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Advice for dealing with toxic fellow graduate student(s) *Thanks in advance for any advice. I've been blessed with un-dramatic, secure, and emotionally mature friends (which is great), but it's left me unsure how to handle all of this. At this point, I mostly just want to be rid of the drama. Also, if anyone has any suggestions on making friends in grad school (particularly outside of their grad program), I'd really appreciate it. If you want/need details on my specific situation and why I'm asking, see below.* I started my Ph.D. last year, which wasn't the easiest time to move and begin a new program. Against the odds, I made friends with a few fellow students last February. Everything seemed great. However, a couple of months in, one student in particular (I'll call her A) started displaying some toxic behavior. At first, it was things like subtly putting down others when they did well or did a homework problem correctly when A got it wrong. Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? I am inclined not to say anything because I don't think it would do any good, but I've had some friends give me the opposite advice. * Any tips for how I can avoid situations or people like this in the future? *TL;DR - I made a toxic friend in my first year of grad school. Now I'm just exhausted from all of this want to figure out a way of distancing myself gracefully and moving on with my Ph.D. without being totally socially isolated.* | a25d932b632733eb717d57c09a44557b13d565487e5a854b542adf197777d161 | [
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Advice for dealing with toxic fellow graduate student(s) *Thanks in advance for any advice. I've been blessed with un-dramatic, secure, and emotionally mature friends (which is great), but it's left me unsure how to handle all of this. At this point, I mostly just want to be rid of the drama. Also, if anyone has any suggestions on making friends in grad school (particularly outside of their grad program), I'd really appreciate it. If you want/need details on my specific situation and why I'm asking, see below.* I started my Ph.D. last year, which wasn't the easiest time to move and begin a new program. Against the odds, I made friends with a few fellow students last February. Everything seemed great. However, a couple of months in, one student in particular (I'll call her A) started displaying some toxic behavior. At first, it was things like subtly putting down others when they did well or did a homework problem correctly when A got it wrong. Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? I am inclined not to say anything because I don't think it would do any good, but I've had some friends give me the opposite advice. * Any tips for how I can avoid situations or people like this in the future? *TL;DR - I made a toxic friend in my first year of grad school. Now I'm just exhausted from all of this want to figure out a way of distancing myself gracefully and moving on with my Ph.D. without being totally socially isolated.* | a25d932b632733eb717d57c09a44557b13d565487e5a854b542adf197777d161 | [
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Advice for dealing with toxic fellow graduate student(s) *Thanks in advance for any advice. I've been blessed with un-dramatic, secure, and emotionally mature friends (which is great), but it's left me unsure how to handle all of this. At this point, I mostly just want to be rid of the drama. Also, if anyone has any suggestions on making friends in grad school (particularly outside of their grad program), I'd really appreciate it. If you want/need details on my specific situation and why I'm asking, see below.* I started my Ph.D. last year, which wasn't the easiest time to move and begin a new program. Against the odds, I made friends with a few fellow students last February. Everything seemed great. However, a couple of months in, one student in particular (I'll call her A) started displaying some toxic behavior. At first, it was things like subtly putting down others when they did well or did a homework problem correctly when A got it wrong. Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? I am inclined not to say anything because I don't think it would do any good, but I've had some friends give me the opposite advice. * Any tips for how I can avoid situations or people like this in the future? *TL;DR - I made a toxic friend in my first year of grad school. Now I'm just exhausted from all of this want to figure out a way of distancing myself gracefully and moving on with my Ph.D. without being totally socially isolated.* | a25d932b632733eb717d57c09a44557b13d565487e5a854b542adf197777d161 | [
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Advice for dealing with toxic fellow graduate student(s) *Thanks in advance for any advice. I've been blessed with un-dramatic, secure, and emotionally mature friends (which is great), but it's left me unsure how to handle all of this. At this point, I mostly just want to be rid of the drama. Also, if anyone has any suggestions on making friends in grad school (particularly outside of their grad program), I'd really appreciate it. If you want/need details on my specific situation and why I'm asking, see below.* I started my Ph.D. last year, which wasn't the easiest time to move and begin a new program. Against the odds, I made friends with a few fellow students last February. Everything seemed great. However, a couple of months in, one student in particular (I'll call her A) started displaying some toxic behavior. At first, it was things like subtly putting down others when they did well or did a homework problem correctly when A got it wrong. Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? 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Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? 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Advice for dealing with toxic fellow graduate student(s) *Thanks in advance for any advice. I've been blessed with un-dramatic, secure, and emotionally mature friends (which is great), but it's left me unsure how to handle all of this. At this point, I mostly just want to be rid of the drama. Also, if anyone has any suggestions on making friends in grad school (particularly outside of their grad program), I'd really appreciate it. If you want/need details on my specific situation and why I'm asking, see below.* I started my Ph.D. last year, which wasn't the easiest time to move and begin a new program. Against the odds, I made friends with a few fellow students last February. Everything seemed great. However, a couple of months in, one student in particular (I'll call her A) started displaying some toxic behavior. At first, it was things like subtly putting down others when they did well or did a homework problem correctly when A got it wrong. Then it was talking about other friends in the group (particularly a young woman I'll call B, but everyone) behind their backs. The badmouthing could take a lot of forms. For example, she would say that B's fiance (who proposed to her last semester) was an alcoholic and a drug addict (he's not) and that we would probably need to hold an intervention when the relationship hit rock bottom in a couple years. She spoke horribly about B when they got engaged (what did she see in him, he's awkward, B is settling, B just got lucky finding love, B's fiance won't be happy with her forever, etc.). Other negative comments included others in the group being immature, liking gossip, being bad/unethical about research, being unproductive, naive, stupid, bad with money, etc. Things escalated when she tried to ice B out of the group (B didn't do something A wanted; A never told B she wanted this thing). At this point, I stepped in and continued hanging out with B despite A. A then decided to make up with B (although she is still mad, even enraged, and will talk about it given a chance). However, B thinks that this was just a small fight between the two of them. She doesn't know that A stopped inviting her to things (and attempted to get me to do the same) or that B still continually badmouths her. B thinks they are still good friends. For some, some definitions of friendship, maybe they are. After that, I started to realize that A has a history of turbulent relationships. She is not friends with any of her friends from high school or college (her words). She has already fallen out with at least two members of her cohort (she has been here a year longer than I have). Despite this, A is both charismatic and manipulative, which I think enables her to continually get away with how she treats people. In any case, I realized that it was only a matter of time until she got angry with me -- which is what happened less than a month later. I asked her about it after I realized what was going on. Apparently, it's because I wasn't sure I wanted to watch a particular movie and because I corrected her on homework a couple of times (e.g., "I don't think the answer to X can be Y because X divided by Z is not Y" -- I wasn't mean about it). The last two things made her question our friendship. She also told me that she only became friends with me because she felt sorry for me because of COVID, that we only became friends she had recently fallen out with a different friend, and so forth. Just a whole slew of statements that I'm sure were designed to hurt me. I also tried to talk with her about the badmouthing thing, which only resulted in her gaslighting me - she tried to tell me that she hadn't said any of those things, which is just BS because she said them all the time. At that point, I knew there was no recovering the relationship, and I was no longer interested in interacting with her. It doesn't seem worth it. Here are my questions. However, really any advice or perspective would be great. * How should I handle this situation appropriately? I see graduate school as being a professional environment. How can I minimize damage? I'm worried about my reputation in the department given A's tendency to badmouth everyone. Typically if I didn't want to be friends with someone I would slowly distance myself by becoming busy with other things, but that seems hard given that everything with A generally seems very dramatic (she spread rumors and tried to complain to the department about one of the students she fell out with last year). * Does it make sense for me to distance myself from this friend group as a whole? Can I do that in academia or would that count as shutting the door on potentially useful relationships? * Does B deserve to know? I am inclined not to say anything because I don't think it would do any good, but I've had some friends give me the opposite advice. * Any tips for how I can avoid situations or people like this in the future? *TL;DR - I made a toxic friend in my first year of grad school. Now I'm just exhausted from all of this want to figure out a way of distancing myself gracefully and moving on with my Ph.D. without being totally socially isolated.* | a25d932b632733eb717d57c09a44557b13d565487e5a854b542adf197777d161 | [
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Help? So long story short. I whistleblew on 2 cohort members that were doing some unethical stuff. Ive been to by Director of grad studies that student conduct board agreed there were some violations. Since then since one of cohort members is also a lab partner.. My advisor has taken a rather shitty attitude towards me. He made a few comments like "Learn to work with your lab partner, or I will shut the lab down" He insisted i was a "problem" looked at my very direct shaking his hands palms open, with a look in his eyes of anger. His emphasis on the word "you" was very strong as well as his rigid mannerisms. He is co-chair to my depart. An anon letter was sent to chair. When I opened up to my advisor and basically ousted myself as the letter writer, he said he was left in the dark and knew nothing. I know this to be false because my advisor had met with my lab mate the day before I got my ass chewed. Interesting was day before i got ass chewed advisor was like apply to PhD program. Then next day he rescinded saying he doesnt know me well enough to make that recommendation. My research interest align well with my advisor but since whistleblowing ive seen a dark side of him. I even tried to offer him a peace offering of a cookie, in hopes we could chat. He refused cookie. Stating he couldn't take it. Ive been told by director of grad studies that the school takes retaliation serious.. but when informed him of the aggression from advisor, he has not replied back. | 3c09ac0208040f45d7c005c4a9bd7944e4f4cacde5cf7a4706917d683d8a0089 | [
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Help? So long story short. I whistleblew on 2 cohort members that were doing some unethical stuff. Ive been to by Director of grad studies that student conduct board agreed there were some violations. Since then since one of cohort members is also a lab partner.. My advisor has taken a rather shitty attitude towards me. He made a few comments like "Learn to work with your lab partner, or I will shut the lab down" He insisted i was a "problem" looked at my very direct shaking his hands palms open, with a look in his eyes of anger. His emphasis on the word "you" was very strong as well as his rigid mannerisms. He is co-chair to my depart. An anon letter was sent to chair. When I opened up to my advisor and basically ousted myself as the letter writer, he said he was left in the dark and knew nothing. I know this to be false because my advisor had met with my lab mate the day before I got my ass chewed. Interesting was day before i got ass chewed advisor was like apply to PhD program. Then next day he rescinded saying he doesnt know me well enough to make that recommendation. My research interest align well with my advisor but since whistleblowing ive seen a dark side of him. I even tried to offer him a peace offering of a cookie, in hopes we could chat. He refused cookie. Stating he couldn't take it. Ive been told by director of grad studies that the school takes retaliation serious.. but when informed him of the aggression from advisor, he has not replied back. | 3c09ac0208040f45d7c005c4a9bd7944e4f4cacde5cf7a4706917d683d8a0089 | [
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Help? So long story short. I whistleblew on 2 cohort members that were doing some unethical stuff. Ive been to by Director of grad studies that student conduct board agreed there were some violations. Since then since one of cohort members is also a lab partner.. My advisor has taken a rather shitty attitude towards me. He made a few comments like "Learn to work with your lab partner, or I will shut the lab down" He insisted i was a "problem" looked at my very direct shaking his hands palms open, with a look in his eyes of anger. His emphasis on the word "you" was very strong as well as his rigid mannerisms. He is co-chair to my depart. An anon letter was sent to chair. When I opened up to my advisor and basically ousted myself as the letter writer, he said he was left in the dark and knew nothing. I know this to be false because my advisor had met with my lab mate the day before I got my ass chewed. Interesting was day before i got ass chewed advisor was like apply to PhD program. Then next day he rescinded saying he doesnt know me well enough to make that recommendation. My research interest align well with my advisor but since whistleblowing ive seen a dark side of him. I even tried to offer him a peace offering of a cookie, in hopes we could chat. He refused cookie. Stating he couldn't take it. Ive been told by director of grad studies that the school takes retaliation serious.. but when informed him of the aggression from advisor, he has not replied back. | 3c09ac0208040f45d7c005c4a9bd7944e4f4cacde5cf7a4706917d683d8a0089 | [
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Help? So long story short. I whistleblew on 2 cohort members that were doing some unethical stuff. Ive been to by Director of grad studies that student conduct board agreed there were some violations. Since then since one of cohort members is also a lab partner.. My advisor has taken a rather shitty attitude towards me. He made a few comments like "Learn to work with your lab partner, or I will shut the lab down" He insisted i was a "problem" looked at my very direct shaking his hands palms open, with a look in his eyes of anger. His emphasis on the word "you" was very strong as well as his rigid mannerisms. He is co-chair to my depart. An anon letter was sent to chair. When I opened up to my advisor and basically ousted myself as the letter writer, he said he was left in the dark and knew nothing. I know this to be false because my advisor had met with my lab mate the day before I got my ass chewed. Interesting was day before i got ass chewed advisor was like apply to PhD program. Then next day he rescinded saying he doesnt know me well enough to make that recommendation. My research interest align well with my advisor but since whistleblowing ive seen a dark side of him. I even tried to offer him a peace offering of a cookie, in hopes we could chat. He refused cookie. Stating he couldn't take it. Ive been told by director of grad studies that the school takes retaliation serious.. but when informed him of the aggression from advisor, he has not replied back. | 3c09ac0208040f45d7c005c4a9bd7944e4f4cacde5cf7a4706917d683d8a0089 | [
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Help? So long story short. I whistleblew on 2 cohort members that were doing some unethical stuff. Ive been to by Director of grad studies that student conduct board agreed there were some violations. Since then since one of cohort members is also a lab partner.. My advisor has taken a rather shitty attitude towards me. He made a few comments like "Learn to work with your lab partner, or I will shut the lab down" He insisted i was a "problem" looked at my very direct shaking his hands palms open, with a look in his eyes of anger. His emphasis on the word "you" was very strong as well as his rigid mannerisms. He is co-chair to my depart. An anon letter was sent to chair. When I opened up to my advisor and basically ousted myself as the letter writer, he said he was left in the dark and knew nothing. I know this to be false because my advisor had met with my lab mate the day before I got my ass chewed. Interesting was day before i got ass chewed advisor was like apply to PhD program. Then next day he rescinded saying he doesnt know me well enough to make that recommendation. My research interest align well with my advisor but since whistleblowing ive seen a dark side of him. I even tried to offer him a peace offering of a cookie, in hopes we could chat. He refused cookie. Stating he couldn't take it. Ive been told by director of grad studies that the school takes retaliation serious.. but when informed him of the aggression from advisor, he has not replied back. | 3c09ac0208040f45d7c005c4a9bd7944e4f4cacde5cf7a4706917d683d8a0089 | [
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Is it just me that 20 something undergrads need a lot more these days? I'm just 33, but I'm beginning to feel like the newest crop of students needs a lot more handholding than I did when I was in school. I'm in a graduate program in counseling at a decent state institution in the midwest. We spend at least 20 minutes a class talking about how to do assignments that have fairly straightforward instructions. ​ I don't want to be "kids these days," but is this a common problem? | 6ee0739e6fe1ee520cee1ee33635aad18d2c2c77c661268c665918fdbf561f64 | [
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Update: Fly me cross country for a 1-hour interview? Hi all ... Seven months ago, I posted this ... -- "I applied for a full-time "Professor of Practice" (non tenure track) job at an Ivy ... They offered to fly me out for an interview ... Department Chair says they want me to give a 30 minute presentation to faculty and take questions from faculty for 30 minutes ... To clarify, I asked if there would be anything else for me to do - meet individually with faculty, talk to students, etc ... Nope, she said, just the one-hour interview ... Question: Is this normal? ... I have a sneaking suspicion that I am being flown out so they can say they interviewed X number of candidates ... But I'm new to this game, so ... Thanks for feedback ..." --- Several commentators said 1) Yes, this is weird and 2) I should go anyway, and try to talk with faculty members once there. Here's what happened. The interview was on a Friday, at noon. I arrived early. First, I tried to talk with the department chair. She wasn't available. Then I walked around looking for open office doors. It was a Friday, so ... not many faculty around. I went to the room where I would give my presentation and started setting up. As faculty trickled in, I spoke to several of them. They were friendly but it's hard to have a good discussion in that environment. My plan: Talk to them more after my presentation. Eventually, about 75 percent of the faculty showed up. The department chair arrived two minutes before the presentation was supposed to start. This was the first time I had spoken with her - our prior communications were through email. We shook hands. I gave my presentation. It went well, I thought. Had a robust back-and-forth with faculty members. They seemed interested. On the hour, my presentation ended. I picked up my computer and expected to walk out with everyone else. But the department chair instead shook my hand and said the faculty would now conduct a meeting. She thanked me for coming. I waited outside the room for 20 minutes or so waiting for everyone to come out. At that point, I was pretty frustrated, so I just left. A month passed. I got an offer for a TT position at an M1 college. I contacted the department chair at the Ivy for a chance at a counter. She thanked me but said they had chosen someone else. I took the TT position. A few weeks later, the Ivy announced that they had promoted a lecturer already teaching at their school into the position that I had interviewed for. What to make of all this? My guess is that they already wanted to promote the in-house candidate but had to interview a certain number of people. I also probably could have done more while there to improve my chances, instead of losing patience and leaving. I'm not bitter (I don't think!) and I'm happy with my new job but it all just seems ... strange. Anyway, that's the update, for anyone who cares ... | 5cd02d8ac19f97e393e9aa2b4619b8fd5030f5da5cf2fa8e6a48aeb7b942edcf | [
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Advice for a young professor dealing with academic burnout and needing to revive a flagging career? I started this job four years ago and they have been really hard ones for me. Between the demands of my academic job, a difficult department/institution, and some really tough family stuff, I am just wrung out. I am the only child of elderly parents who have had a continuous set of alternating health emergencies over the last four years. Two or even three times a year a parent required a long hospitalization and a complicated recovery that I had to take care of. A year ago my father passed away leaving the control of everything in the family to me (my mother has dementia among other chronic issues). Settling his estate and making sure my mother is cared for has been a very big job (not to mention dealing with the grief when I have a bit of time to do so, we were very close). Superficially, my department was understanding, saying to take the time I needed and family comes first, etc. In reality (and perhaps understandably), though, they saw my reduced productivity and attendance in the department and were not pleased. I just can't be the high-performing academic they want. I kept thinking that after each crisis, things would smooth out and I really get things done, but then another would come up. I've had a few painful and frank conversations with my chair and the provost. I think they could have been more supportive, but they weren't, and it's better not to think of what could have been and concentrate on the regular situation. I've managed to do all the service and teaching required, but that is not valued much. I tried to revive my research many times with collaborations and taking on new students. None of the students have worked out, they learned a lot but I ended up needing to redo all their work. (This could be my fault as well, not supervising them enough.) I have a lot of great collaborations, but that work has also been massively disrupted by my family issues, and they have lost patience with me (also understandably). Just down to it, much of the issue is that I do not have the energy and focus research requires. I need a new job, I just cannot perform at the level needed here, but I find myself feeling too burned out to go through the faculty job search process again. Also, I have not published in *years* and my last grant ran out in 2017, I have not had a new one (applied for a couple but no luck). My CV looks pretty sad right now. I should be manuscript-writing my ass off, job-applying my ass off, grant-writing my ass off, but I find I can barely get four hours of work done in a day. (As an aside, I'm not alone in all this. I have a husband, but he actually has had almost identical issues with his family and is also exhausted and grief-stricken. Additionally, he hates his job, whereas for me it feels more like my job hates me. I have seen a therapist and a psychiatrist. I am on anti-depressants and though I am not really depressed I think it maybe helps somewhat. They have both been sympathetic and helpful in some ways, but the consensus among them is that things are just really hard and my issues are a normal response to continuous stress.) Any advice on how to recover and revive? | 72d685f2bd4898c0f346f3f11194eb9bd29eb04c2411b7f0d66f12c81c63e77d | [
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Advice for a young professor dealing with academic burnout and needing to revive a flagging career? I started this job four years ago and they have been really hard ones for me. Between the demands of my academic job, a difficult department/institution, and some really tough family stuff, I am just wrung out. I am the only child of elderly parents who have had a continuous set of alternating health emergencies over the last four years. Two or even three times a year a parent required a long hospitalization and a complicated recovery that I had to take care of. A year ago my father passed away leaving the control of everything in the family to me (my mother has dementia among other chronic issues). Settling his estate and making sure my mother is cared for has been a very big job (not to mention dealing with the grief when I have a bit of time to do so, we were very close). Superficially, my department was understanding, saying to take the time I needed and family comes first, etc. In reality (and perhaps understandably), though, they saw my reduced productivity and attendance in the department and were not pleased. I just can't be the high-performing academic they want. I kept thinking that after each crisis, things would smooth out and I really get things done, but then another would come up. I've had a few painful and frank conversations with my chair and the provost. I think they could have been more supportive, but they weren't, and it's better not to think of what could have been and concentrate on the regular situation. I've managed to do all the service and teaching required, but that is not valued much. I tried to revive my research many times with collaborations and taking on new students. None of the students have worked out, they learned a lot but I ended up needing to redo all their work. (This could be my fault as well, not supervising them enough.) I have a lot of great collaborations, but that work has also been massively disrupted by my family issues, and they have lost patience with me (also understandably). Just down to it, much of the issue is that I do not have the energy and focus research requires. I need a new job, I just cannot perform at the level needed here, but I find myself feeling too burned out to go through the faculty job search process again. Also, I have not published in *years* and my last grant ran out in 2017, I have not had a new one (applied for a couple but no luck). My CV looks pretty sad right now. I should be manuscript-writing my ass off, job-applying my ass off, grant-writing my ass off, but I find I can barely get four hours of work done in a day. (As an aside, I'm not alone in all this. I have a husband, but he actually has had almost identical issues with his family and is also exhausted and grief-stricken. Additionally, he hates his job, whereas for me it feels more like my job hates me. I have seen a therapist and a psychiatrist. I am on anti-depressants and though I am not really depressed I think it maybe helps somewhat. They have both been sympathetic and helpful in some ways, but the consensus among them is that things are just really hard and my issues are a normal response to continuous stress.) Any advice on how to recover and revive? | 72d685f2bd4898c0f346f3f11194eb9bd29eb04c2411b7f0d66f12c81c63e77d | [
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My advisor submitted data he knew was false for a grant under my name I based my project off data showing a significant positive correlation from an experiment conducted before I joined the lab. However, when I reran the statistics myself, I found that there was no significant difference. My advisor thought that this was impossible, so we repeated the entire experiment (it took 6 months), but the results were still nonsignificant. I recently wrote a grant, and when my advisor reviewed my proposal he ADDED BACK IN THE INITIAL DATA we know is incorrect. I then pointed out the error, but he did not acknowledge my comment and submitted the grant under my name. Who can I talk to about how to navigate this issue without it being reported the the university, which could put my graduate career in jeopardy? I am speaking with a counselor about this, but he has limited knowledge of the academic research environment. Note: I am posting this from a friend’s alternate account. | 8421caa67f80178e276812fffc069c172b19ba030d2ae1b5046dc7216d515a0e | [
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My advisor submitted data he knew was false for a grant under my name I based my project off data showing a significant positive correlation from an experiment conducted before I joined the lab. However, when I reran the statistics myself, I found that there was no significant difference. My advisor thought that this was impossible, so we repeated the entire experiment (it took 6 months), but the results were still nonsignificant. I recently wrote a grant, and when my advisor reviewed my proposal he ADDED BACK IN THE INITIAL DATA we know is incorrect. I then pointed out the error, but he did not acknowledge my comment and submitted the grant under my name. Who can I talk to about how to navigate this issue without it being reported the the university, which could put my graduate career in jeopardy? I am speaking with a counselor about this, but he has limited knowledge of the academic research environment. Note: I am posting this from a friend’s alternate account. | 8421caa67f80178e276812fffc069c172b19ba030d2ae1b5046dc7216d515a0e | [
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Why are academic papers so difficult to read? This year was my first year working in a bio-statistics lab. I'm an undergrad with aspirations of pursuing a PhD in biostatistics. During lab meetings this year, we were required to read a paper once every two weeks or so, and I greatly struggled with understanding what was even trying to be said in most of these papers. When we spoke on the papers in meetings, the points seemed very simple and made the papers seem convoluted and full of jargon. Is this a common style in academic writing? Did any of you feel this way when you first began to read academic papers? I can't tell if I'm frustrated because I like to write in a simple style so most people can follow what I'm saying, or if I'm just not cut out for this kind of work. Any opinion on this? Reading so many papers has kind of discouraged me from writing my own papers in the future. I know I'll have to do it, but as of right now, I feel like I'll be awful at it. | d0d3b1ebc8000496b5530a12417774c9b60de2bdbda31436c7b18d541cf0af45 | [
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