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As stupid as this all sounds my mil tried to get my wife to divorce me over a sandwich AND part of the family AGREED with her. I and my wife do not in any way think I am the TA but why not let strangers on the internet decide?
When I first started dating wifey MIL was actually nice to me, she was a decent human being... | NTA. She prioritises a spicy sandwich at the expense of wasting your time. Just because she's your elder doesn't mean you are obliged to do everything she says. ###### |
This happened a while back but I’m bored so here goes-
I had mentioned to my neighbour across the street that I was going to buy a sofa bed for our office to use for overnight guests. She offered us a small one she had in her basement that she never used. It was old but in good shape but the mattress had to be replac... | NTA. She only wanted it back because it has "value" ###### |
AITA for wanting to retake my wedding photos?
Last summer I got married. My cousin is a photographer who lives in a different part of the country and she flew in to take the photos for my big day. There was never any discussion of it costing money, that it would be a family thing. She even stayed at my house while she... | NTA. She needs to send them to you, and it's weird she won't, especially if you offered to pay for them. ###### |
So back in March when schools moved to online, my neighbor (who’s very old fashioned) asked me for my wifi password so her middle school daughter could use it for her schoolwork. She told me she was on a waiting list for charter spectrum and they would get it set up in April. She offered to pay me for the time being, w... | NTA. She needs to get her own WiFi. ###### |
She came to me the other day and sat me down and said she’d like to stop taking birth control pills. I said ok we can use problems, no condom. She said no she doesn’t wanna use condoms. When I asked why, she said they don’t work 100% of the time (which is fair I guess but no birth control method works 100% of the time)... | NTA. She needs to do some research on vasectomy reversal. It can be between $4,000-$10,000 with a 30-70% success rate. If you want to have children in the future or aren't 100% sure you don't want any children, permanent sterilization should not be on the table. ###### |
My friends and I (all 20M) had plans to meet up for the first time in 2 months due to the restrictions being eased recently in my state and planned to meet in a park to kick a ball around and just catch up.
My girlfriend (20M) of 3 years asked to come before and I said no because I wanted to spend some time with j... | NTA. She needs to be okay letting you have some tim alone with your friends. That being said, invite her next time. ###### |
My sister and I have been fighting for a while because she never gets me so much as a card for my birthday, and I always would get her an actual present. When I brought it up to her before my birthday in September she said that it’s because I make more than her so it’s only fair that I “give back”.
So I didn’t get her... | NTA. She needs to be grateful for what she has. ###### |
So growing up I had one of the most loving mothers one could as for, maybe even a little too much. Except for times when she had her episodes. She has schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and some other mental ilnesess I forgot about. But for most part, she is very normal and sane, due to her meds. But that's the pr... | NTA. She may not have a choice about her chemical imbalances but treatment is a CHOICE. She is the only one that can make that choice. If you saved her now it would only enable the illness to thrive. This way she might hit hard times but it may be what she needs to lead her back to treatment and back into your life. #... |
I'm a 13 yo female, my mom was a cheater and a liar during her marriage with my dad. She ended up just up and leaving when I was 9 and nobody knew where she went. Those months were the best months of my life, I loved my dad. She came back a little bit before Christmas after she missed my birthday. The fucked up thing i... | NTA. She made terrible choices. Protect yourself from her. ###### |
So my wife calls me into the room and proceeds to say "Hey Google, how do I get my husband to stop being annoying?" and starts laughing. I suppose in her defense this was said somewhat jokingly, so I just rolled my eyes and walked away. In the next room, I ask our other Google home the same thing about my wife. I was a... | NTA. She made a silly joke, you laughed it off, like a good sport. You made the same silly joke, and she decided to turn it into a fight with you. Sounds like she was baiting you to begin with and an argument was inevitable because she was looking for one. Tell her to fuck off.
EDIT: maybe don’t say “fuck off” though... |
I (17 pre everything mtf) have recently realised that I would be comfortable in life as a transgender woman. Unfortunately due to conservative parents I’m going to have to wait until I move out to transition.
When I realised this, the first person I told was my (now ex) girlfriend (17), a little bit of background she ... | NTA. She literally risked your life by outing you like that. I wish you a happy, healthy, *safe* new home. ###### |
Okay, so I’m writing this on behalf of myself and my housemates (7 of us total). Recently, it was one of my housemate’s birthday and invited a handful of people over including this girl. He let her sleepover at our house along with some others because they were all drunk and would’ve had to drive home.
In the morning,... | NTA. She left it there, she could have taken it with her. No one asked her to buy it. Tell her the whiskey she drank without permission is her payment. ###### |
I honestly don't know if I did the right thing. I live by myself, and my little sister was over for the weekend, and this has been eating at me, so I need judgment.
My sister (12) was ranting about how she feels her parents (she's my stepsister) always favor our little sibling, and she had _quite_ the list of examples... | NTA. She left having been heard, believed, respected, and with a safe place to use again later. ###### |
Am I the asshole for freaking out on my girlfriend for making me think she’s pregnant?
For some context, we’re both 17 and going into our senior year of high school. My parents had me at a really young age and it sort of derailed their lives. For this reason, I’ve been so scared of having kids of my own, especially at... | NTA. She knew that was a deep fear of yours and chose to exploit it for laughs. You cant trust this girl. Dump her. ###### |
I live in an apartment that I moved into in September 2019. Since arriving, I have had probably close to 20 packages show up at my door addressed to someone I've never met. Let's say the name is Autumn. The packages all have my address and Autumn's name. Since they're not addressed to me, I just leave them outside and ... | NTA. She is massively, for obvious reasons no one has to explain.
Every time you get a package like that, take it inside so she can't get it. That breaks her scheme right there. They aren't yours, but you can and should take them inside and then eventually make a trip to UPS or whoever send it and explain that the ad... |
We have a friend who came out openly as a lesbian two years ago (we're all 15 y/o now) and ever since the beginning of the last school semester, she's been touching me.
She was always hugging me from behind, or pinching my butt, or squeezing my breasts. At first it didn't bother me because my friends and I all playfu... | NTA. She is making you uncomfortable, and that's not okay. You have a right to feel comfortable in your own skin and around your friends. Not wanting to be overly groped by someone who happens to be a lesbian doesn't make you homophobic, it just makes you a person who doesn't want to be overly groped.
I wouldn't nec... |
I recently re-connected with a friend from high school when her husband was accepted into a masters program at the same university where I am attending grad school. We were both really excited when we found out we would be living in the same city.
However. She is vastly different from the person I used to know. She wa... | NTA. She is an arsehole for complaining ad nauseam about something that she *could* change but isn’t *willing* to change. ###### |
my (18) sister (23) does this thing where she’ll take the rest of the pads when there’s not much left and doesn’t tell anyone. i’m fine with her taking the pads but i just want her to tell me beforehand so that i can ask mom to buy pads. she doesn’t tell me until after i ask her where the pads are. she has done this mu... | NTA. She is also hiding them... ###### |
So, I (22f) love to sleep. My mom is working from home and spends most of her time in the kitchen. I wouldn’t call myself a night owl per sé, but I would say that no matter how late I stay up, I can end up sleeping until pretty late in the morning. My mom doesn’t like this. She usually doesn’t like when people are asle... | NTA. She has unreasonable expectations. You'd think she would have realized that after it contributed to the divorce. I really don't understand why should everyone conform to her weird schedule.
You said she's working from home and spends time in the kitchen. How does someone sleeping and not making noise cause a pro... |
My daughter (20F) started a diet a few weeks ago where she doesn’t eat after 7PM. I’ve read mixed things on this, but nothing dangerous. She is active, eats healthy on the regular. So, she’s not starving herself. So, I didn’t say anything on it.
Then she got into a fight with her dad yesterday. This whole “no one can... | NTA. She has the option to eat at any point but chooses not too. You’re not a bad person for pointing out the obvious if she’s going to complain about the limitations she set on herself. ###### |
I have three three vehicles I drive. Two of them I owned before marriage, and one of them I bought after we married. Two of the vehicles (a jeep and a car) are manuals. The third vehicle is a large truck (Ford Super Duty) that I had lifted.
My wife has never driven any of my vehicles because she can't drive a manual a... | NTA. She has options - She could learn to drive a manual; she could drive the truck (maybe offer to have the lift kit removed if/when she gets pregnant) so it's more accessible; she could buy her own extra car. There is no reason the entire burden of making a change should fall on you other than the fact that she just... |
This happened a while ago, I work at a local pizza place, and it was dinner rush. I manage the phone, counter, and oven because we were understaffed
During rush a lady comes in and orders food, I get everything ready and ask if she wants a bag, she says no. I tell her the usual thank you for coming have a nice night.... | NTA. She has obviously never worked in food service or customer service in general. ###### |
Hey There.
My parents are divorced and my bio-dad died soon after. It all happend when I was around 3 so i never knew him. My mom remarried a year after their divorce so I grew up with him as my father. My bio-father was an onlychild from my grandparents with who I had no coontact with due to my mother not wanting ... | Nta. She has no claim on that money at all. Besides isn't there an issue with the amount of money you can just gift someone? I'm a bit clueless but I think you have to pay tax on it or something as otherwise it can be seen as tax avoidance. I think you were very generous to consider giving her anything.
Please get so... |
This has been on my mind for quite some time now, so I decided to get an outsiders opinion.
Some backstory:
I don’t know how to write this out without sounding arrogant so I’m just gonna be straightforward - my family is a bit wealthier than my best friends. I don’t mean anything drastically, we both live comfortable... | NTA. She has an inferiority complex and envy clouds her mind. She’s projecting her anger onto you because she feels hapless to change her situation. ###### |
Hi, I am a 14 year old male and have a sister with autism who is 11. I recently brought my PlayStation into the living room because I am remodeling my room so I’m sleeping up stairs in my other sisters room on the floor and brought my PlayStation upstairs My sister asked if she could play the demo of Just Dance and I... | NTA. She has a history of breaking your things, and that’s not fair to you. Plus she has her own consoles and toys that are very comparable that she could have played with. ###### |
My(45M) wife (38F) is just home from the hospital after an acute hypertensive crisis (BP 213/145).
Back story: She was hospitalized 4y ago for the same issue and it was brought under control. We had a child 19m ago and during the pregnancy she consciously discontinued her treatment (medication and apnea machine) due... | NTA. She has a family and people who depend on her. I understand the treatments can be consuming and she might not want to continue them due to side effects, but that's an issue to bring up to her doctor so they can figure where to progress. Not only is it not safe for her to decide not to take the medicine on her own... |
A woman I work with recently lost her children in a car crash. She was given a month off work and she came back last month. I helped her get her work done for the next week and a half. My boss then give us a pretty big assignment for the two of us. Our original plan was we do it 50/50. After I did half of the assignmen... | NTA. she had no reason to tell the boss that you didn’t do yours and hers assignment project when YOU did both parts. she could have just kept quiet and thanked you for pulling her weight. but for some odd reason she wanted to stir the pot and let it overflow. That is why HR exists. ###### |
Throwaway. Names are changed.
I've been best friends with Dan (29M) since we were in high school. He's been married to Cassie (28F) for two years and they recently had their first kid. Dan's dad remarried when we were off at college and Lucifer became his stepmom. Lucifer had a son from a previous relationship.
Rec... | NTA. She had it coming. Next time though you should coordinate a secreat timeout. This is where when she says something fucked up everyone at the party except Lucifer (and prob her husband) are notified that Lucifer is in timeout. And everyone pretends she doesnt exist until an audible timer goes off then people start... |
When I like to have a bit of self love I tend to prefer amateur type videos, one day I'm scrolling through different videos and find someone who looks very familiar. I download the video and lo and behold it is a friend of mine, same tattoo and looks exactly like her. The video is pretty old so it must have been when s... | NTA. She had a knee-jerk reaction there. You were just letting her know she was on the internet. Doesn’t sound like you had any malicious intent there. ###### |
I 16(M) was playing video games with friends, one of the people who plays with us regularly is a my friends girlfriend 16(f). She does not like me and has made it clear in the past. I try to put it aside while we all hang out just so it stays civil. Well last night everybody was talking about relationship problems. The... | NTA. She got what’s coming to her. The fact she kept drilling the idea that you’re short is a huge asshole move on her part. You insulting her was a clap back. Did she just expect you to sit back and take it? She sucks. ###### |
Me and my boyfriend recently (6 months ago) moved in to our first property together, in which we have a spare bedroom that we agreed to rent out to a friend of mine who has never left home, let's call her M. For some context I have been friends with M for almost 20 years, always pretty tight and open with each other.
... | NTA. She failed to communicate properly and expected you to simply put up with her lack of organisation and childishness. Then she basically stole from you. Not someone you require in your life. ###### |
Recently, a long term relationship I had was ended. My ex was the one who broke up with me, and it was done through text. My ex has really bad anxiety, and although it definitely hurt my feelings, I am okay with the fact she had ended things through text. She and I share an apartment, but luckily my friend is alright w... | NTA. She doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. You removed her from your social media posts. What you do is no longer any of her business. ###### |
My girlfriend (28F) and I (30F) live together for over a year now. She is currently packing for a week-long camping trip with her dad and brothers and was charging up both of my external battery packs. I told her I didn’t want her taking both. She can take the older smaller one but the big one is expensive and she has ... | NTA. She doesn't seem to understand boundaries at all. Just because you're living together that doesn't mean that everything you own is hers too. I doubt she'd be okay with the opposite, if you took her stuff and told her well cause we're living together it's mine too. ###### |
So I know it sounds bad but hear me out. I found a used sofa listed online, and I asked the owner if I could come by and check it out. She agreed; she was keeping it in her garage. When I arrived I asked if it was okay if I felt it and generally "checked it out", and she said fine. I looked to see if if the cushions we... | NTA. She didn’t want you to *sit*. On a *sofa*...? Yup, she was running a scam. ###### |
Me (f25) and my partner (m28) have 2 kids already, DD 2.5yr and DS 11 months.
I was due to get the coil fitted before the pandemic but this was delayed and we were using condoms.
About 6 weeks ago I suddenly started feeling dozzy and nauseous out of nowhere which is exactly how i felt with DS so i took a pregnancy t... | NTA. She didn't tell you before hand and had no way of knowing. She asked the question, and then got pissed that you h=answered honestly? You can be relieve over whatever you want, and the miscarriage doesnt affect her ability of trying for a baby.
She looking for a reason to be pissed about it. ###### |
A few years ago when my daughter was 13 she begged and begged me for a dog till I was so fed up that I gave in. It was a huge mistake but at the time I didn't think it would be since my daughter promised that since it was her dog that she would take care of it and I would just buy it what it needed.
I finally got her ... | NTA. She didn't hold up her end of the bargain and you warned her multiple times. Ultimately it sounds like you did the right thing for the dog in giving it to someone who would take care of it properly. ###### |
My sister asked me to babysit her kids (2,4,4,7). I agreed but I told her that she’s going to need to give me food to feed them because I’m fasting and I don’t have anything but oatmeal ramen, and protein in my house. My sister said buy whatever and she’ll pay me back. I asked the kids and they wanted McDonald’s. I bou... | NTA. She did not specify not to feed them McDonald's, and that's what they asked for. She needs to pay you back. Involve your parents if you have to. ###### |
So me (M27) and my family live in a townhouse of mostly white neighborhood (important later). The townhouses are sharing a strip of "frontyard" that we must maintain and we try our best to keep up, we planted flowers, we mow our lawn, etc. However, our neighbor that we share the said strip is always commenting and alwa... | NTA. She deserved it. She may be old but that doesn’t mean she’s right. Alcohol involved or not she seems like a closeted racist who’s using subtle tactics to put you down ###### |
This happened before the whole corona virus ordeal, but my friend, we will call her L, is still upset about this. AITA in this situation?
Awhile ago at a social gathering L and I were discussing her upcoming birthday plans. I offered to host L’s birthday party if she didn’t have other plans, L quickly shut that down i... | NTA. She decided after you originally asked that it would be great to have a bday party and go to a cabin. She doesn't even invite you to the cabin, but now expects you to throw her a party? Especially since she already turned you down?
She is not a friend, she is an entitled B. ###### |
Title pretty much says it all. My friend was checking on my cats while I was on vacation (this was last year). Basically I was supposed to pay her $20/day for the week.
Then (while I was on vacation), apparently she somehow ran over the light post in my yard. It broke in half and she tore out some of the underground e... | NTA. She damaged your property, she needs to make up for it. You’re being generous in paying the difference. It was her mistake and she needs to own up to it ###### |
I love in a house that's literally surrounded by woods. There's a lot of wild animals that prowl around, and so I've been very careful when it comes to my pets. My sister has been staying with me because she doesn't have enough money to pay for her own apartment. She's a generally unpleasant person and she doesn't like... | NTA. She could have killed your pets and then she has the audacity to guilt trip you? Dealing with the pets was part of living with you. They were there before she was. If she couldn't handle it, she couldn't stay. ###### |
I recently re-connected with a friend from high school when her husband was accepted into a masters program at the same university where I am attending grad school. We were both really excited when we found out we would be living in the same city.
However. She is vastly different from the person I used to know. She wa... | NTA. She complained, you offered a valid solution, she chose to ignore it and keep whining. ###### |
My (22m) dad (49m) just got home with his girlfriend. As soon as they walk in all I hear is him yelling and calling her some fucked up names. Then they start arguing out in the front yard. Fyi my dad was 100% the aggressor and his girlfriend was just crying and trying to talk to him while he was screaming at her.
... | NTA. She clearly needed help and you gave it to her. You did the right thing. ###### |
Every day at the same time, I walk my dog around the block. Whenever we encounter other people, with or without dogs, we move to the boulevard and let the other people and their dog(s) stay on the sidewalk. Today, I came across a lady walking 3 golden retrievers. I did what I always do, and moved myself, my dog, and my... | NTA. She clearly just got defensive when you pointed out the obvious - that she was not in control. ###### |
My daughter (20F) started a diet a few weeks ago where she doesn’t eat after 7PM. I’ve read mixed things on this, but nothing dangerous. She is active, eats healthy on the regular. So, she’s not starving herself. So, I didn’t say anything on it.
Then she got into a fight with her dad yesterday. This whole “no one can... | NTA. She chose the diet, she had the fight, she refused to go into the kitchen, she waited until after the 7pm limit to tell anyone, and she's the one who's upset. She has two options now, eat after 7pm or wait until morning. What does she want you to do? Berate your husband for being in the kitchen cooking for the re... |
I wanna keep this a little vague for privacy.
My gf recently expressed interest in learning a new instrument, she said it was something she'd always wanted to do. I play a few instruments myself so I thought it would be a great gift for her since I could help her learn and we could play together, and I know she's been... | NTA. She cheated on you and you don’t owe her anything, including an instrument and her dignity ###### |
For my birthday I wanted to have dinner just with the two of us, no other family members were invited.
So on the night he picks me up and on our way to dinner we get a call from her. She has been out drinking with a friend and wants a ride. She could have asked her friend for a ride home or easily gotten a taxi as it ... | NTA. She can’t treat you like an inferior and then expect you to be over the moon about her joining in on your birthday celebration. There’s probably a reason her kids don’t want to celebrate with her. Good on your Dad for refusing, I hope you enjoyed your celebration with him regardless of her attitude. ###### |
i like to play guitar a lot. lately, ive been playing it more than usual because ive had time off. im not sure why, but my girlfriend isnt the biggest fan of me playing. maybe she just things im bad at it lol but usually when im playing, she’s upstairs anyway. i know its not because she wants me to spend time with her ... | NTA. she can’t respect your personal property, which is a big red flag. ###### |
Today, I was biking on a relatively popular trail. It's usually shared between bikers and walkers. I have a relatively old bike (made in 2013) and the gear changing click is quite loud. At one point, the was a pretty steep hill I had to ride up. I downshifted to make it easier to climb, and almost immediately, a woman ... | NTA. She can't expect silence in a public park.
That said, you're keeping a safe 6 feet away due to corona, right? ###### |
I live with my grandmother. Rent is $900 and we each pay half. Recently this person decided to bring in their grown 50 year old drug addict son because “he has nowhere to go”. He does have somewhere to go. He has a house he was living in but his wife recently died and she took it upon herself to allow him to live with ... | NTA. She can enable him all she wants, and she’s probably going to. But you’re not required to do so. She needs to enable him on her own dime.
ETA: but you do still owe the agreed-upon rent. You also have the ability to demand that he not impact your life, groceries, etc. She’ll likely agree, but won’t be able or wil... |
My mother remarried a few years ago which meant a new step sister who is 2 months older than I so when my family moved schools I ended up at hers and she became once of my main bullies. One reason was for being ‘out’ as Bisexual. Last week she rang our family (we’ve both lived out of home for 2 years now) and we so exc... | NTA. She bullied you, for god's sake. You should have cut contact then and there.
Also, it seems that she probably, maybe bullied you to hide her own sexuality which makes her a coward. 🤷 ###### |
Recently, a long term relationship I had was ended. My ex was the one who broke up with me, and it was done through text. My ex has really bad anxiety, and although it definitely hurt my feelings, I am okay with the fact she had ended things through text. She and I share an apartment, but luckily my friend is alright w... | NTA. She broke up. You are hurt too and have the right to delete whatever picture you wish from your personal account. ###### |
My BF [34M] and I [27M] have been together for nearly 5 years. We have 2 kids together from his previous marriage. Throughout the years, I could see that his mother is toxic for us and our 2 kids. His mother would always guilt trip him into supporting her lavish lifestyle. From paying for her incredibly expensive the... | NTA. She basically threatens to self-harm if he doesn’t cave and that is HOT GARBAGE. Just be careful on legalities. ###### |
I have a daughter who will be 27 in two months, and lately she has been constantly lamenting the fact that she is so "old" and has not found "the one." I know that this is likely a result of so many of her friends having gotten married within the last two or so years, including her younger sister who married her longti... | NTA. She asked a question, you gave an honest answer. May not have been what she *wanted* to hear, but it sounds like it's what she needed. ###### |
I was attempting to serve legal documents upon someone who we'll call Jane Doe, who had reportedly been evading process servers for some time.
I went to their address and a female roommate confirmed that the address was correct, but the person I was looking for was at work.
I returned the next day and was told by a m... | NTA. Serving legal documents is a completely reasonable exception to the idea you shouldn't force people to reveal their deadname. ###### |
My partner and I have a two year old and we are expecting in the fall. He would like to go to a sporting event that is out of state and would be gone for at least 3 days. The sporting event is 2 weeks after my due date. I told him that I really feel like I need help at home because I will be newly postpartum with a new... | NTA. Seriously, what is that guy even thinking? Your concerns are valid, and also, leaving town for a fun thing and leaving your wife alone with a newborn is the stuff that gets mentioned in couples therapy and divorce proceedings years after the fact.
It may be worth asking him to cut it out. I don't know. You are ... |
I gave birth January 4th 2018 to the cutest (may be a little biased there) little girl.
My relationship with her father was low contact when we broke up (he wasnt ready to be a father...despite having a second child born in May 2018?)
He would visit every weekend, he didnt want custody and probably wouldn't get anyt... | NTA. Send him nothing. The sister of the father of my child asked for photos, I sent one on the condition it was not shared with their mother (my child's biological grandmother). Biological grandmother posted the picture online within an hour of me sending it to the sister along with a caption about how I was keeping ... |
Dow to quarantine my sister-in-law sends her 9yo son to stay with me and my husband. Its was the best solution because she and her husband are both doctors.
My husband is a photographer and I am an editor and colourist. Because I worked from home in the quarantine I relocated my computer in a little room, which I a... | NTA. Send him back to his parents. Having him stay with you obviously isn't working out. He's 9. He's old enough to know when he shouldn't touch something. He disrespected your home and the consequence is that he doesn't get to be there anymore. ###### |
Throwaway because my family members use reddit.
I (13F) finally got my own room after years of having to share it with my sister (10F). From the age of 5 to 11, I had to share a room with her, and it was awful. She would take my stuff and throw it on the ground, this caused my mother to think I was creating the messes... | NTA. Seems perfectly reasonable, especially given her past history of trashing places. ###### |
Yesterday I spent 9 hours cleaning and organizing the kids (7f and 3m) bedrooms. I organized the toys, washed the walls, shampooed the carpets etc.
I absolutely had to go to the store today because we didnt have anything left to eat. I was gone for around 2 hours since I had to go to three stores to get everything, d... | Nta. Seems like you cleaned yesterday and now it’s his turn. But honestly your kids are old enough to start cleaning up after themselves. Will it be perfect? No. But I mean it’s their room. If they won’t help clean up maybe they need less toys and books in their room ###### |
My (34F) boyfriend (35M) and I have been having a really rocky time in the relationship. I planned a nice treat for a picnic date that involved champagne and a spread of really nice food— as in, I spent an ungodly amount on cheese and charcuterie for us to enjoy.
He said that he would probably give some of it to his ... | NTA. Seems like something special you were really looking forward to and he ruined the sparkle of it by opening the cheeses and giving them to his guys before you got to enjoy it together. Not to mention he didn’t pay for it. If he doesn’t see this is a problem, I would take the trash out! ###### |
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About a month ago my girlfriend broke up with me. All that was explained to me was that she found someone else and wanted to end things amicably.
As far as I'm concerned, things ended amicably and there are no hard feelings regarding it to my knowledge.
A couple weeks later she texted me and was asking how things w... | NTA. Seems like she wanted you to come crawling back to her and is now upset that you found someone else. ###### |
My Nephew (14) has been going through a rough patch. He’s continually acting out and getting in trouble. Both he and his mother decided they needed a break, and he’s staying with his father for the next month to go camping.
He keeps calling home to complain to his mom about his Father and stepmom over trivial matters (... | NTA. Sadly he has to learn. $120 more a month to accommodate is a lot of money, I wouldn’t call yourself cheap for not wanting to spend the extra money. As harsh as it feels now, he’ll grow up to realize that entertainment costs money and sometimes you have to make sacrifices from what you want for what you need. ####... |
This is kind of weird and I guess NSFW.
I’ve been just chilling in my room naked for these past few days because it’s comfortable. I don’t really do this normally. My mom got really angry at me and told me that I had to put cloths on. I told her I’m just in my room and I put on cloths if I want to leave, it’s her own... | NTA. Rooms are for being naked. At some point you’re going to shower and come back to your bedroom naked. I bet your mom’s not barging in unannounced then. ###### |
So my girlfriend told me that she wanted to show me an interesting prayer in her religion (she's Hindu btw and I'm a Catholic). I told her very politely that I will watch her say the prayer and not do it as I don't believe in her gods.
Christianity is based on monotheism and I cannot pray or worship another god, but I... | NTA. Religious freedom means that you are free to _not_ say prayers as well. ###### |
I am 16 and I am FTM trans, my parents know about this but deny it. Say they need more proof before they accept it.
One of the things I have never done is shave my legs. Although my mom always calls me a slob, disgusting and every name under the book. Last night she called me the most disgusting human being for no ... | NTA. Regardless of your gender identity, your very natural leg hair has precisely zero impact on your parents. Your mom is the selfish one thinking your choice to shave or not has anything to do with her. You're not disgusting. You are valuable. You don't need their approval. ###### |
I've been laid off and have spent a lot of time at home cleaning and organizing. Husband is working from home and mentioned that its nice that everything is so clean and we can actually enjoy our days off instead of always having something to do. So we tossed around the idea of hiring a cleaning service once a week or ... | NTA. Regardless of his mum being nosey or not I would not want my mother or mil going around my house cleaning. I also wouldn't hire my mother unless she was strapped for cash and even then I'd give her money before hiring her. Is that normal for him to hire his mother to clean his house? ###### |
To preface this, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a couple months and she has a variety of mental health issues, including severe social anxiety. One thing she has started doing is making this extremely loud high pitched scream whenever she feels emotion, like when she’s very happy, shocked, and as a greeting. It wou... | NTA. Regardless of her mental health issues, I suspect the screaming is a **habit** rather than an uncontrollable utterance {such as cussing with Tourette Syndrome.}
It would be enlightening if you looked up her exact diagnosis in the latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders to s... |
2 years ago, I (26f) inherited a home in Barcelona from my Spanish grandmother. I work remotely so I made the decision to move there for a few years, enjoying the culture and of course, lack of mortgage/rent. But I came home to the US to ride out this pandemic with family.
My friend, Sofia (25f) in Barcelona has to mo... | NTA. Recipe for disaster and your right to avoid it. I know someone who did something like this and the place ended up with thousands of dollars worth of damage and filth and was unlivable. ###### |
So here's the thing. We're out of quarantine but the rules are still strict. If you enter transportation without a mask you'll get fined. Another way to distance each other in buses, methods etc. is that they forbid us from sitting next to each other. They have put a sign on every two seats to remind people.
Another ... | NTA. Really, if the elderly die from the virus because they don't respect the rules, that's on them. ###### |
We have had my niece and nephew for over 2 years (1,190 days to be exact). My sister has severe mental health issues and a one day she was having a pretty bad breakdown and was a danger to the kids. We went and picked up the kids and her husband said he would take her to the hospital. He then did NOT take her to the ho... | NTA. Really bio dad? *You* feel betrayed? This fool has some real nerve trying to be the victim in this situation. ###### |
My entire childhood and adolescence life I strived to be this independent woman. I am now 27 and a housewife.
The other day I drove to my hometown to visit with a few friends (restrictions have been laxed in my province). We were catching up talking about our lives and having a blast. Of course our careers came up in ... | NTA. Real feminism is about having the freedom to do what you like for profession. If you’re happy, you have very right to be a housewife. ###### |
A girl from my high school posted a video of herself screaming the n word with her mother. Another girl posted a picture of herself with blackface and calling herself a n word on her Snapchat story. She also happened to have a VSCO account where she posts pictures of her weed and alcohol. I emailed my principal and my ... | NTA. Racism should not be tolerated. ###### |
Good luck with your new job. I hope you got the landlords permission for the lock as this is a joint tenancy, did you think I was going to still your spider man toys? Either way I'm not bothered except it looks awful and you should have asked/done a decent job of it. Anyways, hope everything goes well with your job
(... | NTA. Putting in a lock causes no more damage than hanging a shelf. He's most likely pissed at the perceived lack of trust and lashed out in an immature way. If that's what he's like all the time, I'd say you were spot on when you installed that lock. ###### |
So I have a niece and nephew, my nephew is 3 and my niece is 5 months old. Ever since my nephew was born my sister has just randomly dropped him off anytime she wanted without even asking me first. Most of the time she will drop them off with 20 bucks and expect me to watch them on the spot. I usually just end up watch... | Nta. Put your foot down the next time she shows up and tell her no. She is free to call and **ask** if you can watch them, but she is no longer going to get a positive response if she shows up out of the blue. ###### |
So I(21m) have a twin brother and he brought two pet parrots against my parent’s will a couple years ago. My parents are retired and not in the best of health and the birds wake up early every single morning and make constant noise. My brother however couldn’t be bothered as he continues to sleep in his room until 10 o... | NTA. Put the birds in his room. ###### |
A little background, my som is almost 2 and I post very little about him on social media, not too many photos, because I don’t want his face plastered all over the internet. Anything I do post about him is all private due to my privacy settings so only the people I want to see it can. My SO and I have told all of our f... | NTA. Protecting your child is the very first thing any parent should be doing, and the fact that this woman is ignoring your valid requests to keep images of your child off the internet gives you every right to report her and do whatever you feel needs to be done. ###### |
So My friend (F29) picked up a friend and they hung out for a few months before I met him. I cross paths with this guy a notice some really questionable tattoos. As a 30 year old black man I'm really concerned. The next day I ask her again about the guy and she confirmed my suspicions. So I got really upset and clearly... | NTA. Protect your own. Don't let them invade your life further. I respect you for setting boundaries and following through. ###### |
My girlfriend and I recently moved in together. She has a 3 and a half year old daughter. Her baby daddy is not really in the picture and her daughter calls me dad. She still breastfeeds her kid like 5 times a day and co sleeps with her every night and breast feeds throughout the night.
I have tried to sleep in the sa... | NTA. Pressuring you to sleep with them to your detriment, using the "if you really care about..." manipulation tactic. Roping you back in with the impression of willingness to change, only to yank it away once you return. That's AH behavior, and it's pretty toxic. Some people breastfeed for quite a while; I'm not qual... |
So me and my partner are getting married in August, and we have had RSVPs back from people who say they are coming and add a +1 to the invite, and I have trouble confronting people to tell them no...
But my real AITA grievance is my mother...
She randomly calls and tells me to add this cousin or that cousin because ... | NTA. Polish up your spine, it’s hard but it’ll make you hate your wedding day looking back realizing how much you let your mom get away with because you don’t want to be confrontational. ###### |
So my 2 step sisters who share a room, I guess they haven't gotten along and arguing a lot. My mom and step dad's solution is to break them up in the room and move me and my step brother into a room. I have had the same room since we all first moved in and I was like 7 or something. I have protested this hard, cause I ... | NTA. Point out that as the only child who doesn't pick fights with siblings or smell like Satan's small intestine, you don't deserve to be punished. ###### |
I've been fairly overweight to moderately overweight my entire life. Until my accident, I was struggling to stay under 200 pounds. I was asked to be a bridesmaid for my friend's wedding, where all the other bridesmaids are moderately overweight to obese. The bride is what I would consider an average weight.
I got int... | Nta. Plus your body isn’t even unnatural! I am roughly the same weight and have 32dd. It’s just not a body you are used to yet. I am sorry they are acting like you are doing something wrong. You went through something traumatic and you have the right to be happy with where you are at. ###### |
If I do not shower in the morning, my husband begins making comments that I should do so, starting in late morning/afternoon.
I have a full time job, and I usually shower 7 days a week. I generally look nice. Every so often (once a month), I will skip a Saturday or, even more rarely, a week day.
Now, this fight kicke... | NTA. Plenty of people shower every other day and no one can tell. Some people can't get away with this, but many can. As long as you don't actually smell, you're good.
It's gross if you got sweaty or dirty, but if you're just lazing around at home and it isn't hot or humid out, it shouldn't be a big deal. Your husban... |
Alright for some background, I’m currently in high school (ik, my issue can’t be to significant because of my young age). Also, I workout nearly 3 hours a day in hopes of playing college football eventually. This of course has made me significantly larger than a lot of other individuals my age.
Ok, to the story. So d... | NTA. Plenty of people run without shirts on. Just because you're stronger/bigger than other people doesn't mean you should have to start wearing a shirt when you run. Don't change yourself because someone else is self-conscious.
As long as you're not like running naked it's fine. ###### |
Throwaway, mobile, all that jazz.
Tonight I was a Suspicious Sally and checked my husband's text messages from his smart watch. I see a series of messages to an unsaved number and while they're not explicit they essentially allude to wanting to meet up again. The weird thing is that it only displayed one side of the ... | NTA. Please, girl. You know he's a liar. Why are you even asking reddit? Pack your bags. ###### |
I feel rather childish about feeling so jealous of my sisters birthday and know that as an 18 year old I should have more control over my emotions. Yet I have this petty feeling that celebrating her birthday is unfair since we never celebrated mine. I turned 18 this year and instead of doing anything with my family my ... | NTA. Please take care of yourself and your own emotional well-being. :( ###### |
There’s this girl I know who is moving apartments; however, there is a 4 day difference between the end of her current lease and the start of her new one.
She said she was looking for a place to stay (I think money is tight so a hotel is not ideal), so I offered to let her spend those nights at my apartment on my sof... | NTA. Please don’t be a pushover she’s clearly using you as a last resort. ###### |
I’ll try to keep this short... my fiancé and I have been together for 5 years now. I knew very early in the relationship I had no intention of taking his last name. After the first year or so of dating when we talked about the future I mentioned I wouldn't want to take his last name because I like my last name. I’m sec... | NTA. Please don't marry someone who doesn't respect your autonomy, think about things any more deeply than 'its tradition', or argue points in a manner more sophisticated than 'no backsies'.
The idea that he's 'letting' you keep your name makes me want to vom. ###### |
So my (19f) boyfriend (20m) was on the Ps4 last night playing GTA with his friends. I was sitting on the couch watching him when he started talking about me.
They were asking him gross questions and he was *answering* them after I kept throwing stuff at him trying to get him to stop.
He started talking about the se... | NTA. Please break up with your boyfriend. He has no respect for you and he essentially views you as a sex object for his entertainment. ###### |
My roomate and I aren't the most well off people but I like to save a bit of cash and buy the good stuff. Butter instead of margerine, fresh instead of packaged. It's like the ONE thing I splurge on to try and be healthy.
I asked if it was cool to have our own shelves in the fridge since we often buy similar things a... | NTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Maybe he’ll stop with the stupid, transparent excuses now. ###### |
I was looking at an Instagram video of two black teens giving clothes and shoes to a white guy (yes, race is important here) because he was bullied in school for his clothes. It was really wholesome and to me did not at all make the impression that it was for clout.
I went on to look at the comments and saw some guy ... | NTA. Play stupid games win stupid prizes. He didn’t have to publicly post those comments on the video but he did. If he really cared about his future and image he wouldn’t be acting as he did. So you didn’t do anything wrong except out a racist and probably taught him a lesson at the same time ###### |
My 8yo daughter has been staying at my Ex's for the past fortnight. We have a shared custody arrangement and she enjoys staying over there as my Ex's wife also has a daughter several years older who she looks up to. Depsite being long separate, I would say the arrangement had previously being working well given the ci... | NTA. piercing guns are dangerous and can cause massive issues with healing, you have no idea if it was done in a sterile environment and if the person had any training with hepatitis or infection prevention, also cartilage piercings are harder to heal, they take longer and can get infected easily. also there are nerve... |
my mom dropped her phone in the toilet at WORK the other day. she put her phone in rice for 40ish hours, and today, she USED THAT RICE TO MAKE LUNCH.
i told her there's no way im eating that, because her phone was in it. even if it hadnt dropped in a toilet, its DISGUSTING. she said its okay, since she disinfected her... | NTA. Phones are extremely germy and filthy and even though she disinfected it I still wouldn't want rice that has had TOILET water on it. Idc if that stuff got washed, that's still gross IMO ###### |
So I (F18) have pretty severe arachnophobia. I’ve never been officially diagnosed, but seeing spiders can send me into what I call “cringe attacks” where I kinda spasm uncontrollably for a few minutes while physically cringing, and there have been a few cases where seeing too many spiders in one place or too close has ... | NTA. Phobias aren’t choices. You’ve expressed to your parents that you would willingly participate in therapy and that it’s something you want to do, and instead of enabling that they are continuing to complain about and berate you about a problem they're standing in the way of solving.
The positive here is that you ... |
About 6 weeks ago as we were leaving our house we saw a pet rabbit on the road outside our house. It was already dark out. We get home 2 hours later and it's still there.
We park the car and I go onto the road to see if I can catch it - it runs right up to me so I pick it up and take it inside. It's late now so I deci... | NTA. Pet rabbits shouldn't be free range. You're just trying to protect it. The owner doesn't seem to have much knowledge or care for it. ###### |
I will try to keep this as concise as possible.
My wife and I have been together for going on 27 years. We met at a pretty low point in both of our lives, coming from broken homes and an unhealthy dependency on food. We both probably weighed around 300lbs, and though our weight has fluctuated over the years we both c... | NTA. Personally I'd think enabling what is probably an addiction would make you TA. You're not forcing her to workout or degrading her. You shouldn't have to make double the meals. Encourage her to get therapy. ###### |
The wife has a strong passion for cooking. She cooks every night, with the exception of Friday where we go out to eat (or order in right now because of the current situation)
We have two daughters, who are 13 and 17. Usually as a family we clear the table, put the dishes in the sink, put leftovers in the Tubberware, a... | NTA. Personally I probably would've made them come back and help last night, but cooking one dinner because they bailed on cleaning up is super reasonable. They're old enough they should be learning how to cook anyway (especially the 17 year old but even 13 is plenty old enough to know your way around a kitchen)
The ... |
So I was selling a couple of my son’s old baby items online and as I was cleaning out the garage, I saw a Bugaboo pram set we borrowed from a friend when my son was younger. So I called her to see if she wanted to come to get it and she asked if I could sell it with my items for her and she wants $300 for it, and sure... | NTA. Perhaps your friend should’ve sold her own damn pram if she could’ve done it better. ###### |
So this happened last year. I got engaged back in 2018, and chose my wedding party, 3 of my closest friends, and my fiancé chose his brother and 2 of his friends. Growing up, I was not close to my younger sister (then brother). There wasn't any bad blood or anything, we just don't have a lot in common and barely speak.... | NTA. People will always, always make someone else’s wedding about themselves. She should have spoken more with you about it instead of boycotting your wedding altogether. ###### |
So I am 15M I am currently going through a serious depression I have recently started anti depressants and hopefully they will help alongside therapy. My sister who is 21F is a "micro influencer" which is marketing terms for people who have over 50k followers on a platform but don't have enough followers to throw a bun... | NTA. People who use other people’s conditions for clout if fucking disgusting. ###### |
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