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[1306.28 --> 1307.18] are a great gift
[1307.18 --> 1307.66] to families
[1307.66 --> 1308.38] when communication
[1308.38 --> 1309.18] is broken down.
[1309.56 --> 1310.44] Do not hesitate
[1310.44 --> 1312.08] to take those steps
[1312.08 --> 1314.48] and see what could be possible
[1314.48 --> 1316.60] if we open the door
[1316.60 --> 1317.56] towards reconciliation.
[1319.38 --> 1320.76] Two things I want to note,
[1321.46 --> 1322.26] one's in our passage,
[1322.38 --> 1323.34] one's in my own experience.
[1323.94 --> 1325.56] One is that Paul invites us
[1325.56 --> 1326.56] to kindness.
[1328.16 --> 1329.30] Not only do we relinquish
[1329.30 --> 1329.92] revenge,
[1330.90 --> 1332.10] but we find ways
[1332.10 --> 1333.02] to be kind.
[1334.54 --> 1335.68] I find that striking.
[1336.44 --> 1337.56] And I think that also starts
[1337.56 --> 1338.34] in the area of desire
[1338.34 --> 1340.02] where you feel those desires
[1340.02 --> 1341.60] for retaliation or revenge,
[1341.76 --> 1342.54] to scrape the key
[1342.54 --> 1343.48] in the side of their car.
[1343.68 --> 1344.86] That's when you ask the Lord,
[1345.26 --> 1346.68] how can I express kindness
[1346.68 --> 1347.18] to them?
[1348.62 --> 1349.14] And secondly,
[1349.30 --> 1350.26] just in my own experience,
[1350.38 --> 1350.96] what I have found
[1350.96 --> 1351.58] in situations
[1351.58 --> 1352.56] where there's real conflict,
[1352.70 --> 1353.66] and this is my own story,
[1354.78 --> 1356.18] if you feel like you've been hurt,
[1356.30 --> 1357.36] in most cases,
[1357.44 --> 1357.96] not all,
[1357.96 --> 1359.24] but in most cases,
[1359.34 --> 1360.88] there's something you can own.
[1361.54 --> 1362.52] And when you come back
[1362.52 --> 1363.20] to a relationship
[1363.20 --> 1363.84] where you feel like
[1363.84 --> 1364.68] you've been deeply wounded
[1364.68 --> 1366.14] and you start that conversation
[1366.14 --> 1366.70] by saying,
[1366.84 --> 1367.02] look,
[1367.46 --> 1368.50] I want to apologize
[1368.50 --> 1369.74] and ask for your forgiveness
[1369.74 --> 1370.88] for what I have done,
[1371.30 --> 1372.78] that opens up the door
[1372.78 --> 1373.44] for vulnerability
[1373.44 --> 1374.82] and reciprocity
[1374.82 --> 1376.82] and reconciliation.
[1376.82 --> 1378.60] And I'm guessing
[1378.60 --> 1379.90] that there's a lot of us
[1379.90 --> 1381.82] that are holding this huge grudge
[1381.82 --> 1382.82] over somebody else
[1382.82 --> 1384.06] and there's much
[1384.06 --> 1384.94] that we can own
[1384.94 --> 1386.46] and apologize for
[1386.46 --> 1387.50] and in so doing,
[1387.62 --> 1388.26] open the door
[1388.26 --> 1389.24] for reconciliation
[1389.24 --> 1390.20] and healing.
[1391.56 --> 1393.22] Are you willing to do that?
[1394.38 --> 1395.98] Are you willing to do
[1395.98 --> 1397.04] the work of going
[1397.04 --> 1397.86] as far
[1397.86 --> 1399.26] as is possible,
[1399.26 --> 1400.40] as much
[1400.40 --> 1401.34] as it depends
[1401.34 --> 1401.88] on you
[1401.88 --> 1403.52] to make peace
[1403.52 --> 1404.16] with your brother
[1404.16 --> 1405.42] or your sister?
[1408.96 --> 1409.96] William Barclay
[1409.96 --> 1410.60] in his commentary
[1410.60 --> 1411.38] on this passage,
[1411.46 --> 1411.72] he says,
[1411.82 --> 1411.96] you know,
[1412.04 --> 1412.96] vengeance may break
[1412.96 --> 1413.72] someone's spirit,
[1414.54 --> 1415.10] but kindness
[1415.10 --> 1416.30] will break their heart.
[1417.36 --> 1418.04] And kindness
[1418.04 --> 1418.62] from an enemy
[1418.62 --> 1419.02] is a way
[1419.02 --> 1420.04] of confounding us
[1420.04 --> 1420.74] with this ethic
[1420.74 --> 1421.24] of the kingdom
[1421.24 --> 1422.56] of Jesus Christ
[1422.56 --> 1423.96] and opening people
[1423.96 --> 1424.76] to a way
[1424.76 --> 1425.38] of reconciliation.
[1428.78 --> 1429.76] I want to finish
[1429.76 --> 1430.86] by drawing our attention
[1430.86 --> 1432.60] back to Jesus.
[1434.52 --> 1435.94] Jesus did not only
[1435.94 --> 1437.92] teach us extensively
[1437.92 --> 1439.42] about how to forgive.