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I like my friends and their judgments don't apply to me because I'm perfect
You shouldn't walk around acting like you're better than everyone else. Nobody is perfect, and I can promise you that those judgmental friends are gossiping about your shortcomings too.
[ "You shouldn't act like youre better than everyone else" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker is rude to think that they are better than their friends.", "No apologies here. The previous attitude is continued", "casual conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9c8c2b
3,869
2
true
I can't stand the way my neighbors treat their dog and I want to take it to the SPCA and tell them it ran away.
I don't like the sound of that. Why do you want to take your neighbor's dog to the SPCA?
[ "It's good to care about animals" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker intends acting deceptively, although the situation warrants taking action", "unethical, illegal, conflict", "Speaker is concerned about dog." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c9vffi
3,870
0
false
They don't take care of the dog and I want to see it get a loving home.
It's good that you care about your neighbor's dog and want to help but it's wrong to take a pet that belongs to someone else. If you are concerned about the welfare of the dog, discuss this with your neighbors and if the situation warrants it, call the SPCA for a pet welfare check.
[ "You should never steal anything.", "You should call the local humane society if you see an animal being neglected." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker provides a rationale but intended behavior isn't honest", "socially acceptable reasons", "Speaker explains why they want to interfere with dog." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c9vffi
3,870
1
false
I don't think that'll be enough to help this dog.
That's really the only option here. If you follow through with taking the dog you would be stealing. That's illegal and you could go to jail.
[ "You shouldn't steal under any circumstances." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker doesn't fully accept advice and intended action could have repercussions", "socially acceptable", "Speaker explains why they don't critique will work." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c9vffi
3,870
2
true
My coworker came out of the bathroom with toilet paper stuck to his shoe. Funny enough, I didn't tell him.
Why? Do you want him embarrassed?
[ "You should try to help others instead of embarrassing them." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude to not tell the coworker they have something embarrassing stuck to their shoe.", "You should tell people if they have tp stuck to them", "It's rude not to tell someone about something that could embarrass them." ]
ethics_amt
3,871
0
false
He's really obnoxious, so I avoid talking to him in general.
So you'd rather watch him get embarrassed than inform him of the toilet paper?
[ "It's wrong to let someone be embarrassed" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is being rude to their coworker by not mentioning the toilet paper.", "They give a reason why", "You shouldn't withhold help from someone because you don't like them." ]
ethics_amt
3,871
1
false
Yeah, and I'll probably make fun of him, too.
This seems like inappropriate work behavior on your part. I'm sure you'd want someone to tell you about toilet paper on your shoe.
[ "You should do to others as you'd want them to do to you" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Making fun of a coworker is rude and hurtful behavior.", "They plan to make fun of him", "You shouldn't mock someone for doing something embarrassing." ]
ethics_amt
3,871
2
true
I think I'm going to lead someone on and then tell them I'm not really available.
Do you actually want a relationship with this person?
[ "Making someone think you are interested in dating them when you are not is mean." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Casual, friendly, polite conversations", "Wants to misrepresent themselves to others to manipulate them.", "Desires to play with the emotions of a possible dating candidate." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9y7ecu
3,872
0
false
Yes, I love that person but I'm scared that I'm going to hurt their feelings
If you want to date someone it is wrong to lead them on then chicken out. You should be honest you might get them to date you and have a happy relationship.
[ "It's encouraged to be honest with prospective partners about your intentions.", "You shouldn't lead people on." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Casual, friendly, polite conversations", "Explaining why they want to misrepresent themselves.", "Describes their anxieties and reasons for leading someone on." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9y7ecu
3,872
1
false
I don't know if I can go through with it.
I know it's scary, but if you really like this person then you should tell them how you feel. It's important to be honest with people about your feelings. You'll never have a relationship with them if you keep it all inside.
[ "It's allowed to let someone know how you feel about them.", "You shouldn't keep all your feelings bottled up inside." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Casual, friendly, polite conversations, nothing unacceptable", "Having doubts about being truthful and upfront.", "Still expresses anxieties and doubts on their feelings." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9y7ecu
3,872
2
true
I'm jealous of my own mother
Why are you jealous of your mother?
[ "It is bad to be jealous." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "You shouldn't be jealous of your parent; jealousy is a character flaw.", "Speaker is jealous of their mother" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9ukbwd
3,873
0
false
My mother is naturally sexy and writes sexy stories
You should never behave in a jealous way toward your family members. You need to be more supportive of your mother and her many talents.
[ "It's wrong to be jealous of family.", "You should be supportive of your family." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to be jealous if you don't hurt anyone over it.", "speaker explains but doesn't give a valid reason for jealousy", "Speaker discusses reasons for jealousy" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9ukbwd
3,873
1
false
I'm going to gonna tell my dad that my mom is jerking him off.
Jealousy is a bad emotion to give yourself to. It can make you upset at people who don't deserve it. If you make up stuff about your mom out of jealousy then your parents will be upset when the find out the truth.
[ "You shouldn't make up things out of jealousy.", "You should avoid feeling jealous." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to make up something to make someone uncomfortable.", "speaker rejects advice and intends crude, lewd, inconsiderate response", "Speaker is jealous of mother and intends to interfere in parental relationship" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9ukbwd
3,873
2
true
I'm going to run to tell everyone at 3 am about something important.
That is really early. What do you plan on telling them?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker has yet to reveal what they are going tell.", "This is casual at the moment.", "no context for behavior" ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/0dbdbf96-996e-42f6-a46a-d1e3515c400d/sentence5
3,874
0
false
My stomach has been making a bad sound lately.
This is probably something that can wait until the morning. I think that people would be upset being awoken for that reason alone.
[ "You shouldn't wake people up in the middle of the night." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is communicating something odd at an early hour of 3am", "Waking people up to tell them about minutia is rude.", "rude behavior at a rude hour" ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/0dbdbf96-996e-42f6-a46a-d1e3515c400d/sentence5
3,874
1
false
I deserve some attention and that's why I need these people to know about my stomach.
They won't listen to you because objectively this is not important. They will get angry and yell at you about waking them up then they will go back to sleep and your problem will be ignored.
[ "It's rude to wake people up while they're sleeping." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker continues with their intent to be rude.", "Speaker is definitely describing rude behavior.", "selfish behavior that inconveniences others" ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/0dbdbf96-996e-42f6-a46a-d1e3515c400d/sentence5
3,874
2
true
I'm annoyed at the way my girlfriend talks to other guys
Why do you think your girlfriend is talking to other guys?
[ "It's unhealthy to be overly jealous of a romantic partner's platonic relationships." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker might just be jealous and it is fine,", "It's wrong to control who your girlfriend talks to.", "you shouldn't try to control someone else's behavior" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amct7a
3,875
0
false
I often think she is flirting with them.
People often mistake other's friendliness for flirting. It's important to be able to trust your partner otherwise jealousy can cause major issues in your relationship.
[ "It is wrong to accuse your partner of flirting with others if they are only being friendly.", "It is best to have trust in your partner." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is normal to feel that in a relationship", "It's wrong to control who your girlfriend talks to because you are jealous.", "you shouldn't try to control someone's behavior/be jealous/controlling" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amct7a
3,875
1
false
You don't know her like I do.
You need to be able to trust her since she is your girlfriend. Think about how you would feel if your girlfriend got upset whenever you talked to another woman. Give her the same respect and trust that you would want.
[ "You should not be controlling who your partner is allowed to talk to." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker might have a good reason and it is a valid feeling.", "Speaker is blaming their girlfriend instead of accepting advice.", "you shouldn't be jealous to the point of being controlling" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amct7a
3,875
2
true
I lost my virginity before even I had my first kiss
How did you feel losing your virginity?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Providing information about first time having sex", "Though this may portend something bad it is not bad per se.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e2ueaq
3,876
0
false
I was scared, nervous and excited at the same time.
It is strange that you slept with someone and you never even kissed them before the sex. Anyway I hope you enjoyed your first sex.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Provides more information about first time having sex", "Nothing in the comment raises any red flags.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e2ueaq
3,876
1
false
My biggest regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
While I'm glad you enjoyed it, the fact that you did it before even being kissed tells me you rushed into it. I hope next time you have sex you don't rush it.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Admits they enjoyed the experience", "The comment is trivial and unremarkable.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e2ueaq
3,876
2
true
I almost tried to kill my friends in my mind, is that okay to say now?
I hope you aren't serious. What was the reason why you experienced that?
[ "You shouldn't harm your friends.", "You shouldn't kill people." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "It's dangerous to think about killing people, even with an unrealistic plan for how to do it.", "You shouldn't have thoughts about killing people", "It's not okay to fantasize about killing people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a2xh7t
3,877
0
false
I don't feel like they're there for me anymore, I don't feel their presence of being a friend in my life.
Some people in my life have gone very far away from me and I don't feel their presence in my life anymore as well, but that does not give me justification to murder them. I would rethink my actions moving forward and probably talk to a professional where those violent thoughts are coming from and how to eliminate them ...
[ "You shouldn't murder people.", "You should talk to a professional when you need help." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "Speaker is unapologetic about wanting to kill their friends.", "Shares why they're depressed", "It's not okay to fantasize about killing people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a2xh7t
3,877
1
false
You got it all wrong. I told you I just had a violent thought, but you didn't get that I had no plan.
Violent thought or not, sometimes we tend to act upon them if the feeling is right. Therapy will help you get over them and move on to new friends so the anger can escape you. Anger is unhealthy.
[ "You should get help with anger issues.", "You should try to make new friends." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker should probably talk to mental health professional since you can't actually kill someone with your mind.", "Continuation of emergency label", "They have not plan to act on or get help for thoughts about killing people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a2xh7t
3,877
2
true
I don't go out at night because I'm a loser
That can't be true. Why do you think you're a loser just because you don't go out at night?
[ "It's okay to stay home at night.", "You shouldn't call yourself a loser." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Calling yourself a loser isn't nice but isn't unethical.", "Speaker is putting themself down.", "speaker talking about staying in at night" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8gkvpk
3,878
0
false
I'm a loser because I stay in home
You shouldn't call yourself a loser just because you want to stay at home. Not everyone goes out at night. There are people who have fun inside their house.
[ "It's wrong to refer to yourself badly", "You should be happy to be able to stay home and have fun" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They seem to have some circular logic going on, but it's not unethical.", "Speaker continues with the putdowns.", "describing why they think they're a loser" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8gkvpk
3,878
1
false
I cannot meet people outside. There is no point in going out when your friends are all on Instagram, Snapchat, etc..
Well, it's perfectly fine for you to stay at home as there can be a lot of activities you can do like watching movies or playing video games, or even invite your friends over. I do hope you do change your mindset that your lifestyle is for losers as it is simply not true.
[ "You should not assume you are a loser", "It's okay to invite friends to your house" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They are just describing a situation.", "Speaker ignores the advice and laments.", "not acting pro-socially, not being receptive to advice" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8gkvpk
3,878
2
true
Now that im older, i get really turned on whenever a slut groans. I guess you could say it's just whore moans
Wow, what do you mean by this comment about women?
[ "It's not right to think women who like sex are sluts" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's offensive to refer to women as sluts.", "It's rude to refer to women as sluts and whores", "It's rude to make jokes about sluts and whores" ]
sbic
3,879
0
false
It's just a joke. Women love sex and they are created to get fucked all day long if they want to.
It's perfectly acceptable for both men and women to enjoy and engage in consensual sex. However, referring to women as sluts and whores is degrading and misogynistic. Such jokes and language are harmful and perpetuate dangerous and demeaning attitudes and stereotypes.
[ "It's not right to think women who like sex are sluts" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker dismisses their opinion as a joke and thinks women are just for sex.", "Speaker not apologetic", "says women are created to get fucked all day" ]
sbic
3,879
1
true
What is the hardest part to eat on a vegetable? The wheelchair.
I'm not sure what your comment means. Are you saying that disabled people are the vegetables that you are eating?
[ "It's wrong to think disabled folks are a waste of space", "You shouldn't call disabled people vegetables" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's disrespectful to make a joke like this.", "You shouldn't make jokes about disabled people", "It's rude to make jokes about handicapped people." ]
sbic
3,880
0
false
I'm saying that we should all just throw them in the trash where they belong
Nobody with a disability ever chose to be in that situation, so it is not right to judge them for it. Even jokingly suggesting that they are vegetables or worthless is very offensive to people who might know someone who is disabled, so it is best not to make such remarks.
[ "It's wrong to think disabled folks are a waste of space", "You shouldn't call disabled people vegetables" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "This is a continuation of the previous hostile attitude.", "You shouldn't want to kill disabled people", "Speaker is not taking advice and being very offensive about people with disabilities." ]
sbic
3,880
1
true
I'm thinking of isolating my significant other from her friends
Why do you think that isolating her is the way to go?
[ "You should not control who others keep in contact with." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Forcing an SO away from their friends is kind of messed up.", "It is controlling to isolate someone from their friends.", "controlling, unethical, harmful" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/att51n
3,881
0
false
Not sure if I am ready for taking this step, maybe later
So you haven't done it yet but are thinking about doing it. This isn't right, people deserve to spend time with who they want too.
[ "It's wrong to control who you partner spends time with." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "This doesn't sound nice at all from speaker.", "They are still considering being controlling in the future.", "socially acceptable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/att51n
3,881
1
false
I know that but I'm worried she might be too close to them and she might forget about me in the long run.
I think that that might be an insecurity that you need to work on within yourself. There is no reason why you should be controlling who she does and does not have contact with.
[ "You shouldn't let your self-esteem issues affect your relationship.", "You don't have the right to dictate who your partner hangs out with." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is being extremely controlling to their SO.", "It is wrong to control someone for selfish reasons.", "socially acceptable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/att51n
3,881
2
true
I feel betrayed by my friend but I couldn't bring myself to be straightforward and bring it up.
Being straightforward about your feelings is really important. You don't want your friend to misunderstand you right?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It is understandable to have conflicted feelings about a friend that betrayed you.", "Speaker remarks on friendship.", "nothing inherently harmful/dangerous/rude about this" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2p5uih
3,882
0
false
Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it.
You're friend may not know exactly why you think they betrayed you and have no idea how to fix it since you weren't straightforward. It could also just be a misunderstanding on your part and they didn't actually do anything to hurt you. Talk it out and be clear, you'll both be better off for it.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is receptive to advice.", "Speaker is grateful for advice.", "nothing inherently harmful/dangerous/rude about this" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2p5uih
3,882
1
false
I see what you're saying, I'm actually just delusioned by my hatred of my friend. I'll be honest.
I hope you can talk about it and make some progress. I really doubt they meant to hurt you.
[ "It's important to communicate when your friend upsets you." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is describing hating their friend, which is concerning.", "Speaker admits to faulty motives for comments towards friend.", "nothing inherently harmful/dangerous/rude about this" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2p5uih
3,882
2
true
What would you think if I said I missed having anorexia and bulimia?
Why do you miss having those disorders if they harmed your health?
[ "If you have anorexia, you should get some help.", "It's wrong to miss having anorexia." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "casual", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "This is a weird thing to miss, but not unethical.", "speaker needs intervention for their health", "They are concerned about their past health traumas." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c8br3u
3,883
0
false
They made me feel strong and like I listened to my body.
It's easy to get attached to a certain way of living, but you shouldn't miss having a disorder that's dangerous to your health. Anorexia and bulimia are dangerous eating disorders that severely affect your health and can lead to death. If you miss having anorexia or bulimia, you should speak to his therapist as soon as...
[ "You shouldn't miss having an eating disorder" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "casual", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "speaker thinks having these diseases is ok", "They are concerned with their future health habits." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c8br3u
3,883
1
false
Seems like common sense.
A lot of people who have eating disorders relapse without proper help, but you shouldn't miss having them. Tell your therapist how you feel and why you think you miss having these disorders and they can help you focus on something healthier that will make you feel strong and happy.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It seems like they need mental health help, but they aren't being unethical.", "speaker agrees to get therapy", "They are receptive to the given health advice." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c8br3u
3,883
2
true
I'm planning to expose a man as a fake veteran before his wedding
Do you know he really is?
[ "You have to keep some things secret to spare someone's feelings." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's mean to mess with someone right before their big wedding date.", "you shouldn't make a scene and address the issue in private", "It's wrong to ruin someone's wedding" ]
ethics_reddit
3,884
0
false
Well the plan is to ruin his wedding day by making him a false hero before his wedding day.
You should wait until later and talk to him in private. It's not good to tell his secret and wreck his wedding day.
[ "You shouldn't tell people's secrets." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is planning on ruining someone else's wedding.", "they explain they intend to cause a confrontation", "talking about ruining a wedding" ]
ethics_reddit
3,884
1
false
I'm going to expose him anyway, he doesn't deserve to marry the love of his life.
If you are in love with her you should tell her, if not stop being vindictive. You need to accept that she does not feel the same way about you and not ruin some mans wedding day for being selfish.
[ "You shouldn't ruin important occasions.", "If you are in love with someone, you should tell them." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker really wants to hurt someone and make them have a terrible day.", "they ignore advice and double down", "still talking about ruining a wedding" ]
ethics_reddit
3,884
2
true
I hate gangbanging, pill popping ass bitches with a passion to be a lady.
What, seriously? Have you really thought about what you are saying about women here?
[ "It's not right to hate women." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's offensive to assume women are all bitches.", "It's wrong to label people and hate them.", "You shouldn't be so rude about people" ]
sbic
3,885
0
false
The title says it all. I hate those hot-ass bitches and they are mean and stupid.
Women should not be treated with disrespect and hatred and your treatment here of women in general by calling them names like bitches and stupid is wrong and hateful. Show respect for women and for all human beings.
[ "You shouldn't be misogynistic" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is continuing to talk offensively about women.", "Speaker further reiterates the type of women they hate.", "Speaker uses offensive language about women" ]
sbic
3,885
1
false
It's common sense, every boy wants to fuck them since they are so hot.
You don't know that they're so hot that they can't have empathy, and this is sounding like you may hate women so you should really think about this hard. You should go speak with women more and you'd hate them less.
[ "It is good to form learned opinions" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is being crude and offensive in their speech about women.", "Speaker is intent in causing conflict and labeling women they don't like.", "It's wrong to be so derogatory about women" ]
sbic
3,885
2
true
Obnoxiously loud people annoy me.
How so?
[ "It's inconsiderate to be so loud that you are disturbing other people.", "It's okay to be upset at loud people." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's normal to be annoyed by loud people.", "they hate loud people", "Speaker says loud people annoy them." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b72isy
3,886
0
false
The noise they make is a very distasteful kind of loudness.
That sounds quite annoying. People shouldn't be so loud, so often, that they're disturbing others.
[ "It's ok to be annoyed at loud people.", "You shouldn't disturb others with your noise." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is explaining why they are annoyed by loud people.", "they hate loud people and want to leave them", "Speaker hates loud people." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b72isy
3,886
1
false
It makes me want to rip my hair out at times.
You should make sure people know they are acting obnoxious when they do. That's usually enough to get them to stop.
[ "You should tell people if you're upset with how they are acting and want them to stop." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is having a polite conversation where they vent their frustrations about loud people.", "they hate loud people and self harm", "Speaker says it makes them want to rip their hair out." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b72isy
3,886
2
true
I'm terrified of the ocean
What is it that scares you about the ocean?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to have a fear", "they are talking about being afraid the ocean", "Has understandable fears and anxieties." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a6xgpl
3,887
0
false
I once lost someone very close to me in this very ocean.
It can be traumatizing to lose someone to drowning. While it is wise to have a healthy fear of the water, letting that fear overtake your life is not healthy. It would be good to talk to a therapist to work through your feelings of loss and fear.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's normal to be afraid after a loss", "they are talking politely about their fears", "Describes what tragedy befell in the ocean." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a6xgpl
3,887
1
false
You don't understand. I'm not scared of drowning but the ocean itself.
No matter what your fear is, it is always good to get help. You might be able to get over your fear of the ocean.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to have a fear", "they are having a polite conversation", "Politely corrects the other speaker on their fears." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a6xgpl
3,887
2
true
I'm going to date my best friend's long term girlfriend a week after they broke up
Dating your best friend's long-term girlfriend after they broke makes you look like a bad friend.
[ "It's bad to date a friend's ex." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker wants to do something that is disrespectful to their friend", "Dating your best friend's ex could lead to unnecessary conflict.", "This is likely to cause conflict between friends" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a75h36
3,888
0
false
I need to fill the void for loneliness for my friend
If you do that and date the ex-girlfriend it will look really bad on you. Your friend will probably want to beat you up or worst, end the friendship.
[ "You should go out with your friends' long-term ex-partners." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker justifies their disrespectful action", "Casual conversation", "Speaker is not acting maliciously, but the previous label still applies" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a75h36
3,888
1
false
I think it will be OK.
Trust me, your friend will not like this. If you want to stay friends, you will stay away from his ex.
[ "You should have respect for your friends." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker dismisses feedback given", "Casual conversation", "No change to violet's intentions" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a75h36
3,888
2
true
I'm going to make a crude joke about someone.
Why would you make a crude joke about another person?
[ "It's bad to make crude jokes." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They going to potentially offend someone.", "Making a crude joke is rude", "Speaker is going to make a crude joke about someone." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ac36yv
3,889
0
false
I feel like everyone would have more fun if I were making some jokes
You can want everyone to have a good time, but joke in a way that doesn't take it out on others for no reason.
[ "It's wrong to make jokes that hurt others.", "It's nice to want people to have a good time." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They aren't thinking about how the butt of the joke would feel.", "Making a crude joke is rude", "Speaker thinks crude jokes are fine." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ac36yv
3,889
1
false
I was just trying to make you smile. Who cares if someone takes things the wrong way?
Having some fun is fine, but you are trying to get people to laugh at the expense of someone else and that is cruel. Find another subject matter that everyone can laugh at and where everyone can be included in.
[ "It's wrong to get people to laugh at the expense of others.", "You should find appropriate topics to joke about." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They show they don't care who gets hurt.", "Upsetting people is never right", "Speaker doesn't care about others' feelings about jokes." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ac36yv
3,889
2
true
I have a boyfriend but I have a huge crush on another guy.
That's not good. Why do you think that is?
[ "It's fine to break up with someone when you have a crush on someone else." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "this could cause conflict with their current boyfriend", "The conversation is casual.", "It's wrong to cheat on your significant other." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9w5hry
3,890
0
false
I'm not sure. Maybe I'm bored and want to dump my current boyfriend for a new one.
That sucks for your boyfriend. But if you like someone else, it's okay to break up with him and move on.
[ "You should break up with your partner if you are interested in someone else." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "the speaker continues acting as if it is not a wrong thing to do", "The speaker is pondering doing something hurtful.", "It's rude to dump someone out of the blue." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9w5hry
3,890
1
false
I think I will dump my boyfriend since I found someone else that I like more.
That's fast but if you like the new guy more it is better to break up with your boyfriend. It wouldn't be fair to either of you to still be stuck in the relationship if the feelings are not reciprocated.
[ "It's understandable to break up with your partner if you are interested in someone else." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "this course of action will definitely cause conflict", "The speaker is now solidly planning to do something hurtful.", "The speaker isn't taking the other person's feelings into account." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9w5hry
3,890
2
true
I hate Fifa and I want their headquarters to burn down
Are you serious, why would you hate a game so much that you'd want to destroy their headquarters?
[ "It's wrong to wish bad things on others." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "Wishes violence on an organization.", "Speaker expresses hate for FIFA and wants them burned down.", "Hates organization and wants building to burn down" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a5ow1l
3,891
0
false
It has always been the same since 1998 and it will never be any better
You should not wish harm on anyone or anything. Wishing harm on others tends to come back to bite you and you could find yourself in a situation you wish would happen to others.
[ "You should never wish harm on others" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Tries to justify why the violence is ok against FIFA.", "Speaker states it's been like that since 1998 and will never improve.", "Justifies hatred of organization" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a5ow1l
3,891
1
false
Why don't you come and join me then?
If you don't like the company, stop buying their games. I would never join you in something like this.
[ "You should protest against companies in non-violent ways" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Asks others to join them in violence.", "Speaker asks Gray to join them.", "Tries to convince other speaker to join hateful cause" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a5ow1l
3,891
2
true
What do you call an IT teacher who touches up his students? A PDF File.
Are you implying that a teacher who touches up his students is a pedophile? Or is it just a figure of speech?
[ "It's not right to joke about pedophilia victims being preyed upon" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is offensive to joke about crimes against children", "It is insensitive to make humor from pedophilia.", "You shouldn't make light of pedophilia" ]
sbic
3,892
0
false
It is just a joke.
Please don't joke about pedophilia. That's a topic too serious to be taken lightly.
[ "It's not right to joke about pedophilia victims being preyed upon" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "shows no remorse", "They admit to just joking.", "Speaker is unapologetic" ]
sbic
3,892
1
true
I eat peanut butter taffy in bed whenever it is no nut november
What is so special about peanut butter taffy?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "the context of the conversation is socially acceptable", "Kind of gross but nothing offensive.", "Speaker is just talking about what they like to eat." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tslde
3,893
0
false
I like peanut butter, there is nothing interesting.
I don't blame you! Not only is peanut butter delicious, it is also healthy. It is a decent snack to munch on before going to bed.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "the context of the conversation is socially acceptable", "Friendly conversation.", "Continues talk about food preferences." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tslde
3,893
1
false
I'm going to lick the rest of the taffy, do you want some?
Thanks for the offer, but I'm not very hungry! It's real nice to snack sometimes, especially during social and moral movements where you need to distract yourself before sleeping.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "the context of the conversation is socially acceptable", "Kind of gross but nothing offensive.", "Nothing socially unacceptable, just food talk." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tslde
3,893
2
true
I'm going to show my boyfriend how it feels to be forgotten by not going to pick him up at the airport
This doesn't sound like a great plan. Why won't you pick up your boyfriend at the airport?
[ "It's not okay to abandon a significant other when they need you." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is being rude to their boyfriend", "speaker indicated desire to engage in harmful and rude behavior", "Speaker is being vindictive towards their boyfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10bhi
3,894
0
false
I'm angry with him for not picking me up at the airport.
I'm sure you were frustrated when your boyfriend didn't pick you up, but it's not ethical to not pick him up as a form of retribution. Your boyfriend may have simply made an honest mistake and didn't leave you at the airport on purpose. It's not right to leave him there when he's counting on you.
[ "You shouldn't seek revenge on other people." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "getting back at someone is not the answer", "speaker gave reasons for wanting to be hurtful", "Speaker continues to want revenge on their boyfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10bhi
3,894
1
false
I guess I'll try to pick him up if I can make it on time
I'm glad to hear you've changed your mind. Leaving him there would only cause more problems.
[ "It's good to reconsider harmful actions you are planning to take." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker admits they should go pick them up", "speaker somewhat backed off previous remarks but did not wholeheartedly accept advice", "Speaker changes their attitude and is longer seeking revenge and will try to pick up their boyfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10bhi
3,894
2
true
I'm going to tell my wife no about having another baby
Why do you not want to have another baby?
[ "Partners are expected discuss important life decisions like having a child." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to not want another kid.", "the speaker is not interested in having another child with their wife", "Speaker is planning on letting his wife know that he doesn't want another child." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayhp54
3,895
0
false
I want to give her a divorce. I'm kind of tired of her.
Be open, honest, and direct with her about your decision. Let her know if this is final for you or if you are open to having future discussions about it.
[ "You should be honest about your feelings in a relationship", "It is okay to end a relationship if it cannot improve" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's okay to want a divorce if you're honest.", "they'd rather divorce her instead", "While depressing, wanting a divorce is not unethical or rude, which is what the speaker is expressing intent to do." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayhp54
3,895
1
false
I'm afraid if I ask, she might want to keep the baby.
If she is already pregnant, you need to have the discussion now. You need to be open and honest so you both can make a good decision.
[ "Decisions regarding pregnancy need to be handled together", "Honesty is vital in a relationship" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They are expressing how they feel about their marriage.", "they're worried if they ask for a divorce, their wife will want to keep the baby", "Speaker is expressing his fears about telling his wife he wants a divorce." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ayhp54
3,895
2
true
How do you tell if your wife is dead The sex is about the same but the dishes pile uo
Are you talking about your wife?
[ "It's not right to think house chores are a woman's responsibility", "It's not right to think woman are sex objects" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "it's crude to make jokes about dead wives.", "It's unethical to say sexist things.", "It's hurtful to tell sexist jokes about your wife." ]
sbic
3,896
0
false
No, I didn't mean to say anything.
I don't think it is fair to assume a woman has to do all of the house work. If someone lived in your home and cooked do you think they should share some responsibility for cleaning up with the others who live there?
[ "It's not right to think house chores are a woman's responsibility", "It's not right to think woman are sex objects" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to make jokes about sexism.", "They haven't apologized for what they said.", "Speaker claims they said nothing after telling a sexist joke." ]
sbic
3,896
1
true
I'm going to leak my friend's secrets on my second account because he made fun of me.
What did he make fun of you for?
[ "It is wrong to leak private information about a friend.", "It is wrong to retaliate and cause harm to someone just because they made fun of you." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's hurtful to leak secrets for revenge.", "Its wrong to not keep a secret.", "It's rude and harmful to tell secrets" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/apklsn
3,897
0
false
He made fun of me being a nobody
It is rude to retaliate against your friend even if they upset you. Personal information is private and it is rude to share it with the public.
[ "It's wrong to share a friend's private information." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is angry at friend.", "It's rude to retaliate against a friend.", "Speaker is creating more conflict by retaliating" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/apklsn
3,897
1
false
It's not that big of a deal, it's mostly just in fun.
I do not think that he is going to feel that way. It is not okay to leak that private information about a friend. I think that it is going to come back to bite you.
[ "It's hurtful to betray your friend's confidence." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker thinks what they are doing is fun.", "It's wrong to think humiliating someone is fun.", "Speaker doesn't listen to critique, tries to justify bad behavior" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/apklsn
3,897
2
true
I'm not racist
That's great that you are not racist!
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are admitting they are not racist.", "person claiming they aren't racist", "Says they aren't racist" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvrapd
3,898
0
false
I love everyone, but some people are just stupid.
I can agree with that! It's good of you not to be racist. I'm glad you're not like that!
[ "It's important to not be racist." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They think some people are dumb.", "further talking about loving everyone", "Loves everyone, even if they disagree with some" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvrapd
3,898
1
false
Just because I hate some really low class people doesn't mean I'm racist.
What low class people are you talking about? I hope you mean people who are mean spirited.
[ "You shouldn't judge people based on their social class." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's wrong to hate others.", "admits to hating people in lower class", "Still fairly unproblematic. It's normal to dislike some people." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvrapd
3,898
2
true
Think that I'm wrong because I'm going to tell my doctor to stop talking?
Why do you want her to stop talking?
[ "It is rude to tell other people to stop talking." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is not giving a reason for this yet.", "If he is ignoring you then you have the right to ask him to stop", "You shouldn't tell someone in authority to stop talking." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/azzqcb
3,899
0
false
I don't want to hear her bullshit anymore. She is clearly no good for patients.
You shouldn't be rude to people in their place of business. If you don't want to hear her anymore than you should find a new doctor.
[ "It's rude to cut someone off.", "It's ok to get a second opinion." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is rude to use foul language and not be willing to listen to the doctor.", "Offensive language", "Speaker talks back to doctor." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/azzqcb
3,899
1
false
I'm going to report her to the police.
You should just leave and find another doctor. She didn't do anything that the police need to get involved with.
[ "You shouldn't file false police reports." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is wrong to report someone to the police if no actual crime is committed.", "It is unethical to report non-criminal activity to the police", "Speaker is going to report their doctor to police without good reason." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/azzqcb
3,899
2
true
I don't get why Black Friday is such a big deal. They already have a whole history month
Why would you say that? Do you really think black people get a lot of attention?
[ "It's not right to think blacks receive too much attention" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's racist to make jokes about black people.", "You shouldn't make jokes about people's race.", "You shouldn't insult black people." ]
sbic
3,900
0
false
I'm trying to say that in the US, blacks are given so much attention and they receive too much help.
You should not make jokes about black people getting too much attention. Rights of black people are often overlooked and you should learn more about that. Your joke will offend many people.
[ "It's not right to think blacks receive too much attention" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker does not acknowledge their joke is wrong.", "Saying racist things.", "Speaker jokes about black people getting too much attention." ]
sbic
3,900
1
true
I'm going ahead and accepting a summer contract based on funding with the intention of leaving if something better comes up
Why are you accepting the contract with this intention?
[ "It's okay to look out for yourself when it comes to employment.", "You shouldn't take on obligations you're not sure you can complete." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker explains a normal work intention.", "Speaker plans on leaving a job if a better one comes along.", "It's wrong to not be loyal to a job." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2cyl5
3,901
0
false
I need the flexibility and I don't want my whole summer to be planned. Also, I don't want anything to hold me back.
It is okay that you ensure the best outcome for yourself and your career. However, you should not accept a contract that requires a deeper obligation than you can provide. You will appear unrealiable and you will not be able to use the job for a reference.
[ "You should follow through on your contracts.", "It's good to want to get ahead." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker provides reasonable explanation.", "Speaker explained why they want to do this.", "Breaking a contract is socially unacceptable behavior." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2cyl5
3,901
1
false
I don't care about their references.
Even so, this is unprofessional and help build bad habits. Don't take on the obligation if you aren't prepared to give 100% to see the obligation through to the end.
[ "It's wrong to not fulfill your work duties." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is justified in their behavior.", "Speaker does not care about the consequences of their actions.", "Speaker is acting very selfish here." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2cyl5
3,901
2
true
I don't want my wedding ceremony filmed because my fiance's father said he wouldn't attend.
That's unfortunate. Why won't he attend the ceremony?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Perfectly reasonable request here since it's their wedding.", "its okay to make your own decisions and have your own preferences", "nothing offensive in speaker's wishes" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a8ss5g
3,902
0
false
He hates our relationship and doesn't approve of it.
It sounds like you're not thinking of the memories you'll be making. It's wrong to consider how he feels on your wedding day. It's you day, not his.
[ "You should not consider anyone else's happiness on your special day." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "This is a valid way to feel.", "its rude to disapprove of others' relationships when it doesn't hurt you", "just discussing someone else's behavior" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a8ss5g
3,902
1
false
You're right! I'll have it filmed even without him.
That's a really good way to think about it. You'll be really happy to have the video once the wedding is over.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They agree to see things in a more positive light.", "its okay to make your own decisions", "chose a positive path with encouragement" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a8ss5g
3,902
2
true
I think about the good old days.
What do you like about the good old days?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker expresses his/her thought", "It's normal to have nostalgic thoughts and feelings.", "Speaker has reasonable thoughts about the past." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ey3djg
3,903
0
false
The good old days were good and yet we take it for granted.
You might be nostalgic for simpler days and miss your childhood for a reason. This could mean that you're exhausted from the current situation in your life, so talk to someone about what's troubling you right now.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is feeling nostalgic.", "The speaker is just talking about the past and the way things were.", "Speaker has reasonable thoughts about the past." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ey3djg
3,903
1
false
I don't want to talk to anyone, I wanna watch sesame street with my daughter and go back to when I was a kid and things were easier.
Things may have been easier back then but you were a kid. Trying to get away from your responsibilities as an adult won't make them any easier. It will only make them harder.
[ "It's not right to try to escape your current life." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is trying to expresses his/her feeling.", "It's understandable to want to go back to a time when you had less responsibility.", "The speaker seems to be having a hard time dealing with adulthood and may need help." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ey3djg
3,903
2
true
I'm going to purposely waste cops time when I get pulled over
Why would you waste cops time?
[ "It's wrong to purposely waste someone's time." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Cops are needed to do other things. Wasting their time is unethical.", "Speaker suggests being insensitive to the needs of police officers.", "It's wrong to waste the police's time." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/afixdo
3,904
0
false
They are so fucking stupid which is why I'm going to do that, who would be so stupid to pull me over?
It's wrong to waste a cops time. You need to learn to respect authority more.
[ "It's bad to waste the time of law enforcement." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They haven't been swayed from being unethical.", "Speaker becomes aggressive and hostile towards cops.", "Wanting to waste their time simply as revenge for being pulled over is rude." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/afixdo
3,904
1
false