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"content": "Part time musician/audio engineer here. Also 3rd year PhD student. I wrote, arranged, recorded, engineered and released an album all by myself last year, and am currently working on my 2nd release, as well as two papers.",
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"content": "Part time musician/audio engineer here. Also 3rd year PhD student. I wrote, arranged, recorded, engineered and released an album all by myself last year, and am currently working on my 2nd release, as well as two papers.",
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What non-academic achievement did you complete during your PhD? As somebody who will be embarking on a PhD in the fall, I'd like to hear a little bit more about what people have accomplished in their personal lives during graduate school. Did you write a fictional novel? Did you make a video game? Have you gotten married or traveled the world? Did you run a marathon? What personal goals did you achieve during your PhD that helped you escape from the research from time to time? Share any stories here - big or small! | fe35bc27e39e2f9a267bb0fe1de652197b0fb001454942339e62a90342dee5e8 | [
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had a gay “voiced” professor and I don’t recall anyone being bothered by it or him having any less authority. Universities are pretty liberal especially this generation of students, though there’s always these people but eh, what can you do. Own it ! It’s you, you’re you, you’re fine.",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "(37M straight)Just be yourself. If you get discriminated against by your employer for “gay” attributes then get a lawyer. Personally, your voice is your voice. To me someone’s voice is neither gay or straight, it’s just their voice. If people don’t like it, oh well. Try not to stress yourself out over this.",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Many things are \"unprofessional\" not because there is anything wrong with them but because the people saying \"unprofessional\" are biased or bigoted. Your voice is influenced by multiple aspects of your physiology. It's not something you have a lot of choice in like clothing, punctuality, hygiene, etc.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "There will always be homophobic people, but I don't think your voice itself can be \"unprofessional.\" I'm trans and gay and around the same age and I've been worried about my voice or mannerisms being seen as \"too feminine\" as well, but it's never been a problem for me while teaching. My main concern while teaching has always been being so close in age to my students. I've also had several professors who were openly gay, and as a student, I did not notice them having issues with this in the classroom (no snarky comments from students, they didn't seem less respected). I am unsure how being openly gay impacted them in terms of getting hired or dealing with other faculty. I imagine this depends on field and school/department.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Don't worry about it. As long as your students can hear and understand your voice, you're good to go.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I (straight male) had an English professor in college for a short while who was gay and spoke with the stereotypical voice and mannerisms. He was a super cool guy and I didn’t think anything of it and it didn’t make me view him as less of an authority on the subject. I did have to drop his class because it was an elective and I had taken too much on that semester but it seemed like an interesting class (Shakespearean Lit, I believe) and he seemed like a cool guy. I think you’re good.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Pretending I don't have a \"gay voice\" is exhausting and never worth it. If others don't like it, too bad. I'd rather lead by example for other queer folks (and non-queer folks who may share similar traits)",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "(37M straight)Just be yourself. If you get discriminated against by your employer for “gay” attributes then get a lawyer. Personally, your voice is your voice. To me someone’s voice is neither gay or straight, it’s just their voice. If people don’t like it, oh well. Try not to stress yourself out over this.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My advice as a long-time professor is to not worry about it. There is no such thing as \"too gay\". Anyone who has a problem with how you sound is a bigot, and you shouldn't change yourself to accommodate bigots. That said, I suspect many of us do have a \"classroom voice\" which is perhaps louder, clearer, a bit more measured, and less casual than our typical speaking voice. Mine is geared toward being heard, understood, and respected. I would \\*not\\* change anything to accommodate someone who just had a problem with how I sound.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Many things are \"unprofessional\" not because there is anything wrong with them but because the people saying \"unprofessional\" are biased or bigoted. Your voice is influenced by multiple aspects of your physiology. It's not something you have a lot of choice in like clothing, punctuality, hygiene, etc.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Please don’t worry about that. I promise there is nothing wrong with your voice.",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Students can find all manner of reasons to exercise prejudice if they want - sexuality, gender, disability, ethnicity. This is their problem and their closed mindedness means they miss out. You are an expert in your field. You worked hard to get there. They are lucky to have your expertise. You are speaking with your authentic voice. Do not let anyone else define you or your characteristics.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "There will always be homophobic people, but I don't think your voice itself can be \"unprofessional.\" I'm trans and gay and around the same age and I've been worried about my voice or mannerisms being seen as \"too feminine\" as well, but it's never been a problem for me while teaching. My main concern while teaching has always been being so close in age to my students. I've also had several professors who were openly gay, and as a student, I did not notice them having issues with this in the classroom (no snarky comments from students, they didn't seem less respected). I am unsure how being openly gay impacted them in terms of getting hired or dealing with other faculty. I imagine this depends on field and school/department.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "You might like this documentary, it kind of explores some similar insecurities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do_I_Sound_Gay%3F A\"gay voice\" is an accent and thus mostly unconscious, and it's not something you could easily (or should necessarily have to change) Edit: there's an actual linguist in this thread as well, also read what they said",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Don't worry about it. As long as your students can hear and understand your voice, you're good to go.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Just curious, but is there a reason or resources to explain why \"gay voice\" is a thing or how it arose? Is it a particular subcultural accent phenomenon? I have a hard time thinking it's primarily a biologically determined thing, but I may be wrong.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I (straight male) had an English professor in college for a short while who was gay and spoke with the stereotypical voice and mannerisms. He was a super cool guy and I didn’t think anything of it and it didn’t make me view him as less of an authority on the subject. I did have to drop his class because it was an elective and I had taken too much on that semester but it seemed like an interesting class (Shakespearean Lit, I believe) and he seemed like a cool guy. I think you’re good.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "(37M straight)Just be yourself. If you get discriminated against by your employer for “gay” attributes then get a lawyer. Personally, your voice is your voice. To me someone’s voice is neither gay or straight, it’s just their voice. If people don’t like it, oh well. Try not to stress yourself out over this.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My advice as a long-time professor is to not worry about it. There is no such thing as \"too gay\". Anyone who has a problem with how you sound is a bigot, and you shouldn't change yourself to accommodate bigots. That said, I suspect many of us do have a \"classroom voice\" which is perhaps louder, clearer, a bit more measured, and less casual than our typical speaking voice. Mine is geared toward being heard, understood, and respected. I would \\*not\\* change anything to accommodate someone who just had a problem with how I sound.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Many things are \"unprofessional\" not because there is anything wrong with them but because the people saying \"unprofessional\" are biased or bigoted. Your voice is influenced by multiple aspects of your physiology. It's not something you have a lot of choice in like clothing, punctuality, hygiene, etc.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Please don’t worry about that. I promise there is nothing wrong with your voice.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Students can find all manner of reasons to exercise prejudice if they want - sexuality, gender, disability, ethnicity. This is their problem and their closed mindedness means they miss out. You are an expert in your field. You worked hard to get there. They are lucky to have your expertise. You are speaking with your authentic voice. Do not let anyone else define you or your characteristics.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Some young men will be disrespectful to anyone who they don't see as inherently authorative (read: traditionally masculine). This is a small contingent and when/if problems arise just approach firmly.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"role": "user"
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "As you can probably imagine, the degree to which this sort of thing will be noticed will depend on where you are working. It is a form of (self) Othering, a practice that highlights differences, and in some places that will be viewed hostilely, and in some it will be fine and perhaps even seen as a beneficial form of diversity. If you wanted to teach at Bob Jones University or BYU, you probably would need to hide all of that — but presumably you have no interest in teaching at places that would be actively hostile towards who you are. Other than places that are overtly hostile to homosexuality, though, I'm not sure there's as much one can do to generalize. It is unlikely to be the case that \"deep south and midwest bad\" and \"coastal good\" — as I am sure you have found, there are broad trends, but there are also individual cases both positive and negative that can surprise one when it comes to prejudice, whether talking about faculty, administration, or students. I suspect you would probably get a sense pretty quickly when interviewing whether a place was going to react in a hostile way, but I don't know from any personal experience. My idealistic sense is that you should be who you are, and if they hire you, assume they hired all of you. And if it keeps you from getting a job, then it would have been a job in which you had to deny being who you were, which is not a job you would likely want. But I know that in practice these things are often more complicated than that (if your option is between \"no job\" and \"an oppressive job,\" for example, the answer might be as clear). This is a decision you need to make for yourself.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "There will always be homophobic people, but I don't think your voice itself can be \"unprofessional.\" I'm trans and gay and around the same age and I've been worried about my voice or mannerisms being seen as \"too feminine\" as well, but it's never been a problem for me while teaching. My main concern while teaching has always been being so close in age to my students. I've also had several professors who were openly gay, and as a student, I did not notice them having issues with this in the classroom (no snarky comments from students, they didn't seem less respected). I am unsure how being openly gay impacted them in terms of getting hired or dealing with other faculty. I imagine this depends on field and school/department.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "You might like this documentary, it kind of explores some similar insecurities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do_I_Sound_Gay%3F A\"gay voice\" is an accent and thus mostly unconscious, and it's not something you could easily (or should necessarily have to change) Edit: there's an actual linguist in this thread as well, also read what they said",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Don't worry about it. As long as your students can hear and understand your voice, you're good to go.",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I (straight male) had an English professor in college for a short while who was gay and spoke with the stereotypical voice and mannerisms. He was a super cool guy and I didn’t think anything of it and it didn’t make me view him as less of an authority on the subject. I did have to drop his class because it was an elective and I had taken too much on that semester but it seemed like an interesting class (Shakespearean Lit, I believe) and he seemed like a cool guy. I think you’re good.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I think it depends on the country, but in my UK experience, certain students will love you way more if you're obviously gay. I am a dykey-looking person with short hair and button up shirts, and my QM students get to know me a lot better because I stick out to them, unlike the other TAs. I would also say that while in uni, the yeargroup's favourite lecturer was a wonderful camp gay guy who also happened to be amazing at his job and very friendly. So, if you're in a resonably accepting environment, I would say that students and young people are nothing to worry about. I get a bit more weirdness from older faculty members, but even then, I think they mostly just panic and think they have to behave a specific way around me.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I’m low key shocked by all the comments going “well I have literally no experience with this but be yourself and I’m sure you’ll be fine” or “one of my teachers was kinda flaming and I loved him, so I’m sure everyone will love you”. What I can tell you is that if people have an issue with your voice, it will never ever be expressed to you in those terms. It’ll always be in comments about your “professionalism”. From personal experience I wouldn’t worry about it from faculty peers but I do expect you’re playing on a harder mode with student evals. It’s not the end of the world. Lots of us deal with it, and I don’t think trying to cover it up is going to help you. You actually do have to be yourself, but be on the lookout for (always polite, always coded) feedback about your mannerisms that is absolutely rooted in bias.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "(37M straight)Just be yourself. If you get discriminated against by your employer for “gay” attributes then get a lawyer. Personally, your voice is your voice. To me someone’s voice is neither gay or straight, it’s just their voice. If people don’t like it, oh well. Try not to stress yourself out over this.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Don't worry about it. As long as your students can hear and understand your voice, you're good to go.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I had two professors during my undergrad who had the \"gay voice.\" Didn't think twice about it. One was really really great, and the other was below average as a lecturer. But their voices had nothing to with the quality of their teaching or how seriously the class took them. Universities (especially the new batches of students) tend to be really progressive and accepting of LGBTQ people. Just be yourself and focus on the quality of the material you present and you will be absolutely fine.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "(37M straight)Just be yourself. If you get discriminated against by your employer for “gay” attributes then get a lawyer. Personally, your voice is your voice. To me someone’s voice is neither gay or straight, it’s just their voice. If people don’t like it, oh well. Try not to stress yourself out over this.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My advice as a long-time professor is to not worry about it. There is no such thing as \"too gay\". Anyone who has a problem with how you sound is a bigot, and you shouldn't change yourself to accommodate bigots. That said, I suspect many of us do have a \"classroom voice\" which is perhaps louder, clearer, a bit more measured, and less casual than our typical speaking voice. Mine is geared toward being heard, understood, and respected. I would \\*not\\* change anything to accommodate someone who just had a problem with how I sound.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My only question is how you're a professor at 26.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Many things are \"unprofessional\" not because there is anything wrong with them but because the people saying \"unprofessional\" are biased or bigoted. Your voice is influenced by multiple aspects of your physiology. It's not something you have a lot of choice in like clothing, punctuality, hygiene, etc.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Please don’t worry about that. I promise there is nothing wrong with your voice.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Students can find all manner of reasons to exercise prejudice if they want - sexuality, gender, disability, ethnicity. This is their problem and their closed mindedness means they miss out. You are an expert in your field. You worked hard to get there. They are lucky to have your expertise. You are speaking with your authentic voice. Do not let anyone else define you or your characteristics.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Some young men will be disrespectful to anyone who they don't see as inherently authorative (read: traditionally masculine). This is a small contingent and when/if problems arise just approach firmly.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I have a very perky cheerleader voice (valley girl if you’re old enough to know what that means) and I’ve always hated it. I recently needed speech therapy and thought seriously about adding vocal coaching to work on my accent but I researched and discovered it is REALLY hard work. A trans friend is doing it but she can only maintain for about 30 min because it’s so strenuous. For her it’s worth it to keep doing it but for those of us who are just mildly bothered….nah. I am sure it affects how misogynists see me and rank me but 🤷🏻♀️ they are probably also bothered by my clothes and other things about me that I can change but choose not to so fuck it",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "As you can probably imagine, the degree to which this sort of thing will be noticed will depend on where you are working. It is a form of (self) Othering, a practice that highlights differences, and in some places that will be viewed hostilely, and in some it will be fine and perhaps even seen as a beneficial form of diversity. If you wanted to teach at Bob Jones University or BYU, you probably would need to hide all of that — but presumably you have no interest in teaching at places that would be actively hostile towards who you are. Other than places that are overtly hostile to homosexuality, though, I'm not sure there's as much one can do to generalize. It is unlikely to be the case that \"deep south and midwest bad\" and \"coastal good\" — as I am sure you have found, there are broad trends, but there are also individual cases both positive and negative that can surprise one when it comes to prejudice, whether talking about faculty, administration, or students. I suspect you would probably get a sense pretty quickly when interviewing whether a place was going to react in a hostile way, but I don't know from any personal experience. My idealistic sense is that you should be who you are, and if they hire you, assume they hired all of you. And if it keeps you from getting a job, then it would have been a job in which you had to deny being who you were, which is not a job you would likely want. But I know that in practice these things are often more complicated than that (if your option is between \"no job\" and \"an oppressive job,\" for example, the answer might be as clear). This is a decision you need to make for yourself.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "There will always be homophobic people, but I don't think your voice itself can be \"unprofessional.\" I'm trans and gay and around the same age and I've been worried about my voice or mannerisms being seen as \"too feminine\" as well, but it's never been a problem for me while teaching. My main concern while teaching has always been being so close in age to my students. I've also had several professors who were openly gay, and as a student, I did not notice them having issues with this in the classroom (no snarky comments from students, they didn't seem less respected). I am unsure how being openly gay impacted them in terms of getting hired or dealing with other faculty. I imagine this depends on field and school/department.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "You might like this documentary, it kind of explores some similar insecurities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do_I_Sound_Gay%3F A\"gay voice\" is an accent and thus mostly unconscious, and it's not something you could easily (or should necessarily have to change) Edit: there's an actual linguist in this thread as well, also read what they said",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Don't worry about it. As long as your students can hear and understand your voice, you're good to go.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I (straight male) had an English professor in college for a short while who was gay and spoke with the stereotypical voice and mannerisms. He was a super cool guy and I didn’t think anything of it and it didn’t make me view him as less of an authority on the subject. I did have to drop his class because it was an elective and I had taken too much on that semester but it seemed like an interesting class (Shakespearean Lit, I believe) and he seemed like a cool guy. I think you’re good.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I think it depends on the country, but in my UK experience, certain students will love you way more if you're obviously gay. I am a dykey-looking person with short hair and button up shirts, and my QM students get to know me a lot better because I stick out to them, unlike the other TAs. I would also say that while in uni, the yeargroup's favourite lecturer was a wonderful camp gay guy who also happened to be amazing at his job and very friendly. So, if you're in a resonably accepting environment, I would say that students and young people are nothing to worry about. I get a bit more weirdness from older faculty members, but even then, I think they mostly just panic and think they have to behave a specific way around me.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "The reality of the matter is anybody who isn't a straight white cis male is seen as less competent in student evals (even among students who hold beliefs in equality). That said your voice \"sounding gay\" is probably the least of it.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "My advice as a long-time professor is to not worry about it. There is no such thing as \"too gay\". Anyone who has a problem with how you sound is a bigot, and you shouldn't change yourself to accommodate bigots. That said, I suspect many of us do have a \"classroom voice\" which is perhaps louder, clearer, a bit more measured, and less casual than our typical speaking voice. Mine is geared toward being heard, understood, and respected. I would \\*not\\* change anything to accommodate someone who just had a problem with how I sound.",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Many things are \"unprofessional\" not because there is anything wrong with them but because the people saying \"unprofessional\" are biased or bigoted. Your voice is influenced by multiple aspects of your physiology. It's not something you have a lot of choice in like clothing, punctuality, hygiene, etc.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Please don’t worry about that. I promise there is nothing wrong with your voice.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Students can find all manner of reasons to exercise prejudice if they want - sexuality, gender, disability, ethnicity. This is their problem and their closed mindedness means they miss out. You are an expert in your field. You worked hard to get there. They are lucky to have your expertise. You are speaking with your authentic voice. Do not let anyone else define you or your characteristics.",
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"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Some young men will be disrespectful to anyone who they don't see as inherently authorative (read: traditionally masculine). This is a small contingent and when/if problems arise just approach firmly.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "I have a very perky cheerleader voice (valley girl if you’re old enough to know what that means) and I’ve always hated it. I recently needed speech therapy and thought seriously about adding vocal coaching to work on my accent but I researched and discovered it is REALLY hard work. A trans friend is doing it but she can only maintain for about 30 min because it’s so strenuous. For her it’s worth it to keep doing it but for those of us who are just mildly bothered….nah. I am sure it affects how misogynists see me and rank me but 🤷🏻♀️ they are probably also bothered by my clothes and other things about me that I can change but choose not to so fuck it",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
"role": "user"
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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"content": "Being a professor and the \"gay voice\" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe?",
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"content": "Adding your country would be relevant information. In the US/Canada/UK few will care. In other parts of the world it might be more of an issue.",
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"content": "We have a young new male professor who doesn’t have an overtly gay voice but wore dangly earrings every day this semester and presented queer-ish. Don’t hide yourself, representation matters and all the students in the class were obsessed with him. Mostly because he’s a great teacher but also because he looks like us and talks like us and clearly isn’t afraid to be himself. Be yourself. Your students need to see you and those who have a problem with it need to get sorted out. That’s what college is for.",
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Being a professor and the "gay voice" and manneirism (26M gay) I've always had a concern abou my voice sounding too gay but only about dating and hooking up. Now I have this concern about the classroom too. Is it something bad to have a gay voice while being a professor? Read something about it being unprofessional and makes you being disrespected. I have this memory about all my male teachers and professors being a bit feminine even thought they're all straight. So is it ok maybe? | c8b86bdf43c97a09a52759d0853643e743f51b9203de870d86891912cc1c4c21 | [
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"content": "As you can probably imagine, the degree to which this sort of thing will be noticed will depend on where you are working. It is a form of (self) Othering, a practice that highlights differences, and in some places that will be viewed hostilely, and in some it will be fine and perhaps even seen as a beneficial form of diversity. If you wanted to teach at Bob Jones University or BYU, you probably would need to hide all of that — but presumably you have no interest in teaching at places that would be actively hostile towards who you are. Other than places that are overtly hostile to homosexuality, though, I'm not sure there's as much one can do to generalize. It is unlikely to be the case that \"deep south and midwest bad\" and \"coastal good\" — as I am sure you have found, there are broad trends, but there are also individual cases both positive and negative that can surprise one when it comes to prejudice, whether talking about faculty, administration, or students. I suspect you would probably get a sense pretty quickly when interviewing whether a place was going to react in a hostile way, but I don't know from any personal experience. My idealistic sense is that you should be who you are, and if they hire you, assume they hired all of you. And if it keeps you from getting a job, then it would have been a job in which you had to deny being who you were, which is not a job you would likely want. But I know that in practice these things are often more complicated than that (if your option is between \"no job\" and \"an oppressive job,\" for example, the answer might be as clear). This is a decision you need to make for yourself.",
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"content": "There will always be homophobic people, but I don't think your voice itself can be \"unprofessional.\" I'm trans and gay and around the same age and I've been worried about my voice or mannerisms being seen as \"too feminine\" as well, but it's never been a problem for me while teaching. My main concern while teaching has always been being so close in age to my students. I've also had several professors who were openly gay, and as a student, I did not notice them having issues with this in the classroom (no snarky comments from students, they didn't seem less respected). I am unsure how being openly gay impacted them in terms of getting hired or dealing with other faculty. I imagine this depends on field and school/department.",
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"content": "You might like this documentary, it kind of explores some similar insecurities https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Do_I_Sound_Gay%3F A\"gay voice\" is an accent and thus mostly unconscious, and it's not something you could easily (or should necessarily have to change) Edit: there's an actual linguist in this thread as well, also read what they said",
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