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I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Sometimes stress helps us become motivated and thrive to do better however, if your daughter is stressing to the point that she is crying and freaking out then that would be concerning. Helping your daughter with relaxation techniques like deep breathing or guided imagery would be a good start. Also, reminding your daughter that you see her doing so well in school and that most importantly you are there for her. I would also make an appointment to see a mental health therapist they can have more ideas on ways to de-stress.", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "The most important action you can take here is validating her feelings and staying calm when she is crying and ""freaking out"". \'a0It's equally important to do some self exploration regarding your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors towards making mistakes and how you respond to your mistakes. \'a0\'a0When she is calm, ask her what a mistake means to her. \'a0Giving her examples of different kinds of mistakes and listening to her responses will give you an idea of how extreme her thoughts are. \'a0Taking this opportunity to share with her your own struggles with perfectionism or some other area would help her feel more at ease. \'a0Reminding her that she is enough just as she is would be helpful as well. \'a0Encouraging her self care routine will help develop a greater sense of balance regarding her priorities. \'a0The practice of mindfulness will be helpful in self awareness. \'a0Creating a plan on what to do when the early signs of ""freaking out"" surface will strengthen her coping skills. \'a0 \'a0Your fears as a parent are completely understandable and this definitely needs to be addressed. \'a0Your daughter cannot bring about change on her own and will need the family to work towards this change as well. \'a0A therapist that specializes in anxiety/perfectionism would be a great resource. \'a0They may also help you all have a greater understanding of what the root of this need for perfection is and how it plays a role in the family. \'a0I suggest one or two sessions without your daughter would be helpful to develop a course of action. \'a0 \'a0I hope this was helpful. \'a0 It takes a lot of courage to seek help and guidance, I'm glad you posted.", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I hear your concern that your daughter might break under the pressure and stress that she is dealing with.\'a0 It is a good thing that your high achieving daughter is calling out for help and that you are listening.\'a0 The education system is wrought with social and emotional problems, and there is a disproportionate emphasis on test taking, scores and achievement in school.\'a0 \'a0It sounds like your daughter would benefit from some social and emotional education and learning to understand how her feelings are impacting her thoughts and behaviors.\'a0\'a0I'd like to also assure you that crying and freaking out is a normal part of growing up.\'a0 Depending on your daughter's age, it is likely that she is going through a growth spurt and she may be feeling her feelings in a unique way to her too.\'a0 If this is the first time you are having a concern about anxiety then rest at ease and see if you can ride the emotions with her and be a stable sounding board for her.\'a0 \'a0Use empathy and compassion and allow her a safe place to process through her concerns.\'a0 Try not to solve it for her, but allow her a space to fumble through and find her own answers to the problems she is faced with.\'a0 Give her confidence that she can figure it out, and be patient as you sit with her.\'a0 Our presence is key to our children's well being.\'a0 \'a0Make eye contact with her, allow her to squirm and get frustrated and work through it while you witness her process.\'a0 As parents, when we can model calm in the storm of life our children learn that all of their feelings are ok too.\'a0 When our children see and feel our fear, it can create more insecurity and low self evaluation of their own efficacy to manage the stress.\'a0 When we can be calm and reassuring, then we can boost their confidence in their own ability to problem solve what they are going through.\'a0 Let's face it we all have irrational thinking from time to time, and usually it is when we are under stress.\'a0\'a0If your daughter continues to show concerning anxiety, check with her school and see if she can benefit from an opportunity with the social emotional learning curriculum.\'a0 In Texas at least, schools are required to have resources for children like your daughter who are experiencing anxiety and other mental health concerns.\'a0 Her teacher is with her all day and you may request to have a conference with her to see if she can help her in any way as well.\'a0 If resources in your school are limited then I would seek an outside therapist who specializes in working with children your daughter's age.\'a0 Call around and see if she can benefit from a therapeutic relationship outside of school and home.\'a0 Once you have plenty of feedback from her teacher and a therapist or counselor then you will be able to determine if seeking medical care is necessary with their support and guidance.\'a0 Thank you for your courage to reach out for help on behalf of your daughter.\'a0 You are her greatest advocate.\'a0 I hope that you find support to help you navigate this time in her life and that you both grow and learn from this experience.", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Aye, you're correct, that isn't normal, and maybe you should get her to a doctor!Before you do that, and if she were my daughter, I would provide her the necessary physical support that can be given readily at home; that is:\'a0 proper natural diet, rest, and a good sense of detoxification before she readies herself to approach it.Basic listening is warranted here and would be of great use.", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "Your daughter is suffering from extremes of perfectionism. She needs to know that God accepts her as she is. I can provide her with a knowledge of her God-given, inborn temperament to help her find her God-esteem.", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "children and adolescents who have a desire to achieve high grade point averages often have the symptoms you are describing. It sounds like, your gut is telling you to help her find ways to de-stress. Listen to your gut-always; as her mom, you know her needs better than anyone else. She would probably benefit from seeing a therapist to help her deal with the stress of being a high achiever. I provided the following suggestion to another parent with a similar concern: First identify the three most stressful aspects of the day. Do this by creating a circle on a regular size paper. (do this three times); ask your daughter how much of that circle can she confidently say she has under control. shade that in. The remaining parts of the circle are then named by intensity. (for example, in the circle labeled school anxiety, the client identified that she felt she could handle school anxiety 1 out of 4 days. The circle was split into 1/4. 1/4 of the circle was shaded . the remaining parts were labeled with the challenges that caused the client school anxiety.(these were 1. walking to class during passing time. 2. not having the assignments completed or at all. 3. feeling fat. after labeling each part; and making note of the percentage of the stress associated with each concern, free form thinking takes place and a pile of unwanted behaviors and genetic responses are portrayed\'a0 around the circle in bright colors.\'a0Using note cards, create a tree of concern; the concerns can be written on note cards. a concern = the behavior that leads to more trouble.\'a0 For example, ""all i could do was think about that extra slice of pizza, I was unable to concentrate on the teacher's explanation of the assignment"" (the concern you would write on the note card is Inability to concentrate. Now, fill up the back of the notecard with all of the different factors causing this pattern. nack. (", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another.\'a0 Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things.\'a0 Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too.\'a0 Therefore, I recommend that you find your young daughter someone that can help her find ways to cope with her strong desire to doing well in school. Getting ahead of it now before she gets worst is the best thing you could do for her.\'a0 Best of luck to you and your daughter.\'a0 Sincerely, Mirella~Image and Likeness Counseling", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Thank you for being an observant parent and taking the very important step toward getting help for you as well as your daughter. The period of adolescence and emerging adulthood are tumultuous times for youth ( and their parents). The pressure to fit-in, be liked, and succeed could be some of the contributing factors for your daughter's stress. I\'a0 have had many adolescent clients who do very well academically, but keep it well hidden from their peers so that they can fit in. She is still learning about herself, her abilities and how to like herself none of which are easy tasks even for adults. The academic success that you refer to only tells part of the story. As I read your statement, I got a sense of what your daughter does and that you are proud of her academic accomplishments. However, I would also want to ask her who she is as a person and encourage her to explore that with assistance from a therapist.By working with a therapist your daughter will have the opportunity to discuss her stress, fears, and focus on achievement with an objective person. As she gains a better understanding of the source of her stress and learns some stress management, she can also learn to communicate her concerns to you.\'a0I do recommend starting with a therapist rather than the doctor. If the therapist believes that your daughter's symptoms would benefit from a health exam and/or medication they will make that recommendation.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Hello! First of all, thank you for paying attention to your daughter and noticing that she is concerned! It sounds like you have been a positive influence on her for her to be so focused on achievement and for her to care so deeply about her performance! Based on what you've said here, I understand that you are concerned that she is overly stressed, though. I share your concern. People of all ages have meltdowns when they become overwhelmed with stress, and the negative consequences of those meltdowns can definitely have a ripple-effect into other areas of our lives.For your daughter, the thing I would want to know FIRST is this: does she feel she has adequate healthy coping skills to manage the stress she is experiencing? Because, it doesn't really matter WHAT she is stressing on...what matters is how she deals with her stress when it threatens to overwhelm her. I'd like to know what, exactly, that she does when she is feeling stressed that helps her to feel better. If she has only unhealthy coping skills (for example, sleeping, shutting-down, raging, self-attack with critical self-talk, etc.), or only one or two healthy skills, we would want to teach her some additional healthy strategies to help her KNOW that she can cope.\'a0Just one risk of not addressing this issue now could be that she may come to ""learn"" that stress is 'unbearable' which may cause her to turn to destructive or escapist strategies to avoid the discomfort, the pain of feeling hopeless, and/or the negative belief that she ""cannot help herself."" \'a0I definitely think it would be worth both your whiles to have her evaluated by her family doctor and/or a professional counselor. With a counselor specifically, she could learn the needed skills as well as be evaluated for other issues that may be contributing to the issue (for example, a learned belief that she ""must be perfect or she is not worthy."") Plus, having a neutral support person to help her meet her personal goals is always a good thing. Good luck, mom and daughter!Learn more about me and my practice at www.EMDRheals.com", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "As a therapist and mother of four children (3 of whom are teenagers)...I hear your pain.\'a0 Raising children in our society is no joke.\'a0 Kids are under a tremendous amount of pressure from parents, peers, teachers, coaches and the list goes on and on.\'a0 Fear and anxiety can suffocate students particularly as they approach their high school years where they are bombarded with questions about their future and expected to select professions before they have even gone to college!!\'a0\'a0I highly encourage the teens I work with to strive for balance in their lives- and we can model this for our children by how we choose to live!\'a0 Encourage your child to spend time with friends, join you for a yoga class, read a book, pick up a hobby or go out to exercise.\'a0 If your daughter continues to feel overwhelmed by stress, it would be a good idea to select a therapist for her to go speak with.\'a0 As much as we love our children, there are times where kids need to consult with a neutral 3rd party.\'a0 It can be a wonderful thing for kids to have a therapist whom they can confide in.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "As a \'a0Parent it can be very hard to see your child struggling. It sounds like they\'92re experiencing anxiety from their stress. It\'92s always a good idea to check in with your family doctor. Many children are experiencing anxiety and can benefit from individual counseling services to help them cope with their stress. School pressures and academic achievements \'a0can you create physical stress responses in the body. Seeing a counselor can also help you as the mom or dad have available tools to provide Continued support. It sounds like you are a great support for them and helping them connect to their resources.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "It sounds as though your daughter is struggling to manage her anxiety and she is having really big reactions to what you view as small problems or issues. What have you tried with her in the past? As exhausting as it might be, a good first step is to empathize and validate her feelings.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "It may be helpful to register for a class you can take together. I would recommend mindful meditation or yoga, just the two of you. Something you find time for in a weekly basis. Yoga is amazing in learning mindfulness and reducing stress. I use yoga and mindful techniques when working with children and recommend it to parents to engage with their children. Hope this helps.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "Its hard to answer this question based on the information presented but I shall give it a go, Is it possible that your daughter is afraid of failing, I've seen many children and kids who get stressed out over grades or performance in sports, can you tell me ""what was your grade in fourth grade English? Or what was the score of the 7th game you played in football when you were a junior? Much of what happens to us is insignificant and we worry over things which really , in the long term don't matter much to us. But ask yourself this question, Is your daughters reaction to what is going grossly out of proportion with what would normally be expected, if the answer is yes, a visit to a psychotherapist might not be a bad idea to learn some coping skills and to alter our reaction to life.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "As parents, it's hard not to have ""freak out"" moments when our children are being bullied, stressed, or exhibit other symptoms of teenage angst. We walk a delicate balance of letting go and giving autonomy to our teens get older. Adolescents are learning how to be functional adults and it's important to allow them to try (and sometimes fail) in managing their emotions. Grades are a pretty good indicator of how a student is doing, overall. If your daughter has a 4.0 and there's no pattern of ""crying and freaking out"" I'd offer gentle support and encourage her to find ways to relax when she's stressed. If her grades start to decline and her crying spells become more frequent, a call to a counselor who specializes in teens might be in order. Good luck!", | "I agree with your observation about your daughter feeling stressed. \'a0Are you able to open this topic in conversation with her?Also, reflect on your own expectations as a parent. \'a0It is possible that your daughter is trying to please you by getting consistently high grades.If your daughter prefers talking in confidence to a therapist, then this may help her regain a sense of balance in her life so that schoolwork feels less stressful.I wouldn't take her to a doctor because based on what you write, the problem is psychological and emotionally based. \'a0While the stress may have physical symptoms, addressing the root cause of the problem has nothing to do directly with something being physically wrong with your daughter.Unless there is some other medical or physical problem that would explain your daughter's sense of stress, \'a0I'd start first by bringing your areas of concern to your daughter, then possibly to a therapist.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", | "Hi there Mom! Just look at all of the things that a teen has to juggle and it's no surprise they're stress out. There are simply not enough minutes in the day to get everything done.\'a0 So, they react by cutting\'a0into important times such as social interaction and sleep.\'a0 Our fast paced, fast food, society is taking its toll on our teen generation.\'a0While multi-tasking seems to be a hot pop word, it simply doesn't work.\'a0 We aren't wired to do our best at multiple things at once.\'a0 We are not machines but rather humans who are going to quickly expire if we don't get a handle on our stress.As adults, it's time we intervene and teach our teens how to maintain a healthy balance between work and play.\'a0 We need to help them prioritize and\'a0put first things, first.\'a0 Are you putting first things, first in your life?\'a0\'a0If not, it's a good time to start.\'a0Best of luck to you and your daughter in whatever you decide to do.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", | "I understand that as a mom it must be really hard to see your daughter stressing about things at school. Based on your description it sounds as though she has very high expectations of herself and is pushing herself to keep up. I hear your concern and recommend that to start, you provide her a space where she can express herself openly to you without judgement. Although it may seem as though this is ""not normal"", unfortunately it is. From standardized testing, to awards, to scholarships, the pressure is on to perform at high levels for kids today. Secondly, I would recommend that you connect her with therapist that can teach her coping and stress management skills that can help alleviate some of her anxiety. A therapist can also help her identify any faulty beliefs she may have in regards to perfectionism or fear of failure. You're doing a great job keeping an eye out for your daughter and being in tune with her emotional wellness!", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", | "I hear that you are concerned about your daughter's reaction and her emotional well being. Her behaviors are worry some as you feel she seems to be approaching her breaking point. I would suggest speaking to your daughter about the situation at school and her feelings. Listening and acknowledging your daughter's feelings without judgement or giving solutions is a very effective communication skill. Ask your daughter how she feels about speaking to a therapist or her doctor. Someone that she knows and feels comfortable talking to about her feelings and learning healthy coping skills to address stressful situations.", |
I think my daughter is stressing too much"When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student always has a . but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I\'m afraid it\'s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal." | "I am sorry to hear about your daughter. Many of the youth I see in my practice are going through similar behaviors and concerns. If she feels like she can talk to you about this I think that is a great place to begin. There are many life stressors that youth have to manage and seeing others on social media seems to exacerbate these feelings and can feel like even more pressure to strive for perfection. You may be able to offer her support by listening to and validating her concerns, reviewing all that she has accomplished and praising her for doing her best and not push that she needs to be ""the best.""If she feels she would like to speak to someone it may be good to find a therapist where she can vent her feelings and find a way to increase her coping skills. She may benefit from additional support outside the home where she can cry, learn to manage her worries and gain skills to triage the expectations of each day. She may benefit from skills that would help her to learn that she is enough already!", | "It sounds to me like your daughter is anxious to be perfect and has a low tolerance for failure.\'a0 As her mother one of the most important messages you can share with her is that she need not be perfect, nor is it necessary.\'a0 As a matter of fact, failure and making mistakes are only opportunity to learn and grow.\'a0 Give her permission and more importantly she needs to give herself permission to be a perfectly flawed human.\'a0 It may be a good idea to see a therapist to help her learn how to reframe some of her negative beliefs so she can form healthier thinking habits. Warm wishes.", |
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