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How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you\'92ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. \'a0You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. \'a0If you don\'92t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "The ""right"" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person.\'a0 People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself:\'a0 ""Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?""\'a0 Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy?\'a0 Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind, |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Though this varies from person to person, I think finding the right therapist involves finding someone who you're comfortable opening up to and speaking your mind, including your preferred areas of focus for treatment. It's important to be aligned with your therapist's general approach and, to find someone who you feel genuinely attuned to, both in practice and also, with who they are as a person. Bringing up your needs for treatment is key and finding someone who validates your needs, listens and welcomes feedback are all important building blocks for creating space for a great working relationship that promotes personal growth, openness and invites adaptable approaches in session, based on your individual needs.", | "This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you.\'a0 I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals?\'a0 There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime.\'a0 First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others.\'a0 If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat.\'a0 Second, do your online research.\'a0 Google the person's name and read everything you can find.\'a0 Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door.\'a0 See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website.\'a0 This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style.\'a0 Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist.\'a0 It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations.\'a0 Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together.\'a0 Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. \'a0The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won\'92t always feel comfortable.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "You'll know you have the right therapist when after the first few sessions you feel comfortable enough to tell them things you wouldn't tell anyone else. It's important in therapy for that rapport to be built from the beginning and that you as the client feel comfortable enough to share what you need to share. You shouldn't feel judgement from your therapist and you should be able to trust the advice your therapist provides. Therapy isn't about advice, don't get me wrong, but to truly implement the changes that need to be implemented to improve your life you need to trust the person giving the advice. Your therapist should have your best interest at heart and truly listen to what you have to say. The therapist should be willing to meet you where you are in your world and attempt to see the world from your perspective to truly understand what you have been through. You need to feel comfortable in therapy to be yourself and say what's on your mind. Therapy shouldn't be something that should be dreaded but it can get uncomfortable depending on the depth of the things being discussed.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns.\'a0As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you.\'a0You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor).", | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to ""train"" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made.", | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals.", | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "The most important thing is it has to feel right.\'a0 While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy.\'a0 Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective.\'a0 You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad.\'a0 You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone.\'a0 Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor.\'a0Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy.\'a0Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client.\'a0If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you\'92ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. \'a0You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. \'a0If you don\'92t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "The ""right"" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person.\'a0 People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself:\'a0 ""Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?""\'a0 Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy?\'a0 Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind, |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "How do you know anything is ""right"" for you? I think it's an intuitive process, and not always based on the objective expertise of the therapist, either (most psychotherapy research has concluded that the client-therapist relationship is the strongest factor in success in therapy.) But, in my view what is important to check-in with yourself around whether or not the therapist can hold space for all that you come in with (for example, not expressing discomfort with things you might talk about is a big ""run away""), challenge you enough where you feel like it is challenging you to grow, but also where there is some part of you that does look forward to the sessions.How to ""train"" your therapist? This could be a session in and of itself I must say:) The therapist-client relationship can resemble many of the relationships in your life, or those that you seek out. A therapist, like anyone else in your life, won't be able to give you what you need 100% of the time and then expect that you will be able to function outside of the space. That can turn into a highly enabling process that won't help your other relationships. However, what the therapist can do, and help you deal with, is to tell you what they can and can't give you, and then process the disappointment that you feel when they can't be everything you might feel you need.", | "This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you.\'a0 I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals?\'a0 There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime.\'a0 First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others.\'a0 If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat.\'a0 Second, do your online research.\'a0 Google the person's name and read everything you can find.\'a0 Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door.\'a0 See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website.\'a0 This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style.\'a0 Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist.\'a0 It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations.\'a0 Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together.\'a0 Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. \'a0The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won\'92t always feel comfortable.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "You'll know you have the right therapist when after the first few sessions you feel comfortable enough to tell them things you wouldn't tell anyone else. It's important in therapy for that rapport to be built from the beginning and that you as the client feel comfortable enough to share what you need to share. You shouldn't feel judgement from your therapist and you should be able to trust the advice your therapist provides. Therapy isn't about advice, don't get me wrong, but to truly implement the changes that need to be implemented to improve your life you need to trust the person giving the advice. Your therapist should have your best interest at heart and truly listen to what you have to say. The therapist should be willing to meet you where you are in your world and attempt to see the world from your perspective to truly understand what you have been through. You need to feel comfortable in therapy to be yourself and say what's on your mind. Therapy shouldn't be something that should be dreaded but it can get uncomfortable depending on the depth of the things being discussed.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns.\'a0As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you.\'a0You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor).", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to ""train"" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important thing is it has to feel right.\'a0 While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy.\'a0 Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective.\'a0 You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad.\'a0 You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone.\'a0 Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy!", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor.\'a0Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy.\'a0Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client.\'a0If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you\'92ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. \'a0You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. \'a0If you don\'92t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them.", | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "The ""right"" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person.\'a0 People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself:\'a0 ""Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?""\'a0 Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy?\'a0 Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind, |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Hello and thanks for your question! It's important to have the right therapist. I encourage you to start by checking out the website of the therapist. Their blog articles will reflect the kind of work they do and the approach they may take while working with you. If there's an email listed, go ahead and reach out. Ask the particular questions that are on your mind. Share a little of what you are looking for in a therapist. Are you a goal-direct, solution-focused individual who is looking for someone to listen and ask questions? Are you less self-directive and desire a therapist who can give you the consistent push to move forward? Are you interested in intertwining certain theory approaches? Maybe a cognitive-base or experiential? Art therapy or engaging in exercise while talking? Your therapist is out there. It's OK to try out a therapist for a session or two. Interview them as they interview you. It's also OK to change therapists; ask your present therapist for a referral. He or she should be willing to provide you with names of other providers and there's no shame in asking for it. You deserve to work with someone who fits your style!I imagine there's already enough things happening in your life if you are searching for a therapist. Do you really want to ""train"" your therapist? After all, you are paying them for their knowledge and expertise. It does take time to develop a relationship and developing one with your therapist is vital to your growth and satisfaction. Participating in therapy, for the most part, should be a time you anticipate and not avoid. Can you be honest with them? Are you trusting of the confidentiality they provide? Has this person clearly shared with you the limits of confidentiality if using insurance versus paying privately? Is there any part of you that ""just isn't sure""? It's okay to assert yourself in therapy. As a therapist, I invite you to assert yourself as it's a way to develop self-confidence and resiliency. Not everyone thrives in therapy by sitting in an office or lounging on a couch. Some folks benefit by challenging themselves in various environments, or are more comfortable in their homes, online, in the community, at a retreat, etc. Give yourself a gift of spending some time finding the person that can work with you towards what you are searching. Although there's the convenience of the local non-profit agency in your area, it may not be what you need. Also, limiting yourself to the names of providers listed on your insurance may not lead to the ""right one"". There are many forms of therapy that insurances refuse to cover. When this happens, many times you can be reimbursed for your expenses by your insurance or you can use a Health Savings Card or Flexible Spending Card, there are many, many options. Therapy is about exploring yourself. Go ahead and feel free!If you feel as if you need to ""train"" your therapist, it seems that person is not the right fit for you. Engaging in treatment should be quite comfortable from the outset of treatment. Many independent practitioners or small group providers offer a free consultation to start the relationship. Perhaps that's a place for you to begin? Good luck and I wish you well!", | "This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you.\'a0 I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals?\'a0 There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime.\'a0 First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others.\'a0 If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat.\'a0 Second, do your online research.\'a0 Google the person's name and read everything you can find.\'a0 Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door.\'a0 See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website.\'a0 This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style.\'a0 Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist.\'a0 It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations.\'a0 Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together.\'a0 Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. \'a0The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won\'92t always feel comfortable.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "You'll know you have the right therapist when after the first few sessions you feel comfortable enough to tell them things you wouldn't tell anyone else. It's important in therapy for that rapport to be built from the beginning and that you as the client feel comfortable enough to share what you need to share. You shouldn't feel judgement from your therapist and you should be able to trust the advice your therapist provides. Therapy isn't about advice, don't get me wrong, but to truly implement the changes that need to be implemented to improve your life you need to trust the person giving the advice. Your therapist should have your best interest at heart and truly listen to what you have to say. The therapist should be willing to meet you where you are in your world and attempt to see the world from your perspective to truly understand what you have been through. You need to feel comfortable in therapy to be yourself and say what's on your mind. Therapy shouldn't be something that should be dreaded but it can get uncomfortable depending on the depth of the things being discussed.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns.\'a0As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you.\'a0You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor).", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to ""train"" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important thing is it has to feel right.\'a0 While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy.\'a0 Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective.\'a0 You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad.\'a0 You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone.\'a0 Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy!", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor.\'a0Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy.\'a0Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client.\'a0If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you\'92ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. \'a0You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. \'a0If you don\'92t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them.", | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "The ""right"" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person.\'a0 People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself:\'a0 ""Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?""\'a0 Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy?\'a0 Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind, |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "The most important part of therapy is finding a therapist who is the right fit and you feel you can connect to. Feeling comfortable with your therapist and feeling that you can be vulnerable is what will assist in helping you find what you want out of therapy. It also sounds like discussing with a potential therapist your expectations for therapy. Also, I would read up on what the therapy process is like so that you are aware of the role the therapist is supposed to play in your life. As long as a therapist is ethical and not breaking any ethical practices, find someone you connect with and can share with.", | "This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you.\'a0 I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals?\'a0 There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime.\'a0 First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others.\'a0 If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat.\'a0 Second, do your online research.\'a0 Google the person's name and read everything you can find.\'a0 Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door.\'a0 See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website.\'a0 This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style.\'a0 Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist.\'a0 It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations.\'a0 Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together.\'a0 Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. \'a0The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won\'92t always feel comfortable.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "You'll know you have the right therapist when after the first few sessions you feel comfortable enough to tell them things you wouldn't tell anyone else. It's important in therapy for that rapport to be built from the beginning and that you as the client feel comfortable enough to share what you need to share. You shouldn't feel judgement from your therapist and you should be able to trust the advice your therapist provides. Therapy isn't about advice, don't get me wrong, but to truly implement the changes that need to be implemented to improve your life you need to trust the person giving the advice. Your therapist should have your best interest at heart and truly listen to what you have to say. The therapist should be willing to meet you where you are in your world and attempt to see the world from your perspective to truly understand what you have been through. You need to feel comfortable in therapy to be yourself and say what's on your mind. Therapy shouldn't be something that should be dreaded but it can get uncomfortable depending on the depth of the things being discussed.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns.\'a0As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you.\'a0You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor).", | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to ""train"" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made.", | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals.", | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "The most important thing is it has to feel right.\'a0 While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy.\'a0 Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective.\'a0 You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad.\'a0 You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone.\'a0 Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor.\'a0Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy.\'a0Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client.\'a0If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "Thinking whether or not you have the right therapist can be overwhelming if you are not sure what you want or need. But think of this, you feel safe and comfortable that you share what you\'92ve never told anybody. You feel understood and listened to. You feel their support. \'a0You trust them. Do you believe they can help you? If you do not, then that might make it hard for you to want to open up.As far as how would you how to train your therapist to help you. If you know what you need all you have to do is share this with your therapist. \'a0If you don\'92t know then therapy is a collaborative process so both you and your therapist will work together to figure out your needs and how to best meet them.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "The ""right"" therapist is a combination of expertise in the areas where you require, and fit as far as how comfortable you feel in speaking and sharing with that person.\'a0 People generally are quite good at determining whether or not someone fits well with their personality and style; and another key to know whether therapy is working is to ask yourself:\'a0 ""Do I see that changes have come about since working with this therapist?""\'a0 Do I feel better? Am I reaching goals that I set at the onset of therapy?\'a0 Are difficult situations becoming easier by how I handle them? Training a therapist really isn't necessary, as all it requires is open and honest communication in order to give effective feedback that will in turn be helpful to you and your goals.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | You have the right therapist if you feel safe with that person. Safety consists of feeling that who you are and what you say is valued. The right therapist is not an 'all knowing person you must obey'. He or she is a person with skilled knowledge who respects you as a partner in your self discovery. The right therapist is also one who is kind, |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist for you may take time - or you may find one the first try. Two important things to think about when first finding a therapist are \'93do I feel safe?\'94 and \'93do I feel heard?\'94 The first time seeing a therapist can be anxiety provoking. It may be uncomfortable. Unless there are giant red flags about a therapist (things beyond meeting someone for the first time and answering uncomfortable but important questions), I always suggest seeing a therapist 3-4 times before making a decision to try another. It may end up that you feel like your therapist isn\'92t the best fit for you, but again, I encourage you to give them a couple times before moving on. When you get past the initial sessions of paperwork and gathering information, you can gauge the client - therapist relationship better, and when you find the right person to work with, you will know it.", | "This is a really important question, because you don't want to waste your time and money with a therapist who is not a good fit for you.\'a0 I think the most important factor that makes a good therapist match is trust-- do you trust this person to be able to help you meet your therapy goals?\'a0 There are few things you can do upfront to test this out, without spending a dime.\'a0 First, ask for personal recommendations from friends or others.\'a0 If you know someone who had a great experience with a certain therapist, you'll feel more confident in that person right off the bat.\'a0 Second, do your online research.\'a0 Google the person's name and read everything you can find.\'a0 Many therapists are starting to develop more of an online presence because they know that's a way future clients can develop trust without even stepping in their door.\'a0 See if they have a blog, social media posts, or even just read the tone of the content on their website.\'a0 This might give you a glimpse of their therapy style.\'a0 Finally, you can call or email potential therapists and provide a brief overview of your presenting problem and describe what you're looking for in your ideal therapist.\'a0 It sounds like you have a specific idea of what you're looking for... most therapists will be honest if they don't feel they're going to meet your expectations.\'a0 Some therapists offer free short phone consultations which can help you both decide if you would work well together.\'a0 Do your homework upfront, and you'll be well on your way to finding a great therapist for you!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. \'a0The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will help you develop into the you that you desire to be. Finding the right therapist is like finding a pair of black heels. Not just any black heels will do. But when you find them, you just know that your search is over. It is also wise to expect that they won\'92t always feel comfortable.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "You'll know you have the right therapist when after the first few sessions you feel comfortable enough to tell them things you wouldn't tell anyone else. It's important in therapy for that rapport to be built from the beginning and that you as the client feel comfortable enough to share what you need to share. You shouldn't feel judgement from your therapist and you should be able to trust the advice your therapist provides. Therapy isn't about advice, don't get me wrong, but to truly implement the changes that need to be implemented to improve your life you need to trust the person giving the advice. Your therapist should have your best interest at heart and truly listen to what you have to say. The therapist should be willing to meet you where you are in your world and attempt to see the world from your perspective to truly understand what you have been through. You need to feel comfortable in therapy to be yourself and say what's on your mind. Therapy shouldn't be something that should be dreaded but it can get uncomfortable depending on the depth of the things being discussed.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Finding the right therapist can be difficult, especially if you've never tried it before. Things to consider are location, availability and what specifically are you looking for. Some practitioners specifically only work with a certain type of issue (i.e eating disorders, adolescents, anger management, life transitions, anxiety...etc) and others can work with a variety of concerns.\'a0As far as training your therapist, you can't. You simply let them know what you are looking to work on or what you think may be an issue for you. Depending on the way they practice(their style of working with clients) is how they will then decide to make a treatment plan that works best for you.\'a0You can always ask them their specialty practice population, the problems they generally help others with and what type of mental health provider they are (Psychologist, social worker, licensed mental health counselor).", | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "Choosing the right therapist can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming. I know many people come to therapy with hesitations and potential fears but a therapist should be there to help you along the way and support you as you build a trusting and collaborative relationship. You won't have to ""train"" your therapist to give you what you need. Through open dialogue and feedback you and your therapist, together, can determine what works best for you. But do remember that being able to trust your therapist to guide and support you is key. So if you're having a hard time connecting with your therapist after 3-4 sessions, you will want to bring it up to them so you can discuss any barriers and if needed, request a referral for another therapist.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Counselors do not expect to gain your trust during the first session. Trust is earned and gained through the therapeutic process. You may know you have the right therapist if you feel a lack of judgement or even unconditional positive regard for the choices you make in therapy. Good counselors will keep you accountable for your actions without making you feel ashamed of the choice you made.Counselors already have the training to give you what you need in treatment, and if they don't they are ethically obligated to refer you to a provider that does. That being said, the first few visits with your counselor will be goal oriented- creating realistic and obtainable goals that will allow you and your therapist to see positive change when it is made.", | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "You will know you have the right therapist when you feel at ease and comfortable to share deep feelings.You do not hold back and feel total acceptance and validation by your therapist. Listen to your feelings and letthem guide your decision.Your therapist and you will work together to decide what is best for you with regards to the type of treatment, frequency andduration. It is about collaborating and deciding together on the treatment plan that will help you to achieve your counseling goals.", | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "The most important thing is it has to feel right.\'a0 While that sounds vague and not very scientific it is the most important part of therapy.\'a0 Us counselors call it therapeutic rapport and without it therapy is not very effective.\'a0 You want to know you can trust your therapist, that you are not being judged, that they respect your privacy, that you feel comfortable talking to them about the good and the bad.\'a0 You want to feel heard and know you therapist is genuine . Not all therapist are a good fit for everyone.\'a0 Go with your gut :) As an added note I recommend going with a therapist who has done their own therapy!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "What an important question! I think one of the first things to assess is this: Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? Do you feel like you can talk openly about what's going on in your life without feeling judged? Do you experience your therapy as a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings? Feeling comfortable with your therapist is a crucial factor.\'a0Once you feel comfortable with your therapist, you can have a conversation about what works for you in therapy. Tell your therapist what is helpful, and what you don't find helpful. A skilled therapist can shift his or her style and techniques to meet your individual needs, and this may be an ongoing conversation that the two of you have during therapy.\'a0Oftentimes, there is just an X factor between client and therapist that either makes the relationship work or can make it feel like something is missing. This is no one's fault, it's just that not every therapist will be a perfect match for every client.\'a0If you feel uncomfortable with your therapist or feel like that x factor is missing, it is a good idea to keep searching for therapist who is right for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "This is a great question. Finding the right therapist can be tricky because you don't really know how someone will be like until you meet them. A few ways to prescreen are to:- Visit the therapist's website, psychologytoday profile, social media, etc...- Have a phone call with the therapist prior to your first appointmentOnce you meet your therapist it is important to be clear with your wishes and expectations. We are trained in helping you thrive in your life but we cannot mind read so if you don't tell us, we won't know. Don't be shy about what you like and what you don't like. A good therapist will listen to your needs, process them with you, and create a customized plan that works for you and your life. A good therapist will also not take anything you say (even criticism) personally.\'a0Coming to therapy is hard and often times you might not want to go. What makes a good therapist is someone who understands this and tries to make you feel as comfortable as possible while you address uncomfortable topics.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "I believe that the right counsellor will help you feel empowered, supported and understood. You should feel comfortable opening up and not be concerned that they will judge you for what you say or decide to do. I find this important to let my clients know during intake that they will never be judged for the decisions they decide to take while going over options in sessions together with me.\'a0In terms of what you need from treatment, please feel comfortable to open up to your therapist and tell them what you need from them. For example, do you prefer them to challenge you with questions, listen to your story and ask questions throughout or near the end, give you work to do outside of sessions? The therapy sessions will work best for you if you can help them support you in what will work for you.It can sometimes take a few trials of different therapists to find the right one so please do not give up if you feel disheartened! You should feel proud of yourself for taking the first big step in asking for help, that is not easy to do and you are on the right track already!", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "Such a good question! \'a0Sometimes, clients will feel like they are not connecting with their therapist and will put it on themselves. \'a0In truth, the bond between therapist and client is the #1 predictor of positive outcomes in therapy. \'a0Ask yourself these questions: does it feel like this person can come to care about me? \'a0Do they remember from week to week what we touched on? \'a0Do I feel compassion from this person? Do they allow me my difficult and painful feelings too, or do they try to rescue me? \'a0On your other question - I suggest you ask your therapist what goals he/she has for your treatment. \'a0See if they respond with interest and participation, or if they become clinical and distant. \'a0Ideally, you and your therapist jointly develop your goals, and check on your progress on a frequent basis. \'a0I don't know if you can actually 'train' your therapist - we can be a hard bunch to train! :-) \'a0- but you can definitely tell your therapist what works for you, and what didn't work, at the end of each session. \'a0How they react will also tell you a lot about whether this is the right person for you.", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "This is a great question. There could be a few ways to \'93know\'94\
that you\'92ve found a good fit and you and your therapist are therapeutically compatible.\
First, I would recommend listening to your intuition and pay attention to how\
you feel, if there are feeling-indicators that you are comfortable, feel safe\
and willing to open up and share your story.\'a0\
Second, do you feel the therapist you are considering will support and challenge\
you in ways you need.\'a0 Some therapist\
offers a free consultation.\'a0 This might\
be a good opportunity to take advantage of.Stephanie C, MA, LADC, LPCC (pre-licensed)\'a0www.stephanietherapy.com", |
How would I know if I have the right therapist?"How do you know you have the right therapist for you?\
How would I know how to ""train"" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment?" | "Quick Way to Assess a\
Great Therapist\'a0A colleague and I were discussing the characteristics of\
successful therapists. I gave him some traits, some of which were listed by\
Robinson (2012). The therapist should be able to listen to your story, build\
rapport, establish a relationship, demonstrate empathy, adapt treatments to the\
client/situation, use effective communication skills, exhibit confidence in use\
of therapeutic techniques, and repeatedly update skills with ongoing education\
and research. \'a0You should talk with the therapist. In addition to asking\
the therapist about his/her experiences and specialty in treating the issue you\
want to address; you will gain a sense of the therapist\'92s ability to connect\
with you in your first phone call or meeting with him/her. This is why I offer\
a free 15-minute phone consultation. You can use the above criteria to gauge\
the therapist\'92s ability to do the following: Hear you, join with you in\
understanding the issue, and indicate some ways in which the issue may be\
treated.Regarding training a therapist, just ask the therapist if he or she can comply with what you are looking for, or what has worked with you before if you have had prior counseling. If you just like a therapist to listen, you are looking for a non-directive therapist. If you want one to be more active in guiding you, choose a directive therapist. You can also ask them with which type of client/issue they work best.\'a0I specialize treating anxiety and relationships and would\
like to talk with you if you have questions about how I may be able to help\
you. \'a0Jim Ciraky PhDLicensed Professional Counselor GA, USAAdventHelp.com404.293.5654", | "Good question!The client's job is to concentrate on stating the details of their problem and to thoughtfully engage in a dialogue about these areas with the therapist.The most difficult job for a client is willingness to self-examine, hold oneself accountable for relationship and life situations, and honestly feel the difficult, often painful feelings and insecurities which troubling situations create.The client doesn't train the therapist.If you feel you are with a therapist who requires you to train them, then politely decline continuing to pay for their services.Then find yourself a different therapist who feels secure and knowledgeable enough in their skills to not require training by their client.", |
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