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) And don't worry, life is full of surprises, maybe you find love one day
usr : You're right. I will.
| (Others) If there is anything else I can help you with |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
sys : (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
usr : That's very true, I'm not alone.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day
usr : You've made me feel a million times better, thank you so much.
usr : Tomorrow is a new day.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) And don't worry, life is full of surprises, maybe you find love one day
usr : You're right. I will.
sys : (Others) If there is anything else I can help you with
usr : No there is not. Thanks for taking the time to talk with me today
| (Others) Thank you for sharing your feelings with me, Good luck with your future endeavours |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"When I broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years, I felt extreme fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of what was to come. We shared so much of each other's lives, I didn't know how to go on without him.". | sys : (Others) Hi, How are you today?
usr : I'm not good today. Not good at all.
sys : (Question) I'm here to listen, Tell me about it
usr : I feel extremely scared. Honestly, I felt relief when he left. That he finally did the thing both of us were scared to do. But I was with him for so long. I grew up with him. I don't know how to live by myself.
sys : (Question) Why do you think you find yourselves in this situation?
usr : Because he was my life. I spent every waking second with him. He cleaned the things I couldn't. He did the things I couldn't do. I have to basically re-learn how to live by myself again. It's really scary, you know?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I can understand your feelings right now, It's hard to ignore all those memories and moments
sys : (Question) What bothers you the most? living alone or not having him?
usr : It really is. I don't know how to go on. I've never been through a breakup like this before. I'm scared I'll never be able to find someone else or even think about dating anyone else.
usr : Probably living alone and being on my own.
usr : I don't really miss him honestly. I miss the comfort of having someone take care of me. We fell out of love awhile ago.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Hmm, First of all stop being scared
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You can do it on your own
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know that's scary for you, but what's the meaning of life without being scared and have our feelings?
usr : That's very true. I have to think about the future. I can do it on my own. I just have to think...this is the worst it'll ever be.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) But you should start to take control over your feelings at first, you are the boss and you give the orders!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Slowly but surely you find yourself in a better mood
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You said you felt relieved, and that's an opportunity
usr : I will try. If anything, I can find myself through this instead of relying on another person.
usr : Definitely an opportunity.
usr : Thank you for hearing me and making me feel better about everything.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You are free now, Do what makes you happy You and only you can underestimate yourself, stop doing it
usr : That's great advice. thank you so much.
sys : (Information) Don't you think anybody have ever experienced this? They did and they took control, so you can do it too
usr : That's very true, I'm not alone.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I hope you feel better now and DECIDE to alter things, tomorrow is a new day
usr : You've made me feel a million times better, thank you so much.
usr : Tomorrow is a new day.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) And don't worry, life is full of surprises, maybe you find love one day
usr : You're right. I will.
sys : (Others) If there is anything else I can help you with
usr : No there is not. Thanks for taking the time to talk with me today
sys : (Others) Thank you for sharing your feelings with me, Good luck with your future endeavours
| (Others) Bye |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | (Question) Hi! How are you tonight? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
| (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
| (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
| (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
| (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
sys : (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
| (Self-disclosure) What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
sys : (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
sys : (Self-disclosure) What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him.
usr : Ok I will give that a try. He's very good to me and I care deeply for him.
| (Providing Suggestions) You should try setting up a fun day for them where they can get to know each other. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
sys : (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
sys : (Self-disclosure) What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him.
usr : Ok I will give that a try. He's very good to me and I care deeply for him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You should try setting up a fun day for them where they can get to know each other.
usr : That's a great idea! Like bowling?
| (Question) Bowling is gret!! would your best friend be open ot it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
sys : (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
sys : (Self-disclosure) What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him.
usr : Ok I will give that a try. He's very good to me and I care deeply for him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You should try setting up a fun day for them where they can get to know each other.
usr : That's a great idea! Like bowling?
sys : (Question) Bowling is gret!! would your best friend be open ot it?
usr : Yes she would
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great!!! this way you can keep them both in your life. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"Constantly arguing with my best friend, we never see eye to eye on important things on my life.". | sys : (Question) Hi! How are you tonight?
usr : I'm doing okay
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's good to hear.
usr : How are you?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I'm doing great, thank you!
usr : You're welcome
sys : (Question) Is there anything that you wanted to talk about?
usr : Ya, I just feel down recently
sys : (Question) I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it?
usr : My best friend and I constantly argue
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension?
usr : She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him
sys : (Self-disclosure) THat's so hard. My best friend hated my ex boyfriend as well and we always fought about it. I tried really hard to understand where she was coming from. IN the end, she was right about somethings.
sys : (Self-disclosure) What was really helpful for me, was having us all spend time together so she could get to know him.
usr : Ok I will give that a try. He's very good to me and I care deeply for him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) You should try setting up a fun day for them where they can get to know each other.
usr : That's a great idea! Like bowling?
sys : (Question) Bowling is gret!! would your best friend be open ot it?
usr : Yes she would
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great!!! this way you can keep them both in your life.
usr : Okay we will try bowling. Thank you for the help
| (Question) Anytime! Do you need anything ese? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | (Others) Hello there! How are you today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
| (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
| (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
| (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
| (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
sys : (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
| (Question) Is there anything else I can help you with? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
sys : (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
sys : (Question) Is there anything else I can help you with?
usr : Haha thank you
usr : What do you think i should do when i feel this way next time
| (Providing Suggestions) Good question! Don't let the feeling consume you. After all , you are dealing with another person who genuinely might be busy or held up with some important work. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
sys : (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
sys : (Question) Is there anything else I can help you with?
usr : Haha thank you
usr : What do you think i should do when i feel this way next time
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Good question! Don't let the feeling consume you. After all , you are dealing with another person who genuinely might be busy or held up with some important work.
usr : Thats true
| (Information) So, even if they don't respond, just think they are driving or working, and try to avoid thinking that you are being ignored. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
sys : (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
sys : (Question) Is there anything else I can help you with?
usr : Haha thank you
usr : What do you think i should do when i feel this way next time
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Good question! Don't let the feeling consume you. After all , you are dealing with another person who genuinely might be busy or held up with some important work.
usr : Thats true
sys : (Information) So, even if they don't respond, just think they are driving or working, and try to avoid thinking that you are being ignored.
usr : I always assume since im not busy that they arent too
usr : I guessits a little self involved
| (Providing Suggestions) Yes, sometimes assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Always talk it out when you get a chance. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have been feeling like my friends don't like me and it's making me feel bad.". | sys : (Others) Hello there! How are you today?
usr : Im okay
usr : How do you want to do this?
sys : (Question) Sure! Can you please tell me how can i help you today?
usr : Ive been feeling like other people dont like me
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) If I understand you correctly, do you assume people dislike you even if you can't tell for sure?
usr : Yes, i automatically assume I'm valueless in the other persons eyes, no matter what they say or do to the contrary
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It seems you are a bit low on self-confidence. I have been there too. If I may ask you, does this feeling persist all the time irrespective of the situation or it happens after any particular event - say a test or some outdoor game for example?
usr : Yeah, I've been texting my friend and he doesn't reply to me for hours and it makes me feel like he isnt as enthusiastic about our friendship as i am which hurts
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Right, the feeling of being ignored can be quite overwhelming. Have you tried speaking with your friend over phone or video call, assuming you have access to the technology?
usr : We have decent phone conversations, I guess I'm just frustrated and sad about my worthiness, now that im typing it out it sounds not nearly as bad
usr : Thank you
sys : (Information) Great! You are worthy! Remember that always :)
sys : (Question) Is there anything else I can help you with?
usr : Haha thank you
usr : What do you think i should do when i feel this way next time
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Good question! Don't let the feeling consume you. After all , you are dealing with another person who genuinely might be busy or held up with some important work.
usr : Thats true
sys : (Information) So, even if they don't respond, just think they are driving or working, and try to avoid thinking that you are being ignored.
usr : I always assume since im not busy that they arent too
usr : I guessits a little self involved
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Yes, sometimes assumptions can lead to misunderstandings. Always talk it out when you get a chance.
| (Providing Suggestions) It could be, but always bear in mind that there could be factors beyond your immediate control. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
| (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
| (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
| (Question) How long have you guys been together? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
| (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
sys : (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
usr : Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
| (Self-disclosure) I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
sys : (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
usr : Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.
usr : It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she
usr : she's safe etc
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
sys : (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
usr : Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.
usr : It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she
usr : she's safe etc
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her!
| (Providing Suggestions) Staying friends after the fact might take the pressure off of you a little bit. You can still help her out and be there for each other, but as friends instead of partner's. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
sys : (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
usr : Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.
usr : It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she
usr : she's safe etc
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Staying friends after the fact might take the pressure off of you a little bit. You can still help her out and be there for each other, but as friends instead of partner's.
usr : To be honest, it's amazing that you have suggested this. It's really hard to balance my needs and feelings without breaking her heart. It's hard for the person that's dumped but actually I think it is equally hard for the dumper!
| (Reflection of feelings) Yes exactly! It's so difficult for the dumper as well, because of course you still have strong feelings for this person. They just aren't romantic anymore. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I don't love my partner any more and I don't know what to do for the best as she really loves me but it's not working.". | sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Hello! How are you doing today?
usr : I've been better to be honest. I think I need to break up with my girlfriend but she moved in last year and I don;' know how to approach it. I think I'm going to be in for a bad emotional time
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That seems like a tough situation! What feelings made you decide you need to breakup with her?
usr : It's a bit of a mix. I don't find her attractive that much any more and I think that's important. Also since moving in she is difficult to live with. I can't see myself with her long term.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I completely understand that. I recently broke up with my boyfriend earlier this year, because I didn't feel like I loved him as much as I used to. Things like that are important!
sys : (Question) How long have you guys been together?
usr : It's good that you have had a similar experience and understand what I'm going through. We dated for a while. The thing is she is Italian and has moved countries to live with me. I feel so bad that this has happened.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh I see. That's a huge step to make in a relationship. So you are hesitant to break up with her because she moved just to be with you?
sys : (Question) Have you communicated with her about your concerns? Such as being difficult to live with?
usr : Yes that's right, I helped her get a job and thought I'd just see how it goes. Her family loves me and thinks I'm great which makes this even more difficult. We have talked about things yes but she sees it as a bit of a joke I think.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I think it's great that we got matched up, because I went through also the exact same situation. My boyfriend and I were long distance, and he moved across the country to be closer to me. So when I felt like we needed to break up, I was experiencing similar guilt that you are experiencing.
usr : It's great that you understand this. I think being the man puts more pressure on me to look after her and make sure she
usr : she's safe etc
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I want to reassure you, that doing what's best for you is what is most important! Your partner will understand this if they truly care for you. Things will be tough for a while, but you both will be able to grow from this experience. And just because you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, doesn't mean that you don't care about her!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Staying friends after the fact might take the pressure off of you a little bit. You can still help her out and be there for each other, but as friends instead of partner's.
usr : To be honest, it's amazing that you have suggested this. It's really hard to balance my needs and feelings without breaking her heart. It's hard for the person that's dumped but actually I think it is equally hard for the dumper!
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Yes exactly! It's so difficult for the dumper as well, because of course you still have strong feelings for this person. They just aren't romantic anymore.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) And that is okay. You don't need to feel guilty for things that you can't control. You can still be there for her without pretending to be in love |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | (Others) Hello. How are you? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
| (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
| (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
| (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
usr : Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
| (Others) If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
usr : Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
sys : (Others) If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships.
usr : I have to think about it more but I am lonely already
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
usr : Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
sys : (Others) If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships.
usr : I have to think about it more but I am lonely already
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship?
usr : I am thinking of pursuing a new relationship and hoping to move forward
| (Reflection of feelings) I think that would be a wonderful idea for you. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
usr : Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
sys : (Others) If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships.
usr : I have to think about it more but I am lonely already
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship?
usr : I am thinking of pursuing a new relationship and hoping to move forward
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think that would be a wonderful idea for you.
usr : I just don't know where to find someone.
| (Others) Dont go looking for someone . Let them find you. Just live your life and love will find you. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"How can I cope with losing my boyfriend to another woman?". | sys : (Others) Hello. How are you?
usr : Hi, I'm coping with losing my boyfriend to another woman and can't deal.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I am sorry to hear that. You deserve better
usr : Thanks, I'm just still in shock.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand you. I went through similar situation
usr : I just don't know what to do.
sys : (Question) Do you have any friends you can hang out with to get your mind off him?
usr : That would be a good idea. Although it's a little hard with COVID restrictions.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) How about treating yourself to nice relaxing bath and good book ?
usr : That sounds wonderful.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You should focus on yourself and remember you are a amazing woman!
usr : Thanks for the support. Is it too early to start a new relationship?
sys : (Others) If you are sure you are ready for it then No. However make sure you dont judge them by previous relationships.
usr : I have to think about it more but I am lonely already
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand but wouldnt you rather be alone and focusing on yourself instead of miserable relationship?
usr : I am thinking of pursuing a new relationship and hoping to move forward
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I think that would be a wonderful idea for you.
usr : I just don't know where to find someone.
sys : (Others) Dont go looking for someone . Let them find you. Just live your life and love will find you.
usr : I have to think positive and love will come when I don't expect it.
| (Reflection of feelings) Exactly. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
| (Others) Hello how are you |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
| (Question) Great how is everything going for you |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
| (Question) Why do you feel isolated? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
| (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
| (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
| (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
| (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
sys : (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening?
usr : If a student is not focusing and causing disruption in a classroom, then I think they should definitely do something to help manage the beahviour of the student. Yes.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Agreed with 20 some students after repeatedly trying with a student you cannot keep stopping the lecture to discipline. Of course there should be some help in place. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
sys : (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening?
usr : If a student is not focusing and causing disruption in a classroom, then I think they should definitely do something to help manage the beahviour of the student. Yes.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Agreed with 20 some students after repeatedly trying with a student you cannot keep stopping the lecture to discipline. Of course there should be some help in place.
usr : Okay. Do you have any support or advice?
| (Providing Suggestions) Ive seen this first hand and teachers really have their hands full. I know most parents are busy, but have you tried to connect with the parents maybe they can step in and talk to their children. |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
sys : (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening?
usr : If a student is not focusing and causing disruption in a classroom, then I think they should definitely do something to help manage the beahviour of the student. Yes.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Agreed with 20 some students after repeatedly trying with a student you cannot keep stopping the lecture to discipline. Of course there should be some help in place.
usr : Okay. Do you have any support or advice?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Ive seen this first hand and teachers really have their hands full. I know most parents are busy, but have you tried to connect with the parents maybe they can step in and talk to their children.
usr : That's good advice and I have, but the parents are part of the problem. They care less than their own child.
| (Providing Suggestions) There are also several community groups with different kids of occupations. Ive seen multiple ones for teachers helping each other by sharing their own methods. That might help with some ideas. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
sys : (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening?
usr : If a student is not focusing and causing disruption in a classroom, then I think they should definitely do something to help manage the beahviour of the student. Yes.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Agreed with 20 some students after repeatedly trying with a student you cannot keep stopping the lecture to discipline. Of course there should be some help in place.
usr : Okay. Do you have any support or advice?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Ive seen this first hand and teachers really have their hands full. I know most parents are busy, but have you tried to connect with the parents maybe they can step in and talk to their children.
usr : That's good advice and I have, but the parents are part of the problem. They care less than their own child.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There are also several community groups with different kids of occupations. Ive seen multiple ones for teachers helping each other by sharing their own methods. That might help with some ideas.
usr : That's also a nice idea. Thank you.
usr : Okay, thank you for your help today. Hace a nice day. Bye!
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) No problem. I hope you find some better ideas. You are not alone and remember you have one of the hardest jobs out there! |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"Working as a teacher, I find it very hard to get students who don't care to engage with work. 90% of students are fine, but the other 10% are impossible as I have no support from management.". | usr : Hi!
usr : Hello, are you there?
sys : (Others) Hello how are you
usr : I'm doing okay. How are you?
sys : (Question) Great how is everything going for you
usr : Not fantastic. I'm struggling in my job and I feel isolated every day.
sys : (Question) Why do you feel isolated?
usr : Because even though I work in a large school, I feel like if there are any issues in my classroom with students, no one will help me out.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I completely understand. I don't worked at a school and the teachers did not receive much support. Is that what is making you stuggle at work?
usr : I don't understand your question.
sys : (Question) Is it the lack of support at the school that is causing you to struggle?
usr : Yes. That's what I said.
sys : (Question) Sorry I asked about the isolation and you mentioned the reason was the work. So im just trying to confirm your lack of support at school is the reason for your struggle. Does the feeling of isolation stem from that?
usr : Yes. I am feeling isolated because management at my work is not supporting me.
sys : (Others) Understandable.Do they have any kind of help groups at your school?
usr : Not really. They try to say that we should all make sure we are looking after our mental health, but they do nothing that would actually help us or give us a way to do it.
sys : (Information) Is there something you have in mind that might help your situation and theyre not listening?
usr : If a student is not focusing and causing disruption in a classroom, then I think they should definitely do something to help manage the beahviour of the student. Yes.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Agreed with 20 some students after repeatedly trying with a student you cannot keep stopping the lecture to discipline. Of course there should be some help in place.
usr : Okay. Do you have any support or advice?
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Ive seen this first hand and teachers really have their hands full. I know most parents are busy, but have you tried to connect with the parents maybe they can step in and talk to their children.
usr : That's good advice and I have, but the parents are part of the problem. They care less than their own child.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) There are also several community groups with different kids of occupations. Ive seen multiple ones for teachers helping each other by sharing their own methods. That might help with some ideas.
usr : That's also a nice idea. Thank you.
usr : Okay, thank you for your help today. Hace a nice day. Bye!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) No problem. I hope you find some better ideas. You are not alone and remember you have one of the hardest jobs out there!
usr : Thank you. That helps to hear someone else say that.
usr : Have a good day. Bye.
| (Others) Same to you! |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | (Others) Hi! How are you today/ | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
| (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
| (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
| (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
| (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
| (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
| (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you . |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
| (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
| (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
| (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
| (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
| (Others) Yes! Definitely. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
| (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
usr : Now just need to get through this week.
usr : But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
| (Reflection of feelings) You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
usr : Now just need to get through this week.
usr : But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.
usr : I really appreciate you saying that.
| (Others) It's true! i hope this has been helpful. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
usr : Now just need to get through this week.
usr : But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.
usr : I really appreciate you saying that.
sys : (Others) It's true! i hope this has been helpful.
usr : I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.
| (Providing Suggestions) Crying can be therapeutic so that's good! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
usr : Now just need to get through this week.
usr : But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.
usr : I really appreciate you saying that.
sys : (Others) It's true! i hope this has been helpful.
usr : I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Crying can be therapeutic so that's good!
usr : I should take a bath and cry now! Thank you so much. You've been a true help.
usr : Have a nice holiday, if you're here in the States.
| (Others) You too! hAppy thanksgiving!! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My boyfriend is having a serious cancer surgery this week. I am very scared.". | sys : (Others) Hi! How are you today/
usr : I'm OK, but really nervous/scared. My boyfriend is having surgery this week for a serious cancer.
usr : Over the last week or two, he can barely eat.
usr : And sleeps all the time. I just want him to feel better, but the surgery is scary.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. That's really scary.
usr : It is. And it happened so fast. He was really just fine in July.
sys : (Information) It seems like he was in a lot of pain adn discomfort so surgery should really help.
usr : That's what we are hoping. He was sort of stubborn about talking to the surgeon this week for advice, but finally listened to me.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Yeah, it really comes out of nowhere. MY mother was diagnosed with cancer last year and it felt so out of nowhere and unfair.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Good thing he has you! he's lucky to have someone like you in his corner.
usr : Doesn't it? So you understand.
usr : You can feel so helpless.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) I do understand. It's really hard. THe only thing that you can do is try to stay positive as cliche as that sounds.
usr : I think it helps him if I do.
usr : He will be in the hospital for 1-2 weeks.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You aren't helpless! So much of this is mental and you being there for him is more helpful than you know.
sys : (Question) Will you be able to visit him in the hospital?
usr : I'm a little nervous about what kind of help he'll need when he gets home.
usr : Yes! I'm so relieved, with the covid restrictions. but I can.
usr : I think only one visitor at a time, but he moved her to be close to me (met long distance), so his closest friends aren't local. The ones he'd want to visit.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Thank god! That will make such a big difference for both of you. Being alone would be scary.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Well he clearly loves you! I am happy that he's getting the treatment he needs and has someone so supportive like you helping him.
usr : Thank you... it really helps to talk to someone. I worry about stressing out friends.
usr : Plus sometimes, they just don't know what to say, especially if they haven't known someone who has gone through it.
usr : How did your mom do?
usr : If you don't mind my asking.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Your friends probably want to be there for you, don't be stressed about that. They just may need some guidance on how to be there for you .
sys : (Self-disclosure) My mom is doing great! Still in treatment but doing so well.
usr : OH, thank goodness. I'm happy for both of you.
usr : It's just a strange year. I lost both my dogs to cancer in six months, then this. Then my cousin died of pancreatic in July. Plus some other acquaintances.
usr : It's just felt like a lot.
usr : Did your mom have trouble eating? And tons of fatigue?
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Oh wow, i'm so sorry. You've had a really tough year. You really deserve a break.
sys : (Self-disclosure) She did ! Especially when she was in treatment.
usr : Right, and as I bet you can relate, breaks are hard to get in COVID days.
usr : that's what's scary, is right now, he's not in treatment. They think because of the cancer's location and the type, that surgery is the better option. So it's really just the cancer that is doing this to him.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Definitely hard. You'll have to try to find something for you to relax. Even if it's just walking or reading.
usr : That's one thing COVID has been good for. Lots of long walks with friends.
sys : (Others) Yes! Definitely.
usr : And I do have a young dog now who is a big help too. :)
sys : (Self-disclosure) Dogs are the best!! Mine gets me through everything.
usr : It turned out, I got this boy between losing the two I mentioned. I am so very thankful I got him when I did and wasn't totally without a dog.
usr : He's been a lifesaver.
usr : Even though puppies are crazy.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sure!! Enjoy him. It's great for stress relief. ANd having a puppy is a great distraction.
usr : Now just need to get through this week.
usr : But another weird blessing about covid is I am not stressed about thanksgiving plans on top of the surgery.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) You definitely will, you seem like you are very strong.
usr : I really appreciate you saying that.
sys : (Others) It's true! i hope this has been helpful.
usr : I try to be, for him. Every so often, I hear a song and want to cry.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Crying can be therapeutic so that's good!
usr : I should take a bath and cry now! Thank you so much. You've been a true help.
usr : Have a nice holiday, if you're here in the States.
sys : (Others) You too! hAppy thanksgiving!!
usr : Take care.
| (Others) You too |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
| (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
| (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
| (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
| (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
| (Question) How long were you with her? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
sys : (Question) How long were you with her?
usr : Don't laugh
usr : Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
sys : (Question) How long were you with her?
usr : Don't laugh
usr : Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?
usr : It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough
usr : Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
sys : (Question) How long were you with her?
usr : Don't laugh
usr : Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?
usr : It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough
usr : Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well.
usr : Ya you wish you could go back in time and change things or never get married lol
| (Reflection of feelings) When you go to bed at night, if you can drift off to dream with a clear conscience, then you're doing significantly better than her! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
sys : (Question) How long were you with her?
usr : Don't laugh
usr : Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?
usr : It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough
usr : Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well.
usr : Ya you wish you could go back in time and change things or never get married lol
sys : (Reflection of feelings) When you go to bed at night, if you can drift off to dream with a clear conscience, then you're doing significantly better than her!
| (Information) What are you doing to take care of you during this time? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"My wife cheated on me and wanted a divorce. I have been super depressed. My house is a mess. I have a small business that I have let go. I need to get up and get things done but have no motivation. I need help getting motivated again.". | usr : I should add (although it doesn't matter). I'm female married to a female.
sys : (Others) Hi there! I'm glad you're here
usr : hi
sys : (Information) So you're a female and you're married to a female? There's nothing wrong with that at all!
usr : Yes....well we are not living together now. We have to file papers for divorce
sys : (Question) I see. So you're actually legally married - didn't just have a commitment ceremony?
usr : Yes legally married
sys : (Question) Care to share what led up to filing for divorce?
usr : She cheated.
usr : And as far as I know is still with the person
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can certainly understand how that feels. I have been in your EXACT situation.
usr : It's horrible and hard to move on for sure
sys : (Question) How long were you with her?
usr : Don't laugh
usr : Our one year wedding anniversary was this past Sat. Which I know I shouldnt be so miserable but I am. I think because like some people have told me we were still in our honeymoon stage. We were not fighting or having big issues....she just cheated
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. You realize this behavior, these choices, are a flaw within her, and not you?
usr : It's hard to see that. I feel like a failure and not good enough
usr : Like why even get married in the first place if you are just going to cheat
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I can completely understand that as well. I blamed myself for quite some time as well.
usr : Ya you wish you could go back in time and change things or never get married lol
sys : (Reflection of feelings) When you go to bed at night, if you can drift off to dream with a clear conscience, then you're doing significantly better than her!
sys : (Information) What are you doing to take care of you during this time?
usr : Not much at all
usr : I feel like I'm in a funk and can't get out of it. My house is a disaster. I have a small business I am not in the mood to work on....I"ve been slacking in everything
| (Providing Suggestions) You are important! You matter! Why not do something that is relaxing to you? |
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