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AITA for not speaking to my sister until I get an apology
So I’m currently not speaking to my sister, being stuck inside is getting to her and we’re all a bit tense and fighting more, but over the last few months she’s taken to saying that I constantly insult her and that I’m a horrible sister. Bc of everything this h... | NTA. People tend to act out at people closest to them. It looks like your sister is doing the same. And considering her age she probably doesn't know how to deal with certain and possibly new feelings/emotions yet. It's always so much easier to make someone else the bad guy than to deal with your emotions. Yay for pub... |
My wife and I had our second baby two months ago. We were pretty indecisive with a name and nothing really shined for us. Eventually one of the options grew on me and turned into my top choice. My wife also liked it but was concerned because a former coworker/friend had used the name for her daughter about a year prio... | NTA. People pick the same name. They're in no position to demand that you don't use a particular name. If people could "claim" names we'd have far fewer Mikes in the world. ###### |
I've been in between on the issue. I love animals so maybe that's clouding my judgment.
My close friend's brother is Autistic and is classified as high functioning. She's his roommate but will be moving out in June. They have a cat who is a sweetheart. When I sleepover she's my cuddle bug. Sake of the story I'll call ... | NTA. People need to stop treating autistic people (especially high functioning) like useless babies. He knows that how he is acting isn't appropriate. Good on you for calling him out because, it seems obvious that no one else is holding/teaching him to acting like a decent person. ###### |
So, a little bit of background.
My sister proposed to my mom the idea that her friends come up to our summer house for a week. My mom was super reluctant to say yes. But, on top of that, my grandma is here. My grandma said as long as they socially distance and we take their temperatures that it is ok to have them up ... | NTA. People need to grow up and do the right thing until this is over. You did the right thing, she did not. This is how people get sick, and this is how people die. ###### |
I (21m) plan on proposing to my partner early next year and we have been jokingly talking about it for months and months. what kind of dress she would like and what sort of venue would be perfect etc. the other day we were talking about who would be attending and i immediately said i do not want my dad there, he was... | NTA. People get caught up in blood realations and the idea of "But they're *family*" meaning that you need to forgive them for pretty much anything. They don't get that being related by blood doesn't stop some people from being horrible. ###### |
I(20f) live with my bf(24) and I’m allergic to cats
Last week I came home to find him on the couch petting a very chonky cat. He knows I am allergic but told me that his friend needed to get rid of it so he took it. The cat sheds its fur a lot and my eyes burn, I’m constantly sneezing and I break out in hives. My bf a... | NTA. People can't get pets without consulting the other humans they live with. That's just a basic rule of living with others.
It's actually pretty weird that your BF doesn't care about how this is affecting you. Is he planning on getting rid of the cat and this is temporary? ###### |
I know it’s a weird title, sorry. Also on mobile so layout might be strange.
So around a year ago I (M15) was diagnosed with Leukemia. Six months later and I was having a life saving bone marrow transplant. I was in the same room for a month, tired and sleeping 6 hours a day and 12 at night. I have now (almost) fully ... | NTA. People around you should be understanding of your medical conditions and help you out. You can’t help your physical condition and they should understand your limitations and support you. ###### |
Just to note - I'm a 3rd year paramedic student (in my country it's a 4 year degree). Not that it really makes a lot of difference here though.
I have a friend who's been constantly complaining for roughly 2 months now about feeling horribly sick. I believe her, especially within the past week she's looked sick. When... | NTA. People are usually sick for days or weeks, not *months* (unless it’s something really bad). If this has been going on that long, she needs to see a doctor, because there’s a chance it could be something fairly serious. ###### |
So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for
about 5 1/2 months, and I quit martial arts
because I got bored around the time we started dating, but I want to get back into it after quarantine is over. Its been an ongoing issue with us for the last couple of months because its "dangerous" and I've gotten hurt a couple... | NTA. Partners should be excited for each other trying new things/being involved with things they love. He doesn't want you to do it because not doing a sport is something you have in common right now? That's a load of crap. He sounds insecure and clingy. ###### |
I guess this is a pet peeve more than anything else, but in my family we always asked if someone wants the last piece of cake, slice of pizza, whatever. That was just the norm for me (and tbh i thought it was like this for everyone, but I guess not my bf). My boyfriend tends to naturally eat more and eat quicker than I... | NTA. Parents need to start teaching their little boys that they don't get to just devour all the good and easy food in the house because they are hungry or just want to eat it. It's mind-boggling to me how many posts there are on here and relationship advice Reddits about full grown men eating all the leftovers or goo... |
My husband is very upset with me for a situation that happened yesterday, just wanting some outside opinions on it.
I am a stay at home mum to a 10 month old and 3 year old. Yesterday my mum invited us around for lunch to catch up with the family which we went to and was fine and my friends wanted to catch up for afte... | NTA. Parenting is supposed to be done together and watching her for 2 hours shouldn't be too hard, especially when you seem to take care of her the rest of the time. He could and should help you more and/or help you pay for a babysitter because it isn't fair for him to make you take care of her like 99% of the time. #... |
So, my (22 F) mom (55) is a very passive-aggressive person. She’s not a nice lady, so much so that if my dad (an amazing human being) wasn’t around, I’d write her off forever and not regret a second of the rest of my life. She makes snide and downright tasteless comments about everything in my life, but this time was ... | NTA. Overweight or not you don’t deserve to be treated like shit. I’d say you gave her exactly what she gave you and nothing uncalled for or excessive. ###### |
So my dog is 4 years old and I just found out she has cancer. The vet said that it was caught early and that with surgery and chemotherapy it’s very likely that she’ll have a full recovery and live a full life like she never had it. The only thing is that she estimates it would cost between 9-10k for the treatment. I... | NTA. Our cat was only 2.5 when he became very ill. We were also in the midst of a massive (200K) renovation on our house. The vet said, "save him or put him down." It was Christmas, house, 3 kids, 25th wedding anniversary.... When I called hubby I said, "let this be my anniversary and Christmas gift." He is usually qu... |
My sister has two children. One is a girl (age 6) and the other a boy (age 2). When the girl first began to walk she was somewhat “bowlegged” as they called it but it straightened really quickly. The boy, however, has always had it worse and is has having trouble walking. He can stand, even run, but falls almost consta... | NTA. Others are telling you to call CPS. Another option would be to call the doctor who prescribed the braces, tell him/her about the situation and see if they would be willing to make a phone call to your sister to request a follow-up appointment where they can disabuse her of the notion of "his natural progress" and... |
So some backstory. I have non epileptic seizures that were pretty bad for a while. At that time, we also didn’t know they weren’t epileptic. I was in and out of hospital, in ICUs and medically induced comas, and couldn’t work. It also wrecked my mental health for a while. At the same time, my brother has been living re... | NTA. OP, for your own health and happiness, please avoid people who treat you like this. It's nice of you to show concern for their views, but ultimately, they have shown that they do not really care about you. It's probably a good idea to just move away. ###### |
Today during a Zoom meeting, my colleagues and I were discussing the Pandemic and the topic of Self-Check Outs at Grocery Stores was discussed. I then recalled an incident I had a couple of months ago right before Christmas. Although they were laughing at my story, some of them were saying I was an asshole and disrespe... | NTA. One polite "no thanks" should have been enough. Worker could have moved on to the next person after you said no. ###### |
I got divorced when my kids were 4 and 5. Their mother found a new man one year after the split, who she subsequently married and the children have lived with them full time since.
As a single person I’ve struggled financially paying 100% child support as well as my own bills. On the other hand they have had annual ... | NTA. Once your child is 18, you could always arrange to give her some money directly? It could be a regular thing, or an "Here I have some spare bucks this week" or "here, I can pay for that thing for you". Whatever agreement you come to, with your child. Leave your ex out of the equation after 18. ###### |
Little back story... my wife is a bartender and is working cut hours right now. She’s works with this guy we’ll call Jim.
One day hanging out at home she thinks who she believe is Jim. Goes to work the next day, finds out it was indeed him and he lives in our complex. So she gives him a ride home because he doesn’t h... | NTA. Once you told her you didn't like it it should've either stopped or she should've discussed with you, not disregard your feelings. ###### |
Throwaway for obvious reasons, mandatory apology for the bad formatting.
I (19f) have a friend, lets call him Thomas, basically hes been on a paypig website, ( men will pay money to have women insult them or humiliate them) on this website its mainly anonymous, a fake screen name and a few photos, and there aren't man... | NTA. Once you decided you didn’t wAnt to do this anymore, they should have been it. For him to keep using your photos is a major betrayal of your trust. Sounds like it’s tine to block him on all of your social media accounts. ###### |
This morning my mom (54F) asked me (24M) for $15k randomly. She has found that if she opens a new bank account and it has that amount for 3 months in it she will get $500 from the bank. I was pretty taken aback by this so I asked if I could think about it. She responds with going “Woooow, really?” and has been guilt t... | NTA. Once the money is in an account that is under her name you have no control over it and she can spin whatever narrative she likes to anyone who questions it. Or she can simply hold it over your head to control you. ###### |
I'm 33 weeks pregnant, still working full time in an active job (classed as a key worker) and have been told recently that the baby isn't growing as well as it should be and we may have to deliver early.
My partner has recently started working part time (after being furloughed from part time) and has always had this a... | NTA. On every phone I know of you can set up "do not disturb" to let particular numbers go through. It's absurd for him to make himself totally unreachable given that you could need an emergency delivery at any point.
Also congratulations, I hope all goes well for you and the baby. ###### |
So I (24m) and my (24f) wife where sleeping in our bed. Now our bed faces a vent. So i woke up and i saw that something was in there. And i have never noticed,but my mom had put a CAMERA in that vent my mother is a narcassist i went NC with her when i hit 18. And when i saw that camera i thought " holy shit theres a pe... | Nta. Omg camera in the room facing the bed? As in recording you guys being intimate? I hope that's as illegal as it sounds. That's so wrong and disgusting. Damn right you should sue her or have her prosecuted! It makes my skin crawl to even imagine, I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Good luck. ###### |
We are all teens if that changes anything. A few times a week me (male), one other guy, and 3 girls go jogging together. We are all neighbors. Me and the guy don't wear shirts and the girls don't either they just wear their bras.
My girlfriend was reluctant to join but she decided to come once. Afterwards she told m... | NTA. Omg - what’s going to happen when you go to a beach of swimming pool? ###### |
So this actually happened when I was 16 (I’m 20M currently), but it still makes me mad and I just want to know if I was the asshole.
I’m the oldest of 10 kids (I only lived with 8 of them the 9th was born after) and I have always looked after my siblings. The oldest 4 are 13+ and the youngest 6 are 8 and below. My fam... | NTA. Older kids aren't free babysitters. Older kids aren't fill-in-parents. Older kids deserve their childhood and teenage and adulthood. If parents decide to have more than one kid and can't handle it, it's on the parent. What you wrote was what you were feeling in your diary. What she did was an invasion of privacy... |
Me (28M) and my girlfriend (32F) have been together for 9 months and we currently live together in rented accommodation. We split everything evenly between us but pay for our own personal things, make up, computer games etc.
A few months ago upon leaving work I noticed a scratch down the side of my car across both do... | NTA. Oh, the irony. She fucks up your car and wants you to handle your own responsibilities? Pretty sure when you fuck up someone else’s property, it’s your adult responsibility to fix it. ###### |
My boyfriend and I have lived together for over a year and we had birth control failure (broken condom) that resulted in me getting pregnant just a few months into the relationship.
The entire time I was pregnant I worked full time and was getting put on best eat quite a bit. He would not keep a job. He would not get ... | NTA. Oh my god, run. Run far away from him.
Your premature baby has come home from the NICU, is on oxygen, and your boyfriend is still chainsmoking?? I’m not even going to touch the fact that he feels entitled to your money despite literally everything else you’ve written in this post. ###### |
So as far as I’m concerned this is 100% gross... but another person told me that it’s nothing and I would be rude to bring it up to my roommate.
My roommate - every month - leaves her pads wide open, laying face up on top of the trash. I’m talking fully used, bloody pads. Face up. I wouldn’t care if someone just did t... | NTA. Oh fuck no. That’s shit is disgusting. She’s gotta learn some damn manners ###### |
Mostly anxiety speaking here. I have a mentally disabled sister, physically she is an almost 40 year old woman but mentally she is about 15 months old. My parents feed her, shower her, dress her, etc. I struggle extremely with the fact that when my parents are gone, that I will have to take care of her. It kills me tha... | NTA. Of course you are not the asshole. That is a huge emotional, physical and financial burden and it is completely understandable that you dread that amount of responsibility. Just because you love someone, that doesn't mean you can't want your own life and identity. I don't think that is selfish, or if it is, it is... |
One of my closest male friends is pansexual and his parents are not supportive of that, nor would they be supportive of their male-child wearing makeup. He has expressed to me that he wants to paint his nails and wear eyeliner. I am more than willing to buy/teach him how to use eyeliner, but I feel like it would be bit... | NTA. Of all the ways to "rebel" and to express yourself, this has to be the least harmful. Makeup and polish can be removed, after all. Hair regrows. I don't understand parents who oppose this. ###### |
My SIL is an aspiring author, and has been working on a full book series for a few years now. She plans to self-publish, and has been having a hard time deciding on what her book covers will look like, since she doesn’t want blank covers. I’m an artist by hobby, and would like to make it my main means of income eventua... | NTA. Obviously NTA. She's 100% the asshole. If she won't pay or give credit, she is not only disrespecting you and artists as a whole, she's delusional. If she can get it free, she should go do just that. ###### |
In my group of friends a girl has had a crush on me for quite a long time, it was cute at first but it steadily got more and more annoying as she didn't seem to understand that I was not interested at all. Myself and the group of friends were talking the other day whilst drinking and the conversation somehow got round... | NTA. number one rule of fanfic, don't show it to the creators/actors. you were made aware, it IS creepy, and she hasn't stopped even though you asked. you can go to the website and make a complaint and maybe the mods will take it down.
look at the author of *After*. it was a Five Direction fanfic and the band has bl... |
Asking for a friend who does not have Reddit.
My neighbor and I have lived in the same subdivision for over fifteen years. We used to be friendly because our kids were friends, but as they grew apart, so did we. We were never especially close, she’s one of those people who asks for advice and then does what she wants ... | NTA. Now that they want something they contact you? As you said, your masks aren't really for protection so much anyway. They don't need them, and you dont owe them anything. ###### |
I’m a young, single father of two boys (from two different woman if that’s relevant). My older (elementary school age) son decided that since It’s on me I work twice as hard at being a parent. He wanted to honour me today for all I do, so I let him, he picked out a cookie cake for me, made me a card with his brother an... | NTA. Nothing wrong with your kids wanting to support you. If they don’t have a mom to support today, it’s much healthier to support you than sit around bereft all day. ###### |
So, this is the story. I (17M) have a girlfriend (17F), we have been together for 2 years now. Since we started dating my mom has always had some things she dislikes, for example, me going to her house (while her parents were there) because she doesnt approve that. And I respect her opinion and have said to her she can... | NTA. Nothing dangerous or illegal is going on. You are a 17 year old you should be able to go out with friends and have a girlfriend. This is especially when she gave you the ok but then said no when you said your girlfriend was going. I don't know what kind of cultural vendetta she has against your girlfriend, maybe ... |
I was having lunch with a friend of mine when the topic of dating came up, I told her I wasn’t dating anyone right now and was keen to get back out there.
She mentioned that she had a friend that she thinks I would be a good match with and was also looking to start dating too. She took out her phone and showed me a pi... | NTA. Not wanting to date a single parent is totally normal, and a reason why dating apps have filters. Also, I think your friends friend would understand. I work with a single mom (she’s maybe 32) of three boys all under the age of ten. When we first met, she flat out told me she is single and recognizes having mor... |
My boyfriend has a tendency to spend his entire day in discord with his friends when he is home. I normally do not care that he is spending time in their with his friends unless I am spending time with him doing something. He will oftentimes join a voice chat and sit in discord while we spend time together playing vide... | NTA. Not unreasonable. Sounds like he is, and needs to grow up ###### |
My SIL is an aspiring author, and has been working on a full book series for a few years now. She plans to self-publish, and has been having a hard time deciding on what her book covers will look like, since she doesn’t want blank covers. I’m an artist by hobby, and would like to make it my main means of income eventua... | NTA. Not only is she refusing to pay for your time and effort, she doesn’t want you to take credit for your work via your signature? That’s not “being family” as she so claims, that’s being a selfish brat. ###### |
Me and my boyfriend, both 21, have been together for about a year. I was visiting him when we went into lockdown so I’ve been staying with him and his family. For the most part I really get on with them, his parents have made some disapproving comments about me but I’ve enjoyed it here for the most part.
This coming ... | NTA. Not only do you have the right to exercise freedom of religion (or from religion), churches are not the safest places to be during the pandemic for a variety of reasons. On top of that, your boyfriend’s mother is being condescending and self-righteous, and your boyfriend is getting way too upset over your decisio... |
I have several children and I always try to let them express themselves anyway they want. My boys all have really long hair.(to their butts long)I love it, they love it. But their grandmother hates it. She says “They look like girls” or “You are going to turn them gay”
Anyway yesterday my middle son (7) went to his ... | NTA. Not only did she disrespect you, the parent, by crossing a huge line in cutting your kid's hair, but she also crossed a huge line with your kid. She violated your child's bodily autonomy by coming up behind him and cutting his hair without asking him. That's not okay. Sure, maybe you said some harsh things in the... |
A bit of back story: About a month ago me and my friends were out and while my friend was driving he spun out his car and we got pulled over. I didn't know at the time but the fucker at a wax pen on him, we all got sent to a holding cell for our parents. They let me and my buddy off light cause we had no idea and we ... | NTA. Not one bit. If she cannot take it, she shouldn't serve it. She's in problems because of what she did. Cocaine is a lot more serious than weed, and you didn't even did weed! Your brother was the one snitching on her, so no ot even that is on you. He made a judgement call. She is pissed and looking for anyone else... |
Ok, this all started last week. My little sister is great and I love her but she is impulsive. She got a kitten a few months and all was great! She’s an awesome pet owner and it’s doing good! Well, she saw someone had these adorable balls of fluff for sale last week and thought, “fuckin gimme!” And got another one with... | Nta. Not her cat anymore. ###### |
I work remotely (all the time, not just because of COVID-19). I make over two-thirds of our household income and am generally really busy during working hours. My husband is currently “working from home”, but his job is such that he doesn’t have to actually do anything. He’s been sleeping until noon, playing video game... | NTA. Not even remotely the A. Your husband is an entitled prick if he expects you to perform on demand just because you happen to be in the same location, especially if he's asking for this while you're actively doing work.
It not being uncommon for you to end up "providing sex for him" is a bigger concern, honestly:... |
I am 14 and I have a 16 year old sister. My dad divorced my mom because he did not love her and I could tell there relationship was very stale. Anyway my dad found some one else and started dating when I was 10. I loved my dad and have a great relationship with him. Me and my family live in California so you can see th... | NTA. Not at all. I cannot believe your mother would say it would be okay to destroy any kind of property, what kind of parent does that? I'm sure she must be hurt because your dad has a new wife and all that, but it is NOT okay to destroy someone else's property like your sister did, and especially not when it cost a ... |
So my gf and I have been live together for about 6 months, she moved a few hours away from her home to live with me. This was her moms first visit here this weekend.
I’m currently on night shift for a few weeks, I work 7pm to 7am with 2 hours drive time to and from. I went to bed around 11 and the gf’s mom was coming... | NTA. Nope. This woman crossed some serious boundaries. Third shift workers sleep during the day and deserve to be left alone. Sounds like this woman needs to stay in a hotel with a bellman if she can’t heft her own luggage. ###### |
Ok. I am a sophomore in high school and this happened last year when I was a freshmen. My class went on a school trip to another country, (this is easy since I live in Europe.) The first couple of days went fine, but on the third night something happened. The kids in the room next to me decided to play really loud musi... | NTA. Nobody likes being blamed for something they didnt do. To be safe, I would preemptively call your parents and fill them in on the situation so she cant call and say something crazy to them. ###### |
My 23 year old daughter and her husband moved in with us a few months ago. I'll call them Josh and Ashley. My husband and Josh do not get along for a lot of reasons. Some of them are valid, like Josh does not contribute financially, he is rude and ignorant, and he has allegedly cheated on our daughter. They also don't ... | NTA. Nobody has commented yet but my thoughts are summarized in this statement
“Josh does not help financially. If he doesn’t help financially, then your husband is within his right and is not an asshole for kicking him out.
Though the comments about skinny jeans are kinda mean and unnecessary. Though overall, I se... |
Yesterday morning my girlfriend was being pouty and generally sour. When I asked her what was wrong she said that she was upset because I had not cooked her breakfast or brought her flowers or any of the things I do for her birthday or our anniversary.
Befuddled, I asked why I would do any of those things for mother'... | NTA. Nobody gets mother's day gifts for owning a pet. Your gf is being ridiculous.
(also: did she get you anything for father's day?) ###### |
Backstory: me and my bf have been together for just over two years and he recently got his own place. lived with me for 8/9 months till he got his place
So my bf recently got his first flat. while not the best out there it's not too bad for a first place to live ny yourself. i couldn't move in with him as it was off t... | NTA. No one should expect you to put up with something that you don’t want to. No matter what your relationship. I am a really neat person and I can’t physical stay calm in messy/stinky places. My ex was a SLOB, he did not care and I knew that. But during our 5 years together we NEVER got into an argument about this b... |
Background: I dated this guy for 2 almost 3 years. At first everything was fine he is literally the smoothest guy I’ve ever talked to, then all of a sudden something happened with his apartment. He said the lease expired and his landlord was doubling his rent if he renewed it, being 19 at the time I believed him. To ma... | NTA. No malice, intentions were good and you were trying to help a young, dumb kid. Why is a 26 year old dating an 18 year old anyway. Gross. Good for you. ###### |
My boyfriend is sleeping in the spare room and I need an outside opinion.
Tonight I noticed a terrible smell coming from my boyfriends shorts. He got up from the couch and the seat smelled foul like a dirty toilet.
I went upstairs and there were brown stains on the bed sheets.
I changed the sheets, he sat down on t... | NTA. No it doesn't happen to all men. My ass is like a shag carpet and I still don't leave a smelly brown streak whever I go.
Further, what the fuck is he doing in the shower if he just gets out and is leaving brown spots? Tell him to scrub his fucking asshole! ###### |
A little backstory:
My sister and I rent a three story house with 5 bedrooms and 1 bathroom. When we looked at the house, it was agreed that the 3rd story would be mine as I'm paying half the rent and utilities, and was witnessed by my mother and her son. I'm a very anxious person and an introvert, so the 3rd story was... | NTA. No is a complete sentence.
"I'm moving my son upstairs"
"no"
"but it makes sence I need the space"
"no"
"it will only be for holidays"
"no"
"but its family"
"no"
"why are you being like this your so mean"
"the 3rd floor is mine, I'm saying no end of discussion"
Practice get friends you trust to hel... |
I am on the phone version, sorry for the formatting issues.
For a bit of background, growing up my mother and I never got a long. She constantly pitted me against my sister, would hold food as a punishment (which grew into a severe eating disorder in my teens, I’m better now) and constantly fought with my father. She... | NTA. No I don’t think you would be the asshole, but isn’t it technically your Dad who has to chase this? Here child support is awarded to the parent who has custody, not to the child, so the child can’t chase it, it’s down to the parent who’s owed.
Also, remember this will drag up a whole load of shit, all that ill ... |
I am stripping the floors in my condo got association approval, during normal hours and my downstairs neighbor is banging on walls and on pipes and screaming. I am upgrading my wooden floors and changing cabinets. I tried to talk to him to tell him that this is temporary noise for the project but he yelled that "I drov... | NTA. No doubt the annoyance is real, but being a diva about a short-term, done-by-the-book inconvenience makes your neighbour a melodramatic asshole. ###### |
little backstory here: I (28F) have a little sister (14F) who we'll call Lily, who is extremely afraid of dogs. Her dog phobia happens only with big dogs, after a Rottweiler knocked her to the ground when she was 10. Also, my sister is living with me as my parents have gone abroad, and we both are extremely close. We l... | NTA. No authority to decide who lived in your house?! That made me chuckle. Sick to your guns, you did good. ###### |
2 weeks ago my wife was facing covid symptoms, she tested negitive about a week or so ago. One of her oldest friends was hosting about a 20 person party for her gender reveal. I told her we shouldn't go because she got over covid and I never had it. We would be break state curfue and social distance. I told her to simp... | NTA. No Americans should be going to parties, 50,000 of you are catching COVID19 per day and 1500 of those will die from it. Your wife’s friend is TA for hosting such a dangerous thing and your wife is being recklessly stupid for risking her, your, and many other lives for such a self-indulgence. ###### |
this happened last year but it got brought up again recently and opinions are split. more like 'are we the asshole'
context: i grew up in a country where usage of the word 'fag' is very lenient. i also grew up in a family of smokers. this is important because where i live, 'fag' is common slang for a ciggie. i didn't ... | NTA. Next time, ask Beth to borrow a rubber for school and see how she reacts. ###### |
I’m 5 weeks pregnant. I found out 2 weeks ago, and specifically told my mom not to tell people because a lot of things can happen in the first trimester. Tonight, she suggested i tell my great grandfather. I was on the fence about it and told her to give me a little to think about it. She decided to go ahead and tell h... | Nta. Next time she tells someone just act like you have no idea what she's talking about.
Dont tell your mum anything else until everyone else knows. Not the name, sex, anything you might want to share, she gets last. ###### |
When I like to have a bit of self love I tend to prefer amateur type videos, one day I'm scrolling through different videos and find someone who looks very familiar. I download the video and lo and behold it is a friend of mine, same tattoo and looks exactly like her. The video is pretty old so it must have been when s... | NTA. Next time maybe preface this by saying something like "Let me first state that if you were aware that this video is online and consented to it, i am not judging you, and I will not share it with anyone, but I wanted to make sure you could take appropriate steps in case it was uploaded against your will" or someth... |
I just wanna say that I have nothing against this guy and I want to help him where I can. But as of lately, what I thought was a one off thing has turned into probably around 2 or 3 times a week now. This guy who happens to be disabled (visually impaired I believe) comes by my workshop and asks to use the toilet.
We... | NTA. Next time he comes in tell him three times he's left it a mess so you aren't allowing it anymore. Disability isn't an excuse for that.
And he knows. I know VI people, there's no way for him not to know he's leaving poop everywhere. ###### |
I have to sublet my apartment because I just bought a house. I close later in June & don’t want to overlap rent & mortgage so have been trying to get rid of it as quickly as possible. After posting on Craigslist, I got a few messages from people interested. One couple toured last week and told me that they’d ge... | NTA. Never hold a property without a deposit. A deposit shows if someone is actually interested or not. ###### |
Long story short, my partner is not from my country, and recently went back to their to see their family. Since they didn't knew how long they would be gone, and how they would go back due to flight restrictions due to the Corona crisis, they asked if I would be okay to buy the ticket back, which they would refund late... | NTA. Never ever give such sensible info to anyone, including partners, family or God himself. If your partner does not understand basic confidential security, you have a big red flag to consider.
ETA: also a big red flag is the fact that they are demanding to do things the way they want with YOUR credit info. Nope. J... |
A few days ago, my SIL and brother had a kid. They wanted me and my mom to visit, (we social distanced and stayed outside). My mom brought a bag of presents and I bought one of those rattle toys.
My SIL was really mad because she felt like I didn’t get my nephew enough things, she also said the rattle looked cheap. M... | NTA. Never ever bring them shit again. You could’ve arrived with nothing and they would be in no position to complain about. Don’t feel bad for a second. Good luck in college. ###### |
When I was a kid I was an avid gamer. My favorite toy as a child was my NES.When I moved out of my parents house, I left many of my old systems with the instructions that I wanted to save them for the future when they built value. My mom never believed me and years ago gave my original NES to her grandson and my nephew... | NTA. Nephew better not sell it,
as it’s yours. You were livid at the time , presumably communicating this to your mother, so I’d get your mother to resolve the problem she caused. She is TA unfortunately. ###### |
I'm 15 and thus still live with my parents.
I have various mental health problems (DID, psychotic hallucinations, depression, etc.) that my mom connects (for some reason) to my phone. Around 2 months ago, was grounded and not allowed to use my phone for a month. During this time, I was numb. I wasn't feeling any emoti... | NTA. Negative punishment is seldom a health way of parenting. You need help and support, which has nothing to do with your phone. ###### |
My daughter is 16 and recently has watched several documentaries, read a few books, medical journals and has come to the conclusion that she wants to become a vegetarian. My husband and I support this, however the rest of us are not vegetarians. We don’t make carnivorous meals every night, but I would say at least 5 o... | NTA. My sister and I went vegetarian and began to cook our own meals. I think supplying her with the ingredients and the cook books are a good trade off. You shouldn’t be expected to make multiple meals, it’s unfair to expect everyone to go vegetarian, and it’s cooking is a great thing for her to learn ###### |
My daughter really likes rap music, which while a little strange doesn’t really bother me. She’s 15 and has heard all the things in the songs at school anyway. She listens on her speaker at my house.
She’s with her mom for quarantine, and we’ve fought over the music in the past. Recently her mom called me and told me ... | Nta. My parents didn’t care about what we listened to I. Regards to type of music. They would make sure we listened to censored or radio edits depending on our age or how bad the lyrics are but I think your ex is overstepping. I think the issue is more getting your daughter to just be respectful to her mothers rules a... |
Caught my neighbor spraying weedicide on my lawn (in my fenced in backyard) because she said “she was sick of all the weeds” and thought she was doing me a solid.
1. I like dandelions they are good for the bees
2. I have pet rabbits, dogs, cats, and a tortoise i like to roam the yard and all of them eat or at least n... | NTA. My neighbor did this last year and got reported to the HOA because the yard she sprayed (under the cover of darkness, so she knew it was wrong) belongs to a family with very young children.
I’m sorry about your rabbits and you need to know that it’s not your fault and you are a good owner. ###### |
I'm (15F) starting to think my mom (40somethingF) is reading my discord messages, even though I've asked her about it multiple times and she's promised she isn't.
I'm sure there was times before this, but my memory is trash. Basically, one night, I was talking about some things that, let's say, I would never talk to m... | NTA. My mother used to do this to me, and I was groomed to believe this was normal. Normal people don’t do this to others. It took me decades to recognize and understand that people with attachment disorders don’t respect boundaries. She’s not just an AH, she might have a personality disorder. ###### |
I'm (15F) starting to think my mom (40somethingF) is reading my discord messages, even though I've asked her about it multiple times and she's promised she isn't.
I'm sure there was times before this, but my memory is trash. Basically, one night, I was talking about some things that, let's say, I would never talk to m... | NTA. My mom went through my shit to at that age and I hated it. Its not ok or normal. Kids deserve and need privacy. She shouldn't be doing it but I'm guessing her response will be like my moms....which was she did nothing wrong. But it is. ###### |
I (26M) am about to propose to my GF. We talked about it so she kinda expects it to happen. Still, I want to keep the surprise of when and where I would ask her.
The actual problem is that I am not really good with jewelry and style. Even in the past when I gifted some piece of clothing to her (for some bday for examp... | NTA. My mom actually ended up keeping her replacement ring. Her and my dad went to the Monterey bay aquarium together and she picked out a silver dolphin ring and he proposed with that lol. I wear it everyday it’s my favorite. I love that you took into account that she actually enjoys shopping with you. You’ll both ge... |
I know what you guys are gonna say; that I hate her and she should dump me blah blah blah. She is a serial cryer and it is exhausting. Keys falls out of her pocket? Immediate breakdown. Baking didn’t turn out as she hoped? Immediate sobbing. Accidentally knocks a glass of water over? Tears begin to flow. Don’t even get... | NTA. My man, it sounds like she could use some therapy or a personal counselor. ###### |
My wife is a professional level chef, or I guess was. Anyway, I usually cook on weekends and Fridays, and she cooks during the rest of the week.
The thing is, when she sees me cooking, she always tries to help me. Like, I don’t add enough salt, then she adds more salt. It’s super annoying, and I’ve told her to stop t... | NTA. My husband was a much better cook than me when we started living together (although definitely not professional levels) and he used to do the same thing. It took me sitting him down and telling him how upset his behavior made me and why it bothered me for him to stop, now he doesn’t say anything unless I’m doing ... |
My boyfriend left upset and hasn't come back since this happened. He said I was being really nosy and that it disappoints him that I can't just mind my own business. Well, if there are 5 firetrucks in our apartment block parking lot I feel like it's not a bad thing to know what's going on. All of my neighbors were also... | NTA. My husband is nosy AF but honestly it’s important to know what’s going on around your home! Particularly is something is on fire. ###### |
A little background info; we just had a baby five months ago, I’m working from home juggling everything and he just sits around and stares at his phone when he’s home from work. His only contributions to the house are taking out the garbage and scooping cat litter. I make double what he makes, pay the majority of the ... | NTA. My husband does the same thing. But it’s almost worse. For example, he’ll see me making dinner and ask if I’m making dinner. I say, “yes” clearly and at a normal volume. He’ll respond by asking, “yes?” That’s when I lose it and say, “no genius, I’m storming the beaches of Normandy. WTF does it look like I’m doing... |
It’s a really nice day out so my mom said she was going to sit outside.
I have been excited about tie dying some old clothes as a fun craft. My mom is not creative at all and never really likes things like that so she just didn’t take any interest. I had all my equipment and was getting ready to roll up the clothes, ... | NTA. My gf's mom is just like this and it drives me crazy. If we dont relax or have fun in exactly the way she does, then whatever we're doing is stupid. ###### |
My boyfriend is Indian and I am white. When we started dating, he would call me a cutie pie. A couple of months into dating, he started calling me a cootie pie. The first time he called me cootie pie, I got angry because I thought he was trying to do an accent to make fun of how other indians may pronounce cutie. He ex... | NTA. My ex-husband thought it was cute to have me say terrible things in Arabic on the phone to his family. It was humiliating and counterproductive as I was trying hard to learn the language.
I do not think it’s nice at all for partners to “joke” this way. ###### |
So to start, this is about periods that wemon have every month so if you dont like hearing about it just leave. Also if you are homophobic/biphobic leave
So im a teenager my periods are painful. The cramps are so bad that I want to curl up into a ball and die. The only way i function on my period is taking meds every ... | NTA. My doctor actually put me on birth control to conserve my eggs and help me get pregnant later in life. It isn’t a guarantee, but it helps. Your aunt and grandma don’t know what they’re talking about. ###### |
My girlfriend is pretty pissed at me. She likes playing Tiktok videos out loud on her phone constantly. It is honestly a really big petpeeve of mine when people play videos out loud on their phone, I can't really explain why. It just always feels obnoxious. I asked her if she could wear headphones or earbuds or play it... | NTA. My daughter loves Tik Tok and it is THE MOST ANNOYING THING. I feel your pain ###### |
My fiancé and I have been together almost six years. He came to the relationship with a very cute but very spoiled cat he has always indulged. The cat has essentially “trained” him to meet his demands by meowing loudly and being a general pest.
I’ve always been good to his (our, really) pet. Feeding him, scooping litt... | NTA. My cat does this too, basically. She pushes my bedroom door, making a noise, trying to get in when it is shut and I’m sleeping too so I don’t want to get up. Sooner or later she just goes away and forgets it. Your cat does the same. It will learn. It was your fiancés cat first. Why is he not jumping up out of bed... |
My husband (37m) and I (37f) have been together 21 years married 18. I have a low capacity stomach. I am the type who orders a single burger, no fries and drink, and be full. It's been a running joke in our marriage that I eat like the birds.
Anyway, he is out of work (chef) and we decided it would be best for him t... | NTA. My bf is a chef too and our appetites have dropped significantly since we haven't been working out due to quarantine. He still goes to work at a different job and sometimes I pack him a lunch for his break. I've been packing a seemingly "normal" amount of food for him like a sandwich, an apple, and some other sna... |
Hey everyone, I’m a 22 yo girl living in Florida with my parents. I’m the oldest of 3. My parents are very strict asian parents. Lately, my mental health has been slipping from the current events. I find happiness with taking long drives, walking around parks, and being outside in nature. I do so with safety precaution... | NTA. My best friend is a vietnamese girl living in europe and she has similar problems with her parents so I know a bit about how hard it can be to become independent in circumstances like that. My friend seems to have the feeling she owes her parents something and I guess you maybe have similar feelings about that, t... |
A couple days ago my wife mentioned that our daughter wanting her ears pierced for her upcoming 7th birthday.
I was caught by surprised with this conversation as my daughter had gotten her ears pierced just the year before. My wife proceeded to clarify that our daughter wanted 3 piercings in each earlobe like herself.... | NTA. Multiple lobe piercings are really likely to get winky on a child that young. Get her a few cool ear cuffs and tell her she can triple pierce at 13. ###### |
This morning my mom (54F) asked me (24M) for $15k randomly. She has found that if she opens a new bank account and it has that amount for 3 months in it she will get $500 from the bank. I was pretty taken aback by this so I asked if I could think about it. She responds with going “Woooow, really?” and has been guilt t... | NTA. Move out ASAP. ###### |
Background: My boyfriend recently passed away unexpectedly. Today was my best day since I found out, but it’s still a struggle getting out of bed.
His funeral services are tomorrow, and I would love to see him one last time, but there’s an issue. My boyfriend is trans, and his family constantly deadnames/misgenders h... | NTA. Mourning is deeply personal and your responsibility is to yourself and your personal memory of him. However that manifests is fine. ###### |
So I’m from another country and lived and worked in to US for a few years. My mom sends me food packages every month with food, snacks, candy etc from home. This is for fun and she always sends way to much, but that’s just my mom 😁.
So I usually share with either friends, colleagues, neighbors or other people that c... | NTA. Most people with dietary restrictions don’t expect everything to be catered to them. I had a friend in middle school with severe nut allergies who always brought her own cake and food to parties to avoid any accidents ###### |
This week restrictions lifted in my area for the virus and my sister’s boyfriend visited my family for the first time for dinner. He knew who I was, but apparently my sister never mentioned that I’m disabled. When I meet new people, I’m fine with certain questions. I pretty much expect it. But the first thing that exit... | NTA. Most definitely NTA. He crossed a line.
You didn’t make a scene or even bring his assholery to light in front of the whole family.
I’m sorry you had to deal with that. ###### |
I'm 16 and my mom and I don't have the greatest relationship, but it's not exactly bad. We are just very on and off. However, recently we've been trying to work more as a team and be more open with each other. Well, it's currently Thursday and I had an online therapy session on Tuesday. My therapist and I were having a... | NTA. Mom is TA for not knocking, and then for getting mad at you for something that she wasn't supposed to hear in the first place. She isnt that big of an AH - I get it, its a big event in someone's life and mom is probably just concerned for your safety and wants more transparency from you. It's reasonable, but you ... |
For starters, I just wanna say that I love my MIL and we get along most of the time, but she’s really been getting under my skin lately.
My husband is an only child and his mom chose to take on a very traditional role as a mother. She didn’t work when he was little, did all the cooking, cleaning, etc., which is compl... | NTA. Might need to head on to r/JUSTNOMIL while you're at it. You need to create firm boundaries. Do not allow her to come stay with you if you don't want her, stop letting her do your husband's laundry, and call out her insults, and then exit the conversation. ###### |
I'm a middle school teacher. Once a week there's a meeting with the principal, vice principal, special ed teacher, guidance counselor and the 4 subject matter teachers. One of the things we talk about is particular kids and how they are doing. A few years ago we had a kid who had a spectacularly horrible home life (the... | NTA. Middle School is a war zone, even in the “nicest” of neighborhoods. It’s not wrong to ask for additional help when you feel your resources are exhausted or the other students are suffering as a result of you spreading yourself too thin for one person.
Perhaps the way you phrased your response came across as flip... |
So my niece (15f, we’ll call her oliva) and I (15f) are really close in age, she’s a month older then I am. My parents had me when they were both 41, and by then my sister was 20 and already had her own kid. Because of our ages, we’ve never really had the typical aunt/niece relationship. We’re more like cousins, but sh... | NTA. Messing with someone's medication is stupid and dangerous. What if you didn't know she used it 20 times? What if you really needed one of those 20 times? ###### |
So the last month and a half I've been lead to believe I had type 2 diabetes from my doctor and the clinic I go to. At first this confused me as I'm only in my twenties and active on account of my job. Also I only went because I needed to have a work related injury looked at and was confused when they told me I needed ... | NTA. Medical malpractice is not something that should be taken lightly. You’re absolutely right in your choice. I agree with comment above, your complaint is unlikely to affect those who attend the clinic so don’t let that affect you. ###### |
I (F22) and my boyfriend (M26) have been dating for a year and a half now. We quarantined together and are now in the process of moving in together.
This week our city loosened up social distancing guidelines, so my boyfriend wanted to go play a game of pickup soccer with about five of his friends. They said they were... | NTA. Maybe your boyfriend should get good at soccer if he doesn’t want to be humiliated. If he’s this insecure about his soccer performance that he’d throw this type of tantrum then maybe you should take another look at him as far as a relationship goes. ###### |
My parents are divorced and in the last 5 years he's had 5 girlfriends. Not all at the same time haha, one after the other.
He's definitely got a physical type, like they're all short, petite, white, have long dark colored hair, soft spoken, dress very feminine but modest, thirty-something, etc. Like freakily similar... | NTA. Maybe you could ask them to wear name tags? ###### |
I (22 F) Went on a coffee date with this guy from tinder after talking for about a week. On the app it said that he was also 21.
When I got to the coffee place he looked kinda like his pictures but a little younger making me question his age. So, I decided to ask him if he wanted to get a drink later. He started acti... | NTA. Maybe that guy will think twice before lying to someone again. ###### |
I’m 16 years old and very open with my parents about sex. My mom often likes to have boyfriends and my dad loves it. I’m great with that. My mom invites a dude over, I go to stay at my boyfriends house.
I’m very uncomfortable around adult men for various reasons. Even my mothers collection of guys make uncomfor... | NTA. Maybe speak with your father about this as well. See if he can talk to your mom for you. ###### |
My girlfriend of almost 4 years and I live together and during coronavirus I have been getting unemployment because my work isn’t open, but hers just opened back up last week. She works about 20 minutes away from the house and always asks me to take her to work when we both have cars. She tells me it’s to spend time wi... | NTA. Maybe offer something else, like making a nice sit down dinner for her and eating together while talking for some quality time. Sounds like the wants some uninterrupted time together so maybe make sure to schedule some time free of distractions. ###### |
I(M18) bought a new-ish computer by myself after working my butt off for it, but since I had no desk in my room, I put it downstairs. My family (mom, dad, and brother 15) uses it like a family computer. Now that I have a desk, I want to keep it in my room so I can keep in touch with friends and play games.
I understa... | NTA. Maybe just give them a heads up that you’re going to be moving it into your room. But NTA ###### |
Seven years ago, my biological sperm donor cheated on my mother with a college aged girl that was like two years older than me. I cut him out of my life, went FULL no contact since he was a real bastard and I found it incredibly creepy that he was now "dating" someone that was basically my age. I haven't kept up with h... | NTA. Maybe I'm cynical, but I think they want you to "develop" into a babysitting option. ###### |
So I own a large U shaped house that was renovated to be 3 apartments. I live in one and rent out the other two. A family with three kids lives in the larger apartment and a single guy (steve) lives in the studio apartment.
Steve moved in a couple years ago and asked to have a cat. We agreed to raised the rent by $25... | NTA. Many places allow a cat, with a pet deposit, and no dogs. Often dogs aren’t allowed as they can be more destructive and can be noisy. If they’re also allowed an indoor cat, following the same rules as the other tenant, but choose not to then that’s on them. ###### |
I have a friend who has owed me $2,300 since mid March. Her dog needed emergency surgery, I put it on a credit card since he needed immediate treatment. I am not wealthy and it's a lot of money to me. Things have been tough for her financially and personally lately, so I haven't mentioned it. She just kicked out her bo... | NTA. Make sure you get the money back before she spends it all. ###### |
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