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[1167.42 --> 1168.02] And maybe this is
[1168.02 --> 1168.76] what I need to say.
[1169.62 --> 1170.98] If you are that person
[1170.98 --> 1171.98] who has done everything
[1171.98 --> 1173.42] you can towards reconciliation,
[1174.22 --> 1174.98] true forgiveness,
[1175.36 --> 1176.56] not seeking revenge,
[1177.14 --> 1178.92] God sees that.
[1180.24 --> 1181.40] And He knows.
[1182.58 --> 1184.12] No one else might see it.
[1184.68 --> 1185.32] The other person
[1185.32 --> 1185.92] you're in conflict
[1185.92 --> 1186.78] might twist it
[1186.78 --> 1187.52] and all the rest,
[1187.62 --> 1188.98] but God knows exactly
[1188.98 --> 1189.90] what you've gone through
[1189.90 --> 1191.42] and the way that you have
[1191.42 --> 1192.64] sought to be faithful
[1192.64 --> 1193.42] to Jesus
[1193.42 --> 1195.50] in the midst of conflict.
[1196.22 --> 1197.08] I think some of us
[1197.08 --> 1197.92] need to hear that.
[1198.76 --> 1200.50] I'm also guessing
[1200.50 --> 1201.74] that most of us
[1201.74 --> 1203.40] need to hear exactly
[1203.40 --> 1204.04] how it is
[1204.04 --> 1205.16] that Paul's saying it.
[1205.90 --> 1209.14] To go as far as we can.
[1210.26 --> 1211.94] To build the bridge.
[1212.52 --> 1213.40] To open the door
[1213.40 --> 1214.22] for reconciliation.
[1214.90 --> 1216.20] To start the conversation.
[1217.14 --> 1218.70] It's my pastoral gut
[1218.70 --> 1220.14] that says most of us
[1220.14 --> 1221.52] don't give reconciliation
[1221.52 --> 1223.10] enough time.
[1223.64 --> 1225.52] We don't give it enough work.
[1226.48 --> 1227.34] And so practically,
[1227.34 --> 1229.02] I think if we're hearing
[1229.02 --> 1229.90] Paul correctly,
[1230.32 --> 1231.86] it's saying that we should
[1231.86 --> 1232.42] reach out
[1232.42 --> 1234.32] to those with whom
[1234.32 --> 1235.36] we might have conflict.
[1236.12 --> 1237.46] To set up the coffee.
[1238.56 --> 1240.34] To open up that conversation.
[1241.14 --> 1243.26] To have that talk.
[1244.00 --> 1244.76] And just again,
[1244.82 --> 1246.76] a little pastoral sidebar here.
[1247.32 --> 1248.76] Don't do this by text.
[1249.80 --> 1250.90] How many of you
[1250.90 --> 1252.32] have had a deeply reconciling
[1252.32 --> 1253.72] conversation by text?
[1255.00 --> 1256.34] That's what I thought.
[1257.62 --> 1258.62] In person,
[1259.04 --> 1259.80] if possible,
[1260.02 --> 1260.64] by phone,
[1260.72 --> 1261.42] if necessary,
[1261.76 --> 1262.64] do not text
[1262.64 --> 1264.16] unless you absolutely have to.
[1264.68 --> 1265.98] I've seen so many
[1265.98 --> 1267.26] would-be possible
[1267.26 --> 1268.50] reconciling situations
[1268.50 --> 1269.16] go sideways
[1269.16 --> 1270.56] when someone sends a text
[1270.56 --> 1271.26] that can be misread,
[1271.36 --> 1271.76] misunderstood,
[1272.00 --> 1272.84] and deepened the divide.
[1272.84 --> 1275.36] If communication
[1275.36 --> 1276.34] has broken down,
[1277.36 --> 1278.66] that's when you call
[1278.66 --> 1279.24] the counselor
[1279.24 --> 1281.00] or the family mediator.
[1281.10 --> 1281.82] And I'm delighted,
[1281.96 --> 1282.26] by the way,
[1282.30 --> 1283.06] that it just so happens
[1283.06 --> 1283.60] that this Sunday
[1283.60 --> 1284.10] is a Sunday
[1284.10 --> 1285.12] where we're giving
[1285.12 --> 1285.36] to,
[1285.54 --> 1286.76] not Peace Portal Counseling,
[1286.86 --> 1288.10] to Soul Matters Counseling,
[1288.46 --> 1288.80] Elsha,
[1288.90 --> 1289.84] who's running that,
[1289.98 --> 1290.70] she is a member
[1290.70 --> 1291.28] of our church,
[1291.52 --> 1292.36] and we are delighted
[1292.36 --> 1293.06] that we can use
[1293.06 --> 1294.08] the funds in our church
[1294.08 --> 1295.18] to bless people
[1295.18 --> 1296.10] to receive the care
[1296.10 --> 1296.48] they need
[1296.48 --> 1297.50] when they can't talk,
[1297.66 --> 1298.48] when the communication
[1298.48 --> 1299.34] is broken down.
[1300.14 --> 1301.22] In my own family,
[1301.66 --> 1302.66] we brought in a counselor
[1302.66 --> 1303.76] to help some wounds
[1303.76 --> 1305.24] in our family system.
[1305.64 --> 1306.28] Family mediators