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**Mireille Reece, PsyD:** I just love this, because the cure for boredom is curiosity, and there's not a cure for curiosity. This is what we talk a lot about and what I want people to do, generally speaking, is be curious about themselves, others and their world... Because when we stop taking things at just face value/... |
One last thing that he talks about as an idea for distraction is creating a fun jar. He puts this in the lane relative to parenting. He wanted to be an involved dad, so he created this fun jar wherein he created five to ten activities, and were put in that jar, so that when it was time to spend-- again, he scheduled th... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Yeah, there's so many tentacles to that, because it gives the child-- if this is a scenario, a father-mother-child scenario of activities together and scheduling that time and being intentional with it - it's like, the kid, the child gets some control, too. There are predetermined opportunities and ... |
**Mireille Reece, PsyD:** So this goes back to even managing those inputs, so that at the end of the day you might be really tired and it would seem better to just lay on the sofa or watch a movie together or whatever. However, it's preplanned, there's guardrails already in place, and then here's the thing, you go and ... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** \[43:53\] Yeah. It just shows you that living the life-- summarizing chapter one, basically... Living the life you want to live requires not only doing the things that are right, but avoiding the wrong things, and I think that it takes intention and a lot of things to understand and define that... B... |
**Mireille Reece, PsyD:** Yeah. That's why I think this book is just super encouraging in going, "Look, distractions aren't in and of themselves villains or bad, but rather, looking at where do you want to go and what's important to you, and then do the things that you're spending your time doing take you closer to or ... |
In managing our attention, it is about managing pressures, and there's always going to be pressure - pressure from the inside relative to our expectations, goals, desires, and pressures from the outside and what's coming in and what needs to be done or what everybody else is doing. But if you can start by going, "How c... |
• Motivation involves discomfort and we often avoid it |
• Desire is a key aspect of motivation, but it's often overshadowed by discomfort |
• Distraction originates from a need to escape psychological discomfort |
• The reason for distraction is often trying to escape physical or mental pain associated with a task or activity |
• Mental health professionals compete with other ways people try to feel better (e.g. buying a new car) |
• Therapy aims to help people think differently and see their problems from different angles |
• The speaker has reached the end of their rope and is seeking help to manage pain |
• The goal of the speaker's work is to help people work through their problems and achieve happiness, contentment, and fulfillment |
• The importance of application over knowledge in achieving personal growth |
• The value of breaking down complex information into manageable sections and using a mental framework to stay focused |
• The ability to jump around in a book and read only relevant sections, rather than reading from cover-to-cover |
• The root cause of distraction is often deeper than just external stimuli and requires a more deliberate approach to managing time and staying focused |
• Triggers for distraction come from internal and external factors |
• Distractions often stem from a need to escape psychological discomfort |
• Traction is drawn towards life goals, whereas distractions draw away from them |
• Goals should be worth enduring pain or hardship to achieve |
• Being more deliberate and aware can help overcome obstacles and stay on track |
• The framework of "traction" vs. "distraction" provides a mental tool for recognizing and addressing distractions |
• Time management as pain management |
• Four psychological factors relative to pain: boredom, negativity bias, rumination, and hedonic adaptation |
• Rumination defined and examples given |
• Identifying triggers for rumination and finding ways to "eject" |
• Recognizing underlying causes of rumination, such as unresolved issues or perfectionism |
• Examining the potential benefits of controlled rumination in achieving a clearer perspective on situations |
• Time management as pain management |
• Understanding and managing rumination |
• Motivation being driven by the desire for comfort |
• The distinction between physical and psychological pain/discomfort |
• How past experiences influence current behavior and motivation |
• Recognizing and labeling uncomfortable associations to reduce distraction and increase productivity |
• The importance of considering what you don't want to feel or be in order to achieve motivation and success. |
• How identifying your values is key to understanding what motivates you and what you want to achieve. |
• Recognizing that motivation often involves avoiding discomfort or aversive situations. |
• The role of goals and values in driving behavior and decision-making. |
• The concept of "guardrails" or guiding principles that help navigate life choices. |
• Understanding why you're doing something is essential for overcoming obstacles and staying motivated. |
• Passion vs practicality: weighing time spent on personal interests vs responsibilities |
• Time management as pain management: prioritizing what's truly important to avoid regret |
• The importance of knowing one's "why" in decision-making and goal-setting |
• How values anchor us and help resist distractions, maintaining focus on what matters most |
• The interconnected nature of life and priorities, with smaller goals embedded within larger ones |
• Prioritizing self-value and setting boundaries |
• Managing concentric circles of relationships, work, and community |
• Protecting "the asset" (one's own well-being) through essentialism |
• Recognizing the importance of management over control in life domains |
• Embracing play and fun as tools for focus and motivation |
• Understanding that novelty and challenge are key to maintaining attention |
• The speaker talks about playing Donkey Kong on hard mode and how it's more fun because they're seeing new challenges in familiar situations. |
• The speaker discusses a boring conference where people investigate mundane, ordinary things that become fascinating when looked at deeper. |
• The speaker mentions the book "The Design of Everyday Things" by Donald Norman and how designing simple, everyday objects can be creative and fun. |
• The speaker talks about the importance of curiosity and not taking things at face value to discover more dimension, joy, and pleasure. |
• The speaker discusses a "fun jar" idea for scheduling quality time with children and how it gives them control and choice in activities. |
• Managing inputs and prioritizing tasks to avoid procrastination |
• The importance of preplanning and setting guardrails to achieve goals |
• Creating memories with family and living the life you want to live |
• Identifying both right and wrong things to do in order to use time wisely |
• Reflecting on past choices and decisions to reconcile and learn from them |
• Managing pressures from within and without, and prioritizing values and goals |
• Brainstorming and identifying areas for personal growth and improvement |
• Multiple instances of "Bye" are recorded over a long period of time |
• No other conversation or content is present in the transcript |
[0.00 --> 6.86] And I think for people to recognize like motivation is always going to involve some other aspect |
[6.86 --> 13.22] that we find aversive, uncomfortable, all of those things we would like to avoid. |
[13.22 --> 18.44] Hence why, you know, we're distracted away from what we'd like to do. |
[18.74 --> 25.18] And this is why I sort of work with people and try to help them recognize desire, right? |
[25.24 --> 28.92] What we're talking about with motivation, like, well, how bad do you want it? |
[28.92 --> 33.02] And not like you have to be like, oh, like so gritty. |
[33.22 --> 35.48] I want to get this thing so bad. |
[35.48 --> 39.72] But like, where is your desire alongside the discomfort? |
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[58.92 --> 65.64] This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute a doctor-patient relationship. |
[65.64 --> 70.92] If you have specific questions or concerns, we encourage you to consult a health professional in your local area. |
[70.92 --> 80.08] From ChangeLog Media, this is Brain Science, a podcast for the curious. |
[80.62 --> 88.46] We're exploring the inner workings of the human brain to understand behavior change, habit formation, mental health, and what it means to be human. |
[88.78 --> 95.20] It's brain science applied, not just how does the brain work, but how do we apply what we know about the brain to transform our lives? |
[95.20 --> 96.50] I'm Adam Stachowiak. |
[96.62 --> 98.22] And I'm Dr. Marielle Reese. |
[102.22 --> 103.46] Marielle, today is different. |
[103.58 --> 106.34] We're doing a book review slash embedded book. |
[106.40 --> 110.76] Hey, we read a book, and that book is informing our conversation. |
[110.92 --> 115.22] This is less book review and just more like discussion around the topics of the book. |
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