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**Adam Stacoviak:** You need to patch that brain with a new build that works, that's optimized for this new construct. That's so interesting. And what I find super interesting is the metaphors and direct connection between the way the brain works and the way we often build software. Whether it's a database ... |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Well, I'm so glad you brought that up, because we haven't talked about this as it's relevant to creativity. If you can see that when we are trying to navigate shame, this sense of inadequacy, do you think you're going to be more apt to be creative, or less apt to be creativ... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** I would guess less apt, because I'm trying to focus on fight, flight or freeze in those moments, and I've got no time to be creative. I've gotta be the most necessary Adam possible to get through, rather than be creative. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Yeah. So let me tell you the dynamic. Adam, I need you to be remarkably creative, so you can come up with the best, most user-friendly way for this to work. Except you suck, you didn't do it enough, and you need to do better. |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Don't ever tell me that again, Mireille. That is not nice. But I can understand how in that kind of moment -- so if you're leading teams out there, don't lead with shame, okay? |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Well, it's really recognizing the way that you have to-- if you can shift your mind into seeing this through a way of management, like I need to manage how I interface with other people, especially around creative endeavors, then I need to be deliberate about identifying what they'... |
\[46:59\] I'm so grateful for the work that Brené Brown has done, because she's given us so much, so many words and ways of understanding this. One of the quotes she gives in her book - Daring Greatly, is I believe the one it's in - is a quote by Theodore Roosevelt. Have you heard this? The man in the arena... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** No. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** So when we're talking about managing shame, really we're talking about managing vulnerability and trying to be creative, being authentically ourselves. This is what he said in one of his speeches. He said, "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the st... |
It's about showing up. It's really just living who you are and knowing you did, what you could with what you had at the time you needed to do it. Nobody is immune to shame, but we have to look at how we can stand where we are in that sacred place. |
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**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** We've spent a lot of time talking about habits or ways in which our brain works, that help people be their best selves... And one of those things is with attention. Where attention goes, energy flows. I'm more apt to feed whatever it is I focus my mind on. And I think especially nowadays w... |
With that, I just wanted to help our listeners use this time in a way that they could even potentially start to build in another habit, that would be really helpful. Gratitude. Gratitude, ironically, is actually a habit we can practice. Have you ever thought of gratitude like a habit? |
**Adam Stacoviak:** To some degree. I don't know if I've ever really framed it as a habit, but it's definitely something I always try to layer in. Because there's so much to gripe about, to complain about. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Sure. |
**Adam Stacoviak:** And what not many people know about me is I easily complain. And that's one thing I don't like about myself or my attitude sometimes, so I always have to be aware of that. So I feel like if I can layer in some gratitude towards things, or just take stock in the day of like -- you know, not so much w... |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Yeah. Well, what I love about topics like this is that, you know, other people have spent the time actually researching around this, to go "What sort of behaviors actually do contribute to making a difference in people's mentality, and henceforth how they feel?" Gratitude, particularly if ... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** What exactly is gratitude though? |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** \[03:51\] Good question. Gratitude really is this sense of appreciation, or recognizing a value, that something matters to you. I think a lot of people utilize gratitude in terms of comparison. Like, I'm grateful that that's not my struggle, or I don't have to deal with that... Thinking ab... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** What about thankfulness? Is thankful and grateful - are those synonymous words? Are they the same? |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Well, I think that they're similar. I can't think of a way in which I would overtly differentiate them... But I think gratefulness implies this sense of swelling in your heart, of like "My heart gets bigger or fuller. I'm so grateful for something that I have, or an opportunity..." |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Overwhelming. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Yeah. I think an expansion is associated with it. Thankfulness is one thing; I tend to associate thankful with Thanksgiving, and that is you see those 30-day thankful challenges, and things like that, which are great, but what if we were to practice this sense of gratefulness more routinel... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Do you think maybe grateful was layered on? So thankful is recognition, and grateful is an overwhelming recognition? |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Hm. I'll have to dig deeper, but that fits. It makes sense and resonates, for sure. |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Yeah. Well, just kind of having a base of understanding that word, and then if we're gonna try to ask people to say "Hey, apply this in your life habitually, in positive ways, to become healthier, happier", we have to understand the baseline of what actually is being grateful, and what is gratitude. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Yeah. It's really a sense of appreciation, a value I care about, opportunities, relationships... A lot of times I approach this in terms of people navigating the challenging process of grief/grieving, because it's incredibly painful. There isn't a way to reconcile and be like "Well, I shou... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Yeah. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** So instead of going and trying to imagine -- like, we've talked about the distorted thinking, catastrophic thinking; I'm gonna play out every imaginable catastrophe that could occur in preparation for... And that that actually doesn't help me navigate that situation or event any better, be... |
What does matter is instead gratefulness or gratitude. I'm grateful that -- I mean, I have more of an opportunity right now to spend time with my family. Everybody, I'm sure, has mixed feelings about that, but everybody has something they can be grateful for, and it doesn't matter, it's not in relationship to any other... |
**Adam Stacoviak:** \[08:03\] You know, too when something you care about is threatened, you kind of take stock more so, like "Wow, I really have these amazing people in my life, these amazing opportunities", and they're threatened by something, looming, whatever it might be... And it's like "You know, these things rea... |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Right. Exactly, Adam, because when we practice gratitude, it reinforces practices, more positive thinking, which opens your eyes to more opportunity. So there's a gentleman named Frederickson, who refers to the theory Broaden and Build. Because positive emotions tend to broaden your sense ... |
Negative emotions, like we've talked about before, do the opposite. Because if I'm activated emotionally and I am focused on, my attention is captivated by possible dangers or threats, I can't respond in the same sort of way. |
**Adam Stacoviak:** Yeah, you sort of retract. |
**Mireille B. Reece, Psy.D:** Yeah. Well, because I'm focused on defense. If I perceive a threat, I'm not gonna just go about my day. I'm going to be like fight, flight or freeze. I've gotta get prepared, in whatever way. So that also doesn't allow me to see broader in any way. |
I think I've shared this on previous episodes, but when we're ignited in that fight or flight, we tend to see far and narrow. And when we talk about how we see, and when I'm referencing this concept of sort of with our mind's eye, I always say it is not the eyes that see or the ears that hear, but it's the way in which... |
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