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MermaDoppelganger | I find that if I involve someone else in a project that I want to get done, I'm much more likely to at least start working on the project.
Here’s an example: I'm an artist who prefers to work with repurposed materials rather than acquiring newly manufactured supplies whenever possible. If I ask a friend to save up some cardboard, plastic bags or fabric scraps for me because I have an idea for an art project, I'm much more likely to follow through with my idea. I know that my friend has made a little effort for me, and that they will probably ask me about my project later. Because of my desire to please them by saying "yeah - I really did something interesting, thanks for giving me all of that stuff!" (And because I'm honest.) I will definitely make myself do something with the materials.
I'm fairly recently diagnosed and trying to work with my ADHD tendencies with more self awareness. It's a process and I'm always adapting. Maybe someone else will be able to try this out for motivation. | 2021-12-13T11:38:25.000Z | rfdti2 | 2 | 8 | ADHD | Using people pleasing tendency to get something accomplished. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdti2/using_people_pleasing_tendency_to_get_something/ |
BandaidPuppet | I've been running on one fool's errand after another all day, achieving absolutely jack fucking shit. I've wasted hours of good work time running to places I wasn't supposed to be, trying to fix things I can't fix by doing what I thought I was supposed to do.
I had *work* planned out today, and I took my meds for it, and all that today has been has been a waste of my pills. If I find a way to stop being white-hot fucking livid in the next 30 seconds, the entire day won't be completely fucking wasted.
How do I achieve that? | 2021-12-13T11:37:01.000Z | rfdsti | 135 | 290 | ADHD | What's the fastest way to stop being angry? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdsti/whats_the_fastest_way_to_stop_being_angry/ |
jumanjo- | All my life my room/home has been a complete mess. I haven't invited my friends or my kids friends over. Sometimes family visited but I literally just wanted to die with embarrassment. My mum used to bring her own lunch, coffee, milk and sugar round as she knew I probably wouldn't have something she needed.
Now I've got to the stage that although my home isn't perfect, it's quite nice and it would be more than okay to invite people round. But the trouble is that I'm now I'm my early 30s and just feel really uncomfortable with being a host. I should have this nailed by now. I have some friends staying on new years eve and am kind of worried about it as nobody has stayed over at mine for about years now, although I have had many people visit during the day.
Is your home/lack of initiation in friendships/ disorganisation a barrier to you hosting? If not, has it ever been? How did you overcome this? Any tips for me on nye? | 2021-12-13T11:30:38.000Z | rfdpbd | 9 | 4 | ADHD | Are you more comfortable being hosted or hosting? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdpbd/are_you_more_comfortable_being_hosted_or_hosting/ |
wasprocker | It has for sure been a big relief after i got my diagnosis that im not alone in this. Im not alone in needing a new hobby every two weeks, or having to read a simple paragraph fourteen times because i keep spacing out.
Anyway, i've known about my ADHD for around six months, but i suspected it for way longer. I just never cared about it i guess. "What am i gonna do about it anyway?"
It turns out there is actually loads of little tricks one can do to deal with it. I just never bothered to look it up. I can only thank my fellow ADHD-friend for showing me that there is a whole community around these neuro-issues.
Anyway, thanks for making me feel included and not alone in this. | 2021-12-13T11:28:20.000Z | rfdnwv | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I always felt distanced, abnormal, weird throughout my life. What did you do when you got your diagnose? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdnwv/i_always_felt_distanced_abnormal_weird_throughout/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T11:25:52.000Z | rfdmgo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else more comfortable being hosted than hosting? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdmgo/anybody_else_more_comfortable_being_hosted_than/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T11:25:10.000Z | rfdm2q | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I hate how consistently inconsistent I am. Over the years I keep picking up new and old hobbies in the hopes of turning them into a career. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdm2q/i_hate_how_consistently_inconsistent_i_am_over/ |
woflgangPaco | I have not taken any diagnoses from the doctor but I'm fairly certain based on what I have learned reading through various articles on google it checks out every symptom I'd experienced throughout my life and that were all true and accurate. Before this I thought it was only caused by depression and insecurities but I always had a feeling it was something more than that. Any of my siblings doesn't seems to have it and it kinda made me feel worse about myself. They say it's hereditary and i'm certain i got it from my dad. He passed away a couple of months ago due to Covid and at this point not only i'm feeling sad but also hate of him that i have this condition. After this the only thing that would come up on my mind whenever i did something wrong or failing would be the fact that I've ADHD and I can't help myself | 2021-12-13T11:22:24.000Z | rfdkj6 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I'm 21 and I just found out that I have ADHD and I don't know how to cope or react to it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdkj6/im_21_and_i_just_found_out_that_i_have_adhd_and_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T11:20:03.000Z | rfdj57 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm skipping through books and shows and miss important details | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdj57/im_skipping_through_books_and_shows_and_miss/ |
OkText00 | I can't slow my head down. My executive functions are garbage. Mentally and physically I am deteriorating.
At one point in my life I was on Adderall but it gave me a fast heart rate and high blood pressure. Also set off my anxiety so it stopped working after that.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I can't enter my thirties like this I just can't. | 2021-12-13T11:15:20.000Z | rfdgld | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Want to go back on meds but am afraid. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdgld/want_to_go_back_on_meds_but_am_afraid/ |
Poettiic | Well hi, been here before but as you might know from the title, I forgot my password haha, well guess I have to start this account from 0 again. Anyways I'm here to see how are you all doing and also to tell you a little story: Wel I'm 17, and tbh I'm overwhelmed, a little, maybe a little more. Next year I am planning to go to College but since 2 years ago I moved to spain and I had to learn 2 new languages (Catalan and Spanish) my GPA dropped dramatically and I don't know if I will be able to increase it as much as needed but at least I gotta try right? On top of that I have to balance my healthy lifestyle (not so healthy) my workout sessions, my desire to know more everyday which actually leads to me starting 3 different online courses although I already have to study my subjects and all. I think for the moment I am doing well, but not great enough, I mean I could do better. Any advices that you think it might be helpful for me to know? Cheers! | 2021-12-13T11:11:11.000Z | rfdecg | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Hello once again cause I forgot my account password | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdecg/hello_once_again_cause_i_forgot_my_account/ |
oddballfactory | I know everyone's been posting about their struggles with assignments lately which makes sense because it's finals time.
I had a semester long assignment that I was supposed to spend 40 hours on and I maybe spent 20. And that's only because I spent 10 hours on it straight before the mid-term deadline, and 10 hours before the final deadline.
I'd be somewhat able to cope if submitting it was all. But as the last part of the assignment I have to go talk to my professor about it in an interview. My professor who is also my employer... Because I asked him to help work in his lab because I was interested in his field, and he was kind enough to let me in.
I'm so terrified. Terrified that he would be upset with me and not offer forgiveness. Terrified he'll be disappointed. Terrified that I may be asked to not come back to work. Terrified that it'll impact my future trying to get a job when I (hopefully) finish my degree in May because I won't have any good references. That no matter my excuse it's all going to crumble and come out poorly.
I have a therapy appointment the 15th and the interview today and I'm just. I don't know. I feel so stupid and pathetic. Everything's my fault, especially for not communicating. I'm undiagnosed and unmedicated and have been through all of my education. It's been 3, nearly 4 years of struggling. I want it to be over but I can't even see a future for myself. I just wish I was normal. | 2021-12-13T11:11:03.000Z | rfde9z | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Spent so little time on a 40 hour assignment that I have to be interviewed on and I can't sleep. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfde9z/spent_so_little_time_on_a_40_hour_assignment_that/ |
tuggertheboat | [removed] | 2021-12-13T11:04:12.000Z | rfdai3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Neurotypical lurkers, what goes on in your head throughout a typical day? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfdai3/neurotypical_lurkers_what_goes_on_in_your_head/ |
dblade20 | I don't know where to start other than the fact that ADHD is making me struggle in my relationships and inadvertently hurting my partner. Things like small gestures and gifts has become such a chore and it makes her feel unappreciated. For context we're doing long distance right now due to unavoidable circumstances. I want to appreciate my partner more, give her gifts, make cute videos and do all sorts of online activities to keep it fresh. But everytime I want to I feel like I'm chained to the ground, not being able to do anything, or frustrated with the thought of me doing something at all. It's to the point of her asking directly to me about the things she wish we could do. And I feel horrible. she shouldn't feel like she needs to beg for my affection, but that's how I end up becoming. It's just sucks for the both of us | 2021-12-13T10:58:41.000Z | rfd73m | 3 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD and my relationship | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfd73m/adhd_and_my_relationship/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T10:54:29.000Z | rfd4ys | 6 | 1 | ADHD | I'm scared i might have ADHD | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfd4ys/im_scared_i_might_have_adhd/ |
winterdancer | So after a year on a wait list I finally got in to see a psychiatrist a few days ago (who specialises in ADHD) about my problems. He talked to me for about an hour but hardly at all about my actual symptoms and how it impacts my life. He mostly discussed my physical health and my family. For instance, he asked what my parents and siblings do for work, but never asked me if I worked or if my symptoms affect my work. He asked what their hobbies were, but not about my hobbies or how my symptoms affect them.
He then said that because I’ve completed several university courses and am not addicted to drugs or alcohol that I can’t have ADHD. He never even asked if I struggled with my uni work, so I guess my bad grades and tons of extensions for assignments don’t matter to him. And I don’t even really like alcohol and I have no interest in trying drugs, so I’m not sure how that’s relevant either.
He says I actually have “spontaneous involuntary attention” (is this even a thing??) because my mind wanders off and starts thinking about random things, but didn’t ask about any of my other symptoms. And we never even actually discussed my mind/thoughts wandering off. All I said is that I found it difficult to concentrate in class but I never said my mind was filled with other thoughts (in reality that’s only one small part of why I struggle to focus).
He sent me home with an ADHD symptom checklist to fill out and send back to him and also gave me a prescription for an ADHD medication.
This psychiatrist was really expensive and I honestly don’t have the money to go and see another one for a second opinion, plus I don’t think I could cope without any help for another year.
I guess I’m just confused. Part of me thinks, okay well I got a prescription, I guess that’s what matters, but the other part of me feels really invalidated and hurt because it feels like he didn’t even listen to me or care about my actual symptoms, just making assumptions about me instead. I’ve heard stories on here about other females being told similar things from their psychiatrists so I’m wondering if maybe he just doesn’t understand symptoms in women? Or maybe I was completely wrong all along? It’s fine if I actually don’t have ADHD, I just felt like it explained problems I’ve had my entire life and if it’s not that, then I guess I’m back to square one.
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TL;DR psychiatrist didn't ask about my symptoms and just made assumptions. Said I couldn't have ADHD because I've passed university and am not addicted to anything. Says I have "spontaneous involuntary attention” and not ADHD, but gave me a prescription for ADHD medication anyway. Feeling confused and hurt. | 2021-12-13T10:51:14.000Z | rfd3e8 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Psychiatrist wouldn’t diagnose me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfd3e8/psychiatrist_wouldnt_diagnose_me/ |
hellothere473 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:43:34.000Z | rfczgd | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Started taking ADHD medication recreationally and now im scared to see a doctor. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfczgd/started_taking_adhd_medication_recreationally_and/ |
adorapearl | Hi, I'm (28F) feeling a bit anxious about living with roommates again. I've lived with other people before, some have been good while others have been bad. I have issues with cleaning up after myself and forgetting to do certain chores, which made past roommates annoyed and frustrated with me. I should make it clear that I'm not proud that I struggle with picking up after myself, and really wish I could be a better roommate.
My last roommate and I had a massive argument because I wasn't pulling my weight and I ended up moving back in with my parents because of it. This was all a year ago during COVID btw and we were both working from home.
I was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago, and have been taking Concerta, which has helped, but I still struggle with certain chores. I have a new job lined up in a city that's super expensive, so I know I'll have to live with other people again. Plus, I don't want to have to live with my parents for the rest of my 20s. The thought of living with roommates is giving me so much anxiety because I don't want to have to be the 'messy' person again and be a burden to them. Has anybody got any advice on how to train yourself to stay tidy, or even communicate to potential roommates about having ADHD? | 2021-12-13T10:41:38.000Z | rfcygi | 2 | 2 | ADHD | anxiety about living with roommates? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcygi/anxiety_about_living_with_roommates/ |
babushka1705 | Didnt know to word the title but... I feel like I'm trapped in a constant cycle of 'fresh starts'. Like, I'm constantly convincing myself next time will be different. Or tomorrow is the day I finally organise my room and my life and suddenly everything will be in order. Or this journal/hobby/idea/routine/whatever is going to be the one I stick to forever.
I know deep down that this isn't going to be the case but I still find myself trapped in this constant cycle of turning over a new leaf then inevitably just falling back into the same old patterns. How do I stop myself thinking like this??? It's actually kind of exhausting. | 2021-12-13T10:39:00.000Z | rfcx1z | 5 | 28 | ADHD | How to stop 'fresh start' addiction... | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcx1z/how_to_stop_fresh_start_addiction/ |
Additional_Plant_539 | Weird question, sorry if it doesn't belong here. Im taking stimulants for ADHD which causes me poor circulation. I live in the UK and my Thinsulate gloves are not enough to keep my hands warm now we are going into winter.
Does anyone have a pair to reccomend that actually keep your hands warm and counteract the poor circulation? I get cold hands super bad and I cycle to work so it's a real problem for me ! | 2021-12-13T10:38:01.000Z | rfcwig | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Recommended gloves for meds side effect of cold hands | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcwig/recommended_gloves_for_meds_side_effect_of_cold/ |
Lotta_Bubbles | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:37:55.000Z | rfcwge | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you guys refrain from subbing to Youtube channels because you know that you won't be interested in that genre of content anymore for weeks or months? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcwge/do_you_guys_refrain_from_subbing_to_youtube/ |
breepsbreeps | Yesterday it was said to me wether id ever thought I may have ADHD. Honestly, It had never even entered my head.
This will probably seem like a long endless stream of thought, sorry about that.
For years and years I have just put my personality and the way my brain seems to work down to trauma in my youth.
My dad killed himself when I was 11, after being missing for 18months ( we knew he'd done it, as it wasn't his first attempt)
I then suffered physical abuse from a step father and sexual abuse from another male, at the age of 13.
Around this time I developed some habits which I guess I always called 'ocd traits' such as counting the number of times I touched things in pairs (always in 4's) and continually checking if my laces were left inside my shoes. Light switches etc. I also have had Impulses to say strange things that get stuck in my head. I still do that now with my kids, weird phrases or songs that they find quite funny. I have phrases and little songs that I've used since my teens!
I procrastinate massively, always leaving tasks until the last minute, which I have always thought, that's just how I work best.
I got into a lot of debt in my younger years through online shopping, I become addicted to one particular gadget or hobby that then consumes me from morning to night. I can't stop reading reviews or checking deals websites. But then when I get the thing, or start the hobby, the enjoyment isn't there and I move on to something else.
I've also made impulsive decisions with work (leaving a couple of jobs midway through the day with no fallback option) and relationships in the past.
I get into these cycles of seeming depression and boredom where I just can't seem to shake the feeling of 'whats the point of things'.
I get frustrated easily and can be very impatient with minor things. I've really tried to work on this as I want to be a good dad obviously!
My wife is always telling me to talk myself up more, especially in front of the kids. I have the habit of always downplaying anything I do.
I really really find it hard to go to bed at a good time, as I have this constant feeling that I need to make the most of any free time I get. I feel like crap in the morning and tell my self that I'll get an early night, but when evening comes I just scroll YouTube or watch something on my phone until the early hours. I get to the point where I wake up with a banging headache and become ill with a cold or something and sort of force myself to have to go to bed. Then the cycle continues!
I never considered myself to have anxiety really, but in the last couple years I've realised that it's buried and comes out in ways I didn't recognise.
I would suffer panic in bed where I would overheat and become short of breath. I'd get pains in my chest and sometimes feelings of nausea for 2 or 3 days. This would usually happen when I had something happening at work, or a new situation had arisen that I suppose I was worried about subconsciously.
I struggle with organisation and always have done. I now use an app that my wife lists jobs for me to do that I tick off. That helps massively.
I have always considered myself to have an 'addictive personality'. Wether it's drugs, sex (and the pursuit of it when younger) or collecting/ buying things.
I'm sorry this is just a massive list really. It has blown my mind that there may be an actual 'thing' that has happened in my brain that explains some of how I am.
I've got to this point just accepting that I've been shaped this way. But if there is any benefit to getting some help with certain behaviours, it'll be amazing. As I want to be a great dad focusing on my kids, not spending my days with them saying "hang on, in a minute" while I read a review on some random piece of tech that I think I must get. I don't want to be getting irritated in front of them over nothing.
Thanks if you made it all the way to here! Apologies again for the essay. | 2021-12-13T10:33:24.000Z | rfcu44 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Until yesterday, I'd never considered I may have something that can be diagnosed and receive help with. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcu44/until_yesterday_id_never_considered_i_may_have/ |
OkJuggernaut8337 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:25:22.000Z | rfcpsd | 262 | 639 | ADHD | Is low interest in sex a common ADHD trait? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcpsd/is_low_interest_in_sex_a_common_adhd_trait/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:22:31.000Z | rfcobn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Until yesterday, I'd never have even considered the possibility of having ADHD (35M) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcobn/until_yesterday_id_never_have_even_considered_the/ |
Suspicious_Coffee222 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:14:48.000Z | rfcke3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is watching weird videos an ADHD thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcke3/is_watching_weird_videos_an_adhd_thing/ |
joebrotaco | Has anyone else had this problem.
I wanted to try meds and i tried adderal first and i felt ok after the first day and then after that i just started feeling worse, and by the fourth day i couldnt take it anymore it made me feel so anxious and irritable and just horrible, and then i tried vyvanse and same thing after the 4th days i had to get off of it. I know meds dont work for everyone but idk i just think its weird the adderall and the vyvanse did the same thing on the same day like clockwork. | 2021-12-13T10:10:33.000Z | rfci8p | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd Meds dont work | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfci8p/adhd_meds_dont_work/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T10:08:52.000Z | rfchev | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What should ADHD people wanting to Seek Help/ Get a Diagnosis know? (Share experiences/advices) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfchev/what_should_adhd_people_wanting_to_seek_help_get/ |
MrsBPsAnxiety | Hi everyone, I’m relatively new(diagnosed end of October) and finally started meds. I’m in my first week of titration on 18mg of Xaggitin XL, I’m now day 5 and since yesterday I’ve been feeling nauseous to the point of throwing up if I eat a meal.
I’m scared of eating anything now so am having smoothies and protein shakes so not going without. I just wanted to know if anyone else experienced this and if so, what helped you.
TIA | 2021-12-13T10:08:33.000Z | rfcha0 | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Nausea on Xaggitin XL | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfcha0/nausea_on_xaggitin_xl/ |
toscano666 | Im 42 and i have ADHD. I lived with my ex for over 4 years. Because of lockdown and her uni course, i got into loads of debt and we edned up trapped with eachother and arguing over money and isolation.
We argued a few months ago and she called the police. she made false allegations of violence, said i wouldn't let her leave. I was arrested but luckily released with no charge. She had left the house when i came back.
Her accusations to the police were really painful. I put a lot of work into my mental health. Having adhd, i can be snappy and reactive, but i take medication and i never harmed her. The fact she understood my diagnostic makes it so much harder to accept. i stored her things and helped her collect them. Having the "abuser" label on me isn't nice so i helped her move her things without demanding anything.
Earlier this week she finally took all her things and i started trying to approach the matter of our shared debts. She flat out refused to help me with my debts even though i took them on for us. She finished her course and got a good job shortly before she called the police on me.
Right now I'm struggling with money so bad. I can't work due to anxiety and my car broke down. All my bills are in arrears. I tried everything to get her to help me but I'm only playing further into her "abuser" narrative.
I keep thinking about ways to end it all. To make matters worse, she was my only friend and i have very few people i can talk to. I feel worthless, so stupid to have trusted her. I feel so hopeless that with ADHD i will never be happy, i will always be a naive idiot always walking into traps. I'm so tired of this bullshit I'm tired of being me. Sooner or later people realize I'm just a loser and then i become disposable. | 2021-12-13T10:00:33.000Z | rfccww | 9 | 57 | ADHD | Scammed by my ex girlfriend | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfccww/scammed_by_my_ex_girlfriend/ |
bansalib | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:54:58.000Z | rfc9w2 | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Started with Strattera(Atomoxetine)today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc9w2/started_with_stratteraatomoxetinetoday/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T09:54:14.000Z | rfc9jk | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Elvanse wears off pretty fast, but side effects last for much longer. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc9jk/elvanse_wears_off_pretty_fast_but_side_effects/ |
quadrabnmo | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:52:48.000Z | rfc8ux | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Watch videos in 1.75-2x speed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc8ux/watch_videos_in_1752x_speed/ |
Suspicious_Coffee222 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:47:30.000Z | rfc67q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is watching weird videos an ADHD thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc67q/is_watching_weird_videos_an_adhd_thing/ |
palpatin0 | Hello everyone, maybe someone can help me despite my very specific problem related to software development.
I have been working in software development for a few years and now as a web developer for three years. For as long as I can remember, I've had trouble focusing. And I always knew there was something wrong with me and recently I was diagnosed with ADD at the age of 26.
Still, over the past few years I've managed to teach myself frontend technologies and get good at them. For the past three months I've also been learning backend development and development with the cloud, which leads me to my problem: I'm not making any significant progress. And that's because I find this topic very complex in itself, especially when it comes to working with many domain-specific objects, how to test them with unit tests, and how to relate all this to the already existing cloud project.
Unfortunately, my therapy and possible medication won't start for another half year and I'm really worried at the moment that I'll only experience frustration at work for more than half a year. In addition, it should be said that I really like to become very good at these topics. Now let's get to the questions:
* How have you been able to teach yourself new, complex topics in a lasting way? (Doesn't need to be related to IT). How do you learn at all?
* How can I learn that it is easier for me to stay focused in this environment? I work in a home office and the only thing that regularly distracts me are other websites.
* How can I stay more focused in online coding training?
* How do I take proper notes, and how do I learn properly? Tbh, I never really found my way to learn.
I hope some ADDers and software developers here can help me find my way and thanks for reading my problems. | 2021-12-13T09:47:26.000Z | rfc66j | 14 | 2 | ADHD | ADD and software development | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc66j/add_and_software_development/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T09:43:08.000Z | rfc44t | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Concerta is making me feel sedated | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfc44t/concerta_is_making_me_feel_sedated/ |
SnooGrapes9402 | Hey ya’ll, I’m looking for a 5-15 minute podcast recommendation. Reason being: I’m trying to establish a healthy night routine. Brush teeth. Floss. Wash face. Moisturize skin. You know, those things that most people do that I can’t for the life of me get done with any sort of consistency.
For me, I can’t really maintain a boring habit like that unless I tie it to something else. So I’m trying to find a quick daily podcast that’s interesting enough for me to tie to this. That way my brain will go “ok, time to listen to that podcast I like, which also means it’s time to do all this other boring adult shit.”
So yeah, shoot away and let me know if you have any other suggestions for building habits like these. Thanks ya’ll. | 2021-12-13T09:09:34.000Z | rfbmvw | 13 | 4 | ADHD | Podcast Recommendation | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbmvw/podcast_recommendation/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:06:30.000Z | rfblde | 1 | 1 | ADHD | finally got diagnosed and got prescribed ritalin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfblde/finally_got_diagnosed_and_got_prescribed_ritalin/ |
weinergameboy | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:05:48.000Z | rfbkze | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Comment the numbers if any of the following applies to you | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbkze/comment_the_numbers_if_any_of_the_following/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T09:01:11.000Z | rfbijv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | No matter how hard I work, how many sources I consult and practice, I still do worse in exams than people who skimmed the material. Is it ADHD or just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbijv/no_matter_how_hard_i_work_how_many_sources_i/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:59:36.000Z | rfbhdd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Help! dopamine seeking eating . | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbhdd/help_dopamine_seeking_eating/ |
crisukisu | Hey guys,
I am getting a bit flustered over here, and would need some help. :/ I am traveling to the USA from Germany in January for work for 2 weeks and want/need to bring my meds (30mg Elvanse/Vyvanse) with me.
I just spent the past hour trying to understand the actual rules and seem to find very mixed info. Here on Reddit, most people say that a doctor's note/prescription should be all fine, and link to the "5 tips travelling with meds" from the FDA, but as far as I understand, that website points to the DEA for travelling with classified substances? But on the DEA website, all I could find was that Vyvanse indeed is a classified, schedule II substance. But I seem unable to find any info on whether that requires now special documentation, and if so, of what kind?
I also tried to search for recommendations from German websites, and they suggest to get a stamp from the local public health department on your doctor's prescription, but unfortunately due to covid, this department also states that you shouldn't come without an appointment and only in exceptional cases? I already tried calling but no one answered and I started wondering if all of that is even necessary for my stupid 30mg Vyvanse...?
I'd be really appreciative if someone had some insight for me!! Thanks in advance!! | 2021-12-13T08:57:29.000Z | rfbg9e | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Travelling to US with Vyvanse as a foreigner, what do I need to bring? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbg9e/travelling_to_us_with_vyvanse_as_a_foreigner_what/ |
1tzluc1d | You know it all makes sense now...... I wondered why I couldn't focus even when I wanted to, why I couldn't stay motivated or disciplined. Now I sit staring at my laptop, looking at my grades, not knowing what I want to be or study during this sophomore year of college, thinking if I will ever become successful or if this is what I was just destined to be, an unsuccessful person. It hurts that I try, but no one I care about notices it, but it hurts worse when I try but still fail. The kid inside me has gone quiet because I can't hear him anymore. I just dont have any motivation anymore, yet I'm pushing to who knows where and why.
The effect of finding out you have ADHD and thought it would be something that would change as you grew up.
Sorry I sound very negative guys, just been lost lately. | 2021-12-13T08:52:30.000Z | rfbdlm | 2 | 7 | ADHD | I dont want to give up, yet I cry every night. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbdlm/i_dont_want_to_give_up_yet_i_cry_every_night/ |
Poneman192 | Hi 👋 M29
Was diagnosed anxiety + depression age 16 - 18
Was diagnosed BPD in 2017 at 24 25
Was diagnosed ADHD September this year (29)
Over the years I've taken a lot of different medications. I'm currently on 4 for the anxiety, depression and BPD. I've been asked if I'd like to go with medication as treatment for the ADHD and I have no idea what to do now.
Any advice/help?? | 2021-12-13T08:50:46.000Z | rfbcph | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosis / medication advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbcph/diagnosis_medication_advice/ |
fullylovedknownseen | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:49:18.000Z | rfbbxf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Breaks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbbxf/adhd_and_breaks/ |
IamNotYu | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:47:58.000Z | rfbb8l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I was thinking of making a megathread/FAQ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfbb8l/i_was_thinking_of_making_a_megathreadfaq/ |
Whyisittodaysob | I am terrible at everything and when I try to learn something or study, I either can't focus or forget everything I tried to learn. I'm too scared of looking at the Calendar and when I think about the future and what I am going to do, I start turning into an anxious wreck. I wrote a very long and more detailed post but it was deleted accidentally by my own incompetence. I can't even use ADHD as an excuse as there are many people either ADHD that are successful. I'm just a pathetic individual in general. I work with my GF'S family and deliver cars which I would love to do but idk if it will remain that way. I am mainly good at creative things which don't help (Typing 130 WPM, writing even though I have terrible grammar, writing creative ideas for stories, singing, rapping, acting, etc).
If I had a more realistic dream job, I would love to be a writer for a movie or TV Show and develop ideas in a writer's room. I don't think I'm creative enough to make a whole show but I love to bounce ideas off of people and write for some full episodes or parts of a movie.
However, this isn't going to come true and I just have no idea what I can do. My memory is so bad that I have to write notes WHILE I'm writing this post to make sure I don't forget what I am going to say.
Even if I fix my focus, my memory is terrible. Even if I fix my memory, my focus is terrible.
I haven't even come close to finishing college after five years...
I wish I was like those who retain information easily and love to do certain useful talents that help them in a career. I.e. Being good at math and science and thus, engineering is a good probable career for that individual.
I just don't know. Being unable to focus and memory is bad but how about the fact that I put off EVERYTHING ever since I was a kid? I leave everything till the last second, why? Why was I made even think about doing this? Why couldn't I have the motivation to do everything early like some people I know.
Idk.
If you've read this, thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to read the sad plight of a nobody. Thank you so so much. | 2021-12-13T08:45:28.000Z | rfb9z1 | 2 | 10 | ADHD | I'm so scared of the future since I suck at everything..... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfb9z1/im_so_scared_of_the_future_since_i_suck_at/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:44:45.000Z | rfb9md | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Study partner ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfb9md/study_partner/ |
woodjt2 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:32:16.000Z | rfb34m | 9 | 5 | ADHD | Low-key annoyed that [some ] people blame everything on ADHD | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfb34m/lowkey_annoyed_that_some_people_blame_everything/ |
thorynn1 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:18:10.000Z | rfavpu | 4 | 3 | ADHD | My girlfriend has ADHD and I’m not sure what to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfavpu/my_girlfriend_has_adhd_and_im_not_sure_what_to_do/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:12:36.000Z | rfasqn | 0 | 1 | ADHD | The frustrations when ADHD doesn't exist in your country | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfasqn/the_frustrations_when_adhd_doesnt_exist_in_your/ |
thesleepyenthusiast | My husband found this group because I suspected I had an attention problem. Just reading through it, I want to cry. All of these problems, I have dealt with since I was a kid. The number of fights I've gotten into because I didn't do things "as basic as" close things I opened or put things away. Even at the point where my relationships have depended on it, it has just given me extreme anxiety and I still can't get things right. I'm a designer by trade, and that requires extreme attention to detail. I've made checklists a read over them a million times, checked my work a million times and I'll still miss things and frustrate my clients who need multiple rounds of changes. I talk so fast my siblings had to "interpret" for my parents and even then, lots of times nobody has any idea what I'm saying. This is especially frustrating as it's caused a complete breakdown in communication with so many people.
I've seen a doctor and told him I suspect ADD/ADHD but I don't think he took me seriously. Naturally, that made me lust my symptoms faster and more desperately and that made him just cut me off repeatedly. Eventually he prescribed an Anti-depressant - Wellbutrin which I'm on, but he said he doesn't want to send me to a psych because they medicate severely and it changes a lot of people for the worse. I don't know what to do. I'm taking the antidepressant, but I don't think it's the help I need. Anyone have any advice from their own experiences? | 2021-12-13T08:10:51.000Z | rfarsf | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Still not properly diagnosed and seeking advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfarsf/still_not_properly_diagnosed_and_seeking_advice/ |
FatcatNo7 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T08:01:56.000Z | rfan1g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Help! Should you take your meds when sick? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfan1g/help_should_you_take_your_meds_when_sick/ |
Unlucky_Actuator5612 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:51:29.000Z | rfah97 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How has therapy helped you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfah97/how_has_therapy_helped_you/ |
Ayuzama | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:50:14.000Z | rfagm4 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How likely i am to be diagnosed with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfagm4/how_likely_i_am_to_be_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T07:50:14.000Z | rfagm3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How likely i am to be diagnosed with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfagm3/how_likely_i_am_to_be_diagnosed_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T07:43:57.000Z | rfadc1 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I didn’t realize I was organizing books on my first job incorrectly. I was certain they were in the right order, even checked alphabetically; a coworker confronted me about it but I didn’t hear him bc I was in a fog | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfadc1/i_didnt_realize_i_was_organizing_books_on_my/ |
EddieBedlam | I’ll say it again: I hate shopping.
This isn't a guy thing; what a stupid sentiment to hold. This isn't a husband thing; what an even stupider thing to think. This isn't even a "self-checkouts are the devil" thing. (If you think about it, didn't customers get back at self-checkouts by using "clicklist" style pickup? It's like shoppers across the country said: I'll see your "scan your own stuff, silly customer" and raise you a "how about you just shop for me, store worth billions"! What a power move.)
And no, this isn't some anti-commercialist, anti-Christmas sentiment. To be clear, I like buying things (perhaps too much, as I sit staring at the PS5 that came my way about a month ago after one too many margaritas, reflecting on how many Christmas/birthday/anniversary gifts *that* device represents).
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I just...don't like going into stores anymore. While this notion has been kicking around somewhat in my mind for around ten years or more, the intensity of this feeling, this loathing, has crept up monumentally over the last four or five years. I can remember walking out of grocery stores shortly after college for something as "simple" as picking which cereal I wanted that week. Instead of going with a frequent favorite or default option, my brain shut down and I had to get out.
Let me say that again: my normally decently-functioning brain--the one that got me through two post-bachelor degrees with flying colors, the one that has allowed me to become a professional who makes countless decisions every single day--that brain jumped ship because I couldn't handle the number of cereal boxes on the shelf at Kroger.
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It isn't just grocery stores, though those are still the main source of my stress. Shopping for shoes has been painful for years; I grew two shoe sizes in eighth grade, and it's a known fact that once you're at/over a 13, shoe companies just guess at measurements. When you walk into a shoe store as a guy who teeters between a 13/14 (except in dress shoes and boots, which is both tedious and dumb), you see an enormous women's section, a modest men's area, and (hopefully) an okay-sized nook for you and your fellow Yetis to potentially find *something* worth even trying on. (I'll skip the frustration of actually trying on, liking the fit/look/line of something, and overthinking about the total cost and if you wore the right socks or not.)
Even when I find something I like and would wear, I get nervous about the "new-ness" of it and revert to old standbys. I literally had to force myself to throw away a pair of dress shoes I've had for seven years--which were about to wear through in the sole and uppers--so I would put on other pairs that weren't Linus blankets for my feet.
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Here lately, though, clothes shopping is the Crown Prince of Frustration, Anxiety, Stress, and Anger. It's like my own little emotional United Kingdom; each feeling is its own entity, but together they're more than the sum of their parts (and probably have a much cooler flag).
I'm a bigger guy, so that ups the difficulty from the get-go. When I learn the layout of a place and then stores move things around or get rid of items that I'd labeled as "go-to," that's both frustrating and disheartening. Of course, the logical antidote would be to try on items from different brands, but folks, who knows where they are? Does the size on the hanger actually match the size of the garment? Did they discontinue the item that I really liked? Did the online inventory lie about the availability in my size at my store?
The only thing I know when I'm in a store: A size is not a size is not a size. Like in shoes, once you're over a certain weight, companies just guess and hope, which is the same thing you have to do when you take five or six items--you know, the ones you could actually find in colors and patterns that were available to other folks that you liked, that weren't slim fit, that weren't backordered, that didn't have colors that were 'weird' for reasons you can't explain--to the dressing room to figure out what works and what doesn't. Those moments are the emotional equivalent to a roller coaster inching its way up the track; everyone onboard knows that, at some unknown-but-upcoming moment, the drop will happen, and then you just want to close your eyes, shout if you can draw breath, and hold on until you're back where you started.
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My brother recently talked openly about his struggles with anxiety and a brain that won't shut down. My sister is dynamite at doing her nails, and she's often said one of the reasons is that she gets nervous and pops them off after a while. Realizing that I'm generally nervous, then, seems to be me getting into the family business. I suppose it's comforting to know that others you love are on the same ride as you, albeit for different reasons.
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I wish men were allowed/encouraged/educated on/socially permitted to discuss their mental/emotional health. I can think of my brother, my friend who’s a gym co-owner and former firefighter, and the fictional soccer coach Ted Lasso. That's about it.
I've written a lot more than I intended, but I didn't want to shut off the valve when the words about this were actually flowing. This article was written a month into the pandemic, and so it skews more to the "I can't believe that person isn't wearing a mask" side of things. But the idea of a store as our "anxiety-filled hellscape" rings true with me, and has for a while, and is seemingly not letting up. I'm sure that idea, in some fashion and in some environment, is true for many. [Hellscape](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/voraciously/wp/2020/04/28/the-grocery-store-has-become-our-anxiety-filled-hellscape/?fbclid=IwAR0vZL7DHcvbFCgo4l4xbHPab0A-7-ATw_eUw4cNpnLfj_Qe2c7RW4uAahw) | 2021-12-13T07:43:51.000Z | rfada2 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I hate shopping. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfada2/i_hate_shopping/ |
Accomplished-Drag-52 | I say this because it took ME to point out to the psychiatrist, my team in the hospital, my GP, my psychologist, my cognitive behavioural therapist and my addiction counsellor that I might very well have ADHD.
Please don't miscronstrue going to get diagnosed as hoping or looking to get diagnosed.
I went in with all my observations about me in tact and written down. I knew I was different and it took some literature, a nudge from a friend and some serious honesty with myself to pay up and get assessed by a specialist.
I once again emphasise that nobody - not even my family saw it - Only me. Nobody of any certified profession thought about it until I brought it up with them.
It took ME to enlighten the professionals. It took ME to get the referral. And it was ONLY ME who got myself into a position of being diagnosed and subsequently medicated.
For as long as I can remember, my mental health was lead by the professionals. It resulted in a misdiagnosis of bipolar disorder whereby I was subsequently medicated with an antipsychotic for a long term illness which numbed my thoughts and - at times - induced seizures if I was hyper stressed or fatigued.
It numbed my thoughts and deluded me into believing this is now everybody must live.
I went down a drug fuelled rabbit hole, became addicted and reliant on psychoactive drugs which was a recipe for disaster with me being an epileptic already on anti psychotics. It resulted in me being checked into psychiatric care where I was deemed "phenomenally complex" - a bipolar epileptic on an anti psychotic who was poly drugging and had a pretty poor relationship with alcohol - and somehow also graduated the most difficult college course in the college he went to (I guess when you think how you're living is normal, you step up and work harder despite the rampant emotional cost).
When I was eventually taken off the antipsychotic I chose sobriety which was its own challenge. I can now happily say that I'm no longer misdiagnosed nor on that awful tablet and I've been sober for 460+ days (according to my stay sober app; that means I'm 25% of the way to 5 years sobriety and I've saved the best part of 4,000. In my current financial situation I could now comfortable pay off my car loan).
I crawled through, as Morgan Freeman put it, 500 yards of shit and was the only man to come out clean the other end".
It relied on therapists in psychiatric care that actually gave a shit. From there on out, it relied on me. I stayed honest with who I was because sobriety gave me the clarity of mind to do so.
But nobody - and I mean nobody - saw the ADHD signs and symptoms but me.
I'm 30 years old. I'm sober. I'm not bipolar. I struggle with impulsivities and emotional regulation. I'm now medicated for ADHD.
I have never looked back. It has changed my life, and it was me who allowed that to happen.
**Be honest with yourself and don't let somebody else tell you, in their own flowery roundabout way, that they know you better than you know yourself.**
Hope everybody has a nice Monday. ❤️ | 2021-12-13T07:32:10.000Z | rfa716 | 7 | 49 | ADHD | Just a reminder to you that you know yourself more than other people or professionals do | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa716/just_a_reminder_to_you_that_you_know_yourself/ |
Accomplished-Drag-52 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:30:29.000Z | rfa61s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just a reminder that you know yourself more than anybody else ever will. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa61s/just_a_reminder_that_you_know_yourself_more_than/ |
PossumBoots | Has anyone obtained a script for Zyban (Wellbutrin) from an Australian GP? Lots of ADHD medications here have to come from a psychiatrist. Can't get a psych appointment for a while. Hoped i might be able to get a script for Zyban in the meantime, to help with depression symptoms too.
Has anyone got a script for this from a GP in Australia? I think people take it for smoking too. | 2021-12-13T07:29:45.000Z | rfa5l8 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Can I get a script for Zyban from a GP in Australia? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa5l8/can_i_get_a_script_for_zyban_from_a_gp_in/ |
JRD656 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:28:46.000Z | rfa52g | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Taking a break from your ADHD meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa52g/taking_a_break_from_your_adhd_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:27:21.000Z | rfa4bv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just found out I have ADHD…what do I do with this information? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa4bv/just_found_out_i_have_adhdwhat_do_i_do_with_this/ |
PossumBoots | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:25:44.000Z | rfa3hh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can I get zyban (wellbutrin) from an Australian GP? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa3hh/can_i_get_zyban_wellbutrin_from_an_australian_gp/ |
Bennermanos | [removed] | 2021-12-13T07:20:35.000Z | rfa0ph | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Sleeping a lot | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rfa0ph/sleeping_a_lot/ |
Ok_Ganache4842 | I have always had problems doing laundry. It requires a solid amount of executive function - put in washing machine, don’t forget to take it out before it starts to smell, hang it up (omg takes forever), take it down, fold it, put it away. Make sure you have detergent.
It’s just a lot. And then it has flow on effects. If I can’t find clean clothes, I feel dirty and am less likely to be productive.
I’m in Australia and it’s pretty unusual to use a laundromat here. Basically everyone has their own washing machine, so even when I’ve talked with psychologists and coaches about this, it’s never occurred to turn to mention a laundromat.
Because I have such a hard time with laundry, when I had to move the other week, all of my clothes were dirty. All of them. Then someone suggest a laundromat. I was like sure. And holy moly. They wash and dry so fast and feel so good oml.
I just did all my laundry again today there. All done in about an hour, and I really enjoy just sitting there waiting, with a book or on my phone or whatever.
Anyway, game changer for me stress wise.
TL;DR: Laundry requires lots of executive function and causes me a tonne of stress, and so does having dirty clothes. I recently discovered laundromats and they’re amazing! | 2021-12-13T07:14:53.000Z | rf9xmm | 9 | 8 | ADHD | Laundromats are a total game changer for me! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9xmm/laundromats_are_a_total_game_changer_for_me/ |
dan_butmynamesnotdan | So I know that one part of adhd sometimes is the overthinking. I’ve been overthinking basically my entire life but for some reason it feels like it’s hitting me way harder than ever before. It’s mostly been in my relationship, and I trust her with all my heart but it’s like every little thing sets me off and I just spiral down a staircase if overthinking. And I’ve gotten to the point where I don’t know what else to try and I wanted to ask y’all to see if you have any advice, literally any advice will help
Thank you so much | 2021-12-13T07:07:04.000Z | rf9t6q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I stop overthinking literally everything | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9t6q/how_do_i_stop_overthinking_literally_everything/ |
IkeaViking | I'm currently middle-aged but feel that it's highly likely that I have ADHD. I've had many of the key symptoms since I was in the 4th grade. Back then I went to a faith-based school the southern US in an evangelical community that didn't really believe in doctors or science. I recently reached out to my doctor to inquire about getting tested, as I'd like to know if there are things impacting me and my performance in my life and at work and treat them appropriately.
I met with a therapist on a referral and he did an initial screen. At the end he said, "Well, you have many of the identifiers for ADHD, but I know that you are diagnosed PTSD, Attachment Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, and General Anxiety (I went through serious abuse and abandonment during my childhood, and was orphaned as a teenager) and those can all show similar symptoms that ADHD does. SO unfortunately we can't effectively test you and identify if you have ADHD or not. "
My doc agreed to put me on Wellbutrin XL (150 mg/day dose to start with) since they've been trying to get me to take anti-depressants for the last few years and I haven't agreed until now.
I just wanted to vent because it's so frustrating to not be able to get confirmation if I have ADHD or not because I carry too much baggage already. /rant
Has anyone else experienced this? | 2021-12-13T07:03:12.000Z | rf9r44 | 5 | 3 | ADHD | "unable to be diagnosed" Just wanted to vent | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9r44/unable_to_be_diagnosed_just_wanted_to_vent/ |
iSeeiUpvote | [removed] | 2021-12-13T06:55:03.000Z | rf9mds | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can ADHD be mistaken for Covid? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9mds/can_adhd_be_mistaken_for_covid/ |
ThisIsHarlie | This one’s a bit odd but I got drunk the other night at a company party and tried to explain adhd to my boss. I think this is one of the most effective explications I’ve been able to give people when it comes to ADHD symptoms:
Hyperfocus: Stopping a task feels like your stopping half way through peeing.
Paralysis: trying to force yourself to do a task you don’t want to do is like trying to force yourself to pee when you really don’t have to. You can sit there, but nothing happens.
Procrastination: procrastination is different than paralysis. Neurotypical people who procrastinate have to pee, they are just too lazy to go to the bathroom. ADHD paralysis is when someone’s in the bathroom, but doesn’t have to pee.
Pre hyper-focus induced Task distraction (hyper focused on an irrelevant task you can’t do at that specific moment): feeling like you need to pee to the point where you can’t focus on doing what you’re supposed to be doing. Only thing that makes it better is peeing. This is a big cause of paralysis.
Putting a physical sensation to a mental state is really effective when communicating needs. You can use being thirsty or hungry or something but my drunk ass apparently had to pee that night 😂 | 2021-12-13T06:52:44.000Z | rf9l56 | 150 | 2,827 | ADHD | Tip: Use peeing as a way of explaining things to neurotypical humans | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9l56/tip_use_peeing_as_a_way_of_explaining_things_to/ |
cornernope | [removed] | 2021-12-13T06:51:32.000Z | rf9kg5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone else's easiest class always the one with the lowest grades? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9kg5/is_anyone_elses_easiest_class_always_the_one_with/ |
Is-It-Comp-Het | today ive done everything i wanted to do, which i usually fail out.. i think i figured out something to help me focus more, here is what ive done
* Practiced piano
* Practiced guitar
* Practiced singing pitch
* Practiced hand eye cordination by toosing a ball a bunch of times
* Stretched
* Practiced hand writing (i write really badly)
And Ive managed to keep my room very very very organized for two whole days!!
Now all thats left is school, please cheer me on
also i had trouble during alot of these but i find that as long as i have my cat in my room with me i can focus more because my cat provides a little dopamine and distraction but not too long to actually make me not do anything, im going to take a little break from everything because i feel the adhd monster creeping up
edit: aw who gave me an award? thank you so much :D this so cool | 2021-12-13T06:46:42.000Z | rf9hs6 | 2 | 7 | ADHD | Successful day! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9hs6/successful_day/ |
Ill_Box6049 | My clinical psychologist gave me a list of diagnostic impressions, and Unspecified Attention Deficit Hyperactivity (F.90.9) is listed. Does this mean I have ADHD or??? My clinical psychologist gave me a very vague overview of my report and I'm confused. If anyone here's good at reading these kind of reports and would appreciate if anyone here would help me understand it :). If not, it's totally ok! | 2021-12-13T06:44:07.000Z | rf9gd6 | 7 | 0 | ADHD | What is Unspecified ADHD (f90.9)?? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9gd6/what_is_unspecified_adhd_f909/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T06:39:11.000Z | rf9dld | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is Unspecified ADHD (f90.9)?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf9dld/what_is_unspecified_adhd_f909/ |
71277127 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T06:29:57.000Z | rf987x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anti depressants and adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf987x/anti_depressants_and_adderall/ |
Deathready | I just found out about earloop plugs that I wish I knew about earlier! This will drastically help me focus on schoolwork. I also recently discovered the sunrise lamp which helps us who can’t get out of bed.
Anything you recommend that I’ve been missing out on please drop it down.
I already use post it notes and fidget cubes. | 2021-12-13T06:28:19.000Z | rf97ai | 9 | 7 | ADHD | What objects have made you daily life easier? Urgent! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf97ai/what_objects_have_made_you_daily_life_easier/ |
Rodcorte | Are there any of you with 22q11 and adhd?
I myself have NVLD got diagnosed as a kid, but i am kinda considering getting re-evaluated now that I am an "Adult"
cause I'm really doubting the evaluation they got back then also doubting myself if i have adhd or not idk maybe it's just overthinking. I don't know where I'm going with this post.... but yeah guess that's it | 2021-12-13T06:22:00.000Z | rf93mm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 22q11DS and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf93mm/22q11ds_and_adhd/ |
Motherodd | Does anyone else ever have those phases of being hyper-fixated on something you’re interested in except you never actually pursue it?
Like I do this all the time. I’ll look up all the things I need, search for courses, watch videos around said interest but never end up actually participating in it, up until I’m no longer interested.
I think maybe this is like next-level phone addiction where my phone is giving me the same satisfaction of actually doing it lol. | 2021-12-13T06:20:02.000Z | rf92gr | 4 | 18 | ADHD | Never Acting on Hyper-fixations | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf92gr/never_acting_on_hyperfixations/ |
tomford007 | Been on adderall XR for about 3 years now. I take 2 30mg capsules every morning. At the beginning it was a total game changer for me. I've also been on antidepressants for about 10 years so the adderall gave me an overall feeling of better happiness and structure in my life. I was finally getting things done and not just writing the million things I had to get done. I think the adderall helped my awkward social anxiety as well. I have had a problem sleeping since I was a kid and never really addressed it till my depression started spiraling bad. I now take trazodone every night to sleep. Without it I'm a mess all night. So that's my background. My current problem is that as of about 3 months ago the adderall just makes me extremely tired and sleepy now. It can be overwhelming. I've tried taking just half my prescribed dosage and the effects are the same. What happened? What changed? My chemistry? I have almost zero joy in my life except for occasional sex and even then it just feels like a deed sometimes. Has anyone experienced a change like this before? | 2021-12-13T06:19:00.000Z | rf91v2 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Have I hit a plateau? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf91v2/have_i_hit_a_plateau/ |
Someone_84357 | I've been trying to convince my parents for something, but they keep saying no because I've been bad lately. I often have a hard time behaving and my impulse control is non-existent and I can't control myself from doing things that aren't allowed at home like swearing. If they ask me to do something, I'm sometimes too lazy to do it, and I'm personally jealous at others who actually get things from their parents, while I can't because I just FUCKING. CAN'T. BEHAVE! It's just fucking impossible to control myself from doing bad things. How the fuck do I control myself? | 2021-12-13T06:13:38.000Z | rf8yqz | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How do I behave? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8yqz/how_do_i_behave/ |
SimilarRefrigerator1 | Guys, I am absolutely miserable. I was diagnosed with ADHD about two years ago at age 23. I’ve struggled with oversleeping my whole life. And I’m not talking like “oh no it’s 10am, I’ve wasted my whole day”. I’m talking “I went to bed at 10pm and I just woke up at 4pm the next day on accident.” I’ve cried to multiple doctors for years about this and it’s always been blown off as “just a symptom of depression”. I had a sleep study done when I was 18, but they said results showed there was nothing wrong. I usually have no issues falling asleep, it’s just the waking up that’s the problem. My current doctor that finally took me seriously and diagnosed me with ADHD prescribed me Vyvanse (for work days) and adderall (for days off). Once I actually get out of bed and take my meds I’m good to go. I can perform tasks with some normalcy and actually function like a human.
I’ve lost jobs because I just can’t wake up. I sleep through every loud alarm, alarm with wheels, and alarms that shake the bed. I somehow turn all of them off in my sleep without waking up. My husband says I’ll wake up and carry on a conversation but I have no recollection of it later. I’ve tried everything in the book to reset my schedule and wake myself up but nothing helps. I am sick and tired of sleeping my life away. Please help. | 2021-12-13T06:12:00.000Z | rf8xu2 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Can’t Stop Oversleeping | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8xu2/cant_stop_oversleeping/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-13T06:11:26.000Z | rf8xiq | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Troubles with self-assessing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8xiq/troubles_with_selfassessing/ |
DonTheBot | For context, I was bowling at my league today and got very angry because for the second time in a row, my teammate wasn't there, so I had to face dang near 200 average bowlers alone again tonight. It's almost impossible to win games when you're the only one bowling, and I'm only an imperfect novice so I got pretty frustrated. I HATE losing.
Doesn't help that I wasn't bowling all that great tonight. Missing easy spares, my ball wouldn't hook, splits everywhere, so no surprise we got swept and would've gotten swept even if I bowled well. Couldn't do much right until game 3, but I'd say I mentally checked out by the second half of game 2 and was pretty much over everything and wanted to go home.
That game 3 is where the magic happened. I have a very bad temper, one that I'm not proud of, but tonight I got so angry that I started hyper-focusing and bowling well. I've hyperfocused a lot, but this time was different. It felt like ultra-instinct or something. I was in this really calm trance-like state where I wasn't overthinking at all and just rolling the ball without much thought, and it was WORKING. What's that about? Is that normal? I've been hyperfocused before, but this was on another level. | 2021-12-13T06:07:08.000Z | rf8uzv | 4 | 10 | ADHD | Found myself in a zen-like hyperfocused calm state while being very angry/upset. Is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8uzv/found_myself_in_a_zenlike_hyperfocused_calm_state/ |
ShallotSelect1473 | This is another one that I only recently noticed because someone else pointed out that I have a little ritual I do. The person seemed kind of weirded out because apparently I did it all the time.
I doubt I have full blown OCD (but who knows?) so I was wondering if there’s some overlap with adhd?
I have a lot of little rituals that I feel like I have to do. | 2021-12-13T05:58:22.000Z | rf8phw | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Random ocd things? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8phw/random_ocd_things/ |
Classic_Pineapple489 | When I’m talking about a topic and someone tries to put a label on my ideas. Oh! So you’re “adds absolute label”. I know there are labels for things that we do and say, and ideas. But, why when I’m trying to form my own opinion about something, does someone have to inject a label that limits what I’m trying to understand. If I deviate from said opinion into another to try and understand a different POV, they then call me “some other absolute label”.
I hate that! Don’t label my understanding process.
How do I handle this? It’s always a mood killer and makes continuing awkward. | 2021-12-13T05:55:09.000Z | rf8nqf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | It really annoys me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8nqf/it_really_annoys_me/ |
jackie_skywater | I'm talking childrens shows like Centaur World, True And The Rainbow Kingdom, Spongebob, Tenn Titans Go! and cartoons like Final Space, Rick and Morty, Close Enough, Dogs In Space, South Park and my personal favourite, Inside Job. All of these shows have plots, but they're easy to understand for me and the style of cartoons just captures my attention much longer than real-life set shows. I get sick of those quickly, ADHD brain loses interest if it sees it as "nope not colourful or interesting enough we're not watching this garbage". Overall, cartoons, just more enjoyable. I think I've binged almost all of the cartoons on Netflix. | 2021-12-13T05:54:25.000Z | rf8ncv | 11 | 4 | ADHD | Cartoons, I like them. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8ncv/cartoons_i_like_them/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T05:45:31.000Z | rf8i62 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else just watch childrens shows/cartoons? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8i62/anyone_else_just_watch_childrens_showscartoons/ |
Cirn0byl | I will say it’s been a habit of mine since high school and was already getting worse during the covid lockdown in Australia.
During that time I was diagnosed and medicated for my ADHD and I found the period between the weeks I fall into my skin picking habits has reduced to about 2-3 days and I really haven’t exited this episode since around august?
I thought the social aspect coming out of lockdown in October would help yet I find it’s not.
I’ve also got an overactive thyroid so I do believe this is contributing to the habit as I do get waves of little boils to pick at which doesn’t help.
I’ve always maintained acrylic nails to physically prevent myself from doing the same to the skin around my fingers which has always been successful, so I feel like I’m stuck looking for a physical barrier to stop it, just unfortunately being covered in clothes 24/7 is a very uncomfortable option in Australia.
Has anyone found anything to help this? I’ve found things like fidget toys have become useless as I notice myself doing this about half an hour after I’ve started picking. | 2021-12-13T05:43:41.000Z | rf8h2i | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I am genuinely going insane over my skin picking after being medicated for ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8h2i/i_am_genuinely_going_insane_over_my_skin_picking/ |
stressedmessedlol | Hey everyone, last week I was diagnosed with adhd and my doctor prescribed me with a 18mg of concerta once a day to start, it has helped in alot of ways but one issue I keep having is when I study. I usually don't have time to study until the afternoon and even though it's way easier to make myself sit down and study now, after like 30 min of studying I feel like I'm crashing or something, but it feels like I'm just suddenly sleep deprived. Does anyone have similar experiences like this? | 2021-12-13T05:35:31.000Z | rf8c3k | 7 | 2 | ADHD | I keep crashing when I study | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8c3k/i_keep_crashing_when_i_study/ |
ShallotSelect1473 | I don’t really know what’s happened but over the past three years I’ve just been using my phone way more. It could be because I work from home now or it could be because of the pandemic not letting me go out as much.
How are you guys managing your phone time?
I live alone and don’t date so I don’t really have anyone to talk to/do activities with like I used to date/
I moved really far from anyone I know so I don’t have as many friends here. | 2021-12-13T05:29:33.000Z | rf8866 | 16 | 25 | ADHD | Phone addiction. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf8866/phone_addiction/ |
Zippy_the_dog | I have been trying to do some simple homework for probably 3 hours. I am getting close to being done, but it should have taken half an hour max. I can’t even process the questions. I read them over and over and they don’t stick in my brain. I keep hearing music in my head or thinking about random things… I want to do this so bad and I just can’t. I still have to edit a huge fucking essay and that will ideally take an hour, but probably it will take me 3x longer. I just want to get to get this done, but it feels like I’m walking through mud. I watch my sister’s efficiency and I’m so so jealous. Why can’t my best be enough? | 2021-12-13T05:26:58.000Z | rf86j8 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | It is so hard to sit down and try to do homework and just FAIL! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf86j8/it_is_so_hard_to_sit_down_and_try_to_do_homework/ |
Ok-Tip-6551 | [removed] | 2021-12-13T05:25:00.000Z | rf85a8 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and bad food? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf85a8/adhd_and_bad_food/ |
Tomie_Ito | Update: I managed to get all the cleaning done! And bonus round of laundry too. It took four and a half hours, which is honestly a record for me. Thanks to everyone who commented!
I've been super stressed and rundown the past few weeks and I haven't been able to keep on top of the cleaning - and it's getting to the point where the mess is giving me anxiety. I really need to get the cleaning done today!
Please share your favourite cleaning tips, success stories, music... Anything!
Edit: words of encouragement are also much appreciated! | 2021-12-13T05:13:40.000Z | rf7xz7 | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Need motivation and support please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7xz7/need_motivation_and_support_please/ |
Legonois2 | I woke up at 10, hoping to get some work done and eat breakfast. I got finished at 11:30, and I absolutely have no idea where the hours went, but I cancelled plans with my mom and sister for 2 because I really didn't feel up for it and I needed to get work done today. After that, I spent another 2 hours playing Minecraft and 1 hour doing non-productive coding until it was time to go shopping at 5 for food. I got home at 6:30, started cooking and that ended at 7:30. Then I started Spider-Man Homecoming in preparation for Spider-Man No Way Home, I watched that until 9. Then I grabbed my math binder, went downstairs, and then before I did literally anything it was 10:15, and I was told to go to bed. Then I wanted to shower quickly do that I still had time to do some assignments, went into the bathroom, and I finally got out of the shower at 11. What the fuck happened, I have 3 math assignments to do and all my time just disappeared.
It's now 11:06 and I've gotta go spend some time working on my math without my parents knowing, because they'd yell at me to go to bed. Rightfully too, I wasted my day.
I've been scrolling this sub for 2 months now, and I feel like I have the symptoms for inattentive ADHD, but I am too scared to bring it up to my mom again. I wasted my entire day and it's all my fault. I'm so stressed out because I'm so behind but I already passed the due dates for all of it. Is this how most people on this sub feel? I haven't even started on a essay that was due 3 months ago. Fuck me | 2021-12-13T05:06:06.000Z | rf7sya | 1 | 2 | ADHD | WTF did I just do today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7sya/wtf_did_i_just_do_today/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T05:03:04.000Z | rf7qvb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How is your memory? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7qvb/how_is_your_memory/ |
AutoModerator | Got a good grade on a test? A new promotion at work? Finally finished a chore you've been putting off? We want to hear about it! Let us celebrate your successes with you! | 2021-12-13T05:01:09.000Z | rf7pkv | 165 | 38 | ADHD | Did something nice happen? Share your good news with us! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7pkv/did_something_nice_happen_share_your_good_news/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T04:51:09.000Z | rf7ipb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Trustworthy place to get chews? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7ipb/trustworthy_place_to_get_chews/ |
BleachedSoul1 | I'm feeling really overwhelmed. I have many overdue assignments for many classes. I have an essay that was due 3 days ago that I haven't even started and points get docked every day. I used to be a straight a student. Everything came easy. Now I've fallen way behind and am really struggling. I have no idea what to do. All my grades have fallen to b's or worse. I just can't get anything done. I haven't been sleeping well. I've been super stressed out, I'm not eating like I should be. I'm just not in a good spot right now and I really need to get out of it. | 2021-12-13T04:49:30.000Z | rf7hln | 3 | 21 | ADHD | I've fallen way behind | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7hln/ive_fallen_way_behind/ |
elliegsw | For those of you with diagnosed ADHD and living in the UK, what is the process for seeing a psychiatrist and getting your prescription?
I live in Australia and have diagnosed ADHD and am prescribed dexamphetamine. I am looking at relocating to the UK for a few years to do some locum work but am trying to work out a few things first.
I am worried about if I can first of all bring in my dexamphetamine and then how I will continue to have my prescription. There are several month waits for initial appointments with psychiatrists where I live and I am worried about running out of my medication. I would be in the UK for a while so would definitely need to be under a psychiatrist whilst there. How does it work to see a psychiatrist in the first place as well, here we get a referral from a general practitioner to then have a consult with a specialist, is it similar there?
Thanks! | 2021-12-13T04:45:42.000Z | rf7f3t | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question for those in the UK | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7f3t/question_for_those_in_the_uk/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-13T04:43:41.000Z | rf7dq9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I've fallen way behind | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7dq9/ive_fallen_way_behind/ |
validuser1234 | I'm on my 5th day of 36mg of concerta (increased from 27mg) and I find that I feel out of it at the beginning but slightly euphoric and then i hit a point at hour 5-7 where I start to really dissociate. For the past two days after this happening for a bit I've happened to eat a bag of popcorn and for some reason I snap out of it. Is this because I didn't have enough food in my system? My diet is also pretty poor and I don't eat as much as I could (I procrastinate grocery shopping and cooking). So could the dissociation be a result of not receiving enough nutrients? Any help or advice on how to control this dissociation??
I should also note that when this is happening my brain seems to be all over the place. | 2021-12-13T04:40:59.000Z | rf7byp | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Does the amount you eat effect dissociation with meds?? Need advice!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf7byp/does_the_amount_you_eat_effect_dissociation_with/ |
Tooksbury | [removed] | 2021-12-13T04:37:25.000Z | rf79n7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | “Don’t put it down, put it away” and other snappy redirects. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rf79n7/dont_put_it_down_put_it_away_and_other_snappy/ |
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