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assfuck1911 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T23:22:35.000Z | qz7908 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Motivation Tool: Keto Friendly Hot Cocoa | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz7908/motivation_tool_keto_friendly_hot_cocoa/ |
stagejay1 | I've worked really hard to get more organized over the years and I thought I'd made a lot of progress. I'm professionally successful, dependable, and generally on top of my shit. Haven't lost a wallet, phone, or keys in years. At least so I thought. Now for the second time in like 3 months I've just lost my wallet again. I'm fucking furious at myself. I thought I was past this. Not sure what I'm looking for here other than just sympathy and reassurance that I'm not a lost cause. | 2021-11-21T23:16:49.000Z | qz74wc | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Lost my wallet twice in three months | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz74wc/lost_my_wallet_twice_in_three_months/ |
Used-Independent-727 | I was diagnosed on Friday (today is Sunday) and Thanksgiving is this Thursday which is always a really really stressful time for me and always ramps up my ADHD symptoms. Like, I always have my family show up halfway through dinner with a burnt side to accompany it. 🙃
Anyway. My appointment is Saturday and I can’t wait for it. Like, I CANT wait. My “primary” doctor (I’ve been to her once, I barely have any medical history since I’m pretty healthy) so I called the schedule lady in tears telling her I can’t wait to be seen. I need help through the days coming up. He was very understanding. The do walk-in appointments Mon-Friday. She told me to come in Monday at 7:45 am and tell them you are having mental health issues and they cannot turn me away and I will be seen.
My evaluation was sent to this office, they called me to tell me.
My question is, has anybody done this to get meds for their ADHD? I’ve never seen this doctor before. I don’t care if she becomes my primary either. I just hope she’s understanding. | 2021-11-21T23:12:10.000Z | qz71p9 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | How do I go about getting medicated (soon) after ADHD diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz71p9/how_do_i_go_about_getting_medicated_soon_after/ |
ffivefootnothingg | My highest score was a 127 in Verbal Intelligence - which is classified in the “high superior” range; I also had a perfect score for verbal recall - which my neuropsychologist said he’d never seen before in his 30+ years of administering this testing (the Weschler Full-Scale Intelligence Quotient). My lowest score was a 77 - in Non-Verbal Intelligence - which is classified in the “Borderline” category. These scores are highly representative of my massive struggles with math/science & my life-long proficiency in reading, and especially - writing. I found my scores to be very fascinating - as the highest/lowest scores had an exact 50 point discrepancy between them / which, to my knowledge as a senior psychology major - that is the highest amount of “difference” between scores that standardized IQ testing can identify - that is, a full 5 standard deviations. Anyone care to share their results? (Remember: IQ is just one (man-made) measure of intelligence - and that eventually in the future, this test will likely be replaced with a more accurate one.) | 2021-11-21T23:09:15.000Z | qz6zfj | 5 | 2 | ADHD | What were your highest/lowest scores in your IQ Testing? (if you had this testing done) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6zfj/what_were_your_highestlowest_scores_in_your_iq/ |
seashore39 | Hi everyone, I’m 21F 170lbs on 30mg of vyvanse and have been on it for 2 weeks after upping the dose from 20mg (which I was on for 3 weeks).
The side effects genuinely make no sense to me whatsoever and it has been very stressful trying to cope. They seem to occur randomly and change day to day, and then change especially if I go one or two days without meds.
At first my 20mg just made me a bit anxious and made my heart race for a few hours after taking it. Then, after upping to the 30mg, after I take my dose I have no clue what will happen. I could be very intensely focused for an hour, I could have a panic attack, I could start crying, I could get very hyper/euphoric and text everyone I know. I sometimes crash at 1pm, sometimes at 6, sometimes not at all, and I take it between 8 and 9am every morning. I have had two weekends where I haven’t taken it, and I come back to a very mixed bag of side effects.
Temporally this just doesn’t make sense to me. I don’t understand how I’m getting different side effects each dose. Could something be happening metabolically? Should I just try something else (I know Reddit is not a doctor I just want opinions from people who also have ADHD). Vyvanse isn’t as effective for my ADHD as I had hoped and I really wanted it to work for my BED as well but it just doesn’t seem worth it at this point.
Thanks for the help | 2021-11-21T23:06:45.000Z | qz6xhq | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse side effects make no sense | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6xhq/vyvanse_side_effects_make_no_sense/ |
lolalol1100 | I just started going to therapy for the first time in my life and they just keep bringing up things, that I don’t think I have any problems with. I told them that I have problems because of my ADHD and they replied that it’s fine because I’m doing good at my job… yeah, because on top of everything else like anxiety and depression I’m also a workaholic. When do you know that you should change therapist? I’ve had three sessions so far, should I wait and see? | 2021-11-21T23:04:28.000Z | qz6vr5 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | When should you change your therapist? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6vr5/when_should_you_change_your_therapist/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T23:03:31.000Z | qz6v05 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I keep pouring from an empty kettle | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6v05/i_keep_pouring_from_an_empty_kettle/ |
TheGoddessHylia | I don’t know where else to put this, so figured I’d dump it here.
I have bills, I need money, and on top of that I have a bit of an impulsive spending problem. I like where I work, it’s easy work and it’s easy money. It’s also only four days a week on average, and the shifts are around five hours, so I get around $400 on average weekly. But some days I’ll be getting ready for work, and then all of a sudden my brain will decide that I need to do something unimportant IMMEDIATELY— and since it will take too long to do before work, I just don’t go to work. Or I could be doing nothing, and my brain will tell me, “Haha what if we just don’t go to work today,” as a passing thought, and then instead of seeing it as a joke I just make to myself I’ll be like, “Yeah. So it’s decided then, I’m skipping today.”
It’s like as soon as the thought is there, no matter how much I want to actually, you know, GO to work, I can’t. I can’t because I always expend a gigantic effort to convince myself to not listen to that part of my brain, and by the end of it, it always ends the other way around with me genuinely convinced that I *don’t* actually want to go to work anymore. And then with the extra time, I don’t even really ever do anything. The days I skip work really don’t feel like a day *off* per se, because I spend the whole day anticipating work in the evening and all of my “just skip” decisions happen impulsively, 15-20 minutes before I leave. Hell, today I was IN THE PARKING LOT of my job and just decided to sit in my car and read the whole time I was supposed to be inside, fully conscious of the time and just passively not caring.
I always regret it the day after and I always make up for it by scheduling myself another day of the week through our app, but I still have a bunch of no-call no-shows (which, miraculously, haven’t been addressed as of writing this). I don’t want to be like this, I just want to work the days I’m scheduled and relax the days I’m off. Has anyone else gone through anything similar? What psychological tricks could I use to just shut myself up when this happens? | 2021-11-21T22:57:02.000Z | qz6q4e | 2 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD causing me to skip work— a LOT. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6q4e/adhd_causing_me_to_skip_work_a_lot/ |
Livid-Jeweler-2513 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:53:08.000Z | qz6nbb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Newly Diagnosed, Started Vyvanse, have not slept in 30 hours. (This is long but I fully appreciate your input if you make it through) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6nbb/newly_diagnosed_started_vyvanse_have_not_slept_in/ |
orionterron99 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:50:12.000Z | qz6l89 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Someone said that "adhd isn't evolution, it's a mental disorder" (paraphrased) this is likely untrue. There's a growing body of research that suggests that it is, in fact, an adaptive trait. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6l89/someone_said_that_adhd_isnt_evolution_its_a/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:45:43.000Z | qz6hts | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I buy the wrong things without realizing it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6hts/i_buy_the_wrong_things_without_realizing_it/ |
thespidersunderbite | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:45:42.000Z | qz6hth | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone with a uterus and on Ritalin get panic attacks when they get their period? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6hth/anyone_with_a_uterus_and_on_ritalin_get_panic/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:43:37.000Z | qz6gah | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Do you guys reckon medication makes a significant difference in an academic environment? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6gah/do_you_guys_reckon_medication_makes_a_significant/ |
MrHowlJ | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:37:26.000Z | qz6brl | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Symptom of ADD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6brl/symptom_of_add/ |
stardust_zan | Just wondering what are the ways to increase motivation and deal with ADHD symptoms on a daily basis when you don't have an access to medication ?
I live in a country where adult ADHD diagnosis is still a controversial one and psychiatrists don't really want to treat it with medication. So I basically was told that I seem to have it, but no one is going to help me with it here.
I don't really know what to do anymore, hoped someone has some advice here. | 2021-11-21T22:36:56.000Z | qz6bej | 10 | 27 | ADHD | How to deal with ADHD without access to medication ? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6bej/how_to_deal_with_adhd_without_access_to_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:36:15.000Z | qz6axd | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Experiences with Wellbutrin? (/venting) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6axd/experiences_with_wellbutrin_venting/ |
throwaway53849606072 | I do art online alongside a full time job irl, and deal with a lot of stress as it is. But i’ve gotten rather popular online so people want commissions from me. I really used to do commissions but because they took hours, I would burn out before even starting. Eventually I kept promising to do them and just…never did.
So I stopped offering commissions, but I also am always low on money and since I charge about $40 or so each piece, people tell me I need to “just do it.” essentially. Which just stresses me out more.
I genuinely don’t want to do draw these things I am being asked to do. It’s making me hate having this “talent.” It’s not enjoyable when I am being forced to do it for money. It’s nice to make people happy but I want to draw whenever I want. Thats why I refuse to make a career out of a skill I have been working on since I was 10, and profited on from 2011-2020 through face painting. (Also very draining).
Just needed to vent. I hate feeling obligated/being told i HAVE to do something. So many people want custom art and I hate it. I don’t want to hate my passion just because it’s profitable.. Oh how terrible I sound for being ungrateful about such a circumstance. | 2021-11-21T22:35:21.000Z | qz6a99 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Obligations are so overwhelming.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz6a99/obligations_are_so_overwhelming/ |
purpled-_- | Hi I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD after a long battle to get someone to listen to me, I've just started college in Dublin and was wondering if anyone on this sub has been successfully medicated nearby, I've heard about the struggle to get in the public sector so if anyone could reccomend a private clinician that would help greatly.
Many thanks | 2021-11-21T22:31:17.000Z | qz67ak | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Getting Medicated in Ireland as an Adult | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz67ak/getting_medicated_in_ireland_as_an_adult/ |
PossumBoots | Just a rant about how ADHD can super complicate a 30 second interaction in a relationship.
My partner (32M)has severe ADHD with anger outbursts, emotional disregulation and rejection sensitivity. He has terrible low self-esteem.
We have a new baby. He has been really hesitant to get involved in her care due to feeling he will stuff it up. I've slowly been helping him to do small tasks with her, like cuddling her while I have a shower or rocking her in the bouncer. He is too impatient to feed her a whole bottle, or sooth her when she cries. He starts getting flustered, gives up, puts her down and goes to another room.
He asked for her to sleep in her own room because her crying was irritating him and he couldn't sleep.
Its pretty hellish to be honest.
I've been doing all the feeds at night. Last night was tough. She wouldn't settle after 1am and go back in her cot. At 4am I was still rocking her in her room.
My partner got up to go to the bathroom. He came into bubs bedroom. In hindsight I now realise he was trying to be supportive, but he started joking around and was being louder than he realised. He made some stupid comment like, "Why won't you fucking sleep?" I put my hand on his chest, pushed him toward the doorway and said "You aren't helping". A bad choice of words, because I now realise he wanted to help but didn't know how.
Now he is in full sulking mode, because he has taken it as rejection. He isn't interacting with bub and I this morning. He keeps calling me cranky mum. I've apologised a few times for snapping at him, and explained I am tired. But I realise I've unwitting set back his progress. | 2021-11-21T22:29:07.000Z | qz65k7 | 15 | 10 | ADHD | Relationships with ADHD | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz65k7/relationships_with_adhd/ |
Beginning-Pace-1426 | Now, I've been having this happen lately. Someone asked me if I'm taking ADHD stims, and said this is an under reported side effect of ADHD medications.
So let's hear it, does your penis constrict in the middle to an incredibly thin level, while the base is full and thick?
I was told to "ask around", and that I would definitely see that this is a much more common side effect than people know.
So let's hear it fellas, does this happen to you, or anyone you know??
Nobody is sure what's causing it for me, but it'd be at least reassuring to hear others.
Constrict not construct | 2021-11-21T22:28:36.000Z | qz656y | 15 | 5 | ADHD | Men, do your meds ever make the centre of your penis construct? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz656y/men_do_your_meds_ever_make_the_centre_of_your/ |
Warm_Understanding61 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:28:33.000Z | qz655t | 0 | 1 | ADHD | A reminder about how I started recently taking my meds. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz655t/a_reminder_about_how_i_started_recently_taking_my/ |
cheesecakefairies | I'm getting married in May next year. I've done the wedding dress shopping thing. 1st 2 shops were a disaster and left me really deflated.
The 3rd shop I go into and try on about 30 dresses. Funnily enough the 1st one gave me my bridal feeling. But I'm aware of my 'impulsiveness' so I kept my mouth shut about it being 'the dress'.
I tried on others and liked about 2. But the 1st one I knew was it. Then we go to the 2nd shop and I try on another 15 dresses. Only 1 left me with a nice feeling. It's classically better for my 'body' as it stands currently. (Classic bride shedding pounds so the little flaws in dress 1 won't be an issue, they're not even really much of an issue now)
Anyway I've had 3 weeks to think about it and decided on dress one. But according to my mother I'm being impulsive and it was the 1st dress I tried on and need to try on more in other shops. Also I didn't say to her it was the one. (I explained why)
But I'm met with well it's expensive and I want you to try on more before making a decision.
Like I've tried on 45-50 dresses already. I don't feel like I'm being that impulsive. But she's paying for it so I can't dismiss her want to try on other dresses but I feel like my opinions and wants are being completely dismissed. I said I didn't want to try on any more just to be a people pleaser to which she responded "never once in your entire life have you ever done anything to please anyone else but yourself". Which a total lie because I do it all the time. Just not as often when I lived at home at like 18. Now I'm 32 and it's all being dismissed. And I just feel like my ADHD is being used against me and I just wanted to vent.
Like for God sake can I not have an opinion because I have adhd?? Fuck off. | 2021-11-21T22:28:30.000Z | qz654h | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Having your opinions dismissed because you have ADHD and you're 'impulsive' | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz654h/having_your_opinions_dismissed_because_you_have/ |
dodosareawsome | Hey guys, I myself have ADHD. I got diagnosed at the beginning of the year. I am 23 and trying uni again. This sub has really helped me. It made me feel like I wasnt the only one out there with these problems. Stupid little things that I could never get right and I never knew why. So many simular stories I couldnt believe it. You guys really helped me to accept ADHD. Also the amount of tips and help you guys gave was amazing. But now I need you more then ever.
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At the moment my family situation is really something. I am the oldest of five (B,G,B-B,G). My mom and dad are not together. My dad is how do I say this nicely, very weird and mentally not 100% there. He has a good heart but you cant rely on him. My mom has cancer. At the beginning of the year she nearly died. But she made an amazing recovery and is doing really well now. She still has to do chemo and tons more but she is getting there. At the moment she is on a writers vacation in Portugal. My mom loves to write and a good friend of her invited her over to stay a few weeks. So she could write and get some sun. She is able to do her chemos there and the other hospital visits are planed right after she comes back. I told her to go because she really needs time for herself. Writing is what she is ment to do. Than there is my grandad. He has dementia which is getting worse. My grandma passed away at the very beginning of the year and that took a big toll on him. My grandma was the rock of the family. I decided it would be better for him if I started to live with my grandad. So I have been taking care of him since March. I am not alone because my uncels, neighbours and cares help a ton too. I will live here on the old farm until he gets into a carehome. This could be any minute but it could also take a few more months. My siblings live with my mom. But because covid they had to go into quarantaine. Except for my yougest sister. She is 16 and loves animals and all that. We get along really well. But there is one thing. There is nobody to care for her right now except me. She is taking care of her grandad for crying out loud. I am her older brother and I do everything to help her. But its so hard. She isnt diagnosed yet. (Yes I know I also dont like people who post shit on this sub tell us I think I have ADHD because sometimes I am restless and forget my keys). But I am 100% positive that she has ADHD. Everything I see so many things in her that remind me of me. We have so many of the same issues. Most of them ADHD related. Time blindness, hyperfocus, her mind just drifting away, not being able to do the most basic task like taking a shower or getting out of bed. And when she does something it takes ages. She is the slowest person on this planet. Reverse Usain Bolt. I help her with her homework, get out of bed, make a planning for her. But also just have fun with her like watching netflix or playing some games. Today was her best day so far. She did everything she had to do without any problems. But it takes so much effort and energy from me to help her. So my question after all this is. Parents of ADHD kids. How do you do it? What are some tips and tricks I can use to help her. Like I understand I am not her dad. I know that. Thats what makes it difficult. But right now she needs me. I dont want her to go through the same struggle I had to go to because I didnt know I had ADHD and I thought somethings was wrong with me. She has enough on her mind already.
Thank you if you read all this, have a nice day. And hopefully some of you are able to help :) | 2021-11-21T22:27:19.000Z | qz649c | 3 | 3 | ADHD | How to help my sister | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz649c/how_to_help_my_sister/ |
Accomplished-Cod3681 | My psychiatry provider is going to prescribe me a stimulant, and they’re going to get back to me on Monday after they review my blood work and ekg results.
I’m curious about how they determine which one to start me off with.
I guess I want to prepare myself emotionally if they choose a specific type of medication. They had me get an EKG and the referral even said it was to clear me for my stimulant medication. But I guess I’m a bit worried that they’re going to tell me on Monday, “So I’ve decided to put you on X medicine”. And X medicine ends up not being a stimulant.
I’m on 10mg of Prozac btw. My EKG came out fine and my blood work came out well except being low on Vitamin D.
I guess I can’t help but have so many thoughts, including irrational ones. They even said that therapy isn’t the best form of treatment for ADHD. And one of their specialties is ADHD btw. | 2021-11-21T22:25:33.000Z | qz62w7 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | How does a doctor determine what type of stimulant to give ie: Aderall vs Vyvanse, ER va IR, etc | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz62w7/how_does_a_doctor_determine_what_type_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:25:16.000Z | qz62op | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone ever feel like their opinions are dismissed because of their ADHD 'impulsiveness'? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz62op/anyone_ever_feel_like_their_opinions_are/ |
terrible-cats | Lately I've been able to hyperfocus at work, which is great for my productivity, but I find myself being extremely irritated by everything while I'm in this state. I'll be really annoyed if anyone tries to talk to me, and this irritation won't go away until I get out of the hyperfocus. I remember it was like this when I was medicated as well, so it makes sense to me that it happens, but I don't want to get upset at my coworkers just because they dared to ask me a question when I'm too focused for my own good. Whenever I notice it I try to tell people that I'm not in the mood to talk right now and I think it helps.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How can I be less irritable? | 2021-11-21T22:24:17.000Z | qz61xa | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Irritation during hyperfocus | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz61xa/irritation_during_hyperfocus/ |
Beginning-Pace-1426 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:24:16.000Z | qz61x0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Men, do your stims ever make the middle of your shaft constrict? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz61x0/men_do_your_stims_ever_make_the_middle_of_your/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:23:48.000Z | qz61kn | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How is medication supposed to make me feel? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz61kn/how_is_medication_supposed_to_make_me_feel/ |
WarthogExternal | This sub reddit behaves different to every other I am on. It definitely represents ADHD behaviour! 😂
Just a small ask. I reply to people sometimes. I think its very rare an original poster acknowledge my response by way of like, reply or thanks.
It doesn’t take much to appreciate someone giving you feedback to your original post. Could everyone try and please work to break out of the self focus/ standard issues in this group, by small steps like recognising and appreciating someone replying to your question? In conjunction reducing the feelings of RSD which many of us suffer from.
Thank you | 2021-11-21T22:23:24.000Z | qz61a2 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | P’s&Q’s - Replies and recognition | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz61a2/psqs_replies_and_recognition/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:22:13.000Z | qz60e2 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | My psychologist is only being open to talk about executive dysfunction stuff since my adhd diagnosis, and not about stuff about my life. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz60e2/my_psychologist_is_only_being_open_to_talk_about/ |
ash_ketchup_92 | Does anyone here have tips on improving structure, discipline, and schedule in your life? Particularly over an extended (if not permanent) timeframe.
Interested in ideas, apps, medications, or anything else. The Pomodoro method, for example, works incredibly well for me (…when I remember to use it). Timeo seems like an app that would be beneficial but I have not tried it.
I have often noticed that when life “forces” me into a rigorous schedule, I do very well, but when time is unbounded and deadlines are soft then I do much more poorly.
Thanks. | 2021-11-21T22:19:50.000Z | qz5ymq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tips? Improving self-discipline and sticking to schedules | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5ymq/tips_improving_selfdiscipline_and_sticking_to/ |
Isuckongummyworms | Hello fellow people of reddit. How is your week going? To be completely transparent, mine already feels like a disaster. I'm kind of just laying down and digesting the fact I might never be able to form proper connections with people. Say what you will, but I feel like my ADHD is bound to doom all that I currently have. It has before, it has countless times. It's hard to keep up with people, in many senses. It's hard to actively engage in conversation with them, stay in contact. It's hard to respond to the things they say. It's hard to explain to other people why I am the way I am. I feel sub-human when I talk to other people. I don't understand their strange innuendos and cues, I don't understand how to respond to their feelings, I don't know how to convey what I'm trying to say in a way that isn't just...word vomit. I don't understand any of this. It makes me feel so stupid. Like I'm supposed to know but I just don't. And I can tell it makes some of the people I like to think I'm close to uneasy. I'm willing to change, but it's so hard to when you're only told that what you're doing is wrong and not explained why it is. I wish I didn't have to tell people that I'm too dense to understand what they're saying and need them to explain it to me like I'm 4 years old. My self esteem is not in the best place right now, it hasn't been for as long as I can remember, and this only makes it worse. "Hi! I'm OP and I'm fucking stupid. Please explain this to me like I'm a child — don't forget to do the baby voice to patronize me further. Thanks!". I should probably also point out that I'm very irritable and on top of inattentive ADHD have misophonia. This makes being around people almost unbearable. I try hard to keep it within, I really do. But ultimately it all returns to nothing, and I still end up having a meltdown at some point. So... I think I'm going to end up alone. Or at least spend the majority of my life on my own. I don't know whether or not that is a bad thing, but I have to admit that it makes me quite sad. The idea of being fucked over since day one is quite disheartening. Do you ever feel this way? Do you think we were born disadvantaged? Because I'd really like some insight from people who I know have more than likely had the same issues. More than anything I wish that the people who are close to me understood. Maybe then this burden wouldn't be too much to bear. But as of now...it seems more like a ball and chain, than the challenge people often say it is. I'm a prisoner to my own head and I'll be confined to my thoughts for the rest of this cycle. You people are all I have for now, there is no one else I trust to hear this from me at this exact point in time. Please do share your stories, thoughts, or whatever you will. Thank you | 2021-11-21T22:19:43.000Z | qz5yk1 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | A rant about the relationship between relationships and ADHD. Share your thoughts, experiences, et cetra please. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5yk1/a_rant_about_the_relationship_between/ |
Ziggy246 | I am newly diagnosed at age 52, and just started taking Vyvanse. So far, I am very happy with it. The best way I can describe it is that I find it easier to be myself. I don’t feel like there is a barrier in my brain. I can also focus most of the day without getting brain fog.
In your experience, is it a good idea to take “breaks” from the meds (e.g. on weekends), or take it consistently every day? | 2021-11-21T22:19:27.000Z | qz5ydn | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Is it better to take Vyvanse daily, or skip days from time to time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5ydn/is_it_better_to_take_vyvanse_daily_or_skip_days/ |
Accomplished-Cod3681 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:17:48.000Z | qz5x4f | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How does a doctor determine what type of stimulant to prescribe you ie: ER versus IR Vyvanse vrs Aderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5x4f/how_does_a_doctor_determine_what_type_of/ |
CDNEmpire | Hey guys.
I was recently diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. Finally finding a medication and dosage that works for me. But it’s of course decreasing my appetite.
Do you guys force yourselves to eat multiple times per day, or do you snack and eat one big meal at night?
Also, any recommendations for food content to make sure I’m getting the nutrients I need? | 2021-11-21T22:16:46.000Z | qz5wdm | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do you eat? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5wdm/how_do_you_eat/ |
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ash_ketchup_92 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:13:36.000Z | qz5txz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tips for improving self-discipline and a daily schedule? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5txz/tips_for_improving_selfdiscipline_and_a_daily/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T22:12:03.000Z | qz5stt | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse and chest pains | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5stt/vyvanse_and_chest_pains/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T22:09:29.000Z | qz5qu1 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Is erectile dysfunction common in those who take adderall/stimulants? How do you combat it? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5qu1/is_erectile_dysfunction_common_in_those_who_take/ |
Zvotks | I have a weird memory, I can recall formulas or questions from years ago but when I try to remember other than mathematical stuff I am completely lost.
This can be memory of an event or a persons birthday or even what their name is. I need to fix this asap because now I am diagnosed and medicated I started to my feel lack of social skills. I want to meet new people but meeting someone goes like this:
-Hi I am "name"
+Hi I am Zvotks
+(Oh shit what was their name, okay I can pretend I couldnt hear) Umm what was your name again I couldnt hear it.
-Oh its "name"
+Oh okay nice to meet you *pauses to think of name* (Fml they just said their name how can I not recall it. Meh nevermind I will catch it when someone else talks to them)
This thing here hits me so hard that I am starting to avoid meeting people. I really need help with this please give me advices other than focus on what they are saying.
TLDR: I cant remember anyones name after a split second it comes out of their name. This is making me avoid meeting people and I need help with it. | 2021-11-21T22:00:34.000Z | qz5k6y | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do I stop forgetting everything people say in 3 seconds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5k6y/how_do_i_stop_forgetting_everything_people_say_in/ |
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SpartanEagle777 | **Backstory:**
Grew up as the gifted kid, breezed through most classes. Never had one thing I was specifically good at, could be good at just about everything.
In sophomore/junior year of high school, started not really caring about some classes. Grades dipped as I didn't get as much work in and didn't pay attention as much... dipped meant one C and two B+'s, rest were A's. Obviously a very relevant part of the story... Hit senior year, fall into depression (self worth issues all that fun stuff), get diagnosed, don't go on meds, see therapist, scrape by in classes. Still somehow got a 5 on my AP physics test. Things get better for the most part.
Head off to college, do fine for a year or two in Mechanical Engineering, join ROTC, into junior year things start dropping off HARD. Proceed to fail out of that college, go to a community college, no better. Take a semester off back at home. Start antidepressant medication.
Never really had many notable changes, tried a few supplements and dosages but stayed with it because it was the only one listed to supposedly work with me genetically.
Start off at a community college again, now in Political Science. Work my way into a satellite campus of another bigger college, eventually make it to main campus.
Pandemic hits, notably struggling again, gets diagnosed with ADHD (now 24 years old) and starts on adderall. Tried just about every dosage, now at 60mg once a day. Each time I tried a higher dosage I'd have one day of it seemingly doing something and being able to focus more, then back to feeling nothing. At best it felt like what most people describe coffee as, keeping them awake.
**About Me:**
My worst quality, is that I'm ablest towards myself. I'm sure it leaks over to some degree to others but I feel I do a good job keeping an eye out for if I do that. I know what I'm capable of. If I could just bring myself to care about my classes and do the work for them, I'd nearly ace them all. Yet here I am with four overdue papers, one bigger one looming, and two Incomplete classes that can still be salvaged if I get work in.
**Why I'm here:**
I know that none of you are my therapist or my psychiatrist. I don't expect any of you to have a magic answer to solve everything, but I'm at a loss. This past week I talked with my therapist about being a perfectionist and nearly broke down. At random points since I've just repeated to myself "I can't be perfect" and have felt myself welling up. I don't know what to do. I just need to do my work and I'd be fine, but I don't. I disassociate, distract and occupy myself with other things despite knowing what I should be doing. I don't really know if I have ADHD or not, or if I even really have depression or not. For all I know I could just be lazy and apathetic and get depressed because I'm doing poorly where it becomes a feedback loop. Medication seems to do nothing to help, but it still usually has an adjustment/withdrawal period when something changes. I'm just at a loss, not really expecting anything here to dramatically help but I know it likely won't hurt to just put all this out here and see what happens. | 2021-11-21T21:52:51.000Z | qz5ecm | 3 | 9 | ADHD | Executive dysfunction or learned helplessness | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5ecm/executive_dysfunction_or_learned_helplessness/ |
wodaniegazowana | To set a background: I started university this year and despite the medication, I still struggle with a system of teaching that’s clearly designed for neurotypicals.
I’ve already had a meeting with the head of the office for students with special needs but I was told they only take care of students with physical disabilities and they don’t have an established policy regarding students with learning disabilities. They also told me, that getting a time extension for exams is possible to arrange, but I’d have to speak to my dean or every professor separately.
I plan to schedule a meeting with my dean but I don't know what I can ask for except time extension on exams. I've never had any other accommodations throughout the school, so I have no idea what can be considered a standard. I live in a country where those kinds of issues are not largely recognized, so people, in general, have rather small knowledge regarding things that can be helpful.
What kind of accommodations were you offered/you wish you were offered at university?
Also, would it be disrespectful to ask a professor for written instructions? He teaches computer science and he usually just tells us what we are supposed to do, but he’s so chaotic in what he’s saying that I find it hard to keep up and I have APD that only adds to it.
Edit: they can apply either to online and on-site learning | 2021-11-21T21:50:45.000Z | qz5csw | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Accommodations at university | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5csw/accommodations_at_university/ |
moffatmusicmangent | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:48:32.000Z | qz5b4f | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Going back to school | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5b4f/going_back_to_school/ |
etann1012 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:47:40.000Z | qz5ah4 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | The sad truth… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz5ah4/the_sad_truth/ |
Squeekazu | Hey Guys,
I have been in therapy with a particularly good therapist for about three or four years so far for depression and GAD, but was only diagnosed with ADHD roughly around the start of the year.
Otherwise I’ve been in the mental health system for over 20 years due to an emotionally abusive relationship with my mum. The diagnosis however has really explained my poor performance in school, my terrible short term memory problems, procrastination, my avoidance due to not responding to messages etc
I feel like my therapy has not moved from discussions about my mum and is not addressing my ADHD whatsoever aside from what feels like platitudes about my self-worth, and am wondering if there’s anything I can say. Any issues I have are constantly being linked to my relationship with my mum and I can see my therapist practically perk up when I mention her. My mum has a particularly severe case of BPD which I think really interests people in the psychiatric field.
I’ve been having massive issues at work where I am unable to delegate tasks and concentrate, and in both my work life and private life where I avoid friends and customers which I feel like I’ve been bringing up every session without much acknowledgment from the therapist aside from “you’re stressed, this is normal”.
It’s gotten to the point where I have weekly crying spells at work because I can’t cope, feel totally inadequate and largely feels like my therapist isn’t connecting this with my ADHD. It feels like I’m retreading my failed high school years and is quite traumatic.
Has anyone been in a similar situation with diagnosis in the middle of regular therapy? It was my actual psychiatrist (not therapist) who diagnosed me.
I am on a low dose of strattera that has been helping a little bit, but is only a child’s dose at this point (40mg). | 2021-11-21T21:45:32.000Z | qz58w8 | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Therapy constantly revolves around relationship with BPD parent | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz58w8/therapy_constantly_revolves_around_relationship/ |
Nolanix | I live in the US and need a signature from a doctor from my local office in order for my pharmacy to refill it (currently taking Adderall). I usually call into the office a couple of days before I run out, but I always end up going days without.
Either because “We’ll tell the doctor and call you when it’s ready” or “we don’t have a doctor that could fill it until later this week, but we’ll call you.” I never get calls back and have to call/visit the office multiple times for anyone to act on it seemingly.
Just wondering if anyone else experiences a similar thing and if there’s any workaround. It makes me feel like no one cares. I’ve thought of calling farther ahead but feel it may seem sketchy, even though I’m just wanting it refilled on time. I’ve also thought of trying to change doctors but not sure how hard that would be. | 2021-11-21T21:37:12.000Z | qz52qb | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Any tips for getting medication refilled on time? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz52qb/any_tips_for_getting_medication_refilled_on_time/ |
danni-lynn24 | My daughter (6) and I (26) are a LOT a like. We both have loud outbursts (she screams randomly, I sing randomly), we both have trouble following instructions and completing tasks, we both have sensory issues and sensory seek in different ways, etc. Wondering if anyone has gone through something similar and how they went about getting an official diagnosis. We’re both on medication (for me: anxiety, depression, ptsd, multiple forms of ocd. For her: anxiety and aggression). | 2021-11-21T21:29:28.000Z | qz4wwq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Suspecting ADHD in my daughter and myself | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4wwq/suspecting_adhd_in_my_daughter_and_myself/ |
Pavkritvs | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:29:17.000Z | qz4ws4 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Discord support group | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4ws4/discord_support_group/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T21:27:50.000Z | qz4vs3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Washing out from Adderall for a week | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4vs3/washing_out_from_adderall_for_a_week/ |
Hour_Competition_677 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:22:45.000Z | qz4rys | 1 | 6 | ADHD | First dose of Adderall | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4rys/first_dose_of_adderall/ |
PsychoSecretAs1anMan | **TL;DR Tips for keeping a house clean? Married couple where one partner was punished for anything less than perfect and the other partner who wasn't allowed to help clean due to OCD/hypochondria in the home.**
(Small TW: physical punishment)
Okay, so my wife and I are both self-diagnosed ADHD. We have trouble keeping our house clean.
My wife was raised in a house where she was unfortunately >!beaten!< if her housekeeping and chores weren't PERFECT. Now that she's an adult, her motivation to do chores is low.
Conversely, I grew up in a house where OCD and hypochondria ran rampant. Because of this, I never was allowed to do chores of any kind for fear of "not doing it right".
Because of this, we tend to have difficulties keeping our house in good shape.
While we have found a couple things that do work, the problem arises that these systems seem to just lose their efficacy and we stop doing them.
Some of the things we have tried in the past include, but are not limited to:
* Using folding tables in our living room to keep away surfaces that might become clutter magnets *(This one is the most recent, and so far has worked well.)*
* Setting an alarm near the end of the day. *("I have until this time to do \[the name on this alarm\]. If I don't do it before the alarm goes off, I MUST do it when the alarm goes off.")*
* Online gamification services (i.e. Taskhero)
* The Tiktok hack of wearing stretchy bracelets with possible tasks that need done for the day. (We haven't done this one yet, but we want to)
The problem here again is that we start things, they work for some time, then over time they just stop happening.
Other notable notables:
* I work from home, so I have more power to do things.
* My wife has more motivation in the morning to do things, but she works weekdays from 6-2:30pm.
Your thoughts, suggestions, and feedback are much appreciated!
EDIT: Wording change | 2021-11-21T21:22:19.000Z | qz4rn1 | 12 | 6 | ADHD | Keeping a clean house. | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4rn1/keeping_a_clean_house/ |
accountforadhd | Bullet point form because I’m having issues gathering my thoughts right now. Sorry.
-M/21/175cm/128lbs
-Recently diagnosed by a psychiatrist (a few months ago)
-I think I mostly have issues with inattention especially at university but my legs are usually quite restless.
-First prescribed Wellbutrin 150mg. First started with the Mylan generic and just felt mentally cloudy, read about brand name difference and switched. No longer felt cloudy, but not much benefit either other than waking up feeling really awake in the mornings. Tried for about a month and a half total.
-Took ECG before starting Vyvanse because of family history of heart issues (valve issues and high resting hr)
-Started on Vyvanse 10mg November 10, 2021. Upped to 20mg November 15, 2021.
-Didn’t feel 10mg kicking in much but I felt I could concentrate on command. It was something that I used to only have happen on rare occurrences, so that was a pretty cool feeling.
-Doctor had prescribed 20mg after a few days on 10mg and that’s when I started to noticed the issues
-On 20mg my heart rate shot up to 130bpm on the first day (normal resting around 80bpm)
-On subsequent days it dropped to 110-120 but still way higher than before
-Friday the 19th had a panic type episode in the evening lasting something like 2 hours where heart rate stayed at 120+ consistently
-Didn’t take on Saturday partly because I woke up too late and also because I was scared of what happened the night before
-Felt somewhat fatigued and couldn’t concentrate much. Took hot shower in the evening and experienced minor front chest pain for a few seconds which was a bit freaky
-Woke up super late today. Very tired feeling. Cannot concentrate so I guess that’s not too different from how I originally was. Heart rate back to normal
After all this rambling I guess I just want to ask if anyone of you also experienced something like this? I’ll try to schedule an appointment with my doctor sometime this week but I fear I’m just an anxious person and worrying for no reason. Did any of you have similar experiences on such a low dose? | 2021-11-21T21:19:19.000Z | qz4pav | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Issues with Vyvanse 20mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4pav/issues_with_vyvanse_20mg/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T21:17:42.000Z | qz4o4l | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Being properly medicated is nothing short of life changing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4o4l/being_properly_medicated_is_nothing_short_of_life/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T21:14:56.000Z | qz4m6g | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Repeating intrusive thoughts (brain stutter??) | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4m6g/repeating_intrusive_thoughts_brain_stutter/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T21:13:32.000Z | qz4l92 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Bupropion and irritability/rage | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4l92/bupropion_and_irritabilityrage/ |
icegurl | I need to write everything down if I don't want to forget something, including writing out my schedule for the day, month, year, life...when my executive function is more cooperative. However, I'm really struggling between digital notes (in OneNote) and plain paper and pen. I prefer writing and retain the info better, but I dont have my notes on me at all times like I would my phone, so I often find myself saying that I'll write it down later and of course I forget.
I know this has been discussed a few times here before, but I'm hoping to get some more insights.
TIA! | 2021-11-21T21:12:52.000Z | qz4ksh | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How do you keep your notes? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4ksh/how_do_you_keep_your_notes/ |
DirtyMonkey95 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:11:44.000Z | qz4jzo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anybody else find it's easier to focus on one thing when their tired vs well rested? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4jzo/does_anybody_else_find_its_easier_to_focus_on_one/ |
Firm_Sentence_41 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:04:57.000Z | qz4evk | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Loperamide vs Vyvanse interactions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4evk/loperamide_vs_vyvanse_interactions/ |
Upper_Tower | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:03:16.000Z | qz4dik | 25 | 0 | ADHD | Am I suffering from ADHD? | 0.38 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4dik/am_i_suffering_from_adhd/ |
Firm_Sentence_41 | [removed] | 2021-11-21T21:01:41.000Z | qz4cc0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Interactions between Loperamide and Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4cc0/interactions_between_loperamide_and_vyvanse/ |
Frichickenistaaa | So I’m new to taking medication. I operate heavy machinery all day at work. I’ve been prescribed Ritalin recently by my dr. Should I disclose this to my employer or is this none of their business? I would be carrying the medication with me and taking it while I’m at work. Have you told your employer about your medication or did you choose not to? I don’t want to share too much with them if I don’t have to | 2021-11-21T21:01:14.000Z | qz4bym | 11 | 1 | ADHD | Medication disclosure to my employer | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4bym/medication_disclosure_to_my_employer/ |
HeyItsChloeChristine | I have been feeling so overwhelmed by Netflix and what to watch when I have free time that I actively either don't watch anything or watch the same movie (Currently the Oceans 11,12 &13) over and over again. It's getting so bad however that I actually just don't know what to watch anymore and when I have to choose, I freeze. There's no thoughts, I just freeze up and start to panic. My partner is starting to get so annoyed with me that I can't make a decision when it comes to choosing a show/movie to watch. But like, I can't help it! I literally don't know what to watch!
Does anyone else deal with this? If so, how do you fix it? | 2021-11-21T21:00:56.000Z | qz4bq8 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Do You Ever Feel Overwhelmed When Choosing What to Watch on TV? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4bq8/do_you_ever_feel_overwhelmed_when_choosing_what/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T20:59:43.000Z | qz4amy | 6 | 2 | ADHD | What is something you like about your ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4amy/what_is_something_you_like_about_your_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:55:18.000Z | qz47bc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | (UK) can you be prescribed meds for ADHD if you don’t have a ‘formal’ diagnosis/you are on the waiting list? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz47bc/uk_can_you_be_prescribed_meds_for_adhd_if_you/ |
littycodekitty | How do you all manage this? It's gotten to the point where I'm afraid to give time estimates or commit to tasks/appointments because I just don't trust myself to be able to do it. I am not medicated yet—I imagine once I am, I'll be able to rebuild that trust a little bit—but any tips for what to do in the meantime? | 2021-11-21T20:54:27.000Z | qz46op | 1 | 4 | ADHD | not trusting yourself to get things done | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz46op/not_trusting_yourself_to_get_things_done/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T20:53:44.000Z | qz465t | 196 | 416 | ADHD | My doctor told me to skip taking Adderall on the weekends and avoid taking it if I'm not going to be busy. I feel like I need a higher dose, not lower. Is that normal or am I overthinking | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz465t/my_doctor_told_me_to_skip_taking_adderall_on_the/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:49:40.000Z | qz436n | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Methylphenidate feels like codeine? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz436n/methylphenidate_feels_like_codeine/ |
pguerra0 | Seven years ago I (now 29 male) finally wen't to see a doctor and was diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and depression. Nowadays I'm taking Bupropion (300mg) and Escitalopram (10 mg). I take them in the morning. Lately I have been reading some materials on ADHD and I can relate to some symptons (now as an adult and as a child).
\- As a student, I could rarelly "sit to study" days before a test, for example. I as always aproved (since I tried to give an answer based on common sense, creativity and very little study) with mediocre grades and I have always sucked at math. My erasers were always destroyed with pencil holes and chunks that I removed with my nails. My notebooks were always vandalized.
\- Until the present moment, I tried many times to use organizers or appointment books but failed everytime.
\- When in College I did the same thing. I would always leave my activities/homeworks/papers to do at the last time I had.
\- I don't bit my nails but I basically destroy my cuticles on a regular basis.
\- If I'm seated somewhere I always try to find an object to put in my hands.
\- My love life is a joke, never had a relationship that lasted more than 1 years (and I have always ended them)
\- My bedroom and my car are a mess. All my documents or important papers are unorganized and scattered by many different places. Even my backpack is a mess.
\- Self care has always been overlooked.
\- I got a Master's Degree in History but the quality of my research was waaay lower than I expected. As I did in school, I only produced texts when under pressured by a due date (I feel like I just function under pressure) and, one more time, I did the minimum required to be aproved.
\- I feel like a lost some professional oportunities because I looked "forgetful" and inattentive.
\- I'm always moving my hands and feet.
\- I consider myself a fast food adicted.
\- I'm a chronic cannabis user.
\- I feel broken.
These are some of the things I'm going to mention to my doctor. IF I have ADHD, how could I have been undiagnosed for so long time?
Sorry for the long and badly organized exposition. | 2021-11-21T20:48:04.000Z | qz4217 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | having been treated for anxiety and depression for over 7 years, I'll talk to my psychiatrist about ADHD possibility tomorrow, for the first time. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4217/having_been_treated_for_anxiety_and_depression/ |
-Nout | I don’t know if it’s an ADHD thing but oh my god I’m so bored. Everything is so boring. Everything is pointless. Everyone seems depressed. It is like nothing can makes me vibrate. It’s a bit like if I had explored everything and I knew everything.. Just like a game you throw away cause you finished it and it become boring. | 2021-11-21T20:46:33.000Z | qz4104 | 46 | 74 | ADHD | Im totally bored | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz4104/im_totally_bored/ |
leomaldur | Something is wrong but i don't know what?!
All that I know is that my mind just won't shut.
It feels like a headache but also kinda not.
I think that my brain might tied up in a knot.
.
Scrambled eggs or scrambled brains?
I shut the music, now it's boring and plain.
I can't remember, were there ever good days,
has it ever been great? Or has it always been lame?
.
I resume the music to let out my feelings...
But all I end up doing is drawing on my walls and my ceiling.
Is that all I got, don't I wanna scream or perhaps shout?
Am I just too numb or what, why can't I get it out?
.
Something is wrong but what I don't know.
Wait? Am I sure?! I guess I could be wrong?
Maybe everything's good and it's all in my head...
Maybe I've convinced myself that it's bad with the things that I've said?
I guess that the bad thoughts could all be a lie,
for me to feel better, an excuse as to why,
I can't get things right and l don't learn my lessons.
Huh, now how's that for a therapy-session?
Well If I put it like that then.. thanks I'm cured?
Through this poem my mind has been pured?
Coolcoolcool... Just one more thing tho, before you stop...
Something feels wrong but I don't know what ://
.
Wait, I forgot what I was thinking.
My thoughts are frail,
They disappeared, I felt them sinking,
And now they're gone, without a trail. | 2021-11-21T20:42:52.000Z | qz3ybu | 6 | 41 | ADHD | I wrote this poem a while back before I got my diagnosis | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3ybu/i_wrote_this_poem_a_while_back_before_i_got_my/ |
Terra246 | Hello all, 20 something male here. Got adhd, anxiety and depression. I find it interesting how adhd interacts with depression. Needing that stimulation so that I’m not depressed, but sometimes getting anxious to do things, it’s a weird balance. Having too many choices or not enough, making me feel sad for some reason. Notice that being around friends helps a lot but can only do that for so long. On medication, focolin, pristiq, and bruspar. The focolin helps the most oddly but still don’t always feel the best. Also in therapy, think it helps but everything is so slow. Just wanted to see if anybody else feels like this and what helps them. I do mediation, yoga, and exercise, and I know about mindfulness. | 2021-11-21T20:39:23.000Z | qz3vou | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Adhd and depression | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3vou/adhd_and_depression/ |
javacharlie | So i’ve been newly diagnosed with ADHD (a mix of inattentive and hyperactivity) and was prescribed a generic form of 10mg Ritalin yesterday. My psychiatrist told me to only take it once a day in the morning and to call him if I have any problems.
I’m not sure if I should contact him as it’s only been 2 days but I don’t think Ritalin is a good choice for me!
I took 5mg yesterday and at first it made me really sleepy (like how caffeine makes me) but then i was calmed down and I felt really relaxed which was nice. In a way, it cleared my mind and helped me focus a little bit on my studying. But then that went away after 2 hours, and i was just super tired after.
Today, I decided to take my prescribed dose, 10mg, and wow what a mistake. I was agitated for the first 45mins, then i was wired and couldn’t focus with a crazy heartbeat, THEN i took a nap because i just felt so sleepy after. Now, 4 hours later, I feel back to normal as if i didn’t take it.
Should I contact my doctor? Or does it take a bit for my body to get used to the new medication? | 2021-11-21T20:39:15.000Z | qz3vlp | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Should I call my Dr? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3vlp/should_i_call_my_dr/ |
Educational-Dog5039 |
(Getting a diagnosis if you’re under 18)
I’ve heard from tiktok in order to get a diagnosis - in England - the process is extremely long and difficult, with it ending up with no diagnosis and a feeling of embarrassment. Tbh, these anecdotes are kind of putting me off from calling the GP’s and asking them for help, seeing as the process of it all seems so intimidating. | 2021-11-21T20:39:02.000Z | qz3vfa | 19 | 4 | ADHD | What’s the process of getting an ADHD diagnosis like in the UK? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3vfa/whats_the_process_of_getting_an_adhd_diagnosis/ |
Spectrachic311311 | Is this common? Every thing on my to do list makes me feel anxious so I rush to get things done without caring about the quality of the final product. It makes me feel like shit because I have no patience for anything and I could never do anything that involves a lot of time just to make something perfect. Why do I feel like I’m always in a race?? | 2021-11-21T20:34:01.000Z | qz3rnf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling like I HAVE to get everything done as soon as possible | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3rnf/feeling_like_i_have_to_get_everything_done_as/ |
BoogelyWoogely | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:33:06.000Z | qz3qxs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone watched “the mind explained, how to focus” on Netflix? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3qxs/has_anyone_watched_the_mind_explained_how_to/ |
Sweetcandiee | So this just happened right now and I realized it happens to me a lot. I send a message to a person and I’m scared I just sent them something random that was on my mind and I hurry to check what I sent because I sent it so mindlessly. Usually I find that I sent the right thing but a few times, it is something that was randomly sitting on my mind. Phew! | 2021-11-21T20:30:39.000Z | qz3p2l | 33 | 399 | ADHD | Who else goes back to check a chat you just sent someone because you don’t remember what you just wrote in it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3p2l/who_else_goes_back_to_check_a_chat_you_just_sent/ |
fketsuppi | I've been on elvanse (50mg) for around 3 years now. I think I started when I was 14 and now I'm almost 17. But now I don't feel like it works anymore. I can barely focus on lessons and just paying attention to any topic in school feels nearly impossible. Should I try a higher dose like maybe 70mg or try a completely new medication? I've previously been on concerta and strattera but they didn't work for me. | 2021-11-21T20:25:59.000Z | qz3lj6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Elvanse not working properly? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3lj6/elvanse_not_working_properly/ |
FlorestNerd | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:22:19.000Z | qz3is1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know if the Ritalin is working | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3is1/i_dont_know_if_the_ritalin_is_working/ |
yilv- | **To start off**, I have not been officially diagnosed, rather working towards it for the same reasons I'm making this post. Confident in the option to later delete, here goes nothing and I guess my first contribution on here:
**TL;DR:** Struggling in uni at specific course that requires intensity which I cannot match. It's messing up my life. Im looking to retake it after hopefully getting better / diagnosis & treatment maybe I want to hope.
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**I have been living** on my own for almost two months now while starting my bachelor in media informatics and I have been managing by having a near constant source of stimulation by podcast or music to help me stay on task. Even when working on university assignments I can usually have something in the background while working on it and eventually get there.
I dont know when I started noting it as a me thing and not a general experience. Trying keep up with a lecture is like a constant flux of snapping back to reality and situating yourself every couple minutes or less. And while I used to be abled to somehow get by despite it, that one course is where it seems to end.
**For way more time** invested in it than others, I am consistently underperforming and keep falling behind. I started off beginning with the weeks material on the day it was uploaded and now find myself scrambling and wrecking my sleep schedule to not loose the thread entirely.
You can not simply allot more time for a lower intensity approach to it. It requires your full attention at all times, while keeping every previous step present in your mind.
**I used to be** kinda proud of managing to take care of myself alone despite all expectations, but lately I have managed barely anything aside from trying to study or being kept from it by short term distractions. Anything further is near impossible with the constant dread of obligation in the back of my mind. Other courses, my social life and mental health have suffered as I try to keep an outwards appearance of someone who is still somewhat on top of things.
**Currently I am looking for paths towards an evaluation**, after more than a year of back and forth. While many experiences shared from people with diagnoses speak to me, I have always been wary of the tendency seen in more closed off groups, towards ascribing common human experiences to their specific identity.
There have been numerous times where banned myself from looking at ADHD related topics, convinced that the idea it might apply to me was making me slack off or lower the standards set for myself.
For now i guess my plan is to opt out of the course to retake it in a year, hopefully after getting a diagnosis and some form of treatment but I don't want to dream. It would be a last chance and then would add atleast a semester to my time at uni.
**This post is a bit of a mess** and I cannot really afford to spend much more time on it. I started off trying to describe the experience and ask for maybe broad advice that might apply to a university student in germany, baden wuerttemberg. I figure I still am, but have also been looking at options for the past couple of weeks and been trying to get myself to reach out.
I am afraid of a lot right now. I'm not struggling because i don't care, and I have been feeling like it doesn't matter, that I'm just trapped on the same spot either way. And I just want to, atleast feel like it's alright to admit that.
I cut away a lot, like going into more detail about resembling symptoms. Still, sorry for the length and thanks for taking the time to read all of that. | 2021-11-21T20:16:53.000Z | qz3eqf | 3 | 13 | ADHD | Overwhelmed by starting University. I'm no longer abled to compensate for being horribly inefficient at everything academic. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3eqf/overwhelmed_by_starting_university_im_no_longer/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:13:50.000Z | qz3ceh | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone had any experience with CBD and Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3ceh/anyone_had_any_experience_with_cbd_and_vyvanse/ |
puke_zilla | I've noticed that I tend to not see obvious... Wordplay, I guess. For example... Before I heard someone else pronounce the store name Lululemon out loud, I always read it as "lulu-mon" (like the name of Pokemon or something). Cricut as "cry cut". Opensea as "oh-pehn-see-uh". And even after I'm well aware of how the name is pronounced, I'll continue to unintentionally pronounce it my way in my head. Is this a focus thing (not looking long enough at the word to actually sound it out) or am I just a dummy? Or am I just overthinking things? | 2021-11-21T20:12:44.000Z | qz3bk4 | 13 | 9 | ADHD | Just realized I have a weird cognitive tendency... | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3bk4/just_realized_i_have_a_weird_cognitive_tendency/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:11:13.000Z | qz3ae5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have any advice on using CBD to counteract the effects of Vyvanse crash? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz3ae5/anyone_have_any_advice_on_using_cbd_to_counteract/ |
mysticwilloww | [removed] | 2021-11-21T20:06:31.000Z | qz36v8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tips on keeping up with daily tasks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz36v8/tips_on_keeping_up_with_daily_tasks/ |
MagicDragon50 | With my (relatively) recent diagnosis, I've learned a lot about symptoms and other things correlating with ADHD, one of them being impostor syndrome. I know I've felt it explicitly, with thoughts of "I shouldn't be here, everyone's smarter than me" etc. (and I still do) but I also realized that I've felt it *implicitly* pretty much all my life too. All the way up through high school I've had the thought of "my mom got me these opportunities/grades with her 'PTA Mom' powers, there's no way I did this myself". I never thought of this as *also* impostor syndrome until now, and it's kind of blowing my mind looking back at my life through the lens of ADHD.
(I didn't really know what flair to put this under, but I guess I'm also wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences with their presentation of impostor syndrome and I'd love advice on how to counteract it as well) | 2021-11-21T20:00:58.000Z | qz32pt | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I've realized I've dealt with Impostor Syndrome all my life, just in different ways. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz32pt/ive_realized_ive_dealt_with_impostor_syndrome_all/ |
socialskills100 | The meds (Ritalin) I’m currently getting work between 3-4 hours for me.
So what about when I want to spend the few hours before bed relaxing? When I wanna read a book? Watch a movie? Or simply just relax and I _can’t_ .
I can’t take another pill because then I won’t sleep.
Any life hacks / tips you guys have figured out throughout the years? | 2021-11-21T20:00:11.000Z | qz320w | 4 | 1 | ADHD | It’s 8 at night, the meds have worn off, what now? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz320w/its_8_at_night_the_meds_have_worn_off_what_now/ |
bromprom | I started adderall 5 days ago although I’ve had it a couple times in the past to study for tests (before I knew I had adhd), and it has always had a really calming affect on me. Whenever I take it I never get that sick-to-my-stomach anxiety feeling about my executive dysfunction, or racing heartbeat.
Ive noticed that it hasn’t really improved my focus so far? I caught the flu a couple days ago and Im still recovering, so maybe that’s why I still have brain fog. I can’t really remember how well it helped me while I studied for my exams; I think it helped a goodish amount.
Has anyone else had a similar experience regarding anxiety with this medication? | 2021-11-21T19:53:40.000Z | qz2wy3 | 11 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall helps my Anxiety? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2wy3/adderall_helps_my_anxiety/ |
ghost_sanctum | just wondering, due to things I read online I get the feelings i might be faking having adhd.
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in highschool , i barely asserted myself and was able to scoot on by with B's and C's.
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I'm a super senior in college now. I used to be able to take a full load of classes and still manage C's in my previous classes. Now I've reached a point where I only take one class and work more due to the insane amount of bills and debt I have to tend to now.
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I was tested positive for adhd. That really boring test where you have to click the letter you see and click when you hear beeps and all that. I unfortunately don't really get my adderall from the pharmacy since its so expensive.
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but still, when I see people , way younger than 26 getting their lives together , while i'm here getting my undergrad still , and I think back to how much easier things were for me in grade school, I feel kinda confused.
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I've now reached a point where if I don't pass my finals for the third time, I might have to switch majors or even colleges.
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I know a lot of signs point to the fact I should fork out the cash to buy my adderall, but at the same time I'm always left wondering "what if I just applied myself a little more? what if my dad is right about me using adhd as a false excuse to be lazy?" | 2021-11-21T19:52:55.000Z | qz2wd2 | 5 | 6 | ADHD | Did your adhd get worse after grade school? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2wd2/did_your_adhd_get_worse_after_grade_school/ |
choragjt | I was first diagnosed with ADHD 10+ years ago. I started to ween off my medication two years ago (right before the pandemic hit) in an effort to try to live without the medication. Then the pandemic hit and I have been working from home since. Lately I have had trouble focusing and was considering going back to the medication. Any thoughts on how to go about this discussion with my doctor? | 2021-11-21T19:51:43.000Z | qz2vgv | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Getting prescribed to adderall again | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2vgv/getting_prescribed_to_adderall_again/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T19:45:31.000Z | qz2qu3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have any useful apps that help with their ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2qu3/does_anyone_have_any_useful_apps_that_help_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T19:44:01.000Z | qz2ppt | 2 | 2 | ADHD | what analogy, metaphor, or description do you use when describing your experience with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2ppt/what_analogy_metaphor_or_description_do_you_use/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-21T19:41:18.000Z | qz2npg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall only helping my Anxiety? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2npg/adderall_only_helping_my_anxiety/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T19:31:33.000Z | qz2gdm | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How to help my partner that doesn't consider she may have ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2gdm/how_to_help_my_partner_that_doesnt_consider_she/ |
CorndogCheese | I wanted to post a quick question to get other peoples experiences. I am 28 years old, relatively healthy lifestyle and healthy weight. Diagnosed as ADHD as a child. As an adult began taking the same medication I had taken. Recently it came to light that some people experience high blood pressure from this medication and I decided to take mine. It worries me a little and I have taken steps to speak to my doctor about this in case anyone asks, should be getting a call back soon.
I will admit now may have been a poor time to begin taking it as a good friend of mine passed two days ago and I have been admittedly stressed. I take 15mg IR morning and 10mg at noon which has always been the perfect dose for me. After my noon dose today I took my blood pressure and the first reading was 143/90, obviously not good. I took a few deep breaths and relaxed myself a bit, took it again and got 133/90, pulse of 102. I am wondering if anyone in this group has taken their BP and run into similar issues. I have never had BP issues that I am aware of in my life but am again quite stressed due to the loss of a good friend. | 2021-11-21T19:29:51.000Z | qz2f01 | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Blood Pressure on Adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2f01/blood_pressure_on_adderall/ |
cakt_us | I don’t know if I’m being crazy. I’m 17F. Always did really well in school because I was a smart kid and there was very little homework when I was younger. Tended to daydream a lot, disassociate, etc. (my school actually requested my parents to get a hearing test because they thought I could be deaf, that’s how unresponsive I was and still am when people talk to me). Also diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but even when I am feeling well, my organisational skills are terrible, I procrastinate like crazy. It’s only really started affecting me academically in my last two years of high school (studying A Levels). I do really well in class, then I just don’t complete homeworks lmao. Anyway, that’s not a comprehensive list of all the things I experience in relation to ADHD, but I really think I could have it.
I never considered ADHD as a diagnosis because I only knew about hyperactive/impulsive presentation, I didn’t know you could have combined/inattentive ADHD.
Anyway, I was referred to a psychiatrist by my GP and I’m waiting for a diagnosis. From people who have actually been diagnosed with ADHD, does this sound remotely like what you experience? I feel like a lot of people I know were diagnosed as children. | 2021-11-21T19:24:46.000Z | qz2bar | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I think I may have ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2bar/i_think_i_may_have_adhd/ |
spiritualme333 | I’m a 24 year old woman who just got diagnosed with adhd & started taking adderall within the past year. I also struggle with anxiety and depression- my depression mostly being the ‘there’s no point’/ ‘life’s one big circle that has no purpose’/ feeling like i want to do so much but it’s impossible and i never executed so it made me angry and resentful and confused how i was so bad at “doing life” >> leading to again, “what’s the point”.
***now time for the revolution after settling in with my new adderal prescription… i’m realizing how all of that accumulated from years and years of being unaware, undiagnose, & unmediated for my adhd. the low motivation, low energy, scatterbrain, desire to do everything yet nothing, every single thing i did took so so so much energy from me and i burned out so quickly and i felt like i could never catch up and so “what was the point”!!!!!!! like WOW, what would life have been like if i was diagnosed as a young child instead of a college graduate??? how would my SCHOOL LIFE have been different?? would i have actually been in/ stayed i clubs and sports as a child? would i have actually done well in AP classes? could i have not had years of horrible self esteem from hating on myself for feeling so inadequate?? i’m not trying to dwell on the past bc it’s too late to change it, & im happy with where i am now so not like i would Want to change things but it’s just so interesting to reflect on.
but also looking into the future.. i feel so much more hopeful about being able to get through depressive episodes that i will endure & they suddenly don’t seem as scary. 💜
thanks for listening- comment if you have something you’d like to share & let’s have more undiagnosed adhd vs depression revelations! | 2021-11-21T19:24:40.000Z | qz2b7v | 1 | 6 | ADHD | adhd & depression | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2b7v/adhd_depression/ |
Ppoentje | [removed] | 2021-11-21T19:24:23.000Z | qz2b0r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Wanted to share my schedule | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2b0r/wanted_to_share_my_schedule/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-21T19:24:11.000Z | qz2avr | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Is the affect of my medication just a placebo? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz2avr/is_the_affect_of_my_medication_just_a_placebo/ |
pinocchio412 | Preface: I have not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, nor am I self-diagnosing, but I have done research and suspect I have ADHD.
So I messed up. My mom had extra tickets to a show and she asked if I wanted my girlfriend to come with us. I told my gf, and then she just had to ask her mom, and let us know. That was last week, and last night we were talking about the show. I asked my mom if my gf should meet us at the house or if we would pick her up. Then my mom looked confused and said "What? She's not coming." I was so confused. Apparently, I never told my mom that she could go to the show, and my mom sold the extra ticket. I was extremely upset because I was really looking forward to seeing the show with my gf. I literally went up to my room to cry, but I was more upset that I made that mistake. I still think my mom should have asked me like oh is she going or not, but yeah I guess it's on me that I never got back to her.
Making mistakes like this and just seeming like I have a shit memory in general makes me feel so stupid. I feel like I'm incapable of such simple things, and I feel dumb a lot of the time. I'm so upset about this because I feel bad (even though my gf says I shouldn't be sorry) and I'm upset because I was anticipating her being there but of course I fucked it up.
As I prefaced, I'm undiagnosed, but I feel like I might be in the future. If not with ADHD, at least with something tangible so I can get help. I don't want to be like this and feel like this forever. | 2021-11-21T19:22:40.000Z | qz29ro | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Feeling dumb | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz29ro/feeling_dumb/ |
KaleChipSalad | I’m a year and a half into my first full-time, permanent job post-college. I managed to get through five internships without any significant issues or a diagnosis. Last summer I was finally diagnosed with ADHD and began a year long process of trying different medications with my psych and therapist.
As I’ve transitioned from spending most of my work day in training to working independently, my productivity at work plummeted. This summer was devastating for my work metrics due to other medical issues, entering a major depressive episode, only having access to sub-par adderall generics and other unforeseeable challenges. On top of that, COVID-19 caused our training seminars to be held on zoom instead of in the company’s training facility.
I have a STEM degree and this job is half technical, half client-facing. I get great feedback from coworkers and clients, but I also get angry calls from my manager about my productivity at least once a week. Every week I’ll get 1-3 new clients and site visits, and we’re expected to keep up with everyone for months after. I’m now on 40mg vyvanse which helps tremendously. But I’ve realized that the accommodations I could request for my ADHD would mean I’ll always be at the bottom of the pack in terms of performance metrics.
My partner (also diagnosed with adhd) is very supportive and has assured me that it’s okay if I quit and look for a job elsewhere. But here’s my problem.
1. I’m terrified of financial instability. My parents each worked 16+ hour days, 6-7 days a week and we still struggled financially. Part of the reason I went to university for STEM is because of the potential income opportunities. Now I have student loans and feel unemployable.
2. I’ve looked at job postings online and haven’t found anything I’m confident I could be successful in. My self confidence has taken a massive hit in this job because of my manager. The failure I feel every time we meet has worsened my depression (also medicated at least).
What kind of work environments have you found success in? Is self employment my best option? Even if you’re not in STEM, what job characteristics have you found success with or should I look out for?
Thank you for reading this far ❤️ any words of encouragement are also greatly appreciated. | 2021-11-21T19:20:04.000Z | qz27sc | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Employment is feeling increasingly impossible but I’m terrified of financial instability. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qz27sc/employment_is_feeling_increasingly_impossible_but/ |
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