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[255.84 --> 258.86] This man also does the right thing. |
[260.30 --> 261.20] So then. |
[262.06 --> 264.24] He who marries the virgin does right. |
[265.24 --> 267.14] But he who does not marry her. |
[267.92 --> 268.56] Does better. |
[269.94 --> 270.94] The word of the Lord. |
[272.32 --> 274.26] That is a fascinating text. |
[274.34 --> 274.72] Isn't it? |
[275.38 --> 275.82] Fascinating. |
[276.84 --> 282.86] Now quality biblically based literature on the topic of Christian singleness is hard to find. |
[282.96 --> 284.28] If you go to Indigo Books. |
[284.52 --> 286.42] Or you search on Amazon.ca. |
[286.94 --> 289.70] About books on being a Christian single. |
[290.06 --> 292.46] You'll find that the subject seems to go one of two directions. |
[293.42 --> 296.00] You're either going to find books that say that marriage is the worst. |
[296.10 --> 297.98] And you should do everything in your way not to get married. |
[298.28 --> 302.64] Or you're going to find a sort of meat market self-help book. |
[302.64 --> 305.80] On quick and easy formulas to find that perfect mate. |
[307.06 --> 308.42] The problem is. |
[309.60 --> 312.44] Neither of those options really get to the heart. |
[312.86 --> 314.62] Of what it means to be single. |
[314.86 --> 315.92] And a Christ follower. |
[315.92 --> 322.08] Now admittedly there's actually not a ton in the Bible on Christian singleness. |
[322.56 --> 323.98] There's the passage we just read. |
[324.46 --> 326.58] And there's a section in Matthew 19. |
[326.90 --> 328.20] That actually talks about divorce. |
[328.30 --> 329.84] But talks about singleness as well. |
[329.98 --> 331.72] And we'll touch on that a little bit later. |
[331.72 --> 336.18] But singleness is a very complex topic in the church. |
[336.30 --> 340.40] And it's a focal point of many conversations that I personally have end up having. |
[340.56 --> 344.94] So what does it mean to be single in the church today? |
[346.48 --> 349.44] Is singleness desired by God? |
[349.44 --> 353.84] Before we dig too deeply into these questions. |
[353.84 --> 355.60] We need to define a few terms. |
[355.78 --> 359.02] Now there's three words that I'd like to sort of solidify our understanding. |
[359.16 --> 363.10] Or at least come to a conclusion or unanimous conclusion to what they mean. |
[363.16 --> 364.14] Those three words are this. |
[364.80 --> 365.90] Virginity or virgin. |
[366.98 --> 368.26] Celibacy or celibate. |
[368.98 --> 370.18] And single or singleness. |
[371.24 --> 372.66] So virgin or virginity. |
[372.80 --> 373.66] It's found in the Bible. |
[373.74 --> 375.90] And it's often referencing women. |
[376.06 --> 377.02] But also men. |
[377.02 --> 382.36] And it's most often used in the Bible to qualify the unmarried person. |
[383.02 --> 384.56] Like it does in our text today. |
[385.72 --> 388.30] The word celibate or celibacy then. |
[388.70 --> 393.40] Is a term that's used to describe someone who has chosen to remain single. |
[393.86 --> 395.80] Now that posture of choice is very important. |
[396.20 --> 399.08] If someone is celibate or they are practicing celibacy. |
[399.28 --> 401.84] They have chosen to remain single. |
[402.94 --> 405.86] To be single or singleness however. |
[405.86 --> 408.14] Is not a matter of one's choosing. |
[408.68 --> 413.04] It's simply the word used to define those who are unmarried. |
[413.88 --> 416.18] It's sort of the new way of saying virgin in the Bible. |
[416.30 --> 418.38] So celibacy is choosing to be single. |
[418.70 --> 421.28] Being single is simply being single. |
[421.50 --> 422.28] That's the difference there. |
[422.32 --> 422.84] Does that make sense? |
[423.10 --> 423.80] A few head nods. |
[424.08 --> 424.50] We're following. |
[424.60 --> 424.98] Because that's going to be. |
[425.04 --> 426.14] I'm going to be using these words a lot. |
[426.26 --> 426.68] So if we're. |
[426.76 --> 427.70] We got a track with those. |
[428.06 --> 428.30] Perfect. |
[428.30 --> 431.00] Now there's a fascinating comparison. |
[431.12 --> 434.76] Between the contemporary cultural view of these words. |
[435.08 --> 436.88] And the church's view of these words. |
[437.78 --> 439.18] In western culture today. |
[439.28 --> 439.88] Think about this. |
[440.04 --> 442.92] Singleness is viewed with respect. |
[443.92 --> 446.84] People are getting married later and later in life in our culture. |
[446.84 --> 450.52] And generally the idea of looking out for number one. |
[450.62 --> 451.50] Looking out for yourself. |
[451.70 --> 453.68] Still reigns very true in our culture. |
[454.34 --> 458.38] The strong, independent, I need no one else person. |
[458.66 --> 462.74] Is very, very much valued in our world today. |
[463.98 --> 465.82] However, though that part is true. |
[466.40 --> 469.86] Remaining single is praised in our contemporary culture. |
[469.86 --> 474.36] However, celibacy or virginity is not. |
[475.16 --> 477.30] Just watch any sitcom on TV. |
[480.22 --> 484.24] Our culture views virginity as something that needs to be done away with. |
[484.32 --> 485.64] Something that needs to be lost. |
[486.80 --> 489.14] And if you choose a life of celibacy. |
[489.94 --> 494.00] Well, you are weirder than an ostrich in a swimsuit. |
[496.30 --> 498.48] In western culture, single is good. |
[498.48 --> 503.82] But celibate or virgin is bad. |
[505.72 --> 508.20] In the church, though, in a very broad sense. |
[509.28 --> 511.52] We kind of have the exact opposite feeling. |
[511.98 --> 514.82] We, if you're unmarried, we praise you for being a virgin. |
[514.96 --> 516.44] We praise you for that. |
[516.64 --> 518.64] Because that's what the Bible says. |
[518.72 --> 519.38] We applaud that. |
[519.46 --> 520.24] We encourage that. |
[520.28 --> 520.84] And that's good. |
[521.16 --> 525.46] Yet in the church, for some reason, singleness is not praised. |
[525.46 --> 533.62] Marriage is still pushed on people to the point where singleness is seen as undervalued and not worth pursuing. |
[534.38 --> 541.60] In many Christians' eyes, remaining single well into one's 30s or beyond is a problem that needs solving. |
[541.60 --> 547.66] Not an opportunity to serve God in a multitude of unique ways. |
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