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asdfsjdksk | We all talk about how NT procrastination is different from executive dysfunction, but I have always wanted to know what it feels like then for NTs to procrastinate (and it may help with the occasional doubt/guilt that creeps in). I just can't conceptualize what it would feel like.
The usual narrative I hear is that people don't want to procrastinate but it just happens, which sounds like how I don't *want* to not do any of the things I need to do, but still don't get it done anyways. I am curious how these two things would "feel" different.
I thought about someone making a conscious choice to do the thing later, despite being able to do it now if they wanted to. However, wouldn't that conflict with the whole "I didn't intend to procrastinate but it just happened" description?
I guess other ADHD havers wouldn't have personally experienced the difference either, but at the same time non ADHD people might not know get I'm asking. | 2021-12-13T20:42:00.000Z | rfpk5e | 2 | 16 | ADHD | What does it feel like for a neurotypical person when they procrastinate? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfpk5e/what_does_it_feel_like_for_a_neurotypical_person/ |
laneflames | [removed] | 2021-12-13T20:41:39.000Z | rfpjv1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What do you generally refer to yourself as/title yourself as when mentioning that you have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfpjv1/what_do_you_generally_refer_to_yourself_astitle/ |
bobzburgerzlu | [removed] | 2021-12-13T20:39:05.000Z | rfpho8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I get extremely bored at work and don’t care about doing anything. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfpho8/i_get_extremely_bored_at_work_and_dont_care_about/ |
the_big_steppa | Hi everyone :D! I'm a sophomore in college and take adderall. I started taking it in January and it has 100% helped in school. Last semester, I didn't have any online synchronous/in person classes and this semester all of them are except for one online asynchronous. All semester I was doing amazing at keeping up with my work and studying consistently trying to bring my gpa up. It's my finals week and I'm so close to being done, but I feel so burnt out and can't make myself actually find the motivation to do an assignment. Has anyone ever dealt with this before or have any advice :(? | 2021-12-13T20:38:05.000Z | rfpgtp | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Tips for college burnout? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfpgtp/tips_for_college_burnout/ |
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ConnorLJohnson | I’m not sure how to phrase this, so I’ll just say it. I don’t really know how I’m supposed to react when people baselessly postulate that they might be ‘just like me’ because of the very occasional slip up or procrastination.
On the one hand, the last thing I ever want to do is gate keep ADHD from someone who potentially has it (trust me, I’ve been there). Diagnosis is expensive and difficult, and denying experiences is a shitty thing to do.
But on the other hand, there are some people that I know absolutely do not have ADHD that often use it as a casual phrase after doing something poorly- whether it’s a symptom or not. One friend of mine was so convinced she had ADHD she tested multiple times, and every time was found to have symptoms due to other disorders; yet, she’ll still butt into a conversation to speak about her experience.
Again— the last thing I was to do is gate keep, so I hold my tongue (who knows— maybe she does have it against all the odds), but I’m starting to feel like ADHD is just an offhand expression or excuse for doing something stupid. Almost used like an opposite term for how OCD was so widely and inaccurately used.
How do you all respond to comments and situations like this? How do you honestly correct the errant “maybe I caught it from you!” adjacent comments without accidentally shutting down someone who might need help?
TL;DR: how do you balance gatekeeping ADHD self diagnosis and correcting those who obviously don’t have it? | 2021-12-13T20:17:22.000Z | rfozhu | 50 | 76 | ADHD | How to respond to “maybe I have ADHD too!” | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfozhu/how_to_respond_to_maybe_i_have_adhd_too/ |
Erxxy | So, I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and ADHD, which means I can't sleep without meds and I'm mostly to tired to do things while being really active in my head. Just wondering if other people had the same or maybe a different chronic illness in combination with ADHD, and how do you handle it?
For example: I just came back from a boring day at work, all my joints hurt, have had some very bad nights of sleep but as soon as I got home I got way to much energy from being understimulated at work and I did all the household chores I could do. | 2021-12-13T20:15:49.000Z | rfoy6l | 6 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD in combination with a chronic illness? | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoy6l/adhd_in_combination_with_a_chronic_illness/ |
Improv4health | [removed] | 2021-12-13T20:15:02.000Z | rfoxii | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 2 free complimentary spots for improv 4 health! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoxii/2_free_complimentary_spots_for_improv_4_health/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T20:11:52.000Z | rfouro | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Combination of CFS and ADHD, anyone else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfouro/combination_of_cfs_and_adhd_anyone_else/ |
Depre55edacorn | I’ve reached a point where when I’m not on my phone I don’t know what to do. There isn’t much for me to do around here at all, and i can’t play video games cuz my ps4 is broke, that’s all I usually do.
It’s really getting to me and I just can’t get off my phone, I live in rural Pennsylvania so I can’t just go to a club or something. I really don’t know what to do about this. This is the only way I get dopamine, cuz nothing else really does it for me. I’m on my phone all day, and until like 3am when I go to bed. And sometimes I don’t even go to bed and I fall asleep around 8am maybe even 11am.
When I’m not on my phone I get stressed, but when I’m on my phone I get stressed. I don’t have a job I can do from home, I don’t wanna do anything around my house either. So I’m just like stuck like this. | 2021-12-13T20:09:45.000Z | rfosya | 1 | 6 | ADHD | I can’t get off my phone | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfosya/i_cant_get_off_my_phone/ |
unicorn_kissy | TL;DR: I do have some thoughts that automatically appear as words, but those verbal/auditory thoughts are rare unless I'm reading, and the majority of my internal experience is pictures, feelings, concepts. I'm floored (and quite jealous) that so many people have this, and I'm dying to hear about YOUR internal cognitive experience, especially if it's minimally verbal like mine!
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I’m super curious about this right now, as I’m reading Dr. Barkley's book and he has an awesome in-depth explanation of internal voice and how it's an integral executive function. I'm triggered. I don't have an internal "monologue."
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I get most of my cognitive clarity out of writing (which is probably why I can be long-winded). If I’m not writing or speaking out loud, I’m not processing.
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Because of this, my conscious thoughts are often challenging to recognize. I CAN have internal words, but they come automatically verbally formed only about 5% of the time, except when I'm reading. The other 95% are abstract concepts I would have to then translate manually if I need to use words, which feels like pulling loose Lego blocks out of the air and attaching them to each other while hoping they make sense together and that they form a structure that at least resembles the concept inside my head. So there’s like, more steps and layers in between the thought and the words.
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I am curious about the prevalence of this co-occurring with ADHD. Apparently we can have ADHD and have an internal monologue. Probably the reverse is true, too, people with no internal monologue and no ADHD. Fascinating executive function. I wonder what the stats would be if we could poll everyone.
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QUESTION for those of you who do have an automatic internal monologue: What percentage of your (conscious) thoughts do you think are automatically verbally formed? Is it like, every thought you notice comes in as words? Or do you feel yourself actively creating those words?
\*For me, I can CREATE those words in my head, but it's definitely usually an active effort to do so. Actually, I usually have to imagine I’m talking to someone (and it’s usually arguing, which I suspect is because conflict is the only thing stimulating enough for my brain to be able to create verbal thoughts automatically around it).
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QUESTION for those of you who don’t have such a strong automatic thought-monologue: Do you think we can practice it and actually develop it more? I would love to develop a verbal self-coaching dialogue in my head. I’m working on practicing it to see if I can make that become a thing for me.
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FYI – I’m sure it can be a curse sometimes too, but overall it sounds SO helpful to have, and I kind of can’t deal with the perceived unfairness of not having it. I absolutely have some envy to process. | 2021-12-13T20:09:07.000Z | rfosfp | 8 | 12 | ADHD | Internal Monologue WHO?? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfosfp/internal_monologue_who/ |
LackingDopamine76 | Evening.
Long time lurker first time poster. Was diagnosed with ADHD in the summer. At the grand old age of 46. Was put on Elvanse and the effects were amazing, clarity, focus etc. Downside was I couldn't sleep. Was put on melotonin etc and still didn't work. Requested that I was put on something shorter acting and was put on methylphenidate this is terrible and doesn't seem to do anything. All the old traits have come back I am currently on 10 mg BD with imminent increase. Any advice / or similar stories? Really struggling at the moment. | 2021-12-13T20:08:40.000Z | rfos1u | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Switched from Elvanse to Methylphenidate, one caused 10 weeks of insomnia and the other did bugger all | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfos1u/switched_from_elvanse_to_methylphenidate_one/ |
SadCatFriend | I started Adderall about two months ago and I think it has been slightly helpful for my mood and focus but I have lost 10 pounds without meaning to. I already had a hard time getting consistent meals in my body before I started medication but now it feels practically impossible. My body does not give me any indication of hunger at all now, and when I try to force myself to eat the food feels like bland paste in my mouth. Even foods I used to really like I can hardly stomach. I asked my psychiatrist if I could try a different type of medication but he told me I had to go up to the maximum dose of adderall before I could switch, and that means at least another month of this. When I am able to get different meds are there any that dont mess with appetite? Does anyone have any suggestions on how to better force feed myself throughout the day in the meantime? | 2021-12-13T20:08:05.000Z | rforjs | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Any stimulants that don't cause loss of appetite? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rforjs/any_stimulants_that_dont_cause_loss_of_appetite/ |
PansaSquad | This past week has been hell for me, between finals, trying to establish healthy habits, and just general existence.
For context, my diagnosis was pretty recent (October), and my psych recommended that I get into therapy along side seeing her, which I have started this month. Suddenly I’m painfully aware of how much time I waste day-to-day, how much I don’t get done, how much I disappoint myself and others. Almost every night this past week I’ve been in tears, because of procrastinating a paper until 3 hours till it’s due, or my partner becoming annoyed because I forgot something (we’ve spoken extensively about adhd and he’s very supportive of me, his reaction to that particular situation was fine, I’ve just become so much more sensitive because of stress.), or continuously delaying Christmas plans with my family because I’m too busy procrastinating school work. I feel like shit constantly.
Both my therapist and my family have said that I need to be proud of my accomplishments, but I just can’t. I feel like a fraud. When I finally DO manage to do something, it’s not a feeling of relief, but rather a negative reminder that I could have done this weeks, or even months ago, yet it took me so long to even start it. That the task I had to preform was expected of me, so why congratulate that? Logically I know this is a very unhealthy outlook, but my brain is full of worms apparently, and any advice on how to reframe the guilt caused by adhd would be appreciated.
I’m a college student, as I mentioned, and I work at a coffee shop so my access to caffeine is pretty much unlimited. Between pulling all nighters because of procrastination, and then getting up at 4 am to open, I probably consume an average of 3-6 cups of coffee a day. Already I’m anxious about dumb things, and piling this much caffeine on top of it clearly isn’t helping. What is a good way to wean myself off caffeine? | 2021-12-13T20:07:35.000Z | rfor37 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Trying to be more grateful, and lay off caffeine. This sucks | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfor37/trying_to_be_more_grateful_and_lay_off_caffeine/ |
PeepShowZootSuits | Hi,
TLDR: As the title says
I have just come back from my test and am curious what others have had to do in their diagnosis. I had a short zoom last week where I was asked a few questions about childhood and present day. Tbh it felt unsatisfactory as the video kept cutting out and the questions seemed pretty generic. Maybe I'm second guessing the procedure though. Today I thought it was going to be a test with an interview, but there was no interview. Basically turned out to be a 90 minute IQ test. Trouble is, I seem to focus pretty well on timed tests etc. I did fill out around 400 questions in the paperwork before hand so maybe I am overthinking the assessment - it's just not entirely what I was expecting.
Also, if they say no to ADHD have people found that they give other potential issues such as anxiety? I very much feel I have ADHD (son has it), but if they say no then I hope there is some other diagnosis because I certainly don't feel 'right'. Thanks. | 2021-12-13T20:07:35.000Z | rfor32 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Can you share your overall evaluation experience? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfor32/can_you_share_your_overall_evaluation_experience/ |
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iloveacheekymeme | I'll try and keep this short because the title already pretty much covers it.
I've always found that I forget specific details of a movie as soon as its over. I will definitely know whether I enjoyed it or not, and be able to talk about it as a whole, but no specifics.
If i've been to a movie with friends, when we leave usually the immediate conversation as you're walking out of the building is "so what did you think? etc. etc." and they will start talking about specific parts they enjoyed, "what did you think of the part where..." "omg i loved the scene when..." blah blah blah and i have NO IDEA what they are talking about. Like i literally just watched the movie right then how is this possible!
Just me? 😅 | 2021-12-13T20:03:03.000Z | rfon9j | 33 | 54 | ADHD | Forgetting details of a movie as soon as its over? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfon9j/forgetting_details_of_a_movie_as_soon_as_its_over/ |
tossitup_tossitout | I’ve been miserable at my job for almost a year and cannot seem to sit down and start my job search for the life of me. Any hacks? Any help?
Background: i am a consultant, this is my second consulting job, I started March 2020 and things started to go downhill January 2021. Team culture is bad, management is toxic, we have hemorrhaged talent, it has caused me anxiety and makes me incredibly unhappy, yet I just can’t seem to get a move on. | 2021-12-13T19:56:56.000Z | rfoht8 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Need help starting job search | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoht8/need_help_starting_job_search/ |
Working-Mistake-6700 | Hello I have a psychiatrist but I hate her. I feel like I'm being talked down to all the time and she won't believe that I have ADHD. I have been diagnosed. I tried to bring it up with her and she shut me down hard and acted like I was nuts for even thinking it. I was supposed to have an appointment today with her and I cancelled it literally an hour beforehand because I was having a panic attack at the idea of talking to her. I believe that most of my problems are from untreated ADHD. I try to do things to help myself and they get undone because I can't focus. The psychiatrist who diagnosed me said I have one of the worst cases of inattentive ADHD that she's ever seen. Nothing stays fine because I can't focus on it. So I need a new psychiatrist, what should I be looking for? | 2021-12-13T19:55:48.000Z | rfogvx | 3 | 2 | ADHD | What do I look for in a psychiatrist? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfogvx/what_do_i_look_for_in_a_psychiatrist/ |
comestillerwater | TL;DR: for those with an anxiety disorder, what meds have helped or exacerbated your anxiety?
Hey all,
I’m hoping to get some info to take to my GP next week. I have been working with a psychiatrist, but we haven’t been able to get my anxiety under control so I’m seeking a new doctor. I also have a therapist I see weekly.
I currently take Adderall IR 20mg, Zoloft 150mg, Ativan 0.5mg as needed. My doctor recently increased my Zoloft and that had no affect on my anxiety. I am hesitant to increase me Adderall, even though it helps my anxiety a lot. I struggled keeping weight on when I increased my dose to 20, and I have insomnia. It does feel like overstimulation/sensory overload might be a big factor in my anxiety right now. I had asked my doc about non stimulants but never made progress getting those prescribed, or even trying something like Buspar to help.
Since I’m going to be speaking with my GP I want a bit more info about my med options. For folks with comorbid anxiety, what med combo has worked for you? Have non stimulants helped your anxiety? An anti anxiety med? I have a lot of non med strategies to help (running and tarot reading are big for me), but my anxiety is so severe it feels like I need meds to get me back to a baseline.
I am only seeking to hear what worked for you so I can talk to my doctor - not asking for medical advice! Thanks for any insight! | 2021-12-13T19:53:27.000Z | rfoezp | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Non-stimulants and anxiety | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoezp/nonstimulants_and_anxiety/ |
Meraere | I am tired, all the time. Even if I do get enough sleep I am tired. I always want to nap. Idk if its my sleep sucks so much that is never restful or what. It gets annoying because I might enjoy playing something but then get so tired i just lay down.
Also doesnt help that I sometimes snack to feel less tired. Even if I am not hungry. Also doesn't help when i suddenly get tired at work or behind the wheel of a car... I do wonder if maybe i should eat differently, trying to have more protein than carbs for meals... | 2021-12-13T19:53:25.000Z | rfoeya | 169 | 820 | ADHD | Anyone just in a consent state of tired? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoeya/anyone_just_in_a_consent_state_of_tired/ |
sparnaxy | First of all I want to start by saying if you have any doubt or show any small symptom of any kind of ADD/ADHD please for the love of god, consult a professional!
With that out of the way, I can start telling about myself a bit. I am 25 years old and fresh out of university. Boy believe me when I tell you University was hell to go through, at least academically. So was high school and middle school for that matter. But it wasn't always like that.
In my early years I've always been dubbed as a bright kid. The things the other kids struggled came easy to me. I don't know if this is true as I don't remember clearly that early into my life but my mother says that I've learned reading when I was 4 or 5, without any outside help. I mean it seems unreal to me but my mother is not a person that usually lies and she's very religious and she swore to me on the god she believes in when I asked her to. Then, things kind of started to fall apart. My class mates could easily understand stuff such as math and could memorize long pieces of written word such as national anthem and whatnot.
When I asked them how they would just say they were studying. It didn't compute in my brain. When I tried to study, my thoughts would turn into sludge, memories into jelly. The information was right there but I just couldn't reach it, it felt like when you're in a nightmare, running from a monster or trying to punch someone but your body feels like it's encased in amber or something.
Also it was murder to complete my dissertation paper to finally graduate from sports science faculty, I procrastinated the living crap out of it. And studying didn't end yet, noooooo. In my country if you want to be a teacher, you have to take a series of exams that first tests your general knowledge in topics like maths, Turkish (I'm Turkish) history, geography and so on. Second one is on educational theory. And finally the third is on one's particular field which in my case is physical education.
Long story short, me and studying didn't go hand in hand. Now comes the day that all of that changed. At least for now.
Today my doctor prescribed me Concerta 36mg. I took it around 11.30-12.00 noon time, as soon as I got it. At first everything was normal, my wife and I went to the mall after the appointment, got some groceries, browsed some stores and got back home about three hours later. But I could feel something different. The first thing I usually do when we get home is turn on the pc and get undressed while it boots (no ssd, an old hdd takes a long time I tell you). But today I went to get into my home clothes and went straight into putting away groceries, cleaning the kitchen, putting the dishes in the machine, taking out the trash and after that two straight hours of studying, quick break to play a couple of games with a friend of mine for about half an hour and one and a half hour more of studying and I don't feel exhausted neither physically nor mentally.
It's like someone applied WD-40 on the cogs in my brain. The crash still didn't happen I guess, as I was able to write this LONG ASS drivel with no pauses or distraction, which is a miracle in itself.
So what I'm saying is basically, first, yay me! And second don't put off getting help when it can get much, much better. This subreddit has helped me realize that I have a condition and I am not just a lazy person. So I thank you all from the bottom of my heart, you magnificent people!
I could only pick one flair but I guess this is celebration, tips and suggestion and rant all rolled into one. Sorry! | 2021-12-13T19:52:00.000Z | rfodrp | 3 | 2 | ADHD | My first day of being diagnosed and on medication. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfodrp/my_first_day_of_being_diagnosed_and_on_medication/ |
turnttomato | So I’m 21(F) and I’ve been experiencing ADHD symptoms for a few years now. I’ve learnt that to diagnose adult ADHD , you would’ve had to have symptoms as a child too , but I’m not sure that I did have any symptoms as a child or at least I don’t think I can remember if I did. Can it still be ADHD if you didn’t have childhood symptoms? | 2021-12-13T19:50:37.000Z | rfoco0 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Getting a diagnosis | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoco0/getting_a_diagnosis/ |
iDidntThinkiWasGonna | I'm undiagnosed (I have an appointment this Thursday) and one of the reasons I think I have ADHD is my inability to read.
During silent reading time at school I would get out a book and just sit there staring around the room letting my mind wander. Eventually the teachers noticed this and told me to focus on reading. I would try to read but I genuinely could not pay attention for more than a few minutes. Even when I forced myself to try and focus, I would read a whole paragraph without really comprehending what I just read because I'm using 100% of my brain power to try and not get distracted.
I knew HOW to read, I just couldn't focus enough to actually do it. So I would just sit there with a book in front of me, staring at the pages while thinking about whatever my mind wandered to, occasionally flipping the pages to make it look like I was reading.
This continued on for years. My teachers, friends, and family all think I've read the entire Harry Potter series but I literally never read a single one. I just watched the movies so I could pass the reading comprehension tests and still get a passing grade. I've never told anyone about this.
Everyone always thought I was so smart. Everyone thinks I really have my shit together. I wish I wouldn't have faked being normal. I wish I would've tried to get help sooner.
The only way I ever managed to read a book is by listening to audiobooks. If I listen to just the audiobook, I still can't pay attention to it and I get distracted, so I have to listen to the audio while reading along with it. And STILL I have to go back every now and then because I still struggle to keep my focus.
I don't even know the purpose of this post. I'm just ranting. I really like reading and I wish I could do it more | 2021-12-13T19:50:16.000Z | rfoccj | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I never read a single book from 3rd-10th grade | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfoccj/i_never_read_a_single_book_from_3rd10th_grade/ |
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DarkSlow2428 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:47:07.000Z | rfo9ok | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Stimulant addiction help?? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfo9ok/stimulant_addiction_help/ |
broken-imperfect | (Small update on my last post here, I did eventually get the paper turned in and everything with that is fine.)
I have so much to do tonight and basically no time to do it if I want to sleep. I have an exam tomorrow morning at 10:30am, so I'll need to sleep. Basically, I need to do laundry, pack (I'm flying home tomorrow at 5pm, about 4 hours after my exam finishes), study for said exam and clean my apartment since I'll be gone for 3 weeks.
I spent way too much time procrastinating, this was all stuff that needed to be done this weekend but I just... didn't do it. Its hard to make myself do things like laundry, clean, pack, because it's just not interesting.
Is there any way of multitasking that you've found beneficial? I'm currently on my way to another exam, so it'll be a few hours before I can really start. I've begun studying for the exam tomorrow, so that's one thing accomplished. | 2021-12-13T19:41:10.000Z | rfo4oh | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Is there any affective way for me to multitask? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfo4oh/is_there_any_affective_way_for_me_to_multitask/ |
Dismal-Egg6192 | I'm finally able to make an appointment with a psychiatry doctor and I had a rough time in the past couple of years but so far I've been okay and gotten past that rough patch in my life. But if they ask I don't wish to be sent anywhere is there anything I should avoid saying in-depth or just any topics that might think it's warranted for me to be sent somewhere.
Tl: DR Getting mental health the last couple of years was rocky for me and now not trying to be sent to a psych hospital. | 2021-12-13T19:39:29.000Z | rfo38a | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Possible Psych Help | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfo38a/possible_psych_help/ |
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sixtyninefourtwenty2 | My friend recently texted me about how she doesnt want to be friends with me anymore, which I was fine with until she said that i rant too much
I would always ask to rant and make sure she was in the right headspace to hear, but she would lie to me and say shes fine, I trusted her, shes not the only one i rant to either
She also said I talk about myself too much, but what actually happens is she says something, id reply, then we’d go back and forth, once the conversation starts dying down, i would interrupt with something similar that’s happened to me so I could relate it back to how shes feeling
I also used to info dump a lot about whatever i was interested in, since she told me it was a safe place to talk about the things i liked.
I honestly don’t understand what I did wrong, she wasnt clear with me and i feel so bad. I want to make sure i dont repeat this ever again, but i dont know what to fix about myself, can anyone give me advice? | 2021-12-13T19:25:45.000Z | rfnrq8 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Im very confused about my friend and my ADHD is making it harder for me | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnrq8/im_very_confused_about_my_friend_and_my_adhd_is/ |
xstarlesseyess | I've posted here a few months ago, when I learned what ADHD ACTUALLY is and how it was affecting my life in ways I didn't know were possible. I was nervous to change meds but was also seeing how much I have been suffering the past year but always thought it was just me.
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I am still working out the correct dose but just from changing my medications as well as having a proper understanding of ADHD (I think understanding what it actually is is #1 the most important thing), I am finally able to control my life more than I had been all year.
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Two things that have stood out for me, I am not stuttering over my words anymore! I was shocked that this was a symptom, I really thought something was neurologically wrong as I just felt drunk when I was trying to talk at random times. The other thing, I have been to the gym 3 DAYS IN A ROW! I could not imagine having this motivation just a couple of months ago and now, I have a schedule to my day before work and it has been a game changer for me.
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Please advocate for yourselves! Find a psychiatrist that actually understands ADHD, watch Dr. Russell Barkley's videos or any other actual doctor's videos, be positive and try and educate others that don't understand what this disability actually is...and if they won't listen, who cares! Their opinion on the matter is not important :) | 2021-12-13T19:25:32.000Z | rfnrkl | 7 | 1 | ADHD | I am so happy I got my meds changed! | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnrkl/i_am_so_happy_i_got_my_meds_changed/ |
johnjack1199 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:23:26.000Z | rfnpvv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Just prescribed adderall, how does it effect you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnpvv/just_prescribed_adderall_how_does_it_effect_you/ |
RelevantEntry | EDIT: Thank you for all your wonderful comments and for sharing. I am not alone in feeling this way and neither are you.
idk if this type of post is even allowed here. Don't really have any questions or anything, just wanted to vent.
I hate feeling like this when I know there is a bunch of things I need to do but they just don't feel important enough right now.
Also apparently posts need a body that's at least 300 characters in length, and reddit says I am currently at 355 and counting, so this should be enough.
Aaaaaand now it says I need to take a break for 12 minutes because I can't post back to back, 494 characters now. fml | 2021-12-13T19:22:10.000Z | rfnouv | 142 | 405 | ADHD | It's Monday, I don't want to do anything. It took me 2 hours to get out of bed. I don't feel tired, I don't feel depressed or sad, I just don't wanna do anything. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnouv/its_monday_i_dont_want_to_do_anything_it_took_me/ |
Leorcura | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:17:09.000Z | rfnkvc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Mental Illness and Media | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnkvc/mental_illness_and_media/ |
windwoke | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:15:01.000Z | rfnj2m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have recurring nightmares that I accidentally skipped all my high school classes and need to do extra years | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnj2m/i_have_recurring_nightmares_that_i_accidentally/ |
everyonegoestohell | My Brain is all over the place and I'm feeling too much and then too little. I can't take meds yet because I need to find a place for rent and then move in and then start therapy sessions with a psychologist.
My therapist is booked through so my emergency session is also on Thursday. I have to survive two whole days.
My heart is all over the place.
Please someone just tell me this is normal, that this is okay. I don't feel human. | 2021-12-13T19:14:23.000Z | rfnik0 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Emotional Disregulation | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnik0/emotional_disregulation/ |
thompsonwins | I’ve noticed recently that whenever I go through some kind of situation that should warrant some kind of emotional response I tend to say something along the lines of “Eh, I don’t really care” or “it doesn’t really matter” and then fast forward a few days or a week later it’s all I think about. It’s like I initially have some kind of emotional disconnect and then when I allow myself to let it settle in my emotions just hit me like a truck. Anyone else experience this? | 2021-12-13T19:10:20.000Z | rfnf8l | 6 | 52 | ADHD | Is a delayed reaction to certain emotional events common for people with ADHD? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnf8l/is_a_delayed_reaction_to_certain_emotional_events/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:06:53.000Z | rfnceh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It's Monday, I don't want to do anything. It took me 2 hours to get out of bed. I don't feel tired, I don't feel depressed or sad, I just don't wanna do anything. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfnceh/its_monday_i_dont_want_to_do_anything_it_took_me/ |
Tubegamerpro12 |
One hour ago i tried to get in the bus with my pass and it naturally didn't work so I called my dad saying "hey dad my pass is not working, we forgot to charge it" and he said "since when is that my job? You had 16 days to think of reminding me so why didn't you?" And i answered " i have ADHD remember?, That's why mom always has to remind of everything" and he said " yeah i remember that excuse you keep calling "ADHD" and i also remember that you can't keep using that as an excuse to just not take responsibility for your mistakes so since you didn't remind me to charge your pass, you and that perfectly functional head of yours get to find a way back home because I'm not picking you up, good bye", i am kind of mad about this but I still keep trying to figure out if he's right or wrong in this situation what do you guys think.
Ps: all these conversations were in Portuguese so the translations aren't perfectly accurate but i did my best | 2021-12-13T19:03:09.000Z | rfn9bf | 31 | 78 | ADHD | Right now I'm in the middle of walking 14 miles home in 48°f weather because after 7yrs of my dad [non-adhd] always taking me to charge my bus pass on the way to school on the 1st of every month he just decided not to, after i was home sick for 2 weeks and just came back to school | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn9bf/right_now_im_in_the_middle_of_walking_14_miles/ |
xXdexterDXx | [removed] | 2021-12-13T19:01:41.000Z | rfn83s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Please anybody that suffers with ADHD what medications have you taken and which ones have worked the best ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn83s/please_anybody_that_suffers_with_adhd_what/ |
classictragedy8 | I really struggle to leave the house and start my day. I'm in a graduate program with a hands off supervisor so I can really get away with a lot and no one will notice. I mostly end up starting my work later in the day and working into the night which is okay sometimes but gives me a lot of anxiety and has a negative effect on my self esteem. I can easily lose around 6 hours from when I wake up to when I leave the house. I am then constantly reworking my plan for the day for what I can actually get done. During undergrad I would have my bf pick me up to get me on campus. Now I live in an apartment on campus and can't seem to get myself to leave the apartment when I want to without an appointment and a meeting planned for the day. My own initiative isn't enough.
Are there any strategies that you find work well for you? | 2021-12-13T19:00:24.000Z | rfn6q4 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Strategies for leaving the house | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn6q4/strategies_for_leaving_the_house/ |
Silent_Scr3am | I just start doing them on last minute because I cant find motivation before and then it takes me long hours and I end up not being able to focus and being late. I really try but it just doesnt work for me. I got my diagnosis when I was 11 (now 18) but my parents never dealt with my support system so now as 18 year old I got rediagnosis and have been trying to create myself that web but it just seems impossible. Any tips? | 2021-12-13T19:00:19.000Z | rfn6nl | 1 | 3 | ADHD | No clue how to do studies without being late with assignment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn6nl/no_clue_how_to_do_studies_without_being_late_with/ |
Provellone | I've been lurking and posting/commenting in this sub for almost a year now, ever since I got my diagnosis in February. My story is probably very similar to yours, so I won't obsess over writing out the monolog as I usually do.
But I just wanted to express how utterly grateful I am to those who post and comment here. I knew nothing about the intricacies of ADHD before visiting this community. When I started reading what people were expressing here, I felt like I wasn't alone anymore.
I don't know you and you don't know me, but we've had the same experiences, the same thoughts, feelings, hardships, revelations. Sometimes, I feel like I've even had the same life as you.
Over time, this sub has healed me in ways I can't even begin to explain. It's not necessarily the advice you give, or the hilarious relatable situations you get in. It's the sense of "these people will always understand me".
I could write an essay on this but I'm trying to restrain myself. So, from the bottom of my heart, I sincerely want to thank this sub and all of you. You've given me so much peace and validation, something I'm not sure I could have felt if not for this community ❤️ | 2021-12-13T18:58:14.000Z | rfn4w1 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | A 'thank you' to this sub and the people in it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn4w1/a_thank_you_to_this_sub_and_the_people_in_it/ |
Nomorerestarts | Hi everyone, I'm reaching out to try and better understand if I have ADHD, or if anyone here can commiserate with my symptoms.
I'll start with the short and sweet and then give some more context below. In my day-to-day, I notice that I can be in the middle of a task, get sidetracked and forget what I was supposed to be doing.
For example, I can sort in my head, I need to work on project A, then project B then project C. I'll start project A, get sidetracked (something pops in my brain as something I need to do), I'll work on this new "side thing" and forget I was working on project A.
I feel like I don't have control sometimes to drown out the noise and focus in on one task at hand.
That's the long and short of it.
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More context - I've driven my fiance completely mad forgetting things, I'll make huge proclamations to stick to a schedule and work on daily routines and forget.. I hate myself for it. Menawhile, I've gotten a degree in computer engineering so I know I'm not lazy.. I just can't keep my thought in order often, and I'll easily forget promises proclamations, routines and get sidetracked.
Any help is appreciated | 2021-12-13T18:56:23.000Z | rfn3f5 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Please help! Potentially undiagnosed ADHD - 32 yo male | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn3f5/please_help_potentially_undiagnosed_adhd_32_yo/ |
NewellNation609 | I've had a realization that I seem to get really emotional whenever I see something getting criticized. Even if it's being directed at something or someone else. Especially if I share similar traits or beliefs of said person or thing.
My brain just somehow finds a way to make me feel like it's being directed at me.
Seeing somebody get rejected.
Brain: "What if I get rejected that same way?"
Seeing somebody get criticized.
Brain: "What if I get criticized that same way?"
This kind of makes me avoidant of any kind of negativity online or IRL. Any form of rejection or criticism I witness pr hear about is just a nightmare to me. It's sort of a trigger to my negative inner voices.
In the same way that we fear and avoid potential criticism / rejection.
I fear and avoid criticism / rejection that isn't even relevant in a personal sense. Anyone feel this way? | 2021-12-13T18:52:35.000Z | rfn0e9 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone feel RSD even when said rejection /criticism is not directed at you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfn0e9/anyone_feel_rsd_even_when_said_rejection/ |
witchdoctorhazel | I hope I'm not the only one. I also have Bipolar disorder, which certainly doesn't help refraining from buying every shiny thing I come across.
I currently have 248 items saved "for later" in my Amazon account.
Some of my most recent favorites are:
- Heelys (you know, those shoes that have wheels in the heel)
- Stickers (I'm currently eyeing a packet of music stickers)
- a book about Chris Cornell (knowing full well that I probably can't read it and having just bought two books that I probably also won't read)
- a lot of tshirts (I love tshirts. It's my *thing*. Ones I currently have saved are: mental health tshirts, music/band tshirts, vampire chronicles tshirts, black books tshirts....)
- some arts and crafts stuff (currently mainly for drawing)
So. What are you trying your best *not* to buy?
(yeah I'm also looking out for suggestions ^^) | 2021-12-13T18:47:14.000Z | rfmw2h | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Current Obsession / Impulse Buys | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmw2h/current_obsession_impulse_buys/ |
MadeOfStyrofoam_1 | my mom believes understimulation and overstimulation aren't real things and are caused by me googling ADHD stuff and deciding to act like it since i got diagnosed (which... wow. didn't expect that from her but anyway)
how do i explain to her that those are real emotions, and that i had it before, i just now know a name for it? she says i should just "let my emotions flow and dont search the internet about it" but i believe the best way to find coping mechanisms is to ask other people | 2021-12-13T18:44:11.000Z | rfmtlk | 3 | 5 | ADHD | My mom believes i only have certain things because i looked it up on the internet and decided to have it. what to do? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmtlk/my_mom_believes_i_only_have_certain_things/ |
GarbageAccouxt | I've been struggling with symptoms of ADHD since I was about 10 but my parents won't take me to a pediatrician to get diagnosed. It's hard for me to focus in school or when someone is talking to me. I'm constantly fidgeting. I am currently struggling with depression. I get distracted easily and I have a short attention span. I'm a heavy procrastinator and the only time I ever feel the need to get something done is when the pressure of a deadline is on me. It's starting to affect my grades. Taking all of this into account, I am very stressed about midterms. I don't have any good study habits and I don't think I will be able to even concentrate on the test. Any tips?
TL;DR: I probably have ADHD and I don't know how to prepare for midterms. | 2021-12-13T18:43:06.000Z | rfmso9 | 5 | 0 | ADHD | I have undiagnosed ADHD and midterms are coming up | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmso9/i_have_undiagnosed_adhd_and_midterms_are_coming_up/ |
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Rja12345 | My sugar intake has been really high for years. I had a job ever since I was 16 so I had the financial freedom to buy whatever junk I wanted. I’ve been doing research and I’ve noticed that many people have been saying that high sugar intake can make ADHD symptoms worse. I’m just wondering if anyone knows more about this topic? Did you notice any differences after cutting down on your sugar intake? Does high sugar intake actually have any negative effects on ADHD?
Obviously I know for general health, it’s not that great. If y’all have any tips for cutting it down for someone who might be addicted, it will be appreciated. | 2021-12-13T18:34:54.000Z | rfmlue | 16 | 9 | ADHD | How much does sugar actually effect ADHD? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmlue/how_much_does_sugar_actually_effect_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T18:31:55.000Z | rfmj93 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I'm doing a thing (specifically, a YT channel) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmj93/im_doing_a_thing_specifically_a_yt_channel/ |
OrdinaryIdea | Long time lurker here to share my story. Feel free to share your thoughts, experiences, and advice!
When I was 8 years old, I was diagnosed with ADHD. I was a stereotypical case of an "unruly" and "talkative" child. (Fun/traumatic side story, at the end of my 3rd grade year the teacher handed out awards to all the kids. While everyone received awards like "Most Improved" I received "Most Talkative". My mother exchanged some not nice words with the teacher as I cried in the hallway lol)
My mother refused to medicate me (I am not saying she should have but basically, she ignored my diagnosis and did nothing to help me), so there I was floating through elementary, middle, and finally high school with subpar grades and the nagging feeling I wasn't good enough. On top of that my childhood was not the best, and as a result I am now an adult with a lot of childhood trauma and a brain that makes that incredibly hard to navigate. I know therapy/meds are not a cure, but if it helps me work through my trauma and improves my day-to-day life then why the hell not.
So, cheers to this new chapter in my life. This subreddit has inspired me, educated me, and helped me find a place where I don't feel so alone in this life. Every single one of you are amazing in your own way and never let anything take that away from you. Go easy on yourselves and remember we are all doing our best <3 | 2021-12-13T18:26:53.000Z | rfmey1 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Today Is My First Phycologist Appt. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmey1/today_is_my_first_phycologist_appt/ |
nataella | the title sounds a little weird. its all platonic.
she is literally the most supportive person in my life ever?? she asks me questions like "how can i accommodate you and help you adapt to your mental illness?" and "so you feel ___ and ___ when you __?" she asks so many questions about my hyperfixations and reassures me that she likes hearing me talk about my interests and explain my conditions. she is also the first person who accepted me when i came out to people. when i say i would die for her i will literally die for her i want to live with her and be platonic life partners thats how much i love her. i know all this sounds like the bare minimum but its more than what i expected. | 2021-12-13T18:26:41.000Z | rfmesd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i love my best friend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmesd/i_love_my_best_friend/ |
BlevelandDrowns | Or telling an anxious person to “just calm down”, or telling a inexperienced basketball player to “just aim better” or telling a resentful person to “just get over it” or telling an insomniac to “just go to bed”.
Sometimes when someone tells me to “just try harder” I want to snap back at one of their insufficiencies in the equivalent way.
I actually have a few times. Of course, they just get offended and say I’m being defensive. | 2021-12-13T18:24:18.000Z | rfmctl | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Telling ADHDers to “just try harder” is the same as telling an obese person to “just eat less” or telling a depressed person to “just be happy” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfmctl/telling_adhders_to_just_try_harder_is_the_same_as/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T18:21:15.000Z | rfma91 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Medication, misdiagnoses, and my psychiatrist?!? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfma91/medication_misdiagnoses_and_my_psychiatrist/ |
Yoshi9105 | It all started when my friend introduced me to BTS earlier this year. I'd always tried to stay away from K-pop because I know how much of a drill industry it is but these guys are just so lovely and their music is brilliant sooo between 1st September, when she introduced me to them, and 1st December I listened to literally nothing but BTS (and still don't) so they actually ended up being my Top Artist on Spotify for the entire year. xD I'm in their top 0.05% percent of listeners and I only had 3 months lol!
Anyway, since then I've got so much into everything Korean. I'm reading books by Korean authors, listening to Korean music, watching K-Dramas, I've even started studying Korean. I would love to also be able to visit sometime... if covid ever ends.
I'm enjoying it a lot but I'm scared it won't last long. This is the only thing that kind of gives me purpose right now and I feel like it's finally something useful (learning a language as part of an ADHD symptom? Don't mind if I do!) so I hope I can hold on to it for a long time!
[Click for some photos of my current life lol](https://i3.lensdump.com/i/gyq5Zv.jpg)
What was the weirdest / most elaborate obsession or hyperfixation you've had? | 2021-12-13T18:17:26.000Z | rfm73p | 2 | 3 | ADHD | My current hyperfixation is... Korean?! | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm73p/my_current_hyperfixation_is_korean/ |
60BillionDblDllrs | My PCP and I just decided to try out Adderall XR in place of my last script. Today is the first day on it. All good but I am worried about my sleeping schedule getting thrown off, one of the complications I had last time I tried XR. I normally get up at 0545, meds at 0630, they wore off around 1630, could eat/sleep by about 2000, actually tired by 2200. With XR I was wired until 2000 and sleep was delayed typically until the next morning. Anyone else have this issue? | 2021-12-13T18:15:50.000Z | rfm5rg | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Extended Release meds vs Sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm5rg/extended_release_meds_vs_sleep/ |
kiki-cakes | In It’s a Wonderful Life, Mr. Potter doesn’t return the $ in the papers, and because Uncle Billy is so forgetful (and known as such) he, and everyone, blames him, and I break down because the thought of letting down everyone I know in such a monumental way is devastating. I can’t imagine having ADHD back then or before. Bless their souls. | 2021-12-13T18:15:38.000Z | rfm5ly | 4 | 7 | ADHD | Every Christmas, my heart breaks when Uncle Billy misplaces the money! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm5ly/every_christmas_my_heart_breaks_when_uncle_billy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T18:12:50.000Z | rfm35y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Sunday scariest | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm35y/sunday_scariest/ |
LeadingSail | So I (20M) got diagnosed in October and have been taking Elvanse/ Vyvanse for about a month now under the care of my psychiatrist.
I sat on the idea of going down the medication route for a while, but after a lot of research I decided to give it a go. I told my parents that I wanted to go down this route and they were quite against it, saying that being diagnosed with ADHD doesn’t change who I am, and if I’ve been okay so far then I can get any help through therapy etc. They also said that the medication might change my character and make me less interesting and stuff. They then agreed that I can start taking medication while I’m home for Christmas from university so that they can help monitor the effects.
However, I wanted to start treatment ASAP as my ADHD obviously has a massive impact on my work at university. So now that I’m back home I want to tell them as I hate lying, but I’m afraid of their reaction.
My younger brother is also suffering from adhd symptoms (as well as anxiety and depression), and I want to share with him and my family just how helpful medication has been so far. He’s got an appointment with a psychiatrist next week.
Apologies for the rambling, but my question is does anyone have any advice on how to tell my parents, and if you have had a similar experience please share?
Thanks in advance! | 2021-12-13T18:12:40.000Z | rfm30x | 9 | 2 | ADHD | How do I tell my parents I take meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm30x/how_do_i_tell_my_parents_i_take_meds/ |
SomeRando18 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T18:10:44.000Z | rfm1d5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Welp, it’s finals week for me so wish me luck guys! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm1d5/welp_its_finals_week_for_me_so_wish_me_luck_guys/ |
Sparabic17 | So, I had a NEBA test with a different psychiatrist. He got back to me, told me that I do in fact have ADHD, and sent my results to my main psychiatrist.
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But then, during an appointment with my main psychiatrist, he starts asking me to explain what the NEBA results meant. Like, he wanted me to tell him how the test worked in a way that sounded like it was directed at a med school student instead of a patient.
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I’m just annoyed because I have had this since I was a kid, and was literally in tears when the Adderall helped me study without suffering for the first time.
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This doc says he likes to take a conservative approach to medicine, meaning he wants to avoid over-medicating patients…and only give them exactly what they need a nothing more.
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I respect that, but it was so weird being asked all these specific questions about the science behind NEBA, when the results were right in front of him. And sent in by ANOTHER PSYCHIATRIST.
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And then he sighs and is like “Well it seems like it’s helping so I GUESS we can continue the Adderall.” WTF. JUST TELL ME YOU THINK I’M A LIAR AND HANG UP ON ME, YOU UNPROFESSIONAL JERK.
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Rant over. If you have dealt with anything even slightly similar, I would really appreciate your insight and advice. Thank you. | 2021-12-13T18:09:44.000Z | rfm0h3 | 7 | 7 | ADHD | My own psychiatrist seems skeptical of me. (rant) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfm0h3/my_own_psychiatrist_seems_skeptical_of_me_rant/ |
Kaywin | I recently tapered off Mirtazapine and started Pristiq. I'm very grateful I am already not feeling STARVING all day + brain fog. My baseline is scattered enough!
I know that the effects of medications like Pristiq are really gradual, and take time to build up. Like many of you, my brain already struggles with timeblindness - in the past when trialing things like antidepressants and even Strattera, I have often found I get to my psychiatry appointment being like "... I have no idea what the past month (or two, or three, or six) has been like. :|" I kinda feel like I have no idea if the med is helping me or not... I've gotten better at noticing trends, but it takes a couple months for me to get there.
There's gotta be an app or something that helps track anxiety/depression symptoms, mood stability, and med side effects over time, right? I know there are general mood trackers, but I'm really surprised I haven't found any tracker app for medications specifically.
Plus, as I'm sure you all can empathize, I've really had trouble making mood tracking of any kind a consistent habit. For example, if my mood changes within a day, do I record every single little change? That quickly gets overwhelming and my brain goes "lol, ain't no one got time for that." | 2021-12-13T18:05:42.000Z | rflx38 | 8 | 7 | ADHD | How do you track the effects of a new medication? Is there an app for that? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflx38/how_do_you_track_the_effects_of_a_new_medication/ |
giatekla | Hey ya'll! I was recently diagnosed with ADHD-PI during a 1-hour psych consultation, courtesy of my school's EAP. At the end of the appointment, we agreed to discuss medication options at the follow-up with the exception of stimulants, which my psychiatrist does not like to prescribe. However at the follow-up, my psychiatrist seemed to forget that she even diagnosed me and promised to discuss medication. Within five minutes at the end of the appointment, after much confusion, I gained the confidence to remind her, and I told her Strattera/atomoxetine seemed promising, and she prescribed it.
I want to seek a second opinion. After my lukewarm experience, I want to see someone who also sees children and explicitly specializes in ADHD and thus is most likely to have been exposed to many forms of ADHD. If I do have ADHD, I also want to see someone who would be open to prescribing stimulants, as I've heard it is a first-line medication to try first and later seek alternatives if needed. The only psychiatrist I could find with these qualifications is an out-of-network provider. I would be able to afford the appointments needed for diagnosis (1 to 3), but I definitely would not be able to afford any medication follow-ups.
Would it be worth going to this psychiatrist at all if I can't afford medication follow-ups? If the psychiatrist prescribes me another type of medication, would it be difficult for my PCP or perhaps an in-network psychiatrist to prescribe this knowing that it is the other psychiatrist's recommendation?
TLDR: Seeking a second opinion on a recent ADHD-PI diagnosis from an out-of-network psychiatrist and wondering if it's worth paying for the initial consultation when I would not be able to afford any medication follow-ups | 2021-12-13T18:04:03.000Z | rflvoc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I attend a psych consultation if I can't afford follow-ups? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflvoc/should_i_attend_a_psych_consultation_if_i_cant/ |
unsaintedheretic | I've been recently diagnosed and was really really open with my psychiatrist. I also told him about my past drug use. Around four years ago I had a time where I partied a lot because my place of work was a really toxic environment and I had a lot going on privately.
That lasted around 8 months.
Now, I told her I used cocaine and speed once or twice. I may have taken cocaine maybe ~8? times a year and speed maybe twice, can't even remember, and also told her that I think it was the thing that made me not totally crash (because of all the stress back then) because it actually made me function better.
Most of the time I was just partying with alcohol though.
Anyways... After my diagnosis he basically told me that stimulants are off the table for me because of my past drug use.
He made me try strattera, which was horrible and I lasted maybe two weeks, and now wellbutrin.
I'm having a really weird reaction to wellbutrin (I think I might be overly sensitive or allergic to it) and I'm gonna quit it too.
I also decided to find a new psychiatrist and now I'm wondering...
Should or shouldn't I disclose my prior drug use?
I'm scared of being basically labeled as drug seeking again but on the other hand I don't want to lie and feel as if it could be contradictory?
Also, just saying...
I haven't touched any illegal drugs in the last four years, didn't before those eight months either and maybe had four drinks im total this year and he still reacted this way. I was never addicted and basically used it because people kept giving it to me for free, never paid for it and was always really conscious in my choice to self medicate. | 2021-12-13T18:03:30.000Z | rflv7o | 0 | 1 | ADHD | To disclose or not disclose past drug use | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflv7o/to_disclose_or_not_disclose_past_drug_use/ |
CanaryInALandmine | In conversations with a friend of mine about her daughter, I realised some of the things she was saying applied to me too. I've spent the last few days looking into it, and my christ is there some crossover. But I can't decide if I'm just seeing things that aren't actually there.
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* Cannot keep peoples names in my head
* Procrastinate \_everything\_ until the urgency kicks in
* terrible attention to detail
* terible "sticktuitivness" / Unfinsihed projects
* Over sensitivity to external stimuli (Ikea light isle is hell on earth, I live in noise cancelling headphones)
* Late for every damn thing because despite living here for a decade i still cannot approximate how long the bus will take to cross the city
* I've tried damnit to get a to-do system in place and it collapses after 2 weeks.
* Trouble shutting down, I'll stay up late so that i am exhausted when i actually lie down
* forgetfulness - bring the thing to the place, don't forget the thing. no point going if you dont bring the thing. Leave the house, forget the thing.
Does this make sense, or is this everyone? Am I looking for something that isn't actually there?
Can anyone give me some examples of things in their life that they didnt realise were related to their adhd? | 2021-12-13T18:00:25.000Z | rflsdp | 4 | 1 | ADHD | At 30 I think I just realised how much of this applies to me. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflsdp/at_30_i_think_i_just_realised_how_much_of_this/ |
jp_ruby07 | Adding the NSFW tag bc drugs I guess? Hopefully it's ok to talk about this here.
This is kind of just a vent but I'm super upset right now. I've been so overwhelmed lately and finally managed to get an appointment with a psych, waited what felt like forever for my appointment (really just 3 weeks), and I finally had it today. After pouring my guts out to this psych for an hour, she said that it sounds like I have ADHD and it was missed in my childhood because I did well in school, and it sounds like I'm treating my anxiety but my underlying ADHD symptoms are still causing me problems...but she said their office policy is not to prescribe stimulants to anyone who smokes cannabis, because the effects can counteract each other. I smoke a tiny bowl mayyybe once a week, not to cope with anxiety or anything just to relax and enjoy myself on a Friday or Saturday night. I don't understand why that would interfere with my meds bc if I was taking stimulants they'd probably be worn off by the time I'm smoking anyway! Now I have to wait 3 weeks for another appointment and take a urine test then, and maybe she'll prescribe them then.
Is this common?? Has anyone else been told they can't be on stimulants if they use cannabis?? I texted my friend (an ADHDer who's a massive stoner lol) to ask if their psych knows they smoke and they were like "yeah lol he prescribed my med card". My girlfriend thinks I should just go to a different psych and not tell them I smoke but the idea of lying about it makes me really anxious.
It's just super frustrating bc I wanted so badly for this to help, and on one hand I feel validated because, hey, I was right, it sounds like I do have ADHD! but on the other hand she basically just was like "I'll email you some coping strategies" and now I have to wait another 3 weeks to get any actual help. "Use your sun lamp during the winter to help with low mood" oh the sun lamp I told you I can never remember to use because, you know, ADHD? Cool cool cool. | 2021-12-13T18:00:17.000Z | rfls4y | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Finally saw a psych and she says I have ADHD but won't prescribe meds bc I smoke | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfls4y/finally_saw_a_psych_and_she_says_i_have_adhd_but/ |
Jonas15082000 | So i always was kind of impulsive especially when it comes to buying stuff. I got a way to expensive christmas gift for my mom. I normally dont really buy gifts for anyone else, but this year my mom said i schould buy her bf a gift (she is right about that, he did a lot for me this y), but she said that a bottle of beer or something would've been enough, and i know that he care more about the gesture and that he would be moved he even got a thing from me. But if i am giving something it sure as hell is going to be something more than a €7 gift, so i got him parfum (im still a student so i dont have a lot of money to begin with). But i felt like i had to, i dont know why.
So i had a gift for 2 of the 3 people i celebrate christmas with (lot of bad blood in the family), i never got my brother anything b4 this year. We dont have the best connection, like at all, we might as well be strangers to each other. But since i got the 2 others a pretty expensive gift, i HAD to get him something, and again it could've been cheap. But i couldnt, like what would that look like to him, i get the bf of my mom (of 3,5y) a better gift than him? So i called my mom to ask what he would want/needs. She said a t-shirt from jack&jones would suffice. But all i heard was t-shirt and brand, and before i knew it i orderd a t-shirt from Tommy HIlfiger (4x the price of j&j)
Fast forward a bit, i went out with friends, and i orderd the second most expensive bottle of vodka, like why do i do that???
I also bought a pair of pretty expensive earbuds, usefull but why did i need to have the most expensive pair of the brand (jabra elite 7 pro)
Next thing i got is just useless to me now, i just cant fully use it, a soundbar. 1 night i decided to have it and i bought it the folloIng day, but it couldn't be deliverd here, only in a city kinda far away from here. And anyone with a soundbar knows they aren't light weights. But i was like screw it, next thing i know is that im draging the damn thing on busses, trains and stairs. To not even be used properly, i cant put the volume higher than 6 or 7, let alone use atmos like its supposed to, or the neighbours complain, AND I KNEW THIS BEFORE BUYING IT. But 4 some reason i needed it.
And today i spent money on whiskey, i dont even like the taste of whiskey, but they package it so nice, and maybe i have been watching a bit to much peaky blinders and it brainwashed me, but still, i didnt need it and not that pricey. So why on earth did i get it???
TL;DR (sort of). I know i will regret it the moment the payment goes through, im telling it to myself in the store, but for some reason i cant help myself and once my mind is set, i have to have the thing (my mind is set on)
Thanks for reading | 2021-12-13T17:57:24.000Z | rflpmw | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Im way to impulsive, please someone give tips or say im not the only one like this, TL;DR at the end (sort of) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflpmw/im_way_to_impulsive_please_someone_give_tips_or/ |
janabanana115 | \*Long post warning.\*
TW: suicidal thoughts, drugs
So I've been in the psychiatric system for 4 years now, taking antidepressants. for the last two and a half years I've been strongly suspecting ADHD. Almost all of the symptoms match up.
I had one psychiatric nurse, who I met between my psychiatrist visits. When I brought this up she didn't even make a note on it and brushed it off with: "If you had it, it would've already been diagnosed, when you were a child."
Not that my mom gave very much shit about my existence, since I was quiet in the lessons, understood everything easily (last year of high school). But I also never got my work done normally, I'd be up at 3am, the day of the due date, writing my essay. By 8th grade I started to miss assignments. I never really understood, why I seemed physically incapable of starting them, they were easy. In hindsight, that was the problem. They didn't engage me. Of course, that got chalked up to my depression.
The thing is, I've been taking antidepressants for four years. I still can't concentrate for shit, I still can't start things, keep up with household tasks or manage my money (I live on my own) because whatever budget I have, will be thrown off due to stupid impulse purchases. My RSD is horrible, I haven't made it to school almost at all in the last three months.
I keep losing things, having irrational outbursts of anger, mood swings and, let's be honest, drug issues. All explained away with depression. But the thing is, my inability to do things doesn't stim from depression, it's the other way around. The school assignments are easy, why the fuck can't I do them? I feel so stupid. I never fucking know where my keys or glasses are, yet they are my most used items. I can't keep my fucking room clean,. I am on time, but I always end up really rushing, to the point of running to catch trains. All explained away with depression.
I changed my psychiatrist recently. The thing is, I felt so fucking hopeless that I visited the ER of the same psych center before that. It was absolutely awful, I got framed as a disgusting druggie, who is to blame for all that is happening to me. Since then I can't really be there, without feeling like I am gonna vomit and I want to sun away. Okay, my new psych conducted a QB test, activity and impulsivity are normal, in fact impulsivity actually lower than average. But for the inattention I scored into top 1% percent. I know I am suspecting ADHD but that is absolutely ridiculous.
I think the results are highly screwed, because 1) the whole time I felt the need to escape or vomit 2) it' s a test environment, I have been yelled at to stop fidgeting in this environment half my life.
My new psych, according to this test concluded, there is absolutely no way, I could have ADHD, it's once again, depression. I have never seen any self assessment sheets, all my other symptoms always go ignored, inattention gets written down as a result of depression. My Wellbutrin got doubled from 300mg to 600mg. Said it should help my attention. It hasn't, not in this dosage, not in any previous ones. I can maybe concentrate on one thing a 1/4 of a time, this may be generous. Got told that there is one more antidepressant out there, that is concentration improving, but it has no coverage and costs 43€ a month. Just for context, my rent and utilities are 250€, 30€ is one weeks worth of food if managed well. You get the point, I cant afford.
I got recommended to do a personality disorders assessment, which is also the same psychiatric interview they use for determining ADHD. She won't refer me until I'm 25, because "Personality hasn't fully developed" or some bs like that. My life quality is already zero, I don't want to live like that. I'm not sure if there is much of me left to do the damn test 6 years down the line.
I can't afford a private practitioner, all covered by the government are the one I already go to, or 2h by bus. I can't change a psych within this building, I will be labeled as drug seeking, especially since I have recorded history with amph.
I don't even care if it's ADHD, BPD, bipolar or whatever the fuck else. I am tired. I want help. I don't know where to go from here. | 2021-12-13T17:54:35.000Z | rfln5x | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Absolute hopelessness regarding psychiatric system *vent* | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfln5x/absolute_hopelessness_regarding_psychiatric/ |
Milohk | I believe I have ADHD but I am planning to go into a Psychiatric to actually get tested. I heard that ADHD is one of the most misdiagnosed mental disorders whether it is overdiagnosis or underdiagnosis. Is there any thing I can do to try to avoid this or should I just trust whatever my doctor says after the initial screening. | 2021-12-13T17:54:04.000Z | rflmpa | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do I avoid Misdiagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflmpa/how_do_i_avoid_misdiagnosis/ |
Ok_Operation_7684 | So, I have been prescribed Ritalin 20mg. It's my first time taking meds and I got scared at first. First 1-3 days was honestly amazing. I got to clean my whole house. I was consistent in keeping my room clean. And I was basically always on top of my chores.
After that everyday has been a series of palpitation, headache, nausea, dry mouth, and panic attack. I don't take it on the weekends.
But basically I'm at day 15 and my heart rate is always 90-115 even though I just sit or lay down.
I'm afraid to take the meds because of the palpitations and anxiety. It hasn't help me focus, relax, or be productive either. I will be talking to my doctor about maybe lowering the dosage.
If anyone has other inputs or similar experience, please free to share. | 2021-12-13T17:53:49.000Z | rflmgz | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Ritalin just makes me dehydrated and anxious | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflmgz/ritalin_just_makes_me_dehydrated_and_anxious/ |
skintinimy | Sometimes I get so frustrated with my inability to do things and just generally feeling like life is passing me by that I bruise or scratch myself where other people can't see. I get perverse pleasure from externalizing my pain. I knew it went too far when I left a visible black and purple bruise on my arm that people commented on. Since then, I've avoided hurting myself.
There are days where I think horrible intrusive thoughts, especially when I procrastinate things I want, and the urge to hurt myself is so overwhelming but I haven't done it.
I don't know if this is appropriate for this page, but I just needed to yell my success into the void because no one knows I've been doing this for years and how hard it fucking is to stop. | 2021-12-13T17:52:49.000Z | rfllm0 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Haven't bruised myself. TW self harm. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfllm0/havent_bruised_myself_tw_self_harm/ |
Responsible_Salad_11 | A few months ago, I was diagnosed with ADHD but I can't afford theraphy and even tho everyone praises my country sanitary system it's crap when it comes to mental health. So I'm on my own.
Now, onto the topic.
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I have trouble remembering small appointments and I tend to forgot. When it comes to big ones that take my whole day it's no trouble since I'm only focused on that. But when it comes to something small, I have to do in the middle of the day, it's hell and I have to set x10000 reminders on my phone.
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Am I the only one? | 2021-12-13T17:52:44.000Z | rflljh | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I have trobules remembering small appointments. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflljh/i_have_trobules_remembering_small_appointments/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T17:51:03.000Z | rflk41 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD IS: Having Philosophical conversation with yourself in your head and then all of sudden remembering, *oh I need to call the bank* .... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflk41/adhd_is_having_philosophical_conversation_with/ |
kdbartleby | I'm 31 years old, and the first time I thought I might have ADHD was after spending time with my future father-in-law several years ago. He's very disorganized, leaves stuff everywhere, loses things, and gets REALLY into things. And I recognized a lot of this as behavior I've struggled with my whole life. So earlier this year I discussed this with my therapist and she had me take a screening, and the result was that I likely have ADHD. Which made sense - my whole life I've been forgetful, lost things easily, and struggled with being late.
I'm not sure if I should bother pursuing an official diagnosis. I feel like I've developed enough coping strategies that I'm doing ok with day-to-day tasks...but if I mention to people that I haven't washed my sheets in six months and I've lived in my house for a year and a half and I've never mopped the floor, they're generally pretty horrified. I'm curious if meds will make me more able to focus on work, more able to maintain a clean house, and more likely to work out, but I'm also nervous about bad side effects.
TL;DR: I may have ADHD, and I feel simultaneously like I'm doing pretty ok and like my life is held together with toothpicks and glue. Will an official diagnosis change this, and at what point do I pursue medication? | 2021-12-13T17:40:05.000Z | rflapk | 5 | 9 | ADHD | My therapist gave me an ADHD screening, and it seems like it's likely I have ADHD. Should I seek an official diagnosis? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rflapk/my_therapist_gave_me_an_adhd_screening_and_it/ |
Zestyclose-Tie6308 | This might be long it might not be.
I’m having a hard time feeling satisfied and feel like I’m stuck in a never ending loop of catching up.
To preface this, I graduated in 2020 with the plan to take a gap year work & save money, what did I do? Spent the year selling, doing drugs, and hanging out with hood rats. I’ve cleaned my act up since March of this year, no longer associate with any of them, or anyone for that matter. I’ve come a long way in less than a year. I sold my old junker, got a new car, sold that because I was having issues and now own a car I absolutely love. I have more money in savings than ever before, a steady job and am actually financially stable. Even bought my old junker back for 1/3 of what I sold it for, literally fixed it for $3 and am planning on flipping it after winter.
That being said I still don’t feel satisfied, my life has become a never ending loop of hyperfixation and dopamine chasing. I’ll get really interested in something IE video games, or spending money on my car, music. Then get bored of it 2-3 days in when it stops giving me immediate gratification. My GF has stuck with me thru all of this and we’re coming up on 2 years in February yet I still feel lonely, I feel introverted and envious of all the other people my age living “their best life” partying, going out, doing crazy stuff but at the same time glad I’m more mature than that and I’m trying to plan ahead.
My hobbies come and go, revolving on a wheel o fortune. Specifically music, I’ve been constantly told I’m inclined to it, I love writing it, picking beats and being creative yet when it comes to actually recording my perfectionism takes over and I start criticizing everything and at the end I don’t think it’s good enough to release. This has been ongoing as I haven’t released in nearly two years. Then It fizzles out, I start lacking the motivation and drive. how do I get over this curse? I feel like I’m going to be in this never ending cycle for eternity.. hehe oxymoron. I would love to make a living doing something creative that I genuinely enjoy doing but I can’t seem to get out of my own way. | 2021-12-13T17:38:46.000Z | rfl9li | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Hyper focus, instant gratification and lacking motivation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfl9li/hyper_focus_instant_gratification_and_lacking/ |
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mushypeachess | Recently I’ve been thinking of seeing a psychiatrist or doctor and get some medication prescribed because I’ve really been struggling in everything for the past few years or so. I was just wondering how long it would take to get medication prescribed? Of course it’s different for everybody, but I’m curious about the different lengths of time it took for others | 2021-12-13T17:36:21.000Z | rfl7jv | 3 | 0 | ADHD | How long does it take to get medication prescribed? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfl7jv/how_long_does_it_take_to_get_medication_prescribed/ |
seljca | I reached out to various of therapists asking them to provide me help with my ADHD, since I speculate I have it. I’ve been told I don’t have it because I am in capable of choosing what I want to wear, one therapist told me rape isn’t rape if you’re in a relationship (irrelevant to ADHD, but I’m just trying to say what kinds of therapists I’ve met so far). I was diagnosed with depression, schizophrenia and a mood disorder, almost diagnosed with dysfunctional anxiety. I have been taking many types of medications but none helped; no one wanted to listen to me when I spoke about ADHD. I feel helpless, all I want to do is be in able to work and study. Ever since my friend told me I might have ADHD, I felt like maybe I wasn’t stupid, but I simply have a disorder and with professional help, I could get at least a bit better. Please, I need someone’s advice very desperately. Thank you. | 2021-12-13T17:32:14.000Z | rfl43z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfl43z/i_need_help/ |
nolakhsa | for me it's usually music. good music will scratch the itch just right and i'll stim like a maniac. and you just want to close your eyes and live in a song. be quiet and drive by deftones is particularly good today. i've been having a lot of dopamine chasing days recently so this feels pretty amazing | 2021-12-13T17:30:52.000Z | rfl2uu | 7 | 56 | ADHD | days where the dopamine hits just right | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfl2uu/days_where_the_dopamine_hits_just_right/ |
quicklikesloth | TLDR; It looks like it's possible to permanently improve attention span and emotional regulation with certain meditation practices. I want to find out if anyone has any knowledge/experience here?
I've just read Daniel Goleman's "*Altered Traits - Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body".* In his book, he tries to summarise the latest research on various meditation styles, and how they can help improve health and brain function. What I found particularly interesting was the findings that long-time meditators (such as Buddhist monks that have achieved thousands of hours of meditation) show differences in the shape of their brain, as well as performing significantly better in cognitive tasks, and also tasks measuring emotional response.
I'm learning that I really struggle with things like over-stimulation; emotional regulation; self-control; etc - and it seems that practising different meditation styles can lead to both temporary and permanent improvements to all of these. It looks like the evidence shows that it's possible to train yourself into being someone with a real mastery over both your emotional state and your attention. The drawback is that often the evidence only demonstrates long-term/permanent benefits after several thousand hours of practice.
So I'm currently wondering whether I should book myself into a 3-month retreat. Or else spend 3 years at a Buddhist monastery to get the 10,000 hours that have demonstrated big improvements. Seems extreme, but I genuinely don't see how I'm meant to navigate life's challenges with the faculties I currently possess. | 2021-12-13T17:27:06.000Z | rfkzer | 12 | 5 | ADHD | Long term meditation for significant improvements to attention, emotional regulation, etc. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkzer/long_term_meditation_for_significant_improvements/ |
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BiffordT | Hello, all! 42-year-old male here. Diagnosed as a kid back in the 80's, was given Ritalin, and it didn't work, caused some side effects like racing heartbeat, flushing, etc. My mom took me off of it and that was the end of it.
I was put in the "gifted" programs at school, which did not work with my attention span so I got myself "removed".
I have made my way in life, often using the ADHD symptoms to my advantage, multitasking, school/work/family/other projects balancing at the same time. You know, being good at things that make other people crazy.
I started as an EMT in 1999 and have moved through paramedic, RN, MSN Educator, and now working on my NP.
I did, however, develop a decent binge drinking habit over the years as my coping mechanism. I came to realize that ingesting enough alcohol was the only way that I had found that would quiet my brain, at least for a bit, but at a cost.
I went to a great rehab program last year that was heavily based on psychology and digging into the issues. They knew me. They knew my type to a "T". The smart over-achiever who ultimately still has an ADHD kid buried in the middle.
So, the input I am looking for; I am not a fan of stimulants. I can do some caffeine but the "up" feeling is not great for me. Anxiety runs deep. I have been reading more and more testimonials of people my age who finally tried Adderall and experienced truly life-changing results with no "speedy" type of effects.
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Is this something I should try or should I just continue to push through and cope as well as I can with the constant brain noise, not being able to read texts (unless condensed versions), and struggling to focus on things unless they truly interest me?
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Thanks for reading this and for any input that you can give!
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TLDR; "gifted" kid is old now and wants to know if life can be improved by starting medication at 42 y/o without feeling an "upper" type of stimulus. | 2021-12-13T17:21:20.000Z | rfkuis | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for Some Input | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkuis/looking_for_some_input/ |
teflonshoulders | [removed] | 2021-12-13T17:20:17.000Z | rfktn0 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I literally spend 80% of my time procrastinating at work and doing nothing but I'm still successful and doing well. What's everyone elses excuse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfktn0/i_literally_spend_80_of_my_time_procrastinating/ |
anxious-american | It's finals week, and I just turned in the biggest project of the semester. I worked very, very hard at it, and I did the best I could. But what should have been enough time to complete the project wasn't, because (even though I'm on meds), I kept getting distracted. Refocusing takes so much time, and I asked the professor for an extension (explained the situation and how I can't help it due to the disability), and she didn't give me one. I had to turn it in unfinished and at the last minute.
This project would be so much easier and it would have been done better if I was neurotypical. The professor said I could turn it in late, but she would deduct points if I did. It feels like I'm being punished for something I can't help.
All my life I've been brushed off and deemed lazy, told I should have just managed my time better, gotten rid of distractions, that I have potential and if only I could meet it. I'm so tired of giving my 110% and having it look like someone else's subpar, being treated like I never try that hard. I can give my everything and it's not enough, nothing I do is enough. No matter how ambitious I am, I never run at the same speed.
It would be easier to cope with if it was only me who thought I was a failure instead of everyone else... | 2021-12-13T17:10:54.000Z | rfklq1 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | I Work So Hard and I Still Fail | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfklq1/i_work_so_hard_and_i_still_fail/ |
APassionatePoet | Would I be okay with taking a Ritalin 20 mg if I had a truly hard seltzer like an hour ago? I want to make to sure I’ll be fine because those side effects are kinda scaring me whenever I google it. Of course it’s not giving me a specific limit though, unlike this post where it’s making me type 300 characters to post. | 2021-12-13T17:10:05.000Z | rfkl19 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin Question | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkl19/ritalin_question/ |
Own-Suggestion2169 | I am 22(m), went my whole life up until about 3 months ago without a diagnosis. I always knew that I could not focus like my peers which led to very poor performance in high school. Ultimately I was able to figure out how to do good in school without being able to focus graduating with a bachelors degree, but I never had the focus that I wanted in order to actually be able to retain information.
I always attributed these struggles to childhood trauma, but after years and years of trying to figure out how to overcome this by using certain PTSD therapies and coping methods, I realised there is something larger holding me back from my goals. After graduating from college in May and getting what I thought was my dream job in my dream career, I couldn't get over anxieties or do the things that are seemingly easy for other people to be successful in this career.
I ended up getting diagnosed with severe ADHD and have been having a difficult time getting over that my brain was so jaded all these years and will be forever unless I take the proper steps to maximise my brains capacities, not just take the medicine and consider myself "fixed".
If anyone has any input as a young adult getting diagnosed I would appreciate to hear your input.
Thank you | 2021-12-13T17:10:02.000Z | rfkkzb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What are some things that have helped you find hope in all this struggle | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkkzb/what_are_some_things_that_have_helped_you_find/ |
OrangeJuice2002 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T17:06:24.000Z | rfkhzk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Im struggling so bad in school because I hate the topic and physically cannot do it but no teacher believes I’m telling the truth. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkhzk/im_struggling_so_bad_in_school_because_i_hate_the/ |
vanillaxbean1 | I'm on long release 30mg elvanse. I was taking it for nearly 2 months then decided to take a medication holiday (with my Dr's approval), as I got spooked by someone talking about dependency and addiction, and I wanted to see if it was making a positive difference to my life, especially as I noticed I argued more with my boyfriend, felt more snappy, and my heart rate just felt higher.
I made a diary and took a week's log on, but on my week off I just ended up not filling it out properly, and I feel so annoyed with myself as I needed to do it to make a baseline, I just thought I'd be able to remember, and I haven't. I decided to go back to 20mg for a few days, then back to 30mg. I felt anxious on 20mg but on 30 I don't. This is my 3rd day on 30mg. I'm planning on doing a week off again soon to actually do my diary properly.
I always feel my heart rate goes up my stays up throughout the day when I'm on. This can make me a bit jittery and restless, but I don't feel anxiety, i feel alert and awake and have energy to do my chores, I have enough energy to be at work all day and still have some left over when I get home, I feel my work performance is better as well.
Its more noticeable when I have a day off and I'm just at home all day amd there's nothing to do/as I'm not as active. I just tried to have a nap earlier but couldn't really as my heart felt too fast to relax properly and I just ended up daydreaming and my mind started racing, but I think I did fall asleep for a couple of mins.
Its honestly kind of upsetting me as I don't want to harm my body, but I do think it helps my mind.
It feeds into my fear I don't actually have adhd, as all I hear about is how stimulants relax you and calm you and make people nap and sleepy, but for me I just feel alert and awake. But even then I find I still don't manage to do the thing I want to do. :( | 2021-12-13T17:02:11.000Z | rfke9g | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Responses to medication. Concerns about my heart rate. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfke9g/responses_to_medication_concerns_about_my_heart/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T17:00:07.000Z | rfkc6n | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Extreme emotions, or none at all | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkc6n/extreme_emotions_or_none_at_all/ |
marco6ocram | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:57:53.000Z | rfkabk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD natural remedy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfkabk/adhd_natural_remedy/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:53:20.000Z | rfk6le | 1 | 4 | ADHD | 30mg crash different from 20mg? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk6le/30mg_crash_different_from_20mg/ |
ellasnovellas | I feel like if I could just organise my life down to the last file on my computer, maybe I would be cured.
Realistically I know that nobody is so organised that they know where absolutely everything to exist is off the top of their heads, but I don’t feel like I will be satisfied until I achieve this.
Right now I’m meant to be revising for an exam that’s tomorrow, but I’m suddenly incredibly uncomfortable and anxious about the fact that I use multiple note writing softwares and will never remember if I wrote something on google docs, Evernote, notion, or Apple notes. Or word or… the list goes on, and it feels like this with everything in my life.
Intrinsically I feel like there is ONE set way to do things that is the RIGHT way and I just haven’t figured it out yet, and now I’m just wasting my time trying to. It feels like I’m drying off my dishes before washing them, and then wondering why all the plates I put away are wet, and my towel is covered in leftovers. That’s the level of wrong I feel about so many things in my life.
Anyway, on the off chance anyone’s read this through, what are some methods that just -work- for you? For me - folding clothes the Konmari way gives me such satisfaction I will never go back. It definitely feels like the RIGHT way to fold clothes. | 2021-12-13T16:52:25.000Z | rfk5tz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Constant organisation crisis - relatable or just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk5tz/constant_organisation_crisis_relatable_or_just_me/ |
marco6ocram | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:52:15.000Z | rfk5o3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD natural remedy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk5o3/adhd_natural_remedy/ |
FrostyThePoo | I can't focus more than 10 minutes and I learn so hard...And the motivation is...I think my motivation is low because I learn hard and focus so little. What helps you? How helps me a little and you will all laugh at me...but I like to play games and I use Euro Truck Simulator radio to listen audio books or news or whatever I want to listen and I know that in a normal way I can't because after a few minutes my mind goes far away. But I can't do this with everything. I can't learn programming while playing a game. So can you give me an advice or tell me how you study? Thank you so much | 2021-12-13T16:51:19.000Z | rfk4wg | 3 | 4 | ADHD | How do you all study?And how do you motivate yourself to study? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk4wg/how_do_you_all_studyand_how_do_you_motivate/ |
rnbwk10 | Obligatatory long-time lurker, first-time poster. I’m hoping someone can help clarify why I’m like this and help me find some way to deal. In the last few years, I’ve started to become super overwhelmed in stores and I get on edge really quickly when I’m surrounded by a lot of people. I just always feel like I’m in the way, I think, but I also think so much of it is just being generally overstimulated by all the products/sounds/marketing.
So, yesterday, I went shopping for Christmas presents and it was a lot, but I managed to keep that feeling mostly at bay. But when I made it home after hours of shopping, my apartment that I share with my roommate was an absolute disaster; the kitchen (which is where you walk in) was covered in grease splatters from cooking; the floor, which had just been cleaned the day before, was filthy with crumbs and onion paper along with whatever she had been cooking with; and trash was all over the place. Then, when I opened the closet to get the broom and dustpan to start cleaning, a ton of random odds and ends fell out and I couldn’t take it anymore. I felt a panic attack coming on and took one of the “as-needed” anxiety pills my doctor prescribed to help take the edge off of my feelings and focus on the task at hand: creating a clean space to unload all the bags of stuff I had just bought.
2 hours later, I had cleaned the kitchen, living room, hallway, my bathroom, closet, and deep-cleaned the vacuums.
This isn’t a one-off for me. Anytime my home is visibly dirty, I can’t leave it that way. And because my apartment is an open floor plan, I can’t compartmentalize one room at a time because it feels undone if I leave it and then I’ll feel restless and anxious.
My roommate knows cleanliness is important to me, and I’m aware that my standard of cleanliness is usually higher than that of those around me, so I try not to impose that on anyone so that don’t feel uncomfortable. I plan on trying to have a conversation with her about how we can meet in the middle, that’s not the issue.
Is anyone else like this, though? Do you get overwhelmed in stores, too? Do you struggle with this whole cleanliness thing, too, and does the process look like that for you, too? I just feel like a crazy person. | 2021-12-13T16:51:02.000Z | rfk4nc | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Obsessing over unfinished tasks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk4nc/obsessing_over_unfinished_tasks/ |
JumpyAnthropologist | I feel like my brain keeps making these connections constantly. I’m 90% of the time in my head. I can come up with solutions that require imagining into the future really quickly and i’m good at predicting what will happen. I’m usually the one to have suggested a solution to be rejected at first then accepted after several steps ahead in the game. BUT i am the opposite of conscientious. I can not start working on something unless its just before a deadline. I think i partly got this habit becuz i could manage a pretty decent grade even tho I would start really late and partly becuz i have adhd.
So… yeah cheers to wasted potential.
I’m trying to be more routinely or just try and get less distracted by my thoughts and random interests..
oh, i’m also absolute shit at memorizing people’s names, dates, and stuff i find dull… i have to conceptualize it and add the details to the bigger web of connections im making to be able to remember it. That’s why i never catch people’s names when i first meet them. I need to get to know their story to remember their names. I’m also really shit at daily tasks. My executive functioning is WACK.
Does anyone think in a similar manner or face similar problems? | 2021-12-13T16:47:55.000Z | rfk214 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | I think the world wouldn’t be able to handle me if I was just conscientious | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk214/i_think_the_world_wouldnt_be_able_to_handle_me_if/ |
dumb-plant-bitch | I started concerta about a month ago and ended up having a severe panic attack (I was also in the middle of finals, so some stress can be related to that) that I could not control. Since the concerta was helping a lot with ADHD, my doctor recommended that I take it with Prozac for anxiety. Has anyone had positive experiences with this combo? I’m just nervous about having another anxiety attack. | 2021-12-13T16:47:24.000Z | rfk1lm | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What are your experiences with Prozac and Concerta (or another kind of stimulant)? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk1lm/what_are_your_experiences_with_prozac_and/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:45:47.000Z | rfk0bg | 3 | 3 | ADHD | how does stimulants affect ADHD comorbid BPD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfk0bg/how_does_stimulants_affect_adhd_comorbid_bpd/ |
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