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bruhthisismyusernam | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:42:33.000Z | rfjxjx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What really is dough per min? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjxjx/what_really_is_dough_per_min/ |
black-wizardry | Does anyone experience this? When my brain is under stimulated (which is always when not working or playing video games) it keeps recalling memories with strong negative emotions attached to me. It was only through therapy that I have realized how constant it is and how it’s not normal.
Did you experience this?
Anything you have done that has helped? | 2021-12-13T16:41:18.000Z | rfjwje | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Constantly recalling sad memories | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjwje/constantly_recalling_sad_memories/ |
Wanna_B_Spagetti | 31/m/USA.
All my life, I have been described by others as lazy, unfocused, and 'smart, if he would just put the work in.' As a child, I was known for doing chores so quickly that they would need to be redone. Washing dishes - Is soap really necessary? Vacuum the carpet - moving so fast that puffs of dog hair are everywhere, and forget about taking the hose attachment to get the corners. Take out the garbage - sure, but the boxes and bottles next to the can are staying right there...
In school, I did well on tests even though I never studied, state testing always showed me well above average, and got the highest SAT score of my small friends group. I had C's in every class and the occasional B or A in an Art or Shop class. This was because homework was virtually never done - or was done on the bus on the way to school. Projects were a 'start it on the due date and hand it in late' affair. I graduated just barely and went off to college.
College was exactly the same, but the added level of distraction that was the ability to play Magic the Gathering at any time of any day meant many classes were skipped, little homework was completed, and the 'crunch time' studying included opening a textbook for two hours, reading the first 2 paragraphs fully, skimming the next 2 pages, and looking up keywords in the glossary for the rest. I nearly failed out, but online exams with Google (cheating) and a Department Chair who was tired of my constant visits allowed me to skirt the minimum requirements and graduate with a bachelor's in Business, something I have no interest in but seemed practical.
My first job out of School was a small local tax office owned by a real nasty piece of work who used 'resume building opportunity' to employ a constant stream of new graduates to do a 50k+ job for minimum wage. While here, what became my recurring pattern of behavior developed.
A: Always 5-10 minutes late. No matter how early I wake up, I will always be out the door in the minimum amount of time it takes to get to work. If literally anything goes wrong, I'm late.
B: If the work is boring, expect minimal effort. I can have a checklist of things to do in order to complete a task from start to finish... But somehow a step or two (usually the last ones) are skipped or 'saved for later'
C: Phone plugged in and on, always open to reddit or something interesting. Normally designated as a 'treat' for completing a task, usually this ends up consuming 30-50% of my work day.
D: We can do this better! Providing value in the form of process optimization, my employers love this. However, its only a matter of time before I'm spending more time finding ways to spend less time on a job than I am spending doing the actual job... See point B.
That first job ended after a few "hard talks" about accuracy. After I left, she refused to pay a boatload of backpay, saying she had to redo most of what I had done during my tenure.
The second job was in an accounting office. Bookkeeping. Normal stuff. I dodged out after 2 strikes about completing the work and responding to emails in reasonable amounts of time.
The third job I upselled myself, trying to lean heavily on what I called "process improvements" - but was fired after two years. "You've gotten too comfortable just doing the minimum, and it's not good for you or us to allow you to keep doing this."
Now, after cutting my salary in half to take a basic data entry job with some extra responsibilities in a school district, I just had my first hard talk about, you guessed it, following procedures and time management.
I'll have to jump ship again, find another job before this one explodes too. But before I do, I made a decision to try to find out what, exactly, is wrong. I have sticky note reminders everywhere. Dozens of checklists of how to do my job. Pop up notifications and calendar reminders turned on big and loud. I've left my phone in the car, only to catch myself looking at the weather forecast instead. Something is very clearly wrong, and after lurking here and reading some articles, I'm going to be calling a specialist and seeing what can be done in the way of medication.
I hope the answer isn't that I'm just lazy and broken, and I still feel like I'm just making excuses for my bad habits. I'll update with how the conversation goes - but in the meanwhile, do any of you inattentive types recognize some of this? Does my story seem familiar? Is there hope for improvement? | 2021-12-13T16:39:06.000Z | rfjumn | 4 | 12 | ADHD | With the threat of a 3rd firing on the horizon, I'm finally asking the question : is there something wrong? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjumn/with_the_threat_of_a_3rd_firing_on_the_horizon_im/ |
dogg867 | Hellooo all I have pressing exams today and for the first time ever can’t remember if I took my pill. I don’t think I did because i found a pill on my desk after opening the bottle but I thought id already taken it so I know I’m at risk of double dosing.
Has anyone ever double dosed methylphenidate and is it bad? Idk if I want to risk it. Ty!!! | 2021-12-13T16:38:31.000Z | rfju5a | 5 | 3 | ADHD | URGENT double dose of stimulant?? | 0.71 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfju5a/urgent_double_dose_of_stimulant/ |
Captainsamsquanch | Hey ya’ll!
I’m so happy to have found a subreddit with so many individuals like myself.
So basically, i was diagnosed at a relatively young age through a recommendation made by my grade school. When i was first prescribed medication, Ritalin, though i did see massive improvements in my academic life, socially and emotionally i spiralled very evidently.
After a week of not being myself and reacting very emotionally to stimuli i wouldn’t normally react to so profoundly prior, my mother decide to remove me off my Ritalin. She felt a 7 year old didn’t need to be medicated and frankly, i have trouble disagreeing. Though i benefitted in terms of concentration and completing tasks, i removed all elements of myself that made me “myself”. I wasn’t loud anymore, excited or even optimistic. I failed tremendously in academics until i returned to attend college
I tried adderall in my high school years, but again, same effects. Within two weeks i was off of it.
College, same deal. Tried it for an exam review and hated every minute of it. Since high school, I’ve only taken adderall maybe twice.
However, (and this where it gets good)
I managed to find tricks In how to deal with myself. I made it through college with two degrees and I’m now a high school teacher in Ontario, Canada. Probably one of the best places to be a teacher in the world in terms of salary.
The reason why I’m considering medicating, i have a really strong case executive dysfunction. It’s also very hard to be completely organized when my occupation requires a TON of it.
Also, other areas of my life have been impacted like so many of you. Sex being one of my greatest concern.
I literally cannot stay in the moment, no matter what. It does not matter how attractive my partner is or how excited i am prior to it and when it’s enacted. I somehow find myself drifting in my head - disassociating from the activity against my best efforts to stay present.
I just feel crazy scattered all the time and I’m wondering if this medication would be thr “fix” to all of this.
Any thoughts? Anything at all would be appreciated. | 2021-12-13T16:36:56.000Z | rfjsu9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I medicate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjsu9/should_i_medicate/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:36:50.000Z | rfjsrv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | All consuming boredom | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjsrv/all_consuming_boredom/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:30:45.000Z | rfjnv1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | managing ritalin stomach/appetite affects | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjnv1/managing_ritalin_stomachappetite_affects/ |
parisfrance137 | Hi everyone,
I was diagnosed in 2019 with Inattentive-ADHD. Medications I've tried for my ADHD include Vyvanse, Adderall, Ritalin, Concerta, and Wellbutrin. All of the stimulant medications really helped improve my focus but would cause my heart rate to go up to 120+ BPM. This would last for hours. My psychiatrist has been hesitant to put me on any stimulants again because of this and instead recommended Wellbutrin. Unfortunately, the Wellbutrin does not help at all and I feel even causes an increase in my ADHD symptoms. Has anyone had issues with stimulants and found one particular medication to help them? I'd really like to get my focus back! | 2021-12-13T16:27:46.000Z | rfjlb6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medication Options | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjlb6/medication_options/ |
Secure-Ad-8825 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:27:14.000Z | rfjkv4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Cutting corners video | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjkv4/cutting_corners_video/ |
Candid-Towel-4564 | anybody else get in a bad mood from waiting in lines?
idk why but everytime i have to wait in a line somewhere, especially if i have to wait by myself, i get in a really bad mood. anger, anxiety, and depression all the way around triggered even if im having a completely perfect day before getting in said line. i come out feeling like absolute shit for the reat of the day. idk if its linked to my adhd or something else so i thought id ask in anyone on here experiences the same thing and if you do how you manage | 2021-12-13T16:23:21.000Z | rfjhp8 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | how do you manage irrational anger? i get angry from lines | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjhp8/how_do_you_manage_irrational_anger_i_get_angry/ |
brunettewondie | I remember taking sertraline about 5 years ago and feeling wired but semi clarity, eventually that wore down and I got a bit more forgetful etc and I stopped taking them. I'm sure it unlocked another level of adhd as an adult and I haven't been the same since.
Recently restarted on them(for anxiety and depression) and i'm on the fence weather this is a good path to be taking whilst in the process of getting diagnosed. | 2021-12-13T16:20:01.000Z | rfjetr | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Did anti-depressants make your adhd worse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjetr/did_antidepressants_make_your_adhd_worse/ |
Candid-Towel-4564 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:18:28.000Z | rfjdhv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anybody else get in a bad mood from waiting in lines? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfjdhv/anybody_else_get_in_a_bad_mood_from_waiting_in/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:10:10.000Z | rfj67q | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Took 30 mg of adderall and felt nothing ?! | 0.38 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfj67q/took_30_mg_of_adderall_and_felt_nothing/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:09:59.000Z | rfj60w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Serious Question. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfj60w/serious_question/ |
Mewmoe | I know you guys aren't doctors, just curious if anyone knows why this would happen. I switched from Adderall XR to Vyvanse because Adderall XR hurt my stomach. I was on 15 mg Adderall XR, and started at 20 MG Vyvanse (I know it's super low), went up to 30 MG Vyvanse and ultimately went to 40 MG Vyvanse, which should be equivalent to 15 MG Adderall XR. It didn't really work at 20 and 30 mg, which makes sense since that's a lower dose than 15 mg Adderall XR. But when I switched to 40 MG, I got insanely bad anxiety, even up to 2 days after I had taken it. I only took 40 MG for two days.
Now I'm back on 15 mg Adderall XR and feel like I can focus, but also tired because my mind is finally quiet and I can get a break from the damn anxiety. I always heard of Vyvanse as some miracle drug with less side effects and less comedowns, but it made me feel like I was going insane. Basically I had a constant feeling of unease and sense of impending doom. I couldn't calm down until I fell asleep and even then had nightmares the entire time. Now that I'm back on Adderall, I'm just going to try to eat better and see if that helps my stomach problems.
Anyway, rant over, just curious if anyone else does well on Adderall and badly on Vyvanse, or if anyone knows why this would happen to me. I was under the impression that if I did well on Adderall, I'd do well on Vyvanse. Definitely didn't expect to feel drastically different. Maybe I need the amphetamine salts that Adderall has and Vyvanse doesn't? | 2021-12-13T16:09:47.000Z | rfj5uu | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Horrible anxiety with Vyvanse and not with Adderall XR | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfj5uu/horrible_anxiety_with_vyvanse_and_not_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T16:07:04.000Z | rfj3nj | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I likely have undiagnosed ADHD and midterms are coming up | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfj3nj/i_likely_have_undiagnosed_adhd_and_midterms_are/ |
Mewmoe | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:06:42.000Z | rfj3ca | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have horrible anxiety with Vyvanse and not with Adderall XR? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfj3ca/anyone_have_horrible_anxiety_with_vyvanse_and_not/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T16:02:45.000Z | rfiztt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question for y’all | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfiztt/question_for_yall/ |
woofende | This may be more of a rant. At the age of 32, after contacting 10+ psychologists and being told they were not accepting new patients/didn't deal with adult ADHD I finally found someone 4 hours away, thankfully she does virtual sessions. A few hours later and I was finally diagnosed as one of the clearest cases of ADHD she said she's seen. She recommended medication and offered continued appointments for skills/tools building. I was relieved and enthusiastically started looking into options. That enthusiasm died when I realized that it's going to be practically impossible to try any sort of medication.
Where we live there is a substantial shortage of Drs (like 10000+ people waiting for a family dr) and so we rely on walk in clinics. Due to the pandemic walk in clinics are all virtual sessions. With the lack of continuity of care I can't see any Dr wanting to start me on stimulants (based on research, recommendation, and my circumstances I'm hoping for Vyvanse). This alongside my general avoidance of appointment setting has made it feel impossible to take any further steps forward.
Now I know why I think and act the way I do but still feel like there's no recourse to improve things beyond the gross pull yourself up by your bootstraps, just do the thing advice that is commonly thrown at me (and is so not helpful). I'm exhausted all the time due to not sleeping (children waking up constantly in the night) and can't motivate myself to do anything that feels futile. Like calling a walk-in clinic for taking the next steps to medication. | 2021-12-13T15:58:22.000Z | rfivw0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosis and treatment roadblocks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfivw0/diagnosis_and_treatment_roadblocks/ |
HolidayNothing171 | I was just diagnosed with adhd. I’ve been prescribed 5mg dosage. I’ve only used for 3 days and don’t notice any effect with what it’s supposed to help with or even side effects like dry mouth or loss of appetite. I take it in the morning along with my birth control, my collagen, multi vitamin with omega 3, and spirolacutane. Do we think taking the adderrall with these other medications/supplements in possibility reducing the potency of the adderrall? Or is it just a dosage issue? | 2021-12-13T15:57:44.000Z | rfivbi | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Other medications impacting effect of Adderrall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfivbi/other_medications_impacting_effect_of_adderrall/ |
Lyreca17 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T15:55:09.000Z | rfit7e | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Matcha for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfit7e/matcha_for_adhd/ |
Attempt6000 | Hello everyone. I'm going to try and write this as clearly as possible, but I'm a bit emotional at the moment and I just kinda need to vent and get some perspective.
Last Tuesday, I was prescribed 20mg x2 a day Adderall to treat my ADHD-C and my PTSD. I started it on Wednesday and it definitely was a shift in my normal self. I noticed it no longer took 3 hours to wake up and get myself out of bed, or to be motivated. I was able to get my depression room cleaned up, all the laundry done, thousands of chores that have been left on my to-do list for months, etc. It was great and I felt happy about it. Even my untreated husband, who also has ADHD-HI, was so happy to see the results I was experiencing and even considered that maybe it was time for him to look into treatment.
Wednesday and Thursday were great. However, Friday rolls around and we got into an incredibly stupid argument (about the Byzantine Empire and advantages they had in weaponry.) While I think it's funny to have an argument over history, I really didn't appreciate how he was speaking to me during it. He has a drinking problem (and addiction to anything overall is he finds he feels good with it,) and after he drinks, he will become condescending or start making little backhanded comments if I don't agree with his point of view on something.
For example, we got into that argument because I was taking my exam for class involving ancient civilizations and I got that question wrong. So we started talking about it and when I told him that they developed Greek Fire, he started saying "I think you are getting the Persians and the Mediterraneans confused," disregarding any information I was providing to support my claim. While that comment would've been fine as it was, it just got worse and then when I would mention how I didn't appreciate how he was speaking to me and then repeat to him what he said to me, he would backtrack and add a few extra words into what he "originally" said to try and make it seem like he wasn't saying those things.
Anyway, I get upset and go back to my studies. Then Saturday happens and it's another shit show. We both pissed each other off and then later I apologized for my behavior and he accepted the apology, but then shut me down when I was trying to explain to him why my feelings got hurt. So I got mad again and just didn't want to really have any interactions with him for the rest of the night. Yesterday was another chaotic day and I was busy finishing up schoolwork so I could go out of town to visit my friend for a week. I realized I wouldn't get done in time, so I postponed my trip by a day so I could finish my stuff for class. When I explained this to my friend, she understood and was fine with it; however, he was not okay with this.
After I told him, he blamed me for the reason as to why we didn't go to dinner with his family on Saturday night. After some time, he tells me it wasn't 100% my fault that we didn't go, even though I asked (after the fight) if we were going to go so I could rearrange my to-do list and he told me he canceled earlier that day (without telling me.) He then said he wanted to talk to me after I got back from the trip about what happened on Saturday. I asked if we could talk about it now, because I'd like to have time to reflect on it while I was gone rather than come back relaxed only to be greeted with that. He said he didn't want to talk about it before I left because he doesn't want me to feel criticized.
So, I just asked a few questions about if it was an issue with me being on Adderall. He said that it was a part of it and that I've changed. That I seem more hyperfocused and distant now. Then we did get into the conversation somehow and he explained his point of view of what happened that day and why he was upset. But then when I went to explain my side, I couldn't even speak for more than 5 seconds without him cutting me off for him to defend himself. To me it felt like he was refusing to see my side and he honestly felt like he acted appropriately. I feel like I can't have a conversation with him.
The thing is, I am feeling distant but only because I'm noticing his unfavorable behaviors more clearly than before. As for being hyperfocused, I've been more interactive with my kid and him than I have been before I was receiving treatment and less angry about everything going on. I have started it during a period where I needed to get a lot done before I leave for the trip and during my finals in school, so maybe he is referring to that? I'm not sure. I just know that a large part of my brain right now is screaming at me that this is a red flag and I feel absolutely heart broken at the same time because I feel alone. I just don't know what to do and I am leaving today for a week. I don't want to talk to him anymore and a part of me doesn't want to come back from the trip at all.
**TL;DR: My husband and I have been fighting for the past three days and he said that I have changed after I started Adderall less than a week ago. I'm recognizing his poor behaviors more and that I can't have a conversation with him without him belittling, dismissing, or interrupting me defensively when we speak about our (or even my own) issues. I don't know what to do and I feel alone.** | 2021-12-13T15:53:38.000Z | rfis01 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Started treatment and now relationship issues have been enhanced | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfis01/started_treatment_and_now_relationship_issues/ |
holy_guacamoly_ | [removed] | 2021-12-13T15:51:50.000Z | rfiqld | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Psych Eval Tomorrow, Advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfiqld/psych_eval_tomorrow_advice/ |
dynox-- | Hi, I have recently been privately diagnosed with ADHD (via Psychiatry UK) and been put on Elvanse (Known as Vyvanse in US) , I finished the 30mg course and now I am on 50mg. It still doesn’t last long enough.
I’ve heard of people having Elvanse / Vyvanse as well as immediate release dexamfetamine later in the day as a booster.
Is there a way to ask for this? I feel like it would help. | 2021-12-13T15:49:39.000Z | rfiow2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adult ADHD Medication Help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfiow2/adult_adhd_medication_help/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T15:48:37.000Z | rfio2k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I feel weird posting this but I'm cautiously concerned: Does 10mg Adderall IR cause temp/perm Erectile Dysfunction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfio2k/i_feel_weird_posting_this_but_im_cautiously/ |
lolo-1994 | I think I have it and it’s the reason I have a hard time in life sometimes.
I have hardcore insomnia: As long as I can remember I can’t fall asleep good because my brain doesn’t stop which is honestly the worst and caused so many problems already. I get bored really quickly, I’m disorganized, I have a problem getting all my thoughts in order and I can’t hide my emotions very easil, I handle out of emotions. I can’t keep up with things that take long and over months which made me feel like a failure a lot. I have a problem doing things when I don’t understand why I should do them.
So I want to get myself diagnosed or at least talk to a specialist to see if I do have it. Should I get pills? Do you guys go to therapy to deal with it? How did you alter your life after getting diagnosed? I want to do as much as possible to be able to handle life better. | 2021-12-13T15:45:40.000Z | rfilu3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I’m nearly 100% sure I have ADHD but I feel overwhelmed in what to do with this information | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfilu3/im_nearly_100_sure_i_have_adhd_but_i_feel/ |
localgemini | I posted in here about a month ago about how my new doctor had undiagnosed me with ADHD, said it was just my anxiety, and listed a bunch of other crap reasons why I didn’t have ADHD (like how I did well in school). I was able to find a new provider online, got re-diagnosed, and am restarting my medication. Trying to function the last month has been hard, but I’m so happy to have found someone who listened to me and didn’t dismiss my feelings. And thank you to everyone who commented on that post. You really helped validate my feelings and make me feel like I wasn’t crazy. | 2021-12-13T15:39:41.000Z | rfih1x | 222 | 1,811 | ADHD | My new doctor took away my ADHD diagnosis UPDATE | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfih1x/my_new_doctor_took_away_my_adhd_diagnosis_update/ |
bulkazserem | I would like to go get diagnosed, but I have a big impostor syndrom about it.
Many of you will answer the second question with something like "it made my life difficult". But in my case it doesn't, particularly. My grades are bearable, I finish my work before deadlines. I mean my style of working still reminds one that people describe here, but I'm 100% sure I will strive, one way or another.
The only thing that's damaged by potential ADHD are my relationships. I try my best that first impression of me will be that I'm averagely smart and respectable, but as I get more comfortable and start showing my "quirks" (don't want to make this post too long; impulsive stupid decisions, moving too much, talking too much), my friends are starting to take me less and less seriously? And honestly I can deal with that, my whole life's been like that. But sometimes it kind of hurts.
Idk if paying for a diagnosis, that might not be true is worth it. | 2021-12-13T15:31:35.000Z | rfiaqs | 7 | 7 | ADHD | How did you know that you have ADHD, what made you decide to get a diagnosis? | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfiaqs/how_did_you_know_that_you_have_adhd_what_made_you/ |
Saander7 | There is something that has been bothering me a bit lately and I wanted to know if it could be related to my ADHD or if it is more serious than that.
I have a lot of trouble putting my memories in chronological order. It's like my childhood and teenage memories are not placed in a linear fashion but are a mess in my head. For example, I have a hard time remembering the year I got my driver's license, the year my dog died, etc. These are examples but it's true for everything. It's the same for my memories of yesterday, they seem far away and foggy. For this morning the same. If someone tells me what I did 1 week ago and another thing I did 2 weeks ago (and I remember it) I would have a hard time telling which is older.
I know this can be found in autism or schizophrenia but I wanted to get your opinions on it.
Thanks <3 | 2021-12-13T15:18:31.000Z | rfi0hu | 15 | 18 | ADHD | No timeline in my memories | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfi0hu/no_timeline_in_my_memories/ |
Mission-Freedom9088 | Long story short. I have really struggled with focus last summer to the level that I was effectively unable to do my work. This was the result of some external factors in my life, but I had never been productive, always felt that something was weird with me.
I approached my GP who referred me for an Autism and ADHD assessment, but the wait times in the UK are terrible (though I think I was still lucky to get it within 8 months. I was scared I'd lose my job if nothing could be done and paid for a private assessment. My diagnosis was positive and I'm on Vyvanse, which alongside the validation of understanding that I have ADHD and am not specifically lazy really did wonders.
However the private psychiatrist is expensive and I had real issues communicating with my GP for prescriptions. I've been waiting for my assessment on the NHS, so that titration etc. does not require me to pay as much every month.
Now the appointment is next week and I'm just scared that they say I don't have ADHD. I went through all the documents my Psychiatrist shared, including his notes on the AIDA 2.0 form, where almost every single box is ticked as showing symptoms. I also felt that in some areas I was not ready to admit to myself that I show these types of symptoms when asked, yet now that I read and listened to a lot of podcasts, I realize that I absolutely show them.
I'm really just seeking some empathy and reassurance that all will be fine. | 2021-12-13T15:17:27.000Z | rfhzp2 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I have an assessment next week on the National Health Service after a private assessment and I'm scared shitless | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhzp2/i_have_an_assessment_next_week_on_the_national/ |
RadRatSteak | Something has got to be done
In my mind I’ve already begun,
moved on and won
In reality, its all but become one
With things that have been done
It mocks, heckles, and berates me
Pokes, stokes and provokes me
I cringe, I fringe, I wince, and since I’ve all but done the one thing that prevents this hinge, I’ve grown and shown disgust, utter hatred, a full blown patron of this adjunct exclamation
I obsess and possess this revelation as I confess I must address this abhorrent concatenation
Today is the day, with not much dismay
I sway, as to ponder as I do in the day, to see that this gets done, because enough is enough and if I can just get one! I can still say I did the dishes today.
Edit: I flaired this as “reminder” because I’m sure someone needs to do the dishes today…
Edit: also, sorry about the format/spacing I’m on mobile and copied from my notes and Reddit doesn’t want to cooperate because it looks different than how I edit it so I just gave up! | 2021-12-13T15:17:09.000Z | rfhzgi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need to do the dishes. But instead of doing the dishes I wrote a little poem instead! I hope this is welcome here and you guys like it! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhzgi/i_need_to_do_the_dishes_but_instead_of_doing_the/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T15:09:18.000Z | rfhtba | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Extended Methylphenidate is this normal | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhtba/extended_methylphenidate_is_this_normal/ |
Tenderloin345 | I don't know if this is an ADHD thing or not, but when you do something, do you tend to ask too many questions, to the point of people getting annoyed? For example, maybe if I visited somebody and they asked me to get something from their room, I'd probably have to check and double check that I'm going in the right room and that I'm getting the thing they want. Not an amazing example, but in general do you often ask too many clarifying questions? Sometimes I feel like if I don't I'll mess up somehow, even if it's really easy. | 2021-12-13T15:08:30.000Z | rfhsp9 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Do you ask too many questions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhsp9/do_you_ask_too_many_questions/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T15:06:19.000Z | rfhqxm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else always think that the image for r/adhd is the BMW badge? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhqxm/anyone_else_always_think_that_the_image_for_radhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T15:00:28.000Z | rfhm8x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | amphetamine dextroamphetamine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhm8x/amphetamine_dextroamphetamine/ |
Jilly220 | I take 15 mg IR 3x a day and I feel like I do a task for a little while and then I just want to lay down and so on is anybody else lazy on adderall? I don't understand what's wrong with me and why I do this. I just want to be productive and do things and I cant. It's so frustrating. Who else feels this way? | 2021-12-13T15:00:21.000Z | rfhlwe | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Laying down on Adderall | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhlwe/laying_down_on_adderall/ |
Jilly220 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:58:22.000Z | rfhkcg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Sleep on Adderall ir | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhkcg/sleep_on_adderall_ir/ |
TheSandwichMeat | There's an r/askreddit I saw about nonsexual intimacy, and in there someone posted about their grandpa and grandma. The grandpa got parkinsons or something and had to be taken care of by grandma & caregivers. He needed help with everything, even wiping his own ass. And you know what? She did it, as much as she could and then even more. Because she loved him.
I feel like this is selfish, to think about everything about myself. I can't help it. Anyway, it made me think about just how little help I've had throughout my life. I've been hospitalized multiple times because of my ADHD and comorbid depression / anxiety / suicidal thoughts, and yet no one believes me when I say that I am struggling. When I say that my executive dysfunction makes (most) things literally impossible to accomplish.
Yet when I drop out of school 3 times, college twice, can't even make myself show up to any job interview, can't schedule appointments with psychiatrists, or really do fucking anything that would even slightly improve my life, I'm the bad guy. I'm a *failure*. I make my mom suicidal, God does she ever hold that over my head. There's nothing wrong with *me* that I might need assistance, no, I'm choosing to hurt EVERYONE.
Nothing has ever improved for me through my own fruition. My current therapist, I'm seeing because a friend of mine literally didn't let me leave when we were hanging out until I called them. Every time I hang out with people, they invite me out. I can't do anything myself.
It sucks so much. Even when I actually **have** adderall or focalin or wellbutrin, I find myself obsessing over the idea of taking the medicine, staring at the bottle, and just, not taking it. I hate the feeling of pills. I hate the heart palpitations from adderall. I just. I fucking hate being alive and every waking second that I have I wish that I had just never been born, it's not as though it would have actually made a difference in anyone's life. Honestly every single person that I know would be happier without me. | 2021-12-13T14:57:10.000Z | rfhjg8 | 4 | 11 | ADHD | miserable. I have never felt like this flair is more appropriate. | 0.87 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhjg8/miserable_i_have_never_felt_like_this_flair_is/ |
jkjb95620 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:56:47.000Z | rfhj6r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone tried Concerta? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhj6r/has_anyone_tried_concerta/ |
Usual-Painter9430 | i've finished school and always passed with average marks without even opening a book. however when i started university this year, doing less than the bare minimum didn't quite work out for me anymore. long story short i've been diagnosed with both anxiety and adhd. i also dropped out of university.
when i finally felt like my life was back on track the university told me i couldn't re-apply, because i dropped out and my bursary dropped me. i feel like a hopeless failure. i don't know what to do next. i feel really depressed. | 2021-12-13T14:56:06.000Z | rfhio2 | 77 | 265 | ADHD | i can't help but feel as if my life is over. i literally can't stop crying. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhio2/i_cant_help_but_feel_as_if_my_life_is_over_i/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:54:51.000Z | rfhhri | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you know you have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhhri/how_do_you_know_you_have_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T14:54:38.000Z | rfhhl0 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | building up walls | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhhl0/building_up_walls/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:53:58.000Z | rfhh2t | 0 | 1 | ADHD | My bf said: In america, all children that can't sit still are pumped full of Adderall, which are amphetamines, like speed. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhh2t/my_bf_said_in_america_all_children_that_cant_sit/ |
Capital_Ninja_6640 | Disclaimer: Undiagnosed and unmedicated.
It's so frustrating! I got up to make myself breakfast at my desk cause I woke up hungry. That's why I got up early on my day off instead of going back to bed. So I got a bowl and stuff out but instead of making my breakfast, I turn on music cause music helps me wake up. That led to me inexplicably looking for a fanfic to read, I think cause that's the page that was open when I turned on my pc. My list of top favorite fanfics. So I clicked one and started reading. Now I'm almost done with chapter 1 and it's really long and I realized I forgot to heat up the food that's right in front of me! This is why I take forever to do anything...whether it's just an enjoyable hobby I've been looking forward to or something as necessary as eating.... | 2021-12-13T14:53:48.000Z | rfhgyl | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Why am I so easily distracted? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhgyl/why_am_i_so_easily_distracted/ |
iwiwjejsiaiwiwj | I am recently diagnosed with both OCD and ADHD. I have been in search for a medication or medications that work well for me for 5 years now, I have tried lexapro, prozac, paxil, strattera, ambilify, effexor, and a few more I can’t remember the names of. I just started paxil so I am unsure of how it will work. All of the other medications I have reacted pretty negatively to. I have never had that great of a psychiatrist so I feel that’s partly why this has been such a long journey for me. Just am tired of trying so many different medications, It’s a lot for my mind and body to handle and overall makes me feel more mentally i’ll then I was in the first place. I am looking into finding a specialist but those are very inaccessible in my area sadly. | 2021-12-13T14:51:27.000Z | rfhf9r | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What medications work for people who have OCD and ADHD?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhf9r/what_medications_work_for_people_who_have_ocd_and/ |
CutieBoBootie | This usually only happens when I am sick or tired but not always. Occasionally I hear my phone ringing (it's a video game song so it's unique) or what sounds like voices through a door. Usually there's white noise happening at the same time. It's hard to tell if it's because of the white noise or not because my apartment has a shitty heating/AC system so there's ALWAYS white noise where I live.
I have had a few instances where it sounds like my phone is ringing in another room, but I KNOW it's not because my phone will be IN MY HAND. As soon as I concentrate on that fact the sound turns back into white noise.
The voices thing, I never hear any words. It just sounds usually like a female and male voice murmuring behind a door or like the tv is on in another room. If I can eliminate the cause of the white noise it goes away. (one time it was my bedroom fan)
Does this happen to y'all? Is this cause for greater concern? | 2021-12-13T14:50:15.000Z | rfhedz | 13 | 4 | ADHD | Auditory hallucinations or does my auditory processing issue interpret white noise into sounds I'm familiar with? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhedz/auditory_hallucinations_or_does_my_auditory/ |
DirtyMonkey95 | I've been working on a book for about a month now but I can feel myself starting to lose interest and starting to get pulled toward something new. This always happens, I can't tell you how many abandoned projects I have on my laptop that couldn't survive my failing interest. But I can't let that happen this time. I made a point to record how many hours I've worked on it to try to keep this from happening and I've worked on this for longer than pretty much any other personal project.
But like I said I can feel it happening again. The last couple times I've gone to work on the book I could barely manage to make any progress and I'm starting to be drawn to other things. I really want to actually finish this one, do you guys have any strategies or advice to help with this problem? | 2021-12-13T14:49:02.000Z | rfhdh5 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | How do I keep from abandoning a project and moving onto another one to start and then abandon? Do you have any strategies? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhdh5/how_do_i_keep_from_abandoning_a_project_and/ |
NihilisticEra | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:47:52.000Z | rfhcky | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just started Ritalin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhcky/just_started_ritalin/ |
Environmental_Use_45 | I am an 18 year old female and have begun seeing a psychiatrist for social anxiety and attention issues in college. At first I was just prescribed Lexapro, but I experienced negative side effects and it didn’t make me feel any different. Next, he suggested I try a stimulant (Adderall) and suggested I take 1/2 of a 10mg pill in the morning for a week and gradually increase the dosage. I feel calm, relaxed, and even tired not even thirty minutes after taking one. It doesn’t make me feel euphoria, hyperactive, or jittery. It’s not some magic drug, it’s like putting on glasses for the first time and finally seeing the world around me. I have pretty bad anxiety too, and if anything the adderall just made it more tolerable and more of a physical reaction than a mental one. I had never even researched ADHD before going to this doctor, but the more I look into it (especially the Inattentive type) the more it just makes sense. Would my reaction to adderall possibly support this? | 2021-12-13T14:46:00.000Z | rfhb7h | 6 | 5 | ADHD | Undiagnosed, but given adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfhb7h/undiagnosed_but_given_adderall/ |
kairosclerosis8 | how do you guys pace yourselves when you start really getting into something? i hate the intensity and full-blown obsession that comes when i find a new hyperfixation because inevitably it’ll burn out. i just got back into a long show that i first watched in 2015 and have already binged 1/3 of it, ordered new merch, and listened to the soundtrack nonstop over the weekend. i don’t want to get tired of this show again!!!! pls help me enjoy things better
edit: this was meant to be titled “how to slow a hyperfixation” but I did not notice I hadn’t typed the whole thing lol | 2021-12-13T14:27:28.000Z | rfgx4l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how to slow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgx4l/how_to_slow/ |
waking_dream96 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:26:21.000Z | rfgwb1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone here with ADHD not have trouble meeting work deadlines or turning in good work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgwb1/does_anyone_here_with_adhd_not_have_trouble/ |
Billy_Da_Frog | Normally I’m a straight A student but certain classes I am doomed to fail. This happened last year when I took business law and our teacher told us that we had a midterm and final and no other grades. I thought to myself no big deal…I passed class with a 56. Took it again next semester but this time with a different professor had homework, quizzes, and twice the amount of tests. I PASSED WITH A 96.
Fast forward to this semester, my marketing class had the same set up of having only two tests. I got a 65 on the midterm and 70 on the final. Pretty sure I’m going to have to take the class again :( Does anyone have any tips on how to pass classes like these? | 2021-12-13T14:21:46.000Z | rfgsya | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Fail all my classes with no assignments | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgsya/fail_all_my_classes_with_no_assignments/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:16:56.000Z | rfgp84 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know if I have ADHD | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgp84/i_dont_know_if_i_have_adhd/ |
two_hippos | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:16:28.000Z | rfgowa | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just started taking 5mg ritalin today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgowa/just_started_taking_5mg_ritalin_today/ |
peachcupid | To start off, I'm a 17-year-old with undiagnosed ADHD in my junior year of school. I've arranged an evaluation, but unfortunately, that isn't until January :( My ADHD is so severe, and my executive functioning is so impaired to the point where I absolutely cannot accomplish anything school-related anymore. I'll usually set up my work and stare at it, thinking *I'll definitely complete all of this by 11pm*, and 5 hours later I've gone down 13 different reddit rabbit holes — even though in my head sirens are going off like crazy. It's like I'm a prisoner to my own body; it's so EASY to just put the damn phone down and get to work, but I just CAN'T. My brain just says no.
So, last Monday, I had 2 tests - Spanish and Psych - to take that day. But guess what I did on Sunday? Absolutely nothing. I couldn't get myself to even open my notes... Thankfully, my parents allowed me to stay home on Monday to study as well as catch up on missing assignments (there's quite an abundance of those). But of course, I just had to have a particularly awful bad brain day. Y'know those days where your brain feels like static, and you can't get your ass up and accomplish anything no matter how many times you watch motivational videos from ADHD youtubers. Ultimately, I got nothing done on Monday and took another day off on Tuesday. I got very little done studying-wise but was able to make up some missing work at the very least. On Wednesday and Thursday, I went back and made up my psych test; my Spanish teacher was kind enough to let me make up the test on Friday. Here's the thing: I had a math test on Wednesday, and my teacher was also kind enough to extend it to Friday. And here's where I'm the worst person ever and call in sick on Friday because again executive dysfunction blocked all my shots at getting anything done. I just feel like a terrible person taking advantage of my teachers' kindness like that. They're honestly incredible people, and it's me being an irresponsible student and giving them more trouble.
Here comes the weekend...I took the ACT on Saturday and was so drained by it that I spent the rest of the day napping. Sunday was rather busy as I had 3 tutor classes in the morning, but I had the afternoon free to study for my make-up tests. And I STILL COULDN'T DO IT! It's currently Monday morning, and I'm again staying home "sick" to study. I also have like, a bucketload of assignments to do (including an essay that's overdue by 2 weeks and a DBQ due today). You know when you're so overwhelmed by the colossal amount of things you need to do that you don't know where the hell to start so you end up doing nothing at all? Yeah, I'm drowning in that right now. I'm pretty distressed, but ADHD has terrorized my life like this for so long I can't bring myself to be resentful anymore. I'll manage, somehow. Wish me luck, guys :) | 2021-12-13T14:15:45.000Z | rfgobz | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Missed 3 days of school to avoid tests/catch up...I wasted those and I'm now missing my 4th day | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgobz/missed_3_days_of_school_to_avoid_testscatch_upi/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T14:09:20.000Z | rfgjch | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to do things for fun, and stop your brain trying to be PERFECT THE BEST EVER HYPERFOCUS TIME with your new hobby? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgjch/how_to_do_things_for_fun_and_stop_your_brain/ |
DirtyMonkey95 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:05:53.000Z | rfggvr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you keep yourself from losing interest in a project and moving on before it's done? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfggvr/how_do_you_keep_yourself_from_losing_interest_in/ |
AuK07 | My ADHD tax really hit me today. 9 months ago I bought a self paced course for $800 from my college to earn an easy credit for a class that I need for my degree. I’ve been diagnosed and have had severe ADHD since I was a kid but I swore I wouldn’t fall off the plan I made for myself. For a few weeks I aced all the assignments but as my spring semester ramped up my mental health declined to the point where I was forced to drop all of my classes and withdraw from my uni except for that course which I completely kept putting off because I had so much time left. I thought I’d be able to do the course after my study abroad in the summer in August but I ended up getting covid in August and had horrible brain fog for a month where I couldn’t even read properly. I ended up spending an extra $200 for an extension til January and just thought I’d eventually get back into the flow…well that never happened and I actually fell back into a procrastination cycle so bad I stopped feeling anxiety over my assignments for classes I really liked and had a passion for. As of today Ive stayed up for 2 days straight finishing all those assignments telling myself I’ll do the course I’ve been putting off. After finishing all those assignments I looked at that course again…it’s impossible to finish in a month it takes the instructors 3 business days to grade one assignment….so now I’ll probably just be forced to drop it…$1000 of tuition out the window.
That was my last straw I’m finally going on meds. I’ve always been stubborn thinking I could go unmedicated even though my condition is really bad…but I think I do need them now…
TLDR: Started a self paced course 9 months ago—-only have one month left and can’t do anything now and have to drop. $1000 of tuition lost. Finally starting meds after being diagnosed for 10+ years | 2021-12-13T14:04:57.000Z | rfgg5d | 4 | 3 | ADHD | $1000 down the drain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgg5d/1000_down_the_drain/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:04:23.000Z | rfgfqt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I've missed 3 days of school to catch up on missing work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgfqt/ive_missed_3_days_of_school_to_catch_up_on/ |
sickmortem89 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T14:03:41.000Z | rfgf94 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to study for exams | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgf94/how_to_study_for_exams/ |
grcjifdds | So I recently started a job that's majority admin. There's been a lot of overtime and I've been sincerely trying my best to keep track, to stay on time, and I thought I was doing somewhat ok. Today my manager suggested I reconsider logging my overtime because its work that falls within my regular job scope (and so many OT hours would reflect badly on me). This was a mainly for a few really busy days and I was relieved that even if I had to work late I'd be compensated. But him saying that everyone who had done this job had managed made me feel like the biggest failure. I'm still trying to work out the right levels of medication and strategies and I just feel humiliated that even my best isn't nearly good enough. How do you deal with setbacks like this and not let it discourage you? Any reassurance or advice would be very much appreciated. <3 | 2021-12-13T14:03:38.000Z | rfgf7v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to cope with not being good at your job? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgf7v/how_to_cope_with_not_being_good_at_your_job/ |
uh-nee-tuh | [removed] | 2021-12-13T13:58:00.000Z | rfgajh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anybody still take strattera? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfgajh/does_anybody_still_take_strattera/ |
Potential-Fig-674 | Since my diagnosis, I have read that we all have our little subconscious coping strategies we utilise in our day to day lives to get by in this crazy world.
Here’s one of mine that I thought I would share.
Curious to know if anyone else does this.
So, before an event or any every day outing, such as work or a social event, I need to set a ridiculous amount time to prepare (shower, eat, get ready and travel)
I will literally begin getting ready hours and hours before I need to be at the destination, so I can take my god damn time and relax while doing so.
After taking my sweet ass time getting ready, I will then leave my house and proceed to venture to wherever I am going (also with a ridiculous amount of time on hand)
I will then arrive at my destination with moderately low stress levels and have a coffee, eat food or just scroll through my phone before the designated time. ie, me waiting around for 50 mins.
What I failed to realise is, having that much time to prepare for everyday events is stressful enough in itself. Definitely not a very sustainable way to live life.
Say if I have to be somewhere at 8 am.. think about how early I have to wake up!
Sometimes I even say no to other events that come up because I feel it will be too stressful.
Does anyone else relate? | 2021-12-13T13:57:29.000Z | rfga4a | 8 | 4 | ADHD | A subconscious coping strategy I have used to arrive to places on time. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfga4a/a_subconscious_coping_strategy_i_have_used_to/ |
TheWeirdGirl97 | Hi everyone!
I'm based in the UK and on 10mg Dexamfetamine in the morning and then 50mg Elvanse (Vyvanse/Lisdexamfetamine) at Lunch. Been stable on this dose for a few months, so my private ADHD consultant has put me into shared care, so that I can get my prescription via the NHS.
I picked it up yesterday, and they gave me generic 5mg Dexamfetamine(Kinedexe UK LTD) instead of my 10mg Amfexa - I got enough of the 5mg to take two tablets at once to get a 10mg dose, which is what I did this morning - unfortunately this did not seem to work. I felt really drowsy, no relief from my symptoms and like I could fall straight back to sleep up until lunch time, when I take my Elvanse.
Technically speaking the generic Dexamfetamine(Kinedexe UK LTD) and Amfexa should be the same thing - both only have one active ingredient, the Dexamfetamine sulfate.
How can it be that I react so differently then? I already emailed my GP requesting that the next time they dispense Amfexa instead of this generic, but I have not had a reply yet.
Any personal experience with this? I couldn't find much online.
Thanks in advance! | 2021-12-13T13:56:58.000Z | rfg9ok | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Change from Amfexa to generic Dexamfetamine - feeling weird | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfg9ok/change_from_amfexa_to_generic_dexamfetamine/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T13:55:32.000Z | rfg95m | 0 | 2 | ADHD | What is this BS, Google?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfg95m/what_is_this_bs_google/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T13:47:44.000Z | rfg3sn | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Drug interactions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfg3sn/drug_interactions/ |
CrisperFritters | Even though I have started taking meds, I still struggle with having trouble to get out of bed. Like, when I'm home I most of the time end up just staying in bed all day and scrolling through social media. I really can't get myself to do anything else, no matter how hard I try to convince myself to. Does anyone have any advice on how to get and stay out of bed? | 2021-12-13T13:47:30.000Z | rfg3n3 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How to stay out of bed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfg3n3/how_to_stay_out_of_bed/ |
R-DnB-83 | Didn't get any interaction of interest because I didn't elaborate properly and I left out alot of important information and I guess I just wanted internet strangers opinions.
Well I deleted the post. Told another mate, spilled *ALL* the beans/context from my side and from their side from what I can remember and after some thought and some impartial advice.
I decided to get rid. That's 10 years friendship down the drain. But we weren't getting on the same anymore and had a few fallouts beforehand so you just need to throw in the towel.
Especially when you're now getting fucking gas lighted for being on meds. That was the last fucking straw. That really pissed me off. | 2021-12-13T13:39:24.000Z | rffxyo | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Posted up about being gaslighted about my medication by mate and asked for advice. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffxyo/posted_up_about_being_gaslighted_about_my/ |
gertylooker | Most days, I seem to have a period where I am continuously compelled to do things but unable to find anything satisfying at all. This usually happens in the few hours before bed and while trying to watch something to unwind.
Otherwise, my ER and IR Adderall regimen works very well and I am able to work through the morning and afternoon with focus and clarity. Prior to being diagnosed and put on medication, I couldn't stay on task for more than half hour without the listless feeling I described. | 2021-12-13T13:35:12.000Z | rffv2b | 5 | 3 | ADHD | How do you deal with painful boredom? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffv2b/how_do_you_deal_with_painful_boredom/ |
Potential-Fig-674 | Some days, I literally just sit on my bed and scroll through my phone all day. This is WITH my medication.
I feel so confused about it and I am wondering if the dose is wrong or if I am just lazy on top of my adhd.
I get so hyper fixated on my phone that I can’t pull away. Even if I get up and begin a task, I have been getting distracted on dumb things like I used to.
A good example is today, I began collecting unwanted clothes to give to donation. I ended up cutting up all of the clothing, trying to make new and improved styles? They obviously all went in the bin, but what the hell. What an absolute waste.
In the beginning, the medication was working like a charm. I feel now I am focusing on the wrong things.. it’s a mess.
Anyone relate? | 2021-12-13T13:33:05.000Z | rfftmf | 266 | 1,493 | ADHD | Am I just a super lazy person on top of my adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfftmf/am_i_just_a_super_lazy_person_on_top_of_my_adhd/ |
yodelingyeti815 | If you're like me and your meds' side effects hit you the worst in the mouth do yourself a favor and get your hands on some "Act dry mouth moisturizing gum." It's the best thing I've found to combat cotton mouth throughout the day while working. Also helps with my clenching/suctionioning my tongue to the roof of my mouth AND it's sugar free so you don't have as much of a problem with cavity stuff as normal gum and candy. | 2021-12-13T13:31:59.000Z | rffsvp | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Give yourself a little holiday gift | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffsvp/give_yourself_a_little_holiday_gift/ |
MrKrillOil | I recently moved back in with my mother after a string of circumstances that lead to me dropping out of university and losing my job, leaving me unable to pay rent. Me and my mother were discussing her plans to celebrate Christmas at her place over dinner. We finished eating and she changes the subject to gifts.
Some context for this part: In high school I started taking Vyvanse/lisdexamphetamine to help with autism/adhd but luckily I reached a point a few years ago where it was no longer needed. My mum, an addict in denial, wanted me to renew this old prescription so she could have the pills for herself as her Christmas gift from me. She was willing to pay for everything but I told her I wouldn't do it. She tried guilting me with shit like "ooh remember when you were 6 and I bought you that xbox" and the like but I wouldn't budge. Later that night she texted me saying she had booked an appointment for the tomorrow. What begins is a back and forth where I, again, tell her that I won't buy her drugs, even offering her money so she would fuck off. She didn't accept payment but cancelled the appointment anyway.
Since then she's been acting passive-aggressive, pissed off with my unwillingness to enable her addiction but refusing to acknowledge the legal consequences, instead making it about her health and well-being in what has to be the most pathetic attempt at gaslighting I've ever seen. I'm currently staying with my grandparents temporarily because fuck her.
I feel disgusting, like I didn't know her before she tried to use me for pills. I'm fortunate in that she was stupid enough to text me about the appointment and I have screenshots saved and backed up in case she realises how incriminating they are and tries to confiscate/destroy my phone. I'd report her to authorities but don't want my 14 year old sister to be caught in the crossfire. She's a minor and the system would most likely sort her out but I don't want to push her luck in case I fuck up her life too. I suppose at this point it's inevitable.
What the fuck do I do?
[Here's part of the texts](https://i.imgur.com/2qAplvI.jpg).
TLDR: Mother attempts to exploit son's mental illness for drugs and doesn't see the problem with it. | 2021-12-13T13:30:15.000Z | rffrmk | 90 | 238 | ADHD | My mother is trying to use me for drugs. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffrmk/my_mother_is_trying_to_use_me_for_drugs/ |
24Coexist | **Intro:**
ADHD comes with lots of self-doubt and the inability to trust oneself. This is typically because of years of being unable to follow through on a task, forgetting basic things, emotions coming on quickly then dissipating just as fast, and a whole other slew of symptoms that erode your self-esteem over time. But my question concerns the **legitimacy of your emotions** \- specifically **anger**.
**Question:**
Because of the pervasive self-doubt caused by ADHD, do you also have trouble trusting whether your anger is **justified** or not?
**My personal experience:**
Well, my personal experience is basically just that. I often doubt whether my anger is legitimate, and I usually side with the fact that I'm overreacting and it's another one of those "Oh my emotions are coming on too strong again, just let them pass." While conscientiousness is good and keeps me from rashly acting, that self-doubt leads me to get **walked all over, disrespected,** and **not speak up for myself or others** even though I *know* it would be the right thing to do. This was especially worse when I was younger with even lower self-esteem.
When I finally do speak up for myself, I'm flooded with thoughts moving a mile a minute with the general gist of "You're overreacting, you're wrong, you shouldn't have said that, you're taking things too seriously, they didn't mean it like that." So instead of being proud of myself of standing up for myself, I'm left feeling like I did something wrong.
**Maybe It's Not ADHD?**
I know there's a tendency to pathologize everything about yourself after finding out you have ADHD and attributing it to that. I know I'm guilty of it. So I'm aware it very well could be socialization and childhood issues seeping in, but I know I've always been this way. Socialization is a hell of a drug; I (27F) grew up with the idea that girls are to "sit still and look pretty" and that any emotion other than happy/cheerful is not becoming and agreeable. So that of course adds a dumpster truck load of self-doubt onto my already overflowing pile.
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Ladies, gentlemen, non-binary friends-- please share your experience! Would love to not feel alone in this lmao. | 2021-12-13T13:28:31.000Z | rffqg9 | 11 | 50 | ADHD | Do you have trouble discerning whether your anger is legitimate or not? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffqg9/do_you_have_trouble_discerning_whether_your_anger/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T13:15:38.000Z | rffhlt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have trouble finding things that are directly in front of your face? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffhlt/does_anyone_have_trouble_finding_things_that_are/ |
Lereas | Took my meds a bit early and apparently my commute is just the right length of time for them to kick in and make me get stuck on my phone rather than my work.
This is the last week before vacation, I have too much shit to take care of, and I feel like a useless piece of shit who is always on the edge of being laid off. My boss says I do well, his boss is generally happy too, but God...I just feel like they're pretending.
Imposter syndrome is extra bad at the end of the year I guess. | 2021-12-13T13:14:49.000Z | rffgzo | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Sitting in my car on reddit instead of going into work | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffgzo/sitting_in_my_car_on_reddit_instead_of_going_into/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T13:13:15.000Z | rfffw0 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | People that have digital lessons, do you also deliberately do other stuff during the lesson? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfffw0/people_that_have_digital_lessons_do_you_also/ |
Tarndra99 | I've been on vyvanse for a few months slowly going up in dosage, and I noticed i was getting more easily irritated, It was mostly happening when I was crashing, so I started taking it a bit later to sleep through the crash. But even during the day I was still a little cranky at points, well I went up to 60mls the other day and I have been so rude and snappy, everything has annoyed me. And I've noticed my sensory issues have been worse (when they get set off i get angry, even before my meds, so the anger has been particularly bad then) Today I screamed at my sister, pulled over the car and told her to get the fuck out, then I immediately broke down into a panic attack. I have never done anything like that before, she is my everything, my best friend. She didn't take it personally and instead calmed me down and helped me. I feel so bad about it and haven't stopped apologising. I think I need to stop these meds, does anyone know how fast i should wean off? Has anyone else had a reaction like this? What medication do you take that works? | 2021-12-13T13:12:38.000Z | rfffie | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Bad reaction to vyvanse. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfffie/bad_reaction_to_vyvanse/ |
ManufacturerFair9745 | hey guys, i am brand spankin new to reddit so im sorry if this is worded weird or anything.
i’ve spent the past like, 6 hours reading thru the posts on this sub and its been great knowing im not alone and getting some new tips! the one thing i haven’t seen anyone talk about is eating disorders in relation to adhd treatment.
i have been in recovery for anorexia for about a year now, and i was prescribed adderall also about a year ago, but i stopped taking it up until about a month ago.
i started up again with 20mg of adderall xr to help me finish up my first semester at college, and now that ive been taking it i’ve noticed its been a lot harder to keep up with meal plans and taking care of myself in regards to food. i completely lose my appetite for honestly more than the 12 hours its supposed to work for, like i do not feel hungry for the whole day and sometimes the next day.
does anyone else have any experience with this? any tips for staying recovery oriented even though its very tempting to fall back into disordered habits? any kind of response is appreciated:) | 2021-12-13T13:10:34.000Z | rffe4k | 5 | 8 | ADHD | ADHD medication and eating disorders | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffe4k/adhd_medication_and_eating_disorders/ |
Adventurous_Life2946 | I'm doing an apprenticeship and all my courses are delivered online in lectures. I know I need to pay attention to it and will have periods of 5 minutes where I pay attention and I'm surprised because it all actually makes so much sense when I do, and yet I lose interest afterwards and can't make myself focus again even though I know it helps and I get confused when I don't listen.
I don't think it's a problem with finding it interesting because I enjoy the subject, I don't know if it's because I'm at home so don't really NEED to pay attention as there's no consequences if I don't. I just get annoyed when I know paying attention helps but I seem physically unable to.
Does anybody have any tips to help study?
Literally typing this as my tutor is talking XD | 2021-12-13T13:08:32.000Z | rffcpk | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I'm doing an apprenticeship and cannot focus on my online lectures | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffcpk/im_doing_an_apprenticeship_and_cannot_focus_on_my/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T13:05:30.000Z | rffao7 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rffao7/recently_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T12:55:43.000Z | rff3nv | 2 | 1 | ADHD | "For the first time in forever" - Frozen | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rff3nv/for_the_first_time_in_forever_frozen/ |
D____E | [removed] | 2021-12-13T12:54:34.000Z | rff2yo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is your go-to strategi, for cleaning your room/house? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rff2yo/what_is_your_goto_strategi_for_cleaning_your/ |
your_actual_life | Hi there! Not looking for medical advice - just similar experiences.
I (M, 43) sought the help of a psychiatrist for ADHD late last month. I was diagnosed in my late teens, but never accepted treatment. The doctor started me off on 25 mg of Strattera, with the idea that we would work up to what is supposed to be a functional therapeutic dose of something like 80 mg.
With the 25 mg dose, I had side effects of terrible insomnia. I would be able to get to sleep at night, but would wake up after an hour or two with terrible racing thoughts, completely unable to return to sleep. I would end up drugging myself to sleep with larger-than-recommended doses Benadryl, which got me to sleep but would leave me groggy for the entire next day. Not a fan of Benadryl, but it was an emergency measure.
I contacted the doctor, and he prescribed me 10 mg Strattera. Then, he directed me to increase to 20 mg over the course of anywhere between 1 to 3 weeks, at my discretion.
On 10 mgs, I have been getting a peaceful, full nights sleep for the past week. I am within the timeframe where I could try bumping it up to 20 mgs. However, I'm very anxious about doing this, because it will put me close to the dosage that gave me so much trouble before. I *am* planning on doing it at some point within the timeframe my doctor told me to, but am super-nervous.
Anyone else out there have experience with hypersensitivity to Strattera, or conquering its side-effects? | 2021-12-13T12:51:58.000Z | rff1d8 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Strattera insomnia question | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rff1d8/strattera_insomnia_question/ |
Free_Passenger_79 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T12:50:12.000Z | rff074 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I scored very high in multiple online ADHD tests indicating that I have ADHD but I simply don’t want to believe it, see a doctor about it or take medication for it. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rff074/i_scored_very_high_in_multiple_online_adhd_tests/ |
Urukguy | [removed] | 2021-12-13T12:48:18.000Z | rfeyv9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Starting medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfeyv9/starting_medication/ |
BritFishUK | So I was just prescribed ADHD medication for the first time. My doctor wanted to give me concerta but I insisted on getting short acting ritalin as I've read some bad stuff about concerta. Alot of people seem to have issues with it and if I'm going to br taking this my whole life I want to get it right. Anyway he told me I was scientifically mistaken as most people actually take conceta now apparently lol but went with my decision anyway. Did I do the right thing or is concerta actually not that bad? | 2021-12-13T12:35:37.000Z | rfequw | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Did I do the right thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfequw/did_i_do_the_right_thing/ |
BritFishUK | [removed] | 2021-12-13T12:30:08.000Z | rfenjv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did I make the right decision? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfenjv/did_i_make_the_right_decision/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T12:25:02.000Z | rfekgq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | FOQUEST - blood pressure spike? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfekgq/foquest_blood_pressure_spike/ |
DigiGill | As the title says. My brain can just be racing and then out of nowhere all the time my get so anxious and bored I guess that I feel congested when im not then im trying to cough up whatever mucus I have in me and this leads to me throwing up usually and this can happen when im driving or whatever it gets so annoying and sucks for me because after this my throat hurts or my head. But the weird thing is when im around people I don’t do it because my brain tells me if I do it people will think im weird then all of a sudden I have no mucus in me idk it’s weird | 2021-12-13T12:22:12.000Z | rfeir9 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Always making myself throw up | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfeir9/always_making_myself_throw_up/ |
nnaoam | Randomly had this idea and figured I'd share in case anyone else wants to do this right now. If you're reading this:
- close all the tabs on your mobile browser!
- _they're in your history_
- _you can't find anything in them right now anyway_
- _get a fresh start!_
- Close all the apps
- _there's a button on Android_
- _on iOS you have to swipe them all_
- Go to your settings and install that update you've been delaying.
- If there is no update waiting, go to the app store and click "update all apps".
[ EDIT: u/amberallday pointed out that closing all tabs in iOS in (I'm assuming) Safari is done by long-clicking the plus button you use to open a new tab. To add to that, on android in chrome click the tab count/smiley face, click the three dot menu and it's there. ]
OR
- close everything on your computer
- _including the browser by just clicking the X_
- _Save whatever work is unsaved obviously._
- Restart your computer!
- Let that update you've been putting off for weeks finally install.
- Do NOT recover all your tabs when you open the browser again if you get the option to!
- **Note: do not do this if you have anything you need to do on your computer in the next hour, updates are fickle beasts**
Pick depending on whether you're reading this on mobile or PC (do the one for the device you're on). It's five seconds of mindless button clicking.
Hopefully that will help get that ball rolling, maybe it won't, idk, good luck haha | 2021-12-13T12:20:11.000Z | rfehj5 | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Need a quick, easy-to-complete task to get you rolling today? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfehj5/need_a_quick_easytocomplete_task_to_get_you/ |
Important-Dust-9675 | For a long time ago, I noticed I've issues with using money and impulsivity. I know this is an issues for many with ADHD. I know my nephew with ADHD also have these issues. But yes I don't know how to explain it but I assume many of you know what I'm talking about.
So does anyone have any tips on how to manage these issues? | 2021-12-13T12:19:07.000Z | rfeguq | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I have issues with economy/ money and need advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfeguq/i_have_issues_with_economy_money_and_need_advice/ |
kairos_04 | Hi! can anybody help me? I went to a psychiatrist and he said that I don't have adhd, because I can concentrate (even though I said that I can only concentrate when I'm very very close to the deadline), and that I get good grades, so I can't have ADHD. Is he right? Then, he prescribed venlafaxine, to help with my procrastination problems. Every time I see a post or a video about ADHD inattentive presentation I relate almost 100%, so I'm afraid I have been misdiagnosed. What do you think? | 2021-12-13T12:16:33.000Z | rfefce | 8 | 1 | ADHD | About not having ADHD for having good grades | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfefce/about_not_having_adhd_for_having_good_grades/ |
DMAShift | OK, feels like the answer/advice is a no brainer on this one - but here we go!
I work for myself as a workplace injury consultant and I set my own schedule. Inattentive/Impulsive ADHD - recently medicated (which is doing wonders in all other areas).
I have a mac, but to help with a number of things work wise (software compatibility, work 15% more productive) - I bought a PC three months ago.
At some point, I thought I would download a game I have always wanted to play again (DayZ) as a treat. I told myself "you can play it when work is done".
I am not joking, every day I find myself playing it more and more. I find myself playing it when I should be working - today, I spent eight hours playing it. Everyday, I sit at that computer and tell myself "that *work thing* can wait till tomorrow" and it is like I have given myself permission to play that goddamn beautiful post apocalyptic game all day.
I had a conversation with a customer over the phone list week. They were complaining about a 35 year old employee playing video games whilst they were off work - and I, a 30 year old, was sitting AFK in DayZ whilst talking to them.
I try to set rules, and I break them. I deleted the game, twice, then I reinstalled it 48 hours later.
The game doesnt work on a mac.. I think it is time to rid myself of the PC and never buy one again because the temptation is too great.
I tried to be 15% more productive by buying a PC, and now I am 100% less productive.
Any advice is appreciated, but I think I know the answer..! | 2021-12-13T12:12:21.000Z | rfecwi | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Do I need to set my computer on fire and throw it off a cliff? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfecwi/do_i_need_to_set_my_computer_on_fire_and_throw_it/ |
Jdogg446 | I write this at 4:04 AM, my sleep schedule is terrible I constantly stay up until dawn and end up sleeping in and being late for things. Ive tryed alot, I excercise often I eat healthy, I don't watch any screens an hour before bed, I switched all the lights in my room from LEDs to incandescents so I would be getting less blue light, and non of it worked. I started taking melatonin everyday and at the start it worked really well, but slowly it stopped working and I had to take a higher dose to feel sleepy, and now it's gotten to the point where I'm immune to it and melatonin has no effect on me.
During the day I'm always super tired, but I still am awake enough to not fall asleep. I find it more difficult to do daylie tasks because of how tiered I am, I'm still able to do them, but it is much more difficult. I end up sleeping through alarms the next day and sometimes it causes me to be late for school or I have to skip breakfast to make it. Most days I get 1 1/2 - 2 hours of sleep a night, and on weekends I feel very guilty about sleeping in and having no productivity so I wake up (somewhat) early. And like once or twice a week I stay up all night and get no sleep.
I am at a healthy weight, I'm white, I'm not taking any meds for my ADHD, excluding all my sleep issues, I don't have any comorbities, ADHD is the only thing I have. I've noticed that my sleep problems started when we went into covid lockdown sense there was no reason to have a normal sleep schedule, I messed mine up and it's never returned to normal.
I feel like I am doing permanent brain damage by not getting enough sleep, and as I said everything is getting more difficult because of how tiered I am. I have pretty much exauhsted every option to try and fix my sleep schedule and I feel lost and out of hope that I'll get good sleep. Are sleep problems related to ADHD, and do you guys have any experience and fixing them? | 2021-12-13T12:12:01.000Z | rfecoy | 8 | 17 | ADHD | Having very bad sleeping issues related to ADHD? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfecoy/having_very_bad_sleeping_issues_related_to_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T12:10:39.000Z | rfebxn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | About not having ADHD for having good grades | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfebxn/about_not_having_adhd_for_having_good_grades/ |
NieR_Evangelion | So this just happened, and I'm seeing a pattern. I (m,23, diagnosed for 1 year) have been dating this girl for 2 months. This played out like every single relationship I've ever had: first I enjoyed my time with her, but haven't been emotionally involved that much. But: as soon as I get emotionally involved, it's like someone flipped a switch, and I think about her 24/7. Also: my numerous hobbies/ stuff like (really!) important exams deciding over my future become irrelevant. I can't muster the energy/ attention to pursue them. First, she brought as much effort into the relationship as I did, and as soon we arrived at this point, I feel like I'm the one carrying everything (like planning dates, texting first, giving her gifts, etc), and she loses interest. Now, after 2 months, she dumped me out of nowhere (she says she fell in love with a friend she told me not to worry about, a classic).
My hypothesis is: The amount of love/ attention I showered her with is just overwhelming for her. One might also get into the rabbit hole and say "showing attention is generally considered unattractive", which I won't at this point (but it's something I thought about). I tried to contain the way that I feel about her, but it didn't work.
Now: 1) I don't want this to happen in every future relationship as well, and 2) I don't want to get into this state of "losing myself for someone" ever again. I feel like I involuntarily gave myself up for a person, and now am standing here with 2 months and a lot of energy wasted.
I refuse to believe that I'm the only one in this community facing these kinds of problems. Do you, fellow Redditors, have any advice for me on how to behave in an eventual next dating phase, before my brain flips this switch, and my life turns upside down yet again? And: can you maybe recommend some books/ other sources on how to deal with these situations? Your input would be appreciated <3.
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TL;DR: in every relationship, I hyperfixiate on my partner, destroying both the relationship and my life really quickly. Advice/ sources on how to avoid this would be appreciated :) | 2021-12-13T12:09:28.000Z | rfeb8i | 20 | 19 | ADHD | Hyperfixiation when dating | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfeb8i/hyperfixiation_when_dating/ |
Worldly_Night666 | Hi I am a complete newbie here, but I am like 99% sure I have adhd and I don’t even know how to go about getting diagnosed here in the UK, or if I even want to because I’m like can I be bothered to go through that whole process or possibly just be rejected from the doctor (rejection issues). FYI I am 27 yr old female.
I just wondered if anyone has an tips that help you, my worse things are impulsivity and my thoughts are none stop like they’re whirling round my brain and I just grab one and think about it but all the others are still fighting to be thought about. I also literally cannot listen to what anyone is saying when they’re talking to me unless I put all my strength and focus into listening to what they are saying, but that makes me feel really drained … thanks in advance for any tips :) | 2021-12-13T12:03:54.000Z | rfe7zw | 6 | 1 | ADHD | undiagnosed adhd maybe idk | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfe7zw/undiagnosed_adhd_maybe_idk/ |
waffels71 | I have been in college for around 5 years now going from a private 4 year out of high school to a community college after that didn’t work out and I’m still working on my associates degree. I was diagnosed with ADHD around junior year of high school which explained a lot of my behaviors and problems I’d had (couldn’t get work done, awful sleep schedule and stuff like that) but I didn’t get on medication until a couple years ago and even then I’m awful at taking it.
Every semester I try and have a fresh start but by around week five I’m drowning and don’t know what to do, I can’t get myself to go to classes or to do long projects. I then inevitably fail. I know I’m intelligent enough and that I want to do well I just feel like I hit a brick wall and can’t do anything about it. Ive been pursuing a degree in education but if I can’t handle community college there’s no way I’ll be able to get my masters. Ive been thinking about other career paths but I know it would be a lot less stable but I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m sick of disappointing everyone around me especially myself.
I’m good at my job and I’m good with people and I feel fine when I go to work but school has never worked for me and I don’t know what to do. Sorry for rambling I’ve been awake all night and I’m about to head into work and my head is spinning. Any advice or help would be super helpful thanks! | 2021-12-13T12:00:26.000Z | rfe5ts | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Sick of feeling like a failure need help/advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfe5ts/sick_of_feeling_like_a_failure_need_helpadvice/ |
Specialist-Emu-5209 | (f17) when i become fixated on smt, i become so submerged into it that i forget to do things like sleep. I conveniently hyper fixated on school over summer cux i was taking 4 classes and did a good amount of hours babysitting so sleep was nonexistent. (still got all As in the college classes tho) Now when the fall semester started i was completely burnt out and all i did was sleep and stress about failing (literally) all my classes bc i’m going thru one of those ‘i just cannot, don’t have willpower, am unable to do anything unless it’s smt that gives me instant happiness’ phase. but then during november i started losing sleep again (like 5 hours ?) even tho i’ve been working out and kinda fixed my eating??
i either sleep too much or too little and i have no idea how to fix it | 2021-12-13T11:42:01.000Z | rfdvdt | 3 | 9 | ADHD | endless cycle of sleeping too little or too much | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdvdt/endless_cycle_of_sleeping_too_little_or_too_much/ |
Accomplished-Sun-823 | Hello! My daughter has been diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago. She is now 10 and everyday is a struggle. Due to ADHD she is always in trouble in school. The US school system is not equipped to handle neuro divergent kids.
We have tried countless therapy, meds and some work for about 3 or 4 months and then we are back on trying a new medicine. She struggles so much, she has terrible low self stem, her weight gain was huge on the past 2 years...
What can I do to help her?? What has helped some of you? Can I do something to help her? My heart breaks for her I feel so powerless in seeing her suffer constantly. | 2021-12-13T11:40:45.000Z | rfduqy | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Please help me help my 10 year old. Thank you! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfduqy/please_help_me_help_my_10_year_old_thank_you/ |
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