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(alt-ac) How to get a job in industry with a Physics PhD - uphill battle against more qualified engineers? Question for STEM PhD's who've left for industry starting out without industry-specific knowledge: how did you compete with highly specialized engineers to get that first alt-ac job? I'm a few months away from defending my PhD in (theoretical) plasma physics and I've been convinced for a while now that the post-doc/adjunct track in my late 30's is not for me. As you might expect, my advisor and other peers in my field have zero industry experience and cannot offer me recommendations or connections to get that first job outside of an academic setting. I've already applied to a few generic placements at national labs per recommendation of a friend that left academia but haven't heard back, and don't just want to put my eggs in one basket so I've been casting nets into any private sector job where massively parallelized physics simulations are used (I used a MHD code in my research, so CFD/fluid modeling seems to be the closest fit). However, I'm finding all of them use highly proprietary engineering-specific software that there's no way I'd have any experience in without attending engineering school or working in an engineering setting, and the job listings are usually explicitly tailored to engineers. Some of my peers in data-heavy fields (astronomy) picked up a lot of ML/data science techniques in their research and have shared with me that the interview process for data science jobs is already at a high technical level as the field is saturated with PhD's jumping ship from academia, so even if I tugged some strings I think making that transition is something I don't really have the time for currently, so I would rather try something that would be a better fit to my current skill set and not set me back from getting a job for months. So how'd you do it? Can you compete with engineering bachelors in these circumstances or should I (gasp, shudder) take a post-doc and use the time to learn some industry-specific knowledge before jumping ship to a real world job? I'm aware post-docs are a big no-no for going into industry, but without connections or specific industry knowledge, I really don't know how to land a first job post-PhD. | 054ee54db35222d8339760fbe6ee419fcb14da3aa2070ea541fa860ace76528b | [
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Mastering out after 4 years PhD (US)? Hello everyone, Plant biologist here doing a PhD in USA. Will try to keep this short, but any insight or comments are greatly appreciated. I am currently in the beginning of my 4th year of my PhD program (+ 8 months of internship in the same lab for a total of almost 5 years of research). All my projects so far have been fishing projects, and all of them have failed (results have not been exactly good enough to pursue our hypothesis). I have met some grad students from my lab that have been into the PhD program for about 7 years when it should take 4-5, and I am worried I am on the same track, which is something I really don't want since I feel very burned out and don't see my CV getting super good even with the extra years. My PI have promised me to work on a paper I have been working on for 2 years, but requires some serious commitment from his part to be publishable. However, he is always busy and never do any substantial progress. So, at this point, I feel like I have 5 years of research experience, no papers, no projects for a good thesis that could allow me to graduate soon-ish... Which are my options? I am thinking to master out with a "bad" or "weak" thesis but to be honest the thought of the time I have put into this makes me feel awful. I am currently the only grad student in the lab and even then my PI prefers to give me projects that are slow, but he doesn't really work on the advancement of my career. He is a good person but definitively not the most interested PI in his students' career. My career goal is pretty unclear at this point since I have not work experience outside of academia because I went directly from undergrad to industry. Nevertheless, I am almost certain I don't wanna pursue academia anymore, which opens a whole another conversation. What would you do in my case? Master out? Keep going for a PhD even if it takes double the time I have already put into it + mental health cost? Thank you all for reading. | ca6e79653bd7852f6e67f2c0b8924e41d694de9ca9550cb4d4f1415dfd9d3786 | [
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Found out my collaborator is under HR investigation - should I still work with them? I'm a graduate student in the US looking to collaborate with this PI (not my own or on my advising committee, but is in my department) who works in a similar scientific field on an experiment. We've been planning this experiment over the last few months and so far things have been going fine despite them being unresponsive to my emails. I just heard from my friend, a student that was considering joining this PI's lab last summer (but didn't), that this PI has been verbally abusive to their students (including my friend) in the past. They were reported to HR by past students but nothing was done. Quite recently though, the PI physically threatened a student in their lab, but the PI was thankfully restrained before any physical damage was done. This incident was also reported, and now HR is investigating the PI. This PI does not have tenure so it is possible they will be fired. Perhaps this explains why they've been so unresponsive... anyway, does anyone have any advice for what to do? 1. Should I continue working with this PI as though I haven't heard anything? 2. Should I look for other collaborators in case they get fired? 3. Will I be looked down upon by colleagues in our field if I publish something with this PI, especially if they get fired for this incident? Even if they don't get fired, I'm not excited about working with this PI anymore. I believe my friend and the other students she spoke to, and I don't wanna be attacked! Thank you all for any input! | 80904c9159035c659479261ba59474034a5a8b25f7a71dee5e021e3255f79720 | [
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Found out my collaborator is under HR investigation - should I still work with them? I'm a graduate student in the US looking to collaborate with this PI (not my own or on my advising committee, but is in my department) who works in a similar scientific field on an experiment. We've been planning this experiment over the last few months and so far things have been going fine despite them being unresponsive to my emails. I just heard from my friend, a student that was considering joining this PI's lab last summer (but didn't), that this PI has been verbally abusive to their students (including my friend) in the past. They were reported to HR by past students but nothing was done. Quite recently though, the PI physically threatened a student in their lab, but the PI was thankfully restrained before any physical damage was done. This incident was also reported, and now HR is investigating the PI. This PI does not have tenure so it is possible they will be fired. Perhaps this explains why they've been so unresponsive... anyway, does anyone have any advice for what to do? 1. Should I continue working with this PI as though I haven't heard anything? 2. Should I look for other collaborators in case they get fired? 3. Will I be looked down upon by colleagues in our field if I publish something with this PI, especially if they get fired for this incident? Even if they don't get fired, I'm not excited about working with this PI anymore. I believe my friend and the other students she spoke to, and I don't wanna be attacked! Thank you all for any input! | 80904c9159035c659479261ba59474034a5a8b25f7a71dee5e021e3255f79720 | [
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Found out my collaborator is under HR investigation - should I still work with them? I'm a graduate student in the US looking to collaborate with this PI (not my own or on my advising committee, but is in my department) who works in a similar scientific field on an experiment. We've been planning this experiment over the last few months and so far things have been going fine despite them being unresponsive to my emails. I just heard from my friend, a student that was considering joining this PI's lab last summer (but didn't), that this PI has been verbally abusive to their students (including my friend) in the past. They were reported to HR by past students but nothing was done. Quite recently though, the PI physically threatened a student in their lab, but the PI was thankfully restrained before any physical damage was done. This incident was also reported, and now HR is investigating the PI. This PI does not have tenure so it is possible they will be fired. Perhaps this explains why they've been so unresponsive... anyway, does anyone have any advice for what to do? 1. Should I continue working with this PI as though I haven't heard anything? 2. Should I look for other collaborators in case they get fired? 3. Will I be looked down upon by colleagues in our field if I publish something with this PI, especially if they get fired for this incident? Even if they don't get fired, I'm not excited about working with this PI anymore. I believe my friend and the other students she spoke to, and I don't wanna be attacked! Thank you all for any input! | 80904c9159035c659479261ba59474034a5a8b25f7a71dee5e021e3255f79720 | [
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Found out my collaborator is under HR investigation - should I still work with them? I'm a graduate student in the US looking to collaborate with this PI (not my own or on my advising committee, but is in my department) who works in a similar scientific field on an experiment. We've been planning this experiment over the last few months and so far things have been going fine despite them being unresponsive to my emails. I just heard from my friend, a student that was considering joining this PI's lab last summer (but didn't), that this PI has been verbally abusive to their students (including my friend) in the past. They were reported to HR by past students but nothing was done. Quite recently though, the PI physically threatened a student in their lab, but the PI was thankfully restrained before any physical damage was done. This incident was also reported, and now HR is investigating the PI. This PI does not have tenure so it is possible they will be fired. Perhaps this explains why they've been so unresponsive... anyway, does anyone have any advice for what to do? 1. Should I continue working with this PI as though I haven't heard anything? 2. Should I look for other collaborators in case they get fired? 3. Will I be looked down upon by colleagues in our field if I publish something with this PI, especially if they get fired for this incident? Even if they don't get fired, I'm not excited about working with this PI anymore. I believe my friend and the other students she spoke to, and I don't wanna be attacked! Thank you all for any input! | 80904c9159035c659479261ba59474034a5a8b25f7a71dee5e021e3255f79720 | [
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Foreign postdoc, difficulty with PI, not sure what to do next TL;DR: PI aggressive, yells at me, hits tables, other, worried to go to HR or her boss, as I depend on this job for my visa. Have tried several different ways of dealing with her directly, always ends with her raising her voice, interrupting me, and sometimes calling me names. I have heard that this power dynamic happens sometimes, are there things that I can do? I am not trying to be vague, I am wanting to be careful about the information that I put out into the world right now. Please let me know if I have left out important information that might help answer my question, and I will try to answer it. Thank you. I will not add too much to my TL;DR. She becomes aggressive with me quickly, raising her voice, hitting the table, she sometimes calls me names or tells me to tell the truth, suggesting that I'm lying to her. I have a history where I am very much not ok with being yelled at like this or with people hitting things or behaving aggressively around me. I have told her this and she continues and says that I'm being dramatic. I have tried to solve the issue by talking with her many times, and then by email so that I would have a record of the conversations and so that she would not interrupt me or be able to yell at me so easily. She has responded to this by telling me that I am causing problems, and telling me that we'll talk about it in person, where she starts to get aggressive with me again. I am not perfect. I realize that I have my difficulties working with other people sometimes too, but never like this, and I can usually fix the problem by talking with the person and trying to understand where they are coming from and what they want. This is not working with this person. I don't want to create any problems, and I don't want to lose my visa, I just want to survive this time with this person, and hopefully not lose my career with her bad recommendation. Does anyone have any advice or has faced a situation like this? Does any part of this sound like a cultural difference that I am not understanding? My PI is also a foreigner. Please ask any questions, I will try to answers. She has never physically touched me when she was acting aggressively like this except to move me out of her way a little one time. She has not called me terrible names, but ones that I think do not fit my behavior and are maybe not appropriate for the workplace. I do not know her boss well, but they are very close and I worry about bringing this to her. Thank you very much. EDIT: I am working as a postdoc at a large, private research university | 23c581ae369e7c6117c7f532fc4d333df291d13bd5ef04d3e3243930f1cd8c48 | [
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Foreign postdoc, difficulty with PI, not sure what to do next TL;DR: PI aggressive, yells at me, hits tables, other, worried to go to HR or her boss, as I depend on this job for my visa. Have tried several different ways of dealing with her directly, always ends with her raising her voice, interrupting me, and sometimes calling me names. I have heard that this power dynamic happens sometimes, are there things that I can do? I am not trying to be vague, I am wanting to be careful about the information that I put out into the world right now. Please let me know if I have left out important information that might help answer my question, and I will try to answer it. Thank you. I will not add too much to my TL;DR. She becomes aggressive with me quickly, raising her voice, hitting the table, she sometimes calls me names or tells me to tell the truth, suggesting that I'm lying to her. I have a history where I am very much not ok with being yelled at like this or with people hitting things or behaving aggressively around me. I have told her this and she continues and says that I'm being dramatic. I have tried to solve the issue by talking with her many times, and then by email so that I would have a record of the conversations and so that she would not interrupt me or be able to yell at me so easily. She has responded to this by telling me that I am causing problems, and telling me that we'll talk about it in person, where she starts to get aggressive with me again. I am not perfect. I realize that I have my difficulties working with other people sometimes too, but never like this, and I can usually fix the problem by talking with the person and trying to understand where they are coming from and what they want. This is not working with this person. I don't want to create any problems, and I don't want to lose my visa, I just want to survive this time with this person, and hopefully not lose my career with her bad recommendation. Does anyone have any advice or has faced a situation like this? Does any part of this sound like a cultural difference that I am not understanding? My PI is also a foreigner. Please ask any questions, I will try to answers. She has never physically touched me when she was acting aggressively like this except to move me out of her way a little one time. She has not called me terrible names, but ones that I think do not fit my behavior and are maybe not appropriate for the workplace. I do not know her boss well, but they are very close and I worry about bringing this to her. Thank you very much. EDIT: I am working as a postdoc at a large, private research university | 23c581ae369e7c6117c7f532fc4d333df291d13bd5ef04d3e3243930f1cd8c48 | [
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