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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T01:41:45.000Z | r9v90e | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Genuine question (not for kids) - Does adderall drastically increase your sex drive? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v90e/genuine_question_not_for_kids_does_adderall/ |
No-Inside2088 | Hi everyone! Hope you are having an amazing day. I'm 23 and i was diagnosed with ADHD and generalized anxiety disorder a while ago (the ADHD a couple months ago and the GAD was diagnosed a few years back the line). And now that University is over and i don't have a job just yet, i feel like i'm trapped in a cycle, a daily loop, where i can't get out and i can't make myself do stuff. And i just feel as the hours and days go by without nothing i can do about to get out and be productive in my house. I can't do chores cause i just forget and everything feels so heavy to do (mentally).
Have you ever felt like this and what have you done to help it, and hopefully, 'get out of the loop'?
PS: I'm seeing a therapist and take meds for ADHD.
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villainouskim | Hello! Not looking for medical advice. I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was about 15, however I only recently became medicated at 22. I set up an appointment with my doctor later this week to discuss this and my options, but I was wondering if anyone else experiences extreme tiredness/sleepiness when they don't take their meds?
I take Adderall. I don't take it every day because I don't think I need it every day, only when I'm doing schoolwork or I have a lot to get done. And if I go a day without taking it, I've found the day after I can literally sleep all day. It's hard to get out of bed because I'm so sleepy.
I'm going to ask my doctor if perhaps taking it daily would help, or maybe even trying something else. But I was wondering if this is a common side effect, and if so, if there's anything you found that helped? | 2021-12-06T01:38:54.000Z | r9v71h | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Is it common to be extremely tired on days you don't take your meds or after they wear off? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v71h/is_it_common_to_be_extremely_tired_on_days_you/ |
chargas96 | Hey all, I’m new to medication and it’s been a bit of a bumpy start. I’ve been prescribed Rubifen (methylphenidate) 20mg SR in the morning and 10mg IR in the afternoon. Started 4 days ago. I’m 25F, 165cm and weigh about 60 kg.
I’m crashing remarkably quickly - if I take the first tablet at 9am with some coconut yoghurt to try and slow down absorption I feel great and productive by 10am but by 1pm I can feel myself crashing, getting super tired, developing a serious headache and clenching my jaw plus moodiness. Feels bloody awful.
Today I took my IR early to try and continue my workday but it’s 2:30 and I’m wrecked an hour after taking that!
Any advice? I didn’t think my metabolism was that fast… | 2021-12-06T01:38:41.000Z | r9v6wx | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Bumpy start on Rubifen/ World’s fastest metabolism??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v6wx/bumpy_start_on_rubifen_worlds_fastest_metabolism/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T01:37:30.000Z | r9v62s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Genuine question (not for kids) - Does adderall make your sex drive super high? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v62s/genuine_question_not_for_kids_does_adderall_make/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T01:35:39.000Z | r9v4uy | 2 | 6 | ADHD | How can I cry less? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v4uy/how_can_i_cry_less/ |
Honii_bee | Hello <3 i'm new here and i wanted some help!
i have suspected that i have ADHD for a while now and wrote down a few weird things i do that i think might be ADHD. I would love any information or tips that more knowledgeable people can give me! (sorry the list is kinda long)
* Felt sad the whole day because i forgot what i was going to say
* gets the zoomies as soon as it hits seven o'clock
* That one time when i was younger when i would either just eat carrots, or just eat frozen peas
* Why am i deathly scared of ingesting shampoo
* When i need to go somewhere at a specific time and i just check the time every 3 seconds
* What’s your favourite song? hEaD EmPTy
* \*consumes headphone cord\*
* Why did i just create a whole movie in my head about a child on dance moms
* Sings one line repetitively the whole day
* WHY CAN’T I JUST GET UP AND GO TO THE TOILET
* Every time i go to the bathroom i have to pop every single pimple on my face intensely for 10 minutes before i can leave
* Oh that diary i’m supposed to check everyday? Yeah thats shoved at the back of my locker
* \*decides to fall of chair\*
* Can’t. do . anything.
* Wow. i just hyper focused on rats for 3 months
* I Tell really boring unrelated stories really really fast while simultaneously jumping around and making strange hand motions :)
* I have to categorise my dinner into different sections and eat those sections in the correct order. I am always that last to finish eating
* too much effort to make breakfast
* How many tabs did you say you had open!?
* Cries when i get a B+
* \*stares at computer screen full of things i need to do\*
* WHAT IF MY DAD CAN READ MY MIND???
* What if you fell of a cliff? Imagine yourself dying
* \*jumps over gap and lands safely\* WHAT IF I FELL IN AND HIT MY HEAD AND DIED
* I probably have cancer
* When i have to read a book page 100 times because i just didn't comprehend words
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thank you so much!! | 2021-12-06T01:33:23.000Z | r9v38e | 3 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD symptoms? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9v38e/adhd_symptoms/ |
rozyisbadatlife | My occ- therapist told me a few things. (these are based on my life adjust as needed)
1. For online asynchronous classes set the same time each week, go to the library and behave like its a real class.
2. if you are having trouble doing something dedicate 30 mins to it. Don't want to take notes for physiology class? Sit down for 30 mins, if at the end you still find it unbearable then you don't have to do anymore (at least you accomplished some). Most of the time you will realize its not as insurmountable as you thought and can go past the 30 mins.
3. \^\^\^ In addition, something is better then nothing. Doing a little bit of something and then listening to yourself and stopping is better then forcing yourself, getting overwhelmed and doing nothing.
4. Reward yourself. I know it sounds stupid but hear me out. I like expensive coffee, so, if I am having trouble getting out to class or the library I make a point to grab coffee on the way there or back.
5. Double body. Sit with a friend, get to a public space, facetime somebody, join an online study zoom. Even if you prof posts lecture notes go to lecture because then you KNOW you will take that weeks notes | 2021-12-06T01:21:19.000Z | r9uuix | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Occupational Therapist Rec | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9uuix/occupational_therapist_rec/ |
StrangerIsDead | i don’t know if this is an ADHD thing or a “my family” thing, as many people in my family both have ADHD and are super picky when it comes to food. i’ve always been pretty picky, if there’s a soup with something i dislike in it i’d just avoid the thing i dislike, but with a scrunched nose. but my cousin (who also has ADHD) basically only eats bread and chips, and my grandpa has to put three pounds of salt in a green bean casserole to eat it without gagging. my mom is undiagnosed, but I’m pretty sure she has ADHD and was really picky when she was younger as well.
(repost because the subreddit didn’t like the title) | 2021-12-06T01:20:26.000Z | r9utuj | 4 | 1 | ADHD | pickiness (or being picky in the past) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9utuj/pickiness_or_being_picky_in_the_past/ |
lllaaauuurrreeennnnn | A new personal high score!
I’m unmedicated and have really been struggling to keep up because I’m taking 20 units at my college (I don’t know why I thought that was a good idea lmao). I have to complete them within the next week because school ends for this semester on Friday Dec. 10th. Any other students stressing as winter break gets closer? 😅 | 2021-12-06T01:20:22.000Z | r9utsy | 28 | 40 | ADHD | I have 47 missing assignments | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9utsy/i_have_47_missing_assignments/ |
wellwelcome88 | I have adhd and Tourette’s. I have anxiety and social anxiety and attachement issues.. I tend to become a bit of a hypochondriac from adhd meds.. I think I have depresssioj but somehow my mood is always bubbly and happy I just ignore my problems until they’re unmanageable bc I can’t deal w stuff
I wish I could take medication for low self esteem
Should I be on a different med than just adhd meds. I hear adhd and Tourette’s ppl need anti psychotics.. I used to have trichotrillonomia but don’t anymore | 2021-12-06T01:13:59.000Z | r9up7b | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Adhd and Tourette’s meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9up7b/adhd_and_tourettes_meds/ |
jugglingcandytrees | How do I stay hydrated on meds? I either drink too much water and irritate my bladder or not enough and end up with a really bad crash. Why is it so hard to find the perfect balance? It's like my brain isn't craving flavored water, but finds normal water too bland. Like is there a special cup or trick to help me drink enough at certain intervals?
Tl;dr: How to stay hydrated on meds? | 2021-12-06T01:13:40.000Z | r9uoyq | 202 | 204 | ADHD | Staying hydrated on meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9uoyq/staying_hydrated_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T01:13:15.000Z | r9uoo5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have 47 missing assignments | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9uoo5/i_have_47_missing_assignments/ |
Autistmus_Prime | And even if they do care, not like i can get a diagnostics cause we do be not very rich and to get an appointment and diagnosis can be several hundred euro.
Cant focus in school and study for tests, cant work on stuff i enjoy like tattooing or playing guitar, and get told im "just being lazy" several times a day. Gonna fail my exams and get given out to by parents and teachers, will have my pc, phone and free time taken away, will lose contact with friends, continue to fail exams, fail my leaving cert next year and then get kicked out and have to join the countless homeless people in the streets of Dublin
I hate myself
No vent or rant flair so wasnt sure which to use | 2021-12-06T01:12:56.000Z | r9uofg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Be me, 17, think i got adhd but am too scared to talk to my parents about it cause doubt they would care | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9uofg/be_me_17_think_i_got_adhd_but_am_too_scared_to/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T01:09:55.000Z | r9umcb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else suuuuper picky? (or, at least used to be?) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9umcb/anyone_else_suuuuper_picky_or_at_least_used_to_be/ |
marklikesmath22 | I’ve been undiagnosed for 36 years until recently. That’s another story in itself. Anyone that goes undiagnosed knows the hell that is associated with it….
That being said, after receiving the ‘best news of my life’ (there actually being an answer!) that there was actually something wrong.
I’ve been shamed my whole life for being ‘different.’ My own parents, teachers, guidance counselors, the usual laundry list. I’ve been embarrassed, shamed, and mocked my whole life for being different, I feel like this just put a name to it.
I can just hear my parents now…. ‘Awww poor babies got ADD. Is that gonna be your new excuse for everything? I think it’s a bunch of bullshit. You’re gonna get all fucked up off that Adderall shit. You just need to man up’
I’m sure everyone has heard something similar to the above. Not only do I want to accept myself and be accepted by others, I want to one day be actually, maybe, dare I say it, ‘proud’ of who I am’. Wow. What a lofty goal.
It’s hard to be proud of yourself and love yourself when your whole life you’ve been mocked and embarrassed for being different.
Does anyone else feel guilty simply for having ADHD like I do????? | 2021-12-06T01:09:14.000Z | r9ulub | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Why do I feel so guilty for having adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ulub/why_do_i_feel_so_guilty_for_having_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T01:08:23.000Z | r9ul8p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Help please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ul8p/help_please/ |
aaron141 | Relationships whether it be friends, family, dating, work life and others (thats I dont know or missed)
Well I dont know if its my personality or ADHD or both but currently I cant build many friendships other than the few ones I have because I think I cant maintain it to be long lasting.
A lot of times I go off topic, or blank out mid discussion. Sometimes I dont have much to say at all unless Im engaged in doing something or me and someone else or other people are doing the same thing.
My memory been awful since I was kid like I can forget things that Ive been told 5 mins or so prior.
Theres are times where I cant go from point a to point b when it comes to performing certain actions
Im just disorganized, I end up organizing stuff slowy and just leaving it like that or dont put much effort.
I just get bored all the time and I dont think Ive had a lot of really close friendships other than with my parents and some family members.
I have social anxiety and I just dont want to start getting to know people when I feel like Im just gonna bore especially when I get bored of topics realy quick other than the ones i think that are really interesting.
Sorry Im all scattered I think, I just found out that I do have ADHD and was wondering how life could be different if I didnt have it to begin with.
Anyone have advice or would like to share stories when it comes to being social or building on relationships? | 2021-12-06T01:08:10.000Z | r9ul2a | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Discussion about ADHD and relationships | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ul2a/discussion_about_adhd_and_relationships/ |
AssociationShot1081 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T01:07:41.000Z | r9ukq2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting kids medication filled | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ukq2/getting_kids_medication_filled/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T01:06:39.000Z | r9uk19 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | When you try to do the right thing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9uk19/when_you_try_to_do_the_right_thing/ |
Light7337 | Hey Reddit,
I am wondering how these 2 different solutions to our common problem work on you. I am testing both medications with my doctor, to find out what works the best.
Currently I am prefering Methylphenidate, because it is reliable and I have a better feeling for it, with less side effects.
It makes me feel Good, and I can focus calmly while still maintaining somewhat of a personality / social awareness.
I am usually a collected, calm, emphatetic individual and I can laugh with all of my heart about much stuff. On vyvanse however I became such a Dick. I had to conciouslly remind myself that I am working with people, because I would just ignore them or not notice them whatsoever.
I did get a lot of stuff done tho, but that was all that mattered to me, I could not enjoy the simple things in life any longer.
Lisdexamfetamin pro :
High work ethic
Get way more stuff done
No Anxiety
Lisdexamfetamin contra :
Can not enjoy life
Can not sleep
I lose my soul / Total lack of Empahty
Works way to long for my taste
Methylphenidate pro :
Little to No side effects for me
More flexible with usage, due to shorter working time
I can be productive and keep having fun in life
Methylphenidate contra :
The come down is unpleasant
Sometimes the focus is there, but I can't control where it goes. / less productive from time to time
I hope someone can relate to that, I also hope to learn from you how the meds work for you.
Please be aware that this my subjective experience with these 2 meds. I know that some people experience serious side effects with lisdexamfetamin and methylphenidate. | 2021-12-06T01:00:13.000Z | r9ufen | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Lisdexamfetamin vs Methylphenidate ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ufen/lisdexamfetamin_vs_methylphenidate/ |
chown757 | Is this common in people with ADHD? My sleep schedule has never been consistent, save for during the school year for when it had to be. Some days I go to bed at 10 pm and wake up at 7 am. Others (possibly the very next day) I go to bed at 4 am and wake up at 2pm. Sometimes I might even sleep through the whole day, sometimes I might stay awake for a full day. My sleep schedule is a mess and is not consistent or predictable at all.
Is this common with ADHD? Or is this a different issue altogether? I've been contemplating getting a sleep test, albeit for different reasons. My sleep schedule has been like this since I was 8 or 9, now I'm 18. What gives? | 2021-12-06T00:56:47.000Z | r9ucwl | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Issues with sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ucwl/issues_with_sleep/ |
PineappleShirtLife | Long time lurker, first time posting. I'm in my early 30's and I didn't get diagnosed until my mid-20'. You know how we're all supposed to have impulse shopping problems? I certainly do and it's mostly all decently nice tools and hobby stuff. Then I hold onto the stuff, sometimes without it ever even being used, just taken out of the packaging. Finally I get into a cleaning phase and it "just has to go!" Usually in the trash, because if it's gone it no longer occupies a space in my mind. Oh man if that were the case... Because here I'm sitting here thinking, "I really should've sold that on the marketplace, I should've sold a lot of things, like everything
I yeeted." Any of y'all have this problem? | 2021-12-06T00:45:07.000Z | r9u4ko | 10 | 9 | ADHD | Throwing stuff away, when you should probably sell it online. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9u4ko/throwing_stuff_away_when_you_should_probably_sell/ |
Aggravating-Look1689 | You know the cycle, meet someone, get super excited and into them, they're the true love of your life. Finally you move past a few dates and you're the best couple ever. 1 month later you're bored and can't wait to leave so you can engage in the latest hobby... rheyre still great, but the spark has disappeared...
Any advice on how to deal with this? If nothing else to keep it all in proportion! | 2021-12-06T00:42:22.000Z | r9u2lt | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Any advice on how to not hyperfixate in relationships, then get bored a month after it actually starts? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9u2lt/any_advice_on_how_to_not_hyperfixate_in/ |
Parking_Watercress18 | [removed] | 2021-12-06T00:42:17.000Z | r9u2jf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just got diagnosed with adhd and idiopathic hypersomnia, (extreme daytime fatigue) is there ANYONE out there like me? What meds to take? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9u2jf/i_just_got_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_idiopathic/ |
rb_oyle | Hello! 33yoF here.. I've been taking Adderall for about 6 months now and I'm finding a foul smelling sweat has occurred. Not an excessive sweating issue...same amount of sweat, just doesn't smell like my usual sweet pheromones. My smell is hugely important to me!!
Have you guys found a similar effect with Concerta or other med options? Do you have suggestions on how to get rid of the odor while continuing to treat the condition?
Thank you for your input!! | 2021-12-06T00:40:54.000Z | r9u1k4 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Stinky sweat ball | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9u1k4/stinky_sweat_ball/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T00:36:50.000Z | r9typf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What gives you extreme sensory issues? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9typf/what_gives_you_extreme_sensory_issues/ |
danielrosehill | This is probably one for the medical pros although I thought that some fellow ADHDers may have got a grasp on the science in a more relatable way.
Many drugs for ADHD work on both the dopamine and norepinephrine systems - I believe both the stimulants and Wellbutrin, which is an NDRI.
While I'm sure this is massively over simplifying the science, I've always struggled to understand why we need more of both neurotransmitters.
What would happen, for instance, if docs attempted to treat ADHD with a med that only worked on dopamine? Just trying to make sense of all this! | 2021-12-06T00:36:45.000Z | r9tyn5 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | ELI5: What role do dopamine and norepinephrine play in ADHD? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tyn5/eli5_what_role_do_dopamine_and_norepinephrine/ |
Lord_Faded | [removed] | 2021-12-06T00:35:16.000Z | r9txjy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm questioning if I have ADHD. [18|M] | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9txjy/im_questioning_if_i_have_adhd_18m/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-06T00:29:16.000Z | r9tt5b | 2 | 0 | ADHD | How to help encourage my partner without making them feel lame or not want to do it? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tt5b/how_to_help_encourage_my_partner_without_making/ |
shelbyvking1994x | Can anyone else relate to being super messy? It’s been a problem for me my whole life, literally. I will have every motivation of cleaning and I’ll do it for a little bit and inevitably get distracted and I’ll have a half cleaned space. It’s actually gotten me in trouble a lot, whether it be at jobs, with roommates, or landlords. I live in fear somebody will randomly drop by my house and know what a slob I am. Having company feels like such a task because I know it’ll involve a deep clean before someone comes over. So, spontaneously having a friend over isn’t something I can do. I also feel like I’m setting an awful example for my toddlers.
What strategies do you guys use to keep your spaces clean? | 2021-12-06T00:27:37.000Z | r9tryv | 7 | 7 | ADHD | I wish I could keep my places clean | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tryv/i_wish_i_could_keep_my_places_clean/ |
OMG_IDancedWithAGay | Was speaking to my manager at work about some of my struggles, mainly around things like not being able to focus in meetings, starting large tasks, not being able to write or read documentation for any length of time etc.
Literally every time I mentioned something it was just met with "everyone's like that" or "Yeah sure I'm like that".
I've noticed it with a couple other people I've tried to explain other things to; "oh well yeah everyone struggles with chores / cleaning", "everyone has days where they don't do anything".
I can't help feeling like it just belittles the struggles I face literally every day just because a "normal" person experiences it occasionally :(
</rant> | 2021-12-06T00:25:02.000Z | r9tq5t | 4 | 13 | ADHD | Suffering from symptom reduction from others | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tq5t/suffering_from_symptom_reduction_from_others/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-06T00:21:25.000Z | r9tni4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else fed up of symptom reduction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tni4/anyone_else_fed_up_of_symptom_reduction/ |
Dauntlesse | I heard from a couple of folks that having a smartwatch to help with your ADHD is super helpful.
I was thinking of getting myself a apple watch as an xmas present, but i wanted to get anyone's feedback who has a watch what they think about using it to organize oneself. Mainly for timers/checklists or any other cool hack you've used to manage ur day.
thanks! | 2021-12-06T00:14:56.000Z | r9tiov | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Smartwatch to help with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tiov/smartwatch_to_help_with_adhd/ |
GorillaS0up | Sorry this will be a long rant. I understand if you don't read it. I know we are all struggling but I just need to get this out of my system
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**TL;DR** - The system isn't built for us and it's making me angry and hopeless
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This shit isn't fair. I know life isn't fair to begin with but I'm just angry right now. Let's start with what is on my mind at the moment. And that's money. The money to be able to be an independent adult. I'm fucking 30 and still live with my parents. It's embarrassing. Right now I'm trying to practice interviews for IT help desk and I got my entry level cert and do some home labs but the technical questions in interviews are compromised basically of memorization. And I have a diagnosis of ADHD which in my particular case causes impaired recall (and a whole bunch of other shit)
If I push myself mentally I literally experience migraines. Adderall was great but it caused me to lose 4 hours of sleep. And yes I've tried other medications. They have their positives but I don't need to go into all that right now as to why that didn't work out. Maybe it will one day I don't know. So to get a job or keep a job most people need adequate recall. I don't have that and yet I'm held to that standard. How am I supposed to do technical questions during IT interviews if I CAN'T REMEMBER ANYTHING.
You know how **I** do troubleshooting? I Google it. All of it. Because my brain can't store the information properly but Google can. But you can't Google it during an interview now can you. Now to be fair I do have the capability to recall information. It's just very impaired.
Anyway this lack of employment and independence was on my mind recently after going to visit my brother's girlfriend's family. My brother isn't exactly independent either but his girlfriend has a family full of people my age who are doing very well. The thing is I am comparing myself which I shouldn't but I think it's more about the fact that I want the things Neurotypical people have (relationships, money, a functional brain) but I don't know how to get them. Okay I know I can't get a functional brain but you get my point.
Sitting there around people in their late 20's who are married, make $100k a year or both those things just made me feel worthless. They're all very nice people but I hated every minute of it. And now I sit here thinking what in the hell am I going to do. I'm 30. I need to start my **fucking** life already but *every* *single* *step* is an uphill battle without medication. I only took Adderall a few times because it wrecked my sleep too much but I do remember feeling **SO** in control of my brain when I was on it.
The doctor had said "well adderall wouldn't help with impaired recall" which makes me think even with medication I'm completely fucked.
Anthony Bourdain said " there's a guy inside my head who wants to lay in bed, smoke all day, and watch cartoons and old movies. My whole life is a series of strategies to avoid, and outwit, that guy."
The only difference here is replace smoking with cookies and YouTube (I need the dopamine), bed with big chair and strategies with I HAVE NO STRATEGIES MY BRAIN IS BROKEN | 2021-12-06T00:14:25.000Z | r9tics | 22 | 86 | ADHD | It's Not Fair. We are held to a standard that neurologicaly speaking is impossible | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tics/its_not_fair_we_are_held_to_a_standard_that/ |
_ep1x_ | I always hear about people with adhd having huge emotional reactions to even the slightest events, but i'm the complete opposite. I almost never cry, even when it's fully justified. Even when I should feel angry i can never bring myself to actually get mad. I feel almost no stress or anxiety, even when i have a ridiculous amount of work due. Consequently i feel almost no motivation and it's a nightmare to get work done when i don't have stress as a motivator. Is anyone else like this? | 2021-12-06T00:12:46.000Z | r9th74 | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Is it just me who feels very weak emotions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9th74/is_it_just_me_who_feels_very_weak_emotions/ |
Akarii03 | I'm currently 18, studying in university. Every frickin time I'm learning something new, I learn it to the perfection and have no problem doing exercises about it, but when I come home I literally can't remember what I learned about that day. And since my motivation to study is almost always zero, when I go back and take a test about those exact same things I had learned to the perfection, I literally can't remember how to do it. I sometimes figure it out all over again by myself during the test, and other times I don't, but I never remember them from the time the teacher explained it. Is it an ADHD thing or do I just have a poor memory? | 2021-12-06T00:10:52.000Z | r9tfsu | 6 | 4 | ADHD | Does ADHD make it harder to memorize things? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tfsu/does_adhd_make_it_harder_to_memorize_things/ |
Impossible_Adagio_25 | Hello there! I recently got prescribed 15mg of IR adderall (I’ve been on concerta and vyvanse before, I’ve been diagnosed since I was 10-11) and adderall has been a god send for me, it allows me to get to a functioning state! The doctor told me to only take one a day though, but since I’m a college student my schedule runs from 9am to the very late evenings (art student things) and that causes a bit of a pickle.
The IR only lasts 4-6 hours, leaning more on the 4 hour mark due to my extremely fast metabolism. So I tend to have to plan when important things I need to get done are so I can take it then! The problem occurs during the times I can’t take the medication.
Like today for example, I slept extremely late due to not being able to get out of bed, and when I finally woke up fully I had a bombardment of texts saying I missed a family event that I had completely forgotten about, much to my dismay. I then proceeded to lay in bed for most of the day because I have to wait until the time to take my medication, but then it means I’m not getting anything done at all. Not that I don’t wish to get anything done, I have plenty of work I need to do but due to the short acting period of my medication I can only take it when I have something important going on later in the day, but it causes me to be unable to function normally earlier in the day. I could take it early, but the crash from the medication makes me extremely sleepy which is not good for a college student who has evening classes. Does anyone have any tips on what to do to get things done and function when you can’t take the medication to function properly sometimes? | 2021-12-06T00:09:04.000Z | r9tefm | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How to function outside of medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tefm/how_to_function_outside_of_medication/ |
lilacfantasy | I got my diagnosis for ADHD in October and I’m finally getting put on medication to help with it. I’m starting with Adderall and seeing how I react to it. I have issues with anxiety and I’m already taking meds that are sort of stimulating to begin with so we aren’t sure how to respond.
Are there any tips you wish you knew before taking Adderall or any stimulant for ADHD before you took it?
(I also may try Strattera if Adderall is too stimulating for me. Since it’s a non stimulant, I’m not sure how it helps. I’d be happy to hear some of your experiences with Strattera too since I’m not sure what to expect.) | 2021-12-06T00:08:19.000Z | r9tdw0 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Tips before taking meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9tdw0/tips_before_taking_meds/ |
ScawedyCat | I am 25 years old and have suspected I have ADHD for years, and finally got around to bring it up to my parents. ( Yes, I still depend a lot on my parents. But that’s an issue for later) I live in a country with very few professionals, and most psychologist have a negative view on ADHD, so my last 2 have straight up refused to consider it since “only kids have it”.
I have two options which would most likely agree to assess me. I wanted to know your experience with either to see how I can have a good first experience.
One of them is a Psychiatrist, who we (my family) already knows. He treats my aunt who has severe autism, among other things. He mentions ADHD among the things he deals with in his webpage, which tells me he’s not biased against it and might have adult clients with it.
The second option is a Pediatric Neurologist, who specializes in Autism, ADHD, and other learning and conduct disorders.
The reason I’m asking is because I’ve heard that people who deal with ADHD in kids often see their clients well into adulthood and might have experience with how it presents itself, but if ends up not being ADHD the psychiatrist might be able to help me out straight away instead of having to look for someone else. I struggle making big decisions, so I’d like to hear other people’s opinions.
I’m so sorry for the long post, I have hard time summarizing things. Also sorry for my english, it’s not my first language. 😭 | 2021-12-06T00:03:18.000Z | r9ta3c | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Regular Psychiatrist or ADHD Specialist (pediatric) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ta3c/regular_psychiatrist_or_adhd_specialist_pediatric/ |
kaleguise | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:51:41.000Z | r9t1a6 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How you can pair caffeine with ADHD medication (specifically Adderall) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9t1a6/how_you_can_pair_caffeine_with_adhd_medication/ |
sunshinelink | I recently found out about having ADHD and though I know it affects my life and ability to hold relationships and ability to do anything else, I don't know if I can get meds, I don't have insurance and I don't have the kind of money that I would need to pay for it each month... can I actually go without? Can I get better or handle it without meds?
I don't know anything about this, and honestly I'm scared I'll never have a normal life or be happy without meds I can't afford. | 2021-12-05T23:49:45.000Z | r9szu3 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Questions about meds, do I need them to live a "normal" life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9szu3/questions_about_meds_do_i_need_them_to_live_a/ |
FeistyCoffeeQueen | Hello everyone. I was curious if any of you have any tips or tricks to stay consistent with your hygiene? I have noticed that with ADHD, I have struggled all my life with small tasks like brushing, flossing, washing my hair. I so badly want to get myself into a morning and night routine with skin care and everything but I find it just so hard to stick with it for more than a few days.
I would love to hear any tips or practices that any of you have in place to help with this? Thank you so much in advanced. | 2021-12-05T23:49:23.000Z | r9szlp | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Good Hygiene Practices | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9szlp/good_hygiene_practices/ |
StrayTeen | I'm an Indian girl with ADHD and a lot of people don't seem to understand my experiences. The main issue is that fact that South Asian cultures tend to put such high pressure on us to succeed and become overachievers. Asians are seen as the "model minority" and it puts us in such a huge burden. I'm an engineering major in college and I'm such a nerd who's "obsessed" with math and math based science. I'm also on the "gifted" range of IQ, so a lot of people have certain assumptions about me saying that "I'm good at school, I look like a high achiever". The problem is, my ADHD and issues with focusing, constant daydreaming, and executive functioning issues have had a major affect on my grades in high school. I got like an average GPA, especially because I wasn't diagnosed at the time. I did have access to accomodations, but I was so desperate to be like the other Indian kids, who were such high achievers that I didn't take them. A lot of them have been on the board for multiple clubs and would take 6 AP classes a year, and I couldn't do all that because it was way too much for me, and I was the type of person who had horrible social skills, and I would often feel alienated like I don't fit in. I constantly compare myself to other people, and those assumptions that people have on me, while it does feel good that I'm told I'm "smart", it makes me feel like I'm incapable of struggling with school, even though I shouldn't have to feel that way. I've been placed with such a huge burden, and stuff like ADHD is often stigmatized within South Asian communities and I know that I'm not the only South Asian person with ADHD or any related condition who feels this way. | 2021-12-05T23:49:01.000Z | r9szcv | 7 | 19 | ADHD | Having ADHD and being South Asian | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9szcv/having_adhd_and_being_south_asian/ |
YvngDef | Guys i have a terrible tendency of ghosting my jobs and I dont know what to do. Over the years I've gotten to work for some amazing companies and at each place would work my way to valued addition to whichever team or project im on. I read a line here that i use to describe my experience with ADHD as "living your life liek youre always on the verge of getting fired" thats how i feel consistently even outside of work but any little anxiety has caused me to freeze up or make a tiny mistake or have this looming fear that when things are going good its only a matter of time before i fail or mess things up. Well i usually leave or stop showing up before that happens, (past jobs was because I'd have tough times regulating my sleep) this time around i had a remote job from home in sales. I quickly became a top salesmen and again spiraled out of control. no call no showed for a week.. and at this point i'm too embarrassed with no excuse to even try and apologize and I know this is a very weak minded post.. and I'm to blame for all of this but for anyone who experiences these high levels of anxiety that makes you freeze up. how do you manage? | 2021-12-05T23:44:52.000Z | r9swc6 | 7 | 18 | ADHD | Ghosting my jobs | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9swc6/ghosting_my_jobs/ |
throw_awayacc7 | Just like the title said. Very straight forward. I know deep down that she needs someone who can give her needs and wants and that someone isn’t me. She definitely gets frustrated with me. The biggest thing is I always feel like I don’t have time in the world to do everything I need and want so I put her needs and wants second. She will asked if I could drive her and I would get frustrated. She tells me to switch the laundry over and I would forget it.
The thing is, I already tried breaking up with her once. I said that I realized that I’m not mature enough to be in a relationship with her. She deserves better and that my anxiety, depression and ADHD is not going to help our relationship together. She said that she’ll deal with it but I can tell that she will reach her limit soon. It was also hard coz she said to me that “so what? You get better and I don’t even get to have your better self. Somebody else will.” And I told her that that’s not the point of breaking up with her. I just have a lot of deal with and idk if I can give her needs and wants. She also threaten to kill herself. Idk what to do. I’m so depressed coz I feel stuck. I just want what’s best for her and I know it’s not me rn.
Edit: Yes, I’m currently on Anxiety meds. I’m currently trying to get ADHD meds too | 2021-12-05T23:44:36.000Z | r9sw5c | 20 | 8 | ADHD | I want to break up with my GF because I think my ADHD is really affecting our relationship | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sw5c/i_want_to_break_up_with_my_gf_because_i_think_my/ |
FeistyCoffeeQueen | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:37:46.000Z | r9sr5b | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Self-Care and Good Hygiene | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sr5b/selfcare_and_good_hygiene/ |
anonomous6969 | So I got this app called Habit and it was great for a while but I’ve noticed now I forget to use it to check off what I do and don’t get done in my day. Some days I don’t even bother opening the app but knowing people can see if I’m brushing my teeth or not I think will make me actually do it and check it off too so I’m gonna share my link in the comment so you guys can if I’m doing my tasks
Feel free to share your links too and we can keep each other accountable together :) | 2021-12-05T23:35:20.000Z | r9spcz | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Accountability App | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9spcz/accountability_app/ |
Laris8213 | Okay so basically I may or may not have ADHD, but when I was reading the Wikipedia article about ADHD, I noticed this:
"Problems with sleep initiation are common among individuals with ADHD **but often they will be deep sleepers and have significant difficulty getting up in the morning**."
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I resonated with this sentence a LOT since this practically describes over 99% of my waking cycles. As I said I may or may NOT have ADHD, but I've always wondered how my friends and family seem to have absolutely no trouble waking up. So why is that? How does ADHD make people become deep sleepers who have difficulty waking up? Asking for a friend here. | 2021-12-05T23:33:27.000Z | r9snwv | 0 | 4 | ADHD | I read on the Wikipedia article about ADHD that ADHDers tend to have deep sleep and have significant difficulty waking up. Why is that? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9snwv/i_read_on_the_wikipedia_article_about_adhd_that/ |
deepank2506 | Like one of the things I distinctly remember from my childhood is that I used drop everything and anything. It's like if I have to hold my hands somewhere, they're shaky. On top of just being distracted very quickly and end up just dropping things, like I'd suppose generally people would still have the ability to hold things with a decent chance of not dropping things.
Of course, I've developed anxiety over it so I don't usually drop things anymore but it'd be nice to figure out what it is exactly, like is this an ADHD thing? | 2021-12-05T23:33:01.000Z | r9snkt | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Did you guys drop alot of things in your childhood? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9snkt/did_you_guys_drop_alot_of_things_in_your_childhood/ |
MKIS101010 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:29:54.000Z | r9sl87 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did anyone else relate hardcore with Neville in that scene in H.P. when he got the Rememberall gift? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sl87/did_anyone_else_relate_hardcore_with_neville_in/ |
Flounoe | I just started on five mg of Adderall literally three days ago, but I’m incredibly impatient and need any tips y’all have on dealing with comedown, since my next appointment is in one and a half weeks. I know I need a higher dose, or maybe multiple doses, because the five mg does help a little for the first two-ish hours after taking it. After the two hour peak the comedown starts. I get irritated and my dysphoria comes back full force. I’m definitely going to tell my doc about all of this. I just want to know if there’s anything I can do to make the comedown less horrible. I eat before taking the dose, drink lots of water, and eat something when the comedown starts. Is there anything else I can do? | 2021-12-05T23:25:56.000Z | r9si9p | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Come down is awful | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9si9p/come_down_is_awful/ |
MaeEliza | As above, my executive disfunction makes appointment making extremely challenging.
I just don’t even know how to start.
Do I just make an appointment with a random psychologist? Psychiatrist? Just call around and hope for the best.
I mean scheduling a regular doctors appointment is incredibly difficult for me. I don’t know how to make this happen, but the very fact that it’s so difficult makes it highly apparent that getting in to see someone is very necessary. Anyone else experience this?
I’m also worried that because I am fairly “functional” my concerns might be dismissed, even though I feel like I am holding my life together with scotch tape and panic due to my executive disfunction. | 2021-12-05T23:23:09.000Z | r9sg6n | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Too ADD to ever get a diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sg6n/too_add_to_ever_get_a_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T23:22:51.000Z | r9sfzh | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Med Increase Too Much, Doctor not listening | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sfzh/med_increase_too_much_doctor_not_listening/ |
LemonEast4994 | hey guys
i know if i got rid of my laptop and phone i’d become a much better dude; i’d procrastinate less, and improve my productivity massively.
the thing is, i’m very into music, and comedy, design, film.
for better or for worse, it’s important to me personally that i stay on trend.
i need to stay informed.
whether that be in the world of art, politics, etc.
and i do this through instagram mostly
(which i have a terrible relationship with)
so as much as part of me would really like to go awol, i can’t.
so far, i’ve figured i should 1. as a general rule, always do the shitty stuff before the good stuff and 2. limit myself to a certain number of hours on the internet, switch over to reddit, youtube, pinterest (maybe?)
it’s very difficult cause instagram is where i get my memes, my inspiration, my news.
i don’t even post nothin.
and i don’t care what my peers are doing, only my favourite artists and comics
architects, musicians, actors, directors.
before you know it i’m scrolling mindlessly.
and i really can’t get myself to do any sort of work.
and when i do i fucking doze off and my mind is radio static.
it should also be taken into account that i, of course, have adhd, and am currently on ritalin.
that is to say i don’t like it very much and don’t find it helps me in any great way.
i take 25mg when i need to.
it wakes me up but kinda just makes me tweaky.
i still have difficulty focusing.
it might even worsen my focusing abilities.
i’d appreciate a drug-alternative suggestion .
i apologize for the long message.
i appreciate your time, and this community. | 2021-12-05T23:22:45.000Z | r9sfwm | 2 | 1 | ADHD | not sure how i should ration out my high dopamine activities (computer usage) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sfwm/not_sure_how_i_should_ration_out_my_high_dopamine/ |
scopeno | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:18:41.000Z | r9scsx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it okay to dose my meds more frequently than others? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9scsx/is_it_okay_to_dose_my_meds_more_frequently_than/ |
thatboii_lukse14 | I'm gonna go to get diagnosed on thursday and now I just started wondering if I really have ADHD. I mean I feel a big struggle in my life with simple tasks and I'm exhausted and sad cause everybody keeps saying ,,youre smart you just don't want to use your brain!", and I get frustrated quickly cause everybody in my class does simple tasks way more quickly than me and I'm always shown as a bad example cause I work like a turtle, or always talk or day dream and everybody thinks I just don't care at all at what they saying when most of the time it's hard to focus on what the teacher or somebody else is saying. I can't control my mind and just put my thoughts on one task for at least 5minutes. Cause my thoughts just keep going. And I think I have ADHD because of that. But the weird thing is that I can fall asleep pretty easily. Cause I get lost in my thoughts and just the last thing I was thinking about usually is in my dream. But I heard that you can't fall asleep easily with ADHD and I can do it in like 10-15minutes. | 2021-12-05T23:18:24.000Z | r9scle | 10 | 2 | ADHD | Can you have ADHD and still fall asleep pretty easily? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9scle/can_you_have_adhd_and_still_fall_asleep_pretty/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:15:48.000Z | r9sakn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it possible that i have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9sakn/is_it_possible_that_i_have_adhd/ |
DevLegion | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:13:07.000Z | r9s8il | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Not many months ago this wouldn't have been possible! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9s8il/not_many_months_ago_this_wouldnt_have_been/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T23:07:15.000Z | r9s3v7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | adhdadhdadhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9s3v7/adhdadhdadhd/ |
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amethystray_ | I have ADHD. I have been diagnosed. I know a bit about ADHD through my own research and trying to understand what ADHD even encompasses. For me, my main issue is lack of focus. All day during my job search every 10 minutes I have this urge to go to youtube and look at videos. Anytime I have a task I need and WANT to do, I can't! It takes me so long because my brain is like "Screw this! You know what is so much better and makes us happy? Tik toks of people eating!" and I have a brain block that I can't pass. Why does this happen? What is the reason my brain sabotages me? | 2021-12-05T23:03:58.000Z | r9s19z | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Why can't I focus? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9s19z/why_cant_i_focus/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T23:00:56.000Z | r9ryrm | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Please help me, if I forget anything significant again, shes going to leave me forever. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ryrm/please_help_me_if_i_forget_anything_significant/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T22:59:58.000Z | r9rxtu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | feeling delusional and dumb | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rxtu/feeling_delusional_and_dumb/ |
fenexita | So, today I started my medication, I decided to do it because I often hurt people around me without even noticing it. I fact my past relationship got so bad because of my ADHD.
So, what are you expiences with medication? Do you all notice other people feelings better?
How much you empathy changed after medication?
I would love to know your stories c: | 2021-12-05T22:58:27.000Z | r9rwp8 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Today I started my medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rwp8/today_i_started_my_medication/ |
Upbeat_Escape8591 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:57:38.000Z | r9rw2f | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Question about Ritalin ! First time user | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rw2f/question_about_ritalin_first_time_user/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:55:57.000Z | r9ruti | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Smoking cannabis with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ruti/smoking_cannabis_with_adhd/ |
tootsmalarkey | I have Elvanse (Vyvanse) 30mg rising to 50mg in a week. I've been told to take then at roughly the same time every day.
I tend to be later to bed two nights a week & sleep later the following mornings. Should I just take my meds when I wake up, or does it have to be the same time every day regardless? Is a different time worse than not enough sleep?
Do you take your meds at the same time every day, or adjust depending on sleep/things you need to get up for? | 2021-12-05T22:54:43.000Z | r9rtuv | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Do you take your meds at the same time every single day, or fluctuate depending on sleep, getting a lie-in, etc? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rtuv/do_you_take_your_meds_at_the_same_time_every/ |
Ta2d_Kate | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:54:18.000Z | r9rtjr | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Have the US Courts ever upheld ADA protection for an employment dispute? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rtjr/have_the_us_courts_ever_upheld_ada_protection_for/ |
ShareYourFarts | My psychiatrist reminded me of this the other. I'm not a breakfast person but I notice a huge difference in improved effectiveness and decreased side-effectiveness (if thats a word lol) when I remember to eat a big filling breakfast before taking my foquest. Less GI upset, headaches and more level stimulation throughout the day.
Hope you have a rad Sunday! | 2021-12-05T22:50:21.000Z | r9rqlb | 44 | 88 | ADHD | Eat a big breakfast before taking your Stims! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rqlb/eat_a_big_breakfast_before_taking_your_stims/ |
mespiliformis | I'm 36. Have wondered for a long time if I might have ADHD but I don't and have never been hyperactive (I'm actually pretty sedentary). I recently learned about inattentive ADHD and that makes way more sense, so I'm starting the process of trying to get assessed.
Thing is about two years ago I was diagnosed with 'schizoid-like' avoidant personality disorder, and I can't decide if the ADHD traits I see in myself might instead be explained by the AvPD. But then there's other issues I have which are not really anything to do with AvPD.
I'm just curious if anybody has both of these issues? I can't find anything online about them occuring together, only things talking about ADHD and borderline personality disorder. | 2021-12-05T22:48:27.000Z | r9rp6n | 2 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD and AvPD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rp6n/adhd_and_avpd/ |
tootsmalarkey | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:45:40.000Z | r9rn30 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Taking meds at a regular time vs days you get to lie in | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rn30/taking_meds_at_a_regular_time_vs_days_you_get_to/ |
silverskater311 | Hi all. First time posting here. I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at 41. During quarantine, my wife and I had started going to therapy, her for her depression and anxiety, me for just figuring out why I was the way I was. I had a big surprise with it. The therapist I was seeing had finally stated that I had ADHD and recommended me for medication. Only problem is that was the last he did for me and there wasn't really any assistance outside of that. Her therapist became a friend like service. About three months ago, she came to me explaining she stopped loving me and that I am like her fourth child due to me constantly being unfocused with her, having terrible impulse control, and then started saying that she hasn't been happy for 11 years. There was a lot of anger. She said we needed to do a trial separation. Only problem was, she couldn't work more and we had to rely on my finances as well as me being in the house to watch the kids on the nights she was at work. So I was in the basement. She also has a bad habit of doing the silent treatment, this stemming from family trauma as well as a way to avoid conflict. She would say one thing, do another, and my ADHD started spiraling out of control (emotions were all over the place, anger and helplessness.
Flash forward to November and we started couples counseling to which our counselor gave me a recommendation of a specialist that would help. I will be starting with them this week as I do really need to get this all in order and start functioning properly (hope this makes sense to all of you). She agreed to do the couple's counseling and go through with it but she is done and just wants to be alone. We started a weekend separation against her and our therapists recommended being together, but she has such a hard time being around me I felt I should. So staying at my mom's for the weekends now which is driving my anxiety and impulses even higher. The kids stay with me as well and she gets the weekend to herself. She thinks it's working, but she continues the silent treatment while I am there and will only talk to me when there is something that needs to be done. She says she wants to try with the therapy but she is just really done and she just wants to try to better herself through it.
So that all being said (and I'm sure I missed some details here), my main question is, how many have gone through this, and what is the likelihood that we stay together? Has anyone else been in this situation, and if so did it work out? I love her so much and am willing to go through it all just to be better with her, and for the kids so they don't have to suffer what I went through when my parents went through a divorce. And after reading up on so many different sites posting about ADHD and divorces, it really has me in a negative mode and doubtful this will turn around. Could use some actual firsthand knowledge and experience from anyone who has also gone through this. Thank you in advance and as I just started in this community, hope to interact and read a lot more about the rest of you and your struggles/accomplishments. | 2021-12-05T22:44:39.000Z | r9rm90 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Advice on a Separation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rm90/advice_on_a_separation/ |
professorbreasts | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:42:39.000Z | r9rkp2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone feel like there isn’t a day anytime soon that you won’t be dependent on medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rkp2/does_anyone_feel_like_there_isnt_a_day_anytime/ |
egan8412 | I have been struggling with anxiety and panic disorder severely for the last 7 years. I have been given medications for depression and anxiety that did not help the out-of-control anxiety emotions and panic attacks. I have always known I had ADHD as a kid because of reports from teachers, my reading struggles, other learning focus setbacks, always getting in trouble for not shutting up or bouncing off the walls even in the early mornings, but I was never really tested for it, until now.
I finally got tested because I have begun reading a lot (over and over and over to retain some of it) about depression and anxiety and their correlation to ADHD.... So my question to you all, has anyone had these emotional rollercoasters with anxiety, panic disorder, and depression that was helped with medication?
I am reaching out this week to my primary to get medications for my ADHD diagnosis either way, I just wanted to get an idea if this was going to help with my emotional dysregulation with anxiety. Maybe at least allow me to work on CBT tools.
Extra information: I have many tools for mitigating negative coping (Thoughts, predictions, etc.) but I cannot seem to focus long enough on the exercise (meditation, mindfulness breathing, grounding) to make it useful... My mind is always moving 100 mph... | 2021-12-05T22:42:13.000Z | r9rkck | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I (M36) officially was diagnosed with ADHD combined (Hyperactive and Inattentive). Currently struggle with high anxiety and panic disorder. Is there success stories of any like this and/or if medication helped with anxiety and panic disorder? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rkck/i_m36_officially_was_diagnosed_with_adhd_combined/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T22:41:36.000Z | r9rjvz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm annoyed at the way my friends treat hyperfixations, I guess | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rjvz/im_annoyed_at_the_way_my_friends_treat/ |
stopdoingthatidiot | So I started a simple to do list (to procrastinate doing what I’m actually meant to be doing obviously) and it began simply with wash dishes, organise clothes, etc. Eventually the list began to include things like starting a business and studying something new (maybe uni). I just want to make a to do list for today not for the future future ahah | 2021-12-05T22:40:27.000Z | r9rizw | 2 | 5 | ADHD | All my to do lists end up turning into overly ambitious life changing tasks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rizw/all_my_to_do_lists_end_up_turning_into_overly/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:40:16.000Z | r9riuz | 0 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Resources | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9riuz/adhd_resources/ |
Sarcas666 | After almost 15 years of using methylphenidate, I (54M) am switching to dexamphetamines. I spend the last days slowly upping my dosage. Weird thing is that I have no idea how I am feeling. I don’t experience any side effects, so I guess I am doing fine. But I just feel different somehow. Inhale to figure out how to figure out if this is a good or a bad thing, I guess. | 2021-12-05T22:36:42.000Z | r9rg0p | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Switching meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rg0p/switching_meds/ |
ElizabethHiems | My daughters (14) school feels she needs assessment for ADHD after some concerns they have had recently. She just seems to be a chip off the old block which makes me wonder if I am missing something. What can be dead give aways? I just saw someone writing about how they do nothing all day waiting for a planned thing to start. She does this. Also if she does get diagnosed, what can I do to make her life more navigable? | 2021-12-05T22:35:51.000Z | r9rfd2 | 35 | 20 | ADHD | My daughter is being assessed for ADHD but she seems average to me, which makes me wonder about me. | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9rfd2/my_daughter_is_being_assessed_for_adhd_but_she/ |
DJRyot | I'm coming to terms with the fact that medicine does not work. It works for a couple days and then it just doesn't anymore. I don't take it with caffeine or anything that would nullify it. It just stops working.
So instead of continuing to mope around I've chosen to get help. I might not be able to live a incredible life, but I'll finally be able to live decently with disability and that's all I have ever wanted. Does anyone know what that looks like. Or have any advice on how to successfully get disability for severe ADHD in the United States? | 2021-12-05T22:20:16.000Z | r9r358 | 238 | 411 | ADHD | How do you get disability for ADHD in the United States? What does the process look like? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9r358/how_do_you_get_disability_for_adhd_in_the_united/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T22:18:14.000Z | r9r1kt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anybody in the United States gotten disability for ADHD? What does that process look like. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9r1kt/has_anybody_in_the_united_states_gotten/ |
Steelalloy | ...Then panicking and looking up information on ADHD. Then realizing what you're experiencing is a lot of major symptoms. Then recognizing you haven't drank much coffee today. And recognizing you haven't done self maintainence like exercise or showering.
Yeah, I probably need to re-evaluate my stim medication lol. This vicious cycle isn't one I want to stay on. | 2021-12-05T22:07:01.000Z | r9qs6n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Those days where you doubt your competence, your ability to do anything, down playing your problems, and viewing yourself as a broken wreck... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qs6n/those_days_where_you_doubt_your_competence_your/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T22:02:32.000Z | r9qodp | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I focused five hours straight without meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qodp/i_focused_five_hours_straight_without_meds/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:59:57.000Z | r9qlz4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ever been told by your ADHD partner/ex they get bored of people? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qlz4/ever_been_told_by_your_adhd_partnerex_they_get/ |
guccigrandma_ | I really want to become a lawyer. I recently finished undergrad and am now working as a legal assistant/secretary in a law firm and I absolutely love it. I was planning to take the LSAT this year, but was simply unable to focus/stay motivated on my prep and had to push it off. I was really good at logic games and decent at logical reasoning, but my biggest issue is with reading comp.
When it comes to reading comp, no matter how hard I’m trying, whatever is written in the passages simply will not go into my head. And obviously I don’t have time to read the passages over and over until they go into my head. I also cannot depend on my meds to be able to maintain my focus on the reading comp because I cannot take stimulants past 9am as it affects my sleep and since I’m taking IR it only lasts me a few hours (and I usually only take them for my job).
Does anybody else struggle with the reading comprehension session (or being able to read blocks of information in general)? If so, and if you were able to improve, how did you?
I know I’m smart enough to do well on the LSAT as I got a pretty decent score on my diagnostic. But doing the practice/prep is so hard for me because I simply cannot stay motivated and focused enough to improve. | 2021-12-05T21:59:45.000Z | r9qlu3 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody here that is planning to take the LSAT/has taken the LSAT? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qlu3/anybody_here_that_is_planning_to_take_the_lsathas/ |
forddawg | Does anyone feel like everything is just too hard? Some days it’s really easy to just be at peace with being different and being comfortable but then everything just completely overwhelms you and you realise how shit it is to find everything so difficult. It’s not even that I don’t know it’s ok to be different it’s just that I really don’t want to be cause things would be easier.
Not sure the flair is exactly what I’m after just needed to share really.. | 2021-12-05T21:59:25.000Z | r9qlkv | 2 | 7 | ADHD | Struggling | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qlkv/struggling/ |
koaalabeebi | F 31 not diagnosed yet although my therapist is 90% sure I have it.
Can't be diagnosed yet due to suffering through a psychosis early this year. They say I can't get formally diagnosed with anything at least a year after a psychotic episode as psychosis itself can show symptoms of many different disorders.
I have struggled with pretty much everything since I was around 13-14. But I am a very neat person so my house is not a mess, i can do my laundry, i can read a book(struggling a lot tho) and i can draw for example and somewhat enjoy it (if im not fighting with depression). Work-wise I have also been quite successful in my life before the aforementioned psychotic break. I've been able to build a career from nothing but looking back all of it has taken such a toll on me and the effort needed to do all of this is something i can't describe. In the end I just blew everything up because I couldn't control my emotions at work anymore.
My life feels like climbing Mount Everest every single day.
And in the end my brain just gave up...
I am pretty sure that I have ADHD, my therapist is sure, but my SO's brother who works as a nurse in a mental hospital is not so sure. Talking to him made me really question if I have it or not.. i.e he said "you are drawing, reading, making your bed hence you can focus, you wouldn't be able to do these things whilst having adhd".
Is that a common misconception?
How many of you who are diagnosed are functioning (with extra effort, coping mechanisms) without being medicated?
Anyone dealt with psychosis as well? | 2021-12-05T21:58:51.000Z | r9ql5h | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Psychosis & ADHD & so many questions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9ql5h/psychosis_adhd_so_many_questions/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:56:57.000Z | r9qjn2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it wrong to re-dose more often than everyone else, if that's how fast my metabolism is? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qjn2/is_it_wrong_to_redose_more_often_than_everyone/ |
Large_Airport_2634 | [removed] | 2021-12-05T21:53:15.000Z | r9qgp4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Unmotivated during finals week - Senior Thesis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qgp4/unmotivated_during_finals_week_senior_thesis/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:51:50.000Z | r9qfka | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Is the correct terminology ADD or ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qfka/is_the_correct_terminology_add_or_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T21:50:24.000Z | r9qeei | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it ADD or ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qeei/is_it_add_or_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T21:46:53.000Z | r9qbky | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it ADD or ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qbky/is_it_add_or_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-05T21:46:01.000Z | r9qavf | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone take sodium pills to balance out guanfacine’ low blood pressure? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9qavf/anyone_take_sodium_pills_to_balance_out/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:44:49.000Z | r9q9xa | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm missing a test tomorrow and probably failing a module | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9q9xa/im_missing_a_test_tomorrow_and_probably_failing_a/ |
apenguinforhire | TL;DR I don't know how to motivate myself to cook when I'm poor, struggling with ADHD, unable to clean because of the ADHD, and just general lack of motivation. help!
I have a big issue, and that is I don't know how to manage cooking with ADHD. I buy ingredients to cook things like baked potatoes or pulled pork or even hot dogs (y'know, super easy things), but every time I get hungry I lose all motivation to cook, end up making something small and suuuper simple like cereal or a breakfast bar, I eat leftovers from work (I work the closing shift at a Chick-Fil-A, so my supervisors sometimes let me take home stuff), or I end up asking my husband if we could just get fast food. It's very unhealthy and going out to eat all of the time can get very expensive, so I don't want to do that anymore. The issue is I get excited to cook when I'm buying groceries or looking at my cookbooks, but then I go to the kitchen and realize that we don't have clean dishes to cook with, or our table is messy because I didn't have the motivation or the drive to clean it, or just a simple, "this is too much effort, I'm gonna get McDonald's."
Motivation has been an issue for years now, but before this year I was either living at home with my parents, or going to college that had a cafeteria, so I didn't really need to worry about cooking. But now I'm married, I'm not enrolled in college anymore, and I have to be able to cook for me and my husband or else we won't eat (much less anything good for us). Are there any tips I could get from people on here? | 2021-12-05T21:37:29.000Z | r9q3xi | 17 | 3 | ADHD | How do you cook when you have ADHD?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9q3xi/how_do_you_cook_when_you_have_adhd/ |
InternetTheory | I have been skeptical about having ADHD for a while and can relate to many of the posts on this sub.
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I just don't know how to talk about it with any other person let alone my parents.
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I am just looking for advice on how to talk about my experiences with my parents and hope to be tested.
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Anything helps, thanks! | 2021-12-05T21:35:42.000Z | r9q2g5 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | how do I ask my parents to get tested for ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9q2g5/how_do_i_ask_my_parents_to_get_tested_for_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:33:41.000Z | r9q0tx | 4 | 12 | ADHD | What's your special ADHD power. I can spot any thing that Is ineffectent at any time. Even a toilet urinal or something ridiculous with only one function | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9q0tx/whats_your_special_adhd_power_i_can_spot_any/ |
[deleted] | I have an assignment that is due in two weeks exactly. Its a book study on a book called Indian Horse. The assignment is 8 sets of questions we have to answer with a minimum of 8 sentences, and you have to pick two questions from each set. So that's 16 sentences min times 8 which is 128 sentences in less then two weeks.
Each paragraph has to be backed up from notes and group discussion, but I'm too behind to include that stuff. The book is really hard to get though as it is about the truths behind residential school, and hockey, I know literly nothing about hockey. This book is is graphic and confusing and I have to write essay sized paragraphs to connect and go through book. We are going to fast, it's so overwhelming, and I realize this is the stuff I am expected to be able to do in grade 9 but please, 128 sentences? IN TWO WEEKS.
my entire class is already way ahead of me, on question set four I just finished question set one. WHY AM I NOT ABLE TO FINISH AS FAST AS EVERYONE ELSE?
My brother who also has ADHD AND absolutely HATES everything that has to do with writing or reading, it has to be the most depressing and stressful subject ever.
Help me I need motivation. | 2021-12-05T21:27:55.000Z | r9pw50 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | English class, why is it so hard? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9pw50/english_class_why_is_it_so_hard/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-05T21:27:39.000Z | r9pvy2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I often feel like I'm on the last straw for... everything. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r9pvy2/i_often_feel_like_im_on_the_last_straw_for/ |
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