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Are you judging me?
It is a tough job being a substitute teacher. You should try to make their job easier by paying attention and being nice instead of throwing paper at them. They are humans just like you are and have feelings.
[ "You should pay attention while in class.", "You should be nice to other people." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker doesn't want to be judged while doing rude things to others.", "it is wrong to be mad at someone for telling you to stop being angry", "They don't seem to have any empathy." ]
ethics_amt
6,719
2
true
Thanks to a convincing private message, I decided not to slash my ex-girlfriends tires
How did this message convince you not to follow through?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Someone convinced them not to commit vandalism.", "not going to do something bad", "seems to have decided not to do something harmful" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bwlqc3
6,720
0
false
By convincing me that it's not nice to slash tires or get back at someone like that.
It's good to take time to think things through before committing an act you may regret. Slashing her tires could have ended up costing her a lot of money. She could press charges if she found out it was you.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They share how they were convinced to stand down.", "avoiding doing something bad", "seems to have decided not to do something harmful" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bwlqc3
6,720
1
false
You are right but I am going to get back at her by leaving her texts on her friends phone.
I think that you should just leave her alone. Getting some kind of revenge is just going to hurt you both and create an all out war. It would be easier on you if you just drop it and move on with life.
[ "It is not okay to seek revenge" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They decide to share personal texts instead of slashing the tires.", "rude, vengeful behavior", "planning to get revenge by sharing private text messages" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bwlqc3
6,720
2
true
Do I really have to think I'm a gigolo?
Oh wow, seriously now? Why do you think you are a gigolo?
[ "You should only be a gigolo if you want to be one." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This is a strange question but no one should want to be a gigolo.", "Not sure why this would be", "speaker hasnt done anything wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/18aj23
6,721
0
false
Well, every woman I've gotten into bed tried to pay me after.
As long as you are safe and happy, I don't see anything wrong with that. If you're looking for a real relationship, though, it is important to be honest about what you want.
[ "It's good to be honest when looking for a real relationship." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Being paid for sex is illegal.", "This seems highly unlikely! Perhaps it is time to re-think the women you go to bed with", "Speaker isn't doing anything bad to anyone" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/18aj23
6,721
1
false
Well I have a stable job, I own my house and I'm honest. Why can't I just have a normal sex life, too?
It is up to you what to do with your sex life. If you are uncomfortable with the life of a gigolo then you should change it up. Be yourself in all ways.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker just wants to have a normal sex life and easily can.", "Nothing wrong with wanting a normal relationship.", "There is nothing wrong with what the speaker is doing" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/18aj23
6,721
2
true
Some of them are Jewish , but most of those complicit in the betrayal of this country are our own flesh and blood , which is the great tragedy of our times .
I'm not sure I understand you. What are you trying to say about Jewish people?
[ "It's not right to think Jews don't like our country" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "its rude to make fun of jewish people", "It's offensive to talk about Jewish people as if they are not human", "You shouldn’t hate people just because they are Jewish" ]
sbic
6,722
0
false
I don't really like these Jewish infiltrators.
I think the idea that Jewish people are trying to sabotage our country comes from a place of antisemitism, and is simply not true. Jewish people don't hate our country or want to bring it down. I think it would be good to learn more about where these awful stereotypes came from, so we can understand why they're wrong.
[ "It's not right to think Jews don't like our country" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker does not like jewish infiltrators", "They continue to insult Jewish people", "Still expressing their hateful views" ]
sbic
6,722
1
true
I hate an artist on Patreon and wish they would financially suffer.
Wishing ill will on someone like that, but what for?
[ "It's bad to want someone to suffer." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "the statement is obviously about hostility", "Rude remarks", "wants an artist to financially suffer" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9wpf9i
6,723
0
false
I was hoping they wouldn't charge me anything for what they do.
Wanting free stuff done for you is what you think is the norm. However artists need to make a living, and if you don't pay them they won't be able to live a decent life like you already do.
[ "You shouldn't expect people to do their jobs for you for free" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "This shows some narcissistic attitudes.", "Polite disagreements", "wants them to suffer for petty reasons" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9wpf9i
6,723
1
false
Artists should do this for free.
There's no reason why hey should. And wishing them ill because they want compensation for their work is terrible.
[ "You shouldn't wish ill on others just because they didn't give you what you want" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "No apologies here. The previous attitude is continued", "Casual conversation", "expects artists to do stuff for them for free" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9wpf9i
6,723
2
true
I'm going to ignore a guy at work because of his voice
Why would you ignore the guy because of his voice?
[ "It is rude to ignore people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker violet is talking about being rude at work", "They want to ignore a coworker for how they sound.", "not the nicest thing but not unethical" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1xqtz
6,724
0
false
I don't like his Japanese accent.
Sometimes it's hard to understand others who have accents, but you shouldn't ignore them because of it. You need to have a relationship with your coworker, so make an effort to understand what he has to say.
[ "You shouldn't ignore people because of their accents", "You should make an effort to understand what your coworker has to say" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker violet is racially biased", "Speaker is racist.", "this crosses the line a little bit, rude" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1xqtz
6,724
1
false
Nah, I just wanted to ignore him. I can't understand him anyways, who uses accents anyways.
They have no choice in how their accent sounds. You should try to understand and converse with them, communication is key to success. Show some patience and willingness in conversation and you might learn something from them.
[ "You should try to understand your coworkers", "You should be patient with others" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker violet is racially biased and rude and does not want to change", "Not receptive to advice, speaker plans to continue ignoring coworker.", "unnecessary comments" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1xqtz
6,724
2
true
I messed up my first love in years
Oh no, has this been going on for a while?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Nothing said was unethical|Nothing said was unethical|Nothing said was unethical", "Speaker talks about messing up their love.", "Speaker messed up their first love in years." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e9dzo6
6,725
0
false
Yes, I though about it for months, but I was too lazy to do something about it.
Love is a hard and tricky thing to manage. You might not always get it right on the first try but all you can take from it is learn to be better next time.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Nothing said was unethical|Nothing said was unethical|Nothing said was unethical", "Speaker further explains the situation.", "Speaker was too lazy to do something about it." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e9dzo6
6,725
1
false
I feel bad for him but I'll just pursue other goals, who cares about love anyway.
If you've got other goals that will make you happy, it's certainly fine to pursue those instead of forcing yourself to love someone you don't. If it happens with someone else later that's fine, but you don't need to succeed at love to have a full life.
[ "You can't expect people to always succeed at love." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's rude to give up on relationships without talking.", "Speaker seems to have a positive mindset in moving on, no harm done.", "Speaker will give up on love and pursue other goals." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/e9dzo6
6,725
2
true
I like to talk about how busy I am
How does it make you feel when you talk about how busy you are?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's normal to talk about how busy you are.", "Speaker shares a detail about their day to day life", "Speaker likes to talk about their being busy." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c3y6jn
6,726
0
false
I feel I'm a productive and very active person.
It's good to feel productive, but be careful to not overshare. People who only talk about themselves and don't ask about others' lives the lives can be viewed as obnoxious and self-centered.
[ "It's annoying when people overshare things from their personal life." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "There's nothing wrong with wanting to be productive.", "Speaker shares more details about their day to day life", "Speaker feels productive and wants to brag." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c3y6jn
6,726
1
false
I won't do that. It's a deal.
Glad to hear it! Fortune cookie says, "Your popularity will spike this coming year!"
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker accepts advice about their behavior.", "Speaker is receptive to Gray's feedback", "Speaker won't brag about it." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/c3y6jn
6,726
2
true
I only wear my glasses to look and feel smarter
Why do you think you need glasses for that?
[ "It's not okay to pretend you are something you are not." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "speaker ties glasses to intelligence", "lies about needing glasses", "There is nothing wrong with wanting to wear glasses" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1jh098
6,727
0
false
I want people to think I'm awesome.
Maybe the glasses help, but you're not being your true self. You need to behave in a more authentic way, so that people will respect you for who you are.
[ "You should be your true self.", "It's good to behave in a manner that people respect you." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "does not feel comfortable in own skin", "explaining why", "Its okay to want people to like them." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1jh098
6,727
1
false
I want to appear smarter and get a sexual partner without effort.
Maybe you look better with glasses on, so I can't find fault if you like them as a fashion accessory. But I would advise that you simply be yourself, so that a potential partner will be interested in the real you.
[ "It's expected to be your real self when looking for a partner." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "continuation of prior dialogue", "using glasses to trick people into sex", "It is bad to try to trick people to think you're smarter so they'll have sex with you." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/1jh098
6,727
2
true
I'm going to choose to be with a new friend group that I relate to more rather than the friend group that I have a longer history with.
Do you think this new group is a better fit for you?
[ "It's understandable to want to be around people you know better." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "plans to change group", "It is okay to make new friends", "Speaker is going to find a new friend group." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3aefr
6,728
0
false
Yes, I think I'm more compatible with them and they're more understanding than my old friends.
Choosing the right friends is very important. I see no issue with your choice of actions here.
[ "It's good to feel comfortable in your group of friends.", "You should consider trying to discuss things with people you have issues with." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "feels more compatible with new group", "Making friends with people that understand you is great.", "Speaker likes this friend group more." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3aefr
6,728
1
false
I had a chat with my old friends and they said that the new group wasn't the right group for me.
Your old friends don't know what's best, only you know that. You can still be friendly with your old friends, but I think it's a good choice to be with a group where you feel like you belong.
[ "It's polite to try to keep peace with everyone you know." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "old friends feel new group is not right for speaker", "Your old friends still care about you and that is nice - you get to choose", "Speaker says their old friend group thinks it's wrong." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3aefr
6,728
2
true
I don't want to do my daughters hair every day
Is it getting monotonous?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker shares their negative feelings towards an action involving their child", "Expresses not wanting to do daughter's hair every day.", "Speaker doesn’t want to do daughters hair" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/avh3gz
6,729
0
false
Yes, I'm tired of doing her hair every day
Taking care of your children is a tiring job, there's no way around that. I hate to say it, but by having a child, you signed up for a massive responsibility.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker elaborates on their negative feelings", "Expresses being tired of doing her hair every day.", "Explains why they don’t want to do daughters hair" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/avh3gz
6,729
1
false
I'm already ready to quit. I don't want to do it anymore.
Teach your child how to care for their own hair and eventually they'll learn. Everything will get easier in time.
[ "Teach your child how to groom themselves and they'll learn." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker shares potentially harmful thoughts towards taking care of a child responsibly", "Explains they don't want to do it anymore.", "Still talking about hair" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/avh3gz
6,729
2
true
I'm going to look at my sisters reddit comments
Why do you want to look at her comments.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker could have any reason to look at her sisters comments", "Speaker is explaining what they are going to do, which is not abnormal.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a9ajip
6,730
0
false
She's disturbing me on purpose, and I don't know if she's trying to provoke me or she's just bored.
Those reddit comments are her private comments. They are none of your business. You shouldn't provoke her.
[ "You shouldn't snoop on your sibling" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker sounds annoyed at her sister", "Speaker wants to get more information.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a9ajip
6,730
1
false
Maybe I should study her and maybe I should find what triggers her reddit comments. Maybe I can push them by triggering her on purpose.
This is a very cruel thing to do. If you have a problem with your sister, you should try and talk to her and work things out.
[ "It's wrong to trigger someone on purpose", "You should communicate issues with your sibling" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker wants to trigger her sister on purpose", "Speaker wants to aggravate his sister.", "nothing wrong" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a9ajip
6,730
2
true
I feel I want to self harm every time we end out skype calls.
Why would you harm yourself after our calls?
[ "It's not okay to do things that hurt yourself." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "mentions self harming", "speaker has self-harming thoughts.", "they want to harm themselves" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/adg78t
6,731
0
false
It helps me to focus before sleep interrupt my concentration.
You should seek mental help for your self harm. It is not good to harm yourself, a professional can help you with better coping mechanisms.
[ "You should seek help if you want to harm yourself." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "continues to talk about self harm", "they like harming themself.", "they are mad about calls with friends" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/adg78t
6,731
1
false
I will try to control myself next time.
I understand it can be a real struggle to learn new coping mechanisms. I think if you could talk to a neutral 3rd party you could really get some help.
[ "You should try to learn new coping mechanisms.", "You should talk to a professional if you need help." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "even though they say they will try to control, a real human is probably needed here", "promised to control their urges.", "they seem to want to be kind to themselves" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/adg78t
6,731
2
true
What should I do if I can't stop thinking about someone who hates me.
Do you know this person well?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is describing their thoughts, which are not out of the ordinary.", "speaker is asking advice", "casual conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8aolp8
6,732
0
false
I used to be really good friends with him before he decided that he hated me.
I'm sorry your friend has decided he doesn't like you. It's sad when that happens, but it's not good for your mental health to spend so much time thinking about it. Instead you can focus on making new friends.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is describing a previous friendship that he no longer has.", "its understandable to miss someone", "casual conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8aolp8
6,732
1
false
I know but I can't help but think of him.
It's understandable that you are still thinking about your friend, likely trying to piece together what happened. It's okay to be sad about it but you should grieve the loss of the friendship and begin healing. That way you can let it go and move forward.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "the speaker is still talking about the friend they keep thinking about, which is normal after the end of a friendship.", "speaker is not threatening harm", "casual conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8aolp8
6,732
2
true
I hate when people break up a fight like, let them bitches fight.
Are you serious? Do you think women are bitches?
[ "It's not right to think all women are bitches", "You shouldn't think women deserve to be hurt" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is wrong to encourage violence.", "You shouldn't want a fight to continue if people might get hurt.", "It's wrong to take pleasure in fights" ]
sbic
6,733
0
false
I don't like bitches in general. You have to respect me that I am far more man than you. And don't call me a misogynist, it's the hoes why they are so fucked up.
Violence against women is rooted in the widely accepted social norms that too often contribute to gender inequality, including male entitlement, domination and control over the bodies of women. Also, calling women hoes is considered offensive and inherently misogynistic, even if you don't think you are.
[ "It's wrong to call women names" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is a misogynist.", "You shouldn't use gendered slurs against women.", "It's wrong to use sexist language towards women" ]
sbic
6,733
1
false
Wow I really hate how you generalise all the men, I am far from being a misogynist. Don't call me one. If I am, then I guess all the women are hoes. I don't care about you or your opinion, you are inferior to me not just because you are a woman.
I don't think all men are misogynist but you might be if you want to lump all women together and think that they are bitches and hoes. Just like you were upset that you thought I assumed something about you, you should think that women feel that same way when you assume that about them.
[ "You should treat others the way you want to be treated" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is a toxic dump of hatred.", "Speaker is being defensive about their own gender and continues to insult women.", "It's wrong to be rude and sexist towards women" ]
sbic
6,733
2
true
I told my best friend I loved them and ruined everything
Did something in your childhood teach you that it was bad to tell people you love them?
[ "It is good to tell your friends that you love them." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker told their best friend they loved them. This did not go well. Conversation remains casual.", "they ruined a friendship on purpose", "feels that were too open about their feelings with a friend" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/90kfex
6,734
0
false
No, not really, my childhood doesn't really have anything to do with this situation.
If you feel like you made things awkward between you and your friend, then you should have an honest conversation with your friend. Explain what you meant, and apologize if you said something that made them uncomfortable. The best way to work through awkward situations is with honesty and forthrightness.
[ "It's good to be honest with your friends." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker simply answers previous question from speaker gray.", "they ruined a friendship on purpose and dont care", "feels that were too open about their feelings with a friend" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/90kfex
6,734
1
false
I think that I might just avoid the topic for the rest of the time that we are friends.
I think that you should have the talk and just get it over with. It is good to tell your friends your true feelings for them.
[ "It's good to talk as soon as possible with your friends when there are problems." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker feels they should ignore the topic for the rest of their life. Avoiding the topic will only make things worse for the speaker down the line.", "they ruined a friendship on purpose out of spite", "disagrees with advice to address the situation openly" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/90kfex
6,734
2
true
What's the difference betweeen a dead possum and a dead black guy? There's swerve marks in front of the possum.
Why would you consider that funny to hit a black person?
[ "It's not right to condone violence against black people" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's immoral to justify violence to Black people.", "You shouldn't joke about hitting black people with cars.", "You shouldn't make violent racist jokes." ]
sbic
6,735
0
false
I don't really care what others think.
You should care more. You should not hate other people because of their skin color.
[ "It's wrong to be racist.", "You should care what others think." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is being selfish and ignorant.", "It's self-centered not to care what others think.", "Doesn't care what others think about their racist joke." ]
sbic
6,735
1
false
I don't hate black people. It's the truth, they act like fucking dogs.
But, the words you chose are indicative of disliking people based on their skin color. I don't think you should condone such actions against them.
[ "You shouldn't want others to be hurt." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is racist and degrading towards Black people.", "It's racist to insult black people or compare them to dogs.", "Continues making racist statements." ]
sbic
6,735
2
true
I'm uncomfortable around mentally disabled people
Why are you uncomfortable around mentally disabled people?
[ "People might think that you discriminate against people by acting uncomfortable with disabled people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "mentally disabled people would be offended at this", "mentally disabled people are like normal people too", "doesn't say why, may be innocent" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/av9o72
6,736
0
false
My last ex was mentally disabled, and it ended badly.
You shouldn't judge all mentally disabled based on one bad experience. They had nothing to do with it.
[ "You shouldn't based your opinions of an entire group off of one subjective experience" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "the speaker gives a very bad reason for thinking this way", "explaining past experiences", "just an irrational fear bc of their ex" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/av9o72
6,736
1
false
What are you talking about? It's fine to discriminate against mentally disabled people.
No, it isn't okay. No one asked to be born mentally disabled, so please don't discriminate against them.
[ "You shouldn't judge people for things that were beyond their control" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "the speaker thinks it is ok to discriminate against disabled people", "it is not ok to discriminate against mentally disabled people", "why is this a question?" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/av9o72
6,736
2
true
What do you call a building full of Mexicans and blacks? Prison
Why would you make a remark like that?
[ "It's not right to think black people go to prison", "It's not right to think latinx people go to prison" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's offensive and inappropriate to make jokes based on racist stereotypes.", "it is wrong to be racist for fun", "You shouldn't mock other races." ]
sbic
6,737
0
false
I call the building a prison because blacks and Latinos go to prison a lot.
That's a huge generalization about Blacks and Latinos. They own homes and businesses like anyone else, just as there are also Whites who are in prison.
[ "You shouldn't repeat stereotypes about black and latino people.", "It's ignorant to make statements about prison populations without knowing how the criminal justice system impacts black and latino people." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker explains but doesn't acknowledge offense", "it is wrong to be racist for jokes", "You shouldn't make assumptions based on race." ]
sbic
6,737
1
false
By definition, prison is where criminals are held. Since both prisoners are typically minorities, that sounds right to me.
You're factually correct to say that there are a lot of Black and Latino persons in prisons, but you are implying that that is the only place where you will find them in numbers, and that is not only offensive, but wholly untrue. I hope that we can discuss the economic factors and the policing practices that have led t...
[ "It's offensive to say that black and latino people are only in prison.", "You should research economic and social factors of incarceration before making generalizing statements about black and latino people." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker rejects critique and never admits wrong", "it is wrong to be racist and joke over it", "It's offensive to use stereotypes." ]
sbic
6,737
2
true
I still have regrets over what I did when I was 18.
What did you do that you regret?
[ "It's good to feel remorse for things you have done wrong." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker violet is making casual conversation", "Speaker admits rueful feelings.", "It's important to apologize for behavior you regret" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dx2htq
6,738
0
false
All the people that I hurt. I really regret doing that.
Sincere remorse can lead to both thankfulness and true forgiveness. If you can make amends for the people you hurt in your past, you might be able to put it behind you and move on.
[ "It's good to feel remorse for the bad things you've done", "You should try to make amends with those you've hurt" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker violet is talking about having regrets", "Speaker admits to hurting people and feeling sorry for it.", "It's important to apologize for hurting people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dx2htq
6,738
1
false
It's too late now, they will never forgive me
It's never too late to apologize to someone. Even if they don't accept your apology, you can live your life knowing that you did what you could to earn their forgiveness. You can then move on knowing that you did your best to amends for your past mistakes.
[ "It's good to apologize for your mistakes" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker violet seems to be accepting over having regrets", "Speaker seems down on themselves, but no harm done.", "Rejects advice to apologize" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dx2htq
6,738
2
true
I'm going to leave for another country to chase my dreams and cut contact with my family
Did you ever discuss the reasons behind it with your family?
[ "It's okay to have dreams and to try and follow through with them.", "It's wrong to leave your family out of your life for selfish reasons." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Cutting contact with family without a good reason is rude.", "speaker wants to cut contact with their family.", "Speaker wants to cut off contact with family." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aidur1
6,739
0
false
No, I did not.
It's fine to have dreams you care about, but you should let your family know about your plans. It's wrong to cut them out of your life.
[ "You should not cut off contact with your family", "It is wrong to abandon family without warning" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "speaker claims to have never told family or talk about issues they may have had with them. This in a way is running away from your problems.", "Speaker does not want to discuss with family." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aidur1
6,739
1
false
I don't feel even if I told them that they would support me.
I think it is worth a shot to talk to them, you really have nothing to lose by the sound of it. The worst they could do is reject you and you move anyways right?
[ "You should let others know about important changes that you are making" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "They haven't been swayed from being unethical yet. They do seem to be looking for advice, which is good.", "speaker is doubtful that their family would be supportive of the issues they were facing.", "Speaker does not want to consider critique based on how they feel." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aidur1
6,739
2
true
I want to kick my friends dog in the face
What would even make you want to kick a dog in the face.
[ "You shouldn't abuse animals." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "speaker expresses their desire to kick a dog in the face", "speaker wants to hurt animals", "They are planning a violent crime against an animal" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awru67
6,740
0
false
I'm just thinking of kicking him in the face just for practicing
It's wrong to abuse animals. Otherwise you are a psychopath.
[ "You should never want to hurt an animal" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "speaker claims that it is just for practice. Still wants to hurt dog.", "speaker wants to kick dog in face", "They are trying to justify it" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awru67
6,740
1
false
She would be fine. I thought you were going to reprimand me.
I am going to reprimand you! I think that there are better ways to take out anger, you should never abuse animals.
[ "You should find a harmless way to let your anger out", "You should never be hurting animals" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "Speaker feels the dog would be ok. Justifying kicking dog at this point.", "speaker thinks dog will be fine", "They see no problem with violence against animals" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awru67
6,740
2
true
I'm thinking of my manipulative ex-boyfriend getting me pregnant and I miscarried
Do you think he wanted you to miscarry the child?
[ "It's expected that both parents will want to care for a child.", "It's wrong to deceive or manipulate another person." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is describing a traumatic situation.", "Speaker is expressing their feelings of miscarrying", "This sounds like a remembered trauma." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ath7jj
6,741
0
false
No, he doesn't know he was the only person that I've been with.
You should be able to to talk to your ex about what happened. I'm really sorry for your loss.
[ "You should talk to the parent of your child about the pregnancy.", "You shouldn't keep things hidden from others." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is clarifying what happened in the traumatic experience.", "Speaker is expressing their feelings of miscarrying", "I feel sorry for the speaker." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ath7jj
6,741
1
false
It's really sad.
It is sad. You may be able to find a support group to join and talk about how you are feeling. It's a fairly common issue and maybe it will help to talk to someone else who had been in your situation.
[ "You should seek help if you are feeling sad.", "You should find others who went through the same issues as yourself to feel better." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker admits to being upset by the situation.", "Speaker is expressing their feelings", "Feeling sad here sounds natural." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ath7jj
6,741
2
true
What do you think of me taking my video games when I moved out?
why did you take your video games when you moved out?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's normal to take your belongings when you move.", "It's alright to take your own things with you when you move.", "They discuss taking their items when they move" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10y9w
6,742
0
false
The reason is very simple, video games are expensive.
You're right these video games and their consoles are expensive. They're yours anyway so it's good you did not leave them behind.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "There's nothing wrong with keeping hold of expensive things you've purchased.", "It's understandable to value your items.", "More is said about the items" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10y9w
6,742
1
false
Thanks. I keep them in the garage so that my mom won't do anything stupid with the consoles.
Taking your belongings with you when you moved was very wise. This way you can ensure that they are safe.
[ "It's normal to bring your possessions with you when you move to a new place." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The conversation doesn't contain anything inappropriate.", "Being rude.", "It sounds like their mother might not agree with them taking these items and they insult her" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b10y9w
6,742
2
true
after our daughter was diagnosed with cancer my wife decided to paint her entire room pink to cheer her up a little bit. It's going to make my home look really gay .
Why would you say that about your daughter's room?
[ "It's not right to think people with cancer always die" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's insensitive to use gay as a pejorative.", "You shouldn't say a color looks gay", "It's wrong to joke about child death and to mock homosexuals." ]
sbic
6,743
0
false
I also just painted my gym pink so my daughter would have a more positive attitude when she's getting chemo.
Getting cancer isn't always a death sentence. In fact, cancer is getting more treatable over time so it would be improper to correlate cancer with impending death. Moreover there's nothing wrong with the color pink, it doesn't necessarily represent a certain group of people.
[ "It's not right to think people with cancer always die" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's ok to want to help your daughter with cancer, but this doesn't excuse the earlier comment.", "You shouldn't say a color looks gay", "speaker tried to evade the issue" ]
sbic
6,743
1
true
Can I spend time with my girlfriend while in the same room as my shared roommate?
Is that okay with the roommate or does she not like it?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Just a question, so far.", "It's fine to spend time with a significant other with someone else there.", "The speaker seems to have reasonable concerns and cares about everyone involved." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/arq3pv
6,744
0
false
Yes it's okay with the roommate, she doesn't mind.
It's thoughtful of you to make sure both your girlfriend and the roommate are comfortable with you two spending time together. It sounds like you wanted to make sure everyone was comfortable while spending quality time with your partner.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Still okay.", "As long as everyone is consenting it's fine.", "The speaker seems to have reasonable concerns and cares about everyone involved." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/arq3pv
6,744
1
false
Yeah you nailed it, life can be hard and trust is so fragile. I'm glad I found someone that I can rely on to not take everything the wrong way.
That's nice and I am happy that you have found time to spend with your partner. Having loved ones is so important!
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Consenting adults here, apparently.", "They are just saying how they feel.", "The speaker seems to have reasonable concerns and cares about everyone involved." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/arq3pv
6,744
2
true
I'm going to tell my friend that he is being an asshole
Why do you want to tell your friend that he's an asshole?
[ "It is normal to tell your friend when they are behaving badly.", "It is rude to call your friend an asshole." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "rude behavior", "being intentionally mean to others", "Speaker is being rude and mean to a friend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/az8z19
6,745
0
false
Because he is such a selfish person and always acts like an asshole.
Your friend does not sound very kind, but you must like him since you still want to be friends. Tell him how his actions make you feel, but don't use words like "asshole". Try to tell him in a nice way so that you don't ruin your friendship.
[ "You should not be too harsh with other people", "Talk to your friends when their actions upset you, so that they can improve" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "offensive, rude response", "being intentionally mean to others", "Speaker is using profanity and talking down to a friend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/az8z19
6,745
1
false
I'm going to do it already, he didn't even ask how I feel about having my kids in the hospital.
I'm sorry he's not being very considerate, but I don't think it's best to act the same way he would be. Don't you think it's better to act as the better person, and just try to let him know how he makes you feel?
[ "You should not escalate disagreements by lashing out", "Let other people know when they have upset you, and why" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "civil discussion", "being intentionally mean to others, antisocial", "Speaker is being rude and selfish." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/az8z19
6,745
2
true
I'm thinking of potentially ruining my relationship with my brother by choosing to live in a dorm
I am not sure I understand the basis of your thinking. Why would you ruin your relationship with your brother by living in the dorm?
[ "It's okay to want to live apart from your family members." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "this action would cause conflict for seemingly no reason", "need more information", "Wants to ruin a relationship" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b89mqd
6,746
0
false
I want to have my own life and live in the dorm.
It's okay to want to live separate from your brother. He should understand that. You are an adult now.
[ "It's ok to want to live independently from family." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker does not seem remorseful", "need more information", "Justifies behavior of ruining relationship" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b89mqd
6,746
1
false
I don't want to live with him anymore and I want to be independent. I will tell him that I don't want to be near him anymore, it's too uncomfortable.
I think you are doing the right thing. Your brother should be happy that you want to know how to be independent in life.
[ "You should tell people when you want to become independent of them." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is not really in the wrong for wanting to just live on their own", "Nothing is socially unacceptable", "Doesn't want to be near brother" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b89mqd
6,746
2
true
What do you think about me telling my boyfriend to ignore my three-year-old next time I'm on the phone with him?
Wait, why would you want him to ignore your child?
[ "It's wrong to ignore your child." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "You shouldn't ignore your child.", "It is unclear what this person is talking about." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah1jvr
6,747
0
false
Because I'm sick of him hearing the child and asking if I can put her on the phone.
Having a child distract your boyfriend from the conversation can be annoying but just think about how much he likes your child if he wants to talk to her like that. You should be more than happy to have your boyfriend want to entertain your kid.
[ "You should be grateful to have a caring partner.", "It's good to take interest in your children." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "It's rude to treat a kid that way, like a problem coming between you and your boyfriend.", "Speaker wants to ignore a child.", "Person is explaining how frustrated they feel with their boyfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah1jvr
6,747
1
false
You're just taking his side.
It's not about taking sides; it's about pointing out that it's a really good thing. Just try to think about how it would be if your boyfriend didn't like you child and maybe that can help you understand just how lucky you are.
[ "It's good to show interest in your children.", "You shouldn't ignore your children." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "The situation is the same.", "Speaker wants to tell bf what to do and wants to ignore a child.", "Person continues to discuss their frustration with their boyfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah1jvr
6,747
2
true
Do you think I can get my boyfriend to put down the games when I am talking to him?
Is the game causing problems in your relationship?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker seems they are frustrated with their boyfriend and yet have a calm demeaner about theirself.", "Speaker is talking about their relationship.", "They're asking for advice." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aft5yp
6,748
0
false
It's a bad influence on him him and his friends. All they talk about is that game.
Have you tried talking to him about your feeling ignored? You should make sure he realized excessive gaming may be causing damage to your relationship.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is complaining about something legit and they are not wreaking havoc either.", "Speaker wishes their boyfriend wouldn't play video games so much.", "They're explaining their situation." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aft5yp
6,748
1
false
I've talked to him but he never listens to me.
If he has ignored you entirely you might need to exit the relationship. You deserve better and to have someone who cares for you.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker has talked to the boyfriend and it is really useless to get him to listen, I feel their pain. Speaker isn't irrational, just speaks from the truth.", "Speaker is having communication issues in their relationship.", "They just want their partner's attention." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aft5yp
6,748
2
true
I classify people according to a hierarchical structure based on race and height
Is there a reason that you need to classify them at all?
[ "You shouldn't classify people based on their race and height." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to classify people based on race and height", "It's wrong to classify people based on physical features.", "You shouldn't classify people you now based on race or height." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a72lf1
6,749
0
false
It makes it easier to decide how I feel about them.
Sometimes it is easy to deal with people when you put them in certain boxes but people don't fit into boxes, everybody is different and should be treated that way. If you classify people based on race you will be thought of as a racist.
[ "It's wrong to classify people based on race" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Justifying ranking people's race and height", "The speaker judges people based on their physical features.", "Describing why they are classifying people by race and height, so that they would know how to feel with those classifications. Justifying racist behavior." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a72lf1
6,749
1
false
What does it matter if I'm a racist? Are you going to call me a racist because I'm good at imagining people's personalities?
It's not right to try and classify people based on race and height. It won't work out in the end because people are different and not what you assume them to be.
[ "It's wrong to make assumptions about people" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Justifying racism", "The speaker is okay with being a racist.", "Justifying being racist, dismissed the other person's advice." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a72lf1
6,749
2
true
I despise jeff bezos
Why do you hate Jeff Bezos?
[ "It's understandable to dislike people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's not nice to despise someone.", "It's OK not to like everybody", "Disparaging remarks made by speaker towards Jeff Bezos." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8t6xy3
6,750
0
false
He started the company that is destroying microsoft, I have hatred towards him
I see what you mean. It's fine that you don't like Jeff Bezos. Just don't let it consume you.
[ "You shouldn't let resentment for public figures go too far.", "It's ok to dislike how public figures conduct business." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is not nice to have hatred toward people.", "It's OK not to like him", "Animosity displayed towards Jeff Bezos by speaker." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8t6xy3
6,750
1
false
I will never like and support this guy.
It's fine you don't have to support anyone you don't want to!
[ "You have the right to decide who and what you stand behind." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "They sound like they have a lot of animosity.", "It's OK not to want to support him", "Again, cruel remarks made by speaker towards Jeff Bezos." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/8t6xy3
6,750
2
true
I'm going to tell my girlfriend and friends it was stupid to go to the beach/nature/hikes and that they should stop asking me to go with them
That sounds pretty mean. Why do you think its stupid to spend time in nature?
[ "You shouldn't tell your partner what to do." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's not okay to be rude to your girlfriend and friends when you want to decline an invite", "It's rude to tell people that their activities are stupid.", "You shouldn't refuse requests in such a rude manner." ]
ethics_reddit
6,751
0
false
I don't like nature and I don't like going to the beach and I don't like that they don't understand that.
Even if you don't like travel, you shouldn't tell your girlfriend what to do. You should support her.
[ "It's bad to be controlling in a relationship." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker continues to be rude instead of accepting he should politely turn down the invite", "Speaker provides unreasonable justification for acting rudely.", "Don't boss your so and friends around." ]
ethics_reddit
6,751
1
false
I'm going to be more vocal about how I feel.
It's fine to vocalize what you prefer to do when spending time with your girlfriend. However if you're demanding then she might be put off. Why not just compromise instead and spend some time in nature but also ask that you get to do the things you like to do as well?
[ "It's good to compromise with your partner about activities." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker may still have an inclination to be rude but they are taking the proper action", "Speaker does not indicate that they will stop acting rudely.", "ignoring the feedback" ]
ethics_reddit
6,751
2
true
I love seeing my friend fail at stuff
You find enjoyment in your friends' failures? Why?
[ "You shouldn't be happy about your friend failing at something." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "it's wrong to enjoy watching other fail", "You shouldn't enjoy a friend's failures.", "It's rude to want to see others fail." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a2lylt
6,752
0
false
Yes, because then I can feel superior to them.
A friend celebrates their friends' accomplishments and consoles them when they fail.
[ "You should be there to support your friend" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't feel superior to others", "Speaker wants to feel superior to his friends.", "You shouldn't think you are superior to others." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a2lylt
6,752
1
false
What gives you the right to criticize me?!
I'm concerned that your attitude will result in your unhappiness, frustration and loneliness in the long run. You should explore why you have these feelings with a counselor.
[ "You should find out why you celebrate your friends failures", "Your attitude will bring you misery" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "rejects the criticism", "Speaker is very hostile and will not accept criticism.", "It's rude to act superior to others." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a2lylt
6,752
2
true
I'm really glad I took the nap because it refreshed me.
Why did you need to feel refreshed?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Happy that they took a nap.", "it is good to take care of yourself", "Taking a nap is usually a good thing." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/066ce64e-fcc0-4103-b58c-d44974d0c4ff/sentence3
6,753
0
false
I was tired of all these things going on. It felt so good to have a rest.
It's good to take a break whenever you are feeling drained, and a quick nap can be very refreshing. Just make sure that you are not shirking any important responsibilities that need to be taken care of right away.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Saying they felt good after their nap.", "speaker is just talking about self care", "In most cases, a nap is a positive action, that makes you function better." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/066ce64e-fcc0-4103-b58c-d44974d0c4ff/sentence3
6,753
1
false