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| title: Tend & Send - The ARI Toolkit | |
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| # Tend & Send - The ARI Toolkit | |
| **ARI (Assistive Relational Intelligence)** is a suite of tools built around TEND - designed to help you show up more fully in difficult conversations. | |
| *These tools exist to support YOUR relationship. ARI never becomes the relationship - it augments human-to-human connection.* | |
| ## The ARI Toolkit | |
| ### Express | |
| - **SEND** - Send your message to your partner | |
| - **TEND** - Transform your message with clarity and warmth | |
| - **PRACTICE NVC** - Guided I-statement builder | |
| ### Regulate | |
| - **SOMA** - Body check-in. What does your body know? | |
| - **LOVE** - Slow down, breathe, return to presence | |
| - **GROUND** - 5-4-3-2-1 senses. Orient to the present | |
| ### Understand | |
| - **FEEL** - Identify feelings in the conversation | |
| - **NEED** - Extract underlying needs | |
| - **STORY** - "The story I'm making up..." Own your narrative | |
| ### Reconnect | |
| - **REPAIR** - Craft genuine repair after ruptures | |
| - **APPRECIATE** - Catch the good. What's working? | |
| - **WISDOM** - Draw from sacred texts and grounded wisdom | |
| ## Practice Conversations | |
| - Choose attachment style: Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized, Secure | |
| - Set difficulty level: Gentle to Crisis | |
| - Partner responds like a real person (not a therapist) | |
| ## Clinical Foundation | |
| Informed by: | |
| - Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) | |
| - Gottman Method (5:1 ratio, bids for connection) | |
| - Attachment Theory | |
| - Brené Brown (vulnerability, "the story I'm making up") | |
| - Somatic awareness practices | |
| - Trauma-informed design principles | |
| ## Created By | |
| Jocelyn Skillman, LMHC | |
| *Reflection prompts only - not therapy. If in crisis, contact a professional.* | |